My ideal Chinese girlfriend would have all the qualities you mentioned plus a great sense of humor. I think that’s one of the most important qualities! Good video Jo thanks!
I dated a divorced Chinese woman with 2 kids here in America - For 2 years she treated me like CRAP - Many time it was like dealing with a 14 year old kid who would stop talking to me when she did not get her way - She was just looking for a guy with money and she did not want to work - It was a good learning lesson.
Very good Miss Moon. The most important in a good long relationship is two people working hard full time on their relationship to make it work. Of course mutual respect is important. I’m married now but when I met my wife the first thing I noticed was her eyes. I believe the eyes are the path to the soul. Inner beauty is more important than physical appearance.
Hello Jo, it's always a treat listening to you. I agree with everything you express in your post, now I am a bit older than you and probably everyone in your audience. My only comment is that i don't understand why everybody is so concerned about "body count". Are we saying that these men also have low body count? If not how can they demand that from women? There are thousands of reasons that would make a man or a woman do things that they are probably not proud of, yet a lot of people have high expectations without the bases for it. In the end, it's up to the man and woman to figure this out, personally, i think any idiot can be a woman's first man, but only a real man will measure high up to be her last. Thank you Jo, love your content.
The question you raise is a good one, and it deserves an answer. It is difficult to explain in only a few words, but I shall try. Men and women are different, and they view both relationships and sex differently. It is true that there is great variation between individual men and women, but I will be speaking in generalities. My comments will generally be true for the vast majority of men and women. For a woman, relationships are a natural part of her daily life. She is constantly aware of them, establishing them, taking care of them, managing them, and---if necessary---dissolving them. She does not have to "force herself" to perform these social "dances," they are part of her nature. A woman's relationship with her man sets the stage for her sexual intimacy. In the physical interaction of sex, a woman trusts her partner and expresses and strengthens her emotional bond to him. And should that special closeness she shares with him be shattered, the scar of it will remain upon her heart. Each time a woman takes the emotional risk of being sexually involved, and that risk results in loss, another piece of her heart goes numb. For men, the situation is reversed. It is in a man's nature to pursue sex. If there is a woman in his vicinity, his sexual drive takes notice. It is almost mechanical in nature, as if it has a mind of its own, and a man spends his life learning to control it and overcome it. Just as it can be highly inconvenient to begin sneezing uncontrollably, it can be highly inconvenient for a man's sexual impulses to begin yelling for attention. It is not surprising, therefore, that a man does not view sex itself as intimate, nor does he form emotional bonds through sex. Instead, a man does his emotional bonding with his woman through their relationship. Just as women are careful and selective about choosing a sexual partner, men are careful and selective about committing to a woman (i.e. getting married). The longer a man is in a relationship, the longer he and his partner interact and experience life together, the stronger is his bond to his partner. This is why men are especially devastated by the ending of a marriage of many years. Indeed, some men are never able to recover. Considering the above, it is easy to see how a "high body count" is detrimental to a woman, and multiple, traumatic relationships are detrimental to a man. They emotionally scar the person, making it increasingly difficult to bond with any new partner who might come along. In extreme cases, such an emotional blow is sufficient to literally kill the person. Most people instinctively know not to play with the hearts of others.
Someone who is kind to her parents firstly, kindness is the one thing above all else. Next, reasonably good looking, at least attractive to me. It's important to be able to speak good English and be willing to learn some Mandarin. Accepting cultural differences is a big thing, willingness to learn about each others countries is so important. She should be your best friend and vice versa. The ability to laugh and enjoy the different cultures would be on my list too.
Jo, I love your insight, opinions and guidance with your content. You're the perfect gf❤! Keep your cute laughs a great smile coming and thank you for this awesome episode.
I think you described YOUR idea of an ideal Chinese girlfriend. But there is no single "ideal" partner, in my opinion. However, it's always interesting to hear you. Thanks for sharing, Jo.
Jo moon. You have some good advice for people looking for a partner not just in one country but everyone. I just want to say thanks for encouraging people like me to be honorable and respectful in these relationships.
