Why is no one talking about how great this video was in general, it was light-hearted and fun, but also Dylan knew when to be serious, his advices (when he wasn’t joking) felt so genuine. He could only choose the stupid ones for a funny video but he also picked the „real” questions and tried to relate and be helpful. Good job Dylan
If I ever meet Dylan (which I will) I’ll go up to him and say “hey, this is really weird but has anyone ever told you that you look exactly like the guy from tangled?”
Okay, so if I understood that correctly: If I ever meet Dylan, I should NOT purposefully bump into him. Instead, I should look at him and say: „Do you wanna have sex? Right now? No strings attached. I have college classes, but I could drop out.“ Did I get that right, or did I miss something?
"im gay but homophobic" try to surround urself with more open minded ppl because that homophobia is internalized. i struggled with internalized homophobia and for me i had gay friends who changed the negative perspective i grew up with. homophobic surroundings make u homophobic, so accepting surroundings should make u more accepting :) that's what worked for me
Yeah. I don't specially support lgbtq blablabla. But it's horrible if you are homophobic. They did nothing. And you cant just not be gay (someone actually said that you can just be not gay it was on youtube and he had that weird gay flag with 🚫 sign wich pretty obviously means they didnt grow up with a father) its really weird. And people think it's not as bad as racism or sexism even though it is sexism if you really think about it (yes im a whole year late)
I'm not homophobic but I don't particularly agree with the moral implications of homosexuality. I'm a Christian who disagrees with homosexual practice in general and I feel like some of the arguments brought up by people of the LGBTQ+ community are sometimes either nonsensical or simply misguided. I have gay friends, and they respect me as much as I respect them. I overall feel like homophobia is something that isn't particularly a bad thing (talking about the dislike or unconfortability aspect, not the prejudicial aspect). I think that being confortable with homosexual practices isn't something that you are obligated to do because people support it. It's your choice to determine how you feel, but I believe you should respect everyone if you're homophobic or not. As for the other side, I would also like to add that while some people act as if someone is acting irrational to be unconfortable with homosexuality. I think those people truly can't see another person's perspective well enough to consider it. Some people are turned down by the idea due to religious beliefs, but also due to the fact that some people forced the practice on them. I hope homosexuals or people in that community don't choose to be like that and force this lifestyle on other people who choose to avoid it. I guess the simple argument "don't be homophobic" is not only super basic and inconsiderate, but also implies that we're doing something wrong by feeling a certain way about sexual practices. This isn't about race or gender, both of which have no moral implications. This is about sex, which makes anyone justified to feel a certain way about it. "Don't be homophobic" has the same implication as "don't be gay." (Before anyone says this, you can definitely change your sexual orientation-as in you have a choice to be gay or straight and the idea of this being unchangable is entirely a myth made to have an argument to justify these practices-and as a result, both implications work.) To summarize, I think that asking someone not to be homophobic without understanding their perspective puts me off because it implies that there isn't any more to the reason why they're homophobic. My parents are both friends with gay people and also tell me that despite the fact that it's wrong, we should never attack people because of it. I think the prejudice side is completely wrong and we should never judge or discriminate against gay people simply because they are gay. The answer shown in the video, understandably, was meant to be fast and quick, so they couldn't go into detail, but I think that adressing this with a "pick this side" attitude isn't the best approach. PS I'm using the definition of homophobic that refers to either the dislike or unconfortability with gay practices. I'm not referring to prejudice against gay people. If you would like to criticize this comment, please do so respectfully, and if you have questions, respond here.
Holy shit. Thank you. “You don’t hate your favorite TV shows, your favorite music, etc.” was incredibly profound. It’s been rough lately and that did help a little.
Thatis the BEST way I have ever heard someone describe homophobia. Homophobia has no excuse,so homophobes need to yeet themselves out the window of ruining peoples lives and retire from their old full-time job of making everyone miserable.
okay but in religion it tends to be they can respect it and not support it and a lot of people think not supporting it is ‘homophobic’ so technically that’s not the best way to put it 😭😭
@@alliexcx5576 because of religion 😭😭? not everyone believes in our religion but still respect it the same way they can’t support lgbtq+ but respect it
For the person with the messy room (or anyone who struggles with that), after you take accountability for your mess, here's some practical advise on how to tackle it. If something is going to take less than two minutes to do, don't put it off. Do it the moment. If cleaning something is going to take longer than two minutes, schedule a time for it in the near future. For example, putting your books back on the shelf. Less than two minutes, do it as soon as you're finished. If you're not sure if you're done reading for the day (don't lie, first off, you are), put a bookmark in. It's easy as hell to take a book back out and open to where you left off. If it's something like dirty clothes on the ground, putting those in a basket takes less than two minutes, do it. If you're going to rehang clothes that don't need to be washed and that takes time, lay them on a surface for the time being. But honestly, the longevity of your clothes will improve if you just take care of them in the moment. Laundry can be a long task, so make a day for it. Don't wait to put away your clothes after they're dry, include that time in the schedule on laundry day. The two minute rule has helped reduce the worst of my procrastinating and pile-up of things I leave lying around. The other thing I've done, which has honestly been time consuming as all hell, has made it easier to access and put away things. I despise drawers because they're a pain to open and close and open and close and open and close and dig around through then the whole drawer is messy and it's so annoying. So for my clothes, I literally built shelves. They're just easier to see and manage, so I'm more likely to actually put my clean clothes away. For my art supplies, of which I admit to hoarding, I organized all of them. It took actual days. But now they're easy to find, they all have an easy place to access, and now it's simple to put them back in their box and in their home. It's not a perfect system yet (it includes fuckin' drawers, ugh), but it's much less of a chore to clean up. Even when I'm not sure if I'm done painting or sewing for the day, I know it's not going to be a hassle to put away only to take it out forty minutes later. So yeah, two minute rule, and make a system for your stuff that is easy to access. It makes cleaning up so much easier, and it makes me way less stressed because I'm not surrounded by stuff. My mom was a hoarder, so clutter makes me so anxious. My ADHD makes it easy for me to bounce around hobbies and tasks, so I've had to make it a simple thing to stop and restart projects AND keep my space tidy. Wasn't the easiest task to accomplish, but so worth it.
Also, GET RID OF STUFF. It's so much easier to clean when you have less of everything. Do you need 5 pairs of black trousers? No. Do you need cds? No, just keep your faves and use the internet for the rest. Do you need to keep those books you already read? No, sell or give them away. And stop buying more! Use the library, borrow them, get pdfs. Who needs all those pens and earrings and scarfs??
