Can you please do a video on Bartise’s and his horribleness about gaslighting ines, manipulating abbey using her insecurities about family relationships and his general delusion of how great he is🤦🏽♀️. Also, side note it bothered me so much on LIB s3 ATA that he wanted to convince Nancy that everyone just didn’t know what they had and they can’t understand. That is such an unhealthy sign. A partner would want to build your relationships with your friend and family and not put you in opposition. Dr. Van Der Kolk always talks about the red flag of “secrecy” like “we know and only we can know”.
@@dragtherapy I hope you do delve into Van Der Kolk in the coverage of Barstool. His conversation with Ines had every hair on my body standing up, so alarming. 🚩
Also, was it just me or everyone noticed the word "blindsided" coming out from all the girls mouth (starting from Nancy)??? Seems like this guy doesn't realise how toxic he is!!! 🤮🤮🤮
I actually thought Dom had anxious attachment style. That's why he said I love you after a few days and cried his heart out. He was able to move on quickly only because he was able to form another attachment.
good point! he does attach pretty quickly...one thing I noticed about him though is his focus on "falling in love" with the prettiest girls. it kind of makes sense when he briefly mentioned his background as a nerdy boy
@Indie Nile Exactly because of that I don't think he actually falls for them but rather falls for the idea of being with very attractive women. He didn't love Francesca-theres nothing to love there but her body. She's superficial and rather dumb. That's why I don't like Dom either. He's just as superficial as the rest of them.
@@xavierrocco8636 yeah exactly! It’s like I’ve never seen something like that happen in person, if anything that kind of behavior is repelling so 🤷🏻♀️
Gigi always made me laugh when she would get mad and she would start yelling because she looks so soft she kept looking like a teddy bear punching the air lmao
The love is blind concept is tough because all the talking without seeing creates a sexual tension, then if you meet them and they are hot it will turn to lust, and lust won’t dissipate over a couple weeks. Most of these people are confusing lust with love and that’s why it gets so explosive.
"the desire to change has to override the pain of change" ...omg... that truth bomb hit me so hard!! once again LOVED your video, please keep making them!!! perfect mix of entertaining and psychologically enlightening
I agree with this disorganised attachment, as this is something I have personally worked through in the past. I had patterns in relationships where at first I would be anxious, pouring all my energy in and suffering from codependent tendencies. Then when this energy was not returned, I became avoidant and pulled away. This always led to my leaving the relationship before I could suffer rejection. I am naturally a very nurturing person and if I felt that was rejected by my partner, I would reject them in turn. Thankfully I worked through this in therapy and I’m now married to someone who really appreciates my nurturing qualities, whilst being an equal partner. It comes down to two things therapy and the right person. I now feel very secure in my relationship.
Dom was on The Mole. Great contestant, competitive, had integrity, team player. Just an overall cool guy. I really like your videos and analyses.I always learn something interesting. Keep it up. You will definitely get to 10k!
I can tell Francesca wants to have many options and Damian wants to settle down. People probably question then... why didn't he settle down with Gigi? Because he wants to be the one to settle down, but since Gigi was the one who wanted to settle down he was turned off. Also, Gigi is kind of a lot she wants to talk about a lot of things and it ultimately removes a lot of the fun a relationship has from the very beginning. Francesca wants to always be available and liked by as many people as possible, she loves hard and can love as much as Gigi can, but I think she will always need to be looked as the one that got away or the one that people obsess over. I can tell that she remembers how Gigi's relationship with Damian crumbled and she can't imagine the thought of being a Gigi, she wants to forever be a Francesca. She wants to be that girl that guys talk about to everyone for years and years and not that girl who ruined a relationship and caused long term trauma. That's why Francesca, even though she may want a serious boyfriend, will continue to preserve Francesca as much as she can. She wants to be that unforgotten fantasy and will continue to keep a role as the girl who got away.
Francesca actually does have a serious boyfriend and did already when she entered the show, he's a famous tik toker named Jesse (he's a trans man that advocates for trans rights). Word on the street is she was hired to go on Perfect Match and to act the way she did, and that one of her reasons she did go was to promote her swimsuit and clothing line (I actually think the dress Chloe used for that last date with Shane was one of hers, since she said 3 times "that dress is gorgeous" and for some reason they didn't cut it, when it was super irrelevant). Damian and her share the same publicist, and that's the only reason their "relationship" ever existed.
@@nadiamelk I heard about the publicist or manager part. Actually the entire show felt very scripted, unless people are actually like that. Except Dom I think his tears for Francesca were genuine.
I could definitely see where much of the show was scripted. I wouldn’t say every character was in on the script. Francesca, Will, Mitch, Savanna just to mention a few… seemed really fake!!! But let’s talk about Diamond!!! I’m loving her sassy energy!!! I can’t wait to see her find her perfect mate!!! He’s gonna have his hands FULL!!!
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy = “after time, the things that we say about ourselves become a story that we start believing” I love this and could never put the right words to it, thank you for describing it so well
I fucking love your content. It meshes my favorite things - reality TV and psychology, in a way that is accessible and tangible. This video especially resonated. Thank you so much!
