I Love this! ❤ Just a few takeaways 1. Fear is a bad leader 2. Standup for your boundaries in relationships 3. Make sure you honor YOUR OWN boundaries with yourself 4. Honor other people's boundaries as well 5. Do not be afraid of feedback and correct
when Courtney pointed out that they didn’t have make up on, I was confused. i was like then what is that glowing. my good up sisters shine regardless ☺️
My brother is 51 and I remember him saying to me a couple of years ago that nobody has ever asked him why he's single with no kids, he said in fact people say he's lucky because he can do whatever he want. Women who are single and don't have kids are looked at like they're depressed regardless of what she says. I'm 30 and I'm happy I don't have drama like most of the people around me.
As a South African man, when I was listening to the dilemma I was thinking "Girl let it go; it's over and it's over for a reason." It was a no for me. That guy tried to backdoor his way into your pants, he played the waiting game just long enough for the girl to have her guard down and when that did not happen they broke up; which I understand as all men on this planet want sexual intimacy with their partner at one point. However one thing that was touched on during the podcast was how the guy supported the girl during her mother's passing and I agree a good partner supports you in your time of need, they don't pick and choose when they will there for you but they naturally support you and want the best for you. My advice to the girl is find someone who has the same values as you, has the same mindset about sex as you and don't forget action speak louder than words. I can't say that I am fine with you being a virgin and not wanting to have sex, but every other day I am pressuring you into sex, my words do not align with my actions. "The red flags are flaggin baby girl"
I needed this episode cause I’m 21 and I started using dating apps and lord have MERCY!!! These dudes have been trying me and I need an older perspective to help me cause I’m aware but I’m still naive you know ☠️☠️
21 is such a lovely age!!! You can actually start to find your place in your family, strengthen your faith, start on your career path and develop meaningful friendships as well. enjoy the journey
I relate so much with this lady I'm of the same age in SA to. For me I started tinder last year and got my first kiss on my first date. I'm very conservative but I let my guard down because I was trying to "fit in" and have a boyfriend. I had to reflect and look and what my standards are. I was almost naked and bought him gifts. I felt the need to love but that was not it. I'm just glad I still have my dignity and virginity. I'm now at a stage of just waiting on the Lord for guidance. Please heal sis it's possible to regret and feel lonely but remember this person found you whole so you haven't lost anypart of your life.
Thank you for sharing this sis. We appreciate your vulnerability and transparency - and so sorry to hear that this happened to you. Wishing you love and blessings on your own healing journey ❤️
no because I was in this EXACT dilemma 2 years ago. i wanted to wait until marriage and my ex said he was fine with it at first but continued to pressure me later on. sisters who are in this dilemma rn, it’s not worth the soul tie I promise you🤍 wish this episode was out when I was in this situation but I can’t wait to share this with my future daughter
When she said “the Sun, Moon, and everything has an assignment; what are you doing?!” My edges were snatched (with care) LOL thank you for your insight sistas
This video was what I needed. Especially regarding boundaries. I spent most of my life getting angry at people/ men when they didn’t respect me or my boundaries and I just realised it’s because truly I didn’t have any.
You ladies are just here to humble us🙆🏾♀️😂. Such a great podcast packed with so much wisdom 💯👌🏾 as a married woman I totally agree with the fact that you have to work with your partner and make sure you are speaking the same love language. Communication is key for every successful relationship 💯
Renee & Courtney - I needed this today. I NEEDED this today. Y'all dragged me but I needed it. So many comments you made in here DRAGGED me for filth, and I needed it 😭😭
I find myself coming back to this video every couple of days to re-up on new nuggets of wisdom! Setting boundaries has been a HUGE game changer in the dating sphere for me. As much as we tell people to work on themselves in their single season, certain things don't neatly carryover from one's single season into the relationship season. You two are definitely gems and I love the space you ladies have carved out on the interweb.
I needed to hear this today, for the past few months I was struggling with my mental health. Although it was okay to be selfish for a moment to work on myself and reflect, I noticed that I expected too much from others and felt like they had to be patient with me. Because of this I hardly checked in with my close friends and almost neglected them when they might have gone through a similar experience. This podcast today also reminded me that feedback isn't to harm you but to build you. It might hurt a little in the process, but I guess that's when you know you are making progress.
