Hope this one helps improve your decision-making 🧠 🦙 Want to improve your problem-solving skills even further? Start learning on Brilliant: www.brilliant.org/thomasfrank 📱 Did you know I also have a Notion tutorial channel? th-cam.com/users/ThomasFrankExplains 🖊 Quote of the week: "Find ways of staying curious and learning new things, because it's super sad to think your last day of college is the last day you are taught something new." - Kevin Systrom
@@DipMaster20 the sooner you start taking action, the sooner you start figuring out what actually works and what doesn’t. You’ll be wrong a lot but being wrong will actually allow you to progress faster in the long run
I disagree. I think sometimes it’s more important to reflect, maybe figure out the source of indecision, maybe try to understand what emotions may be behind it and perhaps tackle that. Maybe you just need rest, a break, go for a walk, make sure you’ve had enough sleep/water/exercise, check on your physical health, meditate
2 main lessons that have really helped me overcome overthinking: 1) No one can hurt you without your permission (ruminating on an insult or an embarrassing moment is like someone slapping you in the face and then you continuing to slap yourself in the face another 99 times) 2) You don't really know what the best decision is until you take action. Start then learn, don't learn then start.
1. Get over your fear. Have an experimental outlook on life. Be okay with living in a poker game, not a chess. 2. Limit your choices. It doesn't matter which TV you pick, the happiness of movie watching will be the same. 3. Prioritize your actions. Do the regret exercise. Will you regret not doing something in the future? If so, make that action your priority.
Thanks! I'm a software dev and I learned to not spend too much time trying to come up with the absolute best solution to a problem. That was always taking me the biggest portion of time for my tasks. Now if the solution isn't immediately apparent, I just start doing *something* and adjust my work on the fly. Leads to much better productivity.
Nice point. Also could be that someone wants to learn new programming language and it is extremely difficult to choose one, since there are abundance of choices and one just switches between them without actually learning any.
I’m such an overthinker! The perfect video for me, Tom! Overthinking can be avoidant/fearful behaviour - “once I do this, there’s no way back”. As you say, just doing the thing will open up many more options than we previously had and prevent lost opportunities! For so long, I felt medicine would lock me into a career, but becoming a doctor has opened up so many options. It’s a lesson I’m still learning to be honest!
Such a powerful video!! Thank you Thomas! *“Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis. It's important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.”- Robert Herjavek*
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
Take action, and make adjustments when and where needed. Making a plan can be great, but at the end of the day, the first step needs to be taken to get anywhere. Often we don't know what we don't know when planning, we only begin to figure things out when we are in the middle of things.
I disagree on the reviews. I quickly look at reviews for high quality for the price or specific things that bugged me about old televisions. Prioritize reviews by needs and high reviews to help pick one to a few out. Maybe, you like your old one better and keep it. I prefer to find a specific one that will fit for my house and life.
This requires courage, a virtue whose necessity in the banal struggles of life is easy to overlook - especially if you spend lots of time watching military history on youtube.
10:35 is the beginning of your video summary if you want to break that into a separate section. Currently it's labeled as part of "The Regret Exercise"
Dear friend, never forget to be the person you are, never change for somebody or something, be yourself, believe in your dreams, and never let someone with a smaller mind-set tell you that your dreams are too big.
Thank you Thomas, It really Helps. I am going through some tough phase in life and I can relate to your videos about analysis paralysis, Perfection and Anxiety. I struggle with them too.
I see this a LOT in burnout. Having clarity of our values/ideal lifestyle and a decision deadline has helped a lot with overthinking and going into decision fatigue. Thank you for sharing your advice Thomas!
In the wise words of Kenny Loggins, “you got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away, and know when to run. You never count your money, when you’re sittin at the table, they’ll be time enough to count them, when the dealin’s done.”
Another analogy I could give at 3:41, is that life is like a Hercule Poirot novel rather than a Sherlock Holmes one. Some pieces are in front of you, sure, but some are deliberately hidden- like Agatha Christie does.
Our brains love to create problems to illusory threats. The workbook called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels teaches so nice mindfulness exercises to slow the thinking process.