Love your real-talk style videos, you show so much common sense when describing these people! Speaking of sensitivity to rejection, has anyone noticed how Shayne seems to instantly FREAK out whenever he senses rejection? He seems to jump up or sit down and rock his head in his hands in the most dramatic (mental) way. "I'm DONE!!!!" Also, you're being very kind of Francesca. I'd describe her as an extreme case of narcissistic personality disorder. She's so in love with herself, but also so cold and callous. No depth whatsoever.
thank you! yes i noticed Shayne's intense fear of rejection in the latest Perfect Match episodes with Chloe, will definitely get into those in the next video
This analysis is spot on and so have your previous analyses been. This channel deserves all the hype! Obviously Bartise and Shayne require some heavy analysis as they brought their patterns from love is blind to this show as well. But I’d also love to hear your thoughts on kariselle and Joey. I think that engagement shocked us all. Love the channel, congrats on the growth!!
I need you to deep dive every episode of every season because you are the most insightful person. You see things so clearly into the little things that each person does. I am living for these breakdowns of why people do what they do. So interesting!
Francesa puts so much emphasis on her physical appearance as her good qualities and that is so sad especially having pretty girl privilege she can get most guys. But that’s all she knows that constant attention .there is no growing when she will always have guys wanting her without her ever having to change. That’s all she knows being sexy and desirable and in my opinion that will only lead to very superficial love and relationships
I struggle with BPD, but in a manner where all my harmful behaviour is focused inward. I lash out at myself. Listening to this I am concerned I may struggle with disorganised attachment. When I feel I've upset someone, made a mistake, etc. my mind often goes to complete separation, because I feel so ashamed and that I've ruined things. Thankfully working on this and managing my symptoms ❤
sorry to hear your struggle and happy to know you can manage your symptoms. i'm glad you found the video helpful but i would research it further and also maybe discuss it with a therapist if you have access to one 🙏
Okay, White cabinets, silver accents, black doors and black door frames. White(soft white) walls and white(soft white) ceiling. Looking like arty. Beautiful!! And great analysis
Just the other day I was thinking, How is this channel not blowing up yet? And here you are, finally getting recognized. I'm so happy for you. Your directness and instincts are a gift to everyone who want's to hear the truth. I know I do. And as I'm training to be a therapist and am forming my style and approach, I definitely find inspiration for it here. If you're wondering whether to do more videos or not, please do more. :)
I have disorganized attachment and its Hard to Deal with - Especially for me. I think on the outside I would be described as avoidant, but especially in conflicts this fearful side comes out. It is really hard and takes a lot of honesty, self-reflection, therapy, courage and frustration tolerance to deal with.
Again I'm going to say it... YOUR CONTENT SPEAKS TO MY SOUL! Thank you for the great content and the hard work you clearly put behind the scenes. You are one of the few TH-camrs that I feel truly delivers content and analysis I could not think of on my own. Love your comedy and drag dubs as well ☺
omg you're so right about it being a combo of too hot to handle and love is blind. Franchesca gerting jealous and watching and trying to control her friends and exes was just too childish. Like ma'am feel your feelings but trying to punish other people for how you feel when all they're trying to do is date on a DATING SHOW is just silly and petty
thanks 🤗 i've actually made a series of lipsync videos dedicated solely to Abraham Hicks, check them out: th-cam.com/play/PLUL03TldDnAYr--S8Nt4zZSkhlPn3eyFi.html
I love how you combined LOA (Abraham Hicks) and Attachment theory. I have actually used attachment theory and a subset of LOA called Law of Assumption to help heal my attachment style and it has changed my life. I am working on my disorganized attachment style aka Fearful Avoidant and thank God because before it was like I did not understand what was wrong with me or where to even begin to heal. Thais Gibson on TH-cam has done great work on this. I see all people and relationships through this lens and everything makes soooo much sense now.
wow, reading this message is so validating and beautiful, when i was brainstorming the idea for this video, I was wondering if it's too random of a connection or if it will resonate with people. reading how relevant it was to you is great 🙏
@@dragtherapy Thank you! Your video was validating for me too because I had never heard of someone else combining the two! Law of assumption teaches that you manifest your assumptions/beliefs (not vibrations) and one way to change your beliefs is through affirmations. Attachment theory talks about how your core wound beliefs are the driving force in your relationships and so I use affirmations to affirm the opposite of my core wounds and also negative stories that I used to tell myself. I will affirm for example that I am seen, heard, valued, a priority, respected, shown up for, etc.
I just stumbled upon your video because I wanted to keep watching content of the perfect match and let me tell you baby YOU’RE MY PERFECT MATCH LORD YOU’RE AMAZING!!!!!
yessssss, loved this video, so many great tips for healing and various psychology terms, its so helpful to learn these things. Definitely keep up the great work and put out these types of videos, because they're so addicting!
Omg i’ve binged watched your video today and let me tell you… not only do you speak about everything i’ve noticed and your interpretations on situations match mine almost all the time they also exceed them..but also they help me get some insight on me and my behaviors. I love your channel (little confession i’ve been wanting to create my own youtube channel but been putting it on ice because of my fear of exposure. Your content and insight on things make me want to do it more and more.) I admire your courage and self awareness. Keep going you just won a new fan❤️
thank you for that! it's very normal to be afraid to start a TH-cam channel. the fear means you care. look that fear in the face and do it anyway. you got this girl!
