SHOULD YOU TALK ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES WITH YOUR FAMILY & FRIENDS? 😡💔😩| Fumi Desalu-Vold

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  • @FumiDesaluVold
    @FumiDesaluVold  3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    LINK TO MY ZARA BLOUSE HERE 😊 www.zara.com/uk/en/printed-top-with-shoulder-pads-p08923635.html?v1=137549600&gclid=CjwKCAjwwsmLBhACEiwANq-tXHs_nmXpzCz_Ny70q5rMCpP8233BwDewrUA6M3EdBtH8PrNfpWvG7xoCfXsQAvD_BwE

  • @_yvonnesworld_
    @_yvonnesworld_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    "What you tolerate, you indirectly encourage" - Fumi
    This is a word im holding on to forever.
    Loved this episode.

  • @Ccgemini
    @Ccgemini 3 ปีที่แล้ว +369

    My grandmother told me as a child and adult DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR HOME BUSINESS OUTSIDE WITH ANYONE. SHE SAID HANDLE YOUR HOME BUSINESS WITH THE People living in your home and sleeping in your bed because if you can’t talk to your partner then why are you in a relationship with them🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️. Granny was RIGHT.

    • @39Dena
      @39Dena 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Absolutely 💯

    • @firstladygift.2431
      @firstladygift.2431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yeah , I’m my first year I made that mistake to talk to everyone about my issues

    • @LillysConner
      @LillysConner 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes granny knows best, any relationship communication is key and number one, to me if I can't communicate with you then what relationship do we have?

    • @rstreeter882
      @rstreeter882 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      And or have WISE counsel when/if you get stuck.

    • @Getitgirlllll4717
      @Getitgirlllll4717 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Straight up

  • @valeriedixon4387
    @valeriedixon4387 3 ปีที่แล้ว +232

    I can see you hosting your own talk show Fumi, you are a so giving from your spirit... Thanks my sista

    • @Carameldamour
      @Carameldamour 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yes she needs a Wendy like talk show... But instead of celebrity gossip we do sister to sisters topics with real live examples of failures and success!

    • @tfa4782
      @tfa4782 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen

  • @caramelandchocolate5195
    @caramelandchocolate5195 3 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    I could listen to you talk for hours and hours…
    Can’t wait for your stories…

    • @chiomzy09
      @chiomzy09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same here!!! :)

    • @leticiachiok8057
      @leticiachiok8057 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, I'm glued to your channel. Enjoying every vlogg...learning a lot from what you're sharing! You are an inspiration!

    • @faiza4067
      @faiza4067 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      same

  • @warilaetamaraye8712
    @warilaetamaraye8712 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I love the wig story.
    This man's love and respect for Fumi is restorative!

    • @nietah325
      @nietah325 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂 same here..the wigs

  • @irinaostrovskaya711
    @irinaostrovskaya711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "Know the man and you will understand your marriage!" That is so True!!!) I am so grateful for!!!)

  • @rozzyhomemaker
    @rozzyhomemaker 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    All facts!!! Keep your marital issues away from your family.
    Unless you’re in an abusive or unsafe relationship. Call out for help! Tell your family.

  • @Nata-0781
    @Nata-0781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I’m happy to find a grown woman who knows how life works . Was searching for a channel like this . Greeting from Germany 🇩🇪

  • @udegbebrothers6006
    @udegbebrothers6006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    You just have to love this lady.

  • @bettyguzman6350
    @bettyguzman6350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I’ve been married for 17 years and have been with my husband for 19. It’s not a job but it def is work. Awesome advice. I agree. Love you fumi!

  • @NashvilleBraids
    @NashvilleBraids 3 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    Wow. I really enjoyed this video. My fiancée and I are abstaining until marriage as well. I am able to know him and understand him and appreciate him for who he is. And he can do the same for me. I also have learned a ton of things from my dating past and I actually have implemented what I learned and it’s been so much better. I learned I was emotionally immature before and I didn’t understand how this was so crucial in how my relationships would be. I also learned that as a priceless woman, I set my own value wayyyy too low and I put up with things I would NEVER put up with now! I wasn’t looking for him when I met him. He just kind of came into my life last year. It’s bliss, Fumi. It really is. I don’t tell my family anything personal about my fiancé. In private, I can appreciate our love and respect and even our disagreements and it feels soooo much more sacred like nothing before. Watching these reality shows will have you thinking that love is all about spreading your business all through the streets. There is NOTHING like the peace, passion, honesty, fulfillment, and love that I feel now from him and it’s beautiful.