About a month ago, I broke up with my Chinese girlfriend, whom I had dated for a year and a half. After I broke up with her, she told me I broke her heart and said the most amazing, poetic, flattering things to me by text message. Before then, I could barely get the time of day from her by text message. Most texts from her were only one word. I felt like I was being taken for granted. But if she really means all the things she said to me over the past month, then she may actually have been in love with me, but she was unwilling or unable to say it. Women are so confusing.
Great information miss Jo. Some of this guys are not mature enough, just a simple lady and caring is beautiful. Love can be very powerful. Good luck guys. Thanks from Connecticut USA.
Thanks for the comments you provided Jo! I agree, very disrespectful to women based on some of the men’s comments. I also agree you should follow your gut feelings. Thanks Jo! ❤❤❤
I dated a chinese woman. She is 27 yrs old. She likes to wear dress. She is like a conservative type of person. It’s like I treat her so special. I told her that i like her. But she told she is used of being alone. But i still continue dating her. Until there come a time that she considers me as her “special friend“ or “special someone“. But she doesn’t want to be “together” with me. Or she doesn’t want me to be her boyfriend. She told me she is scared to get close with someone or sleep. It’s really confusing! But she cares for me. It’s like we’re just friends maybe. But I really like her and love her. I don’t know what really is the situation between us.
I had Chinese girlfriend for five years that's the nicest lady I've ever met and we get along really good and I love the Chinese food she cook for me l from usa
That guy in the suit is right! Having a good personality and being compatible is very important. Appearance is secondary . That guy seems to have some wisdom in that noggin.
Hi Jo!I think in this video, u really articulated, "the ideal" Chinese girlfriend!But actually, I prefer Chinese girls "born" in China!...And yet, u spoke, more realistically in your "leftover", when u mentioned a direct relation, between "age" of the Chinese woman and her, "social status" in China as more influential...I need u to explain Chinese females "emotional quotient" deeper.So may choose wisely meili!
Hi Jo, very informative advice. Can you please give me some advice for dating older Chinese women? I'm a senior man and retired. And would like your views on this subject. And how I should go about doing so. Thank you.
Chinese women are BEAUTIFUL! Just like you JoJo. I wish there was a match-making site we can go to without scams. Many men would LOVE to have a Chinese wife.
The way you described a traditional Chinese woman tells me that they’re amazing person to be with , and I can’t believe those guy were so disrespectful ,they probably wouldn’t even know an amazing woman if she was standing right in front of them .
Well I would probably say... One place I go dine out at. There's one girl maybe very attractive or English may be very good but I think she only pays attention to me because of my finances. Normally that would be a typical girl looks-wise... But everything else I will have to pass there's also another one of her co-workers that seems to be more easy-going likes to be sort of sarcastic not the greatest looking in the world but definitely has a much better personality it doesn't look like she's trying to go for my wallet that's when I would probably prefer to go with... And I think example a was also a course an older girl that knows she's about ready to hit the wall as opposed to example number to might be a little bit younger and she hasn't quite seen the wall so she doesn't know she's quite approaching
Ms. Jo Moon. I'm African American. My idea of a good girl is a woman that is responsible and accountable as well as respectable. My girlfriend is from Zhu Hai China. She works two jobs and has a mortgage she is paying off. I'm in love with her, she knows it, but when I tell her she doesn't respond. What we agree on is loyalty and respect. But she's a mystery to me, I want to understand her better. But she isn't like these American girls and I like that.
Hi Jo, thanks for this video! My ideal Chinese girlfriend would just be an average girl, with normal boobs and legs, long hair, a beautiful smile and really being normal in every way (e. g. no or only a few decent cosmetics). At the end, like one guy said, most important is that both parts of a couple will be compatible with each other. What the guys in this group said is really shameful, if they are really thinking like that then I don't wonder when Chinese women would look for men outside China. I consider myself to be like the "gentleman guy" and hope he will find his ideal girl like all the others who respect women and care for them in the same way they care for them.
I love to cook and clean. I would prefer to be the one who stays home and takes care of the home. I always say it's best to have mutual love, respect and kindness for each other. My wife has to be loyal and honest. I hope I can find her some day. or maybe she will find me.
I was born and raised in the US and I'm not trying to use I'm white and a lot of the Chinese food that the Chinese eat I ate all my life like pigs feet hard tongue liver and I love Chinese and I've got a very nice Chinese
In my younger single days, guys view girls with a high body count as an easy score and then move on to the next conquest. My question is, how do you, as woman, think women that have a high body count view men?