The other day people was mad at me because I commented a post of Giannina on Instagram where she was saying that her new boyfriend was her best friend and I commented that they should stop doing that. Damian was also her best friend without even seeing each other. Why do people in Love is Blind do this? Maybe they never had a best friend and whomever gives them love at q certain point becomes their best friend. Well, I think a real best friend is so difficult to find as this may take years to give your trust to someone to be using this term in such a way. But this is what I think.
that's a great point about the meaning of a "best friend"...indeed Giannina and many others on this show are confused about what friendship really means
@Susana Garcia Truth seems to trigger people much more than u'd think. Everyone has to think alike like zombies. Also u can't be moderate n look at both sides of an argument people assume extremism when u offer any opinion or question anything that the mainstream frowns upon.
@@dragtherapy I think “best friend” is one of those reality tv show ways of framing relationships - looking for a “best friend, soul mate, their person” etc. I wouldn’t be too focused on the wording because if you have followed their relationship, they’ve been together (basically visiting each other or traveling together since they got together) for over a year and she recently moved to live with him in Denver. They actually seem so solid and stable in their daily life. In her relationship with Blake, I actually believe she found her best friend. They’re so compatible in terms of traveling, being really social, being part of the influencer world. But they also have a real home with their two dogs. I know SM is not everything but there are real friends and family that know them as a couple and it’s a universally positive opinion. I am very interested in just your opinion of her current relationship. I think it’s much more authentic than Netflix & they’ve discussed their relationship on a couple podcasts (with video version on TH-cam) that you could def check out if you’re curious. That’s might be too much of a time investment, but at least scroll a little of their SM. @gianninagibelli @balockaye.h
thank you 🤗 you actually left one of the first comments on my first reaction video to Love is Blind in December. that was the beginning of my channel reaching people other than my friends. i remember your comment so distinctly coz i woke up to having lots of views for the first time in 2 years and your comment was the first that i saw. you said "you're a whole vibe"...it gave me such a boost 😘 thanks for being there from the beginning
I like how you this time also address how to cure a certain attachment style. I think that would be very nice for your videos in general that you would include some tips and tricks how to work on certain attachment styles😊 thanks for the good work. I just discovered your videos and I really like them all - greetings from Germany.
You are on point 👏 Not me realizing my ex had disorganized attachment and I'm feeling confused about new stable partners. Great work! Also Abraham Hicks is taste
So proud of you for hitting 5k!! I can already see you’re growing even more. So well deserved and onto 10k!! We look forward to every video of Indie Nile when we watch our TH-cam! You’re also on point with the development and psychology lessons and examples you give us through these videos. I’m currently taking a human growth and development course, and we just learned about disorganized attachment. It’s kind of a hopeless attachment style unless the person becomes really self aware, utilizes therapy, and works hard to undo the parental attachment programming that has screwed their understanding of relationships so bad….I have whispers of it in my own attachment, and true patient stillness with myself and mastered reflection to think my actions through carefully is the only way I can try to move through life and love. It’s tedious but the only way. I was actually able to use the psychologist Dr.Snipes referenced works as supplementation for a discussion post! Thank you so much for your continued discussion and conversation on these topics. 🎉🙏
always warms my heart to hear from you. you been there since the beginning. and also very glad to know more about what you're studying. growth & development course sounds 👌 that should be mandatory education for all humans
Please do something on Joey and Kariselle, I love when two very dumb and chaotic people find themselves - also, Joey is so self-aware sometimes it's really funny !
It‘d be super interesting, since they got engaged on the show and already broke up. Maybe there are some signs why it hasn‘t worked out on screen already? It would be super interesting to see you deconstruct Joey and Kariselle.
I loved how he called all of them dumb because they were on a reality show. When someone is that unpretentious and self-aware, they get intelligence points from me.
My new fave youtuber❤. Love the lip sycing, the wigs, the analysis, the wit...Im so here for alllll of it 🙌🏽 haha. Im not one to leave comments, but I can see you are trying to grow the channel so am doing my bit to help the algorithm hehe! ❤
Damian for me is a textbook avoidant attachment tbh. Not disorganized at all. He does not flip flop; he pulls back when he feels like his space/things are infringed upon (ggs comment about what he is hiding from). He says he never thought he could express himself with someone. Gg might be disoganized, but could also be anxious, not sure
This was very creative! I don't like watching reality tv that much, but I really like watching people give commentary on reality tv (Bachelor Fantake is one of my favorite youtubers). I'm definitely going to check out more of your videos!
Your commentary is absolutely brilliant!! I get so excited every time I see you've dropped a new video. I can't WAIT to see this channel blow up (and it will!!) :D
Good lord, can you be my therapist? lol, I love your insight on these delusional and toxic relationships. Your humor in your explanations made me giggle! I wish I had people like you 20 years ago! Love your content! We should remember that everyone on reality shows brings a little extra to the game for the fans. At this point, after all these years and shows everyone who wants to be on a reality show and gets on is doing it for validation! Everyone look at me syndrome. They all know what they are getting into and what the outcome will be. The writers for the shows understand they need excessive reasurance -seeking behaviors and unhealthy attempts for validation from others which makes for very dramatic episodes.
This is the second video I’ve seen of yours now. Just subscribed. Your channel deserves to blow up! Quality and funny content 😂 thank you for entertaining me on my commute!
