WHAT TO EXPECT | Miscarriage at 8 weeks + chemical pregnancy
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- Two months ago I shared that we had a miscarriage. Despite it being a few months after the event at the time I still couldn't talk about it in depth. Through my healing I watched so many videos here of women who had experienced the same or a very similar situation. I always knew I wanted to open up about ours in more detail.
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Thank you for this video! Thank you for speaking openly about what you went through. Thank you for not making a miscarriage at 8 weeks pregnant seem like nothing happened. Wish you all the best ❤️
Sometimes there isn't an answer to Why? I've seen anorexic, drug addicted women conceive and carry multiple times. It is mostly out of our control. I hope whoever is reading this knows there truly is no personal responsibility when it comes to miscarrying. It is a tremendous loss we must grieve and then find peace.
I had 3 miscarriages before I had my daughter, followed by another miscarriage before I had my son, then another miscarriage before my youngest daughter so I empathise totally with your situation. Don’t give up because you will get there in the end! I now have a granddaughter too! Sending good vibes to you ❤
Did you ever find out why? Did you take any medication? I have a healthy daughter followed by 2 miscarriages, one with twins. I need reassurance that I'll have more babies, I want to be a mom again so badly😢❤
@@annamilenamariani3751 no I never found out why. I was very depressed before I had my first daughter but when I had her I realised that I could have a baby so just put it down to the fact that some pregnancy’s front make it. I think twins are more likely to miscarry, so don’t give up hope. You will have another baby I’m sure. It’s hard to deal with I know. Xx
@@gailhenderson7196 yes that is true. I think I could also accept that maybe we are more prone to miscarry, as long as I know in tge end I'll have my 3 children that I long for I'll take the hard road to get there. Glad you were able to come to terms with it and got your beautiful family in the end. Thankfully I just turned 30 so hopefully I'll have some time to get there ❤️ every child is a miracle. All the best to you!
@@annamilenamariani3751 I was 32 when I had my first daughter, so you have lots of time. I’m 65 now and have a 2 year old granddaughter 🙂good luck on your journey xx
@@gailhenderson7196 to you too ❤️
Laura, I was so moved by your account of such a traumatic experience. So eloquently explained you will help countless women by sharing this.
Currently going through my miscarriage at 8 weeks. My heart is broken.
I had a miscarriage 28 years ago and still cry about how I felt that day.
I miscarried my 3rd child at 21 weeks. To say I was devastated is an understatement. Part of my healing has been naming him, remembering him, and not "hiding" him. Even having a little goodbye "service" for him. Sadly miscarriages are all too common, I could write a book of all the friends and loved ones who have had them, 😢. You are doing all the right things Laura, so sorry for your loss. But just wait, once you start having babies your home will be filled to the brim with utter joy!!! 🤗
Thank you for talking about this so openly on this platform. I went through a chemical pregnancy last March and literally had no idea what it was prior to it happening. Miscarriage isn’t spoken about openly enough and I feel like it should. Talking to my family and friends about it after it happened was so therapeutic and really helped with my healing.
Also, as a fellow Type A personality, I can relate so much to you with the tracking, vitamins, pre-seed, grapefruit juice discussion. I definitely fell down the conceiving Internet rabbit hole!
I now have a healthy 3 month old baby boy and, although the journey to getting him wasn’t the easiest, I can certainly say I appreciate every moment with him and do not take even the late nights/lack of sleep for granted.
I wish you all the best on your journey. Sending you and infinite amount of love and baby dust from Canada ❤️
I thank you form the bottom of my heart. I too miscarriage. I was 33 years old. And for my disgrace, my first boyfriend was my cousin. We didn't know but he left me after weeks of him asking me about my mother's background. I travelled to Italy in Venezia, because I wanted her names to appear on the Italian passport as Enrichetta Amalia Elisabetta Maria Teressa.
Long story short, it was my daughter who in a dream showed me that she would not make it. The right side of her face was normal, but the left side of her face was deformed. But for me, she was perfect. And even if she would be born, she showed me that she would die. And that was when my body released her, after I woke up, I was in bed and the blood was brownish.
