I am an INFJ. I’ve always needed more sleep than most of the people I know. The hard part is that people tend to think I’m lazy or babying myself when I get extra sleep. So I’ll try to go on less sleep for awhile and become physically ill. I need to ignore others attitudes. They just don’t understand because they don’t need as much sleep. It is frustrating though.
I wonder how many of us were told we were - or secretly thought to be - lazy because we just simply needed more sleep than the average person? Man, what an eye-opener!
I can't stress how much I identify with these comments...my mind literally roars with thought while awake, it feels like I'm running about a thousand simulations whilst pondering the results... *exhausting* I have become less sensitive to criticism as I've gotten older, but it really used to sting 😪😴💤
Same! I never understood how people could only go on 6 hours of sleep. It makes sense now that they are energized from being around other people and we get drained so we naturally need more sleep.
I didn't know this was an INFJ thing. I thought it was just me. Worst part about sleeping is waking up lol. My life is always prioritized according to getting min 8, max 9/10 hours sleep. I can get more done than the average Joe with more sleep, but take it away, I can't do anything! Thanks for sharing.
As an INFJ, when i'm tired and overstimulated, i usually end up in what i would term the 'zombie zone'. I mentally dont have the capacity to tell my body to do things...i'm literally that mentally exhausted that i cant figure out what i need to do - i'm looking at a pile of dirty dishes but i just cant process what my body needs to do lol Also need at least 8 hours of sleep or i'm more irritable and definitely struggle the next day!!
I've actually been thinking about this concept quite a lot lately. If I'm being totally honest with myself, I think I legitimately need 8-10 hours of sleep each night as well. Which...is an incredibly frustrating concept for me because having to sleep that much just feels like a waste - there are SO MANY other things I'd rather be doing than sleeping...fun projects etc. Last year, I worked as a nurse assistant in a hospital and learned that the 12-hr night shift life is REALLY not good for my health. I desperately tried everything to make it work...even got moved to mid-shift (noon-midnight) and I STILL wasn't able to catch up on sleep appropriately between shifts.
First of, congratulations on your baby!! And yes, working in a noisy, bright environment totally takes a toll on me, I need close to 10 hours of sleep at the end of a work week, maybe even more to recover from all that overstimulation.
This video just freed me from some definite guilt! I too am a male infj Christian with a new baby. I try to get up early to pray and help with him as much as possible, but I feel I physically can't do it unless I've slept for at least 8.5 hours! I also play basketball quite a bit which can be quite tiring. Thanks for this video!
Put boundaries on my time...I like that. I need to do that because I don't seem to know when to take a break until I crash. If I'm already well rested, I do well with 8 hours and 15 minutes of sleep. If I'm sleep deprived or in any way drained, 10 is awesome but seldom doable.
Thanks for the info. I’ve suspected there’s more to my need for a lot of sleep than simple physical tiredness. I knew there was a mental component, but it’s never been confirmed by my doctors. Even if I spend most of my day alone, the sensory input from my family, surroundings, TV, my own thoughts, wear me down. My sleep is a way to process all that ‘junk’ and wake up 10 hours later sort of prepared to start, again. What I’d really like, tbh, is a place to retreat for days at a time, with no outside input or pressure. I never fully recharge, no matter how much sleep I get.
Used to work in a loud, fast-paced, hot, sweaty kitchen for 11-hour shifts and drink for 2 hours afterward, then go home and get maybe 5 hours of rough sleep. Then do it all again the next day, and the next, until I would just save all that pent-up exhaustion for the weekend, when half of each day would be spent asleep or in a daze. I'm so happy to have more energy now that I'm working an easier job.
It's great to know that I am not a rare person that need more time for sleeping. I was once frustrated about sleeping long because I go bed sooner than my roommate but wake up later. But, I figured out why now because I am a INFJ!
Totally agree, relate to that. I am an INFJ, and when I slept more, I really noticed that my body and mind are much much more calm and I can soo better concentrate!
Other than needing more sleep, I also have to be clean and have brushed my teeth before I go to bed or else I can't sleep because I don't feel comfortable. Any other INFJs experience this?
I really enjoy whenever I hit more than 6 hours of sleep. I feel like I can do anything i want. And of course, having a quick nap in the daytime and having alone time would make everything perfect.
Thanks for this info about myself. I am realizing that I do get drained easily from all the external stimuli and over commitment. (I have a hard time saying “No”, too, but I am learning to so). Love your suggestions on how to get more sleep.
Ahhh sleep yes, I love being regenerated ❤ Since I was a teenager I always had dark circles under my eyes. I have continuously suffered from iron deficiency through life which makes me tired. I always wondered how parents can be so full of energy for their kids because I'm constantly tired asf just from normal life and I already feel like I do so much. My immune system is crap right now so I need more sleep. Depression has taken its toll on me. I'm going to make a big change next month and get my health back in check and after seeing this I will incorporate more sleep in my schedule 😃
Battle B Wow! Reading your post was like reading about myself. This describes me perfectly. Good to know I’m not alone but so sorry you feel the same way I do.
I have the dark circles too ugh I hate the way it looks on my face, I can’t cover it up all the way with makeup either. I’ve tired every method to get rid of them, but even when I get enough sleep it’s but very good sleep.
I always start my vacation time with increasing my sleep, because it tends to be what my body is deficient in. Good nutrition and exercise can help you build more stamina and focus, but rest is needed for metal fortitude.
When I have dreams often, I have many dreams every night and they are all very long and usually interconnected. They are so detailed and thought out, it's like I'm actively thinking of how things would be step by step and how it would actually play out, so I feel that my brain is still using so much energy even while asleep. Perhaps this is another reason I need more sleep, and maybe other INFJs can relate to this. It's like my Ni and Ti goes wild when I'm asleep, and my Te and Fi are used against me to fuel the plots of my nightmares.
We must need more sleep because we take on everyone else’s problems. But, I also have insomnia. I have tried everything and I’m sleeping better. Sticking to a schedule helps me.
I recently picked up a pair of blue blocking glasses after some research on ue last week ght disruption to our circadian rhythms. I get much sleepier much more quickly when I put them on after sunset. Depending on what schedule is working for you, it'd definitely be worth trying them for a few hours before sleep.
i get startled so easily, people walk up to me when i'm working, anything i'm focusing on...it actually makes me make a startled noise, it's comical, scares the other people, anyone else?
