It's inspiring to hear that you're finding satisfaction in life despite the challenges. Age is just a number, and your perspective is a beautiful reminder to cherish every moment! Your outlook on life is truly uplifting and reminds us all to focus on what really matters.
There is a book I found really helpful in de-programming those old pattern adopted from parents/ early years in life: Steven Kessler “5 Personality Patterns”.
@CPTSDJourney-b1m My parents would tell us to play on the highway, same thing. I would never say that to my kids. I also try my best for my children but I know I'm not perfect. I'm careful with my words and try to give as much love affection and care that I can. I have issues with affection. But I've been working on it every day.
I’m 72 years old and I have tried to find a therapist that specializes in compassionate inquiry in Nevada they cost almost $200 an hour so I will do my best to try to figure things out. I wish I had someone who I could talk to that was trained and compassionate inquiry. Thank you for this video. It was amazing. I love you, Dr Gabor, Matt
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear that finding the right therapist has been challenging. It’s wonderful that you’re seeking help, and I truly hope you find someone who can support you soon. I’m glad this content was helpful to you. Sending you lots of love and care. ❤
Best thing he ever taught me … We are all “in recovery.” What are we actually “recovering?” I am trying to “recover” authentic self… that person who disappeared when I started trying to please everyone else starting with my father. I carried that into adulthood and still trying to please people around me, getting further and further away from my authentic self. “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Thank you for sharing something so deep and personal. It's not easy to go through life trying to please everyone, and I really relate to your journey of finding your authentic self. Recovery is a powerful process, and taking steps to rediscover who you truly are is so important. Remember, you're not alone in this - we are all in recovery in our own way. Wishing you strength and peace on your journey. ❤
Good luck in your journey. An amazing book I've found really helpful is called "Healing the Shame that Binds You" by John Bradshaw. It talks alot about people pleasing patterns etc and alot more. It's an incredible book!
My thoughts and feelings have changed so much not just to others bout to myself since I started watching your videos and reading your books. Thank you so much. I have been able to help myself and others because of this change in myself. Using compassionate enquiry in my work has been a revelation. So many broken people, young and old. It feels overwhelming at times. Maybe we could clone you Dr Matè 😊 One for each government in the world because it is pretty obvious to me that a lot of leaders need to be listening to you not just for how they treat their people but for themselves, as it appears they have their own difficulties. I’m glad that you talked about how the trauma did not have to be dire, as I know from myself it is just the day to day chipping away at a child’s esteem that can have a detrimental effect. We wonder why threat and retribution are showing up in life? Well from what I see and hear, that’s how parents control their children. ‘If you don’t do that I’ll do this’. Bringing one child up well requires such a lot, in terms of Love, nurture, time and yes money. And you are so right when you say each child is brought up differently. It’s something I have highlighted to patients and friends. I hope your epitaph is a very long way off. Thank you for all you do 😊
My thoughts and feelings have changed so much not just to others bout to myself since I started watching your videos and reading your books. Thank you so much. I have been able to help myself and others because of this change in myself. Using compassionate enquiry in my work has been a revelation. So many broken people, young and old. It feels overwhelming at times. Maybe we could clone you Dr Matè 😊 One for each government in the world because it is pretty obvious to me that a lot of leaders need to be listening to you not just for how they treat their people but for themselves, as it appears they have their own difficulties. I’m glad that you talked about how the trauma did not have to be dire, as I know from myself it is just the day to day chipping away at a child’s esteem that can have a detrimental effect. We wonder why threat and retribution are showing up in life? Well from what I see and hear, that’s how parents control their children. ‘If you don’t do that I’ll do this’. Bringing one child up well requires such a lot, in terms of Love, nurture, time and yes money. And you are so right when you say each child is brought up differently. It’s something I have highlighted to patients and friends. I hope your epitaph is a very long way off. Thank you for all you do 😊
This is such a powerful video. Dr. Gabor Mate is a true healer. His wisdom & courage is helping to heal many people. I so appreciate how he perceives trauma & healing in a holistic way - keeping in mind that a person's environment, relationships & lives need to be considered in a fundamental way. Also, Dr. Mate's personal language of healing & how he uses words to describe things is so insightful, unique, compassionate & informative. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! I'm really glad the video resonated with you. Dr. Gabor Maté’s insights are truly powerful, and it's amazing how he approaches healing in such a caring and holistic way. Your support means a lot. Thank you! 😊
In my work with clients, I use a special process to work with the subconscious mind and resolve the pain without reliving the pain i.e. we work with the inner child but with a very detailed process that focuses on validating the emotional pain you experienced, releasing that pain, identifying the subconscious beliefs and interpretations, resolving those beliefs and forgiving everyone involved and expressing self-compassion - again at a subconscious level. I call this process - SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) focusing on resolving the root cause of the issue without reliving the pain.
