Great insights! I think a lot of INFJs are a puzzle even to themselves. Before I even knew about MBTI, I started to accept myself for who I am , but since finding out that I am an INFJ, and understanding who INFJs are, I have been even more accepting of myself, and I stopped thinking that I need to change and be even more accommodating toward others.
mimi mimz Well put. I've actually received blank stares from people after I've talked. I'm an acquired taste. Can leave others bitter when spoken to the wrong crowd so unless their the types that appreciate a dry wine ....well I suppose choosing my moments to the right crowd is how I've evolved. Still not changing for anyone else's tastes.
So on point mimi mimz, how did you find out that you are an infj? I am curious. I relate the best to infj behaviour, whenever i listen and read about this personality type I feel like I am studying myself. But then, how to confirm?
@@katieshan I felt the same before I took the personality test ....you need to take the test to confirm your personality type. Be sure you answer it truthfully. Or if you're in doubt, you can recall how people describe you or see you. :-)
Well said....I feel that way also , I'm sure I'm infj and always tried hard to work out why I felt different, I get told I'm a nice guy...get told I'm good looking sometimes. But I'm always alone even I don't no why hahaha but starting to realise somethings you can't change!
We are also highly irritated by stupid, ignorant people. Or, conversely, if we are rejected by those we WANT to be around. We usually get stuck in no-man's land as a result.
Necroing the comment but yes, mostly if loud and willfully ignorant. A doubly whammy to be sure. The disruptive and the kind of people which have personalities that fill the room which then impose upon everyone else. I have plenty of loud friends (and some less informed in some areas) but it’s those who push upon others without consideration (or care) and use that to their advantage, the vocal fool that presses in upon all others. Hard to deal with
Theo Duval I would disagree, I’ve typed as an INFJ my whole life and sleep comes VERY easy to me. Yeah it’s easy to get caught up in my thoughts but that’s only when I have the energy to from being alone. If I’m out with friends all day I end up being knackered at night and sometimes even yawning when I’m with them, even though I’m having the time of my life.
@@flamingsword777 I've been doing this for a few months now... My friends and family certainly think that I've lost my goddamn mind. How do people around you react to this? Family or friends? Did you explain yourself or just disappeared without explanation?
@@lucifvar well, my circumstances of why i ghosted every one is REALLY intense. I went through a lot of abusr growing up and in my marriage and we wound up having to flee to the country. They all think I'm weird and don't understand that God had this planned out for me to actually save me from not only the wretched abuse i was suffering, but also from myself. I became SO overwhelmed with life and what all i had been put through that i actually developed thyroid cancer and other severe health issues. That was another reason i went ghost. To heal. The Lord led me to do all of this even though i didn't understand at the time.... I would have to write a novel explaining everything i went through and why to help ppl understand and even though i tried to explain, no one really cared. This was another reason i ghosted. I got tired of being there for others including family, but when i needed THEM, They were nowhere around. I now know it's because The Father was calling me to Himself and teaching me to rely SOLELY on Jesus for EVERYTHING, including friendship and companionship. This i believe is Him protecting me and my honor..... I hope this makes sense and if you want to ask me ANYTHING, i really don't mind! I love taking with others about our plights so that it can help others heal.... God bless you!!!
@@lucifvar also too, if you feel like you are being led to go into a "wilderness" DO IT!!!! It is ALL for YOUR benefit! It wasn't fun at the time because liek i said, i didn't really understand why the events unfolded the way they did, but several years later, i do now and i have learned SO much about The Father, Jesus, The Holy Spirit, my own self, heart motives, soul, other ppl an what makes them "tick", how to reprogram my mind and heart with God's help, warfare, the list is endless! Had i not been in the wilderness, i may have missed my opportunity to come to Christ Jesus and turn everything around and be saved myself. I realized i count save anyone even though i tried and it caused me to almost die as a result of that. I am now born again...... Don't let anyone other than The Lord tell you what you are, what you feel, what you see, what you must do....He is calling His Ppl to come back to Him so He can train us for the warfare that's already here but will be made physically manifest VERY SOON.... Let Him lead and guide and teach you....most ppl that i still talk to FINALLY understand that i was being set apart for God's purposes. In other wordS, He took what was SHEER HELL in my life and circumstances amd literally removed me from the situation before it killed me, and this includes literally fighting demons in my old home....
Sometimes I just get weird in that I feel people want something of me. Some kind of expectation that I may not fulfill. I enjoy going to lunch where I’m alone around people I don’t have to interact with. I travel alone too. It’s just easier. I don’t have to talk.
It is important, I think, to be compassionate to ourselves. That has been the most beneficial aspect of applying this MBTI to my life path. For any number of reasons, we can become self neglectful...Almost as if we're door slamming ourselves. I've always had a concern for being "pigeon holed" or labeled by others. Probably because it has happened so many times and with such unfulfilling results. This trepidation has kept me from completely embracing this typing process, but the dovetails of the inner workings of the INFJ with my personality are impossible to ignore.
Wow that's me. I can disappear off the map for weeks ... with no warning or anything. I don't want to give anyone any concern and I just need time to do what I need to do; me time.
Yes, we love to read; it transports us to an inner world where we are free to explore and imagine possibility without the fear of ridicule, rejection, or pain. A quintessential part of our need to recharge those "batteries."
So many times I'll meet someone and then they want me to keep in contact with them in the same way that they would like- in other words-a lot! Then i have to hide because i don't know how to ask for less time- I've come to the point that i don't know how to get out of that pattern of disappointing people
Been there a lot myself. Lately I've just been brutally honest with the person and tell them I dont go out or socialize much so there's a good chance they won't see or hear from me again. If they push for reasons, I tell them it isn't personal and if they really want to understand then to research INFJs. Lol!
As an INFJ, I can say I have never hid from anyone. People say I do when it's not the truth. I don't invite myself. 2. I don't usually show up unannounced. 3. I don't impose. 4. I don't ignore calls or visitors. 5. I return missed calls. 6. If I am tired, stressed, overwhelmed (it takes alot) I pull away. 7. I am an introvert. 8. I am not shy or antisocial. 9. I am good at reading energy, motives, etc.10. I expect reciprocity and common interests in relationships. Simple. I don't hide.
Nikki Docherty I didn’t used too much until managing 15 community associations was hard enough before the political divide. It out me in the hospital with high blood pressure and chest pains. So I’m hiding right now. Hopefully not for too long. But I am.
