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10 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!

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  • The questions that need to be asked so you know exactly what you're signing up for. 😊
    10 Questions to ask in the early stages of dating
    - [ ] What does he want out of this relationship serious or casual
    - [ ] What happened in his last relationship and why did they break up.
    - [ ] Does he want children or looking to have more and how many
    - [ ] What is his financial situation
    - [ ] And what are the expectations on finances as a couple, talk about your contribution too.
    - [ ] What is his relationship with his family, parents and siblings
    - [ ] Are his family going to be an issue m, u need to be prepared and know what you’re waking into. That includes baby mamas
    - [ ] Where does he see himself in the next 5/10 years his ambitions and dreams?
    - [ ] Is he open to relocating to another country if need be
    - [ ] Who are his friends and request to meet them
    - [ ] What are the things he will not compromise on, everyone has deal breakers! Believe him when he says it and do not try to convince home otherwise after the fact when you guys are married
    - [ ] How important is sex to him and will he be prepared to wait while you take your time to access the situation
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  • @FumiDesaluVold
    @FumiDesaluVold  ปีที่แล้ว +570

    10 Questions to ask in the early stages of dating
    - [ ] What does he want out of this relationship serious or casual?
    - [ ] What happened in his last relationship and why did they break up?
    - [ ] Does he want children or looking to have more and how many?
    - [ ] What is his financial situation?
    - [ ] And what are the expectations on finances as a couple? talk about your contribution too.
    - [ ] What is his relationship with his family, parents and siblings?
    - [ ] Are his family going to be an issue? You need to be prepared and know what you’re walking into. That includes baby mamas.
    - [ ] Where does he see himself in the next 5/10 years? What are his ambitions and dreams?
    - [ ] Is he open to relocating to another country if need be?
    - [ ] Who are his friends? and request to meet them.
    - [ ] What are the things he will not compromise on, everyone has deal breakers! Believe him when he says it and do not try to convince him otherwise after the fact when you guys are married.
    - [ ] How important is sex to him and will he be prepared to wait while you take your time to access the relationship. Hold on to the cookies 🍪 for now! 😃

    • @megayummyrockstar
      @megayummyrockstar ปีที่แล้ว +12

      This is as a really good one… keep guiding us u beautiful earth Angel 😇 Asanté Aunty 🙌🏾

    • @judithsandy9101
      @judithsandy9101 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Fumi, beautiful as always.

    • @dorcaskay3477
      @dorcaskay3477 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Awesome points

    • @simplysony7308
      @simplysony7308 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Love you fumi
      Being inspiring
      Have a blessed day 🙏🏾 🌟

    • @kiskibella
      @kiskibella ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awwwwww Fumi! Merci beaucoup! You’re wonda-ful! Bizoux

  • @mleys3248
    @mleys3248 ปีที่แล้ว +333

    Just today I let two men down gently on the online dating site, because they were not answering the question on what happened in their last relationship and what their good and lesser charactertraits were. So ... bye bye. I saved this episode and will revisit it a lot. Love from Belgium.

    • @melissastephens2223
      @melissastephens2223 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      Ask them in person! This way you can see there reaction..it’s too easy to lie and hide behind a text❤️

    • @greenbutterfly2421
      @greenbutterfly2421 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Ah mellisa you are right, in person you can see how someone reacts to a question, can give you some insight.

    • @vincyspice1
      @vincyspice1 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      They haven't ended their last / current relationship. That's why they struggling.

    • @dr-k1667
      @dr-k1667 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Hey good for you. If they can't even write about it... then imagine how they would avoid talking face to face. Next! You'll find someone who not only has the answers to your questions they will be glad you asked!

    • @vincyspice1
      @vincyspice1 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@soulovelee_2433 I'm speaking of experience 😂😂. An Ex did that to me, while we were in a relationship he approached my friend online (dating app), he didn't know she was my friend, but i had previously shared his pic. She told me he approached her online, I told her to ask him why his last relationship ended.....he skipped that question and would change the subject.

