Sis, the bottom line is that the frienship you are trying to save was NEVER there. It was just smoke and mirrors. Why would you even think about letting go of your job to "save" the relationship with this other person?? No. No. No. You work hard for that job and you derserve it. You deserve better people in your life as well. People that can truly support you and be there for you no matter what. Bye bye to the so called friend. Welcome new people in your life. Good vibes only!!!
Me too. Ended a friendship of 40 yrs. (Friends since 4). The spirit of discernment opened my eyes to the truth, I was ALWAYS her friend. However once my career quadrupled my money...her TRUE colors (green eyed monster) EXPOSED itself... GIRLLLLLLL BYE AND DON'T COME BACK!!
Some friendships are seasonal. My mom brought us up to be friends with everybody and don’t have a best friend. That worked👍🏽. I have many friends but non is my best friend. Some come and go. And I don’t fuss about it knowing that some friendships will fizzle out. It’s saves you all the emotional traumas 😃
@King’s Daughter…Yes your mom is a wise woman. I taught my children to not use the word “friend” loosely as my Dad taught me. People you encounter throughout your life are at best “associates”
Fumi I’m a braggadocious friend, shoots I’m quick to say my bestie is a doctor because she worked her butt off for it. We have been bestie for 28 years. I’m so proud of her!!
My besty and I are the same! I support her, I brag about her. She’s my soul mate and a real soul heart sister. Once you have a friend like that you know what you don’t want. There’s always good people out there don’t waste time on shitty friendships I say. Peace and love ❤️
Your story is explosive. My mouth dropped to the floor when you said what your former friend did at the wedding. Thank you for sharing. You’re an amazing story teller.
Haters always love to say “don’t forget where you came from” and your reply was no I won’t forget where I came from but I don’t plan on staying there 🔥 girl I FELT THAT 💯 love u auntie fumi for always keeping it real 🌹
I think we all had that one 'special' friend that we told everything to, went everywhere and did everything together. She even came away with my husband and I for a short break. She was a witness at my wedding. I had a prolong spell of ill health but she never came to see me once. She went off and got married, left the country and didn't even tell me I've learned to let people be themselves. I didn't chase after her, now we don't have any contact. I am done with friends and family member and just live a very quiet life - no stress!
My friend of 25+ years did this to me at the end of 2019. She talked behind my back and the person she was texting with showed me the text messages. I was very sad but my friend had already shown me signs of jealousy, so I was not surprised. When I confronted her and I told her that I had seen the text messages she denied it. Wow! I loved that woman and sometimes I miss her but I can't be friends with someone like that.
Hi. Here's some helpful advice 😃👍: *The person that showed you Those texts Should have been a Real Friend if she Had Defended you during those texts. Please Also keep that in mind sometimes people tell another of the gossip just to stir sh*t up. So be aware!*
Word!!!! Over the past 10 years I've had to shrink my circle of friends drastically. I grieved some of those relationships, but I'm better for it. My circle of friends shrunk from over fifty to four!!!! It is a difficult but necessary and doable thing one must do to thrive - especially if you are a people pleaser. One must learn the difference between a friend, an acquaintance, or associate, and apply wisdom. Like the Bible says, "jealousy is as rottenness to the bones." Guard your heart seriously because we are all prone to this destructive feeling. You cannot talk anyone out of it. Like Maya Angelou says, "believe people when they show you whom they are, the first time." Listen to the spirit (and checks) within you. Remember that every friend is for a season/reason. Know when to let go, or hold on. Thank you Queen Funmi!!!
Fumi, this hits home 100%, I had a "best" friend, and co-worker for 14 years. I use to take her to many places because she didn't drive. In the last couple of years of friendship, she turned on me, when we got a new department manager. She wanted to get on her good side, and for that, our friendship was sacrificed. She also would talk behind my back, and would try to distance herself from me, but yet she wanted me to take her places, such as our Christmas parties. I saw a big change, when I decided to go back to school, she felt threatened by me, and made my life very difficult at work, so much so, that she participated in the decision to terminate my employment where we worked together. I agree with you, her time was up in my life, she became jealous when I announced that I was going back to school, she felt threatened. I miss her, but it was for the best! Love you Fumi!!!
@Sandra Davis, never miss such an evil blot, in your life. GOD delivered/separated you from her, knowing she was an impostor. Go on with your life, in peace, joy and great health. GOD bless.
@@ewoenamanku8803 : funny you should say that, because, believe it or not, I literally brought Holly Water to sprinkle on her work station, as well as the manager's to get that evilness out of there! I also sprinkle them both, they were so shocked when I did it, they were so scared of what I was doing, but as I sprinkled them; I made sure to let them know that it was holly water, not something that was going to harm them.
I always enjoy you and your stories sister. I feel like I met you before.. Your laugh makes me laugh. Military BRAT. I feel that we have crossed paths through travel. I will keep watching and one day I'll figure it out or maybe not lol
Perfectly said, auntie Fumi. A thief doesn't rob an empty house. It's something we have that the haters want. I pray your journey and goals will manifest as you continue to live and love darlins... 💕🎄🎁
When she said "...and the powers up above give you signs to let go and you refuse to let go so I will destroy this relationship SO BADLY that you can no longer hold on to it" The tears that started streaming down my face.this was God confirming what He had rescued me from. because God did this exact thing to me...it was a paaainful lesson but it's been 4 years now, and God opened my eyes to the actual intentions and spirits of the people I thought were my confidants. If anyone is at the point I was 4 years ago and feels alone. Stay in that wilderness.because God is about to show you whyyyyy he took them out.. Growth and healing is coming your way.Sending lots of love to everyone. Thank you aunt Fumi💋💋
So true. The signs are there but we hold on because that's what friends do right? But I've learned that God might need to work on us and the friend separately cause there is toxicity and drama in the mix. Some seasons have to end.
First I have to say, onwards and upwards towards 500K! Second, for those Sisters and Brothers listening to this, it also covers FAMILY. Not everyone who smiles at you actually likes you and it's hard, very hard when your heart if full of love and you get hate,jealous, disrespect and censure in return. This was a powerful life lesson from a woman who is speaking truth to power to all listening. I know it hurts, but using Fumi's life as an example... you will gain more when you don't compromise yourself FOR ANYONE and let GOD LEAD YOU WHERE OTHERS CANNOT REACH. Fumi, thank you for sharing and caring. We are better as a community for our elders and youngsters who are brave enough to speak out loud.
You're so right.. I literally had to stop my own bus and ask all 'family but not family' to get down or rather I left their bus.. and got on a brand new one with those that love and accept me.. I made this decision at the end of 2020. Because I realised I would rather be alone and be sure of that than be surrounded, lonely, loveless and still have them tormenting my life. Family are those who love you and have your back.. wether they are blood or not.
This is part of why I no longer do family visits. IMO being part of a family is either acceptance as is, or some constructive criticism. Neither of those took place. I stick with my small immediate family.
I have always had the gift of goodbye. As long as your heart is pure, God will keep blessing you, and anyone who can't celebrate your wins with you whether they are family or friend should not be in your life. PERIOD!
THIS SPOKE TO ME!!! I've literally dealt with the same issue. Friendship lost due to my success in marriage/relationships and career. I had to accept her issues came from her own insecurities and I had to put that friendship on the shelf. I tell my daughters all the time that as you elevate you are going to lose some people and that is ok!
