I’m a Narcissist Who Doesn’t Want Friends. 🫂🚫
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ต.ค. 2024
- (And yes, I know this is unhealthy and it’s something I’m addressing and working on in therapy. I can’t speak for every narcissist regarding this because a lot of narcissists are social, I just lacked that need for platonic validation). #mentalhealth #npd #narcissist #narcissism #covertnarcissist #lgbt #lgbtq #narcissistic #alternative #empath
It's okay to not want some things that don't interest you whether you're a narcissist or non-narcissist,what matters is we don't hurt others.We need to realize that we don't live our life to please everybody
Channeled properly, this quality can be to your advantage on various fronts. I think youre doing great. ❤
We are ALL selfish…that’s for sure. We just are not as willing to openly share that truth with others. It does take commitment and work to keep good platonic relationships going. If it were not for my good friends making effort, some of mine would go by the wayside pretty quick. lol. I am really excited and proud of the work you have put in, Kaylee.. and the healing you have already done! Keep up the great work!!! ❤
It's rough though because there's the tendency to end up increasingly alone over time and since NPD subjects are isolating more as avoidance than being truly a-social, it's really sad. They believe no one can or would love their true self so they put out the pseudo self to acquire necessary resources while never letting anyone in deep enough to experience true love. All the while deeply desiring a connection with others, usually lived out via maladaptive fantasy. I, too, am living this life. Sometimes the anguish is unspeakable. Zero out of five stars. Do not recommend.
you put it into words in a way i might not have been able too.
@@zvizviz Thank you, Sir! Hope you are having a fine October evening🎃
I'm not generally into connecting with people, because your self awareness is a super power and must people lack it. It's a chore to decode social interaction. My friends are cows now
I appreciate your presence in sharing your experiences
❤this sounds like me. Wow. I have a few close friends, a relationship with a man I love immensely yet dont feel the need to talk to every day (we live two hours apart). Were both on the spectrum and have dark triad traits, as well as I am also a complete empath, but with remission psychopathy. Thank you for helping alot of people by being so candid.
Friendships are a chore. I say this as an autistic. I wouldn't consider them if they didn't fulfill me or make me happy
I dislike that I still love my ex-friend, even when I feel abandoned by her. I don't know if that wound will heal
Do you have access to a cow? They're very sincere.
I was discarded by a friend six years ago, but I still maintain my friendship with three other friends. They take work, sometimes. You have to make dates--it's like a romantic relationship, only platonic. It is EXTREMELY rewarding to be validated as a platonic friend. Maybe even more validating than being romantic; and you don't have to put out for it. Bonus! I'm not saying that I prefer my friends over my partner, though. I'm very happy. ❤
You're hair looks amazing... also too be honest having friends come and go and cause drama at times anyway so stress in your life with to many friends could be heavy on mental stability...also family are there for whatever we are however we act family only really puts up with us and really love us 😊
I appreciate yer channel... while also undertanding that a "channel about you solely" is still a narcissistic trait.
I respect and give you some "far away love"
..just being real (maybe invite others to interact on yer channel and gain some dimension!)
U hide from others because they have a gain of perspective.
I want a friend so desperately. I’m trying peanuts. I’m thinking crows I’m kinda done w humans
pets make for wonderful friends!
@@andreakurz631 pets are pets. I’m talking equal exchange
I can totally relate as an autistic empath with loads of mental illnesses and trauma. Friendships are just confusing and really hard to maintain. They are exhausting - and although I really want to connect - the older I get the more I realize I don’t have the social skills to do it well. I used to be so upset about it, but developing a debilitating and chronic illness helped me see which family members would stay around… and that just cemented my conclusion that I can have compassion for people as a whole - but no friends please.
I learned to just avoid people due to my nature cause it's better for everyone in the long run. I stick to my own zone and I enjoy it and don't have a need to be around people. At times, I can overthink due to being an introvert, plus I micro analyze behavior, including my own. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Friendships in my experience come with eventually facing a betrayal. It's bad enough there's betrayal in family too, but I don't know they are still family.
