Psychopathy ....When The Mask Begins to Slip featuring Sandra L. Brown and host Jenna Stauffer
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- Sandra L. Brown, M.A., is the founder of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education. She is a former psychotherapist, community educator on pathological love relationships, clinical lecturer and trainer, TV and radio guest, and an author. Her books include the highly popular How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, the award winning Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, as well as the clinically relevant Counseling Victims of Violence: A Handbook for Helping Professionals.
Sandra is recognized for her pioneering work in women's issues related to relational harm from dangerous and pathological partners. She specializes in the development of Pathological Love Relationship training for other professionals and the development of survivor-based support services. The Institute is the only formal Model-of-Care approach for survivors and offers the largest available array of products and services related to this population. Her books, CD's, DVD's, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women's organizations and shelters, women's jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, psychology and sociology programs, and distributed in almost every country of the world. Her books have been translated into several languages.
Psychopaths are slippery. When one describes to other people the actions of what a psychopath has done, it's difficult to explain, and you can end up looking like the crazy one.
Confusion
K-max That's something I thought of recently when trying to explain to an attorney what had been going on in his finances. I found she was treating me like I wasn't making sense. If you try to explain the things that a psychopath does, other people think you are crazy. Surely no one in their right mind could be the person we describing, but I'm glad to hear you say this because I was worrying that maybe I was succumbing to his gaslighting.
Now his new wife is perplexed because she looked at him through Rose Colored Glasses. She couldn't believe I would divorce him after 25 years,
@@GS-st9ns when dealing with a psychopath and trying to explain their behavior to others, it seems very bizarre and unreal to them. It's difficult for the victim to comprehend what is happening to them, and trying to bring others onboard is like speaking a foreign language to them. It's very pathological, and most people lack awareness and skills to provide support to deter psychopaths. Right, some psychopaths aren't physically violent, but they have a psychological hold on their victims. In my opinion, psychological abuse is far more devastating than physical abuse. Psychological abuse stays with you for a lifetime
BINGO! My family all turned against me because they believed my mom's lies.
Everyone thinks we're CRAZY. No one believes us.
It is the WORST TYPE of experience. It is NOT something you can put into complete words. It is unbelievably HORRFIC. The Mind games are excruciating.
Remember Lucifer is the prince of air. They like to hook you mentally that way they keep you connected to them so they can feed on you. They are vampires 💀👽👻
I live with on he gives all women the creeps . Some people say he doesn't even seem really Hallow like he's just dead. A Vampire 👻👽💀
It is horrific. I just ended a 3 year “relationship” with a psychopath which was nothing more than a fraud from the very beginning
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Yeah, usually when I've seen this claim the person is either a sadist or a narcissist, not a psychopath.
@@mesozoicperiodvlogs8323 Are you a psychiatrist? If not, you cannot ethically, legally, or medically diagnose someone.
until you experience it, you won't believe this...
+Cara Sim very true!
+Cara Sim True, i am one myself and have 2 sociopathic friends.
sad is 95% ppl still know shit about psychopathy...one rly has to experience it to know
Aleaiactaest Mixedmartialarts Yet i have, multiple times.
:( Everyone including sociopaths should practise Vipassana meditation for a better life.
I am a man and I have met psychopaths. They are very charming and charismatic, but deep down there is a viscous streak in them. They are also master manipulators and emotional blackmailers. It is good to be able to identify them before they wreak havok in your life.
medjugorje85 nothing to do with psychopathy, but what does the "N" in your profile picture stand for? yes I know arab letters
vicious streak if you fuck with them. Anyone can do that though. They just go the distance and aren't afraid as much as others.
That's my two bosses and nobody will address the issue! I'm the only one in the whole department brave enough to go to Human Resources and that was totally useless. Leaders and persons in power positions back each other whether or not they believe they are being unfair.
What is emotional blackmail?
Even if you spot them early doesn't mean you can shake them off when they're out to get you.
I entered the relationship being a “boss” at work and in my life. When I was able to walk out 4 years later my best friend pointed out to me that I was asking her for her approval of whether or not I should get a bottle of water because I was thirsty.
I am soo empty, soo low right now. I am where you were. I cannot believe it, but i realize I am not now, nor will I ever be, the same person I was the day he asked me out. The fateful day that I said yes. I MUST completely reinvent myself and my life. I MUST learn how to live again. Baby steps. I feel I am a recovering addict. I suppose I actually am. I have been soo alone. Soo frightened. Terrorized. Terrified. I am still trying to escape the fog of the worst nightmare of my existence
@@lauralee8025 I'm really sorry your having a tough time , my husband is one , I have told him I knew he usually gets upset but yes they will suck the life at out you . remember to take care of yourself also don't challenge them
Very informative. Bless you!
@lauramoyabeauty I had the same thing. I was actually in a leadership position at work and ended up having to step down. My memory failed, diagnosed with major depressive disorder. It took my workmates of over 10 years to point out my decline. 😞
Same here, you are not alone. I’m a very powerful woman, over everything I want my brain back. I wish I never answered his call.
One thing that helps the cognitive dissonance is the statement ‘I choose’. I choose to make today amazing, I choose to release the influence of x-person, I choose to understand that I was not in a real relationship with x-person. I choose to trust myself and my instincts, I choose to think peaceful thoughts.
I’m struggling with severe PTSD symptoms in where I have memory loss and involuntary obsessive thinking (the trying to figure out what happened), disassociation and major depressive episodes.
I’m holding light for all of you out there who encountered or where energetically mauled by these primates - calling up healing energy ♥️
I had a boss who was a sociopath..Very dangerous and damaging.. I've seen her ruin people's career and reputation by spreading lies and rumors about them behind their back.. she was also a habitual liar and manipulator. Absolutely the worst experience of my life. The only good thing that came out of it is that I can spot these parasites much easily now.
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Married to a psychopath for 20 years here. Very validating. Thank you. They suck the life out of you.
He enjoyed altering reality, duper’s delight and the thought of, “can I actually get away with this?” He kept me preoccupied with judging everyone else’s character so that I didn’t get around to judging his.
This sounds exactly identical to the psychopath I lived with for years. The gas lighting, the complete lack of empathy, false police reports against me....everything. I finally abandoned ship when I caught her hiding butcher knives in the bedroom. Oh, and by the way. My psychopath was a FEMALE!
