😂 I did the nonexistent stop sign thing yesterday because I was too busy thinking about a joke I was writing. You seriously hit the nail on the head with all of your content. I really enjoy your work. Thanks for the insights and for helping us feel less like aliens!
I love it, TheHobbyCollector! In my book, that's a great reason to miss a stop sign. :-) So glad you're enjoying the content. Thanks so much for the encouragement and kind words!
My detail oriented ISFJ son saw the bewildered look on my face when I opened a box that had a bunch of different shaped plastic pieces and a complicated looking booklet of instructions. It was supposed to be an organizer for the spices in my kitchen cabinet. To my relief he gladly offered to put it together or it would still be in the box! Thanks for the positivity of I Speak People. The world would be a pretty boring place if we were all yellow Volkswagens. LOL
I totally identify with this absent minded-ness but I wonder if other INFJS are super observant as I am about other people, I see and hear everything and notice tiny details about people which makes it easy to pick up on changes in people and understand them better - so we can do detail :)
This is exactly INFJ right here, we focus on different things, so since we're highly interested in analyzing people, we're people-watchers and truth-seekers by nature, we do this. However, we can completely miss the environmental sensory, we don't pay attention to random stop signs, because we're thinking about people, instead of inanimate objects. We can easily miss anything in the road, because we're usually looking at the global big picture, and we miss the individual trees quite often. I try to pay attention to details consciously, so that I don't miss out on anything, but this causes stress and anxiety, it isn't natural to do, people-watching is always natural :).
If you don't already, try reading your content upside down or in the mirror. It keeps your creative side occupied since it must reorient everything as you read it. Plus, you are forced to deal with each word out of context before mentally reinserting it into its clause. This is an excellent way to catch run-on sentences and repeated words.
Thank you again!! this was so helpful. my husband is the compete opposite and it makes communication SO hard!! he wants the details that I don't always have when trying to show him the big picture and I feel stupid when I don't have a name or whatever he wants...and it makes me seem like I don't know what I'm talking about! rrrg
#Facts, #Facts, #Facts! I could so care less about the details and I definitely don't use specifics in my general conversations. This is quite refreshing.
Bo, thank you for all the videos you have made on the INFJ as well as your handbook. I appreciate your heart in doing all of this. It has all been such a great help to me and will continue to be as I check back on videos I have already watched to remind myself of things.
the stop sign thing had me cackling, I do this all the time😭 This struggle is why I hate 'lightning round' questions; my sis get so annoyed when I explain to her that I need time to think about answers for pretty large scale game-changing situations
Totally did the stop sign thing a few weeks ago. lmao Thank you so much. I have learned and gained so much understanding about myself from you. Appreciate the time and effort you put in to helping all of us. Love and light Robyn Majors
So true... I really try to keep things organized, but this summer, my son and I had VIP tickets for a meet and greet at a fave band's show in the city. I had to plan for summer traffic, had to pick my son up on the way to the show... I'd google mapped the route to the venue, to figure out the best time to leave. I'd printed out the tickets and VIP tickets when they were ready. The day before the show, I had a TON of errands that took me all over my state. Plus a temporary crown had fallen off, so I had to get that reinstalled the day before. All kinds of sensory stimuli and so, so, so much planning! What did I do? I screwed up the meet & greet time, and we missed it by almost 2 hours. Should've had my ISTP son do the planning, as his INFJ mom dropped the ball.
Thanks for posting this! It really explains a lot. I can't tell you how many similar instances I've had just like your stop sign experience. Keep up the fantastic work of helping us INFJ's learn more about our unique ways.
