I've had 4 miscarriages, & battled infertility for 10 yrs before finally having my son. Now I'm 33 weeks pregnant with our 3rd child. Miracles do happen! Never lose hope! Thank you for sharing your story! There's so many people who need to hear encouraging stories!❤️🙏
Thank you Mary Joe for this. Needed to hear that. Been struggling with losses and not having a child yet. Had early losses and 2 losses at 10 weeks and recently at 12 weeks. Praying for a miracle. So happy for you.
“I felt like I lost a child.” You did mama, you did. No matter how long you held that baby in your belly, that baby existed and that baby was yours. 💜 hugs from another mama of an angel baby 👶🏼
I wish I would’ve found your video when I had my miscarriage. But when I did find it, pregnant with our now 7 month old, it was like a weight lifted off my heart. To hear a woman, a woman I looked up to, so fearless and explaining everything I felt, was so intensely...soothing? I can’t think of another word. I didn’t have to feel alone anymore, no one I knew had gone through this and to hear my emotions and feelings said by another person, even months and months after, felt so relieving. Thank you for sharing and thank you for being so open.
I love that ur willing to pray for folks .I worked in OB for years even though I never had a miscarriage or a baby for that matter...my heart broke each n every time. To look into that mothers eyes n see her pain was overwhelming to say the least..
I don't think y'all realize how much this means to all of us! Thank you is just not even big enough!! I'm so grateful for your honesty and grace. Thank you
I haven’t experienced a miscarriage thankfully but I’ve been experiencing what my OB calls secondhand infertility because I got pregnant with my 2 sons like it was nothing and now it’s been 10 years of trying and just heartbreak of not understanding what is going on. At the beginning of March we finally decided on doing IVF and we were just waiting for the VA to give the clear that they were going to cover it because it’s not cheap in the least. About 2 weeks later we got the all clear and that we were actually approved for 3 rounds of IVF. Not even 24 hours after I got the phone call that we were approved the world went to shit with covid and my doctor called and asked me had I started my shots yet and I told him no because they were being delivered by mail order because that’s how the VA does things. He told me don’t start them and put everything on hold because they had ruled the egg retrieval was an elective surgery and they would not do it under anesthesia and my OB was just livid because he said it’s not a procedure that can be done not under some type of sedation because it’s painful. It’s now September and still nothing is happening. I’m already high risk because I’m 40. It’s just a roller coaster of emotions that I never in my life thought I would have to deal with.
I have had 3 miscarriages - I know exactly what you mean by “knowing” it’s gone, even when everyone around you wants to give you hope. Thanks for sharing your story - I love your TH-cam channel!
Yes! I can relate to this so much! I miscarried this last weekend and when I started bleeding, I cried a lot because I knew things weren’t okay. Someone told me to stop jumping off emotional cliffs and to be hopeful. That made me so upset because I just knew the baby was gone! No one would believe me until the ultrasound confirmed the miscarriage. It was very upsetting!
I miscarried 5weeks ago and I was 5weeks along. So much of what you're saying Shawn is exactly the same as what I've been feeling. The heart will heal, slowly, but hearing another couple's story helps.Thank you both for sharing. I've also found a lot of healing in sharing and talking about it with people.
My very first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Our stories are very similar. All of the emotions you felt I felt. It was the most emotionally painful experience I have lived through. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️. Today is actually the due date of my angel. He or she would be 8. Many blessings to your family.
I'm so impressed that you posted this. I hope it helps many people. I had a miscarriage, with my first pregnancy, at 13 weeks. We had just told our families and friends. I now have a 24 and 25 year old.
I literally have to pause in the middle of this. I am 13 weeks pregnant with my husband... (wasn’t trying, wasn’t not trying).. I’ve been so emotional and felt alone trying to understand why I had these exact fears and emotions as a new mom/parent...to a point I didn’t even think my emotional stress would allow the baby to be healthy and make it. (Luckily we are both doing well) but I’m almost in tears hearing that I’m not alone. I’ve felt guilty anytime sharing it with my husband but I’m so glad you guys have made this podcast and shared your sensitive and happy moments. I’m sorry that this happened to you but continuing to see how strong of a couple you are and now with your beautiful Drew is such Couple freakin goals! I love you guys and your openness💞 thanks for sharing.
You guys are how I got through my very early loss. I was in a very dark place and seeing I wasn’t alone by seeing your video meant so much to me. I had no support through my loss. No doctors would see me because I was so early in my pregnancy. The facts that Dr. Goldberg shared helped me so much. Now, here I am, typing this at 26 weeks pregnant as my baby boy kicks. Thank you two for sharing your experience.
As a mother who has gone through 8 miscarriages, 1 full-term stillborn baby and 2 healthy children over the past 30 years, I can say it NEVER gets easier. But, when you share your story and experience with other people, it not only helps them, it slowly helps you heal your broken heart. After all this time, I still grieve my babies that weren’t meant to be and they will never leave my heart. But I make a daily conscious decision to focus on my marriage and my healthy children who are now happy, thriving adults. It is so important to keep an open dialogue going about these issues because we are all in this together and need as much love and support from anywhere we can get it. THANK YOU for being so open and vulnerable with your story. Much love!
My husband and I have been trying for over a year now with fertility drugs, testing, surgery, and being diagnosed with PCOS. It sucks. I appreciate you guys being so open. Please keep praying for those of us who can't get pregnant and who are trying as we pray for your family.
Thank you for being so open and honest! I have had several miscarriages as well...and I know how hard it is to talk about it!! Thanking God for my 2 rainbow babies!!
This video is EVERYTHING I went through a miscarriage in May and still trying for another. Everything you said in this video and your original I can relate to and some things haven't said out loud but I so appreciate hearing someone else say some of those darker thoughts we may have. Thank you for sharing !
Shawn ur an a amazing woman and u took courage and strength to not only get threw ur loss but to bravely talk to ur fans and viewers about ur loss. Sooo proud of you. Andrew is amazing husband and supporter for u. Thank so much for sharing ur story with us on ur miscarriage. Love alll ur podcast and sharing ur videos. Love u and ur family.
Thank y’all for talking about this. I’ve had 5 miscarriages and 3 beautiful babies. It is a hard thing to talk about and when I went through my first i didn’t know anyone that had gone through it so I felt alone. Hopefully your podcast will help other women not feel so alone in such a difficult time.
My husband and I were going through infertility for about a year and half and were told we had zero percent chance of conceiving on our own. I found out I was pregnant and we were both ecstatic. It was the highest high in my life. We told our family and friends. 4 days later I started cramping and bleeding and I just knew I was miscarrying. To go from the highest high to the lowest low is unlike anything we’ve been though. It took me 4 months to get out of a depression. It’s something no one talks about and it makes you feel so alone. If you’re going through a miscarriage or infertility, believe me when I say you’re not alone in this. I’m now 9 weeks pregnant and everyday I’m still scared but hopeful 💕
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had a miscarriage in 2015, and hearing your story has validated all those feelings I've had for years. I delivered my rainbow baby November 5th, 2019. Your pregnancy videos were hilarious and so helpful since I was just as pregnant! Please know how much your story means to everyone watching. Keep doing what you are doing!
I'm currently going through a miscarriage and it is truly such a painful experience physically and emotionally. Watching other people speak about their experience is the only thing bringing me comfort right now and I appreciate it so much.
I just went through this experience a few days ago. For the second time. First time in 2016, then I had my daughter in 2017, and now I’ve had my second miscarriage in 2020. Thank you for talking so openly about this, it has made me feel less alone during each miscarriage I’ve had❤️
Thank you for sharing your story of miscarriage! I had miscarried earlier in 2017 and watched your story as you shared it. Your thoughts echoed mine so much and helped me heal. I think one important part about these life struggles is that it teaches us how to relate to each other. That’s what your channel is for me, relatable. Thanks!
