Not My Type... But Married
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ส.ค. 2024
- How spending our first Valentine's Day with a newborn sparked a conversation of our nontraditional love story. What made us commit to each other without the initial spark? Let's talk about it.
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00:00 - 02:30 - Intro
02:30 - 08:00 - First Impressions
08:00 - 16:49 - Becoming friends first
16:50 - 18:00 - Actively looking for relationships?
18:00 - 20:16 - Doing things we wouldn’t normally do
20:16 - 24:00 - Moving from friendship to relationship
24:00 - 26:53 - Taking your relational desires to God
26:53 - 29:30 - Today dating space
29:30 - 30:50 - Finding all aspects of your spouse
30:50 - 37:30 - The journey of being a spouse
37:30 - 41:15 - Growing in love
41:15 - 45:37 - Ebeny’s Advice
45:37 - 48:30 - Raf’s Advice
48:30 - 49:04 - Ending
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There has been a lot of comments in regards to us settling to be with each other, being insecure, and not being equally yoked etc. Based on the commentary, it’s pretty obvious that only segments of the episode were watched. “Not Your Type” is so much more than physical attraction. Yet, that has been the only thing that majority has wanted to weigh in on. We are examples of individuals who submitted to God’s Will above our “initial” reactions. Thankfully, we have been blessed to experience growing in love through our love for Christ. We see each other in a way that only we will understand. While we don’t expect everyone’s story to mimic ours, we hope that through this episode you will see how removing “self” can result in the biggest blessing, IF & ONLY IF it’s in submission to God. Be Bless.
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Love this. Only the mature will see the heart of the message.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Several thoughts came to mind as I read a few of the comments 😆 But I'll say I thought you both seem to feel very at home with each other as I listened/watched. I like your honesty/maturity and believe your love and attraction for each other is genuine. Some people are projecting their own thoughts of you and how they feel about this type of conversation as if those are things you're thinking and experiencing with each other. Sometimes we can be too attached to certain fantasies/ideals/preferences about love, so we think love isn't present or something is wrong with a relationship if those things aren't a part of it.
We would love ❤️ to have you on our podcast ‘couple of forevers’ these are the types of conversations we need to be having more of. Not the typical Russell and Ciara goals
Some people just don’t get it , but that’s okay. May God continue to bless you both cause he’s definitely getting the glory! And bless the baby!!
Love It the transparency & your testimony is a divine love story 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Nah I need my man to be overly attracted to me off the rip 😂😂😂 but to each his own. Sound a lot like settling
And this why a lot of women remain single because yall think real life works like Disney. It's not always love at first sight. Sometime love grows. That's real life, sis. God bless.
A lot of these comments are carnal. I totally understood where they were coming from. In a nutshell they had an ideal concept of who they wanted to marry but God gave them who they needed. They didn't settle. They actually compliment each other. Blessings to their marriage.
Exactly
Totally agreed 💯
Amen. Well said.
You can be attractive to someone & not be their “type”.
Something is off here but best of luck to y’all. This was bold of you to post.
I thought I was the only one. It sounds like settling or choosing the second best.🤷🏽♀️
Yea I was thinking the same thing too, this is why people be single. They refuse to not be with someone they want. You can find a wife just to say you have a wife or husband but do you even like that person? How long until someone you actually like comes along and shakes the table?
Absolutely.
Yeah, no. I want a man who’s my type, attracted to me, and that I’m attracted to him. Not just by appearance, by his actions, his demeanor and that he’s a follower of Christ. I want real love that I’ve never received before.
Okay so everyone is talking about this couple- but can we stop for a minute and talk about the beautiful baby? He is such a cutie. 🥰
Honestly men never marry their ideal type. They marry who elevated them and looks good for them. Many people are not with their type not everyone gets to be with their type because their type might not like them so there’s that loll
I wouldn’t say never, it depend if you rich and attractive enough. It depend What type of women you. But yes in general people don’t marry their first choice. But a small pourcentage of people can marry their type
I’ve seen people marry their type and the marriage is very toxic and dysfunctional….