yes!! this! I kinda didn't like how dismissive Dylan was with that question 😅 your comment is way more helpful. also i really appreciate you typing it out in detail ^^
My problem is figuring out what even needs to be done and how to do it. It feel like my brain can't even comprehend what the issues are a lot of the time. I don't actively put it off, I just literally don't know what it is. So how do I do something I can't think of? Big problems I can't figure out the how and many other problems I can't even find. Even though I know it's there. (I believe I also have ADHD)
@@AnimeRayanne Now that's relatable. It took them 30 years to give me an ADHD diagnosis, and damn. How do you retrain the brain of bad habits and relearn executive functioning from the ground up? I sure do wish they'd worked it out sooner with me. One thing that has helped me is finding a style of journaling and note taking. I have always been huge on lists, although I have the habit of losing them or forgetting which notebook I wrote it in, etc. Maybe it's a gamer brain thing, but I love crossing things off a list. And, it helps me put thoughts in order. I make lists for groceries, for chores, for wishlists of items I want to buy, for craft projects I'm working on, for weekly tasks.... I can break down something like 'sew dress' into additional bullet points of 'cut out pattern; trace pattern; cut fabric; mark seam allowance'... and so on, so I keep track of how much I've done and how much there is left to do as well. I learned of a style of journaling called Bujo, which can be as plain or fancy as you want. The biggest draw is the journal has an index. So whatever page you decide to put your list on, whether it's in order or not, you can add it to the index and find it later. What I wouldn't recommend doing is trying to set up a fancy bujo right away, nor would I recommend starting a journal right in the middle of a hectic life moment. I was pretty good with my old planner, but swapped to bujo right as I started a new job. Now everything is a meeeeeess. Take time to practice with it before giving up any other organizational hacks you use to skate by. I can't say I have my life in order now, but between spending a lot of time creating a system to store my things and committing to a style of planner that allows me to be disorganized in an orderly way, I have somewhat improved. At the very least, my apartment is cleaner. My internal landscape is still a piping hot mess tho. :)
@@Prizzlesticks I also wish people figured out my mental issues and tried to help me sooner. It's really is difficult trying to deal with it all when I'm already an adult. Which makes me feel worse about myself too, like I should do better now cause I'm an adult. (I'm 20 almost 21 so younger than you were though.) My parents always knew something was up but they have their own issues and didn't know how to help me. My mom has anxiety and depression and my dad has depression and apparently bipolar disorder. There's so many things I'm "supposed" to do that I was never even taught and I can't learn as easily as other people. Looking it up is just overwhelming and I can't really conprehend it by only seeing it like that. I'm still living with my mom in the apartment that I grew up in. So many problems that were already there before I was even aware that they were an issue... How do you deal with years of house neglect that's been present since you were a child? When you've never even been taught how to do basic things like mopping the floor? I also have quite a few lists. I keep them online though so I don't have to worry about losing them. Lol. The To Do List for stuff like clearing is hidden below one that's more about entertainment though. Sometimes I'll just send myself stuff on messenger cause lists can get overwhelming for me. I worry to make about the way it written or how organized it is. I do like going back to a list and being able to erase what's already done. Especially with how much I forget I have that one and then can get rid of a few things at once. Even though I did those things so far apart. A lot of the time I'm just going to forget to even add it to a list though. It's either important enough that is in my daily routine which I remember, a big problem that's too overwhelming to do or a little problem that I'll keep forgetting exists.
I was also incredibly scared of what other people thought of me, like everywhere I went. Then I decided I REALLY wanted blue hair, so, I dyed it. What I noticed then, was that whenever I was walking somewhere, and people were staring or whatever, I just thought "Oh, it's probably my hair" I asumed positive intent, like they liked my hair, or if they didn't, I noticed I didn't care as much. Such a confidence boost!
Yeah, I suffer with quite bad anxiety and now I'm just pretty alternative looking so it's like I've taken control of why people are looking at me Before if anyone looked at me, I would always assume the worst of it and worry super hard Now I can just go "oh I have blue/black hair, facial piercings and I'm wearing like 20 pentagrams at once so yeah that tracks"
I know Dylan is fun and all but he really helped me with this. I see in the comments that I’m not the only one who felt heard by his words about the “1% a day” concept and I think I just gained a new perspective on life. Thanks for helping so many people Dylan:)
Props to that girl telling about her concerns of still beeing a virgin. I find it always strange that people still complain about that stereotipical statement "if a dude sleeps with a bunch of chicks he's fame, if a girl does it she get's called a whore" becouse they think it's still reall, when in reallity the new generation or girls (at least where I live) LOVES to talk about how many dudes they got into bed and the ones getting locked at funny are actually those who didn't have sex at least ones when they hit the age of 18.
Both statements are still made. That first stereotypical statement is still said a lot, specifically by more conservative/traditional people and it’s a very real issue. There really is no winning when it comes to how people view you
For the person who feels like she is on the verge on killing herself, I know how hard life is. I’ve been in your shoes since I was young. I hated myself, hated my life felt like I didn’t belong. I worked extra hard to make people around me happy and they just ended up taking advantage of me. I went from psychiatrist to psychiatrist, therapist to therapist, I took so many different meds and I still felt like sh*t. For me, what helped was realizing that I was in control of my own life. I could do the things I want and Dylan is right taking little steps helps but even if you can’t fathom taking the whole steps is okay. Doing 10% of a step is still progress. At the end of the day, just know you are precious and loved. It takes time to heal yourself and from the pain you have suffered and it’s okay. You don’t need to love the life you have, but hopefully one day you can find peace.
I feel bad for the girl asking about her virginity. I didn’t lose mine till I was 22. Just embrace it. If it gets steamy with a dude just go as far as you feel comfortable. If he’s a decent guy he won’t make a fuss. If he’s not, lose him.
Growing up though, women are made to feel bad for either losing their virginity and being a "slut" but then in the same sentence get taunted if they are still a virgin. It sucks bc no matter what we do we get attacked. And yeah I agree it's sad that a 19 year old young women already feels too old. It's horrible
@@izzybrace118 It's actually just a "teen" thing. The idea that boys don't have sexual insecurities is just silly. I guess we have taught girls that their insecurities are the biggest and most valid, but it's not true. Some of the worries of girls and boys are different, but many are the same.
Noone: Dylan: soooooo the college I went to closed down. Did you know that? I attended a college that closed down. The college I studied at NO. LONGER. EXISTS.
Adding on to the point of doing the 1% task towards your happiness. Here are some things you can do to feel better but aren't big tasks: -Brushing your hair -Washing your face -Tidy your bed -Make breakfast or a tiny snack -Put regular clothes on -Brushing your teeth -Putting the dishes in the sink or dishwasher -Making yourself a nice drink (coffee, tea, a soda with some nice icecubes) -Doing a face mask -Putting out clothes for today or the next day -Doing your make-up or hair to feel more confident -Cleaning your glasses (if you have them) Just pick one (or if you feel up to it, more) and do it! You'll feel much better afterwards
The girl that’s 20 and never had sex: I’m a girl who never lowered my standards to date/hook up with people and was 19 until I got my first bf and lost my virginity. We’ll be together 9 years in September and are engaged. The right guy won’t think it’s weird.
This was.. I’m kinda proud of him? The whole “1% each day” concept is something that I’ve been both doling out to friends and strangers but also practicing myself. To see somebody else give out that advice is heartening.
@@althealligator1467 of course it’s easier said than done, and the change is such a small increase that it feels hopeless. But a month, three months, 6+ months down the line you look back at where you were compared to now. At that point you realize it works and you keep doing it, you keep practicing.
For the girl asking about her virginity. Most people around your age don't know what they're doing either so don't worry about that. So so many people loose their virginity after 20 because there's a chance you might meet more people then. Plus, virginity really is just a concept.
It's a psychological phenomenon called an "invisible audience" all teenagers and adolescents think everyone is watching them and obsessed with them but it's because they're all obsessed with themselves, but no one else is actually looking.
