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I'm sure if you've been following for a while you have seen Elliott poke up in a video here and there. But if not...Hey! I'm Kelsey and the day has come that my boyfriend and I have decided to move in together. This is such an exciting new phase for both of us and we are also excited to take you a little bit behind the scenes to give you a couple tips on what it's like moving in with a boyfriend, girlfriend, roommate, family member, etc. In this video, we tackle compromising on aesthetics and styles to make sure both sides feel heard and at home. Although each move is unique, hopefully you get some good advice from this one, and if YOU have any tips, make sure to comment them below!
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IN THIS VIDEO
0:00 - intro
1:41 - making space and decluttering for your partner to move in
3:00 - tips and tricks to declutter your closet
6:52 - packing and sorting your items to move in with your partner
8:13 - creating a to-do list when moving
9:31 - how to un-decorate your house
11:19 - moving in with my boyfriend
13:11 - compromising on aesthetics with your roommate
15:53 - decorating your house with a roommate / partner
16:39 - advice on moving in with a partner
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Unromantic but safeguarding tip for the partner/roommate who owns the property: make sure there is a living arrangement agreement written up. Maybe the one moving in pays rent or splits costs, whatever as long as it’s in writing and nowhere are payments considered being towards the mortgage. It’s a nightmare if they later think some of the equity in the house is owed to them.
100%!
Agree completely!!!!! Tho not romantic it's the adult thing to do 💜💙💚💛🧡
Very important!
Yesssssssssssss
As someone who works in law I can tell you that this is indeed a nightmare. Contracts and agreements are for everyones safety and wellbeing.
"An ex once told me this is how jeans should look on a woman, sooo I'm gonna get rid of them!" ❤️🔥👏
Even having the idea to “de-decorate” for a future partner is so beautiful! So kind, selfless, and wonderful! Another reason to live ya Kels!
I loved this so much. The idea of doing this is so kind and romantic and allows for making the space together.
i literally texted my friends the advice and said “i don’t think she realizes what an incredibly kind and cool way to show your partner how much you love them”
This was so considerate ❤ here for it! I just ask my partner “what do you think?” Before I hang anything or if I’m thinking about bringing something home all the time lmao 😂
It's so cool that your partners are willing to share their lives/projects with us, too - it's gotta be hard to put yourself out there like that. Love Kelsey's and Elliott's vibe together and wishing y'all the best in your new shared home ❤️
My toxic trait is thinking I could be as brutal as Kelsey with her closet
honestly same -Andrea (social media manager)
I'm heading down to mine after a coffee. I have work to do!!! BRUTAL WORK!
😂😂 Same here!!
idk if anyone has said this yet, but to wash the wool blanket:
buy some wool soap from a local yarn store or even just fabricland, (a good one is eucalan) basically it’s soap with lanolin (the oil in sheep’s wool) in it so it takes care of the wool and washes it, and comes in nice, not overpowering scents. wash it with this stuff by hand in the bathtub, it’ll be a pain and super heavy but it’ll stay clean for a long time!!
ps, i am a seamstress and i work at a fabric store! i personally do not believe in dry cleaning, you can clean anything at home using the right tools :)
I was coming to the coments to say the same. I'm from Portugal we use thoses blankets a lot, in winter, and we always wash it by hand... :D
Also, don’t agitate and rub or the wool can felt and be ruined. (Weaver here). Many wool washes (eucalan IS good!) are meant for a little swishing then soaking in order to clean rather than scrub or agitating. Then gentle swish and soak rinse (though with some soaps no need to rinse), gentle squeezing out of excess water, and hanging to dry. I was upset at her getting rid of that blanket which could be saved.
@@TamarLitvot yes!!! thank you for explaining the accidental felting possibility! i also spin/other fibre crafts and considered recommending a tougher cleaner like power scour but i feel like eucalan is a little gentler!! so nice to find fibre pals in the wild! 🧶
I’ve thrifted wool sweaters and just gently hand wash them with a special soap. I stopped going to the dry cleaners completely bc you’re right, it can all be done at home if done properly.
