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- Professional Arab women juggle more responsibilities than their male counterparts, and they face more cultural rigidity than Western women. What can their success teach us about tenacity, competition, priorities and progress? Tracing her career as an engineer, advocate and mother in Abu Dhabi, Leila Hoteit shares three lessons for thriving in the modern world.
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i just LOVE LOVE LOVE seeing succesful arab women like this one! So eloquent, well-spoken, intelligent, modern and successful. There is only one arab woman i know that is like her (on a smaller scale though), but she married a Dutch man. I know nobody like this woman that has it all in my opinion and is middle eastern. Great inspiration to me ! :) x
My boss said she is her 'great inspiration'. So much that she had the entire team watch this video
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"Be the changing you want to see in the world", said Gandhi. Well now she looks like the role model she never had, and that's admirable.
being a woman in the middle, I celebrate the courage and progress that women like Leila represent. Thank you Leila for and from all of us.
Girl I'm in the middle east and it's nothing deep like they have told you
I'm in pharmacy school men right now are only 20% of our class
Women are focusing on their studies and jobs and education and goals!
Women are supporting each other's
Women are getting more and more empowered and even way better than the west almost 70% of our professors are women! Too
Thank you for an incredibly insightful, humorous and powerful talk. I am not an Arab woman, but I am a Muslim woman living in South Africa. Although my life is perhaps different, culturally, I identify with a lot of what you have said. I am proud to have a very supportive family who have pushed me to be the best that I can be. Thank you for being a wonderful example of success, while still taking pride in being a co-leader in your home. Best wishes
Great speaker, Brilliant Mind, Influential Woman.
If you're gonna hate, direct your hate towards what wrongs she has done, not her race and religion.
Haters don't have intellect to dissect arguments logically...
+Joel Fisher so true
This woman is awesome, she refuses to be a victim. If western feminists had 10% of her drive and determination their earnings would equal men's on average. That being said the haters in this comment section understandably hate Islam and the Middle East for its backwards batshit fucking insane treatment of women and gays. I see no reason not to hate the religion while still liking the person.
you ma'am. have my respecT.
I think this is a great TED talk! Very profound
I love this woman so much.
I take so much inspiration from this.
What you are doing for Arab Women is phenomenal.
I wish you all the best, as we both know there are many more glass doors and ceilings to overcome.
I wish the progressive thinkers in my gender will all begin to support women more,
as for women, they will keep on fighting,
and eventually the walls will come down.
I wait for the day.
Excellent, I found this very inspiring and thought provoking I can relate to this although I am not Arab but have a Asian heritage, it’s rings true on many aspects. Thank-you for providing a platform for highlighting such an important topic.
Great talk, just loved it, I was brought up by my mother and 3 sisters since my father have died at a young age, and I think they have done an outstanding job. go women ,
This woman just gave us the best advice we could ever receive as woman and all you guys are thinking about and commenting about is the fact that what her three year old said was highly unlikely? You know ... it is possible because maybe she educated her daughter right. There are children out there who can read by the age of one and if you don't think that, you can look it up because there have been studies done. So what. Shes taught to be smart at a young age and think for herself. Good for her. Clearly this woman is a good mother. None of you commenters are thinking about the overall point of this freaking video.
These comments are depressing. This is a strong, educated and hard working woman with a good message. Even if you can't relate to it, how can one not appreciate it?
Great talk by a great person. I wish you good luck with all aspects of your life. We need more people like you.
Beautiful strong women, knowing what she wants in such gender unequal country and Arab traditional mentality - amazing Arab women who inspire and show how to be strong in worse conditions. I am impressed by Her.
Brilliant , a great talk !!
Leila, you're such an inspiration for all working woman across the middle east. Keep it up, wishing you more success! Best regards,Hala
GORGEOUS *.* KEEP GOING LEILA ❤
Education and Degrees NOT made in an Arab Country? Check...
Former and current Employer NOT an Arab Company? Check...
Good/ High social standing? Check...
Spent most of her time in the UK/USA? Check...
