5 Things Your Labor Nurse Wants You to Know About Chemical Pregnancy + My Story
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ส.ค. 2024
- I get pretty personal in today's video. Please be kind to me and each other in the comments (as y'all always are). Chemical pregnancy and pregnancy loss is a reality for many women. If you want to share your personal experience, please do so in the comments below.
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Thank you all so much for your kind and supportive words, not only for me but for each other. I am constantly in awe of this beautiful community. If you want to skip past my story of chemical pregnancy for whatever reason, skip to 8:04 💗
I'm so sorry. My aunt lost her first child. I'm praying for you I'm so so so sorry😭😭
I'm so sorry for your loss. Not that you need to rush....take as much time as you need to grieve....but I'm just curious whether you and your husband are going to actively try to conceive your third child? Was this pregnancy an accident? And if it was an accident has it made you want to try for another child? My husband and I are trying for our 2nd. Best wishes to you!!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it takes a lot of guts to tell your story this way. Take your time to heal. Big hug from the Netherlands.
I’m so sorry I know how it feels and I know it doesn’t help when people say I’m sorry or all the other things I had a miscarriage at 20 weeks and 2 day but my dad told me not to look at it as we lost a baby just that baby’s went back to heaven and next time I fall pregnant when ever that is my baby will come back so I look at it like that and I believe it it’s help me so much xxx
Your feelings are valid, we love you and we understand, I have had later miscarriages and wether you just find out your pregnant or weeks later you misscarry that feeling of loss is the same
You fall in love with your baby the moment you see that positive test. It’s so hard
Not true for all of us, just saying. My family has a history of miscarriage so I was expecting the worst, at 36 weeks now it’s finally more real.
Nope..... I didn't feel connected to my baby up until 4-5 months when he started moving... My tummy didn't show, he was not kicking and I was not gaining weight so it felt as if I had an imaginary baby even though I knew I was pregnant because I had 24/7 nausea. Only when he started kicking was when I really started to embrace my pregnancy.
I did too I wasn’t in the right space and I was in no position to be a mom,at the time but I was happy. I lied to my then boyfriend and said I wasn’t but I was.
I fell in love too and was in heaven for a week before I lost my baby. I lost my little star a year ago and had a negative ICSI last month. I feel you!
These words are so true 🤍
I experienced a chemical pregnancy the first month trying (April 2019) after having an ectopic pregnancy at the end of 2018. Both losses were devastating for me. Each baby was so wanted. I ended up getting pregnant again 5 months later and as I type this I’m currently nursing my 5 week old baby girl ❤️ don’t loose hope ladies!
My first pregnancy ended by a chemical pregnancy. 6 months later I got pregnant again. I’m currently 32 weeks
@@sarahb3737 congratulations on your rainbow baby
I needed this!
I had a dr once tell me he always viewed a chemical pregnancy as a way for the body to better prepare for pregnany. I don't know if there is any truth behind it, but it made me feel a little better.
Now I am almost 6 weeks and hoping for the best every single moment.
MichiganFresh 0013 sending prayers for a healthy pregnancy your way ❤️❤️🌈👶🏻
Karen Ennis thank you. He is currently almost 3 weeks 🌈
I hear so many women say “if I hadn’t taken the test I wouldn’t have known”. You’d have known. You took the test because you knew, your body could feel you were pregnant, it was real.
Yes! I’ve heard this so many times in the past week since my chemical. I just want to ask-What makes you think I didn’t want to know? Yes, it hurts but that doesn’t mean that it didn’t really happen. It deserves acknowledgement in my opinion and as crazy as it sounds, although their heart never got to beat and their body never formed, my love for it exists.
Agreed, it’s hard not to know.
I agree. I knew deep down I was pregnant before I took the test
I hate that you’re right..but I’m glad you understand..
That is so true!! I knew for sure which is why I took a test.
I had an ectopic pregnancy a few years ago. I was devastated because I don't catch pregnant easily and given my age of 37, thought I would never conceive again. I am happy to report that I gave birth yesterday to a healthy baby boy at age 41. There is hope ladies!
I'm so happy for you! Congratulations 🎉❤
As someone that has exprienced a stillborn I want you to know that your pain is just a valid as mine. The amount of time you carried your baby doesn't change the love you had for them. Lean into the support around you and know that there is hope for a brighter future... I now have an almost 2 month old baby girl named Melanie Hope because there is hope in the darkness. (Melaine means darkness.)
Beautiful and meaningful name for your Baby Girl ❤️ Congratulations to you
This is so beautiful. Every part.
Thank you for saying that ❤️
A little late on the comments..but that was such a meaningful comment.
Currently rocking my 3 month old after 3 losses. There’s hope! ❤️
I’m experiencing a chemical pregnancy right now. It’s my first pregnancy and I am just gutted. We have been trying for months to no avail and I thought this was the light at the end of our tunnel. Your words really helped me today and helped me feel less alone!
I am going through this right now 💔😞 I hope you’re doing okay mama
We’ve been trying for the past year and this was the first positive I got 4 days ago and then this morning I took a test which was completely negative. I’ve miscarried my second baby at 8 weeks and this still sucks!!