Yes think of it like a gigantic wool jumper. Just buy the right soap, fill your bath and let it sit for a day
I'm so happy to see Kelsey removing her decor to allow she and Elliot to combine their decor together. In the last apartment I lived in, my former roommate stayed in the new place while I finished the cleaning of our old apartment. He decorated the common spaces that first night, and once I moved in the next day, any decor I had was confined to my bedroom and bathroom. It didn't create a major issue (he's still my best friend), but for the first week in the new place, I felt like I'd been pushed out and got this sense of "your decor/style isn't good enough to be where guests can see it."
When I saw the notif I thought she meant Becky lol
hahaha
Wash the blanket in the bath. Fill with warm water and washing powder (🇬🇧)Place blanket in and soak. If you're happy to do so when water has cooked a little stomp on blanket with bare feet for extra ooomph! Drain and use shower to rinse. Fold and stomp water out then fold, Place in washing basket and take outside to dry. Weather dependant of course 🤣🤣
Kelsey - I am over sharing here but I’m processing a ton…but this made me cry because I was in a situation where I had to move in with a partner and it was bad vibe all around and in 7 years I never felt like it was my home and was treated like a child. It’s been a year and I’ve divorced and moved and my daughter and I work together to decorate it’s been so nice to watch this. Didn’t think I’d be so emotional, it just came at the right time.
Hey! That sounds like such an awful stressful situation and I am glad you're out of it now. Wishing you and your daughter lots of happiness in your new place 💗 have fun making it your home 🎨
It isn't the purpose of this conversation or any of our business but having a financial conversation is really important. How much rent will the other person pay, how will you split costs and, in this case since you own the property, does it impact your ownership. You also have the additional issue of losing out rent from upstairs so how you would compensate for that. Some people are very uncomfortable talking about money but that feels like one of the key things that should happen. I also think it is worth thinking about how much you may or may not be reading into what this means for your relationship status. Again, I don't expect you to reveal this stuff but do think it needs to be addressed.
This is great advice!
Yes and also what happens if someone loses their job or makes less money after moving in. Some other financial stuff to consider.
When I moved in to my now-husbands flat there literally no need for him to dedecorate. He had exactly one plant. No decor. Just blank walls. In hindsight I'm very thankful for that
Sounds like my husband. He didn’t even have a washing machine. Exactly one single bed, one small couch, a tv, computer desk and fridge in a 3 bedroom apartment. 😂
Same, same!!
I think the most important part is to respect that there’s going to be stuff that you think is ugly as hell or is a hobby for your partner to make space for that. In my case I have learned to admire my partners warhammer collection that he has painted to perfection and he loves it. It’s going to create resentment and distrust if we hide away each other’s individuality how ever it looks.
Yes!!
Yess! I have a blue square thats covered in superhero things in my house that was done by my partner i hated it!!! I still dont like it but i appreciate it has to feel like his too.
Yes! My husband had a bunch of “thing” hobbies (collectibles) - they’re not something I would purchase, but I find joy in seeing the things he loves displayed.
"Make space for my person"
so cute!
Wow, I really appreciatd this video. I think I can be quite selfish when it comes to having my home look exactly how I want it to look. Watching you be so considerate to remove all of your little personalizations, to reevaluate the feel of your home with your partner was huge to me. Thanks for making this one!
Kelsey & Becky! I so appreciate the girl power energy from your channel. I was never taught how to use power tools growing up, and seeing you girls handle a drill so well, and even struggling at times in older videos, it has been so encouraging for me! Love the realness. In addition to brilliant and entertaining content and fun personalities, I really love the deeper messages you guys stand for, like female empowerment and environmental efforts. I’m a longtime subscriber and it’s been such a joy to grow and change alongside you. You have even inspired me to start my own diy channel.
Love you girls & the whole TSG team. ❤️
i also love this about them! i loved that she got rid of the jeans because of the ex’s gross comment... i would’ve done the same thing!!
Yes! Their channel completely encouraged me to bring out the battery drill and make holes in my new build, personalising home to be home!
@@listay1 That's wonderful!! :) haha
Just an observation, but.. when sharing your thoughts: don't share to hurt, remember to be kind, think over whether something needs to be shared. For this last point, telling someone something so "YOU will feel better" isn't the goal. If it isn't necessary, if it will hurt the other person, cause a rift, demean or diminish, then think long and hard about why you want to share it. This is my opinion formed after thirty successful years of marriage.
needed to read this!
I’m in a long distance relationship and I was telling my therapist about how hard it is at times and he literally said the same thing! It’s wonderful advice! It definitely makes me think twice about what I’m about to say and if it is nice or necessary!