Yeah, I just thought I was easily started for no reason. But it makes sense that it could be from a lack of sleep preventing one from focusing on their task And surroundings. So when focused on a task you lose awareness of your surroundings if you are tired or low on mental energy. I never get enough sleep so I’m always like this
I need minimum 10 hrs to function fully and feel well and I’m an INFJ. This caused a LOT of problems with my ex husband. He was fine with 4 hrs or 6. He doesn’t even know what an INFJ is and I didn’t know either then.
I’m a property manager in Florida and was managing 15 communities in the political divide, in the swing state and most people are retired. I ended up in the hospital with high blood pressure and chest pains.
I don't sleep well due to stress from economic pressures in my life. However, I think that I could train myself to sleep more with a conscious effort of shutting down my mind, and I think that with practice, I could lengthen my average sleep time without waking in the middle of the night with a thousand thoughts racing in my head for hours at a time. I also have a habit of spending too much time on YT and FB. I will have to discipline myself to sacrifice my time in that form of entertainment.
I am a newly discovered INFJ. Love to sleep more however I’ve been an insomniac my entire life. I can go up to 2 days without sleeping an only then I will sleep up to 8 hours. Work in retail 😩 always tired, over stimulated however I still can not sleep😕
I have the same problem, I’ve been an insomniac my whole life, and used to stay up till the sun came up when I was little, or stay up for two days at a time regularly, not because I had the energy to but because I couldn’t sleep until I reached a point of extreme physical exhaustion. Sometimes I get so tired I’m stumbling around and slightly slurring my words, getting confused about details, and accidentally drop things more because of tiredness making my hands more uncoordinated. I’m worried people will think I’m drunk so I try to stay home when I’m on my second day of no sleep. I get headaches from it too
Hey bo congrats on the new addition to your family, I'm currently half way through the infj personality guide. Its longer than I thought it would be, but it's all good. Take care
So true. Wow. I feel less lousy now. Lol. I’ve noticed that when I feel overwhelmed with emotions or noise, I pretty much just want to sleep for twelve hours straight - only I can’t, because I have kids. I do well to get 6-7 hrs, especially if you factor in the nights I’m up too late because I prefer nights to mornings! It’s become a vicious, exhausting cycle. 😭
INTP's very rarely get enough sleep. I wish I didn't have to sleep and just be productive all the time and focus on my projects. On some days I get very little sleep and then on other days I crash and all I want to do Is sleep. It's just too inconsistent and makes some days less productive. I do a problem saying no and deciding what to do or not do. If I work on that it will help alot. Increasing Sleep is important.
Thank you so much for these videos!! I mistyped 2 or 3 times as INTJ and a recent conversation with a really close friend brought up the idea of me actually being INFJ. So I did some research and WHOA!!!! 😳😳 I think everything I have heard or read has been right on!! Your videos have been insightful in a way I didn't expect. I am so grateful to have so much more understanding of who I am and why. I downloaded your book and am reading through it now. So insightful!!! Be blessed!!
Slept through the night at a week old and never stopped lol I can truly say I LOVE sleeping, and always have! This video is amazingly true...sleep is essential for INFJs! Love to all my fellow sleepers:)
Almost everyone could benefit from more sleep and/or better sleep hygeine. I was hoping for more explanation on why INFJs, specifically, would need more sleep, not just introverts and intuitives. Do you think perhaps inferior Se (and therefore 8th slot Si) could contribute? I've also noticed INTJs tend to have sleep problems. Insomnia, in particular.
Wow, this rings so true! When I was younger I made sure to get more and regular sleep. I went to bed nine hours before my clock would ring. I never fell asleep directly, but rather ruminated over the day for half an hour or so, but that was my routine/whst I was used to and belived normal so I wasn't botherrd by it. It was sort of scheduled awake processing time of my day I guess 😊 As a young adult that schedule went out the window I'm afraid, with more commitments, more studies, more parties, all things young adults are supposed to do... And I always feel sleep deprived. And often get mocked for my need to sleep more than the average person for example if I sleep in during the week ends, when I can sleep 12 hours straight if I didn't get enough sleep during the week! I'm 41 now so I've been sleep deprived for over twenty years! Time to prioritize and stand up for my need for more sleep! Than you for this video!
If you have a teenager you might not get enough sleep. 🥴 Waiting up for my teenager to get home from his activities is SO hard for me. He is an extrovert and always ready for action and doesn't tire easily.
When I work, I work really hard and multitask to get things done. But when I sleep, I sleep for long hours to recover from the exhaustion and burnout. I spend most of the time sleeping rather than wasting time talking to people or socializing because I am a loner. I absolutely hate being disturbed by strangers being asocial.
I definitely need more sleep than others. As I get older, I learn what is good for me is not necessarily what is good for most people. I'm very complicated and few people truly understand me, and that's okay :D
Im a infj I need at least 9-10 hours or more to not feel tired in the morning, but during the week, I only get 7-8. One time, I slept without setting an alarm, and I slept for 13 hours!
YES! I have intuitively/instinctively known this about myself from earliest childhood. I was accused of "goldbricking" or being lazy when I just was experiencing my sensory and emotional circuits as fried! I'd get what felt like a buzz on: my ears would ring and I'd go almost mute verbally. A good night's sleep in terms of both length and quality could, and can, turn that completely around. I am day people, so I retire earlier than most people I know, but the benefits come the next morning are well worth it!
I find that it's not just getting that 10 hours of sleep it's when that 10 hours occurs. I need to be asleep by 10 p.m. or I would still wake up feeling not well rested. I'm glad I found a channel that focuses on the infj. New subscriber!
Infj here looking to see if loving sleep is an infj thing. I looooove to sleep all day long until i can no longer keep my mind subdued. I feel safe no one can enter my room and disturb me with stress or worry. My safe zone to not worry and relax. All my friends hated to spend the night with me when i was a teen because i slept the day away. Im not a mover or a shaker, i really dont understand the world or why we even crawl out of bed to face the world.
The things you describe sound exactly like what’s consider a Highly Sensitive Person. Do you know if there’s a correlation between INFJs and HSPs? I know more introverted people are sensitive as well but I’m wondering about this particular personality type.