The same thing happened to me a month ago. Be encouraged, ladies🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm usually pretty regular. Every 26-30 days. Last month I went 30 days before I started. (Longest cycle I had before)This month I was on cycle day 35 and nothing. Took a test and it was a faint positive. I was in shock and excited! Next day I told everyone I know and later that night I started bleeding but not super heavy. It stopped a couple hours later than over next couple days it was really stop and start. Never had cramps or anything like that. Even when I would bleed a little more it was not as heavy as a normal period and would just stop and this went on for about 3 days. Went to health department and they did urine test and it was negative. Nurse gave me vitamins and said it could have been a spontaneous abortion but just wait until next month and see if I get normal period. She said if I get doubled over in pain go to ER and tell them i think it was a miscarriage. That never happened and again I spotted like a hour or two after I got back from the Dr then nothing at all. I'm terrified to test and it be negative and I honestly wish I never even took that test. I would have rather not known then be scared and worried from now until next month wondering if I lost it or not. I have been crying off and on since My appointment Monday and I keep thinking I'm having pregnancy symptoms then telling myself I can't be because the test was negative. I don't even know what to do now. Any advice?
Currently going through the same. Two weeks ago, My pregnancy test came back positive and I took a HCG test and it came back positive as well. My husband and I was rooting for it as it was our first pregnancy. I started bleeding 3 days ago. Did HCG quant and got a 307 in first and 275 in the second.
Been married for 14 years and we have been trying to conceive for 15 years. Had 3 miscarriages (2005 at 7.5 weeks, 2010 at 5 weeks 3 days and 2018 at 11.5 weeks). It really devastated us, especially since there were such long gaps (despite continual trying) in between each one. Many people have told us to “just get over it cos it was never meant to be” which is so hard to hear. Even the fertility specialists were not very empathic. I fell pregnant naturally two months before my next fertility appointment and I’m now 31 weeks pregnant with a boy, we are excited but petrified at the same time. I still worry that something might go wrong but getting closer to the due date is helping me to calm down a little. I’m not going to say it’s easy, because trying again after a loss (or losses) is hard but the important thing is that you have support around you to talk and be heard. Wishing everyone all the best and thank you nurse Zabe for posting this video, thoughts are with you all. 💛 hugs from uk 🇬🇧
Wishing the best for you!
The anxiety can be so hard... Wishing you a smooth rest of your pregnancy and a smooth and easy birth. Enjoy feeling your baby inside of you 💜
I am always appalled at the things people say to a grieving momma. We had our share of hurtful comments too (while they may have been well-intended, they were insensitive nonetheless).
Congrats on your new little babe! Prayers for health and safety for the both of you!!
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No one should have ever said that to you!! Sending you good thoughts and blessings!!
Found this video after having my own chemical pregnancy, I didn’t know how to feel about it til I found this. Thank you for crying with me 💕
sending you so much love. I'm so sorry you've dealt with this.
This happened to me yesterday and I'm devastated. Sending you love too.
This happened to me 2 months ago and I still can't throw away those pregnancy tests.
I kept mine. I don’t plan on getting rid of them.
I'm so sorry
I kept mine too.
I still have mine from my missed miscarriage ❤
I still saved my tests too. I can’t throw them away. It was the only time I’ve gotten pregnant
I'm so sorry. I have had a CP after 3.5 years of infertility & it blew my world. Thank you for validating that it is early pregnancy loss, I struggled a lot with the fact that some of the few people I shared about it with who believed it didn't "count' because I could've never known if I hadn't tested early. Now I am watching this on my phone 2.5 years later as I nurse a baby who I was told after the first 48 hour blood test that she was a CP & to call my fertility doctor when my period started. Idk why I'm sharing all that except to say that Chemical Pregnancy is pregnancy loss & anyone who experiences it shouldn't blame themselves and should feel freedom to grieve. It heals one of the deepest wounds I've ever had a little more every time another person, especially a medical professional, acknowledges that CPs aren't just a hormone accident, but a loss it is ok to acknowledge & grieve.
Your channel also helped me along the entire journey of my pregnancy, delivery, & nursing so much. Thank you, & I am praying for you and your husband as you mourn this loss. Thank you for your transparency & vulnerability
Amy Susanna Copeland sorry hope you don’t mind me asking, but how did you get pregnant? I have pcos and thyroid problems and I’m 35. I got pregnant 1 time time last May and it was a cp. I took letrozole almost a year
@@crystalzelaya4615 my diagnosis for infertility was "reasons unknown" & then they said my egg count is low. The first pregnancy was in the last month of boosted fertility after they did that test where they flush your fallopian tubes in order to look at them, I'm blanking the name of the procedure but I'll look it up tomorrow. The second time I was between fertility procedures (4 months after the last one) but only notable changes were I had lost 25 lbs & my husband had just made a major breakthrough in therapy for depression & PTSD. So Idk if possibly there was an emotional stress that lifted that helped or what. I will tell you that I got pregnant within days of my husband losing his job while we were packing to move in with my parents temporarily, so all that stuff people love to say about "you're too stressed, you just need to relax" is bologna (though I'm sure it never hurts to try to lower stress).
I hope you have success soon!
@@amysusanna214 hysterosalpingography or HSG is the name of the test! I am so sorry for your loss and that some invalidated it. Nobody should have to have their loss compounded by their feelings being invalidated. Hopefully this will begin to lessen for others as more people become better informed on chemical pregnancies. And congrats on your rainbow baby!
I’m so sorry :( this happened to me too and some people were telling me “at least it wasn’t a REAL baby.” It was a punch in the gut. Thank you for informing and educating people and I’m so so sorry ❤️
Ugh, how thoughtless of them! I am so sorry, losing a baby at any stage is awful.
Ohh, words that I cannot believe come out of others mouths! I am so sorry.
I think the term chemical pregnancy doesn't help. I had a friend tell me "well it's just a flux with your body not a baby"... Like no that would be a false positive. I was a positive positive we just lost the baby.
