If u hangout with a narc.for too long you lose yourself and become toxic and resentful and then physically sick. Their not worth the aggrivation. Go find yourself and create the life you dreamed of w/out them. Be Well 2024🎉🎉🎉🎉
I stayed long term knew it was a losing situation definitely lost myself went no contact been no contact since Aug 9th despite repeated Hoovers but I like most will never turn toward their darkness that's what sets us apart from them get out stay no contact and heal 💯❤️🙏🙌✌️
Absolutely. It makes it so much more disgusting, as if they're trying to show that the betrayal was intentional and that you're less than human to them.
When I first met the narc, he was on anxiety medication and had problems sleeping. With time he stopped taking the meds, as he was starting to feel better. Then I realized over time, that I was taking so much abuse, verbal abuse, name calling and belittling, that i was the reason that he didn’t need the medication and I now felt depressed and low and almost going on medication because of the trauma, anxiety and low moods I was feeling because of the relationship. His toxicity was transferred and I got sick, whilst he became better! They really are low vibrational beings that need supply to survive. They will do the same - they will never heal on their own. I am 6 months no contact and I won’t ever go back
Mine eventually started taking valium to control her anxiety she developed after she discarded me. Apparently valium can cause tinnitus. And it sure did in her case. "Financial ruin" after that.
The kitchen is too hot to handle.. he doesnt want the boundaries and have to treat me well because he knows my worth... so he runs to someone who is on his level because i refuse to be physically emotionally and verbally abused. Thank goodness it was my get away card. I still am shiny. These people are jelous and envious
I called out my NEX way too hard, leading to her gaining a new supply while we were still married, and then a brutal discard months later when i discovered her new relationship. She was so cruel and vindictive, pretty sure she wanted me to self destruct, maybe even commit suicide. Im not expecting any hoovers. And ive met the sweetest, most vulnerable kind empathic beautiful woman, she is soothing my soul...
Good for you. BRAVO. BRAVO. 🙌👏👏👏 you deserve it my friend if you were going through this HABIT/TRANSACTION. Situation Ship. . i used too give my nex Narcissistic injuries. She would sleep for days.....Near the end. I was Very good to her. HORRIBLE FEELING being A Dupers Delight....
Been through this for 28 years. It's absolutely mind boggling how a human being can treat people this way. That's what takes so long to get out sometimes. A normal person can't make sense of their thought process. Trust me, don't try, you'll only die or go crazy trying.
@@joebhouse haha, well, I think I've seen it all in 28 years and thanks to channels like yours, I was able to figure out what was happening. Always knew it was very wrong and abnormal, but had zero experience with Narcissism. Thanks Joe. Happy new year!
I like the floodwater metaphor. Probably best to view the narcissist as a building inspector. They showed you your vulnerabilities/cracks so you can fill/heal/fortify them.
Joe, I always get much to mull over after listening to your shows. I consider you one of the best shows on TH-cam that covers this content, and I am thinking of the Big Names.😐. But your perspective beats theirs. Not gonna lie.🙌
What you have to realise is you are dealing with a child , a very dangerous one at that, it was when i finally realised that this person was totally irrational, that i became free.
I also believe that what can really make us I heal is that they a 9:45 re " not normally " thinking and behaving" and staying in the relation is accepting to be with an unhealthy phsycologically person. I wonder why the covert pervert narcissists do not belong to the catalogued illnesses as for instance bipolarity?. My self 4 years attracted by this pn propably by perversity itself!!! Trying to heal nowdays! Very difficult
your dealing with an empty shell, there is nothing there, yes i agree , it should be labeled under th other mental illnesses , its probably the most dangerous because the condition itself doesn't see problem. @@goboudou
As always, so much truth spoken here! Once the narc realizes they can no longer take any more from you, it's game over! Once you stop giving them what they want, they're gone!
It’s hilariously hypocritical that the narcissist will miss what the old supply used to give them. Meanwhile the old supply wants the narcissist to go back to the beginning lovebombing valuing stage and stay there and they just won’t, but they expect you to stay a good source of supply.