From a male view in terms of dating and sex for a guy a big part of the sexual appetite is when a woman behaves crazy in bed...is very sexual in bed or is "whore" it satisfies a certain need. There's also dirty talk that both partners like . Now for me I would have a very difficult time viewing my wife like that. But I still have those needs. The male brain is a very different animal.
What does it mean if Chinese lady ,same age ,lots of money, my kung fu shifu. Loves my body & Buddhist/modest qualities. But insists on buying me expensive things . Makes me feel like a trophy 🏆
You say the men at the beginning are not popular with chinese women. But if they have much more money tha the others, you will accept the abuse and marry him, even he talk like this to your parents
HA!!! The first three guys sound like a lot of Black Men that I know!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm not picky about that sort of thing, but I understand how hard it can be to show how you feel. It's better to show it, than say it.
Normally, guys don't marry the girls they sleep around with unless he has very little option. Unfortunately, it's called target practice 😅. Women normally want a man with experience in the bed, so it compliments each other, but it's a catch 22. It's really complicated, what if you like the person personality, appearance, presence. You wait until marriage just to realize they're lazy in bed.😢
Studies and data show that couples who waited for marriage have a more successful and fulfilling marriage and sex life than those who slept around before settling down. There's a reason our grandparents had 10 children 😂. Instead of comparing each other to previous partners they would learn each other's desires and needs.
11:05 Jojo my dear, let me tell you. I'm 30M and I wouldn't marry a woman like that *at all.* My standard is that I want a virgin. But if I'm dating a girl and I find out she has been behaving like that, to me, I will just be with her a little for fun and then quit.
The ideal Chinese girlfriend is one of several options: 1). Taiwanese; or 2). assimilated and living in a democratic country. There are plenty of Chinese diaspora living outside of the draconian C.C.P. controlled surveillance state called Mainland China. If for some reason you must have a ‘Chinese’ girlfriend, look in your own hometown or home country. At least you will have a chance of finding someone that has been exposed to freedom, independent thought, and self-reliance.
Ok, you clearly are a successful product of the Western demonizing campaign against China. I suppose it's no use in giving arguments to prove you wrong, but I'll just say that even if China, like any other country, is not perfect, the main reason for the West to paint a picture of China as a totalitarian state is simply because the country the last 3-4 decades has risen from a rather poor, underdeveloped country into one of the most prosperous, modern countries in the world. While at the same time, Europe and USA face bigger and bigger problems with violence, drugs, homelessness, immigration issues, not to mention all the crazy stuff that happens when it comes to modern "feminism", woke, racism accusations, gender topics and so on, the madness just seem to escalate into complete idiocy. While in China you find civilized, smart people, who are curious about new things, but still cherish their history, family values, traditions, who are respectful and with dignity. Of course there are rotten apples in the basket like everywhere, but in my around 3 years in interacting with (real) Chinese people, I have come across only two of these, the rest are all really lovely people, with much more integrity and moral than pity, ignorant you. Greetings from Norway.
My ideal Chinese girlfriend would have all the qualities you mentioned plus a great sense of humor. I think that’s one of the most important qualities!
Good video Jo thanks!
I dated a divorced Chinese woman with 2 kids here in America - For 2 years she treated me like CRAP - Many time it was like dealing with a 14 year old kid who would stop talking to me when she did not get her way - She was just looking for a guy with money and she did not want to work - It was a good learning lesson.
Very good Miss Moon. The most important in a good long relationship is two people working hard full time on their relationship to make it work. Of course mutual respect is important. I’m married now but when I met my wife the first thing I noticed was her eyes. I believe the eyes are the path to the soul. Inner beauty is more important than physical appearance.
Hello Jo, it's always a treat listening to you. I agree with everything you express in your post, now I am a bit older than you and probably everyone in your audience. My only comment is that i don't understand why everybody is so concerned about "body count".
Are we saying that these men also have low body count? If not how can they demand that from women? There are thousands of reasons that would make a man or a woman do things that they are probably not proud of, yet a lot of people have high expectations without the bases for it.
