As a Dominican who grew up with two Dominican parents I can see where Lydia gets her dynamics within a relationship. In my family, all the mothers take a prominent role instead of the fathers. The mothers are the loud ones planning, hosting, and talking. While the men are more quiet and distant from their families. They are there but take up less space if you know what i mean. So I think growing up, lydia saw this dynamic and just learned to be loud and for men to be quiet. And so she does not recognize when men are just not interested in her. She can have a one sided relationship and think it’s all okay until they break up with her. And because she can have a relationship like this, it feels like she’s always being rejected from love.
Interesting..I think the same way about African women in west...loud, just not classy, tweaking or over top personality.. same Latino Spanish women.... aggressive etc
I don't understand how people pick "fun" (anxiety) over comfort when it comes to their other half, good for Chris and Aaliyah for knowing their worth and walking away. im sure Netflix will find a way to harass them out of the pods
The anxiety is like a drug, it’s totally intoxicating for people with lots of trauma or attachment issues. I wish I could explain how it feels. It is incredible, even though we know in the long run it leaves you feeling drained and worse than ever. People like johnie’s minds have been so moulded by trauma their instincts are off
@@Hannah-wg7hx I wonder if that might be an indication of borderline personality disorder because that is what they grow up with so that is all that they know even though it's not actually comfortable at all ironically.
I think when people are used to the people that “love them” being unstable all the time, it makes them think that’s what love is. If you’ve never known safe and/or secure love, it doesn’t instinctually feel like love
I really don’t agree that Aliya leaving is apart of her self sabotaging. That was truly a decision that was healthy for her. I feel like she finally listened to the red flags she’s been subconsciously been keeping track of, and she finally took action. He really is a nasty Manipulating devil and after Lydia telling her that she saw Uche 3 months ago she really figured out at how much he was keeping away from her. I’m so happy she chose herself and not this dirty ass hypocritical liar of a man. Go Aliya🎉 *Love your video btw*
I feel like Aaliyah's body literally shut down to protect her. Maybe severe anxiety of something like that. I think she had no choice but to leave, because she couldn't push through it. But maybe i'm wrong and she left in peace. We'll see Friday
i hear you. her leaving Uche was ultimately the best decision. what i think is self-sabotaging are the fears of being hurt. to hell with Uche, he sucks. i was more concerned with (strongly related to) how she talks about her fears of being hurt
Aaliya recently did an interview where she said she continued dating him after the show and when she left she didn’t think it was over between them so she ran away but didn’t actually end it with Uche which got her nowhere essentially
For me, there were three definite red flags when it comes to Uche - and they are not the things everyone else points out first. In fact, the questions he asked Aaliyah when she "confessed" that she cheated once, I found them to be valid. Also, that he didn't tell her about Lydia because production told him not too - I also understand that. BUT, 1. the way he spoke to Aaliyah when she confessed her cheating which was very judgemental, superior, and condemning (instead he could have asked those questions while showing some compassion and quitting this superiority vibe), 2. that he gaslit her the next day when she told him how his questions made her feel and 3. the look on his face when production told him that Aaliyah ended the experiment - those were three major red flags that threw me off. 🚩🚩🚩
Oh, another red flag comes to mind: The things he says that are healthy and the right thing to say, like for example that he has to create an environment where Aaliyah feels like she can open up to him, I don't feel like he really means them or that he will stick to them in the future... he says them cause they are the right thing to say but they do not fit the vibe he gives off. Also, that Aaliyah says that he is "too good to be true", another red flag there...😅
He comes off as someone with anger issues. I know men like him and they hold themselves to an extremely high standard, really harsh with themselves and get disappointed with others quick.
Uche was not a good men, this men feels superior about any woman. I could tell about his way he talked and lectured her , so proud of her she left this situation! Because the longer you stay the more harder it will get to leave!
Ohhh I have thoughts. 1- Lydia was unhinged w her projection of herself as an extension of Aaliyah, as well as the info bombing once Uche confessed to Aaliyah. 2-Johnnie told me everything I needed to know about her mistaking chaos for love when she said she was married, but was hung up on her ex, that died of a drug overdose, during her marriage. 3- I respected the hell out of Aaliyah just noping out of there when she was over Uche's BS. 4- Stacie seems a bit of a mess, but ppl are saying she can come across as mature for not comparing her matches w other ppl. 5- I think Johnnie was stupid to fuck things up w Chris and personally- he's cuter than Izzy. 6- I like Milton, but it feels like Lydia is settling for Milton- which sucks. I have a soft spot for little nerdy guys and him being a geology geek and having that microscope made me love him so much. 7- I wanted the vet to get more air time and I hope she's doing well. 8- Uche had some nerve w the cheating thing and then he was lying about Lydia. WTF?!
It has been revealed that production asked Uche and Lydia to keep for themselves that they knew each other. But they were messy with it because they finally gave them the green light when Uche & Aaliyah were close 👀
" Lydia was unhinged w her projection of herself as an extension of Aaliyah, as well as the info bombing once Uche confessed to Aaliyah. " THIS MADE ME SO UNCOMFORTABLE! I do not blame Aaliyah at all for dipping. I mean that, and also how Uche became so demeaning when she opened up.
Indie Nile! You’re the only channel that can get me to comment my true opinions! When Lydia first came across the scene, my stomach boiled. She presented as desperate and distracting with her behavior. The whole “act out so they’ll be distracted and can’t tell I’m literally not marry-able.” It is not surprising at all that she conned the youngest guy on the show to choose her. He literally hung his head in his hands after proposing because he knew it was a bad idea. She should’ve just stayed on the apps.
OMG yes, when Uche was talking down to Aaliyah that way, it was so gross!!! I would have had a hard time not getting up and walking away if someone was talking to me like I was a child, yuck! Your channel is soooo good, couldn’t wait for this 💜
He was wrong but so is cheating. Her cheating 2 years ago and not taking accountability would’ve been a deal breaker for me. It seems like it was for him but he wasn’t strong enough to walk away.
they were both wrong...but Uche is more gross because he concealed that part about Lydia at the same time judging Aaliyah. No woman in her right mind would wanna get tangled up in that
I really enjoy your videos! I think Lydia’s issue isn’t really that she’s “too much.” It’s that she uses over-the-top reactions and behavior to manufacture a connection that does not exist organically. This is evident in that her enthusiasm is in response to things that could not possibly naturally generate that amount of enthusiasm, “OMGGGG!! YOU’RE AN ENGINEER?!!!” And excitedly proclaiming “OMG we have SO much in common” and “We are the SAME PERSON” when the evidence shows they have little in common. It gives the impression that her reactions are fake and performative and that you as the person on the receiving end could be literally any other human being in the world and that you could say literally anything (“My side hustle is raising puppies for slaughter to be ground into sedimentary rock for mass graves in North Korea”) and she would be like “OMG! That’s amazing! I also like to drink margaritas on the rocks! We are SO similar! When are you going to propose to me? Tee hee.” She’s not the most effective at it, but this is the essence of love-bombing, and it is mostly subconscious, instinctive behavior designed to avoid loneliness and abandonment. Plenty of people out there find easily excitable women who effusively express genuine enthusiasm endearing. But the sticking point for them with Lydia would be the obvious lack of genuineness and the forced connection. No one can love her for who she is until she’s able to be real with herself about who she is and put her real self forward.