I am quite sociable and love a night out with a group of friends but my friends know that I always "go missing" - this is me needing a moment to escape and so I will hide in a bathroom , find somewhere to sit quietly or go outside. Its an instinct. I get a bit overwhelmed and need to be alone
I'm getting so mad right now from not getting enough alone time. I'm actually feeling really overwhelmed and I'm canceling figure plans as we speak Haha
This is sooo relatable! I am a caregiver for hospice & dementia patients & I exert 80% of my energy to helping those around me. I really love helping & caring for those who need it & (for the most part) I don’t mind giving all of my energy to my patients. I view my physical pain, the mental stress, & emotional distress as being a necessary sacrifice. Although I often feel like it is not so much a personal choice, but a deep understanding that this IS what I must do. However, when I’m not off assisting people to the other side I am in my dark cold room by myself thinking, learning, self evaluating, & recharging my battery. People often think I am strange for crawling into a dark hole & asking to be by myself. Every time I have lived with other people it has always been a hot topic. “Why is Sid always in her room when she’s not working? What’s wrong with her? What, she doesn’t like us? She thinks she’s too good for us? ” & on & on lol it’s rarely personal though. I have been lucky that my husband has come to understand this & no longer takes it personally. I think my career choice definitely amps up the side of me that needs to be alone. I’d love to know if, as an INFJ & Gemini, it is a good choice to be in this line of work or if the two don’t mesh well when it comes to my overall well being. Not that my overall well being matters to me as long as my patients are receiving what they need from me & I am doing my very best to impact them & their family & making their transition to the other side as painless & peaceful as possible.
Sinny Same, same, same!! I spent 10 yrs as a hospice nurse...it felt so freeing to be able to care for, nurture, and just love on people (patient and family) without judgement. Because society understands the devastation and pain that usually accompanies death + it’s the rare time in life most people are genuinely honest it’s a space we are comfortable in and a role we are uniquely equipped to fill. But as much as I was able to give 100% at work I had to balance that output by living in near isolation at home to recharge...win/win for me (significant other...not so much tho).
This is me to a tee. Thank you so much for your insight and the many hours you put into learning this personality type. For the longest time I would think “what is wrong with me” and this was because I could tell I was different than everyone else but couldn’t figure out why. I now know I’m not alone, and I’m extremely grateful for this community. You are changing lives man, thanks for all you do!
I wish I realized this about myself before I got stuck where I am now - a husband to an extravert with a 1 year old daughter and working 60-65 hrs a week and no other job options due to high mortgage payments... I am NOT my best self lately 🤦♂️
I feel you man, I was in a similar situation a few years ago but luckily I had found a job closer at home and luckily I found MBTI thanks to the extra free time with my new job. Which brought also a lot of new challenges but thanks to great people like Bo I am trying to redesign my life and I hope you have the strength and opportunities to do the same, stay strong
I don’t have a problem with strangers as much as ppl I know. I deal with strangers and ppl who I am close with a lot better than ppl I know but am not close with. I am more comfortable in another area than my home town because I don’t worry about getting pinned down talking to someone I kinda know or used to know. All the small talk and catching up blahh
I feel the same way! Its such a headache talking to people you know than with strangers. For me, it’s because strangers don’t immediately judge or criticise you unlike the people you know. The closest ones try to push their rules and ideals on me and that’s very frustrating!
Thank you Bo. I am usually good for about 2 hrs with people. My career was a hairdresser. I loved the one on one. I developed a kind of persona to get me through some days. Automatic pilot. I tend to get deeply involved with people and sometimes it was too overwhelming. I grew up with 3 extrovert siblings and for the longest time, thought there was something wrong with me. I’ve learned to love who I am. 💝
Thank you..... I struggled for the last 45 minutes trying to type out & explain my biggest disconnection with the universe and what a struggle it can be at times... *realizing* for the first time in my life I don't have to... That sudden realization gave me so much relief because I believed I would always be the only one who understood myself deeply and every else but never to be understood myself by anyone. is so paradoxic and frustrating. So. Thank you...
Everything you explained here is 100 💯 per cent true. I have never been good at expressing my needs to people, I guess I never learned it or if I did, my previous experience has taught me not to talk about my own needs. Instead, I was more into fulfilling other people's needs which can also backfire because some people are not looking for equally giving into the relation. Thank you so much for this video 🙏
I used to wonder if I even HAD an opinion of my own, but have come to realize part of my INFJness is mirroring people’s personalities and even mirroring their opinions. I usually do this without conscious thought. Many times people think I totally agree with their opinions when I rarely do. It is not so I can deceive them, more so they know somebody “gets them”. This can be exhausting, especially since very rarely does anyone understand my true me. If I make an attempt at sharing part of who I am, most people jump to a conclusion about what I’m communicating. It’s just way to hard to get people to understand, and often I feel they will be impatient if I belabor my point so I keep quiet. I am great at listening, I am awful at sharing my true self
i have actually called myself a chameleon. i used to date this way, luckily I realized what I was doing and decided I would be my authentic self so i wouldn't end up in a mismatched relationship. I still either say nothing if I can't agree, but look agreeable because I do not want a confrontation. I asked to work from home 7 years ago, best gift I gave to myself. Helped my sanity, coworkers are draining, and a narcissistic boss, ugh.
@Jaynee Wise I’m grateful for you sharing your experience which I happen to be struggling to overcome in the present. Sharing your insightful may light the path for others. Thank you.
These episodes make me feel so much less alone. I definitely have a hard time being understood(I know that’s a part of us) and the series fills that gap in my humanity. First of all thank you Bo for putting this together for us. I was having a terrible day but these videos are really cheering me up. Second. I think letting people in and gain greater understanding of our minds could be a great thing that we don’t do enough! This series made me realize how much other people misunderstood me before, and my life goal is to now be understood. Thank you Bo. You helped me ;)
I always thought I was a bit dysfunctional, but I guess I do genuinely just need time to recharge. Friends have been pretty harsh to me about going off the grid, so it's nice to know that I'm not actually doing anything wrong. I guess I just need to organise my social life a bit better, and maybe say bye earlier
i had a high school acquaintance want me to do all these get togethers, me saying no mostly, then around a group of people i said sorry i wasn't available, she said oh i gave up on you. never gone out with since, 3 years ago she emailed she missed me, never answered her, i don't need that type of person around me, it's important we care for ourselves and block out these types of people
@@Kate98755 It’s a good thing you left her. Trust me, you are your best friend. It must’ve been a shock when they said that she gave up on you. I hope you’re feeling better now! ❤️
@@nithyasreesathyanarayanan5611 my goodness, very sweet of you, thanks for the support. Shocked is a good word to describe my reaction, and then indignation, way over a boundary. I am a good friend to myself, and anyone else who respects my boundary. I haven't seen her because it's not my job to teach her, and I can't be around her without addressing that comment.