Oh heck yeah! I'd love for you to do an analysis of Perfect Match. That show was a mess! I loved the lipsync in this video. That was really fun and informative.
I absolutely love your videos! I always like to analyse people in these shows based on my instinct but I don’t have much psychological knowledge so your content is just so satysfying to watch 😊 Please do more on Perfect Match!
I have been binge watching you like crazy since i discover your channel, your insights are gold! Yes please keep doing it, just watched perfect match and you have content for daysssss girl. Send you love and thank you 😘
I also blame society for how Gigi is because women are now being told that they should reject masculine men and the roles that come along with heterosexual relationships of the man proposing, protecting, providing, etc.
Just found this channel and I love it! As a disorganized attachment babe it was so helpful hearing your take on it. I'm going to go some research to work on coping better.... thank you!
Can you please do a video on Bartise’s and his horribleness about gaslighting ines, manipulating abbey using her insecurities about family relationships and his general delusion of how great he is🤦🏽♀️. Also, side note it bothered me so much on LIB s3 ATA that he wanted to convince Nancy that everyone just didn’t know what they had and they can’t understand. That is such an unhealthy sign. A partner would want to build your relationships with your friend and family and not put you in opposition. Dr. Van Der Kolk always talks about the red flag of “secrecy” like “we know and only we can know”.
yep thanks for this. will focus on Bartise in the next one. And i LOVE that you brought up van der kolk. I'm huge fan of that guy and his ideas
Yes, need a video on Barfface 🤢🤮. Worst abuser guy in all these shows.
@@dragtherapy I hope you do delve into Van Der Kolk in the coverage of Barstool. His conversation with Ines had every hair on my body standing up, so alarming. 🚩
Also, was it just me or everyone noticed the word "blindsided" coming out from all the girls mouth (starting from Nancy)??? Seems like this guy doesn't realise how toxic he is!!! 🤮🤮🤮
@@mariella2884 "Barstool" 😂 thanks for pointing my attention to Van der Kolk. love him but never thought to include his thoughts in my videos.
Gianinna is in a healthy relationship for a while now... sometimes you are just not compatible with someone and it brings out the worse out of you.
I am a therapist, and my goodness! You are so clever. The wisdom + drag + adorable nature of your presentation. I love it! Thank you for being you!
thank you 😍
I agree as a therapist!🫶🏽
Samesies 💯💯
I actually thought Dom had anxious attachment style. That's why he said I love you after a few days and cried his heart out. He was able to move on quickly only because he was able to form another attachment.
good point! he does attach pretty quickly...one thing I noticed about him though is his focus on "falling in love" with the prettiest girls. it kind of makes sense when he briefly mentioned his background as a nerdy boy
@Indie Nile Exactly because of that I don't think he actually falls for them but rather falls for the idea of being with very attractive women. He didn't love Francesca-theres nothing to love there but her body. She's superficial and rather dumb. That's why I don't like Dom either. He's just as superficial as the rest of them.
I wouldn’t say Dom is dumb. He hasn’t process his emotions and it takes time for that. The show moved too quickly
I don’t understand why so many women like Shayne, his behavior is so strange I’d love a video focused on him and the women attracted by him
yeah i think next week i'm gonna get into Shane :)
Same here. I don't understand how these girls get attracted to him, his behaviour is really weird, unstable along with body language
@@xavierrocco8636 yeah exactly! It’s like I’ve never seen something like that happen in person, if anything that kind of behavior is repelling so 🤷🏻♀️
He’s hilarious
He he's terrible ADHD , probably contributes to a lot of this weird or impulsive behavior!
Gigi always made me laugh when she would get mad and she would start yelling because she looks so soft she kept looking like a teddy bear punching the air lmao
yes! like a little puppy or kitten when they get angry
The love is blind concept is tough because all the talking without seeing creates a sexual tension, then if you meet them and they are hot it will turn to lust, and lust won’t dissipate over a couple weeks. Most of these people are confusing lust with love and that’s why it gets so explosive.
exactly. it's the confusion of love and lust. i personally think it's good to hold off on the sex until you know for sure you like someone
"the desire to change has to override the pain of change" ...omg... that truth bomb hit me so hard!! once again LOVED your video, please keep making them!!! perfect mix of entertaining and psychologically enlightening
thank you 🤗 more to come
Damian’s energy always felt so off ! Like he’s so closed off and sad all the time, never wants to talk doesn’t act nice, more like insecure and mean.
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Yes, please to more Perfect Match content! A video on Shayne & Chloe with your perspective will give me so much life!!
done! will give them some attention in the next video. I have to say I like these two: shane & chloe
All these people would be a nightmare to date…. Francesca in particular and Damian really left me with my jaw on the floor
yeah, i just finished the latest episodes from Perfect Match and I was pleasantly surprised by how Damian and Francesca decided to leave things
"I'm cute, I have great boobs, and I'm great in bed"
I'm a toy, I'm a toy, I'm a TOY.
