We need this content. Lack of honesty about relationships and sex is a “taboo” that needs to go away. I appreciate your openness as it helps me as a parent to teach my daughters to not be ashamed of themselves as women.
Hmm, I worry that the "You know we're just having fun here?" approach sets the dynamic up to where the other person may not feel comfortable saying that they were feeling differently. Essentially you're asking "you're where I am, right?" I think its kinder to simply share where you're at like "Right now I'm just look for casual" or "Right now I'm hoping to find something that can grow."
yeah, I thought that too. Share what you're thinking and feeling without expectation the other person feels the same. give them space to feel differently if that's the case.
Yes! It can really hurt to hear that someone assumes that you feel the same as they do. I would always have a conversation from the start at the latest the second meetup of what I was looking for both not to waste their time or mine. I was dating to in the end find something serious but with no rush to get there more so People know that casual was fine but I was seeing multiple people until I was in something serious and long term. And that was really hard when people were unclear with their intenions
Interesting approach. Don't you think shared interests are more important though? Stating your approach at the outset like that kind of kills the possibility it could be anything else. I don't make friends easily and I can be crazy serious at times. That's why I prefer to steer the conversation to something neutral where we don't have the pressure to judge. Thank you for your time.
OMG love the new setup 😍 The lamp in the background really does make a huge difference! The thing I miss most about being single is talking to friends about dates - that was always so much fun! Coming home and housemates having the wine ready so you could SPILL. Those were some great times :)
As somebody who never casually dated and is not planning to this is all soooo fascinating!! Like I absolutely can’t wrap my head around the whole thing but I’m very glad you had fun :)
The communication feeling unnatural is so true. The amount of time people have said 'you said that to him'...yeah I am serious about this person i want to make things clear.
So truthfully, I managed to somehow meet my boyfriend at the start of the pandemic (about 3 weeks in, so back when we were REALLY locked in our houses). Would have never thought it would happen in a million years, because nobody could go anywhere! I had gone back on OkCupid after about a year of not using it because I was so starved for human connection so I figured I would just chat with someone interesting and that would be nice for a day or two. I never in a million years thought I was going to meet the person I am most likely going to spend the rest of my life with. Pandemic dating is HARD, and especially so at the beginning of this insanity, in the spring. We spent weeks sitting on my porch, with me at the bottom of the steps and him at the top, because that’s all we could do. When we were getting to know each other, we’d never even shaken hands, let alone anything else. However, we did get to know each other VERY well VERY quickly...because all we could do was talk. Once social bubbles became a thing and we were allowed in each other’s houses, it was significantly better. Now, we’ve been together almost 8 months and I’m almost certain he’s the one I’ll be with forever. So, I’m one of the lucky ones I suppose. Do I recommend starting a relationship during a global pandemic? Honestly, no. It’s really hard. But sometimes your heart knows what it wants and you find a way to make it work. Sending love and luck to everyone dating during these crazy times!!
I've been partnered for 6 years. I miss the new relationship energy! But I don't miss dating and the questioning and wondering that came with it. Haha!
I’m glad you were so non judgmental and cool about a sexual partner testing pos for an sti! People can be so uncool about it, when really it’s awesome that you got tested and disclosed!
“Is body count important?” Me, immediately thinking you mean the number of people you’ve killed: yes and I hope it’s 0. Oh wait, not that type of body count...
I just got out of a 10 year relationship at 29 and am still working up to dating again. It's been nice to see what it is like to be single with no pressure to find my person. but I'm bookmarking this video for later for when I am ready.
Hannah your hair at the moment (with the shorter bits at the front) really reminds me of the super short crop you had back when I first started watching!! Really taking me back
I have been in a relationship for five and a half years, and I have never been single as an adult. But we broke up recently. I downloaded tinder last night for the first time ever and honestly I needed this video.
I took a permanent vow of celibacy years ago, best decision I ever made, I only wish I had always been celibate. The whole dating thing, whether it's just about casual sex or "looking for love" was just hellish, the complications, hardships involved, the whole thing is just too emotionally/mentally taxing and I can't cope with any of it anymore, the pain suffering and misery far outweighs the fun and pleasure and I realized not everyone is "meant to be" in a any specific kind of relationship, there's no such thing as a "soul mate" for every person.
I'm so thankful I'm happily boo-ed up. I haven't had to worry about dating in a long time but Im so introverted just the thought of it totally exhausts me 😂
6:00 100% Esther perel made a good point in saying that... back in the day humans grew up in a village. We were surrounded by many ppl who act as our friends, lover, confidant, mentor, humor deep chats etc... and now we expect one person to fill all those things... its such a big ask.
You have to be able to do single well, if you are really lost on your own you will scare the good ones away and the bad ones will see an easy mark. The one I see now made the first move we knew each other for a few years before we got involved.
