What helps viewing pintrest photos of beautiful women with beautiful type 4 hair. What we need to do is exalt what makes us so unique and different from the global norm.
This app helped me to love my hair more exactly how it grows out of my head. At it’s length and texture and I make sure my daughter and granddaughters know that their hair is beautiful because of its texture and their skin is beautiful BECAUSE it’s dark. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
That's me with everything ! Pinterest helps lessen my anxiety knowing there's an option or idea to help me figure out things with more ease and less craziness
I will stand by my belief that nobody is tender headed. Our parents would rake through our conditioner-less dry hair from root to tip with a fine tooth comb or braid so tight to the scalp that bumps would appear then call us tender headed. Folks carry that belief with them as they became adults and never investigated where or why they got that notion of “tender headedness” in the first place.
I really enjoyed your video. My grandmother started relaxing my hair when I was around five or six. I suffered severe scalp burns and bleeding in my scalp. But she never cared. As long as my hair was bone straight to her, that was all that mattered. As she did my hair, she would tell me how bad and ugly it was, and how broken off it was. She did not realize that SHE was breaking it off, using a super strength relaxer and not having any knowledge about how to apply a relaxer. My grandmother is long gone and for the first time in my life, I am transitioning and will be wearing my hair natural, and learning to love it! I feel sorry for my grandmother. She never learned that we are not our hair
This is exactly what I went through… so what I did was turn my natural hair into locs and after 12 years I’ve decided to comb them out and learn how to love my natural hair as it grows out of my head. I’m still on that journey and thinking about posting on TH-cam. Thank you for opening up and talking about this sis!!!! You’re a gift!
I really felt this message! I’m a guy but this resonated. I had to realize that my hair isn’t naturally silky or fine. I have very dense thick type 4 hair , with defined coils/curls. I know this channel might be geared for mostly woman , but this resonated. No texturizer for me,
your hair is gorgeous & its so crazy to me how many women hate their 4c hair. i feel like once they accept their hair for what it is (which is gorgeous) then it will flourish & be the most beautiful & admired hair type of all
I always come to this video when I need a little pick me up. I listen to it while getting ready for the day. Thank you for this video, it's making a huge difference. Healing💜💚💙
I'll be keeping this video on repeat for those days when I'm lost and frustated and discouraged with my natural hair. I've listened to it twice already. This will be a saved video. I also have thick natural hair and whenever it reaches a new stage, I am always thrown off because the styles I did before look different and don't seem to work. It feels like I'm fighting with my hair because I'm trying to get it do something it doesn't want to do. It feels like I have to start all over again learning my hair to figure out and accept what works best with this stage. So Thank You for making the point to love it at every stage and in every state.
The residue from childhood relaxers and thick hair comments are real. I am a 4c 63 years young and use to struggle with my thick hair. I can relate to every comment you have made and often heard the same comments growing up. I did the big chop during the pandemic and have not looked back. My hair is thriving and looks so healthy as I wear my large Afro styles. It’s definitely a journey and I just continue to love my hair the same as I love on the rest of my body. I’ve let all my negative thoughts go about my hair and now wear it proudly with confidence. My sister in God you are beautiful and look gorgeous wearing your crown. Thanks for stepping out of your comfort zone to share your experiences and words of support. Continued blessings to you.❤
I remember when I started my locs, people said it would be a hard journey in the sense that you have to accept yourself in all stages and for me that was a piece of cake. It was easy for me to accept my hair as it was going through its many stages(even the "ugly phase"). I cut off my locs 4 months ago, and my hair is now about an inch long when it's completely dry. While having short hair is no problem for me because I've done it before, having my loose natural hair is frustrating at times. It's the extreme frizz, the lack of definition/my hair not wanting to curl, or how dry it gets, among other things that get me discouraged and frustrated. It can be a challenge sometimes when my hair isnt "acting rught", but I'm learning to like my hair in all stages, even in the ones where it seems like my hair is being "difficult". This is the first time in years where I've actually liked my hair and accepted it for what it is(type 4b). For those struggling to like their hair, it does get easier. Keep pushing. Don't try to run away from the fact that your hair is the texture that it is. It'll only cause more frustration for you. Things seem to get easier when you stop resisting and start working with what you have. It was meant for you to have that hair texture, so work with it. It's ok to cry about it and be upset some days, but keep going. As I heard somewhere, 'this is just the season you are in' and that applies to our relationship with our hair. We will all have our days, weeks, months or years of struggling with our hair, but that doesn't mean throw away the whole journey because it gets frustrating. Keep going.