When I had this happen to me, I was so shocked by how many of my friends said it had happened to them, too. Like you said, Shawn, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but in a weird way it was somewhat comforting. It really is more common than you’d like to think, and I’m so happy for you that you had a compassionate doctor helping you through it, who appeared to understand how you would be thinking/feeling. Another shocker to me were the comments people made, which I’m sure they didn’t mean to cause hurt, and I know it’s hard to know what to say to a woman who has just gone through a pregnancy loss. I had one person say to me, “At least you lost it before it was a real baby.” (I was 8 weeks at the time of the loss) Thank you for making this video about something very personal to you with the intention of helping others who have experienced a miscarriage. You two are wonderful, caring people. ♥️ May God continue to bless you abundantly. 🥰
Thank you for being so open and sharing your journey with this. As a women having a miscarriage is more difficult then anyone could ever understand. The emotions and thoughts you go through are so rough. I lost my first baby at 9 weeks as well. I am now 18 weeks with our rainbow baby! 🌈 Thank you for being open and sharing something that no one talks about! 💕
You two are amazing. Nobody talks about their miscarriages and I know family and friends who have gone through this and could have found encouragement in a video like this. So Thank You. My husband and I had a son who was born with severe physical and mental issues. He passed away at 15 months. We went through the guilt for a time and then began to stress that you can NOT play the "woulda, shoulda, coulda" game. We needed to move forward and not dwell on the past. It took us awhile to get to this point. So I totally could relate with you Shawn when you felt guilty. God did bring us as a couple closer together and closer to the Lord because of little Charlie's life. We always tried to find something good in the difficult. Miscarriage is the loss of a child and there are stages to work through.Prayers for anybody out there who are in the middle of it.
I remember watching your video shortly after my own miscarriage.. and I felt it so deeply. I just wanted to reach out and hug you both. I am so glad you posted that video years ago because it NEEDS to be talked about.
i watched your miscarriage video after discovering your youtube channel when you had drew and i just had lost my baby very early at 5 weeks. everything you felt was just like me. i felt like i blamed me and i mightve even blamed my husband..which is soooo unfair but i just think i needed to have some sort of answer on what happened so i tried to blame everything i could to grasp what happened. sunday i was in the shower and i broke down and cried because my due date would’ve been this month and it hit me like omg what would life be like and i just needed my husband to hug me. you guys are so strong and i cried listening to this because we had just talked about our miscarriage and maybe trying again this month then you released this episode and i think it’s a sign that the future is soooo soo bright and there is hope. thank you east fam i love and admire you guys ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about this. Your miscarriage story is how I found your channel. I can relate to so many of the same emotions and feelings you felt. The “mom sense” was something I felt I had since I knew I was pregnant and I knew something was wrong when I miscarried. My miscarriage was in 2018. I definitely overshare about it but I think it’s necessary to talk about. I share about it daily in hopes to help others through their loss and know they are not alone. This may have been difficult to talk about but will touch so many people. There is definitely a lot of comfort in community. Social media has been amazing for me personally. I’ve connected with so many loss moms online who have helped me so much
omg, Andrew you made cry at the end. Such honest, heartfelt, loving words you shared with Shawn. I've watched you guys go and grow through all of this - as much as you let us see at any rate - and I truly admire you. I forget that you guys are athletes that have been in the limelight. You sharing your daily lives with us show that you are just like the rest of us. Hugs.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had my first miscarriage in 2018 and was only about 6 weeks along. My second miscarriage was a “missed miscarriage” at 12 weeks and I will never forget that moment at the doctor not finding the heartbeat. Then seeing the little baby not moving on the ultrasound broke me. It was the worst day of my life. I now have a beautiful, 8 month old baby girl who I thank God for everyday. Hearing other women’s stories really helped me get through. Your story will help more women than you even know! 🙏🏼💛
Cried my entire way through this. Me and my husband went through a miscarriage two months ago and I can relate in every way y’all have spoke about. Praying for healing and restoration and also trusting in Gods perfect plan. So glad for your happy ending and it leading to little Beautiful Drew. Love you guys.
This came just as I needed it! I had a miscarriage 1 week ago at 12 weeks pregnant! I went to the ER spotting and they were wonderful to me there but they sent me home saying good luck! When I went through the loss I was alone at home and I was so pissed that we have birthing classes before you deliver but what about what we need to know when were home going through this! We did not have a baby we had an angel❤
We went through our pregnancy knowing we would lose one of our twins. We have pushed through 20 months today, we still struggle through the valleys and celebrate the mountains we have climbed.💕🙏🏼 praying for families who have or will walk through loss.
I really love this episode. I felt (and still feel) so much of the same emotions with my own miscarriage. The guilt, the feeling of failure, and just being completely shattered. When you’re going through it, it really feels like you’re the only person when in reality it is so common. I wish it wasn’t such a taboo topic. I think it would help so many to know that miscarriage is quite common and that there’s hope on the other side of it (praying everyday). I know watching this and hearing other family’s experiences really do help. Thank you for sharing, truly.
Thank you for sharing this. I just went through my second miscarriage and this time has been a lot harder on my husband and myself. It helps me when I watch videos like this
LOVE your story! I think I've shared this with you before, but my husband and I have also had miscarriages (1 early miscarriage and 1 tubal miscarriage). Everything you are saying is completely how I felt...alone, guilt, sad and I was angry . No one ever tells us how hard it will be, and I know you are helping so many people. Long story short... We suffered through infertility before our first child, our son who is now 17 years old... And then suffered through infertility again for 7 years, went through the adoption process for 3 years and in 2015 finally adopted our daughter from birth. She is now 5 years old. I love the fact that you have talked about this publicly because people need to know that they are not alone. Thumbs up on this pod cast! LOVED it!!
Thank you for your generosity to share such a personal, and painful experience. You share to help others. It’s very emotional to read the comments from so many moms who have suffered a miscarriage. Just being able to have a space to to write the words “I had a miscarriage”, is both healing and and powerful in the fact that you are pulling back the veil of loss and guilt so many women keep to themselves. Thank you for this. I love you both❤️
Love that you shared this! We just experienced a miscarriage and it is so hard! We have struggled with secondary infertility after having 2 children naturally. It was so devastating to get the news of our 3rd baby being in heaven. It is such a hard journey to comprehend and wouldnt wish the heartache of it on anyone. God is good and everything happens in his timing. Having Faith and turning toward him is the only way ive been able to cope!
I love you both and am so glad you shared your story. I found out I was having an ectopic pregnancy in the Fall of 2017 and was googling to find comfort and your story came up. This heartbreak you guys faced is what connected us and encouraged me to start a blog to share my story and rainbow baby journey.
Going through this right now, and it's the worst possible feeling in the world. I lost it at the part where your doctor told you it wasn't your fault. Thank you for posting this when I need it the most!
Listening to this felt like watching a mirrored experience. I miscarried our first child 3 months ago. Actually when I found out I would likely miscarry, I went back and watched your video because it felt like no one understood what I was going through, and your video made me feel like what I was feeling wasn’t abnormal. My husband and I went through so much, and I didn’t realize how common it was for us both to have the feelings we did. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. It brought me comfort in a very difficult time ❤️
I was going through my 2nd miscarriage back in October and found Shawn and Andrews channel by chance. Their journey was so similar to me and my husbands, and it helped so much to have someone who can help put that process of emotions into words. It’s so real and raw. Thank you guys for sharing, you are such an inspiration for me. I’m due any day now with my rainbow baby, and I can’t believe how lucky I am to be able to heal. Anyone else going through this, you are not alone 💞 you are seen, loved and worthy. 💞
Thank you both for sharing your story. I had a miscarriage at the end of June this year. There is such power in coming together and sharing our stories with others who have walked a similar road. Love you guys!
I had a miscarriage on July 13, 2020 after 2 years of trying and our first positive test. Your journey has given me hope that we will have an earthly baby.
