The Alarming Trend of Unwearable Clothes
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.พ. 2025
- Even if the Tiktok ban only lasted a few hours, all of social media has tilted the world's personal style in a bad way. Discussing how fashion people approach personal style and how we can all get away from the endless trand cycle that serves no one.
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Havn't watched the whole video yet, but that seems to be rather a problem of how public space changed or to some degree vanished. People wearing fashion that is seemingly without the context of it being worn is only the effect of having no places or etiquette to dress up for.
Very relevant to the discussion, thank you for sharing your thoughts 💫💫
The pandemic definitely intensified this phenomenon, along with the disappearance of third places. At least in terms of personal style though, we can choose to resist that.
I think the supermarket is an excellent place to debut new clothes. It’s low-stakes, you will be carrying stuff around, so you’ll find out if it’s comfortable & practical, and if you feel like an asshole in it, at least it didn’t ruin a social occasion. I tried out a new olive green felt men’s suit at Lidl the other day. It was a great success. I really loathe the much-shared idea that you should get rid of clothes that you don’t have occasions for. If you like your clothes, rethink how you use them - or let them drag you kicking & screaming back into something like a social life.
@@hypersynesthesia Beautifully said
@@hypersynesthesiarunning errands is how I debut a style idea too. Why shouldn’t Target or Aldi get your best?
I work from home in a notoriously unfashionable tech hub. I could wear a hoodie, cargo shorts, and flops to literally every single restaurant, venue, or event here. Instead of allowing that to temper my closet, instead it sets me free. My wardrobe is disconnected from time and location, and I'll wear any outfit I like, no matter how fashion-forward, to the most mundane of errands.
As someone who wears a pair of leather opera gloves under the sleeves of her coat, I would say the impact can also be felt when removing one glove to use your phone on public transport. I feel like I'm giving away a secret, but I admit that I generally like the idea of having a slightly extravagant glove hidden away.
Yes!! That’s the way to do it 🦾
Gotta have the mousquetaire gloves that you can just unbutton when you need to ❤
Holding the one glove in the other gloved hand always makes me feel like a very big deal.
That adds a nice theatrical quality to everyday life. I like it! I feel like I'd wear those with a cape or caplet, just to keep the arms warm.
As someone who probably would love opera gloves, I think it's important to not forget that (p)leather ones are only usable if your environment suits it.
(As for phone use, I'd just be the kind of dweeb to modify the opera gloves to have at least two conductive tips per hand, especially if I had leather ones because I need fashion to still function for very basic common needs instead of making life worse and being able to take a sudden phone call effortlessly is important for my life.)
You and I are DIAMETRICALLY OPPOSED when it comes to our fashion habits. You compared men like me, who wear just anything to oatmeal. But oatmeal is far too spicy to describe my wardrobe... In college my friend pointed out, to my surprise, that all my outfits ranged from grey shirts to black shirts. Since then I've added a set of colorful graphic tees that reference a comic book series. I consider those to be my good shirts for special occasions...
However, I just wanted to tell you that I really LOVED your video. I don't know why it popped up in my feed, but I'm glad it did. I really appreciated how you presented your case without being negative. And I think you are such a good example of a man who embraces fashion, which I rarely see. Also, you gave thought provoking reasons as to why a person should bother with this.
I wanted to let you know that I'll be keeping this video in mind in the future. I'm thinking I might actually like to dress myself like an adult one day (but not consistently or often). That'll have to wait for when I'm not broke as a joke, but when that day comes I'll be thinking of this fantastic video.
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This comment made my night, thanks for taking the time to write all this out. What comic series tees did you get??
graphic tees with pop culture references are what I consider jammies or like, doing-chores clothes
so interesting how each of us will have a completely different relationship to fashion
my fashion is very mutable and goes through phases. I used to be really into silk shirts and blouses and high waisted pants; now I’m more into oversized cotton tees and low-rise pants with an unusual amount of pockets
@@BlissFoster Ha! It makes me happy that you found enjoyment in my response.
To answer your question, they are shirts from the DC Comics franchise "Green Lantern". Not sure how familiar you are with the series, but years ago they introduced a slew of other "Lantern Corps". One for each color of the rainbow, and each representing a different emotion. For instance the Blue Lantern Corps embodies Hope. I have the full set of shirts with each of the Corps' symbols, so I wear whichever one embodies my mood!
“Oatmeal is far too spicy to describe my wardrobe” 😂😂😂😂 dude that’s so good
You should consider looking at second hand stores. Oftentimes it can be a fun challenge to find items there that fit and look good without breaking the bank. I will use Pinterest or things like that to see what items pop out to me (ie "oh I'm always pinning this same style leather jacket, must be soemthing im drawn to") and then shop with the intention of finding the specific item, kind of like he mentioned early in the video. Then it becomes an interesting treasure hunt
“You’re enough of an occasion to wear nice clothes” - I couldn’t agree more. Good to see someone on the internet promoting this idea. One day couple years ago I got sick of the sweats and started dressing up while working from home. Makes me smile every time I pass by a mirror.
I asked my boyfriend to do the same thing and his job performance got better than when he wore PJs or sweatpants. Dressing nice gives you confidence even if you don’t leave the house.
I think I saw a video from "fashion elitist" about how during covid a lot of people got to experiment with clothes they would have never worn outside without the fear of being judged. This was more of an authentic way of expressing yourself because it was sort of a "I do what I want" period of time and people actually WORE THE CLOTHES. There was definitely a shift somewhere between now and then where the idea of dressing how you want shifted to a performance of how can I get as much attention in the least authentic way. Really enjoyed this one great job on the video.
It seems like we went inside wearing Lululemon leggings and came out in “FASHUN!” Not sorry about that.
I mean... after covid, the trend was: jumpsuits and pijamas. I feel like we have to put some parenthesis on that time
@cloudsofsunset7323 That's mostly the difference in social media, vs in person. Yeah, I saw a lot of people doing stuff like that and leaning more into athleisure styles, but I also saw a lot of people really embrace their own unique style and not be afraid to wear unique sweaters, fun coloured things, and a lot more vintage styles that may not be on trend currently. It goes both ways.
@@jlbeeen well, personally I am speaking from my experience in Europe. Usually, people in the south of europe, dress up and put together for the day, unlike the US. So for us it was a shock after covid, seeing people dressing up like americans. after a while, we came back to our ways.
It's the incentive to gather as much attention as possible, everyone wants to make money of off doing nothing but dressing up on the internet, posting short videos
As a leather-glove wearing fashion girl with motorcycle parents, they sell little tabs in different colors that you can attach JUST to your pointer or thumb so you can use your phone and you can typically get them matched pretty close to the glove color. You can cut them down to be mostly hidden I think.
I’m just chuckling that he thinks gloves are dying. Not out in the western US 😂. I realize NY is very important to fashion, but it doesn’t contain 60% of the US population. Sadly for the environment but happily for gloves, most of us DRIVE & can absolutely handle owning both a phone & gloves. Also I really like this guy but holy elitist nonsense. People do work outside & not all of them wear exclusively laborers-style gloves. There’s just so many reasons people need gloves and only people using public transit are unable to go 15 minutes without touching their phone. The rest of us are in traffic or use gloves when walking or working outside. Omg the very idea that he needs to do no outside work in his life is blowing my mind. Does he think frostbite cares about his phone? 😂
Yes!! I have a pair of leather gloves with the finger patches and they’re virtually invisible. I’m able to use my phone with them WAY better than the cloth versions with the finger patches. They’re not perfect but they definitely beat cold hands in the winter.
