WHY I NEVER DRINK ALCOHOL
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ต.ค. 2024
- This is just my own personal experience with alcohol. If drinking occasionally fits into your life, more power to you. No judgement here :D
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If you have friends that are trying to pressure you into doing something you don't want to do those people aren't your friends.
+ArtjomGlad What I ment was dangerous things.
What if they're family?
@@adriblack511 Bad family, I wish you the best if you're in a family like that
"Every single action that I take is either getting me closer to my goals or farther away from them." - Wow. This is really powerful.
I am 22 and never drink alcohol, but why drink alcohol when you can drink juice? it tastes so much better, that's what my friends said to me.
+Irun Mon There's a video advising you to not drink juice ---sugar.
Monica G
who puts sugar in juice? my juice is 100% from the fruit, and I don't drink juice like people drink alcohol, I only drink mix juice in the morning or before sleeping
+Irun Mon beer tastes way better than juice.
+Irun Mon Juice doesn't get you drunk
*****
and the earth is round, what's your point?
To all the young people who are saying that don't drink and never have...never start...i promise you, are NOT missing anything.
Addicts don't like to be addicts alone. It shines the light on them.
Roger MacDonald Yes, just what I've always thought.
I'm in med school and we learn a lot about how alcohol damages the body but sadly the alcohol industry doesn't let this information become popular… I hope one day they put warning labels on alcohol and commercials for alcohol like they do for tobacco products
H. Zahara Definitely!
+H. Zahara people know better..they just dont care..until their health starts to fail, then it is too late to care...endless spiral
Alcohol can do everything from light to extremely severe damage to your body and personality--anyone who has any relatives, for instance, that they've seen really dramatically change due to their drinking over the years can easily see this. My Dad went from great, friendly, playful when I was young to sullen, unfriendly, resentful after 20 years, and then got even worse after another 15 because he really could not see what it was doing to him--it was absolutely heart-breaking. Alcohol not only damages people, but at the same time it seems to make them impervious to being able to see that it IS damaging them. Talk about bad.
Aunt Barbara
the reason I stayed away from that and other similar things is that I dont want to be a slave to them...usually people drink to numb themselves to reality..I dont want to feel the need to anesthetize my brain because reality is hard sometimes...if you cant be happy without a drug then you really need to change your reality...not take the drug for a temporary 'fix'...
Oh, definitely! I used to smoke pot, and it just made me even more unrealistic, lazy and immature than I was already, which was no help at all for my life!
I'm almost 60 years old & never drank alcohol. I think alcohol ages you faster, cause most individuals think I'm in my early 40's, mainly cause I don't have white hair & few wrinkles. 😁
+Timelessmusic Familymusic no question... I have been a heavy drinker for 25 years and I am seriously aged... don't do it if you can avoid it
+Timelessmusic Familymusic Me too - Never drank and people think I look 15+ years younger.
I'm pretty sure you look 35
40 and just quit drinking. I want this next part of my life to be even better! Drinking alcohol no longer fits in my life style. I got up to 300 lbs, and was wasting too much money and time with everything that revolved around it. Thanks for your video! =0)
I just quit at the beginning of this year, 2024 and will be 58 tomorrow. Although I wish I would quit by the age of 30, better late than never.
I used to drink regularly every weekend with friends for years and used to get totally smashed. But now if I even have only 1 beer, I will literally have a hangover for 2, 3 or sometimes even 4 days! So now I do not drink at all. It's unbelievable the pressure I've gotten from other people when they see me ordering just a seltzer water. When I explain the bad effects, I've had multiple people tell me they wouldn't know how to carry on living if they couldn't drink anymore. How sad is that?! Alcohol is so toxic and has destroyed so many lives. Yet binge drinking is encouraged and glamorized endlessly in movies, tv, music, everywhere. I fell into that trap for many years and thought I was so cool because I could drink so much. It's a sad state of society.