@@emilyanderson8504 Relationships can be difficult. I tried to always lift up my husband, and he did the same for me. Not false praise, but genuine support. It can make all the difference. God Bless you. ❤🙏✝
Wish I had your advice 30 years ago haha
I nearly gasped when elliot just yanked his clothes out out of that box ready to hang 😂 I'm moving into a new house right before my fiance and I get married and its been fun lol. He's lived in the house for a few months but we've made pretty much all the decisions together. Since he doesn't have any strong aesthetic preferences I usually have been just narrowing down 3-5 options and letting him/us come to the final decision together. So far so good I would say
Having one partner who doesn’t really care to decorate themselves but appreciates the other’s efforts and aesthetic is the best 🥰
@@miss_xenia_ Sometimes I try to give him more input and he just doesn't want the power of choice 😅 picking the living room wall color was overwhelming for him and we learned his sweet spot real fast
Congratulations Kelliott!! ❤
The first compromise I did with my partner was over an IKEA table lamp. I saw it on the shelf and almost ecstatic said "What do you think?" and he said "I hate it! It's so ugly!" And, to be honest, I wasn't happy with his response but thought that he never said "i hate this" for anything before so if he really didn't like it then I could move on. Six years into the relationship and I saw this lamp again and again asked him what he thought. His answer was "I told you the first time, I hate it!" He hated it so much, he remembered the damn lamp! 😂 But to be fair, he let me choose all the curtains only arguing about the price when he thought they were a bit over budget. More years have passed and we both compromised for many little things! And never had a fight inside or in the premises of IKEA! 😊😂
Ok but now I want to know what lamp it was
@@mackenziedavidson4974 same!
Kelsey, it's nice to see you happy in life, as a long time watcher.
I love these tips!! I’m in a hetero relationship, and I don’t like the stereotype that is “happy wife, happy life” vibes of the woman decorating everything. My husband has awesome design taste that’s different from mine and collaborating and giving us shared ownership of our home is really important to me! I love seeing Kelliot model that ♥️
Okayyy totally unrelated...
But with a redhead, a brunette and a blonde... Can we get Kelsey, Becky and Rachael dress up as the Powerpuff Girls for Halloween?
I know someone has posted something before. I just want to resurface the idea
Yesss and get Danny a moustache and a top hat so he can be the Mayor
Nope. Sanderson sisters - yes!
I think it would be cool to see a series on blending partners styles...especially for partners that have very different styles. Or very strong styles.
This was ALL fantastic pieces of advices. I ESPECIALLY loved the “continue to date each other” bit.
I shared a home with a husband for 13 years, and later a live in fiancee with his three kids. Honestly, never say never but I dont know if I'll ever move in with anyone again. I really like having my own space. Relationships are all compromise, its nice to have a place where you dont necessarily have to do that. That being said, best wishes and enjoy each other! xo
honestly kind of love the idea of your upstairs apartment being a separate "office" - the perfect hybrid of going to an office and working from home, and gives you even more separation than a normal home office!
just hang it outside on a clothesline to air out. you can also use vinegar and water and lightly spray it. the vinegar smell will dissipate.
My boyfriend and I moved in together and he was very clear that decorating was just not interesting for him (even though I know he has some design interests, like vintage handmade furniture and maybe in the farm/cottage core area). I had the go ahead to decorate as I pleased, and since we have very similar interests and styles it was so fun to watch him see our space updated and tailored to our liking. He has even taken an interest now and proposes ideas ( like making a gallery wall ) and I’m really happy to let him try it out and add his personal touch. My ex was VERY hands-on with decorating and it was very difficult for me to relinquish that control since I love it so much and I feel like whatever I say must be done. I guess having a partner who is the polar opposite taught me why it’s nice to have joined efforts in the home-making process.
Some tips for moving in with someone: find out what chores each of you dislike the most and see if there’s an opportunity to share responsibility in a way that doesn’t make you miserable. I personally don’t mind doing the dishes or laundry, but I really dislike sweeping and taking out the garbage (which my partner doesn’t mind). Lay out chores in a clear way and send out a calendar invite for regular cleaning so your house is always relatively clean - this has eliminated a lot of arguments and annoyance for us!