My sister is like that with her partner she always calls the cops with false reports she tried it on me even i cant comprehend her thought process. The cops are on to her though they almost took her kids. Poor things living a life of mental abuse
+Johnny Wayne Well, I'd say slightly more than half our population is psycho --- at least once a month.
Yes. There are many, many female psychopaths.
+Johnny Wayne yes, many are male (seems like majority according to statistics) but yes female as well. good for you for jumping ship in time; stay safe. having experienced this as well (mine was male, began collecting other things, but will not get into it) believe the truth that you know and dont expect anyone else to, stay strong. and I pray for her next victim ugh- that the y have same wisdom as you did
+Sherbe Lee I think the studies currently indicate that psychopathy affects about 1 or 2 % of the population, and that male psychopathy is more prevalent and severe than female psychopathy.
If you watch this and you have started to cry is because you know what happened to you.
Good luck. I hope you get through this.
13 years with a psychopathic wife, the mask has slipped and all hell is about to break loose. Pray for me!
Prayers are with you. Best of luck to you .I 've been there, know you are not alone.
unless you experience this you have no idea the levels of mind fuck. when I finally realized who I was with, I called him on it. the shocking thing was he didn't deny. he looked at me and knew I knew gig was up. he couldn't wait to get away from me.
Yes, exactly the same for me too on that
They can't face us cos we know their lies.
@George V A lazy or highly effective one would mr George V😆
George V “1 in 25” is baseless
Wandering Free yes my husband too. And once they know you are onto them they quickly replace you for some other trusting or naive person.
My husband had everyone fooled and I looked like the crazy one. He even twisted everything around when we went to a marriage councillor and had the guy thinking he was wonderful and basically what was my problem. 🤷♀️ they will run you into the ground until your a used up wreck and then quickly move onto fresh meat. Be vigilant and once you know you go!
They con professionals. There's no winning.
Kathy Venne yes con artists! They had us fooled to begin with
That's why they can pass a polygraph... they have no conscience or fear
Is it true that some Psychopaths never kill?
Just like Jada I’d doing will
I was in a controlling and extremely abusive marriage for 30 years before I got out. My husband wore his 'mask' like a champ and till this day, he's 60 now, people who didn't work with him or live with him still think he walks on water. These people are pure evil, vengeful, manipulative and unconscionable.
Like minds travel together. They are attracted to other abusers.
Everyone fall's for them.
@Jen farmer Exactly, i was just about to say that. She noticed, but still got married to him. Says A Lot...
Generally they are covert narcissist, and these people can be dangerous, sneaky, conniving, and viscous. And they have the outside fooled for the most part.
I knew an old “friend” who showed back up in my life was not ok in many ways... borrowing money he never paid back, lies, manipulation, etc. But what did it for me was when he accidentally texted his family member all these lies about me. He actually referred to me as an “it”, not even a human being. He also was telling everyone I was crazy I found out. It was profound to read these things in his texts when he did not know I was watching his true evil self emerge. I immediately knew this was what he was. When I let him know what he did. He went silent for a few mins and then he blamed me for his actions and behavior. It was all such foreign behavior to me because I never thought someone could treat me this way for no reason. Just like you, I used to hear these videos and think: this could never happen to me, and that somehow I could be good enough to “change him”. But those texts did it for me. To “see/hear” yourself being discussed as if you are not even human...it was not only extremely shocking, painful, etc., it was scary as hell.
Just like Cain blamed Abel for murdering him. These people are serpent seeds. Offspring of Cain.
Reese Daniel my god yes they are.
Maybe you are an INFJ
It took me 26 years to come to grips with the fact that my exwife was a complete narcissistic sociopath, it will take me another 26 years to ever trust a woman again...
When everything is supposedly "your fault"...you start to believe it must be. A psychopath destroys their "partner". My husband ended up taking his own life. He is still destroying me because not only do I not trust men, I don't trust my own judgement.
Having taken 22yrs for mine I am so with you on this Rob.
Hope by now you are further forward on your recovery.
Perhaps like me a very small win was learning what she is enabled me to understand everything that had happened in the previous two decades. Plus, I no longer had to try to get her to change. She won't as she can't. Meanwhile I know why she has behaved as she had over all that time. I can never get back the wasted time but at least knowing she has ASPD/sociopathy explains it all.
I don't want to hide behind her diagnosis, though her difficult and loveless behaviour certainly triggered me to behave unfaithfully but, it sure explains where the real root cause of our problems lay. In that sense I can hold my head high. I am sure you can too.
@@Set5087 totally get the lack of trust in others and ur own judgment x
It won't be easy, but healing is possible, prayers.
I was married to a psychopath, this is spot on.
Me too .I am dealing with so much depression and self doubt that I don’t trust anyone and don’t know who am I.
Stephanie Fouts, you are too precious to be with a narcissist 😈!
@@lioydwilliams1850 bruh
Very interesting. I ve been through this. Took me years to revover. I had only recently began to realise perhaps I am living with a form of PTSD as a result of the mental abuse. The hardest part of recovery has been letting go of the habit of blaming and critisising myself. Recovery is lifelong.
and self love is the key ;-)
Linda Reid,I admire your lovely smile
Dear Linda, your words have helped me. Thank you. Bless you!!
Assault and battery
Cognitive dissonance! I was trying to describe the "he's good/he's bad" state of confuse. GET THERAPY! No one will believe you! They will grow tired of listening, say that you are "exaggerating things".
Indi Genius my favorite response is “move on with your life” Lolol..
THIS!
He’s got me all sorts of confused. It’s at the point where he gets me overthinking myself to death and now I wonder if I really AM the bad guy. I know I don’t set out to purposely hurt anyone but my mind is tripping. I lose sleep. Part of my brain thinks he’s not so bad but the other part remembers how he gets when he’s upset. Calling me names or grouching at me, then when I defend myself... I’m the one starting a fight with him. The fight stops being about anything of substance and ends up being about how I said something accusingly. Omg I can’t. My brain hurts. My body hurts. Is all of that part of the cognitive dissonance?
@@bluedawning22 yes, unfortunately.
What a terrible nightmare to be married with a Narc for 20 or more years. I left my relationSHIT after 5 months. That was exactly 5 months too long.
Relationshit. Good one!
I recognized this in my ex back in Jan of 2016. He came knocking on my door in March of this year to "apologize". Long story short, I gave him another chance, even tho I KNEW, he was incapable of changing. He didn't disappoint. This time, I'm taking the blame because I knew better!!
Why do people get back in bad relationships? It's an insane concept. People need to just move on.