Tía Fumi, I was near tears from this video. It’s like you knew about the last 2 years of my life, and I cannot tell you what a needed video this was. I’ve always said jealousy has no room in any of my relationships, and I have had to stand in that statement FIRMLY. You are simply the best, and I can’t be speaking for myself when I say that this video has brought clarity and confirmation. Thank you with tons of love💕
I've listened to most of your vlog, i came across you on TH-cam and after listening to your various topics had to subscribe. Now Ive been in that such a situation, where a person I thought was a friend turned out to be jealous and malice me for years. She came back into my life but I'm weary of her as she seem to always want to do the things I've done. Why I don't know, others around me have noticed it too. Well I'm keeping my eyes open. Keep up the amazing work Miss Fumi. Your topics are intriguing 🤔.
Congratulations Fumi on 300K! Yes I know this channel would grow because your personally and laughter is infectious. Cannot wait for the 1M followers of FUMINATION!! Continue much success my QUEEN! 🙏🏾❤️🔥💚🌺🤙🏾
When you have that ‘friend’ who is always unhappily surprised when you achieve something incredible but smile and encourage you to be a defeatist when you’ve been defeated. You step back and you see that they never wished you well.
Welp .....my mouth is literally and I mean LITERALLY hanging open. I was so shocked she said that at the reception! Jealousy is a dangerous thing. So glad ur helping those that have experienced it.
Yes...no kidding. It's interesting that she wasn't bold enough to say anything when the minister said "speak now or forever hold your piece" during the ceremony. Either way, WHAT NERVE?
Your voice is so regal. It's absolutely beautiful. I had to learn this lesson this year. I cried for days as I'd known this girl since we were 14. It's hard to mourn the loss but it's so necessary. Jealousy is a natural emotion. The thing to do is use it to inspire you. I have no problem with a person feeling a bit of jealousy. But when they take action against you that's a whole new ballgame. Let them go. They are now operating as an enemy and cannot be trusted. Hard but true. Excellent story time.
“Let them be jealous, let them hate ! It means u’ve got something they don’t have n u can’t trade it in for that person ! “ cos their chapter is done in your life!! That is a great 👍 piece right there Aunty Fumi. Thanks 😊 so much for this, I am gonna keep this points with me forever ♾ 🙌❤️❤️❤️
Jealousy is a green eye monster people can be jealous of you for simply no good reason...pretending to love and care for your friendship while secretly doing and saying things behind your back to intentionally bring you down.....be careful of wolves in sheep clothing they are every where.
Friendship breakups are never easy but with time you’ll heal..I have learned that I really have to let go of the people who no longer serves me because I be fighting for absolutely nothing.
Jealousy is a waste of time because we are all where we worked to be. What’s for you will not pass you bye if you are ready for it. Thank you for the lovely insight. Fabulous as always.
This happened to me. I was in the middle of a divorce. I couldn’t work nights anymore with my friend in a nursing home because of my young daughters. I applied for a job as a nursing assistant in a hospital which was a step up for me. She didn’t wish me well after our friendship of 12 years. I tried to keep in touch but she ignored my calls and texts. So I thought I would just give her time to contact me. Well she didn’t and like you said I had to let her go. It was really difficult I was so upset we never spoke again I kept thinking what had I done wrong. I hadn’t done anything wrong. I realised she was jealous. I made many new friends and moved on. 🥰
My Church Mom says to me: Everyone isn’t meant to go on the entire route with you. Some are destiny helpers; they help you to get to a particular point then your time MUST END. Others have left you so why can’t you understand You have to leave some as well. Listen Beloved Where GOD is taking you, the air will be too thin for some people. You force them to go up there & they will perish. Don’t be selfish! You will find others on that level & some on that level you may have to leave behind as well. Regardless, understand when a person’s assignment is over & release them so you can climb to the next wrung & they can be free to pursue their journey. You will survive, I Promise You.
Sigh ... I needed to hear exactly this today, and will be showing this video to my daughter too. I'm sorry you went though all that pain - I can still hear it in your voice - but you are such an inspiration. So - note to self ... onwards ... upwards! On a happier note ... so happy for your 300k milestone, Funmi, couldn't happen to a more deserving vlogger! You'll be hitting the 1m mark in no time, and I'm here for it!! 💕
I think it's that we try to see the good in other's rather than seeing the truth of a person's character and behavior. It's not mean to protect yourself from envy, jealousy etc. We were told to guard our hearts for out of it flows the issues of life. Wish them well, but be okay with being okay to walk away.🇧🇸 Thank you Fumi for the overflow of love.
You sure seem like you have a charmed life, but there are such depths to you. I too lost my best friend behind some silly jealousy mess and I didn't recognize how upset and resentful she was until I was already in pain from her words and actions. I still recall the pain of realizing that this friendship which started when we were in Seventh grade, was at its natural conclusion. Not everything is meant to last forever. You are a wonderful storyteller and experiences are nothing if we are not enjoying, learning or growing from them.
As soon as I saw the topic in my updates I was like "yes"!!! They've gots-ta-gooooo!!!! I'm in that season in my life...kicking and cleaning things out. Thank you aunty Funmi for this
"The bus is full!" screaming endless laughs and giggles...Thank you FUMI for another great Sister2Sister. So much wisdom, so much reassurance. I could give you a big hug. XOXO
Great video..hits close to home. I've had to cut off two Dear friends but I had no choice the jealousy and envy was too much. I need to grow and they couldn't rise up they just hating all the time..it took me a while to accept it was jealousy cos I didn't want to let go now I'm free and blessed
They say youth is wasted on the young and it is so true. Watching you, Aunty Fumi, I can truly understand everything about that statement. When you are young and naive you get knocked about and waste your energy on foolishness. I have learned to hold on to whatever vibrancy I can because when I mature I will be unstoppable if I am as savvy and vivacious and fabulous as you. Thank you for your lessons and encouragement. It gets me through.
You are so about mourn the loss and move on. People always tell me I am cold and I don't care and I tell them I care plenty but if things don't add up I cut the friendship off and walk away the first time I feel something is wrong. My mom use to say make your entrance your exit and waste no time with people who are jealous. I am so happy to see you grow I have been following for 3 1/2 years and I keep saying Fumi have such a positive channel where are the people, but now they are finding you thanks to the Universe with its timing. Enjoy all you hard work.
I just started watching you, and I couldn't be happier to have come across your channel. It takes a lot to let go of some friendships, but when you do, it's like a whole burden is off your shoulder. You are a role model that I want in my life, and keep being authentic and beautiful as you are ❤️❤️
Fumi, this is such a great video for anyone who is going through a change in friendships. Everything you say is true and it’s sadly a lesson I learned myself the hard way. Thanks for sharing your insight. To anyone who is in a similar situation, listen to Fumi - she’s 100% right! ♥️
It is a similar situation that I sent through. I looked over and forgave a lot from high school through adulthood. When you talked about her not coming to visit it shook me. I never wanted to be petty and upset because she never came. I told myself I was acting funny, bit her. But I noticed she would go to another friend's house a mile away. Honestly looking back, she didn't come around when I was doing well, only bad. She never really celebrated my marriage. I've always tried to show up for her. I know I needed to let her go at some point, but this drove it home. Thank you!