I had 2 missed misscarage and 2 misscarage where I seen the fetus, I am now pregnant with my rainbow and 16weeks 2days xx stay strong xx
The first time I was pregnant it ended up a chemical pregnancy. I can totally relate ❤️❤️. I have two beautiful sons since then!
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I couldn’t imagine getting so excited and then getting disappointing news like that. Sending you love!
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve had one chemical and 2 early losses where the babies stopped growing at 6 weeks. My last loss I was supposed to be 8 weeks 4 days. I went in and was told baby had no heartbeat and was only measuring 6 weeks. I had a d&c and found out baby had complete trisomy 16 we also found out baby was a boy. A month after the d&c we decided to try again. And got pregnant right away. I’m now 24 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby boy!
My boyfriend and I just went through this. I was 3 and a half weeks pregnant, and we lost the baby last week, just 4 days after my period was due.
We are both so devastated. Thank you so much for saying the last part because I've been racking my brain on what I did wrong.
The thought that I didn't drink enough water or that cup of coffee I had definitely ran through my mind.
This hits home. 😭 I haven’t had a chemical miscarriage, but I’ve had a miscarriage at 10w in June 2018 and 9w in June of 2020. Your description of the emotions was spot on for me. 😭😭😭
I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and even I felt like since it was “early” I shouldn’t be as sad as I was. I hear people minimize their losses when they’re obviously upset all the time and I wonder what it is that makes us feel guilty for feeling sad. Thank you for sharing, and I hope today is better than yesterday for you ❤️
I can relate to this comment so much. I found myself saying "I was only 8 weeks", and I'm not sure why I sweep it under the rug like it didn't matter. It did matter to me, a lot.
I think it’s a way to remind ourselves that it’s normal, and fairly common, for it to end that early. There are never any guarantees but especially before you hear a heartbeat, especially before 12 weeks, it’s common to have a miscarriage. Not that it doesn’t hurt, just to be careful to stay realistic til you know more.
I just experienced my first chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage as well. Got my first ever positive on July 4 and was bleeding by mid day July 6. It’s devastating and my heart goes out to you and any other woman out there dealing with this. I found comfort in talking to some close family members and took a few days at home just to grieve❤️
This happened to me twice last year, when you started crying I just wanted to hug you through the screen💗 after the second one my midwife checked my thyroid, and turns out I have hypothyroidism also. Started taking the meds and now I’m 31 weeks pregnant with a little girl 💗💗 thank you for making this video, our babies no matter the outcome are very loved.
I'm so sorry for your losses.
So happy you are pregnant with your rainbow baby 💙💗🌈
My rainbow baby was born last September 💙
Hi, I have a very similar experience that you have had. I had two chemicals back to back. During the second one found out I had hypothyroidism and started medication. 6 weeks later I got pregnant with a viable pregnancy. I'm 21 weeks along now. Congratulations on your rainbow baby.
Andrea S and Sasha- congratulations loves!!!! I had a chemical pregnancy and conceived our son the very next cycle. He is a perfect, completely healthy 6 week old!! ❤️ Stories of hope helped me with all the fear and stress ❤️
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I had a chemical pregnancy that ended in a hemorrhage about four years ago. It was the worst experience of my life. You are loved and appreciated. We're here for you. 💗
This happened to me in December on Christmas. I had the exact same thought that had I not taken that test I wouldn’t have known, sending lots of love ❤️
It’s so hard. Same thing happened to me, 3 days after you. It was my first known pregnancy, at age 32. Worst January of my life. But today I am 13 weeks!
What timing! I literally just lost my first pregnancy yesterday. I'm 41 and in 8 years of marriage, I have never been able to conceive. I never found out just how far along I was. I was showing though, and I had gone a good 3 and half months without starting my period. Due to Covid, the first time I was able to meet a doctor face to face, I was told I had lost my baby. I really do feel for you!
Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss 😟💜
So incredibly saddened by this news. Huge hugs from the DMV! I know about these all too well😥 I hope that you take time to mourn and feel all that you are feeling. (Whatever those feeling may be) Thank you for sharing and know that we are all here for you and supporting you the same way you have been helping and supporting us on your entire TH-cam career!
🙏🏾Prayers to you, your family, and that beautiful little bean that left too soon. Xo
Sorry for your loss. You do so much to help others, and you’ve even transformed this sorrow into helping others. You’re really awesome! Xx
I'm so sorry for your loss Elizabeth, my heart goes out to you and your husband. Thank you for sharing your story and feelings and for continuing to add to our knowledge toolbox. You are a truly beautiful person and I genuinely appreciate both you and your perspective.
OMG I’m so sad hearing your story. I have had three miscarriages and this is the only pregnancy that I have actually made it to full term. I’m almost 38 weeks and you have helped me through my pregnancy. It’s okay to cry. I still cry about my past pregnancies.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, you’ll be in my prayers as you grieve this loss! I had two miscarriages, one was an ectopic and the other after our first IVF transfer...no matter when you lose that sweet baby it’s hard and like you I believe if we talk about it more then maybe other women won’t have to suffer alone! Thanks for sharing your heart, and all of your knowledge!! Your videos have been such an encouragement to me during my long awaited first pregnancy! 💕
I really appreciate you talking about this and for being so vulnerable. My first pregnancy ended up being a chemical pregnancy and I was so sad. I had never heard of chemical pregnancies and none of me friends had experienced one, so it’s really nice to see more awareness about them. I’m so sorry for your loss 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss! Thank you for being so open and honest and sharing your story. Your videos have been so helpful for me thus far navigating through my first pregnancy. This is such a hard topic to discuss and I imagine it’s much harder to discuss when you have personally experienced it. The more woman like you are able to share their stories and provide education and support the better we will all be. So sincerely, thank you for sharing with all of us! I hope you are feeling a little better and you have a great support system around you. Sending you much love!