Hi Bo :) congratulations on your baby! I already try to find out before how much time i need for sleep. For me it takes around 9,5 hours and then i wake up spontaneous and im not tired:) sometimes i feel bad because i yawn and yawn but people around me sleep just few hours and they are fully awake. So im glad that im not only one hobby sleeper here :D p.s. sorry for my english, still learning :)
I tend most strongly towards INFP with also strong aspects of INFJ and INTJ. I think probably best described as a very strongly introverted and highly sensitive INFP. I also find that I tend to do better on more sleep, but improving the consistency of timing my sleep has reduced the need somewhat. If I am unable to just sleep until I wake up (ie every work day) it is extra important to line up on a sleep cycle and not wake up mid-cycle (which will throw me off all day!) so, I usually end up at about 7.5 hours. Going to bed at the same time but sleeping as long as I feel like on the weekends 9 hours or more is much more common. If I had complete freedom in my schedule I wonder where I would end up?
sleeping too much gives me too many LUCID NIGHTMARES i am starting to wake up about to scream, sometimes crying, sometimes pulling my hair sometimes slapping my face... i just hate to sleep too much ... if i can stay awake forever i won't mind.
I have a problem with nightmares too. If you live in a state where it’s legal (I do), cannabis smoked before bed can help reduce dreaming and the intensity of the dreams. I still have nightmares a lot, but not as many or as vivid as before I started smoking before bed. Also listening to calming music while asleep can help regulate your mood during sleep and calm the mind. I hope I was able to give you some useful ideas
I do not get so much sleep, I have sleep problems since I was young I have problems falling asleep. especially, after stressfull events it gets even worse.I feel guilt and lazy a lot and do lots of things on will power. in stead of being energetic but really getting older I also want more alone or space time, maybe because I do not get enoufh sleep;p
OMG, thank you for this video. I'm INFJ, I need 9.5 hours of sleep to feel great. If I get less than 4.5 hours of sleep, I become angry all day. The more sleep I get, the more alive and aware I feel when I wake. I've noticed that by sleeping a lot, I have more vivid dreams and can control my dreams better. I also have a greater command and ability to focus my subconscious better, which leads to better intuition. My INTJ father would probably sleep 10-11 hours a day, if allowed. My INTJ brother has insomnia and gets noticeable anxiety when sleep deprived. My intuition is terrible if I'm sleep deprived. I've studied so much neuroscience to find out why I sleep so much...perhaps too much prefrontal cortex use trying to predict the future is exhausting. The mindfulness movement suggests that living in the moment, makes you more aware and less tired...but I get so bored with living in the present moment, that I always start thinking of the future...millions to billions of years out. I was 1 of the 3 children in my elementary class who could delay gratification and wait another 5 minutes to get a promised 2nd candy if I could wait and not eat the first candy given immediately. I was also 99% on math scores in elementary. I would try to sleep 10 hours a day back then when I was a kid. Also, my immune system declines if I don't get a good amount of sleep, and I'll pick up colds and flus much too easy.
I think that I normally need around 8 hours but I think that we also need to factor in time before sleep when we can decompress/process the massive amount of information we've been bombarded with throughout the day. Sometimes I feel overstimulated which makes it hard to fall asleep, so then I end up getting less than the ideal amount. I Can operate on less sleep for extended periods of time, ie when going to school and working at the same time or working 60-70 hours per week but if I keep pushing myself I will a) become a huge b*$&# and b) probably get sick or both.
I used to be a heavy sleeper, but as I have aged, I go to bed later and I find it difficult to sleep more than 6 hours at a time. Have started napping during the day. I think that my huge interest in learning new things is keeping me up beyond the time I should be sleeping, as I sometimes find myself nodding off during an interesting you tube video. So, starting now I am going to go to bed 8 hours before dawn. (I normally wake up just before sunrise, in spite of blackout curtains. It will be interesting to see what happens!
It’s normal for older people to have a hard time sleeping long enough. That’s why a lot of really old people, like in nursing homes, get up so early. Not because their generation likes to get up early, but because the body has a harder time staying asleep as long with age. So it makes sense what you’re saying, I hope you are able to get more sleep
what? i sleep 6-3 hours a day without feeling tired. Am i not an infj? (english is my third language, please excuse my grammar errors) i am 17 years old, and usually spend 8-10 hours at school and spend another 5-8 hours just drawing in a day, even on weekends i would spend around 17 hours drawing. i desperately want to be an professional artist. i already found myself wasting my first 15 years of my life playing games and i don't want to waste my time anymore. Why i sleep such hours a day: At the age of 15 i considered myself an atheist and i would always wonder how the christian have this power and energy. a year later and i belief that it was because of 'fear' or ''fear of death'(probably not the right term but whatever) and i tried using that fear against myself. I don't know how but i tricked myself into believing that i would not live longer than 35 years.i literally cannot drop that belief anymore. i have to achieve all of my life goal before 35... i already wasted 15 years... i get depression very often and there is a chronic hole in my heart. a tight hug is all what i need. i have 2 people that i can call as friends, i care about other people, and i would listen to them, show love and support, i would even sacrifice for a stranger. on the outside i call them "friends" but inside, i do not feel any connection whatsoever. if i find them wasting my time, i would instantly leave them. i feel like there are 17 people (as far as i can think) that are considering me as their friend.
If not infj, what personality type do i fall into...
I'm an INFJ and i rarely sleep and my sleep duration is too short almost 3 hrs a day, and can wake up for 48 hrs with full power and working hard, also if i tried to force myself to to sleep more I can't, but i can rest my body while I'm awake on bed, is that normal? Or any other INFJ like me?
Well, when I work until 9pm or later, I cant sleep right away when I get home! I ended up going to bed close to 2am! I knee I had to be up by 7am. How do I not learn! Other days... I get between 8-10, yes. great!