@@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory i think he meant gloves as a purely fashion item
People tend to do this when things that they believe to be true are challenged on a public platform. No one is saying gloves are unfashionable, what he’s saying is that gloves are such a practical item that dressing them up seems inauthentic to their usage. If you’re cold then put on gloves, but just because the weather dropped 2 degrees can we not post on ig your “ how to style gloves this fall” for the sake of likes.
Whats next, ear muffs? Lmao
90s goth here--really enjoyed this video. I've been feeling some kind of way about watching my subculture erode and turn into a tiktok trend. It was to be expected: the same thing happened to grunge and punk, but to experience it first-hand was different.
When I started dressing like this (at age 12 :D) you couldn't order stuff from online, which taught me to be very creative with accessorizing and thrifting, to pick up a pair of scissors and alter my clothes, dye them, style them, mix and match.
When online shopping kicked in and goth brands started popping up, at first, it felt so great that I could just *buy* everything ready-made: pre-studded leather boots and shirts with lace cuffs and gothic eyeshadow palettes, but then I started feeling less like myself. My outfits no longer carried memories or my personal touch.
Worse, I no longer feel kinship when I spot someone dressed like me, because I'm left wondering if they just got the whole outfit dropshipped to them and got their inspo from Pinterest on how to combine the items. They look too perfect, too well put together. There are no hidden details to explore.
I miss that kinship, I miss giving a little nod to a fellow goth, I mourn my fashion's connection to art (the music, the poetry, everything it used to stand for). I hope we can go back and re-explore the immense creativity of subcultures and fashion at large; of style that's cultivated throughout years and experience and experiments, not ready-made to appease an algorithm.
I totally get you. I feel the same. I never dressed for one specific sub culture because my music taste stretched from Grunge, to Punk, Goth to Metal and I kind of just combine whatever I like together. Nowadays it became much more important to me to choose my clothing very consciously and make a statement against consumerism. Like it will always be more punk to me to wear some thrifted jacket, that I handsewed manipulated metal garbage scraps to, than to buy a pre-studded jacket from EMP. It‘s more Punk to me, to buy (cheaper yet of way better quality) 2nd hand combat-boots to me, than it is to buy a pair of new Doc Martens that are designed to break down faster than they‘d have to.
i tried dressing goth as a kid but wasnt allowed anything "demonic" (religious conservative family, lol) i owned a black shirt that i had put silver studs on the sleeves and i thought that was SO goth. i dont dress like a particular subculture nowadays, but all the cheap clothing labelled "goth" on online shopping feels inauthentic.
Thank you. I found goth at age 13 and mall goth was definitely a thing. A lot of the ready made stuff was too expensive still, so i made do with a lot of black and dark color clothes along with the expensive things i did have. Worked with makeup and random odds n ends for jewelry, even if it looked terrible. I rejoiced at the idea that people in rural america could enjoy goth fashion at more affordable prices online. And with tutorials/blogs, folks could avoid the ugly phase every goth goes through. But now the counter culture isnt there like it used to be. Less recycling. Less diy. Less ethical consideration. Less....feeling. Its just buy buy buy, 'i gotta be the darkest angel here oh hang on i gotta post rq'. Its a catch 22 when you want to support peoples creative expression, I'm usually all about going for the moon. But at what cost at this point? Big corp saw a trend opportunity and boy did the internet bite, now you can be a Temu goth....goth has lost its soul and we need it back
I was never goth but I've worked at a record store for 25 years and I really miss subcultures and detest "aesthetic". Even DIY in today's age means copying something you saw online with step by step instructions!
YES! Since 12 I've been some sort of goth, into true crime, and a satanist. Back when all of that would make you lose friends. 3 decades of being me and now the internet has made me a 'trend' in far too many ways and I'm soooo uncomfortable!
Honestly, after seeing so much content based around personal style and "instagram outfits," I really didn't think there was much more to say on the topic. But not only does this video offer new perspectives, but also offers advice, and new discussion points. It's just great. Both of you really are the best fashion journalists I know. I'm so glad I found your channel, without you guys I would have never found out about E.R.D and so many other brands and their creatives. Thank you.
Hard agree
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I’d have to say E.R.D. Is my favorite brand. Their aesthetics and that everything is made in small handmade batches is just exactly everything I desire from a brand. And I would not have known about them without this channel either 😊
"water flows down" is such a perfect and simple figure of speech. it is so simple but carries so much... gravity
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It really is a deep stream of thought.
It's so good that people can get wet just from hearing it
In Finland we say: "Shit flows downhill" :)
I had a conversation with a friend last year that changed how I thought about art. We went to a gallery and initially he was really positive about the show, but after a couple minutes he came over and said that it was all bubblegum art - good for a few minutes, a good first impression, but it quickly loses it's flavour and becomes bland. And like Wow, Harsh, but like I can see it. And now when I'm making art and thinking about art I have that idea of a staying power in the back of my mind, of trying to have something that stays interesting for more then a first impression.
I have theory that different mediums have a different staying power. Here are them in decreasing order:
Paintings and artifacts/sculptures
Pictures
Music
Film
Video Games
I'd put video games and film higher in meaningfullness than music @@Loanshark753
@@Loanshark753 Not true at all. I've seen paintings that are complete drivel and played video games that changed the way I think about my life. I think we as a society treat certain forms of art with more legitimacy than others, which can go beyond the audience and into the creator- a painter is probably trying to make "real art" where a game developer is just trying to making entertainment. But in a vacuum, no form of art is necessarily more powerful.
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That game's story is a work of art, impacted my view on life and had me crying several times for different reasons from sadness to exuberant joy.
@@Loanshark753 This is such an "Unwearable Clothes" comment. You are trying far too hard to seem refined and sophisticated.
As someone who remembers the flat lay period of the fashion internet, I appreciated the privacy that came with it. Like, we have become really too comfortable with just plastering our real names, faces, and details (and details of people in our family, looking at you and judging, family vloggers) on the Internet. Having a flat lay allows you to participate without that part of it. And there's a lower barrier to entry because you don't need to be confident with showing off your body and comfortable with posing for a camera (and possibly figuring out how to take photos of your full body if you don't have someone to play photographer) in order to participate in the fashion Internet, y'know?
“Bedazzled” is my new favorite word. Thanks, Bliss!
ETA (about beater clothes): There’s this gorgeous coat I bought-tiny British brand, had to save up several months’ salary AND wait for it to go on sale just to be able to afford it. It was my dream coat. The first time I wore it, I got the back caught in my bike and ripped it three ways from Sunday all over the back hem, and I was utterly heartbroken. There was no way to seamlessly repair it or make it what it once was. My precious coat.. I could barely stand to look at it because I was SO disappointed in myself for being so careless with something I adored so much.