When I get around to travelling I stay for weeks in a main location so I can alternate between a day of rest and then a day of touring or seeing people
Similar. I stay in one destination a long time to really get to know it a lot and dig deeper for whats there to enjoy for me and be comfortable blowing off a day reading a book instead of exploring. Find a few favorite places to repeat and and become more a part of and allow it to become more a part of me. I spent over all 12 weeks in Corfu two 6 week stints. Even worked there a little while
Bo you always have wonderful suggestions. Thank you for all the information. You are incredible. I use to feel so overwhelmed at situations and jobs that did not fit my personality and thought something was totally wrong with me. Now I have accepted myself as a INFJ and its okay to disappear from time to time. I enjoy people but sometimes they just drain me especially if they are self-centered, overbearing or in need of constant attention. Looking forward to more of your fabulous videos. I like your calm and collective voice. Its appreciated.
Thank you for being the first to directly say that my personality isn't bad and I need to change. I agree, although I also understand that I have things I need to change.
Narcissists and other cluster B personalities hide from us because we are able to see beyond their “masked self” hiding behind their projected false “shared reality”. People with these types of personality disorders are absolutely mortified by this natural INFJ ability.
Very well said. Great advice for all of us. I just discovered my INFJ personality type a few days ago and it has helped me greatly to understand who I am and what I have been experiencing. I have been a pastor for many years and heavily involved in ministry and music. I love beautiful melodious music and have become quite proficient at the piano and organ. I have always enjoyed public speaking and preaching, but have also felt guilty for wanting to get away and fish every chance I could get. There's something about being outside on the water in a peaceful quiet setting that invigorates my spirit. I have always felt guilty for having those needs until I realized it was part of what makes me tic and continue to do what I do. Thank you for helping me understand the need for those down times. This info has been a great encouragement and blessing to my life. God bless you!!
YES! I have been feeling like hiding from everyone lately. I know that it's because of certain long term stresses and a lack of alone time. But my schedule is about to change with my youngest attending school this fall. Being a mom is the best job in the world but I am so excited to finally have some regular time to myself and to accomplish some things I have put off. I feel I will be a better mom with that time. Thank you for this timely(haha) video!
Been doing some research. I'm older. 52. And this information was not apparent to me. So I learned the hard way. I seem to have intuitively been able to navigate my unusual traits. It was not easy and I am glad this information is available to the masses. You young infj's will change the world.😊
As will you sweetest brother. You are still young yet and God will use you too to change the world. In fact, you may never know just how many people you ALREADY helped just by peole being in your presence. God BLESS you brother... -Brandy Johnston
I stopped drinking years ago but I found that it really made me not want to go out..I actually think that I used to drink when being social because it always made me so uncomfortable being around people.
Thanks for this great video, it helps me and all of us to understand ourselves without judgment. Some people have expectations that we will always be the extrovert version, cause they need that from us at the expense of our true selves. . Creating energy boundaries has helped a lot.
Thank you for your video and information! I’m requesting your book... I’m so very appreciative for what you provided for me (us) here. I am just now learning about the INFJ type which means I’m newly discovering and understanding the real me in great depths and in just a few hours thus far that I’ve spent researching and learning I’ve gained so much knowledge and so much relief for myself... my anxiety level has dropped tremendously... which has stayed for the most part at a very high level and mostly due to “dealing with myself”, feeling out of place, weird, odd ball, which leads to worthlessness and low self esteem and tons of personal mind battling against myself... on repeat... causing me depression, confusion, anger and emended sadness! I’m in tears but for these tears... now, I at least understand somewhat why the tears are here and you know what??? I feel like the tears are okay, like I’m okay or going to be alright. My severe case of reclusing behind the closed and locked doors of my home (my comfort zone, my tranquility, my safe haven)... is also okay and now I know I can gain all the knowledge that I need to in order to truly harness WHO AND WHAT I AM, how I go about my life and HOW I CAN ADJUST MYSELF AND SCHEDULE (MY NEEDS!)... in order to feel my best, be my best, and reach my full potential... or damn near! This is going to allow me to
allow me to be the best at being me and living my life, PEACEFULLY!!! I will soon be able to decrease the number of mental battles I have with myself, LET GO of a ton of things, pause and really actually BREATHE AND EXHALE with true relief and a true passion for living life again! I have been so lost for so long... this is overcoming me with such great and extreme positive vibes and emotions that I feel like I want to and need to run outside of my front door... and scream as loud as I can... to the extreme and I could even sound demonic or raging and I’m sure ill appear to be quite psychotic, like I’ve genuinely LOST IT AND HAVE PLUMMETED OFF THE CLIFF IN MTO THE DEEPEST OF THE DEEP... it’s going to be me RELEASING all this FUNK I’ve carried for way too long and just accepting and acknowledging ME, and saying “HEEELLL YAAAAASSSSSS WORLD, TAKE THAT AND BETTER TAKE A STEP BACK OR TWO OR THREE BC HERE I COME”!!!!! I’m good and I knew it and NOW... this CRAY CRAY gonna show y’all and furthermore PROVE IT... I’m gaining a new leash on life and my mere and what has been “grim” existence!!!! Love all of you and grateful for all you’ve done and do! ❤️❤️❤️
Its really easy to see myself not belong in this world due to our rareness. Its not only the introverted personality but also the extreme sensetivity... Anyway thanks for all your help. You encourage me to see myself as a legitimate human being here who just need to find creative ways to adapt.
I prefer to hide from people I love when they hurt me or not understand me at all. They don’t have to understand but atleast they could be considerate enough to give me time by myself (I never get that). I get people, but they don’t get me. Everyone around me wants me to shut off my emotions and just do what I’m told (especially my family is so toxic). I don’t wanna hate them, but they keep on making me hate them. People are too foolish for my complicated self. I’d rather spent time with animals, my studies and my hobbies rather then waste my energy on stupid people who would never value me!
This really hit home. It hurts when you make a conscious effort to try and understand people, but they can't be bothered to try and understand that you yourself are also a separate individual with your own unique traits and quirks. 🤕
Who's hiding? Maybe extroverts should quit flattering themselves thinking they're worth socializing with. Trust me, weirdos, you're probably not that interesting. You just might not be interesting enough to account for the energy drain of socializing. If an introvert choses to socialize with you, then you're something special, and then you can flatter yourself.
Hi, Susanne susanne. I wrote a book that you might find encouraging. It's meant to keep you from feeling so overwhelmed. You can get it here for free: ispeakpeople.com/infj-personality-guide/
A lot of things can be overwhelming until you learn to understand it and then work with it rather than against it. Sometimes it may seem overwhelming only because you don't have people that are like you in your physical surroundings. And so in that way it can be kind of lonely. Keep watching this TH-cam channel and learning more about the unique qualities and characteristics that we are INFJs have and you'll be great!