This really helps but, I have been screwed about the abundance problem. I went to study graphic design and just focused on one college that was nearby me. If I have done some research and comparisons between different colleges and institutes as well as learned more about what to look for when picking a college to go to, I would have not made the expensive choice I did. At the end I had no job, lack of some important skills, and some debt to pay off for some years. This is what I call buyers remorse and this happened to me more than once. This is why I now so what I call presearch before making bigger decisions. This means I am learning more about something eventhough I don't buy it. For example, I have a car currently but am researching which would be the next car to buy in case something happens to my current one. And when the time comes to buy one, either I will already have one picked out or I can spend less time on research, just to narrow down what I need. The abundance problem is most helpful with smaller less impactful decisions instead of ones that take lots of investment of time, energy, power, (Financing) and damage.
I was able to stop overthinking (for the most part) once stuff and my own actions moved me away from my expected path post-college. I'm still trying to reroute myself but I have multiple ways to do so. So I've been enjoying the journey by developing new skills, practicing my hobbies, and prioritizing myself and my health.
Hey YOU, beautiful person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️
The music along with your fast speech makes it a bit hard to hear/follow along. Just my observation. Personally, I’d rather just hear you with no music. 😃
Doing KonMari decluttering is supposed to improve your decision making. I never do one self-development thing at a time, so cannot say whether it helped me. Thought?
Limiting choices for me has been super helpful. Even if it's super arbitrary how I go about limiting my choice. Also realzing how many choices don't matter; what you eat for lunch today is NOT important and shouldn't use up a bunch of mental energy to decide.
Can't be better timing of a video. Just this morning i was overthinking about weather to go on a run, bike or tennis. Glad i saw this video. Also love martin's pixel art cameo.
I used to not see myself as an overthinker, I even tell my overthinker friends to relax and not worry too much. That is until I got into counselling, and I was made to realize how much I actually overthink. I hesitate a lot before asking questions, making important decisions, speaking up during discussions, making suggestions, or coming up with solutions. In the end, I just keep my mouth shut. It really affected my performance at work. These tips are so helpful, and I'll do my best to apply them. Thanks, Tom!
You learn only from your mistakes and failures. Don't let your failures weigh you down and For anyone seeing this, I believe you can achieve your goals, all you have to do is to NEVER GIVE UP. Good day
This is definitely me after a long day of work. Do I watch my favorite shows on Netflix, 9anime, play a game, read a book or just watch memes on youtube. I usually end up just watching youtube and wasting my time, only to regret it the next morning. I can't even watch my favorite shows anymore, I can't choose between them, so I end up never watching them.
I mean, your way to melt in the sponsors is par excellence. It's the smoothest move ever haha. Great video. I'm 62 and I'm enjoying learning from someone who's less than half my age. If I envy your generation on something, that'd be the connectivity of nowadays. Yes, it might add to the paralysis by too many choices and yes it adds an extra burden to nail it, but there are also more opportunities not to get stuck. The connectivity gives more knowledge about what (else) is happening in the world and it can inspire to a positive change. Of course I'll mention music. In my youth and when just starting playing the guitar, I hardly knew other musicians who played the similar style in a town nearby, I could only get to the knowledge if I saved the money to buy books, the VHS didn't come to the tuition market before I was already 25-26. So would the things have developed faster for me if there were TH-cam and Facebook for the knowledge and marketing, socializing with creatives all around the world, or would it have paralysed me with too many choices? Difficult to say. Maybe it was better to have been mostly alone on my micro part of the market and just play, play, without anybody showing me stuff, did that help to create "my" grooves in a way? Your videos on this and similar topics are helping me make better and wiser decisions on what to do with the rest of my life. I _am_ overthinking (complicating...) and I need this kind of a kick in the b.. tips to shake me and speed up the things. My main goal while my playing hands are still steady is to share the knowledge I've gathered over those 47 years of experience. That's the thing you're mentioning - if there'd be something I'd regretted not doing from my ToDo list.... You Tube makes it so easy and it's such a rewarding feeling when I realise I've saved many extra steps for someone learning. Without yours and some other great videos on this platform, It might've taken me ages to start, if I'd ever started. I'm on it now. So thank you again!
The description of the video is wrong. It says 'how to stop overthinking EVERYTHING' when actually he only talks about overthinking about decisions. Totally different. 'Everything' could also be the past, the present, what if..., etc.. But making desicions is only the near future. It's barely 1% of everything. The tips about 'how to stop overthinking about (decisions)' are okay but the description is wrong.