I find that dealing with a limited amount of details is quite manageable, but it gets exponentially more difficult keeping track of them, as the amount of details increase linearly. I am currently employed as a programmer and this issue is starting to show itself more and more, as I am assigned more complicated tasks to execute (because in the field of programming, experience / seniority -> more complicated tasks regardless of actual ability to execute them). For example, if I am assigned to build a feature with a fairly small amount of details, it looks like a feature I've made before and I am using technology I'm experienced at using, I'll typically knock it out in no time at all. Ni provides the framework for executing the task, and I don't have to rely as much on an "active" mind map of the details, as they are pulled from the Ni "pattern". I find it enjoyable, fun work, perform as or above expected (because of INFJ perfectionism) and generally leaves me satisfied with my work. But if it is a completely new feature, using new technology with a lot of complicated details, I often struggle making it all come together. In this situation, where I don't have an established "pattern" from Ni to work off of, I have to tap into both Ti and Se to complete the job (third and fourth functions in our cognitive stack). This often makes doing the job really, really frustrating and, especially when stuck with a problem for a long time, very dissatisfying work. My performance is usually also sub-par due to these factors, which makes it very difficult to "keep up" with the performance of Ti and Se oriented colleagues. Guess I probably should be looking for a career change, teaching programming instead of practicing it - it'd allow for a more Fe oriented career, but still allow me to exercise the parts of Ti and Se I enjoy about programming. :) ... And don't get me started on driving a vehicle - the amount of details can be overwhelming, especially at highway interchanges or large intersections/roundabouts.
Totally can relate! When i started driving, it was a nightmare, trying to keep track of all the cars and pedestrians, until someone explained i could leave 95% of that out and focus only on the car that stopped just before / opposite me at the intersection. I was more-or-less forced into a career in finance but i found it easier once i worked out a system for managing the details, and in my studies, conceptual frameworks that helped me understand the details and how they relate to one another
What about design as a career for an INFJ? As a graphic designer, you need to empathize with the end-user but you also have to be very detail-oriented.
Details have been on my mind lately. I'm closing in on fifty, but still need to finish my degree. It seems detail oriented person can make a lot of money with an associates or bachelors, while a big picture person needs a masters to make ends meet! So, either I choose a career where I work overtime to be mediocre and exhausted, or get into a lot of student loan debt to do something I'm naturally inclined toward. Sigh. I know this video is old, but any auggestions for a "big picture" career with a bachelors or less would be appreciated. 😊
I get so embarassed by my inferior Se mishaps and they keep flashing back afterwards. Sometimes my Se is really slick and composed but it unravels quickly and easily.
Haha I struggle with details. This is so true. I get drained with more information. I would instead do strategic direction talks in organizations rather than the nitty gritty stuff.
haha all the time! today i got a ticket and really i should have sense all the clues that world was giving me lol 1) the truck in front of me was going really slow 2) saw the speed limit 25mph but ignored it 3) i notice a parked cop but decide to ignore it 4) i see the cop behind me with his car lights turned on but no sound. my reaction is hmmm is it me that he is trying to pull me over? lol 4) also forgot my license and this cop was sooo nice to me lol good day today mate. ooo and after the whole incident i was thinking is this a sign from G-d to slow down with life? Thanks for this video! Really reminded me to not ignore details!
Even at this stage of my life, when I do an INFJ "no-brainer," like looking non-plussed at the people who aren't taking the right-of-way and then it turns out it's because I have it, I still bash myself black-and-blue and call myself names such as "Stupid!" and "Dummy!" It's part embarrassment and part ego. I made a mistake (shame on me); I made a mistake (but you never make mistakes!) It's the Catch-22 of being INFJ writ large! :-)
Ok, the first thing i thought when seeing the title was, i am very good with details. In what is said and how and also in my work. So i thought, hmm so again i m not and infj or whatever box. But, when listening to your explanation, first i thought, good luck getting people to understand what you mean. I ve tried, they don t. I believe my sag disposition assists me. You need another title.
Hmmm, I pay attention to my sensing co workers. There are details in the environment they miss as well. So..the detail thing is not as straight forward as it looks. Also, there are some sensing things I enjoy...like logistics.
Good point, Steve! None of us is all intuition or all sensing. We're a combination, for sure! I often point out animals, plants, and other aspects of the natural world that my sensing-dominant wife overlooks. Each personality is tuned into different things.
