Also, your lack of jump edits really speaks to your ability to be comfortable in front of the camera and get your ideas across in a pleasing manner without a lot of distraction. I'm sure there was plenty of prep that went into it, but it is commendable and I thought I'd point it out.
+Leon Lush Haha, I appreciate that. I'll have to put up another video of all the takes where I just brain fart, trip on my words, and walk off camera ;-)
Charisma on Command .... You're Awesome And Good Work Dude.. I guess guys in the industry giving advice... Dude.... Kill the plain backdrop !!! Go with Still Pics if you dont have A roll or b roll.. Thats all you missing !!! I will subscribe and you keep going!!! Good Luck Dude !! You are helping people and you helped me... Thanks Dude... ✌
Charisma on Command I see some comments here of people who dont see the importance of what youre doing and why you do it. I think u should make a video about people who find it hard to understand these kind of things, what makes them not understand, what they need to do to understand it, what they need to be aware of, what they need to do, etc you get what i mean.
1) No matter what, I'll be okay. 2) I care more about my character than my reputation. 3) I have impeccable honesty and integrity. 4) I don't need to convince anyone about anything. 5) Put your purpose first. 6) Be the first person to initiate things.
You know I watched this video today and I applied this thing immediately. I went to a salsa party but when you come early everyone stays at the entrance and no one goes to the actual dance room. So it was empty up there. They just sit downstairs and chat and postpone the start of the party forever. And everyone feels awkward to go upstairs by themselves. They all have to decide as a group it's time to go. But no one does it. So i remembered your tip from your video. "Be the first to take the awkward action that no one wants to do first" And that's what I did. I went upstairs to the empty dance room by myself. I don't care if you wanna come or not. It's time to start already. And 1 girl followed me, then a few minutes later the others came as well. If I had decided to stay downstairs with them instead of immediately going upstairs by myself we would've just sat there forever. But this way I triggered the start of the salsa party and it was very cool :) I loved it. I love your videos as well. Learning a lot. Thanks for them.
A very good friend of mine is an introvert, but she told me the story of a time when she went to this dance. She knew no one there, so she wasn't worried about how she acted because she probably wouldn't see any of them again. She had always wanted to be a bubbly, outgoing girl, so that's what she did. That night she chose to be that fun, bubbly girl that stood out, and she had the *time of her life.* Edit: the difference between an extrovert and an introvert is an introvert's "battery" is charged by having their alone time, while an extrovert will be charged by interacting with people. Both introverts and extroverts can have a great time socially, or a not-so-great time. Introverts just need to be charged beforehand, and extroverts don't. Extroverts sometimes need breaks from people too. And sometimes introverts need interacting
@Phineas Gage just because she wishes she was outgoing doesn't mean she's not an introvert. I've lived with her my whole life and i know her social battery doesn't last long.
@Phineas Gage read my edit. Also you don't have to want what makes you uncomfortable. I think it definitely helped her situation since she LOVES dancing
@@mzjj4285 how did she learn to dance? :) or is she just very into it maybe that it comes naturally? Really would love to hear what you think! I’m tryna learn to dance xD I do love dancing too but I feel I’m too repetitive and my moves too weird to dance in a party if it’s not crowded and a chance of attention on me lol
1. No matter what, I will be okay 2. I care more about my character than my reputation 3. I have impeccable honesty and integrity 4. I don't need to convince anyone of anything 5. I share my purpose proactively 6. I go there first in humanizing interaction
Mark Otter Yep!👊 & another thing that's helped me a TON, (beforehand,) if it's morally questionable, I at least ask myself, just #2 Questions: #1.) What is the most hurtful, realistic result/ending, & #2.) What are my motives behind doing or saying whatever it may be...🐱
"If someone is not treating you the way you'd like to be treated" don't try to convince them or change them, either accept them as they are or remove them from your life. This hits home.
What a great video. I wrote the mindsets down on my personal development notebook and I know I will read them over and over again and more importantly practice them in real life. Thanks for this awesome channel and the great work you're doing for us. Olivier from Paris, France
@@hxvideo Technically that's called "lying by omission". But if you don't consider them lies, then they don't matter. The point is, you have to trust yourself to tell the truth so that you can be more honest in your interactions without having to think about it.
I am revisiting this video after 4 years. This video had a really good and calming impact after my turbulent experience in high school, and helped me be a better person ready for college. Now that I'm done with college, I wanted to come back and thank you from the bottom of my heart, as this video was the corner stone for helping me to be the better version of myself. Thank you for making this video and sharing your knowledge here.
1. You will be ok. 2. Character > reputation 3. Don't lie and believe what you're saying. 4. Don't convince people - just ask. 5. Proactively communicate your purpose. 6. Do it first.
I've made a ton of progress overcoming social anxiety over the past couple years, and whenever I re-watch Charisma on Command videos I'm reminded of how much they inspire me. Whenever I commit to internalizing the advice Charlie and Ben share, I see enormous benefits in my confidence approaching new people, being vulnerable with my friends and family, and expressing what I'm passionate about. Thank you guys so much for your insight and hard work
+Giorgi Kelbakiani Haha... TH-cam recommendations controlling everyone! (Same here.... Tyrion can't be killed and this next) The GOT videos were a very smart idea for some extra exposure but they are great nonetheless.
I remember talking to my friend about menstruation, then she's like "It's impressive you are talking about that without being shy, most girls will not talk about it because they think it's weird to talk about or they are shy." Me: "Why would they be shy? It's normal, nothing to hide". I have this thing to be confident about these kind of subjects. My friend also told me: "It's nice to be around you because you don't talk about the usual subjects, like "how was your day", you talk about interesting ones." I am very flattered :3
He seems really sweet but the nature of his job makes him seem scary and neurotic, but again, it's just the job, constantly delving into the microscopic nuances of interacting with people.
I can be a confident person with strangers but not in front of the people I have known... because they have seen me as an unconfident person...I don't know what kind of psychology is this , which I am going through I just want to come out of it...so please make a video about this...
omg same! I was like that in the past. Let me tell you something that helped me get out of this. Change never comes without pain. Evolution never comes without pain. It will hurt when you suddenly act differently in front of your friends and family who know you. It will hurt when you suddenly take initiatives. It will hurt when you signal your purpose to them. It will hurt, and your body will start shaking when you attempt to go for it. That person, that voice inside you, which makes you feel doubtful. That's not you. That is the sign that you are finally changing. That pain is the seed for change.