I am glad that this comment section are ppl who are overthinkers and as much as i thought all along that my problems were the worst that ever existed and that I was the worst person there is. I eoverthought a lot even when other ppl who wronged me and broke me, betrayed me, tinalikuran ako, some ppl made me realized that I wasn't that bad. It was just me overthinking. Exploding over the smallest mistakes. And being an enemy to myself. Being tough on myself, thinking that I should be better, even if it meant being stressed and magulo
I haven’t watched your videos for a while, but I think this one was perfect for me where I am right now. Each day I don’t feel like doing anything because I have so many choices things to do. Really great video, much appreciated!
Im an overthinker, and i think ist not a trait that needs to be stopped, but rather MANAGED. Cause its effectiveness depends upon the subject of (over)thinking.
If I bought a sub-optimal TV I would be cursing every single time I turned it on. Bar none. Waste of money, wasted experience. It's like the people who buy the 10$ earbuds in the local supermarket. You're missing out on such an experience. To me, half assing something is living half assedly. If your life is full of decisions you made without actively looking for enough information to make a (roughly) 80% confident decision; then you are incapable of justifying your life choices. And that is either going to hurt you or others down the line.
I’m glad I watched this! I always overthought how one decision can kill my life but this completely changed me! I also used to obsess buying fireworks looking hours through catalogs, but never ending up completely satisfied. I guess just going with the flow and being in the backseat can make life less stressful, being a boat in a river then trying to swim
One crucial decision , whether you are doing it intentionally or unintentionally, whether it is forced or not , is life altering , especially when relating to danger to life and limb, health , surroundings, when someone doesn't let you think by not giving you time to think and consult about something, don't do it.
An extension or maybe manifestation of the regret exercise that one of my friends taught me in college was the concept of flipping a coin if you're split between two options and then acknowledging how the result makes you feel, even if it's as simple as chicken or beef at Panda Express. Simply flip the coin and whatever the results suggests, capture your immediate reaction. Are you disappointed the coin said beef? Then go chicken. This might not work outside of either/or scenarios, but that's exactly what the regret exercise brought to mind for me. I've never really thought about asking "What would I hate the least?" when making decisions, but I think that's going to become a throughline for me going forward.
Imagine your life is like building a house. A master degrees doesn't put beams right where you would like your kitchen to be. Instead it hardens the foundation, gives you frames, tiles and doors. It's still your choice if you use it or not and where, even better, others can use parts of them to: so you help family, friends etc with your knowledge even though you don't need it-
its not really overthinking, but absorbing loads of information. you can indeed have all the data as soon as you are done receiving information. write it down like what tiago forte says so you can put it out there and you can look and analyze it. also, learn how to have downtimes. social media is okay but sometimes you have to pause it once in a while so you can think.
❗ *6 GUIDELINES FOR LIFE:* *1) When you are alone, mind your thoughts.* *2) When you are with your friends, mind your tongue.* *3) When you are angry, mind your temper.* *4) When you are with a group, mind your behaviour.* *5) When you are in trouble, mind your emotions.* *6) When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.*
We ADHD people :- now lets think about what he said, then so much thinking, over think it, if someone said this to you what would be your reply, what will you do in future blah blah..... Literally sometimes thinking becomes so much overwhelming that I just wanna sleep to take break from thinking. But I found that putting so much information from various platform like youtube, news channel, facebook, instagram, etc cause this, it's better to put less information about various things, specially not in morning. It quite feel peaceful.
Most Americans are overthinking because they are scared to lose their apartments, not being able to afford medical care when they are sick, being burdened with massive student debts or mortgage debts, not finding any work or being forced into minimum wage jobs with horrible work conditions which is not enough to live on etc. This video should be titled "how to stop overthinking if you belong to the top 20% (sorry the rest of you are screwed)"
Hope this one helps improve your decision-making 🧠
🦙 Want to improve your problem-solving skills even further? Start learning on Brilliant: www.brilliant.org/thomasfrank
📱 Did you know I also have a Notion tutorial channel? th-cam.com/users/ThomasFrankExplains
🖊 Quote of the week: "Find ways of staying curious and learning new things, because it's super sad to think your last day of college is the last day you are taught something new." - Kevin Systrom
Dude, this video is GOLD, thank you so much! It was really helpful.
Thanks for this, I find habitica helpful but I find if I have so many things I want to do in a day I find though I still get a bit lost
You're as Brilliant as always ^^
Does this also worked for choosing my future?
Got anything on how to stay motivated through tough times?