I used to be a partyer.. I dont have really any friends anymore. They still party Not me. I am glad though I'm better off solo where I can focus on my goals.. and it keeps me away from their negativity and gossip about ppl. I say eat the crabs if they try to bring you down! I think crab is healthy? lol
heck yeah i was in the Military and we drank like it was our job.. and it only led to being broke.. hung over and angry. it also led to poor decisions for many of my fellow warriors who got girls pregnant at a young age when we were on active duty. many military brothers i knew were either involved in an alcohol related incident or were in a car wreck due to drunk driving. and i know of one good friend who died from a car crash. and he was a really good dude. i myself do not drink anymore either. i train hard i attend college and i do a lot of reading and i run and hike and scuba dive. and for a certified scuba diver Alcohol and diving don't mix. :)
When I choose not to drink, my trick for getting the drunks to stop pressuring me to drink is to offer to do a shot with them (I ALWAYS order these shots so that I'm in control of the situation). I ask the drunks what kind of shots they want, then I go to the bar, order real shots for them, and secretly order a cranberry shot for myself. This way, I don't have to be harassed by the drunks all night b/c they think I'm drinking an alcoholic shot, and I don't have to compromise on my decision to stay sober. It's a win-win, and it works EVERY time!
Well done! That's great!
***** thanks lol.
ParallaxView111 Not really. You know what's it's like when people are drinking and having fun. They want everyone else to have fun with them. They mean no harm. But instead of saying "no thanks. I'm not drinking tonight" a million times, I find this cranberry shot trick is soooo much easier.
Sarahphina Margarita they don't respect your choice what kind of friends are they? tell them to do one and find reallll friends
OcchioniApotropaici They're perfectly respectful and understanding when they're sober, and it's not necessarily friends who do it. Often, it's random people you meet at the bar, or work colleagues, etc., who don't know you as well. Alcoholics are horrible for pressuring others to drink.
I just find this is an easy way to keep the mood light and carefree by not having to scream "I'M NOT F**KING DRINKING TONIGHT!!! GET IT THROUGH YOUR THICK, F**KING HEAD ALREADY!!!". That spoils everyone's mood. Plus, the cranberry shots are free, so you can't go wrong ☺
20 and i dont drink :)
Don't ever start :)
+Red88Rex yeh :) of course moderations ok.... But like her I want my body to perform to perfection xx 😍
Well you can find out for yourself what works for you.
13 i drink ;)
+Sander :D You could get liver damage. Plus, you're breaking the law. Also, it's a sin to get drunk. It's considered foolish.
im 26 and dont drink, ppl think im crazy but its just nasty to me. and i dont like drunks
Thanks for this video. I don't drink alcohol, but ppl assume that I do because I socialize and go to parties sometimes. I come across some disappointing faces at times when they find out I don't drink. Some ppl dont seem to understand that you can still have a great time without being a drunk mess.
A redbull w/ lime is one of my go to's
Not drinking alcohol=less calories and money in the pank.
+Sirad Hanar i wear my underwear, under my panks
+Spring Time "p" is so far away from "b" on the keyboard. Are you sure you haven't had any?
It also slows down your metabolism, dehydrates you and is just awful in general for your health and increases your chances of death
+DiscoveredNotCreated or they're dyslexic
TheNOPEland
Almost no one actually *looks* at the keyboard when they type, so no.
You just shared my exact thoughts on alcohol! Thank you so much! I'm about to turn 40, I'm still in fitness competitor shape, and look/feel better than I did in my 20s when I drank a lot. Thank you for being authentic too, integrity is a lost art in this world. We love you, keep up the good work!
i dont get how people can regularly drink and workout. i feel terrible the day after drinking and being in a dehydrated state does mean i can not workout as hard. so i dont drink that often anymore.
and the upside of not drinking much, means I feel intoxicated after only 1 or 2 drinks now. i'm now a very cheap drunk.