Trauma bond. ^
Please, be kind to yourself, as you would to any other vulnerable person. They are attracted to us because of how we were taught to live, think, etc. when we were young. It takes time to heal all the layers 💙🙏🏻🙏🏻
I feel like the wind just got knocked out of me. Yes to all of this, especially the dichotomy part when I started seeing two sides of him. It confused me so much because nothing was making sense, on one hand he was the most loving person and made me feel like I was the center of his world, but then he would also be unbelievably callous and if for example my car broke down on a country road in winter and I called him for help, he'd be like I'm taking a nap figure it out yourself. Then when I wouldn't talk to him for three days he'd show up, bawling his eyes out because I'm gone, and somehow make it seem that he was a victim of some weird circumstance and by the end I would end up apologizing to him and I'd feel grateful he was giving me another chance to be a better girlfriend. It's only been three days since I left him and I've been so confused I started looking for answers on the internet. Glad I found this, thank you.
Get away from him, adapt a 'couldn't care less attitude, don't look for apology they are meaningless anyway, find a new social outlet, were he has never been. Be glad you discovered truth before you got too emessed. Listen to your gut feelings, don't brush under carpet. There's a new safe world out there go to it, good luck!
I had these problems with my husband also. But he had changed so much i took him to a neurologist for a brain scan, suggested by a marriage counselor. Turns out he had a rare firm of dementia, bvFTD or Frontotemporal Degeneration with Behavioral Varient. Causes them to lose empathy, they lose their sense of right and wrong, no impulse control, due to the destruction of certain areas of the brain. It's a genetic disease and ends in death, due to ALS type symptoms. It strikes people at young ages. My husband exhibited symptoms at least from age 50. He passed away when he was 65. It can begin even younger. Might be worth looking into. Don't waste your time with any doctor other than a neurologist, no one else knows much about it and it will take forever to get a diagnosis.
Oh no, this is 3 years late, but I hope you were able to stay away from him. He sounds not only unstable but he engages in gaslighting. This seems to be happening soon into the relationship, and even though early enough, you were able to catch it. Cut your losses early and move on, I hope you did or you still can. Whether you left him or not, keep strong and be wise to their tactics. There are many many other videos and books that explain and describe devoid people like this. Good thing you stumbled onto this one channel.
I hope it's not too late. It gets worse not better to be in a relationship with these Cluster Bs, as time goes on. Stay strong and safe!
Yes, and I completely agree with the previous poster - the incident with your car is a huge red flag of him displaying no empathy! Imagine if it was worse, or you broke down on a deserted road in the middle of nowhere in the cold. Or worse! This is dangerous. Run.
@S Robin yes! Happy to hear you knew too listen to the red flags, leave him at the curb and run the other way!
Thank you for the succinct explanation of what it is like to be on the receiving end of this. It is beyond painful. Any kind of abuse is bad, but this kind of abuse is so invisible most of the time that most therapists fall into the trap of helping the victim help "work" on the problem inside of their patient when in reality it's not the victim, it's the victim trying to deal with the mind split effect of interacting with one of these people!!!
Right on point. Three years after discard, I still can't sleep, think or function, but I'm working on it with a great therapist now.
My ex told me he would chop my head off if I ever left him. I had to be very careful getting out. But I did. . .
+Juanita Richards. Hi again Juanita, your ex told you he would chop your head off...!!, how crazy is that your more likely to leave someone who tells you that.., however it took me years to discover that my mother was a psychopath (political in nature) and that my two older sibling sisters carried the same trait eventually attempted to murder my father and possibly murdered my brother in law...
+keith kelly I got locked out of my google page and couldn't get nack in so had to open a new one. yes, I was trapped in a foeign country though with no money and two small children, and no supportive family back home. So getting out was very difficult and took a long time, and I had to be very very careful. He knew I wanted out for a long time, so I had to lull him into a false sense of security. And I got help from an unexpected source to get out
Doesn't have anything to do with psychopathy unless he was diagnosed or actually had real signs
@Tiny Tina Oh, I figured out the game long before I was able to escape. I knew he was projecting his own crazed behaviour and traits onto me. I knew he was gaslighting me. I knew he was a potential family annihilator and it wasn't only my life in danger but our 2 kids as well. He was cold and detached from them. Nothing like a real father. It was a shocking revelation to me but realize it I did.
@@emiliagustafssonchuah7472 He is a psychopath and narcissist in one. You have no idea. The things he did to us........a potential family annihilator who did not care about his children at all except in ways he could use them to hurt me.....and he hurt them in every way you can imagine. Beaten, bashed and starved for days at a time. Left alone at night time in an isolated house with no phone, and a gang of strange men coming to the house at midnight wanting me to let them in for a drink of water, knowing I was alone there with a newborn and a 3 year old, and they were unsmiling and unfriendly.......one of them holding a length of rope in his hands twisting it around in his hands........I was terrified. If not for the bars on the inside of the windows and doors they could easily have broken the glass and gotten in. I know he sent them to scare me........and when we moved to a basement flat and the landlady upstairs had a phone and I got calls from an anonymous "admirer" who wanted to meet with me in secret.........what stranger would have my married with children's land lady's phone number? My husband had it.........These dangerous mind games........only a psychopath would even think them up.
I only wish I had found this information years ago! This is an important set of tools for all victims of these predators! Absolutely a MUST HAVE!!
THANK YOU SOO MUCH!
Lauralyn Lee,hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
@@lioydwilliams1850 I WAS
with a narcissist. It was the BEST and the WORST time of my life. I'm lucky I got out alive
@@lauralee8025 you deserve better my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?
@@lioydwilliams1850 I'm from texas
@@lauralee8025 wow!,are you on hangouts or Gmail so we can always talk?
I wish they wouldn't say women are the only victims. I am a man and I was recently experienced a relationship with a sociopath (albeit he was a man). I never knew what hit me. I suspected he could be a socio/psycho when things were not making sense, but I didnt have evidence. when i found "evidence" i didn't want it to be true and I finally understood what "cognitive dissonance" meant.
Nobody said women are the only victims. She is talking about women victims. Find the videos taking about how all women are psychopaths and all psychopaths are women if that's what you're looking for. There are TONS them. Search "men are horrible" and the vast majority are videos about how horrible women are. Search "women are horrible" and you'll get all videos about how horrible women are. Have a nice day.
worst part is how they are able to turn literally anyone against you.
I saw the mask fall off my ex (Psychopath) today. And another time few weeks ago. It's so different to the fake love stage, its like looking into the sun.
