Dude I’m curious .. why are you so obsessed with female detransitioners ? Is it like a fetish ? Your entire channel revolves around that . Are you one too ?
@@BenjaminABoyce you're a piece of work lol.. you literally deleted the first answer (where you said ironically that I was being rude for assuming your gender) and put another answer. You got no interview to a male detransitioner, and that's cause you are fetishizing female detransitioners. So creepy.
"i felt like my body was on display..." i feel this so hard. wonderful video, detransition is rough but you seem like a very brave woman and i believe you'll make it out stronger than ever. thank you for sharing, hope you're well
You made a strong, authentic video. It's inspiring to hear you being a butch role model for younger girls. I'm glad you mentioned the process of challenging ruminating thoughts. Cognitive psychology is a great tool to have and use. It's hard work, but alleviating. Your experience and perspective are important to be shared. I'm looking forward to hearing more from you!
Thank you for telling your story. You have deep insight for a young person. One of the most radical empowering things we humans can do, is accept ourselves as we are, including our bodies. And remain true to ourselves. When i was a kid i wanted to be a boy because women had few choices, teacher, maid, secretary, waitress, shop clerk, nurse and mommy. All fates i considered worse than death. Eventually I came to the conclusion ( with the help of early feminists and some gay guys) my female body is perfectly capable , and happy to carry me on any adventure i choose, backpack, build houses, climb trees, and do what ever i want. My body was never the problem, the problem was societies expectations, and limitations. I hope you continue to pursue physics, feminism, and life's deep questions.
I can relate all too well to the not showering while depressed! I still struggle with this, partly because of depression and partly because of the chronic illnesses I’m living with. Thank you for sharing your story! 💓
thank you, “i never saw a butch woman and if i did maybe it would’ve been different.” i relate a lot to you and your struggles. i think its more positively radical to break all those rules about society’s view on how a woman should present herself rather than transition into what society thinks you should be as a more ‘masculine’ woman, which is a man, which is submitting to a belief that non-behavioral things are masculine and performative things are feminine, which again is just bullshit spewed by the patriarchy. it’s only human to resent our female bodies when living in a misogynistic world: and you just end up falling into another box. and yes, it’s easier and yes, it could alleviate so much pain and discomfort but in the greater sense of things is that really progressive in breaking the box?
This is exactly how I feel. As a kid, my parents never forced me to be girly, so I was a mix of both. Dolls were cool, building stuff was cool. Dressing up as a princess was fun, but so was dressing up as a pirate. I was ostracized by both girls and boys, for being a girl, or for being too masculine. Then when puberty started, I felt so uncomfortable and dysphoric. As a kid I was always free from gender, and now my body betrayed me and put me in a box. First I tried to alleviate this feeling by suppressing it and becoming hyper-feminine. Didn't work. I developed an eating disorder and got insanely depressed. I then thought, well, I must be non-binary! So, I started becoming more masculine and felt better. This progressed into fully identifying as a guy. This felt really really good. I "recovered" from my eating disorder, but the thoughts never went away. I came out as a trans-guy, and felt amazing. But funnily enough, in university, I was confronted with some girls who were really gender non-conforming. One of them became one of my best friends and she told me she toyed with the idea of being trans, but ultimately decided it wasn't worth it. Well, I thought, it is worth it for me. But it planted a seed of doubt. I recently changed my name and gender marker, and since then I've never been more dysphoric and depressed. And I realized, no matter what I do, I will never be a cis-man. No matter how bad I want it. I always wanted to be free from gender, but by pushing myself into the transgender-box, I was confronted with my gender every single day. Chasing an unobtainable dream is exhausting, and I'm sick of it. I'm not ready to see myself as a girl yet, but I have the feeling I will someday. I'm now undoing my legal gender and name change. I also decided to change it back because being trans is really problematic in the line of work I want to do, and it can possibly ruin my career. I still plan on getting top-surgery, just to alleviate myself of dysphoria. I am a woman in body, but in mind, I'm just me. Pronouns are just words, they don't define me.
Please don’t get top surgery yet. There should be no rush for that and it can create many issues with your natural hormone levels as you age. Get a reduction if you really feel you want them to be less noticeable but keeping the glands is so important. Much love from CA
Being free of gender is almost the opposite of transgender! isn't that so strange. it's almost like by going into wardrobe and make up and body parts you give too much importance to gender.
@@danayager thanks for your concern, but I've wanted those things gone for 10 yrs now. They're too small for a reduction anyway. I still fully identify as a guy. I just didn't like the name I chose and that's why I panicked about the whole process.
You are such an incredible person and you've been through a lot. I hope that in 2022 you are well and happy. I just saw your video by accident, but I found your story inspiring. There is a purpose for everything, and I believe yours will be to help people who are going through this kind of problem. Congratulations on the courage to record this video.
Thank you for making this video. It means a great deal to me to have heard your words and your motivation to remain detransitioned. I'm sure this will be meaningful to many people.
Hi from uk, I transitioned m-f 30 yrs ago at age 38. It has not been an easy journey by far and I still have abuse at me. I don't dress as typically female, more androgynous and this is what people pick on me for. I grew up not mixing much with other kids and wanted just to be 'me', I believe I had Asperger's in retrospect. I still suffer from long-term depression and often consider suicide. I don't feel that transitioning is always the answer as it brings with it other problems. Best of luck anyway. Paula
FWIW, there are tons of ciswomen and cismen who don't care for the narrow heteronormative boxes of what men and women are, and unsurprisingly there are transwomen and transmen who demand the right to dress like a tomboy or femboy, because their dysphoria was about their body pre-surgery, and not about their choice of fashion.
@Paula Rowe: As a person with Asperger’s Syndrome, I can tell you that if we have it in our youth, we have it all life long. It’s the way our brains are wired. I encourage you to get some psychological counseling and perhaps testing, as it may be a very positive and helpful step for you. There are many resources available online and in books, for those of us on the Autism Spectrum. I recommend you read memoirs written by folks with Autism/Asperger’s diagnoses. Reading the life experiences of others has really inspired and helped me! Blessings to you. 🙏🏽☮️
Thank you for this, vids like yours help ppl like me understand your experience. I'm sick of activists and "experts" gaslighting the world by insisting that those like you don't exist or don't matter. Clearly you're here existing and you deserve to be acknowledged and heard just as much as anyone.
