A much needed conversation. Praying for the next generation of mums becauseee (speaking from my experience) getting them to even acknowledge the role they sometimes play in sibling rilvary is close to impossible.
I relate with Joan about not being able to have ''really close'' male friends.🤭 I can't do it. My only male close friend is my husband. key word ''close''.
I am so thankful for all the episodes which i have most of the time identified with and realized that i am not the only one who faced and still facing abuse, trauma or dysfunctional family situations. By listening to your shows, i am finally able to analyze my life and point out why certain dysfunctionalities are there in our families, how they came about and what is the way forward. You have completely helped me unravel all the mysteries and guilt feelings towards abusive and toxic family members when i draw serious boundaries from them. I have also learnt and realized why i am the way i am and how i can change that through therapy to live a truly authentic life and relate better in my future relationships.
Murugi I am with you on men and women just being good friends. I have tried and they all always end up hitting on me....or I said no at the beginning and they stayed around and now we are friends but every once in a while they will throw a comment about wanting to get it on
It's so true what you beautiful ladies are saying about the role that mothers play in creating unity between siblings. I remember when I was about 6 years of age, my sister who is older than me was asked by my aunt to be a flower girl on her wedding and I wasn't. On the way home a few days from the wedding I remember asking my aunt in front of my mum why she only wanted my sister as her flower girl. From then my mum used to ensure that whoever wanted either me or my sister to be a flower girl would take both of us. She also used to plait us the same hairstyle, buy us the same clothes which made us feel like twins till today.
The girl who is a twin calling his brother my man, will most probably be the problematic sister in law. Also, might end up having relationship problems because she's looking for his bro in every relationship. Anywho, they're both young, probably some things will shed as she matures. No hate, just a strangers opinion
I love TMI because its totally relatable, in all fronts , just when you thought you were going through it alone , you realize that mko wengi and that gives you the courage to push further because of the encouraging success stories that you see of people in similar situations or even just the feeling of ' im not alone ' ❤❤I love TMI
I'm happy for all of you who are able to love from a distance, I once told my mom n siz that they should not be coming to my house at the same time coz they are nuisance...i saw fire..they said they will be coming whenever they want...and they are still doing so n i had to make peace with it. So kwetu hakuna loving from a distance even if you run away they will follow you there
For us with narcissistic mothers, who have divided kids that they can't talk or have respect for each other, to a point of not talking, let gather here... We move nevertheless
This is me with my elder sister.😢 My mom is not a straight up narc but she did participate in this like 98%. I'm so sad that now I feel resentful towards my mom, I'm so scared of this conversation with her
@@doctordeeMhey, I can totally relate to this. It's so heavy and emotional at the same time.. Take your time. Don't make any decisions right now. Don't judge yourself for not talking to either of them.. Apart from being a sibling to someone, you still have your own life to live. Love from a distance. Love and guard your heart.. Personally I cut any kind of communication, because I need to heal.. I need to love me first. And no regrets so far
@@Lily_muthengi what about in the case where you have a sick parent who is very abusive and also so entitled that every time you don't visit or check on them they call you and yell at you till you chose to completely cut communication?
Wow. I like how this conversation puts this topic into perspective. It is making me think so deeply about my relationship with my sisters 😊. I am happy for you Murugi, I could see you getting perspective and a possible solution to your situation around help and big siz dynamics.
Since birth, I was a smart child. In the streets, school and everywhere, I was very smart. I didnt realise it created a resentment on my Very many siblings when my Mom constantly reminded them that I was indeed smarter than any of them until when I was in campus and I heard my brother complain that I was supposed to give back home so much more because alot of resources had been used in my academic journey Mahn, I am going through it trying to fix everything!
The succession in Kikuyus mostly favor males. That is why when the man of the house dies, there are many fights among the boys about properties, particularly land.
Heey ....I feel like I am willing to overlook for my sister... definitely...coz daaaah she is my sister not any other person we've literally come from the same womb..... but above all I thank God that we really get along so well considering the fact that we are two very different people but have managed to become besties ♥️ FYI we are both gen z's😂
I should just start feeling okay being alone.I only have step siblings who are so hateful to the point that we don't talk all engineered by their mom, sisters not speaking is another level.i only wish I had a sister
Gen Z here, my younger sister when we were growing up used to be a big snitch on everyone at home. Including the house help, I one day went and told her ' I hate you so much and you're not my sister anymore '. I was in boarding at the time, so I was only home for a month at a time, I didn't talk to her for almost a year and a half. What led to this is that she went and told our mom that I did something, which of course I did, but did she really have to snitch? Maan.... She's doing better though with that. I one day snitched on her too, so that she could feel how it felt. She did.
