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- Follow 5 steps to achieve classic masculine body language.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:33 Stability
1:42 Slow
3:05 Strength
4:33 Space
5:53 Stare
7:26 Conclusion - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
I love that you touched on walking on the side closest to the street when walking with a lady. That is something I was taught at a young age. I go out of my way to do that. It was something my wife noticed and loved when we went on our first date. She never had a man do that for her. Unfortunately, I don't see a lot of men doing that anymore.
Unfortunately, so many women have come to expect the bare minimum. It only makes it more important to be a gentleman
It’s an outdated tradition whose original reasons for following no longer hold. Gentlemen would walk on the outside to keep their ladies from getting splashed when horse wagons go by. Additionally, in some inner city underworlds, pimps would walk with women street-side if they were for sale, and on the inside if off-market. Who still knows this, or even cares? Men who make a show of walking on the outside do so only because they’re told to. Not only that, it actually puts the woman in a more vulnerable position as any threat is likely to come not from the street (a car jumping the curb? When have you ever seen that?) , but the side of buildings and alleys.
It's a good thing that most people don't do it, it makes it easier to stand out
Most men don’t do it because these women today aren’t worth getting hit by car for….I believe this act should be only for certain women
@anonymouslakernerd7214 you ever drive by a puddle in your vehicle? it still splashes
1. Stable
2. Slow
3. Strength
4. Space
5. State
Thank you for the content you are sharing.
If you’re going to jump the man’s content at least spell the fucking words right / reveal their accurate meanings.
you failed
5 is stare
I closed my laptop decisively, tomorow i will go buy new one as a masculine man XD
Hah!
One of my favorite tips is when speaking to a group, do your best to have your back to a wall, or back to the bar and let the group surround you. It set you as the center of attention even if you aren’t speaking. And anyone looking from afar will think so as well.
Thanks dude ❤
There is an another “s”: Surrounding”. A gentleman is very aware of his surroundings and knows the appropriate way to conduct themselves.
The music bed you chose for this video is perfect. Masculine, elegant, and cool.
It's called "jazz". Pretty cool uh?
Walk with purpose.. that's my favourite movement trait. Always look calm, in control and decisive.
I make a point of shaking hands when greeting a fellow man. I detest a limp handshake in return, but it is sadly very common.
That jacket is absolutely a pleasure to see
I would like to note (as a woman of 70+ years) that while I agree with much of what you say, I would suggest a bit of restraint in setting bottles down audibly (etc.) Such "strength" displays, while in your case well-intended, can be a triggering action for a woman who is unfortunate enough to have been in a situation or relationship where such things were used against her as a form of intimidation or abuse.
When you are addressing someone, make sure that your body is facing them and squared towards them. This applies to whether you're standing or sitting. This shows attentiveness to them, you're not afraid to place your vulnerable centerline (where all the physically vulnerable body parts are) at them, and you visually take up more space because you are at your broadest, if that makes sense.
I think one of the lessons that has helped me the most is dont slouch. This comes into what you were saying with in your point "space" whether sitting or standing, it also plays into "stability" where keeping an upright posture is more comfortable to maintain over a long time and I find I do not need to adjust my posture if I am standing erect. It also conveys an air of confidence to those around you
Thank you for the help sir. The slow walk and movement la without being afraid to make your presence know is what has helped me in a positive way.
This information has given me more self-confidence in social situations. Thank you.
As someone who is 1.9m i can say that its impossible to walk without your head looking down....or else you will kick things or stumble and fall all day long
I can relate with that
As a 2.02 man, i can agree with you
As someone who is uncomfortable with eye contact, I have a set of rules that I follow, which is great to add to those mentioned here. At a checkout, after paying, then then receiving the receipt, I will make eye contact as the cashier hands me the receipt. Perhaps a smile... but I do the eye contact for at least 2 seconds, but no more than 6 seconds.
...and it works well.
