And sometimes you think, hey I got this! Then there's a "hiccup". And that's okay too, its all how you deal with it and move on. Thats something I learned 16+ years in therapy. Even no contact things can still hurt, it's all about how you react to the hurt.💙
I went silent the day I discarded the narc. It's a challenge remaining silent, especially when I cry over how I was treated and those times when I remember the smirk on his face, when he tried to triangulate me. There have been times where I wanted to call him and scream and say mean things, because the pain was sometimes unbearable, but than I realized how much strength, power and healing is in the silence. Remaining silent through a painful journey is a beautiful thing. Peace and blessings.
I left him and went no contact but before I did I text him, he wouldn’t meet me to talk, he knew what was coming I think, I let rip all I wanted to say, he never replied I knew he wouldn’t but I felt so much better for doing it and calling him a deranged narcissist, he used to say I was deranged so it was only fair I reciprocated it back to him 😂 if it helps you why don’t you write down all you want to say then burn it.
Valarie, Your not alone on your feelings I still feel the same feeling like yours and I'm 17 months out of there and Away from my Ex Toxic Narcissist Girlfriend But I will not break my No Contact and my Silence that was in order to save my own Life. Staying Focused on myself and its a very very good place to be and having your Strength and POWER back brings good things back into your Life. They can go be Someone Elses PROBLEM Now. There LOSS Our GAIN.
Go. RUN. I grew up with a narc brother. They have no love, no empathy, they have nothing to give. You will NEVER get a happy relationship with the narc. Never, ever. RUN. LEAVE. DO NOT REACT TO ANY OF THE NARC PITY PLAY. JUST STAY SILENT. And then heal. Never let the narc near you again, not by person, phone, online. Shut them off completely.
I always experienced that with my sister , ex , daughter & son. Then I started doing the same but that was not me so I stopped. Ridiculous. So true . I experienced it all . Thank you Andrew ❤
Silence also means self-respect. Finally 😉!!! We don't want to be near that low energy anymore. We no longer want to stoop low ⬇️ to please them. Now we know what we are worth 🔝.
Ignoring... blocking and giving the silent Treatment is a major offense against the Narcissist..It is the most lethal thing we can do and is considered a direct attack on their Ego... When we act like we DON'T care anymore, it drives them crazy.... It is our best weapon against them....
True but we shouldn't ACT like we don't care because they can see through a ACT. Once you see them for who they really are you no longer will care about them at all.
having lived for 55 years with a narc , having 3 children together, I can relate to everything that you say. He died one year ago. I never left because of the family. His treatment caused me to seek love in another place , meditation and God I found my heart's desire. I am moving forward with peace, love and joy, and better than I ever thought I could be.
The Narcissist is my daughter. I tolerated Years of emotional and verbal abuse because she's my daughter. She told me to leave her house November 9th, said she didn't like my energy, said she was done. I realized almost immediately that she was giving me a free pass. She told me to leave. We haven't spoken since. Today is her birthday. I skipped Thanksgiving, Christmas, & New Year holidays. I guess this is the final challenge. I simply can't muster up an apology when I did nothing wrong. The silence is actually quite pleasant. I'm finding a great deal of strength inside myself. 💜💚
My adult daughter is the Narcissist too, she's giving me the Silent Treatment currently. And after struggling with it for a while, I'm actually beginning to enjoy the peace now, as Sad as it is. It's So much less Stressful. She lives in a different city.
Yes, some of us have had to cut off offspring - I think this situation is the very hardest to try to heal from... Strength out towards all of us! 💕💗💓💞💝🤜🤛💪💪👍🙏🙏🙏
And DO NOT APOLOGIZE to them - That's on them!!! They're the ones who only thought of themselves by lying to us and about us - continually asking for our help, money, and support, while we got absolutely nothing in return, and, while also believing the lies of the main predator(s) who they supported over supporting us...