When stuck, prioritize action over everything. Action will show you the correct direction to take 100x faster than any analysis you could possibly run
what do you mean prioritize action over everything?
@@DipMaster20 the sooner you start taking action, the sooner you start figuring out what actually works and what doesn’t. You’ll be wrong a lot but being wrong will actually allow you to progress faster in the long run
@@joeykenney Thank you. I will try that.
indeed
I disagree. I think sometimes it’s more important to reflect, maybe figure out the source of indecision, maybe try to understand what emotions may be behind it and perhaps tackle that. Maybe you just need rest, a break, go for a walk, make sure you’ve had enough sleep/water/exercise, check on your physical health, meditate
2 main lessons that have really helped me overcome overthinking:
1) No one can hurt you without your permission (ruminating on an insult or an embarrassing moment is like someone slapping you in the face and then you continuing to slap yourself in the face another 99 times)
2) You don't really know what the best decision is until you take action. Start then learn, don't learn then start.
Well said. The first point really opened my eyes.
Wow, first one is a mind changing! Tks for sharing :)
@@Ascientistsjourney Glad you found it valuable!
@@mrjunimful Makes me super happy to hear, you're very welcome :)
For me the second was the best, we learn so much more by taking action
1. Get over your fear. Have an experimental outlook on life. Be okay with living in a poker game, not a chess.
2. Limit your choices. It doesn't matter which TV you pick, the happiness of movie watching will be the same.
3. Prioritize your actions. Do the regret exercise. Will you regret not doing something in the future? If so, make that action your priority.
Thanks! I'm a software dev and I learned to not spend too much time trying to come up with the absolute best solution to a problem. That was always taking me the biggest portion of time for my tasks. Now if the solution isn't immediately apparent, I just start doing *something* and adjust my work on the fly. Leads to much better productivity.
Nice point. Also could be that someone wants to learn new programming language and it is extremely difficult to choose one, since there are abundance of choices and one just switches between them without actually learning any.
I’m such an overthinker! The perfect video for me, Tom! Overthinking can be avoidant/fearful behaviour - “once I do this, there’s no way back”. As you say, just doing the thing will open up many more options than we previously had and prevent lost opportunities! For so long, I felt medicine would lock me into a career, but becoming a doctor has opened up so many options. It’s a lesson I’m still learning to be honest!
*”Perfect is the Enemy of Good” - Voltaire*
I remember Thomas mentioning that quote! I loved it!
Boris Johnson once said it as well.
@@davehall17 yikes
@@davehall17 based
Such a powerful video!! Thank you Thomas!
*“Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis. It's important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.”- Robert Herjavek*
“Everything in life is easier when you don’t concern yourself with what other people are doing”
Hope you have a good Monday 💜
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
The perfect advice right here 👆
Netflix shows often get worse tho.
@@nguyenquyen6791 wow ! True
i got rid of my televison altogether years ago. you know about the transgender thingy that going on right i mean everyone knows.
Take action, and make adjustments when and where needed. Making a plan can be great, but at the end of the day, the first step needs to be taken to get anywhere. Often we don't know what we don't know when planning, we only begin to figure things out when we are in the middle of things.
I disagree on the reviews. I quickly look at reviews for high quality for the price or specific things that bugged me about old televisions. Prioritize reviews by needs and high reviews to help pick one to a few out. Maybe, you like your old one better and keep it. I prefer to find a specific one that will fit for my house and life.
*”When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor.” - Elon Musk*
This requires courage, a virtue whose necessity in the banal struggles of life is easy to overlook - especially if you spend lots of time watching military history on youtube.
This literally got recommended to me at the PERFECT time, I overthink WAY too much :P
You must be in my head because this is the video I’ve needed the past few weeks
That's what I was looking for. Sometimes I overthink about my pencil in my class 😂
If you already know what you really want, stop thinking, stop procrastinate, stop making excuses. Just do it!
10:35 is the beginning of your video summary if you want to break that into a separate section. Currently it's labeled as part of "The Regret Exercise"
Dear friend, never forget to be the person you are, never change for somebody or something, be yourself, believe in your dreams, and never let someone with a smaller mind-set tell you that your dreams are too big.
Thank you Thomas, It really Helps. I am going through some tough phase in life and I can relate to your videos about analysis paralysis, Perfection and Anxiety. I struggle with them too.
