I relate to this so hard. I'm 32, neurodivergent af, just got my Bachelor's last year after 12 years of on-and-off struggle. I probably never should've gone in the first place but I didn't even KNOW there were options other than going to college after high school. I mourn the life I could've had if I had gone hard into my poetry and rapping instead of going hard into student loan debt at that age 😭 But I believe it's never too late. I hope you can explore your unresolved creative desires in peace 💜
My dude, when I tell you I’m 30 and JUST figured out that I should probably focus more on writing and trying videos… it felt like the sky opened up and I saw sunshine for the first time. I went back to college to get a degree in Technical Writing because my advisor was like “you should probably get Technical Writing to be more marketable” and the only classes I liked were creative writing, Digital Writing (where we made our own blogs and websites) Japanese (because it was a passion project) and Beginning Vocal.
I worked at a university for 4 1/2 years where about 70% of the students there were pre-med because that’s what the institution was known for. You’d be amazed at how many of the students were not naturally gifted in STEM and didn’t even like science, but still pursued the field because of the prestige and lucrative salaries associated. Plus, no parents were stopping their children from becoming doctors. A lot of students received great grades in their arts and humanities courses but mediocre grades in the biology and chemistry courses. Yet, still pursued medicine while continuing to get grades that no medical school would ever accept. It was sad really.
"She didn't want me to art." 😂 I laughed so many times during this 😂 I know you're being serious but it's funny. I totally feel you. I'm 39yo. I HATE my career. I dropped out of college and although I make decent money, I know for a fact it's not what I was meant to do. I'm in finance but I LOVE music, fashion, movies, painting, reading, writing, photography, etc. I saw a job offer online recently for an A&R rep at Sony in New York. A city I always felt alive in but never had the balls to move to and it would cut my pay in half but you know what, I thought about it. Because it sounds like something I would love doing. Instead of the safe route my parents and their parents and their parents took. Yes, money was made but joy is what I'm after. Do you Baby Girl. Start drawing today. Draw and paint and post and create content and sell on Etsy and never look back.
I definitely felt that on so many levels! Now I’m stuck with regrets and this should/ could/ would have done this differently mindset keep haunting me. Lesson learned: live in your purpose and do what makes YOU happy regardless of others. Great video!❤
For all the ND's out there: It's never too late. There are very few things in life that are truly permanent. Even tattoos fade over time. Take some time to explore, learn new things, and if money is an issue... use it as an opportunity to explore what you need vs what you've been convinced to need. I've decided that its best to go after what I want and possibly fail, but most definitely learn along the way, than to live a life quietly regretting not pursuing my calling at all.
Feels too close to home. I got a bit of 'well you can do art if you get scholarships' but learned it only mattered to get a degree and make money. And on the one hand getting the degree and making money in a "good" field has helped me in a lot of ways financially, but crushed so many parts of me. I guess that's how it goes in this messed up world, you get the necessities like healthcare (if you're lucky) at the cost of passion, or you follow passion and don't get the necessities.
You should still get it into it. Ive recently started to be comfortable with life being explorative. Your soul always knows what you are inclined to do and that void will never be filled up. Believe me I know where youre coming from. It's good that you've gotten to this conclusion, it's an opportunity to use the momentum to do what you wanna do.
I definitely feel what you’re saying I’m an artist, too. Fortunately, I went to an art magnet high school. But I had to argue, pleaded with my mother, just to even take certain art classes, because that’s where my passion was drawing animation filmmaking photography. It’s not right all children have the right to express themselves uniquely how they want to. That’s why whenever, if I have the opportunity to have children, I make sure they get that right.
relatable asf. so many aspirations i had were left unnoticed due to outside forces as a child/teen. i really wish my parents pushed me more because i had so much potential. girl, i feel u.
It is never too late!! As long as you’re breathing on this Earth you have time to do everything you want to do. Recharge, regroup and start pursuing drawing. Who knows you might feel recharged from it, giving you even more energy that you need
Keep going . You'll get to where you're meant to be. I am someone who would've thrived in a creative career as well but was encouraged by parents to go into finance - it's miserable. I wish I was more rebellious back then.