You’re awesome. I love your vision and perspective. Uche is so manipulative. I was so impressed with how Milton handled him. He was maturity goals at 24. Granted, he still needs to grow and work, but I really appreciate his steadiness and compassion w Lydia.
I’m a psychologist (and yoga teacher like your crush😮)from Quito, Ecuador and your analysis is always on point. Thank you for uploading you always make my day!!🎉😊
I was just telling my bf this morning that I couldn’t wait for you to talk about this season… the gods have answered my prayers!! Love your analysis as always ❤
I love how you are willing to share and joke about your more ..hm .... self-centred... moments. Mostly people (including me:-/) try to hide this stuff, but bringing it out in the open is healing and liberating.
it definitely is liberating. i feel really imprisoned when i feel i have to wear a mask. which is kind of ironic that this shedding off the mask started only after i started doing drag which is all about wearing a "mask"
Omg finally someone who caught Lydia’s faces when Aliyah first came in crying about Uche and when she came back head over heels talking about him. Lydia is unhinged!!
« Not only is love not blind but it’s also non existant » perfectly sums up this season 💯. I am here for the drama though even if I love when there’s at least one couple that gives me a love story. Love your review as usual 🙏🏾
@34:20 100% Lydia molds herself to whoever she is speaking to, other than knowing she wants a relationship, we dont know anything else. She'll just shapeshift for whoever. She also told multiple people she's "exactly" like them
Only thing that we all are waiting for other than the rest of the S5 episodes to open up is Indie Nile video on S5 Ep 5-7! My wife and I really really enjoy your Love is Blind analysis & content, Indie Nile! Kudos. "Yeah girl, we all want to be loved for who we are... but the point is, what are you doing to actually attract that into your life?" *Airhorn x mic drop x 1000*!!!
Your impersonation of Taylor waving the ring was so spot on. You even got the tongue position there, such fine attention to detail! Also this taught me additional stuff about self sabotage. I never realized I was also demonstrating this by reenacting a bad part of my childhood. Thank you Nile. Welcome back to TH-cam!! 🎉
thanks! someone here in the comments recommended a book called "The Mountain is You: from self-sabotage to self-mastery". Damn it's good! check it out!
Omg yes, the trauma dumping was dialed up to 100 this season. They all need therapy not marriage.(except sugar plum couple😭) Lydia is a mess, At first I thought she was just this fun life of the party girl, and then she started to interact and then I thought okay, she definitely has some attachment issues. I was actually sympathetic towards her right up until she started love bombing Aliyah, I thought it seemed off because they had been there only two days… like how do you “love her”??? And then when I saw that she dated Uche, it all started to make sense. I’m not even sure what her endgame is, who does she actually want? Also, she seems to have this split self esteem that ranges from “I am deserving of everything” to “I am not worthy of anything” I also think she just wants the idea of marriage and not an actual marriage, which is why she attached herself to Izzy in the beginning and then got devastated when he cut it off, but then in the same breath she’s trying to reconnect with Uche while also talking to Milton. She wants someone she can dump her issues on and wants the person to constantly praise and reassure her. I hope she is able to get help and heal from whatever it is she’s dealing with.
Lydia is the proof that this show does a shitty job at picking people for this kind of environment. It is not good for her mental health clearly and therefore she is not good for the people around. It is painful to watch.
This is a great summary from our point of view, as an audience, of Lydia. I was concerned and questioning as to why the show was giving so much air time of Aaliyah and Lydia, it was so odd to me. But when everything came together...of course it made sense haha. She had a desire to be close to Aaliyah but not in an authentic way as we have seen friendships build on the other seasons. Indie used the word "forceful" and then it clicked for me. That's exactly what it was. The hug she gave to Johnie was odd and forced... also motherly. And it appears she's being forceful with the whole Milton situation. Nothing comes across as authentic with Lydia. I think it's just because she has an overtaking and overwhelming of desire for relationships in general. She's missing something in her life that I really hope she finds but this time, it definitely starts within herself. She just needs to get there and figure it out before being romantically involved with someone. I'm no professional lol but this is just my take.
“Cheating is a fantasy” I heard someone say this and I think it is so true. It’s natural to feel things from time to time for someone that’s not you SO, but if you’re getting caught up is the fantasy of this other dynamic- you have to think about why. I can be very emotion-driven so these thought triggers help me contextualize my feelings so I don’t carry them out with cruelty. Usually! Lol Nile reflecting on losing, “it was not a good look” *hair twirl*
Aaliyah sadly reminds me of just how I was before getting treatment for qBPD. I would shrink so small, I would crumble if I were dressed down that way by someone I'd felt safe with emotionally. I constantly waited and watched for things to fall apart. Yes, as a child I was often shamed and abused by my stepmom I'm also a nurse like Aaliyah😅❤
Yeah, I also felt like I related to her. I grew up with a dad that was yelling at me for almost everything, so I never learnt how to stick up for myself. I really felt for her
Awww thats sad but I'm glad you're getting treatment ❤. I worked in the medical field for 10 years and am trying to get into nursing school currently- so all I'm going to say is, it feels like nursing attracts the ppl who want to almost fix other ppl (literally and emotionally). What is qBPD?
Yes!! I love how self aware you are when explaining your reaction when not winning the award. I definitely can relate. Love the content, so excited for the next videos 🥰
I have never commented on a youtube video before, I am not the most social kind of person, but I have to confess I watch love is blind just to come and see your reviews afterwards. I think you are an amazing human being and I love watching you, so THANK YOU!!!
Your analysis of all the dynamics is mind blowing. I can only speak for myself, but, I am LEARNING from all your videos. You are such a natural at this, Indie. Keep at this and soon you'll be one of the top channels that covers the topics that you do.
Two big mistakes some women make while dating. 1. NEVER display desperate energy. 2. Never expose all your secrets. Men judge! They talk out of both sides of their mouths.
Wow, man. You should have a ton of more subscribers. I’m watching this to see someone else’s take on the show, and it turned into a therapy session for me and how i give in to my own triggers. I feel I owe you money, lol. Subscribed.