I only dated as a single person for about 7 months before I started dating my current partner of 4 years. I don’t know that I miss anything about it, but he’s the only person I’ve ever been in a serious/sexual relationship with so whenever I’m playing drinking games with my friends they all know who I’m talking about if sex comes up 😂 they definitely tease me for it, but all in lighthearted fun
Show me those spreads! works for BDSM: is that a padded cell? (i.e. left/right pad) Lets get into the sheets! Recalculating.... the formula for my attraction And that's the sum total of them for now 😉 anyone got ideas for row and column flirts/humour?
I’m polyamorous and basically just waiting for the pandemic to be over before dating again; the things I want are physical and I can’t do that right now with more than one partner!
Saaaaame. I live on my own and have been so so lonely this year, and now that I'm finally able to see someone (we could arrange it so that they and their household are the only people I meet, because isolating 100% was literally killing me) I'm ofc super happy but also, like, ugh, I miss meeting new people and seeing my other casual partners and being close to people :( :(
I've been with my partner for about 7 years now and I've aaaaalways missed being single and the mystery, the variety, the rollercoaster of meeting people and not know where its going as I flirt my way through. I feel like I've grown lots since I met my partner at 21 and want to explore some more - but I do love what we have together so don't want to do anything that passes the boundaries we discuss and agree.
Sigh. I wish you had been around when I was your age and I wish I had a chance to listen to your advice even before then. It's still so good to hear open, sensible and healthy responses. Thank you.
This was interesting to watch! I thought I "missed out" on the dating life because I moved to a different country to study and almost instantly happened to find a boyfriend (wasn't looking, but we just met and it sparked), so now we've been together for a few years and want to get married in a few more years. Now that I think about it, I really do not like the flirting stage and all the troubles and anxiety at the beginning
It has always been that way though the rules of courtship have always been difficult and hard. Look at Pride and Prejudice at Jane's and Binglys relationship, Bingly was super casual right up to the point he proposed marriage! Cos that was how it was done, they had a few parties and dinners together all with the air of plausible deniability until one put themselves on the line. Asking for something serious comes at the risk of being rejected and feeling shame, so it's easier to live in comfort with the air of plausible deniability.
I gave up on my dating years. After much disappointment I realized that the type of women I like are not attracted to me. So I just had to take a long term break from all that disappointment and frustration.
"If you are a Geek, then let your Geek Flag fly." My older sister's advice to me; great advice. Been in a happy, loving, relationship for nearly three year now.
I'm grey ace and the pandemic has been great because it has removed any expectation from myself of looking for a partner, which used to come with a healthy dose of worrying about how to put myself out there without disappointing people on apps often used for hookups. If anyone has advice on asexual dating I'd love to hear it!
I feel very strange about how you talk about sex and intimacy - taking it slow, communicating, expecting to have a great time- because it wasn’t like I experienced it. It wasn’t too bad, but was never light and easy mood over there. I’m still figuring out what do I like and I understand that I didn’t really know my parents, I tried to pretend that I’m ok with getting closer with people I don’t really know, literally was faking expecting to making it comfortable for myself, but it never happened. Honestly, I’m excited about meeting and dating new people to build relationships of a better quality Absolutely love your videos, thank you for sharing it, you are gorgeous and new lighting looks really nice! Have a good one, Hannah! ❤️
I always genuinely wonder how (especially as a female) anyone can feel safe hooking up with someone they don’t know. It takes me forever to even begin to open up to, let alone be intimate with anyone. Even when dating online for a number of dates I still to visible public places and let someone know where I’m going and their (hopefully correct) name/picture. I also google search them. I’m still very nervous and cautious even doing that. I’m sure my history of sexual abuse plays a huge part in my view/fears of this, but I’ve always been curious.
Oh my god, you asked about trying to date during the pandemic and it has has been... interesting. I've never been in a relationship, I'm 19 and I moved out on my own this year. I was thinking that my dating life was going to get a real kick once I was living independently in a new town and going out and getting to know new people. Instead it has just been me inside my apartment, trying to survive the first semester of university while doing all online lectures and swiping on dating apps when I happen to have some time. The situation with the pandemic was looking better during autumn so I've met up with a couple of people for dates but they haven't really led to anything more, and the rest of the time the "dating" has just been slightly awkward conversations or getting ignored on these damn apps 😭 I just really wish I could go out and meet people organically and have some fun flirting instead of just the constant swiping, but I'll have to wait until it's safe to be hanging out with lots of people again 🚶🏻♀️
I absolutely love how you give advice, Hannah...every school needs to have a sex and relationship educator/guidance counselor like you! When you give advice it is from such a nonjudgmental and authentic place! You're on Jean Milburn level! Love these person Q&A vids!
Loved this video, I didn't realise how much I missed single Hannah stories but I also I feel really old now because I remember those times as if it was yesterday and oh boy.
I found my current partner on Tinder right before the pandemic began... Pretty lucky, because I wasn't really taking the app seriously anymore. I was just looking on it for entertainment value, because hardly anyone would actually say more than one thing, if at all. And that was IF someone sent me a like. The person I matched with was someone I had seen in years before, and liked in years before, but my (one daily free) superlike was the first they saw of me. Shocking to see how many likes women get. Also, US Tinder is SO different from European Tinder! And when I was in the US, there was some kind of daily 'choose your own adventure' thing, with an actual dark mode. Quite an amusing event, and quite a shame the app doesn't give you that dark mode as an option in general.