Narcissists just don’t appear out of thin air. As mothers you had a hand in raising your children. Also do a check on your behavior habits and make sure you are not also a narcissist or your husband. This personality flaw is passed down…..in many cases.
Andrew there’s nothing sweeter than knowing that our silence pisses the narc off big time . They can’t read you when your silent . It can make them rage more, but just put your shoes on and go for a walk because that pisses them off too 😂…. Once silence kicks in there is very little you can offer the narc because it it’s a very big indicator that you’ve reached the end , your tolerance has run out and you start closing up. Communications and cuddles no longer exist … we are done we are closed books 😔
Your silence means power. You take their control, your indifference devalues them, and that causes them extreme pain. It's death for the narc. You win. Hang in there, you can do this. ❤️
I guarantee you it causes no pain for my narc mother and her golden child son / husband. They think they WON. That all their plotting and scheming over the years to get my inheritance worked, because of my no contact.
Whenever I suggested anything to my narc husband, he would reject it and it would always end up in an argument. So over time I stopped making suggestions and then he would say to me, “you don’t discuss things, you don’t talk”, I wonder why? Because I would be cancelled again and feel like I wasn’t being heard and understood.
Silence is a POWERFUL thing. I had to unlearn my need to explain and to “be known”. I am still working on perfecting it but I have a pretty firm grasp on it now. As empaths, we sometimes have a very deep need to know and BE known. It causes us to over share and over explain EVERYTHING to EVERYBODY. I am not trying to trigger folks, I am admitting a very deep truth that I have discovered within myself. Going through narcissistic abuse has done WONDERS in helping me to let go of my need to explain myself. I came to a very deep revelation that sharing the trauma story to those who “want to know” does nothing but re~traumatize ME. I now tell those brave enough to ask (and I can count them on half a hand) that they have come to the wrong place if the are looking for a replay on events. “I LIVED THROUGH IT. . . .I will be damned if I am gonna live it again by telling a repeat story.” Those who love you will understand and not ask again. For those who try to twist it into some “ Yeah but I heard some things so I want to hear YOUR SIDE.” Don’t get it twisted,they do not NEED to know, THEY WANT TO KNOW. DO NOT FEED THAT BEAST. WHAT I had to settle in my spirit REAL Quick was that IF YOU REALLY CLAIM TO KNOW ME, THEN YOU KNOW WHAT IS TRUE concerning me and my character. If you have any doubts or believe the smear, then you don’t truly know me at all. Here is your hat and there is the door. Stand in your truth. In silence and in strength.
When the containment of abuse was so intense it spilled out in a scream for help to those I thought were my family or friends that I could confide in. Wrong!!! What this did though, was a good lesson in knowing who my family and friends really are! Their self-absorption, denial, lack of empathy and, their disconnect, taught me to go silent with just about everyone I know💔 … it is what it is! I no longer feel the need to pursue so called “friendships” or those who say they “care”. It’s a rude awakening to know that those you’ve shared with would rather misuse my hurt against me than to help me. Their facades and disregards proved to me that my choices of looking for love, were indeed in all the wrong places! With that said, I’m thankful for the lessons that have opened my awareness of the need for self-love and self-care, and how grateful I am for my furbabies unconditional love 💞🐶😻🙏 let your love shine ✨💖
Very well said! It takes time to realize how dysfunctional a relationship is when you find yourself always defending your worth and your actions, and trying to convince someone you are worthy of their love and affection. If you have to basically beg them to engage, then it's time to walk away!
AAXS - wow! So we'll said, especially about "re-traumatizing" yourself when people want your story. I never thought about it that way but it makes perfect sense.
You can leave these people as any others. There are just people. I‘ve told my mother very calmly please not to show up on my birthday and also the rest of my life. This had been the best decision ever. No more drama and chaos. That’s 20 years ago and I congratulate myself, cause to that time I didn’t have an idea that narcissists exist. I had just enough. Let them go.