That's so super respectful of you to join together and redecorate the space together 💙
Me personally I would rather keep all my things, jus put them in storage bc if you ever break up you won’t have to repurchase everything you got rid of 😅😭 wish y’all luck 🍀
I'm nearly 40, married for 17 years and you have just schooled me 🤣 great tips. Congrats guys, have fun together 😘
I mean I don't have the proof or the years together to back my thoughts but they are goals!
When my fiancé and I moved in together it was really simple, because he owned all of two pieces of furniture; a chest of drawers and a coffee table. We changed the knobs on his dresser to make it match mine, and that was it! He's also an artist and we were able to decorate with the both the art I already owned, and several of his paintings.
So happy for you guys ! 🥰
We love Kelliot!
team kelliot or team baustin thoo??
@@TheSorryGirls well... Both cause the couples have different energies.. so can't really choose one .. ❤
@@TheSorryGirls Team kelliot (for me)!
If the blanket is just smelly and not dirty you can buy spray on fabric freshener. Take it outdoors hang on a washing line and spray leave to totally dry and freshen up areas that maybe need a bit more spray before storing or using.
I was going to give the same advice! Spray liberally with Febreze or something similar, then let it hang in sunshine for several days. That's how I was able to de-funk my vintage office chair I picked up from a garage sale once.
Masking the smell with toxic fragrance doesn't actually get the smell out
My partner and I made the decision to move into an entirely new space when we decided to cohabitate with the intention of it not feeling like we were guests in each other's space. I think that helped a lot as my prior cohabitation experiences usually resulted in that feeling. We also gave emotional space for each of us to be open and honest about any anxieties about moving in together and came up with solutions together about how each of us could have a positive experience where neither of us would bulldoze the other. We also made a point that if someone had an idea of what should go where, we didn't just shut them down entirely if we disagreed. We would put it there and live with it for a bit and then the other way and come to an agreement on what worked best for us (where to put the couch/tv for example) And finally when it came to wall art. We came to an agreement on which rooms had which styles and did a You Pick / I Pick system for which paintings go on which walls.
These all helped us immensely.
me watching this video surrounded by my 400+ books: ""I am so screwed if I ever move in with someone"
I moved from my mom's house and she's a smoker while I am not. In order to get the smoke scent out of my blankets/clothes/soft decor items, a lot of it went in the washer two or three times. The things that didn't or couldn't were steamed, febreezed and aired out in the garage until the smell dissipated. Seriously, a febreeze and steam combo knocked out a good portion, and then just airing it out helped a lot - ideally I would've aired it on a clothesline in the backyard or something, but it was the middle of winter for me at the time. I hope that helps for your smoky blanket!
I appreciate the effort Kelsey put in to be welcoming! I remember being a bit sad to change my girly Parisian space when my boyfriend moved in, and frankly it is sad to let go of an era! But, what I’ve learned is it’s okay to compromise and blend styles in main rooms, and still leave openings for both your styles in other rooms of the house. Our guest room still has a Parisian vibe to please me and my boyfriend’s office has all his sports and rock and roll stuff! Overall, I think a house that features everyone’s styles room to room was more important to us than a super cohesive house. Each room is an experience! 😅
would definitely love to see an AD style walkthrough of your home after these new changes!
The blanket you said you haven’t figured out how to wash.. this is how my mom taught me:
1. Washing powder (lots) in the tub with some water
2. Add blanket and leave to soak for however long you want (I do overnight)
3. After soaking, get in there and just march around to get rid of any suborn stains (if any)
4. Drain the water and then add more clean water, and rinse. Repeat this step till the water is clear.
5. Drain excess water by stepping on the blanket
6. Dry outside (if you have a wall, hang it there. I don’t, but I have a private balcony so I use that).
It takes some time but it’s worth it because your blanket will be soo clean and fresh (smells good too😍😍). All the best!
Please don’t recommend harsh washing techniques on wool unless you want it to felt and shrink.
Yes to all, I'd also add to dry it in a sunny space, the sun will help it dry faster, kill any "bugs" and will make it smell fresher
@@TamarLitvot this is not harsh at all - it’s the most natural way of washing blankets that’s been used for hundreds of years. It’s a traditional method that many families have been using, long before the invention of dry cleaning.
I have many soft blankets made of wool and many other delicate materials and my family has been using this method even before I was born - blankets that were bought before I was born (I’m 24) are still looking beautiful and have been passed down to me.