I still cry about it. Is an erasable emotion.
Sadly, I don’t have children or ever been pregnant. No medical issues, just wasn’t meant to be. However, if I were in the situation where I could be pregnant and suffering a miscarriage, I think your video would be so good to watch. Just to know what is happening, when it is happening. It must have been hard to go back over and talk it out, but to know you will be helping others by sharing your story, I hope gave you comfort.
I wish you and Ollie the very best outcome to your journey. You will make great parents. Sending lots of love to you both.
PS. I am now going to Google ‘chemical pregnancy’ as I’ve never heard that before - every day’s a school day! Take care Laura.
I have never heard of that either,let us know what you find out.
@@lauramitchell6725 Glad it’s not just me then! I did Google it. It’s a very early miscarriage that happens within five weeks of pregnancy.
@@stelladowsett7151 Any explanation for what the term “chemical” means?
@@lauramitchell6725 It didn’t really explain the term ‘chemical’ but whether it’s because the pregnancy can only be detected by a pregnancy test, not by any external clinical input like an ultrasound. The pregnancy would end so early that there would be no signs of the pregnancy that could be felt or heard. Strange term.
@@stelladowsett7151 Thanks,strange term indeed.
I understand the heartbreak of wanting to conceive a child. I was trying to have my third child and believed it was going to be as quick as my first two. But about 7 years had gone by and I guess things changed in my body. From going to being sure I had conceived to getting my period was crushing. I cried so much. I just prayed every time hoping to hold on to each pregnancy. Finally, I missed my period. I was so hopeful. I felt my body going through changes. Then, I started staining. I went to the doctor and he said I was pregnant, but I was losing the baby. He gave me vitamins because he said I am going to be losing blood. I just cried all the way home. I had already falling in love with that baby. That next day I noticed I wasn't bleeding anymore, Then the next day and the next day no bleeding. I started taking so many pregnancy test not being able to believe I was still pregnant. It took me up to the second trimester that I could really believe I didn't lose my baby. I loved your story. It was so very informative for women. I really believe it will happen for you both. You are a lovely couple who deserve it. Thank you so much for sharing!
Thank you for sharing. I’m still bleeding from a miscarriage on 3/21/24. She would have been our 4th little girl and it was the exact situation you had. We went for our first ultrasound at 8w4d but she was measuring right at 6w with a low heart rate (71 bpm). We knew she wasn’t likely to make it so we did an early gender test so we could name her. That ultrasound was on a Friday and i lost her the following Thursday. It’s now the Wednesday after that and I’m still bleeding but i has an ultrasound yesterday and my body has cleared everything out except for some blood, so that’s where we’re at. It’s such a helpless feeling because there’s absolutely nothing anyone can do to save the baby. Usually in this situation, it’s just that the baby isn’t genetically strong enough. Anyway, thank you for sharing again. I feel much led lovely knowing you had essentially the exact same thing happen. We’re hoping to try again soon for another.
Linda,
I had a miscarriage at age 39 after being told I could not have another child after the first at 21. I was so happy after having surgery for a repair caused by a coil put through the wall of my uterus. In two weeks I was pregnant and so happy all was well until I got to 12 weeks and I had just told everyone and I miscarried. The disappointment was terrible and was into hospital for a d and c . No internet then no friends in a new area and no mum. Husband felt I needed to do something and bought
Fabric for me to redo the dining room chairs. This was not the answer but getting pregant again was fantastic and just before my 40th I had my wonderful ben who is the love of my life and now he is 30 and I am 73 and I still can feel the pain. Lovetoyou
Dear Laura and Ollie, from my heart so sorry you had to go through this. You have to do do what you need for knowledge. Before you start your journey of discovery, try this…. Dive into your remodel, fill your time will activity, don’t focus on getting pregnant for awhile. Letting go will surprise you. Nine months of trying and crying then we moved. I was so busy I forgot about it for awhile. Five children later, it was the best thing I did for myself. My mother had 5 miscarriages yet 7 children. You will have a baby. Truly relax and let the mysterious beauty of new life to happen to you. Love to you both.