It's so true and freeing, though! Also, I like to pair this with the "good faith" mindset: sometimes I look at people because they are interesting, acting nice or looking good; so why wouldn't others also have these thoughts when looking at me? And again, if I think something bad or not nice about someone, I just reprimand myself and go on with my life - "what a bummer for them, anyway that's not my problem"
To anyone moving out on their own or going to college: i can't tell you about homesickness because i have zero object permanance, but being able to mold your "household" to your image is so liberating. You don't get yelled at to take out the thrash at a specific tine when you were already doing something. You can hang posters with thumbtacks whereever you want. Or if your landlord lets you nail stuff on the wall all kinds of pictures. You can listen to whatever podcast, video, show, movie while doing "chores". Its not a chore anymore think of it as maintenance. So that the next time you want to eat or do stuff you can just reach into the cupboard and not be met with no plates and having to do it before eating. Sorry way to specific i know. If you got no flatmates you can where whatever you want for at home attire. You will figure it out. Dont do it based on how your/you were expected to do it, do it how it is most fitting to you! You are capable, independent and valid!
The advice on how to tackle depression by working on becoming happier incrementally is wonderful! I’m generally at a better place than i used to be and I realized that that’s exactly what I did! I slowly removed things that were bogging me down (moved away from my codependent parents, applying for a new job), then when I was getting more energy and motivation I started doing more things for myself, like working on losing the quarantine weight, buying myself nice beddings so I can sleep better, and now entering a healthier relationship. Sometimes I fall into bouts of lower moods and motivation, but knowing that incremental steps is the way to get better, keeps me from getting stuck there. Suchhh great advice dylan!
Dylan is such an entertaining person. I love watching his videos and his videos are especially helpful when I'm feeling anxious and/or bad in any way. Absolutely love his videos. 💖
I've always liked your humour and your videos and your face, but I don't think I realized before what a good dude you are. Thanks for making this video. I hope there'll be more like it. 😊
It's not that simple. Even if it was, you can't simply all-of-a-sudden be confortable with practices that go against your moral compass. Why should we agree with homosexuality? Why should be confortable with practices that aren't normal? I'm not homophobic, but I'm talking from a homophobic person's perspective.
@The Space Place it was a joke, obviously, the people who are homophobic are going to take a lot more than "why are you homophobic?" To stop being homophobic The joke is it's really hard to say something that could change someone's world view so by saying he ended homophobia by that one line its funny because it obviously won't work but it's fun to imagine a situation where it would
i honestly really needed to hear a lot of this, i’ve been going through an extremely hard time due to my mental health and a lot of this has helped. thank you dylan!! 💗
in dylan’s defense, the girl’s flirting technique at the bar was really clumsy and vague. like I would’ve pushed her back even harder bcz I would think she was trying to start a fight with me lol
"I would've pushed her back even harder bcz I would think she was trying to start a fight with me" I'm laughing way to hard lmaoooooo I relate so much, I'd for sure push her ready to fight
You have no idea how much your videos help me cope. I live alone and it gets lonely every now and then, especially at night, so your videos always cheer me up and make me feel less alone. I have a few favorites which can bring my mood up every single time (this being one of them), and I can't thank you enough for that. Besides being EXTREMELY funny with a lot of creative jokes, you also have such a positive impact on my life. I started taking your advice on doing small steps one day at a time towards happiness, and I can already feel better. I don't know if you'll ever read this, but I just had to put it out there, so thank you again, Dylan
@@rbhatt2247 okay people have been saying that but i have always been interested in biology. it is the worst timing but this is the only thing i have wanted to do since i was in third grade. so idk, i guess i am just really scared since everyone either calls med school hell or not worth doing.
To the person who is struggling with suicidal thoughts: While the advice Dylan gave is great and can be helpful, some people are depressed due to chemical imbalances rather than problems within their life. The fact that you’re suicidal makes me think that you should try to see a therapist as soon as possible. Existing should not be unpleasant and difficult, and it doesn’t have to be. There are many ways that depression can get better if you ask for help. I promise you that it can get better and people care about you. I hope you get the happiness you deserve ❤️
@@handle1627 You are right that depression is extremely complicated and there is no clear cut explanation for it. However, sometimes people need help and will not feel better on their own. This is where therapy and medication can be helpful. The only reason I commented this was because many people blame themselves when lifestyle changes do not help their depression, but depression is a complicated beast that is hard to fight alone. Dylan’s advice is good, but sometimes people need professional help and should not feel ashamed to need that.
This community is so lucky to have you, Dylan. Saying thank you isn’t good enough to accurately show my genuine gratitude but I don’t know any better, so, thank you.
Someone: "Hey, nice to meet you-" Dylan: "I went to a college that closed down. Don't go to college if it's gonna close. My college was a scam. My college no longer exists. Have I mentioned that the college I went to is permanently closed?"
Me: “Wow, some of this advice actually helps” Dylan 2 seconds later: “Just drop out of college because it might mysteriously close a few months after.”
😂 guys! He went to college and graduated but when he went for visit a few years ago. The collage got shut down due to funding reasons. That's what he said so it has become a huge joke in the community here!
Piggybacking off the "1% better" advice Dylan gave for combatting depression: your "one good thing" for the day doesn't have to be major. Did you get out of bed to eat? Awesome! Slept in because you weren't feeling good? Good job taking care of your body! Listened to your favorite music? Perfect. Baby steps make it feel less overwhelming. Good luck everyone, and take care of yourselves
adding to this- write it down, literally write your day down. or if that makes you uncomfortable write a fictional story. doesn't have to be much or good, but it helps
Also something I realized for me (not all depression is the same I’m sure), a lot of my depression came from constant self criticism. Being mad at myself for not being where I “should be” in life or doing something wrong etc etc. But through therapy I found out doing that to yourself just makes everything worse. If you try being kind to yourself, give yourself patience, change your self talk from criticism to encouragement, that’ll help you to actually start to accomplish the good things you are wanting to do and overall just feel less crappy. Working through negative ideas about myself helped too. To see that most of the time they aren’t true. (Getting therapy is the best I would encourage anyone to try it if they are able).
i agree with what you said on the last one. I'm a junior in college rn and even though i wasn't too scared or homesick compared to a lot of people, it was a weird empty feeling, especially that first night when you go to your room in your apartment or dorm alone and you know your family is and will be far away. It definitely gets easier. it feels totally normal now to be making my own life, and while i love my family and have good relationships with all of them, i definitely feel like my own person. It's a really empowering feeling most of the time. I had a really incredible philosophy professor tell my class that freedom can only come with responsibility. That hit me hard, and though rn i'm not following that advice as i'm up at 3 in the morning on youtube, by and large that's been really helpful to me. Take responsibility for your life, and it is good to be on your own! Your family loves you, and you get to form new, long-distance relationships with them and it's really a beautiful thing!
I relate so much to the feeling of emptiness you mentioned when your family leaves you at your student accomodation/apartment for University/College and you're living alone. I really felt that, and it's been 7 months and I still feel it. It's lesser now and there are good aspects, I have friends at accomodation that I have fun with and it's a sense of mystery and adventure I love. I'm not as close to people here as I am in my hometown so that's the hard part, I still get times I feel really sad that I don't have that homey feeling with family and friends at my hometown. But it's easier to deal with now. I still see my family and friends and it makes it extra special on the days I do see them. I do find myself wanting more breaks to be with them which I do. I also developed a more sentimental quality, wanting them to know how much they mean to me and how grateful I am to them because it breaks my heart thinking if they thought I thought less of them, which I don't at all to any of them. I even love them more. I hate the feeling of missing and loss and I feel like in my life I've barely even felt much of it compared to others.
