@@ForrestHanson I wish I knew how important the role of relationships is in my healing from complex trauma. I’ve only really come to recognise and feel this in the last 6 months and your most recent podcast with Elizabeth epitomised this so beautifully, and I felt so seen listening to it 🤍 thank you Forrest for all that you do and all the incredible content you provide us 🙏🏼
Terrific job Forrest. I appreciate your skill in putting so much of what you have learned in this singular podcast. If I may, for my nearly 65 year old brain (and nervous system), I would love to hear you consciously 'pause', or slow the pace of your delivery. a little more spaciousness allows me and possibly others (and even the younger generation) to 'soak In' the highly insightful real world strategies you present. I love what you do🙏💚
@@ForrestHanson i wish I knew that "no" is a complete sentence, also that boundaries are something I set for myself to stick to so I'm focused on my safety no matter how someone else reacts to or ignores them.
Thank you for this episode. You asked feedback on the lay out of the show. I prefer a dialogue/ 2 people on the show, because somehow that set up makes it easier for my brain to keep concentrating on what is being said. This show, a monologue, went in one ear and out the other because my mind kept wandering off. What I wish I knew sooner? That taking joy in life is a healthy habit to cultivate but that it does not necessarily translate to always being/feeling happy. What I have learned so far? That it works best to befriend all parts of you instead of criticising shaming rejecting them. If you implement behavioral change from a place of acceptance of the current state of affairs around daily habits, the chance of the change being successful is much higher. If you shame yourself in different behavior, you are dealing with a lot of resistance, which works like having the handbrake on. Keep up the good work and say hi to Elizabeth from me, I would love to have her as a friend ❤️✌️
Maybe less something I wish I KNEW sooner, but more something I wish I understood in an intuitive sense earlier - that in therapy you need a new experience, not a new idea. Like what you point to in the chapter 'The trap of self-awareness', going into therapy I thought I knew exactly what my problem was, AND, I was actually more or less right. The problem was: I thought that discovering I was right would be the end of the road to where I wanted to go, that me and my therapist could figure this out together and it would be a simple job of getting 50ccs of CBT or whatever, give me the new idea of how to be and think about things and I would be 'fixed'. In reality all of that actually ended up just being the prelude to the more affective and difficult work I'm getting a lot closer to these days. This new experience I'm pushing towards can be so uncomfortable and activates all kinds of things inside me that I had all of these ways of avoiding before. Now I'm learning to be with and listen to these uncomfortable signals which has been huge, and is not at all something someone could have explained to me, it's been something I had to wade into and experience. Excellent episode as always Forrest! So much hard earned wisdom in this one, thanks as always for sharing and setting a lovely example.
I really enjoy when you do these types of episodes. It’s really cathartic to just hear you say “Hey, I get it. This stuff can be hard.” without offering a solution. It gives me a moment to pause and reflect instead of just moving forward to another self-help video telling me how I need to change. I think having something like this once or twice a month would be really valuable, almost like a check-in on everything we recently discussed. It helps give the journey more depth rather than just feeling like constant effort mode.
This episode recaps and reiterates how my journey is going. I just completed 1 year of therapy and a lot of what is covered in here was covered in my last session with my therapist. Giving myself credit on how far I have come, not judging myself too harshly, and that I do comprehend base level mental health concepts. I am turning a corner and now working on integrating these into everyday life to help myself in a more positive way.
Wonderful episode. Getting bombarded by mindfulness and mental health influencers on social media has really pushed me away with engaging with content like this by default but I’m always glad to get you and your father’s opinions, experience, and guidance.
Forrest I really like this format, very straight forward and easy to get a lot out of, but I also always like the conversational format with guests/ your dad... either way your presentations are always thorough, very well articulated, I always learn a lot. Thank you so much for all you do!