Dancing around the issues with Islam and calling it "cultural rigidity"
Wow how much we can all learn from her....
True.
I was thinking the same thing.
Lol true
a man commenting? Check..
a man who is probably not from that part of the world? Check..
a man who is criticizing this woman's success? Check...
a man who did not watch the video when she said "it is slow, but is changing" Check...
a man who is probably not as accomplished as she is? Check
and bonus points: all men commenting on your post for validation? Check..
Wow, how much can we value your comment?
Micah Jodhan Take your ignorant posterior somewhere else.
2:56
I haven't even finished watching and I'm already laughing!
*After watching: I think this talk provides a good message to stay positive, convert others' negative energies into fuel, and forcing time for yourself, friends, and family. Personal experience in my industry has shown me competition, at least here in the States, is typically strict and uncooperative; an "all for one" instead of "one for all" mindset, that if you're not in a specific category (whether it be skills, race, etc), you "don't stand a chance and should pursue what's 'set' for you."
Thank you, Mrs. Hoteit for your TED Talk.
Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing.
This is so brilliant!!!
this is so inspiring❤
I know right, how did the daughter of the director of operations for the Lebanese airline make it so far... It is like she pulled her self out of the mud by getting sent to the best private schools, then had daddy pay for College in London all the way through her PhD. Then she used the highly technical education to make amazing innovations that changed the world... Well, that or works The Boston Consulting Group’s Public Sector and People & Organization practices and works doing work on oil drilling. I am really truly inspired.
No it's not inspiring. Just another rich girl complaining & trying to look like a victim.
My father came from a village in Lebanon and became pilot on a merit scholarship. Through his hard work, which inspired me, he made it to head of operations. We were not "rich" and I graduated from a french embassy school affordable to middle class families in Lebanon. I was an A student through hard work and managed to get into a top UK university . I also got a scholarship for my PhD. Why the envy Loathomar? You have something against hard work? :)
Leila Hoteit Really, being the head of operations of an airlines is not enough to make one rich? I assume because you did not say you get a scholarship for your under grad your family did pay for that. Currently, a year of Imperial College London for non UK students is $35K per year, this would be 3.5 times the Lebanon's gdp per capita, so how, outside of being rich, did you do that?
Does that mean you did not work hard? No. I simply don't find it too inspiring. A family friend is far more inspiring. Grow up in Vietnam, until the civil war where he was one of the boat people, when they had to sink the boat and hope the US Navy would save them before they drown, because they could not swim. He was saved and got to come to the US. He has distant family in upstate NY, when he when to community college for Electrical Engineering while learning English. Got straight A and a full ride to Cornell where he got straight As through his PhD, which was on AlInAs/GaInAs transistor, I believe it was the world's fastest transistor at the time. After working and getting his MBA, he started his own company, though at the worst time, right before the tech crash, but still managed to keep it alive and a success.
In comparison, I can't see your story as very inspiring. You work hard and have a good life, which is great. But being the daughter of a head of operations of an airlines kind of kills the "came from the bottom to over come it all" story. You are far more inspiring then me, but I would not claim to be inspiring, my life has been far to easy.
I really enjoyed your talk. inspiring and educational. I especially appreciate our cultural differences. nicely said!
Great message :) Thank you
How stunning and brave she is! She's a true hero! A Salmon swimming up the stream, fighting the current of oppression!
stfu
Great- this is the modern approach (in many fields) .
Fantastic message to all human beings!!! Enjoyed listening.
Jelena Ozgur
Hello
empowered women = empower women
love this!! such an inspiration
Loved this woman!
Very inspiring!
You go girl
I can literally feel the anger in the conservatives that are watching this video right now... An intelligent and successful female Muslim making strong points??? Hahahaha, they are PISSED. HOW COULD SUCH A THING EXIST?!?!??!
not most ! just 48% are christian
this is a great example when we put a break up between the " individual " , " culture and religion " and " the society " .
Amazing!
Strong personality, smart character.Nice talk as always on TED.
Our countries having conservative societies do need women like them.