From one radfem to another, thank you for making this video :) You're right it's important to document this and you're already putting yourself out there to give butch representation, which is amazing! I'm glad i watched the entire nearly 34 minutes of your video, it was worth it. Thanks again for making it P.S : Awesome shirt ;)
Just wanted to say I think it’s really cool that you’ve been so willing to change your mind in light of new experiences, information, or perspectives. You seem like a really thoughtful person, I think it’s really cool how deeply you’ve gotten into feminist philosophy considering you’re still pretty young. I’m just a cis woman with an interest in gender topics that I’ve continued since studying them at university, but I really liked your video and found it really thought provoking. keep being you
one of the biggest reasons i hated being female was because of the way i was treated. getting unsolicited nudes from men as a teenager and feeling irritated when i could tell that a male was more interested in the fact that i was a female rather than who i was as a person. wouldn’t even get to know who i was before asking for dirty conversations or to see me with my clothes off. males trying to gaslight me when i called them out made me angrier. i too found it easier for me to have male friends and it was irritating when i was looking for friends while they were looking for someone to help them get off. it all really just made me feel worthless and question my value (on top of my mother treating me like i was worthless because i didn’t do well in school, which i have learned these past years was because of many mental disorders from my trauma). i also hated how clothes would emphasize my chest or physique. it made me feel so exposed. i deeply hated the attention i got for simply being female, which i recently realized was internalized misogyny. i started a healing journey over a few years ago and i haven’t even worked through the thick of my hatred for my own body because i first had to focus on changing my perspective about big things like life and death. i had to learn a lot about what i could control and what i couldn’t before i even remembered that i had once questioned my gender. so many things that i needed to learn about as a child, like how to set boundaries or face challenges, was completely missed because of a delusional mother and domestic violence. i’m a 22 year old virgin and the only relationship i’ve ever been in was long distance. since i steered clear of relationships, my family joked about me being lesbian. that just made me more frustrated. just thought i’d share these things for anyone it could help.
Sisters! Looking good. Really sad story. I totally sympathise. Sounds like you are pulling though hope goth stuff helps. As an Eldergoth I know for a fact a lot of the people into goth back in 80s 90s today would be into 21st century gender questioning, in fact it is one of the big differences on the scene now. Goth was a great outlet for freaks and weirdos, but while gender non conformity/ alt sexuality was and is totally common it was just accepted in the past on an individual level. It wasn't you were an X, it was you were you and a goth too. Everyone had messed up stories to tell from school, were social outcasts, had issues with their appearance and mental health. You just have a tribe to support you, it is pretty dysfunctional sure, but it is something. Of course there are not many of us nowadays. I am not sure what to think about modern gender ideology as the way it functions makes being young so different and then there is social media etc. Read a lot of gender critical stuff, recently which makes a lot of sense, but I have issues with it too. Not sure how to think about all this. Great you are looking out for others and inspiring them.You run for cover in the Temple of Love...
hey thank you sm for sharing your story :) I think I'm about the same age as you and just these past few months I got sucked into thought patterns thinking I was nonbinary, but really I think it was internalized misogyny and past trauma with being a girl/woman. I agree it's soooo hard to accept but I believe in the both of us and I can say I definitely look up to you, even tho you're a stranger on the internet to me, I think you're so strong and powerful and you can make it through the tough times. keep on being awesome :D
Thanks for talking about your experience. I haven’t felt dysphoria about my sex/gender, but I lived through an eating disorder so I can understand when you draw that comparison. You seem to be growing into your own strength as a woman and I admire that. I hope you are well these days.
Life is a journey that we all travel in our own special way. One thing that we all have in common as humans is the internal struggle, it is what makes us human. Trying to figure out who we are, challenging ourselves and finding what makes us “us”. It is what gives us our soul. Everyone deserves to be happy, it is our basic human right. No one can take that away from anyone. Best of luck to you my friend.
Powerful video, thank you for making this and being so open, I came here trying to make sense of my D who is going through pretty much everything that you did - probably the same school too! I'm a strong cis woman, but older, and I know a bunch of fantastic older butch women friends, I didn't know that they had become an invisible part of the glorious mix that makes up womankind in the recent generations, sad that. This reply is 2 yrs on and I hope that you are well and happy x
Please take care okay! Your detransition is as valid as anything else and should be discussed more and properly in the media as well, but do note: there is still a loud minority of trans people, and even smaller of detransitioners however, I agree that more of this gender neutral stuff shouldnt be forced upon kids so early on, etc. I was raised pretty basic, not even girly most of the time (wasnt forced to be super girly either), I did have some mean comments from guys (usually impulsive teen guys who are confused and hate everything) in high school. I did present myself the way I felt at the time and now with coming out, the difference here is: I am a lot happier and feel free in every aspect, not just society.
I’ve been so concerned for our youth over the past few years due to exactly the situation you speak of here. I’m a mother of 3 and have also worked as a teacher for kinder-aged children and pre-teens for 20 years and I can tell you from experience that the feelings a kid has before they reach 18, no matter how strong they are, will most definitely change once they reach adulthood. This is such a terrible situation happening to our youth when therapy and love and understanding should always be the first avenue taken. Thank you for sharing your story bc it’s brave people like you who will help change the societal trends that have been causing this to get way out of hand. Much love from CA
Thanks for sharing your story. It's such a deeply personal experience and at the same time, trust into our into our minds politically to the extent we feel the need to be for or against Trans people. Stories like your bring much needed reality and perspective and you are brave for doing it.. i wish it wasnt complicated. I hope you have an amazing life in and with the body you have.
We need representation for all diversity, because your identity as a woman shouldn't be seen as bad, disgusting, sexual or anything but your own identity and what you make of it. Same goes for trans people, and which is why everyone needs a lot of time to really think about who they are and find themselves at their core
Thank you for making this video. I share a lot of this story. Im Radfem now. Still struggling with a lot of things but im conviced this is the right way in my journey to finally love and care for myself.
I think you are very brave talking about this, I think this will help others. I hope you have found your place in life in the 3 years since this video was made. I’m 53 and still mix up the butch and femme depending on how I feel. I’m married to a lesbian, but until 32 I went down the traditional feminine route, got married to a man, had kids etc etc.I don’t really know what name I would give myself, but do we actually need to be in a certain category ? Why can’t we just be? Life would be sooo much easier. I wish you well for your future, whatever that may be. 🏳️🌈🇬🇧
I'm so confused because watching a woman with all "the signs" of being trans and having dysphoria it makes me ask myself where's the line between a trans man a very masculine woman? I'm having a breakdown
I think a lot of times being masculine misleads. I know women who are masculine and love being women and for example me I'm not masculine yet i think I'm trans. I think that sometimes because of gender roles we jump up to conclusions because society says what we can and can't be. Like a masculines woman is either a lesbian or a 'want to be guy' and that's so wrong
Some people would say the line is your gametes (does your body produce sperm or eggs?). Others would say the line is where you personally feel it's right for you to be in your own life (nobody else's rules, just your own identity). But either way, please find safe emotional support if you really are having a breakdown because that is very real. By the way, gender specialists who would attempt to answer that question for you or who would tell you that to even ask means you're trans, those people are NOT SAFE, no matter what they say about what they know or where they studied or whether they have a license. If they're not providing you with the support and guidance you need in order to confidently work through this, they're an activist and not a therapist. Take Care.