It's wonderful to hear about your approach! It sounds like a powerful way to help clients heal and grow. The subconscious mind holds so much, and your process seems to respect that deeply.
The last place children should receive trauma from is their family. Yet most trauma comes from the family. The family is supposed to help you with trauma recovery. So people with family trauma need to be their own adoptive parent to help their inner child(ren) heal. You need to become the loving parent you never had. You need to love all your parts unconditionally.
You’re absolutely right. Family should be a place of love and safety, but sadly, it’s often where many people experience trauma. It’s so important to learn how to care for yourself and be the loving parent to your inner child that you may not have had. Healing starts with loving yourself unconditionally. Thank you for sharing this important message.
And yet mine were the ones inducing my trauma. Protection love and belonging should b the Norm...... Just look around Question how have we collective been reduced 2 it.
I wish I had Dr Mate to listen to when I was much younger. I am glad and privileged to know him now in my 70's. I have five wonderful grandchildren, they are growing with me, when I am with them. Thank you Dr. Mate.
In this eye-opening video, expert Dr. Gabor Maté reveals important ideas about trauma and healing. He explains how emotional pain is linked to physical health and how childhood experiences can shape our adult lives. You’ll learn useful ways to overcome trauma, build resilience, and improve mental well-being. Whether you’re interested in personal growth or want to understand trauma better, this video is a great watch. Join us to explore how healing can be life-changing and why compassion and understanding matter so much. #DrGaborMaté, #TraumaHealing, #Compassion, #EmotionalWellbeing, #HolisticHealing, #Mindfulness, #AddictionRecovery, #EmotionalResilience,
Thank you! 🙏🏼🌺 I was spanked for crying, I let my daughter have a ‘pity party’. She was allowed to say how many minutes and if she needed a washcloth or a whole towel to dry her tears 😉 I tried to make it a bonding moment and she rarely needed the time she said she needed for her ‘pity party’. It always ended with a cup of tea or a juice. Did my best to break the cycle. 🙏🏼🌺
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s heartwarming to see parents finding new ways to support their children emotionally. Your approach is truly inspiring! It sounds like you’ve created a wonderful way to connect with your daughter while also validating her feelings. Breaking the cycle is so important, and it seems like you're doing an amazing job!
@@LisaFenton-h7f Thank you 🙏🏼🌺 I’m sorry to hear that happened to you and hope you give your Inner Child & adult self the space now for a ‘pity party’ once in a while. Emotions need to be acknowledged, felt & released, not stored in the body 🙏🏼🌺 A virtual mom-hug for your Inner Child 🤗
"It was a lot more work the anticipated" love that quote. I guess the text for my gravestone could be "He loved solving complex problems for a living, but life was a lot more complex then he anticipated". Doing great in overcoming a complex mess due to the stories of others in my past, and not feeling accepted and loved for who and what I am. Working now on my own true story of recovery instead of theirs first. Thank you for sharing your in depth knowledge of our need for connection. So true!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's wonderful how our experiences shape us, and I'm glad to hear you're focusing on your own journey of recovery. Keep pushing forward!
Thank you Dr. Gabor. You may have just saved my sanity, my health...my life. May the Most High God bless you richly as you so freely and richly bless others.❤❤🙏🏻
Beautiful Insight, resonates deeply- as we’re 13:17 never done growing … thank you for share all your Work, Empathy and Compassion this gift is Priceless… very Grateful…
Thank you. I've had a lot of addicts in my life. I become very frightened around them because of my own childhood and I react in anger. I understand from this video that this is not helpful to either of us. Thank you.
Wonderful video....every word from Dr. Maté is like a gem to me....💎💎💎💎💎💎Thank you so much for educating people on trauma healing, the development of self love, care & compassion and therefore on (spiritual) growth. Your channel is such a huge help and ongoing support for me🌹Blessings to you and everyone on their respective healing path💚
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that Dr. Maté's insights resonate with you. It's all about supporting each other on this journey of healing and growth!
