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- Powerful speaking and communication skills for gentlemen.
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Timestamps
0:00 Intro
1:10 Be Direct
4:11 Slow Down
5:57 Speak Cleanly
7:32 Don't be a Parrot
8:20 Conclusion - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
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Retired military and professional speaker here; you are absolutely spot on. When you are speaking in public your perception of your own speech is that it is too slow so you speed up to fill the gaps. DON'T! To the listener, you sound normal. The hardest thing to teach people in public speaking is to not be afraid of coming to a full stop at the end of a sentence and let the pause resonate for a moment. It's okay, you don't have to fill the void. Don't ramble until you fade out. All that being said, the military in me wanted to grab your shirttails and sort out the wrinkles in your shirt and collar. I'm not being mean, attention to detail is important. Carry on, young man. You are doing fine. Keep it up!
Thanks sir, thank you for your service
😂😂😂 salute to you sir for attention to details and for your service, i didnt see that. M about to join the military at 40, m a retired tech exec, runner fitness enthusiast, and have always wanted to be in the military, i really wish i could ask you a few questions. Regards, Eric
The shirt really doesn't work with that jacket.
Unfortunately, this young Guy is surrounded by socialist beta males in culture and education; this problem is easily solved by following the great speaking styles of Cary Grant in his movies (he commonly spoke about 85 words per minute, which is ideal for most oral presentations) and the inestimable Charles Laughton - watch ALL of movies, start with Witness for the Prosecution ; Use this search term in YT to find Charles reading the Gettysburg Address and a chapter of the Book of Daniel. "charles laughton + orator"................................................................................... ANY Perry Mason episode - all of the male stars delivered their speaking and nonverbal roles perfectly! Find a style that fits YOU and do it.
Current military officer, and yes, this video felt like my last career course that heavily emphasized making presentations to higher ranking officers who don't have time to listen to anyone who isn't confident, competent and who considers brevity an absolute necessity.
In a world where masculinity is increasingly presented as "toxic", fortunately TH-cam channels like yours allow men to meet, exchange, and improve.
Toxic masculinity is not masculine at all. It's just toxic. "Manners maketh the Man"
Simply reject that notion. Works for me.
Toxic masculinity is half-assed masculinity. The essence of a man is learning to control and channel violence, which you cannot do if you don't have the capacity for it in the first place, or you don't have a mentor (ideally, a masculine father). Very, very few women can be masculine, because very very few women could kill someone with their bare hands yet know when not to (hardly ever, but when you gotta, you gotta. Easy to call bullshit on that, but as a society we're getting there).
Hi Delon, you're the most beautiful man I've ever seen
“But there is nothing polite about confusing people.” 👏🏻👏🏻
A mentor once told me
“Be direct, but be direct with class. Only experience will teach you when it’s best to be vague and/or indirect “
That’s a good mentor
I am 75 and a retired university library administrator. At a certain point in my professional life I suddenly started paying attention to my spoken word. Then and there I resolved to try to speak in print-ready paragraphs. That has been my goal since then.
Reading also plays a very important role when it comes to both speech and vocabulary. Read a lot, especially classic literature. Very few people are talking about the importance of speech, so glad you made this video !
Reading serious non fiction is also very important. To be able to present alternative viewpoints, deeper analysis, or even drop some names, as in referring to, "in Doris Goodwin Kern's book, XXXXX, she presents the view that......"
Do you have any specific book recommendations?
What books do you recomend?
Tolstoy, Vonnegut, Cormac McCarthy and probably William H. Burroughs. Hunter s. Thompson is also pretty illuminating. Hemingway, obviously. The Alexandria Quartet is good, especially books one and four. And Herman Melville.
Any recommendations of classic literature books
Vito and Michael Corleone are great examples of masculine speaking. They are present, slow, articulated and clearly send the message.
I'm yet to see anyone who matches Don Vito Corleone in the art of speaking/communication.