That was my best friend, obsessive TTC, nothing for years. Accepted for IVF, she relaxed and waited..two months later pregnant, then another baby 18m later. Sometimes I think science can hinder us in someways, a few years back you wouldn't have known you had a chemical pregnancy..you would just have been late. Information can be stressful and cause worry. Relax.
Your right. I’m 65 and we didn’t take a test till we had skipped two periods. Several times I was late and yes, who knows. I had a friend who experienced three miscarriages. I had three by then. I took my antique bed to her house. Set it up when she was out of town. I wrote a note saying it was the baby making bed. She and I had babies two months apart. It’s not scientific in body but in mind!
Laura, I have been where you are. I got married at 24 and immediately wanted a baby. I got pregnant straight away but sadly had a miscarriage at 7 weeks after a couple of months tried again and fell pregnant straight away and then went on to have my daughter. Then 2 years later we started trying for another baby and again got pregnant so easily but then miscarried at 10 weeks. We were devastated but determined so after waiting a few months tried again and again got pregnant straight away and all looked good so when we went for our 12 week scan and was told that the baby had died my heart broke into pieces. I didn’t understand why yet I knew that I could do it as I had my beautiful Chloe. My husband and I agreed to wait for a few months and then tried again and got pregnant straight away and even though I was so scared that I would miscarry again I didn’t and we had our amazing son. They are both grown adults now but watching your video it brought it all back like it was yesterday. I wanted to share my story so that you can see that although it is so painful, these things happen but not to lose hope because dreams do come true. Good luck with the testing, you and Ollie are in my thoughts xxxxx
Sending you and Ollie the warmest thoughts and prayers, Laura. Hugs and cuddles to your sweet pup too. ❤
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first and 3 more later and remember feeling so scared, heartbroken and alone. This is going to help so many women. ❤️
What a strength and grace you show through such a tough subject. I'm sure that this will help so many people going through the same thing. Praying for y'all ❤
Thank you for sharing this Laura. Praying for you
Love and hugs to you, Olli and Otto. ❤
Thank you Laura, that must have been hard and is so very generous of you to share. Your positivity is amazing, you will be the best mum ❤
You are incredible for taking so bravely and honestly about your journey. I’m so, so sorry that you are both going through this difficult time, through sharing this you will be helping lots of other couples feel like they are not alone. Sending love xx
So eloquently put. You will help so many people with this. Sending so much love to you and Ollie ❤️
Thank you sharing this and for being detailed. My ttc journey has been hard and I'm glad people feel they can share their experiences for others
So brave of you to share this, I wish you both all the best for the future. I’m sure everything will work out for you X
Thank you so much for being so honest and sharing the details
This will help so many women Laura. My heart goes out to any woman going through this. Such a vulnerable time ❤️
Thank you for sharing Laura! All the best for you and Ollie💗
I will be praying for your journey❤ Thank you for sharing this difficult experience.
Sending you love and strength - thank you for the level of detail and honesty, very brave and so informative for others ❤
Thank you for making this Laura, it takes real strength and grace to share such heartache. Sending you and Ollie all the luck and love in the world. Be patient with your body and be kind to yourself always xx
Thanks so much for making this Laura. It's clear from your level-headedness in filming that you've done a lot of processing, and it's really admirable to have the confidence and peace to share your journey. I know most days are rougher than this, but it's wonderful to see you feel positive and hopeful about the future. Rooting for your family!
Also re: documenting, I've made a couple of vlogs about having long COVID and they are so precious to me, I'm 100% sure you will treasure having captured your state of mind at this time, no matter how things progress. Sending lots of love x
I can not thank you enough for sharing much a difficult experience! Sending all the positivity your way! xxx
Thank you so much for your honesty. I really appreciate it ❤ Sending you and Ollie lots of good vibes xxx
I'm in tears. You are so brave and strong
Thank you for sharing this part of your lives with us, Laura. You’re so lovely and yes, if you feel lead to make this experience known to others, you may, indeed, help another through it. Thankfully, I never had a miscarriage. I’m a grandmother who had to google “yoke sac” and “chemical pregnancy!” Ultrasounds were not typical in the late 70’s-mid 80’s. God bless you and Ollie. 🙏♥️
Well done Laura, that was all so sad but you told it all so well and I’m sure it will help others who may be going through the same thing. I wish you well for the future.