Lovely speech
WOW HOW DIVERSE
Where was this talk for me 30 years ago when I needed to hear it???!!!!😢
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I recently read an article about powerful men and their relationship with their daughters. Basically what a rich / powerful man looks for in a wife is traditional subservience. But for his daughter - he wants her to be bold tries to bend the world for her to get w/e she wants. (The piece looked at Trump and his 3 wives vs his relationship with daughter Ivanka.) So its natural for her father to have a stay at home uneducated wife but insist that she and her sister become professionals.
Good point. She said it herself: "she's like a son her father never had". She's a product of her father's making, a daddy's girl.
Very good observation there, I now can think of plenty of cases similar to what you said.
WOW A REAL AND GROUNDED HUMAN BEING WOW -RESPECT&LOVE ^^/
Bravo!
I love you, thank you!
C Smith Hello
good talk
Thus us very inspiring 😌👌
Leila you are the face of a succesful professional who come from Arab world.You have contributed not only to your family but also the society.honestly speaking Asian cultures are different from European and American cultures.
Love it
And let the hate of 7-year-old boys begiiiiin... NOW
I've learned the haters haven't even seen the presentations.
lel tru i cri evri tim
She didn't get her education in an arab country, she's the daughter of the director of the Lebanese airline (aka high class). She's spent most of her life in USA and the UK. This is a very poor representation.
"Everyone can afford house workers" sure, how about your houseworkers.
I am the daughter of a self-made mad who grew up in a village in Lebanon, got a merit scholarship and became a pilot and eventually head of operations at the airline through his hard work, Not the director of the airline. My father put his savings towards our education. I spent none of my life in the US. and I became "rich" of my own making. By working non-stop from school days till today. What I said was that in the region I live in, even middle class families have support at home (please ask around). Further the point was not about nannies but about choosing your support system carefully and empowering them to do their jobs well.
Diane Keaton at 9:56 . Love her.
inspiring talk. would be amazing to keep moving forward with these kinda people around and 3 key points as thoughts to be motivated. not just for women, even for guys it's gold!!
Brava!
so come from a wealthy family and you too can be above the social standards that oppress the poor majority
What an inspiration she is right?
i feel bad for ya, i really do
LOL that's the message in a nutshell.
This is a talk about gender gap, not economic disparity.
You're right.
The best thing I learn from this, was what type of woman I want as a parthner in my life. The speaker is a remarkable and inteligent woman. I like her thinking and her looks of course, escpecially the clothing. I am so impressed of her and even a little bit envy that I can never be so attractive woman.
Leila you are a positive example and we are all in need of that. Your example and talk is important for women who do not understand their role in society and are afraid to develop their potential for fear of being ostracized.
I am sure that your husband is a great man and if I may suggest Leila, he shoud give some answers to some of the "real men" making misoginist comments and perhaps teach them how to be good partners in a family life.
You are a public figure and some comments here are not even worth being read, but that is only normal when you go out into the arena. In the end we must all be judged by the influence we have on the world around us and the example we make of our life. And you are great.
niculina ana Hello
You know what's funny in the arab world ? Its the fact that if a woman is driving a car even is she's driving really good, some men have to stare, point at her and laugh🙂 if a woman is driving and she makes a mistake, everyone says that its because she's a woman and they immediately decide that ALL WOMEN can't drive, but if a man causes a FREKING ACCIDENT, well nobody mentions his gendre do they ? 😂 this is how things are in my town Syria, that
honestly is pathetic...
Thanks for this amazing, much required speech ❤
She really is gorgous
Impressive and a role model for women whether arabian or not 💪🏻 #girllove
Bella Meunier
Hello
admirable....
Daniella Seesahai Hello
Worked hard... Right
Thought she had some interesting and meaningful points. However, I can't help being reminded a bit of the mother in Netflix's "The Little Prince."
bravo
Great
at first I thought it was brook shields xD
nice
She is beautiful
an idol
This woman could have easily done it for Arab women in Arab COUNTRIES. So typical, so much sympathy for you!
so what are the 3 lessons? smile, ignore other peoples problems, and the third?