I have to share this. My daughter had a miscarriage around the same time and you were so helpful as her mom to understand because I've never experienced it. She has had 2 miscarriages and 2 beautiful rainbow babies 🌈👶! We honestly thought she was losing the last one. She started bleeding and the doctors said she was losing the baby. Her hcg levels were not climbing as they should. I prayed and prayed for her and for this baby. I remember telling her that until it is confirmed we will keep the faith of a mustard seed. That was the last thing I said to her before she went into the ultrasound with her husband. I didn't need to tell her that because she has the greatest faith! Our little mustard seed just turned a year old. However, those 2 losses were so hard on all of us but it was detrimental to her and still hurts her heart. She is such an amazing mom to her babies but never forgets her babies in heaven.
I can't imagine how many women/couples you have helped and given hope by sharing this. Thank you. I never experienced the loss of a Miscarriage but have friends that have.
Thank you for this Shawn & Andrew. You don't know how much I truly appreciate it. I actually started following you guys on TH-cam because of that video. I feel everything you felt and still feel it. Brought me to tears just hearing you talk about. I've had multiple miscarriages and still fighting to try to have a rainbow baby. Its extremely hard and discouraging. Not knowing what to do or what to think. The sadness and blame you feel is unexplainable. The loss is unbearable and the struggle still to have a baby is just as unbearable. The failure aspect that you indicated is exactly how I feel with my husband and myself. Also not knowing if this will ever happen for me. I constantly think if my body is damaged or if I did something over and over again to make these things happen. Always been my dream to be a mom. Thank you for not making me feel alone in this. Sending you guys love.
I can completely relate! I was pregnant with twins (a boy & a girl) and then at 22 weeks my baby girl was a still birth. I saw my identity as a “twin mom” so when she passed away I felt completely lost and scared. I’ve found talking about her loss has helped me heal and bring me some peace. Before the loss, I was also not very empathetic to others who had lost a child because it was so hard for me to relate. Now that I know the pain and emotional journey, I would never wish that kind of loss on anyone! Thank you so much for talking about this subject!
I have suffered with infertility and had to go through IVF. I was fortunate enough to get a healthy baby from the first transfer. We tried another 4 times and ended up losing 5 babies over a 12 month period. We tried once more and we now have abother baby who is 5 months old. It was a tough road to walk along but I had the support of my husband. Thankyou for talking about this "taboo" subject. There are many people out there who are suffering in silence and have no one to talk to about what they are going through or have been through.
Thank y’all so much for talking about this..I have a daughter who will be 3 in November and a son that just turned 1 in May..I suffered 3 miscarriages and to this day my husband and I still haven’t really talked about those...btw Shawn was always my idol growing up!
I have had four miscarriages. The feelings are always the same, but the hope from other women's experiences are always the same too❤ Thank you, as always, for sharing real life.
I have been with you since the beginning and when you had a miscarriage I related with you I myself had 2 miscarriages, and recently in October 2019 I saw my son and daughter in law have a still birth seeing my son go through that broke me it was the hardest thing to ever to see. My son is my baby and I have in total 4 precious children I'm a grandma and great grandma, love you guys!!!
As a longtime viewer, I cried watching this video because I could feel your pain even from behind my laptop. But then I smiled because I see how perfect your family is with Drew--even her name, Drew Hazel, fits her so perfectly--and I can't remember a time on the channel without her. A little girl who looks just like her daddy and has her mama's sass. You both are so uplifting and I just wanted to say that I'm so glad God is in the business of healing hurts and making all things new. Love you guys and your little fam.
I pray for you often and your healing process. I enjoy getting to know you both on this platform, and I'm grateful for you guys being so willing to share your story.
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experience and journey- I have been praying for and following you two since the beginning. I found your miscarriage video when my husband and I found out we had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in January. After the initial shock and pain of finding out (not that it ever stops hurting, the pain just feels somewhat lighter some days) and when I was able to reach out to people and talk about my experience, I was shocked to hear and find out how many other women experienced miscarriages. I wouldn't wish it on anyone in the entire world but to know that there are women who have gone through something similar makes it feel less isolating. Seeing your beautiful family now- you, Andrew and Drew, gives me hope that my husband and I will be able to get pregnant and have a successful pregnancy in the future. Thank you both for being brave and sharing your story, you have no idea how many people you have helped and are going to help in the future❤️❤️
Very open sharing. Thank you. I had a miscarriage between my two live births and it was difficult but, I think the impact is different depending on pregnancy order. Already having one healthy toddler spared me some of the fear that I might not have another baby. I believed I’d get pregnant again and my doctor was very encouraging. I share this because miscarrying with your first pregnancy has to be more traumatic and similar to what Shawn was feeling. It’s hard to imagine the pain that couples have when they miscarry several times in a row. God bless their hurting hearts.
Thank you so much for sharing this very difficult personal experience 😢. I went through the same thing recently, and the emotions you speak of are spot on. Women like us do not feel so alone now-thanks to you. ❤️
Our first pregnancy ended in an ectopic pregnancy. I had been documenting me taking pregnancy tests and complied a few videos to share our story on my TH-cam channel. Sharing this information helped me tremendously and hearing from others made me feel not alone ❤️
I remember watching this back then and though I felt sympathy you can never understand this until you’ve been through it. Now going through mine I come back to this and it helps to not feel alone. ❤
I had to miscarriages one in 2008 and one in 2010.that was so hard to deal with we cry a lot and prayed a lot..thank god our family was there for us. We are blessed to have our wildman who 10 years old..
I had a full term stillbirth in 2018 and a miscarriage in 2019. Your story has been an inspiration to me, I was pregnant with my rainbow baby when you were pregnant with drew and it gave me so much hope!
You both continue to exude such strength when sharing your experience. I appreciate you brining light to a subject that is not often talked about and opening a space to form a community to lift up other couples and women that have experienced miscarriage, as well. You do have two children- one you spend your days with now and one you will reunite with in Heaven when the time comes. You have been wonderful parents to both.
I had a miscarriage 3 years ago. It was the most terrifying experience. I knew I was pregnant for one week and then the baby ‘went away’. I kept saying the baby ‘went away’. You will never go through finding out your pregnant for the first time ever again. It was bittersweet but now we have an 15 month old daughter and I wouldn’t change a thing. Much love to you guys. Pregnancy and parenthood is literally the most wonderful thing there is. 💜
Shawn I think you are amazing that you shared this. It is just so hard to go through. I have had 3 miscarriages. I do wish more would share this. I got through mine because of talking with other ladies that have gone through it. Love you guys.
I had a miscarriage in 2016, my ex had left me as soon as we found out and did not want anything to do with me or our child, therefore i was alone. The pain is indescribable and I am sorry you had to go through this. My doctor never told me I had a cyst on my ovary, I had no clue what happened but he never comforted me and told me nothing was my fault. Just this year I was on my online portal and i went back and read about that doctor appointment and it said I had an ovary... I believe that caused it. Also, God was showing me to get out of my situation and I needed to go through this to open my eyes. :) Thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I've been following for a couple years now and you bring so much kindness and just sensibility to us all. I am 33 years old and was diagnosed with PCOS a couple years ago. I was told its pretty much impossible for me to create eggs to have a child. I understand what you say when you feel like your whole entire life, that is your purpose. Being a mother is something I have always thought I was meant for and something that would without a doubt happen. I love seeing your videos of Drew and your happiness as parents. Y'all are beautiful! Thank you ❤
Andrew - I wish you did not get cut from any of the teams but especially the Chiefs! Heartbreaking watching you at the Super Bowl. God had a different plan for you. I know it must hurt. I am sorry. Shawn and Andrew - Thank you for discussing your miscarriage. You have a special baby in heaven. Praying for you and all people who mourn their children.