I'm so sorry for your loss, Elizabeth. thank you for this video. I had an early miscarriage a few years ago and didn't know I was pregnant until it happened. It was heartbreaking for years, and sometimes still is. After a year of infertility, we just welcomed our first baby, two weeks ago, and we're informed because of you.
Sending you lots of love and positivity as you heal and grieve. ❤️
I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. ❤️ I actually just went through this last week. I was late by 5 days, had all the signs of pregnancy. I was so excited since I just had a D&C to remove polyps last month. The day I got a positive pregnancy test, I ended up having heavy bleeding. I am devastated because my husband and I have been TTC for 1 1/2 years.
You’re the definition of a warrior mama! Thank you so much for your bravery and vulnerability - this is such an important conversation and your channel is like a safe haven for us women 💕 praying for your family as you grieve and heal
Thank you for opening up and making this video. When this happened to me I felt grief as well, and I thought I felt crazy for feeling so much grief. I didn’t feel like talking to anyone other than my partner about it. So thank you, you’re amazing, and strong, and I look forward to seeing more of you.
I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story. I wish more people would understand how hard a loss like that can be. I had a positive test after vacation 09/15/2018 after trying to conceive for 7 years. We couldn’t have been more excited we told all of our friends and family. 09/18/2018 at 5 weeks I woke up bleeding just a little but I was really scared so I went to the hospital. My blood work came back and they said my hormone levels were too low to have a viable pregnancy. We were completely devastated and we then had to go home and tell all of our family and friends I wasn’t pregnant anymore. I had horrible cramping in my back and extremely heavy bleeding. I really struggled with trying to tell myself it was OK to grieve. I knew people that have had miscarriages further along, had still births, and some that had lost children. I just couldn’t help but feeling like mine was so early did I really have the right to be as upset as I felt. I read a lot of blogs and listen to the stories of other women that had gone through the same thing and I finally allowed myself to grieve like you said the dream we had lost. I finally felt like it was OK and it did count in my emotions mattered. I am very pleased and blessed to say almost exactly a year later at our exact same vacation spot I got pregnant again and I am now holding a very handsome two-month-old baby boy.
I just recently found your channel and I absolutely love your content and sweet personality. My heart hurts for you. I lost my first at 7 weeks along. It was such a horrible heart breaking time. We had tried for a very long time, with my cycle consistently being late each month getting my hopes up. Not even a year after the loss we got the great news of a positive test and our baby boy is almost 2 now with a sibling on the way. Ladies, feel the loss, don't let anyone tell you it doesn't count. At any stage an expecting mother is excited and her body is growing another human life. I am sorry to all of you who have shared your stories but grateful for this community of love. And prayers for all of you stilll trying! ♥️🙏
I'm sorry for you loss. I also find it incredibly kind that after telling your story you reach out to offer information to others who may be having the same experience. You have a good soul.
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I can’t imagine how you and your family must feel at this time. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you heal soon and if you and your husband wish to try again in the future that you have a healthy pregnancy!!! ❤️
Thank you for acknowledging the feelings of grief associated with early pregnancy loss. I have had 6 losses between 4-7wks. 4 of those losses occurred in 1 yr. 3 during the 4th week and my previous obgyn didn’t even consider them losses. It wasn’t until I changed Drs that they were acknowledged as losses medically. That hurt more than I can explain. My last loss was at 7wks and we finally discovered I had a uterine septum which is being surgically removed this month. We have been trying to conceive 5yrs technically though we took 4 years off after all the losses in the first year. Now I wish I would’ve pushed more then to find the cause because I’m 36yrs old and time is of the essence now. Thankfully we adopted our beautiful son 4yrs ago so those losses were not in vain, but I do feel let down by both myself and my Drs
Ik! My doctors have not considered chemical pregnancies actual pregnancies either :( it’s heartbreaking
Thank you for sharing.
I had a miscarriage and a chemical pregnancy, and my doctor counted the miscarriage as a loss but not the chemical pregnancy, which I thought was strange because she knew about both! I wish she had validated the chemical pregnancy as a loss medically, it would have given me closure and helped me navigate infertility better!