Yes , I’m in a freeze state at 61 due to an accumulation of traumas throughout my lifetime. Loosing everything that I have fought for and not sure if I can find the emotional energy to continue to fight ? 😢
I'm so sorry to hear about what you’re going through. It’s really hard to face so much pain, but please know that you’re not alone. Healing can take time, and it’s okay to feel the way you do. Take things one step at a time and be kind to yourself. Sending you lots of strength and care. 💖
This guy is awesome, his wisdom and knowledge have helped me understand so many words that I only carried as experiences that I refused to BE. Frustrating to parents with deep unhealed wounds, but it gave me the opportunity to choose different ❤️
@@yourinnerchildmatters words will never end….to observe them to know does. ❤️🩹 wounds has gotten many names. In the “bigger picture” (universal) it’s vibrations/energies/patterns….earth needs names. ❤️🔥⚡️♾
Truly helpful information!!! Really like hearing this doctor speak, anytime!! Why can't more people in the helping profession have even half the amount of compassion 🙄????
Hi, I wonder if you could share link to the whole interview with Dr.Maté - he mentioned that there were 3 ways of being with someone who is addicted and this video gets cut of after the first one. I wonder what he says about the second insane way and what is the third sane way he recommend.
The content is really helpful. But it ends abruptly. He was about to talk about 3 ways we can help the addicts. Can u share which video covers the last part of his talk?
His advice (for those trying to help loved ones with addictions) was cut off before he finished... two are "insane" and one is "sane". I heard only the first insane one, which is to try to change them. How do I find the other two... specifically the "sane" one ?
I really, really don't want to be 'that' person but honestly Dr. Mate's message is so profound, so worthwhile the music is unnecessary and horribly distracting. His message and his astoundingly compassionate delivery makes any music just silly. P.S> I am not able to complete the video because of it. Signed an HSP.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! I’m glad you find Dr. Mate's message so impactful, and I’ll definitely keep your feedback in mind for future videos.
I've been looking at gabor's work for a while now and Its highly informative. it helps to recognize patterns based on childhood trauma's. but what i fail to understand is how to heal the trauma, how to get past the addictions. the title of this video promises to answer it, but it does not. Yes, compassion, helps to acknowledge and recocgnize the addiction and the reason for it. but how to get past it? Did anyone find the answer to this?
In my work with clients, I use a special process to work with the subconscious mind and resolve the pain without reliving the pain i.e. we work with the inner child but with a very detailed process that focuses on validating the emotional pain you experienced, releasing that pain, identifying the subconscious beliefs and interpretations, resolving those beliefs and forgiving everyone involved and expressing self-compassion - again at a subconscious level. I call this process - SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) focusing on resolving the root cause of the issue without reliving the pain.
I completely agree. I have learned so much from Gabor Mate. He has helped me understand things clearly about myself I could never figure out. But I agree and have the same question. Ok … now that I know and believe that my comfort seeking behavior is about past traumas showing up in adulthood, what do I DO about it? I guess being aware of the root cause is the first step.
@@yourinnerchildmatters prego! so many questions. am going to oct 20 conf @ Kripalu. traveling many miles... so wish to write to/ meet drs g m & b v d k. thanks for teachings via internet 😷
When the addicted person is abusive, it seems nearly impossible to maintain compassion, particularly when they damage those around them or consistently place their loved ones in risky situations.
This video is impossible to follow with the elevator music thats too loud. This is a serious subject that is ruined and sounds pitiful with this noise. Its just hard to focus on the subject. Had to listen 2x to hear over the music. 😊
I did not find the music too loud or distracting, nor was it difficult for me to focus. Notice I began saying I. You stated every complaint as a truth, rather than “for you it was true.” I hope you might notice the difference and think about it.
Not sure if you might be new to video editing :) appreciate you putting this tgt, but it might be helpful to have a more seamless and continuous music throughout different parts of the video. Good try though! Continue growing
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please know that you're not alone, and it's okay to feel how you’re feeling. Life can be really tough sometimes, but reaching out and talking about it is a strong step. Even when things feel hopeless, there are people who care and want to help. Take it one day at a time, and remember to be gentle with yourself. Sending you lots of love and strength. bless you
@@katydid6920 You must find a way to get out of your toxic environment. Can someone pick you up and get you some help and support from a woman's shelter for women experiencing domestic violence. They can get you all set up in a better place. 💔😥 Get out and don't look back. Some people need to put others down so they can feel good about themselves. These people are dangerous to have a relationships with. Don't expose yourself to this kind of behaviour anymore. 💖🙋🏼♀️
It feels like thid video was cut off and doesn't actually say how to help someone who is addicted. Just accepting them the way they are doesn't help as been there done that. The person often has no idea why they are addicted and often aren't interested in finding out either.