I'm such an INFJ that U don't drive. I can, but it drives me fucking insane and I hate it, so I don't put myself through it. Also, I suck. I'm a terrible driver, because focusing on the outside world for more than 2 minutes stresses me out.
Could you make a video about this question? I get the INFJ result every time i take an online test. I studied accounting and now after some years of practice i want to do something diferent. Why was it that i studied accounting, it seemed like a great idea at that time and i remember enjoying my time in college. What happened? Did i changed or did i get confused? Do you know anyone who has had this happened to them? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Hey, Steve! Great question. I took an intro to accounting course and enjoyed it. I also know INFJs who enjoy a bit of accounting. We like to organize and keep systems with a few details. Also, the college environment seems to be lower stress. There's less housework, cooking, cleaning, bills, and other odds and ends to take care of. All the demands of the real world and endless, focused detail management as an accountant could get more than a bit overwhelming fast - especially during tax season! It doesn't seem overly surprising that you'd be interested in pursuing something else now.
Steve Igi Take heart. I've been doing accounting for 20 yrs. It has filled many of desires for being honest, accurate and creatively using different tools to achieve perfection quickly. However, the draw back I experienced was I was too good at my job. Which kept me in one accounting position. I felt as if my wings were clipped. Are you experiencing a man made cap on your potential? I love what I do now. I still do accounting. But, I train and help others learn and to be better. I am forever surprised how many people cannot see the past the monitor screen. This keeps them from finding solutions. I find it easy to understand the various cycles and how they fit in the bigger picture and creatively hit goals or overcome problems give me a thrill. Yes, there are headaches at times. I still love going to work and seeing my staff everyday. I hope this experience for you someday in the near future.
I feel like a mix between an INFJ, and an INTJ. Because I've recieved both of these results on 16 Personalities. However, I did get INFJ more times than INFT, can relate more with INFJs, though. 🤔
Are you more concerned about pleasing people, helping others grow, and keeping the piece (INFJ) or about systems, practical results, and "telling it how it is" (INTJ)?
I’ve sometimes gotten the same mixed results on the tests, but when I read an overall summary of INFJ and then INTJ, it’s pretty clear that INFJ and not INTJ. The types are so much more than the sum of their letters.
Marleen Maglana my job requires a lot of attention to detail as well . I think the best way is to break them down into groups or create a check list so that you can ensure nothing is missed and better manage it . As INFJs we are good at planning and organizing so perhaps these strengths will helps us with managing details at work.
😂 I did the nonexistent stop sign thing yesterday because I was too busy thinking about a joke I was writing.
You seriously hit the nail on the head with all of your content. I really enjoy your work. Thanks for the insights and for helping us feel less like aliens!
I love it, TheHobbyCollector! In my book, that's a great reason to miss a stop sign. :-) So glad you're enjoying the content. Thanks so much for the encouragement and kind words!
Right on brother! Important work!
My detail oriented ISFJ son saw the bewildered look on my face when I opened a box that had a bunch of different shaped plastic pieces and a complicated looking booklet of instructions. It was supposed to be an organizer for the spices in my kitchen cabinet. To my relief he gladly offered to put it together or it would still be in the box! Thanks for the positivity of I Speak People. The world would be a pretty boring place if we were all yellow Volkswagens. LOL
Haha! Great example, Jeanette! I totally, 100% agree. :-)
I totally identify with this absent minded-ness but I wonder if other INFJS are super observant as I am about other people, I see and hear everything and notice tiny details about people which makes it easy to pick up on changes in people and understand them better - so we can do detail :)
This is exactly INFJ right here, we focus on different things, so since we're highly interested in analyzing people, we're people-watchers and truth-seekers by nature, we do this.
However, we can completely miss the environmental sensory, we don't pay attention to random stop signs, because we're thinking about people, instead of inanimate objects.
We can easily miss anything in the road, because we're usually looking at the global big picture, and we miss the individual trees quite often.
I try to pay attention to details consciously, so that I don't miss out on anything, but this causes stress and anxiety, it isn't natural to do, people-watching is always natural :).