This has been so triggering especially after having a huge fight with my sister .ps were both in our very early 20s with a1yr age gap but she's a pain in my a! I'm the eldest but wuehh!
Also look at y'all talking about Gen Z. One thing I love about TMI is that you're time-sensitive and are in touch with your audience in an authentic way. Kudos Murugi and Lydia it is very admirable of you especially in these times in our country. Receive your flowers. 🇰🇪❤️✊
I feel like basing it from the first comment from the lady that sometimes you literally understand the situation but you just choose to love at a distance . E.g my siblings we aint close but i already accepted unless its transactional . I dealt with it and once i tried having that conversation it became fire i almost lost them so i chose yer lets remain siblings but that extreme closeness no. Lets love each from a far we can call each other ,we can text but too much together no. I feel sometimes lets not talk about it
Kweli people are different. I am shocked coz for me when I am close to a man, it never appears to me that he wants or will one day sleep with me…maybe I have been in another world. I have male friends for a long time and I have never seen it sexually😀
Uuuuuwiiii I have a devilishly evil elder sister. Can't even disclose the things she has made me go through because it's too personal and almost criminal. I honestly hate her....haven't spoken to her in years and I feel nothing.
@sarahkarungi7727 same mother and father. She hides behind a mental illness but we have been previously told by a psychiatrist that she knows exactly what she is doing when hurting people and being malicious.
I cut off my sister 3 years ago no more drama in my life she has been a vampire since childhood as a big sister people tell me its jealously because I took her place as a last born...I let her get away with so much financial abuse mental abuse smearing my name every chance she got. ....I have not seen her for almost 4 years and I don't want to ever see her or have any relationship
Heey , you looking gorgeous girls...I am the youngest sister among the 5 of us....I am not so close to my first 3 big sisters because we have a biiig age gap and most of my life we never stayed in one house for long...The one i follow, we are 2 yrs apart and we have an amazing relationship.....For a long time, it was just the two of us, she always looked out for me till now, i always feel so bonded to her. Back to my 3 big sisters, they were raised by my grandparents coz of unavoidable circumstances and they kind a inherited the toxic side of our grandparents...They tend to be so controlling and always have an opinion about what we the younger sisters do. I am ok with them , we dont talk much but their is no bad blood, we can exist in the same environment😂😂but i keep my distance to avoid their domineering attitude The age difference makes it even worse😂😂Gen Z and millenials. There are things we cant relate ...but yeah we coexist
Proud king betweeners raise your hands ❤❤
A much needed conversation. Praying for the next generation of mums becauseee (speaking from my experience) getting them to even acknowledge the role they sometimes play in sibling rilvary is close to impossible.
I relate with Joan about not being able to have ''really close'' male friends.🤭 I can't do it. My only male close friend is my husband. key word ''close''.
I am so thankful for all the episodes which i have most of the time identified with and realized that i am not the only one who faced and still facing abuse, trauma or dysfunctional family situations. By listening to your shows, i am finally able to analyze my life and point out why certain dysfunctionalities are there in our families, how they came about and what is the way forward. You have completely helped me unravel all the mysteries and guilt feelings towards abusive and toxic family members when i draw serious boundaries from them. I have also learnt and realized why i am the way i am and how i can change that through therapy to live a truly authentic life and relate better in my future relationships.
It's definitely TMI can't get this kind of conversations anywhere else ❤❤
Murugi screaming "NOO" at Aggie turning 30 had me dead 😂😂
Murugi I am with you on men and women just being good friends. I have tried and they all always end up hitting on me....or I said no at the beginning and they stayed around and now we are friends but every once in a while they will throw a comment about wanting to get it on
This was a very deep and much neended conversation. Kind reminder to be adding the links you mentioned you'd add during the episode.
It's so true what you beautiful ladies are saying about the role that mothers play in creating unity between siblings. I remember when I was about 6 years of age, my sister who is older than me was asked by my aunt to be a flower girl on her wedding and I wasn't. On the way home a few days from the wedding I remember asking my aunt in front of my mum why she only wanted my sister as her flower girl. From then my mum used to ensure that whoever wanted either me or my sister to be a flower girl would take both of us. She also used to plait us the same hairstyle, buy us the same clothes which made us feel like twins till today.
The girl who is a twin calling his brother my man, will most probably be the problematic sister in law. Also, might end up having relationship problems because she's looking for his bro in every relationship.
Anywho, they're both young, probably some things will shed as she matures.