This is the first season I’ve watched since out of an abusive relationship and becoming self aware of my patterns. And I’ve never realized how much this show is filled with people still stuck in their trauma response…
I have been WAITING for this video. You're the only commentary channel I watch in regard to LIB. I can't wait to tune in... thank you for all of your work!
Oh goodness gracious! I’ve been waiting for your input! “We’re gonna be using these people as an example, so we can pretend there’s nothing wrong with us” Love this angle light with humor. All fun aside I am a working progress hopefully to secure attachment. Looking forward to the next upload 😘
I really appreciate how much effort you put into these videos. Im so glad theyre not short format videos because these days everyone is making short 5 minutes videos. Some of your remarks crack me up haha 🤣
Yesss... Another great vid. 🔥 Absolutely love how you did a deep dive on self-sabotage with these very clear examples. I can honestly look back and see myself in all of these, so this hit close to home. (sorry in advance for super long comment, but so much to say!) 1. Aaliyah: 🎶 She's a runner, she's a track star. Never saw the connection with her using sex as avoidance which leads to self-sabotage. Facinating! I caught that point too, how she regresses to a small child during conflict and Uche becomes the judgey self-righteous authority figure. No bueno. I wanted these 2 to work out but realize they probably need to work a little more on themselves more. I'm glad she ultimately ran although I'm not sure it comes from health but from a trigger-happy response to fear; I would've loved to see her resolved, stand up to both Lydia and Uche before making her exit. Next episodes will be interesting. 2. Johnnie: Sadly Johnnie is one of those people that wears her trauma as a sum of who she is. It's great she's open but she doesn't seem to have done the work to connect the dots to not repeat the cycle. She's smart so intellectually knows to go for safe and steady, but what she calls passion and deep love sounds more like trauma bond. Like the chaos and conflict is what hooks her in. If someone was seriously after Chris, I wonder if she would've felt differently and seen the challenge of another girl as chaos enough to find him more exciting. 3. Lydia: Whew.. A whole mess. You are spot on, she overpowers every conversation. Talking over people, smothering, love bombing, crying, being loud and calling it spicy culture. It's like she's using this behavior and calling it personality but it's more of a shield for a super low self-esteem and desperation. cOgNiTiVe DiSsOnAnCe 20:58 💀💀🤣 And lastly you already know I'm a huge fan but thank you for bringing us this amazing content. I feel like I'm listening to a TED Talk with every one your videos. You give us such high quality insights and laugh out loud humor and also your editing is.. 🤌🏽 chef's kiss.
Love your videos! When watching these shows I often think "make it make sense" and you analyze them so satisfyingly :) Had a good laugh when you played the clip where Lydia says "When Izzy is talking to me it feels good" and you said "Does it though? Does it?" because I said exactly the same thing when I was watching it!
#1 This is the best drag performance channel. #2 This is the best social sciences channel. #3 This is the best dating/reality show channel. Awesome show great job. Best regards.
Love is Blind is always incredibly cringeworthy, but when Lydia was going on and on and on about Uche to Aaliyah, it was PAINFUL!!! That was so hard to watch
I’m proud that you didn’t call Johnie manipulative. I got the impression she was first, but it’s nice you gave her an emotional well she (and any of us) pulled from 2:57
OMG Girl! You crack me up. "Easy there, Wolf of Wall Street!" I don't see Taylor and JP together. She was definitely not into him. Lydia is too desperate. Johnie keeps putting herself down and Aaliyah always seemed to be looking for a reason to say no, not yes. One thing about self-sabotage - you can be trying to get what you didn't get in childhood by finding yourself attracted to familiar patterns or you can do what was done to you to others, ie my mother's love was conditional and rather than pick men who love conditionally I pick men who love me unconditionally and I'm conditional. Still working on it!
Eyyyy Aunty Nile is back! Thank god bc these season is a minefield of red flags that needs to be broken down. The level of self sabotage in this season is highhhhhh
I was raised a Jehovah's Witness too. Its a cult. I really related to Izzy when he was talking about his experience as one. Everything I longed for as a child was considered bad or satanic, like team sports, certain tv shows like hercules and xena, martial arts, excelling in a career, university, having friends at school, birthdays, christmas, easter etc. So I grew up thinking I was bad. If you get disfellowshiped the entire community including your parents cut you off so there is fear of abandonment. Its a works based religion so there is the wound of never feeling good enough. Theres a lot to work through once you finally get out.
Was having a tough day and you uploading just turned it around :) not only does your analysis help with the show (and entertainment lol) but i always get such great advice that I can implement in my own life! Thank you ❤
Indie, thanks for the treat 😊. You show so much self-awareness admitting to your reaction when you didn't get the prize, respect to you 👏. I relate to that so much 😅. I'm totally hyper aware of criticism and I'd rather not put myself out there than to risk rejection. Not the best winning strategy I guess but it keeps you delusionally safe
i do the same in the area of romance, keeping myself "delusionally safe" (love how you put that) but true in the area of work and career, i tend to throw myself out there and risk rejection. here's hoping some of that courage will spill into the area of romance
@@dragtherapy omg Indie, romance is where I'm most vulnerable and trying to prevent rejection. I regress to a child-like state of about a 5 year-old and I've always seemed to settle for less attractive partners because it felt safer. It's messed up as you say in childhood and very much ingrained in your character... thanks dear for answering 😘
i was super excited when LIB s5 was coming out but i was more excited knowing you would be making videos and commenting on them again. Love your videos!!
At this point a big part of why I watch LiB is to watch people's break downs of it. I'm just over here eating my popcorn like yup, thats what I thought too girl! xD
I was so happy to see your new video posted! and it's longer! Yay! You give me good vibes. I haven't even watched this season yet :) Your video did cause me to ponder my own triggers.
Your podcast, talking about the psychologically interesting side of reality tv, is the podcast I wanted to make. Now I don’t have to! You are incredible, and I cannot tell you how much I love these videos. You could package these up and get a PhD, they are so well thought-out.
I haven’t watched any episodes yet, but I learned and understand this analysis. Thank you for explaining and making it entertaining as well. I learned alot! Thank you
I literally love this channel so much there is something about your analysis that is very like intuitive and relatable and I really enjoy it thank you!
I just love watching your reactions and hearing your takes on everything ❤️ I don’t even watch Love is Blind, I just watch your videos 😂 Excellent and thoughtful content!
Jhonie's reaction is the tale of the fox and the grapes. The fox finds a tree full of grapes and tries again and again to get them. When he can't, he scoffs and says, they are green anyway.