Good on you mate, just a tip, you don’t have to be so meticulous, just try to do it naturally. You don’t need to have everything down to the second, you’re an awkward guy, you’re going to embarrass yourself a tad before you become a stone cold gentleman👍. Practice makes perfect, you don’t need to be so ordered in a chaotic world. Socialising is chaotic because you never know what somebody is going to do or say.
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As always, very helpful.
Concise, good examples and logically structured video....... well done.
Thank you. Very helpful.
Great video. Love this. I’ve noticed this in all my favorite movies and shows you referenced! 😎
Thank you so much man. My entire life I've been a weak feminine people pleasing man. Sure it has made allot of like me for the help I've offered but it has equally attracted allot of disrespect into my life. I'm 21 and I'm looking on building a masculine persona. Please keep such content coming. I can't wait to practice these
This is awesome!
Love what you said about the sidewalk. I always did this in dates instinctively, and the primary reason I remember it is because the girls I dated would point it out from time to time. It shows you are considerate, protective, and thoughtful.
One thing that helped me with eye contact issues was to go for a stroll and make brief eye contact with everyone comfortably along my path. It's just a quick acknowledgement glance and perhaps a nod. One would be surprised how fast they get used to it. It also helps you with posture too, as you've got to keep your chin up to see everything coming your way.
I've definitely seen women react differently with me after I keep I contact when chatting with them. Little smiles, little cute expressions of interest.
I just came here to say well done sir, your videos are great and badly needed in an area with the word most associated with masculinity nowadays is "toxic" and this is the perfect antidote to that nonsense. Take a thumbs up!
@gentz Young man, you have earned a subcriber from this older genteman. Thank you!
Make a video explaining How to go down and up stairs in a masculine way, how to get in and out of a car, how to close the car, in a masculine way
Lmao you’re over thinking this….to be masculine is to be aware. Have awareness to know when you’re slouching or talking to fast. Have awareness of self and that’s it
Think of a Lion how aware they are…
Sarcasm.
I'm familiar with your game.
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Amazing ❤
I love the channel and all of your insights. One more I would add is the way a man walks. Cary Grant's walk across the hotel parking lot in To Catch a Thief is a sight to behold.
And it sure worked for him! 😉
These tips are spot on. I've had the pleasure of dealing with many male leaders over my career and retirement. The effective ones use these behaviors all the time. The really good ones knew how to ramp up and ramp down the intensity of each of these behaviors, according to circumstance. Bravo.
Watching your "classically masculine" series I've thought about how it's not easy to make these changes just by force of habit. I think all the things you've pointed out we should change are symptoms of underlying moods or perceptions about oneself. For example, if you seem to fidget a lot and have a hard time staying still and steady, like you mention, it means you're probably nervous or alert. So moving a lot would be the symptom resulting from being nervous, and I think it would be a lot easier to focus on calming down and relaxing, instead of just trying to stay still (you'd stop moving, but would remain nervous and tense).
Another example would be talking slower like you mentioned in a previous video. I personally struggled with this beacause I worried too much what people thought of me, so I wanted them to know what I was thinking as soon as I did to get validation (or to adjust my thoughts if I had negative feedback). It's interesting how I talk so much slower, seem calmer, and stopped saying so much unecessary stuff after I spent a while working on not caring what others thought of me. Treat the problem, not the symptoms.
Great video.
Oh god. Are we really gonna start to watch crap videos like that to walk „masculine“ and to gain some inner confidence. Come on if your confident people will like that (I mean your watching a video like this to appeal to the masses/seem more confident). This is basically „10 surprising facts you’re a sigma male“ for grownups.
Thomas Shelby is nice cause he‘s authentic. Blud is a badass murderer, criminal and war veteran. And he is the leader of a big crime organisation. What we like about him is that he is authentic, no grimaces, no drama and stuff, just being the cold blooded beast he is.
You know what most of these sigma/masculine/alpha/thomas shelby videos miss?