Hey sisters!❤ I'm 19 turning 20 from South Africa 🇿🇦. I've been listening to your podcast since the middle of season 1. I love love love your podcast, I have learnt a lot from you, so much wisdom here. Keep up the good work😘
I got alot of new things I learnt from this episode but what stuck most for me I shouldn't think I don't stand to be sharpened because I'm listening to podcasts and reading books and being self aware, I should leave space to be corrected. Whether good or bad criticism. Thanks sister love from Kenya 🇰🇪
Thank you ladies for your work❤️💖🙏Everytime I tune in.....I get the gift of more wisdom, truth, and accountability. A million thank yous for your conversation, love, and respect to all us sistahs!!!❤️❤️❤️
So much knowledge, I had to pause washing the dishes & grab my notebook, you two have been such a resource for me, thank you x100 & God bless your hearts 🥰
Just came up in my recommended,, you ladies are so well articulated!! You make so much sense everything you are saying im just like FACTS 💜 i really struggle with setting boundaries this is really helpful thankyou 💜
I love this discussion and agree with the foundation of creating boundaries with yourself first and respecting them before you set boundaries for others. Question: What would be an example of a boundary one would set for themself that has nothing to do with another person, but can affect a future relationship?
Don't let the world tell you not having a lot of sex, not wanting sex, or being a virgin is wrong or weird. Gen z actually is very much less sexually active than the generations before. And it's not a bad thing, the sexual situations our elders were getting into may have been more frequent but could have been less healthy, happy, and mindful. Do what you feel is right for you.
Lol this is my first video lol...and i was like let me look at the page and other videos to see before yall said that. I was like wow, they look so diff w the make up on Lol.
I have always wanted to asked women: what is the outcome you want when you date a man, if it is not marriage? Is it becoming a baby-mamma! If not, then why do you have sex with men whom you know does not intend to marry you?
The pleasure can not be reserved only to the man. I don’t have sex with just in order to have baby. I think it’s good if some girls are waiting, I’m not judging but even though the society is becoming sexualised, sex is sold like the thing to attract or keep or reward a man and woman are not supposed to want sex other than that. Hope you don’t take my response as personal attack
@@ennui_creatif7110 you did not answer my question though. Let me rephrase the question: To a woman, what is the outcome you want when you date a man? [What are you dating a man for]
@@ohlangeni You know, every woman is different so I can not generalize. It can be wanting marriage, wanting baby without wanting being a wife, compagnonship life can be hard alone, sex friend. I don’t know this is a spectrum
@@ohlangeni Not every woman wants marriage, point black period. Some women do NOT want marriage. Is that hard to imagine? I find that interesting. I want marriage, and I want to have sex within the confines of a marriage, but that is not for everyone else. Nor should it be. There are 7 billion people in this world, it's simply impossible for all of us to have the same values/goals/aspirations/expectations. Some women want to have a long-term partnership with no marriage. Some women DO want to have children without being married. Some women want to have no relationship at all, just casual partnerships. Do what YOU like & focus on yourself & the ones you love. Not everyone is like us (i.e. pursuing marriage), and that's okay.
With all due respect, this question is highly irrelevant for this conversation, platform and community. It is also extremely demeaning - women are able to engage in dating/sexual activities without desire for marriage. I t is interesting that this was a pointed question towards women, and not towards men + other gendered communities. We encourage you to seek conversations like this, elsewhere. Sending our kindest regards.
Hey, girlies! I didn't even notice that you didn't have makeup LOL. But please I have to ask: can you link your equipment? Like your mic and stand? Thank you!