Gradually start changing your personality to match how you want to be 24/7, it's hard work for sure... Might even be worth a change of scene if your life permits. Expect to tread very carefully if you've got a partner though... some people rely on being in a relationship with someone who they think is less confident, and that type of person could feel very threatened by the prospect of not being the "confident one". Others may do the same, and to be honest, you don't need those people.
It's because of our need for consistency - your friends already saw you when you think you looked less confident that's why you have this subconscious idea of being always like this, be consistent with your behaviour otherwise they might think it's weird or not recognise it as real, or think you're weird (at least that's your fear) . The need of consistency is deeply ingrained in our psyche, it's a social need as people that are inconsistent are not seen as trustworthy.
You make great stuff ...this is what i need/needed in my life but you know i think its to late to change.yeah i say to other people it is never too late but i cant do it i have this huge huge problem with confidence ;( :) Keep up the work its good stuff for the kids
My favorite thing about this video, isn't just the information, but it's the fact you chose to present it one on one. With eye contact basically. Most youtube people have a bunch of pics and clips with a voiceover. This was a brave move, but it works. Very nice.
1.) No Matter What, I'll Be Okay One time in a class I confided- at the absolute insistence of my teacher- that I had been evicted that same week. The class and teacher then berated me as a group and mentioned a nearby job fair as a solution. I was okay afterward, but I'm not going to volunteer vulnerable information first anymore. I know many say this, but I really have been through too much to do so any more. People have thrown past traumas in my face. Did they get filtered from my life? Of course. Am I 'okay'? Of course. But I still have those emotional scars, from opening up and being locked as a result. Please note that this advice (while incredibly well crafted) is not a catch-all if you have previous trauma and experiences which have caused PTSD and Depression. It's important to note that charisma is a situational trait.
I can see that and I personally do not suffer from PTSD, but from what I have found dealing with other mental health conditions (ADD and rapid mood cycling bipolar), which have themselves led to some situations with regrettable outcomes, CBT can be therapeutic. If you don't know, simply put, CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is facing your fears. It was suggested to me by my psychiatrist, who is very experienced and professional, to treat my anxiety stemming from traumatic experiences caused by my biological difficulties - the reason why I think it could aid you. I'm no expert and I don't know the specifics of your situation, but maybe you can tackle your PTSD by finding a friend to become close with, enough to have trust in them, and open up to them. In essence, find a safer and more tolerant space to allow yourself to be vulnerable in and let the positive response replace the negative traumatic memories. I recognise that you say you've been through too much and of course it's not imperative to follow this, it just may be worth giving 'Cognitive Behavioural Therapy' a good research and see if you'd want to give it a shot. If you're currently doing well then that's good, but it might help you to open up to another person/other people as it can be healthy. In essence 'No Matter What, I'll Be Okay' I think is meant to be advice as to how you approach a situation, not necessarily that it will always be true regardless. It's still important to assess the severity of what may go wrong as he says in the video, though he does use an extreme example. The mind is subjective so everyone reacts to things at a different degree. Additionally, I believe that it is useful as not only giving yourself confidence to do something, but to also put the response/repercussions of that action in perspective. I hope that something I've said is helpful if you see this message. :)
1:27 "Probably better that you know, rather than using 6 months trying to figure out what signal she is sending" well..... Should have seen this video 3 months ago... D:
Damn guys I just talk and when they do a few things that indicate interest then I get there number. Easy then I try to progress things and if she puts 3 road blocks up I move on.
I've been binge-watching your video in the recent days, and I'm really thankful to you for creating these contents especially this video. I've been quite a negative person for years, with a dose of self-loathing. Watching your videos helped me a lot, especially the first 3 points because you emphasize on character building, instead of 'how to trick others to like me', I've been trying a lot in being more positive towards life and my own character, and I'm very grateful for your work man. I hope you continue to inspire a lot more people.
I'm considered old, or at least when my grandmother was this age I considered her old. The information you just imparted in this video is probably the best 12 minutes of presentation that I've had in my life. I can't praise you enough for discovering these points and going them to us in a concise and clear presentation. Thank you.
About a year ago I suddenly realized all this same stuff. I agree 100,000% with this video. I had a deeply traumatic marriage and divorce, and finding my way as a single mother, with such stigma around it and so much judgment toward women in my situation, and my self esteem obliterated by my ex husband, I almost didn't make it and I struggled for years, but suddenly I had the thought, what if my positive thoughts have the same ability to create my world that my negative thoughts do? I started paying close attention to how happy, admirable, confident people lived their lives and I started mimicking it and just literally shoving my crippling negative thoughts out of my head and replacing them with positive, productive thoughts. Having overcome something that surely should have killed me and almost did, gave me the fearlessness needed to conquer every challenge I have met so far and also the ability to read people better than ever before. I love that this video so strongly confirmed everything I learned for myself this past year+.
3:00 Here's how you can be more lethal. You don't care what people think about you, good rule. But also, learn the art of people manipulation to play the other side too when needed.
he said ''i wish i saw this at an early age'' he said ''wish'' so it doesnt matter when the video came out couse he would still ''wish'' he had seen it at an early age :) ppl should stop be so close minded
This young man is poised and set to take his world by storm. I see a great future for you sir. You belong to same level with great speakers like Tony Robbins, Les Brown, to mention but a few.
I started to incorporate some of your confidence/ charisma tips in my social life even tho I already felt pretty confident. And I did notice big changes! More and more often I find myself in a group where they all seem invested and interested in what I’m saying and I don’t get overheard anymore (with strangers or friends, it only gets hard in a group where everyone knows everyone else better than they know me, but that’s normal ig). I think i do some of the strategies intuitively but I’m also hyper aware of my and others body language, eye contact etc. to the point of it getting annoying. But I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Someone even told me I’ve got a talent to make people feel special and that really made me happy. I always try my best to really get to know someone and make them feel good about themselves while still having a blast on my own. I think I get closer and closer to where I want to be in terms of personal development. Just looking back a few years, I was like a completely different person back then. It’s amazing to not feel this social pressure anymore and to be free in expressing yourself. Thank you, as always, for your great advice, it really does help!
This video in particular is awesome to build character. I hope you keep on thriving in your social life, thanks for the extra motivation you gave me with your experience.
Excellent video! Lead by example. Goes with the saying "Know thyself." From personal experience, I used to be very anxious to try new things, talk to new people or take opportunities, fearing the worst. So I watched a bunch of videos like this one and started pushing myself. What I discovered is this: "It's never as bad as you think it will be." It took some time for my brain to get used to that idea, but now, a few years later, I'm not nearly as hesitant to engage and I'm actually building up success in my life :) I go into situations without expectations and as a result, I'm always pleasantly surprised. Other people sense that, even online, and I've never built so many business relationships before in my life. I can still improve, but it's going in the right direction.
