Transitioning later in life (FTM) | vlog 88
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ค. 2024
- Today I talk about the advantages(?) of transitioning later in life. Although I feel like I missed out on my puberty I do feel like I could really take my time later in life.
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00:00 Introduction
00:41 Transitioning later in life
16:01 Outro
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I‘m 21 and even at my age I often think to myself that I‘m so „old“ already since I‘m still not on T (probably won’t be for another 2 or so years) but videos like yours make me feel better because not everyone gets to transition at 15 and to see that people still find happiness after a later transition is really nice to see
When I think of the term "later in life", I think of 80 year olds. You're only 37, and still a young person.
It's not about the number, It's about that you lost part of your twenties the time when you were supposed to enjoy life like normal people, and instead you lived with pain from dysphoria, never have to experienced the feeling of living in your twenties.
I'm happy to see you happy! :)
The majority of people I encountered both realized and started their transition quite early. Its always interesting to see the different perspective, and you always go in-depth about your experience and feelings, its very cool and informative!
Also look forward to your video on the 2 years on T anniversary!🎉
Thank you!
It's so nice to see somebody MY age! Everybody's teens-to-twenties, and I need to hear from people like you LOL
I just found your channel. Im in my 50s, and have been on T 15months. My voice has barely changed. My body hasnt changed. No body hair etc.
Im very sad about this. Btw, your presentation with this video is very good. Oh my profile pic has been filtered by a beard app lol. But that is my goals. Im actually poor, and struggling to make ends meet, but am hoping to get top surgery this year by using my superannuation. That will leave me zero dollars for retirement. But that's what I have to do. Fingers crossed. Some days Im very good, other days I am not.
Im in Australia.... I do look at other men or younger men going through their teens and feel envy. But time doesnt go backwards and I have to live in the present and be grateful Im quite healthy. Im really understanding what you are saying, I feel that way too. Great to see another older transman Daan. Im Jett, happy to meet you.
I started transitioning at 18. My voice didn’t sound like a full grown male without being too high, teen or gay sounding until the 5 year mark. With that milestone was the beard, body fat redistribution, penile development, etc. it takes time, regardless of when you start, dude. Those who get the changes sooner is a rare occurrence.
@@Perfenis Thanks for that man. It seems like a lot of the ones on youtube have had fast changes. One of my trans friends also have had fast changes.
I love what you are saying about taking time to enjoy puberty. I am definitely enjoying mine; I started transitioning less than a year ago, and I am in my 60s. I'm enjoying all the changes in my body; I am delighted with the peach fizz hair now sprouting on my face and body. Do you know the poem by Jenny Joseph, that starts "When I am an old woman I shall wear purple / With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me." It basically says, when you are old enough, you can defy social expectations. (And concludes, maybe don't wait..!) I don't think people expected me to go in this direction, but then again, few people seem totally surprised.
And you are right, people respond to you differently, when you are seen as male not female. I think resilience is the word you were looking for; it takes a certain mental resilience to get used to the social changes. Those are big changes. But I'm finding it all to be a great adventure.
Resilience is indeed the word I was looking for . Thanks! And true, it is all a great adventure 🙂
I'm always looking forward to a new video from you. 💙
Happy to hear that! 😊
Your videos are so warm, comforting, and feel so timely to see. ❤
Thank you ☺️
You seem to be immensely self-reflective and, as usual, you have made a thoughtful video contributing much wisdom to the community.
As I see it, transitioning is a catch-22 situation, or an intrapersonal zero sum game, in which the emotional maturity to make an intelligent and informed decision occurs only years after the transition would have been most easily incorporated into one’s life.
If only time travel were an option!
Thanks Daan.
😺✌️
Thanks! Time travel would be cool, but also, well I don't know.. I don't know if I want to know some things for certain. Sometimes speculating is also enough and maybe sometimes it's also good to just not know.
i’m 29 and i started T in February
Omg I've just found your channel and it's so aesthetic! ❤
What a lovely video 💗 thank you for sharing 💗
I am happy about the new possibilities in your life.
You look like you're in a really good place right now, mentally and emotionally.
What you said about enjoying second puberty made sense. I never thought I'd be this excited about random extra body hair, but here we are. My voice is what gets me the most, though-- I wake up in the morning and sound like Bargain Basement Leonard Cohen. Five minutes later, and it's back closer to my old pitch. It's confused some family friends when I answer the phone. From the voice changes and some of the structural changes, it looks like I'll take after my maternal grandfather; he was a bass singer in a local German choir in his spare time. I just passed five months on T, so I'm excited to see where this goes.
Speaking of which, congratulations on nearly two years! Are you planning something to celebrate?
Thanks! And yeah, the voice changes does come with highs and lows (literally). I think now after 2 years my voice has settled a bit. Although, when I sing it still breaks all the time (still thinking about taking singing lessons though).
I started my Testosterone a week or two before my 49th birthday.
Hi Dan, you are so sweet, I love your videos and your deep dives into Trans. Keep it up, your journey is portrayed in such a heartfelt way and a great resource. Your cautious approach is very wise. I feel that this video is also helpful for other situations. For the record I’m CIS male and started TRT six months ago - lots of interesting aspects for me too.
I find you very attractive and look forward to your new videos.
