How to love and prioritize yourself
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Notes from this video for myself-
1. Know who you are
2. Learn how to accept help
3. Fall in love with your imperfections- progress over perfection!!! Always do 1% better than yesterday. Its okay to share your imperfections with the world
4. Never ever respond to something that is sent to destroy your inner peace. Take your energy away from them. Your energy is priority
5. Create routines. Strict morning and night routines. Create good habits. Calm mornings
6. Prioritize your time with yourself first thing in the morning
7. Routines should contain things i like and make myself better
8. Focus on yourself. My time is precious and yep my time is my first priority
9. Dont care how someone sees you from there pov. Become okay with being abad person to some people. Become okay with not making people happy with the choices that you make for yourself. You are not responsible for making them happy for living a life that they like. You are responsible for yourself. If someone is not okay with , its upto them dont waste your time. Idc if you like what i'm doing, i will do it either way trust me
10. If someone cross your boundaries, no need to tolerate them. Dont give them the space to be in your life. Live your life as you want and dc about what they think as long as youre not intentionally hurting them
11. Be YOUR OWN competition.
12. Be confident with grace and kindness 🩷 have manners. Respect other people and their boundaries
13. If youre working on something there will always be so much distractions. But you respecting your goals and you being able to say no to whoever tries to distract you from your goal. This is confidence cuz you value your goals more than these short time satisfaction/ distraction. Your goals are a priority
14. Dont be addicted to external validation. Internal validation> external validation.
15. See and be careful of what you consume. Listen to music that inspires you to take action ti feel good within yourself and be happy. Choose wisely what to fill your mind with
16. Unfollow and delete people who make you feel bad in any way online and offline. Control what you watch, read and listen to daily
17. You are a work of art. Embody and feel and be that art. Be confident of your own individuality. I am art myself
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Omg there are a lot of typos. Dw guys ill learn how to type properly soon haha 🐇👍 i was taking fast notes
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Thannkyou!!!!
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thank u sm!! u're so sweet
"You are what is left when everything is taken away from you"
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Its fine dear ,its okay to feel that way,I Always hold on so tight to people even After WE breakup just because im so emotional dependent I really needed this video
Accept your loss. Feel it deeply. You have to feel your feelings, even if you don't want to. That's the best advice I can give you.
0:40 same situation I love him so bad but I left him his behavior made me do this still I feel bad for ending it I can't help myself I wish to end myself rather than end this
"you are what is left when everything is taken away from you"
This hit me hard ♥️
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Many people say "love yourself and prioritize yourself", but no one clearly said how to do this, because we grew up conditioned to beg or wait for someone else's love, but we were never taught to love ourselves. Thank you very much for this video, if anyone knows more ways or practices of self love, please comment here
I have just got rejected by the boy I loved I started watching your videos and I already feel better. I've learned how to accept who I am. thank you so much for posting about this because it really made my day a lot better.
You don't know how much you saved a person's life just from a 30 min video 😭😭
Petition that Alessia should make a podcast with this ❤❤
Bring TheWizardLiz over! They'll slay!!!
@@icycandiee6343world domination duo litteraly
That would be such a cool thing
"i don't mean fake it ‘till you make it" FINALLY SOMEONE SAID THAT!! i used to think that it was a great advice, but after some time i learned that there was a deeper problem that needed to be solved, thank you soo much for this video ❤
Agreed!!
Yeah I never really felt right with that advice either 😕
The mean and confident thing was A MUST ! People nowadays have lots of misconceptions on that and think it's the same.
“No one avoids you as much as someone that owes you an apology” 💯
Or that owes you money/ that has stole something from you
Taking down the notes from MOMMY ❤🔥
1. Find out who you are. Who are you? What are your goals? What are your values? What are your expectations?
2. Ask for help if needed.
3. Progress over perfection.
4. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
5. Never respond to something that is send to destroy your inner peace.
6. Create routines filled with things that make you feel good.
7. Stop caring about what others think . Become okay with being misunderstood. Because okay with being disliked.
8. Learn how to set priorities and stick to them. It's okay to say no.
9. Internal validation>>>>>external validation
10. Be careful about what you consume. Choose wisely what to fill your mind with.
*lemme know if I've missed out anything*
maybe add
'fall in love with your imperfections'
other than that u did wonderful - thx so much for this. i just copy and pasted it into my notes app.
thank you for this! genuinely appreciate it
Hope you're not only writing down the notes but also following it consistently irl ＼(^o^)／
Yeah your song doozy is actually doozy ♫♬♪♪
as someone w depression i stand by the tip of not listening to sad music all the time. i changed the artists i listened to and it really did make a difference. i still listen to some of those artists on some of those occasions if i think that their music is good, but i cant let it influence my emotions when im already vulnerable.