Then it occurred to me: We have scars once the wound heals, so why can’t our clothes? I might not be able to turn back time and keep my beloved coat in pristine condition (as the perfectionist in me would have liked), but I can add to it and make it truly mine.
I ended up using some sewing skills that picked up here and there, patching lace over the largest tears, and pinning and repinning appliqué until I was happy with the total, cohesive look of it all. The coat ended up, somehow, being even more beautiful and dear to me because of the effort I had to put in-both emotionally getting over the heartbreak, and manually sewing (mostly by hand.. because the material is delicate) the lace additions.
Now, it’s probably the garment in my wardrobe that I’m most proud of. Not because of what it cost me, but because it’s deeply personal and unique to me.
So if you’re still nervous about wearing (or damaging) your most precious clothes, please don’t be. The process of wearing them, repairing them, upcycling them, experimenting with them, creating something beyond the designer’s original scope for them-it’s all part and parcel of _owning_ them
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This genuinely made me emotional. I've been a believer of looking at clothes this way for a year or so, but it's been hard to internalize. I keep shying away from mending my clothes in any visible way, and end up disappointed that I can't see the work I put into my clothing. Your story inspired me, and I'll take it with me into my wardrobe life. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have a kimono like that was my very first one and is dear to my heart. Has stains on it that make it unwearable. But it has obijime (those decorative ties) and butterfly motifs on it and thought that I could embroider another Obijime on it statigically to cover up the biggest stain on the front to make it wearable again and no one would be the wiser. Its like wearable Kintsugi. Haven't done it yet as its quite time intensive to do so, but its on my to do list. In the meantime, wearing a Hakama (japanese style skirt) will cover up the stains and give it a taisho era look (1920's) that is popular right now.
Clothes mending is such an intimate thing. Like no, I will NOT accept that this was meant to be thrown away, I have declared it precious and so it shall be treated as such
This is lovely! And it certainly seems like more and more people are embracing this way of thinking about clothes. We need to make them last and that comes with repairing, patching, and customizing.
People have asked me how I know what "goes together" and I always tell them it's because I spent a lot of time "looking crazy". Fashion is something that takes practice and you have to know the rules to break them. I would often pick the "ugliest" thing i could find at a store and practice styling it or look at runway looks and try to recreate them with clothes I already owned. This always helped me get a feel for what silhouettes and fits worked best on me
Howdy, long time watcher. I'm a fragrance nerd and do review them here on yt, unfortunately the ones with the loudest voices in "fragcomm" have propagated the idea that overspraying is a must, and terms like BEAST MODE are common, fragrances are rated by their projection moreso than scent quality and artistry. Essentially it's the same issue as instagramming your fit where everything must be visually displayed to you, fragrance must invade the nostrils of everyone in a 5 mile radius or else it's weak. I'm trying to coin the phrase of 'Allow yourself to be discovered'. I think it makes people a LOT more interesting. Anyways great vid, regards from the land down under 🇦🇺
My biggest beef with this, as someone with an extremely sensitive nose, is that something that smells great to one person can smell awful to another person, and there is no way for you to know unless they tell you. The more expensive perfumes tend not to have this problem, but cheaper body sprays are notorious for it (looking at you, Axe.) Especially the scents that are marketed toward men. Far to many of them have notes of "mold" or "dead rotting carcass" to my nose. when used in excessive amounts. For the women, it's "rotting fruit" or a sickly sweet cloying note that is most likely to emanate from an over applied scent.
@@katarh While the wonky notes are often less of an issue with higher quality fragrances, I still prefer to underspray both because you never know who might have a respiratory issue, and because I wear them for me so I really don't need people across the room (or even just a few feet away) to smell me.
As someone with scent sensitivities I am so grateful for fragrance people who actually care about others. I have to use public transit almost daily and the sheer number of people who overuse their perfumes with vanilla notes (extremely popular in my country for some god forsaken reason) leaves me nauseous in a bus multiple times a week. Like, I wish I could go back to the times when oil based perfumes were extremely rare and feeling someone's perfume while literally just walking outdoors wasn't a thing
The times where I appreciate perfumes the most are the times where it’s barely noticeable unless you are quite close to the wearer.
It’s like a subtle invitation to come closer, rather than making me feel like I need to get as far away from you as possible to avoid a headache.
I would advise you to check out Matteo Fumagalli, I think you can translate his videos with automatic dubbing. He hmakes very intriguing content on perfumes and fragrances.
Reaching the middle of my 30's and only having a vague relationship with choosing shirts and pants that look good, but without building an eclectic style or wardrobe, this video is making me want to be more creative, bold and individual with my style choices going forward.
Thanks.
As a woman approaching my mid 30s, I've been doing this recently and it's been amazing! I highly suggest adding some creativity.
YESYESYES I SUPPORT ITS OK TO HAVE AN AWKWARF PHASE ITS FUNNN
Our surface is outside. our personality is within. Clothing can be the bridge to connect the two islands. No limits, no bans, just honesty. this is how we find each other.
i'm so glad Wisdom Kaye is getting subtly dragged by this video.
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Cute ❤
I have Reynaud syndrome and wear gloves full time the moment it drops below 60F outside. I have a large collection of pens that have a phone stylus on the end, eraser style. You can also get purpose built styluses without a pen. Highly recommend for anyone who wants to be stylish - or warm - and still be able to use their phone!
This is why I loved Samsung Note phones in the past and have a 24 ultra now with a stylus!
what you said in the end really stuck with me. I haven’t thought much about how subconsciously I do see majority of my clothing as “for this” or “for that event”. maybe I will wear all my favorite shirts more often even if I’m just taking out the trash. I am the special occasion.
That’s what I like to hear 😌
Joan Didion explained why she kept her fine china out for everyday use: "Every day is all there is."
Fun fact about elbow-length leather opera gloves from someone who wears them primarily to better maintain heat to their hands due to circulation disorder, they actually work pretty well on my phone! I don't know if it's how my gloves are treated/what kind of leather they are (they were a gift from my brother whose friend made them for me) but I can unlock my phone and even text people if need be with the gloves, although I typically opt for voice to text. Usually I'm walking outside when wearing my gloves and I really need to be aware of my surroundings. 😅
Anyways, loved this conversation and I agree that when clothes for people are being pushed by algorithms rather than lived-experience, you often get this almost disingenuous offering of clothing that is detached from its wearer and holds little context. I think that's why most of the micro trends don't stick long-enough to reach the broader culture because they were never genuinely evolving from anything except for 'how can I get x-audience's attention'.
Lucky. I tried some and nope. I ad to take the off every time I needed to use an app. Your friend has a cottage business in his future.
I'm in the same boat! My Raynauds makes my leather gloves a necessity half the year. I've found that older gloves tend to fair better with touchscreens. Whether that's because of differences in how we used to treat them or how the leather has aged, I'm not sure. But I would definitely recommend checking secondhand shops for older leather gloves the next time you need a pair that gives good insulation but is also wearable for daily life!
I have a really thin and soft pair of vintage leather gloves that work as well!
Interesting, I'm gonna try to wear leather gloves this winter. I have a circulation condition as well x(
@@kenzierenfrew1255 It depends a bit on the type of screen, you can often find gloves that are designed for operating smartphones, or just switch to a stylus.
