THINGS YOU SHOULD SEEK TO LEARN FROM DATING A PERSON by RC BLAKES
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- In this discussion we talk about the data of dating. There are certain things that should be learned from every date.
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1. Does God approve?
2. Does this person want out of life what I want?
3. What does this person expect of me?
4, Is this person healthy psychologically and emotionally?
5. Are they interesting on all levels: spirit, soul, body?
Basically, does this person really fit into my future?
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truebluesonly, thank you! Richest blessings to you always! 🙏🏾
Im writing you, just ti let you know, I thank you so very much for truth. Im 62 and had my first date being a Widow for 18 years. Because of your teaching, I collected data, I watched, and prayed. He was a Deacon and every body kept saying God sent him, but my Spirit was never at ease. I found out he was not healthy emotionally or psychologically and he was a narcissist which I would have never seen the red flags, I had not studied your videos so again I thank thank you for teaching me as a middle-aged Woman who has never dated but one man and I married that man and we were Married 28 yrs until death. Thank you man of God, as a Woman of God we are all still learning, but I refuse to be vulnerable, or thirsty. Thank you for sending me a LIFE LINE
Wow......good job.....I’m 62 & widowed 30 mos......so grateful for PB💯💯
God Bless you! And Thank You Father for keeping her and sending us Pastor Blakes🙏❤
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The only problem with interrogation is people lie. And turn into Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hide. I say ignore what people say and pay attention their actions. Start there and that will save a lot of time.
Yep, sure will.
There's no liar like a man that wants a woman!
Look at both. Look at everything including their energy.
💯No premarital sex but he definitely had a plan for “me to work and him to stay at home”. Oh no! I take care of NO grown man! But I wish I thought of asking that. I feel bad when I doubt people. I’ve learned/learning. Don’t feel bad, trust the intuition God has given me.
You’re the father I never had! I wished I grew up with more men like you in my life! Your fatherly touch should be taught in public schools!
I couldn't agree with you MORE! These are life lessons/skills.
@Red Sunshine Who hasn't gone through ish in their lives?! He never runs and hides from his past like most folks do! I'd call that SELF ACTUALIZATION in full effect!
I lost two decades of dating...wish I had these tenants back then. Most importantly, you need to feel like you deserve the best. I attracted nothing but narcissists.
It’s true
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"If he's not wearing a diaper, you can't change him".
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Cassandra Williams that’s hilarious 😂 🤣 but true
@@jamaicanchild When I saw it on a FB post I had to laugh too. It's a powerful truth.
Men need to stop assuming they're going to change women also, because I have had a lot of men thinking they are God and they can change a mind that's already made up.
Congratulations pastor! 25 yrs. Married. Boy do I end up with ALOT of 1st. Dates only. It is extremely difficult to date in this day...no matter what your age. My goodness....men WANT sex on the 1st date EXPECT it by the 2nd. People DON'T want to get to know each other ANYMORE...smh! I will be GLAD when I am done dating...and be like you...lol.
I love your dating videos!!
Judith Stevens You’re not alone.
Men don’t like when women ask them questions. I found that out a long time ago
No that boys (regardless of age)don’t like questions real men don’t mind questions sometimes you don’t need to ask questions you can pick up the lust spirit. Listen to this preacher take notes. He got plenty good messages I listen to it over n over to get into my spirit.They don’t like questions move on even while they still try hold a conversation. We must ask questions and use discernment get God involve ask him if he the right person some men can put on a mask.
Those are the men we should quickly avoid in dating and marriage. Maybe, they have something to hide. You can question me about anything because I want you to feel comfortable with any decision you make about me. Normal people feel that questions from a date is due to their interest in learning who you are. Anyone who is offended by your questions..Is a red flag~! th-cam.com/video/mO5bMqiLE_c/w-d-xo.html
Those Are Men That Have Something To Hide (Scared Little Boys) Who Are Narcissists In Hidings Look At Pastor R C Blakes T-Shirt Above Queen’s Ask Question Kings Answer That’s You Answer Right There
Quoting what Pastor RC has said once before. "Queens ask questions only Kings can answer". Lil boys don't like questions. I've found grown Men love answering questions because they have some of their own in order to get to know your mind and learn what you like and who you are. Hence, this video: We date for data. Be encouraged and cut it short if a "boy" has problems answering you.
no one likes to be cross examined...if questions r future goal couple orientated real man would not mind he would agree its important to discuss it..unless he is a player
Pastor this needs to be a series you need to do several sessions.....THIS WAS SOOOO GOOD....I hit the thumbs up
I agree 🙌🏽
Dating is recreational while courtship has the intention of marriage.