Overall, great discussion. However, i would urge you to rephrase your section on sexual boundaries and respect . Right now the discussion centers respect given on how a women acts. (I say women because thediscussion centered on women bug this applies to men and others too) to me the messaging is that women who watch porn or talk sexily are "bound" to have their sexual boundaries "tip toed" or crossed more easily, and that's not true. This messaging has been used to justify sexual assault and rape for years and shames women who were raped or sexually assault out of seeking justice or help. It is disappointing to hear this stance in an otherwise great discussion on partnership and boundaries. I think a more fruitful piece of advice would be to analyze why you, as the women, watch porn or engage in sexy talk but don't want to have sex. If your at a good place in your relationship or if your partner inquires talk about it. But don't center respect on actions.
Hi there, thank you for your comment. We appreciate your sentiments, but challenge your understanding of our intentions as well as our articulation. In some essence, we agree with you, and we have also covered this in many of our previous episodes on sex, abuse and sexual behaviour. We did acknowledge (and often acknowledge again and again) female sexual agency, sexual desires, the importance of consent, unpacking rape culture, and so on and so forth. We encourage you to listen to these episodes for better context of our opinions. As a platform which centres on supporting women, we would not, and have not centred respect on actions (we also have an episode dedicated to respectability politics) and the assumption is reductive. Perhaps that is also a function of internet content - nuance, although we try to include, will always be lost in some essence. The premise of our point is on self-discipline, and setting chosen boundaries with oneself first, that make sense in the grander scheme/ framework of your life's principles. As we have stated in our points, we are Christian, and believe in abstinence from all sexual relations - including that with yourself. We have never shied away from reiterating that this forms a pivotal part of our thoughts and framing. The centre of the debate is oneself - if you are engaging in sexual activity alone/ in private, and you are trying to create sexual boundaries with other people, it becomes difficult for YOU to ENACT those boundaries (irrespective of what the another counterpart does or says). Even when your counterpart respects your boundaries, it may be difficult for YOU to enact/honour them with other people due to temptation created by the boundaries you may have set for yourself in private, which you are violating. We encourage self discipline and consistency across your boundaries - sexual, and otherwise. This is from our own personal experiences, and a number of other sisters we've engaged with. We hope that clarifies things.
Listening to relationship advice from people without long-term relationship experience. :/ Ooop. I wonder how their perspectives will change when they have more relationship experience...
I think Courtney my have had a relationship years ago, she mentioned that. Don't know if it was long, not sure how much that matters. Although, I see your point--peoples perspectives tend mature with experience.
It's a bit confusing to give this criticism, because there are tons of people in long term relationships giving terrible dating advice. Moreover, there are tons of people in horrible relationships proclaiming that they know it all. if anything, their advice is golden BECAUSE they are so transparent. if what they have to say isn't for you, there are tons of resources elsewhere. i really love them because they are clearly level-headed, trsnaprent, and open to criticism. none of what they said in this episode is rocket science, it's just common sense. don't know why they'd need to be married or in a very long term relationship to give common-sense advice.
and to add, they literally said IN THIS EPISODE "we are growing with you, don't take our podcast & community as the only thing". they ENCOURAGE you to have a sisterhood in your real life, to listen to others, to seek all kinds of things to help you out. i personally have seen my friends make horrible decisions in their relationships because they took advice from their friend that's been partnered for 10+ years, only to find out that every partnership is different. success in YOUR relationship doesn't mean you'll give good advice to EVERYONE ELSE. your point is reasonable, but it's a bit oversimplistic.
@@steff6146 you sound like ur putting them on a pedestal. No one is above critic. And I feel experience is important. I wouldn’t take career advice from a middle schooler, but maybe you would, lol. Anyway, I don’t know why you wrote an essay response to a short comment either. 🤷♂️Her point is valid.
I Love this! ❤ Just a few takeaways
1. Fear is a bad leader
2. Standup for your boundaries in relationships
3. Make sure you honor YOUR OWN boundaries with yourself
4. Honor other people's boundaries as well
5. Do not be afraid of feedback and correct
when Courtney pointed out that they didn’t have make up on, I was confused. i was like then what is that glowing. my good up sisters shine regardless ☺️
Same!
My brother is 51 and I remember him saying to me a couple of years ago that nobody has ever asked him why he's single with no kids, he said in fact people say he's lucky because he can do whatever he want. Women who are single and don't have kids are looked at like they're depressed regardless of what she says. I'm 30 and I'm happy I don't have drama like most of the people around me.
