@@lamzy3773 What I mean is that over time you become known for acting with ethics and values, and that matters. Acting outside of those ethics and values can create a reputation that is damaging to your long term career. As an example, I have had former colleagues reach out to me to check on my opinions of people they are considering hiring who I have worked with previously. If those people haven't demonstrated ethics and values in my dealings with them, I then tell the person calling me and they don't get the position. It's an important example because it isn't always clear to the unethical person what has happened, they just think they didn't get the job. In fact, it is their prior behavior and reputation that is taking them out of the running.
@@stepoutoftherace6958 Hmmm......this is deep. Thank you so much for the detailed explanation. Now I understand what you're saying. But it is sad that Managers cannot just focus on performance alone understanding that it is possible that not all candidates meet their work culture and fit their company "cultures" which is always shitty most of the time.
Oh my son was a survival tech for air plane suppliers.....he resigned. He didn't agree with their standards. He had saved up money and I told him I support what ever you do 😁😁
Would another sign be: You're so stressed and angry at work that you're one f-bomb or "explosion" away from getting fired? That's where I'm at. And it doesn't feel good constantly feeling like a ball of rage inside, even over stupid co-worker stuff that shouldn't be a big deal. *Edit* I appreciate and feel for all the folks that were/are in my same situation. I am happy to say that (after nearly a decade at that horrible job) I finally found the courage to leave. I cannot believe how much happier I am. I worried I was making a horrible mistake, but now I realize it was the best decision ever, and I wish I left years ago. I am healthier, happier, and am still surprised how NICE everyone seems at my new job, almost like I was ingrained that I wasn't worth anything, so I am constantly surprised when I receive positive feedback. Wow!
Oh...Yeah. i enjoyed my work. Just the stupid/ungreatful people around me that drove me to insanity. And yet I was suppose to support them? The dynamic of it all didnt make any sense.
Totally understand , wish and now want out ...being home today is becoming to make sense.The feeling of not wanting to enter the office , lack of respect and coldness.
Its actually sad that people in my life tell me to suck it up for a pay check ..my kids are raising themselves .got to do what's rite for me/us ! Money comes and goes but loved ones last forever !
This is so true. My wakeup call was being so happy to have major surgery because I could finally get a break from work. Not the resolution of the health issue... the break from work. Joke was on me because they called me while I was out during 6 weeks of FMLA. I was irritable and angry all the time, short with loved ones and never wanted to leave the house. I just felt trapped. So happy I made a change. If you're in this position now, please know that this is similar to an abusive relationship that doesn't get better. Please look for a new role within your company or externally.
Great advice. So many people I know are afraid of making a job change, even though they are miserable. Change is not a bad thing, in fact, it’s necessary for growth and development. I changed jobs several times in my career because I realized that I didn’t like the person I had become due to the pressures and demands of the job and/or the corporate culture I was part of. My wake up call was always dreading Monday knowing that I had to go back into the office. No one likes Monday’s but there’s a difference of becoming anxious over it and just wanting your weekend to last longer.
Great advice At the end of the day, family and health comes first. NOT your job. Whilst your job is important, there needs to be a balance between work and personal.
Honestly, if this is your biggest problem with your job I would gladly take it. I work in a absurdly badly designed and noisy open-plan office also with incredibly toxic people (double standards, gossiping, brownnosing, etc.), completely drained after 2 years and going to quit soon.
This is very true. Years ago, I started seeing a therapist because I knew I was having issues with anger and irritability related to my workplace. I have absolutely learned that I only have but so much emotional capacity, and my job was repeatedly depleting it, which left me frustrated. Unfortunately, the build up has to come out at some point, sometimes it's at work, sometimes it's with my Mom. Ugh. The one good thing about the pandemic is that it has put a buffer/barrier between me and some of the daily, routine, triggers, and now my mom constantly says, "I have my Mikey back."
This is spot on..when i finally left, i felt this enormous weight off my back....no more constant emails..no more feeling stress of the micromanaging boss...incompetent co-workers...thank you for this video...and i saved a emergency fund so i can finally take some time to find myself and the career i want...
Thank you for great video, you are absolutely right. You correctly pointed out that when the job takes all of your "emotional capacity" and there is very little or nothing left, something is wrong and it is better to make a change. Finally something is going to break because we are not robots without limits and the saddest thing is that the ones we love may be affected by that.
I was having stress breakdowns/ erratic (not like me) personally changes for almost 2 years into new management bullying/ostracizing me. I felt the weight of carrying on my wife & our bills so I stayed. Plus I had a remote hope for justice. Finally I ended up in the hospital, almost died. Perfect example of frog in pot boiling. Finally put in my 2 weeks notice & was escorted out of building. This is how powerful sadistic these monolithic companies can be. . In retrospect I should hav left a lot sooner.