I am so awful glad see what this is cause I love being alone careless crowds make me panic severe anxiety have to have even level of people time and alot of alone time thnk better and hear my intuition better as well
I have hidden myself off of social media. I cant disconnect socially yet. I dont have time for it. Perhaps soon i can disconnect permenently. I long to be alone. I mean truly alone. I can shut myself in my apartment/hotel/cottage. But i know there are people around. They know im there. I want to be loud. But i cant if people are around. I want to be myself. But i cant relax if i know people may pop in to "check up on me". I hate it. I hear the knocking on my door, "*******, you there?" Im holding back my pure rage when i answer. No matter where you go nowadays, people can find you. I want them to leave me alone forever.... But i know that can't be reality for me. The direction my life has taken, im stuck for the next 20 years. 2 week vacations dont satisfy me anymore. I cant take it. I want to be invisible. Don't reply to this. I know i cant change it. Its out of my control but i want it to end. I dont want to feel anymore. It hurts. Im tired of going through the same aggrivations everyday. Suicide isnt the answer, and its frusturating to know that it wont help anything...it'll just make it worse. I am nothing in this universe and just an Ant on this planet. Helping my small colony in a meanial way knowing my small cog plays a park in the clockwork of humanity. But the urge to just fly out of the box no matter the consequences makes me scream into my pillow every night. Typing this out wont change a thing. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know it. I KNOW IT!!! JUST STOP@
I'd feel comfortable around people if they were someone I can relate to, but if not ill tell i need some lone time and if they don't get my hint , i just walk away....
I don't like bs..whenever I have to do this and that, I started to feel exhausted already..I somewhat foreseen what is going to happen in the event, depends on who's who and my mood so it's either I pass or not.
Perhaps, by learning to accept this aspect of yourself and adjusting your boundaries to better manage the environments in which you place yourself. If you do not have control over your environment or if you are in a imbalanced power dynamic; it may be of benefit to you to develop or strengthen your INFJ “shield” or “Grey rock”. Take care not to get too comfortable staying behind your “shield”. Hope these feeble words may be beneficial.
Are you kidding. I’m currently fhiding and doing more research about INFJ which is why I’m listening to one more INFJ podcast. That’s me. I call my hidden time as my recharge time before I go back out. 😊
Hi, I love your videos and they are very informative. I do believe that I am an infj, did some online quizzies, they said the same. But then, can you suggest the most accurate test to know our personality type. most authentic ones, online and free. It would be really helpful. Following you for more than a year now and it's been a wonderful journey, thank you! Regards, Katie.
I love your videos man, provides me some clarity about my inner workings. Maybe you answered this before, but what do you do for a living, i'm just curious.
When no one understands maybe they don't want to or u don't know how to explain it to them yet. If u knew at least one person who will give it a try, to try to understand u then at least u have me that's one person and let's go from there. Maybe sometimes people think that they did something wrong. They want to know where they stand as a friend an ally. As an introvert I cringe when I get the feeling that some one feels that they did something wrong when I'm hiding. I tell those people that My hiding from them has NOTHING to do with merit on their own part. Introverts may be considered to be antisocial. No. Charging oneself to be the best social person in the room is not anti social. And that's what we do.
As an infj that socializes a descent ammount I learned to try and show the inside me as much as I can because if a estp and a entj can make friends so can my inner self ;) no offense to estp or entjs
Great insights!
I think a lot of INFJs are a puzzle even to themselves. Before I even knew about MBTI, I started to accept myself for who I am , but since finding out that I am an INFJ, and understanding who INFJs are, I have been even more accepting of myself, and I stopped thinking that I need to change and be even more accommodating toward others.
That's awesome, mimi mimz!
mimi mimz
Well put. I've actually received blank stares from people after I've talked.
I'm an acquired taste. Can leave others bitter when spoken to the wrong crowd so unless their the types that appreciate a dry wine ....well I suppose choosing my moments to the right crowd is how I've evolved. Still not changing for anyone else's tastes.
So on point mimi mimz, how did you find out that you are an infj?
I am curious. I relate the best to infj behaviour, whenever i listen and read about this personality type I feel like I am studying myself. But then, how to confirm?
@@katieshan I felt the same before I took the personality test ....you need to take the test to confirm your personality type. Be sure you answer it truthfully. Or if you're in doubt, you can recall how people describe you or see you. :-)
Well said....I feel that way also , I'm sure I'm infj and always tried hard to work out why I felt different, I get told I'm a nice guy...get told I'm good looking sometimes. But I'm always alone even I don't no why hahaha but starting to realise somethings you can't change!
"We like to research" *lies in bed and googles everything*
Oh yess, Ti, exhilirating and exhausting at the same time..
That's how i found the video
"spends up to four hours a day researching" Only 4? LOL
That's so funny cause I do it all the time.
thats me almost every day
I actually disappeared for 10 years once. Good times!
Congrats. But... How?
Lol
Did you go to the gas station and never come back?
@@neonmajora8454 Oh my goodness! Lol!
@@neonmajora8454 no he went for milk and didn't come back
people pleaser vs being genuine self - the constant conflict. Do I be the real me or just social me.
I have to gently test the waters every time.
Omg I’m shocked on how much I’m relating in that comment
Totally! That’s me 100%
Yep 😣
yup constant management
Feel your struggle. Thanks for commenting this.
We are also highly irritated by stupid, ignorant people. Or, conversely, if we are rejected by those we WANT to be around. We usually get stuck in no-man's land as a result.
Necroing the comment but yes, mostly if loud and willfully ignorant. A doubly whammy to be sure. The disruptive and the kind of people which have personalities that fill the room which then impose upon everyone else. I have plenty of loud friends (and some less informed in some areas) but it’s those who push upon others without consideration (or care) and use that to their advantage, the vocal fool that presses in upon all others. Hard to deal with
I can be out with my closest friends laughing etc then I feel like I need to go home and sleep
OMG Thanks. I thought I was the only one
Omg me toooooo
I can totally relate to that, abby vee!
Theo Duval I would disagree, I’ve typed as an INFJ my whole life and sleep comes VERY easy to me. Yeah it’s easy to get caught up in my thoughts but that’s only when I have the energy to from being alone. If I’m out with friends all day I end up being knackered at night and sometimes even yawning when I’m with them, even though I’m having the time of my life.
Me too because I dont want to hurt my brain with thought, tired of thinking lol
Actually I can go missing for days or even weeks if it's possible
Missing since months from everything
@@vishnuarakuzha it's been a few years for me....
@@flamingsword777 I've been doing this for a few months now...
My friends and family certainly think that I've lost my goddamn mind.
How do people around you react to this? Family or friends?
Did you explain yourself or just disappeared without explanation?