This includes family as well. I have had surgery in September, October, and November. Not one family member came to see me or call me after I let them know what was going on with me. But called way to another state where I use to live for 24 yrs and my children are still there. They asked my daughter what was going on with me and we live in the SAME state. I moved here 5 yrs ago after my sister passed. Everyone SEEMED to be so happy but it was all a lie.🤦🏾♀️ Thank you Lord for being my all in all🙏🏾🙌🏾 I gave them to the Lord and moving on with my life. Loving from a distance.
I LOVE Sister2Sister 😍😍😍😍 It's one of the BEST parts of my day to see Fumi put up a video. She's the wise mama/big sister I have always wanted and needed in my life❤❤❤ Fumi Nation citizen from Jamaica. 🇯🇲
I tell you the gasp I release when you said that she got out there during the speech and called you a liar. You have lived so much life Auntie and these stories make it worth it.
I want to believe that my friends made us 300k...I noticed we only needed 3 more to go,I went and summoned my people..I love you auntie Fumie,I really wish you well.
I have sadly had "friends" be jealous of me. You live and you learn and you Block (Literally and Figuratively) people from your life. Its been very helpful to my mental health.
I believe that people are meant to be in your life for a season. I had a friend for over 30?years and the relationship has changed. It wasn’t jealousy but people don’t value friendships the way you go. Let them go!!!!
Especially when they ask for help and you always available but the day you ask for help they become busy. Sooooo busy that they have all these excuses. I just don't understand people. How can someone not be ashamed to look back and say my friend was there for me let me sacrifice this little time.
A few years ago I had to end a 20+ year friendship. It took me years to realize her toxicity. It was a blessing but it hurt. I'm over it now! Congratulations on your $300k❤
Love this! Drop them off at the first stop and keep it movin’!!! Never stop being your best self for someone else! A real friend would be happy and excited for you and wouldn’t try to dull you shine 🌟!!!
Hello Aunty Fums, I am so happy to see the steady growth of this fabulous nation. I guess it is because you are so so deserving, cos you are so giving.....cheers to 303K subscribers mama!....
Amen! Truth! My closest friend attempted to throw a mean attitude towards me as we moved from childhood into adulthood. I immediately recognized that I did not deserve her attitude change. I told her our friendship was over period!!! She left me a long note admitting that she had become jealous of me. I schooled her that true friends do not envy or feel jealous....true friendships celebrate the fortunes (big or small, mine were small) of your friends. She begged my forgiveness. I did forgive her because I am Christian however I have never felt close to her and keep her at arms length. I have true friends now and as always choose quality over quantity. I have one extremely close friend and I consider that fulfilling 😌
I use to feel a certain way that I didn't have so many girlfriends but in time, I realised that I don't really need a handful of friends but just a few who are on same page and i am so grateful I found peace in that regard. Presently I have got just about 4 of them and we are soul sisters.
I love your message....you are blessing us!! And I'm an older woman. I want the boldness you have! May God bless you to continue to bless and enlighten our sister's! 🥰
This was right on time. I had this to happen to me this past Saturday. I've been her ride or die, no matter what she did I prayed for the best for her and all. We've been friends for over 24 years. She's also my cousin. Me and her was having a discussion and the call dropped. She thought that I hung up in her face so she took to Facebook and block me. After that she proceeded to message my husband. Now I don't care what subliminal posts you put because you can dispute that away. The thing that got me was if you have an issue with me then you shouldn't be in my husband's inbox tryna play and/or test to see if I told him not to speak to you. You obviously didn't give me a second thought and thought you was doing something. No hunny! You just made my decision a lot more easier. Please don't come back is all I have to say. I cannot be sincere with a person who thinks it's okay to do that. I'm no child and I am loving being in timeout (blocked) lol. She will be number 5 and one less negative needy one in my life. I don't have time at all for folks like this. When folks make their decision... They shouldn't forget that we have a decision to make too. Thank you for this Fumi ❤️😘😘🥰😍. I've been letting go of folks. I don't know why people don't believe me. I will not miss my blessings and focus because they're miserable. Nope! No! I cannot and will not.
Fumi , I love you sister. I'm 70 years old. I experience the same kind of lost of friendships due to jealous. When I closed that bus door another door with beautiful friendships with ladies that celebrated each other.
I have been amazed at every single episode l have watched. You are such a gift to our gender when you speak about subjects relating to us. I love your personality, your delivery, your kind loving heart, sense of humor, confidence, your entire being, and the contents you present in your channel. I can see you with millions of subscribers in no time. l see a viewer becoming a fan the first visit to your channel. I am a 74 year old Filipina woman married in a lovely ancient church up in a hill in Stockholm in 1971. My husband and l live a wonderful retired life here in Los Angeles to be close to our grandchildren. May God continue to bless you and your family. God Jul!
Im going through that “time to let that friend go” (due to their jealousy) time and I keep coming back to this. I keep coming back to watch this because there is so much strength and sisterly love in this video, it’s uplifting and empowering. Fumi, you are a highly inspirational and a very beautiful soul. Thank you for this advice. ♥️
Congratulations on 300K! I've learned that we only hurt ourselves by trying to hold onto things that are seasonal. I don't question why most things happen, I just move accordingly like you said Auntie Fumi 💯
It's so true about the young girls. I admire the spirit of the 20 something girls. They are not afraid. I just wish I had just an ounce of what they have now. Power on young ladies 😘.
I love listening to Fumi talk, but I'm totally mesmerized while watching her apply makeup. She's so talented, & really knows what works well for her. I could watch these videos 24/7... if only I had the time! 😘
Never give up your job for a friend enemy, she was never your friend. Ppl come into your life for a season and when their time is up let them go my dear, you will have other friends. I’ve experienced jealousy from friends and family which was extremely difficult for me and I had to learn to love myself and realize that I can exist without certain emotional draining individuals that doesn’t have my best interest at heart. Fumi I love the content that you speak on its always something close to home…you’re a bigger person than I am, I remove those types of ppl from my life. I live for sister to sister story time…
Inspiring as always Aunty Funmi. I am very careful with making friends. I have been hurt by friends that I am no longer keen on making friends. I lived with my bestie in law school and I remember she always woke up to read at night and will allow me sleep off till the next morning. Unfortunately, she ended up not passing the exams. Friends can be horrible. I try to be nice to everyone around me but I have no bestie. I hope to find a good friend and sister some day.
This pink is everything! Gorgeous! 😍 We are reluctant to face the signs sometimes because we love them. But, they don’t always love us back. Don’t be afraid to let go of what shouldn’t be held onto, whether blood-related (not always family) or not.
Your amazing. You lift my spirit every time I watch you. Your so right no point hanging on to friends that don’t wish you well and don’t want you to grow.
Fumi, thank you for Sister to Sister. I feel like you just read from my life’s experience’s. Had a lot of friends but somehow they didn’t like or appreciate my BLESSINGS or success. Same thing with family members. I say LET GO and LET GOD…move on.
Hi Fumi, I think brokenness is what makes people act the way they do...Whatever negative behaviour they are presenting...not fully experiencing love, finding ways to heal from one's past, whether they went through trauma or not so good upbringing where they never learnt what true love is. Since they are filled with insecurities and fears, it may present itself in so many ways. Jealousy, envy could be some of the ways. The indulgence in diverse addictions is anotther. It is all a sign of brokenness. So, figuring out the root cause of it and dealing with it is the only way out!