    • @benevolencebandawe753
      @benevolencebandawe753 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Blessings

    • @faizam523
      @faizam523 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      May God bless you both!

    • @j.j2846
      @j.j2846 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely beautiful! God bless your union 💕

    • @mynameonly579
      @mynameonly579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So happy for you, that's how it's supposed to be 🥰

  • @vanessawalton76
    @vanessawalton76 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    "What you tolerate, you indirectly encourage" Fumi Darling, this quote from you is absolutely pure wisdom! Keep teaching my sister!!!❤

  • @carolynololade4126
    @carolynololade4126 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I feel balance is key. It's the twenty first century,every woman should learn about toxic behaviors and patterns so that they can sight them,and speak with people about it. It's okay to keep your home affairs between you and your husband but what if he's a narcissist or has some crazy personality disorder? You'd definitely need to speak with someone about it.

    • @niaedmonds3342
      @niaedmonds3342 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I agree now something like that yes. But if yall just having simple arguments like all couples family/friends need to stay OUT

  • @LillysConner
    @LillysConner 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Love you Fumi, been watching you since I discovered your channel, am 52 too and actually feel more beautiful now than I did in my 20s and 30s. You remind me of 3 people, Michelle Obama, Cecily Tyson and Grace Jones. You are truly beautiful inside and out and wise.. Yes we will take what we can get coz those 2 boys need you too 🤣.

  • @Vamparellame
    @Vamparellame 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I've always said to keep your relationship in your relationship . Never discuss relationships or family matters outside of the family. It never ends well and never will, why because people don't want to get involved or they stir up more drama that you definitely don't need. I always just listen if someone tells me something I'd rather not hear 🙉 and just encourage them to talk to the person they are talking about.

  • @39Dena
    @39Dena 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I’m here to support Fumi whatever she does. I know you busy been the scene and taking care of Adrian and spending you time with your wonderful husband Ole. Life is busy and you are doing you best. I love you because you are genuine and real. Love the makeup! ❤️

  • @fashionandluxury101
    @fashionandluxury101 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    If you’re in a abusive relationship; I think in that circumstance it’s ok to share with family and friends.
    Great advice Fumi I loved it when you stated “ Know the man before you marry him, and look at the signs” Another statement that I loved was “ I’m too fabulous for that !” I tip my glass to you dear💗 I dodge bullets too praise God❤️

    • @TemsD
      @TemsD 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ToniaAlex13 Well said. I agree. In abusive or dysfunctional situations, while I agree with Aunty Fumi to be discreet and honor your relationship by keeping things inside, please don't take this advice to keep your mouth shut when you are unsafe or abused or mistreated cos many have shut their mouths all the way to the grave 6ft under. God forbid. In the multitude of counsel wisdom is found. May God protect us all from bad omen.

    • @Limitlesskkz2022
      @Limitlesskkz2022 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed. Definitely need to share abuse encounter with someone.

  • @thequeenmidas
    @thequeenmidas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Been married almost 16 years and all I can say is... Well said🙌🏿

  • @moniqueforrester674
    @moniqueforrester674 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of your friend bring you comfort during this difficult time.