Thank you so much for sharing this Laura, this will help so many women ❤
Laura, this is so brave of you to share this and also generous. I'm on the other side of child-bearing years but feel for you and your loss and hope that soon you will have your heart's desire. You and Ollie are such a wonderful couple and it's easy to see how much you love each other!
You are so brave to speak out and I truly believe great things are on the way for you and Ollie❤
Thank you for your bravery in sharing this deeply personal experience. Lots of love to you, Ollie & Otto x
Well done Laura and thank you for sharing. I’ve not been through this and I totally agree that having the knowledge beforehand would be an absolute gem.
I just went through this, at 10 weeks. I can't describe how much it means to have this video. Thank you
Thank you Laura for this video, it was so informative and so well delivered I have no doubt this will help a lot of women going through the same thing. I am sorry for your loss but hope is a wonderful thing and I will say prayers for you and Ollie. ❤❤❤
This is so valuable; thank you for your frankness. Wishing you guys the best of luck 🤞🏾💕
Very informative, thank you for taking the time to make this video .
It's so kind of you to share and provide information for others . I'm sure your dreams will come true.x❤
Thank you thank you thank you for doing this Laura, sending love and hugs to you both ❤
Laura, what a brave and wonderful person you are. Your generosity in sharing your journey is an absolute gift.
This was incredibly brave & selfless of you to share Laura, I can’t imagine how hard it must have all been, the fact you will help other women/couples by sharing your experience ❤, I admire you greatly & thank you. Much love x
Thank you Laura. I have found that in the midst of something traumatic and heartbreaking, facts give some small measure of control and comfort because you understand what is happening and so it's not perhaps quite so frightening. Thank you for sharing your story so thoroughly. I think it will help many going through this. I wish you well xx
Thank you for talking about this Laura ❤ I think it's so important to talk about as so many women go through it and don't have a good support system around them, so im sure being able to watch this would be really helpful ❤ I was born without a womb so have had to go through my own grieving process, we got a puppy and he helped me heal my heart too ❤ he's still helping 9 years on, we are now very happy and settled without children. Wishing you all the best on this tough journey ❤
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability in this video ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are so amazing to open up about this devastating experience and share the details no one else does.
My prayers for you and Olly as you go for testing and all the next steps. Praying for healthy, full-term pregnancies. 🙏❤🙏❤
Oh Laura I'm feeling all the emotions watching this as I've gone through exactly the same as you a few months later 😔💕 xxx
Hi Laura,so brave of you to share this.I’m sure listening to this will help a lot of people who are going through similar experiences.
It’s so heartbreaking for you both to go through this as we all take for granted that we’re going to be able to just get pregnant.
You are such a lovely couple I hope & pray that you get all the tests done and that sometime in the near future you will have a brother or sister for Otto…lots of love to you both xxx
Laura, so brave of you to share such a personal and devastating thing to have happened. There will be many women who can relate and will thank you for being so open. Wishing you and Ollie the vest best 💐🙏
Thank you for sharing your experiences. You are helping a lot of people going through the same thing. I am so sorry for your loss and wishing you the best. ❤
Just thank you for being vulnerable and speaking on something you of course do not need to. I feel for both you and Ollie and I hope you both have nothing but happiness and get that dream to come true ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for posting i dont think people realise how emotional and mentally draining trying to get pregnancy is. I am sure this video will help so many people going through it.
You are such a brave woman to share this. There will be people out there that this will help. God bless you and Ollie!!
Thanks for sharing, I am sure it will help a lot of people going trough that tough time. Glad you are feeling better now & hope you will soon see your wish granted 🙏
I’m so glad you had support from both family and friends and the early pregnancy unit. I unfortunately did not have a good experience and would never want someone else to go through that.