As a South African man, when I was listening to the dilemma I was thinking "Girl let it go; it's over and it's over for a reason." It was a no for me. That guy tried to backdoor his way into your pants, he played the waiting game just long enough for the girl to have her guard down and when that did not happen they broke up; which I understand as all men on this planet want sexual intimacy with their partner at one point. However one thing that was touched on during the podcast was how the guy supported the girl during her mother's passing and I agree a good partner supports you in your time of need, they don't pick and choose when they will there for you but they naturally support you and want the best for you. My advice to the girl is find someone who has the same values as you, has the same mindset about sex as you and don't forget action speak louder than words. I can't say that I am fine with you being a virgin and not wanting to have sex, but every other day I am pressuring you into sex, my words do not align with my actions. "The red flags are flaggin baby girl"
Appreciate your commentary and thoughts sir, especially your empathy, advice and perspective! ✨
I needed this episode cause I’m 21 and I started using dating apps and lord have MERCY!!! These dudes have been trying me and I need an older perspective to help me cause I’m aware but I’m still naive you know ☠️☠️
Girl same. It’s the Holy Spirit holding me down at this point
Aware but still naive
Ikrrrr
21 is such a lovely age!!! You can actually start to find your place in your family, strengthen your faith, start on your career path and develop meaningful friendships as well. enjoy the journey
I’m laughing so hard at Renee saying your breast have to be touching the ozone layer. LOL
I relate so much with this lady I'm of the same age in SA to. For me I started tinder last year and got my first kiss on my first date. I'm very conservative but I let my guard down because I was trying to "fit in" and have a boyfriend. I had to reflect and look and what my standards are. I was almost naked and bought him gifts. I felt the need to love but that was not it. I'm just glad I still have my dignity and virginity. I'm now at a stage of just waiting on the Lord for guidance. Please heal sis it's possible to regret and feel lonely but remember this person found you whole so you haven't lost anypart of your life.
Yesss sis!! So proud of you ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing this sis. We appreciate your vulnerability and transparency - and so sorry to hear that this happened to you. Wishing you love and blessings on your own healing journey ❤️
I literally have leave-in conditioner in my hair🤣. When Renee finished reading that dilemma, I legit said "No......case closed"😅
Trust your gut. Your intuition is sharp enough to know when something is wrong. Just listen to it.
no because I was in this EXACT dilemma 2 years ago. i wanted to wait until marriage and my ex said he was fine with it at first but continued to pressure me later on. sisters who are in this dilemma rn, it’s not worth the soul tie I promise you🤍 wish this episode was out when I was in this situation but I can’t wait to share this with my future daughter
Courtney: "You are probably watching this in your bonnet"
Me: NO ( adjusts headwrap and ties morning gown tighter)🤣
We’ve been caught!!!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When she said “the Sun, Moon, and everything has an assignment; what are you doing?!” My edges were snatched (with care) LOL thank you for your insight sistas
This video was what I needed. Especially regarding boundaries. I spent most of my life getting angry at people/ men when they didn’t respect me or my boundaries and I just realised it’s because truly I didn’t have any.
“Don’t be shocked that the iron that sharpens you is as sharp as you”
- Miss Courtney Boateng
You ladies are just here to humble us🙆🏾♀️😂. Such a great podcast packed with so much wisdom 💯👌🏾 as a married woman I totally agree with the fact that you have to work with your partner and make sure you are speaking the same love language. Communication is key for every successful relationship 💯
Soon as I heard that dilemma I shouted NOOOOOOO, most of the time, we know the answer is NO, but we still want ppl to tell us that same thing
Sometimes hearing it out loud from someone else is needed 😭
Renee & Courtney - I needed this today. I NEEDED this today. Y'all dragged me but I needed it. So many comments you made in here DRAGGED me for filth, and I needed it 😭😭
Pulling up to do our duty ma'am! ❤️
You girls be reading my mind with these topics! Crazy
I'm telling youuuuu! Like wth is going on? 😂
I find myself coming back to this video every couple of days to re-up on new nuggets of wisdom! Setting boundaries has been a HUGE game changer in the dating sphere for me. As much as we tell people to work on themselves in their single season, certain things don't neatly carryover from one's single season into the relationship season. You two are definitely gems and I love the space you ladies have carved out on the interweb.