  • @faithyqueency389
    @faithyqueency389 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Am dressing up for a date and just got the notification of this video oh my gosh just at the right time thank you Fumi ❤❤

  • @fejiroossuetta3900
    @fejiroossuetta3900 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    No one ever sat me down to tell me how important it is to ask these questions & it’s resulted in me getting into relationships blindly and for the wrong reasons, even at this age.🤦🏾‍♀️
    I got out of one some weeks back & I can already see lots of reasons why the relationship failed & areas where I went wrong.
    I have to be able to answer these questions myself too. It’s not just for him.
    I have a lot of work to do on myself. I also have to prepare to become a high value & virtuous women just like I’d like my future husband to be.
    Thank you so much, mummy Fumi. This video has helped me much more than you can imagine.❤️

  • @nkeletsengseeko3095
    @nkeletsengseeko3095 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    OMG talking about relocate I remember when one guy I dated told me that as soon as we get married I should be ready to move to the rural with his mother. I did the best ran as fast as I could and never looked back.

  • @nancykerrigan
    @nancykerrigan ปีที่แล้ว +39

    First time I noticed you didn't put the lady waking gif in these Sister2Sister talks. I agree with Ole about keeping Adrian out of the spotlight. Protect his privacy.

  • @m.l.2483
    @m.l.2483 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    Aunty Fumi is really helping us out here. And her lipstick matches her dress so it's a win-win!

  • @francescathegreat
    @francescathegreat ปีที่แล้ว +107

    My husband and I have 5 kids and i can agree with everything you've said. On the topic of sex, quickies are there for a reason! You have en suites, pantries, and closets for a reason. Y'all better put on paw patrol and make it happen for 15 min.

    • @amberd5318
      @amberd5318 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I love this! I'm single, in my mid-forties, my kids are grown and I now have grandbabies. Despite all of this, I fully agree with this! Keep passion alive!

  • @nurselora681
    @nurselora681 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    Fumi, could we possibly have a set of questions for us older folks who are dating and looking for that life partner? I just turned 60 and looking towards planning my retirement so many of these questions aren’t relevant for me. Dating is so difficult for all ages. I love watching you with all of your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you!

    • @FumiDesaluVold
      @FumiDesaluVold  ปีที่แล้ว +140

      Absolutely my love, I dated and got married when I was older too. 😃 60 is still relatively young considering that we’re living longer into our 90’s, so yes! I’ll absolutely have an episode for you soon.

    • @debbiebarrow7557
      @debbiebarrow7557 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@FumiDesaluVold
      Look forward to it 🙏💜💯🔥

    • @verydark..1988
      @verydark..1988 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Fumi...you are an 😇

    • @cynthiaedwards3716
      @cynthiaedwards3716 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I'm a sixties lady also. I'm so afraid of being hurt. When I meet men my age, they're so immature to the point I don't even want to date anymore. I don't want to be alone the rest of my life, but at the same time I'm tired of being disappointed with the losers I'm meeting. Any advice Ms. Fumi???

    • @Mrstookie101
      @Mrstookie101 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yes. 52 yo and oh how dating has change! I’m not sure where to begin

  • @tjsproles4992
    @tjsproles4992 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I absolutely love, Love, LOVE your confidence! 💃 And, you are VERY insightful about the issues of life in terms of relationships.
    I am 55 and never married. I've made ALL of the mistakes in relationships, and I've ignored ALL of the red flags (even the FLAMING flags that were burning bright red, yellow and orange)! 😥 🔥🚩 🔥
    I know that I am wiser, stronger and better because of my past experiences, but sometimes I briefly reflect on the fact that, as a result of my own choices, I had to learn so many life lessons the hard way! The good news is that I acknowledged then separated myself from the toxicity I allowed in my life, and now my heart is open to begin a life with the man for which God has prepared me!
    🤴👸
    Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I'll be watching! 🤗

  • @elougaveroniquefrancine6350
    @elougaveroniquefrancine6350 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I'm living for your laugh miss Fumi. It's so contagious, so refreshing

  • @haleyclarke1332
    @haleyclarke1332 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The way I listened and hang on to every word, you would think I'm in a classroom prepping for an exam. Well said aunty fumi. Thank you!