But I’ve also seen people marry the person who wasn’t necessarily their type but were compatible in many other ways and now cannot keep their hands off of each other after many years.❤
I feel like they both kind of give back handed compliments. Like it’s the way they say things and their facial expressions. I’ve noticed that they used dry humor but truly it can come off as mean. It’s a lot of tension while watching this.
They seemed extremely natural with each other. I think people are used to watching fake heavily edited TikTok videos and think that's what love and "healthy" looks like. These two were having serious conversations but still joking with each other. That IS way more real and comfortable than a fake/heavily edited video to make people think they have a fairytale relationship that probably won't last another 5 years.
Idk what she expected or what he expected but looks wise they fit each other. It’s important to be self aware. I’m only in the first 2 minutes and this is hard to watch but im going to finish watching it
I’m at 3mins and I came to the comments because I wanted to see if it was just me feeling the tension lol
Yeeea, it was really tense and I cld see that he’s really not over the type situation. I wld have love to see more of his appreciation of who she is as a person coming from his perspective and not her validating that point. It appears more like she’s into him more than he is
@@deborahcamillerobinson9247 i understand what you’re saying but this doesnt apply to men when looking for a wife. In our bible it states the men always valued the woman’s beauty & married solely for that. Men look at beauty from head to toe. Elkanah even treated his 2nd wife poorly because of it. Ruth was sough out because of it. As a woman you should seek out a provider and protector. The rules arent the same for us. I dont think its wise for a woman to marry or date a man that not satisfied with her appearance. The church has to be honest that men are men. Why is why they date outside the church first.Woman are you be beautiful and in shape( gluttony is running thru the church nonstop). These are just facts!
@@la4894 the why his body would switch at her words. How he became agitated at every word she said, then he would dismissed her praise and nitpicked at her. Purposely embarrassed her. I’m praying for this woman & i hope the christian women are taking notes
@@nahjelaclaudette7538 looks are important to men. It always will be and thats okay. Something the church has to acknowledge & prepare women for. We have diff rules & thats okay!
40 seconds in she is beautiful
Right
I thought wow, she is gorgeous
I agree which is why I'm so confused by his thinking as well as hers. This woman is beautiful.
I was wondering the same 🥲
Thank you so much for the compliment! So are you!
- Ebeny
So this sounds like an arranged marriage; arranged by two logical people with like morals. Interesting 🤔 We (the collective) should have a conversation about bringing back or normalizing courting.
Having a “type” means that there are particular physical or character attributes that you are most commonly attracted to. She even mentioned that she was normally attracted to the ‘Morris Chestnut’ type and he’s more so ‘Shemar Moore’ but was still cute.
That’s ok y’all, they didn’t settle because they valued each other’s character. And obviously they’re attracted to each other - y’all don’t see that baby on her lap? 👀
Don’t let your “type” keep you from your husband/wife out here…
Bingo ! 💯
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She looks like his type to me . They're on the same level looks wise, so Im just trying to figure it all out 🤔 and she's beautiful.
@@deborahcamillerobinson9247 right!!!!
She came up with the title and wanted to talk about the subject. Just because they both are beautiful people doesn’t mean they will initially be attracted to each other. People really need to listen without reflecting their own insecurities on the topic so they can actually learn and understand what God actually what them to share.
Yes He Does!!!
- Ebeny
That's because you assumed "my type" only referred to physical attraction. There is WAY more to being each others type than that...that's the point of the whole video and people are missing it. They are having BIG conversations people aren't used to hearing and people tuned out because they expected the two of them to just smile at each other and talk about how cute each other was....they are more mature than that. These are not teenagers. They were have a grown folks conversation and sadly too many people aren't picking it up.
You can grow attraction for them if they express great qualities that you so desire.
Yes, agreed 👍
I pray for an everlasting marriage for y’all.
She looks like his trophy wife to me in terms of his looks and her looks. This makes me want to reflect on how do we determine what is our ideal type or trophy wife.
On another note his wife really must love him. He seems really tough. Praise the Lord she can handle it well.