  • @loulon1756
    @loulon1756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    So happy I found your channel. You have been a blessing in my life with your fun and helpful tips videos. Your energy and personality is contagious!!! Congratulations to you on all of your opportunities and achievements🎉🙏
    I send my sincere condolences to your friend and to the families😢

  • @Lesah_
    @Lesah_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The most important thing she said was take the time to get to know the guy. Getting into a relationship very quickly could totally RUIN your life. They are worse things than being single. Fatherless children,Abusive husband,Leaving the relationship with all sorts of mental emotional baggage and pain Single mother life……

  • @Nat-gn2sp
    @Nat-gn2sp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I am new to Fumination and English is not my first language. I am Francophone I just would like to express my big Love to you Fumi, You are so true, so dynamic, I love your vibe, the way you laugh! You are my psycho, Listening to you is a kind of therapy full of positivism and trueness. You are the sister everyone dream of! I If you ever come to Québec, I would love to see you. Love and blessings ❤💞

  • @sheliasunday7744
    @sheliasunday7744 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Dear Fumi we will take whatever you give us! Life happens to us all. Love and blessings. ♥️🙏🏽

  • @ielmore7226
    @ielmore7226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love story-time!!! It's better than soap operas because it's real life.

  • @abbysotomi2457
    @abbysotomi2457 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Funmi, you are so full of wisdom. Your responses and mannerisms remind me of Nigeria, and especially the Yoruba tribe. Putting things in your left hand and back pocket, never tell family members stuff cos they never forget and it is hard to redeem your spouse in front of them🙏🏽

  • @maxineramz4464
    @maxineramz4464 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Aunty Fumi coming through with her nuggets of wisdom. Thank you 😊

  • @gistnafood
    @gistnafood 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Fumi i hope you see this message. Watching your videos always give me confidence and hope. I was in a relationship that i didn't not take my time to know who he was. I ended up having a son for him. I taught love was enough to hold us together but at last i was gaslighted. Later found out that i was in a narcissistic relationship. But i left. Now am just trying to put my life together. Sometimes i just wish to hug you knowing that i have a big sister 🤗

    • @palomitaslocas
      @palomitaslocas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That exactly happened to me, I'm still in therapy.
      For my daughter

  • @stephgms5766
    @stephgms5766 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Why am I fining out about this beautiful wonderful human being just now... better late than never right? I do not know you but I feel as though I'm listening to an aunt that I have known forever! please don't change. People need mothers/aunties/sisters/friends like you! Nice to meet you and to binge watch your sister2sister épisodes

  • @eleniprovia7667
    @eleniprovia7667 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Dear Fumi,
    How do we respond to people that constantly criticize our weight/height? I don’t know how to deal.
    Thank you so much for the sister 2 sister series, it is so helpful!
    💓💖💓💞💕💗

    • @TheMisslilmama2
      @TheMisslilmama2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This!!

    • @SincerlyKaciJ
      @SincerlyKaciJ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I need advice as well

    • @sharonnjeri2999
      @sharonnjeri2999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It's something we can't fight it's how we were created how you respond to that is by loving all that,that people criticize and what happens is that it becomes beautiful even to people's eyes.
      Once you are secure about it you become beautiful and discover actually it's not even freckled it's always been beautiful but you may have chosen to always see it negatively🤗.

    • @selfieswithapurpose2398
      @selfieswithapurpose2398 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Critics are silly fake people. Be coool with urself. We are not all meant to be thin or tall.

    • @atangaannvalleur176
      @atangaannvalleur176 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I really wish She'll make a video on this. It's such a touchy subject to many of us

  • @yalondawatkins8249
    @yalondawatkins8249 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Fumigate, thank you for your talk. I am 65 yrs old & I learned some things. Keep it coming sister, I am inspired

  • @sadeajadi8304
    @sadeajadi8304 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    You are a blessings to me since I discovered your channel, yesterday I was talking about your channel with my husband and how much I have learnt from your channel. Your teaching and tips are very very helpful

  • @cathyrobinson5959
    @cathyrobinson5959 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Fumi this topic of discussion was so needed. It makes so much sense. Talk it out with your man or your women and keep everyone else out. If he or she want talk you have to do what you gotta do. Love ya for always being straight forward and inspirational.❤️

  • @Nicky411
    @Nicky411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    TH-cam recommended your channel to me out of no where, and honestly I have been hooked ever since!

  • @selfieswithapurpose2398
    @selfieswithapurpose2398 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Its not that easy. Remember people Can be difficult with different values thats why the legal system helps to manage the chaos. If u dont speak to another person to objectively look at pending issues without been bias, i bet u , u will speak to a judge sooner or later if u are alife. Those of us that are lucky sometimes dont really understand that some women are living like prisoners in their matrimonial home. Lets be careful how we advice pp. Some have died of stress, poured acid on, strangled , flogged, abused everyday and u say they should dialogue with a beast? Look lets count ourself lucky as we help others in their fight and be a voice of truth.