If addicted, be compassionate and curious as to what caused addiction. Choosing compassion and acceptance of yourself is a key antidote of SHAME which often fuels the self-soothing behavior of addiction. Of course, professional help from trained expert helps, but they essentially help you to feel emotions and work in accepting and loving yourself.
From my personal experience with addiction stemming from childhood sexual abuse and emotional neglect, I have found diving into CPTSD has been the key to understanding and healing. It helps to seek someone outside yourself, too, as I tried to work things out on my own, and I could only get so far. It's hard as hell to take that step, though. Don't be too hard on yourself. Wish you the best.
This is the same doctor who ignored 79 studies that all indicated ADHD is at the neurotransmitter level and not caused by trauma, all the way it is deeply affected by trauma. I wouldn't take anything he says very seriously, and I certainly wouldn't listen to him without doing your own research or consulting a real expert. His degree is in family health and that's where he practiced. It's the height of arrogance proceed the way he has regarding ADHD and I'll never trust him about anything else besides his own feelings about his own body.
Being almost 82 you’re completely right. Not my body, that’s deteriorating, and yet, never been more satisfied with life and what comes to me. 🙏🌈
It's inspiring to hear that you're finding satisfaction in life despite the challenges. Age is just a number, and your perspective is a beautiful reminder to cherish every moment! Your outlook on life is truly uplifting and reminds us all to focus on what really matters.
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you!
Thank you. This is good to know.
Heavens!
Thank you for this.
How were you able to reach such a state?
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That was my mom's favorite saying when we were upset about something..."get over it". I yearned for a hug, something.
Thank you for sharing that! It’s amazing how our parents’ words can shape our responses to tough times. Sending virtual hugs your way!
There is a book I found really helpful in de-programming those old pattern adopted from parents/ early years in life: Steven Kessler “5 Personality Patterns”.
@CPTSDJourney-b1m My parents would tell us to play on the highway, same thing. I would never say that to my kids. I also try my best for my children but I know I'm not perfect. I'm careful with my words and try to give as much love affection and care that I can. I have issues with affection. But I've been working on it every day.
I’m 72 years old and I have tried to find a therapist that specializes in compassionate inquiry in Nevada they cost almost $200 an hour so I will do my best to try to figure things out. I wish I had someone who I could talk to that was trained and compassionate inquiry. Thank you for this video. It was amazing. I love you, Dr Gabor, Matt
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear that finding the right therapist has been challenging. It’s wonderful that you’re seeking help, and I truly hope you find someone who can support you soon. I’m glad this content was helpful to you. Sending you lots of love and care. ❤
I hope you've found someone you could talk to.
Jesus always is ready to listen
Best thing he ever taught me … We are all “in recovery.” What are we actually “recovering?” I am trying to “recover” authentic self… that person who disappeared when I started trying to please everyone else starting with my father. I carried that into adulthood and still trying to please people around me, getting further and further away from my authentic self. “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Thank you for sharing something so deep and personal. It's not easy to go through life trying to please everyone, and I really relate to your journey of finding your authentic self. Recovery is a powerful process, and taking steps to rediscover who you truly are is so important. Remember, you're not alone in this - we are all in recovery in our own way. Wishing you strength and peace on your journey. ❤
Good luck in your journey. An amazing book I've found really helpful is called "Healing the Shame that Binds You" by John Bradshaw. It talks alot about people pleasing patterns etc and alot more. It's an incredible book!
Love this. In the Cree way we also say that "We don't know anything". The importance of connecting to the present and th eland is key in healing.
Thank you for sharing that beautiful perspective!