I respect your insights and knowledge Forrest. I'm currently in continuing training for work at my local hospice. People bring their whole lives to their grief. Your podcast always provides thoughtful perspective and humble acknowledgement of our shared humanity. I'm grateful you're here.😊❤
I love how you explain and expand, both the reality and potentially of our relationship with others. Your perspective is grounded in your intellect, but your ability to communicate what it means to engage authentically is what makes you unique and one of my most valuable teachers. This was a beautiful example of the power of your conversations with your self and all the other people that you engage with including your wonderful Dad.
that was a really informative concise and helpful compilation of a lot of your content. I love it! Love the conversations as well, but this format has its own perks, like being easier to follow and I appreciate the repition and new assembly of the theories, methods and ideas.
Thank you for another great video. I like how you switch it up and it’s not all the same content or format. There’s a lot of powerful content I think in this one that affected me on a deep level. This invokes within me so much curiosity within myself, and even with the people that I surround myself with. Keep up the beautiful work. It is so appreciated and thank you.
You did another of these talking heads somewhere in November and so far these have been my favorite videos. They are validating, interesting and give me insight at the same time.
Forrest, this podcast was incredibly valuable! Thank you so much for your expertise, open sharing, and authenticity. I hope you know how enriching you are to the lives of us listening and learning from you. Many, many thanks!
Thanks Forrest for that awesome talk. I love listening to both you and Rick along with all of the guests you’ve had on your channel. This one was very informative for me. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing. ❤
Such a great video! You are intelligently summarizing so many psychological theories, making them easy to understand and supporting them with your personal experience. Beautiful and authentic! Thank you for your amazing work! 🎉
Thank you for making this video Forrest, I needed it today 💖 you made me feel better about the ups and downs of living and dealing with everything. Please make more of this format, your voice is very soothing 🙏🏽
Thank you for all your hard work and all the amazing conversations you share with us. To let you guys know - I particularly love the content you create with Elizabeth !!! And can’t imagine that I will ever get enough of those conversations as well as the episodes she creates on her own. This video was also a gem. Thank you 🙏
Omgggg so gooodddd 😍😍😍 thank you so so muchh. This gives a tonne of perspective to things ive been grasping at for a while but had a hard time pieceing together... thank you thank you thank you 😊😊😊
Love your direct and grounded approach and I much like your eschewing of the buzzy self help which is inauthentic. What we learn when we 'fail' or fall is as important as the times we feel able to become more integrated. Grounded trust building and maintain witness as we truly attend. Thank you Forest.
This seems to be the elephant in the room, but it's important. Don't have kids until you are ready. It's a heartbreaking disservice to them. Having a "good life" is in everyone's best interest.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 (and not asking us to buy an expensive program like people do on IG). I struggle having self-esteem as a new student & your channel has been helpful.
Thank you Forest, I haven't even finished this yet but just first snapshot of the vast ocean of wonderful amazing souls and minds that you connected with, thank you for sharing it with us all! I also so admire Rick's Buddhist takes too and the importance of loving kindness (metta) in a samskar full of suffering (dukkha) - you touching on this at the start is cool too (and I see overlaps of ACT with upkesha/equanimity)
Many thanks for this video! I got so much useful tips out of it, especially your 3 pieces of advice for a successful introduction of a new habit into the life. I will definitely give it a try :)
Hey Forrest! Thank you for your videos! That format is what I've been waiting for! Absolutely yes if you gonna mix in videos like that in your list. Also, your videos with Elizabeth are great! Please, continue yo widen the scope of topics that you guys discussing in videos with her. Videos with your dad are good and a lot of quality information! But sometimes they are too academic. For example, the current video are much more relatable to everyday life: your tone, advices, explanation, etc. The best part of videos with your dad is your recap. And here we have an hour of such a recap:)) Thank you again, your videos helped me a lot in recent times! 🖤
PLUS very best relationship advice ever! My relationship with my kids dad was the worst model so I really value your recommendations for what to look for and what to walk away from ✨thank you!