  • @JoB1808
    @JoB1808 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Fumi I love you, but this is far away from what a relationship wants to be nice and lovely… I’ m really huge fan of you! I m married with my husband from 2009 and I did all of these questions! He gave me answers and I thought that he was the perfect one! He wanted two kids (he build a house with three bedrooms) and when the economic crises came, he barely wanted one. He was successful businessman with passion, and his job destroyed. He never gave up and he’s doing another job but it was a mess for a while. He had beautiful relationship with his family and his parents were so sweet until they moved near us when I gave birth my child. But I love him and all these stuff gave me the begging of finding my strength (I was very quiet person). So all of these questions are a little easy and easy to change. When you met someone the only question that should ask is by yourself. When the situation changes, will you care enough for him/her to carry on?

  • @waleskagracia4891
    @waleskagracia4891 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Spectacular as always! ❤️ 💋Excellent questions. When I was single I went on a couple of dates with a gentleman from the Middle East. On the 2nd date we somehow got on the topic of children. Although it wasn’t my situation, I was curious so I asked him if he would consider marriage to a woman with children. He very quickly, and firmly answered that if he wanted to marry her she would have to give up the children because he could never accept another man’s children. Needless to say, it was our last date.

  • @simplydemii
    @simplydemii ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Knowing his family and some hidden baby mama is very important 👌👌❤️❤️❤️

  • @lelianankunda9357
    @lelianankunda9357 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I’m learning so much & leveling up in my dating life, thanks to you Fumi. Love from Uganda🇺🇬

    • @jacintabasemera6777
      @jacintabasemera6777 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Me too.. same country as you Leila..@ Fumi is blessing us ladies big...

    • @verydark..1988
      @verydark..1988 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Mugyebale ko banyabo hihihi with love from Australia!

    • @graceamanyo7740
      @graceamanyo7740 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too from uganda

    • @violaatuheire7845
      @violaatuheire7845 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ❤❤❤ 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

    • @ayebareemily4491
      @ayebareemily4491 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Naye banae 😂
      Happy to meet you all fumination UG.

  • @tsholofelojoycelepota5356
    @tsholofelojoycelepota5356 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I’m soo obsessed with this lady wow

  • @cherylreeves2188
    @cherylreeves2188 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I agree...about Adrienne being on social media...too many children on social media.
    I also requested the same don't put my children (our) children on social media.

  • @yh2059376
    @yh2059376 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I wish you, your husband, and child much love, health, & wealth. You bring light and value into this world. Hugs

  • @Vilane_Wenzile
    @Vilane_Wenzile ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Ohhh darling these streets are rough on us just praying we find love and it all works out for all of us 🙏❤️ thank you Fumi❤️

  • @VIsidore
    @VIsidore ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Great list, Fumi. I guess the question I have is, how to know if you are in a relationship? That's for my single and looking sisters.
    These questions shouldn't be asked on the first date. A lot of these questions were revealed without me asking early on before we were in a commited relationship. I saw that the man I met had a good job, a home, and two automobiles. He introduced me to his (one) son, family, and friends, so I didn't have to ask. No baby mama drama here. My situation is different because I met my husband 37 years ago. I don't recall any guidelines for dating at the time. Thank you for providing some.
    Some couples meet in college where you can see where his career is going just like your mother did. Good for Mother.
    You made good points on children, religion, politics, finance, potential, and sex. Everything should be on the table so both people know what the other is bringing to the table. You have to be on the same page to have a solid foundation going forward together.
    We have to remember that everything that glitters isn't gold, even though the man passes the question stage of the relationship. What people say and what they do are two different things.
    Thank you for another informative video. ❣️

    • @Victoria-tk5qx
      @Victoria-tk5qx ปีที่แล้ว

      Fumi, this was awesome, thank you 😊

  • @jeanmusabwalya8341
    @jeanmusabwalya8341 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You are indeed a friend in a mother. Your advise is based on your experiences. Love you aunt Fumi.