Thank you for this video. I recently suffered from a placenta abruption which caused my son to be still born at 32 weeks. I have spent so much time looking for women’s experiences like my own. It’s incredibly helpful to talk with other people when you are in the thick of it. I’m so sorry for your losses 💔
Very brave of you Laura... it´s great we have this information at our finger tips now... even 30 years ago, it was not talked about, talking from my own experience.. sending you massive love & respect xx🤗
My daughter has had the exact same experience it is no small thing. Very traumatic and then the IVF experience is something else in itself. What the whole experience has shown me is that women, their partner and families need emotional support, time to process and adjust. I feel like it is not appreciated just how traumatic this is for the mother. Good job for telling your experience plainly and with all the detail this will help a lot of women. Two miscarriages and 4 IVF rounds later we still have no baby and now my daughter and son in law are facing their future reality what it will look like without children. The grief the pain is real they will not get to be a mum and dad I will not get to be a grandmother so much grief and sadness. My daughter is having a break from IVF going on a holiday to Japan and then making decision on what they will do when they get back. It has been lovely to see the healing that Otto brings to you both dear little fur baby. Everyone has a different experience and I wish you and Ollie the best on your journey keep positive ❤
Thank you so much for sharing that, it’s great to have an insight into your experience and how you’re doing. I hope things continue to look up! ❤
As always, I’m touched by your grace and thoughtfulness when sharing such an emotional topic. Thank you for adding in the details, that must have been very difficult but I know it will help so many people me included. Wishing you both all the best ❤
Hi Laura, I’m so sorry you are going through this. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. This may be the most informative video I’ve ever seen on this topic! Honestly, as woman we don’t know what to except and it takes a brave heart like yours to help others and she’d some light. This is a very important video so thank you. Sending you and Ollie all the love and support. Your dream of having a baby will no doubt come true. I already know the kid will be so lucky to have you guy! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for reaching out to other women and their partners during a difficult personal time. Interdependence is much more helpful then independence when we need information as well as support. Thank you Laura and Ollie.
Thank you for talking about the nitty gritty. It is very important for people who are stuck in it or trying to recover.
I admire your openness about this. It is so hard to talk about. I am so sorry for you and Ollie.
Thank you for being so open about your experience. It makes me so sad that miscarriage isn’t talked about as if it’s a taboo subject. Thank you for the detail too. It really helps to know what happens and how it can feel physically. Thank you. I’m so sorry you have gone through this. xx
So sad to hear what you experienced and to remember these same feelings myself from 15 years ago when I had several miscarriages. Thank you for using your gift of eloquence in sharing this to help others, such a brave and kind thing to do. I still clearly remember the hours googling and needing information during and after. I have since been blessed with two children who are now 14 and 12) but you never forget your miscarriaged children no matter how early it happens in the pregnancy. Best wishes .. be kind to yourself. xx
You are amazing, Laura. You will be helping so many people navigate a truly devastating experience and that is such a kind and generous thing for you to do ❤
Bless you for your bravery speaking of your experience. It will be of so much help to others in your position. Bless you both ❤
Wow thank you so much for sharing that and being so open Laura. I really appreciate you sharing your experience in detail even if it is hard to hear. I have no children and have never been pregnant so had no idea that is what happened in that situation. I hope you find some comfort knowing your bravery is supporting and educating others. Lots of love to you, Ollie & Otto. Best of luck with your pregnancy journey. It will happen for you I just know it xxx ❤
Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking experience with everyone. Some people go through a miscarriage alone and haven’t got a clue what to expect or how to process it. You were very frank and honest and literally told people what might happen along this upsetting journey.
Speaking out may also help you process your own experience and aid with your healing.
You also gave people the opportunity to move forward on the clip and not listen to the details.
Well done you for being brave and honest. I have had 2 miscarriages so know exact how hard it is to talk about it and how painful it is.
Take care my lovely xx
❤Thanks for the testimony. Courage and strength
I really appreciated your honesty in this video. My husband and I are on our fertility journey and it’s so tough. Hoping for a happy and healthy baby for you!!