Im just now seeing this video and its greatly appreciated. I transitioned back in 2012 after years of relaxers and then after some years, my texture got more coarse and I was emotional as well. I started doing so many braids etc over the years but now in means of a money saver and also just wanting to love my hair wholeheartedly, I’m being nudged to acceptance. Tired of going to salons etc and just embracing that I just need to do it myself and just be okay with my curl! Powerful video. Thank you ♥️
Thank you for been vulnerable ❤ my hair was also relaxed at 4 and I’ve really struggled to embrace my natural kinky hair at almost 30! Your video give me hope on this journey 🙏🏾
I'm still learning. Baby steps for me. I also grew up in the 90's. I begged my mom to straighten my hair and she gave in when i was 13. As a child i just wanted to fit in and not be teased by the kids (who were mostly non black). And as an adult i have the same sentiment unfortunately. I've been using keratine for the past 2 years, which certainly damaged my hair even more. And i'm at a point where i'm forced to accept my hair. Keratin is very expensive, damaging and i can't keep it up. I went on vacation to France recently and there was one day where i just let my hair air dry. I felt so stress free that day, but was very selfconchase that people might stare at my hair. Like i said, its baby steps for me. I've also had torturous moments with my hair. Tried to straighten it myself and burnt my scalp, i even saw some blood. Spend way too much money on greedy hairdressers overcharching, natural hair wigs that look like wigs, extensions (still have a little patch of hair or lack therof that never grew back since the start of corona), brading thats not worth the money. Etc. Thank you so much for sharing. My comments on youtube are usually limited to 1 or 2 sentences but your video was an entire therapy session for me.❤❤❤
I’m learning to love my hair. It has ruined my confidence. I always permed, dyed and covered it with wigs/extensions. I’m two years natural and I’m doing fine with it. I rock it. But people treat me differently when I wear my natural hair. They act like it’s so unusual to see my hair type worn in my age group. I’m more comfortable wearing my hair personally, but I don’t like the attention it draws. I’m praying I give up caring about people feelings and opinions and just focus on what works best for me. I’m so depressed some days. No one around me understands.
Omg you are absolutely adorable! In the most grown way possible 😆😍 my hair is very similar to yours. Thank you for being so vulnerable. I just cut my hair for the thousandth time and I’m growing it back out again. Wish I had seen this video sooner 🤣 Thanks, again! 🥹🫶🏾
I felt this deeply. I am growing out my hair also and working through similiar emotions and fighting the feeling of going back to relaxer. Thank you for sharing.
I couldn’t agree more. I think your hair is so beautiful and so adds to your beauty. I have similar hair and also know the journey. This hair is beautifully special but does need energy for the washing and styling and needs a person to be confident ❤
Wigs, weaves and extensions are so painful and uncomfortable and itchy! I am too tender headed and like the feel of my own scalp to be free. Your hair looks like a crown Queen. Glad you are doing the work to love and appreciate thyself! Freedom starts from the inside out!
You are beautiful ans so is your hair! Is your son's hair just like yours? If so how are you maintaining his? I have a son and have been looking for tips to keep his healthy and I am transitioning to natural hair.
Thank you💗. Yes his hair is just like mines. We keep the sides low cut and let the middle grow. (Like a box cut). I wash and conditioner his hair weekly then pick out and let it air dry with argon oil in it. I spray his hair with water mixed with castor oil or jojoba a few times a week then use a curling sponge to create texture. Once it gets long enough I’m going to start braiding or twisting that middle area but having the sides cut low really cuts down on maintenance time.
Jesus loves you!😊❤ All so very much! Continue to trust in Him and what He has for you! For He loves you ALL dearly! He won't lead you astray or let you down! He has great things for you and your future!❤❤❤
What helps viewing pintrest photos of beautiful women with beautiful type 4 hair. What we need to do is exalt what makes us so unique and different from the global norm.
This has helped me, changing the way my algorithm works on social media to include women who look like me. That’s how I discovered this video!
This app helped me to love my hair more exactly how it grows out of my head. At it’s length and texture and I make sure my daughter and granddaughters know that their hair is beautiful because of its texture and their skin is beautiful BECAUSE it’s dark. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
That's me with everything ! Pinterest helps lessen my anxiety knowing there's an option or idea to help me figure out things with more ease and less craziness
I will stand by my belief that nobody is tender headed. Our parents would rake through our conditioner-less dry hair from root to tip with a fine tooth comb or braid so tight to the scalp that bumps would appear then call us tender headed. Folks carry that belief with them as they became adults and never investigated where or why they got that notion of “tender headedness” in the first place.
People never approve of something that's uniquely different and intimidating. Your hair is so beautiful and thick.