  • @MrsMcKee-og2yn
    @MrsMcKee-og2yn ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love this episode. You are so young but you make me think of my mother. When I was a young teenager my mother spoke directly, truthfully and wisely as do you. My mother died in 2015, I miss her sorely. I am 68 years old and I made a good choice when I married because of my wise mother's words and my ability to listen. I am glad the young women have you to watch and listen to.

  • @drchristamarie
    @drchristamarie ปีที่แล้ว +6

    True. Especially for Q4. What he makes is the least, the ambition, the drive and thrive is gonna take him farther 🙌🙌
    Auntie Fumi has spoken 😇

  • @SweetMk28
    @SweetMk28 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Auntie Funmi you are indeed a role model every young girls need in a mother❤.. I love my mom with all my heart, she's very caring in her own way but she didn't give me courage or advice when it comes to relationships. I am 33 years old and dated a couple of mens but because of fear i feel insecure to be in a relationship. I'm always concerned if he is a good guy or is he just acting to trap me. I built myself a high wall that prevents men from accessing my heart and i don't know how to let go. Now a couple of years has passed and i was not approached or asked out by men. I always ask my myself if God is driving them away from me and wants me to wait for the right guy or was i meant to be single. Please make a video in regards to this issue🙏
    P.s. my parents had a good relationship until my dad passed away but i have witnessed many friends who were in an abusive relationship which contributed to my insecurity

  • @carolchocho425
    @carolchocho425 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wish I had found you when I was in my twenties, thirties! Love you.

  • @dianeb2349
    @dianeb2349 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    How did I not find your channel sooner. I subscribed to you only a few weeks ago and I love every single bit about you. What a beautiful and wise and amazing woman you are. I needed this. So glad I found you!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @TO-md2nj
    @TO-md2nj ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Botswana 🇧🇼 in the building

    • @joycestyleofcooking
      @joycestyleofcooking ปีที่แล้ว

      I could listen to you all day long and I don't get bored of your impeccable knowledge 👌 Thanks for sharing 👍 Nice work Fumination 👍

    • @bonitakradikeledi4792
      @bonitakradikeledi4792 ปีที่แล้ว

      Re mmogo

  • @dorothymatthews6690
    @dorothymatthews6690 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Fumi. Thank you! You just took us through premarital counseling 101

  • @danielen359
    @danielen359 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think it is also great to answer those questions ourselves. First because the other party might/will return the question. Second, we know ourselves better, what are values are and what you want/dont want

  • @themortgagechic_ca
    @themortgagechic_ca ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I had to rewind! "The marriage will TEST the both of you. WORD! Babes !!! Please listen to her ! The marriage will test you both. Make sure you are doing marriage with someone that can stand by you!!!!

  • @carlaclement4229
    @carlaclement4229 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh auntie Fumi, I love to listen to you and my uncle Ole story. Thank you very much for your insight and information as always. It’s very important to know all what you said. Sometimes they say one thing and find out other things. A man who doesn’t have respect for authority is not a good sign;he doesn’t respect his older siblings or a senior is a red flag too. Thank you very much and have a blessed week. Shalom 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @mleys3248
      @mleys3248 ปีที่แล้ว

      That reminds me of another question I need to incorporate : "Does he jaywalk". Jaywalking makes me extremely nervous. All my friends don't mind crossing the road when the sign is red. That just stresses me out.

  • @chrislaudkelly4538
    @chrislaudkelly4538 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    veeery grateful to youu i'm a 22 young girl and am very happy because i'm learning a lot about relationship and dating thanks

  • @eno-abasiusanga2003
    @eno-abasiusanga2003 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Am so happy to listen to this particular Episode of your videos,I really needed this at this point in my life.