Ah, I wonder what has happened with you since you made this video. I fully relate to this video and long live the self loving butch woman💛 I hope you are well!
I think something ive noticed among f to m to f detransitioners is wanting to be perceived as a man but be a woman Its hard to distinguish gender dysphoria when almost every girl i know already hates her body & wants to be treated to the same level of respect as her male counterparts
You're great! So good you felt you could speak out about your experience. I wish you all the best in your life... You will help other young people to be who they are.. I wasn't a girly girl at all.. and amn't a girly woman either! But I was fortunate to grow up at a time when and where gender dysphoria was not a thing... I did have tough times as a teen, being a non feminine teen, but not because I was rejected, I wasn't, it was just being different. But I think back then we just accepted more that some of our class mates were not the stereotype.. it wasn't that I felt butch and I wasn't lesbian.. I just wasn't into makeup and fancy clothes and I still amn't or shoes no one should have to try to walk in. I still hate fancy social occasions... well not the occasions themselves.. but how to dress for them because 'good clothes' ate an alien species to me 😂 so it's always what can I wear that's comfortable and still manage to look respectable! I envy male friends as they wriggle under the confines of a shirt and tie.. that's all they have to put up with, have a shower and chuck on any respectable looking suit and tie.. when most women are expected to ..and I guess want to get their hair done, do their nails and makeup, think can they possibly survive the night in high heels, figure out did they wear this or that outfit the last time or not, have they a matching bag etc etc.. I never wanted to be a man though.. and I did always have friends who just saw me as me, as I saw them as them, and we didn't even need to discuss that... Though often I did have to call on my friends to 'dress' me for some respectable occasion.. which we'd do so jokingly together.. Had the transition option been available and a norm when I was a teen.. would I or my friends have thought I should transition as a teen? I dread to think I would done so.. and gone as far as surgery or just made my body infertile with hormones.. even though monthly menstruation was a nuisance until used to produce a baby... And I might not have become a mother or breastfed my child... Teens need to be persuaded, supported, cared about, loved, their moods and learning years put up with... to save themselves from themselves until adulthood when we only then start to really understand who we are as the person we are and figure out the best way forward from there for ourselves..
When you were young and acted tomboyish, did you ever have your parents or other adults comment on it often? Negative or positive? And did that actually make you feel as if that's what you are and anything else would show weakness? Did you revel in your 'tough' label? Did you feel proud of being strong? Did you hide your emotions from your family and others so they wouldn't see your weaknesses?
I'm fortunate to have grown up at a time when nobody thought tomboys were boys in girls' bodies. When it was recognized that girls and women could want to do and even be good at many things that in prior times and now, sadly, are considered to be the sole domain of men.
I wish I had grown up in your time. My generation is obsessed with this and the pronoun crap, I wish I had grown up in the 90s and never learned about any of this. I only met one Tom boy in high-school she helped me paint a mural. The other Tom boys thought they were boys.
@lauraf2584 Thanks for saying that, I'm so worried about society with this stuff. It's like everyone collectively lost their minds. Yea, hopefully it will pass.
Friend, have you looked into therapy for your depression/eating disorder? Feeling comfortable in our own bodies is hard, so sometimes it's really helpful to get someone trained in the process of unlearning unhealthy brain patterns to help.
There's only one requirement to being a man: adult human male, it doesn't matter how we dress, act, look, homsexual, trans identified male or not, we are male that's what groups us together, thats why we are called men. This applies to women as well, adult human females. You guys don't have to be all of the stariotypes either and can be your own person. You dont have to follow what other women do.
What is the connotation of "liberal" in NZ? It looks like it means extreme leftist to the point of socialist. In the US the "liberal" group would refer to pretty much everyone left of center.
I'm not using it in the way most people would, which means anything left of center. I'm using the word as defined from a leftist perspective, so I am not a liberal, I am a leftist - liberals are to the right of me.
@@placeswebreathe5814 leftist in any system of 2 or more axes means left of the ordinate axis. But in general left vs right is a one axis system and unapplicable to anything past the french revolution
It’s totally fine to detransition - it also has zero bearing on the vast majority of trans people who are content after transitioning and made their decisions wisely and intelligently. :)
You might discover in life is that radical people exist both on the right and on the left. I'm a conservative person, and it took me some time to admit to myself that in fact crazy radical people exist on both sides, and that's why one should never go to a particular extreme, the golden mean is the way to go. and that's true to life generally and not just politics. Also, be free to accept idea from both sides, common sense is not reserved to one side. Personally on some issues i agree more with the left, but on core issues i agree with the right which is why I'm proud to call myself a conservative. edit: there's nothing wrong with being female. we should be proud of it, we're amazing. and there's nothing wrong with being a masculine female or a feminine female or anything in between- that's what makes you- you, and if you are not you, then who are you?!. And there nothing wrong with being a lesbian. We should support one another, the world isn't easy for girls and women.
I believe everyone ahould live life according to their wishes. The only thing im against is parents who allow their children to transition. To many hormones peer pressure etc going on when young. I dont think the use of hormones/surgery should be done prior to becoming an adult
trans person here, and i just want to comment in solidarity. gender is honestly such a mess to figure out, and given how women are treated and seen in our society, it makes sense that some cis women might also confuse themselves as trans. i hope we can all stand together in challenging gender roles, whether it be you proudly existing as a butch woman or trans people like myself challenging gender expression & the outdated & incorrect belief that biology = gender. people deserve to live as themselves, and it’s a shame that we’re made to feel we should fit into boxes
@__ Forget how women are treated and seen in our society, let's talk about the way women are treated by trans activists. Also, biology does = gender for 90% of the population and you don't get to divorce those for all society. If you want to stand together, speak out against the terror campaign against women and stop saying 'cisgender.' It's not a name we asked for or consented to.
@@kadimah1 cisgender isn't a bad word, it isn't sexist either. It just means someone's who's sex and gender match. If y'all really hate it that much then find a different term. The "cis is a slur" thing was started by transphobic people though. Biology determines gender for everyone, both cis and trans people have both a gender and sex which are both determined biologically.
It's wild how I had so many of the exact same thoughts and feelings in my "gender journey." Like, word for word! We desperately more positive butch visibility.
3:05 omg this is such bs, there's no such thing as "stereotypical trans kid". Me and many other transgender men liked playing with dolls and stuffed animals as kids, makeup is my beloved to this day. And I'm not any less of a man than any man out there.