ButterCookie This is a matter of age/wisdom. I prefer to “date” with purpose. Recreational becomes synonymous with wasting time or like the young ppl say, “ we just vibing!”
@@cajunhottness Yes!! Exactly
I asked my grandmother why guy's try to have a one night stand with a person. She said for some it is a former of entertainment to them.
Wow! What a powerful statementt!!
@@jennyg495 Indeed Jenny.. "let's see where this goes" is the infamous line announcing that there is absolutely no intention on anything and that it is purely recreational God did not create us to be recreational with our hearts or bodies
1.Does God Approve
*Listen to your spirit
2 Does this Person Want From Life What i Want
*"a wrong wedding will cost you your entire life"
* Amos 3"3
*"Better cancel a wedding /relationship than Go through a divorce
3What Do you Expect Of Me
*Proverbs 4"7
4 Is This person healthy Psychological and emotionally
*Watch there behavior on the street, with family, problem solving @ home etc
*Don't hinge your life to some one unstable
*proverb 22: 24-25
5,Are they Interesting on all levels Spirit Body Soul
Pastor,
How extremely fortunate I am to experience being schooled by such a cool and honest man! Sitting at your knee learning, growing and lovin' on ME! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
It is my HONOR.
I'm blown away with the accuracy of your message, RC Blakes! I sure wish I could have heard your messages 10 years ago! Oh, well, I'll take the lessons at this time in my life and, like you said, "...ease on down the road"! 🚗💨...👋
Queen, I'm easin" on down that road with ya!
My pastor told me to hold off on the wedding, I knew I should have, and I didn't listen. I should have took heed, but thank God it's over.
Yep, inner peace is important! If you don’t have peace about it keep it moving...Pastor your advices are on point...
Amen
I’ve been a Christian for years and I never understood when people over spiritualize erthang. 🙄. Even Paul said not to be so heavenly minded and no earthly good.. That’s not rocket science to understand..🙄
Words cannot describe how powerful this message is. I thank God for this video as its keeping me accountable to God and myself when it comes to dating.
💯% on point Pastor Blakes!!! Listen to your intuition please!!! I met a narcissist who mirrored my wants, dreams, goals, etc.. My intuition (Godly Father) was telling me, "No." 5 years later, I should have listened. Lesson learned, moving on and listening to God with every step!
@Lisa Jones. Me too! th-cam.com/video/mO5bMqiLE_c/w-d-xo.html
First dates are so revealing, damn if I listen to my gut I would have been in a so much better place, I guess.
@Angela Stussel I'm trying to not be hard on myself but it is difficult, thank you so much though 😊
This is why my daughter is married. I taught to get to know yourself and ask yourself what do you want out of life and how you want to design it. Once you find that out then you begin dating men. You have to find out if they want what you want out of life. One thing about my daughter is that, she knows game. I truly love my daughter, she cared enough to listen to her mother who has made enough mistakes in life. My life is much better. I don’t deal with men of color because they can’t stand being asked questions and they don’t want what I want in life. End of storytelling
I feel you on that!
You don't deal with men of color
Nice hat Pastor Blakes!
FLAGS ON FIRE!! Yesssss
This is a great discussion on this evening. It would be good to write dating guide along with questions to ask during the dating process.
It's always AlWAYS warning before destruction take heed to it
Omg! I'm annoyed I missed this live. Somehow I came across your videos recently and I've honestly been watching everyday since. Thank you! And I appreciate you Black King. I agree with your words and wisdom. Continue being the light you are that brightens our life's journey.
Now I'll go watch the video lol.
Thank you 😊
This teaching is so necessary in the world 2020!! I wish I knew you 20 years ago!! Could have been saved from a lot of heartache, pain and loss!! Thank you so much for your teaching. God bless you!! 💜💜
Yes!!! Absolutely Correct!!! One needs 2 RESPECT ONE ANOTHER IF NOT THEY
NEED NOT BE A PART OF ONES LIFE!!!! R E S P E C T ‼️‼️‼️ I AGREE WITH YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY ‼️‼️‼️‼️ THANK YOU!!! ASK TALK ABOUT ONE
ANOTHER, SHARING INFORMATION IS CARING ‼️‼️ ONE MUST BE TRUTHFUL‼️‼️‼️ 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I didn't have inner peace but I continued in the relationship. I could have saved myself heartache. THIS TIME I AM WAITING ON GOD!
Hi Mom and Dad Blakes, I just got discharged from hospital. I love you both.