I don’t know if you all will read this, but I just want to say: Thank You. I started following you all last year, or year before last when you posted the video about your 20 week ultrasound. I had actually had some similar news about something going on with the umbilical cord with my baby, I was about a month ahead of you. My baby ended up being diagnosed IUGR, which is a growth restriction that comes with aaaaaaall sorts of complications leading up to stillbirth, or none at all. Every week we got closer to 37 weeks, was a good week. I ended up having to go to a high risk doc, and it was a hard hard hard pregnancy. My faith in our sovereign God is what got me through the anxiety of this very unsure pregnancy and, your videos. And when I came to find out you had a miscarriage, 1. I was heartbroken for you but 2. I completely related on a whole other level, as in that same year I had had a miscarriage at 5 weeks. Everything you said is exactly what helped me get through, but the guilt is so real. And the guilt about feeling sad at losing a baby so early is real. I felt I could not grieve, I grieved with my husband and I cried out to the Lord. But everyone else I felt was just kinda like... “you were only 5 weeks” That was pretty devastating. But the Lord patched me back up together and we had our rainbow baby, she’ll be 10 months on the 15th. Thanks if you got this far. You all have a special place in my heart. God bless you and your beautiful family.
I grew up thinking miscarriages were normal because my mom had several. What I didn’t know was the emotional wound it was, because I was young when it was happening to her. We lost our first son 15 days after birth. When that happened my parents found out for the first time that some long time friends of theirs had lost a child. The “not talked about” with both is often because there’s not a “good” entry into a conversation to share those things. My kids know it happens because we’ve talked about it, it’s part of our family story. But many of my casual friends don’t because there’s not an occasion to talk about it. For me, there wasn’t a guilty feeling, more a feeling of “will we be able to have healthy children”, and a sadness of not having that child because we were wanting a/more child(ren).
Even women that are trying to get pregnant get that panicking feeling once or is confirmed. We ask ourselves the same questions so crying in the shower for an hour I’d say is normal! Thanks for sharing your story
I had a miscarriage at 19, we were really young and we had a lot of people who tried to make it better by telling me “maybe it was for the best since you are so young” I know exactly what fear you’re talking about, it’s so scary the first time you ever find out you’re pregnant..this was 6 almost 7 years ago now that I miscarried and still August 8th (the day I finally miscarried) and February 18th (due date) are so hard for me. I’m very very thankful and happy to say today I do have a beautiful 5 year old and a handsome 2 year old. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I had a full term stillbirth two years ago and I still can't really talk about it. The pain I feel is so dark that some days it feels debilitating. I had always heard about miscarriages and stillbirth but never thought it would happen to me. My stillbirth was unexplained.
I had at age 19 miscarried twins at 11 wks. Jan.18th, 1991. I remember being in the hospital Garth Brooks was doing a concert on TV and the song "The Dance" came on and I remember being in the hospital with the worst cramps EVER crying to that song ......" I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end , the way it all would go....our lives are better left to chance I could've missed the pain but I'd have had to miss....the dance". My husband and I danced the night we found out we were pregnant and 3 weeks later I misscarried. We never talked about it I knew no one who had misscarried. But a yr later on Jan 9 I found out I was pregnant with my first son then 16 months later my daughter was born on Jan 9th the day I found out I was pregnant with Scott after Sarah Joey was born on New year's Eve and in 1998 on Nov 3rd I had twins. Now I have 5 grown children and 4 grandchildren out first granddaughter was stillborn at 40wks..... But we still include her as if she were here..... The ache or longing for what was taken you always miss that baby I would had them on Aug 16 and every year I tell them happy birthday they would be 29 this year. Love you guys thank you for sharing your story I wish we had social media in 91. This really would have helped me heal 🥰
I just went through a miscarriage , i went to the emergency room alone one night in severe pain , bleeding , going from being very cold to sweating badly and was throwing up non stop. I went there in fear of the baby i tried so hard to stop throwing up because i thought at least keep what i ate down for the baby but it wasnt working out for me. I took a shower before i left an passed out in the bathtub an had a huge bruise on my knee from falling. I went to the hospital in complete fear this was my first baby an i am only 22 but i was so ready!! When i first went i was told i had a cyst an was put on antibiotics but everyone but the dr. told me do not take those turned out we had a chemical pregnancy ... I was born one pound an i developed crohns disease which was very active an i had a bad episode due to the pregnancy but i couldnt get it to stop i tried. Its a battle within myself an its extremely frustrating. Went days not eating sometimes because i didnt want to wake up sick in the morning due to my sickness nothing worked an killed me even more knowing this was part of the reason i lost my little one. It hurt having to tell my love ones im no longer pregnant meanwhile my brothers all have had kids first try. At first i felt so defeated as well It hurts but i will never give up. I will forever cherish the little changes i had an the happiness the pregnancy gave me. My hcg levels were dropping an that's when in my heart i kinda knew but didnt want to believe it. God is good and i will get my little one when my time is right i truly hope. I thought it was my fault because my boyfriend has a daughter already so i felt less of a women in a way but someone close to me talk to me an this is common an its not my fault. I will try again once i get the okay from my dr. Fingers crossed🤞☺ 🌈
your original video about this is how I found your channel...I was going through a rough pregnancy as well...I had placenta previa and accreta and ended up having a hysterectomy but I have a beautiful baby boy whose about to turn 1 tomorrow! So looking forward to his bday party this weekend! looking forward to part II I hope it;s soon!
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I look forward to part II. Another video I would be interested in is how you prepped your body for pregnancy for Drew as I am currently trying to do that 🙂🙂
I have followed your journey from my home in Ireland I love your openness of the ups/downs. I can't have kid's but I have a loving family. You should both read Rosanna Davidson story of becoming a parent 😍
You both are so comforting to each other, and that doesn’t come often. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability in this and always having a positive out look-even when the going gets tough. ❤️
It really is almost a taboo topic. I think because no one knows what to say to you when they learn that you've had a miscarriage. It's such a personal, heartbreaking time and a lot of times don't know how to manage your own emotions. It's soul crushing and no matter how many times someone says it's not your fault, that's the first place most women's mind's go. It was devastating and I had a hard time even talking to my husband about it. Father's feel that loss as well and again aren't given the same opportunity to mourn because they're supposed to be "the strong one's"! Every word you said is true.. you feel the life and you feel the loss. It was so beautiful how Andrew reached out for you as if to comfort you again. Thank you for your courage, strength and grace to tell your story. And you have the MOST AMAZING BEAUTIFUL RAINBOW BABY!! in Drew. Y'all are fantastic. Thank you again
Would love to hear y’alls csection experience..my water broke at 34 weeks with my first and she was breech with my second no one had time to make it not even his dad I went to the doctor for a check up (an hour and a half away from my house) and they said this baby is coming NOW and took me back for a csection
I've had 4 miscarriages, & battled infertility for 10 yrs before finally having my son. Now I'm 33 weeks pregnant with our 3rd child. Miracles do happen! Never lose hope! Thank you for sharing your story! There's so many people who need to hear encouraging stories!❤️🙏
Congratulations!!! We’re so happy for you!
Thank you Mary Joe for this. Needed to hear that. Been struggling with losses and not having a child yet. Had early losses and 2 losses at 10 weeks and recently at 12 weeks. Praying for a miracle. So happy for you.
“I felt like I lost a child.” You did mama, you did. No matter how long you held that baby in your belly, that baby existed and that baby was yours. 💜 hugs from another mama of an angel baby 👶🏼
I felt that
I love how Andrew holds her hand every time.
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I wish I would’ve found your video when I had my miscarriage. But when I did find it, pregnant with our now 7 month old, it was like a weight lifted off my heart. To hear a woman, a woman I looked up to, so fearless and explaining everything I felt, was so intensely...soothing? I can’t think of another word. I didn’t have to feel alone anymore, no one I knew had gone through this and to hear my emotions and feelings said by another person, even months and months after, felt so relieving. Thank you for sharing and thank you for being so open.