@@daniibp23 absolutely! We (my family) always did it in summer so we could benefit from the sun 🌞
@@nothandotshuma it probably depends on how the blanket was made. The blankets I’ve woven and some I’ve purchased would be ruined by the walking on them and the detergent. I agree completely with the soaking, however.
Back in the day most people would do a fall and spring cleaning of the whole house and garage. It was the time to switch out screens for storm windows and put away lawn chairs and other summer items. Plus to put away summer clothes get rid of anything that doesn't fit anymore and take out sweaters. And since you were already dealing with everything and getting ready for clod weather and snow here in the Northeast and most Northern states, so why not clean everything before storage or in the case of Summer clear out the dust and cobwebs from storage. I always try to make a vow that I'm going to start doing this every year since I moved out of my Parents house. But it always seems like I kinda start and not get anything accomplished. Plus it feels like as soon as I switch everything I need to get it back out again. I think that my Grandmother was a domestic Goddess and Super Mom. She not only stick to this expectation but my Grandfather was away in the Navy for 90 percent of the time and she had 6 kids to take care of by herself, she kept her house Ship shape, and did the 2 big clean outs. Domestic Goddess
Airing the blanket out for a couple of days could definitely work. Another thing to consider is getting an ozone machine/purifier. It does a similar thing neutralising smell but its faster, you do need to take some precautions, but it can be used on items like the blanket or furniture or a stinky room.
About to get a place with new roommates. 5 women from 4 different households. After an initial conversation, I made a survey on Google forms, everyone filled it out, then we discussed points we didn't agree on and found common ground. It covered everything from sharing of duties and finances to cleaning standards, house rules, food, and mental health care.
Aaaaaa🎉 exciting!! I wish you both the most coziest and best days ahead!
I really like how things have evolved w u and Becky and the way the channel is going!
For the blanket. Just take it to a laundromat (they have giant washers) and put baking soda and vinegar in with your laundry soap. You could even try oxiclean.
I’ve always thought compromise has NO PLACE in a relationship, it’s all about collaboration: coming up with ideas EVEN BETTER than what either of you could come up with/accomplish alone. :)
Great way to reframe it!
Hey Kelsey, congrats on this exciting next step!
I was thinking for the wool blanket: see if you can hang it in your shower for a couple of days and if the steam of you guys showering will slowly get rid of the smell. Else vodka (yes, I know) is very good for lingering smells, so you could look into that maybe.
Hope you can keep the blanket, because it’s gorgeous!
Actually, hanging it outside should help with the odour as well. :)
If the wo blanket isn't dirty, just smelly, I recommend to put it in a freezer for a week or two, wool+cold =fresh without odor. Otherwise just buy wool detergent put it in a tub wash it gently by hand, rinse it a let it dry horizontally (even on a bathroom floor) I ve done it milion times
Horizontally so it wouldn't stretch
No! That doesn't do anything. Just leave it out in the sun and ir for a few days. Or get soap for it and wash it according to the fibers. Or just take it to a cleaners. Sometimes paying the professionals with the experience is worth the money.
@@nitzeart why do you think it doesn't work? I've been doing this for many years and it worked for me every time, not only for blankets but also clothes that can't be put in washing machine. Never ruined a thing.
@@luciaplesko It's a temporary solution. Freezing the fabric will not get rid of the dust or germs, its just not how dirt and germs work. I know it can be challenging in some climates but the best thing you can do to refresh your clothes and even get rid of smells is laying them out in the sun. The heat and radiation actually kills the germs and airing the thing will help with the smell (it's also the best fix for those pesky tobacco smoke smells, aside from febreeze or something like it).
Putting fabric in the freezer just makes the germs go to sleep. But as soon as the thing defreezes again, you have the same exact problem as before. Maybe now even more wet, which is worse.
@@nitzeart you are right, but if it is germy and dusty, it is not clean and usually needs to be washed. (sun won't get dust away either) Freezing only applies only to clean stuff - getting the odour out.
When my boyfriend moved in to my house, we didn't go through the steps Kelsey talks about so we lived with clutter for the next thirty years. Besides getting married, the big commitment was when we mixed up our books and got rid of the many duplicates.
BTW, Eliot looks like a big hunk of man intellect with his hair down and glasses. Nice!