  • @shirleyjack-antoine6449
    @shirleyjack-antoine6449 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Fumi can you tell us what you think about getting body alterations like nose, butt or breast jobs especially as you get older and things start to sagg.

  • @faroukali3213
    @faroukali3213 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Ole: "Is she wearing a wig?" favorite part of this video. LOVE YOU ALWAYS

    • @damilolawestly9150
      @damilolawestly9150 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey

    • @mariposas22
      @mariposas22 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @imaginedlife-style7026
      @imaginedlife-style7026 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂

    • @Mira_Moves
      @Mira_Moves 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That part got me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @faxoxo2306
      @faxoxo2306 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am rolling on the floor he did not know almost all women wear wigs or clip in 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @therealkoolaidandkale
    @therealkoolaidandkale 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My God, Auntie Fumi. If women had more role models like you, men would act SO differently and women would not put up with HALF the shit that we do and for not nearly as long. 🙌🏾 Folks having babies (lifelong responsibilities) with deadbeat men that they don't even know who don't WANT to be husbands and providers... you are SO wise. Gosh, I hope that more women learn of you and take your advice. We are SO much more powerful and high- vibrational than we give ourselves credit for. I love your videos, ESPECIALLY S2S. THANK YOU!!

  • @sweetspice9120
    @sweetspice9120 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    can you please tell us the story of how you met Ole?

  • @carolyndye2615
    @carolyndye2615 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    We love you Fumi I am also 52yrs young but I love your Sister to Sister because I have also learned so much!!! God bless you

  • @wclstjkk
    @wclstjkk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    OMG YOU DID IT AGAIN FUMI THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR. YOU GIVE THE BEST ADVISE EVER CANT STOP WATCHING YOU AND YOUR PERSONALITY IS EVERYTHING 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @xafronicajones
    @xafronicajones 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    i live for the laughs and story time!!!

  • @jkwithlove8180
    @jkwithlove8180 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Actions! Yes!!! Ladies we need to stick to our words AND boundaries. Don't try to "change" anyone.

  • @crysstal82
    @crysstal82 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Thanks for that dedication to Mel Fumi. It was wonderful. You are one of the truly beautiful ones in the beauty community. Love you!!!

  • @Kozygirlie_eats
    @Kozygirlie_eats 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Watching this just in case i get married

  • @soniakakunze9120
    @soniakakunze9120 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have never met someone as lovable and fun like you ! and i love your look on this episode, so so much

  • @2realformost
    @2realformost 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Some Fumi is better than no Fumi at all!

  • @greatnation4328
    @greatnation4328 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Funmi, l appreciate your personality, your wisdom, but can't but notice you are walking with divine grace and favours.
    Absolutely love your principles.

  • @rhondasview1230
    @rhondasview1230 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    YOU ARE SO CORRECT! Men tell you who they are! I wish I’d learned that before I married. He was very immature and 10 years younger than me also.

  • @lystrajackson1911
    @lystrajackson1911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was in a relationship with a guy for eight years we never had any children thanks god. I was 18 years at the time didn't know anything about living with a man or playing house. So to get away for my parents home I leave like a big woman lol that was the worst choice I have ever made in my life. To make a long story short he never provided for me I work so hard to try to set a good picture for my friends & family that am soooo happy which was not true. I got fed up n leave with just the cloths on my back n my hand bag. A few years later I met my present husband Mr Jackson he's a bit older but I love it he treats me like the queen I am I bless god for sending him in my live, as in life there will always be ups n downs by once the two becomes one the sky's is the limit. Always love ur self sisters know ur worth. Love love u fumi

  • @rodahmueni7091
    @rodahmueni7091 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Fumi, You're Wise be Blessed.
    Much Love and respect from Nairobi Kenya.