In the end, it's up to the man and woman to figure this out, personally, i think any idiot can be a woman's first man, but only a real man will measure high up to be her last.
Thank you Jo, love your content.
Very good point
The question you raise is a good one, and it deserves an answer. It is difficult to explain in only a few words, but I shall try.
Men and women are different, and they view both relationships and sex differently. It is true that there is great variation between individual men and women, but I will be speaking in generalities. My comments will generally be true for the vast majority of men and women.
For a woman, relationships are a natural part of her daily life. She is constantly aware of them, establishing them, taking care of them, managing them, and---if necessary---dissolving them. She does not have to "force herself" to perform these social "dances," they are part of her nature. A woman's relationship with her man sets the stage for her sexual intimacy. In the physical interaction of sex, a woman trusts her partner and expresses and strengthens her emotional bond to him. And should that special closeness she shares with him be shattered, the scar of it will remain upon her heart. Each time a woman takes the emotional risk of being sexually involved, and that risk results in loss, another piece of her heart goes numb.
For men, the situation is reversed. It is in a man's nature to pursue sex. If there is a woman in his vicinity, his sexual drive takes notice. It is almost mechanical in nature, as if it has a mind of its own, and a man spends his life learning to control it and overcome it. Just as it can be highly inconvenient to begin sneezing uncontrollably, it can be highly inconvenient for a man's sexual impulses to begin yelling for attention. It is not surprising, therefore, that a man does not view sex itself as intimate, nor does he form emotional bonds through sex. Instead, a man does his emotional bonding with his woman through their relationship. Just as women are careful and selective about choosing a sexual partner, men are careful and selective about committing to a woman (i.e. getting married). The longer a man is in a relationship, the longer he and his partner interact and experience life together, the stronger is his bond to his partner. This is why men are especially devastated by the ending of a marriage of many years. Indeed, some men are never able to recover.
Considering the above, it is easy to see how a "high body count" is detrimental to a woman, and multiple, traumatic relationships are detrimental to a man. They emotionally scar the person, making it increasingly difficult to bond with any new partner who might come along. In extreme cases, such an emotional blow is sufficient to literally kill the person. Most people instinctively know not to play with the hearts of others.
Marriage is nothing if it is not for life.
Girl i love your commentary and personality, your so funny but give intelligent feedback at the same time😂💕🥰~! thank you for your hard work always !
Really good and informative video,...
I dated a few Chinese women who were very "reserved / cold" so it was difficult at times to understand certain situations.
Someone who is kind to her parents firstly, kindness is the one thing above all else. Next, reasonably good looking, at least attractive to me. It's important to be able to speak good English and be willing to learn some Mandarin. Accepting cultural differences is a big thing, willingness to learn about each others countries is so important. She should be your best friend and vice versa. The ability to laugh and enjoy the different cultures would be on my list too.
Jo, I love your insight, opinions and guidance with your content. You're the perfect gf❤! Keep your cute laughs a great smile coming and thank you for this awesome episode.
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I think you described YOUR idea of an ideal Chinese girlfriend. But there is no single "ideal" partner, in my opinion. However, it's always interesting to hear you. Thanks for sharing, Jo.
Jo moon. You have some good advice for people looking for a partner not just in one country but everyone.
I just want to say thanks for encouraging people like me to be honorable and respectful in these relationships.
Hi, Jo you are so good Omg lmao
About a month ago, I broke up with my Chinese girlfriend, whom I had dated for a year and a half. After I broke up with her, she told me I broke her heart and said the most amazing, poetic, flattering things to me by text message. Before then, I could barely get the time of day from her by text message. Most texts from her were only one word. I felt like I was being taken for granted. But if she really means all the things she said to me over the past month, then she may actually have been in love with me, but she was unwilling or unable to say it. Women are so confusing.
Great information miss Jo. Some of this guys are not mature enough, just a simple lady and caring is beautiful. Love can be very powerful. Good luck guys. Thanks from Connecticut USA.