There was a huge shift, especially during Covid, toward maximalism that was attributed to being home more often, but it makes me wonder if short form video was the real influence behind it.
I had this video go viral on TikTok where I was criticizing something, and it made me realize how much context we have in real life that we're missing when we watch creators dressing online, especially ones we don't follow. I got a lot of pushback on the way I worded my criticism on that video, and to me, it felt obvious that I didn't mean it 'in that way', but then realized they don't know that, they don't know me, they don't know my background or the nuances of my words. Similarly, when I come across a fashion video, I don't really know what their clothes mean to them. There's something special and satisfying about seeing someone wear something that feels "so them" in real life that you don't get to feel over randomly served up videos.
Then, when I tried to start an Instagram, followed by a TikTok, fashion channel, I tried to push myself to be more and more ostentatious to emulate the people who got more views and comments, and it worked, but it felt so inauthentic. Even just the format ends up pushing for a certain look. Most people will film clothing videos where you can see the whole body, but this means the clothing has to be recognizable and eye-catching on a body that takes up about 4 inches in physical space. I quit soon after, because it all started feeling very influencer-like.
Anyway, LOVED this video, made me think and evaluate a lot of things
I'm trans and struck by how similar the experience of developing a personal style is and starting to dress the opposite gender. There are items that scare you and challenge you, you worry about the comments friends and family and coworkers will say and ultimately have to find a way to ignore that, among those ways is like you said - trying things out at home by oneself until it feels natural. I remember so many evenings slowly doing makeup, setting out fit options, spending 2.5 hours getting ready for...browsing reddit, playing guitar in my room, and going to sleep. I think all of this is the discipline, the strength training, of changing ones aesthetics beyond the reflexive mold cast by our culture.
congrats on your style progress! makes me realize as a trans masc that male fashion isn't nearly as tough to get into, and i sometimes wear makeup so i know it takes practice. super impressive to me that you put so much effort into being your true self 😊
I think “sincerity” was one of the most important things you said in this video. It really is something that is missing in the copy and paste fashion formula that is being seen at the moment. I can definitely feel it and I think it shows to others when I dress in an insincere style.
middle of the vid but I really want to share this:
as an almost 40-year-old guy who had a similar journey as yours, 1 super important piece of advice: BE A CLIENT OF YOUR LOCAL TAILOR, it is game changer.
THIS. (and/or learn basic sewing proficency yourself) The ability to alter stuff that doesn't fit you perfecttly (and nothing is ever going to fit your perfectly) hugely expands your options.
Strong agree. Additionally, if someone is not in NYC, London, Paris, Milan or Tokyo, you have to be willing to try out a bunch of different tailors. tailors outside of big cities can be pretty bad at their job. It takes time to find someone you can trust. But once you find them, treat them really well. Bake them cookies occasionally, get them a simple cheap Xmas present every year etc.
"Wear stuff for you, not for other people." First time viewer here, and I feel that so hard. I have a chronic disease, and am basically house bound. I don't go out a lot. I used to have all this pretty stuff for occasions. The past few years I have been doing my stinking best to curate a closet with a lot of 'elevated' around the house clothes. Expensive pyjamas as well. Zero regrets.
If wearing for you means stained, slouchy sweatpants on a day where you're too ill to get out of bed, that's ok! If the next day you want to wear a fancy maxi dress and some big earrings while you meander about the house, that's also ok. I sometimes wear a fancy silk shirt to sit at my computer alone all day. You deserve to dress and feel how you want to, and that doesn't take an audience or a trip to a restaurant. All this to say, I like your attitude, and I hope you are doing well despite the challenges.
A couple of years ago, I picked up a pair of MM6 leather sleeves from the SSENSE store in Montreal. Yes, just sleeves. They go up to about elbow-length, and fall low on wrist.
I wear them under knit sweaters. Trench coats. T-shirts. Button up collared shirts. Sometimes I'll leave the sleeves of my knit sweaters full extended over them, and sometimes I'll fold the sleeves once over so more of the leather appears from underneath.
Anyway, I dont have a point except to say I think they're a more interesting accessory than a long glove if anyone's interested. I'm sure you can still get them. I love them sooo much.
I loooove the idea of leather sleeves under knitwear
I completely agree and this is a huge problem in the art world too. Trying to get attention on social media is skewing the type of stuff being created, and the media attention around it (think the banana) and not in a way that is advancing art
I always get accused of over-dressing, and mocked and degraded so much about it, that I've just stopped wearing my favorite clothes. All I wear now is jeans, because I'm so tired of hearing so much negativity from the people around me. It's actually soul crushing.
I wish I was allowed to care about my appearance and express myself without being treated badly for it. I wish more people cared about clothes. I wish more people were fashion people, or at least were kind about fashion.
Edit to add: stop giving me unsolicited advice. This isn't a "confidence issue", I'm plenty confident. This is a "I'm tired of arguing with strangers in public who feel the need to make weird comments about my clothes" issue. Thanks!!!!!
Edit to add an edit: THIS IS ABOUT STRANGERS GIVING ME SHIT OPINIONS AND SHIT ADVICE ABOUT MY CLOTHES!!!! NOT ABOUT MY FRIENDS!!!!!! IM VERY TIRED OF REPEATING THIS OVER AND OVER!
overdressed is a praise in disguise. it means you look too good to be there... they were probably a bit jealous!! keep dressing well!!
The problem is not your clothes. It's the people you have around you.
Before completely giving up your way of dressing, maybe you should try going to places where your style isn't degraded, such as fashion events, music festivals, art markets and galleries, exotic restaurants or cafés, clubs with a dress code or where people tend to go "overdress", etc.
Yes you need some new friends. Less judgemental. Or at least a bit more experimental.
@@nicolelee2205 i didn't say they're my friends... these are usually comments from strangers or coworkers etc
Thank you, Bliss! I just turned 70, and it’s only been a few years that I finally am wearing clothes for myself…lots of colors that I think look good on me, some men’s clothing (I’m 6 ft, 150 lbs) and comfortable shoes. I spent years dressing “for success” in the corporate world, and then became a stay-at-home mom, wearing blah t-shirts and jeans (no rocknroll, just school logos). I want to thank you for this video, and hope that younger members of your audience take heed. 🥰
Your advice of wearing clothes at home is so interesting to me because I've never even considered it. I'm a fashion person but I also live in a super hot city (Rio de Janeiro) so at home I'm always wearing the minimum amount of clothes I can get away with depending on the situation.
I guess I could try to put on some looks that I probably wouldn't wear out just because it would be too much publicly exposed skin for my personal liking.
But I'm not sure if I agree with your statement that if you're not wearing your treasured pieces at home then "it's always for other people". Like you said at the beginning of the video, clothes do often have a context to them and for me home clothes are a bit of a separate category of clothes than outside clothes. sometimes they can overlap but not always. I'm super in favor of actually wearing your clothes and not saving them for a "special occasion" that often never comes and I'm frequently slightly overdressed due to that belief (people are VERY casual in Rio) but to extend that to the home... Not very sure about that.