I love that ur willing to pray for folks .I worked in OB for years even though I never had a miscarriage or a baby for that matter...my heart broke each n every time. To look into that mothers eyes n see her pain was overwhelming to say the least..
I don't think y'all realize how much this means to all of us! Thank you is just not even big enough!! I'm so grateful for your honesty and grace. Thank you
Carrie Wright we are honored to do it
I haven’t experienced a miscarriage thankfully but I’ve been experiencing what my OB calls secondhand infertility because I got pregnant with my 2 sons like it was nothing and now it’s been 10 years of trying and just heartbreak of not understanding what is going on. At the beginning of March we finally decided on doing IVF and we were just waiting for the VA to give the clear that they were going to cover it because it’s not cheap in the least. About 2 weeks later we got the all clear and that we were actually approved for 3 rounds of IVF. Not even 24 hours after I got the phone call that we were approved the world went to shit with covid and my doctor called and asked me had I started my shots yet and I told him no because they were being delivered by mail order because that’s how the VA does things. He told me don’t start them and put everything on hold because they had ruled the egg retrieval was an elective surgery and they would not do it under anesthesia and my OB was just livid because he said it’s not a procedure that can be done not under some type of sedation because it’s painful. It’s now September and still nothing is happening. I’m already high risk because I’m 40. It’s just a roller coaster of emotions that I never in my life thought I would have to deal with.
I have had 3 miscarriages - I know exactly what you mean by “knowing” it’s gone, even when everyone around you wants to give you hope. Thanks for sharing your story - I love your TH-cam channel!
Yes! I can relate to this so much! I miscarried this last weekend and when I started bleeding, I cried a lot because I knew things weren’t okay. Someone told me to stop jumping off emotional cliffs and to be hopeful. That made me so upset because I just knew the baby was gone! No one would believe me until the ultrasound confirmed the miscarriage. It was very upsetting!
I miscarried 5weeks ago and I was 5weeks along. So much of what you're saying Shawn is exactly the same as what I've been feeling. The heart will heal, slowly, but hearing another couple's story helps.Thank you both for sharing. I've also found a lot of healing in sharing and talking about it with people.
My very first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Our stories are very similar. All of the emotions you felt I felt. It was the most emotionally painful experience I have lived through. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️. Today is actually the due date of my angel. He or she would be 8. Many blessings to your family.
Just had my miscarriage on July 7th of this year. Thanks for sharing your story. We can all get through this and get our rainbow baby 💛💛
I'm so impressed that you posted this. I hope it helps many people. I had a miscarriage, with my first pregnancy, at 13 weeks. We had just told our families and friends. I now have a 24 and 25 year old.
I've been following yalls journey from the very beginning and I love how transparent you guys have been about everything!
I literally have to pause in the middle of this. I am 13 weeks pregnant with my husband... (wasn’t trying, wasn’t not trying).. I’ve been so emotional and felt alone trying to understand why I had these exact fears and emotions as a new mom/parent...to a point I didn’t even think my emotional stress would allow the baby to be healthy and make it. (Luckily we are both doing well) but I’m almost in tears hearing that I’m not alone. I’ve felt guilty anytime sharing it with my husband but I’m so glad you guys have made this podcast and shared your sensitive and happy moments. I’m sorry that this happened to you but continuing to see how strong of a couple you are and now with your beautiful Drew is such Couple freakin goals! I love you guys and your openness💞 thanks for sharing.
Sending each of you strong women in the comments love and hope. You are all strong and beautiful 😚😍😍
You guys are how I got through my very early loss. I was in a very dark place and seeing I wasn’t alone by seeing your video meant so much to me. I had no support through my loss. No doctors would see me because I was so early in my pregnancy. The facts that Dr. Goldberg shared helped me so much. Now, here I am, typing this at 26 weeks pregnant as my baby boy kicks. Thank you two for sharing your experience.
As a mother who has gone through 8 miscarriages, 1 full-term stillborn baby and 2 healthy children over the past 30 years, I can say it NEVER gets easier. But, when you share your story and experience with other people, it not only helps them, it slowly helps you heal your broken heart. After all this time, I still grieve my babies that weren’t meant to be and they will never leave my heart. But I make a daily conscious decision to focus on my marriage and my healthy children who are now happy, thriving adults. It is so important to keep an open dialogue going about these issues because we are all in this together and need as much love and support from anywhere we can get it. THANK YOU for being so open and vulnerable with your story. Much love!
My husband and I have been trying for over a year now with fertility drugs, testing, surgery, and being diagnosed with PCOS. It sucks. I appreciate you guys being so open. Please keep praying for those of us who can't get pregnant and who are trying as we pray for your family.
Thank you for being so open and honest! I have had several miscarriages as well...and I know how hard it is to talk about it!! Thanking God for my 2 rainbow babies!!
This video is EVERYTHING I went through a miscarriage in May and still trying for another. Everything you said in this video and your original I can relate to and some things haven't said out loud but I so appreciate hearing someone else say some of those darker thoughts we may have. Thank you for sharing !
Shawn ur an a amazing woman and u took courage and strength to not only get threw ur loss but to bravely talk to ur fans and viewers about ur loss. Sooo proud of you. Andrew is amazing husband and supporter for u. Thank so much for sharing ur story with us on ur miscarriage. Love alll ur podcast and sharing ur videos. Love u and ur family.
Literally 5 Minutes in and I’m bawling. Having a. Rough time. Just the words you in praying for you. Thank you.
Thank y’all for talking about this. I’ve had 5 miscarriages and 3 beautiful babies. It is a hard thing to talk about and when I went through my first i didn’t know anyone that had gone through it so I felt alone. Hopefully your podcast will help other women not feel so alone in such a difficult time.
My husband and I were going through infertility for about a year and half and were told we had zero percent chance of conceiving on our own. I found out I was pregnant and we were both ecstatic. It was the highest high in my life. We told our family and friends. 4 days later I started cramping and bleeding and I just knew I was miscarrying. To go from the highest high to the lowest low is unlike anything we’ve been though. It took me 4 months to get out of a depression. It’s something no one talks about and it makes you feel so alone. If you’re going through a miscarriage or infertility, believe me when I say you’re not alone in this. I’m now 9 weeks pregnant and everyday I’m still scared but hopeful 💕
We’re so excited for this new pregnancy! We’re celebrating and praying for you
Thank you Jennifer for sharing. Gives me hope... Praying for you and your baby. So happy for you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had a miscarriage in 2015, and hearing your story has validated all those feelings I've had for years. I delivered my rainbow baby November 5th, 2019. Your pregnancy videos were hilarious and so helpful since I was just as pregnant! Please know how much your story means to everyone watching. Keep doing what you are doing!
I'm currently going through a miscarriage and it is truly such a painful experience physically and emotionally. Watching other people speak about their experience is the only thing bringing me comfort right now and I appreciate it so much.
I just went through this experience a few days ago. For the second time. First time in 2016, then I had my daughter in 2017, and now I’ve had my second miscarriage in 2020. Thank you for talking so openly about this, it has made me feel less alone during each miscarriage I’ve had❤️
Thank you for sharing your story of miscarriage! I had miscarried earlier in 2017 and watched your story as you shared it. Your thoughts echoed mine so much and helped me heal. I think one important part about these life struggles is that it teaches us how to relate to each other. That’s what your channel is for me, relatable. Thanks!