I barely paid attention to JP and Taylor, but now I'm so interested how it's going to go. Taylor's like "I'm sorry I called you a gap-toothed bitch, it's not your fault you're so gap-toothed" xD
Gosh, your insights are sooooooo good, and the irony and the jokes! Just love it ❤ One thing, in my opinion, that was the turning point for Izzy to choose Stacey was when she said she has abandoned issues, so maybe unconsciously he thought that if she has the same trauma, they wouldn't let each other go then.... And the scene were Milton is talking before proposing Lydia, I think he was trying to get (himself) ready and she was like "yeah, this is now, there's no turning back!" Urgh, that was pure desperation talking!
I used to be Queen self saboteur even while married 😅 but then I got divorced and had a stroke at age 35 and disability gave me a lot of time to think and work on myself. And I fixed alooot and now after a 3rd stroke where my emotions are extremely heightened I’ve had to work extra hard on seeing he’s (my fiancé I manifested in 2016) emotions and feelings. Which with a traumatic brain injury is very hard 😅😂😂😂 xx
Great review. This cast is kinda sad. They seem to have the most abandonment wounds of all the casts. Or maybe they're just more expressive. But what's sadder is that they are just a reflection of how bad modern? parenting has gotten.
Exactly my thinking - from the first time I watched him (around 800 subs) and got hooked ! 💜 The time and energy put in, so professionally done, amusing and educational !
Listening to this on my way to the office and laughing hysterically and I bet other drivers are like “oh my gosh what is she listening to 👀” what I’m listening to is someone explaining my traumatic patterns from childhood in a dating setting but in a really funny way. ❤ could you please link Sadia’s interviews or shorts in the description box when you take snippets from what she says? Thank you for your analysis and channel! I love having you as my therapist ❤😂
You are so great to share all of this wisdom for free! It feels like a group therapy session with a lot of entertainment tho :)) Im a huge fan and I watch Love is Blind just for your videos. Thank you so much from the bottom of mu heart for your beauty
You are really a born talent, Im saying this as a therapist. Put me on your list already :)) And please keep doing what you are doing! lots of love@@dragtherapy
Is it me who feels excited when Indie Nile is back with analyzing people’s behaviour so we can feel better about ourselves, if we’re willing to look within ourselves and do the work? You’re right. Milton is way too young for this experience. And Lydia is showing us how desperately wanted to be loved, chosen, and validated even if she haven’t worked on herself. Jumping from one man/friendship’s that’s not healthy for her.😢 Knowing what we know now about her connection with Uche and how she comforted Aaliyah is telling. Uche and Lydia both lied. Something is off..😱 Girl, yes! ❤
The only thing better than a new season of Love Is Blind is a new season of Nile is Back :D
:) thanks!
True!!
💯 true
I have been waiting for a few days lol
So true 🤭
Amen
As a Dominican who grew up with two Dominican parents I can see where Lydia gets her dynamics within a relationship. In my family, all the mothers take a prominent role instead of the fathers. The mothers are the loud ones planning, hosting, and talking. While the men are more quiet and distant from their families. They are there but take up less space if you know what i mean. So I think growing up, lydia saw this dynamic and just learned to be loud and for men to be quiet. And so she does not recognize when men are just not interested in her. She can have a one sided relationship and think it’s all okay until they break up with her. And because she can have a relationship like this, it feels like she’s always being rejected from love.
thanks for this take
That was really interesting to read. Thanks for sharing
interesting! I do agree with Indie Nile that it's annoying to blame your toxicity/personality entirely on your culture but often it's not off target
I never thought about it that way! great observation
Interesting..I think the same way about African women in west...loud, just not classy, tweaking or over top personality.. same Latino Spanish women.... aggressive etc
I don't understand how people pick "fun" (anxiety) over comfort when it comes to their other half, good for Chris and Aaliyah for knowing their worth and walking away. im sure Netflix will find a way to harass them out of the pods
haha, Netflix is indeed going to harass them out of the pods
The anxiety is like a drug, it’s totally intoxicating for people with lots of trauma or attachment issues.
I wish I could explain how it feels. It is incredible, even though we know in the long run it leaves you feeling drained and worse than ever. People like johnie’s minds have been so moulded by trauma their instincts are off
@@Hannah-wg7hx I wonder if that might be an indication of borderline personality disorder because that is what they grow up with so that is all that they know even though it's not actually comfortable at all ironically.
@@ania5038can be but not always. Can also be an Autism and/or ADHD trait.
I think when people are used to the people that “love them” being unstable all the time, it makes them think that’s what love is. If you’ve never known safe and/or secure love, it doesn’t instinctually feel like love
I really don’t agree that Aliya leaving is apart of her self sabotaging. That was truly a decision that was healthy for her. I feel like she finally listened to the red flags she’s been subconsciously been keeping track of, and she finally took action. He really is a nasty Manipulating devil and after Lydia telling her that she saw Uche 3 months ago she really figured out at how much he was keeping away from her. I’m so happy she chose herself and not this dirty ass hypocritical liar of a man. Go Aliya🎉 *Love your video btw*
I feel like Aaliyah's body literally shut down to protect her. Maybe severe anxiety of something like that. I think she had no choice but to leave, because she couldn't push through it. But maybe i'm wrong and she left in peace. We'll see Friday
i hear you. her leaving Uche was ultimately the best decision. what i think is self-sabotaging are the fears of being hurt. to hell with Uche, he sucks. i was more concerned with (strongly related to) how she talks about her fears of being hurt
@@dragtherapy oh I misunderstood, your right along the way she was talking A LOT about not wanting to be hurt.💯
Aaliya recently did an interview where she said she continued dating him after the show and when she left she didn’t think it was over between them so she ran away but didn’t actually end it with Uche which got her nowhere essentially
For me, there were three definite red flags when it comes to Uche - and they are not the things everyone else points out first. In fact, the questions he asked Aaliyah when she "confessed" that she cheated once, I found them to be valid. Also, that he didn't tell her about Lydia because production told him not too - I also understand that. BUT,
1. the way he spoke to Aaliyah when she confessed her cheating which was very judgemental, superior, and condemning (instead he could have asked those questions while showing some compassion and quitting this superiority vibe),
2. that he gaslit her the next day when she told him how his questions made her feel
and
3. the look on his face when production told him that Aaliyah ended the experiment -
those were three major red flags that threw me off.
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Oh, another red flag comes to mind: The things he says that are healthy and the right thing to say, like for example that he has to create an environment where Aaliyah feels like she can open up to him, I don't feel like he really means them or that he will stick to them in the future... he says them cause they are the right thing to say but they do not fit the vibe he gives off. Also, that Aaliyah says that he is "too good to be true", another red flag there...😅
yes he's full of red flags and i'm happy she ran off
He comes off as someone with anger issues. I know men like him and they hold themselves to an extremely high standard, really harsh with themselves and get disappointed with others quick.
Uche was not a good men, this men feels superior about any woman. I could tell about his way he talked and lectured her , so proud of her she left this situation! Because the longer you stay the more harder it will get to leave!