I've been single for most of my life. At 28, Ive just had two relationships, each 3 months long, 2 fwb's also very short duration, basically led a mostly a solitary loner life just focusing on my career and hobbies. I seem to be doing the same thing again, that sometimes i feel like Im not compatible for relationship life. I could never had a one night stand with a total stranger though, I at least need to know the person on an acquaintance level.
The “body count “ conversation came up with my friends when I hadn’t had sex with anyone yet. I have a very dark humor and when it came to me I said “I think 900... oh sex partners... yeah 0” they all laughed and started thinking how weird that term was. I said it that way though because some of my friends were a bit “high” and they had been shamed before so I didn’t want them to think I would shame them or think I was better
Loooove this set up!!! It makes SUCH a difference! I don’t miss my dating/ single years because I was young and felt the pressure all the time about finding someone. I wish I had been more communicative and just happy as I was!
I've been single for five or six years. I don't even know how long, actually. I'm perfectly happy alone. But good for you, finding a good partner. Nicely done! And walks of shame are not shameful. We need to call them walks of pride. Or walks of conquest. Or walks of, 'HA!!!'"
So weird to think of now but I remember when I was ready for a new relationship and venturing into online dating I watched a video collab between Booksandquills and yourself about tips for tinder and such! It was so helpful and I met my boyfriend on tinder a little while later... that was 4 years ago! He's the one ❤... think we'll have to give a shout out to tinder on the wedding day hahaha. Great tips Hannah!
Ooh love the visuals in this video! The light adds lots of depth and I LOVE your shirt! Edit: finished the video and now you've made me miss my single years!
Im not a dater at all, my experience with Tinder has cemented that. Its never done anything for me(I've deleted my account at least 5 times) and I find it to be a bit shallow regardless of how honest or funny you are on your profile. I prefer to meet people and get to know them before anything. That's just me I guess. Each to their own, its great to hear stories about weird flings people have had
Great video Hannah! Even though. I’m not looking a partner, if I was putting myself out there, I’d probably put something like “looking for someone to make niche film references to”
I know this isn’t the point of the video, but I’ve just made some finance spreadsheets and I’m so psyched about them, and it made me happy that I’m not the only one excited about finance spreadsheets 😂 ps I also enjoyed the video 😜😘
My bio: 1m57cm. Loves genealogy, history (people with a major in History are extra good eggs!), period dramas, Delft blue, royal families, literature, Quality Street boxes and Tiffany lamps AND CATS. Basically a 27 year old granny (including some grey hair). Luckily I have the greatest partner so no need for Tinder :D
Am I the only one who loved when she said that just because you have a partner doesn’t mean your needs are fulfilled. I am definitely feeling that now like talking to my boyfriend but still feeling so lonely especially because I’m in a new state and COVID...my itch to talk to people and meet new people is irritating 😓
Love to Watch your Videos EveryTym its Like Never Get Bored for single minutes, love to watch the way u Exp-lane things and the way you acts, This was a great video Hannah! Hope you are doing well !
I’ve never dated or had sex and over the last year or so I’ve felt ready to start, but I really don’t like online dating. I’m not one for texting constantly (I just don’t like the small talk and constant contact) and hate talking on the phone but obviously can’t do in person dating right now. Also it’s so hard to know if there’ll be a connection with someone online and I’m tired of the effort only to meet them in person and feel ‘meh’ 😕 I’m hoping once life goes back to normal I’ll have more confidence about trying to meet people irl but as I’m 27 I’m feeling the pressure to hurry up and find The One and have babies before it’s too late. Ahhh relationships are hard!
I haven't dated in seven years. I like people but I also like being by myself. Am I a bad person? I could probably make someone laugh but I'm terrified of being boring. It's a lot of pressure. I used to booze on to cover this up. I haven't had alcohol in seven years either. I love Hannah's videos. She's got balls.
BAH, USA OR CANADA, classic.... I was ready to just share to the world that I met my current partner over tinder, just because my profile is honestly my authentic self already. My picture was me in a pineapple onesie, and it said I was just there to make friends.
Wow!!! I'm not on tinder. But I don't think I could bring up some old stories good or bad. The women in my past may not appreciate that, and like they say..... The past comes back to haunt me lol. My luck, I tell a couple stories and the next day I have some angry women knocking at my door lol. Must say your husband has to be very understanding. I'm a little Old School. I don't think if you were my wife flirting with other men regardless if it wasn't going to lead to anything is something I wouldn't be comfortable with. But that is just my opinion. Others may be fine with it. But I like your channel and your personality. You seem like your a lot of fun and there is no doubt that your honest because you put a lot of your personal life (Past and Present) out there for the world to see and hear. I am actually proud of you for your courage and your integrity and that what you do may help others. I just wanted to drop a few lines here for you and say keep up the good work that your doing because you seem to enjoy what you do as well. So take care and stay safe and I wish you and yours a Merry Christmas. Semper Fi Art
I also miss flirting with other people! My husband and I are great at it with each other (lots of sexual currency here! loved that podcast btw), so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, but I remember it being so much fun.