Sales is the worst job ever. If people are interested in products it's because they have an idea of what they want. You telling them they need this & that, won't make a difference. I worked in sales for 1 year. They're always on your back, you got to meet a certain quota, & it's the most stressful job I had since hardly anyone was buying our products or services. After that no more sales.
I once quit my job and vowed to myself never to work in the same field that i used to work, after 6 months of unemployment i got a new job but unfortunately i did broke my vow and started to work in the same field, i have the same feeling since day one of my new job. It have been 5 years with a good income, but nothing worth the internal peace that i used to have when first i quit my job. Now iam still thinking of quitting my job and want to establish my own business however iam afraid of the uncertaintity of consequences that i might face if i quit my job.
Starting your own business is very challenging, as noted by someone else in these comments. If you have the skills and it is the right opportunity, it is the best path to wealth/financial freedom... but it can also lead to bankruptcy, etc. You might consider talking to other business owners and learning from their experiences. I also recommend reading "E-Myth" by Michael Gerber... and developing sales skills before your move.
Thanks for sharing your story I've always been career hungry and have spent the last 6 years aggressively climbing (job change every 1.5 - 2 years for bigger jobs) and now find myself miserable due to the stress/pressure
Thanks for sharing your story. I was trying to explain that issue to someone much earlier in his career, but somehow it is hard to understand without experiencing it yourself.
Yeah pretty much. All you have to do is a bit of research, take a while & you really sit down & look for jobs you might like. Make a list of all the stuff you don't like & cross them off. Then when you get to your choices, it'll be easy to know if what you do like.
No expertise around abusive relationships, but I know that writing about it can be helpful sometimes and that time heals... that and finding a better working environment.
@@drannoc100 it was nuts that job was chaos! I am glad to be out of it. But now I am sensitive to things it's difficult to be stressed out. Little stressor seem to cause so much discomfort.
Please get therapy. I stepped out of a role like that a number of years ago and you're absolutely right. It did feel like I'd escaped an abusive relationship.
When they give you hell at work it's got to be because they did'nt want you there in the first place thats why they give you a hard time and that is so evil because everyone deserves opportunities to earn a decent living without being sabotaged.
Could not agree more. I had perfect performance appraisals until new manager came in. 2 years of hell & I finally resigned. Cost my health, mentally, physically. Only regret i hav is not leaving sooner. B#_>^rds.
I felt as if I was a shadow of who I used to be when I finally left the City of Flagstaff. It was an extremely toxic environment and everyone I know often spoke about leaving, or wishing they could. I was close to losing my soul and leaving was the best thing I could have done.
You are awesome, and I appreciate your candor. I think as a man especially it is difficult to admit the way that you were affected emotionally and mentally. I commend you and appreciate the universe delivering this message to me at the perfect time. Thank you
I'm still at my job because of my car loan i owe to them. it'll be fully paid this May! So excited! Anyway I've been realizing this sign since last year. Thanks for sharing this kind of content sir. 🏆
Nice vid - it's inspiring and motivating. I work with many people who are in the midst of changing careers, or they want to make a leap. In addition to the point you make, I'd like to add that a good time to change is when you aren't being challenged any more - if you can do your job with your eyes closed, there's no point in staying. Better to be at the bottom of a ladder you want to climb, than at the top of one that bores you.
Very true. I always think of roles as having 2 forms of compensation: 1) monetary 2) skills development. The key is to ensure you are getting the right amount of both.
I currently moved up as a bakery assistant manager and I’ve been doing it for almost 2 years. I honestly do not think management is for me. I lash out on my boss, my family and, my significant other a lot. SO MUCH. This video was helpful. This job has taken over my life and I can barely relax. Ever. I believe it is time to either step down or change companies all together because I don’t know how much longer I can handle it before I lose my shit on everyone and hop a one way plane to Europe.
A critical sign to quit your work place is when you feel you are wasting time each day & you're miserable. That's a sign to quit. To any of you out there who want a good job, just do your research, ask questions, & compare about 5-10 different jobs, look for the positives, & go from there.
When the company's values do not line up with yours, that is the time to quit. When they ask you or make you do things that are immoral and unethical, that is a time to quit as well. At my job, we are not allowed to say Sir or Ma'am when addressing a man or a woman. I was not at peace with that. The stress was killing me. It was time to go.
Dang. This resonates hard. I took a day off today to really think about my relationship with my job because of a similar moment. Thanks for sharing and providing this perspective from the other side.
I found your video randomly, and I have been feeling the same way about my current job, stressed out and extremely anxious. It makes my significant other sad to s this way, he helps me in every way possible and is a great man. This video made me think of it more deeply sometimes it's better to move on and save what sanity you have left.