"Crabs in a bucket" syndrome definitely summarizes a lot of my friends. I work at a restaurant so everyone's idea of socializing is hitting the bar after work. It's tough.
I'm 21 and I never drank or smoke. never touched it.
I like pipe but I hate ALCOHOL as CIGARETTES.
You should be proud yourself 😊
i don't like alcohol at all
me too....
more people need to not drink I reckon
Mick Tomson
At least alchohol doesn't give you lung cancer or cause permenant brain damage.
Cheshire Kat alcohol can cause cancers
and not to forget it affects our brain capacity too
You never had good alcohol then. I recommend
1. jack Daniels
2. coors light beer
3. moonshine (peppermint flavor)
4. Crown royal vanilla
yeah, alcohol makes me feel bad.
thats why i stoped like she said not optimal
If we drink we will die. And if we don't drink we will die. So we might as well say what the hell and let our glasses clink. Whatever your name you'll be dying just the same. So as long as we are going to die it is better if we drink.
***** Was watching some Russian movie and they were singing that lol
Allan Miller Omg I thought I saw myself in the comments for a moment xD
I agreee. As an inline skater, alcohol would just tear up my performance to pieces. Especially going long distances everyday in the city, I would hate to get hung over in the morning and continue onto my trek. I just don't see the appeal in alcohol. A lot of people who drink say, "you're not living life if you don't get drunk at least once in your life." I prefer to travel the world, meet new people, and see new places. That's livin life in my book.
Good for you! Rare to find someone that doesnt drink unless its for religious reasons.
I'd like to have a friend like you....that would be really awesome :)
Thought that as well
Sane woman 😍
It really gets on my nerves how pushy and judgemental ppl can be. It's so stupid. If someone doesn't want to drink then leave it alone.
amen, sister. i have never got drunk i will never get drunk. it's a stinking waste of time.
matt hayes Good for you!
thanks :)
+matt hayes yep, because your sober time is sooo valuable. You're curing cancer in your free time, I'm sure.
Even spending your entire day playing tiddly winks is better than permanently burning off the better parts of your personality ANY DAY.
+matt hayes Me too - Never been drunk never drank....and I grew up in NJ.
This is the first video I've watched of yours and I completely agree with you. My vision in life seems similar to yours and I appreciate you taking the time to explain why you feel the way you do about alcohol. It helps to know I'm not the only one out there who doesn't want to drink. I have a hard time finding true friends in college because everyone wants to drink and go out. Thanks for being an inspiration. You're helping more people than you know.
hm, Lavender EO relaxes you
alcohol doesn't "relax" anybody
baths, massages, even running-
are all relaxing too, even staying
Quiet in solitude have relaxing
benefits. People get "pushy"
because they feel inadequate
...Peace...
Smoke Lavender errday
Brenda you are telling the truth, many years ago I did a test to see if I could stop drinking, well I did but i lost a lot of friends from not drinking.
Well you live and you learn that that's what I have learned
'Sounds llike the kind of "friends" whom you were better off not having.
The only people worth your time, are the people who accept you for who you are.
Love this video! I very much respect you for your position. As I'm sure you've experienced, it can get very difficult in social settings revolving around the bar scene. When I decided to cut out the drinking (and this was before I had even made it to 21) It was extraordinarily bizarre to my peers that I wasn't going wild on my 21st or partaking in the big drinking holidays or even just having a beer! I struggled for awhile with that feeling of being "left out" as well. Now- I don't believe there's anything wrong with drinking in moderation- having a glass of wine with dinner, having a beer with friends, all that jazz; live it up, enjoy the spice of life; however, every individual has to evaluate whether or not having that glass of wine or beer or cocktail, fits in with their lifestyle and overarching goals. For me, I have an awful family history concerning substance abuse. I myself, have had issues in the past with limiting intake- I just couldn't say no! And, at the bottom line, I just don't feel well when I drink. I can have one drink, and feel hungover the next day- which lowers my performance, not just in the gym but in all areas of my day! But it's not like that for everyone! So for me, drinking just doesn't fit. Anyway, my apologies for this novel of a comment- I just love your message! Keep on rockin and rollin!