@@BGLuver97 Hannah's Doing It podcast! It's really good, and the episode I'm referencing is called "Sexual desire and the three times a week myth with Dr. Karen Gurney".
Yes to more pictures! I loved seeing a variety of pictures, especially in different setting such as hobby, selfie etc. I'd have pictures of myself meditating (cause if we would be dating i'd sneak off in the morning to meditate haha), a pic of hen I went to to a zip line (LOVE those type of things), a lauging/smiling pic, me in nature and I'd always end with another selfie.
Yes, I love casual flirting! My whole personality is kinda flirty tbh, but I don't want it to go further. But since I'm single, I need to be careful with whom I'm "myself" with, because people tend to think I'm coming on to them.
Tfw you have just returned to a country where you speak the native language and have also recovered enough from your last breakup to start dating again, and then a pandemic hits 😆 Early on in the pandemic, I was staying with my parents in my childhood home, so I both missed being around people my own age and my friends, but I knew I wasn't staying there long term so it felt disrespectful to start anything new. More recently, I moved to start my postgrad, and I finally felt like I was in a place to at least make an account and see what happens, but it's really hard. There are so many more hurdles to make sure you're on the same wavelength about the pandemic and safety before you even meet in person, if you can at all, but there's only so much chemistry and connection that happens virtually, I think. It's also been a while dating and even talking to new people, so I feel like I've forgotten how to communicate with people. It's not easy, so I'm trying to think of it as a fun experience with no pressure on it to be seeking a life partner and just to learn about myself and connect with others, and anything that happens from there will be what it will be.
oh boo hoo, I didn't get a happy comment. Sorry, not everyone thinks random sex is a shining example of female power. And, since gender doesn't exist anymore, you have no idea what sex I am. You are a clown.
Great video! Love the cosy set up and the animation midway through! If you’re interested I’d love to see some self-development videos. I imagine a lot of people of newly single and it would be great to have some inclusive advice on how to work on yourself! 💗
I find it hard to put myself out there been on dating sites for years and not one date. I would like to be more confident with myself. You do grate videos hope I can put your advice into practice and find someone to date or flirt with when we all can go out again.
We need this content. Lack of honesty about relationships and sex is a “taboo” that needs to go away. I appreciate your openness as it helps me as a parent to teach my daughters to not be ashamed of themselves as women.
Hmm, I worry that the "You know we're just having fun here?" approach sets the dynamic up to where the other person may not feel comfortable saying that they were feeling differently. Essentially you're asking "you're where I am, right?" I think its kinder to simply share where you're at like "Right now I'm just look for casual" or "Right now I'm hoping to find something that can grow."
yeah, I thought that too. Share what you're thinking and feeling without expectation the other person feels the same. give them space to feel differently if that's the case.
Yes! It can really hurt to hear that someone assumes that you feel the same as they do. I would always have a conversation from the start at the latest the second meetup of what I was looking for both not to waste their time or mine.
I was dating to in the end find something serious but with no rush to get there more so People know that casual was fine but I was seeing multiple people until I was in something serious and long term. And that was really hard when people were unclear with their intenions
ooof that's so true! definitely won't suggest that in future
@@hannahwitton ❤
Interesting approach. Don't you think shared interests are more important though? Stating your approach at the outset like that kind of kills the possibility it could be anything else. I don't make friends easily and I can be crazy serious at times. That's why I prefer to steer the conversation to something neutral where we don't have the pressure to judge. Thank you for your time.
OMG love the new setup 😍 The lamp in the background really does make a huge difference! The thing I miss most about being single is talking to friends about dates - that was always so much fun! Coming home and housemates having the wine ready so you could SPILL. Those were some great times :)
SO FUN! And thanks! I love the new set up too!
Everything is perfect perfect except one thing
“I’m interested in dating in a pandemic, are you guys ok?”
- No Hannah I’m not ok! 😂
I'm sorry 💛
As somebody who never casually dated and is not planning to this is all soooo fascinating!! Like I absolutely can’t wrap my head around the whole thing but I’m very glad you had fun :)
Me too! This is totally me.
feel you haha.. I couldn't care less, but it is an important topic
Using "The idea of thinking of a witty one-liner for my bio makes me physically hurt" as an authentic bio for myself ✌🏻
The communication feeling unnatural is so true. The amount of time people have said 'you said that to him'...yeah I am serious about this person i want to make things clear.
So truthfully, I managed to somehow meet my boyfriend at the start of the pandemic (about 3 weeks in, so back when we were REALLY locked in our houses). Would have never thought it would happen in a million years, because nobody could go anywhere! I had gone back on OkCupid after about a year of not using it because I was so starved for human connection so I figured I would just chat with someone interesting and that would be nice for a day or two. I never in a million years thought I was going to meet the person I am most likely going to spend the rest of my life with.