This is your best video on the topic. Here's why, maybe it will benefit someone. My ex-narcissist came back into my life some months after she discarded me, telling me I was the love of her life and that she cant imagine her life without me. Love bombing me with photos and videos of our past. Despite my strong feeling of wanting her back and at the same time knowing its not going to end well, I saw her. We spent the night together like it always was, passionate - I was her "puzzle piece". In the morning, when I questioned some of her decisions, I felt it, she was gone again. She was not there. When I asked her to just do our thing and stop with the BS, she needed time, "it will be a shame to let this go" etc .. Why I like this video is that it speaks to the fact that when they know you still care, and are not over it, and you entertain their reaching out, you're not such potent supply. Only when you move on, do you become that what they want. The other thing in the video is that it talks about our own validation needs. In a way, we (me in this case) want some validation that we are worthy, of this feeling, to love and feel loved in a moment even if it destroys us. She still texts, but I don't respond anymore. Slowly I move on. All the best to anyone who reads this.
@@Songbirds321 I did 3 years ago and deactivate all my sm accounts. Thank you I did not do it respectfully thouhg I vent on fb and expose them all and been called "crazy" "unstable" and so on Classical story.
@@Songbirds321 how to do this when they use my youngest daughter against me? Its sick. Im just meeting them with love. And asking God to remove everyone who is not serving me with time.
The craziest thing about encountering a narcissist is its like a bad dream, but is very much real, they live in an alternate reality, a nightmare, and their nightmare crosses into your reality, into your mind, into your heart, they can even threaten your spirit, because they operate on pain, deceit, and sorrow. Being proximate to them injects this sorrow into you, in symbolic ways, in subconcious ways, in deep and strange ways. It's a profound experience, but not a good one, as they very much exist in a nightmare you yourself can imagine, but were never fully emerged in.
Thank you Joe. That video made me understand a lot about my ex but also about myself. Your content answered questions I would never had answers, and I know I'm now a little bit less naive about how the world is sadly working. Thank you so much.
I called how my ex for trying to play me. Complete denial made me lash out in rage and say some nasty truths to her about herself. Sometimes I regret it and wish I just left when I saw what she was doing. Then of course switched it on me that I was the child and irrational one. Overly emotional. Whatever I’ll live with it.
Great analysis about the house...she won't be back. She knows better...... i Really appreciate the sense you make out of this. These creatures are amazing actually.. 😉😀... i did kinda break no contact the other day. I snuck in a text saying you were just an illusion. Im healing AND getting stronger EVERY day. Which I am. Told her THANK you.
I got inspired and texted my narc right now said thank you that you showed me how to love myself more and said to him I hope you have a good time in Thailand. And then I blocked him. I dont want a reply from him, also Im afraid he calls me so Im keeping him blocked. I just felt inspired by texting him and say thank you to him cause they actually helps us but dont even know it themselves!
@@scottoz7891yeah just block them back and focuse on YOU! They will awaken to what they did! I just know and feel it. Well right now he maybe is having a good time. Maybe he marries a thai girl😂 and stays in Thailand for good.
She would lie to my face and others and I never pointed it out..I knew she was a liar but wouldn't confront her because yea I knew I'd probably never see my sister again..that's how I felt. Eventually the lies got so bad I couldn't take it and spoke up..that's when everything went to shit..I now haven't seen her for 8 months..
He told me that he would be with me forever. Sure. It didnt take long for me to see he was flirting all over the place in a very obvious way that didnt make sense to someone who was to be their "life" partner.. I was gone. Bye bye
Hey let’s get this straight there gone it’s for you to move on imagine your a big shiny rocket everyone looks at you in amazement there the boosters they will lift you up and when there fuel runs out they drop off buts that’s ok because your going to better places without them ❤
So how come in your last video you said they keep a keeper ooh age. Same sex relationship; hiding in gay community 11 years. Im 45 she is 38. I was a codependent (Same abandonedment issues), childhood trauma and suicide 2 brothers in immediate family 1 cousin 💔 f'ed me up. She has her new supply so true but i gave naccarrist everything's and she is pretending that she achieved all of it alone😅😂. All she kept talking about was the sex but she now found her soulmate; im no longer her soulmate😂😅. Took my money right before discard knowing she was emotionally cheating and more than likely sex as well monkey branched. The story goes on blah. I cant handle those demons and i dont think she will ever bother me because she doesnt want to loose supply now. So much damage 💔. Im thinking he said no more when she was traigulating to get him to commit; he fell for it. S he cant come back with fear i will send more pictures of her with me to new supply 😅😂.