2 yrs ago, I got a great job with a company. I, my "friend" & former colleagues tried out for the position. I encouraged everyone to apply for it. They took only two of us: me & another ex colleague. When I told my "friend" I got the job, she looked me dead in the eye and said, "why did u get it & I didn't?". Not a word of congratulations. That's when I knew she was horrible. Meanwhile, a mutual friend of ours sitting next to her was damn near in tears of joy for me. From her, straight venom. Happy to see the growth of the channel! Been here since day 1 💕 You're awesome Aunty Fumi. From ur Gambian niece
So true ♥️. Had a similar experience But it opened my eyes. I am thankful to my God. Really believe now the say that only the closest ones can hurt you! Have learned my lesson.
Auntie Fumi, thank you so much for your strength and fabulousness. I’ve been glued to my TH-cam listening to the stories you’ve been so kindly sharing with us. You either teach me something new or confirm my state of mind. I have had to walk away from a lady I considered so much but could no longer deal with the belittling, dismissive attitude or jealous behaviour at times. I miss her a great deal because on good days we had such good times and laughed a lot but I felt often very uneasy around her. Very weird as we were supposedly “best friends”… I chose myself🥰.
Fumi, what can I say about you except that you are fabulous. I am 54 yrs old and knows exactly what you speak about. I love your wisdom and how you mentor this younger generation. I hope there are more people out there like you who do the same. I just love you. Your energy is just magnificent. Keep up the great work 🙂
Thank you Fumi! You are younger than I, but I find myself coming back to see and hear your stories and good advice! You have inspired me and I don't mind saying thanks to you, I now can get my eyelashes on right! Thank you for the advice and all the beautiful makeup tips. *You are a beautiful person, inside and out! Blessed Be and Stay Well!*
I’m a Old School Hustler Fumi😂😂😂 I’m 60 Divorced, Single and have liveeeed! I love your story and how you married and have a beautiful son and amazing husband! You make me realize that it’s never to late for love !! this brought me to tears Darling!! I can’t tell you how much I love your beautiful spirit and energy! Not everyone can ride this bus!! Love you 💜🙏🏽👸🏽 Blessings to you Ole and Adrian
I just love your energy.. thank you for all you do for us. You ate amazing and have helped me in a lot of different ways. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Jealousy can destroy it will destroy good, year-long, friendships. Friendships, you thought could never be destroyed. I likewise had a friendship that was years long, I called her my best friend, and she did the same. The issue was… I had been the obese friend, the funny friend, and she had been the thin pretty friend. I did not realize this, because we had always just been very good friends. I did not realize that by being the heavy girl she felt that I made her look good. Around 2004-5 I just started changing my life, and I revolutionized how I ate and I took back control and over almost 2 years I lost about 110 pounds. I went from wearing around a size 22 about a size 10, and I got down to a size 8 we had been busy because we worked in Bizzy offices, we both worked for physicians, so we did not see each other during this time. Both of us were in the space where our children were small, they were young and in sports, so we did not see each other, but we would speak by text message and such. So the friendship started becoming odd, where at first she was very supportive, but as time went on, and it was kind of obvious that I was serious, and I really was losing weight… And I would send her pictures of course of my progress, the communication became a one-way street. At first, I did not notice it because I was busy with my three children, and I had other friends, of course. But like with other girls, the comments begin to become passive aggressive. They begin to become mean, snipes, and very controlled hits. The last time I saw her, I was sitting in the chair and she happened to come up and see me. I was doing work at the hospital and she came at the same time. She looked at me, this woman who had been my best friend, and she said, yes, you are about a size 8. That was all she said. She turned and walked away, that was around 2005. I would not see her again until 2021. jealousy is destructive and it is especially destructive because it hides behind friendship. Pride and jealousy destroy lives. I know women who have destroyed marriages just because they saw what they believed to be a great relationship, and they wanted that. We all get twinges of jealousy at times. I’ll get jelly when a woman is able to sing beautifully, such as Whitney Houston, and I say my God, if only I had been born with a talent like that. admiration with a twinge of jelly think it’s normal. It’s when it becomes destructive, that’s when it’s dangerous.
Thank you for giving me the strengh to let go of my only friend but at the same time the most poison friendship i have ever had I needed to hear this Love your videos and i am your biggest fan from Egypt Thank you sister ❤
Fumi, Fumi and Ola, you are alive and vibrant! Yes, Fumi that wisdom of life IS! LIttle do we know we are being guided by that LOVING SPIRIT. We must do this to grow and complete our journeys as God intended, without DOUBT and FEAR.
You dont have to dim your light to make other comfortable. You were placed on the earth to shine bright.
Sis, the bottom line is that the frienship you are trying to save was NEVER there. It was just smoke and mirrors. Why would you even think about letting go of your job to "save" the relationship with this other person?? No. No. No. You work hard for that job and you derserve it. You deserve better people in your life as well. People that can truly support you and be there for you no matter what. Bye bye to the so called friend. Welcome new people in your life. Good vibes only!!!
@ Mara, yeees! Truth. That was a frienemy situation/season, periodt. It takes God's divine workings/intervention, to let go.
Totally agree
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This truly spoke to me as I ended a friendship of over 30 years. She is no longer on my bus and looked back and realized she was always jealous
Proud of you
AMEN AMEN AMEN, #SAME HERE, SISTER!!!😇💢💯👌💫🙏
You hit home Fumi. Thanks sis
Me too. Ended a friendship of 40 yrs. (Friends since 4). The spirit of discernment opened my eyes to the truth, I was ALWAYS her friend. However once my career quadrupled my money...her TRUE colors (green eyed monster) EXPOSED itself...
GIRLLLLLLL BYE AND DON'T COME BACK!!
I think that's becoming my fate as well...friendship of 32 years.
Some friendships are seasonal. My mom brought us up to be friends with everybody and don’t have a best friend. That worked👍🏽. I have many friends but non is my best friend. Some come and go. And I don’t fuss about it knowing that some friendships will fizzle out. It’s saves you all the emotional traumas 😃
@King’s Daughter…Yes your mom is a wise woman. I taught my children to not use the word “friend” loosely as my Dad taught me. People you encounter throughout your life are at best “associates”
Fumi I’m a braggadocious friend, shoots I’m quick to say my bestie is a doctor because she worked her butt off for it. We have been bestie for 28 years. I’m so proud of her!!
I’m the same way! It’s a beautiful thing
@@RC-iq2hh yes it is a beautiful thing sis!
I’m the same because people who you surround yourself also represents an image of you.
Auntie Fumi can you please be my friend I love you so much and I want to know you more 💕
My besty and I are the same! I support her, I brag about her. She’s my soul mate and a real soul heart sister. Once you have a friend like that you know what you don’t want. There’s always good people out there don’t waste time on shitty friendships I say. Peace and love ❤️
Your story is explosive. My mouth dropped to the floor when you said what your former friend did at the wedding. Thank you for sharing. You’re an amazing story teller.
I was so done!! To hear what that person did at her wedding!!!😣😣 She was NEVER A FRIEND! To do that!
It’s sad!
Me too!