THIS explains why I couldnt function and lost my job. it was because of the cognitive dissidence after having been gas lighted for so long. none of it made sense. I couldnt believe it and didnt want to believe it. It was indeed the beginning of the hell and trauma. I have yet to recover. I am still dealing with the whole shitery.
been there, lost my job too. had been good at it. couldn't function. couldn't sleep. panic attacks. auditory hallucinations. diagnosed PTSD. my system has changed because of my relationship with this man. and all those years, he said the bad part of us, the problem, completely and entirely, was me. and it was sad because I would never change. why couldn't I just be a normal girlfriend?
I bought it all because cognitive dissonance is so, so powerful. my psychiatrist and therapist don't mention it much but I think it helps me process a lot of trying to understand that blur whirlwind of why I put up with that such such utter horribleness and numbness and loss of self and identity and job and intellectual gifts and cheerfulness and desire to help others and hope for the future and goals. I'm a shell of who I was, he discarded me 3 years ago and quickly...married after dumping me (had her lined up I'm sure). Cog dissonance is so powerful and fitting for me, though. I knew being with him that though he was so attractive and tall and wanted and smart and rich and admired, and he said everything that was the opposite of who I am directly to my face, I did an internal laugh and eye roll. I was present in the relationship but never fully there. Humor left me and that's my top trait. We never joked. He wouldn't have gotten my humor. Why waste my talent on an inhuman spiritual vampire like him? He told me I don't really get along well with others, I'm socially awkward and weird. High conflict. Pictures from college on Facebook and my many lifelong friends would say the opposite. I had one fight with a roommate that he knew of. I lived with the other girls for years. Despite being the "Tom Brady" of our professional field--law--he is the most insecure person I know. Not sure if tied to his psychopathy, but he may be a narcissist as well. He yelled at me for being socially awkward because ONE party we went to over the course of our second year together was stocked and fun and a birthday party for my friend. I had some drinks, it was kind of early, lights were still on with a handful of people there. I laughed with someone else about the cabinets in the kitchen then stood by the fridge surveying the room. That night he laid into me when we were home because I had "slammed his toilet seat," (not really....I needed the seat because I'm a peeing female) and am an angry and weird person at my core because I stood in the kitchen corner for a few seconds not talking to anyone...before I moved to the couch and played video games with another cute male law student who sat too close and smiled a lot.
Don't date psychopaths!
what about Mrs Hyde? or Ms Hyde? or Miss Hyde? not all psychopaths are male.
Absolutely
tRUMP is a classic example of Narcissistic Personality Disorder...not psychopathy.
+le th Every single celebrity, athelete, public figure, reporter, writer, famous person, fits the criteria.
So, add Leonardo D., George Clooney, Obama, Hillary and Bill Clinton to your list as well. They love themselves very much.
le th how the fuck do you know trump isn't a physcopath you don't know him!!!!
Annette Gillham don't talk so stupid n dumb!!!
I am in the healing process now, it was horrible!... She is very beautiful, charming and sweet. Unfortunately they perform very well and you believe them... :(
+Stasik C. I am deeply sorry to hear that you have met pure evil like me. If life puts in our life such a Monster I have no doubt that we will meet our soul mate one day. I wish you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year, take care :)
Really? So if someone is very sweet and charming..could be faking it?
cristine punla It’s called love bombing. They create a fake, kind persona to tru k you into falling for them. But it is just a lie, a “mask” as the narrator says.
cristine punla They lay on the charm to get something out of you. They pretend to be nice and care so you give or do something for them.
S*x, financial aid/a place to live, maybe you have a nice car they can "borrow" one day, maybe they just like to see you get "scared" at their pranks, maybe you are rich enough to take them on vacation to France every summer?
Either way, they keep you around not because they like YOU, they keep you around because you have something they want and when you find out about them or they get bored, they drop you. They find somebody new, because they never cared, they just used you.
@@cristinepunla419 duh
What is clear to me, as a clinician working with psychopaths (and sociopaths) is that I am often there alone with my feelings despite an hour long dialogue.
I believe that there is a direct link between psychopathy, narcissism, or personality disordered people, and Domestic abuse/violence it does not get talked about nearly half as much as it should. Excellent video
This is such a difficult area that most people do not understand. Thank you for posting this. 11 years living with a person you describe to a T and I'm picking up the pieces, but grateful to be relatively unscathed compared to others who have lost so much more. But the emotional damage from cognitive dissonance is severe. I have read Sandra's book "How to Spot a Dangerous Man" twice through now and I highly recommend that book to help prevent getting involved with anyone similar again. You'll be able to recognize the red flags and bail before getting hooked in next time! Read that book!
Lisa Maturo, hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
My father is a psychopath, his life to an outsider looks clean but in his personal life it's chaos , he starts relationships with woman after woman because they either leave him because of his lack of emotional response and ability to care, or he cheats on them, he's a serial cheater . My whole life I've never ever seen him show concern or remorse not once
He also leads a double life of sorts , when he's drunk it comes out his violent impulse, he has tried to strangle two girlfriends .
He gives me the creeps and he's my own dad his energy is black, later on I found out things from his exes he had done that were completely disturbing and scary ... The worst part is he is a social worker and respected in the community
He always left me alone because I went along with whatever he wanted to do , and didn't bother him .. but in the end I saw how calloused he can be , I moved in with him to our family home when he lost everything in his last divorce , and he ended up in a relationship with a Thai woman , who wanted him to sell his house so she could buy and sell more gold 😴 and my dad being really impulsive kicked me out with no notice no warning and left me homeless so he could sell the house to have money to impress his new girlfriend 🙂😂 while I was heavily pregnant, and he was the one who begged me to move in and he left me homeless during the housing crisis.... so even if you feel close to these people and they might not turn on you , their lack of ability to love can be really tragic.
I think I have an unhealthy obsession with proving to myself that my ex was on the psychopathy spectrum.
Alison Davis, you got a lovely smile
Having an unhealthy obsession IS the proof.
The fact you are searching what the. Hell happened, means you have been abused by a master manipulator
If it bothers you, just substitute she for he in your mind, what she says it true for both male and female psychopaths.
The reason she primarily uses 'he' for a psychopath, because statistically there are more men psychopaths.
@@ningirsu9606 nobody knows what gender has more psychopaths than the other, stats don't cut it. Everybody should be aware these people are out there in both the male and female sexes. Its very foolish to think because its a woman she must be ok, most men don't report these things, because it deflates their masculinity to be manipulated and dominated by a woman. Also today's capitalist society is a breeding ground for psychopath's and their ilk.