Dylan : One of the most attractive traits is accountability.. Also Dylan: If you take some of the advice and your life gets worse, I take no culpability, I am 0% responsible.
Great advice for someone struggling with depression. On top of that, remember to keep reaching out. Don't carry that burden on your own. And don't fix a temporary problem with a permanent solution.
"We have therapy at home."
The therapy:
PLSS
Therapy from wish
😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀😂
this comment wins
LMFAO
25% people enjoying incest
25% good advice
50% college is a scam
100% *Humor*
*%100 math*
Where does he get the submissions from?
Adds up to 200%
Dylan: "the most attractive trait is accountably
Also Dylan: " if any advice from this vid makes your life worse I'm not responsible"
He already said he hates himself so this makes sense
😂
This is why he's 30 with no girl. Lol jk
@@melodi2036 I thought he has a girlfriend
@@Somasommmaa if he does, she's a secret lol. If you're talking about Misoa they very clearly said in their videos that they were just friends
Dylan: "Drop out of college."
Me a college student: "Is this a sign?"
Yes it is.
Same 😂
love ur profile pic
No
lol same
"just found out i'm gay but i'm homophobic" ah yes, self hate is the most important.
me when I go to chik-fil-a
Self hate is the best advice. Ever :,)
yes i'm gay yes i'm homophobic yes we exist 🙄
@@vitamins00 I’ve never related more 💀
@@vitamins00 same but the homophobic/transphobic hateful chicken soup is so good 😩
As soon as you read out the word “college” we all knew where this was going…
Yes 😹
well... not to college...
every time
Agreed!😂😂😂
YEAH
"Mom can I have therapy?"
"No we have therapy at home."
The therapy at home:
good parenting
@@teatsofgargamel i agree
Why is no one talking about how great this video was in general, it was light-hearted and fun, but also Dylan knew when to be serious, his advices (when he wasn’t joking) felt so genuine. He could only choose the stupid ones for a funny video but he also picked the „real” questions and tried to relate and be helpful. Good job Dylan
"Do you procrastinate?"
Dylan: *Literally has been working on his book for years, not even halfway done*
I feel called out on this as well because I've been working on a book for years as well
I think half of us are gonna be dead when he finishes the book or if he ever gets to the end lol
@@tiredblueboy3162 🤣
This part
Not me having been writing a book for seven years and it’s still not done🤩
someone: “so I have this problem..”
Dylan: “don’t go to college if it’s going to close in a few years anyway”
lmfao 💀
He ought to put that on a shirt xD
@@DreamingHearts "My college shut down".... thanks for the doodling idea
Wait...that happened to my mom
If you have a dream that require a degree then go for it don't go college if you aren't ready or don't want to
If I ever meet Dylan (which I will) I’ll go up to him and say “hey, this is really weird but has anyone ever told you that you look exactly like the guy from tangled?”
And then you add to clarify: “you know, EUGENE” and he will never speak to you again. Your welcome🥰
@@loveofmylife7854 make sure you say it's FLYNN xD
YES
Dylan is clearly traumatized about college.
Good, I'm not the only one.
Dylan should probably see a therapist about his college trauma. With a professional who graduated from a college that* is still open, preferably.
😂😂😂😂
LMAO
*that* is still open
Im so sorry i had to 😭
Oh
I was not ready for this comment. I almost spit laughing
someone: talkes about college
dylan: My COlleGE ShUt DowN
thats hilarious! loool
I literally thought i might get a clearer idea if i asked him what should i major in
Ok ik my question is nor here nor there but idk where else to ask this but how do i submit to one of these forms or whatever?
LMAOOOOO 😂😂😭
"I'm gay."
"But I'm homophobic"
Stage 1: Denial-
In case that person already is foward step 1, maybe in step 2 now lolll
What is the implication here?
DYLAN IS 30?? WHAT he could tell me he’s 17 and I’d believe him
WAIT WHAT?!?! HE'S 30?!! I honestly thought he was in his late teens to early twenties
huuuuh 😂 teens ? I think he looks like he coud be around 28
lmao, I thought that he is in his twenties. Like 26 or sth like that--
damn, he do looks good
His style fits too much this year that i thought he was 22!
30 is not old at all, i’m so confused why y’all think that. he looks his age💀
dylan finding any excuse to talk about his college closing down is just hilarious
Ikr🤣
😂
Same energy as James Marriot’s “I’m trilingual”
My online high school/ homeschooling group shut down so i feel this on a deep level
@@torrejohnson3940 god what do you do now then?!
Okay, so if I understood that correctly: If I ever meet Dylan, I should NOT purposefully bump into him. Instead, I should look at him and say: „Do you wanna have sex? Right now? No strings attached. I have college classes, but I could drop out.“
Did I get that right, or did I miss something?
Don't forget to give him a compliment about his petite nose or whatever
Perfect, people!!! 👏👏👏👏
Please do this and tell us how it went.
@@nikacoldblue yes and call him sanitary
@@sophe8602 honestly, I will never forgive Dylan for making me start using the word sanitary and then he abandons it
"im gay but homophobic"
try to surround urself with more open minded ppl because that homophobia is internalized. i struggled with internalized homophobia and for me i had gay friends who changed the negative perspective i grew up with. homophobic surroundings make u homophobic, so accepting surroundings should make u more accepting :) that's what worked for me
I was gonna comment just this!
Wow, this comment was simple, real, and humbling. Yes, improve your environment, and it will in turn improve you. 😌
Yeah. I don't specially support lgbtq blablabla. But it's horrible if you are homophobic. They did nothing. And you cant just not be gay (someone actually said that you can just be not gay it was on youtube and he had that weird gay flag with 🚫 sign wich pretty obviously means they didnt grow up with a father) its really weird. And people think it's not as bad as racism or sexism even though it is sexism if you really think about it (yes im a whole year late)
surround yourself with homophobic people :troll:
I'm not homophobic but I don't particularly agree with the moral implications of homosexuality. I'm a Christian who disagrees with homosexual practice in general and I feel like some of the arguments brought up by people of the LGBTQ+ community are sometimes either nonsensical or simply misguided. I have gay friends, and they respect me as much as I respect them. I overall feel like homophobia is something that isn't particularly a bad thing (talking about the dislike or unconfortability aspect, not the prejudicial aspect). I think that being confortable with homosexual practices isn't something that you are obligated to do because people support it. It's your choice to determine how you feel, but I believe you should respect everyone if you're homophobic or not.
As for the other side, I would also like to add that while some people act as if someone is acting irrational to be unconfortable with homosexuality. I think those people truly can't see another person's perspective well enough to consider it. Some people are turned down by the idea due to religious beliefs, but also due to the fact that some people forced the practice on them. I hope homosexuals or people in that community don't choose to be like that and force this lifestyle on other people who choose to avoid it.