Haters always love to say “don’t forget where you came from” and your reply was no I won’t forget where I came from but I don’t plan on staying there 🔥 girl I FELT THAT 💯 love u auntie fumi for always keeping it real 🌹
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AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER 💯 🙏 🙌 ❤️
I think we all had that one 'special' friend that we told everything to, went everywhere and did everything together. She even came away with my husband and I for a short break. She was a witness at my wedding. I had a prolong spell of ill health but she never came to see me once. She went off and got married, left the country and didn't even tell me I've learned to let people be themselves. I didn't chase after her, now we don't have any contact. I am done with friends and family member and just live a very quiet life - no stress!
Thank you that's what am feeling for 2022
Right
Stress-free and tranquillity are worth their weight in Platinum!
A spiteful friend like that just forgive her live yr life that's the past let her get a life
Sorry about that
My friend of 25+ years did this to me at the end of 2019. She talked behind my back and the person she was texting with showed me the text messages. I was very sad but my friend had already shown me signs of jealousy, so I was not surprised. When I confronted her and I told her that I had seen the text messages she denied it. Wow! I loved that woman and sometimes I miss her but I can't be friends with someone like that.
Hi. Here's some helpful advice 😃👍:
*The person that showed you Those texts Should have been a Real Friend if she Had Defended you during those texts. Please Also keep that in mind sometimes people tell another of the gossip just to stir sh*t up. So be aware!*
@@YvonneMendezRealtor It makes me wonder why she felt comfortable talking about her with that friend.
Word!!!! Over the past 10 years I've had to shrink my circle of friends drastically. I grieved some of those relationships, but I'm better for it. My circle of friends shrunk from over fifty to four!!!! It is a difficult but necessary and doable thing one must do to thrive - especially if you are a people pleaser. One must learn the difference between a friend, an acquaintance, or associate, and apply wisdom. Like the Bible says, "jealousy is as rottenness to the bones." Guard your heart seriously because we are all prone to this destructive feeling. You cannot talk anyone out of it. Like Maya Angelou says, "believe people when they show you whom they are, the first time." Listen to the spirit (and checks) within you. Remember that every friend is for a season/reason. Know when to let go, or hold on. Thank you Queen Funmi!!!
Your husband’s “the bus 🚌 is full” was spot on and priceless. I loved it 😍.
Fumi, this hits home 100%, I had a "best" friend, and co-worker for 14 years. I use to take her to many places because she didn't drive. In the last couple of years of friendship, she turned on me, when we got a new department manager. She wanted to get on her good side, and for that, our friendship was sacrificed. She also would talk behind my back, and would try to distance herself from me, but yet she wanted me to take her places, such as our Christmas parties. I saw a big change, when I decided to go back to school, she felt threatened by me, and made my life very difficult at work, so much so, that she participated in the decision to terminate my employment where we worked together. I agree with you, her time was up in my life, she became jealous when I announced that I was going back to school, she felt threatened. I miss her, but it was for the best! Love you Fumi!!!
@Sandra Davis, never miss such an evil blot, in your life. GOD delivered/separated you from her, knowing she was an impostor. Go on with your life, in peace, joy and great health. GOD bless.
That's pure witchcraft right there my dear.
I can attest to this. When the season is over, we have to let go
@@marycole7196 : yes Mary, I do believe it was God's will for sure, and I thank him every day!
@@ewoenamanku8803 : funny you should say that, because, believe it or not, I literally brought Holly Water to sprinkle on her work station, as well as the manager's to get that evilness out of there! I also sprinkle them both, they were so shocked when I did it, they were so scared of what I was doing, but as I sprinkled them; I made sure to let them know that it was holly water, not something that was going to harm them.
Never had a best friend. The hating starts soon as they realize . My kindness is not my weakness. This include males
I always enjoy you and your stories sister. I feel like I met you before.. Your laugh makes me laugh. Military BRAT. I feel that we have crossed paths through travel. I will keep watching and one day I'll figure it out or maybe not lol
A whole WORD!!!
I am kind, I am NOT weak and will stand by myself if need be!!!
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Perfectly said, auntie Fumi. A thief doesn't rob an empty house. It's something we have that the haters want. I pray your journey and goals will manifest as you continue to live and love darlins... 💕🎄🎁
When she said "...and the powers up above give you signs to let go and you refuse to let go so I will destroy this relationship SO BADLY that you can no longer hold on to it"
The tears that started streaming down my face.this was God confirming what He had rescued me from. because God did this exact thing to me...it was a paaainful lesson but it's been 4 years now, and God opened my eyes to the actual intentions and spirits of the people I thought were my confidants.
If anyone is at the point I was 4 years ago and feels alone.
Stay in that wilderness.because God is about to show you whyyyyy he took them out.. Growth and healing is coming your way.Sending lots of love to everyone.
Thank you aunt Fumi💋💋
That so so TRUE!, you always see the signs however you are in denial 😞😢
So true. The signs are there but we hold on because that's what friends do right? But I've learned that God might need to work on us and the friend separately cause there is toxicity and drama in the mix. Some seasons have to end.
First I have to say, onwards and upwards towards 500K! Second, for those Sisters and Brothers listening to this, it also covers FAMILY. Not everyone who smiles at you actually likes you and it's hard, very hard when your heart if full of love and you get hate,jealous, disrespect and censure in return. This was a powerful life lesson from a woman who is speaking truth to power to all listening.
I know it hurts, but using Fumi's life as an example... you will gain more when you don't compromise yourself FOR ANYONE and let GOD LEAD YOU WHERE OTHERS CANNOT REACH.
Fumi, thank you for sharing and caring. We are better as a community for our elders and youngsters who are brave enough to speak out loud.
You're so right.. I literally had to stop my own bus and ask all 'family but not family' to get down or rather I left their bus.. and got on a brand new one with those that love and accept me.. I made this decision at the end of 2020. Because I realised I would rather be alone and be sure of that than be surrounded, lonely, loveless and still have them tormenting my life. Family are those who love you and have your back.. wether they are blood or not.
This is part of why I no longer do family visits. IMO being part of a family is either acceptance as is, or some constructive criticism. Neither of those took place. I stick with my small immediate family.
I have always had the gift of goodbye. As long as your heart is pure, God will keep blessing you, and anyone who can't celebrate your wins with you whether they are family or friend should not be in your life. PERIOD!
The gift of goodbye is one of the greatest ones to have. I can walk away from a lot of things with no regrets. You cannot save everything or everyone.
I had the learn the gift of goodbye, but I’m so much more better for learning it.
THIS SPOKE TO ME!!! I've literally dealt with the same issue. Friendship lost due to my success in marriage/relationships and career. I had to accept her issues came from her own insecurities and I had to put that friendship on the shelf. I tell my daughters all the time that as you elevate you are going to lose some people and that is ok!
Tía Fumi, I was near tears from this video. It’s like you knew about the last 2 years of my life, and I cannot tell you what a needed video this was. I’ve always said jealousy has no room in any of my relationships, and I have had to stand in that statement FIRMLY. You are simply the best, and I can’t be speaking for myself when I say that this video has brought clarity and confirmation. Thank you with tons of love💕
I've listened to most of your vlog, i came across you on TH-cam and after listening to your various topics had to subscribe. Now Ive been in that such a situation, where a person I thought was a friend turned out to be jealous and malice me for years. She came back into my life but I'm weary of her as she seem to always want to do the things I've done. Why I don't know, others around me have noticed it too. Well I'm keeping my eyes open. Keep up the amazing work Miss Fumi. Your topics are intriguing 🤔.