@@spirgtudsrubec7776 If I would argue for your case, I'd rather say the stats are the way they are because women are innately more social,more understanding of subtleties, and are regarded as more emotionally unstable thus easier for them to hide. Or simply there are more men psychopaths, that's all. It does not negate your experience of perhaps suffering at the hands of a female psychopath. :)
Ningirsu 9 All you have stated in your reply are more stats, plus one other thing, you made an assumption about me perhaps suffering at the hands of a female psychopath. In my opinion we can not presume whether man or woman is the worst predator, what we can do is be on the lookout for the signs that let us know when we are dealing with one.
@@spirgtudsrubec7776 Yeah. A completely uneccessary conversation.
Sometimes its not about you being a psychopath that you become cold towards someone. When you are exposed to someone elses fluctuating emotions day in and day out it becomes very difficult to keep giving a fuck. Especially when its over trivial things.
the gut is like your second brain it's warning you run people i came out feeling like I'd been hit with a Mac truck feeling heaps better thanks to my family and all you amazing youtubers and the comments thankyou all I bet you've saved countless amounts of lives I know you've helped me keep my sanity
So insightful; I wish I could have heard all this forty years ago.
Once they get exposed properly they will discard anyone including family , friends and spouse's..
absolutely
My take is regardless of her reference to (he) as the narc we all know a narc can be either sex and they destroy beautiful people.
Her information is crucially valuable and needs to be taken seriously.
Don't shoot the messenger
Germana Rovinelli The word he is part of the information is it not? Just because we all know,( whoever we all are) does not mean others will not be influenced by the fact she stated he, all through the interview. Which gives the impression that males are the predators and not females.
Germana Rovinelli,your lovely smile can make the news
I had that experience this summer. I described it on LinkedIn. Predators should be exposed for the whole world to see.
Thank you so much for making the distinction between psychopathic trauma and PTSD. Sandra Brown's work is so important, because the psychological and psychiatric communities are so ignorant about this type of abuse, victims often go untreated or worse.
I've been diagnosed with PTSD from long term childhood trauma and the subsequent abuse pattern I've suffered ... with no effective treatment or even finding a Dr that understands...
Scott Carter Me either. In more cases than not, I was blamed and asked to "change" myself FOR my abusers. I don't think the counselor's meant how that came across, but that's how it came across. I didn't need to "change," I needed to know what was going on, then go away! There's no other way when you're dealing with a narc.
agreed, only that I sometimes feel I have a bullseye on my back and attract abusive types and I grow so tired of always being on the lookout
Scott Carter You name I got it... bulls eye, kick me sign, target, and doormat tattooed on my forehead... that's called a "professional victim". Looking into that, gave me a bit of insight. But you'll find, there's way more predator's out there than you thought - they come in all different flavors.
I think you are confusing "professional victim". That is a passive aggressive tactic for control and avoiding responsibility for ones own actions... That is not in anyway shape or form what I was referring to as "having a bullseye" ... In short, I tend to be kind and friendly and also open... Kindeness in todays world is often perceived as weakness, openness is seen as foolishness and being friendly to strangers is seen as desperation... Allot of my behavior is just how I was raised to be, and just doesn't fit into todays urban society's ... what you see is what you get with me and I pride myself for taking responsibility for my actions good or bad..and that above all makes me a target to those that actively blame others for their screw ups, ineptitude and incompetence... that's what I mean by "bullseye" ..Being an Honest person is a severe handicap is todays world... I refuse to give up and cave in to an amoral society...
In the late 1980s I was about 2 years into my marriage with “Joe” not his real name) that I began to see that some of his stories didn’t make sense. When I questioned him, he got angry. I began to see his patterns of poor impulse control and thrill seeking. I left when he got violent. It took a long time with a good therapist to understand that I really had no idea who I was married to, that his emotions weren’t real but rather manipulations. He stalked me and threatened me for a year after that; I had to move to a new state to finally begin feeling safe again. It was the most horrible experience of my life.
A totally different person once mask slipping. Very sad. Very true what she said.
I dated one and when
I broke it off, he hit the roof. At that point the tables had turned and i was emotionally detached from him and ready for battle if need be. He tried everything to get me back from crying to trying to make me jealous with anew girl he claimed he had met. All i did was wish him well and good luck. It would be almost 7 years after the breakup before i would be rid of him. I went no contact 3 months after the breakup and never talked to him again. He would call and leave messages for years to no avail.
Years? What would the messages say?
I confronted my mum about her constantly Stonewalling me and her reaction was "You need to stop googling symptoms, you're so paranoid, she then continued to do the exact some thing I was confronting her about, deflecting and then flaring into a rage and made a veiled threat to kill herself. This was yesterday. I'm still stuck with her. I'm aware of what she is and I don't know what to do about it.
My ex threatened to kill himself. I asked how I could help.
Thank you very much for you kind words T Brenneman! I am healed 70 % now with therapy and antidepressant, I have no contact since one week. I am very positive and optimistic that I will meet my soul mate some day :)
I'm one of the unlucky ones. I realized the truth and now I found out I've been slowly poisoned for several years now. He won't leave/discard me. The police or the local abuse center refuses to help me.
I'm here for now, but hopefully I'll be able to get out before the end of January 2018.
44JesusIsLord44 thank you for your useless prayer.
Bess McGaughey what do you mean the police and abuse centers refuse to help you? what are they good for if they don' t?
Hi maaaaaaaaaate! I married to a female covert narcissisist for 12 years. 75 percent are male for sure. I really don't believe any bigotry or sexisism is ever intended. I think they are usually trying to keep things simple that all. My your recovery be a speedy one and Godspeed to you mate! Sincerely Greg Bernstein
My "friend" is a sociopath. I have no idea how to get him out of my life he's crazy I can see it, he try's to control me & minipulate me I don't let him but he doesn't stop he has no feelings for others he has no heart. He stole from me a couple weeks ago I know for a fact he did & when I confronted him he looked me in the eye & completely lied. The funny thing is he told me before he can look people in the eye & lie to them. Anyway he's fucking crazy & he's friends with everyone that I am. I don't know how I will get this guy out of my life, he's bad energy he's like a disease that just doesn't quit.