Hi, Forrest. The video was very good. Your dedication to understanding and then presenting information in such an authentic way yet in a manner we can get it and not be too scared of it :) is obvious and admirable. Thank you for what you do. Also, I really appreciate your comment to us, your followers/listeners, re the fact that we’re here, wanting to learn. That means very much to me right now, and I needed to hear that. So, Thanks. I’ve been struggling for 2 years now post narcissistic relationship and abuse to get back on track. I feel stuck. I make plans and have learned many strategies to ‘follow through’ but I can’t seem to actually do anyrhing. It’s almost like each day is a brand new day and I start over. I’m becoming frustrated and my compassion towards myself is waning. I was wondering what your thoughts are about personality type and ‘movement’ under such circumstances. Turns out I’m an INFP. Maybe there is something more specific for me to help me ‘act.’ I’d love to hear your opinion on personality types and change, if you think there is any relationship there. Thank you again for sharing your knowledge.
Thank you very much for your videos. They helped me a lot to put my own growth into perspective, gave me new insights and helped me grow more too. I'm 22 and the last few years have been tough sometimes mentally but im growing a lot and you are also helping with that. Also im in a way better place now so its going well :)
Thanks for this, Forrest! I got the jist of starting small in goal planning from listening to these podcasts. Unfortunately, it's still difficult lol. I'm putting faith in the rocky road you mentioned bc I know in my bones progress is not the linear path we desire. Success is a great motivator.🤞🙏
Thank you Forrest. It would be super helpful to have a written outline of what you've spoken about here. Any chance you could share something like that if you've created it already?
I loved this, and it really made me think. Though an hour is a lot. I kinda wish this could be broken down into smaller bits so I could take each bit by its self and think on its self without getting distracted. But maybe that's just me. It's just a lot of information all at once. But a lot of good information.
Well done. I like these and I like convos with Rick specifically his input on understanding of the mind through Buddhist perspective. I too am an ex neuroscientist
I recently found a clever way to know if I'm on the right path... relief after making a decision! Relief is the best way to know you're on the right path. The challenges that we don't want to take... don't! Just be. Then move when you're in flow and focus on the tiny details... do not get distracted. Never ever allow yourself to FEEL rushed. Just flow
Selfishly I'm hanging out for you and Elizabeth to have a baby so I can enjoy even more personal growth content heh heh. I work in the mental health field too and becoming a parent has been an incredible experience in leaning into a lot of these skills you talk about in this ep in a new way, plus you get to run a lifelong N-of-1 study on your poor baby 😅
🩵I got a lot out of this, Forrest. I've listened to it 3 times! I think your words are concise with an overall path that leads me to being good enough to do what I need to do. And that is a good day! "One day at a time".Thank you, FH. I think you should be quite proud of yourself and I think you are spot on in how you brought it together. Cheers!
We don't see any reward except hypothetically. There's none in the present. So day after day we flog ourselves through these routines, classes etc hoping that one day the reward will come yet most of us never receive it. It's just more of the same drudgery, and then one day we die.
I understand about long videos. But he is condensing hours of interviews and then summarizing those interviews and putting them out there for us. So in a way it already is TLDR. Listening to it, it is worth the time.
Life is hard and uncontrollable. Do what you can anyway. You'll get further by committing to doing little things consistently than you will by doing big things every once in a while. The best way to make this happen is by focusing on the rewards we get from doing something rather than trying to punish ourselves up the mountain. Come to terms with your personal history. Our behavior flows from the beliefs we have about ourselves, so investigating what those are and why they exist is valuable work. People resist change, and when we try to change we're also implicitly forcing those around us to change as well. It's normal for them not to like this, so be prepared to get some push-back. Try to love them through it. If they make that impossible, find other people. Be less certain about things, maybe most importantly yourself. Create some space around your judgements and assumptions. Ask questions. Be curious. Take smart risks, and work on your ability to determine what a smart risk is. Appreciate what you're getting out of the behaviors you complain about. Don't get trapped in comparing yourself to others. Move to authenticity with people fairly quickly - if you freak them out you probably didn't want them around in the first place. If you want to improve your relationships, start by joining. People aren't thinking machines, they're complex creatures that aren't perfectly logical. This means we sometimes need to do slightly "illogical" things to have functional relationships. One example of this is how we "move in to move out." If you want to express a contradicting view, it's usually wise to start by establishing common ground. If you want to change something about yourself, it helps to appreciate the function it serves. If you're struggling to make a choice or commit to something, ask yourself what your future self will wish you had done. Train in doing difficult things, like moving your body, reading books, and watching the occasional long video.