Wow there's other people out there like me ???
Yeees!:D
This is the most inspirational video I've seen for a long time, and from one so young!
I think that with your mindset you are destined for an awesome life!!!
Well done for living and expressing your truth. Keep on that high vibration - all best wishes to you xx
Amazing, i totally agree with everything your saying! Alcoholism runs in my family too, though I have never been addicted, alcohol has always been a hit and miss experience for me. When I am sober, i feel confident, in control of my emotions and able to converse how i want. When i drink, sometimes it's the opposite, even after one drink.
I have been to some of the best parties, bars and clubs in the world,however those are not the memories that stay in my mind, it's the sober ones I remember. Now at the age of twenty five, I am ready to move on and experience life on a purer level, away from alcohol. Looking forward to improving myself socially, and as a person... The trick now is finding interesting activities outside of work to fill my time with ;)
Again props to people who can drink occasionally and enjoy it.
This February 4th I will have made it a year without alcohol. I went through a very hard time last year and was having a bottle of wine on a bad weekend night. I new I would be hungover the next morning and end up feeling worse. I decided that night that was the last of alcohol I would drink. I woke up and swapped drinking for a gym membership. Fitness really was a mind thing for me. It helped my anxiety so much. It brought me out of my depression and made me feel in control again. With that said....I fell off. Got too busy...was involved with the wrong people. And had a hibernating season and now I'm ready to get back on track. Your videos are helping me so much. Thank you. I will not give up this time.
I never drink alcohol , it does not fit in with my goal, which is smoking weed
I've stopped drinking but I still smoke the weed at the weekend. Both are bad for you but I think alcohol is worse.
***** LOL, this really made me laugh. You're too funny. I hope you reach your goal! (:
fucking pothead
good look with the laziness and the coughing
may flower I have a friend actually do it. He doesn't drink, doesn't eat meat, doesn't smoke cigarette .but he smokes weed a lot. XD
I agree with this video 110%
Exactly! We're blessed with brains (Aqal) that can reason out based on what we see what alcohol does to people..so why do it if it brings more harm than good. I was blessed to have been brought up with Islamic faith that does not allow Muslims to consume anything intoxicating based on the consequences but as we grow older, we realise why it is not allowed in the first place. You managed to use that Aqal..and that is a true testament of being a good human being; loving yourself. I hope I make sense. Love your positivity! So invigorating and infectious!
I don't even work out but I just subscribed to your channel. You seem like a really optimistic person! :)
I'd totally want the hike more than the drink. I don't drink! Never have. Don't even know what the stuff taste like.
It tastes like a donkey’s ass
I completely related with this video I actually hated drinking and I would always hear about all these things I would miss out on. It took a few years but I now realise that's not the kind of life I want and I wasn't having fun so really wasn't missing out on anything.
this video is so refreshing!! I also don't drink alcohol, it's nice to know that I'm not the only one who believes in this, as you and a lot of other people who are also commenting feel the same way...yay!! :)
7 years later and I *still* come back to watch this video. Who else? Sooo good and relevant, everytime I see this I remember whole heartedly why I don’t give a damn about alcohol and feel sooo relieved. 👑
Thank you beautiful for this video! I was actually planning to make a video like this next week!!! Monday marks 30 days no alcohol for me and I COULDN'T BE HAPPIER WITH MY DECISION! :) Here in Hollywood, it's around me all day but I have been saying no and I feel amazing! My workouts show way better results and my face/skin look better! My life is just WAY better lol. Hope to meet you one day! :)
That’s awesome!
Dear girl, I am impressed by you. Even I don't drink. Drinking is always dangerous to health.
i love the crab bucket story!
I quit years ago and do not miss it. My skin is amazing and I’m 46...so I don’t need anything toxic in my body. I want to feel and look as young possible. It’s important to be healthy and plan to stay that way.