This is a mature love. You don’t need butterflies every hour like teenagers. Y’all fit well together. Love the topic
This is a grown folk conversation. My now husband was not my “type” at first. Does not mean he’s not attractive and I wasn’t attracted to him. I am very attracted to him and the man of God he has become. Type can mean many different things. God had a plan for us to be together and do ministry together. People are too busy watching fake love stories on Instagram and on tv. God bless you guys and thank you for sharing.
My sister in Christ, you are so beautiful!! I pray you know that. Your skin is flawless, your hair is gorgeous, and you appear so loving and nurturing! 🤗
To be honest, this is what dating intentionally and with purpose looks like. The title was off putting, but I think it was intentional as well. It got me to click which is what they wanted. Friends, lovers, partners. We should all be so lucky. ♥️
I remember thinking"Lord Shes not even my type," But then I SAID TO MYSELF, How many failed relationships have you been involved in? I answered all of them. Then I asked myself, How many were your type? I answered all of them...I began laughing and thinking, Wow! at the same time.
Ohhh my gosh! 🎯That's so good!
Right! We gotta be honest about our ability to choose what's best for us. Most of us suck at it! God is merciful, help us Lord 😂
From my spiritual understanding & what the ADONAI has revealed unto me is that the worldly concept & the idea of one having a " type" is nothing more than a "familiar spirit" sent by the enemy to sabotage your life. Mainly because "if" you aren't led by the spirit of THE LIVING GOD in all things its easy for HaSatan to manipulate our lives because he studies us all from birth & he knows our likes & dislikes & will attack accordingly. PRAISEVYEVYAH for HIS SPIRIT OF WISDOM & UNDERSTANDING BLESS THE NAME OF THE ADONAI. SHALOM🙏💜🕊
First impression: Him: Nice dress, not attracted. Her: He aight.
So I think the video is good! Buttttt I think he should if he hasn’t yet learn to love you in your love language if you like compliments and lovey dubby stuff he should love you in that way. I don’t like men or women that say I’m not doing this or that but it’s the this or that their spouse needs. Blessings to you guys. Beautiful family
About 65% of the people don't marry their type. Everyone isn't going to have all of the qualities you want, and sometimes your type isn't really your type. Sometimes, people have to grow on you. It's not always a bad thing. It's more so because we are use to a certain type or way. We tend to overlook people, places, and things in life. It doesn't change until we take those blinders off and give things a chance. Then you will only realize what you thought was for you, really isn't for you.
Great point
A lot of men are not married to their "Dream Girl". A popular dating coach on TikTok spoke about that (Anwar White)... and they usually pick the girl that they were pressured to marry or someone who can elevate them in some way.
I like how raw y’all communicate with each other and no one is taking things personally. I love the maturity. Y’all already remind me of an elderly couple in the way y’all communicate. 😅 No red flags sounding off for me.
Right
We are jokey! lol We had a true friendship first and that's not going anywhere. Thanks for watching!
Y'all...they fell in love. GET OVER IT. Lol
This is the type of marriage that will last. Very similar to my story I didn’t see my wife as someone I would marry when I first met her and I’m sure she thought the same. We both fell in love and didn’t settle. We just realized after overcoming a lot we were meant to be
Ideal doesn’t mean best. Usually ideal is a mess and leads to heartache.
This is the type of marriage that last a lifetime❤. I see them growing old together. They are already an "old soul" marriage. Beautiful ❤️ We know what we want God knows what we need. God be like 'no this is your type trust me'.
Yes, God Knows WHAT WE NEED!
This is like watching Maxine and Kyle from Living Single! 😂
😂 you hit the nail!
Facts!
Perfect description
I love the realness in this conversation. You can tell it wasn’t rehearsed to fit a certain aesthetic but it was a genuine convo to have between the two of you. You didn’t have to share this moment with us but I’m so glad yal did! We need more of this. Yal are who yal are to each other and that needs no explanation. May God continue to bless your union.❤
You married mentally and spiritually 😂 before you were married physically. God bless you two and your matrimonial home❤
This is a conversation that needs to be had more often among Christians. Its very interesting your story too.