@@lucifvar well, my circumstances of why i ghosted every one is REALLY intense. I went through a lot of abusr growing up and in my marriage and we wound up having to flee to the country. They all think I'm weird and don't understand that God had this planned out for me to actually save me from not only the wretched abuse i was suffering, but also from myself. I became SO overwhelmed with life and what all i had been put through that i actually developed thyroid cancer and other severe health issues. That was another reason i went ghost. To heal. The Lord led me to do all of this even though i didn't understand at the time.... I would have to write a novel explaining everything i went through and why to help ppl understand and even though i tried to explain, no one really cared. This was another reason i ghosted. I got tired of being there for others including family, but when i needed THEM, They were nowhere around. I now know it's because The Father was calling me to Himself and teaching me to rely SOLELY on Jesus for EVERYTHING, including friendship and companionship. This i believe is Him protecting me and my honor..... I hope this makes sense and if you want to ask me ANYTHING, i really don't mind! I love taking with others about our plights so that it can help others heal.... God bless you!!!
@@lucifvar also too, if you feel like you are being led to go into a "wilderness" DO IT!!!! It is ALL for YOUR benefit! It wasn't fun at the time because liek i said, i didn't really understand why the events unfolded the way they did, but several years later, i do now and i have learned SO much about The Father, Jesus, The Holy Spirit, my own self, heart motives, soul, other ppl an what makes them "tick", how to reprogram my mind and heart with God's help, warfare, the list is endless! Had i not been in the wilderness, i may have missed my opportunity to come to Christ Jesus and turn everything around and be saved myself. I realized i count save anyone even though i tried and it caused me to almost die as a result of that. I am now born again...... Don't let anyone other than The Lord tell you what you are, what you feel, what you see, what you must do....He is calling His Ppl to come back to Him so He can train us for the warfare that's already here but will be made physically manifest VERY SOON.... Let Him lead and guide and teach you....most ppl that i still talk to FINALLY understand that i was being set apart for God's purposes. In other wordS, He took what was SHEER HELL in my life and circumstances amd literally removed me from the situation before it killed me, and this includes literally fighting demons in my old home....
The INFJ Hide is a defence mechanism
Sometimes I just get weird in that I feel people want something of me. Some kind of expectation that I may not fulfill. I enjoy going to lunch where I’m alone around people I don’t have to interact with. I travel alone too. It’s just easier. I don’t have to talk.
same!
Me too 😍💜
same. people call me arrogant sometimes. i am not. just i like eating alone sometimes.
Exactly! I don’t want to have to always be something, I just want to be. 🙂
It is important, I think, to be compassionate to ourselves. That has been the most beneficial aspect of applying this MBTI to my life path. For any number of reasons, we can become self neglectful...Almost as if we're door slamming ourselves. I've always had a concern for being "pigeon holed" or labeled by others. Probably because it has happened so many times and with such unfulfilling results. This trepidation has kept me from completely embracing
this typing process, but the dovetails of the inner workings of the INFJ with my
personality are impossible to ignore.
Wow that's me. I can disappear off the map for weeks
... with no warning or anything. I don't want to give anyone any concern and I just need time to do what I need to do; me time.
Omg, I feel this so much. Me time!
Library is my sanctuary
I love the library! I was there today. :-)
Considering what a small percentage of the American population has a library card... I wonder how many of them are INFJs? :-)
Lol only because its silent and not because I like book
Stop saying lie, its TH-cam
Yes, we love to read; it transports us to an inner world where we are free to explore and imagine possibility without the fear of ridicule, rejection, or pain. A quintessential part of our need to recharge those "batteries."
i don't hide, i take a rest
That’s funny bc I’ve always been known for sneaking out of parties!
Spot on!!
Who wants all those exhausting good-byes? It is so quiet when you step outside away from the people and noise and you think to yourself, "Aaahhh...".
Those who know me call me "Long Gone Juan!"
No INFJ or Introvert hides from people, sometimes we just like to be at alone time
So many times I'll meet someone and then they want me to keep in contact with them in the same way that they would like- in other words-a lot! Then i have to hide because i don't know how to ask for less time- I've come to the point that i don't know how to get out of that pattern of disappointing people
Been there a lot myself. Lately I've just been brutally honest with the person and tell them I dont go out or socialize much so there's a good chance they won't see or hear from me again. If they push for reasons, I tell them it isn't personal and if they really want to understand then to research INFJs. Lol!
I always feel like a mystery wrapped around an enigma! Ugh!!
Yeah, that's definitely one of the challenges of being an INFJ.
Awww 🙏🏽🌹🌹🙏🏽
Hello Russia!
As an INFJ, I can say I have never hid from anyone. People say I do when it's not the truth. I don't invite myself. 2. I don't usually show up unannounced. 3. I don't impose. 4. I don't ignore calls or visitors. 5. I return missed calls. 6. If I am tired, stressed, overwhelmed (it takes alot) I pull away. 7. I am an introvert. 8. I am not shy or antisocial. 9. I am good at reading energy, motives, etc.10. I expect reciprocity and common interests in relationships. Simple. I don't hide.
Nikki Docherty I didn’t used too much until managing 15 community associations was hard enough before the political divide. It out me in the hospital with high blood pressure and chest pains. So I’m hiding right now. Hopefully not for too long. But I am.
@@kellykerr5225 , prayers.
Me too
My whole life I thought I was broken. Thanks for clearing that up for me. Tryin to figure it out.
I also thought the same way ...I can't figure out why I was like dis
Is it true INFJ's are blunt?
@@kossiscott1002 Can't help it. Call them as I see them. Usually not taken well by others.
Being around with the books is more than a friends
Books are great!
I am quite sociable and love a night out with a group of friends but my friends know that I always "go missing" - this is me needing a moment to escape and so I will hide in a bathroom , find somewhere to sit quietly or go outside. Its an instinct. I get a bit overwhelmed and need to be alone
PS...we have a spiritual gift, we can be invisible to a crowd or group like a camilion
I'm getting so mad right now from not getting enough alone time. I'm actually feeling really overwhelmed and I'm canceling figure plans as we speak Haha
This is sooo relatable! I am a caregiver for hospice & dementia patients & I exert 80% of my energy to helping those around me. I really love helping & caring for those who need it & (for the most part) I don’t mind giving all of my energy to my patients. I view my physical pain, the mental stress, & emotional distress as being a necessary sacrifice. Although I often feel like it is not so much a personal choice, but a deep understanding that this IS what I must do. However, when I’m not off assisting people to the other side I am in my dark cold room by myself thinking, learning, self evaluating, & recharging my battery. People often think I am strange for crawling into a dark hole & asking to be by myself. Every time I have lived with other people it has always been a hot topic. “Why is Sid always in her room when she’s not working? What’s wrong with her? What, she doesn’t like us? She thinks she’s too good for us? ” & on & on lol it’s rarely personal though. I have been lucky that my husband has come to understand this & no longer takes it personally.