Your skins be glowing regardless 😍😍 Courtney’s skin tone is melting my heart 🥺😍
I needed to hear this today, for the past few months I was struggling with my mental health. Although it was okay to be selfish for a moment to work on myself and reflect, I noticed that I expected too much from others and felt like they had to be patient with me. Because of this I hardly checked in with my close friends and almost neglected them when they might have gone through a similar experience. This podcast today also reminded me that feedback isn't to harm you but to build you. It might hurt a little in the process, but I guess that's when you know you are making progress.
No the ending was a personal attack on me. I need to get better, I just need to 😭😭😭 Much love to Renee and Courtney 💞
Hey sisters!❤
I'm 19 turning 20 from South Africa 🇿🇦. I've been listening to your podcast since the middle of season 1. I love love love your podcast, I have learnt a lot from you, so much wisdom here.
Keep up the good work😘
I am indeed wearing my Kente bonnet and finished putting in my leave-in
the last segment read me for filth - incredible episode as always ladies xx
This was soooo good!!! I have no edges left after watching this!
I got alot of new things I learnt from this episode but what stuck most for me I shouldn't think I don't stand to be sharpened because I'm listening to podcasts and reading books and being self aware, I should leave space to be corrected. Whether good or bad criticism. Thanks sister love from Kenya 🇰🇪
OUCH. I feel like this was targeted. I gasped and I ooped. Great points ladies. New sub.
"You are not worth someone exchanging their boundaries and their comfort to have you " HUMBLE US THEN CDB !!!!!! 👏
New subscriber here and I am already put in a corner. 😭 I truly appreciate this sort of content! Great episode!
Welcome lovely! We're nice sometimes, we promise 😂❤️
My Sunday routine can properly start now :) Thank you sisters!
I love this topic definitely have a hard time of holding myself accountable and self aware of my words and actions
Naaa you girls snatched my wig and threw it out the window, loved this episode.
Not threw it out onto the highway! 😂 Glad you enjoyed! ❤️
LITERALLY CLEANSING MY SCALP AS I STARTED WATCHING THIS PODCAST hahhahaha love it
Thank you ladies for your work❤️💖🙏Everytime I tune in.....I get the gift of more wisdom, truth, and accountability. A million thank yous for your conversation, love, and respect to all us sistahs!!!❤️❤️❤️
Such a good episode 👏🏾
I've been reloading your page all evening waiting for a new episode 😂 Thank God it's finally here
So much knowledge, I had to pause washing the dishes & grab my notebook,
you two have been such a resource for me, thank you x100 & God bless your hearts 🥰
There is something being I mean this TMS episode - TMS Sister from Germany is asking and implementing those takeaways 💞
👁👄👁 - The way I dashed my bonnet at 1:42. Like how did you know 😂
We see you boo! 😂
Just came up in my recommended,, you ladies are so well articulated!! You make so much sense everything you are saying im just like FACTS 💜 i really struggle with setting boundaries this is really helpful thankyou 💜
Happy for you sis! ❤️
I didn't think I'd be attacked on this episode... but I appreciate the call out
We love you guys so much.
Makes everything we do worth it ❤️
Y’all stay dropping gems 💎❤️💪🏾
there's noooo way i found this gem
Thoroughly enjoyed!
Ladies, you stepped on some toes, thank you!
now THIS title 😮💨 I’ll catch up tomorrow for sure!
I love this discussion and agree with the foundation of creating boundaries with yourself first and respecting them before you set boundaries for others. Question: What would be an example of a boundary one would set for themself that has nothing to do with another person, but can affect a future relationship?
First podcast I listen to and I’m staying!!! So so good🔥🔥🔥
Just stumbled across your channel & I love you guys! This is great 🤩
Im literally with conditioner and a shower cap on😂much love from 🇰🇪
Gotta get that extra hair loving in 😂
Best. Episode. Yet. ✨🔥 I would like this multiple times if I could.