My thoughts and feelings have changed so much not just to others bout to myself since I started watching your videos and reading your books. Thank you so much. I have been able to help myself and others because of this change in myself. Using compassionate enquiry in my work has been a revelation. So many broken people, young and old. It feels overwhelming at times. Maybe we could clone you Dr Matè 😊 One for each government in the world because it is pretty obvious to me that a lot of leaders need to be listening to you not just for how they treat their people but for themselves, as it appears they have their own difficulties. I’m glad that you talked about how the trauma did not have to be dire, as I know from myself it is just the day to day chipping away at a child’s esteem that can have a detrimental effect. We wonder why threat and retribution are showing up in life? Well from what I see and hear, that’s how parents control their children. ‘If you don’t do that I’ll do this’. Bringing one child up well requires such a lot, in terms of Love, nurture, time and yes money. And you are so right when you say each child is brought up differently. It’s something I have highlighted to patients and friends. I hope your epitaph is a very long way off. Thank you for all you do 😊
My thoughts and feelings have changed so much not just to others bout to myself since I started watching your videos and reading your books. Thank you so much. I have been able to help myself and others because of this change in myself. Using compassionate enquiry in my work has been a revelation. So many broken people, young and old. It feels overwhelming at times. Maybe we could clone you Dr Matè 😊 One for each government in the world because it is pretty obvious to me that a lot of leaders need to be listening to you not just for how they treat their people but for themselves, as it appears they have their own difficulties. I’m glad that you talked about how the trauma did not have to be dire, as I know from myself it is just the day to day chipping away at a child’s esteem that can have a detrimental effect. We wonder why threat and retribution are showing up in life? Well from what I see and hear, that’s how parents control their children. ‘If you don’t do that I’ll do this’. Bringing one child up well requires such a lot, in terms of Love, nurture, time and yes money. And you are so right when you say each child is brought up differently. It’s something I have highlighted to patients and friends. I hope your epitaph is a very long way off. Thank you for all you do 😊
This is such a powerful video. Dr. Gabor Mate is a true healer. His wisdom & courage is helping to heal many people. I so appreciate how he perceives trauma & healing in a holistic way - keeping in mind that a person's environment, relationships & lives need to be considered in a fundamental way. Also, Dr. Mate's personal language of healing & how he uses words to describe things is so insightful, unique, compassionate & informative. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! I'm really glad the video resonated with you. Dr. Gabor Maté’s insights are truly powerful, and it's amazing how he approaches healing in such a caring and holistic way. Your support means a lot. Thank you! 😊
That is so true.
It is hard work
Even despite the happy moments.
It never ends
Try to accept that as a part of life.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s always encouraging to see others resonate with the realities of life and hard work.
It can end. We don't need to keep perpetuating our pain. Eckhart tolle helps me hugely on this journey
In my work with clients, I use a special process to work with the subconscious mind and resolve the pain without reliving the pain i.e. we work with the inner child but with a very detailed process that focuses on validating the emotional pain you experienced, releasing that pain, identifying the subconscious beliefs and interpretations, resolving those beliefs and forgiving everyone involved and expressing self-compassion - again at a subconscious level. I call this process - SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) focusing on resolving the root cause of the issue without reliving the pain.
It's wonderful to hear about your approach! It sounds like a powerful way to help clients heal and grow. The subconscious mind holds so much, and your process seems to respect that deeply.
How it's done? Please explain more! 😊
Right!!! How do you do that???
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The last place children should receive trauma from is their family. Yet most trauma comes from the family. The family is supposed to help you with trauma recovery. So people with family trauma need to be their own adoptive parent to help their inner child(ren) heal. You need to become the loving parent you never had. You need to love all your parts unconditionally.
You’re absolutely right. Family should be a place of love and safety, but sadly, it’s often where many people experience trauma. It’s so important to learn how to care for yourself and be the loving parent to your inner child that you may not have had. Healing starts with loving yourself unconditionally. Thank you for sharing this important message.
And yet mine were the ones inducing my trauma. Protection love and belonging should b the Norm......
Just look around Question how have we collective been reduced 2 it.
Well spoken.
If I point a finger at someone, there's three more fingers pointing at me.
Forgiveness and gratitude.
Thank you for sharing those beautiful concepts! They remind us of the importance of nurturing our relationships and our own well-being.
Dr.gabor is a truly beautiful human,he is a blessing to us all ❤❤❤🎉
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Dr. Gabor truly has a special way of touching our hearts.
I wish I had Dr Mate to listen to when I was much younger. I am glad and privileged to know him now in my 70's. I have five wonderful grandchildren, they are growing with me, when I am with them. Thank you Dr. Mate.
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts! It’s touching to see how Dr. Mate’s teachings resonate across generations.
I'm forever grateful to Mate & Schwartz and therapy in general. How lucky are we!
Thank you for sharing your gratitude! It’s amazing how therapy and supportive figures can change our lives for the better.