He also exaggerates a shit load. & he's said before that it would be fun to kill people. I'm honestly not comfortable being around him. It he keeps cuming around me. He lives only one street away from me, & it's a fucking nightmare. None of my other friends even have a clue of what he's really like. I've figured him out along time ago. He things he's smart but little does he know I'm WAY smarter & I can see right through his fakeness.
BrAnDoN062694420 why do you think sociopath and not psychopath or even narcissist? I don't know how you go about dissentangling from such a person especially if they decide that you are useful to them. It is my understanding that they are vengeful when they perceive injustice against them, which they are very likely to do if you try to pull away without a sound strategy. So be careful.
If I were you I would visit some legit websites on sociopathy, psychopathy and narcissism and try to get advice that way. Also try talking to your doctor and get them to refer you to a relevant specialist for advice.
***** yeah thanks for your help man, you really got me thinking thanks again for your reply
BrAnDoN062694420 You call him "friend" the problem starts with you. Say this is your enemy to your self. Then the next step is RUNNING away!!!
+BrAnDoN062694420 My friend does the same, I'm psychopathic but have dealt with it very well, I'm also an INFJ (google it if you don't know what it is) and he sometimes triggers me intensely to the extent I go to hurt him and then he gives up, he isses me off extremely sometimes and I severely hurt him with no regret.
Jails are filled with psychopaths
No more. Democrat governors released them
No, politicians are and lawyers
The industry and countries are run by them.
I can´t express what i want in english but I´d like to tell my history with a real psychopath, my girlfriend for almost 10 year. She has gone since 8 month ago . She is monster and I have stress post traumatic. I´m totally sure now she was a promiscuos person but I didn´t know that.
Mine bailed quickly! Thankfully and if you push hard enough they will confirm all their wicked ways to you.
My X managed to manipulate me for 25 years. I wasn't stupid, but he was just TOO GOOD at this game. Has managed to con several hundreds of very very smart people. He is very powerful and successful today. I do not care, it's his karma and the karma of all those other people who are trapped in his fake perfect world. I live a life that I always wanted. I am becoming the person I always was but could not be. Loving my freedom! Well done.. ME
anjali grover , Thank you for your personal comment. I too have recently awakened and left a highly successful man. Overcoming the fear has been my greatest challenge. I found your words inspiring. Every morning I will remind myself that, “I do not care, it is his karma, he is trapped, not I.” I will say a pray for grace. I will promise that, “today I will work towards the life I always wanted and deserve, I am becoming the person I always was but could not be.”
Because psychopathy is at the end of the narcissistic spectrum, I worry that my mother, now 75, and who’s mask really dropped only last year, could become a danger. This is also so as, she would not be the type to necessarily abandon the chase because, as a narcissistic parent, she feels that she owns her children and that we owe her our very lives.
PTSR = Post Traumatic Stress Response (rather than Disorder)
YES! That's a more accurate term/definition.
I hope you are well and that your life is free of deranged/toxic/evil people.
33 years a was with a man before his mask slipped. Had child young with this man. I’m still healing it’s hard
I'm healing. ...thank you for this TH-cam video...
Rossana Alvarado, you deserve better
13 years 2-3 years olf leaving and going back, but, once he knew that I was keen to his games, when I woke up and stopped reacting to his provocations, he got more physically abusive by throwing things at me, trying to stop me from leaving, and verbally cruel.
Cruel can't describe it. Mixed with all the years of gaslighting etc, the cruelty after the mask slips is what I would imagine hell to be like.
That's called an extinction burst, when you don't react. I'm sorry, but you did the right thing.
Mine got more mad when I didn't react. He'd sleep in another room..Then come in and yell at me with cold eyes..no blinking..Then be mad at me for not caring that he slept in the other room. Then it would escalate. I'm out now..but very disturbing. The yelling, slamming doors, or blowing up my cell phone of I went out the day after...my brain still hurts. I hope to get over this.
Six months into my fourth marriage I started to see a change. I saw his check book and his writing matched some love letters he'd said his last girlfriend had sent him. He had wrote them to himself. It was then too that he started to do strange things like cornering a neighbor's child out in the yard and was yelling obscenities and waving his arms and generally making threats. I intervened and told him he could not do this to other people's kids. Then he, at a different time kicked a neighbors puppy across the street like it was a football. It really snowed balled after that and it was me he attacked like that child. He later stalked me. I actually joined a carnival so he couldn't find me, this because the police said they could do nothing until he actually hurt me. He actually told people that I'd tried to poison him later, this because he'd had his stomach stapled by the Army because of weight issues and any time he over ate he threw up. I lived in homes with the elderly for years so as to have no utilities to trace. When the Social Security started not allowing you to be traced by your SS # I was so grateful. Then Texas passed a law where stalked people could apply and they couldn't trace you by your tags unless it was law enforcement looking for you. That's when I started feeling safe to get back to living like other people. I've been single 19 years now without even a date. Men who suddenly become different scare me and you never know, as you say, if it will be years before you do know.
Let some psychopath kick my dog and i will end that mother f...... lol. Does that make me a psychopath? Im sorry you went through that, i was with a woman that had anti social personality disorder which is what a "psychopath " would be diagnosed as. With her 4 years and it was a total nightmare
the worst part is when its all over.....trust me i have had two relationship during my lifetime and i seems to always find them psychopath. All the lying , cheating , manipulating , gaslighting and so on........when its all over you become so paranoid and don't know who to trust anymore and what to trust or what love is and so on......it's destroy everything for a very long time.
No idea why I feel like telling a part of my story here. Probably because I feel compelled to just portray something I want to get out with the anonymity of the internet I'm given.
But I was psychopathic at a younger age. It was a moderate onset of conduct disorder, unbeknownst to me then (and frankly didn't care even when I figured it was wrong) but noticeable when I reflect back on my actions. Being 20 now, I'd come to realize that.
Its long since been bottled up living with certain environmental conditions as I realized this behavior wouldn't comfortably suit my situation. "I was sick but now I'm cured" sort of thing, while tendencies still linger. One day last month though, I had a pretty kickass 2nd lsd trip even though things got a bit sour.
Acid. For those of you who've been around this powerful psychedelic substance, you can relate when I say that it has a way of opening you up to your true self and your fears; The best of you the worst of you etc., even if for mere moments. Well on my comedown and day after, what I thought had been bottled up spilled over for a couple hours and I won't even lie... It felt fuckin' great. Felt alive for the first time in years to be myself and know myself and not care for once. But do you know how shocking it is to hide yourself *from* yourself so well that you forget who you are getting so caught up on who you aren't? Well, I guess everyone goes through it, to an extent. But before then, I questioned if there was even a mask anymore, maybe I had just misinterpreted it and I was really this new person now and that I was more normal! Until I saw it slip fully and reminded me what's still there...