She is talking about stereotypical trans kids as in a child who does not "fit" perfectly into what people consider masc/ fem interests and behaviors, so they ended up being much easier to indocinate into transgenderism.
Can someone please answer the question, what is a woman / man? I mean apart from the xx / xy. Cause I have never been taught what a woman is supposed to look like, or a man. I have seen male rock stars wearing tons of make up, pantyhose and dresses and been considered "masculine", and them not caring at all how people labeled them. And I've seen women never wearing make up, dresses or thing like that and be considered women. George Sand, great French writer was a cross dresser and had many male lovers. What's up with defining men / women roles, looks, likes, interests etc...? Have people forgotten that they are all unique? No one in this world will ever be the same type of woman or man that you are, or ever identify like you. Because, hopefully, people are more than their genders. There is no right way of being a woman or a man. And that's a good thing; that way everyone can be theirselves. As for hating one's body, yeah well that's puberty. Everyone hates their body when going through puberty. Some will hate it more than others, but this too shall pass.
George Sand lived in era when medical treatment like hrt and srs didn't exist yet. You don't know how she (or he?) would be now. I consider her/him to be a trans gay man. Those surgeries are invented for a reason. It's a treatment. Also, you can lurk on butchlesbians subreddit even and you will see that some of them take testosterone and undergo top surgery. People have a right to treat their bodies like they want. It's not your body, after all. Why are you being so concerned? People constantly do nosejobs, boobjobs, and nobody cares. And nobody should. But apparently when it's about "changing sex" (though it's not changing but correction) you're all obsessed about it. You don't understand that transsexualism is a medical condition. People are born this way. It's not something that you choose. Because nobody would choose that nightmare. You literally have a male mind if you're transsex man. You never was a female or woman. You're just a man who was born with a female anatomy by mistake of a nature. It is a birth defect. You do have compassion towards people who were born without arms, or legs. But you don't have compassion towards people who were born with this birth defect, because it's invisible. And you insist that our issues are imaginary. It is cruel and heartless
@@Wasp239 If you can qualify or question whether Georges Sand was a "he", you know nothing about Georges Sand, and thus should not comment on that specific writer. I have empathy for any living creature, regardless if they were born with a birth defect or not. Where did I state that trans issues were imaginary? Isn't is "cruel and heartless" to accuse another person of something they didn't do or state? You use words you don't know the definition of. A birth defect is, according to the dictionary: "a physical problem with a body part or process that is present at birth". Thus, just considering oneself as trans is not a birth defect as their bodies function. People can do whatever they please with their own bodies, so long as they don't demand of me to be ok with what they are doing and de facto have to consider it a good thing. Whether breast augmentations, rhinoplasties, or any other life choice, people should not demand that I be ok with their life choices and should not expect that I be cool with it. "nobody would choose that nightmare" yet there are more and more people coming out with detransition stories, stating they made a terrible mistake. Some have done irreparable damage to their bodies. This is concerning. And I understand that Big Pharma is pushing this on young people, since they have had a hand slap for the opioid crisis. When people with same-sex attraction started coming out, there were all types of men and women doing so, regardless of social status, age, education etc... Yet, what we are seeing with the trans issue, is that it's mostly young girls. Again, concerning. There is a difference to be made about concern, especially for underage children, and being "cruel and heartless".
I am glad u now feel better . The thing is even if you had decided to be a white male because it would be easier , the white males would not have seen u as a part of them . So no point being something else . U r beautiful the way u r
I was so engrossed in this video until we got to "liberalism is harmful" and I was like.... huh? I have never, ever, ever heard that word used in a negative context (edit: Now I think, I have heard of "liberals" and "liberal values" being disparaged, but I guess I wrote it off as only coming from extreme conservatives/orthodox religions/literal communists.) When you said that I actually thought, jeez, does that word mean what I think it means? Do I even know what liberalism is? So I googled the definition and it is: Liberalism: noun, 1. willingness to respect or accept behaviour or opinions different from one's own; openness to new ideas. 2. a political and social philosophy that promotes individual rights, civil liberties, democracy, and free enterprise. I'm very confused. I thought liberals and the left were basically synonymous, honestly. And when you use the word radical, what comes to mind for me is the yin-yang symbol, the ideas behind Taoism and that song "The Circle of Life" at the start of the Lion King. Politics aside, thanks for sharing your story, I feel grateful to be able to hear it and admire your courage and honesty. All the best. edit edit: "I can be whoever the fuck I am, and still be a woman." I love that.
Two suggestions whether you are male or female 1. Read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John 2. Pick up a book on logic and work all the way fhrough it. You might be pleasantly surprised to learn one complements the other.
There's only one requirement to being a man: adult human male, it doesn't matter how we dress, act, look, homsexual, trans identified male or not, we are male that's what groups us together, thats why we are called men. This applies to women as well, adult human females. You guys don't have to be all of the stariotypes either and can be your own person. You dont have to follow what other women do.
Thank you for your honesty, and putting your story into the world.
Dude I’m curious .. why are you so obsessed with female detransitioners ? Is it like a fetish ? Your entire channel revolves around that . Are you one too ?
I think these are some of the most important stories, and interesting voices, out there right now.
@@BenjaminABoyce you're a piece of work lol.. you literally deleted the first answer (where you said ironically that I was being rude for assuming your gender) and put another answer. You got no interview to a male detransitioner, and that's cause you are fetishizing female detransitioners. So creepy.
You’re wrong but this is the internet and you get to be that way.
@@UCauRTgzykUGhYLWZxgQ you can easily look for male detransitioners if you're interested. But clearly it's the female part he's into
"i felt like my body was on display..." i feel this so hard. wonderful video, detransition is rough but you seem like a very brave woman and i believe you'll make it out stronger than ever. thank you for sharing, hope you're well
Mackenzie Leigh I love your videos!!
@@ch1vis thank you!
You made a strong, authentic video. It's inspiring to hear you being a butch role model for younger girls. I'm glad you mentioned the process of challenging ruminating thoughts. Cognitive psychology is a great tool to have and use. It's hard work, but alleviating. Your experience and perspective are important to be shared. I'm looking forward to hearing more from you!
*alleviating not elevating!
Thank you for telling your story. You have deep insight for a young person.
One of the most radical empowering things we humans can do, is accept ourselves as we are, including our bodies. And remain true to ourselves. When i was a kid i wanted to be a boy because women had few choices, teacher, maid, secretary, waitress, shop clerk, nurse and mommy. All fates i considered worse than death. Eventually I came to the conclusion ( with the help of early feminists and some gay guys) my female body is perfectly capable , and happy to carry me on any adventure i choose, backpack, build houses, climb trees, and do what ever i want. My body was never the problem, the problem was societies expectations, and limitations.