  • @lashuanedunnawaysingleton9250
    @lashuanedunnawaysingleton9250 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I asked a guy all those questions, and in the end, it was nothing but lies. I asked him how many women he had been with a lie, what happened in his last relationship lie, what his future goal lie, and how can he know if you are with a liar; but also, I was young and very naive. But I have learned. So thank you for this advice.

  • @PeaceLoveAndJoy
    @PeaceLoveAndJoy ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Auntie Fumi coming through as always with the fabulousness and fabulosity. Fumi you look GREAT! Love everything about you. #fumination ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @akitamoore2185
    @akitamoore2185 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Lipstick, blush, blouse/dress, and flower headband is absolutely gorgeous on you! Our deep chocolate skin makes bright colors POP!!!! Thanks for the tips! Wish I would of found you 5 yrs ago! All is well tho.

  • @cherylreeves2188
    @cherylreeves2188 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Auntie Fumi
    Wow, wow I wish I knew this before I married.
    Great questions,...so true !
    Thank you for this segment!!
    ❤️ I loved it!

  • @MoniqueSWarden
    @MoniqueSWarden ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Auntie Fumi 💕🎉🥰 This was the best!!! Cut & Dry… straight to the point and so relatable 🤩 Thank you 🙏🏿

  • @phina8392
    @phina8392 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My man answered all these questions thanks to you my girl friend, been single for 16 years, 63 years young.. He also speaks with kindness about his parents and ex girlfriends…

  • @liamsmith3290
    @liamsmith3290 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Spot on Fumi! And I agree with Ole not wanting Adrian on social media. To be honest, I don't typically date men that have a huge social media presence. Unless it's for work in some capacity, I am not a fan as it can feel a bit narcissistic.

  • @kudalavida3494
    @kudalavida3494 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Notification gang ....tuning in from South Africa

  • @JenSweetpea
    @JenSweetpea ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Fantastic video full of great advice. Thank you Fumi! Loving this wave of dating advice videos and all of them have great messages on how to manage yourself, stay emotionally safe as well as give yourself the best chance to find a suitable partner and sort the chaff from the wheat at the very least! My friends and I are eating up this content and implementing tips and reviewing results. My most recent date was pretty fun because I just felt more confident about asking questions about important things early. You are quite right, seeing how a guy responds is insightful and it is letting me see a bit more clearly who is and is not open to dating seriously. Loving the content and the way you express the key issues and ways to work through is absolutely my cup of tea. Your examples certainly have us girls giggling in awe and recognition. Many thanks as always and have a beautiful week to you and your family 💜 🔥 💫

  • @braunhilda5968
    @braunhilda5968 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He gave me the answers to al 10questions before I asked. We are now married and happy . And working on the next couple of years .Are things perfect?, A lot is perfect but some things we are still working on . However, he is the perfect one for me. He gets me and I get him. And that’s who I want to be doing this with.

  • @Ashley08888
    @Ashley08888 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ms. Fumi! So happy to find this chat! It was a godsend and very authentic take, from a woman's experience, in comparison to the frequent male relationship coach advise. Very good, I appreciate this. 🙏🏽 looking for more of your chats!

  • @tatendakondoni6989
    @tatendakondoni6989 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is probably the VERY BEST Relationships video I have ever watched on TH-cam.
    Thank you so much 💓

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love your spirit Fumi.. Learning a lot from you even at 73. Thank you

  • @joyopugbene9214
    @joyopugbene9214 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Pure genius. I love you already! Very intelligent woman

  • @simplydemii
    @simplydemii ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I wanted to add that if the money he is making now can’t take care of both of you but he is ambitious and striving for greatness then you mentioned it 😊to the glory of God I am not in this category but I sure do learn some tips that I can share with friends and family thanks for sharing Ms Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @ByteMwen
      @ByteMwen ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Please. This applies less and less the older the man is. Don’t marry a man in his 50s for ambition please.