Awesome video!! I loved what you had to say. :) Nothing against anyone who enjoys drinking, but the cycle of drinking and waking up hungover is not worth it. I would rather wake up in pain from sore muscles, than wake up feeling sluggish and wanting to sleep in all day. Great talk girl! Subscribed!
I've been sober almost 17 months and it feels great. Still have allot personal work to clear the noise in the head and try to clear the vast memories of persuasion catching the low self esteem given in with my mirror to the world. It's still a pain to think about. But damn, getting the fitness goals in perspective without giving enough effort is frustrating. It's complex but you got a positive attitude. I'm praying I find friends like you soon. It will be a seemingly frightening change. But shifting my habits to the ultimate life of sobriety, fitness, and above all... fighting the gremlin in the head allot of us are familiar with.
I love going out occasionally with my girls for a drink, but I can't stand people who do the crabs in the bucket scenario. While I do like having fun with alcohol, I don't do it often and when I go to a party just to hang out sober, the people who pressure you to drink just ruin the fun. Some people simply can't believe in having some booze around once a month, not every weekend. I'm eighteen and especially my generation places so much emphasis on alcohol and having a good time, but not all of us like that association all the time. My pact with my friends is that if someone doesn't feel like drinking you support them! Pressuring leads to dangerous situations like blacking out and even alcoholism. Brenda is right, drinking is a very personal choice and peer pressure is just wrong.
+Maddy Harvey when your generation gets to middle age you are going to see a huge spike in bad health in society...but hey there are consequences in life.
Well said! I myself, am an alcoholic. I'll be sober 3 years in 2 weeks! Much to my dismay, I've gained a lot of weight since becoming sober. :( Your videos are inspiring me and I'm ready to get started!!
I needed to hear this, your a positive role model :)
Thanks Brenda! I have struggled with this for ages. Personally I hate drinking for the same reasons as you. Its great to hear someone passionately talking about their views xx
Alcohol abuse runs in my family, and that is why I don't drink alcohol because of that reason. And this video I understand her point of view of not drinking and she has a point. My dad and mom were alcoholics including my older brother. And my sisters and I suffer from that. And when we go out like she mentioned in this video your friends start acting weird and in my case they called me party pooper, stuck up and conceited bitch. But they don't know my story why I don't drink alcohol. So, this video is very inspiring and very true. I just wish I people weren't so judgemental on people who don't drink. By the way love all your videos much love girl.
I love your ethics! I am the same way, I like to uphold a certain standard for myself and also inline with what I say to other people. I don't drink often, but I have been thinking of quitting drinking completely.
a central nervous system depressant, its no secret alcohol is a killer.I hate it with a passion
That's exactly how I feel! You put my thoughts into words! Thanks for sharing
I don't drink EVER, but I have gone to parties with friends who did drink-and you'd swear we'd been to two different parties if you heard us talk about them the next day. I guess my point is, if you drink then consider the possibility that you might not be having as much fun as you think you've been having. You should be able to talk to your friends without having to stay up half the night, waste $80 AND feel like crap the next day. Just saying.
I get so much from your posts. You are such an inspiration. I too get annoyed when I go out with my friends and they want me to eat the foods I don't want to eat and drink alcohol when I insist I don't want any. It's gotten to the point to where I just don't go out with them anymore and it makes me feel like I'm missing out on things or I'm throwing away good "socializing" time with friends. But you're right!! What the heck am I missing out on when I don't even enjoy it. Those darned crabs. Thanks for your support. (Even though you don't know me, I know you support me.)
K-os has a catchy song called Crabs in the bucket and I never really knew what it meant. Thank you for defining that for me, I can definitely relate
Never heard it before, went and listened pretty good song.
Kudos to you. Im a drinker but I don't pressure my non drinking buddies to. I always encourage them on their decisions even when they have their moments and I ll refuse to give them a sip of my wine. I like the way wine taste but I know how to control my consumption and respect others. I just happen to come across this video and it put a smile on my face.