I hope you continue to pursue physics, feminism, and life's deep questions.
I can relate all too well to the not showering while depressed! I still struggle with this, partly because of depression and partly because of the chronic illnesses I’m living with.
Thank you for sharing your story! 💓
You are so right. Focusing too much on your problems only makes you feel worse. I have certainly been guilty of that.
thank you, “i never saw a butch woman and if i did maybe it would’ve been different.”
i relate a lot to you and your struggles. i think its more positively radical to break all those rules about society’s view on how a woman should present herself rather than transition into what society thinks you should be as a more ‘masculine’ woman, which is a man, which is submitting to a belief that non-behavioral things are masculine and performative things are feminine, which again is just bullshit spewed by the patriarchy. it’s only human to resent our female bodies when living in a misogynistic world: and you just end up falling into another box. and yes, it’s easier and yes, it could alleviate so much pain and discomfort but in the greater sense of things is that really progressive in breaking the box?
I'm only 9 minutes in and not all, but MUCH of this is already almost word-for-word of my story.
We need more butch women in the world! You are a beautiful person just as you are. Thanks for the honesty.
They are gorgeous! www.butchisnotadirtyword.com/
This is exactly how I feel. As a kid, my parents never forced me to be girly, so I was a mix of both. Dolls were cool, building stuff was cool. Dressing up as a princess was fun, but so was dressing up as a pirate. I was ostracized by both girls and boys, for being a girl, or for being too masculine. Then when puberty started, I felt so uncomfortable and dysphoric. As a kid I was always free from gender, and now my body betrayed me and put me in a box. First I tried to alleviate this feeling by suppressing it and becoming hyper-feminine. Didn't work. I developed an eating disorder and got insanely depressed. I then thought, well, I must be non-binary! So, I started becoming more masculine and felt better. This progressed into fully identifying as a guy. This felt really really good. I "recovered" from my eating disorder, but the thoughts never went away. I came out as a trans-guy, and felt amazing. But funnily enough, in university, I was confronted with some girls who were really gender non-conforming. One of them became one of my best friends and she told me she toyed with the idea of being trans, but ultimately decided it wasn't worth it. Well, I thought, it is worth it for me. But it planted a seed of doubt.
I recently changed my name and gender marker, and since then I've never been more dysphoric and depressed. And I realized, no matter what I do, I will never be a cis-man. No matter how bad I want it. I always wanted to be free from gender, but by pushing myself into the transgender-box, I was confronted with my gender every single day. Chasing an unobtainable dream is exhausting, and I'm sick of it. I'm not ready to see myself as a girl yet, but I have the feeling I will someday. I'm now undoing my legal gender and name change. I also decided to change it back because being trans is really problematic in the line of work I want to do, and it can possibly ruin my career. I still plan on getting top-surgery, just to alleviate myself of dysphoria. I am a woman in body, but in mind, I'm just me. Pronouns are just words, they don't define me.
We need to reclaim the identity Androgynous! It's a liberating word that has the space for many dysphoric people.
How are things?
Please don’t get top surgery yet. There should be no rush for that and it can create many issues with your natural hormone levels as you age. Get a reduction if you really feel you want them to be less noticeable but keeping the glands is so important. Much love from CA
Being free of gender is almost the opposite of transgender! isn't that so strange. it's almost like by going into wardrobe and make up and body parts you give too much importance to gender.
@@danayager thanks for your concern, but I've wanted those things gone for 10 yrs now. They're too small for a reduction anyway. I still fully identify as a guy. I just didn't like the name I chose and that's why I panicked about the whole process.
You are such an incredible person and you've been through a lot. I hope that in 2022 you are well and happy.
I just saw your video by accident, but I found your story inspiring. There is a purpose for everything, and I believe yours will be to help people who are going through this kind of problem. Congratulations on the courage to record this video.
Thank you for making this video. It means a great deal to me to have heard your words and your motivation to remain detransitioned. I'm sure this will be meaningful to many people.
Hi from uk, I transitioned m-f 30 yrs ago at age 38. It has not been an easy journey by far and I still have abuse at me. I don't dress as typically female, more androgynous and this is what people pick on me for. I grew up not mixing much with other kids and wanted just to be 'me', I believe I had Asperger's in retrospect. I still suffer from long-term depression and often consider suicide. I don't feel that
transitioning is always the answer as it brings with it other problems. Best of luck anyway. Paula
FWIW, there are tons of ciswomen and cismen who don't care for the narrow heteronormative boxes of what men and women are, and unsurprisingly there are transwomen and transmen who demand the right to dress like a tomboy or femboy, because their dysphoria was about their body pre-surgery, and not about their choice of fashion.
@Paula Rowe: As a person with Asperger’s Syndrome, I can tell you that if we have it in our youth, we have it all life long. It’s the way our brains are wired. I encourage you to get some psychological counseling and perhaps testing, as it may be a very positive and helpful step for you. There are many resources available online and in books, for those of us on the Autism Spectrum. I recommend you read memoirs written by folks with Autism/Asperger’s diagnoses. Reading the life experiences of others has really inspired and helped me! Blessings to you. 🙏🏽☮️
Thank you for this, vids like yours help ppl like me understand your experience. I'm sick of activists and "experts" gaslighting the world by insisting that those like you don't exist or don't matter. Clearly you're here existing and you deserve to be acknowledged and heard just as much as anyone.
From one radfem to another, thank you for making this video :) You're right it's important to document this and you're already putting yourself out there to give butch representation, which is amazing! I'm glad i watched the entire nearly 34 minutes of your video, it was worth it. Thanks again for making it
P.S : Awesome shirt ;)
You are phenomenal. Thank you for sharing your story - you really are an inspiration. Wishing you all the best.
I love Butches! Wish you all the best
Glad you decided to share your story with us, especially while wearing a Sisters of Mercy shirt!