I really enjoyed your video. My grandmother started relaxing my hair when I was around five or six. I suffered severe scalp burns and bleeding in my scalp. But she never cared. As long as my hair was bone straight to her, that was all that mattered. As she did my hair, she would tell me how bad and ugly it was, and how broken off it was. She did not realize that SHE was breaking it off, using a super strength relaxer and not having any knowledge about how to apply a relaxer. My grandmother is long gone and for the first time in my life, I am transitioning and will be wearing my hair natural, and learning to love it! I feel sorry for my grandmother. She never learned that we are not our hair
Sorry to hear you went through that.
@@Echni-xe3od Thank you! ♥️
This is exactly what I went through… so what I did was turn my natural hair into locs and after 12 years I’ve decided to comb them out and learn how to love my natural hair as it grows out of my head. I’m still on that journey and thinking about posting on TH-cam. Thank you for opening up and talking about this sis!!!! You’re a gift!
I really felt this message! I’m a guy but this resonated. I had to realize that my hair isn’t naturally silky or fine. I have very dense thick type 4 hair , with defined coils/curls. I know this channel might be geared for mostly woman , but this resonated. No texturizer for me,
your hair is gorgeous & its so crazy to me how many women hate their 4c hair. i feel like once they accept their hair for what it is (which is gorgeous) then it will flourish & be the most beautiful & admired hair type of all
I always come to this video when I need a little pick me up. I listen to it while getting ready for the day. Thank you for this video, it's making a huge difference. Healing💜💚💙
I'll be keeping this video on repeat for those days when I'm lost and frustated and discouraged with my natural hair. I've listened to it twice already. This will be a saved video. I also have thick natural hair and whenever it reaches a new stage, I am always thrown off because the styles I did before look different and don't seem to work. It feels like I'm fighting with my hair because I'm trying to get it do something it doesn't want to do. It feels like I have to start all over again learning my hair to figure out and accept what works best with this stage. So Thank You for making the point to love it at every stage and in every state.
The residue from childhood relaxers and thick hair comments are real. I am a 4c 63 years young and use to struggle with my thick hair. I can relate to every comment you have made and often heard the same comments growing up. I did the big chop during the pandemic and have not looked back. My hair is thriving and looks so healthy as I wear my large Afro styles. It’s definitely a journey and I just continue to love my hair the same as I love on the rest of my body. I’ve let all my negative thoughts go about my hair and now wear it proudly with confidence. My sister in God you are beautiful and look gorgeous wearing your crown. Thanks for stepping out of your comfort zone to share your experiences and words of support. Continued blessings to you.❤
Thank you for your honesty. I love your hair. I'm one year into my thick 4b, c hair journey, I have no idea. My shrinkage is real.
I remember when I started my locs, people said it would be a hard journey in the sense that you have to accept yourself in all stages and for me that was a piece of cake. It was easy for me to accept my hair as it was going through its many stages(even the "ugly phase"). I cut off my locs 4 months ago, and my hair is now about an inch long when it's completely dry. While having short hair is no problem for me because I've done it before, having my loose natural hair is frustrating at times. It's the extreme frizz, the lack of definition/my hair not wanting to curl, or how dry it gets, among other things that get me discouraged and frustrated. It can be a challenge sometimes when my hair isnt "acting rught", but I'm learning to like my hair in all stages, even in the ones where it seems like my hair is being "difficult". This is the first time in years where I've actually liked my hair and accepted it for what it is(type 4b). For those struggling to like their hair, it does get easier. Keep pushing. Don't try to run away from the fact that your hair is the texture that it is. It'll only cause more frustration for you. Things seem to get easier when you stop resisting and start working with what you have. It was meant for you to have that hair texture, so work with it. It's ok to cry about it and be upset some days, but keep going. As I heard somewhere, 'this is just the season you are in' and that applies to our relationship with our hair. We will all have our days, weeks, months or years of struggling with our hair, but that doesn't mean throw away the whole journey because it gets frustrating. Keep going.
I love your message and relate to everything you said. I have type 4c hair.
Im just now seeing this video and its greatly appreciated. I transitioned back in 2012 after years of relaxers and then after some years, my texture got more coarse and I was emotional as well. I started doing so many braids etc over the years but now in means of a money saver and also just wanting to love my hair wholeheartedly, I’m being nudged to acceptance. Tired of going to salons etc and just embracing that I just need to do it myself and just be okay with my curl! Powerful video. Thank you ♥️
Thank you for been vulnerable ❤ my hair was also relaxed at 4 and I’ve really struggled to embrace my natural kinky hair at almost 30! Your video give me hope on this journey 🙏🏾
you could try temporary wash out color to spice things up.
either way, the soft healthy voluptuous hair on your head is lovely.
I jus feel free with my Afro like when I wore a bone straight wig I felt out of place
My hair is dense, but not as long. I’ve grown to love when my natural hair get big from rain or humidity.