Also, after Aaliyah's confession, he asked her if she has male friends ans seemed happy when she said she had more female friends 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Gosh, You are the best! Love is Blind without your commentary is not complete.
Thank you 😍
Girl, Finally!!!! And please, can we dive deep into that Lydia/Uche/Aaliyah love triangle? It’s giving me the fatal attraction vibes
oooh yes! very fatal attraction. i think we're gonna see a lot more on this subject as the season progresses
Ohhh I have thoughts.
1- Lydia was unhinged w her projection of herself as an extension of Aaliyah, as well as the info bombing once Uche confessed to Aaliyah.
2-Johnnie told me everything I needed to know about her mistaking chaos for love when she said she was married, but was hung up on her ex, that died of a drug overdose, during her marriage.
3- I respected the hell out of Aaliyah just noping out of there when she was over Uche's BS.
4- Stacie seems a bit of a mess, but ppl are saying she can come across as mature for not comparing her matches w other ppl.
5- I think Johnnie was stupid to fuck things up w Chris and personally- he's cuter than Izzy.
6- I like Milton, but it feels like Lydia is settling for Milton- which sucks. I have a soft spot for little nerdy guys and him being a geology geek and having that microscope made me love him so much.
7- I wanted the vet to get more air time and I hope she's doing well.
8- Uche had some nerve w the cheating thing and then he was lying about Lydia. WTF?!
on point!
great points 👌 I'm very curious how things will pan out with Izzy/Stacy
It has been revealed that production asked Uche and Lydia to keep for themselves that they knew each other. But they were messy with it because they finally gave them the green light when Uche & Aaliyah were close 👀
What did uche like about Lydia??
" Lydia was unhinged w her projection of herself as an extension of Aaliyah, as well as the info bombing once Uche confessed to Aaliyah. "
THIS MADE ME SO UNCOMFORTABLE! I do not blame Aaliyah at all for dipping. I mean that, and also how Uche became so demeaning when she opened up.
Your reviews are so well thought out, we appreciate your effort
thanks 🤗 appreciate you watching
Indie Nile! You’re the only channel that can get me to comment my true opinions!
When Lydia first came across the scene, my stomach boiled. She presented as desperate and distracting with her behavior. The whole “act out so they’ll be distracted and can’t tell I’m literally not marry-able.” It is not surprising at all that she conned the youngest guy on the show to choose her. He literally hung his head in his hands after proposing because he knew it was a bad idea. She should’ve just stayed on the apps.
yeah totally and i really feel for poor Milton...i'm super curious what'll happen next week
OMG yes, when Uche was talking down to Aaliyah that way, it was so gross!!! I would have had a hard time not getting up and walking away if someone was talking to me like I was a child, yuck! Your channel is soooo good, couldn’t wait for this 💜
exactly he took on this authoritarian parent vibe when he was speaking to her. it was indeed gross...oh and thanks for waiting for my video 😍
I'd have yelled at him point blank period. Idc who u are u getting ate up
He was wrong but so is cheating. Her cheating 2 years ago and not taking accountability would’ve been a deal breaker for me. It seems like it was for him but he wasn’t strong enough to walk away.
they were both wrong...but Uche is more gross because he concealed that part about Lydia at the same time judging Aaliyah. No woman in her right mind would wanna get tangled up in that
I really enjoy your videos! I think Lydia’s issue isn’t really that she’s “too much.” It’s that she uses over-the-top reactions and behavior to manufacture a connection that does not exist organically. This is evident in that her enthusiasm is in response to things that could not possibly naturally generate that amount of enthusiasm, “OMGGGG!! YOU’RE AN ENGINEER?!!!” And excitedly proclaiming “OMG we have SO much in common” and “We are the SAME PERSON” when the evidence shows they have little in common. It gives the impression that her reactions are fake and performative and that you as the person on the receiving end could be literally any other human being in the world and that you could say literally anything (“My side hustle is raising puppies for slaughter to be ground into sedimentary rock for mass graves in North Korea”) and she would be like “OMG! That’s amazing! I also like to drink margaritas on the rocks! We are SO similar! When are you going to propose to me? Tee hee.”
She’s not the most effective at it, but this is the essence of love-bombing, and it is mostly subconscious, instinctive behavior designed to avoid loneliness and abandonment.
Plenty of people out there find easily excitable women who effusively express genuine enthusiasm endearing. But the sticking point for them with Lydia would be the obvious lack of genuineness and the forced connection. No one can love her for who she is until she’s able to be real with herself about who she is and put her real self forward.
exactly. she's manufacturing connections. very well put!
You’re awesome. I love your vision and perspective.
Uche is so manipulative. I was so impressed with how Milton handled him. He was maturity goals at 24. Granted, he still needs to grow and work, but I really appreciate his steadiness and compassion w Lydia.
yes totally. I adore Milton. i prepared a lot of things to say about him in my upcoming video. dropping sunday evening
I’m a psychologist (and yoga teacher like your crush😮)from Quito, Ecuador and your analysis is always on point. Thank you for uploading you always make my day!!🎉😊
Thank you! 😃 that's a huge compliment...also Ecuador is on my bucket list!
I was just telling my bf this morning that I couldn’t wait for you to talk about this season… the gods have answered my prayers!! Love your analysis as always ❤
thank you! sending love to you and your bf
Me tooo I've been going insaaaane😭😭😭😭
I love how you are willing to share and joke about your more ..hm .... self-centred... moments. Mostly people (including me:-/) try to hide this stuff, but bringing it out in the open is healing and liberating.
it definitely is liberating. i feel really imprisoned when i feel i have to wear a mask. which is kind of ironic that this shedding off the mask started only after i started doing drag which is all about wearing a "mask"
Omg finally someone who caught Lydia’s faces when Aliyah first came in crying about Uche and when she came back head over heels talking about him. Lydia is unhinged!!
truly unhinged. some screws up there are definitely loose
« Not only is love not blind but it’s also non existant » perfectly sums up this season 💯. I am here for the drama though even if I love when there’s at least one couple that gives me a love story. Love your review as usual 🙏🏾
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@34:20 100% Lydia molds herself to whoever she is speaking to, other than knowing she wants a relationship, we dont know anything else. She'll just shapeshift for whoever. She also told multiple people she's "exactly" like them
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Only thing that we all are waiting for other than the rest of the S5 episodes to open up is Indie Nile video on S5 Ep 5-7! My wife and I really really enjoy your Love is Blind analysis & content, Indie Nile! Kudos.
"Yeah girl, we all want to be loved for who we are... but the point is, what are you doing to actually attract that into your life?" *Airhorn x mic drop x 1000*!!!
hi hi :) thanks for checking in. i startd working on the video today, going to post it tomorrow night 😍
This channel is a beautiful gem.