I agree with this disorganised attachment, as this is something I have personally worked through in the past. I had patterns in relationships where at first I would be anxious, pouring all my energy in and suffering from codependent tendencies. Then when this energy was not returned, I became avoidant and pulled away. This always led to my leaving the relationship before I could suffer rejection. I am naturally a very nurturing person and if I felt that was rejected by my partner, I would reject them in turn. Thankfully I worked through this in therapy and I’m now married to someone who really appreciates my nurturing qualities, whilst being an equal partner. It comes down to two things therapy and the right person. I now feel very secure in my relationship.
happy for you to be in a secure place in your relationship. that's awesome and inspiring
Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing🙏🏾
Dom was on The Mole. Great contestant, competitive, had integrity, team player. Just an overall cool guy. I really like your videos and analyses.I always learn something interesting. Keep it up. You will definitely get to 10k!
thank you! yeah Dom is cool. will check out the Mole
I can tell Francesca wants to have many options and Damian wants to settle down. People probably question then... why didn't he settle down with Gigi? Because he wants to be the one to settle down, but since Gigi was the one who wanted to settle down he was turned off. Also, Gigi is kind of a lot she wants to talk about a lot of things and it ultimately removes a lot of the fun a relationship has from the very beginning. Francesca wants to always be available and liked by as many people as possible, she loves hard and can love as much as Gigi can, but I think she will always need to be looked as the one that got away or the one that people obsess over. I can tell that she remembers how Gigi's relationship with Damian crumbled and she can't imagine the thought of being a Gigi, she wants to forever be a Francesca. She wants to be that girl that guys talk about to everyone for years and years and not that girl who ruined a relationship and caused long term trauma. That's why Francesca, even though she may want a serious boyfriend, will continue to preserve Francesca as much as she can. She wants to be that unforgotten fantasy and will continue to keep a role as the girl who got away.
"she wants to forever be a Francesca" 👌
Francesca actually does have a serious boyfriend and did already when she entered the show, he's a famous tik toker named Jesse (he's a trans man that advocates for trans rights). Word on the street is she was hired to go on Perfect Match and to act the way she did, and that one of her reasons she did go was to promote her swimsuit and clothing line (I actually think the dress Chloe used for that last date with Shane was one of hers, since she said 3 times "that dress is gorgeous" and for some reason they didn't cut it, when it was super irrelevant).
Damian and her share the same publicist, and that's the only reason their "relationship" ever existed.
@@nadiamelk I heard about the publicist or manager part. Actually the entire show felt very scripted, unless people are actually like that. Except Dom I think his tears for Francesca were genuine.
Wrong. Y'all are projecting on the girl.
I could definitely see where much of the show was scripted. I wouldn’t say every character was in on the script. Francesca, Will, Mitch, Savanna just to mention a few… seemed really fake!!!
But let’s talk about Diamond!!! I’m loving her sassy energy!!! I can’t wait to see her find her perfect mate!!! He’s gonna have his hands FULL!!!
Yes please do a deep dive into the show! Your analysis of these people and their behaviour is absolutely on point!
will do 👌 thank you!
I don’t understand the appeal of Damien either 😂
Please review Perfect Match!!! 😍
will do!
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy = “after time, the things that we say about ourselves become a story that we start believing” I love this and could never put the right words to it, thank you for describing it so well
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I fucking love your content. It meshes my favorite things - reality TV and psychology, in a way that is accessible and tangible.
This video especially resonated.
Thank you so much!
most welcome 🤗
I'm pausing the video right now to say YES, please do more episodes on Perfect Match! xo
will do 🤗
At 14:14 the description of the performative fights sent me 😂 so spot on
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Love your real-talk style videos, you show so much common sense when describing these people! Speaking of sensitivity to rejection, has anyone noticed how Shayne seems to instantly FREAK out whenever he senses rejection? He seems to jump up or sit down and rock his head in his hands in the most dramatic (mental) way. "I'm DONE!!!!"
Also, you're being very kind of Francesca. I'd describe her as an extreme case of narcissistic personality disorder. She's so in love with herself, but also so cold and callous. No depth whatsoever.
thank you! yes i noticed Shayne's intense fear of rejection in the latest Perfect Match episodes with Chloe, will definitely get into those in the next video
This is some amazing analysis, i never understood why Francesca was soo hung up on dom staying in the house. This video explains alot.
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This analysis is spot on and so have your previous analyses been. This channel deserves all the hype! Obviously Bartise and Shayne require some heavy analysis as they brought their patterns from love is blind to this show as well. But I’d also love to hear your thoughts on kariselle and Joey. I think that engagement shocked us all. Love the channel, congrats on the growth!!
thank you 🤗
I need you to deep dive every episode of every season because you are the most insightful person. You see things so clearly into the little things that each person does. I am living for these breakdowns of why people do what they do. So interesting!
thank you for that!
Francesa puts so much emphasis on her physical appearance as her good qualities and that is so sad especially having pretty girl privilege she can get most guys. But that’s all she knows that constant attention .there is no growing when she will always have guys wanting her without her ever having to change. That’s all she knows being sexy and desirable and in my opinion that will only lead to very superficial love and relationships
I don't think Francesca was ever into Damien it was more of an opportunity
Have a feeling Gia is expecting to be adorable enough to her partner that she doesn’t have to do any else
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I struggle with BPD, but in a manner where all my harmful behaviour is focused inward. I lash out at myself.
Listening to this I am concerned I may struggle with disorganised attachment.