Congratulations Fumi on 300K! Yes I know this channel would grow because your personally and laughter is infectious. Cannot wait for the 1M followers of FUMINATION!! Continue much success my QUEEN! 🙏🏾❤️🔥💚🌺🤙🏾
When you have that ‘friend’ who is always unhappily surprised when you achieve something incredible but smile and encourage you to be a defeatist when you’ve been defeated. You step back and you see that they never wished you well.
I would never consider quitting my job for a friend!
Welp .....my mouth is literally and I mean LITERALLY hanging open. I was so shocked she said that at the reception! Jealousy is a dangerous thing. So glad ur helping those that have experienced it.
Yes...no kidding. It's interesting that she wasn't bold enough to say anything when the minister said "speak now or forever hold your piece" during the ceremony. Either way, WHAT NERVE?
ME TOO MY JAW HIT THE FLOOR!! Thats so tasteless WOW
Your voice is so regal. It's absolutely beautiful. I had to learn this lesson this year. I cried for days as I'd known this girl since we were 14. It's hard to mourn the loss but it's so necessary. Jealousy is a natural emotion. The thing to do is use it to inspire you. I have no problem with a person feeling a bit of jealousy. But when they take action against you that's a whole new ballgame. Let them go. They are now operating as an enemy and cannot be trusted. Hard but true. Excellent story time.
“Let them be jealous, let them hate ! It means u’ve got something they don’t have n u can’t trade it in for that person ! “ cos their chapter is done in your life!!
That is a great 👍 piece right there Aunty Fumi. Thanks 😊 so much for this, I am gonna keep this points with me forever ♾ 🙌❤️❤️❤️
Jealousy is a green eye monster people can be jealous of you for simply no good reason...pretending to love and care for your friendship while secretly doing and saying things behind your back to intentionally bring you down.....be careful of wolves in sheep clothing they are every where.
Friendship breakups are never easy but with time you’ll heal..I have learned that I really have to let go of the people who no longer serves me because I be fighting for absolutely nothing.
Jealousy is a waste of time because we are all where we worked to be. What’s for you will not pass you bye if you are ready for it.
Thank you for the lovely insight. Fabulous as always.
This happened to me. I was in the middle of a divorce. I couldn’t work nights anymore with my friend in a nursing home because of my young daughters. I applied for a job as a nursing assistant in a hospital which was a step up for me. She didn’t wish me well after our friendship of 12 years. I tried to keep in touch but she ignored my calls and texts. So I thought I would just give her time to contact me. Well she didn’t and like you said I had to let her go. It was really difficult I was so upset we never spoke again I kept thinking what had I done wrong. I hadn’t done anything wrong. I realised she was jealous. I made many new friends and moved on. 🥰
Thank you for this. If she was a true friend she would be happy that her girl is doing great things.
So happy for you. I'm 51 years old and I really admire and respect you. You are a mentor to me here in Los Angeles, CA. Peace and Blessings!
My Church Mom says to me: Everyone isn’t meant to go on the entire route with you. Some are destiny helpers; they help you to get to a particular point then your time MUST END. Others have left you so why can’t you understand You have to leave some as well. Listen Beloved Where GOD is taking you, the air will be too thin for some people. You force them to go up there & they will perish. Don’t be selfish! You will find others on that level & some on that level you may have to leave behind as well. Regardless, understand when a person’s assignment is over & release them so you can climb to the next wrung & they can be free to pursue their journey. You will survive, I Promise You.
Sigh ... I needed to hear exactly this today, and will be showing this video to my daughter too. I'm sorry you went though all that pain - I can still hear it in your voice - but you are such an inspiration. So - note to self ... onwards ... upwards!
On a happier note ... so happy for your 300k milestone, Funmi, couldn't happen to a more deserving vlogger! You'll be hitting the 1m mark in no time, and I'm here for it!! 💕
I think it's that we try to see the good in other's rather than seeing the truth of a person's character and behavior. It's not mean to protect yourself from envy, jealousy etc. We were told to guard our hearts for out of it flows the issues of life. Wish them well, but be okay with being okay to walk away.🇧🇸 Thank you Fumi for the overflow of love.
You sure seem like you have a charmed life, but there are such depths to you. I too lost my best friend behind some silly jealousy mess and I didn't recognize how upset and resentful she was until I was already in pain from her words and actions. I still recall the pain of realizing that this friendship which started when we were in Seventh grade, was at its natural conclusion. Not everything is meant to last forever. You are a wonderful storyteller and experiences are nothing if we are not enjoying, learning or growing from them.
“Do we love my darlings? Do we love?” … yes we do Fumi. You always look beautiful.
As soon as I saw the topic in my updates I was like "yes"!!! They've gots-ta-gooooo!!!! I'm in that season in my life...kicking and cleaning things out. Thank you aunty Funmi for this
"The bus is full!" screaming endless laughs and giggles...Thank you FUMI for another great Sister2Sister. So much wisdom, so much reassurance. I could give you a big hug. XOXO
Great video..hits close to home. I've had to cut off two Dear friends but I had no choice the jealousy and envy was too much. I need to grow and they couldn't rise up they just hating all the time..it took me a while to accept it was jealousy cos I didn't want to let go now I'm free and blessed
They say youth is wasted on the young and it is so true. Watching you, Aunty Fumi, I can truly understand everything about that statement. When you are young and naive you get knocked about and waste your energy on foolishness. I have learned to hold on to whatever vibrancy I can because when I mature I will be unstoppable if I am as savvy and vivacious and fabulous as you. Thank you for your lessons and encouragement. It gets me through.
Love it!
✴CONGRATULATIONS YOU'RE SO DESERVING OF ALL THATS COMING YOUR WAY✴ yes I'm yelling it to the roof tops. Love you 💝
Fumi: “ Do we love my Darlings”
Me and only me : YESS
I really appreciate you Fumi for sharing your story with us LOVE YOU
You are so about mourn the loss and move on. People always tell me I am cold and I don't care and I tell them I care plenty but if things don't add up I cut the friendship off and walk away the first time I feel something is wrong. My mom use to say make your entrance your exit and waste no time with people who are jealous.
I am so happy to see you grow I have been following for 3 1/2 years and I keep saying Fumi have such a positive channel where are the people, but now they are finding you thanks to the Universe with its timing. Enjoy all you hard work.
we need "do we love my darlings?" robe, sleep masks, gloves, perfume etc.
Fantastic idea! Also trademark it if she can
I just started watching you, and I couldn't be happier to have come across your channel. It takes a lot to let go of some friendships, but when you do, it's like a whole burden is off your shoulder. You are a role model that I want in my life, and keep being authentic and beautiful as you are ❤️❤️
I let go of a few childhood friendships as I approached 30. My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.
Fumi, this is such a great video for anyone who is going through a change in friendships. Everything you say is true and it’s sadly a lesson I learned myself the hard way. Thanks for sharing your insight. To anyone who is in a similar situation, listen to Fumi - she’s 100% right! ♥️
Love Love ♥ anuty Fumi you are a life send to TH-cam
Now! Queen Fumi you only speak the truth, and the words of wisdom to our brothers and sisters. Your a beautiful black angel on earth.
