@@jonahblock Oof. My instinct when I read this again just now was a playful "I am NOT ready for this amount of existential thinking so early in my morning!". But actually, your point permits a freeing sense of whimsy (not sure if that's the word I'm after but it's here for now) and playfulness about life, experimentation and exploration across personal and professional worlds - and I'm grateful for it. (Yes, you got me doing that amount of existential thinking in the morning 😁😁 )
Thank you for sharing! You are correct, I just learned at my ripe old age🤨😂that I can change me, my world and my future. I was having a tough morning and it was a pleasure to watch your video and hear your words of encouragement. Keep up the good work.🥰
Isn't it also true that to make a meaningful change in say, a "cluster b personality" they have to be very willing to do so? The very nature of the symptoms makes it very difficult for them to change without being somewhat 'vigilant' about it. The reason I'm bringing attention to it is because this video makes it seem like as long as you're 'positive' that it will make the change happen because we are always changing. You seem to conflate growing up with changing as a person. I think making a clear distinction here is important.
Ah, yes, you're right. Someone most definitely needs to be willing to make a change, and also willing to put the work in. I don't mean to fall into the "toxic positivity" trap here. My point was really that it's fascinating how wedded we are to the belief that people don't change, and how this doesn't match reality so it's worth redressing - I'm not offering a "how to" here (and if I were, it wouldn't be "think positive"). I would argue that growing up _is_ changing as a person, however. We do it faster earlier in life, but we change a lot over the course of our adult years too, it's just that we tend to hide these changes from ourselves in order to maintain the illusion of self-consistency. Again, I think this is unhelpful as it tends to lead us to the sense that we're stuck with what we've got, when that's rarely the case.
@@Betwixt_App I totally see your point and you're right, we can get stuck in the "this is just how I am" trap as adults, "I was raised this way".. Thanks for your reply!
Yes, exactly! A while ago, I became terribly ill (for years), and a huge part of my journey back to stable was to address the hidden rules and expectations that had been holding me back. It was a huge job, absolutely transformative… and anything but easy.
I'm not the person I used to be and yet, I still have always been me. it's a duality
Indeed! The paradox of Self.
@@jonahblock Oof. My instinct when I read this again just now was a playful "I am NOT ready for this amount of existential thinking so early in my morning!". But actually, your point permits a freeing sense of whimsy (not sure if that's the word I'm after but it's here for now) and playfulness about life, experimentation and exploration across personal and professional worlds - and I'm grateful for it.
(Yes, you got me doing that amount of existential thinking in the morning 😁😁 )
Because the "you" is consciousness and never changes.
Thank you for sharing! You are correct, I just learned at my ripe old age🤨😂that I can change me, my world and my future. I was having a tough morning and it was a pleasure to watch your video and hear your words of encouragement. Keep up the good work.🥰
Thanks! And I’m so glad I could inject a little encouragement into a difficult morning 🩶
I saw you on Sam's channel and liked the interview a lot. I like this little tidbit of golden information too! Awesome! Thanks for sharing!❤
You’re so welcome! And I love that chat with Sam!! ❤
Isn't it also true that to make a meaningful change in say, a "cluster b personality" they have to be very willing to do so? The very nature of the symptoms makes it very difficult for them to change without being somewhat 'vigilant' about it.
The reason I'm bringing attention to it is because this video makes it seem like as long as you're 'positive' that it will make the change happen because we are always changing. You seem to conflate growing up with changing as a person. I think making a clear distinction here is important.
Ah, yes, you're right. Someone most definitely needs to be willing to make a change, and also willing to put the work in. I don't mean to fall into the "toxic positivity" trap here. My point was really that it's fascinating how wedded we are to the belief that people don't change, and how this doesn't match reality so it's worth redressing - I'm not offering a "how to" here (and if I were, it wouldn't be "think positive").
I would argue that growing up _is_ changing as a person, however. We do it faster earlier in life, but we change a lot over the course of our adult years too, it's just that we tend to hide these changes from ourselves in order to maintain the illusion of self-consistency. Again, I think this is unhelpful as it tends to lead us to the sense that we're stuck with what we've got, when that's rarely the case.
@@Betwixt_App I totally see your point and you're right, we can get stuck in the "this is just how I am" trap as adults, "I was raised this way".. Thanks for your reply!
Yes, exactly! A while ago, I became terribly ill (for years), and a huge part of my journey back to stable was to address the hidden rules and expectations that had been holding me back. It was a huge job, absolutely transformative… and anything but easy.
This thread is everything.
@@Betwixt_App Absolutely!