Here's how i think. YOU are in full control and power to create an emotional state in you and thoses around you whenever you want and no one can stop it. This is all in your energy that you give off. Nervous about going on a date? Just create that positve energy/vibe anyways without any reliance on recipropcation. People will either match your vibe or not and if they don't, then maybe question whether that person is someone you should be hanging out with. Positive energy wins always which you have the power to create at anytime without a care what other people think.
I have one question regarding "3. I have impeccable honesty and integrity." How would you suggest anyone would manage a situation where the truth no matter how it's told and/or explain wouldn't be understood by the other party and where the situation can't be set into a gray area so it can only be truth or lies. For example, you know someone(s) who's close to you and only wish for your happiness such as relatives. You decided to do something that is risky from their perspective for your own happiness and which they don't have the required knowledge to understand or you know their opinion is purely biased and still set into stone. Whenever they ask you about something either directly or indirectly related to it, you either have to lies until you reach results (against the risk) that could overthrown their knowledge/biased opinion or speak the truth and then lower their own happiness by adding the stress of failure into their mind? I'm trying to be generic here, but if I had to put some examples: (I'll be using the masculine, but it could be a man or a woman.) 1) If someone is some kind of spec ops operative who goes on risky missions. What's better for that person if a relative ask why he will be away for a couple of months and gets picky on the details? Should he tell the truth or should he lies a bit on parts that would make the relative overly stress on? 2) If someone own a business and while things are steady, there's no actual advancement and things seems to stall for the last 2 years. He has 2 choices... keeping things as it is which might fails later or searching for new ways of having actual advancement to his business (making it more successful) which involve high financial risks. He decide to take the risks. If his relative ask him how things are while they don't understand anything about the business' activities (or of ways of making it more successful), should this business owner explain things as they are or should he put a smoke screen over most of it so that his relatives doesn't stress over it? I could bring a tons of similar situations. All implies someone doing something risky and get asked about it (directly or indirectly) by people who might not be able to manage the stress implying from knowing it. (Even more if those people who might stress over it could be affected by minor or major mental diseases such as regressing depressions or autism.) Should positive lies (nicknamed "white lies") be avoided in those situation or not? I would like some input on this matter. This video cover its barely because it's putting things in baskets, but it is something that makes 3) a lot harder to manage than what meets the eyes.
Thanks bro just wanted to go out of my way to show my support and tell you to keep up the great work, the one thing that resonated with me was "no matter what I'll be ok" Because there have been so many times where I didn't ask out that girl because of a what if scenario
+1000REMBOY, Why did you have to put "Just Wanted To Go Out Of My Way" ? Just curious. What were you doing that you had to stop doing to leave a Comment?
+Steve Kongle Well to answer your question he didn't have to leave a comment, it is not mandatory to do so and because of that he did go 'out of his way' to leave that comment.
I absolutely love your videos! So glad I found your channel. I don't understand why this channel is not the biggest one on TH-cam haha. Really looking forward to all of your new videos and thanks for making me happy while watching them. Greetings from Germany
Probably the best video I’ve ever seen. Mindset is the key! When you learn how to think in the right way, everything else will becomes easier or even unnecessary!
I was half expecting manipulative BS. But I'm glad this was all actually not just compatible but is pretty much the same as socially being a good, decent and happy human being. would definitely recommend to anyone.
I swear, I stay up all night basically studying these videos. Like seriously I can't be the only one sitting here with a pen and paper taking notes! You are amazing man, thanks for helping me better myself. I'm just waiting for a situation where I can apply all this. ❤️
Your channel is full of gold. I'm pretty interested in your course. Pretty sure I'm going to get it in the next few months. I feel your icon doesn't do much for your brand though. Your thumbnails are great, but I don't think anyone is going to really recognize your awesome brand in that icon because those 3 words are difficult to read with that font when its displayed really small most screens.
Yeah...you def need a better icon. I just discovered your channel yesterday, and have blazed through your videos. Really interesting power of persuasion material here. And you present it all wonderfully. But...that icon just flat out sucks. ;) Make an impactful iconographic image/symbol that people would recognize instantly and associate with your channel.
“I care more about my character than my reputation” is literally the most difficult thing to apply to my social life. I care SO MUCH what other people think about me that I try to hide my weird but funny personality so people will not think of me as “weird”. I’m trying to fix it.
If this helps what works for me is rather than trying to fix it, I ignore the feelings. Trying to not care about something is ironically keeping those thoughts significant. Just focus on what you want to do and base your actions off that.
You want to get rid of those thoughts and to stop it affecting your life but when you try it's keeping the thoughts in your head and still affecting your life. If you *ignore* anything about petty social implications then you are genuinely removing it from your mind which is what you want to do.
Basically rather than trying to stop thinking about what people's opinions are, allow yourself to think about it when it occurs to you, but change your reaction to it. It's like somebody provoking you to fight them. Trying to stop the person from insulting you will either lead to eventually fighting or will inconvenience you in some other way. However, if you ignore the person then you can continue what you're doing unaffected.
Wow, so many people NEED to hear that part about how lying to others actually harms THEM! The world would be such a better place is more people realized that. Thank you for sharing this great video.
He looks nothing like Joker; he's way too handsome to act as Joker. Charlie, great job on your channel. I have a feeling one day it will be big like Brandon Burchard's. I've learned a lot. May God bless you.
Loved the video man! Keep up the good work, I'll be sure to write this down somewhere and say it to myself every morning. And to be honest, I think these are great philosophical tips, in plain simple terms most people can understand, which is like, another level of awesome.
Man, this channel has all the answers to questions I had as a teenager. If I had this channel back then I would have saved myself a LOT of pain and wasted time.
your awesome!! Everything u said is absolutely true. it makes me realize how many people are not Charismatic, but instead are rude, obnoxious and controlling. Thanks for the video
this.... this right here is exactly what I meant on my last comment. this shows how to naturally build this way of thinking that will let people interact naturally without over thinking. amazing video
+Charisma on Command no problem man. I really love the subject you choose to take on. it's a tough one and you tackl3 it on a very simple easy to understand way. really good job.
I don’t know if it’s through your research or experience or both, but the content and the way you are presenting it is sooo relatable. I recently realised some of these things but find it hard to explain it to people or for that matter to myself. Thank you for these videos! I have huge respect for you guys!