I was very affectionate with him, but he gave nothing in return. The first 4 1/2 years that we were together, we had a very healthy sex life together. He withheld intimacy and affection from me for the last 4 years. We had sex maybe twice a year, and no sex at all in the last 9 months. WTF. I put up with this stupid bullshit for too long. 9/29/24
There’s no one more single than a married narc.
or one married to a narc....
They keep you in their harem garage. They make you feel more lonely than if you were just single and in peace, by yourself.
The loneliest place on earth is anywhere with a narc.
Yup!
So true!!
If u hangout with a narc.for too long you lose yourself and become toxic and resentful and then physically sick. Their not worth the aggrivation. Go find yourself and create the life you dreamed of w/out them. Be Well 2024🎉🎉🎉🎉
I stayed long term knew it was a losing situation definitely lost myself went no contact been no contact since Aug 9th despite repeated Hoovers but I like most will never turn toward their darkness that's what sets us apart from them get out stay no contact and heal 💯❤️🙏🙌✌️
When you need them, theyre a no show- but help strangers.
Absolutely. It makes it so much more disgusting, as if they're trying to show that the betrayal was intentional and that you're less than human to them.
That was the most horrific experience in my life. I don´t wish that anybody. If people let you down when you need them - that´s horrific.
Omg yes, so true, it's very disturbing smh.
When I first met the narc, he was on anxiety medication and had problems sleeping. With time he stopped taking the meds, as he was starting to feel better. Then I realized over time, that I was taking so much abuse, verbal abuse, name calling and belittling, that i was the reason that he didn’t need the medication and I now felt depressed and low and almost going on medication because of the trauma, anxiety and low moods I was feeling because of the relationship.
His toxicity was transferred and I got sick, whilst he became better!
They really are low vibrational beings that need supply to survive.
They will do the same - they will never heal on their own.
I am 6 months no contact and I won’t ever go back
Mine eventually started taking valium to control her anxiety she developed after she discarded me. Apparently valium can cause tinnitus. And it sure did in her case. "Financial ruin" after that.
I saw a book on Narcissist called “They try to fix themselves by breaking you” your comment reminded me of that, glad you got away! 🙏
The kitchen is too hot to handle.. he doesnt want the boundaries and have to treat me well because he knows my worth... so he runs to someone who is on his level because i refuse to be physically emotionally and verbally abused. Thank goodness it was my get away card. I still am shiny. These people are jelous and envious
I called out my NEX way too hard, leading to her gaining a new supply while we were still married, and then a brutal discard months later when i discovered her new relationship. She was so cruel and vindictive, pretty sure she wanted me to self destruct, maybe even commit suicide. Im not expecting any hoovers. And ive met the sweetest, most vulnerable kind empathic beautiful woman, she is soothing my soul...
Good for you. BRAVO. BRAVO. 🙌👏👏👏 you deserve it my friend if you were going through this HABIT/TRANSACTION. Situation Ship. . i used too give my nex Narcissistic injuries. She would sleep for days.....Near the end. I was Very good to her. HORRIBLE FEELING being A Dupers Delight....
❤❤❤
Been through this for 28 years. It's absolutely mind boggling how a human being can treat people this way. That's what takes so long to get out sometimes. A normal person can't make sense of their thought process. Trust me, don't try, you'll only die or go crazy trying.
Or you'll start a TH-cam channel as an outlet to rationalize the dysfunctional thought processes to prevent you from imploding mentally ;)
@@joebhouse haha, well, I think I've seen it all in 28 years and thanks to channels like yours, I was able to figure out what was happening. Always knew it was very wrong and abnormal, but had zero experience with Narcissism. Thanks Joe. Happy new year!
Spot on. I'm 27 years in and it only gets worse. Get away from them, they're evil.
True because there's no way to make sense out of nonsense.
Narcissists are delusional. They have a distorted view of reality. You can’t help them. They never learn.