You are a one in a million. Keep up the good work 👍
I am six months sober and every aspect of my life as improved! I am back down in weight, more focused in school and work and just feel GREAT! thank you for the video! it is empowering to not drink and stand outside the norm!
Haha I have pulled that club soda lie...people get so pushy sometimes 👎good for you for not falling into peer pressure
Thank you for the amazing video! I’m cutting alcohol completely off, just bc friends do it doesn’t mean you have to! I’d rather study for my future then drink and set myself back. They say alcohol isn’t bad but really it is! You’re so wise and beautiful
you're adorable and positive and I love you girl!
you can tell in the comments of her videos that people respond to positive people
Awesome video! My favorite part about not drinking at the bar is coming home and still feeling so motivated to exercise or work on improving my skills. It's funny how nowadays that feeling of motivation makes me feel higher than drinking ever could. I like the crabs in the bucket reference, I know that all too well.
This video helped me so much, THANK YOU! (:
Shutup bitch
Brenda - I couldn't have said this any better myself.. You really know how to convey your thoughts and thank you for being such a positive force!!
alcohol is really bad for you...that's why I substitute it with weed.
+yt ofso hmm, substituting one drug for another isn't the best advice. THC in weed can lead to mental illness in later life, like anxiety, depression and psychosis. sounds like this channel isn't the right one for you. imho.
You are awesome you really get it i do exactly the same
+mrlozmoore that is bullshit
xultraragex if that's your opinion then stick with it. but my statement is still true.
+mrlozmoore proof it
Wise words.. I've had the same anxiety about "missing the party" and I also hate losing those "2 days".. I was actually just telling myself that tonight.. that it seems like I always lose "2 days" each time I drink.. I'm 30 now. I've drank about once a week or once every other week since college. I had some breaks of a few months in there when I was training hard, but for the most part, I've been a weekend warrior. I have both training & professional goals that I wish to accomplish this year, so I'm going to get serious about not going out so much & cutting out alcohol. Thank you very much for posting this.
I don't drink either! I find it rather boring, cliche, and toxic. I prefer cannabis and psychedelics.
+Alexis Castaneda me too, much better for your body too
+Alexis Castaneda I drank never went alcoholic with it but at some point I started to convulse, so the doctor forbid alcohol! Even if I get cured I will never drink alcohol in my life!
My first time watching your channel and I just have to say that I really LOVE this video, so smart!!! It's amazing even as an adult how much pressure there is to "hang out and just have a few!" It's like they are saying that I will be a drag if i'm not drinking. The truth is I will be a drag because I surrounded by drunks! :)
Thanks for the great video!
How's yor spirtitul health stay close to jesus as well as health my dear♡
I love this video! "Crabs In The Bucket" is a great example of allowing people to pull you down to their level. Don't allow others to jeopardize your ultimate self. You define who you are going to be.
That good you dont drink alcohol but life is too short too not have fun and sametimes you need Alcohol once in a while to deal with stress
If you go to alcohol when you're stressed then I think that makes you an alcoholic lol. You do not have to drink when you're stressed, there are other ways to relieve stress.
J Bub that true but then people smoke to relive stress too but I don't alcohol
No you dont need alcohol for stress, and if your way of dealing with stress is to become impaired than you have created an additional problem to the one you already had. The best ways to deal with stress is to talk it out with someone you trust or a counselor.
ma b Yup, thats the point I was trying to get across. I hate when people say "I've had such a bad/long day I need a drink" or "I'm so stressed I got to get drunk" ...no you really don't. I'm sure intoxicating yourself will just pose more problems.
Bill Gassett and J Bub thanks for pointing that out i am done
Wow I really needed this. I've been experiencing that anxiety and kind of lost sight of my goals. Thank you
I like to flip it around on my friends. When they're like "come on lets drink", I'll tell them no thanks and then they proceed to tell me how much of a pussy I am. Next morning when they are all hang over I'll call and ask them to go to the gym with me. When they refuse I throw their comments from them the previous night right back at them.