I relate more to grieving who I could be and what I could accomplish if I was neurotypical. Maybe it comes from self hatred, but maybe it comes from me being unable to do the things I love even if I want to do it soooo badly and hating myself for it because of executive dysfunction. Imagine who I could be if I just had enough dopamine in my brain and didn’t have to search for it elsewhere. Imagine who I could be if I could just…experience happiness as the standard and not as this miraculous drop of water in the desert that I pray for every day because of my depression. If I could only FOCUS ON THE THINGS I WANT AND IF I COULD REMEBER MY BEST FRIEND’S BIRTHDAY JUST ONCE! If I didn’t have to worry about me forgetting important and beautiful moments I had with loved ones that I will never be able to recall back because of my ADHD. I could’ve been great, but now I’m just…here, existing.
As someone who went to art school with a bachelors in fine arts and graduated. 23 years old. Its pretty stressful route to take and part of me could not fathom the reality post graduation. I took a 7 months break. But things are certainly falling in place.
I felt this so hard. Them mfs really tried to get me to do business administration. I dont recall what the inside of the class looked like the first few months I tried because, as I'd find out years later, I eas dissociating hard. Music and acting have always been my babies, but...frigging Nigerian guardians and parents... I'm 34 now, but I'm rekindling my love for these things and revisiting them. The tech may have changed, but my love for music hasn't waned. One step at a time. In many ways, I'm thankful I wasn't allowed to do my thing because I would have been taken advantage of. Now, I have enough confidence and experience with people and life to know this time, I'm doing music for ME. Thank you for this lovely video. Subbed!❤🎉
I dont know about your economy in your country..art is expensive when you're still starting up. For me it is important to have income so that you dont end up compromising your craft or even selling your soul. Unfortunately thats the reality of life for many. You can use your degree to invest in your art. That's my experience anyway
I relate to this so hard. I'm 32, neurodivergent af, just got my Bachelor's last year after 12 years of on-and-off struggle. I probably never should've gone in the first place but I didn't even KNOW there were options other than going to college after high school. I mourn the life I could've had if I had gone hard into my poetry and rapping instead of going hard into student loan debt at that age 😭 But I believe it's never too late. I hope you can explore your unresolved creative desires in peace 💜
My dude, when I tell you I’m 30 and JUST figured out that I should probably focus more on writing and trying videos… it felt like the sky opened up and I saw sunshine for the first time. I went back to college to get a degree in Technical Writing because my advisor was like “you should probably get Technical Writing to be more marketable” and the only classes I liked were creative writing, Digital Writing (where we made our own blogs and websites) Japanese (because it was a passion project) and Beginning Vocal.
I worked at a university for 4 1/2 years where about 70% of the students there were pre-med because that’s what the institution was known for. You’d be amazed at how many of the students were not naturally gifted in STEM and didn’t even like science, but still pursued the field because of the prestige and lucrative salaries associated. Plus, no parents were stopping their children from becoming doctors. A lot of students received great grades in their arts and humanities courses but mediocre grades in the biology and chemistry courses. Yet, still pursued medicine while continuing to get grades that no medical school would ever accept. It was sad really.
"She didn't want me to art." 😂 I laughed so many times during this 😂 I know you're being serious but it's funny. I totally feel you. I'm 39yo. I HATE my career. I dropped out of college and although I make decent money, I know for a fact it's not what I was meant to do. I'm in finance but I LOVE music, fashion, movies, painting, reading, writing, photography, etc. I saw a job offer online recently for an A&R rep at Sony in New York. A city I always felt alive in but never had the balls to move to and it would cut my pay in half but you know what, I thought about it. Because it sounds like something I would love doing. Instead of the safe route my parents and their parents and their parents took. Yes, money was made but joy is what I'm after. Do you Baby Girl. Start drawing today. Draw and paint and post and create content and sell on Etsy and never look back.
I definitely felt that on so many levels! Now I’m stuck with regrets and this should/ could/ would have done this differently mindset keep haunting me.
Lesson learned: live in your purpose and do what makes YOU happy regardless of others.
Great video!❤
For all the ND's out there: It's never too late.
There are very few things in life that are truly permanent. Even tattoos fade over time. Take some time to explore, learn new things, and if money is an issue... use it as an opportunity to explore what you need vs what you've been convinced to need.