I'd love to hear what you wish you knew sooner. What have you learned so far?
@@ForrestHanson I wish I knew how important the role of relationships is in my healing from complex trauma. I’ve only really come to recognise and feel this in the last 6 months and your most recent podcast with Elizabeth epitomised this so beautifully, and I felt so seen listening to it 🤍 thank you Forrest for all that you do and all the incredible content you provide us 🙏🏼
Terrific job Forrest. I appreciate your skill in putting so much of what you have learned in this singular podcast. If I may, for my nearly 65 year old brain (and nervous system), I would love to hear you consciously 'pause', or slow the pace of your delivery. a little more spaciousness allows me and possibly others (and even the younger generation) to 'soak In' the highly insightful real world strategies you present. I love what you do🙏💚
@@ForrestHanson i wish I knew that "no" is a complete sentence, also that boundaries are something I set for myself to stick to so I'm focused on my safety no matter how someone else reacts to or ignores them.
Thank you for this episode.
You asked feedback on the lay out of the show. I prefer a dialogue/ 2 people on the show, because somehow that set up makes it easier for my brain to keep concentrating on what is being said.
This show, a monologue, went in one ear and out the other because my mind kept wandering off.
What I wish I knew sooner? That taking joy in life is a healthy habit to cultivate but that it does not necessarily translate to always being/feeling happy.
What I have learned so far? That it works best to befriend all parts of you instead of criticising shaming rejecting them. If you implement behavioral change from a place of acceptance of the current state of affairs around daily habits, the chance of the change being successful is much higher. If you shame yourself in different behavior, you are dealing with a lot of resistance, which works like having the handbrake on.
Keep up the good work and say hi to Elizabeth from me, I would love to have her as a friend
❤️✌️
Maybe less something I wish I KNEW sooner, but more something I wish I understood in an intuitive sense earlier - that in therapy you need a new experience, not a new idea. Like what you point to in the chapter 'The trap of self-awareness', going into therapy I thought I knew exactly what my problem was, AND, I was actually more or less right. The problem was: I thought that discovering I was right would be the end of the road to where I wanted to go, that me and my therapist could figure this out together and it would be a simple job of getting 50ccs of CBT or whatever, give me the new idea of how to be and think about things and I would be 'fixed'. In reality all of that actually ended up just being the prelude to the more affective and difficult work I'm getting a lot closer to these days. This new experience I'm pushing towards can be so uncomfortable and activates all kinds of things inside me that I had all of these ways of avoiding before. Now I'm learning to be with and listen to these uncomfortable signals which has been huge, and is not at all something someone could have explained to me, it's been something I had to wade into and experience.
Excellent episode as always Forrest! So much hard earned wisdom in this one, thanks as always for sharing and setting a lovely example.
I really enjoy when you do these types of episodes.
It’s really cathartic to just hear you say “Hey, I get it. This stuff can be hard.” without offering a solution. It gives me a moment to pause and reflect instead of just moving forward to another self-help video telling me how I need to change.
I think having something like this once or twice a month would be really valuable, almost like a check-in on everything we recently discussed. It helps give the journey more depth rather than just feeling like constant effort mode.
You are not just a worthy successor of your father as a thought leader but you’ve become your own.
More of all of the types of formats, please!
This episode recaps and reiterates how my journey is going. I just completed 1 year of therapy and a lot of what is covered in here was covered in my last session with my therapist. Giving myself credit on how far I have come, not judging myself too harshly, and that I do comprehend base level mental health concepts. I am turning a corner and now working on integrating these into everyday life to help myself in a more positive way.
🎉 keep up the good work
Wonderful episode. Getting bombarded by mindfulness and mental health influencers on social media has really pushed me away with engaging with content like this by default but I’m always glad to get you and your father’s opinions, experience, and guidance.
