I've been questioning for a while now and aesthetic attraction is the one thing I totally get. Sometimes there are just these people that are soooooo pretty! Like I wanna look at them, but staring is bad; not talk to them or get to know them, but just, like, have a picture of them (which might also be weird and/or creepy)... *sigh*
Learning this was a concept really made me realize I was demisexual. People would be like "you've had crushes though." My crushes would end fast when people changed their looks. It sounds judgmental, but it's true for me. People like to confuse aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction, and it's exhausting. Like you can think someone is hot without wanting to bang them.
Explaining the difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction to allos is so exhausting. I've had so many times where I've said something about a woman that indicates attraction and people are like "But I thought you were ace??????? Do you like people now??????" Sigh. Just because I caption every picture of Natalie Dormer with #WifeMeUp or I joke about putting a giant picture of Parminder Nagra over my rainbow flag doesn't mean I want to bang them. It means they're gorgeous and I'm drawn to their gorgeousness and I'd like to be in their midst...with clothes on.
I think I feel aesthetic attraction very strongly and for the longest time I thought it was sexual attraction. And now I discovered that I'm probably demiromantic ace haha
I used to confuse aesthetic attraction with like having a crush untill very recently realized that im probably aro and those weren't crushes....... Thank you so much for this video amd making stuff clear💜🖤
I think I felt the same way. There was one girl I thought I liked and wrote her a love note, but really I think I just liked her for her looks. I haven't fallen in love with anyone since then I think I maybe aromantic too.
This is such a good explanation and I feel SO SEEN. It's exactly what I experience most of the time. I sometimes get sensually attracted towards people, so I want to be close to them, but mostly it's just "Please let me look at you forever, you are absolutely gorgeous and I don't know how something this beautiful can exist". Like you said, I also really like pretty things. I feel like I'm a very visual and aesthetically driven person. I love art, I love paintings, I love pretty buildings, I love pretty movies, I love pretty clothing, I love pretty landscape, I buy my books based on pretty covers, I love surrounding myself with pretty things and yes, that includes people. I can watch videos of people I find beautiful for hours and hours and hours and not get tired of it, because I especially love the way some people move or their general posture. I just love the feeling when seeing something beautiful, it makes me so happy - sometimes even to the extent that I want to cry because it's so beautiful.
Knowing what I feel is aesthetic attraction has been such a delight! I love seeing the beauty in so many different types of people and styles, but never want to sexualise it
Wow, so much learned in such a short video, thank you!! I also wish it was more normalized to acknowledge another person's beauty without my sexuality being questioned
Yes, thank you! Knowing about this made everything just click you know? And it's just as you said, most often I just want to stare at them ksks actually, thinking about this I remembered that as a teen I always thought that everybody had something beautiful about them you know? It could be the smile or the hair, but I always found something and I loved that and didn't quite understand when people say some were pretty and others ugly as if it was a clear binary thing, you know? I get it now that this is bc of beauty standards of course. Ksksk I'm loving this videos, can't wait for more!
Thank you so much for the continual information on asexuality :) not only does it help people understand themselves better, but it makes the world a more diverse and compassionate place
I am romantically and aesthetically attracted to people. Btw, I am Biromantic. I have known that I am asexual since I was 13 but figured out the Biromantic part last year. Love your channel and do you still journal?!!!
Is it just me or does aesthetic attraction explained always sound like you're a creepy stalker 😭 there's no way to explain it sounding as normal as it is
I'm a heteroromantic heterosexual woman, but I'm kinda drawn to women's bodies. For a while when I was a teenager I questioned my sexuality and thought that I might be bi, but I don't really experience that much attraction in the romantic or sexual way for women, if at all. I think back then, I was kinda lonely because I wanted a relationship and I didn't find a guy, so my subconscious was kinda like "Hey, if boys don't work, what about girls?"😂 Kinda embarrassing. Sometimes I feel like I want to touch a woman, maybe just feel what her curves feel like (okay that sounds creepy tbh), but I think mostly I'm just aesthetically attracted. And I'm not just attracted to faces, but to curves an butts and muscles by fit yet ""feminine"" women, so women that still have some curves. Since sexuality seems to be pretty malleable by environmental influences I wonder whether I would've become actually bi in a less heteronormative society.
Huh I was wondering what that was I’m aroace but about three times I’ve felt aesthetic attractive and I was just questioning it because I loved the way they looked but I didn’t want to get in a relationship or kiss them or whatever but I just thought they looked good.
i feel sexually attracted to men but i can't have sex until i know the guy, i thought i was demi but i don't need connection to feel the sexual attraction, i need the connection to actually engage in sex, does this fall under the graysexual area at all? im so lost and confused lol
I feel like no one will ever see this cus it’s so late but I really want an answer to this please: I’ve mainly heard of aesthetic attraction in the context of celebrities, can you experience aesthetic attraction to non-celebrity people?
I've been questioning for a while now and aesthetic attraction is the one thing I totally get. Sometimes there are just these people that are soooooo pretty! Like I wanna look at them, but staring is bad; not talk to them or get to know them, but just, like, have a picture of them (which might also be weird and/or creepy)... *sigh*
Learning this was a concept really made me realize I was demisexual. People would be like "you've had crushes though." My crushes would end fast when people changed their looks. It sounds judgmental, but it's true for me. People like to confuse aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction, and it's exhausting. Like you can think someone is hot without wanting to bang them.