  • @michellethomas8357
    @michellethomas8357 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Daughters? Baby girl, you are my LITTLE sister and I love learning from you! :-) I'm 54. Our lives are so different, so I listen to you and love your confidence.!! Sister to Sister is FABULOUS!!

  • @queenc8280
    @queenc8280 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi beautiful Fumi,
    ****Please talk about being married to a verbally abusive/toxic & unloving man for years that will never change****

  • @karenhazel7526
    @karenhazel7526 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I really love that I discovered this Channel. Your aura is something that I can resonate with. Auntie Fumi! Love you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @dior423
    @dior423 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    It’s quality over quantity, Fumi! What you give us is always on time and on topic. Family, and yourself, first - always🙏🏾

  • @dr-k1667
    @dr-k1667 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Balance is KEY to Success and so what you give is has been QUALITY so whatever the schedule will be WORTH THE WAIT.
    Great topic Fumi, this is sure to be a classic that will need to be shared.

    • @melvinasantiago5412
      @melvinasantiago5412 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love this topic feels like u was talkin directly to me 😭

    • @melvinasantiago5412
      @melvinasantiago5412 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love u fumi 🥰

    • @lilypage2769
      @lilypage2769 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You could start your own beauty talk show dear Fumi honestly

  • @winnieflex4030
    @winnieflex4030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fumi you are so right never discuss your relationship with your family they never forget. also they use it again you the quickest chance they get. I learn that the hard way.

  • @Jewelstar2020
    @Jewelstar2020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Totally enjoyed this video... You taught me so much, especially how to take control of my life. I'm not in any toxic relationship but I think I'll be able to handle it if ever it emerges.

  • @1960genius
    @1960genius 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dear Fumi! Oh my goodness. This video should be shown to all brides BEFORE the wedding! Such valuable and loving information. The absolute Truth. Thank you for all you do for us!

    • @girlnextdoor2836
      @girlnextdoor2836 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Both brides and grooms.The marriage is between the two therefore both should be taught this information

    • @1960genius
      @1960genius 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@girlnextdoor2836 agree 100%

  • @motlagaboramongane2248
    @motlagaboramongane2248 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The gift of goodbye...wow👏👏. Oh how I wish I had that gift 😏

  • @Helloitsme0923
    @Helloitsme0923 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It depends on the topic, the relationship between the family members etc… I’d say for me, “NO”… my family get to involved to the point it’s considered “meddling”… if they were to offer advice and “guide” me to the “best” decision, I would seek advice, but honestly NO… I’d rather seek advice from a close family friend and/or a person whom I see is living a purposeful life (according to my standards).. (for me elderly people are the BEST advice givers.. doesn’t matter the race or nationality.. Matters of the heart are universal)..❤️

    • @jemk6098
      @jemk6098 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree will you darling

  • @kuukuasaah5870
    @kuukuasaah5870 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Can you please do a video on REALISTIC financial responsibilities for women in marriage? I definitely know every marriage has unique financial needs but what are some standards you can share? That is: joint accounts, building a house together /mortgage/rent, car expenses, groceries, school fees for kids, personal accounts, etc. In what ways can a woman contribute financially in marriage without emasculating her husband?

    • @sweetspice9120
      @sweetspice9120 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      She touched on it in her Q & A video with her hubby

  • @nishygray
    @nishygray 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Amazing move for Juvia's Place. Keep up the fantastic work Fumi 👏🏾

  • @mariemoss3186
    @mariemoss3186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Fumi ..I would always complain about husband to my family. Won't do it anymore. Good advice thanks

  • @Nae_emie
    @Nae_emie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Listennnnnn Aunty Fumi is always ON POINT !!!! #keepthesecoming 🙏🏾

  • @AngieHart67
    @AngieHart67 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fumi you’re speaking truth💕. I thought I was the only one , I mentally check out, before I end the relationship .

  • @somiderukayat8507
    @somiderukayat8507 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Aunt fumi you really nailed it this time around. This is the mistake i made when hubby refused to listen by turning to my family😭😭😭😭

  • @Zamazizi
    @Zamazizi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    💯 on mentally checking out before physically checking out. It’s the best way to end a relationship and not have any what-ifs.