When I had this happen to me, I was so shocked by how many of my friends said it had happened to them, too. Like you said, Shawn, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but in a weird way it was somewhat comforting. It really is more common than you’d like to think, and I’m so happy for you that you had a compassionate doctor helping you through it, who appeared to understand how you would be thinking/feeling. Another shocker to me were the comments people made, which I’m sure they didn’t mean to cause hurt, and I know it’s hard to know what to say to a woman who has just gone through a pregnancy loss. I had one person say to me, “At least you lost it before it was a real baby.” (I was 8 weeks at the time of the loss) Thank you for making this video about something very personal to you with the intention of helping others who have experienced a miscarriage. You two are wonderful, caring people. ♥️ May God continue to bless you abundantly. 🥰
Thank you for being so open and sharing your journey with this. As a women having a miscarriage is more difficult then anyone could ever understand. The emotions and thoughts you go through are so rough. I lost my first baby at 9 weeks as well. I am now 18 weeks with our rainbow baby! 🌈
Thank you for being open and sharing something that no one talks about! 💕
You two are amazing. Nobody talks about their miscarriages and I know family and friends who have gone through this and could have found encouragement in a video like this. So Thank You. My husband and I had a son who was born with severe physical and mental issues. He passed away at 15 months. We went through the guilt for a time and then began to stress that you can NOT play the "woulda, shoulda, coulda" game. We needed to move forward and not dwell on the past. It took us awhile to get to this point. So I totally could relate with you Shawn when you felt guilty. God did bring us as a couple closer together and closer to the Lord because of little Charlie's life. We always tried to find something good in the difficult. Miscarriage is the loss of a child and there are stages to work through.Prayers for anybody out there who are in the middle of it.
Tears were shed listening and having been thru this. Heart hurts
I remember watching your video shortly after my own miscarriage.. and I felt it so deeply. I just wanted to reach out and hug you both. I am so glad you posted that video years ago because it NEEDS to be talked about.
i watched your miscarriage video after discovering your youtube channel when you had drew and i just had lost my baby very early at 5 weeks. everything you felt was just like me. i felt like i blamed me and i mightve even blamed my husband..which is soooo unfair but i just think i needed to have some sort of answer on what happened so i tried to blame everything i could to grasp what happened. sunday i was in the shower and i broke down and cried because my due date would’ve been this month and it hit me like omg what would life be like and i just needed my husband to hug me. you guys are so strong and i cried listening to this because we had just talked about our miscarriage and maybe trying again this month then you released this episode and i think it’s a sign that the future is soooo soo bright and there is hope. thank you east fam i love and admire you guys ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about this. Your miscarriage story is how I found your channel. I can relate to so many of the same emotions and feelings you felt. The “mom sense” was something I felt I had since I knew I was pregnant and I knew something was wrong when I miscarried. My miscarriage was in 2018. I definitely overshare about it but I think it’s necessary to talk about. I share about it daily in hopes to help others through their loss and know they are not alone. This may have been difficult to talk about but will touch so many people. There is definitely a lot of comfort in community. Social media has been amazing for me personally. I’ve connected with so many loss moms online who have helped me so much
omg, Andrew you made cry at the end. Such honest, heartfelt, loving words you shared with Shawn. I've watched you guys go and grow through all of this - as much as you let us see at any rate - and I truly admire you. I forget that you guys are athletes that have been in the limelight. You sharing your daily lives with us show that you are just like the rest of us. Hugs.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had my first miscarriage in 2018 and was only about 6 weeks along. My second miscarriage was a “missed miscarriage” at 12 weeks and I will never forget that moment at the doctor not finding the heartbeat. Then seeing the little baby not moving on the ultrasound broke me. It was the worst day of my life. I now have a beautiful, 8 month old baby girl who I thank God for everyday. Hearing other women’s stories really helped me get through. Your story will help more women than you even know! 🙏🏼💛
Cried my entire way through this. Me and my husband went through a miscarriage two months ago and I can relate in every way y’all have spoke about. Praying for healing and restoration and also trusting in Gods perfect plan. So glad for your happy ending and it leading to little Beautiful Drew. Love you guys.
This came just as I needed it! I had a miscarriage 1 week ago at 12 weeks pregnant! I went to the ER spotting and they were wonderful to me there but they sent me home saying good luck! When I went through the loss I was alone at home and I was so pissed that we have birthing classes before you deliver but what about what we need to know when were home going through this! We did not have a baby we had an angel❤
We went through our pregnancy knowing we would lose one of our twins. We have pushed through 20 months today, we still struggle through the valleys and celebrate the mountains we have climbed.💕🙏🏼 praying for families who have or will walk through loss.
I wanted to thank Shawn and Andrew and everyone else that have shared your stories ❤🙏. All of you are incredible!
I really love this episode. I felt (and still feel) so much of the same emotions with my own miscarriage. The guilt, the feeling of failure, and just being completely shattered. When you’re going through it, it really feels like you’re the only person when in reality it is so common. I wish it wasn’t such a taboo topic. I think it would help so many to know that miscarriage is quite common and that there’s hope on the other side of it (praying everyday). I know watching this and hearing other family’s experiences really do help. Thank you for sharing, truly.
Thank you for sharing this. I just went through my second miscarriage and this time has been a lot harder on my husband and myself. It helps me when I watch videos like this
LOVE your story! I think I've shared this with you before, but my husband and I have also had miscarriages (1 early miscarriage and 1 tubal miscarriage). Everything you are saying is completely how I felt...alone, guilt, sad and I was angry . No one ever tells us how hard it will be, and I know you are helping so many people. Long story short... We suffered through infertility before our first child, our son who is now 17 years old... And then suffered through infertility again for 7 years, went through the adoption process for 3 years and in 2015 finally adopted our daughter from birth. She is now 5 years old. I love the fact that you have talked about this publicly because people need to know that they are not alone. Thumbs up on this pod cast! LOVED it!!
Thank you for your generosity to share such a personal, and painful experience. You share to help others. It’s very emotional to read the comments from so many moms who have suffered a miscarriage. Just being able to have a space to to write the words “I had a miscarriage”, is both healing and and powerful in the fact that you are pulling back the veil of loss and guilt so many women keep to themselves. Thank you for this. I love you both❤️
Love that you shared this! We just experienced a miscarriage and it is so hard! We have struggled with secondary infertility after having 2 children naturally. It was so devastating to get the news of our 3rd baby being in heaven. It is such a hard journey to comprehend and wouldnt wish the heartache of it on anyone. God is good and everything happens in his timing. Having Faith and turning toward him is the only way ive been able to cope!
I love you both and am so glad you shared your story. I found out I was having an ectopic pregnancy in the Fall of 2017 and was googling to find comfort and your story came up. This heartbreak you guys faced is what connected us and encouraged me to start a blog to share my story and rainbow baby journey.
Going through this right now, and it's the worst possible feeling in the world. I lost it at the part where your doctor told you it wasn't your fault. Thank you for posting this when I need it the most!
I've had two miscarriages in 2020. Watching you both share your story gave me the best gift - HOPE. Thank you for that.
Listening to this felt like watching a mirrored experience. I miscarried our first child 3 months ago. Actually when I found out I would likely miscarry, I went back and watched your video because it felt like no one understood what I was going through, and your video made me feel like what I was feeling wasn’t abnormal. My husband and I went through so much, and I didn’t realize how common it was for us both to have the feelings we did. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. It brought me comfort in a very difficult time ❤️
I was going through my 2nd miscarriage back in October and found Shawn and Andrews channel by chance. Their journey was so similar to me and my husbands, and it helped so much to have someone who can help put that process of emotions into words. It’s so real and raw. Thank you guys for sharing, you are such an inspiration for me. I’m due any day now with my rainbow baby, and I can’t believe how lucky I am to be able to heal. Anyone else going through this, you are not alone 💞 you are seen, loved and worthy. 💞
I have been through this 💔 It brings such complicated emotions, but it needs to be discussed. Thanks for helping to bring this topic up. ❤️
Thank you both for sharing your story. I had a miscarriage at the end of June this year. There is such power in coming together and sharing our stories with others who have walked a similar road. Love you guys!
Thank you for posting about this.