You did very very well❤
You got this💕💕
Change your profile name- change your life
"Your imperfections makes you perfect" I've needed this a lot in the past but better late than never ❤
You know earlier people felt kinda guilty to be selfish & to love themselves & people just normalized talking badly about themselves but nowadays it really feels illegal to talk badly about urself,it's like now that I am watching & only following people that teach me to love myself,my mind is always like encouraging my inner child, loving myself & shining my light brightly. So thank u Alessia for being that person in my life who changed my mindset(in a positive way) & life forever ❤
What other channels do you watch that encourage you to think and behave this way? If you can share that would be wonderful❤
i love alessias face so much, she doesn’t even have to speak, her being itself is just so calming
„Perfect things makes them seen robotic and you don’t want to be robotic, you want to be human.“
thank you alessia. I am suffering from social anxiety and although I‘ve analyzed my behavior I am still struggling but this sentence of you really changed my view of my „imperfect“ behavior
i thank god everyday for letting this woman wake up every day and sharing her mindset with us
today was my birthday and it was a really bad day and i was feeling so worthless and low but SHE. she made me realise how wrong i am to feel that way& i should love myself 😭😭💗 thank you so much QUEEN YOU'RE THE BEST🎀
Happy Birthday, you are incredible and I hope that you realize that your worth could never by measured by anything because it is limitless 🤍
Happy Birthday
Happy birthday 🎈🎉
Happy birthday girlie! You are special everyday, 365 ;)
i love you. happy birthday day. 🩷
I'm the youngest child in my family and my brother and sister had already moved on with their life when i was barely a teenager, my mother and father is old and i basically grew up alone i was not very aware of the outside world and relationships i had always felt like an outcasts in every family gathering because my cousins were always very active and smart they always askes me why am i so quiet i didn't even know my self back then but thanks to some amazing peaple i met in this platform i now feel less lonely and better about myself I'm still in a long journey of loving myself I'm always thankful to everyone who was with in my darkest days ❤
such a beautiful words, "Perfect things are so DETACHED from REALITY, it almost seems as THEY ARE ROBOTIC." This hit me hard as a person who thrive to be perfectionist in all things that it really sabotage me to walk my talk. Thank you, Ukthie Alessia
I‘m in the first healthy relationship after getting abused in my last one over years, this video helped a lot! Thank you so much for your great work
My class mates started to look at me differently after I started watching your content! after sinking in everything you have said I just feel so much better about myself and creating the future that I want because it's my life and I'm responsible for my happiness and satisfaction! TYSMMM!!!
I deleted tiktok and insta, so I can't see your stories and all that. So you don't know how happy I am to see you here on TH-cam in my healing era. Love you and thank you
For myself
4:48 perfectionism isnt real
7:08 allow yourself to make mistakes
7:40 people are threatened by perfectionism
13:00 why do you care?
14:08 become okay with people seeing you as a bad person
To illustrate the nb 4, few years ago, I had someone that were supposed to be my friend. This person knew that I was extremely sensitive and triggered easely.
So, they told me things that made me crazy. So that, I would react mad and be hurt. I used to respond long texts, explining why what they are saying is hurting me or making me so angry and upset. He litteraly laughted at me and told me that I was crazy or the problem.
Once I realised it, and wanted to block him, he was so desesperate. So, he tried to make me believe that I was crazy or that he couldn't live without me. Now, he's out of my life for good and it is for the best!
Thank you for reading, but mostly thank to Alessia to bring the subject to the table.
Love you
You're an angel
26:09 that was the hardest part 😭😭 , I realized a lot of what I watch and listen to everyday has impacted a lot on my mental health .. for example, I used to listen to criminal stories a lot and I thought it was just a stupid little hobby .. but it made my anxiety higher without realizing, now that I cut them off I started see that my anxiety became more under control.. the same with music .. I’d listen to dark and sad music all the time and my teenage me thought it was just part of my personality until I stopped and realized that it really can make my point of view on reality really bad .. so instead I try to listen to music that makes me energetic and confident.. also with movies and shows ! .. I used to read a lot of toxic romantic things which kinda made my point of view on love .. after I realized that it’s not really how it is , and took a lot of time to understand what real love is .. I stopped reading a lot of that , they can be such small habits that can control a lot about you ! After I cut all of that for a while I got much much better
This woman is pure gold. Thank you for your advices and the good aura you transmit. Pure inspiration❤
"progress over perfection" I'm getting that tattooed in my mind, thank you for this video, it was amazing 🖤
Thank you so much for posting! I’ve been feeling down lately and lost motivation, but I’m determined! Love you 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I Hope you feel better soon I love you too 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for being yourself, and for putting yourself out there. You have an audience that believes in you. What you share is so profound that you are initiating that belief within ourselves. You are a literal painting, but what is definite, Alessia, is your beautiful mind.❤️
Thank you so so much 🥹🤍
Alessia I love your aura. Watching your video feels like having a conversation with you and I feel so safe in your presence 🤍
Do u know how I can be like that ?