It has been the bane of my existence not being able to sleep, all my life I have struggled to sleep up to and including this day , I have to take heaps of medication to be able to sleep, I used to drink very heavily, now I just take sleeping tablets and loads of antihistamines, it sucks. This is a priority that a lot of people do not seem to understand, your sleep is a priority then your critical thinking skills will come into play and you will realise, that the things you thought were a priority before , are not . Your happiness , health and that of your family are the priority, being honest with your self is important, then you can set your boundary's, do you need to sleep to do your job or is your job important as to where you want to sleep. If you do not care for societal expectations, go live in a tent. People work for their cars and their homes , one of those things you drive around in and the other you sleep in , they need to be a service to you not you to them.
You should not take the antihistamines for sleep, prolonged use of antihistamines can cause damage to the central nervous system. They may be over the counter meds, but they are actually really serious medicine. Instead you can try motion sickness medicine, it has a side effect of making you so sleepy you can’t stay awake, with just one pill of it. They make non drowsy ones now, but get the ones that Do Not say non-drowsy and they will knock you out in 30-45 mins. I’m a terrible insomniac and I can also never sleep in a car, but I had to take these pills for motion sickness in cars or I’ll throw up on road trips, I took them before they invented the non-drowsy. You can get them in the medicine section at most stores, but I got mine in the medicine section of Oriley auto parts. But please don’t take antihistamines for anything other than actual pollen allergies! And never more than the recommended dose.
Need to take 2 sleeping tablets EVERY night for over 20 years... get about 7 hours if I am lucky. You can go longer without food and water.... hence the torture method of sleep depreviation
@Danielle Anderson @Amelia Isabelle Rubin @Laura Barber @Bo Miller You ladies are are correct with saying that it's the duties of fatherhood and not seen as another task to be done.However, I do believe he was trying to use the terminology to express that although he wanted to get more sleep (a choice,) he knew he had obligations to fulfill with daily life (being a father) and that he is empathic towards his wife getting less sleep for whatever number of reasons (i.e. being more sensitive/responsive to their child even while asleep than he may be.) I feel he did his best to not undermine her contributions but possibly instead recognized them by mentioning them. In addition, I'm sure he wanted to keep the video positive while maintaining his message he wished to share with us all. This is not an attack, just offering a different perspective.
@@Danielleanderson428There's always perspectives. ALWAYS. My take on the video, having watched plenty of Bo's videos in the past, is that he has difficulty expressing himself correctly sometimes, and this was one example of that, and that the intention was to recognize his responsibilities to his wife and child as a contrast to his experiment to get more sleep.
Question: How accurate is the MTBI test. What is it's biggest strength? Are there other models to evaluate personality? If so, how can they complement or enhance our understanding of our personalities? I'll leave these questions for anyone to ponder as I think they are important to consider.
@Hardcore Hokage im not surprised is just educated guesswork. I mean, the human psyche (ego) is not even real or tangible, we are like robos running on the wackiest software there is.
In my experience and research it is a useful tool for understanding that people have various different thought processes and do not process the world in the same way, but not very generally useful for slotting one's self into an identity box.
@@dirtywhitellama I don't know if this is a problem but, I find it hard not to identify with the INFJ. It really resonates with me when i study the personality. I don't know if im getting some pysched up influence by the description (like and horoscope), but it is quite more deep than an horoscope. I find myself nodding inside with understanding when i read about it. It kind of feels like the way my mind works.
@@evelic I totally understand. I felt that way a lot reading many of the things about INFJ (although in my case I later realized that INFP was a better fit when I understood Fi - and Si - a little better) It was actually really comforting to realize certain things were just the way my mind works, as opposed to something being 'wrong' with me. And that I legitimately do think differently than the majority of other people out there. Absolutely use it to understand yourself better, if you're into learning that stuff check out the socionics stuff, I like the Dave's Super Powers channel too although some of his stuff doesn't seem to completely match (But his definition of Fi is what clicked for me, so a lot of it is useful, too!) Just don't be locked into thinking you have to fit into the box of what an INFJ looks like, even if you draw many similarities and gain a lot of self understanding from studying the ideas. That's the point I'm trying to make. You may have personality aspects that don't seem to 'fit', and that's ok. One explanation I read that made a lot of sense for me, puts the personality types more like landmarks than boxes. So, my personality would be located by saying "I'm pretty close to INFP, but INFJ and INTJ are nearby, too". That works for me. Ultimately, you have to decide what works for you, too :)
I am an INFJ. I’ve always needed more sleep than most of the people I know. The hard part is that people tend to think I’m lazy or babying myself when I get extra sleep. So I’ll try to go on less sleep for awhile and become physically ill. I need to ignore others attitudes. They just don’t understand because they don’t need as much sleep. It is frustrating though.
Same!!
I wonder how many of us were told we were - or secretly thought to be - lazy because we just simply needed more sleep than the average person?
Man, what an eye-opener!
I can't stress how much I identify with these comments...my mind literally roars with thought while awake, it feels like I'm running about a thousand simulations whilst pondering the results... *exhausting* I have become less sensitive to criticism as I've gotten older, but it really used to sting 😪😴💤
Same! I never understood how people could only go on 6 hours of sleep. It makes sense now that they are energized from being around other people and we get drained so we naturally need more sleep.
I tend to keep my head on the desk at school and sleep but listen at the same time, sometimes i pass out tho.
INFJ here: this video rings true. I've noticed for years that I need more sleep than the average person. I need over 8 hours to feel great
I didn't know this was an INFJ thing. I thought it was just me. Worst part about sleeping is waking up lol. My life is always prioritized according to getting min 8, max 9/10 hours sleep. I can get more done than the average Joe with more sleep, but take it away, I can't do anything! Thanks for sharing.
Me too!! I thought it just my laziness
@@Tta8221 So glad I'm not alone. I think we need more sleep because our mind rarely switches off. Blessings
As an INFJ, when i'm tired and overstimulated, i usually end up in what i would term the 'zombie zone'. I mentally dont have the capacity to tell my body to do things...i'm literally that mentally exhausted that i cant figure out what i need to do - i'm looking at a pile of dirty dishes but i just cant process what my body needs to do lol Also need at least 8 hours of sleep or i'm more irritable and definitely struggle the next day!!
Mariah Freeman yES! I call it zombie mode too.