@@chibuzorezebili2573Thomas Shelby
Just discovered your brilliant channel. I can’t stand it when most young people start sentences with “so” or pseudo intellectuals start with “ Look “
I concur. They both are contrived attempts at engagement.
So what is ok.i do not mind to say it.
Or worse "yeah...so..."
Right. Okay. So.. listen here, 🅱️uster.
And ultimately, it is what it is. Fundamentally.
I cannot stand the misuse and OVER use of the word like ~ I’m like, she was like and then I’m like. 🙄
A clean shave, nice haircut, and general good grooming shows confidence and pride in a man's appearance. This makes him more attractive.
I loved the "Don't be a Parrot" tip. I'm constantly correcting my nephew for using trending slang.
The worst thing I ever heard is "You was".
It sends shiver down my spine hearing this.
If my english teacher ever heard me talking like this then
he would search for me to hang me 💀
I thought he said “this has GYATT a lot worse with TikTok”
Quit feeding him crackers for a start. :)
Loke, like, then I'm like, then she's like, then he's like, then I'm like........know what I mean? You know, you know, yiu know......cringe worthy ghetto slang.
@@ms.annthrope415It’s even more painful to read it
Your content and message is amazing. I’m 37, and have always been fixated on being timeless in my dress and mannerisms, the fact you’re trying to appeal to Gen Z is awesome. Love the name of the channel too.
Thank you, sir! I admit, I had the name in my before I knew I was going to start a channel 😅
Speaking from a woman’s perspective, we’re very attracted to men who speak with confidence, clarity, and assertiveness. Men who stumble over their words and/or use excessive amounts of slang come off as weak and juvenile.
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So true. Slang and profanity are such a turn-off to me, and I find that they are often used to bolster the arguments of the confidently incompetent. I don't care whether you know about a topic or not; what is defining is your ability to be honest about your competence (or lack thereof) and always seek to refine it with new information and intelligent discussion.
@@briannahoff8589 I totally agree.
Great video! I’m a 15 year old freshmen in high school, and hearing your thoughts on “parrot” language was especially helpful!
I’m 24. If you can master your speech at 15 you’ll be far ahead of the game in your 20s. Keep up the good work.
Avoid the "upspeak" habit at ends of sentences, using 'like" as a filler, and using "vocal fry". I've heard both young men and young women doing it, and it's terrible and unntelligent. You'll be way ahead just avoiding those 3 habits.
I'm not sure how I, a woman, got recommended this, but I'm glad I did. I think these elocution tips will serve me well as well.
@@jheagy1234567890I recognize that you’re being sarcastic but us women watching this know that these tips are universal.
@@jheagy1234567890 lmao speaking elegantly is not something only men can do
@@jheagy1234567890 I appreciate reminders for genteel conduct, no matter the intended audience, as I think they are sorely needed. And besides, I want to be able to identify and appreciate gentlemen should I encounter them offline. There seems to be an idea that elevating one's dress and conduct makes one haughty.
@@youtubeur”lmao” Does not come across as elegant.
@@BotanistOnDuna "Chortling heartily amidst the ambiance"
Well read. Articulated. Grammatically correct. Extensive vocabulary. Used to speaking eloquently. Considerate. Understanding what audience understands his extensive vocabulary and what audience doesn’t.
Ability to communicate his message/ideas clearly and preferably in 3 different ways, in case the topic is extended, or someone doesn’t hear what the gentleman is saying, requiring him to repeat it.
I have encountered people who say I says, we was, think on that, etc. It’s so cringe and annoying that some people have poor verbal communication skills.
I have encountered many people, who lack the words to explain what they mean. For example “She was in the hospital going over the same thing again and again” when what he’s trying to say is “She was surrounded by other bedridden patients, which made her feel helpless and hopeless regarding her own recovery”.
This is why quality education, paying attention in class, writing essays, watching debates/news/documentsries/movies and READING is important. Just like some people eloquence, eloquent people with extensive vocabularies find it difficult to use easy terminology to relay the message because they’re accustomed to speaking eloquently.