If everyone can afford house workers, what about the house workers?
LOL so true.
In some countries like Chile (principaly in the south) having a person working for the house and another for the garden is important. Il you have a house and a (even a small) garden, people see you as egoist if you don't create those jobs for the people in more need than you. I saw family with modest revenus have a person for the house. And that person is considerate family.
You can have it all. You are my idol. See ya in 20 years.
Young girls need women like us.
And no you can't bullshit your way to this life! You either have it or you don't.
the women will one day save the world
عندما تكون المرأة سيدة ناجحة واما عظيمة وقدوة لغيرها👌🏼
I think this woman is a Badass, if this was an MMO she'd be a Tank. ^-^
1:36 My father has no sons so I'm the one who had to social climb for one.
Anyone else think this?
stfu
Hi Cham It's from Hamilton.
Jessica Gomez wot ??
Hi Cham Angelica Schuyler sings the line 'I'm a girl in a world in which my only job is to marry rich, *my father has no sons so I'm the one who has to social climb for one*" in the song 'Satisfied' from the Broadway musical Hamilton.
Hi Cham It's ok, I understand :)
Feminism the right way ...so proud of u
HEY YOU, reading the hate filled comments!
I hope you have a lovely day.
thanks. I do.
im a white poor disabled american how i gained success is i escaped being the working poor adn i started living one thousand times better life living off the tax payers and i moved to the arabic neighborhood they respect and treat us disabeld aemricans one thousand tiimes better and the arabs rent us disabled americans one thousand times better apt so far i lived in 2 different new apt buildings the arabs rented me both buildiings built a few days before i moved in i thank god for the fantastic arabic people because of them i live one thousand times better and i live in peace i been living with teh arabic people for 10 years they have proven to me they are one thousand times better then all other people in usa i am 50 years old i never met any people that are half as good as the arabic people in usa
It doesn't have many dislikes
3 year old daughter asking a question about patriarchal? OK?
Seriously, that seemed like the most articulate 3 year old ever.
"Where are the women?" is probably how it was worded, mind you, her daughter may not speak English as a first language. If the 3 year old specifically said "patriarchy" then yeah, it would be weird, but this woman never even said patriarchy.
Wow, not even close to what Leila Hoteit said her 3 year old daughter asking. "Where are the women?" totally something a smart 3 year old daughter could ask, but the statement Leila Hoteit said her 3 year old daughter asking was (coping the best I can) "Mom, why is it the here where we live and back in Lebanon where grandma and grandpa live, we never see the pictures of powerful women? Is it because women are not important?"... but that is literally the same thing as "Where are the women?" from a 3 year old.
Loathomar
Yes but to think she translated it verbatim is perhaps naive on your part. I think she elaborated on what her daughter said but it is a fair elaboration.
3-year old no matter how smart won't say that, some of them are still been breast feed😞😊😕.... Maybe a precocious smart 6+ may say it innocently without really understanding the implications definitely not 3-year.... Translation or not.
There is nothing wrong with women advancing and succeeding in the professional world. Just a small note here: when your family time is 1/10th of your daily plan, while your work occupies 6x that, this goes to show where your priorities are. And no .... I don't care how good "the help" is, the parents love and psychological nourishment is irreplaceable.
It's about success or her family ?:)
Why do people have children if they are just going to pay someone else to do the parenting? 90 minutes a day, assuming she is home....And empowering the women help so that during the short period when they aren't doing all the work for someone else, they can grow stronger as women?
Hay
You are the hero for Islamic Women. We proud of you
Are thinking about and commenting about is the fact that what her three year ?
How come I don't see my comment when I'm logged off? theres's 226 comments ATM and when I'm logged off I only see about 20 (mostly negative comments) ://
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she speaks English very well
Of course she does. She comes from a wealthy background & attended private schools in an English speaking country.
+John Doe many rich people un the golf dont speaker English as well .
and United Emirates are a native Arabic speakers .