I understand , I'm going through that , wrote to mum and sis 11 months ago and said 'leave me alone, i have nothing to say to you , you are both control freaks and because you cant control me you get angry and im not dealing with it anymore'. wish i had done it 30 years ago because these people get worse and worse with age.
@@goldmarie171 how did she react ? i snapped about 10 months ago and just thought im not being treated like this , to carry on would have just made me an enabler. theres no sitting down and talking like an adult , tried that and they just started crying because they thought i was attacking them , its like dealing with kids.
Being called smart all your life can actually be a hindrance. I thought I had it all figured out until I realized how clueless I was about narcissistic abuse. No matter how smart people say you are, if a narcissist(s) had their hooks in you from a young age, chances are you’ve taken more bs than anyone could ever imagine. After decades of toxic friendships, jobs and relationships, I finally understand. I’m grateful to have survived it all but it’s funny how much it took for a “smart guy” to learn how to speak less, listen more and watch people’s behavior.
That's exactly what an x- landlord that befriended me would constantly say for years. That I was so smart. Now, I realize that, this is a female narcissist gaslighting word to get a person to trust them, the phrase "you're so smart."
There is being smart, and there is emotional intelligence, they are not the same thing. Some people think they can read a book and change their life, not true, you will never read yourself or think yourself out of an emotional problem, you have to feel it to release it.
I relate!!! My abuse started before I remember as a child....almost every relationship I had had narcissistic overtones...I'm a 60 something grandma who wants to live the best life possible and am trying to forgive myself for being " stupid" for so long...I'm not stupid I just had no tools for so many years!!! Thank you Jesus for people like Andrew and a community like this to help me have the abundant life God meant me to have!!!
@@charmee4045 I agree that they are not the same thing and that you have to feel it to heal it. However, I believe that you can be both smart and emotionally intelligent and still be naive to the manipulation tactics of narcissists. Its possible to understand the effect and not be totally aware of the cause. Especially if you were programmed to put other people’s feelings and needs before your own. This bad programming can override your emotional intelligence. To understand what baiting, stonewalling, gaslighting, invalidation etc is it takes life experience, research and resources like this channel.
Being in the narcissistic relationship was the worst job ever!!!!! It Sucked, big time. Disruptions, gaslighting, stonewalling, rage fits, financial draining, emotionally draining, physically draining...my silence kept me semi-safe for a few days at a time, but even that caused him to become enraged and abusive. Thank God I don't have to deal with it anymore...I am making progress, I just blocked 2 internet hoovers today!!!! Yeah!!!! Weeds be gone! It's cold here...my baseboard heater died, can't be fixed until tomorrow, but it has stopped snowing for now. My door locks have been changed, and for the first time in months, I feel safe. I'm kinda envious, Andrew. You are in the woods and in warm weather. However, I am happy for you, and with everything I have been through this week, not to mention, throughout my lifetime, I am having a pretty decent day today 😊. Loved the video Andrew. Another good one as always. Thanks for sharing. 🙏✌❤🤓😎🥶🥶🥶 good to see you smiling.
I never experienced the silent treatment in my entire life 'til after I married him. It is the rudest and cruel behavior. I was too ashamed to tell anyone about his wacky behavior. Fortunately, neither of my adult children mirror that crapola. I'm not a zombie anymore. It took awhile. No Contact, and quite close to my Best Life. I also periodically re-evaluate ALL relationships, and some don't make the cut! Freedom rocks, and better late than never.
It can be quite an emotional roller coaster living with a Narc. They seem obsessed with portraying a certain image to the public. Zombie like trance for sure Andrew, glad I'm coming out of it✌🏼
When ever my daughter was in a bad mood, she always tried to put me in one too even if I had a great day at work, but when I wasn't doing so well , she just didn't want to hear it and usually just walked out of the room, she just didn't care
My son’s narcissistic dad will to this day try to draw me into an argument or get me to talk. I have been practicing grey rock and silence on him for 15 years and guys it works! He can’t argue with me and disrupt my peace if I simply do not engage in conversation with him. I only communicate when absolutely necessary. When my son is 18, my plan will be to fully block him. Anyway, I save myself so much peace and serenity this way. Namaste Andrew and tribe!