And also I'm very clumsy 😭 And grew up with limited means so although I do now have a bit more money to spend on fashion I do always have a slight fear of ruining clothes in the back of my mind I guess. Like recently I was gonna buy an expensive coat in off white and decided to get it in silver at the last minute because I was afraid I was gonna stain it quickly. Kinda sucks because I look amazing in white but I always get so sad when I ruin my white clothes and it always happens at some point 😭
Anyways, I'm rambling at this point but your video did give me a lot to think about, thanks!
I have a friend in Rio and I get scared every time she tells me the current temperature (not even telling us the thermic sensation!)
as someone also living in Brazil (but thankfully in a more agreeable climate), many fashion tips given by gringos unfortunately can't really be applied here all year around. Layering is the first example that comes to mind: what do you mean I have to wear more than a cotton t-shirt to create visual interest? it's 40°C outside dude
I'm also in a warm place, layering and any cloth that doesn't moisture wick it's out of the question. But since fashion is determined by new York, the stores here sell skisuits when it's 30 c outside. I'm looking into making layers with sheer fabrics because sun coverage is also important if i want to be outside at all. It just feels impossible to even think of buying something i could wear outside, look cute and not sweat to death or have my bits out for the world to see, so I gave up for most of my life. I have a sewing machine now and the time to try stuff but it's still tough.
Same in Australia @@fravs22
Yep. I love the look of layers, but have maybe a month a year where it's possible, and most of the year I wear a tanktop and boy shorts at home. Sweating unnecessarily in my clothes will not make me any fonder of them.
Even what's considered "styling" can actually be very weather & climate dependent, not to mention hair and/or makeup.
If you're spending half the year in humid heat, you can get to a point where you have to carefully consider anything you add to your body beyond the one layer of fabric you need to not get arrested for indecent exposure.
Even a belt can turn into a stripe of trapped sweat/moisture. A hat is a defense from the sun, but can your scalp and hair survive it? I've had sunglasses fog up when leaving my air-condition home. Even jewelry requires consideration.
As I've gotten older, my tolerance for being uncomfortable has significantly decreased, in inverse proportion to caring how I look. Also, being a young woman and looking a bit sweaty/dewy/flushed can look very different from when it happens when you're middle aged.
I have the opposite problem lol, all my non sweatshirt and sweatpants category clothes are warm weather clothes. I live in California, so it must be pretty often that I wear them, right? Nope! At least half of the year is too cold for me, who freezes easily for some reason (probably bad circulation). Cute skirt? Nice dress? Literally anything that isn't also loungewear in some capacity? Too bad, it's less than 16C outside and/or bad weather.
I'm coming from the opposite range of height. At 5' (or 153cm in the metric system) it was always a challenge to find clothes that not only fit properly, but also were flattering on me. At some point during the 90s I just wore grunge style and anything oversized as some form of rebellion against the current fashion status quo and not dealing with the limitations. In 2001 I went to University to study fashion design myself in Berlin. During this time very early I suddenly found product design way more interesting than the possibility to study with Vivienne Westwood, so I changed courses within the industrial design fields. I didn't regret it as it opened my senses to very thoughtful design decisions.
I still appreciate so many thoughtful designs in fashion and product design myself and the nuances it provides, but my desire to feel just beautiful in clothes as well still feels unsatisfied. I'm not sure yet how to go about this one.
Being on the opposite side of the bell curve has also driven my own style -- I wear and admire a lot of masculine, traditional, especially British menswear and I'm under 5'. All the normal off-the-rack "fixes" for short people (try the petite section, short dresses, etc.) either aren't going to work or only do so by accident (& of course everything needs to be hemmed). Trying to dress a body that breaks a number of basic assumptions has led me to have to become a "fashion person," even I didn't mean to.
Have u tried making your own clothes?
bliss you genuinely make some of the most comfortable yet thought provoking youtube discussion content especially on the fashion side of youtube. among the sea of people who just get up every few months to discuss trends and their latest pick ups im glad youre here making some of the most info dense and personal fashion content ever
Any recommendations for other fashion content creators?
I'm getting into classic goth fashion lately. DIY, thrift stuff as much as possible, layering, accessories, and comfort. It's so fun!
I like loud and colorful clothes, but I'm not a "fashion" person. I don't know why the algorithm served me this, but I'm glad it did. This was a very interesting discussion and I like the way you present. 😊
As a life long goth I cannot tell you know enough how internet clout has ruined certain subcultures. Not the girlies just experimenting but thinking you have to have brand shoes or need to never wear the same thing twice.
It is like the Gothic Lolita mindset invaded actual goth. Like when Lolita’s refused to wear the same outfit twice. To me, goths and punks thrifted, admittedly we were poor and looked down upon for thrifting in the 80s…we put outfits together out of nothing and it looked fun. I guess it is because people are photographed online a lot and cannot have the same look twice?
@ I think the influencer mindset of all new all the time to show that I can afford always having the newest trend seeped its way into other internet spaces. I understand why fast fashion is good for baby bats because subcultures can be cost prohibitive but the over consumption hurts us all in the end.
I think you landed on a great point, most people aren't taught anything about fashion or how to dress. When I first transitioned my outfits were always TRASH but I was always complimented on a few pieces because I have great ✨ taste. Learning how to put everything together and what works for my body took the better part of 4/5 years.
People fed the algorithm are always fed the next dopamine hit and I think it reinforces copying a lot. People at my university in their first year all look the same to me. It takes a long time to develop a sense of self, let alone the sense of personal style
YT recommended this to me because I watch a lot of Bernadette Banner and make my own historically inspired clothes which I find so funny and interesting. Great video!
i got into fashion in college, along with discovering queerness, and outside the box outfits were so rewarding. but as a professional now I have felt my personal style melt away into comfort and convenience. this video inspired me to really push back into self expression through fashion. thank you!
The statement that hits the mark for me is that people on social media likes to cosplay rather than wear clothes.
This video made me feel better about wearing my cool outfits at home for myself because for some reason, I've always felt like the outfit was a waste if I wear them and no one sees. Especially since I've become a SAHM, I just look at my cool outfits in the closet, wishing I could wear them but having no reason to wear them. I need to change my mindset and wear the clothes for myself. Who cares if no one sees my outfit because I feel good wearing it. This was a good video thank you
Go rock your shit 🤘
Oh my god OUTFIT GRIDS! Wow you just unlocked a core memory of mine. You're the best Bliss, keep doing what you're doing
As a previous “fashion person” who used to go to art school and dress wild, but now dresses “normie” and has a 9-5; I found this refreshing. I still love fashion content and appreciating it as art but I am bad at incorporating it into my life as much as I would like. It is possible to have very functional works of art, and they do exist. You inspired me to work a little bit to find them. Thanks :)
This is a gripe about fashion from a part of the world I'm sure you're unaware of*, but when you said "is anybody else old enough to remember outfit grids?" I knew I had to say it. I regret to inform you that as a Central Asian American who speaks Uzbek, I constantly see these from men in Uzbekistan and just, like, Central Asian men in general. Even funnier, we have our own equivalent to "great cohesion, my g" - "(ular) chiroyli tarzda mos keladi", "(they/these) go together beautifully", which then has become abbreviated to "chiroyli TMM keladi". I'm not saying we DON'T do good fashion. The resurgence of traditional chapan for men in Uzbekistan in the last 20 years means we're actually killing it more than we have been in decades. But you would never, ever know it to look at the clothing grids.