We’re the same age. I was only pregnant first in 2007 and at 12 weeks found out I wasn’t having a miscarriage. Took weeks for doctors to figure this out. It was an ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancy had to be terminated. Family and friends didn’t even know or referred to it as anything more than when I was”sick”. Never mourned the pregnancy except crying to myself. Just a year ago, son was born 7/30/2019. My miracle man. I had been researching adoption. Perhaps odd to some but adoption was something I was in favor of before I knew I had any issues. Mainly how I was raised; you don’t have to give birth to be a Mom. A Mom or Parents are the those that love and raise a child. That’s all. Now, going through a nightmare of a divorce. “Dad” has 5 kids including ours. It was not a healthy relationship or environment. I remember looking at my son just a couple months old; knowing I was terrified to leave. However, I knew I had to get away in order to be the person and Mom I need and am able to be. During a pandemic, we have not been out at all with the exception of the last month where Dad demanded in person supervised visitation. Now demanding that he have his unsupervised visitation begin immediately following his last supervised visitation, tomorrow. Son suffered prior respiratory issues. He is doing much better. Made the decision to stay home and as safe as possible. My son, my world, that I cannot begin to express how much I did not want to be isolated for the last several months; not even seeing my own Mom, who misses her grandson, terribly. Without anything in writing; being told to hand my son over and nothing in writing to say wow and where to pick him up the following day, and not knowing Dad’s work schedule which is likely all day during the weekdays. So the question is, “who will be caring for my son?” Furthermore, Dad lives with 4 other men in his home, tenants/boarders and no social distancing and son is not old enough to wear a mask. I just want to know my son will be safe and well. I don’t want to expose him or I. If son is okay and I get sick, not okay either. Feeling like the system has failed. Losing hope. Scared and concerned and can’t imagine just handing him over not knowing anything expect he will be exposed to many people. I ranted and I am up because I cannot sleep thinking the most important person in my world, I am just suppose to hand over without knowing what will be or how or who will be caring for him. BTW, When I wasn’t getting pregnant, it took many years for doctors to find out I had a pituitary adenoma, mostly benign brain tumor but mine was actively secreting hormones into my blood which meant my body thought it was pregnant ; elevated prolactin levels, even though I was not. I was given medication that does not make you feel good but does bring down hormone levels and still wasn’t pregnant for over s couple of years. Again, my son just turned one. Thank you for sharing your story. Love that you adopted and certain you are an amazing Mon! I shared a lot (too Much), but also because this is uncommon but is something that happens; pituitary adenoma and not often considered. I wish you and your family all the best. Stay safe and be well. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
You are such a beautiful soul and are so strong to have shared your story! I am currently pregnant and I am constantly worried about miscarriage and just other pregnancy worries and you have been my go to for all my pregnancy questions, so I thank you for sharing your knowledge!
My prayers go out to you and your husband🙂
I'm so sorry to hear this. Just wanted to let you know you're in my thoughts and I appreciate you being so open about your experiences
So sorry to hear your loss. Your videos have been helping me ease my discomfort through my pregnancy so much. So I just really wanted to let you know that we want to be here for you like the way you are here for us! Take care! Lots of love for you! Xx
You are always so poised and graceful even whilst sharing something difficult in Your life. I truly thank you for producing these videos and wish you many healing vibes. Take care💞
My heart goes out to you and your husband. A year ago I had a missed miscarriage where the sac was empty...I got pregnant on my honeymoon we were so excited. I was so heartbroken and devastated Having a child already made me grieve the loss of the potential love I could have had...lots of thoughts and prayers your way❤️
My heart breaks for you, I cried with you. Thank you for sharing this with us, I think you’re reaching a lot of women who can relate, and helping us feel like those deep hurt feelings are real and validated ♥️
needed every word of this. just to know others feel or have felt the way I am right now. thank you for saying everything I needed to hear from a place of vulnerability for yourself. it means everything to someone experiencing this and watching you share the hurt
From Becca: Thank you for sharing. I just had my second miscarriage in May- June. They were so different from each other. The dream of praying for a child and getting that positive test is so exciting. You plan for the future. Then losing the baby is devastating. It's unimaginable the pain of grief no matter how many weeks you are pregnant. You love that baby and want it.
Waiting for the future and life to continue. People say, at least you have 4 kids which I'm grateful for, but the loss is still painful.
I started going ( remotely) to a pregnancy loss support group and it was very validating to hear my feelings in other people's experiences... not feeling so alone. I don't feel free to share this loss on social media cuz some people just make it worse with their unhelpful comments.
Thank you for sharing a very vulnerable part of you and educating us. Covid makes me feel isolated and add a miscarriage and that taboo subject makes the isolation double.
It'll get better some day.
I’m so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me a few months ago, we had been trying for 15 months and were very excited to be pregnant, it was the one non monitored cycle between doctors so when the home tests were positive and the blood test wasn’t I was not believed by most of the healthcare professionals I dealt with which was very frustrating. The reproductive endocrinologist did believe me, but said “it’s not really something we get upset about” because it’s so common, which was not an empathetic or helpful response. So I really appreciate your attitude of empathy and understanding as a healthcare professional. Don’t worry my story has a happy ending, I got pregnant with iui the next cycle and am due with a baby boy Christmas Eve.
I am so sorry.. you’re so sweet and strong to be able to talk about this, and still give advise to others. I had one of these two years ago at the age of 19 and was very uneducated about it. I hope you’re doing well and just know you’re not alone. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your story... I know it must have been hard but the reason I love watching your channel is because your videos are so educational! This must have been especially hard for you. Sending you lots of love ❤️
My husband and I tried for 4 years for a baby with no luck. We had a round of ivf last November and I was excited that I had a positive test, sadly followed by a heavy period the next day. I was devastated, I was frustrated that my body didn't seem to work. Was it the yoga class I took? Maybe I should have had more time off work. I was angry at myself. My doctor told us it was a chemical pregnancy, which I had never heard of before. It may sound lame but I've kept the test and the implantation scan, it was the closest I had to our dream and it gave me hope that it was possible. Three months after the failed ivf (February this year) we found out we had conceived naturally. We are having a baby girl due in October.