It's amazing, them trying to draw you into an argument to get narcissistic supply. An old tired relationship, (a narcissist) used cussing about something to express himself. It wasn't about me. It was about a company. Now I realize, that when I expressed my distaste, about his use of sware words, he was looking for an argument from me, which he got, to get narcissistic supply. So now that it's a New Year, I will not be talking to him ever again.
My Mom’s late husband was an over zealous, narcissistic, hypocritical liar, and once I learned to not say a word to him, it totally blindsided him. It went against everything that I am, but it was necessary to protect myself from further abuse.
@@TheSpaLife69 I know, it’s hard not to say something to defend yourself or let them know they are wrong or acting inappropriately. Unfortunately, anything you say will be weaponized against you. Best to go grey rock or no contact. It really is the only way to deal with a narc
It is true - silence is gold. I'm convinced that silence is the key both after and sometimes within the relationship with a narcissist. If you discuss or argue with a narcissist, you will most likely experience blame shifting, gaslighting, or the silent treatment. This may trigger your anger and frustration, which will make you suffer more, whereas the narcissist will happily use it against you later. Silence or at least staying calm may protect you from harmful situations. Have a great day over there, and thank you for your wisdom! 🌄 Namaste 🙏
@mz. white I was just thinking the same thing. Talking consumes so much of our precious energy and yet it never accomplishes a thing. Bless you, mz. white. 😇🥰🙏
Hi Anita.I would love to refer to your comment in my next video if you don't mind. I want to expound on the silence that I speak of as well as to reiterate andrew said. I will Share my story of how my silence spoke volumes with the Nark.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE
You can't reason, discuss, argue, compromise or be reasonable, silence is the answer. When he's starting to go off I try and walk away, leave the room, leave the house. Sometimes I succumb and bite back and then not only does it escalate a situation, the following silent treatment ramps up, afterwards he acts like nothing happened while I am again devastated. Thank you Andrew 💪🤐
This is my dad to a T. I'm miserable for days and stuck breathing toxic air while he is, smiling, happy to have unloaded his emotional baggage onto me. Then after a day or so he pretends like it never happened....
Silence for me was a result of wasted words . It did no good to share my thoughts or feelings .. I got accused of being a narcissist because of that .. silence sometimes means ..I give up
This is me. Being in 18 years of a loveless marriage. I’m heading out the dark into the Sun. He always given me the silent treatment. Know it’s my time, my strength, it my peace. Thank you I needed this message on a day such as this. I say let the rose pedals fall as they May! 😮😢
🙏🤍🕊️the only silence I will embrace is the breathing of the trees, the laughter of happy birds the dreaming of the earth. The breeze speaks to me And gently sweeps my skin. I am home, I am loved, I am grateful to hear this silent singing healing with my tribe Of empathic superhero's. 🙏🦊🔥🕷️🐕🐕❤️💚🌷🌟🧡😊🌠
Silence is so powerful, by keeping quiet you don't give the narcissist the negative energy that they feed off called "loosh". This can be hard to do at times because you may want to get back at them, or explain yourself regarding something important to you, or maybe you think they will finally apologize to you but they never will. By running in silent mode you regain your peace of mind, you can meditate & do some self reflection, celebrate your new found freedom, treat yourself to a nice meal or a walk in nature. The bottom line is it's so much easier to regain your sanity by being silent, rather than argue & play the narcissist's games which you will never really win. Please end all sincere communication with the terminally insincere!