I like the floodwater metaphor. Probably best to view the narcissist as a building inspector. They showed you your vulnerabilities/cracks so you can fill/heal/fortify them.
Yes awesome
Joe, I always get much to mull over after listening to your shows. I consider you one of the best shows on TH-cam that covers this content, and I am thinking of the Big Names.😐. But your perspective beats theirs. Not gonna lie.🙌
Every time. He's truly the best.❤
One more for posterity.
If they suddenly pop up in your life after months or years away... don't fuck them.
😂
😂😂😂
Thats a real priceless advise. I acknowledge the risk there. Knowing that doing that/it the mindfuck will follow suit 🙈
mines back after 10 years and is trying to love bomb me all over again but i am no longer interested
Nope. Ain't shit. Never will be shit. Never amount to shit. Loved her unconditionally. Paid all the bills. Never cheated...bye Narcopath....❤
What you have to realise is you are dealing with a child , a very dangerous one at that, it was when i finally realised that this person was totally irrational, that i became free.
👍👍
I also believe that what can really make us I heal is that they a 9:45 re " not normally " thinking and behaving" and staying in the relation is accepting to be with an unhealthy phsycologically person. I wonder why the covert pervert narcissists do not belong to the catalogued illnesses as for instance bipolarity?. My self 4 years attracted by this pn propably by perversity itself!!! Trying to heal nowdays! Very difficult
your dealing with an empty shell, there is nothing there, yes i agree , it should be labeled under th other mental illnesses , its probably the most dangerous because the condition itself doesn't see problem.
@@goboudou
Good morning ! 🌞 a cup of Joe with Joe ! ☕☕ Life is good ! 🤗❤
As always, so much truth spoken here! Once the narc realizes they can no longer take any more from you, it's game over! Once you stop giving them what they want, they're gone!
Love this channel, it’s like my morning paper and hot tea… ❤
It’s hilariously hypocritical that the narcissist will miss what the old supply used to give them. Meanwhile the old supply wants the narcissist to go back to the beginning lovebombing valuing stage and stay there and they just won’t, but they expect you to stay a good source of supply.
Double standards. AGAIN.
Losing you is their karma
Im over that shit 😅😂🎉🎉🎉🎉
This is your best video on the topic. Here's why, maybe it will benefit someone.
My ex-narcissist came back into my life some months after she discarded me, telling me I was the love of her life and that she cant imagine her life without me. Love bombing me with photos and videos of our past. Despite my strong feeling of wanting her back and at the same time knowing its not going to end well, I saw her. We spent the night together like it always was, passionate - I was her "puzzle piece". In the morning, when I questioned some of her decisions, I felt it, she was gone again. She was not there. When I asked her to just do our thing and stop with the BS, she needed time, "it will be a shame to let this go" etc ..
Why I like this video is that it speaks to the fact that when they know you still care, and are not over it, and you entertain their reaching out, you're not such potent supply. Only when you move on, do you become that what they want.
The other thing in the video is that it talks about our own validation needs. In a way, we (me in this case) want some validation that we are worthy, of this feeling, to love and feel loved in a moment even if it destroys us.
She still texts, but I don't respond anymore. Slowly I move on.
All the best to anyone who reads this.
my narc family and ex "miss" feeding of me and abusing me to make themselves feel good and powerful.
@@Songbirds321 I did 3 years ago and deactivate all my sm accounts. Thank you I did not do it respectfully thouhg I vent on fb and expose them all and been called "crazy" "unstable" and so on Classical story.
@@Songbirds321 how to do this when they use my youngest daughter against me? Its sick. Im just meeting them with love. And asking God to remove everyone who is not serving me with time.
The craziest thing about encountering a narcissist is its like a bad dream, but is very much real, they live in an alternate reality, a nightmare, and their nightmare crosses into your reality, into your mind, into your heart, they can even threaten your spirit, because they operate on pain, deceit, and sorrow. Being proximate to them injects this sorrow into you, in symbolic ways, in subconcious ways, in deep and strange ways. It's a profound experience, but not a good one, as they very much exist in a nightmare you yourself can imagine, but were never fully emerged in.
The NEX has been in a doomed relationshit for decades. He’s too codependent to leave & his partner’s “money & lineage” would shatter his “identity”.