Thanks for the comments you provided Jo! I agree, very disrespectful to women based on some of the men’s comments. I also agree you should follow your gut feelings. Thanks Jo! ❤❤❤
The a is for a great video. The way you put it together was fantastic 👍
I dated a chinese woman. She is 27 yrs old. She likes to wear dress. She is like a conservative type of person. It’s like I treat her so special. I told her that i like her. But she told she is used of being alone. But i still continue dating her. Until there come a time that she considers me as her “special friend“ or “special someone“. But she doesn’t want to be “together” with me. Or she doesn’t want me to be her boyfriend. She told me she is scared to get close with someone or sleep. It’s really confusing! But she cares for me. It’s like we’re just friends maybe. But I really like her and love her. I don’t know what really is the situation between us.
Good Video. But I think it is not applied to only Chinese Women but rather to "All" Women. Anyway, like I said - Good Video and keep more coming.
Ha ha ha! That intro was funny.
I have a Chinese friend and she sounds much like your ideal Chinese girlfriend. Loving and caring. Very respectful! Works hard, family oriented.
I had Chinese girlfriend for five years that's the nicest lady I've ever met and we get along really good and I love the Chinese food she cook for me l from usa
good advice thank you.
That guy in the suit is right! Having a good personality and being compatible is very important. Appearance is secondary .
That guy seems to have some wisdom in that noggin.
Hi Jo the world needs to hear from you. Your opinion and advise is so honest . You are the best on TH-cam for sure!!!!!!
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You're so beautiful. I have always dreamed of marrying a Chinese woman. It would be so cool to be with someone from another country.
Jo Moon you're a keeper!
Hi Jo!I think in this video, u really articulated, "the ideal" Chinese girlfriend!But actually, I prefer Chinese girls "born" in China!...And yet, u spoke, more realistically in your "leftover", when u mentioned a direct relation, between "age" of the Chinese woman and her, "social status" in China as more influential...I need u to explain Chinese females "emotional quotient" deeper.So may choose wisely meili!
Thanks, Jo ! I will forward it to my wife for 20 years, which I haven't seen for a month, as I just moved away. Maybe it will help, but - not sure...
My Ideal?. Fit, feminine and friendly. Submissive, loving and loyal.
Expect High Maintenance
Great video ❤
They say having a trophy wife is like owing a sports car , lots of fun but cost a fortune. I like Toyotas they just keep going .
Toyota's are reliable and are for long term 😉
Yessir 💖
Hi Jo, very informative advice. Can you please give me some advice for dating older Chinese women? I'm a senior man and retired. And would like your views on this subject. And how I should go about doing so. Thank you.
Chinese women are BEAUTIFUL! Just like you JoJo.
I wish there was a match-making site we can go to without scams.
Many men would LOVE to have a Chinese wife.
The way you described a traditional Chinese woman tells me that they’re amazing person to be with , and I can’t believe those guy were so disrespectful ,they probably wouldn’t even know an amazing woman if she was standing right in front of them .
Well I would probably say... One place I go dine out at. There's one girl maybe very attractive or English may be very good but I think she only pays attention to me because of my finances. Normally that would be a typical girl looks-wise... But everything else I will have to pass there's also another one of her co-workers that seems to be more easy-going likes to be sort of sarcastic not the greatest looking in the world but definitely has a much better personality it doesn't look like she's trying to go for my wallet that's when I would probably prefer to go with... And I think example a was also a course an older girl that knows she's about ready to hit the wall as opposed to example number to might be a little bit younger and she hasn't quite seen the wall so she doesn't know she's quite approaching
Ms. Jo Moon. I'm African American. My idea of a good girl is a woman that is responsible and accountable as well as respectable. My girlfriend is from Zhu Hai China. She works two jobs and has a mortgage she is paying off. I'm in love with her, she knows it, but when I tell her she doesn't respond. What we agree on is loyalty and respect. But she's a mystery to me, I want to understand her better. But she isn't like these American girls and I like that.
You are beautiful Jo. You will have no problem finding a nice rich guy.
Hi Jo, thanks for this video! My ideal Chinese girlfriend would just be an average girl, with normal boobs and legs, long hair, a beautiful smile and really being normal in every way (e. g. no or only a few decent cosmetics). At the end, like one guy said, most important is that both parts of a couple will be compatible with each other. What the guys in this group said is really shameful, if they are really thinking like that then I don't wonder when Chinese women would look for men outside China. I consider myself to be like the "gentleman guy" and hope he will find his ideal girl like all the others who respect women and care for them in the same way they care for them.