she literally posted at the perfect time. i really needed this tbh. love u Alessia❤
the prettiest bed I've ever seen 🫠🎀
OMG EVERYONE WAKE UPP. THE QUEEN HAS POSTED😭😭😭😭😭🤍🤍
WOKE UP 🫡
" you are what left when everything is taken from you " woahhh 🤯👏
Literally everybody says to prioritize yourself but no one told us how to do it with really loving ourself. This video helped so much that I almost take note of everything you said. Thank you so much Alessia. This was what I needed for sure ♡
Can u explain how to do that in easier words I didn’t understand her well
@MariaStocker simply by learning about yourself, by taking care of yourself first before anyone comes. Let me just say, accept yourself with your flaws. Know that perfect is surreal, you are doing good if you are a little bit better than yesterday. I know all these videos can be confusing at first, in this journey of healing and learning...just take your time darling, in time you will keep understanding things better if you won't stop trying. Just don't give up ♡
QUEEN LITERALLY POSTED AT THE CORRECT TIME 😭❤
i was feeling so low whole day today & wasn't feeling confident & felt so ugly ..This is amazing, THANK YOU FOR THIS 💕
SAMEEEE BROOO
'your imperfections make you perfect'
Alessia, please, could you make a video on how to control emotions, improve them. Please I need!
I admire your rage, and your sincere will to help. You are authentic and generpus. I have much to learn from listening to you.
Thanks alissa for making me more confident ,those 30 mins touches my heart deeply ,your listener marwa from Egypt 🇪🇬
honestly can’t believe how one content creator can change your life
Love you!
I am listening to this while doing my 3-12-30, never felt more proud of myself before!
I was in a ditch with all my experiences from the past and people and in a dilemma that I should start building me up not knowing how, thank you for your guidance Allesia it truly means more than I can say here. It's priceless❤
Thank you !
I just saw your videos today and I absolutely love it. I needed this 🥰
I am 31 years and still, it's accurate!
Omg your energy is so magnetic 🎉❤️❤️❤️
I need this video so much since I’m going threw so much since I was 8 and there is always pain in me….now it’s time to love myself 💕
Thank you so much. I rlly needed this. I was very suicidal but then I found out this channel. It’s rlly helping me see how important I am to myself. I should always put myself before others. I can love myself better than anyone, I can prioritize myself better than anyone. I am the best subject to study. Love you ❤️
People fall in love with your own imperfections 😢wow such a blessing to hear today
8:11 this part hits so hard, It helped me realize a lot of things
I’m coming back to listen and comment a second time - this is my MOST favourite video of Alessia’s ❤😊
I'm starting to think Alessia can see right through me bcoz I really need this type of video at the moment
Hi Alessia, I am wondering if you can do a video for those of us still in the abusive situations. I just don’t know how to practically escape as I am not financially independent😔 thank you
Persephone Thank You ..........Thank you for delivering your message with honesty ,from the heart and with kindness and softness ...You are a role model about how we should all aspire to be .........Please take care of yourself .........I love your videos ...............They are so uplifting xxx
This video was so needed and a real slap in the face, plus I love the clear and open way you speak it helps a lot for us non-Americans to understand English, thank you!
i’m forever grateful for you and your precious lessons, alessia
Omg I tried to sub and didn't realise I was subbed already. You have so much heart and kindness. I love this advice
3:09 whenever i try to step out of my hyper independent mode, and really ask for help ( try to talk about my feeling) i feel so unheard and i shut down immediately. I usually have no friends. I’m always at my home either studying or doing some other things. My mother seems to not like the present me. I mean I wasn’t like this before, i was a messed up person who didn’t have any goals, i used to have a lot of friends. When i was that version of myself, my mother was like my bestfriend, listening to me and all. But when I’ve changed for better, she’s more like a stranger to me. She never listens. Whenever i try to talk to her she either shuts me off or acts like she didn’t hear me. This is so sad
i can't thank you enough for sharing this video, it's really helpful and i'm so lucky to find it.. 💐 🥺
Out of context but I love the way your room looks and the way it is designed ❤
you’re amazing love i hope you’re doing everything to be happy and content yourself 🤍
I am so motivated by your noble and informative messeges,May you continue to be blessed .