I exposed mine after she discarded me, I could not forget that rage and manipulation, best one was you will never find someone better than me 😊
Thank you Joe. That video made me understand a lot about my ex but also about myself. Your content answered questions I would never had answers, and I know I'm now a little bit less naive about how the world is sadly working. Thank you so much.
I called how my ex for trying to play me. Complete denial made me lash out in rage and say some nasty truths to her about herself. Sometimes I regret it and wish I just left when I saw what she was doing. Then of course switched it on me that I was the child and irrational one. Overly emotional. Whatever I’ll live with it.
Great analysis about the house...she won't be back. She knows better...... i Really appreciate the sense you make out of this. These creatures are amazing actually.. 😉😀... i did kinda break no contact the other day. I snuck in a text saying you were just an illusion. Im healing AND getting stronger EVERY day. Which I am. Told her THANK you.
What did she reply? Did she reply you?
I got inspired and texted my narc right now said thank you that you showed me how to love myself more and said to him I hope you have a good time in Thailand. And then I blocked him. I dont want a reply from him, also Im afraid he calls me so Im keeping him blocked. I just felt inspired by texting him and say thank you to him cause they actually helps us but dont even know it themselves!
@@ainahaga Nope. Silence. What she is good at. .
@@ainahaga Absolutely. Why not get in there head. They know what they did. Much Love And Respect to EVERYONE...🙌💜❤🙏👈....
@@scottoz7891yeah just block them back and focuse on YOU! They will awaken to what they did! I just know and feel it. Well right now he maybe is having a good time. Maybe he marries a thai girl😂 and stays in Thailand for good.
Video is spot on
Good common horse 🐎 👏 sense!
So right on! Thank u!!
Mine Nex will never hoover me again 😅..he knows im repulsed by him.😅
Same.
Are you mocking God?
God cannot be mocked.
that's what I thought until, after 3 years a message appeared in my 'blocked messages'. of course I didn't respond but never is a long time.
Truth
Narcissists dont live... they just exist
She would lie to my face and others and I never pointed it out..I knew she was a liar but wouldn't confront her because yea I knew I'd probably never see my sister again..that's how I felt.
Eventually the lies got so bad I couldn't take it and spoke up..that's when everything went to shit..I now haven't seen her for 8 months..
New Supply......Adultery.....Matthew 19 and Mark 10 and Proverbs 5; ;6; 7
I would put that in plural. New supplies. Narcissists have always a choice of people in their pockets (supply A, B, C, D)...
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐.....
He told me that he would be with me forever. Sure. It didnt take long for me to see he was flirting all over the place in a very obvious way that didnt make sense to someone who was to be their "life" partner.. I was gone. Bye bye
Forbidden Fruit 🏆
Hey let’s get this straight there gone it’s for you to move on imagine your a big shiny rocket everyone looks at you in amazement there the boosters they will lift you up and when there fuel runs out they drop off buts that’s ok because your going to better places without them ❤
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
He recently discarded me because I exposed him (as a user). He’s currently trying to replace me with anybody who will give him attention. 9/2024
So how come in your last video you said they keep a keeper ooh age. Same sex relationship; hiding in gay community 11 years. Im 45 she is 38. I was a codependent (Same abandonedment issues), childhood trauma and suicide 2 brothers in immediate family 1 cousin 💔 f'ed me up. She has her new supply so true but i gave naccarrist everything's and she is pretending that she achieved all of it alone😅😂. All she kept talking about was the sex but she now found her soulmate; im no longer her soulmate😂😅. Took my money right before discard knowing she was emotionally cheating and more than likely sex as well monkey branched. The story goes on blah. I cant handle those demons and i dont think she will ever bother me because she doesnt want to loose supply now. So much damage 💔. Im thinking he said no more when she was traigulating to get him to commit; he fell for it. S he cant come back with fear i will send more pictures of her with me to new supply 😅😂.
I was very affectionate with him, but he gave nothing in return. The first 4 1/2 years that we were together, we had a very healthy sex life together. He withheld intimacy and affection from me for the last 4 years. We had sex maybe twice a year, and no sex at all in the last 9 months. WTF. I put up with this stupid bullshit for too long. 9/29/24
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Her