I think my career choice definitely amps up the side of me that needs to be alone. I’d love to know if, as an INFJ & Gemini, it is a good choice to be in this line of work or if the two don’t mesh well when it comes to my overall well being. Not that my overall well being matters to me as long as my patients are receiving what they need from me & I am doing my very best to impact them & their family & making their transition to the other side as painless & peaceful as possible.
Sinny Same, same, same!! I spent 10 yrs as a hospice nurse...it felt so freeing to be able to care for, nurture, and just love on people (patient and family) without judgement. Because society understands the devastation and pain that usually accompanies death + it’s the rare time in life most people are genuinely honest it’s a space we are comfortable in and a role we are uniquely equipped to fill.
But as much as I was able to give 100% at work I had to balance that output by living in near isolation at home to recharge...win/win for me (significant other...not so much tho).
This is me to a tee. Thank you so much for your insight and the many hours you put into learning this personality type. For the longest time I would think “what is wrong with me” and this was because I could tell I was different than everyone else but couldn’t figure out why. I now know I’m not alone, and I’m extremely grateful for this community. You are changing lives man, thanks for all you do!
I understand that completely. I sometimes come off as an extravert but it can take a toll on me for long social interactions.
I wish I realized this about myself before I got stuck where I am now - a husband to an extravert with a 1 year old daughter and working 60-65 hrs a week and no other job options due to high mortgage payments... I am NOT my best self lately 🤦♂️
I hope you can figure it out. Sounds like a difficult corner
I feel you man, I was in a similar situation a few years ago but luckily I had found a job closer at home and luckily I found MBTI thanks to the extra free time with my new job.
Which brought also a lot of new challenges but thanks to great people like Bo I am trying to redesign my life and I hope you have the strength and opportunities to do the same, stay strong
You nailed this! You've articulated the logic behind our seemingly illogical ways of doing the extravert/introvert whiplash at times.
Hahaha that cellphone battery analogy was so spot on 😂😂😂
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I don’t have a problem with strangers as much as ppl I know. I deal with strangers and ppl who I am close with a lot better than ppl I know but am not close with. I am more comfortable in another area than my home town because I don’t worry about getting pinned down talking to someone I kinda know or used to know. All the small talk and catching up blahh
I feel the same way! Its such a headache talking to people you know than with strangers. For me, it’s because strangers don’t immediately judge or criticise you unlike the people you know. The closest ones try to push their rules and ideals on me and that’s very frustrating!
Thank you Bo. I am usually good for about 2 hrs with people. My career was a hairdresser. I loved the one on one. I developed a kind of persona to get me through some days. Automatic pilot. I tend to get deeply involved with people and sometimes it was too overwhelming. I grew up with 3 extrovert siblings and for the longest time, thought there was something wrong with me. I’ve learned to love who I am. 💝
Thank you..... I struggled for the last 45 minutes trying to type out & explain my biggest disconnection with the universe and what a struggle it can be at times... *realizing* for the first time in my life I don't have to... That sudden realization gave me so much relief because I believed I would always be the only one who understood myself deeply and every else but never to be understood myself by anyone. is so paradoxic and frustrating. So. Thank you...
Everything you explained here is 100 💯 per cent true. I have never been good at expressing my needs to people, I guess I never learned it or if I did, my previous experience has taught me not to talk about my own needs. Instead, I was more into fulfilling other people's needs which can also backfire because some people are not looking for equally giving into the relation. Thank you so much for this video 🙏
I used to wonder if I even HAD an opinion of my own, but have come to realize part of my INFJness is mirroring people’s personalities and even mirroring their opinions. I usually do this without conscious thought. Many times people think I totally agree with their opinions when I rarely do. It is not so I can deceive them, more so they know somebody “gets them”. This can be exhausting, especially since very rarely does anyone understand my true me. If I make an attempt at sharing part of who I am, most people jump to a conclusion about what I’m communicating. It’s just way to hard to get people to understand, and often I feel they will be impatient if I belabor my point so I keep quiet. I am great at listening, I am awful at sharing my true self
i have actually called myself a chameleon. i used to date this way, luckily I realized what I was doing and decided I would be my authentic self so i wouldn't end up in a mismatched relationship. I still either say nothing if I can't agree, but look agreeable because I do not want a confrontation. I asked to work from home 7 years ago, best gift I gave to myself. Helped my sanity, coworkers are draining, and a narcissistic boss, ugh.
@Jaynee Wise I’m grateful for you sharing your experience which I happen to be struggling to overcome in the present. Sharing your insightful may light the path for others. Thank you.
These episodes make me feel so much less alone. I definitely have a hard time being understood(I know that’s a part of us) and the series fills that gap in my humanity.
First of all thank you Bo for putting this together for us. I was having a terrible day but these videos are really cheering me up.
Second. I think letting people in and gain greater understanding of our minds could be a great thing that we don’t do enough! This series made me realize how much other people misunderstood me before, and my life goal is to now be understood. Thank you Bo. You helped me ;)
I always thought I was a bit dysfunctional, but I guess I do genuinely just need time to recharge. Friends have been pretty harsh to me about going off the grid, so it's nice to know that I'm not actually doing anything wrong. I guess I just need to organise my social life a bit better, and maybe say bye earlier
i had a high school acquaintance want me to do all these get togethers, me saying no mostly, then around a group of people i said sorry i wasn't available, she said oh i gave up on you. never gone out with since, 3 years ago she emailed she missed me, never answered her, i don't need that type of person around me, it's important we care for ourselves and block out these types of people
@@Kate98755 It’s a good thing you left her. Trust me, you are your best friend. It must’ve been a shock when they said that she gave up on you. I hope you’re feeling better now! ❤️
@@nithyasreesathyanarayanan5611 my goodness, very sweet of you, thanks for the support. Shocked is a good word to describe my reaction, and then indignation, way over a boundary. I am a good friend to myself, and anyone else who respects my boundary. I haven't seen her because it's not my job to teach her, and I can't be around her without addressing that comment.
When I get around to travelling I stay for weeks in a main location so I can alternate between a day of rest and then a day of touring or seeing people
Similar. I stay in one destination a long time to really get to know it a lot and dig deeper for whats there to enjoy for me and be comfortable blowing off a day reading a book instead of exploring. Find a few favorite places to repeat and and become more a part of and allow it to become more a part of me. I spent over all 12 weeks in Corfu two 6 week stints. Even worked there a little while
Idea of personal battery is just fantastic and seems to be very helpful. Definitely going to try out!
Rookie numbers I've been MIA for 3 years.