I enjoyed the story bits ... not sure why others in the comments are impatient about getting to the point. Must be the stress from their jobs 😂 life is too short to be unhappy, I’m going to try to change my work situation instead of leaving the company. I’ll do what I can to make it better and hope for the best.
I want to quit my job but I have no idea where else I’d work or where my career would be. I work in the construction industry as an estimator and I just don’t think it’s for me. I don’t even want to be in the construction industry anymore. I have no college degree and I’m at a family business. I don’t know where else I can go.
True... in which case, I recommend looking for the next opportunity while you are still at this job. It's a lot of work, because you are effectively working at two jobs (your work and your job search) but eventually it will pay off. Best of luck.
I quit my government job due to years of sexual harrassment. It was such a toxic environment. Now I am trying to find another job and Im scared, But.. I feel more safe and can breathe easier.
Angela Valdez Good for you. Best of luck to you. I’m working for a total bully and reported her to HR . DONT know if its going to work but Ive got to get out. She’s literally a stalker and I’m walking on eggshells. I took today off sick could not handle going into that mess. It’s ridiculous to just want to do ur job and be left alone to do it but these bitches literally have to stir up some chaos out of nothing. We are working for some really mentally ill sobs no question about it.
In October 2021, I got terminated from a crappy staffing agency as they claim their side of their own story. And not caring for a loyal disabled employee going there every day, and NO VACATION either! The workload was getting insanely high and hectic, I was experiencing these types of short behaviors in addition to the extreme stress and fatigue on my eyes getting close to the papers and computer screen due to the non-stop PAPERWORK! I'm so glad I'm out of that agency and taking a hiatus, hoping in the future to return to work.
This is a very brave disclosure. That said, I can't imagine that yelling at your child was the first indication of your job stress. Self-awareness is key to a successful life. I would recommend that you look for signs inside yourself before they manifest with your children or spouse. Thanks for sharing. Dick Richardson SuccessBreaks
Im yet to find a job where I can seperate it from personal life , idk if its cause im young or because my jobs have been so stressful hopefully i can develop this trait because it would make life a lot easier
This has been happening to me on top of my inner voice telling me it’s time for a change. I’ve had to apologize to my partner for snapping over things that don’t make sense and ignored the possibility it was my job because I’ve made such good money there but I’m actively seeking another role. Best of luck to all in similar situations and may you come across nothing but peace and happiness in your new role with manageable stress
During my last review, my leader asked me what my next move looked like. What role did I want to tackle next. I told him I didn’t want his job and would continue in my current role. A modest bump in pay for a significant increase in stress? No thanks.
Too true. I've been struggling with this for years. Not only has my work (teacher) ended my 15yr relationship, it's affected my mental and physical health. I now feel resentful and depressed but I don't know what to do about my situation. I'm 40 and have 2 kids so I feel tied to the financial responsibilities I have. Any advice for what a strung out teacher, white-knuckling every day should do to improve his future would be greatly appreciated
It's interesting that this is a similar sign as it pertains to alcohol-drinking: once it has spilled over into another sphere of your life, then _you've been warned._
lil shawty I wish that your parents would pay your bills for school. It is your job to study in line. Not everybody has somebody support them through college. I'm sorry that you are going through that. Good luck.
Without money those relations will also disappear, which actually proves that love has a price tag and its not for free at all. So, what is right to do then(?): lose money/career and relationships or just to lose relationships - just like most of things we purchase it has an expire date.
If you're watching this video or looking for the subject, it's time to go. Your mental and physical health will get affected by garbage at your work. Either learn to deal or just get out. It's not worth a nice paycheck to stay at somewhere you hate. Look for something else-new field, locale, etc.
My previous boss is starting a brand new restaurant but it is taking forever for it to be built. My new boss does not hold the job together like my old one and I am just ready to leave. I can't leave though because I have no money.
Overworked. Stressed. Can't get any help. Have talked to boss for 2 years now and nothing has changed. Don't sleep well. Job is constantly on my mind. Lazy coworkers. Tomorrow might be the day I walk away.
Thanks for this video ,,, I really find myself that person you talked about (which is you)and I'm thinking of quitting my job for about 6 months now .. I think "move on" will be my final decision and start something new.
Hi Ayman, if you've reached that point it is probably time for you to start looking into other opportunities. It is always easier to find a new position while you are still employed. Best of luck!
David Jackson nah that's bullshit honestly. If your relationship can be broken up by a job and simple stress then it wasn't a strong relationship. You're supposed to be able to go through those things with your significant other that's the whole point of a relationship
Please comment...... I left my high paying job because of haters around me and I thought I didnt want to be around disgrace folks as such. I regret my decision. Because those people shouldn't matter to me. Still feel like I have made a huge mistake for leaving a job I enjoyed. Did I do the right thing or made the right decision by leaving?