In this eye-opening video, expert Dr. Gabor Maté reveals important ideas about trauma and healing. He explains how emotional pain is linked to physical health and how childhood experiences can shape our adult lives. You’ll learn useful ways to overcome trauma, build resilience, and improve mental well-being. Whether you’re interested in personal growth or want to understand trauma better, this video is a great watch. Join us to explore how healing can be life-changing and why compassion and understanding matter so much. #DrGaborMaté, #TraumaHealing, #Compassion, #EmotionalWellbeing, #HolisticHealing, #Mindfulness, #AddictionRecovery, #EmotionalResilience,
Can you please give me the link of the podcast?
but u cut it before the end .....
Thank you! 🙏🏼🌺 I was spanked for crying, I let my daughter have a ‘pity party’. She was allowed to say how many minutes and if she needed a washcloth or a whole towel to dry her tears 😉 I tried to make it a bonding moment and she rarely needed the time she said she needed for her ‘pity party’. It always ended with a cup of tea or a juice. Did my best to break the cycle. 🙏🏼🌺
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s heartwarming to see parents finding new ways to support their children emotionally. Your approach is truly inspiring! It sounds like you’ve created a wonderful way to connect with your daughter while also validating her feelings. Breaking the cycle is so important, and it seems like you're doing an amazing job!
What a beautiful response to your daughter! My mother was the opposite: Stop crying! You're not hurt! You're just trying to manipulate me."
@@LisaFenton-h7f Thank you 🙏🏼🌺 I’m sorry to hear that happened to you and hope you give your Inner Child & adult self the space now for a ‘pity party’ once in a while. Emotions need to be acknowledged, felt & released, not stored in the body 🙏🏼🌺
A virtual mom-hug for your Inner Child 🤗
"It was a lot more work the anticipated" love that quote. I guess the text for my gravestone could be "He loved solving complex problems for a living, but life was a lot more complex then he anticipated". Doing great in overcoming a complex mess due to the stories of others in my past, and not feeling accepted and loved for who and what I am. Working now on my own true story of recovery instead of theirs first. Thank you for sharing your in depth knowledge of our need for connection. So true!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's wonderful how our experiences shape us, and I'm glad to hear you're focusing on your own journey of recovery. Keep pushing forward!
Thank you Dr. Gabor. You may have just saved my sanity, my health...my life. May the Most High God bless you richly as you so freely and richly bless others.❤❤🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's nice to hear how impactful this content has been for you. Wishing you all the best on your journey!
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you. You as well!❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for interviewing him - it was valuable.
Thank you so much for your kind words!
"We were never accepted for who we were".
Ouch. That hit a tender spot inside of me.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It's tough to feel unaccepted, but remember that your true self is always worth celebrating!
Beautiful Insight, resonates deeply- as we’re 13:17 never done growing … thank you for share all your Work, Empathy and Compassion this gift is Priceless… very Grateful…
Thank you for your kind words! It’s wonderful to hear that the message resonates with you. We’re all on this journey of growth together!
Thank you. I've had a lot of addicts in my life. I become very frightened around them because of my own childhood and I react in anger. I understand from this video that this is not helpful to either of us. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your experience!
Wonderful video....every word from Dr. Maté is like a gem to me....💎💎💎💎💎💎Thank you so much for educating people on trauma healing, the development of self love, care & compassion and therefore on (spiritual) growth. Your channel is such a huge help and ongoing support for me🌹Blessings to you and everyone on their respective healing path💚
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that Dr. Maté's insights resonate with you. It's all about supporting each other on this journey of healing and growth!
Yes , I’m in a freeze state at 61 due to an accumulation of traumas throughout my lifetime. Loosing everything that I have fought for and not sure if I can find the emotional energy to continue to fight ? 😢
I'm so sorry to hear about what you’re going through. It’s really hard to face so much pain, but please know that you’re not alone. Healing can take time, and it’s okay to feel the way you do. Take things one step at a time and be kind to yourself. Sending you lots of strength and care. 💖
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This guy is awesome, his wisdom and knowledge have helped me understand so many words that I only carried as experiences that I refused to BE. Frustrating to parents with deep unhealed wounds, but it gave me the opportunity to choose different ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot to know that the content is making a positive impact on your journey.
@@yourinnerchildmatters words will never end….to observe them to know does. ❤️🩹 wounds has gotten many names. In the “bigger picture” (universal) it’s vibrations/energies/patterns….earth needs names. ❤️🔥⚡️♾
@@Nillisen0808 thanks for sharing your thoughts, much appreciated
@@yourinnerchildmatters you’re welcome. 🥰 take care
Thank you both❤❤❤
Thank you for watching!