5:30 I smile at your MTG example. I never experience decision paralysis as much as when I play Magic
I see this a LOT in burnout. Having clarity of our values/ideal lifestyle and a decision deadline has helped a lot with overthinking and going into decision fatigue. Thank you for sharing your advice Thomas!
In the wise words of Kenny Loggins, “you got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away, and know when to run. You never count your money, when you’re sittin at the table, they’ll be time enough to count them, when the dealin’s done.”
Kenny Rogers :)
@@lauraprincipato8079 lmao for some reason I want singing footloose in my head thank you :)
@@ryanrowell8860 :)
Another analogy I could give at 3:41, is that life is like a Hercule Poirot novel rather than a Sherlock Holmes one. Some pieces are in front of you, sure, but some are deliberately hidden- like Agatha Christie does.
Where was this video when I spent 4 years choosing what to do in college for 4 years!!
Our brains love to create problems to illusory threats. The workbook called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels teaches so nice mindfulness exercises to slow the thinking process.
True! And it indeed works, takes time, but that’s with everything.
I just over think the stupidest stuff or make up dumb predictions such as but what if this happened
This really helps but, I have been screwed about the abundance problem. I went to study graphic design and just focused on one college that was nearby me. If I have done some research and comparisons between different colleges and institutes as well as learned more about what to look for when picking a college to go to, I would have not made the expensive choice I did. At the end I had no job, lack of some important skills, and some debt to pay off for some years. This is what I call buyers remorse and this happened to me more than once. This is why I now so what I call presearch before making bigger decisions. This means I am learning more about something eventhough I don't buy it. For example, I have a car currently but am researching which would be the next car to buy in case something happens to my current one. And when the time comes to buy one, either I will already have one picked out or I can spend less time on research, just to narrow down what I need.
The abundance problem is most helpful with smaller less impactful decisions instead of ones that take lots of investment of time, energy, power, (Financing) and damage.
You sir are a sorcerer!! Ive been paralyzed by my overthinking lately, thanks for vid :)
Literally my biggest problem ...
Released 8 seconds ago. This is my opportunity to say first!!!! Which i never have for obvious reasons
I was able to stop overthinking (for the most part) once stuff and my own actions moved me away from my expected path post-college. I'm still trying to reroute myself but I have multiple ways to do so. So I've been enjoying the journey by developing new skills, practicing my hobbies, and prioritizing myself and my health.
Hey YOU, beautiful person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️
The music along with your fast speech makes it a bit hard to hear/follow along. Just my observation. Personally, I’d rather just hear you with no music. 😃
Just as i saw the title, i knew i needed this video so much, thx Thomass :)
Doing KonMari decluttering is supposed to improve your decision making. I never do one self-development thing at a time, so cannot say whether it helped me.
Thought?
is anyone else annoyed by the hair on his left cheek or is it just me 😆
I know a quick way to stop thinking itself.
Limiting choices for me has been super helpful. Even if it's super arbitrary how I go about limiting my choice. Also realzing how many choices don't matter; what you eat for lunch today is NOT important and shouldn't use up a bunch of mental energy to decide.
Did you partner with Mariana??
I was going to say that too..
Can't be better timing of a video. Just this morning i was overthinking about weather to go on a run, bike or tennis. Glad i saw this video.
Also love martin's pixel art cameo.
I used to not see myself as an overthinker, I even tell my overthinker friends to relax and not worry too much. That is until I got into counselling, and I was made to realize how much I actually overthink. I hesitate a lot before asking questions, making important decisions, speaking up during discussions, making suggestions, or coming up with solutions. In the end, I just keep my mouth shut. It really affected my performance at work. These tips are so helpful, and I'll do my best to apply them. Thanks, Tom!
You learn only from your mistakes and failures. Don't let your failures weigh you down and For anyone seeing this, I believe you can achieve your goals, all you have to do is to NEVER GIVE UP. Good day
Wow dude you just helped in a life changing way thanks.
The video came at the right time honestly.
if you always make the right choice, you would not be a billionaire. Unless "right" means "take advantage of others".
First!
This is definitely me after a long day of work. Do I watch my favorite shows on Netflix, 9anime, play a game, read a book or just watch memes on youtube. I usually end up just watching youtube and wasting my time, only to regret it the next morning. I can't even watch my favorite shows anymore, I can't choose between them, so I end up never watching them.
Me: Starts OVERThinking Everything.