This is basically what the creators of married at first sight talk about. The moment a cast member says they are not physically attracted to their spouse, they are very quick to mention that relationships/marriages are more than that. I guess it makes sense for tv, but reading these comments people don’t agree with that in real life? In my opinion it doesn’t seem like they settled for one another.
they are looks compatible
Agreed
I write to God all the time❤ He listens
Some of y’all clearly didn’t watch the whole video. He knows his wife is beautiful and is attracted to her. He’s just saying that she’s not his “type” due to how different they are. I was a bit thrown off at the beginning as well but got a better understanding as to what he was really implying. I enjoyed this video and hope nothing but the best for this couple ❤
This was authentic. People aren’t used to that in this world we live in today. Wish you guys the best 💯.
Wow. Only matured persons and believers will understand this. This is so beautiful to watch. You both have grown in love so much. It brought tears to my eyes. This is why our parents stayed married for decades, this right here. Love is a decision. God bless your marriage, it will stand any challenge. Loved this conversation. ❤❤❤
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This young man spoke with wisdom. Some men want the Trophy wife. Looks but not necessarily with a good heart.
The baby is so beautiful and so is mom! God bless!🥰🙏
I can definitely appreciate this type of conversation. Marriage is not a fairytale, especially not a long lasting marriage. Marriage is for grown folks who can be open and honest. When we want what God wants for us rather than our flesh, this is what it looks like. Overtime the relationship is built. Also, God does not call us to idolize our mate. After all, He gives us a help-mate not a fan. For those who get it, they understand this dynamic. Takes a level of maturity to do so. God bless this union.
I agree with this podcast. You need someone who sees past the outer beauty. What if your spouse lost a limb🤔 You need that kind of unconditional Godly love. For better or worse. God looks at the heart not the outer beauty like man does.
Only matured ppl will understand this!! Nobody in the comments can tell us if their great grandparents married their “type” in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter especially 50 to 90 years from now!!
Yeah I think that he chose her because he is thinking 20-30 years down the road. There’s no telling what will happen but he probably was seeking the personal growth. That’s rare for a man this generation. I appreciate this video for that reason.
@travelpeopleandplaces- 💯
The negative comments is why a lot of women remain single because y'all think real life works like Disney. It's not always love at first sight. Sometime love grows. That's real life. God bless y'all.
Can I just say that she is absolutely gorgeous!! Melanin is pooping!!
This baby is so precious
I think this is the actual real way of God putting two people together ❤️ he is a matchmaker, not just physically he knows what the two people need from one another. I love this. It prepares my mind and heart to know this is also a way of God's work.
However you came together you both need to APPRECIATE and SHOW love to each other. It's crucial. Ya'll seem like you're STILL growing into each other.
I feel this comment section is so judgy makes me uncomfortable 🥴
No one would say this to y’all’s face… very un Godly.. but God bless y’all’s union! I’m glad y’all are talking about this!! I’m here to understand, not to push my own opinions ❤
I admire this, thank you for shining light in this very dark room (comment section).
the mocking of Ebby singing that particular night is sending me, please brother🤣🤣💀💀
They are very honest with each other and know how to communicate I see that is TRIGGERING y’all. And as you can see the is literally holding a baby, this is still probably a very new stage in their relationship. Give people grace before trying to disgrace them.
Love how he is correcting her for saying "...heard me sang" when he said "You sung" instead of "You sang." It's interesting how long it took them to recall the first time they met/first impressions. This is a different experience than I've seen people share on TH-cam, so I appreciate the vulnerability. Adorable baby!
Does not my type really mean I’m not attracted to you physically…
In my little world it means way more than physical attraction 🫣 for instance a man who's not kind, financially stable and doesn't have a relationship with Christ is not my type 🫣
@@DK1MM sameeee.
@@deborahcamillerobinson9247 only reason I’m asking because I don’t think I could date someone who’s not good looking to my eyes. Whether he’s my type or not. Like dirty fingernails for an example. Multiple kids/baby mamas/drinks or smokes.
People think initial attraction is everything but it isn’t.
Not at all. Being “my type” simply means preference. You could still be attracted to a person that isn’t your type.
Y'all are crazzzzzzy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 - him making fun of her singing and I fell out with the "Shamar Moore, Morris Chestnut" comparison 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂 Thanks for watching!!
@@UsandOurs Loved it!!!