You are beautiful! Thank you so much for this video 💗💗💗💗
Thankyou. Keep sharing. Your story is important. You are amazing xx
Just wanted to say I think it’s really cool that you’ve been so willing to change your mind in light of new experiences, information, or perspectives. You seem like a really thoughtful person, I think it’s really cool how deeply you’ve gotten into feminist philosophy considering you’re still pretty young. I’m just a cis woman with an interest in gender topics that I’ve continued since studying them at university, but I really liked your video and found it really thought provoking. keep being you
You have expressed so clearly many things I wish I could. Thank you for sharing this.
one of the biggest reasons i hated being female was because of the way i was treated. getting unsolicited nudes from men as a teenager and feeling irritated when i could tell that a male was more interested in the fact that i was a female rather than who i was as a person. wouldn’t even get to know who i was before asking for dirty conversations or to see me with my clothes off. males trying to gaslight me when i called them out made me angrier. i too found it easier for me to have male friends and it was irritating when i was looking for friends while they were looking for someone to help them get off. it all really just made me feel worthless and question my value (on top of my mother treating me like i was worthless because i didn’t do well in school, which i have learned these past years was because of many mental disorders from my trauma). i also hated how clothes would emphasize my chest or physique. it made me feel so exposed. i deeply hated the attention i got for simply being female, which i recently realized was internalized misogyny. i started a healing journey over a few years ago and i haven’t even worked through the thick of my hatred for my own body because i first had to focus on changing my perspective about big things like life and death. i had to learn a lot about what i could control and what i couldn’t before i even remembered that i had once questioned my gender. so many things that i needed to learn about as a child, like how to set boundaries or face challenges, was completely missed because of a delusional mother and domestic violence. i’m a 22 year old virgin and the only relationship i’ve ever been in was long distance. since i steered clear of relationships, my family joked about me being lesbian. that just made me more frustrated. just thought i’d share these things for anyone it could help.
Thank you for sharing your experience 🤍 I relate to your childhood stories a lot.
Thanks for being so honest.
Sisters! Looking good. Really sad story. I totally sympathise. Sounds like you are pulling though hope goth stuff helps. As an Eldergoth I know for a fact a lot of the people into goth back in 80s 90s today would be into 21st century gender questioning, in fact it is one of the big differences on the scene now. Goth was a great outlet for freaks and weirdos, but while gender non conformity/ alt sexuality was and is totally common it was just accepted in the past on an individual level. It wasn't you were an X, it was you were you and a goth too. Everyone had messed up stories to tell from school, were social outcasts, had issues with their appearance and mental health. You just have a tribe to support you, it is pretty dysfunctional sure, but it is something. Of course there are not many of us nowadays. I am not sure what to think about modern gender ideology as the way it functions makes being young so different and then there is social media etc. Read a lot of gender critical stuff, recently which makes a lot of sense, but I have issues with it too. Not sure how to think about all this. Great you are looking out for others and inspiring them.You run for cover in the Temple of Love...
THANKYOU! YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!
hey thank you sm for sharing your story :) I think I'm about the same age as you and just these past few months I got sucked into thought patterns thinking I was nonbinary, but really I think it was internalized misogyny and past trauma with being a girl/woman. I agree it's soooo hard to accept but I believe in the both of us and I can say I definitely look up to you, even tho you're a stranger on the internet to me, I think you're so strong and powerful and you can make it through the tough times. keep on being awesome :D
Thanks for talking about your experience. I haven’t felt dysphoria about my sex/gender, but I lived through an eating disorder so I can understand when you draw that comparison. You seem to be growing into your own strength as a woman and I admire that. I hope you are well these days.
I may not understand what you are going through but you are the voice of reason. Be strong
thank you so much. for a wonderful video. Your story has helped me
Thank you very much for sharing, it was really interesting to listen to your story!
Thank you for bravely speaking out :0) xx
Life is a journey that we all travel in our own special way. One thing that we all have in common as humans is the internal struggle, it is what makes us human. Trying to figure out who we are, challenging ourselves and finding what makes us “us”. It is what gives us our soul. Everyone deserves to be happy, it is our basic human right. No one can take that away from anyone. Best of luck to you my friend.
Powerful video, thank you for making this and being so open, I came here trying to make sense of my D who is going through pretty much everything that you did - probably the same school too! I'm a strong cis woman, but older, and I know a bunch of fantastic older butch women friends, I didn't know that they had become an invisible part of the glorious mix that makes up womankind in the recent generations, sad that. This reply is 2 yrs on and I hope that you are well and happy x
You feel validated. You are so brave - that probably makes you feel funny. But you are - & you're bravery will save lives. Thank you
Please take care okay! Your detransition is as valid as anything else and should be discussed more and properly in the media as well, but do note: there is still a loud minority of trans people, and even smaller of detransitioners however, I agree that more of this gender neutral stuff shouldnt be forced upon kids so early on, etc. I was raised pretty basic, not even girly most of the time (wasnt forced to be super girly either), I did have some mean comments from guys (usually impulsive teen guys who are confused and hate everything) in high school. I did present myself the way I felt at the time and now with coming out, the difference here is: I am a lot happier and feel free in every aspect, not just society.
Thank you for sharing your story!
I’ve been so concerned for our youth over the past few years due to exactly the situation you speak of here. I’m a mother of 3 and have also worked as a teacher for kinder-aged children and pre-teens for 20 years and I can tell you from experience that the feelings a kid has before they reach 18, no matter how strong they are, will most definitely change once they reach adulthood. This is such a terrible situation happening to our youth when therapy and love and understanding should always be the first avenue taken. Thank you for sharing your story bc it’s brave people like you who will help change the societal trends that have been causing this to get way out of hand. Much love from CA
Change what?
Thanks for sharing your story. It's such a deeply personal experience and at the same time, trust into our into our minds politically to the extent we feel the need to be for or against Trans people. Stories like your bring much needed reality and perspective and you are brave for doing it.. i wish it wasnt complicated. I hope you have an amazing life in and with the body you have.
I appreciate your perspective. I see you haven't put out any new videos since this one. How are you doing?
Thanks. I hope you're doing ok. And I hope you do more videos in the future.
We need representation for all diversity, because your identity as a woman shouldn't be seen as bad, disgusting, sexual or anything but your own identity and what you make of it. Same goes for trans people, and which is why everyone needs a lot of time to really think about who they are and find themselves at their core
Thank you for making this video. I share a lot of this story. Im Radfem now. Still struggling with a lot of things but im conviced this is the right way in my journey to finally love and care for myself.
I think you are very brave talking about this, I think this will help others. I hope you have found your place in life in the 3 years since this video was made. I’m 53 and still mix up the butch and femme depending on how I feel. I’m married to a lesbian, but until 32 I went down the traditional feminine route, got married to a man, had kids etc etc.I don’t really know what name I would give myself, but do we actually need to be in a certain category ? Why can’t we just be? Life would be sooo much easier.