I really relate to the lying part. When talking about experiences that happened to me, I would slightly milk the story to make me seem like an interesting person. It actually bothers me I do this, but i never thought this was one of the reasons it was lowering my self-esteem
This video has changed my life completely. It is SO SIMPLE! Just start with one of these and fully commit and you will have all of them and your life will be beyond your current dreams!
@Rosa Frederiksen Not too much though lol, although it does help. I had a date earlier this year and I prepared some subjects so I felt comfortable that I wouldn't run out of things to talk about hehe :)
A tip on learning from this video. dont just listen, relate the situations to yourself. Think and remember about the situations. This is obvious but if you really want to learn, wake the f up.
You are my brother across the oceans. I believe in these fundamental points and I make them govern my thoughts and actions. Listening to you is like listening to me speaking out loud. 🙏
It hurts your charisma, unless you are a sociopath. If you have no emotional investment in other people, it becomes much easier to lie with total conviction. The trick, is to trick yourself into believing your nonsense. It's not healthy but that's how good salesmen sell things they have no confidence in, if you can fool yourself into believing it, most other people will as well. I convinced a relatively intelligent person that they sky was purple once. All it takes is a nearly sociopathic level of emotional disconnect and belief. Over the last few years I have had to devote a huge amount of my personal development towards becoming more honest. Because I spent so many years lying that I realized I would lie to people even when the truth would have been better. When I realized that I started putting forth a lot of effort to change that aspect of myself.
Also, your lack of jump edits really speaks to your ability to be comfortable in front of the camera and get your ideas across in a pleasing manner without a lot of distraction. I'm sure there was plenty of prep that went into it, but it is commendable and I thought I'd point it out.
+Leon Lush Haha, I appreciate that. I'll have to put up another video of all the takes where I just brain fart, trip on my words, and walk off camera ;-)
I'd never expect to see Leon Lush here
Charisma on Command .... You're Awesome And Good Work Dude.. I guess guys in the industry giving advice... Dude.... Kill the plain backdrop !!! Go with Still Pics if you dont have A roll or b roll.. Thats all you missing !!! I will subscribe and you keep going!!!
Good Luck Dude !! You are helping people and you helped me...
Thanks Dude...
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Charisma on Command I see some comments here of people who dont see the importance of what youre doing and why you do it. I think u should make a video about people who find it hard to understand these kind of things, what makes them not understand, what they need to do to understand it, what they need to be aware of, what they need to do, etc you get what i mean.
My sentiments exactly. Very impressive doing in on one shot.
1) No matter what, I'll be okay.
2) I care more about my character than my reputation.
3) I have impeccable honesty and integrity.
4) I don't need to convince anyone about anything.
5) Put your purpose first.
6) Be the first person to initiate things.
thanks i love all messages of the videos on this channel but he talks too much
I do all but number 4 I'm struggling with
If you love his all messages so, you say he talk much but all wisely.
Viet Anh Tran Hes just soo clear minded.
Amin Ferdous these bullet pionts should be on every video. Ain't nobody got time to listen to this guy go on about common sense.
'When you lie sometimes you hurt your ability to speak with conviction ' i felt that.
Thanks this will help with starting my cult
Lol wut??
+Nik OBrien gl bro
+Nik OBrien AHAHa, omfg that made me crack, laughing so badly, HALP
😂😂😂😂😂 Spot on!!!
+Nik OBrien how u gonna name it?
You know I watched this video today and I applied this thing immediately. I went to a salsa party but when you come early everyone stays at the entrance and no one goes to the actual dance room. So it was empty up there. They just sit downstairs and chat and postpone the start of the party forever. And everyone feels awkward to go upstairs by themselves. They all have to decide as a group it's time to go. But no one does it. So i remembered your tip from your video. "Be the first to take the awkward action that no one wants to do first" And that's what I did. I went upstairs to the empty dance room by myself. I don't care if you wanna come or not. It's time to start already. And 1 girl followed me, then a few minutes later the others came as well. If I had decided to stay downstairs with them instead of immediately going upstairs by myself we would've just sat there forever.
But this way I triggered the start of the salsa party and it was very cool :) I loved it. I love your videos as well. Learning a lot. Thanks for them.
Wow! Nothing makes us happier than hearing people are applying these tools, let alone so quickly ;-)
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Good for you! Now I don't have an excuse, now that there is a success story.
Ivelin Ivanov way to go!!
A very good friend of mine is an introvert, but she told me the story of a time when she went to this dance. She knew no one there, so she wasn't worried about how she acted because she probably wouldn't see any of them again. She had always wanted to be a bubbly, outgoing girl, so that's what she did. That night she chose to be that fun, bubbly girl that stood out, and she had the *time of her life.*
Edit: the difference between an extrovert and an introvert is an introvert's "battery" is charged by having their alone time, while an extrovert will be charged by interacting with people. Both introverts and extroverts can have a great time socially, or a not-so-great time. Introverts just need to be charged beforehand, and extroverts don't.
Extroverts sometimes need breaks from people too. And sometimes introverts need interacting
@Phineas Gage just because she wishes she was outgoing doesn't mean she's not an introvert. I've lived with her my whole life and i know her social battery doesn't last long.
@Phineas Gage read my edit. Also you don't have to want what makes you uncomfortable. I think it definitely helped her situation since she LOVES dancing
@@mzjj4285 how did she learn to dance? :) or is she just very into it maybe that it comes naturally? Really would love to hear what you think! I’m tryna learn to dance xD I do love dancing too but I feel I’m too repetitive and my moves too weird to dance in a party if it’s not crowded and a chance of attention on me lol
I like the fact that this channel includes the concepts of character and integrity rather than just winning.
Appreciate the input, thanks!
OMG definitely!
1. No matter what, I will be okay
2. I care more about my character than my reputation
3. I have impeccable honesty and integrity
4. I don't need to convince anyone of anything
5. I share my purpose proactively
6. I go there first in humanizing interaction
Gotta go to the top
Thanks :))
I don't believe in God, but God bless you mate!!
I believe in God cos he blessed me
okay? XD
He's so good at speaking, I can't pause or remove the video because I feel like I'm disrespecting him ;-;
Lol glad I'm not the only one XD
Agreed Patrick
Master yourself, master all.
Harambe Sweet price
My child, I am selling nothing
not about mastering. its about learning to operate your self and whats around you. in the way you want.
Is it just me or does this guy look like a serial killer
Owen Massey well most are casted to be confident. or at lest some. so i guess if thats what you see. but who cares
"You build a reputation with yourself" when you lie. That's powerful stuff.
I try to keep this simple rule in mind..."When in doubt, just do the right thing." This helps when you have a difficult decision to make.