THANK YOU SO MUCH BRENDA FOR THIS VIDEO. I've come to the realization (with this awesome video) that I don't have to drink alcohol of I don't want to. It doesn't matter how much people push me to do it. Isn't that suppose to be the perk of being out of high school! The reason why Im saying this is because it's been so hard for me to say no to people cause ....let me break this down: I live in the heart of Miami (where people live for drinking), my mom's family is Cuban, so are my friends and friends of the family, and my dad's family is Honduran, so alcohol is like a must. They ALWAYS pressure me to drink alcohol so I can "relax," even my mom (I'm 25 by the way) cause she says I need to "chill"! Isn't that interesting. So thank you Ms. Brenda. Now I can stand up to every body and tell them "NO, thank you," cause being better is my true reason to not drink the stuff. I love being clear, focused, analytical, and autonomous. I can't do that if I drink.
What is your opinion on marijuana? I smoke quite often but do not drink.
Really lol obviously that would be a no lol
Probably fine itself, but you'll end up eating like... 12 bags of doritos
music to my ear... being true to yourself is all we have so good on you!!
i know right
This was awesome!
I love that you talk about this in what works for you and are not judgemental of others. You have a great positive outlook as you are open minded. And some things work well for some people and not for others. You're a true inspiration with positive vibes, so I am subscribing to your channel :) Thanks for such great videos :)
I'm an alcoholic
I wish I can stop and get healthy
For my little kids and husband
I know is going to be fking hard
But for people like you that show me
That is possible not to give up
Thank you
Try L glutamine it reduces cravings I am almost 2 years without a drink
I've been sober for over a year now and will not be going back, for pretty much the same reasons as you. Your experience is almost dead on with mine as far as the social aspect of it, but I could really care less what others think of me. You also start to ask yourself a few months down the road why you still hangout with those "friends" that are really just nothing more than drinking associates, you have to ditch the bad in your life and find like-minded people. Instead of going to a bar try going to a coffee house or tea spot, outdoor activities etc. Solid vid, thanks.
The problem with people who don't drink is that many of you are often condescending towards the people who do .....and you come across as very condescending in this video. Those of us who do imbibe aren't the ones pestering those of you who don't .....I definitely think it's the other way around and judging from the comments on this video and the undertone of your attitude, I'd say I am most certainly correct.
i agree that people who don't drink can seem condescending, but ALSO people who do drink DEFINITELY do harass others....I decided not to drink something the other day because my stomach had bad acid reflux....and these two guys that were friends with my boyfriend told me that I was "lame" and not fun and that I was too concerned with weight loss....what the hell? there are other reasons people don't want to drink. it's a toxin that makes my stomach feel sick a lot. people who drink have done nothing but harass me throughout my life. I HATE IT and am sick of it. If I feel sick and don't drink, leave me the hell alone for christ's sake.
MathandMakeup I think it goes both ways. I, personally, respect personal choice and don't engage in harassment of others who choose not to drink. There are some of us drinkers who do. I just have a real big problem with the non-drinkers .....every last one of them (except one) that I have ever encountered was condescending. I don't care if you don't drink, but don't look your snooty nose down at me because I do. It's one of my biggest pet peeves in life, lol, especially when someone young like me, in their 20s does it......
I don't "look down on people with my snooty nose". sometimes I just choose not to drink b/c my stomach feels sick. I have a bad stomach and the yeast in beer causes problems as does liquor for acid reflux. if thats condescending to you then I'm not sure what to tell you. there ARE other reasons other than snooty people for why others don't drink. this is the last time i'm commenting on this video to say this. i'm done arguing about pointless things. i was merely trying to make a point that there ARE other reasons not to drink and tha ti'm SICK of getting made fun of and having alcohol forced down my throat by the alcoholics in my family. that is all. have a wonderful day everyone and I hope you do what makes you happy.