Also despite being very proud of my Uzbek heritage/Uzbek dad and loving your philosophy of "where what you want, yes, including the off-the-wall, loud, crazy things" I will admit that I do sometimes hesitate to wear my chapan. Sometimes I just don't feel like dealing with white people's inquiries and ensuing ignorance. (If one more white woman says "Uzbekistan? What's that? Is that real?" I am going to scream.)
* Unaware of in terms of fashion. I'm sure you're aware it exists, but our fashion scene is insular.
I'm not quite sure how to describe the appreciation I have for you sharing about your Scarf. Idk if you did this on purpose, but I love that when you talked about how you had to do a lot of slow consideration and problem solving, we're seeing flowers in bloom. I think that your message at the end to "Do it for you" is one that people need to apply across all their passions and honestly I think this same problem can be seen in the other artistic realms too.
From one embodiment of the universe to another, thank you for being you and I love you
As an extremely broke girl trying to get more into fashion, learning to make clothes has been huge. It’s hard to care what others will think about a piece when you’re committing to hours of sewing/knitting. Forced me to identify what I genuinely love wearing
Ahhhh I love those items that just seamlessly fit in your wardrobe, like your bag does! ❤
I feel that one a lot.
I have a taste for bright and bold colors and mandala-like patterns. And my favorite items are the ones that just finish almost every look I have.
My favorite item is a beautiful shiny multicolor kashmir shawl I got from my mother for Christmas. It fits so perfectly in my wardrobe, it's a true testimony of how well she knows me
hearing you talk about the hours spent agonizing over highly budgeted, secondhand, online purchases makes me really appreciative of something I hadn't thought of yet re: the joys (honestly) about getting into my 30s. at this point, I've also done so much of that, and have enough clothes I really like that I can functionally wear every day.
how lovely to age into a personal style that feels really true to yourself
I'm not following anything to do with fashion, I don't know this channel at all, I don't use insta or tiktok or any other social media other then yt and discord, but man, the way you explain your view and give your opinion on this topic had me invested in this video and the 40 minutes were over before I knew it. Well done, really impressed!
This may be your best video, haven’t tuned in for a while and it’s amazing to see how much y’all have grown since I first encountered the Margiela series. Keep doing what you’re doing. One of the best channels on this platform.
Great points, this video and CJtheX's analysis on how Jordan Peterson's bad suits taught them fashion - and how it's a form of social communication - both helped me so much with a lot of the vague frustration I've felt trying to grow into my own adult style in the instagram and internet age. Big thanks for all your work and putting it out here for us!
I'm on a quest to learn everything there is to know about fashion, and your content has significantly fueled my passion for the industry. Thank you - so much.
First time viewer and now subscriber here! I’m 37 and also grew up in the emo era, so I was definitely influenced by that fashion and fit wise. I’m still kind of on a journey with learning about fashion and I really enjoyed your input!
I liked the aspect of discovery. I’d never heard anyone talk about it like that before, and it makes so much sense. I like metaphors and analyzing song lyrics, and it makes it more meaningful to discover small details than to have someone basically exposition-dump on you haha
The Hermes and wool suit honestly one of the most beautiful clothing combinations I've seen. It looks so stylish yet very comfy. This is my first video I watch on you channel and I'm subscribed immediately
My mom is fashion people. I have come to understand that a lot of people are wearing clothes as costumes and not extensions of themselves. There is a confidence needed for truly expressing one's personal style earnestly. I still haven't found mine but really appreciate people like my mom that have. I can always tell when someone is wearing something b/c they actually feel good in it vs getting kudos from strangers.
Subtlety is a lost art. this video really inspired me. I'm a woman finding her style, in her matriarchal years (my style, not what I think people will like). I have had a hard time connecting with the styles I see today, and you articulated why I'm still in a style purgatory of sorts. however I am going to put a bit more care into the clothing I'm choosing, as i move out of the two toddlers years. Thanks for this man, I didn't know how much I needed the pep talk.
Wow, I just gotta say thank you for this video, really. I've been subscribed to the channel for a while now, but took a good break from watching. I then relapsed to this gem. Your personal fashion journey has given me a new perspective on not just fashion, but how true art is formed. In the past, I've sort of given up on fashion, being a pretty lanky 193cm guy wasn't much help, but this video has rekindled a fire to try once again. I guess the idea of instant gratification from social media had blinded me from the reality of building a TRUE wardrobe. This shit takes time and real dedication, a lot of channels I have seen haven't truly expressed that enough. I hope one day i'll have a collection curated and style suited for me.
I guess the good news is that the quiet luxury trend brought attention to some influencers who had understated styles.
I got into fashion around that time and they helped me build a strong foundation for personal style. Now days I don’t micromanage my outfits/wardrobe nearly as much and am quite happy with where I am. I put more energy into learning about high fashion and watching these wonderful videos :)
I LOVE your closing comment about wearing your clothes for yourself, even your best ones - it's something my mother actually always told me. Don't wait for the 'special' occasion to wear your clothes, wear them every day or whenever you feel like wearing them. It's a shame to have a gorgeous piece sitting collecting dust, instead of enjoying it every time you feel like wearing it. so so so soooo true and I try to do it every day ^_^ great video and great message! Btw. that Givenchy Pandora bag ... is on my wishlist now. It's been a LOOOOOONG time since I saw a bag (an expensive one) which is also practical and I just want to wear right now and every day!! thanks for that, too!
The way clothes fit does make a huge difference. To me, knowing the standard fit of things is like knowing any of the "rules" of art. Once you know them you can break them in a way that reads more deliberate.
SUBTLETY... thats what people need to look for and its so hard to see with a quick 3 second scroll, but its so powerful to see in real life
This is the first time I have come across your videos, and I am immediately impressed. Clear perspective, presented well, and done with kindness. I’ll certainly be watching more of your content :)
I love your fashion philosophies. Your video on what makes “quality” was wonderful. I’m currently in a deep dive of buying vintage Halston pieces (late 60s to early 80s specifically) and am planning a book to document it all. I feel like his designs reflect a lot of what you talk about in quite luxury and feeling comfortable in what you wear. Hopefully when the time comes I can get both of you to critique the book. Keep up the great work. Cheers
After finishing the video, the overall feeling is that you opened my eyes to all the annouances on fashion as hobby and self-expression that I missed from my childhood. Granted, now as college student I cannot go back to play with clothes much. But It´s lovely you touched that part in me.
This is a different kind of video than I’m normally used to watching from your channel and I absolutely loved it. This video I feel is actually having major and positive effects on how I think about my own clothes. I really enjoyed your own personal aspects and stories. I love your content but sometimes we miss out on the more personal aspects in your content as you are so focused on the art and designers. That’s not a bad thing at all but to get videos like this from time to time adds so much to your channel
you have such an amazing energy, even through a video you can just feel all of the passion that’s in this for you. Thank you very much, it’s so wholesome to see people enjoy fashion in such a not snobby just excited way
Bliss and Daniela: This is one of the most insightful and inspiring vids I have seen. Thank you for putting words to what we are all collectively experiencing -- the fact that AI and "the algorithm" are teaching US how to behave with increasing success. This applies to fashion choices, yes. But it equally applies to pretty much everything if you think about it. How we experience work (Chatbots acting as HR), how we experience going to a restaurant (is my plate or coffee intagrammable and why are there cheap, fake pink flowers strewn on that once lovely old brick wall?), the rise of immersive "art" (?) installations designed specifically for people to take photos TO attract AI, etc. Thank you for encouraging folks to return to the self. To practice self-satisfaction at home. To relearn nuance. Hell yes.