Splendid content and advice. The Classic aesthetic has always been an inspiration.
Great video! Two things are worth noting: First, We Americans in particular are notorious abroad for our evasive and indirect speech. An American speaking to a German will find out just how indirect very quickly. Second, while filler words and clichés have been around forever, their use is much less frequent in the speech of older people. Those of us born around the time of WW II can speak at length without ever using the words 'like' or 'you know'. Instead, you will hear us pause and pace our speech as we develop our ideas. What you hear is not faltering caused by great age, but a manner of speaking from an earlier time.
Americans are in fact notorious for saying WAY WAY too much and too quickly , like they’ve had too much coffee which is probably the case, having the effect of leaving the listener exhausted and switched off ! ( ie - please make it stop ).
( plus of course the verbiage will be about themselves cos .. well they’re American 🙄)
Racist
@@anthonyharmon9265 What?
Germans are not afraid to be rude because their culture did not evolve in the same frontier environment where rubbing someone else the wrong way could earn you an ass beating, a duel with pistols or worse.
During the first ten years of my life I lived in the same house with my grandmother, who in her youth, taught grade school in a one room building in a community that was isolated from the modern world where the people still spoke a form of Chaucerian English. I have never heard a recording of my own voice, but grew up near Savannah, GA, and am now in middle age. Complete strangers often ask me if I spent time living in Europe or Britain, which I have visited, but never "lived" there. When I was very young I worked in a retail environment and developed a habit of asking people "Could WE help you find something," in the Third Person, meaning the company for whom I worked and myself, and still catch myself using the expression today. To this day, I can be seated in a restaurant placing an order, and complete strangers at the next table will say, "Weren't you in Home Depot yesterday? I recognize your voice and was on the next aisle." I find this amusing but also a little threatening, as I generally do not like attention or being recognized. I once stood before a crowd of some 1,500 people in a public park and spoke for perhaps 5 minutes during a Memorial Day service and dozens of people came up to me afterwards and commented that they could understand every syllable I said. They were equally impressed that I never once looked at the notes I had in my hand. Perhaps I missed my calling as a public speaker.
It's never too late. And it definitely sounds like you have a gift.
Never use "you know", "it's like", "totally", "biggly", "right?", "yup", "sup", other un-classical language terms or phrases.
I appreciate this video. How you speak and comport yourself is capital and vital in engendering respect and esteem from others. I take immediate notice when a man speaks well and applies an elevated vocabulary to precisely describe his thoughts. I respect good speakers.
if you look at older footage of discussions, you know/y'know was relatively common. The rest you mentioned however, is quite true
Wrong. Bigly should be used at every opportunity.
Who the fuck uses “biggly”? Jesus Christ
I am indubitably, indefatigably, unequivocally, inexorably, and incontrovertibly disposed to concur.
@@realburgergod Bigly is a tremendous word. The best word of all time. There's never been a better word.
Another modern speech mannerism that annoys me is when someone is relating or explaining something and they end each sentence or phrase with an upward inflection as if they’re asking a question. It’s difficult to explain here in text, but I’m sure you recognize what I’m describing. It’s like they’re asking permission to continue speaking or something.
I know exactly what you mean. I always associated it with Australians
That’s how Ben Shapiro speaks
The videos in this series of Classical Masculinity are very exciting and rich in philosophical information. Thank you very much.
This is such a cool channel!
I‘m jazzguitarist and also your music in the videos is classy, timeless and great. 😁
Thanks for your tips!
Excellent points. Another distinguishing feature of a classic male is proper grammar. Unfortunately grammar isn't taught as stringently in schools as it used to be. Also people rely too much on apps such as Grammarly; this is fine when you're writing, but when you're speaking, there's no app to filter or correct what comes out of your mouth.
A channel which everyone gentleman needs.
I appreciate your clarity!
Bravo, young man! Please continue sharing tips for respectable gentlemanly behavior.
Very well said! Great advice for anyone!!! Thank you for making the world a better place!