Hello Andrew. In some extreme cases, silence does not work. In fact it increases the violence. My husband was not only a narcissist, but he was also schizophrenic, bipolar, a combat vet with PTSD among other mental health issues. Family and friends refused to help or get involved as they were all afraid of him. I reported him to several mandatory reporters who provided his medical care. It was dismissed. In this situation, silence did not work. Please know that there are other women like me who suffer in very complicated abuse that is swept under the rug as it is so intense even the authorities do nothing. This level of violence invoked by narcissists who have mental health issues can be deadly. Silence is powerful, yes, but please acknowledge that for some of us, even that does not work as in my case it perpetuated the violence. You have a wonderful and powerful support mission in your channel. Your community is very loving and kind. Thank you for sharing love and kindness.
I am going thru a divorce. I had been banging my head against a wall trying to communicate with him, trying to get him to see his part in the demise of the marriage. It continued to fall on deaf ears. And when I would show vulnerability, there was no compassion. Finally, I went no contact about 2 months ago and I am finding peace and serenity. Truly, it is empowering and the best way to heal from narcissistic abuse.
I love the peace , silence and non engagement is bliss . Picking up the pieces of my life ! The smear campaign was horrendous , their problem not mine !
Your self- esteem is beaten down from the narc, when you have the courage to climb out / up from relationship, you have to deal with the smear / false accusations, lies which even makes it harder to have to experience at the same time. I remember the mean / ugly looks at church or at my childrens school. God knows your Heart, the truth.. Truly a test to build your strength of character. Blessings, love, peace to Andrew & our community. 🙏 ❤️ 🌞. Once again, Thank you Andrew!! 🐾 🐾. More air time for the doggies , Please! ❤️ ❤️
Pathologic Liars are very good at persuasion, in fact they will be relentless at constant indoctrination....that's how they choose to spend their time on 🌎, feed off it.
The smear campaign I endured involved my two grown sons among others and the devaluing and discarding - 'almost' devastated me. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Many days I'm numb ... I cried last week for the first time.... Knowledge and time have been comforting .... and one realizes silence brings some sense of control and order back into your life ... Yes ptsd .... - deep breaths..... more good days than bad .... working on moving forward with my integrity and truth...... God is good. Thank you for your channel. * thru this experience I learned about the silent treatment - both ways.
I’ve conquered. I’m Very grateful and empowered. The most challenging part of this is that I have an 8yr old in the midst of it. Going no contact and silent has always been second nature to me when I’ve encountered negative and chaotic people.. it’s just difficult when the silence on both ends effects our child. I love this peace after all that I endured in the toxic co dependent-ship with the ex.. however, our child has no idea and just wants his father. In the past years I left the door cracked expecting him to peek in regarding our child expecting a phone call or show up because at one point this is what he was doing when our son was younger on and off until I understood what this all was and put my foot down.. and now No call, No show unless I am doing all of the reaching… so now the ex narcissist’s motto is get on his accord or he disappears for good even away from our child…that’s exactly what happened.. I’m stressed about it from time to time.. it seems like a Win-Lose Situation
Thank you. I never thought I would be here, but I am. I endured 15 yrs of narcissistic abuse. I have lost so much, but I can’t go back, I can only go forward. I am grateful I finally got out.
Thank you so much for your videos, they are really helping. I’m 41 and found out recently my mother is a narcissist, it’s destroyed my life but I’m so grateful to know so I can finally attempt to heal
The smear campaign was truly the most brutal part Not only were relationships with some really cool people ruined, but he was a first responder, and Had convinced his coworkers I was a crazy stalker, so I felt unsafe to even call in an emergency…i ended up moving out of state… it was just too much I’m over the narcissist, but the smear campaign still stings…
“So much easier to submit” haven’t we all been there. Andrew you put the words together to exactly tell it like it was (is). Therapists are great, but unless you’ve lived it, you just can understand. Thank you for the candor. It’s healing !