It is a similar situation that I sent through. I looked over and forgave a lot from high school through adulthood. When you talked about her not coming to visit it shook me. I never wanted to be petty and upset because she never came. I told myself I was acting funny, bit her. But I noticed she would go to another friend's house a mile away. Honestly looking back, she didn't come around when I was doing well, only bad. She never really celebrated my marriage. I've always tried to show up for her. I know I needed to let her go at some point, but this drove it home. Thank you!
This includes family as well. I have had surgery in September, October, and November. Not one family member came to see me or call me after I let them know what was going on with me. But called way to another state where I use to live for 24 yrs and my children are still there. They asked my daughter what was going on with me and we live in the SAME state. I moved here 5 yrs ago after my sister passed. Everyone SEEMED to be so happy but it was all a lie.🤦🏾♀️ Thank you Lord for being my all in all🙏🏾🙌🏾 I gave them to the Lord and moving on with my life. Loving from a distance.
I LOVE Sister2Sister 😍😍😍😍
It's one of the BEST parts of my day to see Fumi put up a video. She's the wise mama/big sister I have always wanted and needed in my life❤❤❤
Fumi Nation citizen from Jamaica. 🇯🇲
So do i
JM JM
I tell you the gasp I release when you said that she got out there during the speech and called you a liar. You have lived so much life Auntie and these stories make it worth it.
I gasped too!!!! OMG, the audacity! But honestly, I can see some women I know doing that. 😥
I want to believe that my friends made us 300k...I noticed we only needed 3 more to go,I went and summoned my people..I love you auntie Fumie,I really wish you well.
Lol x
I have sadly had "friends" be jealous of me. You live and you learn and you Block (Literally and Figuratively) people from your life. Its been very helpful to my mental health.
I believe that people are meant to be in your life for a season. I had a friend for over 30?years and the relationship has changed. It wasn’t jealousy but people don’t value friendships the way you go.
Let them go!!!!
Especially when they ask for help and you always available but the day you ask for help they become busy. Sooooo busy that they have all these excuses. I just don't understand people. How can someone not be ashamed to look back and say my friend was there for me let me sacrifice this little time.
@@Flourish_today The reciprocity always falls short, or just doesn't happen at all. That is a MAJOR sign to move on.
A few years ago I had to end a 20+ year friendship. It took me years to realize her toxicity. It was a blessing but it hurt. I'm over it now! Congratulations on your $300k❤
Love this! Drop them off at the first stop and keep it movin’!!! Never stop being your best self for someone else! A real friend would be happy and excited for you and wouldn’t try to dull you shine 🌟!!!
When we lift each other up, we arrive together. I wish my sister, nieces, aunties cousins and friends would get this.
They say sometimes, it's not the end of the friendship that hurts. It is the amount of personal information shared.
OMG. This confirms some decisions I’ve made of late to clear the drama and stress from my life!
Hello Aunty Fums, I am so happy to see the steady growth of this fabulous nation. I guess it is because you are so so deserving, cos you are so giving.....cheers to 303K subscribers mama!....
Amen! Truth! My closest friend attempted to throw a mean attitude towards me as we moved from childhood into adulthood. I immediately recognized that I did not deserve her attitude change. I told her our friendship was over period!!! She left me a long note admitting that she had become jealous of me. I schooled her that true friends do not envy or feel jealous....true friendships celebrate the fortunes (big or small, mine were small) of your friends. She begged my forgiveness. I did forgive her because I am Christian however I have never felt close to her and keep her at arms length. I have true friends now and as always choose quality over quantity. I have one extremely close friend and I consider that fulfilling 😌
I use to feel a certain way that I didn't have so many girlfriends but in time, I realised that I don't really need a handful of friends but just a few who are on same page and i am so grateful I found peace in that regard. Presently I have got just about 4 of them and we are soul sisters.
I love your message....you are blessing us!! And I'm an older woman. I want the boldness you have! May God bless you to continue to bless and enlighten our sister's! 🥰
This was right on time. I had this to happen to me this past Saturday. I've been her ride or die, no matter what she did I prayed for the best for her and all. We've been friends for over 24 years. She's also my cousin. Me and her was having a discussion and the call dropped. She thought that I hung up in her face so she took to Facebook and block me. After that she proceeded to message my husband. Now I don't care what subliminal posts you put because you can dispute that away. The thing that got me was if you have an issue with me then you shouldn't be in my husband's inbox tryna play and/or test to see if I told him not to speak to you. You obviously didn't give me a second thought and thought you was doing something. No hunny! You just made my decision a lot more easier. Please don't come back is all I have to say. I cannot be sincere with a person who thinks it's okay to do that. I'm no child and I am loving being in timeout (blocked) lol. She will be number 5 and one less negative needy one in my life. I don't have time at all for folks like this. When folks make their decision... They shouldn't forget that we have a decision to make too. Thank you for this Fumi ❤️😘😘🥰😍. I've been letting go of folks. I don't know why people don't believe me. I will not miss my blessings and focus because they're miserable. Nope! No! I cannot and will not.
Yasssss I love love SISTER TO SISTER! It is everything and then some. So educational and interesting.
Congratulations on the growth
You deserve it and even more.
Thanks for this episode, it was for me.
Fumi , I love you sister. I'm 70 years old. I experience the same kind of lost of friendships due to jealous. When I closed that bus door another door with beautiful friendships with ladies that celebrated each other.
Love you Fumi! This message came right on time it's confirmation for me, I cut off a few friends as that jealousy is real
I have been amazed at every single episode l have watched. You are such a gift to our gender when you speak about subjects relating to us. I love your personality, your delivery, your kind loving heart, sense of humor, confidence, your entire being, and the contents you present in your channel. I can see you with millions of subscribers in no time. l see a viewer becoming a fan the first visit to your channel. I am a 74 year old Filipina woman married in a lovely ancient church up in a hill in Stockholm in 1971. My husband and l live a wonderful retired life here in Los Angeles to be close to our grandchildren. May God continue to bless you and your family. God Jul!
Im going through that “time to let that friend go” (due to their jealousy) time and I keep coming back to this. I keep coming back to watch this because there is so much strength and sisterly love in this video, it’s uplifting and empowering. Fumi, you are a highly inspirational and a very beautiful soul. Thank you for this advice. ♥️
Yes, love, love, love! Especially the ease that you apply your makeup but even more your thoughtful, sage advice. 300K is just the start...
Congratulations on 300K! I've learned that we only hurt ourselves by trying to hold onto things that are seasonal. I don't question why most things happen, I just move accordingly like you said Auntie Fumi 💯
It's so true about the young girls. I admire the spirit of the 20 something girls. They are not afraid. I just wish I had just an ounce of what they have now. Power on young ladies 😘.