Pandemic dating is HARD, and especially so at the beginning of this insanity, in the spring. We spent weeks sitting on my porch, with me at the bottom of the steps and him at the top, because that’s all we could do. When we were getting to know each other, we’d never even shaken hands, let alone anything else. However, we did get to know each other VERY well VERY quickly...because all we could do was talk. Once social bubbles became a thing and we were allowed in each other’s houses, it was significantly better. Now, we’ve been together almost 8 months and I’m almost certain he’s the one I’ll be with forever. So, I’m one of the lucky ones I suppose. Do I recommend starting a relationship during a global pandemic? Honestly, no. It’s really hard. But sometimes your heart knows what it wants and you find a way to make it work.
Sending love and luck to everyone dating during these crazy times!!
I've been partnered for 6 years. I miss the new relationship energy! But I don't miss dating and the questioning and wondering that came with it. Haha!
plane of shame?? omg we need to hear this story
I’m glad you were so non judgmental and cool about a sexual partner testing pos for an sti! People can be so uncool about it, when really it’s awesome that you got tested and disclosed!
The square neckline is really great on you!
RIGHT!?!?!? This dress is rented but I'm like ooooooh interesting to know that square necklines suit me 👀
@@hannahwitton Well, you have the bust for it! 😆
@@greensteve9307 yes, she has the right figure for that dress!
@@hannahwitton I have bought your hormones diary book . Omg it’s fantastic
“Is body count important?” Me, immediately thinking you mean the number of people you’ve killed: yes and I hope it’s 0. Oh wait, not that type of body count...
that is what my brain jumped to as well dont feel bad
#NoVirginNoWedding
Loved this chat! So fun to look back on those times
I just got out of a 10 year relationship at 29 and am still working up to dating again. It's been nice to see what it is like to be single with no pressure to find my person. but I'm bookmarking this video for later for when I am ready.
Oh my gosh Hannah, this new set up is AMAZING!! 😍😍😍
THANK YOU!!! I love it!
I was thinking the same! 😍👌🏻
🎸🌅🪴 -> really nice!
Hannah your hair at the moment (with the shorter bits at the front) really reminds me of the super short crop you had back when I first started watching!! Really taking me back
I have been in a relationship for five and a half years, and I have never been single as an adult. But we broke up recently. I downloaded tinder last night for the first time ever and honestly I needed this video.
I took a permanent vow of celibacy years ago, best decision I ever made, I only wish I had always been celibate. The whole dating thing, whether it's just about casual sex or "looking for love" was just hellish, the complications, hardships involved, the whole thing is just too emotionally/mentally taxing and I can't cope with any of it anymore, the pain suffering and misery far outweighs the fun and pleasure and I realized not everyone is "meant to be" in a any specific kind of relationship, there's no such thing as a "soul mate" for every person.
in this dress i imagine you if you were dressed for oktoberfest in germany.everything looks very good love your vids :D
haha I can see the vibes
@@hannahwitton where is it from? i really love it!
Hannah would never be late for Oktoberfest though! :p
I just thought "i love this dress", then i saw this comment...
Guess who's German
Plane of shame
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Nyoooom
I really like the advice of not expecting one person to fulfill all your emotional physical social needs
I'm so thankful I'm happily boo-ed up. I haven't had to worry about dating in a long time but Im so introverted just the thought of it totally exhausts me 😂
Glad it's not just me that flirts through talking about spreadsheets, I feel so validated 😅
haha MY PEOPLE
@@hannahwitton don't get me started on conditional formatting...
@@sarahcorrigan3071 best thing ever.
6:00 100%
Esther perel made a good point in saying that... back in the day humans grew up in a village. We were surrounded by many ppl who act as our friends, lover, confidant, mentor, humor deep chats etc... and now we expect one person to fill all those things... its such a big ask.
You have to be able to do single well, if you are really lost on your own you will scare the good ones away and the bad ones will see an easy mark. The one I see now made the first move we knew each other for a few years before we got involved.
I only dated as a single person for about 7 months before I started dating my current partner of 4 years. I don’t know that I miss anything about it, but he’s the only person I’ve ever been in a serious/sexual relationship with so whenever I’m playing drinking games with my friends they all know who I’m talking about if sex comes up 😂 they definitely tease me for it, but all in lighthearted fun
I have a color-coordinated Christmas present spreadsheet with four tabs ;)
I love it when you talk dirty to me
was that too far? 😂
Show me those spreads!
works for BDSM: is that a padded cell? (i.e. left/right pad)
Lets get into the sheets!
Recalculating.... the formula for my attraction
And that's the sum total of them for now 😉 anyone got ideas for row and column flirts/humour?
I love the arc of this channel, it's just gotten better and better over the years! I've been following since you were still in Uni
I'm actually really looking forward to start dating again once this stupid pandemic is over/not as serious anymore. Thanks for a great video!
I’m polyamorous and basically just waiting for the pandemic to be over before dating again; the things I want are physical and I can’t do that right now with more than one partner!
Saaaaame. I live on my own and have been so so lonely this year, and now that I'm finally able to see someone (we could arrange it so that they and their household are the only people I meet, because isolating 100% was literally killing me) I'm ofc super happy but also, like, ugh, I miss meeting new people and seeing my other casual partners and being close to people :( :(
Same for me!