Praying
I don't come form a dating culture; it's not common in Europe, but I'm living in one now in North America. I still don't quite understand how it works, but sure, I quickly fell for a narcissist before I vetted him properly. Now, I know better.
RC, I keep reminding myself of a quote from one of your old videos... "Does potential pay the light bill? ... You need a producer!"
Ah, the narcissist...been married to one for a long time. Have suffered greatly. Wasted all of my youth because I ignored ALL of the data.
I believe his advice will be helpful to you in the future! th-cam.com/video/wSkh0QQSVH8/w-d-xo.html
@@survivornomad9892 thanks. I have healed and wrote my own book about narcissistic abuse. Life had never been that wonderful. :)
@Red Sunshine no, of course not. We just don't label it that way. I think, we either call it a relationship or not. Also, I waited before I had anything physical going on with this guy. It just seems that in North America there are certain stages to go through, and the whole, "We are dating." while it looks like an actual relationship, why is it not a "relationship" then? This is what never made sense to me. I even know married couples who still say, they are dating. Maybe I have another idea of what dating means, maybe they do, too, or everyone has a different idea.
😂@ "Im ignore the fact that something aint right upstairs?!". So true
This information is worth gold. Thank you with much appreciation & gratitude. Your channel has helped me heal mentally, emotionally, & spiritually. May God continue to bless you & your family.
THIS WORD WAS THE TRUTH BISHOP!!!!!! Just when I thought I've heard your best word you take it up another notch. Looking forward to hearing part 2
Thankyou Pastor, this is very helpful. I prayed alot for a good husband and when a man came along, I would think 'this is it', thank you God! I was badly influenced and went along with the man, finding out what he liked. I felt uneasy, as I am not into sin or idolatry, sport, tv, movies, fantasy, waste of time, worldliness. I have decided to date a man who will do things God's way, follow and serve Jesus. So this is great advice, get to know the person and be aware of what God's Spirit is telling me.
Its very important in the dating process , that you also sit back observe learn the person, that your dating. Began to see how they handle personal situations in there lives like there finances, etc.
Bishop RC Blakes, Jr bless you sir I feel the father heart of God and the wisdom of God.from all the way in Zimbabwe Africa
How heavy. How exciting! Pastor, I am actually impressed and amazed by your new partnership decision. I cannot wait for whatever your narcissism product is. I think it's one of my top three favorite subjects you discuss. The partnership seems good simply because you chose it. I believe that most of what you touch now turns to gold. The interesting thing is that it's for real. I believe you have legitimate favor with God and he just blesses your head off. It is exciting to watch and to imagine when I reach that level although I'm certainly pointed that way. You can be blessed enough to be stressed out and have to think about it for a while. It can take an adjustment. Pastor, I am so happy that you are alive. You just touch my life in such an effervescent and sunny way. Thanks for being you. 🙂👍🔥💥❤
This is so deep! I agree with your wife! He needs to know my expectations! I just had this conversation with my boyfriend! I just asked these main questions.
PLEASE SHARE DATING IN YOUR 50's!!
Nobody's perfect but there is some things that a man in their 50s should have. Definitely mentally healthy and spiritually mature. But unfortunately they don't have that. You only can hide it for so long.
Hey Bro Blakes. Happy 2020. Now to the term matsa. It also means in my bible lexicon to attain without intentional search. The whole man pursuing a woman is a western tradition. The culture was different under the Old Testament or Judaism. For example arranged marriage and levirate marriage since the law was different. Plus they did not marry for love in the Old Testament, they married out of sense of duty to family and clan. The principle though remains the same. Husbands love your wives. Wives submit to your husbands. Submitting to each other in the fear of the Lord.
Vibe 11 the fear of God is really a bad word in the English. That fear basically means respect for God. The fear you are referring to is dread. The scriptures talk about God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. Perfect love casts out fear. Therefore God is love, not dread or fear
This was fire! 🔥
I wish I would have cancelled the wedding instead of going through a divorce.
Yes, Pastor please do a part 2.
Yes, you and me both. I am glad though that a yr later. I opted out. It is still better than staying on in a place you know is wrong for you and even worse, bringing children into a terrible and toxic situation.
100% agree and my instincts were screaming for me to leave that man alone.
It really is a Blessing to have you as a Father or Uncle figure,Because you speak the Truth with the utmost Respect.God has Blessed me to find you while I was going through a Divorce from a Narcissist you have changed my entire life for the Better.Keep enlightening the women.