It's hard to say without knowing your circumstances, but in general I would say that the same job at two different companies can feel very different because of the firm culture and the people. In that sense, leaving one firm you don't like for a similar job at a firm you do like is a good thing. As for whether leaving without something else lined up is a good idea or not, generally it can make it harder to find a new position when you aren't already employed, but really whether it was a good decision depends on your personal finances more than anything.
what if you cant find another job? Ive been trying all kinds of things, no luck! Sadly, before i decided to quit I did get some offers and felt that would be disloyal to the company. Now I really feel that I have hit a glass ceiling and need to move on but cannot find something else.
Lucienne, hard to say what the right move is without knowing your circumstances, but you might check out "The 2-hour job search" which is a helpful book in terms of putting structure to the search process. Best of luck!
For me it’s being at the same place for 12 years and no growth whatsoever! Meanwhile the boss lady is living large off my labor and the others that work for her…it’s fucked up and as soon as I can afford to leave, I’m out!
Here's a link to the short version of this video th-cam.com/video/vLCFoKVX720/w-d-xo.html
When you learn that your personal ethics and values and the company's ethics and values are extremely different, that's a clear signal as well.
I completely agree. In those situations, you have to remember that your reputation is what matters in the long term.
@@stepoutoftherace6958 Can you elaborate on "reputation" here?
@@lamzy3773 What I mean is that over time you become known for acting with ethics and values, and that matters. Acting outside of those ethics and values can create a reputation that is damaging to your long term career. As an example, I have had former colleagues reach out to me to check on my opinions of people they are considering hiring who I have worked with previously. If those people haven't demonstrated ethics and values in my dealings with them, I then tell the person calling me and they don't get the position. It's an important example because it isn't always clear to the unethical person what has happened, they just think they didn't get the job. In fact, it is their prior behavior and reputation that is taking them out of the running.
@@stepoutoftherace6958 Hmmm......this is deep. Thank you so much for the detailed explanation. Now I understand what you're saying. But it is sad that Managers cannot just focus on performance alone understanding that it is possible that not all candidates meet their work culture and fit their company "cultures" which is always shitty most of the time.
Oh my son was a survival tech for air plane suppliers.....he resigned. He didn't agree with their standards. He had saved up money and I told him I support what ever you do 😁😁
This is so true. It’s a bad job when it’s making you a worse person :((
Would another sign be: You're so stressed and angry at work that you're one f-bomb or "explosion" away from getting fired? That's where I'm at. And it doesn't feel good constantly feeling like a ball of rage inside, even over stupid co-worker stuff that shouldn't be a big deal. *Edit* I appreciate and feel for all the folks that were/are in my same situation. I am happy to say that (after nearly a decade at that horrible job) I finally found the courage to leave. I cannot believe how much happier I am. I worried I was making a horrible mistake, but now I realize it was the best decision ever, and I wish I left years ago. I am healthier, happier, and am still surprised how NICE everyone seems at my new job, almost like I was ingrained that I wasn't worth anything, so I am constantly surprised when I receive positive feedback. Wow!
I would say that is definitely a sign. Best of luck.
I'm at that point now.
Oh...Yeah. i enjoyed my work. Just the stupid/ungreatful people around me that drove me to insanity. And yet I was suppose to support them?
The dynamic of it all didnt make any sense.
Yep, hope you got out in time?
I'm here at this point as well.
My job making me really depressed and irritable and cold toward people. I always feel stressed and overworked.
That’s how I feel now
Totally understand , wish and now want out ...being home today is becoming to make sense.The feeling of not wanting to enter the office , lack of respect and coldness.
@@davidrynberk4830 yeah I completely relate. My boss doesn’t even talk to me or want to train me to do anything
@@dmmice2344 sorry to hear this, my god it amazes me how people treat employees
Quit
Its actually sad that people in my life tell me to suck it up for a pay check ..my kids are raising themselves .got to do what's rite for me/us ! Money comes and goes but loved ones last forever !
So true, Corrin! Hope you are thriving!
This is so true. My wakeup call was being so happy to have major surgery because I could finally get a break from work. Not the resolution of the health issue... the break from work. Joke was on me because they called me while I was out during 6 weeks of FMLA. I was irritable and angry all the time, short with loved ones and never wanted to leave the house. I just felt trapped. So happy I made a change. If you're in this position now, please know that this is similar to an abusive relationship that doesn't get better. Please look for a new role within your company or externally.