INFJ proofreader here and I definitely tend to look for the easy patterns before I try to make my brain focus on other tiny details.
Great example, and smart thinking, Miss Monday!
If you don't already, try reading your content upside down or in the mirror. It keeps your creative side occupied since it must reorient everything as you read it. Plus, you are forced to deal with each word out of context before mentally reinserting it into its clause. This is an excellent way to catch run-on sentences and repeated words.
Thank you again!! this was so helpful. my husband is the compete opposite and it makes communication SO hard!! he wants the details that I don't always have when trying to show him the big picture and I feel stupid when I don't have a name or whatever he wants...and it makes me seem like I don't know what I'm talking about! rrrg
#Facts, #Facts, #Facts! I could so care less about the details and I definitely don't use specifics in my general conversations. This is quite refreshing.
Bo, thank you for all the videos you have made on the INFJ as well as your handbook. I appreciate your heart in doing all of this. It has all been such a great help to me and will continue to be as I check back on videos I have already watched to remind myself of things.
Thank u so much. U r not only an INFJ but a great guy too. I love watching your personality course. Hello, an INFJ from Kathmandu, Nepal, Asia.
the stop sign thing had me cackling, I do this all the time😭
This struggle is why I hate 'lightning round' questions; my sis get so annoyed when I explain to her that I need time to think about answers for pretty large scale game-changing situations
One doctor suggested anti depressants for my troubles with getting lost and forgetting where I’m going!
Totally did the stop sign thing a few weeks ago. lmao Thank you so much. I have learned and gained so much understanding about myself from you. Appreciate the time and effort you put in to helping all of us.
Love and light
Robyn Majors
So true... I really try to keep things organized, but this summer, my son and I had VIP tickets for a meet and greet at a fave band's show in the city. I had to plan for summer traffic, had to pick my son up on the way to the show... I'd google mapped the route to the venue, to figure out the best time to leave. I'd printed out the tickets and VIP tickets when they were ready. The day before the show, I had a TON of errands that took me all over my state. Plus a temporary crown had fallen off, so I had to get that reinstalled the day before. All kinds of sensory stimuli and so, so, so much planning! What did I do? I screwed up the meet & greet time, and we missed it by almost 2 hours. Should've had my ISTP son do the planning, as his INFJ mom dropped the ball.
Oh, that is so disappointing, Donna02770! I'm so sorry! Details...
Thanks for posting this! It really explains a lot. I can't tell you how many similar instances I've had just like your stop sign experience. Keep up the fantastic work of helping us INFJ's learn more about our unique ways.
You're welcome, Edward! Thanks for your kind words. :-)
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Thank you for this video... very helpful.
Spot on! Thank you
Its a struggle to focus on details ,but really wan to b more careful bcoz at times its embarrassing. Lol.
Love urself.
I find that dealing with a limited amount of details is quite manageable, but it gets exponentially more difficult keeping track of them, as the amount of details increase linearly.
I am currently employed as a programmer and this issue is starting to show itself more and more, as I am assigned more complicated tasks to execute (because in the field of programming, experience / seniority -> more complicated tasks regardless of actual ability to execute them).
For example, if I am assigned to build a feature with a fairly small amount of details, it looks like a feature I've made before and I am using technology I'm experienced at using, I'll typically knock it out in no time at all.
Ni provides the framework for executing the task, and I don't have to rely as much on an "active" mind map of the details, as they are pulled from the Ni "pattern". I find it enjoyable, fun work, perform as or above expected (because of INFJ perfectionism) and generally leaves me satisfied with my work.
But if it is a completely new feature, using new technology with a lot of complicated details, I often struggle making it all come together. In this situation, where I don't have an established "pattern" from Ni to work off of, I have to tap into both Ti and Se to complete the job (third and fourth functions in our cognitive stack).
This often makes doing the job really, really frustrating and, especially when stuck with a problem for a long time, very dissatisfying work. My performance is usually also sub-par due to these factors, which makes it very difficult to "keep up" with the performance of Ti and Se oriented colleagues.