I’ve been recently lowering my usage of filler words. I’ve been doing this by becoming more conscious of my usage of filler words. Exceptional video, keep up the good work. I see 100k by the end of the year with your quality of work.
Yeah, I think you and the creator might both be onto something there. Certainly, in politicians, my late wife saw 'ums', 'ahhs', 'errs' etc. as a sign of someone who either wasn't conversant with the facts, or who was trying to dissemble. They _can_ serve as a kind of punctuation, however, I believe, whether as a way to _show_ you are being considered in your answers, allowing others an opportunity to interject, inject nuance, or whatever.
Great pointers for speech. Previously, today, I had a noon tea with a lady acquaintance, and watching this made me aware of how I use different speech techniques to get my point across. Usually, I suck at "grounding," my speech when talking to attractive women that I'm interested in, but over time, I learned to craft my temperament and speaking skills to serve better in representing myself as a competent young man by taking control of my words and the way I wlsay those words.
Wow . I’m so happy with this kind of content.
Since I’m a doctor who is seeking obtain my registration in the UK. Recently , I’ve stated to prepare myself for the academic Ielts, and I need to improve on writing score and I’m finding this video not only inspiring but tremendously helpful for the test .
Thank you so much Gentleman.
That's great to hear, thank you. Good luck with your career in the UK
Keep the information coming. Excellent presentation. Thank you.
I have spent a lifetime speaking to crowds of people. I continue to teach classes and lecture. I was even a Toastmaster for a while. Your discussion of slowing down is 100% correct. Thank you.
This was quite helpful for me. I tend to talk fairly quickly in most public settings, and I'm working on being more direct. Very helpful. Thank you.
Amazing content James! And great consistency too!
Thank you, sir. Good to see you here
😁@@Gent.Z
Excellent tips. Your presentation is appreciated.
Thank you, sir
I used to make videos and basically rant. Now I started to take my time.
I am more calm and carful with my words of choice.
I am taking time to breathe in middle of my recording and speak when I think I am ready to continue speaking.
Thank you for sharing this information.
I say this with love. You rock back and forth while talking. Also when a person tilts their head to the side is a sign of submission.
I frequent a somewhat different circle of acquaintances. It is still important to have a better than average vocabulary, though not too out of context. Being able to express yourself adequately speaks volumes about you and your topic. Great content, greatly appreciated.
Thank you for your great tips 👍
love your series young man...well done
Thank you, David
Watched 2 video and I'm starting to love this vids
Gen X here again.
You speak a lot of sense, especially in being direct - unless you want mystery (not a good idea in a taxi).
When you've said your sentence, look into the eyes of your interlocutor. It's her, or his, time to speak.
A trap I've *always* had is that if I suddenly encounter a woman on whom I'm keen, my voice goes up half an octave. It's involuntary - if she's off my radar, or the meeting is arranged, my voice is normal.
One thing I'd add is - never boast, never complain, never denigrate - unless in very trusted company, that is, when it's compulsory 🙂
Apparently they can sniff out nervousness. Practice practice practice.
Most of the things we learn and do now are completely opposite from how it should be for optimal function. This is perfect example....we gotta relearn to be men again in 2024. Also, not part of speech but doing maculine stuff helps. Like going fast, lifting weights, chopping wood, home repairs, will make everything you say hit with way more masculinity. Great video man. Love your channel ❤
Great content and wonderful background music.
Greetings...Thank you for your observations. Quite absorbing. Cheers🍷
Bless you!
I’d add Having a well thought out opinion on a subject I believe is important. It shows intelligence and autonomy. It also provides a perspective that others can consider.
Back when I was in 7th grade Our history teacher had us do a scene of a play where martin Luther was questioned by Emperor Charles V. I played the Emperor. As soon as started talking, she interrupted me to tell me to slow down; Royalty do not rush their words.
That was lesson that I've never forgotten and have tried to follow, without being obnoxious or overdoing it , of course.