Next month i will listen a third time because there is much that i need to take in. Thankyou
Forrest I really like this format, very straight forward and easy to get a lot out of, but I also always like the conversational format with guests/ your dad... either way your presentations are always thorough, very well articulated, I always learn a lot. Thank you so much for all you do!
This is one of the best resources because you really capture and connect so many different things in a coherent, digestible manner.
I respect your insights and knowledge Forrest. I'm currently in continuing training for work at my local hospice. People bring their whole lives to their grief. Your podcast always provides thoughtful perspective and humble acknowledgement of our shared humanity.
I'm grateful you're here.😊❤
Forrest, this was INVALUABLE. Excellent excellent content. Should have a LOT more 'likes'. Thank you.
Saving this one. This is such a gem thank you so much for making this video
Excellent! I am definitely going to listen to this episode many times because there is so much goodness in your discussion. ❤
This was a great video and a good format to include in the mix of the variety of ways you create episodes.
That part about being an over-confident "expert" on one's own problems was a real lightbulb moment for me! A much needed reminder. Thank you😊
I love how you explain and expand, both the reality and potentially of our relationship with others. Your perspective is grounded in your intellect, but your ability to communicate what it means to engage authentically is what makes you unique and one of my most valuable teachers. This was a beautiful example of the power of your conversations with your self and all the other people that you engage with including your wonderful Dad.
that was a really informative concise and helpful compilation of a lot of your content. I love it! Love the conversations as well, but this format has its own perks, like being easier to follow and I appreciate the repition and new assembly of the theories, methods and ideas.
This was so helpful,I'm going to listen to a few more times over the next few days. Thanks,Forrest❤
Forrest, Thank you from the bottom of my heart for providing outstanding content to help us all heal and live in our power. Truly. You are a gift.
Thank you for another great video. I like how you switch it up and it’s not all the same content or format.
There’s a lot of powerful content I think in this one that affected me on a deep level. This invokes within me so much curiosity within myself, and even with the people that I surround myself with. Keep up the beautiful work. It is so appreciated and thank you.
You did another of these talking heads somewhere in November and so far these have been my favorite videos.
They are validating, interesting and give me insight at the same time.
Loved it! Exactly what I needed right now & lots of food for thought. Thank you! 🙏❤️
Forrest, this was outstanding in its comprehensive, sensitively delivered and important content. So much to absorb, I will listen again. Thank you.
Thanks!
Forrest, this podcast was incredibly valuable! Thank you so much for your expertise, open sharing, and authenticity. I hope you know how enriching you are to the lives of us listening and learning from you. Many, many thanks!
I am so grateful I found your show and have learned a great deal from you and your Dad!!
Thanks Forrest for that awesome talk. I love listening to both you and Rick along with all of the guests you’ve had on your channel. This one was very informative for me. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing. ❤
Such a great video! You are intelligently summarizing so many psychological theories, making them easy to understand and supporting them with your personal experience. Beautiful and authentic! Thank you for your amazing work! 🎉
@@annabejgrowicz6994 👏 yes
Thank you for making this video Forrest, I needed it today 💖 you made me feel better about the ups and downs of living and dealing with everything. Please make more of this format, your voice is very soothing 🙏🏽
Thank you for all your hard work and all the amazing conversations you share with us. To let you guys know - I particularly love the content you create with Elizabeth !!! And can’t imagine that I will ever get enough of those conversations as well as the episodes she creates on her own. This video was also a gem. Thank you 🙏
Wonderful content, Forrest, presented in an accessible, genuine and digestible manner. Thanks, and look forward to more!!
Thank you 🙏 its beautiful what you said and helpful - I prefer this format very tangible
Omgggg so gooodddd 😍😍😍 thank you so so muchh. This gives a tonne of perspective to things ive been grasping at for a while but had a hard time pieceing together... thank you thank you thank you 😊😊😊
Love your direct and grounded approach and I much like your eschewing of the buzzy self help which is inauthentic. What we learn when we 'fail' or fall is as important as the times we feel able to become more integrated. Grounded trust building and maintain witness as we truly attend. Thank you Forest.