Ah, yes, I was experiencing same and I don't remember, how many times was
I think I call the 'zombie zone' turning round my axle. The solution always is sleep. 😴
I'm an INFJ, and my perfect amount of sleep is 9 hours of sleep. 💙
I've actually been thinking about this concept quite a lot lately. If I'm being totally honest with myself, I think I legitimately need 8-10 hours of sleep each night as well. Which...is an incredibly frustrating concept for me because having to sleep that much just feels like a waste - there are SO MANY other things I'd rather be doing than sleeping...fun projects etc.
Last year, I worked as a nurse assistant in a hospital and learned that the 12-hr night shift life is REALLY not good for my health. I desperately tried everything to make it work...even got moved to mid-shift (noon-midnight) and I STILL wasn't able to catch up on sleep appropriately between shifts.
I definitely thrive on loads of sleep. Like 10 hours plus!
Same here ! And i wish i could not and do some activites instead but nah
Me too, or else I wake up drowsy and spend the day tired and weak
First of, congratulations on your baby!! And yes, working in a noisy, bright environment totally takes a toll on me, I need close to 10 hours of sleep at the end of a work week, maybe even more to recover from all that overstimulation.
This video just freed me from some definite guilt! I too am a male infj Christian with a new baby. I try to get up early to pray and help with him as much as possible, but I feel I physically can't do it unless I've slept for at least 8.5 hours! I also play basketball quite a bit which can be quite tiring. Thanks for this video!
Put boundaries on my time...I like that. I need to do that because I don't seem to know when to take a break until I crash. If I'm already well rested, I do well with 8 hours and 15 minutes of sleep. If I'm sleep deprived or in any way drained, 10 is awesome but seldom doable.
Thanks for the info. I’ve suspected there’s more to my need for a lot of sleep than simple physical tiredness. I knew there was a mental component, but it’s never been confirmed by my doctors. Even if I spend most of my day alone, the sensory input from my family, surroundings, TV, my own thoughts, wear me down. My sleep is a way to process all that ‘junk’ and wake up 10 hours later sort of prepared to start, again. What I’d really like, tbh, is a place to retreat for days at a time, with no outside input or pressure. I never fully recharge, no matter how much sleep I get.
Oh, I LOVE to go somewhere for several days at a time to just be by myself!
Several days by myself is the absolute best now that I have learned how to enjoy my own company!!
Used to work in a loud, fast-paced, hot, sweaty kitchen for 11-hour shifts and drink for 2 hours afterward, then go home and get maybe 5 hours of rough sleep. Then do it all again the next day, and the next, until I would just save all that pent-up exhaustion for the weekend, when half of each day would be spent asleep or in a daze. I'm so happy to have more energy now that I'm working an easier job.
It's great to know that I am not a rare person that need more time for sleeping. I was once frustrated about sleeping long because I go bed sooner than my roommate but wake up later. But, I figured out why now because I am a INFJ!
YES..
I'm a mature INFJ, and I can guarantee you we need more sleep..
Totally agree, relate to that. I am an INFJ, and when I slept more, I really noticed that my body and mind are much much more calm and I can soo better concentrate!
Other than needing more sleep, I also have to be clean and have brushed my teeth before I go to bed or else I can't sleep because I don't feel comfortable. Any other INFJs experience this?
Yes I can’t go to bed feeling dirty, I feel more comfortable if I’m clean and my teeth are too. So yeah I agree
Do you ever get tired of hearing that we are "sensitive, more emotional & tender-hearted ?" like in a condescending way? I AM!!! HELP!!
You hit the nail on the head. I also feel like I haven't slept enough, because I sleep late.
Thanks, Bo. As an INFJ more sleep seems to be supportive of a healthy and peaceful life.
10 hours is my amount - I have always been a tired person!
I really enjoy whenever I hit more than 6 hours of sleep. I feel like I can do anything i want. And of course, having a quick nap in the daytime and having alone time would make everything perfect.
Thanks for this info about myself. I am realizing that I do get drained easily from all the external stimuli and over commitment. (I have a hard time saying “No”, too, but I am learning to so). Love your suggestions on how to get more sleep.
Ahhh sleep yes, I love being regenerated ❤ Since I was a teenager I always had dark circles under my eyes. I have continuously suffered from iron deficiency through life which makes me tired. I always wondered how parents can be so full of energy for their kids because I'm constantly tired asf just from normal life and I already feel like I do so much. My immune system is crap right now so I need more sleep. Depression has taken its toll on me. I'm going to make a big change next month and get my health back in check and after seeing this I will incorporate more sleep in my schedule 😃
Battle B Wow! Reading your post was like reading about myself. This describes me perfectly. Good to know I’m not alone but so sorry you feel the same way I do.
I have the dark circles too ugh I hate the way it looks on my face, I can’t cover it up all the way with makeup either. I’ve tired every method to get rid of them, but even when I get enough sleep it’s but very good sleep.
True!!
I always start my vacation time with increasing my sleep, because it tends to be what my body is deficient in.
Good nutrition and exercise can help you build more stamina and focus, but rest is needed for metal fortitude.
When I have dreams often, I have many dreams every night and they are all very long and usually interconnected. They are so detailed and thought out, it's like I'm actively thinking of how things would be step by step and how it would actually play out, so I feel that my brain is still using so much energy even while asleep. Perhaps this is another reason I need more sleep, and maybe other INFJs can relate to this. It's like my Ni and Ti goes wild when I'm asleep, and my Te and Fi are used against me to fuel the plots of my nightmares.
We must need more sleep because we take on everyone else’s problems. But, I also have insomnia. I have tried everything and I’m sleeping better. Sticking to a schedule helps me.
I recently picked up a pair of blue blocking glasses after some research on ue last week ght disruption to our circadian rhythms. I get much sleepier much more quickly when I put them on after sunset. Depending on what schedule is working for you, it'd definitely be worth trying them for a few hours before sleep.
i get startled so easily, people walk up to me when i'm working, anything i'm focusing on...it actually makes me make a startled noise, it's comical, scares the other people, anyone else?
Yeah, I just thought I was easily started for no reason. But it makes sense that it could be from a lack of sleep preventing one from focusing on their task And surroundings. So when focused on a task you lose awareness of your surroundings if you are tired or low on mental energy. I never get enough sleep so I’m always like this
Abstract thinking requires a lot of sleep/energy.
This is a INFJ's natural needs for normal functioning!!