On 2 years now 😈😈
Bo you always have wonderful suggestions. Thank you for all the information. You are incredible. I use to feel so overwhelmed at situations and jobs that did not fit my personality and thought something was totally wrong with me. Now I have accepted myself as a INFJ and its okay to disappear from time to time. I enjoy people but sometimes they just drain me especially if they are self-centered, overbearing or in need of constant attention. Looking forward to more of your fabulous videos. I like your calm and collective voice. Its appreciated.
Thanks so much for saying that, ElusvOptmst1. It means a lot! I'm so glad that you've been encouraged. It makes my day!
Thank you for being the first to directly say that my personality isn't bad and I need to change. I agree, although I also understand that I have things I need to change.
For some reason my brain read the title as "why do people hide from an INFJ" and thought 🤔 hmm, this could be interesting 😂.
Narcissists and other cluster B personalities hide from us because we are able to see beyond their “masked self” hiding behind their projected false “shared reality”. People with these types of personality disorders are absolutely mortified by this natural INFJ ability.
Me too lol
I get easily overwhelmed by other people's stressors then I become stressed
Very well said. Great advice for all of us. I just discovered my INFJ personality type a few days ago and it has helped me greatly to understand who I am and what I have been experiencing. I have been a pastor for many years and heavily involved in ministry and music. I love beautiful melodious music and have become quite proficient at the piano and organ. I have always enjoyed public speaking and preaching, but have also felt guilty for wanting to get away and fish every chance I could get. There's something about being outside on the water in a peaceful quiet setting that invigorates my spirit. I have always felt guilty for having those needs until I realized it was part of what makes me tic and continue to do what I do. Thank you for helping me understand the need for those down times. This info has been a great encouragement and blessing to my life. God bless you!!
YES! I have been feeling like hiding from everyone lately. I know that it's because of certain long term stresses and a lack of alone time. But my schedule is about to change with my youngest attending school this fall. Being a mom is the best job in the world but I am so excited to finally have some regular time to myself and to accomplish some things I have put off. I feel I will be a better mom with that time. Thank you for this timely(haha) video!
That's exciting, Jen! Good for you. :-) You're welcome.
It's been four months and now with the holidays, the kids are home again. (lol)
How are you doing?
Been doing some research. I'm older. 52. And this information was not apparent to me. So I learned the hard way. I seem to have intuitively been able to navigate my unusual traits. It was not easy and I am glad this information is available to the masses. You young infj's will change the world.😊
As will you sweetest brother. You are still young yet and God will use you too to change the world. In fact, you may never know just how many people you ALREADY helped just by peole being in your presence. God BLESS you brother... -Brandy Johnston
I stopped drinking years ago but I found that it really made me not want to go out..I actually think that I used to drink when being social because it always made me so uncomfortable being around people.
I just love your insight... so connect with the need to recharge; it's difficult to explain to casual acquaintances for sure.
Thanks for this great video, it helps me and all of us to understand ourselves without judgment. Some people have expectations that we will always be the extrovert version, cause they need that from us at the expense of our true selves. . Creating energy boundaries has helped a lot.
Energy boundaries are big, Judith. So glad you found the video helpful. :-)
Thank you for your video and information! I’m requesting your book... I’m so very appreciative for what you provided for me (us) here. I am just now learning about the INFJ type which means I’m newly discovering and understanding the real me in great depths and in just a few hours thus far that I’ve spent researching and learning I’ve gained so much knowledge and so much relief for myself... my anxiety level has dropped tremendously... which has stayed for the most part at a very high level and mostly due to “dealing with myself”, feeling out of place, weird, odd ball, which leads to worthlessness and low self esteem and tons of personal mind battling against myself... on repeat... causing me depression, confusion, anger and emended sadness! I’m in tears but for these tears... now, I at least understand somewhat why the tears are here and you know what??? I feel like the tears are okay, like I’m okay or going to be alright. My severe case of reclusing behind the closed and locked doors of my home (my comfort zone, my tranquility, my safe haven)... is also okay and now I know I can gain all the knowledge that I need to in order to truly harness WHO AND WHAT I AM, how I go about my life and HOW I CAN ADJUST MYSELF AND SCHEDULE (MY NEEDS!)... in order to feel my best, be my best, and reach my full potential... or damn near! This is going to allow me to
allow me to be the best at being me and living my life, PEACEFULLY!!! I will soon be able to decrease the number of mental battles I have with myself, LET GO of a ton of things, pause and really actually BREATHE AND EXHALE with true relief and a true passion for living life again! I have been so lost for so long... this is overcoming me with such great and extreme positive vibes and emotions that I feel like I want to and need to run outside of my front door... and scream as loud as I can... to the extreme and I could even sound demonic or raging and I’m sure ill appear to be quite psychotic, like I’ve genuinely LOST IT AND HAVE PLUMMETED OFF THE CLIFF IN MTO THE DEEPEST OF THE DEEP... it’s going to be me RELEASING all this FUNK I’ve carried for way too long and just accepting and acknowledging ME, and saying “HEEELLL YAAAAASSSSSS WORLD, TAKE THAT AND BETTER TAKE A STEP BACK OR TWO OR THREE BC HERE I COME”!!!!! I’m good and I knew it and NOW... this CRAY CRAY gonna show y’all and furthermore PROVE IT... I’m gaining a new leash on life and my mere and what has been “grim” existence!!!! Love all of you and grateful for all you’ve done and do! ❤️❤️❤️
The cell phone battery analogy was perfect! Now if only my battery would give me a bit more of a warning before needing to be recharged.
Thank you, Bo. You are a tower of knowledge I look for each day.
Spot on as usual!
Thanks, Holdyourfire14!
Love love love this! Thank you for sharing! INFJ here :)
I agree with all you say, even lots times I am reading text or watching videos with no real insights in IFNJ. Thank you
Its really easy to see myself not belong in this world due to our rareness.
Its not only the introverted personality but also the extreme sensetivity...
Anyway thanks for all your help. You encourage me to see myself as a legitimate human being here who just need to find creative ways to adapt.
Hmm...this explains why I binge social media for a few weeks and then refuse to look at it for six months... 🤔😣😭 It’s like social overload. 🤯🤔🤔
I prefer to hide from people I love when they hurt me or not understand me at all. They don’t have to understand but atleast they could be considerate enough to give me time by myself (I never get that). I get people, but they don’t get me. Everyone around me wants me to shut off my emotions and just do what I’m told (especially my family is so toxic). I don’t wanna hate them, but they keep on making me hate them. People are too foolish for my complicated self. I’d rather spent time with animals, my studies and my hobbies rather then waste my energy on stupid people who would never value me!
This really hit home. It hurts when you make a conscious effort to try and understand people, but they can't be bothered to try and understand that you yourself are also a separate individual with your own unique traits and quirks. 🤕
Who's hiding? Maybe extroverts should quit flattering themselves thinking they're worth socializing with. Trust me, weirdos, you're probably not that interesting. You just might not be interesting enough to account for the energy drain of socializing. If an introvert choses to socialize with you, then you're something special, and then you can flatter yourself.