Im one of those agnostic people who listen to you and get great knowledge from you i believe in my goddesses for spiritual guidance 🥰😇 i have 3 ,please keep doing you much love
Thank you for making your videos, I love watching them and I am learning a lot. Indeed it is always the struggles we overcome that teach us the most. At least there is a prize for over coming it all! I need to hear what you have to offer. I also love when you pray for us, and I can feel it. Thank you and God Bless You Each.
This is it!!! The best by far advice on dating before relationship hands down!! From delivery, tone, and words. This ain't about being sexy people!!
So right! Open eyes and ears. Closed legs!😀
Excellent again RC
2nd time listening to this at about 26 minutes and forward Bishop had me cracking up describing the red flags, I love his teaching. Such a real blessing, I often refer back to them and sometimes when he explaining these men and how he explains it, 🤣🤣 makes me feel like I am learning good things from my dad. We truly appreciate you and your wife!
You are so inspirational
Amen!!! The truth and I'm glad I been happily married for 18 years and with him for 20 years. I definitely have a King in my life. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
This is very good Bishop, I've been very hesitant to date. My marriage was with someone my father chose for me because we could not marry outside of our religion.
Hello pastor thank you for your time and effort, very much appreciated 🌈
This is a plan book for dating! Thank you so much for this! 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for your wise words, wisdom, and humor :) I appreciate you
All your videos make so much sense. I cant believe how lucky we are to have an elder sharing wisdom with us on TH-cam. Thank you!!!
Your teaching is always awesome praise God for the wisdom he's given you to share!! 🙌🏾
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes for the information and inspiration you help me and have learned and changed so much. I'LL ask these questions on my next date. God bless you and everyone. God is so amazing. 🙏🙏🙏☺👍👍👍👍👍
Poppa Blakes... Thank you for all your spiritual and practical wisdom. You stand as a Father to many... especially me... Many blessings to you and Lisa
I needed to hear this message to stay encouraged. I was down after service. All the women that were single with me in church are engaged or married but they were all having sex while dating. I’m still here single and abstinent 6 years. The journey is lonely when keeping yourself. Most of the Christians are being sexually active. Two of the men in the church told me that they can’t wait on me.
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Hope this helps, don’t rush it, better to wait on God that to get into something miserable
God will surely reward you for your purity, trust me.
Come back here and testify someday.
Our bodies are God's and must honour Him accordingly.
Good evening Pastor Blake.I gave you thump up on 1-5 very good advice /data on dating. In this generation some men is not interesting in getting to know a woman Mentally and Spiritual to get to know her heart. Some men not looking for a meaningful and healthy relationship, they want only friends with benefits. Your pray after the sermon tonight gave confirmation to be patience and wait on the Lord and the plan he have for your life with or without a mate. Amen
Looking sharp as a tact Pastor Blakes 😁
Shay JO Right! Pastor came thru with the fashions
Great message! You are a God sent! You’re over 2k 👍🏾 now great job community!
Can you please make a video on what it means to be equally yoked?
Yes Pliz!!!
It means being in alignment in all areas of your life. It means that the two of you have the same core values. ALL relationships are agreements. Can two walk together except they be agreed?
Equally yoked when you look to the bible it was coming from the picture that two animals (cows) worked together and the barn upon their shoulder would be unequally yoked if one was bigger than the other.... (their would be no flow because they cant work in sync) So you dont need to be an unbeliever in order to be unequally yoked with a believer
Thanks for everyone's response they were good answers but I would really like to hear it from Pastor Blake's perspective.
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I hope this helps you
"Get ya lil grip and move on down the road"... indeed.
So excited about "Kingology"!
Ive started to say “God bless my date or bless my meeting” and he always tell me wether or not the person isn’t right !! 😄
So true!!! Thank you so much for your Wisdom!!!❤️😘🙏🏽
Thank you for this message Pastor RC Blakes I'm grateful. This wisdom is much needed. 💎💎💎
WOW!! Pastor Blakes, you described my ex/last relationship to the TEE!! I'm soooo glad that God gave me the revelation (after ignoring MANY red flags) to get my stuff & RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!
Drugged that long dress down the aisle!!! I luv u already Lil Bro💞💞💞 keep up the GREAT Works!!!
I love when U say “popping that gum”. 😂
Number five is the money shot! This point is not taught enough.... love it. Thank you pastor for making these points powerful and fun 👍🏾
The DATA of Dating
The greatest misconception of dating is that dating is to be used for turning somebody on or discovering sexual chemistry or painting a false image of oneself to sell oneself to another person in the hopes that they will buy it and close the deal.