I found that social media drains my creativity moreso than inspire it. I spend more time watching others make art that i could just sit down and practice for myself.
Really great topic. The last note about wearing clothes you’re proud of at home resonated. Although I think that’s a luxury only people without children or people without many other people in their space who will judge them can indulge in. Kids tend to be messy so wearing a casual the Row or Thom Browne outfit may not be suitable unless you have household help. And if your family or roommates like to tease / joke / judge, wearing your outside of the norm outfits may do more harm than good.
People who want to dress authentically could decide to do so even with the risks but I can see why people in good faith may just choose not to.
Also - you may want to try the 90x90 Hermès scarves to wear as a tie or cravat with a pin to hold in place (less bulk). If silk is too formal, then one of the silk/cashmere blend giant triangle scarves is great too (more bulk than the 90s but less than the 140s).
Hey man, just wanted to say your videos cheer me up a lot, i love fashion and i love hearing your voice its so calming. A lot of shit happened recently where just this month my mom died, my gf broke up and i lost my job, but your videos help me get through with my love and focus so i can maybe someday too have a job or just something to do with fashion :) ty bliss
Someone who makes all their clothes told me something similar along the lines of not having "beater" clothes and it did change my relationship with how I dress. I do a lot with my hands, and paint, and have gotten paint on some pieces I would have considered "special ocassion" and honestly that feels more "me" now. My fashion tends to lean futuristic / cyberpunk / dystopian (Demobaza, Gall Labs, and Venia are some favs) and the "wear" feels like it's just part of that journey. It's been really freeing and I love when someone asks how something got worn the way it did. Love the video, as always!
I had to laugh out so loudly when you mentioned the “Outfit Grids” 😂 Did this also many Years ago. Thanks Bliss 😅
I agree with you that sincerity is the key element in building a personal style. I have come to believe most people wouldn't dress the way they do if it weren't for the social media. This is the reason why the so called "sauce" seems so elusive especially for fashion enthusiasts . Social media has really been gaslighting fashion people and it has been causing more unhappiness and loss of money. Dressing up has become more of a stress than an enjoyment.
I think people like Tuba don't try, they just be. Clothing is like a natural extension of their self and it would remain so regardless of an audience. And that is the key to personal style, a cohesive wardrobe, confidence etc. Great Video!! Lots of love and support from a fashion person from India.
Great video!! Some of the insights from this video and "when personal style isn't personal" sound very similar to insights brought up by Rene Gerard in "All Desire is a Desire for Being".
I'm a normie when it comes to fashion. These videos have made me appreciate fashion in a way that i probably never would have otherwise. I appreciate your work, thank you.
That comment about beater clothes really speaks to me. Thank you. This whole video was really inspirational.
It feels very relatable when you talk about the 'normal-er' version of fashion. Being a Doctor and a Fashion person, I have been struggling with this for a long time. I had been feeling that I am two different people with completely separate identities. I am on my journey to make both of them meet, and wear that obnoxious yellow shirt with red flowers under my apron with collars popping.
Bliss, every time I watch your videos it inspires me to know better and feed my curiosity. I believe a bit more in me and my fashion choices.Thank you for doing what you do! 🩷🤝
I would love thoughts on developing a cool personal style that is adaptable to sensory overstimulation. I’ve got some fits I love but the moment it gets too wild I start taking it all off the jewelry the makeup the form fitting clothes and bulky extras like scarves
So thoughts modularity, planning simple but interesting pieces, or anything else would be cool to be pointed towards.
Absolutely love your channel and the quality you put into each video and even your simplest outfits
Absolutely.i have sensory issues myself and personally what I do is I wear sweatpants/leggings in a neutral color ,a t shirt with a fun design of something I like or a positive message and a hoodie that’s either plain black or a cool print like tie dye .shirt,pants,hoodie that’s all I need and frankly all I can tolerate temperature wise and sensory wise.but I have fun with it 😊 you can get pretty cool designs and prints on basic clothing items.Etsy had creative patterns /designs on basic stuff like hoodies and kohls has nice designs in the juniors category.
Love the video! Personal style is so specific. It can be anything. And you mentioned Tuba! Love her, she is amazing. One of my favorite influencers with peak style.
I have a fashion instagram, and I've made a few posts where I explain that what I post pictures/videos of is only what I wear 5% of the time because I work from home, and I usually only leave the house every other day for maybe half an hour to run errands or go grocery shopping. I understand what you're saying about having a wardrobe that you can wear around the house and feel like you should be able to dress up just for yourself, but for me, it hasn't made sense to spend an hour or more putting together an outfit when most of the time I can throw a hoodie over my pajamas to get my work done (it's a habit from the pandemic, and I don't think I'm going to break it any time soon). For me, putting together an outfit is a special experimentation event, and I want to give it the time to enjoy that process.
But lately I've been feeling like I want to incorporate the fun side of wardrobe into my life more, so I've been trying to come up with more wearable outfits that I can throw on quickly to run errands or hang out in and still be comfortable while feeling more like myself. The hardest pieces to do this with are corsets. I love the style of them so much, and I have a small collection, but I can't wear them sitting down for more than a few hours, so I don't think I could do my computer job in them... even if the back support might be beneficial. Maybe I will try it 😆
this was a great video, thank you so much. from the title i actually thought it was about the clothes you order from seeing adverts on tiktok or instagram haha. I really enjoyed it even though that is not what it was about. thank you so much for this, i will be working where i wear a uniform, but now i feel more galvanized to ensure a personal style shines through, and when i'm at home and off, i can wear things that i love. it's just like having a candle that you never burn. what is the point of that candle then? it can't truly live its full purpose. looking forward to more videos!
bliss whenever i finish a video it makes me feel like i just got off a phone call with a great friend. i do not know you and you do not know me but what you are doing is important and wonderful and makes me feel so full of life and love and i appreciate you - p
Yes, exactly this! I gasped when you said it would be more impactful-100% agree! It’s those details, like extra-long opera gloves or understated drama, that truly elevate a look. I’m 42 today and, thanks to a wild California situation where we lost everything, I get the rare chance to rebuild my wardrobe from scratch. Looking forward to seeing more of your content.
I love this discussion so much. The increasing trend of clothes being for spectacle/social media, even among the general populace, has made shopping a miserable experience. It leads to more clothes that are made to look good in a photo or quick video, but are terrible quality and aren’t really wearable
WOW, I don't know how you ended up in my recommended videos, but I'm so happy and thankful that you did because this video is full of such good advice and opinions that I can get behind and let me think about my own fashion choices, Thanks!
Welcome!