Mark Otter Yep!👊 & another thing that's helped me a TON, (beforehand,) if it's morally questionable, I at least ask myself, just #2 Questions:
#1.) What is the most hurtful, realistic result/ending, & #2.) What are my motives behind doing or saying whatever it may be...🐱
@@markotter2707 What if you don't know what the right thing to do, is?
@@freeri87 Sometimes you might not, but maybe look at the situation as though it's someone else, not you.
You also build a reputation with yourself when you're honest.
"If someone is not treating you the way you'd like to be treated" don't try to convince them or change them, either accept them as they are or remove them from your life. This hits home.
This information is very important and you are giving it away for free. Good on ya mate.
This is true.. We are forever grateful for these quality videos and the valuable information you share with the world ✨✨✨✨😍
Allan Lomas - two words for you: advertising revenue.
He is Still Getting Paid.
You should do a Tedtalk
+Nicholas Joseph-Francis yup!
+The Dark master yup!
He would be amazing
+Daniel Tucker yup!
He's too good for Ted Talks
What a great video. I wrote the mindsets down on my personal development notebook and I know I will read them over and over again and more importantly practice them in real life. Thanks for this awesome channel and the great work you're doing for us. Olivier from Paris, France
Happy you found it helpful
You're right. . .But wait, it's the 21st century! XD GET REK'D BEEYOCH!!
+Paris75 This comment is so sweet.
😂
Never met a bigot that wasn't a deep closet case.
You are that intelligent therapist I have been looking for all my life! :)
Thanks so much :-)
question: what about not lying but not telling either?
intelligent and very handsome
@@hxvideo Technically that's called "lying by omission". But if you don't consider them lies, then they don't matter. The point is, you have to trust yourself to tell the truth so that you can be more honest in your interactions without having to think about it.
sherrishah ohhh sweety he’s a sociopath. Half of women reject him and the other half aren’t conscience enough to even know they’re breathing 😂😂😂
The best word to describe this channel is "healthy". This has to be the healthiest channel on youtube.
°Will definitely keep going :-)
I am revisiting this video after 4 years. This video had a really good and calming impact after my turbulent experience in high school, and helped me be a better person ready for college. Now that I'm done with college, I wanted to come back and thank you from the bottom of my heart, as this video was the corner stone for helping me to be the better version of myself. Thank you for making this video and sharing your knowledge here.
1. You will be ok.
2. Character > reputation
3. Don't lie and believe what you're saying.
4. Don't convince people - just ask.
5. Proactively communicate your purpose.
6. Do it first.
Can I use you in my class to take notes for me please?
+Abdullah Did you just proactively express your purpose? well done.
+smileyourock u da real mvp
I've made a ton of progress overcoming social anxiety over the past couple years, and whenever I re-watch Charisma on Command videos I'm reminded of how much they inspire me. Whenever I commit to internalizing the advice Charlie and Ben share, I see enormous benefits in my confidence approaching new people, being vulnerable with my friends and family, and expressing what I'm passionate about. Thank you guys so much for your insight and hard work
This channel and my therapy complement each other really well
Rob_gamer34 red dead❤️
❤
This is the second video of yours I am watching in past 25 minutes (first was the GOT video) and right now I am really glad that I found this channel
+Giorgi Kelbakiani exactly the same here lol
+Giorgi Kelbakiani Ditto.
Right! This is my 4th and it started with the why Tyrion Lannister can't be killed. Lol
+Giorgi Kelbakiani Haha... TH-cam recommendations controlling everyone! (Same here.... Tyrion can't be killed and this next)
The GOT videos were a very smart idea for some extra exposure but they are great nonetheless.
:) Thanks guys for pointing out about Tyrion video, had not noticed it before... Watching it right now
I remember talking to my friend about menstruation, then she's like "It's impressive you are talking about that without being shy, most girls will not talk about it because they think it's weird to talk about or they are shy." Me: "Why would they be shy? It's normal, nothing to hide". I have this thing to be confident about these kind of subjects. My friend also told me: "It's nice to be around you because you don't talk about the usual subjects, like "how was your day", you talk about interesting ones." I am very flattered :3
This reminds me of a great book called "7 habits of highly effective people" I highly recommend
i know that book :)
Btw, the channel 'fightmediocrity' made an animated and voiced over summary video if you don't have time to read that book. :D
awesome read
Isn't it by Stephen R. Covey? I love that book. I have read it and by implementing it I found myself happier. Seriously recommend it.
yeah, I agree.
This guy is the fucking human embodiment of charisma, wtf
Thanks so much - I really appreciate that!
agree
He seems really sweet but the nature of his job makes him seem scary and neurotic, but again, it's just the job, constantly delving into the microscopic nuances of interacting with people.
I can be a confident person with strangers but not in front of the people I have known... because they have seen me as an unconfident person...I don't know what kind of psychology is this , which I am going through I just want to come out of it...so please make a video about this...
This is true but the answer is be confident anyway so you can break free and everyone will notice the changes about you
I feel the exact way!
omg same! I was like that in the past.
Let me tell you something that helped me get out of this.
Change never comes without pain. Evolution never comes without pain.
It will hurt when you suddenly act differently in front of your friends and family who know you. It will hurt when you suddenly take initiatives. It will hurt when you signal your purpose to them. It will hurt, and your body will start shaking when you attempt to go for it.
That person, that voice inside you, which makes you feel doubtful.
That's not you.
That is the sign that you are finally changing.
That pain is the seed for change.
Gradually start changing your personality to match how you want to be 24/7, it's hard work for sure... Might even be worth a change of scene if your life permits. Expect to tread very carefully if you've got a partner though... some people rely on being in a relationship with someone who they think is less confident, and that type of person could feel very threatened by the prospect of not being the "confident one". Others may do the same, and to be honest, you don't need those people.
It's because of our need for consistency - your friends already saw you when you think you looked less confident that's why you have this subconscious idea of being always like this, be consistent with your behaviour otherwise they might think it's weird or not recognise it as real, or think you're weird (at least that's your fear) . The need of consistency is deeply ingrained in our psyche, it's a social need as people that are inconsistent are not seen as trustworthy.
So much wisdom in such a young person... amazing
Really like how you don't edit your videos like some of these never ending youtube ramblers. Thumbs up bud
Happy to hear that!
its so attractive when someone is so smart and has self awareness
If only Naruto knew about filtering Sasuke out of his life.
Then sasuke blow up leaf village
Naruto TH-cam is so weird.
at the end of the show Sasuke had a battle with Naruto then they became "best friends" and Sasuke helped the leaf village
Nerd
What
until now, I've never found a pointless video from this channel. that's why I've subscribed.