I've been with my partner for about 7 years now and I've aaaaalways missed being single and the mystery, the variety, the rollercoaster of meeting people and not know where its going as I flirt my way through. I feel like I've grown lots since I met my partner at 21 and want to explore some more - but I do love what we have together so don't want to do anything that passes the boundaries we discuss and agree.
Cannot believe your married omg - I haven’t watched your videos in ages but I totally love your videos and am excited to start watching again YAY!!
Sigh. I wish you had been around when I was your age and I wish I had a chance to listen to your advice even before then. It's still so good to hear open, sensible and healthy responses. Thank you.
This was interesting to watch! I thought I "missed out" on the dating life because I moved to a different country to study and almost instantly happened to find a boyfriend (wasn't looking, but we just met and it sparked), so now we've been together for a few years and want to get married in a few more years. Now that I think about it, I really do not like the flirting stage and all the troubles and anxiety at the beginning
Some parts are red, other are blue, we now all know, coloured spreadsheets do it for you
What strange times that we live in, when it's more awkward / trickier to express that you're looking for a serious relationship vs casual sex
I thought that was really weird. It is the exact opposite in my experience.
why, the stakes are higher so it makes sense it would be harder
It has always been that way though the rules of courtship have always been difficult and hard.
Look at Pride and Prejudice at Jane's and Binglys relationship, Bingly was super casual right up to the point he proposed marriage! Cos that was how it was done, they had a few parties and dinners together all with the air of plausible deniability until one put themselves on the line.
Asking for something serious comes at the risk of being rejected and feeling shame, so it's easier to live in comfort with the air of plausible deniability.
I gave up on my dating years. After much disappointment I realized that the type of women I like are not attracted to me. So I just had to take a long term break from all that disappointment and frustration.
omg thank you for the bio advice! i've been inactive on dating apps cause of covid but i'm gonna keep this in mind for when things get better
I became single in a pandemic 😂 not the best experience but made me learn a lot about myself and I couldn’t hide behind distractions!
"If you are a Geek, then let your Geek Flag fly." My older sister's advice to me; great advice. Been in a happy, loving, relationship for nearly three year now.
I'm grey ace and the pandemic has been great because it has removed any expectation from myself of looking for a partner, which used to come with a healthy dose of worrying about how to put myself out there without disappointing people on apps often used for hookups. If anyone has advice on asexual dating I'd love to hear it!
okcupid lets you put ace in the profile and helps you look for other aces :)
I feel very strange about how you talk about sex and intimacy - taking it slow, communicating, expecting to have a great time- because it wasn’t like I experienced it. It wasn’t too bad, but was never light and easy mood over there. I’m still figuring out what do I like and I understand that I didn’t really know my parents, I tried to pretend that I’m ok with getting closer with people I don’t really know, literally was faking expecting to making it comfortable for myself, but it never happened.
Honestly, I’m excited about meeting and dating new people to build relationships of a better quality
Absolutely love your videos, thank you for sharing it, you are gorgeous and new lighting looks really nice!
Have a good one, Hannah! ❤️
I always genuinely wonder how (especially as a female) anyone can feel safe hooking up with someone they don’t know. It takes me forever to even begin to open up to, let alone be intimate with anyone. Even when dating online for a number of dates I still to visible public places and let someone know where I’m going and their (hopefully correct) name/picture. I also google search them. I’m still very nervous and cautious even doing that. I’m sure my history of sexual abuse plays a huge part in my view/fears of this, but I’ve always been curious.
The setup is so COSY!
Omg the commentary on COVID and monogamy and craving flirting is SPOT ON
Oh my god, you asked about trying to date during the pandemic and it has has been... interesting. I've never been in a relationship, I'm 19 and I moved out on my own this year. I was thinking that my dating life was going to get a real kick once I was living independently in a new town and going out and getting to know new people. Instead it has just been me inside my apartment, trying to survive the first semester of university while doing all online lectures and swiping on dating apps when I happen to have some time. The situation with the pandemic was looking better during autumn so I've met up with a couple of people for dates but they haven't really led to anything more, and the rest of the time the "dating" has just been slightly awkward conversations or getting ignored on these damn apps 😭 I just really wish I could go out and meet people organically and have some fun flirting instead of just the constant swiping, but I'll have to wait until it's safe to be hanging out with lots of people again 🚶🏻♀️
I absolutely love how you give advice, Hannah...every school needs to have a sex and relationship educator/guidance counselor like you! When you give advice it is from such a nonjudgmental and authentic place! You're on Jean Milburn level! Love these person Q&A vids!
This top and neckline is so gorgeous on you omg
This was a great video Hannah! Hope you are doing well !
Heeeeyy!! Thanks!! Hope you and your family are well ☺️
Didn't expect to see you here
@@hannahwitton Everyone is healthy and good! Hope to see you at Clamour in 2021 - we'll see if they have it!
Loved this video, I didn't realise how much I missed single Hannah stories but I also I feel really old now because I remember those times as if it was yesterday and oh boy.