Guess I probably should be looking for a career change, teaching programming instead of practicing it - it'd allow for a more Fe oriented career, but still allow me to exercise the parts of Ti and Se I enjoy about programming. :)
... And don't get me started on driving a vehicle - the amount of details can be overwhelming, especially at highway interchanges or large intersections/roundabouts.
Totally can relate! When i started driving, it was a nightmare, trying to keep track of all the cars and pedestrians, until someone explained i could leave 95% of that out and focus only on the car that stopped just before / opposite me at the intersection. I was more-or-less forced into a career in finance but i found it easier once i worked out a system for managing the details, and in my studies, conceptual frameworks that helped me understand the details and how they relate to one another
I drove my estj mom insane , with missed small details cleaning wise lol
I miss a speck of dirt around the kitchen drain. Does it matter that much?
Yes! I just blew a detail on an email I sent to a bunch of people. My ESTJ friend was the first to notice and comment, Abby. :-)
Yes! Can relate. Thanks for sharing your no-stop-sign story.
So glad you can relate, David! You're welcome. :-)
Love that story that is me 100% lol. My super extroverted ex boyfriend used to get very mad at me for stuff like that.
What about design as a career for an INFJ? As a graphic designer, you need to empathize with the end-user but you also have to be very detail-oriented.
I really needed to hear this today! Thanks!
You're very welcome, Hayley!
Details have been on my mind lately. I'm closing in on fifty, but still need to finish my degree. It seems detail oriented person can make a lot of money with an associates or bachelors, while a big picture person needs a masters to make ends meet! So, either I choose a career where I work overtime to be mediocre and exhausted, or get into a lot of student loan debt to do something I'm naturally inclined toward. Sigh. I know this video is old, but any auggestions for a "big picture" career with a bachelors or less would be appreciated. 😊
At a wedding reception a year ago, I followed a woman to the restroom because I don't know where it is and after that I can't find my way back 🤣
your channel is legit
Enlightening talk today, Bo, thanks.
You don't live in New Jersey because people stop at stop signs where you live.
Ahh! The pocket T, nice.
Thanks, Ray! Glad you like my pocket T-shirt. :-)
Good video , good on you
I feel I will finally start to use my abilities to get the info from the world. God damn!
our brains seem to be wired for complex stuff, not everyday mundane crap which is of no interest to anyone really
May be it is the reason that i failed as a radiologist... I could not fit in this specialty... It depends on so so much details.
I get so embarassed by my inferior Se mishaps and they keep flashing back afterwards. Sometimes my Se is really slick and composed but it unravels quickly and easily.
My job requires details. Notes, tasks, appointment and I am lousy at it!
Yes! I'm lousy at the detail aspects of my job too. :-)
So am I! I thought I was just dumb:(
Haha I struggle with details. This is so true. I get drained with more information. I would instead do strategic direction talks in organizations rather than the nitty gritty stuff.
haha all the time! today i got a ticket and really i should have sense all the clues that world was giving me lol 1) the truck in front of me was going really slow 2) saw the speed limit 25mph but ignored it 3) i notice a parked cop but decide to ignore it 4) i see the cop behind me with his car lights turned on but no sound. my reaction is hmmm is it me that he is trying to pull me over? lol 4) also forgot my license and this cop was sooo nice to me lol good day today mate. ooo and after the whole incident i was thinking is this a sign from G-d to slow down with life? Thanks for this video! Really reminded me to not ignore details!
Even at this stage of my life, when I do an INFJ "no-brainer," like looking non-plussed at the people who aren't taking the right-of-way and then it turns out it's because I have it, I still bash myself black-and-blue and call myself names such as "Stupid!" and "Dummy!" It's part embarrassment and part ego. I made a mistake (shame on me); I made a mistake (but you never make mistakes!) It's the Catch-22 of being INFJ writ large! :-)
I missed a stop sign on my road test because I was trying to read the examiner lol
Spot on!!!💓
So glad you can relate, Jesus light!
As an infj I got got in a major car accident....don't know if I'll ever get my license. Lol
I miss expressway exits.