I wish you well for your future, whatever that may be. 🏳️🌈🇬🇧
I'm so confused because watching a woman with all "the signs" of being trans and having dysphoria it makes me ask myself where's the line between a trans man a very masculine woman? I'm having a breakdown
I think a lot of times being masculine misleads. I know women who are masculine and love being women and for example me I'm not masculine yet i think I'm trans. I think that sometimes because of gender roles we jump up to conclusions because society says what we can and can't be. Like a masculines woman is either a lesbian or a 'want to be guy' and that's so wrong
Some people would say the line is your gametes (does your body produce sperm or eggs?). Others would say the line is where you personally feel it's right for you to be in your own life (nobody else's rules, just your own identity). But either way, please find safe emotional support if you really are having a breakdown because that is very real. By the way, gender specialists who would attempt to answer that question for you or who would tell you that to even ask means you're trans, those people are NOT SAFE, no matter what they say about what they know or where they studied or whether they have a license. If they're not providing you with the support and guidance you need in order to confidently work through this, they're an activist and not a therapist. Take Care.
Ah, I wonder what has happened with you since you made this video.
I fully relate to this video and long live the self loving butch woman💛 I hope you are well!
I think something ive noticed among f to m to f detransitioners is wanting to be perceived as a man but be a woman
Its hard to distinguish gender dysphoria when almost every girl i know already hates her body & wants to be treated to the same level of respect as her male counterparts
its like sexism created its own type of gender dysphoria in girls
You're great! So good you felt you could speak out about your experience. I wish you all the best in your life... You will help other young people to be who they are..
I wasn't a girly girl at all.. and amn't a girly woman either! But I was fortunate to grow up at a time when and where gender dysphoria was not a thing... I did have tough times as a teen, being a non feminine teen, but not because I was rejected, I wasn't, it was just being different. But I think back then we just accepted more that some of our class mates were not the stereotype.. it wasn't that I felt butch and I wasn't lesbian.. I just wasn't into makeup and fancy clothes and I still amn't or shoes no one should have to try to walk in. I still hate fancy social occasions... well not the occasions themselves.. but how to dress for them because 'good clothes' ate an alien species to me 😂 so it's always what can I wear that's comfortable and still manage to look respectable!
I envy male friends as they wriggle under the confines of a shirt and tie.. that's all they have to put up with, have a shower and chuck on any respectable looking suit and tie.. when most women are expected to ..and I guess want to get their hair done, do their nails and makeup, think can they possibly survive the night in high heels, figure out did they wear this or that outfit the last time or not, have they a matching bag etc etc..
I never wanted to be a man though.. and I did always have friends who just saw me as me, as I saw them as them, and we didn't even need to discuss that... Though often I did have to call on my friends to 'dress' me for some respectable occasion.. which we'd do so jokingly together..
Had the transition option been available and a norm when I was a teen.. would I or my friends have thought I should transition as a teen?
I dread to think I would done so.. and gone as far as surgery or just made my body infertile with hormones.. even though monthly menstruation was a nuisance until used to produce a baby... And I might not have become a mother or breastfed my child...
Teens need to be persuaded, supported, cared about, loved, their moods and learning years put up with... to save themselves from themselves until adulthood when we only then start to really understand who we are as the person we are and figure out the best way forward from there for ourselves..
When you were young and acted tomboyish, did you ever have your parents or other adults comment on it often? Negative or positive? And did that actually make you feel as if that's what you are and anything else would show weakness? Did you revel in your 'tough' label? Did you feel proud of being strong? Did you hide your emotions from your family and others so they wouldn't see your weaknesses?
Thankyou
Thank you for your very articulate and thoughtful testimony. You have great insight into your condition. May it help others in your situation. ❤️
Where are your other videos? Hope your doing well!
Is that a Sisters of Mercy shirt?? 😍😍😍
yep!
You were looking for the word "Cathartic"
I was going to say that :)
Yeah, that's definitely one word that would've been helpful :)
Hi. Thanks for your brave video. If you are ever in Auckland drop into Garnet Station in Westmere which is lesbian owned and welcoming.
I'll keep that in mind if I'm ever up there!
you're really good looking
I'm fortunate to have grown up at a time when nobody thought tomboys were boys in girls' bodies. When it was recognized that girls and women could want to do and even be good at many things that in prior times and now, sadly, are considered to be the sole domain of men.
I wish I had grown up in your time. My generation is obsessed with this and the pronoun crap, I wish I had grown up in the 90s and never learned about any of this. I only met one Tom boy in high-school she helped me paint a mural. The other Tom boys thought they were boys.
@@JordansSpearsJust be yourself. This insanity will pass...
@lauraf2584 Thanks for saying that, I'm so worried about society with this stuff. It's like everyone collectively lost their minds. Yea, hopefully it will pass.
How about an update?
Love this video, think it'll be really helpful for gender non-conforming girls to see
Friend, have you looked into therapy for your depression/eating disorder? Feeling comfortable in our own bodies is hard, so sometimes it's really helpful to get someone trained in the process of unlearning unhealthy brain patterns to help.
There's only one requirement to being a man: adult human male, it doesn't matter how we dress, act, look, homsexual, trans identified male or not, we are male that's what groups us together, thats why we are called men. This applies to women as well, adult human females. You guys don't have to be all of the stariotypes either and can be your own person. You dont have to follow what other women do.
What is the connotation of "liberal" in NZ? It looks like it means extreme leftist to the point of socialist. In the US the "liberal" group would refer to pretty much everyone left of center.
I'm not using it in the way most people would, which means anything left of center. I'm using the word as defined from a leftist perspective, so I am not a liberal, I am a leftist - liberals are to the right of me.
@@placeswebreathe5814 interesting, thanks for the reply!
@@placeswebreathe5814 leftist in any system of 2 or more axes means left of the ordinate axis.
But in general left vs right is a one axis system and unapplicable to anything past the french revolution
Look up Kd Lang. She is a role model for butch women. She is an amazing Canadian singer song writer.
It’s totally fine to detransition - it also has zero bearing on the vast majority of trans people who are content after transitioning and made their decisions wisely and intelligently. :)
We stan butch women ❤️✨
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You might discover in life is that radical people exist both on the right and on the left. I'm a conservative person, and it took me some time to admit to myself that in fact crazy radical people exist on both sides, and that's why one should never go to a particular extreme, the golden mean is the way to go. and that's true to life generally and not just politics.
Also, be free to accept idea from both sides, common sense is not reserved to one side. Personally on some issues i agree more with the left, but on core issues i agree with the right which is why I'm proud to call myself a conservative.
edit: there's nothing wrong with being female. we should be proud of it, we're amazing. and there's nothing wrong with being a masculine female or a feminine female or anything in between- that's what makes you- you, and if you are not you, then who are you?!. And there nothing wrong with being a lesbian. We should support one another, the world isn't easy for girls and women.
well I'm crazy radical people on the left so have fun
I believe everyone ahould live life according to their wishes. The only thing im against is parents who allow their children to transition. To many hormones peer pressure etc going on when young. I dont think the use of hormones/surgery should be done prior to becoming an adult
I’m also an 18 year old woman who used to ID as trans. Thankfully I was never able to get hormones as a minor
Were you happy being trans?