I love to cook and clean. I would prefer to be the one who stays home and takes care of the home. I always say it's best to have mutual love, respect and kindness for each other. My wife has to be loyal and honest. I hope I can find her some day. or maybe she will find me.
Yes Jojo i think you would be the best GF ever.
Guys will not take a girl with a high body count seriously. He will just put them in the fun box. Not wife material.
14:10 does she hit you like she knows kung fu lmao
You’re hilarious 😂
Stop s imping, dude.
I was born and raised in the US and I'm not trying to use I'm white and a lot of the Chinese food that the Chinese eat I ate all my life like pigs feet hard tongue liver and I love Chinese and I've got a very nice Chinese
It's difficult to read the print, gave up
Yes chichi, you are the ideal Chinese girlfriend 😁😘
I like the way you think, you would be my ideal Chinese girlfriend 😉
In my younger single days, guys view girls with a high body count as an easy score and then move on to the next conquest.
My question is, how do you, as woman, think women that have a high body count view men?
The difference between western and Asian woman
From a male view in terms of dating and sex for a guy a big part of the sexual appetite is when a woman behaves crazy in bed...is very sexual in bed or is "whore" it satisfies a certain need. There's also dirty talk that both partners like . Now for me I would have a very difficult time viewing my wife like that. But I still have those needs. The male brain is a very different animal.
What does it mean if Chinese lady ,same age ,lots of money, my kung fu shifu. Loves my body & Buddhist/modest qualities. But insists on buying me expensive things .
Makes me feel like a trophy 🏆
Lucky you!
You say the men at the beginning are not popular with chinese women. But if they have much more money tha the others, you will accept the abuse and marry him, even he talk like this to your parents
HA!!! The first three guys sound like a lot of Black Men that I know!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm not picky about that sort of thing, but I understand how hard it can be to show how you feel. It's better to show it, than say it.
Normally, guys don't marry the girls they sleep around with unless he has very little option. Unfortunately, it's called target practice 😅. Women normally want a man with experience in the bed, so it compliments each other, but it's a catch 22. It's really complicated, what if you like the person personality, appearance, presence. You wait until marriage just to realize they're lazy in bed.😢
Studies and data show that couples who waited for marriage have a more successful and fulfilling marriage and sex life than those who slept around before settling down.
There's a reason our grandparents had 10 children 😂. Instead of comparing each other to previous partners they would learn each other's desires and needs.
11:05 Jojo my dear, let me tell you. I'm 30M and I wouldn't marry a woman like that *at all.*
My standard is that I want a virgin. But if I'm dating a girl and I find out she has been behaving like that, to me, I will just be with her a little for fun and then quit.
There are a lot of LBGT in China 所以谁是谁大家都不知道😓
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💥 *Promo sm*
The ideal Chinese girlfriend is one of several options: 1). Taiwanese; or 2). assimilated and living in a democratic country. There are plenty of Chinese diaspora living outside of the draconian C.C.P. controlled surveillance state called Mainland China. If for some reason you must have a ‘Chinese’ girlfriend, look in your own hometown or home country. At least you will have a chance of finding someone that has been exposed to freedom, independent thought, and self-reliance.
Ok, you clearly are a successful product of the Western demonizing campaign against China. I suppose it's no use in giving arguments to prove you wrong, but I'll just say that even if China, like any other country, is not perfect, the main reason for the West to paint a picture of China as a totalitarian state is simply because the country the last 3-4 decades has risen from a rather poor, underdeveloped country into one of the most prosperous, modern countries in the world. While at the same time, Europe and USA face bigger and bigger problems with violence, drugs, homelessness, immigration issues, not to mention all the crazy stuff that happens when it comes to modern "feminism", woke, racism accusations, gender topics and so on, the madness just seem to escalate into complete idiocy. While in China you find civilized, smart people, who are curious about new things, but still cherish their history, family values, traditions, who are respectful and with dignity. Of course there are rotten apples in the basket like everywhere, but in my around 3 years in interacting with (real) Chinese people, I have come across only two of these, the rest are all really lovely people, with much more integrity and moral than pity, ignorant you. Greetings from Norway.
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