Ok, the first thing i thought when seeing the title was, i am very good with details. In what is said and how and also in my work. So i thought, hmm so again i m not and infj or whatever box. But, when listening to your explanation, first i thought, good luck getting people to understand what you mean. I ve tried, they don t. I believe my sag disposition assists me. You need another title.
Hmmm, I pay attention to my sensing co workers. There are details in the environment they miss as well. So..the detail thing is not as straight forward as it looks. Also, there are some sensing things I enjoy...like logistics.
Good point, Steve! None of us is all intuition or all sensing. We're a combination, for sure! I often point out animals, plants, and other aspects of the natural world that my sensing-dominant wife overlooks. Each personality is tuned into different things.
I HATE paperwork
I'm such an INFJ that U don't drive. I can, but it drives me fucking insane and I hate it, so I don't put myself through it. Also, I suck. I'm a terrible driver, because focusing on the outside world for more than 2 minutes stresses me out.
I am an infj with ocd!! Not a good combo
Me too :(
Could you make a video about this question?
I get the INFJ result every time i take an online test. I studied accounting and now after some years of practice i want to do something diferent. Why was it that i studied accounting, it seemed like a great idea at that time and i remember enjoying my time in college. What happened? Did i changed or did i get confused? Do you know anyone who has had this happened to them? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Hey, Steve! Great question. I took an intro to accounting course and enjoyed it. I also know INFJs who enjoy a bit of accounting. We like to organize and keep systems with a few details. Also, the college environment seems to be lower stress. There's less housework, cooking, cleaning, bills, and other odds and ends to take care of. All the demands of the real world and endless, focused detail management as an accountant could get more than a bit overwhelming fast - especially during tax season! It doesn't seem overly surprising that you'd be interested in pursuing something else now.
Thank you for your respond. I feel it helps me to find some peace with the subject.
Steve Igi Take heart. I've been doing accounting for 20 yrs. It has filled many of desires for being honest, accurate and creatively using different tools to achieve perfection quickly. However, the draw back I experienced was I was too good at my job. Which kept me in one accounting position. I felt as if my wings were clipped. Are you experiencing a man made cap on your potential?
I love what I do now. I still do accounting. But, I train and help others learn and to be better. I am forever surprised how many people cannot see the past the monitor screen. This keeps them from finding solutions. I find it easy to understand the various cycles and how they fit in the bigger picture and creatively hit goals or overcome problems give me a thrill. Yes, there are headaches at times. I still love going to work and seeing my staff everyday. I hope this experience for you someday in the near future.
@@Rhamkatte Thank you for your comment and insights.
Same here Steve. I just realized I am an INFJ and to some certain extent I cant seem to work well when being put in that direction.
That is so true. It really doesn’t interest me.
Anyone else lose their keys all the time? Lol that's my thing
I feel like a mix between an INFJ, and an INTJ. Because I've recieved both of these results on 16 Personalities. However, I did get INFJ more times than INFT, can relate more with INFJs, though. 🤔
Two of the four cognitive functions are the same in those two types.
Some INFJs mistype as INTJs. This is from one that had it wrong for a few years.
Are you more concerned about pleasing people, helping others grow, and keeping the piece (INFJ) or about systems, practical results, and "telling it how it is" (INTJ)?
I Speak People, I'm more concerned about pleasing people. 💀
I’ve sometimes gotten the same mixed results on the tests, but when I read an overall summary of INFJ and then INTJ, it’s pretty clear that INFJ and not INTJ. The types are so much more than the sum of their letters.
I have been struggling with this and part of my job is to be attention to details... You have some tips?
Marleen Maglana my job requires a lot of attention to detail as well . I think the best way is to break them down into groups or create a check list so that you can ensure nothing is missed and better manage it . As INFJs we are good at planning and organizing so perhaps these strengths will helps us with managing details at work.
You are nice
If I could abolish one invention from the face of the earth, it would be the email system. It stresses me out so much!
And of course nuclear weapons
details smetails!
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So true 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤
Keep the beard
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