People come into ur life for a reason a season or a lifetime...when you figure it out 💁🏽♀️than you will know what to do💁🏽♀️
That end of ur sentence I had never heard of. Thank u🥰🥰
I love listening to Fumi talk, but I'm totally mesmerized while watching her apply makeup. She's so talented, & really knows what works well for her. I could watch these videos 24/7... if only I had the time! 😘
_Amen, Amen!! Just got rid of one recently. I wish them well but they had to go_ 💯👏🏾💕🥰
_By the way….. Congratulations to U!_ 🥰💯💕
Never give up your job for a friend enemy, she was never your friend. Ppl come into your life for a season and when their time is up let them go my dear, you will have other friends. I’ve experienced jealousy from friends and family which was extremely difficult for me and I had to learn to love myself and realize that I can exist without certain emotional draining individuals that doesn’t have my best interest at heart. Fumi I love the content that you speak on its always something close to home…you’re a bigger person than I am, I remove those types of ppl from my life. I live for sister to sister story time…
Inspiring as always Aunty Funmi. I am very careful with making friends. I have been hurt by friends that I am no longer keen on making friends. I lived with my bestie in law school and I remember she always woke up to read at night and will allow me sleep off till the next morning. Unfortunately, she ended up not passing the exams. Friends can be horrible. I try to be nice to everyone around me but I have no bestie. I hope to find a good friend and sister some day.
I love that, the old ones will remind you where you are coming from, they will never choke our dreams.
Thanks so much for this video.
I had tears in my eyes while listening to this as it brought back memories.
Thank you for your words of encouragement🙏🏿
Great advise. Don’t dim your light to make an envious person comfortable.
Oh my goodness, this gave me chills, because it was so true!!!
I absolutely lovvvvveeee how you flaunt your natural beauty sometimes! Love love love love it!
I REALLY NEEDED THIS TODAY!!!! Though not jealousy, I’m dealing with a similar situation with a 40 plus year friendship and it truly hiurts. 😢😢😢
She was never your friend but you were aways a friend. That chapter has passed , start a new.
JEALOUSLY IS ROTTEN TO THE BONE. KEEP YOUR NEW JOB.
This pink is everything! Gorgeous! 😍
We are reluctant to face the signs sometimes because we love them. But, they don’t always love us back. Don’t be afraid to let go of what shouldn’t be held onto, whether blood-related (not always family) or not.
& that goes for friends and family…!
I actually cried towards the end. This message spoke to my soul. Thank you 💛💛
Your amazing. You lift my spirit every time I watch you. Your so right no point hanging on to friends that don’t wish you well and don’t want you to grow.
Fumi, thank you for Sister to Sister. I feel like you just read from my life’s experience’s. Had a lot of friends but somehow they didn’t like or appreciate my BLESSINGS or success. Same thing with family members. I say LET GO and LET GOD…move on.
Hi Fumi, I think brokenness is what makes people act the way they do...Whatever negative behaviour they are presenting...not fully experiencing love, finding ways to heal from one's past, whether they went through trauma or not so good upbringing where they never learnt what true love is. Since they are filled with insecurities and fears, it may present itself in so many ways. Jealousy, envy could be some of the ways. The indulgence in diverse addictions is anotther. It is all a sign of brokenness. So, figuring out the root cause of it and dealing with it is the only way out!
2 yrs ago, I got a great job with a company. I, my "friend" & former colleagues tried out for the position. I encouraged everyone to apply for it. They took only two of us: me & another ex colleague. When I told my "friend" I got the job, she looked me dead in the eye and said, "why did u get it & I didn't?". Not a word of congratulations. That's when I knew she was horrible. Meanwhile, a mutual friend of ours sitting next to her was damn near in tears of joy for me. From her, straight venom.
Happy to see the growth of the channel! Been here since day 1 💕
You're awesome Aunty Fumi. From ur Gambian niece
That sucks. I hope you ran away from her. Ppl like that can stab u in d back never to b trusted
So true ♥️. Had a similar experience But it opened my eyes. I am thankful to my God. Really believe now the say that only the closest ones can hurt you! Have learned my lesson.
Auntie Fumi, thank you so much for your strength and fabulousness. I’ve been glued to my TH-cam listening to the stories you’ve been so kindly sharing with us. You either teach me something new or confirm my state of mind. I have had to walk away from a lady I considered so much but could no longer deal with the belittling, dismissive attitude or jealous behaviour at times. I miss her a great deal because on good days we had such good times and laughed a lot but I felt often very uneasy around her. Very weird as we were supposedly “best friends”… I chose myself🥰.
Fumi, what can I say about you except that you are fabulous. I am 54 yrs old and knows exactly what you speak about. I love your wisdom and how you mentor this younger generation. I hope there are more people out there like you who do the same. I just love you. Your energy is just magnificent. Keep up the great work 🙂
Thank you Fumi! You are younger than I, but I find myself coming back to see and hear your stories and good advice! You have inspired me and I don't mind saying thanks to you, I now can get my eyelashes on right! Thank you for the advice and all the beautiful makeup tips. *You are a beautiful person, inside and out! Blessed Be and Stay Well!*
I’m a Old School Hustler Fumi😂😂😂 I’m 60 Divorced, Single and have liveeeed! I love your story and how you married and have a beautiful son and amazing husband! You make me realize that it’s never to late for love !! this brought me to tears Darling!! I can’t tell you how much I love your beautiful spirit and energy! Not everyone can ride this bus!! Love you 💜🙏🏽👸🏽 Blessings to you Ole and Adrian
I just love your energy.. thank you for all you do for us. You ate amazing and have helped me in a lot of different ways. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Jealousy can destroy it will destroy good, year-long, friendships. Friendships, you thought could never be destroyed. I likewise had a friendship that was years long, I called her my best friend, and she did the same. The issue was… I had been the obese friend, the funny friend, and she had been the thin pretty friend. I did not realize this, because we had always just been very good friends. I did not realize that by being the heavy girl she felt that I made her look good. Around 2004-5 I just started changing my life, and I revolutionized how I ate and I took back control and over almost 2 years I lost about 110 pounds. I went from wearing around a size 22 about a size 10, and I got down to a size 8 we had been busy because we worked in Bizzy offices, we both worked for physicians, so we did not see each other during this time. Both of us were in the space where our children were small, they were young and in sports, so we did not see each other, but we would speak by text message and such. So the friendship started becoming odd, where at first she was very supportive, but as time went on, and it was kind of obvious that I was serious, and I really was losing weight… And I would send her pictures of course of my progress, the communication became a one-way street. At first, I did not notice it because I was busy with my three children, and I had other friends, of course. But like with other girls, the comments begin to become passive aggressive. They begin to become mean, snipes, and very controlled hits. The last time I saw her, I was sitting in the chair and she happened to come up and see me. I was doing work at the hospital and she came at the same time. She looked at me, this woman who had been my best friend, and she said, yes, you are about a size 8. That was all she said. She turned and walked away, that was around 2005. I would not see her again until 2021. jealousy is destructive and it is especially destructive because it hides behind friendship. Pride and jealousy destroy lives. I know women who have destroyed marriages just because they saw what they believed to be a great relationship, and they wanted that. We all get twinges of jealousy at times. I’ll get jelly when a woman is able to sing beautifully, such as Whitney Houston, and I say my God, if only I had been born with a talent like that. admiration with a twinge of jelly think it’s normal. It’s when it becomes destructive, that’s when it’s dangerous.
Thank you for giving me the strengh to let go of my only friend but at the same time the most poison friendship i have ever had
I needed to hear this
Love your videos and i am your biggest fan from Egypt
Thank you sister ❤
Fumi, Fumi and Ola, you are alive and vibrant!
Yes, Fumi that wisdom of life IS!
LIttle do we know we are being guided by that LOVING SPIRIT. We must do this to grow and complete our journeys as God intended, without DOUBT and FEAR.