Explaining the difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction to allos is so exhausting. I've had so many times where I've said something about a woman that indicates attraction and people are like "But I thought you were ace??????? Do you like people now??????" Sigh. Just because I caption every picture of Natalie Dormer with #WifeMeUp or I joke about putting a giant picture of Parminder Nagra over my rainbow flag doesn't mean I want to bang them. It means they're gorgeous and I'm drawn to their gorgeousness and I'd like to be in their midst...with clothes on.
I think I feel aesthetic attraction very strongly and for the longest time I thought it was sexual attraction. And now I discovered that I'm probably demiromantic ace haha
I used to confuse aesthetic attraction with like having a crush untill very recently realized that im probably aro and those weren't crushes....... Thank you so much for this video amd making stuff clear💜🖤
I think I felt the same way. There was one girl I thought I liked and wrote her a love note, but really I think I just liked her for her looks. I haven't fallen in love with anyone since then I think I maybe aromantic too.
This is such a good explanation and I feel SO SEEN. It's exactly what I experience most of the time. I sometimes get sensually attracted towards people, so I want to be close to them, but mostly it's just "Please let me look at you forever, you are absolutely gorgeous and I don't know how something this beautiful can exist". Like you said, I also really like pretty things. I feel like I'm a very visual and aesthetically driven person. I love art, I love paintings, I love pretty buildings, I love pretty movies, I love pretty clothing, I love pretty landscape, I buy my books based on pretty covers, I love surrounding myself with pretty things and yes, that includes people. I can watch videos of people I find beautiful for hours and hours and hours and not get tired of it, because I especially love the way some people move or their general posture. I just love the feeling when seeing something beautiful, it makes me so happy - sometimes even to the extent that I want to cry because it's so beautiful.
i fall in love with peoples' aesthetics so easily omg
Knowing what I feel is aesthetic attraction has been such a delight! I love seeing the beauty in so many different types of people and styles, but never want to sexualise it
Your videos are so educational. Thanks for making them :)
They are! So true. Jenna, I love your videos. I never knew there was a specific thing called aesthetic attraction.
Wow, so much learned in such a short video, thank you!! I also wish it was more normalized to acknowledge another person's beauty without my sexuality being questioned
Yes, thank you! Knowing about this made everything just click you know? And it's just as you said, most often I just want to stare at them ksks actually, thinking about this I remembered that as a teen I always thought that everybody had something beautiful about them you know? It could be the smile or the hair, but I always found something and I loved that and didn't quite understand when people say some were pretty and others ugly as if it was a clear binary thing, you know? I get it now that this is bc of beauty standards of course. Ksksk I'm loving this videos, can't wait for more!
Thank you so much for the continual information on asexuality :) not only does it help people understand themselves better, but it makes the world a more diverse and compassionate place
This is so mee. For a long time I thought I was crazy
Looking at cute guys gives me the same feeling as I get while looking at cool plants
I am romantically and aesthetically attracted to people. Btw, I am Biromantic. I have known that I am asexual since I was 13 but figured out the Biromantic part last year. Love your channel and do you still journal?!!!
alas i don’t do artsy journalling these days - maybe someday in the future!
Is it just me or does aesthetic attraction explained always sound like you're a creepy stalker 😭 there's no way to explain it sounding as normal as it is
It's me!
I'm a heteroromantic heterosexual woman, but I'm kinda drawn to women's bodies.
For a while when I was a teenager I questioned my sexuality and thought that I might be bi, but I don't really experience that much attraction in the romantic or sexual way for women, if at all. I think back then, I was kinda lonely because I wanted a relationship and I didn't find a guy, so my subconscious was kinda like "Hey, if boys don't work, what about girls?"😂 Kinda embarrassing.
Sometimes I feel like I want to touch a woman, maybe just feel what her curves feel like (okay that sounds creepy tbh), but I think mostly I'm just aesthetically attracted. And I'm not just attracted to faces, but to curves an butts and muscles by fit yet ""feminine"" women, so women that still have some curves. Since sexuality seems to be pretty malleable by environmental influences I wonder whether I would've become actually bi in a less heteronormative society.
So, I guess've you just explained how all of my crushes had worked
Huh I was wondering what that was I’m aroace but about three times I’ve felt aesthetic attractive and I was just questioning it because I loved the way they looked but I didn’t want to get in a relationship or kiss them or whatever but I just thought they looked good.
Do you have feelings when you're aesthetically attracted? Or does the heart flutter?
Have you done a video about platonic attraction?
i have one about why friendship is so important to ace people but not specifically about platonic attraction - i can make one though!
@@jennaclarek Oh ok!
i feel sexually attracted to men but i can't have sex until i know the guy, i thought i was demi but i don't need connection to feel the sexual attraction, i need the connection to actually engage in sex, does this fall under the graysexual area at all? im so lost and confused lol
I feel like no one will ever see this cus it’s so late but I really want an answer to this please: I’ve mainly heard of aesthetic attraction in the context of celebrities, can you experience aesthetic attraction to non-celebrity people?
absolutely!
I am really aesthetically attracted to demi lovato. Tee hee.
I also see what you are doing with the thumb nail photos. Clever.
Omg me too...Demi Lovato looks like a walking masterpiece!
I love to look at Nancy Momoland beacuse she's beautiful
I finally understand myself!!!