I suspect one of my close friends in college was a narcissist. We were super close for 10 years bc I was the "Mother Hen" in the group of friends and used to nag him to be social, plus I have ASD/low empathy and we sort of had this unspoken comfort around each other. I never understood why he just dumped his friends and had no loyalty to them as soon as a girl he liked came along. He wasn't mean about it, he just left like he forgot us, and when they broke up, he'd come back to our circle.
The circle thought it was a case of a young guy "going to Girlfriend Island," but he never outgrew it. One by one he started to lose his friends, but he didn't really care, explaining how his romantic interests were always his priority and maintaining the platonic connections were too much work.
When we got into our 30s, I had to walk away because I realized that he didn't know/was uninterested in maintaining friendships. We had a long and complicated history at this point and it would require us to actually have a more complex relationship. It was a hard place to be in because if your friend is happy and in a relationship, you have no friend. I couldn't invest the energy in a relationship like that anymore. Casual acquaintances, sure, but this was way too emotionally complicated and intimate.
This is the first explanation of the behavior I've seen that makes sense. Thank you.
i can relate! im aplatonic (like aro or ace but for platonic attraction/relationships)
I have one friend that hates me. That's all I want
TOO LATE!!!! WHOO HOO HOO HOO HOO HA HA HA HA HA HA HAAAAAH!!!!
No te odio amigo ❤ siempre te entiendo tu ❤ George
I am happy for your journey. I hope you do well. I have a question, a hypothetical one: if you have made friends IRL some time before, would you still be in touch with them now, given that you are going to therapy?
You don't have to answer if you do not feel like it. It just picked my curiosity.
I understand not wanting friends - I do not care making new ones, but at the same time the ones I made before and they stayed, even with long periods of quiet time between us, they still are strong.
I'm puzzled that you prioritize romantic relationships over platonic? Are you trying to have platonic relationships that always become romantic or are you not attempting platonic friendships.
For example, I have a romantic partner and three platonic friends. I wouldn't mind having more platonic friends.
During Interpersonal Effectiveness (DBT) there were a couple of people in my group who wanted to make friends and were struggling.😢
I feel blessed to be able to support my friends and to be able to listen with compassion and empathy. It's an honor that they want to share with me their struggles and that they trust my loyalty and advice. It's much better validation than being a good lay.❤
Girl how did you get your bpd to go into remission? I need that.
Guess what? Most ppl are uninteresting because they are in some sort of pain, which is self-centered. Also, those who are interesting can spot your problems from distance because that’s a level they passed through long ago. Energy doesn’t lie. Love is not enough because value is the name if the game. If you don’t have real value to give, you will not be interesting and if you don’t find value given from others, you will not be interested in them. When a fair exchange of value is made, then love can happen.
This how adults work. When you were a kid, the values you were receiving and giving were: play, watching stuff and talking about others to pass the time.
This is why we talk these days about being low-value or high-value. Being ordinary is low-value, but being destructive is extremely low-value. This is where self-worth issues are coming from.
My friends are interesting because I take an active interest in them. Others might find them boring, but I love them despite how average they may be. Maybe I love them because of how average they are. I like to think that I'm pretty average, too. And, I'm kinda boring, too, if someone expects me to entertain them.❤
atleast your family is safe enough to want to be bothered with
Progress ❤
❤same
Soy tu amigo paz en tu❤ soy George punk 🤘😇🤘🎸
Glad yr growing up some...keep at it
You Haed is love my sad ❤ no tengo amigo estoi solo es verdad
Jorge, You have us!❤
@@barbarabuttler7647 como está amigo soy george punk 🤘😇🤘
You live is love My friends is You one yes world
Mi corazón ♥️ está tu amistad gracia
@@barbarabuttler7647 puerto rico 🇵🇷 You love My amigo
Tu eres amigo George punk
So we can’t be friends :). You don’t look old enough to have been inside four walls for a decade. I need to research agoraphobia
Hmmm.... Weird 😂 maybe vindictive and cruel because you have no friends? Maybe no friends because you're vindictive and cruel? 😢
Hypothetically possible in the past. A vicious loop. Sounds like she's recovering from it.
❤️🩹💯🩶makes sense ☺️🩶🩶🩶💖✨🩶