Gerry
Thank you ☺️
I started Testosterone in 2020 i was 28yrs old. I'll be 32 in april.
I'm 10 years older than you 🤔🫣
I started in 2016 on T, but had hysto 2015. Top surgery for my birthday 2019.
I never thought about it, but taking my time for me was a good thing as well. I love your introspection, thank you :)
I have almost a scientific approach to my transition, fascination at what my body was going through, how it affected me internally and externally, as well as how I was perceived by others at every different stage. The acne phase, probably the worst part once my body hair started getting thicker. I knew what it meant so I was happy for it, others were looking at me like "Are you having an allergic reaction to something?" "Do you need some pimple cream?" lol
I did go to a dermatologist though, just to make sure it was normal. 👍
I have an odd plus that's just my own preference: I love gray hair. Once I started T my hair went gray quicker. I wish it would hurry up and go all the way, I think it's such a beautiful color! I'm dark ash brown on top with gray sides, and my beard is reddish brown with gray.
I'm happy that you're right where you want to be for now, you seem so at peace with yourself and that's wonderful to hear 😊
Thanks! and also thanks for sharing :) I wondered if going grey was also related to testosterone, but I hear more people talking about this. And yes I feel that last year I am also greying faster. I don't really like the colour very much, but now i'm like, just let it be completely grey. That looks better than half-half 😅
@@Daan_Spieard I have a funny story just for anyone wanting a chuckle. When I was around 4 or 5 years old, I loved grandparent's gray hair. My little kid mind took me to the tin foil (aluminum foil) drawer. I took out a sheet of it and started rubbing it on my head trying to get my hair to turn silver 🤭
To this day I can hear my mom saying "WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?!"
Me: "Trying to get gray hair mum!" 😅
I'm 26 and I just started applying for gender therapy and trans health care. With how the waiting lists are in the Netherlands (where you are also from right haha 😉), it's gonna take 2-4 years until I am fully transitioned... Sometimes that makes me sad.
I agree with that being older has some advantages. I am quite risk averse, so I needed a lot of time to think if transitioning was the right choice. I had to settle within my identity, because as a teenager and in my early twenties I had to still figure out everything about myself, not just my gender. I don't think I was mentally strong enough to handle the bigotry and setbacks that come with being openly queer.
I also had to work really hard to find healthy and supportive friendships. My family was toxic and unsafe for me, I had to distance myself from them. I also am studying to become financially independent (finishing my degree this year), which took priority over transitioning.
In a way I am glad that I have experienced everything womanhood has to offer, I really gave it a fair shot. I don't regret it. In the end, I simply realized being seen as a woman constantly while being a man is just really frustrating and tiring ahaha. I don't need to live like that.
I'm going to try to make up for some lost time in my 30s, 40s and so on :)
I'm 35, I don't think I could do it. This world is too cruel. If I was financially well off, I would move away and transition. For now, I'm just stuck feeling horrible. I have no support.
Hold on buddy, I hope for you it will get better 🙏. Where are you from if I may ask?
@@Daan_Spieard west coast, USA
Daan. You are looking so good. It is nice to see you wearing a tee shirt. Your biceps are starting to get more developed. Keep up the weight training. Don't be afraid to let everyone see the hard work you have been doing with the weights. Has the chest surgery area completely healed? If you decide to continue the process and have bottom surgery, how long of a waiting list is there before you can start that process?
Thank you!
Chest is completely healed. I'm not sure about the waiting lists and the procedure for bottom surgery. I haven't really looked into that. For now no surgery. Also because I want to finish my study first 🙂
My thoughts exactly. Wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't been through what I've been through, after all.
Completely off topic but seeing your new video in my feed reminded me I still have the Dutch hw due 😂
I want to transition but I’m 19, in med school overseas where being trans isn’t even a thing. And I won’t have any money till I’m at least 27-30 when I can legally practice. I think seeing older trans people gives me more hope for my future. I have this idea in my head that life occurs in your early 20s, that’s when you reach your career goals and find the love of your life etc and once you reach your 30s that’s when you get old and boring (I’m sorry 30+ peoples).
I feel like I’m already throwing my away my 20s studying medicine, especially depending on how far I want to take my degree. I have no idea how adult relationships work or how I can deal with being trans in a medical field.
Maybe I’m young and dumb but all that’s in my mind is like romance, how does that work in your 30s? I never got a highschool romance since I studied to get into med school and I’m too scared to be in a relationship till i transition (also I feel bad if I have a partner who has to deal with me transitioning at age 30). I’m just anxious for my life and the feeling in sacrificing the “prime of my life”. I want so much now but I can’t have it 😢
This is interesting. It probably did help to have the maturity to deal with transitioning that you wouldn't have had as a teen/young adult. And, by the way, your English is excellent!
thanks!
I misread the title as, "Transitioning later in life (FTM) | age 88."
I was like, "Wow, I've got to see this!"
Daan is only 37. Hope you weren't disappointed.
this is a great video. Thank you for doing it. FYI you are not old :)
Thanks!
*i cAn´t concentrate too well sometimes ...Also..i´m rather IMpatient*
i dont often see true trans people. only people claiming to be because its trendy etc. you seem like a great person and i subbed. have a great week man!