At first I was side eyeing the title & the first few minutes of the video but then the more I just sat and listen to actually hear instead of judge, this made absolutely so much sense and was an amazing video to watch! I appreciate the full transparency y’all had because in reality it’s not to say the things we think we want or are attracted to are bad and won’t work out but if we are talking about the long haul and a healthy growing long haul that may not be what you think you want because you don’t know what all comes with that and may not be healthy towards growing for either person. Plus again if we are talking about HEALTHY partnership looking at only the now and surface level now it’s not going to be what helps to build let alone grow a good foundation for longevity. Big props to you all and speak continued blessings for you all.
Hi, I LOVE this conversation. From reading the comments, some people haven’t experienced what you’re talking about and can’t relate. I married my preference but it ended being the worst experience I’ve been through. I’m now in a relationship with someone that I would never imagine being with and it’s the best decision I’ve made. A suitmate is better than a preference. Looks don’t pay the bills, it doesn’t shelter your from heartbreak. I understand everything you’ve expressed because I went through it. All of us are not always fortunate to meet our suitmate as well as our preference. Thanks for being brave and opening up!
this was so beautifully said! Thank you for your words of insight, it was very comforting!
Being an attractive woman of God myself and one who is also wise.Because the heart of a person is as of importance than physical beauty. And the Lord said in His word in this scripture 1st Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel :Do not look at his appearance (King Saul) or physical stature. Because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees. For man (humans) looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.
Sounds like me and my wife now we are married 20 years she's my best friend
Funny- people thought my wife and i were odd together- but i think it was our distinct complextions. Funny - their story sounds eerily familiar to me and my wife's, but im 3 years younger. She invited me to church- she was 33 and i was 30. i ran a fixed income and derivatives trading desk at an investment bank at the time (she had no clue what that was😅). She was a virgin before we married (we found out what vaginismus was on our wedding night 😂😂) and i couldn't understand why, that was until i started studying the Bible - we couldn't have been more different - but we were and still are the best of friends. This type stuff is crazy
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I will watch the whole video and edit comment later but when he went in on her singing...I died😂😂😂 My friend that has been married since 2007, they clown each other all the time like siblings!
This was so good ‼️ Also that baby is the cutest 🥹
Aww thank you!
- Ebeny
I think your love story is beautiful, intentional and God centered.
Thank you for your transparency.
Some of us get caught in the love bombing fairytale narrative of relationship. The hard days will come and the “fairytale” love will fade quick leading to chaos. And only the love of Christ will help through those trials and sustain a healthy marriage.
This was great advice and so needed for the age of social media! Instagram vs. Reality is real! This episode will help many get unstuck.
Thank you! The goal is to break the barriers of what social media has created false narratives for, through transparency.
@@UsandOurs btw, my Husband wasn't my type, but we are married and now I only have eyes for him! Glory to God!
@@SheSharpNotFlat YES! That’s it right there!!!
Well, I dated a very attractive guy but he wasn’t my type meaning the things he did at the time and his mindset wasn’t of someone of my type and I tried forcing myself to still be with him bc he was kind and loving to me and my friends always tell me that you can learn or develop into loving someone and it just didn’t work out for me.
I’m SURE another woman would be happy to have him in her life but he just wasn’t my type regardless of his good looks and all
I gotta marry someone I like.
Honestly, it sounds like you had a similar experience to arranged marriages with the bonus of building a friendship. As you said, yall grew together and that seems very similar to how arranged marriages can grow to be love as well. Everything doesnt have to be a love story from a book. Its y'all love story and thats beautiful ❤️
I like that advise about not taking the counsel of friends when you are in the decision making stage. That is WISE, and I think that applies to all relationships.
The title makes you sideeye 👀 & is very catchy! Wife knew what she was doing there lol! But overall, I don’t see anything wrong w/ their experience. I think it’s typical human attraction. You see somebody they may be a 6 or ok looking to you. But if you’re not shallow & get to know that person’s heart & spirit, they immediately go from a 6 to a 10!! It’s not just about the looks, it’s about how that person treats you & make you feel! You guys are a beautiful couple & looks compatible❤ Praying more life, love, blessings🙏🏾🙏🏾 #LoveNotLust #MakingLove2TheMind
I’m trusting God for all my heart desires in my husband that align with his, including physical attraction on top of chemistry & spiritual attraction being the main objective because I know that beauty fades. We see each other hearts. Which lies the real connection. I’m in this thing for the long haul. For Better Or Worse Til Death Do Us Part. FOREVER❗️Purpose, Calling, & Destiny Aligned.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12 God, my husband, & I.