Great advice. So many people I know are afraid of making a job change, even though they are miserable. Change is not a bad thing, in fact, it’s necessary for growth and development. I changed jobs several times in my career because I realized that I didn’t like the person I had become due to the pressures and demands of the job and/or the corporate culture I was part of. My wake up call was always dreading Monday knowing that I had to go back into the office. No one likes Monday’s but there’s a difference of becoming anxious over it and just wanting your weekend to last longer.
Just turned in my notice today lol, no more working 12+ hour days and not getting to enjoy the REST of my life! The stress was killing me.
It is a great time to move on to something new, the job market is really strong at the moment. Best of luck!
What line of work were you in? Just curious.
good job ! be brave be strong u will be ok
I hope you guys Atleast had breaks
How did that decision turn out?
I'm feeling like every job today is doing this to everybody. Sucking the life out of them.
Great advice
At the end of the day, family and health comes first. NOT your job.
Whilst your job is important, there needs to be a balance between work and personal.
Yeah but we also need money
Agreed - when I started hating my job I was more irritable over nothing. I had to apologize to my hubby often.
George thanks for putting up this type of videos for all sane people slowly becoming insane because of the job.
When your job Feels pointless.
Honestly, if this is your biggest problem with your job I would gladly take it.
I work in a absurdly badly designed and noisy open-plan office also with incredibly toxic people (double standards, gossiping, brownnosing, etc.), completely drained after 2 years and going to quit soon.
@@LadyMngwa I’m about to quit soon too
@@LadyMngwa I agree that pointlessness is better than workplace abuse or the environment you're describing.
This is very true. Years ago, I started seeing a therapist because I knew I was having issues with anger and irritability related to my workplace. I have absolutely learned that I only have but so much emotional capacity, and my job was repeatedly depleting it, which left me frustrated. Unfortunately, the build up has to come out at some point, sometimes it's at work, sometimes it's with my Mom. Ugh. The one good thing about the pandemic is that it has put a buffer/barrier between me and some of the daily, routine, triggers, and now my mom constantly says, "I have my Mikey back."
This is spot on..when i finally left, i felt this enormous weight off my back....no more constant emails..no more feeling stress of the micromanaging boss...incompetent co-workers...thank you for this video...and i saved a emergency fund so i can finally take some time to find myself and the career i want...
Man. I'm going through this very same thing. I'm at a job that I hate with a passion.
I am in that situation.
I realized school and the work places is the same, I'm not able to be myself and I just feel like I have no control or joy...
Omg. I was the same I'd get annoyed over the smallest of things.
Thank you for great video, you are absolutely right. You correctly pointed out that when the job takes all of your "emotional capacity" and there is very little or nothing left, something is wrong and it is better to make a change. Finally something is going to break because we are not robots without limits and the saddest thing is that the ones we love may be affected by that.
I've been watching the first couple minutes and I've come to the conclusion that the critical sign is NOT BLINKING AT ALL.
I was having stress breakdowns/ erratic (not like me) personally changes for almost 2 years into new management bullying/ostracizing me. I felt the weight of carrying on my wife & our bills so I stayed. Plus I had a remote hope for justice. Finally I ended up in the hospital, almost died. Perfect example of frog in pot boiling. Finally put in my 2 weeks notice & was escorted out of building. This is how powerful sadistic these monolithic companies can be. . In retrospect I should hav left a lot sooner.
Thank you! I totally understand as I just quit my job of 14 years in sales. Stress is the number one factor. Now I’m free to look at other venues.
Sales is the worst job ever. If people are interested in products it's because they have an idea of what they want. You telling them they need this & that, won't make a difference. I worked in sales for 1 year. They're always on your back, you got to meet a certain quota, & it's the most stressful job I had since hardly anyone was buying our products or services. After that no more sales.
I once quit my job and vowed to myself never to work in the same field that i used to work, after 6 months of unemployment i got a new job but unfortunately i did broke my vow and started to work in the same field, i have the same feeling since day one of my new job. It have been 5 years with a good income, but nothing worth the internal peace that i used to have when first i quit my job. Now iam still thinking of quitting my job and want to establish my own business however iam afraid of the uncertaintity of consequences that i might face if i quit my job.
Starting your own business is very challenging, as noted by someone else in these comments. If you have the skills and it is the right opportunity, it is the best path to wealth/financial freedom... but it can also lead to bankruptcy, etc. You might consider talking to other business owners and learning from their experiences. I also recommend reading "E-Myth" by Michael Gerber... and developing sales skills before your move.
I handed in my resignation yesterday. I feel so relieved and I’ll feel even better when I actually walk out of there for good.
Thanks for sharing your story
I've always been career hungry and have spent the last 6 years aggressively climbing (job change every 1.5 - 2 years for bigger jobs) and now find myself miserable due to the stress/pressure
Thanks for sharing your story. I was trying to explain that issue to someone much earlier in his career, but somehow it is hard to understand without experiencing it yourself.