This seems to be the elephant in the room, but it's important. Don't have kids until you are ready. It's a heartbreaking disservice to them. Having a "good life" is in everyone's best interest.
I think this format was helpful. Always enjoy the guests, too. This gave me a good slow down moment to reflect versus push to the next thing. Thanks
KALE!! Best laugh I've had in ages!!
Great one. I always enjoy your presentations w or wo
Dad. Have played for members of my family. Keep on keeping on. With gratitude!
Thank you so much for all the work you do sweetheart, wishing you many blessings ♥️
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 (and not asking us to buy an expensive program like people do on IG).
I struggle having self-esteem as a new student & your channel has been helpful.
i like the podcasts with you alone and with you and dad. Also enjoy when there is a one-time guest
"So much that is good about you" "keep going" ❤
❤ Brilliant episode, Forrest. I am grateful for you!
Thank you Forest, I haven't even finished this yet but just first snapshot of the vast ocean of wonderful amazing souls and minds that you connected with, thank you for sharing it with us all! I also so admire Rick's Buddhist takes too and the importance of loving kindness (metta) in a samskar full of suffering (dukkha) - you touching on this at the start is cool too (and I see overlaps of ACT with upkesha/equanimity)
This is gold - thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing. Love the conversations with others and also love this sort of recap to synthesize that information.
Many thanks for this video! I got so much useful tips out of it, especially your 3 pieces of advice for a successful introduction of a new habit into the life. I will definitely give it a try :)
Awesome episode! I appreciate the balanced approach you take with all of your episodes
Your pods are getting more concise and understandable all the time. I like it with you or you and your wife. ❤
This is a treasure trove! Thank you
Hey Forrest!
Thank you for your videos!
That format is what I've been waiting for!
Absolutely yes if you gonna mix in videos like that in your list.
Also, your videos with Elizabeth are great! Please, continue yo widen the scope of topics that you guys discussing in videos with her.
Videos with your dad are good and a lot of quality information! But sometimes they are too academic. For example, the current video are much more relatable to everyday life: your tone, advices, explanation, etc. The best part of videos with your dad is your recap. And here we have an hour of such a recap:))
Thank you again, your videos helped me a lot in recent times! 🖤
I love everything you post and this was no exception! Thanks Forest. You've helped me SO much in my journey. You're doing great work :)
Well said, thank you Forrest!
PLUS very best relationship advice ever! My relationship with my kids dad was the worst model so I really value your recommendations for what to look for and what to walk away from ✨thank you!
Hi, Forrest. The video was very good. Your dedication to understanding and then presenting information in such an authentic way yet in a manner we can get it and not be too scared of it :) is obvious and admirable. Thank you for what you do. Also, I really appreciate your comment to us, your followers/listeners, re the fact that we’re here, wanting to learn. That means very much to me right now, and I needed to hear that. So, Thanks.
I’ve been struggling for 2 years now post narcissistic relationship and abuse to get back on track. I feel stuck. I make plans and have learned many strategies to ‘follow through’ but I can’t seem to actually do anyrhing. It’s almost like each day is a brand new day and I start over. I’m becoming frustrated and my compassion towards myself is waning. I was wondering what your thoughts are about personality type and ‘movement’ under such circumstances. Turns out I’m an INFP. Maybe there is something more specific for me to help me ‘act.’
I’d love to hear your opinion on personality types and change, if you think there is any relationship there.
Thank you again for sharing your knowledge.
LOVE it! So incredibly helpful, and hopeful and thank you.
Thank you very much for your videos. They helped me a lot to put my own growth into perspective, gave me new insights and helped me grow more too. I'm 22 and the last few years have been tough sometimes mentally but im growing a lot and you are also helping with that. Also im in a way better place now so its going well :)
Really glad to hear that, hope you're doing well.
Thank you so much, Forrest!
Thank you Xx
Thanks for this, Forrest! I got the jist of starting small in goal planning from listening to these podcasts. Unfortunately, it's still difficult lol. I'm putting faith in the rocky road you mentioned bc I know in my bones progress is not the linear path we desire. Success is a great motivator.🤞🙏
brilliant - thank you
Nice message, new sub
Thank you! ❤
Was very helpful!