Canadian Girl she probably meant up until now.
Your videos are filled with wisdom
Thanks!
Where have these vids been all my life??
Love that, thanks!
You make great stuff ...this is what i need/needed in my life but you know i think its to late to change.yeah i say to other people it is never too late but i cant do it i have this huge huge problem with confidence ;( :) Keep up the work its good stuff for the kids
My favorite thing about this video, isn't just the information, but it's the fact you chose to present it one on one. With eye contact basically. Most youtube people have a bunch of pics and clips with a voiceover. This was a brave move, but it works. Very nice.
1.) No Matter What, I'll Be Okay
One time in a class I confided- at the absolute insistence of my teacher- that I had been evicted that same week. The class and teacher then berated me as a group and mentioned a nearby job fair as a solution. I was okay afterward, but I'm not going to volunteer vulnerable information first anymore. I know many say this, but I really have been through too much to do so any more. People have thrown past traumas in my face. Did they get filtered from my life? Of course. Am I 'okay'? Of course. But I still have those emotional scars, from opening up and being locked as a result. Please note that this advice (while incredibly well crafted) is not a catch-all if you have previous trauma and experiences which have caused PTSD and Depression. It's important to note that charisma is a situational trait.
Kit Pot dude you sound so smart when you speak
I can see that and I personally do not suffer from PTSD, but from what I have found dealing with other mental health conditions (ADD and rapid mood cycling bipolar), which have themselves led to some situations with regrettable outcomes, CBT can be therapeutic. If you don't know, simply put, CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is facing your fears. It was suggested to me by my psychiatrist, who is very experienced and professional, to treat my anxiety stemming from traumatic experiences caused by my biological difficulties - the reason why I think it could aid you. I'm no expert and I don't know the specifics of your situation, but maybe you can tackle your PTSD by finding a friend to become close with, enough to have trust in them, and open up to them. In essence, find a safer and more tolerant space to allow yourself to be vulnerable in and let the positive response replace the negative traumatic memories. I recognise that you say you've been through too much and of course it's not imperative to follow this, it just may be worth giving 'Cognitive Behavioural Therapy' a good research and see if you'd want to give it a shot. If you're currently doing well then that's good, but it might help you to open up to another person/other people as it can be healthy.
In essence 'No Matter What, I'll Be Okay' I think is meant to be advice as to how you approach a situation, not necessarily that it will always be true regardless. It's still important to assess the severity of what may go wrong as he says in the video, though he does use an extreme example. The mind is subjective so everyone reacts to things at a different degree. Additionally, I believe that it is useful as not only giving yourself confidence to do something, but to also put the response/repercussions of that action in perspective.
I hope that something I've said is helpful if you see this message. :)
1:27 "Probably better that you know, rather than using 6 months trying to figure out what signal she is sending" well.....
Should have seen this video 3 months ago... D:
Frederik Bøgelund Me too dude..4 months of wasted time:'/
I wasted a year xD
Try a year
Damn guys I just talk and when they do a few things that indicate interest then I get there number. Easy then I try to progress things and if she puts 3 road blocks up I move on.
You are amazing! I love all of your videos :)
Top 3 things he said I think are:
#1: Speak the truth.
#2: Stay focused on doing the right thing.
#3: No matter what you will be okay.
I've been binge-watching your video in the recent days, and I'm really thankful to you for creating these contents especially this video. I've been quite a negative person for years, with a dose of self-loathing. Watching your videos helped me a lot, especially the first 3 points because you emphasize on character building, instead of 'how to trick others to like me', I've been trying a lot in being more positive towards life and my own character, and I'm very grateful for your work man. I hope you continue to inspire a lot more people.
Here I am thinking I have enough knowledge in Psychology. I’m taking notes and slowly applying them in my life.
You’re so honest and on point!
I'm considered old, or at least when my grandmother was this age I considered her old. The information you just imparted in this video is probably the best 12 minutes of presentation that I've had in my life. I can't praise you enough for discovering these points and going them to us in a concise and clear presentation. Thank you.
Dude, I Iove your channel! Keep it up. Great content and so accessibly presented :)
About a year ago I suddenly realized all this same stuff. I agree 100,000% with this video. I had a deeply traumatic marriage and divorce, and finding my way as a single mother, with such stigma around it and so much judgment toward women in my situation, and my self esteem obliterated by my ex husband, I almost didn't make it and I struggled for years, but suddenly I had the thought, what if my positive thoughts have the same ability to create my world that my negative thoughts do? I started paying close attention to how happy, admirable, confident people lived their lives and I started mimicking it and just literally shoving my crippling negative thoughts out of my head and replacing them with positive, productive thoughts. Having overcome something that surely should have killed me and almost did, gave me the fearlessness needed to conquer every challenge I have met so far and also the ability to read people better than ever before. I love that this video so strongly confirmed everything I learned for myself this past year+.
+Kaela Bronan i hope u you to became more and more happy , i know that was too diffcult to you to learn through life ,not through a video . good luck.
😇😎💪🙆
Also youve learned a valuable thing: fuck marriage :D
Kaela Bronan wow this is awsome
3:00 Here's how you can be more lethal. You don't care what people think about you, good rule. But also, learn the art of people manipulation to play the other side too when needed.
This is propably the best channel on youtube.
No.
I wish I saw this at an early age, so much great stuff!
+MrCookieMonster Well how can you see this @ an early age??... It was published only on March 28, 2016!
...
Let's hope he's a troll
he said ''i wish i saw this at an early age'' he said ''wish'' so it doesnt matter when the video came out couse he would still ''wish'' he had seen it at an early age :) ppl should stop be so close minded
It's NEVER too late :)
You are truly one of the greatest TH-camrs. Professionalism, skill, and knowledge. It’s always a pleasure and up building watching your content.
Knowing that you genuinely care about the one watching the video makes me appreciate your video even more. World needs more people like you.
Appreciate the kind words
This young man is poised and set to take his world by storm. I see a great future for you sir. You belong to same level with great speakers like Tony Robbins, Les Brown, to mention but a few.