I guess the simple argument "don't be homophobic" is not only super basic and inconsiderate, but also implies that we're doing something wrong by feeling a certain way about sexual practices. This isn't about race or gender, both of which have no moral implications. This is about sex, which makes anyone justified to feel a certain way about it. "Don't be homophobic" has the same implication as "don't be gay." (Before anyone says this, you can definitely change your sexual orientation-as in you have a choice to be gay or straight and the idea of this being unchangable is entirely a myth made to have an argument to justify these practices-and as a result, both implications work.)
To summarize, I think that asking someone not to be homophobic without understanding their perspective puts me off because it implies that there isn't any more to the reason why they're homophobic. My parents are both friends with gay people and also tell me that despite the fact that it's wrong, we should never attack people because of it. I think the prejudice side is completely wrong and we should never judge or discriminate against gay people simply because they are gay. The answer shown in the video, understandably, was meant to be fast and quick, so they couldn't go into detail, but I think that adressing this with a "pick this side" attitude isn't the best approach.
PS
I'm using the definition of homophobic that refers to either the dislike or unconfortability with gay practices. I'm not referring to prejudice against gay people.
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Holy shit. Thank you.
“You don’t hate your favorite TV shows, your favorite music, etc.” was incredibly profound. It’s been rough lately and that did help a little.
dylan’s “lukewarm advice” is better than any advice i could ever pay for😭
I read this as Leukemia advice at first 😭
@@saniyahahmad7217 Honestly it's not that far off
@@saniyahahmad7217 lmfaoo
Honestly yea I'm gonna cry this is so wholesome and thoughtful
Legit the "make your day 1% better" was really inspiring
I might be wrong but I don’t think Dylan is over his college being a scam
hmm
Did he do a story time about it?
i think u might be wrong didn't u see the video he is totally over it
He's not
Neither would I
The amount of salt towards his college is gold, makes me laugh every time.
Being homophobic because of THEIR religion is like someone saying “I’m on a diet so you can’t eat pizza”
Thatis the BEST way I have ever heard someone describe homophobia. Homophobia has no excuse,so homophobes need to yeet themselves out the window of ruining peoples lives and retire from their old full-time job of making everyone miserable.
okay but in religion it tends to be they can respect it and not support it and a lot of people think not supporting it is ‘homophobic’ so technically that’s not the best way to put it 😭😭
@emiyo why not support it though thats stupid
@@alliexcx5576 because of religion 😭😭? not everyone believes in our religion but still respect it the same way they can’t support lgbtq+ but respect it
@@eemiyo0 what does "not supporting" mean?
Dylan’s only personality trait: going to a college that shut down
That's not true, he has other traits like... writing a young adult novel he will never finish lmao
And he's also tall
And oh how can we forget him and his "MiSdiReCt" 🤡
Nooo... he also worked on the voice
Don't forget his love of sour patch kids
No one:
Still no one:
Dylan when someone mentions college: “My CoLleGe ClOsEd dOwN, iT wAs A sCAm”
If it's for profit and doesn't count.
diploma mills are so sexy 😩💅
lol
he missed the chance to say "you wake up and your college is closed forever"😭
The way he smirked as he said "love you guys" he literally knows what he's doing
Dylan trying to solve our problems like he can solve his own >>>>>
don't call him out like that, he's really trying hard to write 5 chapters in 3 years ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
^^^^^^take this advise from megha^^^^^^^^^^
@@connorw8760 to be clear, I'm just joking 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol ok
“My dad has a gold tooth”
“My dad has diabetes”
Dylan: “mY cOlLeGe ShUt DoWn”
I both love and hate the fact that I understood this comment immediately 🤣
😂😂😂
For the person with the messy room (or anyone who struggles with that), after you take accountability for your mess, here's some practical advise on how to tackle it.
If something is going to take less than two minutes to do, don't put it off. Do it the moment. If cleaning something is going to take longer than two minutes, schedule a time for it in the near future.
For example, putting your books back on the shelf. Less than two minutes, do it as soon as you're finished. If you're not sure if you're done reading for the day (don't lie, first off, you are), put a bookmark in. It's easy as hell to take a book back out and open to where you left off. If it's something like dirty clothes on the ground, putting those in a basket takes less than two minutes, do it. If you're going to rehang clothes that don't need to be washed and that takes time, lay them on a surface for the time being. But honestly, the longevity of your clothes will improve if you just take care of them in the moment. Laundry can be a long task, so make a day for it. Don't wait to put away your clothes after they're dry, include that time in the schedule on laundry day.
The two minute rule has helped reduce the worst of my procrastinating and pile-up of things I leave lying around. The other thing I've done, which has honestly been time consuming as all hell, has made it easier to access and put away things. I despise drawers because they're a pain to open and close and open and close and open and close and dig around through then the whole drawer is messy and it's so annoying. So for my clothes, I literally built shelves. They're just easier to see and manage, so I'm more likely to actually put my clean clothes away. For my art supplies, of which I admit to hoarding, I organized all of them. It took actual days. But now they're easy to find, they all have an easy place to access, and now it's simple to put them back in their box and in their home. It's not a perfect system yet (it includes fuckin' drawers, ugh), but it's much less of a chore to clean up. Even when I'm not sure if I'm done painting or sewing for the day, I know it's not going to be a hassle to put away only to take it out forty minutes later.
So yeah, two minute rule, and make a system for your stuff that is easy to access. It makes cleaning up so much easier, and it makes me way less stressed because I'm not surrounded by stuff. My mom was a hoarder, so clutter makes me so anxious. My ADHD makes it easy for me to bounce around hobbies and tasks, so I've had to make it a simple thing to stop and restart projects AND keep my space tidy. Wasn't the easiest task to accomplish, but so worth it.
Also, GET RID OF STUFF. It's so much easier to clean when you have less of everything.
Do you need 5 pairs of black trousers? No.
Do you need cds? No, just keep your faves and use the internet for the rest.
Do you need to keep those books you already read? No, sell or give them away. And stop buying more! Use the library, borrow them, get pdfs.
Who needs all those pens and earrings and scarfs??
yes!! this! I kinda didn't like how dismissive Dylan was with that question 😅 your comment is way more helpful. also i really appreciate you typing it out in detail ^^
My problem is figuring out what even needs to be done and how to do it. It feel like my brain can't even comprehend what the issues are a lot of the time. I don't actively put it off, I just literally don't know what it is. So how do I do something I can't think of? Big problems I can't figure out the how and many other problems I can't even find. Even though I know it's there. (I believe I also have ADHD)
@@AnimeRayanne Now that's relatable. It took them 30 years to give me an ADHD diagnosis, and damn. How do you retrain the brain of bad habits and relearn executive functioning from the ground up? I sure do wish they'd worked it out sooner with me.
One thing that has helped me is finding a style of journaling and note taking. I have always been huge on lists, although I have the habit of losing them or forgetting which notebook I wrote it in, etc. Maybe it's a gamer brain thing, but I love crossing things off a list. And, it helps me put thoughts in order. I make lists for groceries, for chores, for wishlists of items I want to buy, for craft projects I'm working on, for weekly tasks.... I can break down something like 'sew dress' into additional bullet points of 'cut out pattern; trace pattern; cut fabric; mark seam allowance'... and so on, so I keep track of how much I've done and how much there is left to do as well.