They miss the main point - All these alpha mfs are relaxed as hell. This masculinity is mostly just relaxedness + deep inner confidence in one self. Nothing more. These chaps are not thinking about how “masculine” they walk or not, they just do the shit they want to gain power/money.
Great content lately been really enjoying the channel. Something I’ll add to point #5 “stare” is to stare slow. When someone calls your name, don’t jerk your head quickly towards them. This gives off nervous energy. Instead move slow and confident towards them.
An everything matters, everything is fine...what will be will be, attitude.
Cultivate your inner strength first and foremost and all of these things will come much easier, trust me. Energy is everything. And is the innermost layer of all of these desirable traits.
stand up straight with your shoulders back.
- Jordan peterson
The eye contact and being comfortable with it is incredibely powerful and relaxing not just in meetings and conversations but out in the street or entering a café for example. I have learned to enjoy making eye contact with patrons who will look up at you as you enter the room and nodding with a hint of a smile. Works wonders, the men usually respond in kind, women tend to smile back - incredible. Even saying "hello" to a passing stranger on the street who makes an eye contact.
I still remember smoking outside of my office when this african gentleman paced by me with a frown on his face, he cought my glance and I nodded and smiled and he just lightened up with this wonderful, wide smile. Such small human interacions can make your whole mood turn around.
@@jheagy1234567890can’t rob you more than those politicians you worship
THAT comment is absolutely class & wholesome. Thank you for this inspiration.
You are amazing
Most used is slow. I'm a Marine and as a junior Marine I was always rushing. But as a leader it's important to be slow and deliberate. It tells your subordinates that you are in control even when things are chaotic. The classic guy walking away from an explosion is the perfect example of this.
I'm a tall man, 200 cm and recently turned 30 years old. For a very long time I felt that I was the center of attention without even wanting it, so I ended up trying to make myself smaller in terms of my presence. I was opposite of everything mentioned in the video. I just didn't like the attention, and for some reason I felt like I was obnoxious for simply existing at my height. That changed some two years ago or so when I decided to change and "take my space" so to speak. I'm respectful, but am not afraid to make my presence known. This video helped me to get much better insight into it all. I know I already got a huge boost with the help of my height, and I wanted to refine it, so thank you.
Never cross your arms!
Space and stare are my favourite
The first one is to have a undisturbed mind in the world of the phenomena
The second one is to always foster a calm inner strengt
The third is to comprehend the void my friend
The fourth is to perceive that which cannot be seen with the eye
A gentlemen, officer and a warrior
Oh hey, I have Leil's book!
i really love your youtube name, I want to be a part of the Gent Z
I agree with all this. If you conduct yourself in a negative way you come across as insecure. I have been in conversation with men who are fidgeting and looking around with their eyes darting. It's a turn off. Some think if they behave in an aggressive way makes them look like a man who's in control.
Pleas men a michele morroni style video pleaseee🙏🏽 love this video thanks💪🏼💪🏼🙏🏽
The best body language lesson, I e ever learn is honestly the combination of everything you've mentioned. Thomas Shelby is a character you should definitely study. His movement conveys nothing but power.
Seems like all of these happen fairly naturally from feeling good about yourself and gaining confidence as a result. I am an introspective, overly-analytical classic Virgo. I flourish in situations that I am comfortable in, but struggle when I encounter something or someone different. Slouching and poor eye contact were big problems, and although I was usually in pretty good shape, I'm shorter and skinnier than most guys, which didn't help my confidence, especially around women.
I'm happy to say that I started carrying my bag on the golf course and eating healthy about 7 years ago which has led to weight reduction and made me much stronger. My wife compliments me quite a bit and even brags about me to here friends. Posture and eye contact have improved, as well.
Try as I might, just cannot ever get myself to move slowly.
@Gentz Z any yways U replaced to u. just do ur thing.
fir what ever reason im here in the middle of knowwhere but i's fine. We all did good
GGWP
We cam all be happy and move on!