No hate, just a strangers opinion
It's giving Cersi and Jamie Lannister 😢😮
True, True! 💯 Didn’t think of that, thanks for that different perspective and insight.
True
😂😂😂 I'm for how Lydiah calls Murugi out, "r u kidding u r in a blended family"😂
I love TMI because its totally relatable, in all fronts , just when you thought you were going through it alone , you realize that mko wengi and that gives you the courage to push further because of the encouraging success stories that you see of people in similar situations or even just the feeling of ' im not alone ' ❤❤I love TMI
I'm happy for all of you who are able to love from a distance, I once told my mom n siz that they should not be coming to my house at the same time coz they are nuisance...i saw fire..they said they will be coming whenever they want...and they are still doing so n i had to make peace with it. So kwetu hakuna loving from a distance even if you run away they will follow you there
Absolutely love Murugi's glowing. Lydia's therapy is really coming through. All in all beautiful episode ladies❤❤
For us with narcissistic mothers, who have divided kids that they can't talk or have respect for each other, to a point of not talking, let gather here... We move nevertheless
This is me with my elder sister.😢 My mom is not a straight up narc but she did participate in this like 98%. I'm so sad that now I feel resentful towards my mom, I'm so scared of this conversation with her
@@doctordeeMhey, I can totally relate to this. It's so heavy and emotional at the same time.. Take your time. Don't make any decisions right now. Don't judge yourself for not talking to either of them.. Apart from being a sibling to someone, you still have your own life to live. Love from a distance. Love and guard your heart.. Personally I cut any kind of communication, because I need to heal.. I need to love me first. And no regrets so far
@@doctordeeM the question is would these mums even acknowledge what they did even if you were to start that conversation with them?
@@Lily_muthengi what about in the case where you have a sick parent who is very abusive and also so entitled that every time you don't visit or check on them they call you and yell at you till you chose to completely cut communication?
Oh girl I really understand this too well. It pains though. I wish things were different 😭😭
Wow. I like how this conversation puts this topic into perspective. It is making me think so deeply about my relationship with my sisters 😊. I am happy for you Murugi, I could see you getting perspective and a possible solution to your situation around help and big siz dynamics.
Since birth, I was a smart child. In the streets, school and everywhere, I was very smart. I didnt realise it created a resentment on my Very many siblings when my Mom constantly reminded them that I was indeed smarter than any of them until when I was in campus and I heard my brother complain that I was supposed to give back home so much more because alot of resources had been used in my academic journey
Mahn, I am going through it trying to fix everything!
Totally loved it! The "sneezing" part was too hilarious - love how the "bullying" plays out so effortlessly. 2 hrs was definitely worth it.
finally,leo kungekosa episode ningestrike😅
The succession in Kikuyus mostly favor males. That is why when the man of the house dies, there are many fights among the boys about properties, particularly land.
Lyd that colour on your skin ,your outfit and hair is giving fulfilled and murugi i love your makeup and outfit ,you ladies look stunning ❤🎉
Single children Inbetweeners, let’s sit back and relax and Thank the Lord!
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I was wondering If any of us was here just vibing with the convo😂
Hey freeeendssss
Let's just listen
The amount of beauri , intelligence and gorgeousness on my screen is a crime❤🎉🎉 you ladies look stunning as always❤
Heey ....I feel like I am willing to overlook for my sister... definitely...coz daaaah she is my sister not any other person we've literally come from the same womb..... but above all I thank God that we really get along so well considering the fact that we are two very different people but have managed to become besties ♥️
FYI we are both gen z's😂
Best episodes for me!! Love love love it!!
Murugi holding in laughter 😂😂
Actually most people cant relate unless you really have a brother that is your twin. It's totally normal, no sexual feelings attached.
Present for part two. It feels like Wednesday 🎉
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Hey Joan, is that top available at Wild? Its so cute and I want it❤
I loved this so much…..love what you ladies are doing!!!🥰Thank you🙏🏾
I should just start feeling okay being alone.I only have step siblings who are so hateful to the point that we don't talk all engineered by their mom, sisters not speaking is another level.i only wish I had a sister
@Lydia ,Hair /makeup/outfit 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Gen Z here, my younger sister when we were growing up used to be a big snitch on everyone at home. Including the house help, I one day went and told her ' I hate you so much and you're not my sister anymore '. I was in boarding at the time, so I was only home for a month at a time, I didn't talk to her for almost a year and a half. What led to this is that she went and told our mom that I did something, which of course I did, but did she really have to snitch? Maan.... She's doing better though with that. I one day snitched on her too, so that she could feel how it felt. She did.