Appreciate the "huge" comment my man! Glad you liked the vid :-)
I started to incorporate some of your confidence/ charisma tips in my social life even tho I already felt pretty confident. And I did notice big changes! More and more often I find myself in a group where they all seem invested and interested in what I’m saying and I don’t get overheard anymore (with strangers or friends, it only gets hard in a group where everyone knows everyone else better than they know me, but that’s normal ig). I think i do some of the strategies intuitively but I’m also hyper aware of my and others body language, eye contact etc. to the point of it getting annoying. But I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Someone even told me I’ve got a talent to make people feel special and that really made me happy. I always try my best to really get to know someone and make them feel good about themselves while still having a blast on my own. I think I get closer and closer to where I want to be in terms of personal development. Just looking back a few years, I was like a completely different person back then. It’s amazing to not feel this social pressure anymore and to be free in expressing yourself. Thank you, as always, for your great advice, it really does help!
This video in particular is awesome to build character. I hope you keep on thriving in your social life, thanks for the extra motivation you gave me with your experience.
hey dude you're awesome
Appreciate that!
Yes, he is! I enjoy watching him speaking and moving! Keep on, you've got a good energy and good advices for us!
This is SUCH a good video. Love it.
Excellent video! Lead by example. Goes with the saying "Know thyself." From personal experience, I used to be very anxious to try new things, talk to new people or take opportunities, fearing the worst. So I watched a bunch of videos like this one and started pushing myself. What I discovered is this: "It's never as bad as you think it will be." It took some time for my brain to get used to that idea, but now, a few years later, I'm not nearly as hesitant to engage and I'm actually building up success in my life :) I go into situations without expectations and as a result, I'm always pleasantly surprised. Other people sense that, even online, and I've never built so many business relationships before in my life. I can still improve, but it's going in the right direction.
Favourite content on TH-cam of my year. Valuable tips. He's gorgeous too!
Here's how i think. YOU are in full control and power to create an emotional state in you and thoses around you whenever you want and no one can stop it. This is all in your energy that you give off. Nervous about going on a date? Just create that positve energy/vibe anyways without any reliance on recipropcation. People will either match your vibe or not and if they don't, then maybe question whether that person is someone you should be hanging out with. Positive energy wins always which you have the power to create at anytime without a care what other people think.
I have one question regarding "3. I have impeccable honesty and integrity."
How would you suggest anyone would manage a situation where the truth no matter how it's told and/or explain wouldn't be understood by the other party and where the situation can't be set into a gray area so it can only be truth or lies.
For example, you know someone(s) who's close to you and only wish for your happiness such as relatives. You decided to do something that is risky from their perspective for your own happiness and which they don't have the required knowledge to understand or you know their opinion is purely biased and still set into stone. Whenever they ask you about something either directly or indirectly related to it, you either have to lies until you reach results (against the risk) that could overthrown their knowledge/biased opinion or speak the truth and then lower their own happiness by adding the stress of failure into their mind?
I'm trying to be generic here, but if I had to put some examples:
(I'll be using the masculine, but it could be a man or a woman.)
1) If someone is some kind of spec ops operative who goes on risky missions. What's better for that person if a relative ask why he will be away for a couple of months and gets picky on the details? Should he tell the truth or should he lies a bit on parts that would make the relative overly stress on?
2) If someone own a business and while things are steady, there's no actual advancement and things seems to stall for the last 2 years. He has 2 choices... keeping things as it is which might fails later or searching for new ways of having actual advancement to his business (making it more successful) which involve high financial risks. He decide to take the risks. If his relative ask him how things are while they don't understand anything about the business' activities (or of ways of making it more successful), should this business owner explain things as they are or should he put a smoke screen over most of it so that his relatives doesn't stress over it?
I could bring a tons of similar situations. All implies someone doing something risky and get asked about it (directly or indirectly) by people who might not be able to manage the stress implying from knowing it. (Even more if those people who might stress over it could be affected by minor or major mental diseases such as regressing depressions or autism.)
Should positive lies (nicknamed "white lies") be avoided in those situation or not?
I would like some input on this matter. This video cover its barely because it's putting things in baskets, but it is something that makes 3) a lot harder to manage than what meets the eyes.
Thanks bro just wanted to go out of my way to show my support and tell you to keep up the great work, the one thing that resonated with me was "no matter what I'll be ok" Because there have been so many times where I didn't ask out that girl because of a what if scenario
it's brilliant
+1000REMBOY, Why did you have to put "Just Wanted To Go Out Of My Way" ? Just curious. What were you doing that you had to stop doing to leave a Comment?
+Steve Kongle Well to answer your question he didn't have to leave a comment, it is not mandatory to do so and because of that he did go 'out of his way' to leave that comment.
Gabriel Rodriguez if your already watching the video, then you leave a comment, that's not going out of your way....
+1000REMBOY imo best place is the subway or in dark alleys. just express yourself
I absolutely love your videos! So glad I found your channel. I don't understand why this channel is not the biggest one on TH-cam haha. Really looking forward to all of your new videos and thanks for making me happy while watching them. Greetings from Germany
+VeganEasy °Wow! All the way from Deutschland, so happy to have you!
Probably the best video I’ve ever seen.
Mindset is the key! When you learn how to think in the right way, everything else will becomes easier or even unnecessary!
I was half expecting manipulative BS.
But I'm glad this was all actually not just compatible but is pretty much the same as socially being a good, decent and happy human being.
would definitely recommend to anyone.
going through a rough patch and your shit really helps. thanks bro, kinda reminds me of old youtube!
+VDuro1 °Knowing it helps you, makes the effort really worthwhile. Thanks!
I swear, I stay up all night basically studying these videos. Like seriously I can't be the only one sitting here with a pen and paper taking notes! You are amazing man, thanks for helping me better myself. I'm just waiting for a situation where I can apply all this. ❤️
Your channel is full of gold. I'm pretty interested in your course. Pretty sure I'm going to get it in the next few months. I feel your icon doesn't do much for your brand though. Your thumbnails are great, but I don't think anyone is going to really recognize your awesome brand in that icon because those 3 words are difficult to read with that font when its displayed really small most screens.
+FargoKraft Great point! Haven't thought about the icon in years, but it could definitely use an upgrade
+Charisma on Command FAN SUBMISSIONS
+FargoKraft u get glasses
(it must be your fault judging by the reply I received)
+goldkhw haha XD
Yeah...you def need a better icon. I just discovered your channel yesterday, and have blazed through your videos. Really interesting power of persuasion material here. And you present it all wonderfully. But...that icon just flat out sucks. ;) Make an impactful iconographic image/symbol that people would recognize instantly and associate with your channel.
Dam, this guy knows his stuff.. Keep it up man, subbed
Welcome to the channel!
I feel like u r that one guy who when he has to present a project, or sales pitch etc, he just nails it, and is flowing with confidence!
I came here for the magnetic powers.....
I was robbed!
JohnQRandom
A bit tingley....