Excellent and Outstanding!!!!
In general I speak slowly and I look my interlocutors in the eyes while making small gestures with my hands! (these gestures allow me to maintain a sort of charm) And finally I always try to be ready before each meeting by keeping a notebook on the choice of my words and subjects in general depending on the interlocutor!
My reference in terms of head and hand movement is David Niven and Jacques Chirac (the ex french president)
These are great. I am a member of Toastmasters and we focus on “curing” ourselves of filler words.
My grandfather is, or was a great example.
I remember being 20 years old and we went to a bar to watch a Blues band in which his son , my uncle, was playing lead guitar.
When the bar tender asked him what he would like to drink he said " a glass of milk please"..
I remember heads turning and big scary guys watching him...observing him..and turning their heads and continue with what they were doing.
Will never forget that...
Hello Gent Z, I completely agree that communicating directly, succinctly, and with brevity while always remaining composed is essential for a gentleman. I am fortunate to ba a certified Toastmaster-from many years back- and at least three points stick, ie;
1. Gentlemen must stop using filler words. Instead, stop talking and breath.
2. Gentlemen ought to express their point(s) by thinking say what I am going to say, say it, say what I just said - then stop talking.
3. Gentlemen ought to listen 80% of the time and speak only 20% if that much.
You speak well and I appreciate your videos.
Peace be with you, Joe.
I love being masculine idc what anyone else says it the best feeling
so happy i found this gem. Now i can sleep soundly knowing the polluting smells from my lower regions have subdued. Also the piles are gone.
sorry mum
I always enjoy your videos and I always learn something useful, Especially agree with the "parroting" part using canned phrases or inane or faddish
junk expressions e.g., "at the end of the day" "game-changer," "super-excited." and countless others in the vernacular of the brain dead.
Wonderful, as always. Anyone can benefit by the following practice: read daily, and every time you encounter a word you don’t entirely understand, consult a dictionary before continuing (all you require is an internet connection if you don’t have access to a physical dictionary). Vocabulary affords spontaneous eloquence when a certain idea arises within your mind that would uniquely assist in what you seek to communicate. Keep up the lucid content.
Love the video and topic. Keep it up. My only feedback will be to lower the background music by 33%.
Great topic and very good advise. Especially like your advise on speaking (relatively) slowly. Too many people these days try to speak fast, as if they want to sell you something, which results in unfinished sentences and a lack of verbal elegance. Calm down, gentlemen, take a good breath, and speak in a calm, natural intonation. Of course, great actors, such as Cary Grant (who’s often mentioned on this channel) spoke incredibly fast, but bear in mind that that’s theatrical speech, memorized lines delivery - not natural speech.
Excellent video, thank you.
Another impediment to clear and direct speech is trying to find the perfect word when a lesser word would do. I am guilty of this myself, particularly in conversation. I’m afraid I can’t offer a ready cure!
Learning different words that carry similar meanings and learning witch context those words apply too, can really improve how one speeks.
@@jheagy1234567890 I was typing at work bro
I enjoy your videos very much. I am 75 years old and get frustrated with young people who speak so rapidly that it is impossible to understand what they are trying to communicate. I apologize to them for having to ask them to slow down. Being hard of hearing this helps me understand them.
Great tips. What sources did you use to create these tips? I really would like to delve deeper into the subject.
Thanks!
Thank you very much, sir
Thank you on the tips, my favourite is the dont follow the trends. I have a really bad habit talking slang and ghetto.
Very nice advice.
Thank you
I was guilty of the permissive manner of speaking but then I did an enlistment with the marine corps and Learned all this. This video is priceless in value
And what they did they teach?
Really enjoying your channel mate; keep up the good work.
We need more young men to “get back” to being gentlemen of style and substance and you are making a dent and positive influence ~ well done. 🇦🇺
About dressing. I figure out you sir could upload a video explaining a few tie knots, too.
Good points. For those interested these are all points covered in most toastmaster clubs (a great way to put real practice in for speaking).