I learned of a style of journaling called Bujo, which can be as plain or fancy as you want. The biggest draw is the journal has an index. So whatever page you decide to put your list on, whether it's in order or not, you can add it to the index and find it later.
What I wouldn't recommend doing is trying to set up a fancy bujo right away, nor would I recommend starting a journal right in the middle of a hectic life moment. I was pretty good with my old planner, but swapped to bujo right as I started a new job. Now everything is a meeeeeess. Take time to practice with it before giving up any other organizational hacks you use to skate by.
I can't say I have my life in order now, but between spending a lot of time creating a system to store my things and committing to a style of planner that allows me to be disorganized in an orderly way, I have somewhat improved. At the very least, my apartment is cleaner. My internal landscape is still a piping hot mess tho. :)
@@Prizzlesticks I also wish people figured out my mental issues and tried to help me sooner. It's really is difficult trying to deal with it all when I'm already an adult. Which makes me feel worse about myself too, like I should do better now cause I'm an adult. (I'm 20 almost 21 so younger than you were though.) My parents always knew something was up but they have their own issues and didn't know how to help me. My mom has anxiety and depression and my dad has depression and apparently bipolar disorder. There's so many things I'm "supposed" to do that I was never even taught and I can't learn as easily as other people. Looking it up is just overwhelming and I can't really conprehend it by only seeing it like that. I'm still living with my mom in the apartment that I grew up in. So many problems that were already there before I was even aware that they were an issue... How do you deal with years of house neglect that's been present since you were a child? When you've never even been taught how to do basic things like mopping the floor?
I also have quite a few lists. I keep them online though so I don't have to worry about losing them. Lol. The To Do List for stuff like clearing is hidden below one that's more about entertainment though. Sometimes I'll just send myself stuff on messenger cause lists can get overwhelming for me. I worry to make about the way it written or how organized it is. I do like going back to a list and being able to erase what's already done. Especially with how much I forget I have that one and then can get rid of a few things at once. Even though I did those things so far apart. A lot of the time I'm just going to forget to even add it to a list though. It's either important enough that is in my daily routine which I remember, a big problem that's too overwhelming to do or a little problem that I'll keep forgetting exists.
I was also incredibly scared of what other people thought of me, like everywhere I went. Then I decided I REALLY wanted blue hair, so, I dyed it. What I noticed then, was that whenever I was walking somewhere, and people were staring or whatever, I just thought "Oh, it's probably my hair" I asumed positive intent, like they liked my hair, or if they didn't, I noticed I didn't care as much. Such a confidence boost!
Yeah, I suffer with quite bad anxiety and now I'm just pretty alternative looking so it's like I've taken control of why people are looking at me
Before if anyone looked at me, I would always assume the worst of it and worry super hard
Now I can just go "oh I have blue/black hair, facial piercings and I'm wearing like 20 pentagrams at once so yeah that tracks"
@@crptpyr Exactly that!
if Dylan doesn’t have a character in his YA book that went to a scam college I’ll be rly upset
I guess we'll see in 10 years lmao
@@Lovelyclarii naw 20
Nah babe, more like 40
ya'll know its 60
@@aa.s.7065 yeah you right but we should push it to 120
someone: my mom passed away-
dylan: damn it. it’s because she went to college. listen- don’t repeat her mistakes.
Omfg 😂😂😂
😂😂😂great advice
100% of everyone who attends college dies so...
I know Dylan is fun and all but he really helped me with this. I see in the comments that I’m not the only one who felt heard by his words about the “1% a day” concept and I think I just gained a new perspective on life. Thanks for helping so many people Dylan:)
Props to that girl telling about her concerns of still beeing a virgin.
I find it always strange that people still complain about that stereotipical statement "if a dude sleeps with a bunch of chicks he's fame, if a girl does it she get's called a whore" becouse they think it's still reall, when in reallity the new generation or girls (at least where I live) LOVES to talk about how many dudes they got into bed and the ones getting locked at funny are actually those who didn't have sex at least ones when they hit the age of 18.
that's definitely not true in all countries, maybe in the west that statement is no longer real, but definitely is in most other places
I’ve found that it’s more of a double edged sword for girls. They can be criticized for having sex too much or not at all.
Both statements are still made. That first stereotypical statement is still said a lot, specifically by more conservative/traditional people and it’s a very real issue. There really is no winning when it comes to how people view you
Dylan: “I’m excited to read these submissions”
Dylan (2 seconds later): *reads incest comments* “okay…. I’m done”
Right those first two took me out
Dylan’s trigger word is “college”.
No FR
nobody:
dylan: "my college closed down it was a scam" every 5 seconds
For the person who feels like she is on the verge on killing herself, I know how hard life is. I’ve been in your shoes since I was young. I hated myself, hated my life felt like I didn’t belong. I worked extra hard to make people around me happy and they just ended up taking advantage of me. I went from psychiatrist to psychiatrist, therapist to therapist, I took so many different meds and I still felt like sh*t. For me, what helped was realizing that I was in control of my own life. I could do the things I want and Dylan is right taking little steps helps but even if you can’t fathom taking the whole steps is okay. Doing 10% of a step is still progress. At the end of the day, just know you are precious and loved. It takes time to heal yourself and from the pain you have suffered and it’s okay. You don’t need to love the life you have, but hopefully one day you can find peace.
I feel bad for the girl asking about her virginity. I didn’t lose mine till I was 22. Just embrace it. If it gets steamy with a dude just go as far as you feel comfortable. If he’s a decent guy he won’t make a fuss. If he’s not, lose him.
Same, I feel sad that a girl at 19 thinks she's too old already
Growing up though, women are made to feel bad for either losing their virginity and being a "slut" but then in the same sentence get taunted if they are still a virgin. It sucks bc no matter what we do we get attacked. And yeah I agree it's sad that a 19 year old young women already feels too old. It's horrible
@@izzybrace118 It's actually just a "teen" thing. The idea that boys don't have sexual insecurities is just silly. I guess we have taught girls that their insecurities are the biggest and most valid, but it's not true. Some of the worries of girls and boys are different, but many are the same.
@@izzybrace118 agreed
@@vlo4829 no it’s not it’s a people thing doesn’t matter how old people get they still act childish
7:00 I appreciate you saying this, Dylan, right as my dad was in the room with me.
*That's one major 'L' for you... RIP*
6:31 we said witchcraft at the same time. should i be proud or ashamed that my humor is dead?
“drop the homophobia” what a genius dylan what a fucken genius
Noone:
Dylan: soooooo the college I went to closed down. Did you know that? I attended a college that closed down. The college I studied at NO. LONGER. EXISTS.
@Leslie A I'd be worried if he didn't 😂
I feel bad for the people wanting college advice
I think there a video where he talks about it a few years ago
no one:
Dylan any time he has the chance: "my college closed"
Adding on to the point of doing the 1% task towards your happiness. Here are some things you can do to feel better but aren't big tasks:
-Brushing your hair
-Washing your face
-Tidy your bed
-Make breakfast or a tiny snack
-Put regular clothes on
-Brushing your teeth
-Putting the dishes in the sink or dishwasher
-Making yourself a nice drink (coffee, tea, a soda with some nice icecubes)
-Doing a face mask
-Putting out clothes for today or the next day
-Doing your make-up or hair to feel more confident
-Cleaning your glasses (if you have them)
Just pick one (or if you feel up to it, more) and do it! You'll feel much better afterwards
Nobody:
Dylan whenever he gets an opportunity: sO gUyS mY cOlLeGe ClOsE dOwN-
im liking this only because it had 29 likes and it was making me uncomfortable
@@huzaifahshaikh8417 acceptable, would've done the same
"I'm gay but I'm homophobic" that is the definition of simon cowell
I CHOCKED
LMFOAOAOA
he's gay and homophobic?