Truly helpful information!!! Really like hearing this doctor speak, anytime!! Why can't more people in the helping profession have even half the amount of compassion 🙄????
Thank you for your kind words! Compassion in the helping profession is so important, and it’s great to see others recognize that.
Because
Dr. Gabor Mate has had his Trauma and is willing to be real with his patients.❤
I find the music beautiful and relaxing…..
Thank you for your kind words!
Hi, I wonder if you could share link to the whole interview with Dr.Maté - he mentioned that there were 3 ways of being with someone who is addicted and this video gets cut of after the first one. I wonder what he says about the second insane way and what is the third sane way he recommend.
It's so true what you say...so very true. Thanks vor this wunderful reminder *Gabor Mate' *
Thank You. Just what I needed today!
I'm so glad to hear that! Your support means a lot to me.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
Thank you for your kind words! I truly appreciate your support and hope you continue to enjoy my content!
Thank you for this video , however it was cut off before it ended can you advise where I can listen to he balance of the talk? Thank you .
Can you advise on the question I asked ?
❤True Wisdom, Thank you Dr. Mate.
Thanks for listening
tremendous piece 👏👌❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words! It really motivates me to create even more!
Gabor was amazing - your input 🫣
thanks for watching!
5:18 adults, growing older. Thanks for posting Dr Mate’s good works. Powerful video🦋🌎
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm really happy that you appreciate Dr. Mate’s work and find the video impactful.
Why do you need background music? Feedback. I prefer to hear Dr Gabor Mate without music thanks.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I love hearing different perspectives, and your input helps me create better content for everyone.
The content is really helpful. But it ends abruptly. He was about to talk about 3 ways we can help the addicts. Can u share which video covers the last part of his talk?
Can u answer the query or upload the remaining part of the talk?
Such a profound message. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your kind words!
His advice (for those trying to help loved ones with addictions) was cut off before he finished... two are "insane" and one is "sane". I heard only the first insane one, which is to try to change them.
How do I find the other two... specifically the "sane" one ?
I really, really don't want to be 'that' person but honestly Dr. Mate's message is so profound, so worthwhile the music is unnecessary and horribly distracting. His message and his astoundingly compassionate delivery makes any music just silly. P.S> I am not able to complete the video because of it. Signed an HSP.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! I’m glad you find Dr. Mate's message so impactful, and I’ll definitely keep your feedback in mind for future videos.
I found the music to be beautiful and relaxing….
@@kathynewkirk683, wonderful! I am so happy for you! 🍾
I've been looking at gabor's work for a while now and Its highly informative. it helps to recognize patterns based on childhood trauma's. but what i fail to understand is how to heal the trauma, how to get past the addictions. the title of this video promises to answer it, but it does not. Yes, compassion, helps to acknowledge and recocgnize the addiction and the reason for it. but how to get past it? Did anyone find the answer to this?
In my work with clients, I use a special process to work with the subconscious mind and resolve the pain without reliving the pain i.e. we work with the inner child but with a very detailed process that focuses on validating the emotional pain you experienced, releasing that pain, identifying the subconscious beliefs and interpretations, resolving those beliefs and forgiving everyone involved and expressing self-compassion - again at a subconscious level. I call this process - SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) focusing on resolving the root cause of the issue without reliving the pain.
@@PatrickWanisPHD thanks for the elaborate reply. sounds very interesting, i will look that technique up!
I completely agree. I have learned so much from Gabor Mate. He has helped me understand things clearly about myself I could never figure out. But I agree and have the same question. Ok … now that I know and believe that my comfort seeking behavior is about past traumas showing up in adulthood, what do I DO about it? I guess being aware of the root cause is the first step.
Lots of good here… thank you!
Thank you too!
I was curious how the video would go on.
I went to my first memory of betrayal by my mother. The first time she pulled me away from me.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It takes courage to reflect on such deep feelings.
So painful. I grew up with a mother who despised me also. All the best 🌺
The music is a bit distracting to me unfortunately
thank you
thanks for watching!
@@yourinnerchildmatters prego! so many questions. am going to oct 20 conf @ Kripalu. traveling many miles... so wish to write to/ meet drs g m & b v d k. thanks for teachings via internet 😷
When the addicted person is abusive, it seems nearly impossible to maintain compassion, particularly when they damage those around them or consistently place their loved ones in risky situations.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Why did you cut off right in the middle of the things to do and not do with addictive friends. That’s super frustrating…
This video is impossible to follow with the elevator music thats too loud. This is a serious subject that is ruined and sounds pitiful with this noise. Its just hard to focus on the subject. Had to listen 2x to hear over the music. 😊
I did not find the music too loud or distracting, nor was it difficult for me to focus. Notice I began saying I. You stated every complaint as a truth, rather than “for you it was true.” I hope you might notice the difference and think about it.