When I feel I've upset someone, made a mistake, etc. my mind often goes to complete separation, because I feel so ashamed and that I've ruined things.
Thankfully working on this and managing my symptoms ❤
sorry to hear your struggle and happy to know you can manage your symptoms. i'm glad you found the video helpful but i would research it further and also maybe discuss it with a therapist if you have access to one 🙏
Okay, White cabinets, silver accents, black doors and black door frames. White(soft white) walls and white(soft white) ceiling. Looking like arty. Beautiful!! And great analysis
thank you!
Just the other day I was thinking, How is this channel not blowing up yet? And here you are, finally getting recognized. I'm so happy for you. Your directness and instincts are a gift to everyone who want's to hear the truth. I know I do. And as I'm training to be a therapist and am forming my style and approach, I definitely find inspiration for it here. If you're wondering whether to do more videos or not, please do more. :)
thank you for that 🤗 good luck with your therapy degree, the world needs more good therapists
You'll get to 10K in no time! Also, I'm not watching Perfect Match because I can't stand Francesca but I can't resist your videos 🥰
thank you! 🤗
Same! I couldn't get past episode 2 because she seems so self absorbed!
I have disorganized attachment and its Hard to Deal with - Especially for me. I think on the outside I would be described as avoidant, but especially in conflicts this fearful side comes out. It is really hard and takes a lot of honesty, self-reflection, therapy, courage and frustration tolerance to deal with.
thanks for sharing that, it's tough, we all have our issues. hopefully with self-awareness, we can start healing them
Again I'm going to say it... YOUR CONTENT SPEAKS TO MY SOUL! Thank you for the great content and the hard work you clearly put behind the scenes. You are one of the few TH-camrs that I feel truly delivers content and analysis I could not think of on my own. Love your comedy and drag dubs as well ☺
I appreciate that dear 🤗😍
OMG, you're so good!
Please do more on the show. I love Chloe too. Bartiste is a trip.
he sure is a trip. i'm actually focusing on Bartise and Shayne in the next one
I love your analysis, your insight, your humor, your style! Thank you for making these videos! They are so helpful as I’m studying to be a therapist:)
good luck with the therapy studies!
OMG, I love your channel and I feel such an echo about so many things you say! Thank you for the great content!
thank you for watching!
omg you're so right about it being a combo of too hot to handle and love is blind. Franchesca gerting jealous and watching and trying to control her friends and exes was just too childish. Like ma'am feel your feelings but trying to punish other people for how you feel when all they're trying to do is date on a DATING SHOW is just silly and petty
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I would watch an entire video of your drag Abraham Hicks....like a 2 hour video. Love her and your commentary on this show.
thanks 🤗 i've actually made a series of lipsync videos dedicated solely to Abraham Hicks, check them out:
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I love how you combined LOA (Abraham Hicks) and Attachment theory. I have actually used attachment theory and a subset of LOA called Law of Assumption to help heal my attachment style and it has changed my life. I am working on my disorganized attachment style aka Fearful Avoidant and thank God because before it was like I did not understand what was wrong with me or where to even begin to heal. Thais Gibson on TH-cam has done great work on this. I see all people and relationships through this lens and everything makes soooo much sense now.
wow, reading this message is so validating and beautiful, when i was brainstorming the idea for this video, I was wondering if it's too random of a connection or if it will resonate with people. reading how relevant it was to you is great 🙏
@@dragtherapy Thank you! Your video was validating for me too because I had never heard of someone else combining the two! Law of assumption teaches that you manifest your assumptions/beliefs (not vibrations) and one way to change your beliefs is through affirmations. Attachment theory talks about how your core wound beliefs are the driving force in your relationships and so I use affirmations to affirm the opposite of my core wounds and also negative stories that I used to tell myself. I will affirm for example that I am seen, heard, valued, a priority, respected, shown up for, etc.
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1 month ago just crossed 5k, now you’re SO CLOSE to 10K! Almost double in a month! Subscribed and can’t wait to see you grow!
thank you 🤗
I just stumbled upon your video because I wanted to keep watching content of the perfect match and let me tell you baby YOU’RE MY PERFECT MATCH LORD YOU’RE AMAZING!!!!!
Thank you so much!! 🤗
yessssss, loved this video, so many great tips for healing and various psychology terms, its so helpful to learn these things. Definitely keep up the great work and put out these types of videos, because they're so addicting!
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Omg i’ve binged watched your video today and let me tell you… not only do you speak about everything i’ve noticed and your interpretations on situations match mine almost all the time they also exceed them..but also they help me get some insight on me and my behaviors. I love your channel (little confession i’ve been wanting to create my own youtube channel but been putting it on ice because of my fear of exposure. Your content and insight on things make me want to do it more and more.) I admire your courage and self awareness. Keep going you just won a new fan❤️
thank you for that! it's very normal to be afraid to start a TH-cam channel. the fear means you care. look that fear in the face and do it anyway. you got this girl!