90% of jobs suck. We need to go back to basics and slow down.
We don't need all this stuff.
I hear you man, it’s just tough when population keeps rapidly growing. Ppl have to make money some how
Yeah pretty much. All you have to do is a bit of research, take a while & you really sit down & look for jobs you might like. Make a list of all the stuff you don't like & cross them off. Then when you get to your choices, it'll be easy to know if what you do like.
Its crazy I quit my job due to high stress environment and I feel like I just stepped out of an abusive relationship. Any idea how to heal that?
No expertise around abusive relationships, but I know that writing about it can be helpful sometimes and that time heals... that and finding a better working environment.
@Masha Serafina I have felt that way over several jobs! Your post was a year ago and I hope you have found a positive place to work.
Consider obtaining mental health counseling. Attending a positive study environment can be helpful also.
@@drannoc100 it was nuts that job was chaos! I am glad to be out of it. But now I am sensitive to things it's difficult to be stressed out. Little stressor seem to cause so much discomfort.
Please get therapy. I stepped out of a role like that a number of years ago and you're absolutely right. It did feel like I'd escaped an abusive relationship.
When they give you hell at work it's got to be because they did'nt want you there in the first place thats why they give you a hard time and that is so evil because everyone deserves opportunities to earn a decent living without being sabotaged.
Could not agree more. I had perfect performance appraisals until new manager came in. 2 years of hell & I finally resigned. Cost my health, mentally, physically. Only regret i hav is not leaving sooner. B#_>^rds.
I felt as if I was a shadow of who I used to be when I finally left the City of Flagstaff. It was an extremely toxic environment and everyone I know often spoke about leaving, or wishing they could. I was close to losing my soul and leaving was the best thing I could have done.
Is this guy a robot . He has not blinked not once !!!!!!!!!
Alot of waffle from this chap...start at 3:45 if you are waiting for him to get to the point.
Fair point. Here's the short version th-cam.com/video/vLCFoKVX720/w-d-xo.html
Drax Tuskino champion lol 👍
Thank you so much 🙏
I got the point well before.
Dont you mean wiffle
You are awesome, and I appreciate your candor. I think as a man especially it is difficult to admit the way that you were affected emotionally and mentally. I commend you and appreciate the universe delivering this message to me at the perfect time. Thank you
I'm still at my job because of my car loan i owe to them. it'll be fully paid this May! So excited! Anyway I've been realizing this sign since last year. Thanks for sharing this kind of content sir. 🏆
Happy to help!
Nice vid - it's inspiring and motivating. I work with many people who are in the midst of changing careers, or they want to make a leap. In addition to the point you make, I'd like to add that a good time to change is when you aren't being challenged any more - if you can do your job with your eyes closed, there's no point in staying. Better to be at the bottom of a ladder you want to climb, than at the top of one that bores you.
Very true. I always think of roles as having 2 forms of compensation: 1) monetary 2) skills development. The key is to ensure you are getting the right amount of both.
I currently moved up as a bakery assistant manager and I’ve been doing it for almost 2 years. I honestly do not think management is for me. I lash out on my boss, my family and, my significant other a lot. SO MUCH. This video was helpful. This job has taken over my life and I can barely relax. Ever. I believe it is time to either step down or change companies all together because I don’t know how much longer I can handle it before I lose my shit on everyone and hop a one way plane to Europe.
Great vid! This has been me lately. Snapping at everyone. Stressed to the max. Thanks for sharing.
Sorry to hear about your situation, but glad that the video helped!
I have SIX pages of incidents/complaints about my job / coworker. I think it might be time
A critical sign to quit your work place is when you feel you are wasting time each day & you're miserable. That's a sign to quit. To any of you out there who want a good job, just do your research, ask questions, & compare about 5-10 different jobs, look for the positives, & go from there.
The stress of being broke keeps me working and buying lottery tickets.
Jmunny Rulz reminds me...gotta buy a megamillions today. It's Friday.
Haha I'm watching because I'm so sick and tired of having to serve lottery regulars, among a mountain of other reasons
Sell that ass😂
When the company's values do not line up with yours, that is the time to quit. When they ask you or make you do things that are immoral and unethical, that is a time to quit as well. At my job, we are not allowed to say Sir or Ma'am when addressing a man or a woman. I was not at peace with that. The stress was killing me. It was time to go.
Wow, that's sad leaves one confused. I don't know what happened to common sense. God bless you, hope your doing okay.
@@TXMadep214g thank you..
I want to trust this man 👨🏻 but I have a hard time trusting people that don’t blink
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Thanks for the video George. I cant tell you how much your words have hit home.