Spice girls had me like "that's new"..... But spice boys ❤❤❤... I think I found my calling 😂😂❤
Thank you so much 😢😊❤❤❤❤ Lord knows I needed an episode today❤❤
This has been so triggering especially after having a huge fight with my sister .ps were both in our very early 20s with a1yr age gap but she's a pain in my a! I'm the eldest but wuehh!
And I don't know why am still having anxiety of watching this two episodes fear of knowing I may get hurt
Me too😭
Same here
Our Normal Wednesday Noon-Date..❤❤
I love ur content keep up the good work
Murugi who did your make?? It’s just wooooow😍😍 the contours are contouring 😍
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OMG Murugi's "NO!!!" to Aggie turning 30 needs to be a clip on its own.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Umekataa kabisa.
Minute 52:30 or there about. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Also look at y'all talking about Gen Z. One thing I love about TMI is that you're time-sensitive and are in touch with your audience in an authentic way. Kudos Murugi and Lydia it is very admirable of you especially in these times in our country.
Receive your flowers. 🇰🇪❤️✊
I missed you gals❤
Wueh! Needed Part 2, also 3, 4,5😌.TMI Queens✨✨ always standing on business👏🏾👏🏾. Tuesday ni maandamano. Wednesday It's Definitely TMIIII❤
hahahaaa...i like how that came out!
I feel like basing it from the first comment from the lady that sometimes you literally understand the situation but you just choose to love at a distance . E.g my siblings we aint close but i already accepted unless its transactional . I dealt with it and once i tried having that conversation it became fire i almost lost them so i chose yer lets remain siblings but that extreme closeness no. Lets love each from a far we can call each other ,we can text but too much together no. I feel sometimes lets not talk about it
Kweli people are different. I am shocked coz for me when I am close to a man, it never appears to me that he wants or will one day sleep with me…maybe I have been in another world. I have male friends for a long time and I have never seen it sexually😀
❤I love you gals.
The girl of inheritance- they should sue the mum for their inheritance because it's held in trust especially if they were below 18.
Uuuuuwiiii I have a devilishly evil elder sister. Can't even disclose the things she has made me go through because it's too personal and almost criminal. I honestly hate her....haven't spoken to her in years and I feel nothing.
Do you share both parents with her? Or she is a half sibling
@sarahkarungi7727 same mother and father. She hides behind a mental illness but we have been previously told by a psychiatrist that she knows exactly what she is doing when hurting people and being malicious.
Loved this
Which is the book they're talking about?
I'm on time today 🥰
Not the showing up more than the boyfriend🤣🙈
It felt like forever.
I can swear these adverts are made for TMI specially..... The moment Lyd said, "....I call him my man" and she froze an advert came up......😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Saaaame😂 😂😂😂
what in the Lannisters 🤣
Those twin siblings are giving Targaryen vibes
Fr 😅
I cut off my sister 3 years ago no more drama in my life she has been a vampire since childhood as a big sister people tell me its jealously because I took her place as a last born...I let her get away with so much financial abuse mental abuse smearing my name every chance she got. ....I have not seen her for almost 4 years and I don't want to ever see her or have any relationship
I can relate,I also don't feel like I care about my sister's too,there is no relationship whatsoever.
But ni life
The twin siblings gives off potential controlling sister in law vibes. She might feel like the brother's future wife is taking him away from her
""It's only as important as the freedom you want from the trauma."🙌🙌🙌🙌
Can someone please translate what Joan said in 27:25?
Leave her she will ruin your good morals
@@tabby_teacher thank you!
Heey , you looking gorgeous girls...I am the youngest sister among the 5 of us....I am not so close to my first 3 big sisters because we have a biiig age gap and most of my life we never stayed in one house for long...The one i follow, we are 2 yrs apart and we have an amazing relationship.....For a long time, it was just the two of us, she always looked out for me till now, i always feel so bonded to her. Back to my 3 big sisters, they were raised by my grandparents coz of unavoidable circumstances and they kind a inherited the toxic side of our grandparents...They tend to be so controlling and always have an opinion about what we the younger sisters do. I am ok with them , we dont talk much but their is no bad blood, we can exist in the same environment😂😂but i keep my distance to avoid their domineering attitude
The age difference makes it even worse😂😂Gen Z and millenials. There are things we cant relate ...but yeah we coexist
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That passive aggressive part was a bit too real. The cringe was so hard.
That twin siblings story is giving Cersi and Jamie Lannister , my man? No 👎🏾
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Love it 😍