I found my current partner on Tinder right before the pandemic began... Pretty lucky, because I wasn't really taking the app seriously anymore. I was just looking on it for entertainment value, because hardly anyone would actually say more than one thing, if at all. And that was IF someone sent me a like.
The person I matched with was someone I had seen in years before, and liked in years before, but my (one daily free) superlike was the first they saw of me. Shocking to see how many likes women get.
Also, US Tinder is SO different from European Tinder! And when I was in the US, there was some kind of daily 'choose your own adventure' thing, with an actual dark mode. Quite an amusing event, and quite a shame the app doesn't give you that dark mode as an option in general.
I've been single for most of my life. At 28, Ive just had two relationships, each 3 months long, 2 fwb's also very short duration, basically led a mostly a solitary loner life just focusing on my career and hobbies. I seem to be doing the same thing again, that sometimes i feel like Im not compatible for relationship life. I could never had a one night stand with a total stranger though, I at least need to know the person on an acquaintance level.
The “body count “ conversation came up with my friends when I hadn’t had sex with anyone yet. I have a very dark humor and when it came to me I said “I think 900... oh sex partners... yeah 0” they all laughed and started thinking how weird that term was. I said it that way though because some of my friends were a bit “high” and they had been shamed before so I didn’t want them to think I would shame them or think I was better
Loooove this set up!!! It makes SUCH a difference! I don’t miss my dating/ single years because I was young and felt the pressure all the time about finding someone. I wish I had been more communicative and just happy as I was!
I've been single for five or six years. I don't even know how long, actually. I'm perfectly happy alone. But good for you, finding a good partner. Nicely done! And walks of shame are not shameful. We need to call them walks of pride. Or walks of conquest. Or walks of, 'HA!!!'"
So weird to think of now but I remember when I was ready for a new relationship and venturing into online dating I watched a video collab between Booksandquills and yourself about tips for tinder and such! It was so helpful and I met my boyfriend on tinder a little while later... that was 4 years ago! He's the one ❤... think we'll have to give a shout out to tinder on the wedding day hahaha. Great tips Hannah!
Ooh love the visuals in this video! The light adds lots of depth and I LOVE your shirt!
Edit: finished the video and now you've made me miss my single years!
This set up is amazing! Points for the effort! ;)
The hair, the makeup, the earrings, the top, the lighting, on POINT today 👏🏻
Im not a dater at all, my experience with Tinder has cemented that. Its never done anything for me(I've deleted my account at least 5 times) and I find it to be a bit shallow regardless of how honest or funny you are on your profile. I prefer to meet people and get to know them before anything. That's just me I guess. Each to their own, its great to hear stories about weird flings people have had
I haven’t even started my dating years yet...
When you would love to win $10,000 but you're hella married.... Oh well lol
Great video Hannah! Even though. I’m not looking a partner, if I was putting myself out there, I’d probably put something like “looking for someone to make niche film references to”
stride of pride is also a great name for a music album
What a great & engaging piece of sponsored content. In my opinion, this is what ad’s should look like. Amazing Hannah, you’re killing it!
I know this isn’t the point of the video, but I’ve just made some finance spreadsheets and I’m so psyched about them, and it made me happy that I’m not the only one excited about finance spreadsheets 😂 ps I also enjoyed the video 😜😘
ok ok jeezz hannah !!! i will put myself out there !!
Last time I was this early, you (and I) were single :O But also will not be sharing my old cringe tinder profile ...
My bio: 1m57cm. Loves genealogy, history (people with a major in History are extra good eggs!), period dramas, Delft blue, royal families, literature, Quality Street boxes and Tiffany lamps AND CATS. Basically a 27 year old granny (including some grey hair). Luckily I have the greatest partner so no need for Tinder :D
My single ass needed this so much! Thanks so much Hannah! Flirting really is the best part of being single hehe
Am I the only one who loved when she said that just because you have a partner doesn’t mean your needs are fulfilled. I am definitely feeling that now like talking to my boyfriend but still feeling so lonely especially because I’m in a new state and COVID...my itch to talk to people and meet new people is irritating 😓
Love to Watch your Videos EveryTym its Like Never Get Bored for single minutes, love to watch the way u Exp-lane things and the way you acts, This was a great video Hannah! Hope you are doing well !
I’ve never dated or had sex and over the last year or so I’ve felt ready to start, but I really don’t like online dating. I’m not one for texting constantly (I just don’t like the small talk and constant contact) and hate talking on the phone but obviously can’t do in person dating right now. Also it’s so hard to know if there’ll be a connection with someone online and I’m tired of the effort only to meet them in person and feel ‘meh’ 😕 I’m hoping once life goes back to normal I’ll have more confidence about trying to meet people irl but as I’m 27 I’m feeling the pressure to hurry up and find The One and have babies before it’s too late. Ahhh relationships are hard!