  • @lynellefurbert6505
    @lynellefurbert6505 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My SISTA......you are a BEAUTIFUL breath of FRESH AIR! Straight up, to the point....LOVE your videos!! Keep up that GREAT ENERGY!!!

  • @theresaforte2202
    @theresaforte2202 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Some good pointers! Yes I agree with not putting Adrian on social media! Nowadays kids have their own pages straight out the womb! Lol

  • @wamuhunjuguna
    @wamuhunjuguna 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The minute I clicked on this video, I knew I was going to like everything you said. I like your presentation the effort you put into the hair, makeup, and bold lipstick matches your dress just wow
    I recently called it quits and that is because I hadn't asked the most crucial questions at the beginning I am now learning to be the interviewer and to interview for the most important role in my life this is no joke ladies ask those questions because I learned love is not enough to sustain a long term commitment

  • @thandisamqhaba7340
    @thandisamqhaba7340 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You're an awesome advisor Fumi. I appreciate your advise..

  • @MariDorot
    @MariDorot ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Fumi I had to stop the video and tell you this. You're so inspiring and such a wonderful role model ♥Many more girls and women need to watch your videos and absorb your wisdom. My fashion style is the exact opposite to yours (I'm more of a neutral, laid back kinda gal with minimal make up) but I love watching your videos because they're always so inspiring in one way or another.
    Back to watching the rest of the video ;-) xxx

    • @rachelleowens8233
      @rachelleowens8233 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Fumi
      Can you give us 10 questions for women who are not seeking marriage. I just want a “partner” to grow old with, but I enjoy my independence. I don’t have children and I’m past child-bearing age. I’m not seeking to move in together, so we both have our space to be who we are. I like the Oprah and Stedman model.

  • @luthomayekiso1306
    @luthomayekiso1306 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Aunty Fumi I’m. 26 year old HR specialist and have my own small catering business and definitely writing down all the notes to find my Mr right.

    • @obiwuruchisom
      @obiwuruchisom ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Lutho, we would find our Mr. right!
      Let’s keep growing and glowing!

  • @isatukoroma2483
    @isatukoroma2483 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks sis I love watching your videos to the end because all of them are interested ❤❤❤

  • @joycedapaah4890
    @joycedapaah4890 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I didn’t know anything about relationship but I’ve really learned a lot from you Fumi 😍

  • @dmiller2055
    @dmiller2055 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Also need to ask about medical history especially traits that can be genetically passed on..

  • @unezsimpkins9107
    @unezsimpkins9107 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fumi , I agree .everything does not need to be on social media. Some things should be private. Awesome 👌you both are working together

  • @cherylblake6455
    @cherylblake6455 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fumi, you look so beautiful. The colors in your dress and make up, compliment your complexion.

  • @jonir.2044
    @jonir.2044 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Once a again great content,love the questions. Very informative. ❤️

  • @favourokechukwu3080
    @favourokechukwu3080 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Am addicted to ur videos mama praying God gives me the right man in life am learning a lot from ur videos ❤

  • @windonthevalley
    @windonthevalley ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just Love and Adore you! All the way from California USA! Thank you, for YOU, I appreciate and respect your wisdom and will be watching more! Much Love, Light, and Blessings 🙌🤗❤🙏⚘

  • @jayeedwards1735
    @jayeedwards1735 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Girl I love your advice and your personality. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

  • @thickbrownlegs1859
    @thickbrownlegs1859 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Fumi I had ask the question about how close the family was did not get a clear answer. I should have dig into the question a bit more because 21 years later my kids don’t even know their dad mom at all don’t even know his side of the family. My kids are 15 and 12 years old. Ladies please ask the tough questions it’s very important. Great episode again. Keep the amazing content rolling Fumi.