Absolutely like the sun!
A sun goddess ✨️ with our beautiful hair!
Your type 4 hair is beautiful!!
I'm still learning. Baby steps for me. I also grew up in the 90's. I begged my mom to straighten my hair and she gave in when i was 13. As a child i just wanted to fit in and not be teased by the kids (who were mostly non black). And as an adult i have the same sentiment unfortunately. I've been using keratine for the past 2 years, which certainly damaged my hair even more. And i'm at a point where i'm forced to accept my hair. Keratin is very expensive, damaging and i can't keep it up. I went on vacation to France recently and there was one day where i just let my hair air dry. I felt so stress free that day, but was very selfconchase that people might stare at my hair. Like i said, its baby steps for me. I've also had torturous moments with my hair. Tried to straighten it myself and burnt my scalp, i even saw some blood. Spend way too much money on greedy hairdressers overcharching, natural hair wigs that look like wigs, extensions (still have a little patch of hair or lack therof that never grew back since the start of corona), brading thats not worth the money. Etc. Thank you so much for sharing. My comments on youtube are usually limited to 1 or 2 sentences but your video was an entire therapy session for me.❤❤❤
I’m learning to love my hair. It has ruined my confidence. I always permed, dyed and covered it with wigs/extensions. I’m two years natural and I’m doing fine with it. I rock it. But people treat me differently when I wear my natural hair. They act like it’s so unusual to see my hair type worn in my age group. I’m more comfortable wearing my hair personally, but I don’t like the attention it draws. I’m praying I give up caring about people feelings and opinions and just focus on what works best for me. I’m so depressed some days. No one around me understands.
Omg you are absolutely adorable! In the most grown way possible 😆😍 my hair is very similar to yours. Thank you for being so vulnerable. I just cut my hair for the thousandth time and I’m growing it back out again. Wish I had seen this video sooner 🤣 Thanks, again! 🥹🫶🏾
Thank you!🤍
I felt this deeply. I am growing out my hair also and working through similiar emotions and fighting the feeling of going back to relaxer. Thank you for sharing.
God bless you Me too love my hair all natural no wigs
It looks good.
I couldn’t agree more. I think your hair is so beautiful and so adds to your beauty. I have similar hair and also know the journey. This hair is beautifully special but does need energy for the washing and styling and needs a person to be confident ❤
Your hair is absolutely beautiful! Love the video sis
You have such beautiful energy and your hair is GORGEOUS! Thank you so much for this video! 😊🖤 this made me so happy.
Honey I love your hair!!
Great video thanks for sharing.
You are beautiful!🎉❤
What a true message!🎉❤
You are so naturally beautiful...✨❤️ thank you for the video x
You and your hair are soooo gorgeous!!!! Woooo❤😊
My first relaxer was probably 4.
Thank you for sharing. I've had similar experiences as you, and this is very encouraging .
Thank you love❤ I needed to hear this.
People are about to loc their hair & add extensions… thank you for this ❤
Very pretty with beautiful full, type 4 hair.🤍
You are beautiful
wonderful video and message
I love this❤️
You know I love your hair ! Thank you for this video🤗
Thank you ❤
Thank you for this video.....their is not a lot like it around.....I think I'm going to keep my natural hair for another year..and learn to love it
Oh u r just the cutest🥺💓❤️ beauty
My first perm was at 4-5 too.
Hey boo! We have similar hair story and even type! I think your hair may grow unevenly because of how you stimulate your scalp
Wigs, weaves and extensions are so painful and uncomfortable and itchy! I am too tender headed and like the feel of my own scalp to be free. Your hair looks like a crown Queen. Glad you are doing the work to love and appreciate thyself! Freedom starts from the inside out!
My hair is thick like this
I'm trying to get there too❤
You ain’t got to prove or show your beauty to everyone
That’s what you got from this video?
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You are beautiful ans so is your hair! Is your son's hair just like yours? If so how are you maintaining his? I have a son and have been looking for tips to keep his healthy and I am transitioning to natural hair.
Thank you💗. Yes his hair is just like mines. We keep the sides low cut and let the middle grow. (Like a box cut). I wash and conditioner his hair weekly then pick out and let it air dry with argon oil in it. I spray his hair with water mixed with castor oil or jojoba a few times a week then use a curling sponge to create texture. Once it gets long enough I’m going to start braiding or twisting that middle area but having the sides cut low really cuts down on maintenance time.
C'Mon book!
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Jesus loves you!😊❤ All so very much! Continue to trust in Him and what He has for you! For He loves you ALL dearly! He won't lead you astray or let you down! He has great things for you and your future!❤❤❤
Us 3c girls needed this video as well I have been so lost with navigating my hair and this helped a lot appreciate this