I can agree with nearly all of this, the first part about being stable I can agree is important but occasionally there are physical conditions which make that much more difficult, especially for those of us in the advanced age category. I feel the wet tea towel handshake is the absolute worst offense anyone, even women IMHO, can make.
Take a theater movement class or get some instruction in the Alexander technique. Hey, if it good enough for Adam Driver, (former Lance Corporal, USMC), it is good enough for you,
Those colours look well on you. 😎👍
Thomas Shelby-cool, charismatic yet evil
I am really enjoying your channel. Personally, I am a whiskey drinker…Irish and Scotch whiskey, and being a Southern American, I like Tennessee whiskey, or bourbon as some prefer to call it. Since I am new to watching your videos, I haven’t seen anything yet about a gentleman’s manner when drinking alcohol,i.e, whiskey bourbon, champagne, etc. I’ve always thought a gentleman should drink his liquor neat, or with a little water, and not with fancy mixers. That’s for the ladies. But, I certainly don’t have a lock on opinion and would like to hear yours.
Be your good self yo
Nice jacket love prince of wales
Man, that’s a nice jacket. Where did you buy it?
That tie really throws your entire fit off
sure, good and helpful video i suggest you really demonstrate these actions, start yourself then I would be easy to follow and believe.
don’t do it gently do it decisively !!! yeah right now i gotta buy a new laptop 😒
Be the best version of yourself
You should be more gentle about some stuff thats like sensitive or prone to breaking easily
Yes
It's funny how as you get older the more the points you make fall naturally into place. Age gracefully and powerfully but always be Gentlemen. God Bless.
How do I keep myself from swaying? I have inserts for my flat feet but not even 5 minutes go by when my feet start to hurt. How do I fix that?
My parents raised me to observe all of these things. Well put, sir.
Back in the early 80s I saw Cary Grant cross through the middle of the old MGM commissary in Culver City, California.
It was lunch time and the place was packed with industry vets who were way beyond the starstruck phase.
Well, as if he was on a solo stroll through the park, you could hear a pin drop as all eyes were intently focused on one memorable moment in time.
Tanned, full head of white hair, black horned-rim glasses, what had to be a bespoke black suit, black tie and white shirt, it was like watching poetry in motion.
but how to contact the homie @ Gent Z? No joke on this one, let me know sir.
eye contact just ends with me having fights with other men as they for some reason always get flustered or angry when I happen to catch their eye, no matter if I am happy smiling plain face or growling?
Irony: when the least classical looking man is telling men how to be classically masculine.
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whenever i sit with my friends or any place random moves comes from me and icant control them , i feel like everybody is looking at me then boom ido weird thing am really suffering anyone have tips thanks gentlemens
Step 3 instructions unclear got kicked out of the bar for breaking too many glasses
0:00 Who is this man? Is this scene from a movie?
Walk like Sean Connery!
...but what to do when standing somewhere, maybe a queue at the airport, without an accessory such as a cigarette? Looking down at a phone screen isn't projecting confidence, for example.
You can allow your gaze to wander, just exist for a while, see where your curiosity turns your attention. Look around, perhaps share a few words with your fellow suffering humans - "dont you just love waiting in lines?" If scoff you off, just be entertained by how horribly that attempt went.
@@Scum8ag Thanks. I see what you're saying. Small talk isn't something for though.
Relax. Stand up straight with your feet just about shoulder width apart. Head up, shoulders back, but not stiff. Don't lock your knees. Interlace your hands and hold them downwards to the limit they naturally extend in front (basically just below belt level).
Occupy your mind with thoughts, ideas, to do lists, or just indulge in some mental quiet.
6:30 Never had a problem with women. Something that worked well for me before i settled down.
Serious but drop something playful/cheeky/flirty in then eye contact with a smile
It differs culture to culture, in Ireland here playful insults work well followed by eye contact and a cheeky smile.
And fast! A masculine man is quick with wit, can have you laughing about something you've said before you've even finished saying it. Well thsts yhe Irish way anyway.