The other day people was mad at me because I commented a post of Giannina on Instagram where she was saying that her new boyfriend was her best friend and I commented that they should stop doing that. Damian was also her best friend without even seeing each other. Why do people in Love is Blind do this? Maybe they never had a best friend and whomever gives them love at q certain point becomes their best friend. Well, I think a real best friend is so difficult to find as this may take years to give your trust to someone to be using this term in such a way. But this is what I think.
that's a great point about the meaning of a "best friend"...indeed Giannina and many others on this show are confused about what friendship really means
@@dragtherapy It’s crazy!! I had to block half of instagram as all haters were attacking me!🤣
I love your comments snd videos, keep it up!!🥰
@Susana Garcia Truth seems to trigger people much more than u'd think. Everyone has to think alike like zombies. Also u can't be moderate n look at both sides of an argument people assume extremism when u offer any opinion or question anything that the mainstream frowns upon.
@@wheathusk2499 I agree. I now know that when people give their opinions is based on their experience. Let’s see how long this besties last 🤪
@@dragtherapy I think “best friend” is one of those reality tv show ways of framing relationships - looking for a “best friend, soul mate, their person” etc. I wouldn’t be too focused on the wording because if you have followed their relationship, they’ve been together (basically visiting each other or traveling together since they got together) for over a year and she recently moved to live with him in Denver. They actually seem so solid and stable in their daily life.
In her relationship with Blake, I actually believe she found her best friend. They’re so compatible in terms of traveling, being really social, being part of the influencer world. But they also have a real home with their two dogs. I know SM is not everything but there are real friends and family that know them as a couple and it’s a universally positive opinion.
I am very interested in just your opinion of her current relationship. I think it’s much more authentic than Netflix & they’ve discussed their relationship on a couple podcasts (with video version on TH-cam) that you could def check out if you’re curious. That’s might be too much of a time investment, but at least scroll a little of their SM. @gianninagibelli @balockaye.h
Im so happy your channel is blowing up!! Your delivery is so unique and creative!! Absolutely love!
thank you 🤗 you actually left one of the first comments on my first reaction video to Love is Blind in December. that was the beginning of my channel reaching people other than my friends. i remember your comment so distinctly coz i woke up to having lots of views for the first time in 2 years and your comment was the first that i saw. you said "you're a whole vibe"...it gave me such a boost 😘 thanks for being there from the beginning
OMG! Thank you for the comment about Danian vs Thor! That Viking is definitely swoon worthy. Whoooeeeee!
haha, he's definitely a Thor. yummy!
I LOVE THAT YOU INCLUDED ABRAHAM HICKS
thanks! glad you liked that. i love Abraham
I like how you this time also address how to cure a certain attachment style. I think that would be very nice for your videos in general that you would include some tips and tricks how to work on certain attachment styles😊 thanks for the good work. I just discovered your videos and I really like them all - greetings from Germany.
honestly I could watch you talk about anything- you are so charming - and the lip syncing - omg love it 💖💖💖
thank you 🤗
I loved every time he brought out the wig and the lip syncing😂❤
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You are on point 👏 Not me realizing my ex had disorganized attachment and I'm feeling confused about new stable partners. Great work! Also Abraham Hicks is taste
thanks!
Just found this channel because of love is blind videos and I’m obsessed! New sub :)
Wow, I love hearing your analysis. Cute kitty at the end!
thank you 😻
When you say, “Girl”, with the various intonations ❤❤❤😂😂😂
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How do you not have 1 million subscribers yet?!
He will! And we will be saying we've been with you since before you reached 5k and now you have 1 mil!
thank you for sending that out into the universe 🤗
🤗 so sweet, can't tell you how grateful I am for this. you're actually making me believe it's possible
Your channel is amazing! I love your content!
thank you so much!
So proud of you for hitting 5k!! I can already see you’re growing even more. So well deserved and onto 10k!! We look forward to every video of Indie Nile when we watch our TH-cam! You’re also on point with the development and psychology lessons and examples you give us through these videos. I’m currently taking a human growth and development course, and we just learned about disorganized attachment. It’s kind of a hopeless attachment style unless the person becomes really self aware, utilizes therapy, and works hard to undo the parental attachment programming that has screwed their understanding of relationships so bad….I have whispers of it in my own attachment, and true patient stillness with myself and mastered reflection to think my actions through carefully is the only way I can try to move through life and love. It’s tedious but the only way.
I was actually able to use the psychologist Dr.Snipes referenced works as supplementation for a discussion post! Thank you so much for your continued discussion and conversation on these topics. 🎉🙏
always warms my heart to hear from you. you been there since the beginning. and also very glad to know more about what you're studying. growth & development course sounds 👌 that should be mandatory education for all humans
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Loving your analysis and it made things clear to me I kind of saw, but couldn't really explain. Thanks, that was helpful!
Glad it was helpful!
Please do something on Joey and Kariselle, I love when two very dumb and chaotic people find themselves - also, Joey is so self-aware sometimes it's really funny !
yeah they're hilarious
It‘d be super interesting, since they got engaged on the show and already broke up. Maybe there are some signs why it hasn‘t worked out on screen already? It would be super interesting to see you deconstruct Joey and Kariselle.
I loved how he called all of them dumb because they were on a reality show. When someone is that unpretentious and self-aware, they get intelligence points from me.
I would love a Perfect Match review from you!
deal! 🤗
Yes, please do more about Perfect Match! 🙏🏼
will do 😍
I love you!! Please do more of this series ❤️
will do. new episode dropping monday night
Your analysis is top notch! More please!
will do x
My new fave youtuber❤. Love the lip sycing, the wigs, the analysis, the wit...Im so here for alllll of it 🙌🏽 haha.