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trans person here, and i just want to comment in solidarity. gender is honestly such a mess to figure out, and given how women are treated and seen in our society, it makes sense that some cis women might also confuse themselves as trans. i hope we can all stand together in challenging gender roles, whether it be you proudly existing as a butch woman or trans people like myself challenging gender expression & the outdated & incorrect belief that biology = gender. people deserve to live as themselves, and it’s a shame that we’re made to feel we should fit into boxes
@__ Forget how women are treated and seen in our society, let's talk about the way women are treated by trans activists. Also, biology does = gender for 90% of the population and you don't get to divorce those for all society. If you want to stand together, speak out against the terror campaign against women and stop saying 'cisgender.' It's not a name we asked for or consented to.
@@kadimah1 cisgender isn't a bad word, it isn't sexist either. It just means someone's who's sex and gender match. If y'all really hate it that much then find a different term. The "cis is a slur" thing was started by transphobic people though. Biology determines gender for everyone, both cis and trans people have both a gender and sex which are both determined biologically.
Do you know about Phranc, Folk Singer. She is an iconic butch. Love her song about Gertrude Stein.
It's wild how I had so many of the exact same thoughts and feelings in my "gender journey." Like, word for word! We desperately more positive butch visibility.
thank you for sharing your story
Did you go to a gender therapist?
3:05 omg this is such bs, there's no such thing as "stereotypical trans kid". Me and many other transgender men liked playing with dolls and stuffed animals as kids, makeup is my beloved to this day. And I'm not any less of a man than any man out there.
She is talking about stereotypical trans kids as in a child who does not "fit" perfectly into what people consider masc/ fem interests and behaviors, so they ended up being much easier to indocinate into transgenderism.
Can someone please answer the question, what is a woman / man? I mean apart from the xx / xy.
Cause I have never been taught what a woman is supposed to look like, or a man. I have seen male rock stars wearing tons of make up, pantyhose and dresses and been considered "masculine", and them not caring at all how people labeled them. And I've seen women never wearing make up, dresses or thing like that and be considered women.
George Sand, great French writer was a cross dresser and had many male lovers.
What's up with defining men / women roles, looks, likes, interests etc...? Have people forgotten that they are all unique? No one in this world will ever be the same type of woman or man that you are, or ever identify like you. Because, hopefully, people are more than their genders.
There is no right way of being a woman or a man. And that's a good thing; that way everyone can be theirselves.
As for hating one's body, yeah well that's puberty. Everyone hates their body when going through puberty. Some will hate it more than others, but this too shall pass.
George Sand lived in era when medical treatment like hrt and srs didn't exist yet. You don't know how she (or he?) would be now. I consider her/him to be a trans gay man. Those surgeries are invented for a reason. It's a treatment. Also, you can lurk on butchlesbians subreddit even and you will see that some of them take testosterone and undergo top surgery. People have a right to treat their bodies like they want. It's not your body, after all. Why are you being so concerned? People constantly do nosejobs, boobjobs, and nobody cares. And nobody should. But apparently when it's about "changing sex" (though it's not changing but correction) you're all obsessed about it. You don't understand that transsexualism is a medical condition. People are born this way. It's not something that you choose. Because nobody would choose that nightmare. You literally have a male mind if you're transsex man. You never was a female or woman. You're just a man who was born with a female anatomy by mistake of a nature. It is a birth defect. You do have compassion towards people who were born without arms, or legs. But you don't have compassion towards people who were born with this birth defect, because it's invisible. And you insist that our issues are imaginary. It is cruel and heartless
@@Wasp239 If you can qualify or question whether Georges Sand was a "he", you know nothing about Georges Sand, and thus should not comment on that specific writer.
I have empathy for any living creature, regardless if they were born with a birth defect or not.
Where did I state that trans issues were imaginary? Isn't is "cruel and heartless" to accuse another person of something they didn't do or state?
You use words you don't know the definition of. A birth defect is, according to the dictionary: "a physical problem with a body part or process that is present at birth". Thus, just considering oneself as trans is not a birth defect as their bodies function.
People can do whatever they please with their own bodies, so long as they don't demand of me to be ok with what they are doing and de facto have to consider it a good thing. Whether breast augmentations, rhinoplasties, or any other life choice, people should not demand that I be ok with their life choices and should not expect that I be cool with it.
"nobody would choose that nightmare" yet there are more and more people coming out with detransition stories, stating they made a terrible mistake. Some have done irreparable damage to their bodies. This is concerning.
And I understand that Big Pharma is pushing this on young people, since they have had a hand slap for the opioid crisis.
When people with same-sex attraction started coming out, there were all types of men and women doing so, regardless of social status, age, education etc... Yet, what we are seeing with the trans issue, is that it's mostly young girls. Again, concerning.
There is a difference to be made about concern, especially for underage children, and being "cruel and heartless".
I am glad u now feel better . The thing is even if you had decided to be a white male because it would be easier , the white males would not have seen u as a part of them . So no point being something else . U r beautiful the way u r
But trans is not political I mean there is science behind
Three years ago and still relevant.
I was so engrossed in this video until we got to "liberalism is harmful" and I was like.... huh? I have never, ever, ever heard that word used in a negative context (edit: Now I think, I have heard of "liberals" and "liberal values" being disparaged, but I guess I wrote it off as only coming from extreme conservatives/orthodox religions/literal communists.) When you said that I actually thought, jeez, does that word mean what I think it means? Do I even know what liberalism is? So I googled the definition and it is: Liberalism: noun,
1. willingness to respect or accept behaviour or opinions different from one's own; openness to new ideas.
2. a political and social philosophy that promotes individual rights, civil liberties, democracy, and free enterprise.
I'm very confused. I thought liberals and the left were basically synonymous, honestly. And when you use the word radical, what comes to mind for me is the yin-yang symbol, the ideas behind Taoism and that song "The Circle of Life" at the start of the Lion King. Politics aside, thanks for sharing your story, I feel grateful to be able to hear it and admire your courage and honesty. All the best. edit edit: "I can be whoever the fuck I am, and still be a woman." I love that.
Grácias ,eres muy bonita.
you meant reassuring kek
Two suggestions whether you are male or female 1. Read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John 2. Pick up a book on logic and work all the way fhrough it. You might be pleasantly surprised to learn one complements the other.
There's only one requirement to being a man: adult human male, it doesn't matter how we dress, act, look, homsexual, trans identified male or not, we are male that's what groups us together, thats why we are called men. This applies to women as well, adult human females. You guys don't have to be all of the stariotypes either and can be your own person. You dont have to follow what other women do.