Wow, thank you! 😍
Your impersonation of Taylor waving the ring was so spot on. You even got the tongue position there, such fine attention to detail!
Also this taught me additional stuff about self sabotage. I never realized I was also demonstrating this by reenacting a bad part of my childhood. Thank you Nile. Welcome back to TH-cam!! 🎉
thanks! someone here in the comments recommended a book called "The Mountain is You: from self-sabotage to self-mastery". Damn it's good! check it out!
@@dragtherapy Will do! Thanks for the rec
@@shireenkhan4747 my pleasure
Omg yes, the trauma dumping was dialed up to 100 this season. They all need therapy not marriage.(except sugar plum couple😭)
Lydia is a mess, At first I thought she was just this fun life of the party girl, and then she started to interact and then I thought okay, she definitely has some attachment issues. I was actually sympathetic towards her right up until she started love bombing Aliyah, I thought it seemed off because they had been there only two days… like how do you “love her”???
And then when I saw that she dated Uche, it all started to make sense. I’m not even sure what her endgame is, who does she actually want?
Also, she seems to have this split self esteem that ranges from “I am deserving of everything” to “I am not worthy of anything”
I also think she just wants the idea of marriage and not an actual marriage, which is why she attached herself to Izzy in the beginning and then got devastated when he cut it off, but then in the same breath she’s trying to reconnect with Uche while also talking to Milton.
She wants someone she can dump her issues on and wants the person to constantly praise and reassure her.
I hope she is able to get help and heal from whatever it is she’s dealing with.
yes indeed let's hope she heals from it
Lydia is the proof that this show does a shitty job at picking people for this kind of environment. It is not good for her mental health clearly and therefore she is not good for the people around. It is painful to watch.
within 10 seconds of opening her mouth I knew Lydia is unhinged...
This is a great summary from our point of view, as an audience, of Lydia. I was concerned and questioning as to why the show was giving so much air time of Aaliyah and Lydia, it was so odd to me. But when everything came together...of course it made sense haha. She had a desire to be close to Aaliyah but not in an authentic way as we have seen friendships build on the other seasons. Indie used the word "forceful" and then it clicked for me. That's exactly what it was. The hug she gave to Johnie was odd and forced... also motherly. And it appears she's being forceful with the whole Milton situation.
Nothing comes across as authentic with Lydia. I think it's just because she has an overtaking and overwhelming of desire for relationships in general. She's missing something in her life that I really hope she finds but this time, it definitely starts within herself. She just needs to get there and figure it out before being romantically involved with someone. I'm no professional lol but this is just my take.
I think Lydia might have borderline personality disorder
“Cheating is a fantasy”
I heard someone say this and I think it is so true. It’s natural to feel things from time to time for someone that’s not you SO, but if you’re getting caught up is the fantasy of this other dynamic- you have to think about why. I can be very emotion-driven so these thought triggers help me contextualize my feelings so I don’t carry them out with cruelty. Usually! Lol
Nile reflecting on losing, “it was not a good look” *hair twirl*
"cheating is a fantasy", i like that!
YESSS INDIE NILE I've been THIRSTIN for your take on this season!!!
thanks for waiting 🤗
Aaliyah sadly reminds me of just how I was before getting treatment for qBPD. I would shrink so small, I would crumble if I were dressed down that way by someone I'd felt safe with emotionally. I constantly waited and watched for things to fall apart. Yes, as a child I was often shamed and abused by my stepmom
I'm also a nurse like Aaliyah😅❤
sorry to hear about your past and indeed for me too, i saw parts of me in Aaliyah 100%
Yeah, I also felt like I related to her. I grew up with a dad that was yelling at me for almost everything, so I never learnt how to stick up for myself. I really felt for her
Awww thats sad but I'm glad you're getting treatment ❤. I worked in the medical field for 10 years and am trying to get into nursing school currently- so all I'm going to say is, it feels like nursing attracts the ppl who want to almost fix other ppl (literally and emotionally). What is qBPD?
You have no idea how happy I got when I saw that you posted a new video. Keep doing what you are doing, you’re good what you do! 💕
Thank you! Will do! 🤗
Your analysis is always accurate and informative! ❤❤
Thank you!
I just found your channel and I’m already hooked. It’s like education and entertainment in one. Keep it up!
thank you so much 😍
Yes!! I love how self aware you are when explaining your reaction when not winning the award. I definitely can relate. Love the content, so excited for the next videos 🥰
Thank you!
I have never commented on a youtube video before, I am not the most social kind of person, but I have to confess I watch love is blind just to come and see your reviews afterwards. I think you are an amazing human being and I love watching you, so THANK YOU!!!
aww that comment felt like a hug. thank you 🤗
Your analysis of all the dynamics is mind blowing. I can only speak for myself, but, I am LEARNING from all your videos. You are such a natural at this, Indie. Keep at this and soon you'll be one of the top channels that covers the topics that you do.
thank you so much!!
his videos help me so much!! I completely agree with you. Dont stop Indie, you're so good!
@@anastesia21 thank you!
Two big mistakes some women make while dating.
1. NEVER display desperate energy.
2. Never expose all your secrets. Men judge! They talk out of both sides of their mouths.
Honestly believe this applies to men, too.
yeah, great points and they pretty much apply to all of us indeed
Wow, man. You should have a ton of more subscribers. I’m watching this to see someone else’s take on the show, and it turned into a therapy session for me and how i give in to my own triggers. I feel I owe you money, lol. Subscribed.
thank you so much! 🤗 and welcome aboard the Indie train
thank you for doing a thematic overview, so different from the other recounts/reviews. Really enjoyable
thanks for watching
I love your perspective. Like someone summaried my thoughts and explained things I had hard time naming/realizing.
I am so happy I found you 😊
i'm so happy you found me 🤗 glad the videos are resonating 😍
This is the first season I’ve watched since out of an abusive relationship and becoming self aware of my patterns. And I’ve never realized how much this show is filled with people still stuck in their trauma response…
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I have been WAITING for this video. You're the only commentary channel I watch in regard to LIB. I can't wait to tune in... thank you for all of your work!
thanks for watching!
wow i clicked so fast haha! can't wait to watch, i'm currently almost finishing episode 4 and I have SO many thoughts..
Hope you enjoy it!
Oh goodness gracious! I’ve been waiting for your input! “We’re gonna be using these people as an example, so we can pretend there’s nothing wrong with us” Love this angle light with humor. All fun aside I am a working progress hopefully to secure attachment. Looking forward to the next upload 😘
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I really appreciate how much effort you put into these videos. Im so glad theyre not short format videos because these days everyone is making short 5 minutes videos. Some of your remarks crack me up haha 🤣
haha, glad to bring the laughs. and thanks for appreciating the work that goes into these
Yesss... Another great vid. 🔥 Absolutely love how you did a deep dive on self-sabotage with these very clear examples. I can honestly look back and see myself in all of these, so this hit close to home. (sorry in advance for super long comment, but so much to say!)