I feel the mixing of books. My and my partner have been living together for 5 years... Still Lego is separated. Feels like a bigger step as marriage 🤣
I’m so happy for you guys, this is a nice step and I’m glad to see Kelsey happy
The matching top-knots for the clothes un-packing made my heart happy. :)
Kelsey, really appreciate you sharing this with us. I am happy for both you to be in this home together!❤
Omg this is so exciting that you are now expanding up into your upstairs unit! I can’t wait to see a tour of up there, now that it’s yours and Elliot’s space too. Do you have any plans on moving your bedroom upstairs?
Same! Exciting! And good point about the bedroom! Though when my partner moved into my place, we still have our own separate bedrooms/beds because of our different schedules and them needing their own introvert zone to decompress. Twice with partners moving in we've each had our own rooms and it works out well for us. We just choose when we wanna sleep in eachothers' beds. :)
@@ntcssj I totally get that, and if you have the luxury of a 2 bedroom place, makes sense! I was more curious from the sense that, Kelsey HAD to have her room in the basement because she was renting upstairs. So Im curious now that she has access to the upstairs, would she consider moving to one of the bedrooms upstairs since probably less cold then the basement, and then the basement could go back to being storage (which theyll need more of now!) - I could even see her doing a new reno project and making a master sized bedroom upstairs! Looking forward to more videos on this though, that's forsure!
Keep. Also, the blanket .. you can sprinkle a fairly large quantity of baking soda onto it, roll it up and put it in a sealed garbage bag (just tie it up) for a week or two. Vacuum it off, and repeat it if necessary. For super smelly things, it can take a few times. But it works. The BS pulls smells out of pretty much all things.
Happy to see the IYKYK jeans stayed. Still a favourite.
I feel like it needs to be pointed out (because a lot of people don't realize that when you chop up a piece to create a vanity like that, that you can still totally make those drawers useable) that you want to go through the thin piece of wood INTO the thick runner. You want the most real estate of the wood on the far side of the nailhead. The glue is what holds it together for the most part, but over time the glue breaks down and it will wobble off.
For the smokey blanket, try spraying it in vinegar, then putting it in the hot sun till it dries. Then you can try washing w/ some oxyclean and even a dash more vinegar. I did the spray and sun technique on a new foam mattress that was in a smoker's home, and it completely worked!!
omg okay! hoping for hot sunny days ahead even though we're inching to fall
@@TheSorryGirls No oxi clean for a wool blanket - it will totally ruin it - use a specialist wool detergent,
Yes, good point, wool is tricky. Try just a corner w/ the vinegar even, just in case!
I love his couch!
Congratulations to you both! I think your approach to figuring out a life together is a good one, and I look forward to future videos on how the house evolves over time.
Omg Elliot’s apartment view tho 😍
So happy for Kelliot! Kelsey deserves to have a person around who appreciates. Elliott seems to be the right one.
That apartment is so nice! The view!
I love the take the decor down to decorate together pulling from both ppls items so it actually does feel like a both moved in together thing!
Before washing that gorgeous blanket, try hanging it out on a breezy day. Drape it over a rope instead of by the corners so it doesn't stretch or deform. Then, try hand washing in a tub of cool water with a delicate detergent like Woolite. Wet thoroughly, gently squish and swish, and then rinse well. Hand squeeze the water out, with minimal rubbing and no wringing to avoid felting. Perhaps Elliott can help, since it will be heavy!
Then lay a bunch of towels down, lay blanket on them. Reshape it square with no tension anywhere so it doesn't warp or stretch. Lay more towels over the top. Gently roll up and let it rest overnight. Change the towels the next day. Continue until nearly dry, then drape outside again for the final dry.
I’m so happy that you have taken the upstairs as well!
So sweet! I love you two together! So happy for you both, and would love to see what changes the two of you may make on the home in the future!❤
Congratulations on moving in! When I met my now husband we moved in together like after 2 months (crazy considering be both owned our apartments and there was no financial need) now we are on our 6th year, and expecting 2nd child. Somehow when you know he is the one, you just know. There isn't any right /wrong time to do the steps you do as long you both feel it is the right thing 😊❤️
He said goodbye to a great view. It must be love! 💞
I’m so happy for you Kelsey! Honestly you and Elliot are so cute together!!