Allah enables My brother in Humanity to post 'how to stop overthinking everything'
الحمدالله
I was just overthinking so much before you uploaded this video😅 Thank you so much Thomas, those are truly helpful advice!!!👍🏻
I've always believed that you miss on opportunities you don't take in life.
I mean, your way to melt in the sponsors is par excellence. It's the smoothest move ever haha. Great video. I'm 62 and I'm enjoying learning from someone who's less than half my age. If I envy your generation on something, that'd be the connectivity of nowadays. Yes, it might add to the paralysis by too many choices and yes it adds an extra burden to nail it, but there are also more opportunities not to get stuck. The connectivity gives more knowledge about what (else) is happening in the world and it can inspire to a positive change.
Of course I'll mention music. In my youth and when just starting playing the guitar, I hardly knew other musicians who played the similar style in a town nearby, I could only get to the knowledge if I saved the money to buy books, the VHS didn't come to the tuition market before I was already 25-26. So would the things have developed faster for me if there were TH-cam and Facebook for the knowledge and marketing, socializing with creatives all around the world, or would it have paralysed me with too many choices?
Difficult to say. Maybe it was better to have been mostly alone on my micro part of the market and just play, play, without anybody showing me stuff, did that help to create "my" grooves in a way?
Your videos on this and similar topics are helping me make better and wiser decisions on what to do with the rest of my life. I _am_ overthinking (complicating...) and I need this kind of a kick in the b.. tips to shake me and speed up the things.
My main goal while my playing hands are still steady is to share the knowledge I've gathered over those 47 years of experience. That's the thing you're mentioning - if there'd be something I'd regretted not doing from my ToDo list.... You Tube makes it so easy and it's such a rewarding feeling when I realise I've saved many extra steps for someone learning. Without yours and some other great videos on this platform, It might've taken me ages to start, if I'd ever started. I'm on it now. So thank you again!
The regret exercise makes sense! I'll definitely give it a try. Thanks a lot for this video!😊😊😊
The description of the video is wrong. It says 'how to stop overthinking EVERYTHING' when actually he only talks about overthinking about decisions.
Totally different.
'Everything' could also be the past, the present, what if..., etc..
But making desicions is only the near future. It's barely 1% of everything.
The tips about 'how to stop overthinking about (decisions)' are okay but the description is wrong.
I am glad that this comment section are ppl who are overthinkers and as much as i thought all along that my problems were the worst that ever existed and that I was the worst person there is. I eoverthought a lot even when other ppl who wronged me and broke me, betrayed me, tinalikuran ako, some ppl made me realized that I wasn't that bad. It was just me overthinking. Exploding over the smallest mistakes. And being an enemy to myself. Being tough on myself, thinking that I should be better, even if it meant being stressed and magulo
I haven’t watched your videos for a while, but I think this one was perfect for me where I am right now. Each day I don’t feel like doing anything because I have so many choices things to do. Really great video, much appreciated!
Thomas missed one key key key reason why people overthink.
ITS CONFIDENCE!!!
Sir Plz Make A Video On How to stay Motivated all the time 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Im an overthinker, and i think ist not a trait that needs to be stopped, but rather MANAGED. Cause its effectiveness depends upon the subject of (over)thinking.
If I bought a sub-optimal TV I would be cursing every single time I turned it on. Bar none.
Waste of money, wasted experience. It's like the people who buy the 10$ earbuds in the local supermarket. You're missing out on such an experience.
To me, half assing something is living half assedly. If your life is full of decisions you made without actively looking for enough information to make a (roughly) 80% confident decision; then you are incapable of justifying your life choices. And that is either going to hurt you or others down the line.
You’re going to bump your head, educate yourself continuously and just do it.
I’m glad I watched this! I always overthought how one decision can kill my life but this completely changed me! I also used to obsess buying fireworks looking hours through catalogs, but never ending up completely satisfied. I guess just going with the flow and being in the backseat can make life less stressful, being a boat in a river then trying to swim
One crucial decision , whether you are doing it intentionally or unintentionally, whether it is forced or not , is life altering , especially when relating to danger to life and limb, health , surroundings, when someone doesn't let you think by not giving you time to think and consult about something, don't do it.