1. Aaliyah: 🎶 She's a runner, she's a track star. Never saw the connection with her using sex as avoidance which leads to self-sabotage. Facinating! I caught that point too, how she regresses to a small child during conflict and Uche becomes the judgey self-righteous authority figure. No bueno. I wanted these 2 to work out but realize they probably need to work a little more on themselves more. I'm glad she ultimately ran although I'm not sure it comes from health but from a trigger-happy response to fear; I would've loved to see her resolved, stand up to both Lydia and Uche before making her exit. Next episodes will be interesting.
2. Johnnie: Sadly Johnnie is one of those people that wears her trauma as a sum of who she is. It's great she's open but she doesn't seem to have done the work to connect the dots to not repeat the cycle. She's smart so intellectually knows to go for safe and steady, but what she calls passion and deep love sounds more like trauma bond. Like the chaos and conflict is what hooks her in. If someone was seriously after Chris, I wonder if she would've felt differently and seen the challenge of another girl as chaos enough to find him more exciting.
3. Lydia: Whew.. A whole mess. You are spot on, she overpowers every conversation. Talking over people, smothering, love bombing, crying, being loud and calling it spicy culture. It's like she's using this behavior and calling it personality but it's more of a shield for a super low self-esteem and desperation. cOgNiTiVe DiSsOnAnCe 20:58 💀💀🤣
And lastly you already know I'm a huge fan but thank you for bringing us this amazing content. I feel like I'm listening to a TED Talk with every one your videos. You give us such high quality insights and laugh out loud humor and also your editing is.. 🤌🏽 chef's kiss.
thanks for this 😍 thanks for sharing and for also the beautiful way you validate my work and efforts
Always! ❤ Can not wait for the next batch of episodes. 👀
Wake up guys, OUR ICON POSTED A VIDEO 💕
literally the first time i've been called an "icon" 😊 i made it! 🤗 thanks honey. hope you enjoy the video
25:36 😂😂 I replayed this a few times.
….. and I love your definition of a trigger. 🎯
So funny and insightful, this is why we all love you!!
thank you! 😍
I clicked so fast when I saw Indie Nile on my feed! I LOVE your Love Is Blind analyses!
Yay! Thank you!
I’ve literally been waiting for your take. Bout to throw my feet up and enjoy the next 45 min 😂
yay. hope you enjoy. thanks for waiting!
I have been impatiently waiting on your take! I continue to watch Love is Blind now just to be informed for your videos lol
thank you!
Love your videos! When watching these shows I often think "make it make sense" and you analyze them so satisfyingly :)
Had a good laugh when you played the clip where Lydia says "When Izzy is talking to me it feels good" and you said "Does it though? Does it?" because I said exactly the same thing when I was watching it!
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Ngl, I've been waiting for this one. Honestly, you are always spot on. It is like mind-reading
thank you! 😍
#1 This is the best drag performance channel. #2 This is the best social sciences channel. #3 This is the best dating/reality show channel. Awesome show great job. Best regards.
thank you sweetie 😍
Love is Blind is always incredibly cringeworthy, but when Lydia was going on and on and on about Uche to Aaliyah, it was PAINFUL!!! That was so hard to watch
it was indeed painful to watch
I love this channel so much ❤
So much light 💡
Love it, love it, love it
I’m proud that you didn’t call Johnie manipulative. I got the impression she was first, but it’s nice you gave her an emotional well she (and any of us) pulled from 2:57
OMG Girl! You crack me up. "Easy there, Wolf of Wall Street!" I don't see Taylor and JP together. She was definitely not into him. Lydia is too desperate. Johnie keeps putting herself down and Aaliyah always seemed to be looking for a reason to say no, not yes. One thing about self-sabotage - you can be trying to get what you didn't get in childhood by finding yourself attracted to familiar patterns or you can do what was done to you to others, ie my mother's love was conditional and rather than pick men who love conditionally I pick men who love me unconditionally and I'm conditional. Still working on it!
thanks girl! i hear ya on still working on it
Eyyyy Aunty Nile is back! Thank god bc these season is a minefield of red flags that needs to be broken down. The level of self sabotage in this season is highhhhhh
it is next level girl and i have a feeling the next batch of episodes are gonna be even more insane
I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS!! Ok time to watch with my morning coffee. Thank you! lol
Enjoy
I love the way you bring knowledge between relationships. I am learning so much about myself. Thank you so much❤
You are so welcome! thanks for watching 🤗
I love how your videos are so knowledgeable and fun at the same time, I learn and laugh just as much. Ty for your work ! ♥
thank you for watching!
I was raised a Jehovah's Witness too. Its a cult. I really related to Izzy when he was talking about his experience as one. Everything I longed for as a child was considered bad or satanic, like team sports, certain tv shows like hercules and xena, martial arts, excelling in a career, university, having friends at school, birthdays, christmas, easter etc. So I grew up thinking I was bad. If you get disfellowshiped the entire community including your parents cut you off so there is fear of abandonment. Its a works based religion so there is the wound of never feeling good enough. Theres a lot to work through once you finally get out.
wow, i had no idea it was that intense
Holy shiz!
You are so amazing at meshing the art of drag in psychology! I love you and your channel ❤️ love from North Carolina!
Thank you so much!! sending love back from Amsterdam
the way i've been waiting for this specific commentary ❤🎉
thanks for waiting
COME THRUUUUU!!! been waiting for this! 🙌🏾
thanks for waiting!
Was having a tough day and you uploading just turned it around :) not only does your analysis help with the show (and entertainment lol) but i always get such great advice that I can implement in my own life! Thank you ❤
most welcome 🤗
Indie, thanks for the treat 😊. You show so much self-awareness admitting to your reaction when you didn't get the prize, respect to you 👏. I relate to that so much 😅. I'm totally hyper aware of criticism and I'd rather not put myself out there than to risk rejection. Not the best winning strategy I guess but it keeps you delusionally safe
i do the same in the area of romance, keeping myself "delusionally safe" (love how you put that) but true in the area of work and career, i tend to throw myself out there and risk rejection. here's hoping some of that courage will spill into the area of romance
@@dragtherapy omg Indie, romance is where I'm most vulnerable and trying to prevent rejection. I regress to a child-like state of about a 5 year-old and I've always seemed to settle for less attractive partners because it felt safer. It's messed up as you say in childhood and very much ingrained in your character... thanks dear for answering 😘
I hope your channel keeps on growing and keeps reaching pinnacles of success, your videos are great, glad I found your channel! ❤
thank you for saying that 🤗
You are 100% correct about Lydia. Her behaviors are emblematic of an internalization of and identification with the REJECTING caregiver
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The best drag therapist ever !!