8 minutes into the video I wanted to leave a comment about how Instagram affects styling. I've noticed in outfits I see other young women wearing on the street, a tendency towards silhouettes that almost feel like those paper dolls you stuck cut out clothing and accessories onto. It's hard to pinpoint what makes the outfits feel like this necessarily, but I'd say (as you pointed out) it's high contrast and legibility of silhouette and accessories. The mix and match, the mincrotrends, and the lack of nuance in these outfits. When you see them in person there's something that makes you go 'oh, this outfit was made to be an image'. I fear we're losing a lot of important styling sensibilities as this becomes commonplace. But more importantly, what it means to be a moving body carrying a garment.
@@jonstrocity If it makes them happy for a month then they throw it away, it's wasteful. Fashion should be something that makes you happy for years, even when it falls out of style.
I'm turning 44 years old this spring and I've never been, even remotely, interested in fashion. Or so I thought. I thoroughly enjoyed hearing your views towards the end of the video and I now realize that I kinda like fashion and I have my own style that I actually do care about. Thinking back I've been so worried about what others think, even though I've received tons of compliments for my old t-shirts, the t-shirts I wear because I really like them. Thanks for a great video and the confidence boost. I'll take that with me on my next shopping spree. :)
Getting dressed as an artform! YES! Bliss you are my people too!😊 Yesterday i took a shirt from the thrift store with a great crazy colored pattern and replaced all the white buttons with alternating colors. Feels so good! X
omg patrick kelly would be so proud. Repping such a fashion icon.
This is the first video I have seen by Bliss Foster. I am impressed by his sincerity and his efforts to thwart the potential of negativity that using concrete content from other creators makes possible. His insight into shorts he would like to wear more but doesn't because of the certain amount of obviousness that becomes tiresome to explain and the subdued subtlety of his favorite "purse," eliciting the compliment that rewards and validates his style and goal as a fashion influencer, both of these resonated with me as the type of creator worthy of subscribing to in an increasingly profit motivated, AI threatened, breeding ground for insincerity.
There used to be this French, dress up doll game that I was obsessed with! It was kind of similar to polymor but when you uploaded an image from your own closet, you could get an item for your digital doll to wear. It was so much fun! But I was very meticulous about the way I would take photos of my clothing and I would get banned off the dress-up doll app all the time because they thought I was using pictures that weren't mine haha. I was just passionate about clothing photography 😂.
I wish that game would come back!! I loved it
The sentiment of love your cloths and wear them was something I think I was slowly coming to on my own, but hearing you say it really cemented it. I grew up in poverty and didn’t get to really wear what I wanted until I was almost 30. It’s been a journey figuring out what I like and how to wear it. Not saving my clothes for a special occasion is huge advice, and I’m excited to start implementing that. It took me so long to finally be able to wear what I want, so I should just wear it.
the timing of this video is actually crazy for me - im one of those people you described who loved to wear super crazy outfits in college but started wearing super boring outfits for work because i didnt see any overlap between my usual style (which isnt super crazy now but is still not business casual at all lol) and what was acceptable in an office. and for the past 2 years i just kind of accepted that i look kinda like shit and very normie for work, and id hate my work outfits, but only in the past few months did i realise that there IS actually a way to create that overlap and ive been working on curating what id need for that wardrobe... the only issue now is trying to find a way to achieve that without going on a shopping spree (still working on that) but yeah wow omg im just kind of gagged that you mentioned it since it described the current me exactly
If you have older sibs, aunts/uncles, friends or even parents who will let you raid the back of their closet do that. You may find things that just need a little altering. The fabric and fabrications, even from Target, Walmart, Old Navy etc will be better if the item was made before 2005. Same goes for thrift shopping. 2005 or earlier……Happy hunting.
Incredible video. A little while back I watched a video by Mina Le about the death of personal style and her exhaustion with engaging with overly eccentric clothing, and how it had started to prevent her from actually enjoying the thing she really loved -- talking about and reviewing fashion. That video was great and made me feel at peace with the idea that I don't need to dress as crazy as I did in college in order to have a strong identity. If I never re-engaged with a bold aesthetic, then I would be okay. But THIS video, coming off of that, not only gave a great bit of context for why both her and I felt that way about clothing, but also gave me the hope and motivation TO eventually re-engage with that side of me. I feel like this is giving me back the tools I need to build back a wardrobe in a way that's exciting, but also purposeful.
This is the first video I've seen from you, and I subscribed instantly. It feels good to find a creator who can speak so well on a type of art, and why it's important, especially when so much of art on social media feels so commercial these days. Genuinely thank you.
I've been working on my personal style a lot more as I've been looking for practical and fashionable solutions to some clothing challenges. I'm trying to sew a lot more of my own stuff, and not be afraid of looking different. I really like that point about wearing your clothes and not being too protective of them. I have clothes that I don't care about that I wear in my garden, or to the gym, but I've been getting rid of a lot of stuff that I just don't feel right in and never wear. I'm trying to replace it with stuff that's comfy and practical, but also fits how I want to look and express myself.
The context you’re given has soo much value that i have to listen/watch it twice.. “water flows down” “what it is that we want?”… this is the problem that you’re viewers we’ll solve this problem as time goes by.
what you've said at the end... wear your clothes, and be picky and choosey about what you're buying. it's totally all about slowing down and choosing pieces that will last for years and years. I think people are waking up to the fact that they don't need all these things but it sure is frustrating isn't it? (and that photo in the coheed and cambria shirt gave me flashbacks to 12th & Porter parties I used to DJ in Nashville)
Great video, I always feel refreshed after watching these. Thank you for taking us all to Fashion Church and saying the things we need to hear 🙏
i love this video so much. I'm in my late 20s, but the age at which I started caring about fashion it’s been about half of my life now.
This video resonated so much with me and my feelings towards the current state of fashion, where mostly everyone’s that’s “into fashion” only prioritizes social media instead of loving the actual freaking clothes. But again, i also find repulsive seeing some comment sections full of hate or people making fun of others.
(Also, just discovered we’re both 6’2, skinny with broad shoulders, and have a positive ape index, so that’s really cool me thinks.)
But yeah, i really felt what you said about wearing what you love instead of keeping them for special occasions, because i’ve always been guilty of that, but i’m working on it. As well as trying to make most of my purchases as thoughtful and special as i possibly can, because they’re for ME.
I will be subscribing to the patron once i figure out how to use it, thank you!
I love the parting wisdom you leave us at the end! I really needed to hear that.
I assumed the video was going to be about impractical designs instead of internet fashion, but I still want to share my peeve: when a top or dress is clearly not meant to be worn with a bra, but it has no lining or padding to compensate for this.
I care little for fashion. However, I do enjoy hearing you talk about it a lot. I LOVE that you call a chrome buckle 'hardware'
Regarding 14:10, the other group of people who know about this are people with connective tissue disorders! Having a positive wingspan to height ratio is a diagnostic indicator for several connective tissue disorders, including EDS which is what I have
I was just thinking this! Bring tall and having a larger wingspan are usually called out in terms of marfanoid features related to marfan’s syndrome because marfanoid features tend to create an overall different physical appearance. I also have EDS and was first evaluated for marfans and not as many people know the wingspan is related to EDS too!
I have eds as well, and have the same thing. Longer arms and I'm only 4"11 with a short torso.
Same!!!!