I couldn't have said it better 👌🏽 I believe there's no perfect partner but God knows I want a man who finds me attractive and vice versa.
This is most marriages in real life. People dont typically marry their dream person. I wouldnt prefer it, or marriage at all but as long as their values align, i hope they treat eachother well.
I wish more people had this conversation because most people I know didn't marry their initial "type" and many of them are still married after 10 and 20+ years. Just saying. The thing is many people "think" they know their type but really don't. They end up learning more about themselves when they end up with the person they thought wasn't their type. Sometimes that's the fear and why they don't pursue someone else...because they ARE afraid of growth.
Title caught my attention so I read the comments as a preview to make sure this wasn't going to be some messed up video where one of them are bashing the other and to my surprise the comments seem to have missed the intro where this husband and wife state who created the idea (his wife) who agreed to film it (her husband) and that they were both okay with making this a topic of conversation because they are okay now and happy with their decision. I'm only at the beginning but I thought I'd mention that for viewers that read the comments don't let them deter you or encourage you to skip around the video or you might me subject to missing key parts. And before I continue on with the video please remember yall physical attraction is not everything many people that get together based on that grow apart and end up divorced because as we age we will begin to look different and through different stages of life your husband/wife may see you at your worse and if they are only there because you are pretty/handsome that is a recipe for disaster.
I’m doing the same and came across yours, so now I will watch it thx🖤
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch our entire video & shedding some light to what we shared.
Wow I actually love you alls story because it’s realistic, you all actually did things the correct way. You all were friends first and got to know each other( courts-man-ship). Then asked God for permission. You all weren’t caught up in looks which is amazing because beauty fades. Y’all connection is much deeper. Life is not always a Cinderella story and thats just the reality of it all.This is amazing. Way to go guys I’m so happy you all decided to share your story with the world.❤
Both of you are very Mature and way above your years...Stay focused on your Vision for your family. And what it is you both want to accomplish together . ❤❤❤
I understood totally what they’re explaining… it’s the classic case of YOU CAN’T help who your heart falls for … as young adults we’re not accustomed to stretching ourselves beyond LUST .. lust is typically the driving force of who’s considered ATTRACTIVE when we’re young.. as we mature who crave SUBSTANCE more than MATERIAL things. Men usually want a Wife & she’s most likely completely different physically and mentally than all the women he’s had failed relationships with.. women usually no longer crave the bad boy & desire to be with someone they can trust and make them feel loved, appreciated & respected .. So as we round into form … we can end up with a person typically we would’ve never looked twice at in that way because now our scope of life and what’s needed has changed 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ i enjoyed the transparency because many can RELATE
She's naturally beautiful
This was very real. And I appreciate the authentic interactions of a real married couple instead of those that are curated for social media. My husband and I are nearly 7 years apart so I get what you're saying.
I’m in this predicament as well and it’s made me look outside of my flesh but the fruits of the spirit. Such a powerful position to be in because God shows you it’s so much more than someone’s splendorous nature and helps you too look at people the way Jesus did.
“We tried it and never untied it”❤ that is so cute!
These are the relationships that last a lifetime!! Many blessings to you both thank you for sharing and yes most people have not watched this episode all the way though based off the comment section!
I know exactly what y’all are talking about & referring to. It’s 100% real & honesty 🤞🏽
My parents started off not attracted to each other but grew in love through God and have been married and actually happily married for over 30 years
New subscriber off this alone. Love the authenticity, transparency.. this is raw and real. People let “social media couples” misconstrue the reality of relationships. You guys are great together. I can see the connection and how y’all connect - it’s more mental. You both are definitely compatible in energy.