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i was super excited when LIB s5 was coming out but i was more excited knowing you would be making videos and commenting on them again. Love your videos!!
thank you!
Indie u r the best at what u do! Was so looking forward to ur wise take on E1-4, u did not disappoint! Thanks!
Thanks so much!
At this point a big part of why I watch LiB is to watch people's break downs of it. I'm just over here eating my popcorn like yup, thats what I thought too girl! xD
haha, yes the reviews are as much part of the experience as the show itself
Grateful for you!!!
I appreciate that! thank you so much 🤗
i could tell by the titles of the video that you were going to give some good insight into these couples and i'm so here for it!!!
thanks 🤗
I was so happy to see your new video posted! and it's longer! Yay! You give me good vibes. I haven't even watched this season yet :) Your video did cause me to ponder my own triggers.
that's awesome to hear you get good vibes :)
your analysis is by far the best on youtube.🌹
Wow, thank you!
Your podcast, talking about the psychologically interesting side of reality tv, is the podcast I wanted to make. Now I don’t have to! You are incredible, and I cannot tell you how much I love these videos. You could package these up and get a PhD, they are so well thought-out.
thanks for that! been actually thinking about going back to school. thanks for planting the seed
so on point once again. It's really impressive! And I love that you added some personal anecdotes as well this time
thank you!
I haven’t watched any episodes yet, but I learned and understand this analysis. Thank you for explaining and making it entertaining as well. I learned alot! Thank you
You're very welcome! 🤗
I was so excited for this season JUST because I felt it meant more possible content from you!
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Not only a great review - but also spot-on advice for me (and my self-sabotage...). Wonderful xx
Glad it was helpful! 😍
Yeah you’re back with love is blind commentary!!! You’re videos makes me so happy.. keep them coming
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I literally love this channel so much there is something about your analysis that is very like intuitive and relatable and I really enjoy it thank you!
thank YOU
I just love watching your reactions and hearing your takes on everything ❤️ I don’t even watch Love is Blind, I just watch your videos 😂 Excellent and thoughtful content!
thank you so much!!!
Jhonie's reaction is the tale of the fox and the grapes. The fox finds a tree full of grapes and tries again and again to get them. When he can't, he scoffs and says, they are green anyway.
haha, nice analogy
I barely paid attention to JP and Taylor, but now I'm so interested how it's going to go. Taylor's like "I'm sorry I called you a gap-toothed bitch, it's not your fault you're so gap-toothed" xD
yeah i think the JP and Taylor drama is definitely gonna play out in the next few episodes. can't wait!
i’m such a fan on you. have always enjoyed your insight and expression, was so happy to see this video!! thank you♥️
thank you so much!
I learn so much about myself by watching your videos ❤ thanks for posting !
You are so welcome! 😍
Gosh, your insights are sooooooo good, and the irony and the jokes! Just love it ❤
One thing, in my opinion, that was the turning point for Izzy to choose Stacey was when she said she has abandoned issues, so maybe unconsciously he thought that if she has the same trauma, they wouldn't let each other go then....
And the scene were Milton is talking before proposing Lydia, I think he was trying to get (himself) ready and she was like "yeah, this is now, there's no turning back!" Urgh, that was pure desperation talking!
true they did bond over their abandonment issues
I used to be Queen self saboteur even while married 😅 but then I got divorced and had a stroke at age 35 and disability gave me a lot of time to think and work on myself. And I fixed alooot and now after a 3rd stroke where my emotions are extremely heightened I’ve had to work extra hard on seeing he’s (my fiancé I manifested in 2016) emotions and feelings. Which with a traumatic brain injury is very hard 😅😂😂😂 xx
love your new-gained insight. it always takes rough experiences to make us see things clearly, doesn't it?
@@dragtherapy Thanks and yes, it is a journey but the company is cute 😂😂😂
Yessss!! Finally a video upload. Watching this after an intense study session this week. Thank you for uploading 👏💞🙏
Great review. This cast is kinda sad. They seem to have the most abandonment wounds of all the casts. Or maybe they're just more expressive. But what's sadder is that they are just a reflection of how bad modern? parenting has gotten.
exactly, people on these shows are definitely a reflection of our society at large and our collective issues
your channel is too good to be true!!
Thank you so much 😀
Exactly my thinking - from the first time I watched him (around 800 subs) and got hooked ! 💜
The time and energy put in, so professionally done, amusing and educational !
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Listening to this on my way to the office and laughing hysterically and I bet other drivers are like “oh my gosh what is she listening to 👀” what I’m listening to is someone explaining my traumatic patterns from childhood in a dating setting but in a really funny way. ❤ could you please link Sadia’s interviews or shorts in the description box when you take snippets from what she says? Thank you for your analysis and channel! I love having you as my therapist ❤😂
thanks 🤗😍 glad the stuff is resonating and also bringing joy coz without laughter, life would be not so cute
you're "it's not a good look girl, but relatable" killed me. so true.
;) haha glad you liked that one. i actually think all of these people's dysfunctions is relatable. that's why we're all hooked on their antics
Love it! Great video ❤
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You are so great to share all of this wisdom for free! It feels like a group therapy session with a lot of entertainment tho :)) Im a huge fan and I watch Love is Blind just for your videos. Thank you so much from the bottom of mu heart for your beauty
i'm actually considering to become a licensed therapist one day
You are really a born talent, Im saying this as a therapist. Put me on your list already :)) And please keep doing what you are doing! lots of love@@dragtherapy
@@drscevahirci 😘
Is it me who feels excited when Indie Nile is back with analyzing people’s behaviour so we can feel better about ourselves, if we’re willing to look within ourselves and do the work?
You’re right. Milton is way too young for this experience. And Lydia is showing us how desperately wanted to be loved, chosen, and validated even if she haven’t worked on herself. Jumping from one man/friendship’s that’s not healthy for her.😢
Knowing what we know now about her connection with Uche and how she comforted Aaliyah is telling. Uche and Lydia both lied. Something is off..😱
Girl, yes! ❤
hey honey. thanks for your message. been away nursing a cold but now working on the new video. just finished watching the wedding episodes...
Indie Nile’s fake laugh: “Hahahaha. You’re gonna get divorced.” 😆🙈. Love him 🫶🏽.
I was so looking forward to this analysis! Spot on. Your insights are so real. I love the practical activities at the end of the video too!
Yay, thank you!
I love you so much!! Just seeing you post made my entire day🥹🫶🏾 Thank you for blessing us
You are so welcome 🤗
Lmaoooo indieee!! You came fierce and saying it how it is in this one !! Haha i loveee it
thank you! 😍