Finally, some vindication! 😋
This is my new favorite channel
I need minimum 10 hrs to function fully and feel well and I’m an INFJ. This caused a LOT of problems with my ex husband. He was fine with 4 hrs or 6. He doesn’t even know what an INFJ is and I didn’t know either then.
I’m a property manager in Florida and was managing 15 communities in the political divide, in the swing state and most people are retired. I ended up in the hospital with high blood pressure and chest pains.
Thank you sir I finally understand myself more :)
I don't sleep well due to stress from economic pressures in my life. However, I think that I could train myself to sleep more with a conscious effort of shutting down my mind, and I think that with practice, I could lengthen my average sleep time without waking in the middle of the night with a thousand thoughts racing in my head for hours at a time. I also have a habit of spending too much time on YT and FB. I will have to discipline myself to sacrifice my time in that form of entertainment.
I am a newly discovered INFJ. Love to sleep more however I’ve been an insomniac my entire life. I can go up to 2 days without sleeping an only then I will sleep up to 8 hours. Work in retail 😩 always tired, over stimulated however I still can not sleep😕
I have the same problem, I’ve been an insomniac my whole life, and used to stay up till the sun came up when I was little, or stay up for two days at a time regularly, not because I had the energy to but because I couldn’t sleep until I reached a point of extreme physical exhaustion. Sometimes I get so tired I’m stumbling around and slightly slurring my words, getting confused about details, and accidentally drop things more because of tiredness making my hands more uncoordinated. I’m worried people will think I’m drunk so I try to stay home when I’m on my second day of no sleep. I get headaches from it too
@@bananabreadloaf you’re described me with the slur dry mouth no balance 🙈 have an amazing day
Hey bo congrats on the new addition to your family, I'm currently half way through the infj personality guide. Its longer than I thought it would be, but it's all good. Take care
Man youre videos are so thought provoking and I always take something from them to go and practice. Thanks for you're wisdom!
So true. Wow. I feel less lousy now. Lol. I’ve noticed that when I feel overwhelmed with emotions or noise, I pretty much just want to sleep for twelve hours straight - only I can’t, because I have kids. I do well to get 6-7 hrs, especially if you factor in the nights I’m up too late because I prefer nights to mornings! It’s become a vicious, exhausting cycle. 😭
INTP's very rarely get enough sleep. I wish I didn't have to sleep and just be productive all the time and focus on my projects. On some days I get very little sleep and then on other days I crash and all I want to do Is sleep. It's just too inconsistent and makes some days less productive. I do a problem saying no and deciding what to do or not do. If I work on that it will help alot. Increasing Sleep is important.
Thank you so much for these videos!! I mistyped 2 or 3 times as INTJ and a recent conversation with a really close friend brought up the idea of me actually being INFJ. So I did some research and WHOA!!!! 😳😳 I think everything I have heard or read has been right on!! Your videos have been insightful in a way I didn't expect. I am so grateful to have so much more understanding of who I am and why. I downloaded your book and am reading through it now. So insightful!!! Be blessed!!
Slept through the night at a week old and never stopped lol I can truly say I LOVE sleeping, and always have!
This video is amazingly true...sleep is essential for INFJs!
Love to all my fellow sleepers:)
Almost everyone could benefit from more sleep and/or better sleep hygeine. I was hoping for more explanation on why INFJs, specifically, would need more sleep, not just introverts and intuitives. Do you think perhaps inferior Se (and therefore 8th slot Si) could contribute? I've also noticed INTJs tend to have sleep problems. Insomnia, in particular.
Wow, this rings so true! When I was younger I made sure to get more and regular sleep. I went to bed nine hours before my clock would ring. I never fell asleep directly, but rather ruminated over the day for half an hour or so, but that was my routine/whst I was used to and belived normal so I wasn't botherrd by it. It was sort of scheduled awake processing time of my day I guess 😊 As a young adult that schedule went out the window I'm afraid, with more commitments, more studies, more parties, all things young adults are supposed to do... And I always feel sleep deprived. And often get mocked for my need to sleep more than the average person for example if I sleep in during the week ends, when I can sleep 12 hours straight if I didn't get enough sleep during the week! I'm 41 now so I've been sleep deprived for over twenty years! Time to prioritize and stand up for my need for more sleep! Than you for this video!
If you have a teenager you might not get enough sleep. 🥴 Waiting up for my teenager to get home from his activities is SO hard for me. He is an extrovert and always ready for action and doesn't tire easily.
You're right about depression/ happiness and sleep relation
When I work, I work really hard and multitask to get things done. But when I sleep, I sleep for long hours to recover from the exhaustion and burnout. I spend most of the time sleeping rather than wasting time talking to people or socializing because I am a loner. I absolutely hate being disturbed by strangers being asocial.
I definitely need more sleep than others. As I get older, I learn what is good for me is not necessarily what is good for most people. I'm very complicated and few people truly understand me, and that's okay :D
Im a infj I need at least 9-10 hours or more to not feel tired in the morning, but during the week, I only get 7-8. One time, I slept without setting an alarm, and I slept for 13 hours!
So relatable! I also need A LOT of sleep to function at my best.
YES! I have intuitively/instinctively known this about myself from earliest childhood. I was accused of "goldbricking" or being lazy when I just was experiencing my sensory and emotional circuits as fried! I'd get what felt like a buzz on: my ears would ring and I'd go almost mute verbally. A good night's sleep in terms of both length and quality could, and can, turn that completely around. I am day people, so I retire earlier than most people I know, but the benefits come the next morning are well worth it!
Im an infj and i can never sleep. I feel I'd be more productive if i did
I find that it's not just getting that 10 hours of sleep it's when that 10 hours occurs. I need to be asleep by 10 p.m. or I would still wake up feeling not well rested. I'm glad I found a channel that focuses on the infj. New subscriber!
Finally an explanation for why I function best on 10 hours sleep
Infj here looking to see if loving sleep is an infj thing. I looooove to sleep all day long until i can no longer keep my mind subdued. I feel safe no one can enter my room and disturb me with stress or worry. My safe zone to not worry and relax. All my friends hated to spend the night with me when i was a teen because i slept the day away. Im not a mover or a shaker, i really dont understand the world or why we even crawl out of bed to face the world.