  • @TravelSaavyChic
    @TravelSaavyChic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    OMG! You know you bad girl! You dropped a hellova sermon! I’ve recently had to deal with some issues internally and THIS, just helped and confirmed how I should deal with them! THANK YOU FUMS! Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @Jenny_cares.
    @Jenny_cares. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I came across this channel and had to subscribe instantly 🤗❤❤❤❤.Everything about her is real, all her videos are educative and inspiring. I enjoy each and every video uploads.

  • @estherkimani3140
    @estherkimani3140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You’re so gifted Fumi and I am grateful to every story you’ve told. And I look forward to many more. Am taking notes 📝

  • @Spiritualchar1111
    @Spiritualchar1111 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Heavy on the “I’m too Fabulous for that” 💯🤣😂

  • @shirleyjack-antoine6449
    @shirleyjack-antoine6449 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love your sister to sister videos Fumi!! I'm always looking forward to them since I recently found you. Can you please talk about the challenges a young girl can have in the modelling business ... with both negative confrontations from both men and women ..be it jealousy or advances, and how to deal with them.

  • @farzanahabiblevy1211
    @farzanahabiblevy1211 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fumo you are an amazing young woman and I absolutely love listening to you. There’s such wisdom and sincerity about you. You put dear old Oprah Winfrey to shame and sham. Hope your success doesn’t change you. And how do you have all that energy? You are the best mix of practicality, truthfulness and spirituality. Thank you for being you

  • @mathwithprofessorv
    @mathwithprofessorv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    S2S have always been my favorite videos you make Aunty Fumi!! Bring on the marathon! Could you do a video on how to deal with toxic family members that you can’t completely cut out of your life? (Because they are in laws, etc.)

  • @hs6404
    @hs6404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the symbology/ application of the chicken and the tiger. The advice is pure gold, from the heart.

  • @Ann-ub4mf
    @Ann-ub4mf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Fumi, I just enjoy seeing you and hearing you. So whether it's Sister to Sister or something else I'm fine with it.😊🥰❤❤ EXCELLENT advice!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Your husband and the wigs!BAHAHA!😅🤣😂

  • @chinenyelilian9488
    @chinenyelilian9488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So true, it's sad, but I say goodbye when needed too. And we mentally check out before physically checking out. Aunty Fumi is always on point. You meet the right people when you are free. Please check out when needed. If he loves and respects you, you will know.

  • @ewurakuaappiahene-gyamfi9845
    @ewurakuaappiahene-gyamfi9845 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We mentally check out b4 we physically do
    Very true my sister
    You’re so sweet and uplifting
    Keep it up 👍❤️

  • @jenniferbazel8157
    @jenniferbazel8157 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Excellent advice Fumi! Look forward to more Sister-to-Sister. Love you 🌷

  • @MaryOAdedeji
    @MaryOAdedeji 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So true . Family members keep tabs . Thank you sister 🌺

  • @jamwithsherene5270
    @jamwithsherene5270 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Aunty Fumi, thank you for the sister 2 sister segment. Please will you talk about being married to a Norwegian man? Specifically, did you encounter any negative comments from family and/or friends?

  • @lifewithlarissa6159
    @lifewithlarissa6159 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I ABSOLUTELY ENJOYED EVERY PART OF THIS VIDEO, THANKS MRS. FDV

  • @vadamsable
    @vadamsable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    No consistent complaining, because it causes your blood family to have bad feelings toward the other person. If you're going to do something positive with the advice you're getting, fine. But if you vent too much, you bring others into your marriage. It's not good. If you are in physical danger and need help or advice to escape, be ready to move and do something about it. It's not fair to have others disliking your spouse and taking sides. It's destructive to the relationship. I had a relative who was always complaining to her friends about her husband. She was an unhappy miserable selfish person. Never satisfied with what he did. He would work 14-16 hour days, cook, do laundry, help with schoolwork, cook for holidays and remember all the special days. Her female friends thought she was so lucky. Two or 3 of her friends tried to steal him away from her. They both eventually were vying for their friends to take their sides about marital issues. It became SO toxic, everyone in their friends circle eventually left. They finally ended up with NO friends. People got tired of the fighting. Family is always going to side with THEIR family, IF they know their loved one is halfway decent.