  • @melaniiepalacio
    @melaniiepalacio ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Her laugh is my favorite thing ever

  • @ngoziiwunze5872
    @ngoziiwunze5872 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am in a situation right now and I don't know what to do.
    I dated someone for almost a yr and we broke up 4months ago. He gave me Chlamydia -an sti. I didn't know till about 3 days ago. I met someone else a months ago. He's my type, gentle, down to earth, serious about this dream and feminists. He supports whatever makes me happy and comfortable. I broke to him that I have an sti. So far he's working with me through everything, check in on me. I'm not used to this. The question u posted, I have asked him and he passed. I am shocked

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 ปีที่แล้ว

      So sorry

    • @queenlanita4491
      @queenlanita4491 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      May God bless you and your relationship 💖🙏..... forever and ever ♾️... Amen 🥰🥰🙏🙏

  • @GeminiCloudTech
    @GeminiCloudTech ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish you would have had this 10 yrs ago before I married the clown I did. Now at almost 40 (next year) and newly divorced with 2 boys from that marriage, I will implement these questions going forward. I blame my issues on having a domineering mother who gets off on dating broken men (past alcoholics, men with past and current drug abuse issues) she was engaged to a muslim Nigerian and always reminisce about their relationship and not accepting the multiple women theory. Her advice went against all femininity and being told "you gotta train him" all the time. I ended up stressed and Baker Acted twice. Because I'm like you Fumi: elegant, proper etiquette, open to learning other cultures and carrying myself like a lady. I was teased relentless by my family and called bougie. My mom did not teach me any of that and I had to learn as I grew up, a lot of trial and error. I lost a lot of good men because I come across as the "round the way girl" sitting on dirty stair stoops, cursing, loud. I was raised to relate, no embrace.

  • @kaysteph02
    @kaysteph02 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    PREACH AUNT FUNMI!!!
    PREACH ON 🙏❤️😍

  • @carleneenglish2444
    @carleneenglish2444 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very educational, motivational and inspirational

  • @alexisagginie4574
    @alexisagginie4574 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Fumi, in this relationship series, your advice is great!
    In interviewing these fellas, what should be our approach? They must not feel as if they are applying for a position, tho they are?

  • @indriadrayton1132
    @indriadrayton1132 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is perfect. We made a year and some life changing things are about to happen. I have questions and this vid has more to ask that I didn't think of! Thank you.

  • @simro8067
    @simro8067 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi Fumi I am a new subscriber and I’m loving your content! Can you do a video on how to go about dating as a virgin? I’m a 27 year old virgin, and I’ve only been on one date ever😩 I’d love some pointers on how to properly vet men and how to date with purpose.

  • @tamarachilingaryan6689
    @tamarachilingaryan6689 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Absolutely fabulous episode, so are you!!! The dress is beautiful. Thanks

  • @yemi5193
    @yemi5193 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks so much Funmi for this segment. Much needed and I’ve made note. I’m 49 never married and dated per se it would be nice to have questions appropriate to our age group if you can. Much appreciated for all the good work you are doing to help us get it right. I like all these questions they are relevant to my situation.

  • @coilyb2861
    @coilyb2861 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ambition, will, drive, passion!

  • @beinspiredwithclaudia1849
    @beinspiredwithclaudia1849 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a powerful conversation,many thanks my lady.

  • @victoriaolieh6440
    @victoriaolieh6440 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow, any time I watch your videos, I never remain the same.....
    There must be something from your words that will hit me so hard, deep lessons to grab, deep lessons to learn.....
    Thank you so much Ma, may your oil of wisdom never run dry....
    Much love from Nigeria..