An extension or maybe manifestation of the regret exercise that one of my friends taught me in college was the concept of flipping a coin if you're split between two options and then acknowledging how the result makes you feel, even if it's as simple as chicken or beef at Panda Express. Simply flip the coin and whatever the results suggests, capture your immediate reaction. Are you disappointed the coin said beef? Then go chicken. This might not work outside of either/or scenarios, but that's exactly what the regret exercise brought to mind for me. I've never really thought about asking "What would I hate the least?" when making decisions, but I think that's going to become a throughline for me going forward.
Amazing video! Thanks a lot. Just one feedback, reduce the volume of the BG music a bit, it's a tad distracting.
Imagine your life is like building a house. A master degrees doesn't put beams right where you would like your kitchen to be. Instead it hardens the foundation, gives you frames, tiles and doors. It's still your choice if you use it or not and where, even better, others can use parts of them to: so you help family, friends etc with your knowledge even though you don't need it-
Lol your talking speed has increased since the last time I watched you a year ago (I’ve watched you for years). I had to put you at x0.75 speed xD
its not really overthinking, but absorbing loads of information. you can indeed have all the data as soon as you are done receiving information. write it down like what tiago forte says so you can put it out there and you can look and analyze it. also, learn how to have downtimes. social media is okay but sometimes you have to pause it once in a while so you can think.
This video might be life changing…
there's also the fear of getting pigeon holed because you have expirience in X thingand people will want to hire you for that X thing only
*"The person who wins, is the person who wants it the most."*
This changed my life.
Ehhhhm except you won’t let him ever get to the point cuz you’ll be calling him “toxic” every step of the way..
10:09 that's kind of how I like to solve all my problems, scale it as big as I can to find the fault, then make improvements from there
Started college pre-law and eventually graduated with a social studies degree. Now I work at a bank. Oh where life takes us lol.
The TV example was awesome. Im stuck in buying a new car and im really in that position. Now im stuck having 10 options 😭😭
Aalum valaranum arivum valaranum apparently these lines don't tom
Now do a version solving for the added exponential thinking complexity of ADHD and schizoaffective and you have a subscriber 😀
❗ *6 GUIDELINES FOR LIFE:*
*1) When you are alone, mind your thoughts.*
*2) When you are with your friends, mind your tongue.*
*3) When you are angry, mind your temper.*
*4) When you are with a group, mind your behaviour.*
*5) When you are in trouble, mind your emotions.*
*6) When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.*
I understand what you trying to explain. Hope more and more better video you send us.
AS a filmmaker I constantly struggle with Overthinking hopefully this video helps.
We ADHD people :- now lets think about what he said, then so much thinking, over think it, if someone said this to you what would be your reply, what will you do in future blah blah..... Literally sometimes thinking becomes so much overwhelming that I just wanna sleep to take break from thinking. But I found that putting so much information from various platform like youtube, news channel, facebook, instagram, etc cause this, it's better to put less information about various things, specially not in morning. It quite feel peaceful.
itd be pretty cool if you had a link with the transcript to your video, so I could save it in Notion and link to your video :P
I used to love this channel when it was more geek, now it’’s all too mature. The scenario… god…
Most Americans are overthinking because they are scared to lose their apartments, not being able to afford medical care when they are sick, being burdened with massive student debts or mortgage debts, not finding any work or being forced into minimum wage jobs with horrible work conditions which is not enough to live on etc.
This video should be titled "how to stop overthinking if you belong to the top 20% (sorry the rest of you are screwed)"
Thanks for sharing Thomas :)
Huh, this is the second video in my Subscriptions list today that is over this exact topic!
Great tips really, thank you so much your videos are very helpful! 💖
Interesting video but that music… driving me crazy
The background music is quite annoying 😆
I spent at least 4 hours yesterday trying to decide which solar generator to buy.
Why Thomas's comments a spam zone of similar creators trying to fish 🥴
Am right now in overthinking area and I hated A lot of headaches I can’t sleep very well and I don’t know what I hv to do
That background music is annoying.
i am very distracted by the song in the background:)) very nice but hard to concentrate on the words
Thanks! Now I'm overthinking how to stop overthinking.
Step1 smoke less maryjane
Step 2 there’s only 1 step
I knew all this.... just here for a tune up. Overthinkers unite!!!! But not sure where or when or how...
I have always been told that the average number of major changes for college graduates is 3. Personally I changed my major 2 times.
Thomas Frank is the closest to a genius that I have in my life on video. He speaks to reality, reason and honesty. And I thought I WAS SMART...
Thank you for putting this video. I like the channel has contents covering various aspects of life. Wholistic.