Well, like the lady said. "They hide well"
Tige9999 you... You are not quite the tipical psychopath. first off, a psychopath would not tell people he is a psychopath, because that would damage his reputation. secondly, can psychopathy actually be cured? I know it can' t be cured, like autism
@@sergiom3988 Nah some psychopaths will admit they're a psychopath.
Best video ever saved my life! Thank you for your beautiful insight
i always wondered, to what degree are these people aware of their wrongdoings or evil intentions? they must know, that's why they use so much energy to conceal them.
midnight rider i discribe it like a split personality, go blank and then well...for the other guy... Better hope the ambulances arrive quickly
Wow
Thank you
This is what I’m experiencing after 23 years - this info helps me to be loving to myself and forgiving for not being farther along healing…💕
It’s horrifying.
Being around them will destroy you make no mistake about this.
...it's an oversight (unfortunately) to think women aren't equally capable of being covert manipulators...
Capable ? Its part of their genes. Women only know how to use one tool ... men.
susan mather maybe she doesn't want to say he/she 50 times
Certain Woman are fucking horrible just like certain men are !!!
i wonder how children in a family are affected by a father who is a psychoath
They think that he is normal until he isn't. Probably the children run into problems with Dad when they are teenagers. The dad is very jealous and controlling, talks about the mom, etc. When the kids get tired of that and want more, the father can feel mortally wounded, and then they can be triggered into violence or verbal abuse.
In case you are still curious...
It depends, but I wouldn't say there's much grey area for long.
Some who buy into a psychopathic father's mask and BS may grow up to be like him or his idealized delusion of himself, so far as naming a child after him.
Those who realize what he is and challenge him or even just his BS publicly, without complete understanding, could have their lives repeatedly destroyed over decades for his amusement through:
1. A consistent pattern of friends, family, school/university officials, doctors, and colleagues contacted and fed ludicrous stories unlikely/unable to be investigated for validity in a contrived, "concerned" manner;
2. direct gaslighting with Opposite Advice presented with falsely portrayed helpful, best intentions to ensure any important decision made reflects poorly on the child/adult;
3. creating financial catastophies through these methods in order to regain financial control when the child/adult inevitably exhausts all other options;
4. loss of mother and other family;
5. human trafficking of the child and later adult without their knowledge or consent;
6. using drugs (such as methamphetamine or scapalomine) slipped to the person to make all of the previous issues less obvious or believable in extreme cases;
Expect resulting Complex PTSD with no desire for human interaction if he succeeds in burning down the adult child's life enough times to ensure no one can reasonably be trusted.
Proofreading, I notice this can mostly apply to at least his wives as well.
Thanks
They can stick together with the psychopath because he is the stronger part. Then you havetwo psychos at home until you realize the mechanism. They us their children against you. The outcome can be parental alienation. Very sad and sickening.
Children do not question the wrongs of adults - children suffer them!!!
Once you correct your sociopath dad (in a normal and healthy way) he will lose his mind and beat the crap out of you. You are not smarter then him, ever. Ten minutes later he wil Joke around and you kinda forget about it
my god she just described my entire 17yr long marriage, terrifying.
Guys can be affected too.
I was married for 36 years....your gut knows something, but you can't put your finger on it. Then when the mask slips....you start to look back at all the little signs. My counselor explained it as a frog sitting in a nice warm hot tub(pot of water)....every year the heat gets turned up...at the end it's so hot you will need to jump out or boil to death. I jumped out....but I have the blister(PTSD). The small town I live in...people think he is a wonderful and kind guy:(
He started making me paranoid, eggshells for sure, that things he said to me were not so, rage about every 2-3 days, go in a movie calm and come out raging to the max. He would bring Stuff in the living room saying he was leaving cause of my drama when in fact he was the only one displaying drama, he didn’t like my cooking . He said I had to vacuum in perfect rows every day . And I was not allowed to go in the other bedroom. It goes on
Airline Robertson, you got a lovely smile
Thank you, this video helps understand my ex's personality. I was in seven year relationship with person. It wasn't tell two years into it, that he wasn't man I fell in love with. Last four years of relationship was hell, and that's putting lightly. I finally got out, but I worry because he has made remarks about hunting me down. Killing any man I date. Worst yet, I'm worry he might kill me. Tell the day he takes his last breathe, I will always be looking over my shoulder.
Yes, it's exhausting
“Previously high-functioning women can become debilitated…”
This was my experience in a 25-year psychopathic relationship. I’m still struggling with daily functioning 5 years after I fled.
I've been involved with 4 of them. They do act different in public, but knowing them, it always seemed put on to me. Might not have been obvious to others. Always loud and proud. Over the top.
My father was a psychopath. He did some terrible things to other people, not to mention his own children. Things you wouldn't believe. I'm doing good now though, and so are my remaining siblings. Time does not heal all wounds.
The DEVIL is real. Believe me you'll never be the same again. Pure EVIL.
Lol INXS devil inside devil inside every single one of us the devil inside
"The wicked are estranged FROM THE WOMB: (serpent genetics) they go astray as SOON AS THEY BE BORN, speaking lies. Their poison is like the poison of a serpent: they are like the deaf adder that stoppeth her ear; Which will not hearken to the voice of charmers,(truth tellers) charming never so wisely." Psalm 58:3-5
I finally understand cognitive dissonance. My ex-husband who was a psychopath always talked about the dichotomy, the war within us. He quoted the Apostle Paul who said. " the good that I wish I do not do, but the bad that I do not wish is what I practice".
It's all making sense.
i read and watch all there is on psychopaths.
thanks for making me stronger.
Superb explanation.
This woman has seen a lot, I can tell. My sympathies.
It happened to me, you never know how much the person is hidding and who he really is. Then the victim struggles of how much the reality of what they are living is true and your head starts overthinking for so many years making you mentally sick.
The Narc projects a very convincing illusion that their victims buys into and even can fall in love with as well.
I was married 20 years to a wonderful hard working man. After my divorce, I dated 2 undiagnosed npd men. I’m thankful for having a solid marriage to compare dysfunctional relationships too. Normalcy is priceless.
yes I had two psychopath's but different abuse so now I know them both covert and overt
It's been 6 years since I left..I'm still dibilitated.