I'm glad the video was helpful Danny.
Dang. This resonates hard. I took a day off today to really think about my relationship with my job because of a similar moment. Thanks for sharing and providing this perspective from the other side.
Thank you for this video. You nailed it
Thank you!
Thank you!
I found your video randomly, and I have been feeling the same way about my current job, stressed out and extremely anxious. It makes my significant other sad to s this way, he helps me in every way possible and is a great man. This video made me think of it more deeply sometimes it's better to move on and save what sanity you have left.
Thank you for this video.
Glad the video was helpful Crystal.
Wow! So simple but so true! Thank you!
I enjoyed the story bits ... not sure why others in the comments are impatient about getting to the point. Must be the stress from their jobs 😂 life is too short to be unhappy, I’m going to try to change my work situation instead of leaving the company. I’ll do what I can to make it better and hope for the best.
I want to quit my job but I have no idea where else I’d work or where my career would be. I work in the construction industry as an estimator and I just don’t think it’s for me. I don’t even want to be in the construction industry anymore. I have no college degree and I’m at a family business. I don’t know where else I can go.
This is the reason why alot of Divorces is going on today.
David Jackson Yes, because of bitchy wives and pussy husbands that let them get away with it.
@@recabitejehonadab2654 😂😂
First minute or so, I was going to click back, but as I listened, I totally understood what you mean. Definitely but sadly true. Totally on the dot.
You’re right but sometimes you don’t have other choices it’s either this job or you gonna be homeless
True... in which case, I recommend looking for the next opportunity while you are still at this job. It's a lot of work, because you are effectively working at two jobs (your work and your job search) but eventually it will pay off. Best of luck.
And when you don't blink. Good message - I like and I can relate. Thanks. The music is familiar.
I quit my government job due to years of sexual harrassment. It was such a toxic environment. Now I am trying to find another job and Im scared, But.. I feel more safe and can breathe easier.
Glad to hear you got out of there!
Angela Valdez Good for you. Best of luck to you. I’m working for a total bully and reported her to HR . DONT know if its going to work but Ive got to get out. She’s literally a stalker and I’m walking on eggshells. I took today off sick could not handle going into that mess. It’s ridiculous to just want to do ur job and be left alone to do it but these bitches literally have to stir up some chaos out of nothing. We are working for some really mentally ill sobs no question about it.
Thank you for this video, I just got the signal today
In October 2021, I got terminated from a crappy staffing agency as they claim their side of their own story. And not caring for a loyal disabled employee going there every day, and NO VACATION either! The workload was getting insanely high and hectic, I was experiencing these types of short behaviors in addition to the extreme stress and fatigue on my eyes getting close to the papers and computer screen due to the non-stop PAPERWORK! I'm so glad I'm out of that agency and taking a hiatus, hoping in the future to return to work.
Valuable video to all employees........
I totally and completely agree with you
This is a very brave disclosure. That said, I can't imagine that yelling at your child was the first indication of your job stress. Self-awareness is key to a successful life. I would recommend that you look for signs inside yourself before they manifest with your children or spouse. Thanks for sharing.
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Exactly..!..our intuition is the guide ....
Im yet to find a job where I can seperate it from personal life , idk if its cause im young or because my jobs have been so stressful hopefully i can develop this trait because it would make life a lot easier
Same I’m 21
Join some large mature companies.
Impressive message! How did he not blink in this video!
I need to MORE money...the hours ...the demands..the disregard is NOT worth the pay.
I’ve been snapping. But at people I work with. Nobody I care about. And not the boss or anyone who matters to me. But good advice time to quit.
I'm sure they want you to quit, too
This has been happening to me on top of my inner voice telling me it’s time for a change. I’ve had to apologize to my partner for snapping over things that don’t make sense and ignored the possibility it was my job because I’ve made such good money there but I’m actively seeking another role. Best of luck to all in similar situations and may you come across nothing but peace and happiness in your new role with manageable stress
This resonates with me so much!
During my last review, my leader asked me what my next move looked like. What role did I want to tackle next. I told him I didn’t want his job and would continue in my current role. A modest bump in pay for a significant increase in stress? No thanks.
Too true. I've been struggling with this for years. Not only has my work (teacher) ended my 15yr relationship, it's affected my mental and physical health.
I now feel resentful and depressed but I don't know what to do about my situation. I'm 40 and have 2 kids so I feel tied to the financial responsibilities I have.
Any advice for what a strung out teacher, white-knuckling every day should do to improve his future would be greatly appreciated
You might consider exploring corporate training opportunities. They often pay better and may be lower stress.
My brothers are retired teachers at a young age and one of them subtitudes 2 times a week to make up for his income, hope this helps.