  • @giovannamoro8564
    @giovannamoro8564 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brave woman !!! I love her . Sending you positive vibes from italy

  • @angelica7236
    @angelica7236 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent advice !! Thanks for sharing

  • @SMKajee
    @SMKajee 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, Mother Fumi. ❤

  • @sanghaysumo-ps4us
    @sanghaysumo-ps4us ปีที่แล้ว

    Think you madam I really injoy this lecture my dear

  • @fordaiffa6022
    @fordaiffa6022 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fumi your statement are very pertinent! N I’m inducing my 18 years old son to watch your channel and reflect on them
    Thank you 🙏

  • @MISS_SHERRY
    @MISS_SHERRY ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ty for the advice

  • @alifleuristal4121
    @alifleuristal4121 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The dress is colorful like you Auntie Fumi 😍❤️ love from Montreal

  • @doreenonekalit9888
    @doreenonekalit9888 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love the hair accessory 👌🏾

  • @didaciennenzamukosha3652
    @didaciennenzamukosha3652 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of things I love about ur episodes is ur laughter 😂❤

  • @aderonkeaishat9606
    @aderonkeaishat9606 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am listening to this like a younger sister picking so much knowledge from a big sister. Thank you so much Aunty Fumi, you are really a blessing to the world

  • @sblogan07
    @sblogan07 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Aunty Fumi, this was a great list!
    Simple summary both parties need to know what the expectations are in the areas of
    -Money (how much do each of us earn and I’m adding this, have the potential to earn)
    -Children (Does any person want and if so how many.)
    (Additionally if anyone has children currently what’s the relationship with the other parent like?)
    -Place of residence ( is either party open to moving locally, regionally, nationally or Internationally.)
    -Current Family (parents and siblings) relationship
    -Who are your friends( birds of a feather flock together!)
    🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️
    Also I love the headband!

  • @ribaker822
    @ribaker822 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great suggestions. These are questions that ladies need to be prepared to answer too. In my experience, many men both in physical and online scenarios seem to find these questions unexpected and unwelcome. I don't know what the experiences of men are with ladies. The laise a faire attitude of men these days is shocking. Perhaps it's the availability of dating apps that's making many men feel so distracted. Men need to know they've also not got much time on the selves. They age less gracefully and are more needy of companionship than women at the end of the day.

  • @thapediannahmaleka9701
    @thapediannahmaleka9701 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Fumi so much I'm turning 52 but I never know if I can ask much I was like the man must be the one who ask questions but I was wrong thank you so much for teaching us all ages and I think is very important to do so sothat you will know exactly who are you dealing with and to see if there is a change in him.we really appreciate ❤🎉you dear sister

  • @angeliquealamer
    @angeliquealamer ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Priceless video!! 🔥 I’m in my 30s and appreciate every video of yours I’ve watched so far! Lovvvve your story with Ole and have always felt like I will marry a man from a different culture as well.😻 But as you say, no limits in this limitless world and I’m opening up so the world will open up to me. Every video I’ve watched of yours has been FULL of wisdom and your personality is TOP TIER. Much love to you & your fam from Cali!💙🌴

    • @ehrik
      @ehrik ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi

  • @divestedmelanin1790
    @divestedmelanin1790 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Once again Auntie Fumi you have brought the right video for me. I'm looking to get back into dating, so will definitely use these. Love your fashion

  • @dmiller2055
    @dmiller2055 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fumi love the make this week!!! On point!!

  • @ninnahevitta2289
    @ninnahevitta2289 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Firstly, you look fabulous . Your hair is giving 😘🔥 everything about you is amazing 💯. Then I have died everyday waiting for this particular video. Thank you Fumi🥰

  • @GabySeazarh
    @GabySeazarh ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Aunty Fumi you're a real wife material, your husband is very blessed Aunty 💕

  • @katrinaassoumou6400
    @katrinaassoumou6400 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great questions to ask! Amen

  • @Lydia_m
    @Lydia_m ปีที่แล้ว

    This video just made me feel better about walking away from someone i still lovedealy because he did not mesure up to most of these points.Thank you aunty

  • @umwizasalama1328
    @umwizasalama1328 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Mama.infact i got to know this channel at the right time.we really appreciate for what u share with us .i've been in dilemma asking myself many questions.but here i got the answers.may God bless you Mama.Thank you❤

  • @dorisdreezy6371
    @dorisdreezy6371 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Its my first time watching and lemme say oh my! This is amazing and I'm glad i come across it coz its gonna be of helping.Thank you.