I agree with you
Yeah parents have to teach their children to handle feelings.
First parent have to hold also their inner child’s
I wanted to hear the third sane way to help an addicted friend or relative. It was not included in this video.
Too bad
Gabe Maté starts speaking at 0.57
Not sure if you might be new to video editing :) appreciate you putting this tgt, but it might be helpful to have a more seamless and continuous music throughout different parts of the video. Good try though! Continue growing
Thanks for the tips!
There aren't any resources here. I get beat up emotionally everyday and wake up crying dreading what's going to happen today
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please know that you're not alone, and it's okay to feel how you’re feeling. Life can be really tough sometimes, but reaching out and talking about it is a strong step. Even when things feel hopeless, there are people who care and want to help. Take it one day at a time, and remember to be gentle with yourself. Sending you lots of love and strength. bless you
@@yourinnerchildmatters I am completely alone in a hostile environment. I should check out
@@katydid6920 You must find a way to get out of your toxic environment. Can someone pick you up and get you some help and support from a woman's shelter for women experiencing domestic violence. They can get you all set up in a better place. 💔😥 Get out and don't look back. Some people need to put others down so they can feel good about themselves. These people are dangerous to have a relationships with. Don't expose yourself to this kind of behaviour anymore. 💖🙋🏼♀️
I love Dr Gabor Mates teaching but the editing of these videos is absolutely horrendous. It would be nice if they can work to improve this
Sorry about that
It feels like thid video was cut off and doesn't actually say how to help someone who is addicted. Just accepting them the way they are doesn't help as been there done that. The person often has no idea why they are addicted and often aren't interested in finding out either.
Thank you for sharing your perspective! Your experience adds valuable insight to the conversation, and I’ll keep it in mind for future content.
If addicted, be compassionate and curious as to what caused addiction.
Choosing compassion and acceptance of yourself is a key antidote of SHAME which often fuels the self-soothing behavior of addiction.
Of course, professional help from trained expert helps, but they essentially help you to feel emotions and work in accepting and loving yourself.
From my personal experience with addiction stemming from childhood sexual abuse and emotional neglect, I have found diving into CPTSD has been the key to understanding and healing. It helps to seek someone outside yourself, too, as I tried to work things out on my own, and I could only get so far. It's hard as hell to take that step, though. Don't be too hard on yourself. Wish you the best.
@gulliver7419 agree … cut the video after giving only one of the three ways you can be in relationship to an addict … poor editing
Does not matter how old i get alwsys your childhokd you see❤.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's so true-our childhood experiences really do leave a lasting impression on us.
The video glitches and restarts three and a half minutes in
I really appreciate you pointing that out! Technical issues can be tricky, but your feedback helps me improve. Thank you!
...grieve well - without it, love has been betrayed...
Thank you for sharing that thought! It’s so important to honor our feelings; it really shows how much we care.
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thanks for watching
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thank you so much for watching!
I thought this was going to be about healing trauma, not about addiction
Is this Dr. Mate's channel, or someone who pieces his videos together?
background music is distracting, stopped watching video
Please skip the into next time.
typo - intro not into
Addicts need a sufficient substitute for the drug that helps them check out.
Thank you for sharing your insight! It's so important to support each other in finding the right alternatives during recovery.
I’m Hungarian and oh it’s painful to hear the way she mispronounces Gábor Máté’s name.
הוא לא לומד עבורנו . אולי אילו הנורמות החברתיות שהוא גדל לתוכן ואולי הוא ואתה אפילו מאמינים בזה . אבל יש אנשים רבים שלא חושבים כמותכם .
This is the same doctor who ignored 79 studies that all indicated ADHD is at the neurotransmitter level and not caused by trauma, all the way it is deeply affected by trauma. I wouldn't take anything he says very seriously, and I certainly wouldn't listen to him without doing your own research or consulting a real expert. His degree is in family health and that's where he practiced. It's the height of arrogance proceed the way he has regarding ADHD and I'll never trust him about anything else besides his own feelings about his own body.
Thank you for sharing your perspective!
Not going to lie: This was not very useful.
We need more content.
Thanks for watching