Thank you for sharing because I needed to read your story this morning 😭😭 literally 😭
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This gives me hope! I pray i can get pregnant again soon. I was blessed with my first pregnancy via ivf. It was my second cycle after the first failed. After 5 years of ttc i was over the moon, made so many plans. Im still coming to terms with the loss and pray i can be blessed soon. Its so painful to go through and at the same time i feel ashamed 💔
I’m so sorry Zabe. I have experienced a chemical too before my current pregnancy. I’m glad you shared this because I have a hard time considering the loss “legitimate” because it was so early. Praying for you guys! ❤️
Hi ❤️ congratulations on your pregnancy! 🥰🙏🏽 did you get pregnant with your current the month after your chemical? Just experienced my first chemical and hoping to be successful next month :(
Thank you so much for your openness and honesty. I lost my twins at 12 weeks last year and it was by far one of the most devastating things I have ever been through. There are no words to describe the loss of a child, no matter how early. Hugs to all those who have or are going through pregnancy or child loss ❤
Elizabeth I am so sorry for your loss. I lost 2 early in my pregnancies and I always feel that. I am so grateful to have you here for myself and other women to learn from. Thank you so much. I send my love 💗
That is what happened to me. I only got 2 positive tests and then started bleeding one night, the next day I had severe cramps and bleeding and all tests afterwards were negative. I genuinely feel your pain, and I hope you know you're so strong for telling your story!! This would have been our first but it doesnt mean we can never try again!
We would have been due February 13th, and we know that our little bean (GG) knew it wasnt our time. They wanted to make sure we were safe and happy and in a good space to be able to be pregnant and have a child ❤👼
Thanks for sharing! This happened to me last cycle (my 2nd cycle TTC) and the NP who was managing my care was very cold and distant and acted like it was nothing I should even have a thought about. Like no, lady, let me grieve and support me in that. She literally emailed me my HCG results that I wasn’t pregnant anymore.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
I had that happen to me this year, but I got the good news and bad news within a few seconds from each other. The doctor was so thoughtless telling me that or explaining what happened, thanks for showing me that I was not crazy about all of this because no one in my family beloved me (since I was by myself at the doctors office). Thanks for the knowledge and for sharing your story!
Thanks for sharing your story and for encouraging people to share experiences in the comments! I had a chemical pregnancy last month and it was my first time ever being pregnant. My awareness of it only lasted a day, but it was one of the most exciting days of my life. I'm left with a lot of mixed emotions. I am so sad that there won't be a baby coming in May, but relieved to know that my body is capable of getting pregnant. To anyone else who's recently had one, I'm sorry for your loss and want to wish you good luck for the future!
I’m sorry you had to experience such a loss. I have had three miscarriages, the last one was a chemical pregnancy too. I never talked to anyone about my losses and I wish I had.
I felt like I was pregnant November of 2019, after a hard time and I was having symptom s and I took a couple pregnancy tests and the results where strange so I went to my doctor and she said I was not pregnant, and she brushed all of my emotions and worries under the rug, and I don't think she believed in chemical pregnancy, and it made me sad, and I still hope children is still something that can happen for me in the future. Thank you for validating our feelings and making this video.
Oh I am so sorry for your family’s loss, I’ve had several later 1st trimester losses as well as 2 chemical pregnancies. It’s so hard to wrap your head around.
My heart goes out to you and your husband. I've had chemical pregnancies as well as a missed miscarriage and your feelings are completely valid. It doesnt matter how short of a time you knew of your pregnancy, you still have hopes, dreams, and ideas of the future. The hurt is real and can be indescribable. Manu prayers of healing to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your emotions and your journey. They help to make us feel less alone and your video has helped so much.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss and thank you for having the courage to share your experience and knowledge.
I had a chemical as well and it was so hard to process as I didn't share with many people, but also because I felt like it wasn't a "full" pregnancy. Even though for at least a week I was pregnant (and had the nausea to show it).
Thank you for always sharing what you know and being so kind.
Last November I took three pregnancy tests over the course of a week, all positive. That weekend I woke up with heavy bleeding and terrible cramps. I hadn’t even told anyone yet, but I had to call my mom to take me to the ER while my husband stayed with our daughter. Knowing that there was no way I was pregnant anymore, I sat in the waiting room for 4 hours, bleeding heavily, a nurse had to bring me out a towel to sit on. When I finally got called back I was treated very condescendingly. They seemed to ignore the fact I was married, kept referring to it as my “first pregnancy”, and over-all just treated me like I was some young girl who got a heavy period and freaked out. After the blood work came back, and it did show low levels of hcg, I finally got a “Well, it looks like you were pregnant, but you’re not now.” They told me it was most likely a chemical pregnancy. And they left the room. It was a traumatic experience, especially since I went in fully believing I was having a miscarriage. I’m now 22 weeks pregnant with our second baby girl and we’re thrilled, but I spent the entire first trimester paranoid that I wasn’t actually pregnant because they had made me feel so crazy and stupid.
That is awful, I’m so sorry you had such a terrible experience. Shame on them
That sucks, I’m really sorry you were treated that way
That's awful- I am so sorry you had to go through that. I pray for you and your family especially for your little one on the way that everything turns out great and hope you have a happy ever after😊
people and some doctors are so stupid and lack empathy. honestly they should not work in health carw
I am currently going through this. Thank you for sharing your story. it is so awful that you have had to experience this, but I am so thankful that you were brave enough to share your story and education so that other women like myself have this space to come to when we also go through it x 🤍
I can’t even imagine how hard this video was for you to make.. I pray for you and your family through this tough time. Baby dust to you and everyone else trying to conceive❤️
So sorry for your loss Elizabeth.😢
Sending alot of love your way❤😘
I had one last year in May, exactly a year later I'm now 12 weeks pregnant,today I'm going for my antenatal appointment as I'm considered high risk as I'm 41 years old,I'm so nervous,hope everything goes well.