The things you describe sound exactly like what’s consider a Highly Sensitive Person. Do you know if there’s a correlation between INFJs and HSPs? I know more introverted people are sensitive as well but I’m wondering about this particular personality type.
Airvian There is a correlation between being an INFJ and an HSP. - An XXTJ
Hi Bo :) congratulations on your baby! I already try to find out before how much time i need for sleep. For me it takes around 9,5 hours and then i wake up spontaneous and im not tired:) sometimes i feel bad because i yawn and yawn but people around me sleep just few hours and they are fully awake. So im glad that im not only one hobby sleeper here :D p.s. sorry for my english, still learning :)
i can hardly sleep at night. i have insomnia. usually, get 4-5 hours.
infj here, once again my husband came to bed and woke me up, so now he's asleep and snoring and i'm wide awake
I tend most strongly towards INFP with also strong aspects of INFJ and INTJ. I think probably best described as a very strongly introverted and highly sensitive INFP. I also find that I tend to do better on more sleep, but improving the consistency of timing my sleep has reduced the need somewhat. If I am unable to just sleep until I wake up (ie every work day) it is extra important to line up on a sleep cycle and not wake up mid-cycle (which will throw me off all day!) so, I usually end up at about 7.5 hours. Going to bed at the same time but sleeping as long as I feel like on the weekends 9 hours or more is much more common. If I had complete freedom in my schedule I wonder where I would end up?
sleeping too much gives me too many LUCID NIGHTMARES
i am starting to wake up about to scream, sometimes crying, sometimes pulling my hair sometimes slapping my face...
i just hate to sleep too much ... if i can stay awake forever i won't mind.
I have a problem with nightmares too. If you live in a state where it’s legal (I do), cannabis smoked before bed can help reduce dreaming and the intensity of the dreams. I still have nightmares a lot, but not as many or as vivid as before I started smoking before bed. Also listening to calming music while asleep can help regulate your mood during sleep and calm the mind. I hope I was able to give you some useful ideas
@@bananabreadloaf sorry but i never smoke.
Wow, great video. Thanks Mr. Bo.
I do not get so much sleep, I have sleep problems since I was young I have problems falling asleep. especially, after stressfull events it gets even worse.I feel guilt and lazy a lot and do lots of things on will power. in stead of being energetic
but really getting older I also want more alone or space time, maybe because I do not get enoufh sleep;p
if possible I do a nap during the day, not eating right makes it even worse.
I do better on less sleep. It’s just hard to do it. 5 hours I am striving as a daily pattern
OMG, thank you for this video. I'm INFJ, I need 9.5 hours of sleep to feel great. If I get less than 4.5 hours of sleep, I become angry all day. The more sleep I get, the more alive and aware I feel when I wake.
I've noticed that by sleeping a lot, I have more vivid dreams and can control my dreams better. I also have a greater command and ability to focus my subconscious better, which leads to better intuition. My INTJ father would probably sleep 10-11 hours a day, if allowed. My INTJ brother has insomnia and gets noticeable anxiety when sleep deprived. My intuition is terrible if I'm sleep deprived. I've studied so much neuroscience to find out why I sleep so much...perhaps too much prefrontal cortex use trying to predict the future is exhausting. The mindfulness movement suggests that living in the moment, makes you more aware and less tired...but I get so bored with living in the present moment, that I always start thinking of the future...millions to billions of years out. I was 1 of the 3 children in my elementary class who could delay gratification and wait another 5 minutes to get a promised 2nd candy if I could wait and not eat the first candy given immediately. I was also 99% on math scores in elementary. I would try to sleep 10 hours a day back then when I was a kid.
Also, my immune system declines if I don't get a good amount of sleep, and I'll pick up colds and flus much too easy.
I think that I normally need around 8 hours but I think that we also need to factor in time before sleep when we can decompress/process the massive amount of information we've been bombarded with throughout the day. Sometimes I feel overstimulated which makes it hard to fall asleep, so then I end up getting less than the ideal amount. I Can operate on less sleep for extended periods of time, ie when going to school and working at the same time or working 60-70 hours per week but if I keep pushing myself I will a) become a huge b*$&# and b) probably get sick or both.
I used to be a heavy sleeper, but as I have aged, I go to bed later and I find it difficult to sleep more than 6 hours at a time. Have started napping during the day. I think that my huge interest in learning new things is keeping me up beyond the time I should be sleeping, as I sometimes find myself nodding off during an interesting you tube video. So, starting now I am going to go to bed 8 hours before dawn. (I normally wake up just before sunrise, in spite of blackout curtains. It will be interesting to see what happens!
It’s normal for older people to have a hard time sleeping long enough. That’s why a lot of really old people, like in nursing homes, get up so early. Not because their generation likes to get up early, but because the body has a harder time staying asleep as long with age. So it makes sense what you’re saying, I hope you are able to get more sleep
I certainly do
what? i sleep 6-3 hours a day without feeling tired. Am i not an infj?
(english is my third language, please excuse my grammar errors)
i am 17 years old, and usually spend 8-10 hours at school and spend another 5-8 hours just drawing in a day, even on weekends i would spend around 17 hours drawing. i desperately want to be an professional artist. i already found myself wasting my first 15 years of my life playing games and i don't want to waste my time anymore.
Why i sleep such hours a day: At the age of 15 i considered myself an atheist and i would always wonder how the christian have this power and energy. a year later and i belief that it was because of 'fear' or ''fear of death'(probably not the right term but whatever) and i tried using that fear against myself. I don't know how but i tricked myself into believing that i would not live longer than 35 years.i literally cannot drop that belief anymore. i have to achieve all of my life goal before 35... i already wasted 15 years...
i get depression very often and there is a chronic hole in my heart. a tight hug is all what i need.
i have 2 people that i can call as friends, i care about other people, and i would listen to them, show love and support, i would even sacrifice for a stranger. on the outside i call them "friends" but inside, i do not feel any connection whatsoever. if i find them wasting my time, i would instantly leave them. i feel like there are 17 people (as far as i can think) that are considering me as their friend.
If not infj, what personality type do i fall into...
Wow! The rock/sand example is so helpful.
Great 👍🏼 now I have an excuse! 😆 I love sleeping. Especially in the morning!!