Im not one to leave comments, but I can see you are trying to grow the channel so am doing my bit to help the algorithm hehe! ❤
Thank you so much!! 🤗
Damian for me is a textbook avoidant attachment tbh. Not disorganized at all. He does not flip flop; he pulls back when he feels like his space/things are infringed upon (ggs comment about what he is hiding from). He says he never thought he could express himself with someone. Gg might be disoganized, but could also be anxious, not sure
I didn’t expect to watch this whole video. But you got me. Subscribing.
haha, nice, glad to hear it 😍
This was probably the best video I've seen. I learned a lot and I love Abraham Hicks and YOU!!
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This was very creative! I don't like watching reality tv that much, but I really like watching people give commentary on reality tv (Bachelor Fantake is one of my favorite youtubers). I'm definitely going to check out more of your videos!
Glad you enjoyed! will check out Bachelor Fantake
“Girl, GIRL what match are they talking about?”
Me: …matching bathing suit styles?? 🤷♀️
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You need even MORE subscribers! You're one of my favorite people to watch on youtube.
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love this Podcast Indie your so creative , smart and funny , Abraham Hicks was great hhahahahahahaah !!!!!!
Your commentary is absolutely brilliant!! I get so excited every time I see you've dropped a new video. I can't WAIT to see this channel blow up (and it will!!) :D
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Good lord, can you be my therapist? lol, I love your insight on these delusional and toxic relationships. Your humor in your explanations made me giggle! I wish I had people like you 20 years ago! Love your content! We should remember that everyone on reality shows brings a little extra to the game for the fans. At this point, after all these years and shows everyone who wants to be on a reality show and gets on is doing it for validation! Everyone look at me syndrome. They all know what they are getting into and what the outcome will be. The writers for the shows understand they need excessive reasurance -seeking behaviors and unhealthy attempts for validation from others which makes for very dramatic episodes.
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This is the second video I’ve seen of yours now. Just subscribed. Your channel deserves to blow up! Quality and funny content 😂 thank you for entertaining me on my commute!
thank you 🤗
YES please do a Perfect Match deep dive. I would love to hear your analysis!
Coming soon! 😍
@@dragtherapy yas! Also, I'm a Chloe stan too ❤️
I have never found a rock solid, absolute description of my attachment style. But disorganised attachment. oh boy, that's it
You and me both!
@@dragtherapy Thank you for replying to me! I love your content, so refreshing
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LMAOOOO The Abraham hicks bit I loved it 😂😂😂
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Oh heck yeah! I'd love for you to do an analysis of Perfect Match. That show was a mess!
I loved the lipsync in this video. That was really fun and informative.
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10:50 this hair and glasses look so good on you! 😍 thanks for this video!
Oh thank you! 🤗
I would LOVE more episodes on Perfect match! 💓
i did one more on perfect match th-cam.com/video/q4LWy_ydNtk/w-d-xo.html
@@dragtherapy i saw, i loved! Your videos are amaziiing, keep going 💓🐢
Omgggg, I love your videos so much!!!! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much!! 🤗
I absolutely love your videos! I always like to analyse people in these shows based on my instinct but I don’t have much psychological knowledge so your content is just so satysfying to watch 😊 Please do more on Perfect Match!
deal, more coming next week
I just found u n i already watch two videos so far I love your character ❤🇭🇹
thank you!
can't wait until a couple decide to literally tear their eyes out so they can be happy together
I have been binge watching you like crazy since i discover your channel, your insights are gold! Yes please keep doing it, just watched perfect match and you have content for daysssss girl. Send you love and thank you 😘
Thank you! Will do! 🤗 😍
I also blame society for how Gigi is because women are now being told that they should reject masculine men and the roles that come along with heterosexual relationships of the man proposing, protecting, providing, etc.
excellent point
Always love to hear your insights! Can’t wait for your next video ❤
Thank you so much!
I live for your take on these couples and their chaos. I’m just glad my relationship isn’t broadcasted to millions of people because 😭
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I'm so glad I found your channel! What a gem, keep it up!
Thanks so much!
yes please make a video on perfect match😊 love your videos soso much by the way!!! the best content ever❤
thank you sweetheart
Damien gave her the ick before the relationship started lool.
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Gigi whole time on the show was like a telonovela😭 the way she would act
You are absolutely hilarious and informative. Love you ❤
thank you so much!
Just found this channel and I love it! As a disorganized attachment babe it was so helpful hearing your take on it. I'm going to go some research to work on coping better.... thank you!
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I love you so much! lol I just found this video and love the mix of therapy in the review. You got yourself a new friend/follower
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First time watcher! Loved your breakdown, and you in a wig miming that woman is both adorable and informative. Insightful comments!
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Randomly came across this video, but I loved it! Great editing!
Glad you enjoyed it! 🤗
I love this ! Thank you so keeping me company during my lunch 🥙 this was a good watch Lol I don’t get the fawning over Damien thing either 😭
I enjoy your videos a lot! Both entertaining and insightful, thanks for the work you put in them and share with us!
My pleasure!! thanks for watching
I only watched half the video but I’m hooked
And a new subscriber 😊
From your deep dive into pop culture to your Abraham impersonations 😂❤
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