Best wishes, good luck, wishing you a healthy pregnancy and baby 💜
@@erinaa9486 thank you so much 😘
@@krisngaire how are you and your baby ?
I just experienced this today. It would have been baby #2 and while it definitely wasn’t a planned pregnancy I am still devastated. I had gotten super excited over another addition to my family and right as I began to accept this new chapter in my life, I started bleeding :(
Mee too. My heart is with you!
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I had a CP a few years ago and had such a traumatic experience with a heartless physician. I have always researched what CP was and never have been able to wrap my head around it. This video helped me out a lot. I look forward to your videos because i can tell you prepare these videos with soo much love and good intentions.
I’m so sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing. I hope you’ll be able to conceive a viable pregnancy whenever you’re ready. 💗💗💗
I had one in September 2019. A month later, I got pregnant with my now 13 month old son. I also have 2 girls who are 14 and 7
This happened to me 3 days after last Christmas. I actually didn’t know I was pregnant until I got my blood test results back, after I had already started bleeding earlier that morning. The hardest part was knowing something had been there and wasn’t there anymore. It was my first pregnancy and I was so excited the whole week my period was late. I like to think that at least it was there with me and my family on Christmas. I have the same thought that if I just hadn’t taken the blood test the day before, I never would’ve known I was pregnant. I would’ve thought my period was just late. I cried so hard when it was time to finally take the Christmas tree down...
I am 19 weeks pregnant with my first child and I’ve been watching your videos over the last couple months, because I truly feel like have no idea what to expect/do. Your videos have educated me, eased many worries, and answered so many questions. I am so sorry to hear your sad news.😢 Thank you for sharing this hardship. Please know how much you’re helping others and I hope you have all the love and support you need to get you through this. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ I just cried with you, I don't know if I'll ever get over my missed miscarriage so all I can do is support other women who are going through similar situations
I experience a chemical pregnancy and miscarried over the weekend. This video is so so appreciated.🤍
I’m so sorry for your loss. I too am a loss Mom- lost my first daughter 2 hours after birth to a cord prolapse that went undiagnosed in labor. Nurse didn’t believe me when I told her my daughter was in distress- even though it was visible on the fetal heart rate tracings.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss. I couldn't even imagine!
That's horrible! It's awful that your nurse didn't take you seriously, especially at such an important point. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Oh no 😭
Liriand Thank you. The nurse did get fired so I at least have that. ❤️
Teresa Moore Thank you so much 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this though. I am sure so many are appreciative of hearing your story so that they do not feel alone. Many many blessings to you and your beautiful family. 🥰
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm grateful for you putting out this video. I'm experiencing my own loss right now that I think was a chemical pregnancy. I had a positive pregnancy test on the 6th, and bleeding today. Thank you for sharing.
This happened to me in may and I still think about it just about everyday. My baby would have been due in early January and it tore me to shreds.
I'm going thru a chemical pregnancy right now.. it's my third loss, one chemical, one early miscarriage, one late stage loss
I’m so sorry for all the pain that you’ve been through 😞
I’m so sorry
I’m so sorry, sending you love through the inter webs.
Sending love
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you a hug🌸
I'm so very for your loss and I could feel your heart. Thank you for sharing about this topic. I had a miscarriage last August and I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant. But I felt every word you said as though you were speaking it to me. And I cried for the baby I lost and I prayed for the baby I'm carrying.
I will be praying for you as you recover physically & emotionally. Thank you for your sincere open heart. You are appreciated.
I'm so sorry for your loss! Thank you so much for sharing such a fresh experience. I can't imagine how difficult this must have been to share. You are so strong! ❤️
The sad thing to think about is having PCOS. Random periods. Not knowing how many chemical pregnancies you've had. I had a missed miscarrage at 7 weeks 2 days back in May. I am now 12 weeks 2 days. Don't lose hope. ❤
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I'm soo sorry about ur loss. I lost my daughter 3 years ago I was 19 weeks and 5 days she passed away hours after she was born.
Ashley, that's so devastating, I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby girl 💜
Thank you so much for being transparent with us! I’m am so sorry for your loss! I experienced a miscarriage at 10 weeks and became pregnant a week after my miscarriage and am in the last trimester of my pregnancy ❤️😫. So blessings come at unexpected times. Thank you for always being so positive but willing to come on here and be open with all of us. I’m sending love to you and your family.
Even in your pain and loss you’re assuring everybody else that it’s okay to feel the way they feel. You’re so kind & caring. We need more people like you in this world.