I've decided that its best to go after what I want and possibly fail, but most definitely learn along the way, than to live a life quietly regretting not pursuing my calling at all.
Feels too close to home. I got a bit of 'well you can do art if you get scholarships' but learned it only mattered to get a degree and make money. And on the one hand getting the degree and making money in a "good" field has helped me in a lot of ways financially, but crushed so many parts of me. I guess that's how it goes in this messed up world, you get the necessities like healthcare (if you're lucky) at the cost of passion, or you follow passion and don't get the necessities.
You should still get it into it. Ive recently started to be comfortable with life being explorative. Your soul always knows what you are inclined to do and that void will never be filled up. Believe me I know where youre coming from. It's good that you've gotten to this conclusion, it's an opportunity to use the momentum to do what you wanna do.
I definitely feel what you’re saying I’m an artist, too. Fortunately, I went to an art magnet high school. But I had to argue, pleaded with my mother, just to even take certain art classes, because that’s where my passion was drawing animation filmmaking photography. It’s not right all children have the right to express themselves uniquely how they want to. That’s why whenever, if I have the opportunity to have children, I make sure they get that right.
relatable asf. so many aspirations i had were left unnoticed due to outside forces as a child/teen. i really wish my parents pushed me more because i had so much potential. girl, i feel u.
Youre still young. Do it!
It is never too late!! As long as you’re breathing on this Earth you have time to do everything you want to do. Recharge, regroup and start pursuing drawing. Who knows you might feel recharged from it, giving you even more energy that you need
omg you’re so right, i get bored of my typical hobbies very easily, maybe i need to add a new one!! thanks so much for this 🥹♥️
Keep going . You'll get to where you're meant to be. I am someone who would've thrived in a creative career as well but was encouraged by parents to go into finance - it's miserable. I wish I was more rebellious back then.
I relate more to grieving who I could be and what I could accomplish if I was neurotypical. Maybe it comes from self hatred, but maybe it comes from me being unable to do the things I love even if I want to do it soooo badly and hating myself for it because of executive dysfunction. Imagine who I could be if I just had enough dopamine in my brain and didn’t have to search for it elsewhere. Imagine who I could be if I could just…experience happiness as the standard and not as this miraculous drop of water in the desert that I pray for every day because of my depression. If I could only FOCUS ON THE THINGS I WANT AND IF I COULD REMEBER MY BEST FRIEND’S BIRTHDAY JUST ONCE! If I didn’t have to worry about me forgetting important and beautiful moments I had with loved ones that I will never be able to recall back because of my ADHD.
I could’ve been great, but now I’m just…here, existing.
I have never related more to a video. Like every single word. So badly want to send this to my mom lol
😂
You're great!!! You're definitely a creative!
As someone who went to art school with a bachelors in fine arts and graduated. 23 years old. Its pretty stressful route to take and part of me could not fathom the reality post graduation. I took a 7 months break. But things are certainly falling in place.
finding your channel has been like finding an oasis in the desert 🥹
felt this on a spiritual level
BRUHHHHH……..PREEEEAAAACCHHHHH🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I felt this so hard. Them mfs really tried to get me to do business administration. I dont recall what the inside of the class looked like the first few months I tried because, as I'd find out years later, I eas dissociating hard. Music and acting have always been my babies, but...frigging Nigerian guardians and parents... I'm 34 now, but I'm rekindling my love for these things and revisiting them. The tech may have changed, but my love for music hasn't waned. One step at a time. In many ways, I'm thankful I wasn't allowed to do my thing because I would have been taken advantage of. Now, I have enough confidence and experience with people and life to know this time, I'm doing music for ME. Thank you for this lovely video. Subbed!❤🎉
I love you! I think you’re awsesome! I love listening to you
Wow, I feel SEEN 😢🥹✨✨
ME TOO DAUGHTER! ( from 74 years)
literally lived the same life :(
What degree did you get?
integrated studies
What did you major in?
which attempt do you want, first second third or fourth?
lol- I was just curious if you could find some kind of employment with your degree that you enjoyed.
I dont know about your economy in your country..art is expensive when you're still starting up. For me it is important to have income so that you dont end up compromising your craft or even selling your soul. Unfortunately thats the reality of life for many. You can use your degree to invest in your art. That's my experience anyway