Well done Laura on sharing your sad experience 😢. Sending hugs and positive vibes to you both 🥰🥰🥰
That was so hard for you. To be honest knowledge is power. I know so much more now if I'm ever in this scenario. Thank you.
Hey Laura, you are such a lovely person, to bare all to help others whilst you're still currently on your pregnancy journey is so selfless 💖 Both you and Ollie are such and example of how we all should be. Take care both, I wish you so much joy, happiness, health and love for your future with your baby journey xxxx
All the best for you! It is very good to tell your loved ones early about pregnancies - because you get help and understanding if you miscarry. It's good to be able to share joy - and grief.
Thank you so much for including the actual details. I think for so many people part of the trauma is having no idea what other people have experienced because so much of this is taboo. This was beautifully explained and I'm so grateful
I’m so sorry this happened to you, but this video is so informative and so good, when I was pregnant I was so worried and looking for as much information about anything really and it was so limited.
Sending lots of hugs and love and happy thoughts for your future rainbow
That was very touching and brave of you to be so open about your miscarriage. I can only imagine what you went through, sounds very traumatic. To lose a baby how ever must have been hard. I hope your video will help others go through what you experienced and I hope you get some comfort from that. Don’t give up trying, it will happen when you lease expect it x
Hi Laura, I messaged you on Instagram as I had a mirror experience of your miscarriage and what is strange is that I have also had a chemical pregnancy since then too last month. Thanks again for sharing your story. Helps so much and I hope you can heal in time ❤
My heart reaches out to you. I wish you and Ollie the best; you are great supportive partners to each other and that's wonderful to see. I admire your positive attitude to this life challenge and feel you will be fine as time goes on. Otto will have a loving and lovable human brother or sister at some point in the future!
Amazing. I congratulate you on your strength and courage to share your experience and in detail, which not many do. You conduct yourself with such elegance even through tough times. My prayers, thoughts and good wishes go to you and Ollie for a much fuller home, how ever that happens.
You are such a strong and reflected woman, you have all my respect! Sending power and love to you and Olli and wish you alle the best!
Thank you so much for being this open and sharing your experience with us in such details. I am not even conceiving and anywhere near trying, but still am very interested in learning and there is so much we just don't know.
Laura, thank you thank you for the detailed information!! We got married a few weeks after you guys. TTC here too, it’s stressful but trying to not make it my all consuming personality, but I like the research and having details like this is really so helpful. I think it’s super positive you’ve been able to get pregnant. And you’re on the right track I’m sure. If not too invasive, I can’t wait for the next TTC video and eventually positive test for you (and me!) and a healthy pregnancy. Rooting for you from London x
You spoke beautifully about your experience Laura. I'm sorry it had to happen. Thank you for sharing so generously! I think Mr. Otto Paws will be a big brother in time :D
Thank you for sharing this story, it's so important to normalize things women go through regularly. 🙏 - I'm so sorry for your loss, and it's really encouraging that you guys took the calm science approach as a way to heal through it while it was happening. All the love.
You are so brave. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable and detailed story about this unbelievably difficult time in your life. I think it’s so valuable for women to talk through this, as so many more struggle with this than any of us ever realize. We went through our infertility journey during the pandemic, and it was such an isolating and lonely time…We were so fortunate despite that difficult stage and just celebrated our girls’ first birthday. Leading up to our pregnancy, though, I was deeply depressed. Having a resource like this video would have been so comforting. The best of luck to you and Ollie. I hope things work out the way you want them to, and thank you again. ❤
Thank you so much for this video! my experience was very much like your experience (though 16 years ago) This was such a great thing for you to share for others who will need to hear this inthe future.
I think all are on the same page about you being so open about the highs and lows of pregnancy and miscarriages. My heart goes out to you and Oli for sadness and also joy. Sending love from across the pond ❤
So necessary to share. Thank you so much xxx
Right there with you--miscarriaged at 8 weeks in November and still not pregnant afterwards. It's weird and painful, but sometimes okay too. Wishing you luck with testing! We're starting ours this summer too.