I went by your "No matter what, I will be okay" mindset and now I 'm being hit with multiple sexual harassment lawsuits
this dude is doing a great service to humanity
Amazing video, Charlie!
I really appreciate your mindset and am so happy that you've decided to make these videos.
All the best,
Andrew
“I care more about my character than my reputation” is literally the most difficult thing to apply to my social life. I care SO MUCH what other people think about me that I try to hide my weird but funny personality so people will not think of me as “weird”. I’m trying to fix it.
If this helps what works for me is rather than trying to fix it, I ignore the feelings. Trying to not care about something is ironically keeping those thoughts significant. Just focus on what you want to do and base your actions off that.
You want to get rid of those thoughts and to stop it affecting your life but when you try it's keeping the thoughts in your head and still affecting your life. If you *ignore* anything about petty social implications then you are genuinely removing it from your mind which is what you want to do.
Basically rather than trying to stop thinking about what people's opinions are, allow yourself to think about it when it occurs to you, but change your reaction to it.
It's like somebody provoking you to fight them. Trying to stop the person from insulting you will either lead to eventually fighting or will inconvenience you in some other way. However, if you ignore the person then you can continue what you're doing unaffected.
Bit long but hope it helps, it's been useful for me :)
We made that one up... thank you so much 🙏
Wow, so many people NEED to hear that part about how lying to others actually harms THEM! The world would be such a better place is more people realized that. Thank you for sharing this great video.
Did anyone else watch this hoping they'll be like magneto?
Yes, I thought I'd gain metal bending superpowers.
+ultrafly100 me to
I, too, came for mutant powers
on 'Charisma on Command' channel?
That was quite ambitious.
Instructions unclear, dick stuck in toaster.
i should watch this video once a day. you're so wise!
Thanks for watching!
This is def one of your more important videos about being charismatic from within. I love it.
~ Thanks Abigael! Glad you're loving it. :-)
Thank you for the advice Mr Old Joker's smile
+Arturo Cuya °Thanks! Haha!
+Arturo Cuya Seriously, I said it on another video, he should play the joker on the next batman reboot.
ez money
He looks nothing like Joker; he's way too handsome to act as Joker.
Charlie, great job on your channel. I have a feeling one day it will be big like Brandon Burchard's. I've learned a lot. May God bless you.
Nadiah Johari Ramzan well, joker is handsome too...
I feel sad that I did not discover your channel much earlier! Your video's are amazing, they're helping out a lot :)
Welcome aboard!
had a bad day, now i'm feeling much better by just watching this channel. thank you and cheers from Italy
Loved the video man! Keep up the good work, I'll be sure to write this down somewhere and say it to myself every morning. And to be honest, I think these are great philosophical tips, in plain simple terms most people can understand, which is like, another level of awesome.
+keltic07 Wow! Thank you for nailing what I really intend to do with my channel. Glad you get it.
I'm straight but this guy's testing me. Haha, good video brother.
Then you're not straight.
you're borderline homosexual
no straight guy would even think that.
+Dexter Morgan I swear I didn't listen to half of the vid because I was mesmerized...
+Deus Ex Persona yeah that sounds like you caught the gay, bro
Man, this channel has all the answers to questions I had as a teenager. If I had this channel back then I would have saved myself a LOT of pain and wasted time.
When Charlie says "Cut that shit out" and you just weren't ready for it 😂
This is brilliant. New follower.
your awesome!! Everything u said is absolutely true. it makes me realize how many people are not Charismatic, but instead are rude, obnoxious and controlling. Thanks for the video
this.... this right here is exactly what I meant on my last comment. this shows how to naturally build this way of thinking that will let people interact naturally without over thinking. amazing video
Appreciate the "huge" comment my man! Glad you liked the vid :-)
+Charisma on Command no problem man. I really love the subject you choose to take on. it's a tough one and you tackl3 it on a very simple easy to understand way. really good job.
I've been requesting this for months now. Please do a Jack Nicholson analysis (facial expression/ tonality /etc)!
Appreciate it.
I don’t know if it’s through your research or experience or both, but the content and the way you are presenting it is sooo relatable. I recently realised some of these things but find it hard to explain it to people or for that matter to myself.
Thank you for these videos! I have huge respect for you guys!
omg i love this channel
Bro you're a fucking boss. This is some of the most valuable advice anyone can have. Keep up the good work! :)
I think you are one of the best motivational people I have met on TH-cam. Keep up on what you are doing.
I really relate to the lying part. When talking about experiences that happened to me, I would slightly milk the story to make me seem like an interesting person. It actually bothers me I do this, but i never thought this was one of the reasons it was lowering my self-esteem
Great job bud
+Joel Peraza Thanks!
This video has changed my life completely. It is SO SIMPLE! Just start with one of these and fully commit and you will have all of them and your life will be beyond your current dreams!
Wow! That was super insightful and helpful. l like how your ideas are down-to-earth and straight to the point.
How to fight that “fatigue” introvert feel when attempting to iníciate small talk
@Rosa Frederiksen Not too much though lol, although it does help. I had a date earlier this year and I prepared some subjects so I felt comfortable that I wouldn't run out of things to talk about hehe :)
@Rosa Frederiksen Great actually, but what happened after is a sad story haha, unfortunately we were not meant to be in the end
@Rosa Frederiksen I am :) Rough time behind me though but I am glad I'm over it!
Love the idea of valuing your character over reputation.
Hey mate, really inspiring video! thank you so much
+Glenn Wehrmann -- Appreciate that mate :-)
+Shane McNab age doesn't matter.
A tip on learning from this video. dont just listen, relate the situations to yourself. Think and remember about the situations. This is obvious but if you really want to learn, wake the f up.
You are my brother across the oceans. I believe in these fundamental points and I make them govern my thoughts and actions. Listening to you is like listening to me speaking out loud. 🙏
I've smashed about 8 videos and i only found your channel what seems like 5 minutes ago haha!
haha same here.. I really need his videos
It hurts your charisma, unless you are a sociopath. If you have no emotional investment in other people, it becomes much easier to lie with total conviction. The trick, is to trick yourself into believing your nonsense. It's not healthy but that's how good salesmen sell things they have no confidence in, if you can fool yourself into believing it, most other people will as well. I convinced a relatively intelligent person that they sky was purple once. All it takes is a nearly sociopathic level of emotional disconnect and belief. Over the last few years I have had to devote a huge amount of my personal development towards becoming more honest. Because I spent so many years lying that I realized I would lie to people even when the truth would have been better. When I realized that I started putting forth a lot of effort to change that aspect of myself.