MathandMakeup I wasn't arguing with you though, so why the hostility in your response? I wasn't using "you" in reference to you, because I do not know you personally; my usage of the word "you" was figurative as if I were speaking to a non-drinker that I know myself. No need to be hop on the defense. I've already stated my position on the matter as have you. This isn't a debate or a court trial - you have your point of view and I have mines .....no arguments necessary, end of story!
Numerous times, she said the it was ok to drink occasionally. It is also her personal opinion which I happen to agree with. :)
What a great video! This was the biggest thing I had to deal with in the business world and finally learned how to handle it. But for a long time I was considered a stick in the mud for not drinking at our company's social events. They would make it a game to get me to drink. Older and wiser. Great channel!
That's so sad! How old are these colleagues of yours? I mean, imagine if you were a recovering alcoholic and they didn't know - how insensitive that would be of them to try and get you to drink! I would never pressure anyone to drink for the simple reason that a lot of people who don't drink are recovering alcoholics and that would just be absolutely horrible to do!
I LOVE ALCOHOL
I've never been much of a drinker, I drink maybe once or twice a year if that, and that's new years. I like your mindset Brenda and I hope you keep reaching your fitness goals. Great video!!
I agree with purple all theese fitness gurus live such a boring lifestyle don't even go out eat food or drink boring boring and their personalities r boring!
its called having discipline, the more discipline you have the more successful you will become in life
Your idea of an exciting lifestyle is going out to eat and drink? Seriously? Okay.
I recently stopped drinking for 2 months and its amazing how much I get done and take more actions on making my goals come true. I read more I practice more my craft I go to the gym more often like 6 times this week .. when I work out I just crush it .. I feel soooo much better I meditate every morning . like its life changing im so happier too .. now LAst night I went out eating with few a chiks and I drank couple beers .. well after the first beer I could feel my brain just go like Numb and i did not feel good ...so I kept drinking and it just got worst... like you say NOT OPTIMAL .. exactly how I felt and Feel this morning .. . im actually glad I drank last night... I can understand better the Why I am choose right now to quit alcool forever r :) I choose to always be at my most optimal state and to work hard to reach my full potential ... by the way first time I see you but you look very healthy and pretty .. have a beautiful day
I stopped drinking about 12 years ago, and it was definitely one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. I love your comment, "It's OK to not drink." Amen! It's OK to not follow the crowd. Thanks for your videos, they are super helpful and encouraging! :)
So much truth to this! I love the way you said everything. I feel exactly the same, I just didn't know how to word it. Thank you SO MUCH.
this almost left me teary-eyed. I related to so much esp since coming from a family with alcoholism also, thank you so much, Brenda~ ily! we love you
Thank u so much a lot of youngsters need to hear
Just found your channel love it! I recently just cut out alcohol and I've never felt better. I plan to run the LA Marathon this March. Reaching those goals!
Exactly!!!! I went through the same thing in my early 20s. I'm 28 now. I was always into fitness and bodybuilding and have accomplished alot of personal physical goals, but the alcohol held me back a little bit from 23-25ish. And nobody could understand why i didn't want to drink with them anymore. Now I''ve been 6 months sober, and hellbent on reaching my ultimate physical goal. But awesome video, finally something that I can relate to!!
Love this video. I come back to it often when I need motivation to stay away from alcohol 🙂
I feel like if I ever met you I would just wanna give you a big hug. You're my favorite person
you are such a positive influence Brenda! I love this message that you are sending- I indulge in the occasional glass of wine but when im out ill drink a little because of the pressure I feel that you discussed but im gonna just stay no from now on and I feel the same way as you when I drink too much -its a waste of money and not conducive to a healthy lifestyle-keep on spreading this great messages!
It's so refreshing to see you on the TH-cam talking openly about the negative effects of alcohol - you are right...