I have had 9 losses and we are now currently foster parents and hoping for an adoption match one day.
I had a miscarriage on July 13, 2020 after 2 years of trying and our first positive test. Your journey has given me hope that we will have an earthly baby.
I love how transparent y'all are. I love you and thank you for sharing your life ❤
I have to share this. My daughter had a miscarriage around the same time and you were so helpful as her mom to understand because I've never experienced it. She has had 2 miscarriages and 2 beautiful rainbow babies 🌈👶! We honestly thought she was losing the last one. She started bleeding and the doctors said she was losing the baby. Her hcg levels were not climbing as they should. I prayed and prayed for her and for this baby. I remember telling her that until it is confirmed we will keep the faith of a mustard seed. That was the last thing I said to her before she went into the ultrasound with her husband. I didn't need to tell her that because she has the greatest faith! Our little mustard seed just turned a year old. However, those 2 losses were so hard on all of us but it was detrimental to her and still hurts her heart. She is such an amazing mom to her babies but never forgets her babies in heaven.
I can't imagine how many women/couples you have helped and given hope by sharing this. Thank you. I never experienced the loss of a Miscarriage but have friends that have.
I remember watching the video. It was heartbreaking then and now.
Thank you for this Shawn & Andrew. You don't know how much I truly appreciate it. I actually started following you guys on TH-cam because of that video. I feel everything you felt and still feel it. Brought me to tears just hearing you talk about. I've had multiple miscarriages and still fighting to try to have a rainbow baby. Its extremely hard and discouraging. Not knowing what to do or what to think. The sadness and blame you feel is unexplainable. The loss is unbearable and the struggle still to have a baby is just as unbearable. The failure aspect that you indicated is exactly how I feel with my husband and myself. Also not knowing if this will ever happen for me. I constantly think if my body is damaged or if I did something over and over again to make these things happen. Always been my dream to be a mom. Thank you for not making me feel alone in this. Sending you guys love.
I can completely relate! I was pregnant with twins (a boy & a girl) and then at 22 weeks my baby girl was a still birth. I saw my identity as a “twin mom” so when she passed away I felt completely lost and scared. I’ve found talking about her loss has helped me heal and bring me some peace. Before the loss, I was also not very empathetic to others who had lost a child because it was so hard for me to relate. Now that I know the pain and emotional journey, I would never wish that kind of loss on anyone! Thank you so much for talking about this subject!
I have suffered with infertility and had to go through IVF. I was fortunate enough to get a healthy baby from the first transfer. We tried another 4 times and ended up losing 5 babies over a 12 month period. We tried once more and we now have abother baby who is 5 months old. It was a tough road to walk along but I had the support of my husband. Thankyou for talking about this "taboo" subject. There are many people out there who are suffering in silence and have no one to talk to about what they are going through or have been through.
Thank y’all so much for talking about this..I have a daughter who will be 3 in November and a son that just turned 1 in May..I suffered 3 miscarriages and to this day my husband and I still haven’t really talked about those...btw Shawn was always my idol growing up!
Love y'all, you keep it real and I love coming along for your journey
Thank you for coming along this journey with us!
I have had four miscarriages. The feelings are always the same, but the hope from other women's experiences are always the same too❤ Thank you, as always, for sharing real life.
I love how open and transparent you both are! ❤️
I have been with you since the beginning and when you had a miscarriage I related with you I myself had 2 miscarriages, and recently in October 2019 I saw my son and daughter in law have a still birth seeing my son go through that broke me it was the hardest thing to ever to see. My son is my baby and I have in total 4 precious children I'm a grandma and great grandma, love you guys!!!
As a longtime viewer, I cried watching this video because I could feel your pain even from behind my laptop. But then I smiled because I see how perfect your family is with Drew--even her name, Drew Hazel, fits her so perfectly--and I can't remember a time on the channel without her. A little girl who looks just like her daddy and has her mama's sass. You both are so uplifting and I just wanted to say that I'm so glad God is in the business of healing hurts and making all things new. Love you guys and your little fam.
I pray for you often and your healing process. I enjoy getting to know you both on this platform, and I'm grateful for you guys being so willing to share your story.
Thank you 😊
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experience and journey- I have been praying for and following you two since the beginning. I found your miscarriage video when my husband and I found out we had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in January. After the initial shock and pain of finding out (not that it ever stops hurting, the pain just feels somewhat lighter some days) and when I was able to reach out to people and talk about my experience, I was shocked to hear and find out how many other women experienced miscarriages. I wouldn't wish it on anyone in the entire world but to know that there are women who have gone through something similar makes it feel less isolating. Seeing your beautiful family now- you, Andrew and Drew, gives me hope that my husband and I will be able to get pregnant and have a successful pregnancy in the future. Thank you both for being brave and sharing your story, you have no idea how many people you have helped and are going to help in the future❤️❤️
This one hit different, thanks for sharing your journey with us.
Very open sharing. Thank you. I had a miscarriage between my two live births and it was difficult but, I think the impact is different depending on pregnancy order. Already having one healthy toddler spared me some of the fear that I might not have another baby. I believed I’d get pregnant again and my doctor was very encouraging. I share this because miscarrying with your first pregnancy has to be more traumatic and similar to what Shawn was feeling. It’s hard to imagine the pain that couples have when they miscarry several times in a row. God bless their hurting hearts.
Thank you so much for sharing this very difficult personal experience 😢. I went through the same thing recently, and the emotions you speak of are spot on. Women like us do not feel so alone now-thanks to you. ❤️
Our first pregnancy ended in an ectopic pregnancy. I had been documenting me taking pregnancy tests and complied a few videos to share our story on my TH-cam channel. Sharing this information helped me tremendously and hearing from others made me feel not alone ❤️
I remember watching this back then and though I felt sympathy you can never understand this until you’ve been through it. Now going through mine I come back to this and it helps to not feel alone. ❤
I had to miscarriages one in 2008 and one in 2010.that was so hard to deal with we cry a lot and prayed a lot..thank god our family was there for us. We are blessed to have our wildman who 10 years old..
I had a full term stillbirth in 2018 and a miscarriage in 2019. Your story has been an inspiration to me, I was pregnant with my rainbow baby when you were pregnant with drew and it gave me so much hope!
You both continue to exude such strength when sharing your experience. I appreciate you brining light to a subject that is not often talked about and opening a space to form a community to lift up other couples and women that have experienced miscarriage, as well. You do have two children- one you spend your days with now and one you will reunite with in Heaven when the time comes. You have been wonderful parents to both.
Thank you so much for sharing such a vulnerable time in your life. Sending y’all positive thoughts 💕
I had a miscarriage 3 years ago. It was the most terrifying experience. I knew I was pregnant for one week and then the baby ‘went away’. I kept saying the baby ‘went away’. You will never go through finding out your pregnant for the first time ever again. It was bittersweet but now we have an 15 month old daughter and I wouldn’t change a thing.
Much love to you guys. Pregnancy and parenthood is literally the most wonderful thing there is. 💜
Shawn I think you are amazing that you shared this. It is just so hard to go through. I have had 3 miscarriages. I do wish more would share this. I got through mine because of talking with other ladies that have gone through it. Love you guys.
I had a miscarriage in 2016, my ex had left me as soon as we found out and did not want anything to do with me or our child, therefore i was alone. The pain is indescribable and I am sorry you had to go through this. My doctor never told me I had a cyst on my ovary, I had no clue what happened but he never comforted me and told me nothing was my fault. Just this year I was on my online portal and i went back and read about that doctor appointment and it said I had an ovary... I believe that caused it. Also, God was showing me to get out of my situation and I needed to go through this to open my eyes. :) Thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I've been following for a couple years now and you bring so much kindness and just sensibility to us all. I am 33 years old and was diagnosed with PCOS a couple years ago. I was told its pretty much impossible for me to create eggs to have a child. I understand what you say when you feel like your whole entire life, that is your purpose. Being a mother is something I have always thought I was meant for and something that would without a doubt happen. I love seeing your videos of Drew and your happiness as parents. Y'all are beautiful! Thank you ❤
Andrew - I wish you did not get cut from any of the teams but especially the Chiefs! Heartbreaking watching you at the Super Bowl. God had a different plan for you. I know it must hurt. I am sorry. Shawn and Andrew - Thank you for discussing your miscarriage. You have a special baby in heaven. Praying for you and all people who mourn their children.