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time! Thank you for sharing your life so vulnerably. My partner and I have been discussing moving into my place, which I spent so much time and energy thoughtfully decorating to be my own. It’s so anxiety provoking to think about someone else moving into “my” space and making it “our” space, so this video provides much needed guidance 🙌🏼
Hey, not a spring cleaner.. Not all of us are.. What helped me was do any declutter organization as my new year resolutions. Tackle one realistic spot a month, set a tentative goal, say 6 months to organize the house then if for some reason it doesn't get done much in said areas for life reasons aka you get sick or whatever: put what you have left on next year's of can't get done by 1st of December. Got half of my organizing I wanted with my smaller space done this way and was a resolution could stick with, but small or big this can apply. Love this videos, hope this might be a helpful thought as not much of a spring cleaner either.
This is the content I’ve been missing from this channel! Thank you
I liked what you said about the little decor, so you and your partner can decide together.
Also , keeping stuff until you are able to find the perfect piece.
All great advice !
I'm excited you guys are moving together! Wish you endless happy days
Good for you Kelsey for consciously coming together with your mate and being flexible about your possessions and decorating choices.
I feel like a better, kinder, and more creative, open and enviromentally conscious person having watched this channel from nearly the beginning. Been rooting for you all for such a long time and seeing you guys thrive makes me feel like maybe I can too. Thank you and keep on keeping on!
Unproblematic and wholesome. Ted Talks with Kelsey. Wishing you both every happiness x
congratulations on moving in together, to both of you!! and this was such a good and helpful video✨️
Perfect timing on this video! my fiance and I are getting married soon and will be combining our spaces into an all new space! lots of good tips!
Big step for you both !! Congrats and love ❤️
Congrats chica!!
I know the topic of this video is compromising and cohabitation, but that leather couch is just beautiful. I’m obsessed! 😂
Love the last 2 tips!
for the wool blanket, get a high quality no rinse wool wash like eucalan! it might be a bit expensive because you're going to need a bit to clean the blanket, but i'd do a wash in the bathtub with the wool wash and cold/lukewarm water, then drain the tub and squeeze out as much water as you can. next, soak the blanket in the bathtub with about 1/8 cup of distilled vinegar per gallon of water for about 20 or so minutes. depending on the level of grime/smell you might need to drain the tub and repeat the wool wash and then the vinegar a couple of times, but that should help tremendously!
I like the brown bathroom but a deep dark green would be epic
So happy for you guys!
Im excited for your new adventure and I think you have some very good and practical ideas about living together. Spoken by someone who has done this many times making a lot of mistakes along the way. ❤️❤️
Wishing you both the best of luck in your cohabitation phase! Can’t wait to see your kitchen remodel though! 😉
I love your thoughts on de-decorating: taking everything off and deciding together what goes up where. It's a lot better to start with a blank slate then figuring out what to add where. Makes it feel more like both your spaces than a "your space, he's adding to it" situation. 💕💕💕💕
I also really love the idea of both of you making a mood board/style board, what have you, to see the overlap. My partner and I are purchasing a house soon, and I am going to try to do this with him so that it really feels like it's OUR house. 💟💟
YESSSS! So happy you two!
I love the un decorate step. So thoughtful and overlooked
appreciate the real advice and enjoyed the process!
So happy for you Kelsey, I think you did a great job making room for him, I think that you both will be happy being in the same space together. Thanks for a great video and I wish you and Elliott a lot of happiness together, sending love and hugs, bye for now. 🥰🤗😂💜💜💜
This is all such great advice! Congrats on the move in! :)
Moving in with my boyfriend in a few weeks, thank you for all the advice, because we sure had some debates over the furniture and decor! Also, thank you for all the healthy relationship habbits you talk about, more people should see them as a must have in a couple
YEAH! So glad Elliot is moving in!!
Loveeeee. This video. So perfectly put. Especially for someone who has not lived with someone yet before. I would have been super happy to have known all this before so my boyfriend moving in with me was more breezy.
omg you took over upstairs! thats so exciting!
So, HaPpY you finally got your bathroom vanity drawer finished. YES! AWESOME JOB!!!
Congratulations to you both! Wishing you both the best of luck ❤❤❤
Omg a good ole Portuguese blanket! You cannot go wrong with those! My mom is from Sao Miguel and we always had those around growing up 😊