I’m sorry for your loss 💕
This was a really hard video for me to watch. I also lost my pregnancy in June. I found out I was pregnant for the first time on June 11 of this year. I was scared, I was excited, I was nervous... It was thrilling. I wasn't sure if I could 'fall in love' right off the bat. I was worried when I didn't, all I felt was super tired and worn out with extremely sensitive nipples. I was just like "Ok the test said I am pregnant but honestly how can I even know until that first ultrasound?' anyway moving forward we scheduled our first ultrasound and were just eagerly awaiting that time to arrive. Then the bleeding started, though this bleeding had clots to it which really worried. I have severe endometriosis so I thought to myself "Ok don't panic yet, it could just be endometriosis messing with things I don't need to panic." But to be safe I told my significant other to take me to the er. There they treated me rather coldly, the ultrasound tech didn't really look my way or allow me to look at the screen for the ultrasound. She never told me anything even as she left. Later the doctor came in and very bluntly told me I was loosing the pregnancy and to just go home and expect excruciating pain after a while before full loss occurred. I was heart broken. I was scared. I was angry. I had prayed to god for the first time in years for a positive and when I got that, I was elated. And then I was broken. The doctor left immediately after telling us and we were discharged. How could I go home and sleep knowing that soon I'd loose this part of myself I had been so excited for, and my baby who was due in February? Then came our appointment with our obgyn. She asked me how I felt when I found out it was twins. I told her they never told me. So here I am, still no full miscarriage and now I know it was twins. Then came the tests, so many freaking tests. They tested my blood every other day for two weeks and found my hcg rising very fast which is normal for twins except every ultrasound showed that they had long since stopped growing and now they no longer looked like fetuses but blobs. I found out I had a molar pregnancy after the d&c which I had about three weeks after my er visit. Three weeks I carried around that pregnancy I knew would never produce a live healthy baby. Three weeks I felt like this thing that wasn't myself. I just wanted to die. I wanted to escape and feel like myself again because I wasn't myself anymore. I was in limbo, I was in constant pain, I felt as if the gods themselves had decided to curse and torture me for every sin. I spent three weeks reflecting on myself and my life and I just hated myself more than anything. After the D&c it took another 3 weeks for my hcg to hit zero. It took 3 weeks to feel like myself again. And now I fell stable again but it's still so hard to reflect on. My doctors didn't talk to me about risks, about what molar pregnancy is or why it happened. They told me that's what it was and left it at that. And I can't even describe my fear at getting pregnant again. My fiance wants to get pregnant this month and honestly I want it too but what if it happens again? Miscarriage and molar pregnancies are very different I know, but my doctors told me to try again as soon as I'm ready. So is it safe? I don't know if you'll see this, or if anyone who might know more will. But that's my story, and I am honestly a little happier knowing that I wasn't alone in suffering. I don't mean that in a cruel way, I just mean that I can cry with you knowing what it was like. I just hope that more of us can support each other, especially how this year has been going.
I am really sorry for your loss..Giving you a big hug and sending you lots of love 💝 I hope now you have your rainbow baby in your arms..
Thank you for sharing. I can't imagine sharing something so personal and intimate with strangers, but I thank you for sharing. I do have a question. Is it likely that most of the time someone's period is late they had a chemical pregnancy? Do those still count as miscarriages that need to be relayed to a doctor?
You’re my favorite labor and delivery Nurse to watch...you helped me so much throughout my first trimester. This is my first pregnancy and I don’t have my mom with me. You’ve been a huge help. I’m so sorry for your loss 😞 I can’t imagine what you’re feeling 😞
My heart and prayers are with you during this tough time. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I also lost my three babies in the past two year. I had a missed miscarriage of twins at 14 twins and then My son passed away due to Potter Syndrome. The pain of losing them is always there I miss then so much. But time definitely helps. Thank you for your courage of telling your story 🙏💓
I’m so sorry for your loss! I have experienced the same thing on my first pregnancy. Sending you hugs and prayers!!!! I pray that God will bless you and your family!!! ❤️
I am so soooooo sorry for your loss. I understand what it's like completely. I've had ten chemical pregnancy, with no answers as to why it keeps happening. Over the years I've had a rollercoaster of emotions over the years. I just want to thank you for speaking about your experience. I know I take comfort in hearing other women's stories.
This is so hard. I was devastated when I thought I was pregnant and never really was, much less this. This was a legitimate pregnancy and you have every right to grieve as your heart needs to. Early pregnancy is so scary. I'm now 24 weeks with my first baby, but there were days with heavy bleeding early on, which scared the heck out of me. Pregnancy is such an emotional rollercoaster. You will be blessed with another baby one day. Your body has grown and birthed a beautiful baby already, so it is healthy and capable. Hugs from Memphis. Thank you for helping so many people with this channel.
I’m so sorry for your loss❤️
My first pregnancy at the young age of 20 was a miscarriage and it absolutely destroyed me for a little while. I was so angry at my body for failing me. I felt like I had failed my husband as well because we were so excited. He was my absolute rock during that time. ❤️ now almost 5 years later we have a beautiful (almost 2 year old) daughter and just welcomed our son this April in the middle of this crazy pandemic.
And we are so so thankful for these wonderful little babies❤️ thank you for sharing your story so that other beautiful mamas may not feel alone. You are brave and strong, Mama. 🥰
I’m so so sorry for your loss. I’ve been there with a chemical and a 17 week loss. It’s the worst and I could not even imagine having your job and going through it at the same time. You are so strong. I’m currently 33 weeks and still terrified of something happening to my daughter. It’s so hard. Please know how helpful your videos have been for me as I prepare for birth, I’m so happy I stumbled upon your page.
I am so sorry ❤. Thank you for sharing your story. I have had two chemical pregnancies and years of sufferring from secondary infertility. It was so nice to hear you speak about your experience. It hit home on how I felt going through what I did at the time and glad that you are bringing it up to those that need to hear this.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for taking the time to post this video. I experienced a chemical pregnancy while on our honeymoon. I still don’t believe that I’ve been able to process the loss, and like some of the other ladies in this thread was delegitimized by my OBGYN who didn’t consider it a loss. We were able to conceive a few months later and I’m currently 32 weeks with our little baby boy ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss, your families loss, and heartache. It's extremely tough to go through this experience. It was emotional to see how much it effects every woman, I appreciate your story, and I especially appreciate that you touched base on this subject. I've had 3 chemical pregnancies previously and was heart broken, especially when you know this early. It definitely felt like I wish I didn't know