Thank you Forrest. It would be super helpful to have a written outline of what you've spoken about here. Any chance you could share something like that if you've created it already?
Hi!
Try to search for some AI tools, that could help you with that!
Like upload a video and it will give you a transcription.
I loved this, and it really made me think. Though an hour is a lot. I kinda wish this could be broken down into smaller bits so I could take each bit by its self and think on its self without getting distracted. But maybe that's just me. It's just a lot of information all at once. But a lot of good information.
Well done. I like these and I like convos with Rick specifically his input on understanding of the mind through Buddhist perspective. I too am an ex neuroscientist
Really liked what you had to say
Very helpful video!
Very very helpful thank you cleared so much for me
Thank you Forrest
I recently found a clever way to know if I'm on the right path... relief after making a decision! Relief is the best way to know you're on the right path.
The challenges that we don't want to take... don't! Just be. Then move when you're in flow and focus on the tiny details... do not get distracted. Never ever allow yourself to FEEL rushed. Just flow
I really liked this format. But now I have to find the episodes to brush up on some of this. 😅
Selfishly I'm hanging out for you and Elizabeth to have a baby so I can enjoy even more personal growth content heh heh. I work in the mental health field too and becoming a parent has been an incredible experience in leaning into a lot of these skills you talk about in this ep in a new way, plus you get to run a lifelong N-of-1 study on your poor baby 😅
You actually are pretty wise for a young'un!
If you only watch one episode of the pod I think it should be this one♡♡♡
Gold
This is wonderful forest
“ No problem has ever been truly solved by simply ignoring it.”👍😻
🩵I got a lot out of this, Forrest. I've listened to it 3 times! I think your words are concise with an overall path that leads me to being good enough to do what I need to do. And that is a good day! "One day at a time".Thank you, FH. I think you should be quite proud of yourself and I think you are spot on in how you brought it together. Cheers!
We don't see any reward except hypothetically. There's none in the present. So day after day we flog ourselves through these routines, classes etc hoping that one day the reward will come yet most of us never receive it. It's just more of the same drudgery, and then one day we die.
❤❤❤
Seems like a easy out for a lot of the self help gurus out there to just say do the opposite and then run some commercials
Yes people don't like my being vegan, dont know why it is a problem for them that i respect all animals..
tldr?
🤦♀
@verthandijal dont judge long videos overwhelm me
I understand about long videos. But he is condensing hours of interviews and then summarizing those interviews and putting them out there for us. So in a way it already is TLDR. Listening to it, it is worth the time.
Life is hard and uncontrollable. Do what you can anyway.
You'll get further by committing to doing little things consistently than you will by doing big things every once in a while. The best way to make this happen is by focusing on the rewards we get from doing something rather than trying to punish ourselves up the mountain. Come to terms with your personal history. Our behavior flows from the beliefs we have about ourselves, so investigating what those are and why they exist is valuable work. People resist change, and when we try to change we're also implicitly forcing those around us to change as well. It's normal for them not to like this, so be prepared to get some push-back. Try to love them through it. If they make that impossible, find other people.
Be less certain about things, maybe most importantly yourself. Create some space around your judgements and assumptions. Ask questions. Be curious. Take smart risks, and work on your ability to determine what a smart risk is. Appreciate what you're getting out of the behaviors you complain about. Don't get trapped in comparing yourself to others.
Move to authenticity with people fairly quickly - if you freak them out you probably didn't want them around in the first place. If you want to improve your relationships, start by joining. People aren't thinking machines, they're complex creatures that aren't perfectly logical. This means we sometimes need to do slightly "illogical" things to have functional relationships. One example of this is how we "move in to move out." If you want to express a contradicting view, it's usually wise to start by establishing common ground. If you want to change something about yourself, it helps to appreciate the function it serves.
If you're struggling to make a choice or commit to something, ask yourself what your future self will wish you had done. Train in doing difficult things, like moving your body, reading books, and watching the occasional long video.
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