First time here, and I think this was made for me, thank you sisters ❤
Yes I loved this episode, please make more of these ❤️
How am I wearing both my pyjamas and bonnet😭
We see you! 😂
Comforttttt
Cause the way I’m actually rewatching this in my bonnet!!
It was nice to stumble upon you both. We should connect. Christian sisters in Christ 🌸🌸💜✝️🙏🏽
I adore your natural look! Love the hair and face it made my day to see it.
Don't let the world tell you not having a lot of sex, not wanting sex, or being a virgin is wrong or weird. Gen z actually is very much less sexually active than the generations before. And it's not a bad thing, the sexual situations our elders were getting into may have been more frequent but could have been less healthy, happy, and mindful. Do what you feel is right for you.
Loved this episode! Left me with many things to action on. ❤️ Please Courtney can you share the sermon you mentioned towards the end please?
Literally watching this in my bonnet and pajama shorts 😭😭
Great video and this is from a guy love the self reflection and awareness that show a level of maturity keep up the good work
Super happy you enjoyed it! ✨
🤣🤣not the ozone layer
It's high! 😂
Hello, hi! Thanks for dragging my entire life!😂😂😂
Great video!
YaaaaY to SA!
i absolutely loved this but i reaaaaally felt attacked sheesh
Lol this is my first video lol...and i was like let me look at the page and other videos to see before yall said that. I was like wow, they look so diff w the make up on
Lol.
I’m definitely in my bonnet sis 😂😂😂😂
You both look beautiful
This episode!!!! OMG ladies 😂❤️❤️👌🏾
🤣😂 as for breastesses not touching the o-zone layer 😅 #finished
I had to be the first one. Thank you Sisters
Hey first! Glad you enjoyed ❤️
Great great content! new subscriber here🤎
I have always wanted to asked women: what is the outcome you want when you date a man, if it is not marriage?
Is it becoming a baby-mamma!
If not, then why do you have sex with men whom you know does not intend to marry you?
The pleasure can not be reserved only to the man. I don’t have sex with just in order to have baby. I think it’s good if some girls are waiting, I’m not judging but even though the society is becoming sexualised, sex is sold like the thing to attract or keep or reward a man and woman are not supposed to want sex other than that. Hope you don’t take my response as personal attack
@@ennui_creatif7110 you did not answer my question though.
Let me rephrase the question:
To a woman, what is the outcome you want when you date a man?
[What are you dating a man for]
@@ohlangeni You know, every woman is different so I can not generalize. It can be wanting marriage, wanting baby without wanting being a wife, compagnonship life can be hard alone, sex friend. I don’t know this is a spectrum
@@ohlangeni Not every woman wants marriage, point black period. Some women do NOT want marriage. Is that hard to imagine? I find that interesting. I want marriage, and I want to have sex within the confines of a marriage, but that is not for everyone else. Nor should it be. There are 7 billion people in this world, it's simply impossible for all of us to have the same values/goals/aspirations/expectations. Some women want to have a long-term partnership with no marriage. Some women DO want to have children without being married. Some women want to have no relationship at all, just casual partnerships. Do what YOU like & focus on yourself & the ones you love. Not everyone is like us (i.e. pursuing marriage), and that's okay.
With all due respect, this question is highly irrelevant for this conversation, platform and community. It is also extremely demeaning - women are able to engage in dating/sexual activities without desire for marriage. I
t is interesting that this was a pointed question towards women, and not towards men + other gendered communities. We encourage you to seek conversations like this, elsewhere.
Sending our kindest regards.
Hey, girlies! I didn't even notice that you didn't have makeup LOL. But please I have to ask: can you link your equipment? Like your mic and stand? Thank you!