Our club has a focus on eliminating informal speaking patterns as discussed in the direct section of this video. In short take responsibility for your words and own it. A great place to start is learning about weasel words (the wiki will tell you all you need to know about informal speaking).
Ahs, ums, so’s, and other filler words definitely take away from speech. Take pause, which also helps slow you down (the Obama method).
Good points on the video, my only criticism is to drop the parts where xyz is feminine and instead shoot for simply not masculine. Our club has many great female speakers and a lot of those non masculine traits you call feminine are really more like a child that is unsure of how to ask their parents about a new toy or game. In short childish as opposed to feminine or masculine. That Uber passenger is a great example of a child like trait that never went away (takes deliberate practice to weed out habits like that).
Am going to be a better speaker from now on ❤
5:55 I took a Speech class while in college. The professor told us her grading style. During class presentations, we'd all start with 100 points and she would deduct 5 points for every like, um & uh she heard. Fast forward 30 years later, whenever I hear a speaker, those words still jump out at me and I find myself counting the frequency of those words.
Looking at society these days it almost physically hurts seeing how people dress, how they speak and beeing confronted with a complete lack of manners, it is truely a delight following your channel.
Excellent videos. But how do we get that nice tinkly jazz music in the background of our speaking?
Nothing taught me to not use fillers faster than learning Mandarin and discovering that the ONLY filler word in Mandarin gets me in unnecessary fights in American English.
Greetings...I would like to Thank You for your observations. Quite absorbing🍷Cheers
I would add: don't explain yourself to people unless they ask for clarification. And, don't apologize unless you did something wrong.
The drink is a great example
I had a unfortunate upbringing, first 10 years in Norfolk then the next 10 in South East London where my accent developed into something not so pleasant (think Ali G with a bit of a farmers twang). In my early 20's I moved to Scotland to help on my Grandads farm up in Perth, I had real trouble communicating, strangely I could under stand the people I interacted with but they had real trouble with me, I found I had to repeat myself 3 - 4 times in every conversation. Luckily my Grandad was friends with a retired English language professor who lived in one of the towns near the farm who worked for Oxford University as , he offered lessons on Received Pronunciation an hour a week (My grandad kept him topped up with 12 year old Scotch and other produce from the farm as payment). As a clearer stripped down to the bare bones English accent would be more beneficial in communication, most of the lessons were exactly like this video, slow it down, remove slang don't use fillers. I had about 20 lessons, alot of it just reading chapters from a book out loud (Treasure Island, Moby Dick, Robinson Crusoe) and mock scenarios from ordering a meal or asking for directions. I didn't really notice any difference but it worked, the people I interacted with understood what I was saying first time. When I moved back to London 4 years later and on the first few days of being re-equated to old friends and family, I got told 3 times on different occasions that I now sound like Benedict Cumberbatch. I nearly replied with 'Cool' each time. But it really did help in life.
Great story. Good job!
Also, READ! Read, and read voraciously! It’s the best way to expand and refine your vocabulary. Also, being knowledgeable is SEXY!
Great advice! And where might your accent be from? I can't place it. Are you a colonial/Commonwealth native,? Thanks. And keep up the good work 😅
Ben as an example is crazy lol
Edit: I would have never thought I hear him mentioned in a vid like this
The first tip is good for gathering respect from men and women, but when you're inviting someone to something, you'll want to make it so that you're Already going to do something fun and that he or she has the option to join you, but either way You'll end up having fun anyways. Spin it like that.
Do a style vidéo on Dean Martin. I think he has a great sense of relaxed style
Nice video!
"I was like and she was like, you know"
valuable! how do you learn to get insights for such a video? who do you follow online? thanks
Good presentation . be truthful intelligent, and concise BUT be careful not to be boring
Pauses in your speech also gives you an opportunity to gauge reaction from the person of people with whom you speak.