Facts: people respect you more if they see how much respect and validate yourself.
Thank you for that energy! I saw in my life what I was doing wrong this whole time! You really helped me! ❤❤
I absolutely love this side of the internet 😊
you're making a huge difference in our lives❤
You got me sub when you talked about the diffrence between being mean vs being confident, I would love more content about this,so many missunderstand this and act rude thinking this means confidence.
i saw a little bit of the video days ago, i was feeling lost and this video came into my mind, i am so grateful with you for this video, it's already helping me so much!!!
This is my third time watching this video now. Thank you very much for posting it at the right time, I already feel that it helps me ! Love you
Omg alessia posted😭😭😭 highlight of my day fr
This woman deserves the best of everything. I'm watching your videos from Turkey. İ love you so much
This actually made me understand a lot about myself
honestly i clicked on this video thinking it's another shit about selflove, but this girl IS REAL❤
Thank you so much, you brought back the energy and confidence I've lost and been craving for.
YOU ARE AN ANGEL ON EARTH.. thank for for these beautiful messages. I'm grateful to come across your channel on the right time!
Not you posting the video few hours after i realized that i wasn't as confident and loving myself as i thought i was. Thank you darling
50 seconds in and I love this, I got to study but im watching this the second I finish
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
I am truly indebted to you.Thank you!💗
😭😭😭 Thank you so much. This is literally what I need to hear right now. Thank the universe for sending me this video💜💜💜
this video hit on so many different levels, i am so grateful for you and your videos. i love your content. Thank you so much for these videos. i also love how you get your point across while being kind and respectful all through out. Once again, i love you and thank you so much xx
thank you so much, im trying to heal from a breakup and this helped me a lot, with changing my mind-set💗💗
I love you, so grateful to share the same planet with you at the same time. ❤😊
How has this vidoe not blow up yet 😮it’s perfection
Thank you for helping people
the way i dropped everything, got my notebook and started taking notes whilst listening :>
These videos are what I’m always looking forward to, ily Alessia ❤❤
Thank you for this. I've been really insecure these days ❤
She and Thewizardliz are my superwomans. Thanks for saved me!!
you have such a soothing voice and some real advice that are clear to follow. thank you so much!
Thank you ❤ so healing today babes
Ive just came back from a long trip home and Alessia's new video feels like reward💖💖💖
My mentor really stressed the importance of values, thank you so much for reminding me 🤍
1:15 “…what do I want for (fill in the blank)…”
I think the most important ’what do I want for…” question is one you perhaps mistakenly missed. It’s ‘what do I want out of my own beliefs, values, and actions?’ - pertaining specifically to how I will interface with the world, with what sort of character will I handle the obstacles, and ups/downs that come in normal life. The only thing in the universe I have 100% control over is my own mind and how I will perceive the outside world. If I don’t have this part right, I’m leaving myself exposed and vulnerable to things that may not be within my control.
“To the still mind, the entire universe yields”
~ The Buddha; Siddhartha Gautama
there a few things i have to say. so, therapy has helped me so much and i’m glad it exists. i would be in such a different place if i wouldn’t go there every week. secondly, i started writing a book but after a few chapters i feared that it would be imperfect, but this motivated me to keep going! oh and the apology part, it explained to me something that i questioned for weeks. i was hurt by a person and now they avoid me, this makes so much sense. routines! i have it since years and it does so well to me.
thank you for this video once again 🤍
I know that you say i don't need you to validate who i am .. but i love to tell you that you are really a princess 💙 i love to start my day with one of your videos and ended my day with you 🥺🥺💙💙💙💙💙🌼🌼🌼🌼
you're so wise, thank you for everything you do 🤍
I didn't expect to cry watching this video, but it made me realize how much work I've put into myself over this months to become a better version of me, prioritizing myself, sitting with my emotions and healing my traumas, and suddenly I felt it... I didn’t realize how much love I was giving and showing to myself, but now I see it…so thank you Alessia, I really needed this 🤍
This video was way better than your last vidoes. You are getting better at ur work, keep going i personaly need ur videos