I would love to find a support group too, maybe even found one.
My mom most certainly is one, with several little fun quirks thrown in.
an extreme hoarder, with a few O.C.D.'s, narcissist-double-negative-personality disorder-with paranoid tendencies and thoughts and the following fears too
Spectrophobia.
It refers to the fear of looking at one’s own reflection
Atelophobia
- fear of not being good enough or imperfection
Chromophobia,
chromatophobia - fear ofcolors
Decidophobia -
fear of making decisions
Gelotophobia -
fear of being laughed at
Harpaxophobia -
fear of being robbed
Phonophobia -
fear of loud sounds or voices
Pyrophobia - fear of fire
Pedophobia - fear/dislike of children
Psychophobia - fear/dislike of mental illness.
she taught at public schools for 45 years. 12 in Okla and 33 in another.
we were in a small town...had 1 grocery store to get to one of a decent size we drove 23 miles one way....needless to say most people know each other or at least the names of everyone in the town.
one of her favorite punishments-without "punishing" you was to go in her flannel men's pajamas and slippers with that god awful amount of toilet paper wrapped around her hairdo-which was slathered in place by several cans of hairspray. she woke us up with maybe 10 minutes before we had to be in the car- we had to dress, eat,brush teeth, use bathroom, brush hair, wash face ,look happy and get in the car. we then were not allowed to take our hands off of the shopping cart, while she took 3 hours or more to go through a store that's only 50 feet by 75 feet, talking to every single person she could. we couldn't speak, frawn, wiggle, utter a sound, look embarrassed or speak to anyone...but the biggest sin of all on that day was telling her you needed to go to the bathroom....because then we had stay until we peed or pooped on the floor...which she loved because she could then tell at us at the loudest volume she had and let the town know how horrible we were.
another favorite was waking us up between 1-3 am on a school day giving us an empty 3 lbs coffee can-filled 1/3 up with salt and water- we then could only go to sleep once we had filled it up with slugs-no robes, gloves, shoes, slippers or jackets were ever allowed. she loved to do this on Sunday night's when church was just released keeping us on the front lawn so our classmates could see and make fun of us.
several school years I was given 5 identical shirts of the same color, 3 identical jeans, 5 socks, 1 pair shoes, 1 jacket, 1 dress, 1 sandal, 2 shorts, 1 nightgown...that was it for the entier year....didn't MATTER if I out grew them or not nor how much fun was made of me because I wore "1 shirt" only every single day for that year.
She ate up telling all who asked about my clothes...that I had drawers and drawers of stuff and an overflowing closet too of beautiful things I refused to wear.
I was the 1st kid in my class/gradeto get : a cast-which I had various ones-but stayed on for 4 years, after breaking 34 bones in one shot, glasses, then braces, got chubby before growth spurt, big boobs-not little traing bra ones but great huge EEE boobs, I grew 13 inches taller in 3 short months-the same 3 i got my chest in. I was beyond shy....I cried if some one I didn't know talked to me and my face turned purple just before I fainted.
my cast was on my dominant hand-so I had to relearn how to write, eat, and such...and my mouth was deformed making understandable words impossible to leave my mouth and my teeth were jacked up...making it impossible to close my mouth because my lips just couldn't go around all those crazy angled teeth growing out of it and meet up so I had drool running out of my mouth constantly.
last of all my mom's just-got-out-of-prison-live-in-boyfriend was a big man in a large pedophile-brothel-pornography ring/s.
needless to say I was every type of bully's walking-NOT-talking-wet-cream.
I got beat up everyday at least once-"that's for your moma flunking my brother/sister and getting him in trouble." Some days when I got home I was covered in blue-black-purple burises from head to toe. I tried to fight back once and only once...my preacher-stepdad beat me so badly for not turning the other cheek that to this day I still won't fight back unless it's life, death or rape for me.
one of the 1st things I learned in my 2 decades of therapy was---yes it is your parents fault you turned out the way you did...BUT it's your fault if you choose to stay that way.
the hardest thing for me to accept was realizing, that chances are they too were abused as children...because then they are no longer mosters...but humans that were badly hurt also.
then it is easier to know that like an illness ravages the body mental illness ravages the mind...and their minds were very sick indeed. and after that you can completely forgive them, which only helps to heal yourself and gives you the power needed to break the chains and cycles of abuse.
Great video though ladies.
Mine won't leave me alone! He will call me 60 times a day. I figure out that he must have another women that he gets money from. I have none. Be can't stay away from me..It's been 10 years. He is a charmer, will mannered and dresses in a suite. What a BS and so good at it. But he can't fool me anymore and I'm finish with him. He no longer has the power over me like he use 2. I'm so tired of his lies and cohn jobs!
Julie Stremfel charge him with stalking, have you? I see the comment is 2 years old, has the situation changed?
Julie Stremfel Block him no contact is the only way.
Julie Stremfel, you don't deserve to be with a narcissist 😈!
Symptoms of Factor 1 Psychopathy:
shallow affect (ex. have you seen this person cry when it’s totally normal to?), superficial charm, manipulative, lack of empathy (how did they respond to things like crying, a death etc.)
This is exactly what happened to me four years ago, except I'm male.
The dynamic described in this video happens to some degree in every human life. I mean the cognitive dissonance part, such that you feel two contradictory ways about the same person.
I had no idea for 24 years???
Sandra Brown - this is such critical information to share with society. I wish I had learned this at a young age so as to avoid the damaging choices I made.
Please note: when public speaking, it is a good idea to avoid using "uuuummmmm". Not only is it not necessary, but can distract the audience. Once I counted to the 50th "uummmm", I had a hard time continuing to listen.
The men in this comment section are loathsome - there's a reason she left you, dude, and psychopathy isn't it. Also, I'm tired of people, particularly UNQUALIFIED people, diagnosing every bad boyfriend/girlfriend they have as a psychopath. Just because someone lied to you or cheated on you, it does not mean they have a personality disorder. Throwing diagnoses around like that is harmful.
Lmfao psychopaths do not get diagnosed if they dont want to the only people who know them are the victims there is no mistaking a cluster b once you have their rule book if you are a victim. If you even suspect cluster b just get out.
Total RESPECT ❤
There needs to be so much more discussion on this. I am in the process of separating from a psychopath after 17 years and he is stripping me of everything. He latched onto me after I bought a home on my own 18 years ago and I'll be lucky to leave with what I had then.
I wish you a safe separation , you'll be in prayers