I’m tuning in!! ❤️ So happy for y’all! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you Katrina! So glad to have you here! Hope to bring you some laughs 😂
I think this couple experienced duality which is a beautiful love story ❤❤
I loved this conversation! Maturity and Vision!! I'm taking notes! Beautiful couple 💛 Praying for your continued growth in love and marriage!!
Well first I want to say thank you guys for being honest and open and sharing your story! Next it’s so many people who feel offended or off put by this topic and truth is this is sooo many peoples marriages and relationships right now. Most people are not with their ‘ideal’ partner…heck a lot of people are in even worse positions they’re the stepping stone relationship or they’re the cover up. Honestly a huge majority of relationships are not the ideal I think that’s why it offends so many people because they want to be the exception to the rule. Once you step outside of ego and actually operate above it actually can open your eyes to the whole situation. Anywho much love. ❤
Thank you for showing a working, truthful and honest marriage. Talks like this are needed before and during marriages.
Thoroughly enjoyed this interview. Raw and real. Don’t see much by majority content creators.
This was a blessing, this is proof of God is in it then you can’t lose. This a great testimony because so many of us fold because we aren’t granted our ideal person!!
Can you do a hair routine please? Your hair looks very beautiful
Thank you so much! While I don't think I did anything special I'll attach in the info below:
1. Wash Hair
2. Protein Treatment - Honey & 1 egg (let sit for 15 minutes)
3. Wash out treatment & deep condition hair
4. Blow dry hair & flat iron hair in a curling technique
5. Pin curl hair with bobby pins
6. Silk scarf
7. Remove pins the next day & Boom!
This was sooooo good yall!!! I mean real good. You’re on to something here ❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks so much for tuning in!!
I think in the body of Christ, we have forgotten or lack the knowledge of what marriage truly is about and what it is. It’s not ONLY about romance and “Love” it is a covenant and a coming together ordained by God to complete a purpose. Eve was not created only for companionship but to come together with Adam complete the purpose of tending to the land/earth. Yes attraction and love are important BUT let God write you love story He will do it better than you can. How many times have we prayed for a blessing and God fulfilled it in a whole different way than you thought?? Ideally they may not be each others “type/pattern” but God did something new in their lives and their obedience has yielded them the blessing of this marriage and now family. I feel like they’re compatible in their humor and sarcasm. What we may not understand is not our business receive the wisdom they’re telling and leave the judgment at the door. So many people missed the blessing of Jesus when He was on earth because He didn’t look like the “Prince” that He was proclaiming to be. He didn’t look like He was the royalty and blessing He proclaimed so they denied Him, even crucified Him!! Have your desires but don’t lose sight of what really matters. Don’t deny your blessing because it doesn’t look like what you “want it to be” 👀
Amen!
i kind of feel like feels like hes settling due to her being dark skin and thats alarming had she been an average looking light skin woman this video wouldnt even exist. that is all but great video...i guess
No, I don't see that at all. They're equal in attractiveness. He's not physically attracted to her. He didn't say a single physical attribute about her that he liked.
@@Sirchingsince he didn't have to its pretty obvious why she isn't his type. She is pretty in my opinion and alot of men would see her as their type. He doesn't
Appreciate you watching. You’re right, there would be no need for a “not my type” video if we originally were each other’s type. As far as settling, I’m mature enough to not ask any female for her hand in marriage if I’m “just settling”. Settling and uncertainty are different. Again, Preciate you watching and we hope you continue to check us out.
- Raf (The husband)
Hey! I have a question for the husband who replied to the comment. I just find it strange that you didn’t defend your wife’s skin tone. Can you comment on that?
@@UsandOurs fair response. life is short date who you is your type. I rather a man not talk to me knowing he prefers lighter than me rather than investing and committing to me knowing if he found a woman who was type and would date him he'd be conflicted.
Lol chemistry. The Honesty, balance, caring of eachother.
I just loved this video so much ☺️very controversial topic being honest with everything and just realising that yes you loved each other on the other hand you had to see you compliment each other and marrying someone realising they will affect every aspect of life is not about love you surpassed that stage to realise there is more you need in a patner 😊😊
I needed this bc im in the SAME situation omg this is real so i dont feel so crazy after all