@@user-bu7lx8gs5j Ppl just be saying bs on the internet.
Pay them no mind
It's internalized homophobia
8:57 Needed that
The girl that’s 20 and never had sex: I’m a girl who never lowered my standards to date/hook up with people and was 19 until I got my first bf and lost my virginity. We’ll be together 9 years in September and are engaged. The right guy won’t think it’s weird.
Awww congrats😭🥳
Nobody:
Dylan: let me tell you something AS A GIRL
Dylan’s advice for the depression note was ON POINT
True
As someone who has battled with depression for almost my whole life I strongly agree! It was quite motivational.
@@sannevandenheuvel5635 same
time?
@@emilyuxui 4:45 to 6:22
I feel like Dylan has deep-rooted trauma with his college that he loves to mention, no longer exists 😭
5:40 this part really helped me. thank you dylan it gave me a lot of hope
No one:
Literally no one:
Dylan: “OH YK my college closed down”
Your pfp>>>>
@@priya8855 THANKS im obsessed with Yelena 😩
This was.. I’m kinda proud of him? The whole “1% each day” concept is something that I’ve been both doling out to friends and strangers but also practicing myself. To see somebody else give out that advice is heartening.
Yeah same, I didn't expect Dylan to be this wise
It may be good advice, but it's easier said than done. Not noticing the change happening can be pretty unmotivating.
@@althealligator1467 of course it’s easier said than done, and the change is such a small increase that it feels hopeless. But a month, three months, 6+ months down the line you look back at where you were compared to now. At that point you realize it works and you keep doing it, you keep practicing.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
He is pretty wise lol it's from the people you least expect give you advice that will stay with you your whole life
For the girl asking about her virginity. Most people around your age don't know what they're doing either so don't worry about that. So so many people loose their virginity after 20 because there's a chance you might meet more people then. Plus, virginity really is just a concept.
It's a psychological phenomenon called an "invisible audience" all teenagers and adolescents think everyone is watching them and obsessed with them but it's because they're all obsessed with themselves, but no one else is actually looking.
the fact that troublemakers are in so much more trouble than dylan is everything
Lol best comment so far
LMAO
Someone: says the word college
Dylan: JUST DROP OUT
your serious advice was genuinely some of the best i’ve ever hard you’re so much smarter than you give yourself credit for
Everytime Dylan mention his college that closed I can’t stop laughing.
Dylan is more dedicated to telling us his college closed down than the book he’s been writing for 3 years
Right he needs to see someone about this
So I guess that his college closed down is not part of the book or otherwise it would be finished by now.
“People barely care about you”
Honestly the best advice I’ve been given hahah
It's so true and freeing, though!
Also, I like to pair this with the "good faith" mindset: sometimes I look at people because they are interesting, acting nice or looking good; so why wouldn't others also have these thoughts when looking at me?
And again, if I think something bad or not nice about someone, I just reprimand myself and go on with my life - "what a bummer for them, anyway that's not my problem"
To anyone moving out on their own or going to college: i can't tell you about homesickness because i have zero object permanance, but being able to mold your "household" to your image is so liberating. You don't get yelled at to take out the thrash at a specific tine when you were already doing something. You can hang posters with thumbtacks whereever you want. Or if your landlord lets you nail stuff on the wall all kinds of pictures. You can listen to whatever podcast, video, show, movie while doing "chores". Its not a chore anymore think of it as maintenance. So that the next time you want to eat or do stuff you can just reach into the cupboard and not be met with no plates and having to do it before eating. Sorry way to specific i know. If you got no flatmates you can where whatever you want for at home attire. You will figure it out. Dont do it based on how your/you were expected to do it, do it how it is most fitting to you!
You are capable, independent and valid!
I think people who have homesickness have good homes, so they don't have to deal with those problems tbh
The advice on how to tackle depression by working on becoming happier incrementally is wonderful! I’m generally at a better place than i used to be and I realized that that’s exactly what I did! I slowly removed things that were bogging me down (moved away from my codependent parents, applying for a new job), then when I was getting more energy and motivation I started doing more things for myself, like working on losing the quarantine weight, buying myself nice beddings so I can sleep better, and now entering a healthier relationship. Sometimes I fall into bouts of lower moods and motivation, but knowing that incremental steps is the way to get better, keeps me from getting stuck there. Suchhh great advice dylan!
“my college was a scam” is the new “that’s sanitary”
Wow, "sanitary" is a real blast from the past haha
"do you procrastinate?"
hey dylan how's your book?
FR 🤣🤣🤣
SHAAADE🤣🤣
Dylan is such an entertaining person. I love watching his videos and his videos are especially helpful when I'm feeling anxious and/or bad in any way. Absolutely love his videos. 💖
I've always liked your humour and your videos and your face, but I don't think I realized before what a good dude you are. Thanks for making this video. I hope there'll be more like it. 😊
I already know this is going to be pure gold.
Honestly 😂
Dylan: being serious for almost all the questions
Anything about college: ---DONT GO😡😡😡😡
3:59
*Dylan just ended homophobia*
It's not that simple. Even if it was, you can't simply all-of-a-sudden be confortable with practices that go against your moral compass. Why should we agree with homosexuality? Why should be confortable with practices that aren't normal?
I'm not homophobic, but I'm talking from a homophobic person's perspective.
@The Space Place it was a joke, obviously, the people who are homophobic are going to take a lot more than "why are you homophobic?" To stop being homophobic
The joke is it's really hard to say something that could change someone's world view so by saying he ended homophobia by that one line its funny because it obviously won't work but it's fun to imagine a situation where it would
i honestly really needed to hear a lot of this, i’ve been going through an extremely hard time due to my mental health and a lot of this has helped. thank you dylan!! 💗
in dylan’s defense, the girl’s flirting technique at the bar was really clumsy and vague. like I would’ve pushed her back even harder bcz I would think she was trying to start a fight with me lol
she was probably trying to do that romcom thing where it's like "oops we bumped into each other how awkward guess we gotta fall in love"
LMAO SAME i think after the second bump id just assume the girl just wants to annoy the fuck out of me
"I would've pushed her back even harder bcz I would think she was trying to start a fight with me" I'm laughing way to hard lmaoooooo I relate so much, I'd for sure push her ready to fight
Lol
lol maybe that's what she really wanted. throw hands
Dylan’s glasses give me Harry Potter vibes but his necklace gives me Slytherin vibes and I’m living for it.