I can stay awake for 48 - 60 hours.. but I also can sleep for 14hours 😂😂
I'm an INFJ and i rarely sleep and my sleep duration is too short almost 3 hrs a day, and can wake up for 48 hrs with full power and working hard, also if i tried to force myself to to sleep more I can't, but i can rest my body while I'm awake on bed, is that normal? Or any other INFJ like me?
Well, when I work until 9pm or later, I cant sleep right away when I get home! I ended up going to bed close to 2am! I knee I had to be up by 7am. How do I not learn! Other days... I get between 8-10, yes. great!
As an INFJ I can confidently say I would sleep 10 hours a day no problem. I once slept 14 hours by accident.
It has been the bane of my existence not being able to sleep, all my life I have struggled to sleep up to and including this day , I have to take heaps of medication to be able to sleep, I used to drink very heavily, now I just take sleeping tablets and loads of antihistamines, it sucks. This is a priority that a lot of people do not seem to understand, your sleep is a priority then your critical thinking skills will come into play and you will realise, that the things you thought were a priority before , are not . Your happiness , health and that of your family are the priority, being honest with your self is important, then you can set your boundary's, do you need to sleep to do your job or is your job important as to where you want to sleep. If you do not care for societal expectations, go live in a tent. People work for their cars and their homes , one of those things you drive around in and the other you sleep in , they need to be a service to you not you to them.
You should not take the antihistamines for sleep, prolonged use of antihistamines can cause damage to the central nervous system. They may be over the counter meds, but they are actually really serious medicine. Instead you can try motion sickness medicine, it has a side effect of making you so sleepy you can’t stay awake, with just one pill of it. They make non drowsy ones now, but get the ones that Do Not say non-drowsy and they will knock you out in 30-45 mins. I’m a terrible insomniac and I can also never sleep in a car, but I had to take these pills for motion sickness in cars or I’ll throw up on road trips, I took them before they invented the non-drowsy. You can get them in the medicine section at most stores, but I got mine in the medicine section of Oriley auto parts. But please don’t take antihistamines for anything other than actual pollen allergies! And never more than the recommended dose.
Need to take 2 sleeping tablets EVERY night for over 20 years... get about 7 hours if I am lucky. You can go longer without food and water.... hence the torture method of sleep depreviation
6 or 9 hours are my sweet spot for whatever reason. Dat circadian cycle
Im an infj and i need more sleep than other ppl
Infj_Now I know nothing is wrong with me, it's ok sleep more
I definitely need more sleep! Do you maybe have an online personality test you'd recommend? Would like to have my boyfriend do one.
I thought I was an INFJ but as my need for having a relaxing sleeping is not more than 6 hours I may not be an INFJ then.
It's not being gracious to help your wife with your new baby it's called being a father!
Okay ! Let him kno that , fatherhood. It's a priority not generosity.
@Amelia Isabelle Rubin I stopped watching after he said it , in sorry but it stop my attention. I'd rather watch another infj video.
@Danielle Anderson @Amelia Isabelle Rubin @Laura Barber @Bo Miller
You ladies are are correct with saying that it's the duties of fatherhood and not seen as another task to be done.However, I do believe he was trying to use the terminology to express that although he wanted to get more sleep (a choice,) he knew he had obligations to fulfill with daily life (being a father) and that he is empathic towards his wife getting less sleep for whatever number of reasons (i.e. being more sensitive/responsive to their child even while asleep than he may be.) I feel he did his best to not undermine her contributions but possibly instead recognized them by mentioning them. In addition, I'm sure he wanted to keep the video positive while maintaining his message he wished to share with us all. This is not an attack, just offering a different perspective.
@@GonzoEnt thanks for sharing your thoughts. Point is hes a father. There are no perspectives.
@@Danielleanderson428There's always perspectives. ALWAYS.
My take on the video, having watched plenty of Bo's videos in the past, is that he has difficulty expressing himself correctly sometimes, and this was one example of that, and that the intention was to recognize his responsibilities to his wife and child as a contrast to his experiment to get more sleep.
True
8 hrs is all I need
If I wake up early without enough sleep it makes me actually throw up
So true.
I need 10 hours most of the time. or I'm not happy lol.
Question: How accurate is the MTBI test. What is it's biggest strength? Are there other models to evaluate personality? If so, how can they complement or enhance our understanding of our personalities?
I'll leave these questions for anyone to ponder as I think they are important to consider.
@Hardcore Hokage im not surprised is just educated guesswork. I mean, the human psyche (ego) is not even real or tangible, we are like robos running on the wackiest software there is.
In my experience and research it is a useful tool for understanding that people have various different thought processes and do not process the world in the same way, but not very generally useful for slotting one's self into an identity box.
@@dirtywhitellama I don't know if this is a problem but, I find it hard not to identify with the INFJ. It really resonates with me when i study the personality. I don't know if im getting some pysched up influence by the description (like and horoscope), but it is quite more deep than an horoscope. I find myself nodding inside with understanding when i read about it. It kind of feels like the way my mind works.
@@evelic I totally understand. I felt that way a lot reading many of the things about INFJ (although in my case I later realized that INFP was a better fit when I understood Fi - and Si - a little better) It was actually really comforting to realize certain things were just the way my mind works, as opposed to something being 'wrong' with me. And that I legitimately do think differently than the majority of other people out there. Absolutely use it to understand yourself better, if you're into learning that stuff check out the socionics stuff, I like the Dave's Super Powers channel too although some of his stuff doesn't seem to completely match (But his definition of Fi is what clicked for me, so a lot of it is useful, too!)
Just don't be locked into thinking you have to fit into the box of what an INFJ looks like, even if you draw many similarities and gain a lot of self understanding from studying the ideas. That's the point I'm trying to make. You may have personality aspects that don't seem to 'fit', and that's ok. One explanation I read that made a lot of sense for me, puts the personality types more like landmarks than boxes. So, my personality would be located by saying "I'm pretty close to INFP, but INFJ and INTJ are nearby, too". That works for me. Ultimately, you have to decide what works for you, too :)
I need soooo much sleep...ughhh
I hate waking up 😂😂😂
Yep. Sleeep. Infj needs more sleep.
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It's 4am.....Mwuhahahaha!
Here I am, watching this video, after having slept about 4 hours last night. 🥹