Your job is effecting your personal life. It is time for a change.
great advice :) i lost my girlfriend because i came home always too tired from work
Sorry to hear that Makolle. -Although it is better than losing your family, which happens to a lot of people... I'm glad you won't make that mistake.
i just had to learn the hard way :)
It's interesting that this is a similar sign as it pertains to alcohol-drinking: once it has spilled over into another sphere of your life, then _you've been warned._
I can't handle my job, I hate retail I can't wait for my two weeks I'm gone today!
im quitting my mcdonalds job tomorrow
im quitting my mcdonalds job tomorrow
i just started college, and my job dont even let me time to study or do homeworks
TheStrawberryShogun bpo not kpo are worse
lil shawty I wish that your parents would pay your bills for school. It is your job to study in line. Not everybody has somebody support them through college. I'm sorry that you are going through that. Good luck.
Without money those relations will also disappear, which actually proves that love has a price tag and its not for free at all. So, what is right to do then(?): lose money/career and relationships or just to lose relationships - just like most of things we purchase it has an expire date.
If you're watching this video or looking for the subject, it's time to go. Your mental and physical health will get affected by garbage at your work. Either learn to deal or just get out. It's not worth a nice paycheck to stay at somewhere you hate. Look for something else-new field, locale, etc.
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My previous boss is starting a brand new restaurant but it is taking forever for it to be built. My new boss does not hold the job together like my old one and I am just ready to leave. I can't leave though because I have no money.
please tell me how could you keep
your eyes open for such a long time
Wang Dianqun LOL I noticed that too! Haha! Must be a skill!
Micky Wang Ptsd from his past job.😊
robot, duhh :D
Lol.
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Too much "psychological debt". Grenoble School of Management talks about it.
Thank you for the video.
Thinking about quitting and taking a few weeks from work
Thanks so much for this I needed to hear this today
Thanks for that advice..
Great video but you didnt blink the first 2 minutes. Impressive
Overworked. Stressed. Can't get any help. Have talked to boss for 2 years now and nothing has changed.
Don't sleep well. Job is constantly on my mind. Lazy coworkers.
Tomorrow might be the day I walk away.
Thanks for this video ,,,
I really find myself that person you talked about (which is you)and I'm thinking of quitting my job for about 6 months now .. I think "move on" will be my final decision and start something new.
Hi Ayman, if you've reached that point it is probably time for you to start looking into other opportunities. It is always easier to find a new position while you are still employed. Best of luck!
Best of luck Ayman!
the day job can be the reason couples cant get along because of stress and the end result sometimes end in divorce.
Thanks David, I agree.
David Jackson nah that's bullshit honestly. If your relationship can be broken up by a job and simple stress then it wasn't a strong relationship. You're supposed to be able to go through those things with your significant other that's the whole point of a relationship
David Jackson if you can't be nice to your partner just because you're stressed then you have issues
David Jackson you don't take shit out on the person you're with
David Jackson sad but true.
I quit yesterday. My boss's values clash with mine and this clash might be irreconcilable
One sign...when it goes from beneficial to toxic.
Thanks for sharing. It really helped!
Thanks!
Thinking of changing jobs within the company when I get back to work and move to external sales again rather than management.
My mom almost said the same thing. She said i became too irritable that is soo unlike me.
I just think I've got enough money .I'm happy
Keep them coming Great Video
thanks!
Please comment......
I left my high paying job because of haters around me and I thought I didnt want to be around disgrace folks as such.
I regret my decision. Because those people shouldn't matter to me. Still feel like I have made a huge mistake for leaving a job I enjoyed.
Did I do the right thing or made the right decision by leaving?
It's hard to say without knowing your circumstances, but in general I would say that the same job at two different companies can feel very different because of the firm culture and the people. In that sense, leaving one firm you don't like for a similar job at a firm you do like is a good thing. As for whether leaving without something else lined up is a good idea or not, generally it can make it harder to find a new position when you aren't already employed, but really whether it was a good decision depends on your personal finances more than anything.
This is exactly where I'm at, kinda spooky. What's your advice for a career course change for anyone approaching 40?
what if you cant find another job? Ive been trying all kinds of things, no luck! Sadly, before i decided to quit I did get some offers and felt that would be disloyal to the company. Now I really feel that I have hit a glass ceiling and need to move on but cannot find something else.
Lucienne, hard to say what the right move is without knowing your circumstances, but you might check out "The 2-hour job search" which is a helpful book in terms of putting structure to the search process. Best of luck!
Thank you!
Great advice.
For me it’s being at the same place for 12 years and no growth whatsoever! Meanwhile the boss lady is living large off my labor and the others that work for her…it’s fucked up and as soon as I can afford to leave, I’m out!
Thank you.