Love child of James Potter and Tom Riddle 👀 👁👄👁 …I’ll close the door on my way out lol
Hahahahhaha
@@gibzillaprime STOPP CJKDSJSJSJ
I love the vibes
Harry if he didn't tell the sorting hat 'not slytherin'
You have no idea how much your videos help me cope. I live alone and it gets lonely every now and then, especially at night, so your videos always cheer me up and make me feel less alone. I have a few favorites which can bring my mood up every single time (this being one of them), and I can't thank you enough for that. Besides being EXTREMELY funny with a lot of creative jokes, you also have such a positive impact on my life. I started taking your advice on doing small steps one day at a time towards happiness, and I can already feel better. I don't know if you'll ever read this, but I just had to put it out there, so thank you again, Dylan
*Disclaimer: English is not my native language, so I may have grammatical mistakes :D
Dylan’s advice for taking productivity one step at a time was genuinely some of the best advice I’ve ever heard
Me two years into med school: "Mom I'm dropping out, Dylan says so"
Ooh are you really into med school? Well I am applying for it this year. Can you give some insight into how your life is their? Do you enjoy it?
Nooooo😂
True that! Dedicated and Boards really make you question your life decisions
@@Swiftiebooklover7 its hell.
@@rbhatt2247 okay people have been saying that but i have always been interested in biology. it is the worst timing but this is the only thing i have wanted to do since i was in third grade. so idk, i guess i am just really scared since everyone either calls med school hell or not worth doing.
Troublemakers are elite because we get our own personal therapy sessions, Dylan's lukewarm advice.
To the person who is struggling with suicidal thoughts:
While the advice Dylan gave is great and can be helpful, some people are depressed due to chemical imbalances rather than problems within their life. The fact that you’re suicidal makes me think that you should try to see a therapist as soon as possible. Existing should not be unpleasant and difficult, and it doesn’t have to be. There are many ways that depression can get better if you ask for help. I promise you that it can get better and people care about you. I hope you get the happiness you deserve ❤️
The chemical imbalance story was admitted to be a lie, and they have no idea what most of the psych meds do or if or why they may help or not
@@handle1627 You are right that depression is extremely complicated and there is no clear cut explanation for it. However, sometimes people need help and will not feel better on their own. This is where therapy and medication can be helpful. The only reason I commented this was because many people blame themselves when lifestyle changes do not help their depression, but depression is a complicated beast that is hard to fight alone. Dylan’s advice is good, but sometimes people need professional help and should not feel ashamed to need that.
This community is so lucky to have you, Dylan. Saying thank you isn’t good enough to accurately show my genuine gratitude but I don’t know any better, so, thank you.
Someone: "Hey, nice to meet you-"
Dylan: "I went to a college that closed down. Don't go to college if it's gonna close. My college was a scam. My college no longer exists. Have I mentioned that the college I went to is permanently closed?"
Me: “Wow, some of this advice actually helps”
Dylan 2 seconds later: “Just drop out of college because it might mysteriously close a few months after.”
One of the best videos on TH-cam! the honesty of the way he took the question so seriously but yet so sarcastically I loved it and I learned from it
That's actually so sweet of Dylan to want to try to help when he saw people were watching his videos to cope when feeling down
I wonder what happened to Dylan's college, he almost never talks about it.
Same… I’m not even sure if he went to a college.
😂 guys! He went to college and graduated but when he went for visit a few years ago. The collage got shut down due to funding reasons. That's what he said so it has become a huge joke in the community here!
@@huskiesarethebest1142 I know hahaha We were both being ironic because he takes every opportunity to talk about his college and how it shut down:)
@@huskiesarethebest1142 yeah uh, they were joking as well💀
@@huskiesarethebest1142 yeah I know I'm joking too 😂😂
Piggybacking off the "1% better" advice Dylan gave for combatting depression: your "one good thing" for the day doesn't have to be major. Did you get out of bed to eat? Awesome! Slept in because you weren't feeling good? Good job taking care of your body! Listened to your favorite music? Perfect. Baby steps make it feel less overwhelming. Good luck everyone, and take care of yourselves
adding to this- write it down, literally write your day down. or if that makes you uncomfortable write a fictional story. doesn't have to be much or good, but it helps
Hi there! :D
I feel like such a failure when I don't do much.
But you're right.
I got up
I made pancakes
It's okay
Also something I realized for me (not all depression is the same I’m sure), a lot of my depression came from constant self criticism. Being mad at myself for not being where I “should be” in life or doing something wrong etc etc. But through therapy I found out doing that to yourself just makes everything worse. If you try being kind to yourself, give yourself patience, change your self talk from criticism to encouragement, that’ll help you to actually start to accomplish the good things you are wanting to do and overall just feel less crappy.
Working through negative ideas about myself helped too. To see that most of the time they aren’t true.
(Getting therapy is the best I would encourage anyone to try it if they are able).
@@larae.5553 It's hard to shake those feelings, but I'm proud of you for getting up and making pancakes :)
i agree with what you said on the last one. I'm a junior in college rn and even though i wasn't too scared or homesick compared to a lot of people, it was a weird empty feeling, especially that first night when you go to your room in your apartment or dorm alone and you know your family is and will be far away. It definitely gets easier. it feels totally normal now to be making my own life, and while i love my family and have good relationships with all of them, i definitely feel like my own person. It's a really empowering feeling most of the time. I had a really incredible philosophy professor tell my class that freedom can only come with responsibility. That hit me hard, and though rn i'm not following that advice as i'm up at 3 in the morning on youtube, by and large that's been really helpful to me. Take responsibility for your life, and it is good to be on your own! Your family loves you, and you get to form new, long-distance relationships with them and it's really a beautiful thing!
I relate so much to the feeling of emptiness you mentioned when your family leaves you at your student accomodation/apartment for University/College and you're living alone. I really felt that, and it's been 7 months and I still feel it. It's lesser now and there are good aspects, I have friends at accomodation that I have fun with and it's a sense of mystery and adventure I love. I'm not as close to people here as I am in my hometown so that's the hard part, I still get times I feel really sad that I don't have that homey feeling with family and friends at my hometown. But it's easier to deal with now. I still see my family and friends and it makes it extra special on the days I do see them. I do find myself wanting more breaks to be with them which I do. I also developed a more sentimental quality, wanting them to know how much they mean to me and how grateful I am to them because it breaks my heart thinking if they thought I thought less of them, which I don't at all to any of them. I even love them more. I hate the feeling of missing and loss and I feel like in my life I've barely even felt much of it compared to others.
Dylan : One of the most attractive traits is accountability..
Also Dylan: If you take some of the advice and your life gets worse, I take no culpability, I am 0% responsible.
He has the other attractive trait. Humor.
“your nose is so petite”
Yeah people flirt with me like that!!
but youre a wizard
Yer a wizard herry
Woah woah I didn't know we had Harry Rotter up in here.
Harry Radcliffe
@@christina4012 i am so done with yall😭😭
Im super proud of dylan because he somehow managed to give super serious and mature answers and still be super funny and chill
Great advice for someone struggling with depression. On top of that, remember to keep reaching out. Don't carry that burden on your own. And don't fix a temporary problem with a permanent solution.
Dylan: "I am very excited to read your submissions"
The first submission: "Hold my incest"
PLS
NO ONE:
ABSOLUTELY NO ONE:
DYLAN: *so...let’s talk about my college*
That advice about taking one step at a time is SO important y’all, don’t let ur mental illness rush you to betterment ❤️
Damn man, your advice is actually really good. You are way more insightful than I expected from the funny movie reactions. Nice work.
Dylan: “It’s lukewarm advice.”
Me as the video goes on: “Dylan, this is all solid advice. Minus some of the college advice.” 😂