Record ycourself speaking. Its painful, really painful to hear your own voice. You will also hear all your verbal hiccups. "You know. You know. You know what i mean. Like like like like, he's like, then I'm like, then she's like" Delete those irritating verbal hiccups. Just listen to whatever rappers gives an interviee. Pure ghetto. Speak in complelte sentences. A well educated person speak as if it was a written document. You can literally diagram a sentence from a well educated person's speach.
Try listening more, talking less, and reading their subtexts and body language, in other words, profile the person you’re speaking with. This takes your focus off yourself and how you’re coming across to them. See if they impress you, not if you’re impressing them. Most of your advice will happen anyway if you adopt that way of thinking. Great video! Thanks !
This video has a lot of really great advice. I have one suggestion.
You should reevaluate your use of the term "feminine trait" as a pejorative term. Swapping out that term for "weaker trait" or "childish trait" will keep your intended meaning without falling into the trap of viewing men and women as opposites, and without being disrespectful. I look forward to your future videos.
I thought this was a weak sauce call too, brah.
@@jheagy1234567890 Men and women are not opposites. They are separate groups with different averages however members of those groups varyon a scale of masculinity and femininity. Even masculinity and femininity are not opposites but more a different set of traits. However as GentZ doesn't make mistakes It must be me that's wrong.
I found what Gent Z said to be really out of place, too. Increasing ones appeal through style and good manners and focusing on those trait considered masculine is fair, but a lot of things that historically have been considered masculine or feminine can now be applied (rightfully so) to both men and women. It's not 1950s anymore. In the start of the video he himself said that this video can be followed by both sexes but then follows up with a statement like that one that implies a weak trait to be associated with women. I'm curious to know his real stance on the matter so I hope his will answer your comment.
@@jonathanbowen3640 they did a really poor job of conveying it, but i think that was sarcasm
@@tempestandacomputer6951 Yeah i noticed it was sarcastic, but didnt want to delete the begining of my comment.... I reaslised this at the end .I also was being sarcastic "However as GentZ doesn't make mistakes It must be me that's wrong." ..... It's in fact me that doesn't make mistake.. ;)
Could you make more videos on:
A Gentlemans Etiquette
Social skills like how a gentleman responds to someone expressing sad feelings - just more conversational skills of a gentleman.
Possibly a video on michele morrone ?
All very valid sugestions, however, the best way to speak in a masculine way is to become masculine by simply figuring out why you came to this earth to do what and then do it every day. The rest will come automatically.
Don't ask a woman's permission when asking her out. Invite her to join along in your plan instead
"I'm having dinner at _______ on Saturday night at 7:00 p.m. You should join me"
This works far better 😉
Don’t suggest that you are going to have a dinner alone ?
"You should join me"? NO! That is not an invitation that is a demand, not good at all unless you want to go out with a doormat.
I like your pace, I would say I would like listening to you even more if you increased the pace just a *bit* more.
❤
I think you focused a bit more than necessary on dominance. Speaking well is about earning respect, not about dominating others to my mind. Show that you have good things to say and that you say it well, and people will listen. Out of respect.
The point on parroting is good, although I would also say that you need to know your audience and use language that is both authentic to you but also resonates with your audience. As a former youth worker, I can tell you that when I could understand the slang and use it authentically with the teens I worked with it helped a lot. These days I need to have UN language to do the same thing with my current audiences.
What you say about slowing down and having clear points to make is spot on. On the filler words, I heard a fascinating podcast recently on the social meaning of fillers and the role they play in speech patterns in all cultures. It made me think about them as more than just allowing my brain to catch up with my mouth, although they also play that role.
Thanks for a very interesting video!
@@jheagy1234567890 I disagree with you to the deepest level of my being. First of all, conversation is about two-way communication, not about domination. Second of all, your comment about conversations with women is just disgusting. Both in its actual words and intent, and in your intent to use "also a woman" as if being a woman is less than being a man.
More like a simp!?!
so you actually know what dominating means?! if so your whole comment makes no sense at all...@@jheagy1234567890
Sick presentation bro. M