That’s not accurate. None of this is healthy. It is not to create sexual tension or to explore sexual chemistry. This is where we develop all these unhealthy soul ties. This is where we get involved with people who are dangerous and we did not know it cause our wisdom and discernment was blinded by our sexual impulses because we entered Into the experience with the wrong intention to turn somebody on. Dating is for data. The purpose of a date is not to go to bed with someone, the purpose of a date is not to show all of your personality, half naked and trying to turn someone on but the purpose is to gather data to present your true self and to dig for the truth that is the other person. Not to be blinded by looks, empty conversation or impressions but to wisely comb through all of the BS and to discover what is real and what is true.
😂😂 ohh my I love this one Pastor. Sooo true. Thank you for the word..
Amen 🙏 I thank God for you Bishop ❤❤❤ God bless you and your family ❤ 👪 🙏
Pastor Blake…. Soooo good. Please keep the content coming. Bless you.
Dating is to gather data!!! I love it.... I pray more men listen and are blessed by your teachings!!! You are a blessing 🙌🏽
MOG YOU REALLY BE TEACHING A GOOD TEACHING AND I DO APPLY IT TO MY LIFE THANK YOU SIR
Hi Spiritual father!
May you do a video on inner peace? I feel that I easily fool myself to believe that I have inner peace when I know the guy does not have God's approval.
Pastor, I miss your intro theme music! I loved grooving before getting your word. Bring it back please!
Teach Pastor Blakes.
Dating is for collecting data!!!
"Let's see where this goes" is the infamous line announcing that there is absolutely no intention on anything and that it is purely recreational. God did not create us to be recreational with our hearts or bodies.
I thoroughly enjoyed this and learned a lot. Thank you for allowing Him to use you!
Thank you so much for your love.
I love you, Pastor Blakes! 🙌🏻
I love listening to you. Thank you for sharing your experiences and knowledge with us. This really helps, as I'm in the beginning stages of getting to know someone right now. 🙏❤
Bishop! You are on point throughout this video! Thank you.
Lord have mercy! I wish I had this information 10 years ago. But thank God it's not too late. Bless you and your wife, Pastor Blakes.
Hi pastor if you haven't already, just a suggestion...please specify to the class that when you say you need "thumbs up", that you mean hit the like button, not all the thumb emojis I keep seeing (although thumbs up emojis are good too). God bless you and your ministry!
Thank you for clarifying for me. I will do so.
Dating is getting to know someone. Who are they.
Talk about
Expectations ,Boom
Not stuff is gonna fall down 😂😂😂 I love how truthful and real you speak!! Keep it real Pastor!
😃WE R sooo APPRECIATIVE for your Wisdom Bishop👑...WISH WE had this years ago....thanks sooo much to U & Lisa...XOXO & Blessings Man of God 🙌🏽🥰🥳👏🏽👏🏽.
So much valuable insight! Love all your sessions! Thank you for the golden nuggets! You are so generous with knowledge and wisdom! ❤
So true what you’re saying about an angry 😡 man. He is very dangerous. I’m so glad I left my last relationship when I did. I knew things were only going to get worse. He was a ticking bomb 💣 just waiting to go off. I always felt like I was walking on egg shells around him. I was very careful what I said. 😐🤐
RC Blakes....you are speaking to me. I’m glad God put this video and your channel in my path.
Tuning into your channel has really helped my relationship develop. We have a long-distance relationship but our relationship is based much more than on just physical attraction and we are continuously growing in love with each and we see each other as the blessing we never knew we needed.
Kingdom People should Court. It’s an important season before you commit your life to another person. Courtship protects both parties and is sex free so it can please God and protect each other and The community of Gods Kingdom.
You can date one person at a time. Courting is actually the second step which means that you are positively sure about settling down , dating is the first step (gathering data). Third step is engagement then marriage.
You are amazing ... your knowledge is so true and important in people’s lives
Your messages keep me grounded.
So refreshing and comforting.
Am loving this! U r really talking the reality of so many pple....thnx Pastor
Dear Sir, on narcissism, I appreciate your Biblical take. It ultimately legitimizes the experience. I have not read the bible (yet) to be able to know how it ties in, until you. Many do not have the brass to tell it like it is as you do. That goes for the "victims" role as well. It's time to take responsibility. As a speaker, you are not only knowledgeable, YOU are HIGHLY entertaining. You make me smile. ty. I thumbs up! ;)
Let's Talk Let's Talk.... What happened to the music?
Thank you pastor. This is so true😍😍