Will follow up shortly! Please remind us/ email us if not! ❤️
Biggest joke: “What if he changes?”😂😂
This was an entire drag.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Overall, great discussion. However, i would urge you to rephrase your section on sexual boundaries and respect . Right now the discussion centers respect given on how a women acts. (I say women because thediscussion centered on women bug this applies to men and others too) to me the messaging is that women who watch porn or talk sexily are "bound" to have their sexual boundaries "tip toed" or crossed more easily, and that's not true. This messaging has been used to justify sexual assault and rape for years and shames women who were raped or sexually assault out of seeking justice or help. It is disappointing to hear this stance in an otherwise great discussion on partnership and boundaries.
I think a more fruitful piece of advice would be to analyze why you, as the women, watch porn or engage in sexy talk but don't want to have sex. If your at a good place in your relationship or if your partner inquires talk about it. But don't center respect on actions.
Hi there, thank you for your comment.
We appreciate your sentiments, but challenge your understanding of our intentions as well as our articulation. In some essence, we agree with you, and we have also covered this in many of our previous episodes on sex, abuse and sexual behaviour. We did acknowledge (and often acknowledge again and again) female sexual agency, sexual desires, the importance of consent, unpacking rape culture, and so on and so forth.
We encourage you to listen to these episodes for better context of our opinions. As a platform which centres on supporting women, we would not, and have not centred respect on actions (we also have an episode dedicated to respectability politics) and the assumption is reductive. Perhaps that is also a function of internet content - nuance, although we try to include, will always be lost in some essence.
The premise of our point is on self-discipline, and setting chosen boundaries with oneself first, that make sense in the grander scheme/ framework of your life's principles. As we have stated in our points, we are Christian, and believe in abstinence from all sexual relations - including that with yourself. We have never shied away from reiterating that this forms a pivotal part of our thoughts and framing.
The centre of the debate is oneself - if you are engaging in sexual activity alone/ in private, and you are trying to create sexual boundaries with other people, it becomes difficult for YOU to ENACT those boundaries (irrespective of what the another counterpart does or says). Even when your counterpart respects your boundaries, it may be difficult for YOU to enact/honour them with other people due to temptation created by the boundaries you may have set for yourself in private, which you are violating. We encourage self discipline and consistency across your boundaries - sexual, and otherwise. This is from our own personal experiences, and a number of other sisters we've engaged with.
We hope that clarifies things.
Isaiah 4:1
Dragggg me by my edges why don’t you ? ! Shuuu thank you for this ❤️
How do I submit my dilemma plsss🙏🙏🙏🙏
Send over to hello@tomysisters.com with the subject line dilemma sis! ❤️
Listening to relationship advice from people without long-term relationship experience. :/ Ooop. I wonder how their perspectives will change when they have more relationship experience...
I think Courtney my have had a relationship years ago, she mentioned that. Don't know if it was long, not sure how much that matters. Although, I see your point--peoples perspectives tend mature with experience.
It's a bit confusing to give this criticism, because there are tons of people in long term relationships giving terrible dating advice. Moreover, there are tons of people in horrible relationships proclaiming that they know it all. if anything, their advice is golden BECAUSE they are so transparent. if what they have to say isn't for you, there are tons of resources elsewhere. i really love them because they are clearly level-headed, trsnaprent, and open to criticism. none of what they said in this episode is rocket science, it's just common sense. don't know why they'd need to be married or in a very long term relationship to give common-sense advice.
and to add, they literally said IN THIS EPISODE "we are growing with you, don't take our podcast & community as the only thing". they ENCOURAGE you to have a sisterhood in your real life, to listen to others, to seek all kinds of things to help you out. i personally have seen my friends make horrible decisions in their relationships because they took advice from their friend that's been partnered for 10+ years, only to find out that every partnership is different. success in YOUR relationship doesn't mean you'll give good advice to EVERYONE ELSE. your point is reasonable, but it's a bit oversimplistic.
@@steff6146 you sound like ur putting them on a pedestal. No one is above critic. And I feel experience is important.
I wouldn’t take career advice from a middle schooler, but maybe you would, lol.
Anyway, I don’t know why you wrote an essay response to a short comment either. 🤷♂️Her point is valid.
@@hgkjyhnih don't be mean. Her response is just as valid and makes a lot of sense. Not a pedastal.
Biggest joke: “What if he changes?”😂😂
This was an entire drag.