  • @dearinsomniadontletthebedb9237
    @dearinsomniadontletthebedb9237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This is a great topic. Can't wait to hear your thoughts Fumi!🤗
    Also, hope you're doing well💞💞💞

  • @LittleMsWanderer
    @LittleMsWanderer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Antie Fumi. I'm not married or in a relationship, but as my dad likes to say, prevention is better than cure. I'll know what to do right.

  • @adaezeokafor4331
    @adaezeokafor4331 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are on point!!! I wish I got this wisdom long time ago. It is never too late.

  • @cherylreeves2188
    @cherylreeves2188 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes!!! You are so correct, but I had a friend and she tried to disrespect me in my home 🏡 I had to get rid of that relationship/ friendship.
    It's one of those some people are not your friends for life. You know the story you told about the girl who was jealous of her friend because of a job. Well that was her.
    Free to go, goodbye

  • @janicecarter2793
    @janicecarter2793 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fumi? I accidently found you on TH-cam and now I'm addicted to you. You are so bold and your support on relationship is teaching me so much and I love you...keep on doing what you are doing and yet you still have time for your beautiful family. I look forward to your videos whenever I have some spare time.

  • @AngelSuttle
    @AngelSuttle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yayyy!!! We missed you but understand that you are building an empire! Thank you so much for showing us the way, Auntie Fumi. Your wisdom is such a blessing for us ladies that have lost our Moms. I’ve been waiting for this S2S all week! Sending Palm Beach love from one chocolate beauty to another! #FumiNation 🤎🤎🤎

  • @cyrillaayoma5549
    @cyrillaayoma5549 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my mother gave me this advise and its so great listening to i again

  • @madeitto50lov
    @madeitto50lov 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love it all. Sister to Sister, makeup, clothes. Whatever you do I will watch. Love, love it.💖💖💖💖💖

  • @sims2432
    @sims2432 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Aunty Fumi, I thoroughly enjoyed the engaging conversation. You're taught me a lot. Can you please speak on what to do if you're in a relationship for a long time, the guy is kind, generous and loving but doesn't want to commit to being married

    • @obasi-ezemary6977
      @obasi-ezemary6977 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Must be hard. Sad thing is it sounds like it'll have to end at some point cus you guys are incompatible and want different things or one of you compromises.

    • @aquarius8325
      @aquarius8325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He ultimately might not be the one for you...if you desire marriage but he doesn't you're not on the same page. You might have to end it because your husband is out there waiting for you.

    • @truethots3088
      @truethots3088 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      He is probably waiting for the "right one" and you are likely his backup just in case.
      May God give us the spirit and courage of "Goodbye"

  • @truethots3088
    @truethots3088 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Telling family is the worst. It just becomes fodder for gossip. Even long after you have resolved the issue

  • @e.edwigep9352
    @e.edwigep9352 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So wonderful Fumi. Thank you so much for all your advices.
    Please could you talk about IVF journey. I have been through it as a single person, no partner at 40. It did not work. But I will not be able to go through that again, specially alone. Financially and emotionally it is hard. I wish to have a family and children naturally. Please let talk about that. I know the subject is painful to a lot of us.

  • @gail-annlebourne-bain2617
    @gail-annlebourne-bain2617 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well said Fumi. The most influential person in the life of your spouse is you. If you have to get someone else to talk to your spouse so your spouse could listen to them and not to you then thats a red flag.

  • @pine_berry_heart
    @pine_berry_heart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Fumi you're an angel! I love you! Can't wait for more sister to sister talk.

  • @m.mbingo4687
    @m.mbingo4687 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your skin tone is very rich aunty Fumi. Love from Swaziland

  • @oluwatomisineniola1464
    @oluwatomisineniola1464 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much Funmi, I don’t think you understand how much of a blessing you are to some of us. I’m so grateful 🙏

  • @onelungliving2695
    @onelungliving2695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The gift of goodbye has really saved me. I am grateful to have been able to walk away, looking back, yooo my life would have been a mess😂. Ow I could listen to you the whole day auntie Fumi🌸