I don’t know if you all will read this, but I just want to say: Thank You.
I started following you all last year, or year before last when you posted the video about your 20 week ultrasound. I had actually had some similar news about something going on with the umbilical cord with my baby, I was about a month ahead of you. My baby ended up being diagnosed IUGR, which is a growth restriction that comes with aaaaaaall sorts of complications leading up to stillbirth, or none at all. Every week we got closer to 37 weeks, was a good week.
I ended up having to go to a high risk doc, and it was a hard hard hard pregnancy. My faith in our sovereign God is what got me through the anxiety of this very unsure pregnancy and, your videos. And when I came to find out you had a miscarriage, 1. I was heartbroken for you but 2. I completely related on a whole other level, as in that same year I had had a miscarriage at 5 weeks. Everything you said is exactly what helped me get through, but the guilt is so real. And the guilt about feeling sad at losing a baby so early is real. I felt I could not grieve, I grieved with my husband and I cried out to the Lord. But everyone else I felt was just kinda like... “you were only 5 weeks” That was pretty devastating. But the Lord patched me back up together and we had our rainbow baby, she’ll be 10 months on the 15th. Thanks if you got this far. You all have a special place in my heart. God bless you and your beautiful family.
I grew up thinking miscarriages were normal because my mom had several. What I didn’t know was the emotional wound it was, because I was young when it was happening to her. We lost our first son 15 days after birth. When that happened my parents found out for the first time that some long time friends of theirs had lost a child. The “not talked about” with both is often because there’s not a “good” entry into a conversation to share those things. My kids know it happens because we’ve talked about it, it’s part of our family story. But many of my casual friends don’t because there’s not an occasion to talk about it. For me, there wasn’t a guilty feeling, more a feeling of “will we be able to have healthy children”, and a sadness of not having that child because we were wanting a/more child(ren).
Even women that are trying to get pregnant get that panicking feeling once or is confirmed. We ask ourselves the same questions so crying in the shower for an hour I’d say is normal! Thanks for sharing your story
I had a miscarriage at 19, we were really young and we had a lot of people who tried to make it better by telling me “maybe it was for the best since you are so young” I know exactly what fear you’re talking about, it’s so scary the first time you ever find out you’re pregnant..this was 6 almost 7 years ago now that I miscarried and still August 8th (the day I finally miscarried) and February 18th (due date) are so hard for me. I’m very very thankful and happy to say today I do have a beautiful 5 year old and a handsome 2 year old. ❤️
Beautiful job. I did see the original video, done soon after the miscarriage, but this is beautiful, and touching, and very brave.
Love you Shawn and Andrew!!! You guys are the BEST!!
Teary on that video but grateful you have Drew ♥️ and you are great people
Thank you 😊
You have lost a child. Just remember you have an angel waiting for you. That angel is watching over you.
Thank you for sharing your story. I had a full term stillbirth two years ago and I still can't really talk about it. The pain I feel is so dark that some days it feels debilitating. I had always heard about miscarriages and stillbirth but never thought it would happen to me. My stillbirth was unexplained.
I am so glad you did share it. I had a miscarriage back in March and your video really helped me. ❤
I had at age 19 miscarried twins at 11 wks. Jan.18th, 1991. I remember being in the hospital Garth Brooks was doing a concert on TV and the song "The Dance" came on and I remember being in the hospital with the worst cramps EVER crying to that song ......" I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end , the way it all would go....our lives are better left to chance I could've missed the pain but I'd have had to miss....the dance". My husband and I danced the night we found out we were pregnant and 3 weeks later I misscarried. We never talked about it I knew no one who had misscarried. But a yr later on Jan 9 I found out I was pregnant with my first son then 16 months later my daughter was born on Jan 9th the day I found out I was pregnant with Scott after Sarah Joey was born on New year's Eve and in 1998 on Nov 3rd I had twins. Now I have 5 grown children and 4 grandchildren out first granddaughter was stillborn at 40wks..... But we still include her as if she were here..... The ache or longing for what was taken you always miss that baby I would had them on Aug 16 and every year I tell them happy birthday they would be 29 this year. Love you guys thank you for sharing your story I wish we had social media in 91. This really would have helped me heal 🥰
I just went through a miscarriage , i went to the emergency room alone one night in severe pain , bleeding , going from being very cold to sweating badly and was throwing up non stop. I went there in fear of the baby i tried so hard to stop throwing up because i thought at least keep what i ate down for the baby but it wasnt working out for me. I took a shower before i left an passed out in the bathtub an had a huge bruise on my knee from falling. I went to the hospital in complete fear this was my first baby an i am only 22 but i was so ready!! When i first went i was told i had a cyst an was put on antibiotics but everyone but the dr. told me do not take those turned out we had a chemical pregnancy ...
I was born one pound an i developed crohns disease which was very active an i had a bad episode due to the pregnancy but i couldnt get it to stop i tried. Its a battle within myself an its extremely frustrating. Went days not eating sometimes because i didnt want to wake up sick in the morning due to my sickness nothing worked an killed me even more knowing this was part of the reason i lost my little one. It hurt having to tell my love ones im no longer pregnant meanwhile my brothers all have had kids first try. At first i felt so defeated as well It hurts but i will never give up. I will forever cherish the little changes i had an the happiness the pregnancy gave me.
My hcg levels were dropping an that's when in my heart i kinda knew but didnt want to believe it. God is good and i will get my little one when my time is right i truly hope. I thought it was my fault because my boyfriend has a daughter already so i felt less of a women in a way but someone close to me talk to me an this is common an its not my fault. I will try again once i get the okay from my dr. Fingers crossed🤞☺ 🌈
your original video about this is how I found your channel...I was going through a rough pregnancy as well...I had placenta previa and accreta and ended up having a hysterectomy but I have a beautiful baby boy whose about to turn 1 tomorrow! So looking forward to his bday party this weekend! looking forward to part II I hope it;s soon!
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I look forward to part II. Another video I would be interested in is how you prepped your body for pregnancy for Drew as I am currently trying to do that 🙂🙂
Thank you for sharing your story and putting yourselves out there again!
I have followed your journey from my home in Ireland I love your openness of the ups/downs. I can't have kid's but I have a loving family. You should both read Rosanna Davidson story of becoming a parent 😍
You both are so comforting to each other, and that doesn’t come often. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability in this and always having a positive out look-even when the going gets tough. ❤️
It really is almost a taboo topic. I think because no one knows what to say to you when they learn that you've had a miscarriage. It's such a personal, heartbreaking time and a lot of times don't know how to manage your own emotions. It's soul crushing and no matter how many times someone says it's not your fault, that's the first place most women's mind's go. It was devastating and I had a hard time even talking to my husband about it. Father's feel that loss as well and again aren't given the same opportunity to mourn because they're supposed to be "the strong one's"! Every word you said is true.. you feel the life and you feel the loss. It was so beautiful how Andrew reached out for you as if to comfort you again. Thank you for your courage, strength and grace to tell your story. And you have the MOST AMAZING BEAUTIFUL RAINBOW BABY!! in Drew. Y'all are fantastic. Thank you again
Would love to hear y’alls csection experience..my water broke at 34 weeks with my first and she was breech with my second no one had time to make it not even his dad I went to the doctor for a check up (an hour and a half away from my house) and they said this baby is coming NOW and took me back for a csection