I’ve always had a small bounce to my walk. I recall people in high school used to tell me I walk around like I own the place 😂.
Nowadays I have an occasional wobble when I walk because I broke my foot kickboxing so my balance is a little off.
Funfact:
If you're actually confident (unlike 90% of the people who watch this), you don't even need to think about this stuff...
Where are how you position yourself in a room is critical. Envision that someone is going to come in any door and attack you, and place yourself in the ideal position to observe and defend against such an attack. By choosing that position you automatically have a position of power which others will unknowingly perceive. It is also important to consider the angle of your body as well as your head. It’s perfectly polite to turn your head toward whoever is speaking, but the angle of your body is who you are centered on. If people are not angled toward you, then you are lower on their status hierarchy than whoever they are turned toward. Also, just be tall.
Mom : what are you learing
Me : How to walk
Eye contact is so powerful, yet so lacking in young men. I routinely intimidate Millennials and Zoomers without ever saying a word. I would add that gentlemen with real, practical fighting skills tend to blade themselves to others, even during casual conversation, and naturally position themselves to avoid exposing their neck and back. This becomes instinctive and is a tell of a man who has skills, to those who can read body language.
Depends what combat sport they are proficient in. BJJ guys are hard to spot by their stance, Muay Thai guys fight facing pretty square to their opponents. Bladed stance likely indicates a boxer/kickboxer or even a more traditional martial artist.
Always look other men in the eye when you meet them on the street, especially if you're escorting a woman. Another masculine man you meet will understand and appreciate that.
I feel like I'm not the target audience for these videos. I don't do meetings or business and it's been years since I've worn a suit.
Oh, and I can't thank you enough for the point about taking up other people's space. Taking up space is fine and all but taking up other people's space isn't masculine, it's being a jerk. I guess that's a sore spot for me.
"My God, Johnson is a smart guy, but I really need to get him to move faster. This is a factory, not a city park."
"Yeah, but he's mad manly, isn't he?"
This really separates the men from the boys !
Maintain a good posture and walk quite quickly with one hand in a pocket. M
Does a classically mansculine man color his hair? Seems very popular in some cultures.
It’s totally up to you. If you’re talking about grey, I think it’s wise to embrace the natural look.
No
Absolutely exquisite information!!!🤌🏽✨🥂
i hate dragging my meat with a lack of stability, i feel it tarnishes my obserable confidence, one just looked at me when iwas walking down the road, i was walking briskley like a brisket by the side of the slippery pavement. these guys be crazy when theyre in their flustered feminine energy with is such a no no, maybe a haircut can just sort everything out so platting around the warm moist areas goes fluidly
Well, i have adhd and fidgeting is just our things.
And don’t forget to shave for a clean and respectful appearance. Our video’s presenter could use some advice in this area.
We live in an age where Men have to watch TH-cam videos to teach them how to be masculine 😂🤯
TH-cam is just a communication tool. 50 years ago men read Esquire and Playboy. Hundreds of years before that, they exchanged stories verbally. But it's all the same really
Crossing one's legs id a negative habit, and can encourage the development of varicose veins.
I cant emphasize enough that beneath these behaviors should be a foundation of confidence that only comes from doing hard things. And I don't know of any better medicine than martial arts training at a good school. Particularly one which incorporates some form of competition, even if it's just light sparring during class.
You dont have to train for full contact MMA to benefit greatly from training. Push yourself, don't wait for someone else to provide the motivation.
If you havent developed genuine confidence from challenging yourself, these behaviors will come across as inauthentic window dressing.
I agree with you, sir. These days, I do boxing and weight training. However, I was quite confident even when I was 130 pounds and completely out of shape too 😂
I stare only people, not women
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I just exploded my laptop in front of my crush
Why is your tie so big?
It’s not that big his back blade is showing making it look larger than it really is. It would not hurt having a little bit larger lapels to balance the look.