Chris Zablocki lmao
Chris and Marjorie.. lmao too!! 😂😂
I feel verry lost because of my personality type infj it is overwhelming 😭🙁
Hi, Susanne susanne. I wrote a book that you might find encouraging. It's meant to keep you from feeling so overwhelmed. You can get it here for free: ispeakpeople.com/infj-personality-guide/
I Speak People
Thank you verry much ☺
You are very welcome, Susanne!
Susanne susanne
It is a gift, once you find your sweet spot you will see this is something extraordinary
A lot of things can be overwhelming until you learn to understand it and then work with it rather than against it. Sometimes it may seem overwhelming only because you don't have people that are like you in your physical surroundings. And so in that way it can be kind of lonely. Keep watching this TH-cam channel and learning more about the unique qualities and characteristics that we are INFJs have and you'll be great!
I am so awful glad see what this is cause I love being alone careless crowds make me panic severe anxiety have to have even level of people time and alot of alone time thnk better and hear my intuition better as well
I have hidden myself off of social media. I cant disconnect socially yet. I dont have time for it. Perhaps soon i can disconnect permenently.
I long to be alone. I mean truly alone. I can shut myself in my apartment/hotel/cottage. But i know there are people around. They know im there. I want to be loud. But i cant if people are around. I want to be myself. But i cant relax if i know people may pop in to "check up on me".
I hate it. I hear the knocking on my door, "*******, you there?" Im holding back my pure rage when i answer. No matter where you go nowadays, people can find you. I want them to leave me alone forever....
But i know that can't be reality for me. The direction my life has taken, im stuck for the next 20 years. 2 week vacations dont satisfy me anymore. I cant take it. I want to be invisible.
Don't reply to this. I know i cant change it. Its out of my control but i want it to end. I dont want to feel anymore. It hurts. Im tired of going through the same aggrivations everyday. Suicide isnt the answer, and its frusturating to know that it wont help anything...it'll just make it worse. I am nothing in this universe and just an Ant on this planet. Helping my small colony in a meanial way knowing my small cog plays a park in the clockwork of humanity. But the urge to just fly out of the box no matter the consequences makes me scream into my pillow every night. Typing this out wont change a thing. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know it. I KNOW IT!!! JUST STOP@
This cat has high level intelligence. Sharp as a tack....
I've just discovered the channel and subscribed. Everything said is true. It's a useful video. Thank you 😊
I had to smile when i read the title.
Great, very insightful video! INFJ
I'm an INFJ and a 4w5 with autism/aspergers syndrome and ADHD, so life is hard on me.
so that is why i feel like i wanna run away sometimes from some reasons.
I can talk to anyone, stranger or not. I simply have no desire too. Dont ask me why. Cant answer that.
Now i know why i sneak off to hide. I do this a lot and didn't know why. My family says i keep disapearing.
Because we prefer two way conversation LOL
Is that why I need this extra time off?!? I haven’t even opened the blinds and that’s not like me. How much time do I need?
Good question, Kelly. A lot depends on how "spent" you feel - or stretched. Connecting with others eventually is a good thing, though.
People mostly only care about themselves anyway and arent gonna care what you do
Thank you so much.. nobody understands my need for space..
I'd feel comfortable around people if they were someone I can relate to, but if not ill tell i need some lone time and if they don't get my hint , i just walk away....
I don't like bs..whenever I have to do this and that, I started to feel exhausted already..I somewhat foreseen what is going to happen in the event, depends on who's who and my mood so it's either I pass or not.
You mean there are quarter of a billion people in the world who could be refusing to answer the door or hiding in a broom cupboard right now?
Those antennas on the back of my head explained
For the love of God can anyone tell me how to not feel drained when dealing with people. It's giving me anxiety.
Perhaps, by learning to accept this aspect of yourself and adjusting your boundaries to better manage the environments in which you place yourself. If you do not have control over your environment or if you are in a imbalanced power dynamic; it may be of benefit to you to develop or strengthen your INFJ “shield” or “Grey rock”. Take care not to get too comfortable staying behind your “shield”. Hope these feeble words may be beneficial.
Hope things are going well for you, Bo.
1. You "morth" and adapt to be whoever you need to be
2. Be yourself
...ok?
Yes I do go missing 3months or 6 months depending
I like the word you used morph
Are you kidding. I’m currently fhiding and doing more research about INFJ which is why I’m listening to one more INFJ podcast. That’s me. I call my hidden time as my recharge time before I go back out. 😊
Amazing video!
Glad you could relate, Fatima. Thanks!
Great insights! Thank you so much!
Thanks! You’re welcome. :-)
I kinda wish that some of the other extraverted types would go MIA.
Helpful. Thank you.
Awesome! You're welcome, Elizabeth.
Hi, I love your videos and they are very informative. I do believe that I am an infj, did some online quizzies, they said the same. But then, can you suggest the most accurate test to know our personality type. most authentic ones, online and free. It would be really helpful. Following you for more than a year now and it's been a wonderful journey, thank you!
Regards,
Katie.
Me: I need to recharge
Friends: what like a robot?
I really found the humor in that post. I appreciate it
I love your videos man, provides me some clarity about my inner workings. Maybe you answered this before, but what do you do for a living, i'm just curious.
So good to hear, Steve! Thanks for your comment. I'm currently an elementary school teacher, but I'm building a side business helping INFJs.
@@ispeakpeople God BLESS you.....
Rap for us! Come on! 💃🏽
Thank you 💯💯💯
You're welcome!
Thank you!
Sure, Karen!
Depth. Insighted. Introverted.
What about when nobody understands?
When no one understands maybe they don't want to or u don't know how to explain it to them yet.
If u knew at least one person who will give it a try, to try to understand u then at least u have me that's one person and let's go from there.
Maybe sometimes people think that they did something wrong. They want to know where they stand as a friend an ally.
As an introvert I cringe when I get the feeling that some one feels that they did something wrong when I'm hiding. I tell those people that My hiding from them has NOTHING to do with merit on their own part.
Introverts may be considered to be antisocial. No. Charging oneself to be the best social person in the room is not anti social. And that's what we do.
@@ericmol2614 that's true. It's just that people often project unto others..something that most infjs don't do...we prefer to observe.
As an infj that socializes a descent ammount I learned to try and show the inside me as much as I can because if a estp and a entj can make friends so can my inner self ;) no offense to estp or entjs
I get what you’re saying
Thanks again Bo!!!
Sure thing, Vickie!
New camera? Looks super HD!
Hi, P! Actually, I finally got an editing program that could pull out what my camera can do. :-)
INFJ here and i love puns - now i know why!
Thanks!