+ro ben so agreed with you. You can be supeeeeer rich but its not guarantee you can speak very well english there.
ro ben Of course not but the ones who do, go abroad to English speaking universities. The majority of rich people can speak some level of English because they have the time to invest in learning it.
Despite the many things I liked about this video, I didn't like the following:
(1) Speaking for all Arabs, while she actually refers only to the very special case of the very rich and very oppressive "Gulf Arabs" (Saudi Arabia, Emirates, Kuwait and Qatar), where women can't drive, and men are allowed to have 4 wives, and everybody is a millionaire. This is neither Arabic culture nor Islamic culture but gulf culture. Women in Other Arab Countries, Like Lebanon or Tunisia, don't suffer from that kind of oppression, or have access to that kind of wealth. Women in Egypt have been working and holding every position in the country, including the head of state , for more than 5000 years! And there were Egyptian Female pilots since the 1930s. And polygamy is criminalized there, and 80% of families live on 200 dollars a month because the government is so insanely corrupt.
(2) Sprinkling some money on her problems is not the universal solution to women, or Arabs , or Muslim problems! It is the sort of solution that only fits the "Gulf Arabs" where almost every other family has their own oil well! And the accepted ideology is that of Whabis, who are to Islam what the Ku-Klux_klan were to Christianity.
(3) Leaving the kids to an imported nanny and expensive tech toys, and giving them quality time from 7 to 9 is NOT the best way to raise children, and doing so on basis of having to progress at work gives a very bad image of working women. I have seen women in Egypt, Lebanon and Iraq work 12 hours a day (because they have to, due to the limited family income) and raise a bunch of smart, loving and balanced kids without barfing. And they had access to neither money nor technology. I would love to see instead the daughter of taxi driver in Alexandria, or the daughter of a porter in Beirut, who had to work since she was 12 to afford going to a filthy bad-smelling school, then keep working until the day she dies to make ends meet.Such women don't speak such excellent British Accent, or wear perfect makeup, and the years of suffering they've been through would sure make them far less presentable on a TED Talks stage, but they would make a far better example than this polished lady whose success in life owes a great deal to being the daughter of a rich father who could afford her education at the best schools and universities in London .
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(4) In all this apparently well rehearsed and choreographed presentation, not a moment of genuine emotion had been allowed to appear. I believe this presentation would've been far more impressive had the speaker allowed herself more than one changeless haughty facial expression, which wasn't helped at all by the monotonous voice. The Image Expert who was probably paid a heft fee for writing her that speech and choreographing her performance had done a mediocre job.
Despite the well directed air of dignity prevailing in that video, I believe the presenter gave a very bad and unfair image of the struggling women all over the Arab world, who manage to make it big at work and sustain a happy family and healthy kids despite unimaginable odds and armed with nothing but the meager income their oppressive and corrupt governments allow.
I completely agree with you. Especially with your 3rd notion.
Read the title of the speech again. If he were a male businessman, you wouldn't have bothered to write all these irrelevant comments.
It is very rare to see arab woman who is well educated and have a point of view like western woman
Abimuhammed
2:22 not sure if sarcasm or just the way rich people speak
Lunatic Potato sarcasm
Is this TEDX talk with special interest?!
allah akbar
allan's Snackbar
yeah? what's your point?
I've never needed a role model
I pity you..
Dear TED, a bit of due diligence to maintain the TED-worthy standards, please.
she is fine
You got money, and you buy to get " another mother for your children "
You want to be everything but you can't because you are human.
لو كانت نساء الغرب مسلمات بالاصل وقاعدات في البيت هل يكون لهذا الحديث معنى .هل نقلد.اقول لكم ان الاسلام قدر المرأة ومن حيث خلقت المرأة لها مكانتها .هي ووعيها أين تضع نفسها تنجح.والهدف ليس لإثبات الغير بانها قوية .نحن جميع النساء قويات بالفطرة.
my wife is only for me my diamond and i don't share it she worships God 24/7 and shine
Are all arab woman as pretty as Leila so they have enough opportunity in chosing a supporting husband? And can all arab woman afford a Nanny? How is that helping the future of the nanny? (maybe also an arab woman?)