I haven't dated in seven years. I like people but I also like being by myself. Am I a bad person? I could probably make someone laugh but I'm terrified of being boring. It's a lot of pressure. I used to booze on to cover this up. I haven't had alcohol in seven years either. I love Hannah's videos. She's got balls.
pleeease make an advice video on how to flirt🤧💕
BAH, USA OR CANADA, classic.... I was ready to just share to the world that I met my current partner over tinder, just because my profile is honestly my authentic self already. My picture was me in a pineapple onesie, and it said I was just there to make friends.
I agree - I'm not single either but it still bothers me that even if I was, I can't participate because of my location.
yesss love this video. also WHERE is that dress from??!! Its so pretty!!
I rented it on On Loan!
I think we need a How to Flirt Manual now? Teach me you ways, Hannah!
Wow!!! I'm not on tinder. But I don't think I could bring up some old stories good or bad. The women in my past may not appreciate that, and like they say..... The past comes back to haunt me lol. My luck, I tell a couple stories and the next day I have some angry women knocking at my door lol. Must say your husband has to be very understanding. I'm a little Old School. I don't think if you were my wife flirting with other men regardless if it wasn't going to lead to anything is something I wouldn't be comfortable with. But that is just my opinion. Others may be fine with it. But I like your channel and your personality. You seem like your a lot of fun and there is no doubt that your honest because you put a lot of your personal life (Past and Present) out there for the world to see and hear. I am actually proud of you for your courage and your integrity and that what you do may help others. I just wanted to drop a few lines here for you and say keep up the good work that your doing because you seem to enjoy what you do as well.
So take care and stay safe and I wish you and yours a Merry Christmas.
Semper Fi
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Got some pointers on colour coordinated spreadsheets? 2021 is here soon and I'd like to spice up my financial sheets for a new year
I also miss flirting with other people! My husband and I are great at it with each other (lots of sexual currency here! loved that podcast btw), so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, but I remember it being so much fun.
yay for sexual currency!!
Ooh what podcast ?
@@BGLuver97 Hannah's Doing It podcast! It's really good, and the episode I'm referencing is called "Sexual desire and the three times a week myth with Dr. Karen Gurney".
This is such a fun and inspiring video, Hannah!! 💛💛💛
A video here and one on More Hannah?? We are blessed
All the yes to shower foreplay - makes sure there are no cleanliness issues and works as an icebreaker!
Love the video as always, but have to say, that outfit! 😍😍
Yes to more pictures! I loved seeing a variety of pictures, especially in different setting such as hobby, selfie etc. I'd have pictures of myself meditating (cause if we would be dating i'd sneak off in the morning to meditate haha), a pic of hen I went to to a zip line (LOVE those type of things), a lauging/smiling pic, me in nature and I'd always end with another selfie.
Yes, I love casual flirting! My whole personality is kinda flirty tbh, but I don't want it to go further. But since I'm single, I need to be careful with whom I'm "myself" with, because people tend to think I'm coming on to them.
@Maria Mommy I'm not sure what you mean with health conditions?
@MariaMum 1309 Exactly...
@beyonce queen Haha, sure! Why assume my sexuality anyway🙄
The new setup looks amazing 😻 and your outfit matching the plant was perfect 👌
Tfw you have just returned to a country where you speak the native language and have also recovered enough from your last breakup to start dating again, and then a pandemic hits 😆 Early on in the pandemic, I was staying with my parents in my childhood home, so I both missed being around people my own age and my friends, but I knew I wasn't staying there long term so it felt disrespectful to start anything new. More recently, I moved to start my postgrad, and I finally felt like I was in a place to at least make an account and see what happens, but it's really hard. There are so many more hurdles to make sure you're on the same wavelength about the pandemic and safety before you even meet in person, if you can at all, but there's only so much chemistry and connection that happens virtually, I think. It's also been a while dating and even talking to new people, so I feel like I've forgotten how to communicate with people. It's not easy, so I'm trying to think of it as a fun experience with no pressure on it to be seeking a life partner and just to learn about myself and connect with others, and anything that happens from there will be what it will be.
would love another video on this! You give such good advice and would love to hear more stories
you're like my more evolved self, i love it, i kinda look up to you
such a good video i had so much fun!!!
Loving the top! Looks incredible. Amazing video :))) ❤️
Simp
love this! it's like a super informed version of a post i recently made on insta about online dating! i wish this competition were for the UK hehe
Nothing like treating sex as a simple exchange instead of anything meaningful.
oh boo hoo, I didn't get a happy comment. Sorry, not everyone thinks random sex is a shining example of female power. And, since gender doesn't exist anymore, you have no idea what sex I am. You are a clown.
@@michaelmurphy2602 its too easy for women to get sex... hardly anything powerful when they hold all the cards
Great video! Love the cosy set up and the animation midway through! If you’re interested I’d love to see some self-development videos. I imagine a lot of people of newly single and it would be great to have some inclusive advice on how to work on yourself! 💗
I find it hard to put myself out there been on dating sites for years and not one date. I would like to be more confident with myself. You do grate videos hope I can put your advice into practice and find someone to date or flirt with when we all can go out again.
Great video as always 🔥 But Tinder, only US and Canada? Come on!
a 27 minutes long video??!? im so excited to watch hehee
Thank you for your advice Hannah!