I got away from my Narcissist 20 years ago and my now husband still doesn't completely understand what it was like for me. I am hoping with videos like Andrew's it will become more common knowledge and more people won't have to go through what we did. 🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
It took me over ten years to finally understand that arguing with a narcissist is rarely ever productive. I had a child with him … so I had to continue to communicate. I learned to pick my battles carefully, calmly and rarely. Leaving a narc feels kind of like leaving a cult. I had to figure out who I was all over again. He told me I was selfish when I put myself first. If you have a child with a narc, Lee communication as brief as possible and as calm as possible. Be respectful and don’t bite the bait when you’re verbally attacked, gaslit and manipulated. It’s imperative to remove your emotions with them.
Silence says so much they will wonder about thats totally out of your concern. Clarity in no contact can be a shocking awakening. They do everything they can to burden you to carry their pain. A wicked transferance no normie can or would want to do. Silence says it all. The Guess Who - No Time
My boyfriend, I did not realize his adult children from his ex were narcissist. They didn't come around for years. And for years we had peace and happiness. But when they did utter chaos happened. I didn't know at the time what was going on, for it was one thing after another. Narcissist are demons! Nothing less can explain it, other than Satan is their role model. The only way out is to run normal people. Move states away. Where they can't come to and just start over. Narcissist are like a cult, that's what the flying monkeys are about. So disconnect, drive, fly or train travel away. Starting over can be tough, but necessary, because you have to get far from their poisonous reach. Out distance them (their influence) and their flying monkeys.
@@marlenevideos8666 You have definitely seen the reptilians. Sounds like a plan. Those who cannot leave their town can still make sure the door is shut tight. It may be you have to become a person, as it relates to them only, that wants nothing to do with you. Whether is fear of repercussions or "other". Whatever opinion they have or develop is out of our care or concern. Its already made anyway regardless as soon as turn your back. A narc is in delusion land in their cult of self. Yes, they sure like the kindred in the club. It is the plague of our time. The numbers estimated are way, way off. The last several years have proven so. Most don't even understand the sacrifices of ww1 or ww2. The cemeteries in France or Belguim with tens of thousands means nothing to them. The affliction has deep roots of unprecedented entitlement without empathy or compassion for anyone. The false bravado is propping up a hollow shell.
Yea I mentioned to him (we need to talk) but he got his own Script ready by the time I went to see him. He scripted it with a silver tongue,he deserved a medal for the Performance,.it was crazy so delusional ,so much in denial of the real truth , of what his behavior.was, so glad I Left,🙏🙏
I went silent since Nov 21 and the peace I feel is priceless 🙏🏻 it was always my fault always. There was no trying to explain how he made me feel, how he made my emotions go up's and down's cause I was the crazy unstable person that didn't know how to control myself 😮 it was exhausting so much happier now 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Choose yourself 🤗. Make a change. Step into the unknown because this is where magic happens. You are absolutely right in everything you said. I'm glad you're enjoying the warm weather 😊❤️
Silence is the way to go. I would rather a hundred times when he is silent, than have a person who is always in rage fits and all other inhumane characters of a Narcissist .
Good topic Andrew. Well in the narcissistic relationship it varied with me sometimes he would give me the silent treatment towards the end I preferred it. My silence began from not knowing the right thing to do or say . But I did love him so I thought it was my responsibility to try and make him happy. It didn't even cross my mind that he was evil and abusive. And now I've gone no contact, completely I am healing and learning. So I do see that I have closed that door. Now I have to lock it . Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew
Good for you ! It took me way to long to realize that no contact is the only way and the only way i realized this was watching Andrew's videos ! Stay strong and be well 💪💪🙏🙏❤❤
I totally agree with you Andrew. We do not owe a single word of explanation to a person who abused us, not a word, we walk away and cut all contacts and keep silent. Narcisists in their insane arrogance and entitlement demand servants and slaves who look up to them and carry out their orders. We need to think bigger and better than that! Thank you and God bless you ❤
Nothing less than predators - Andrew's use of that word is so apparent, appreciated, and Appropriate!! Thank you, to All of us as survivors of Abuse/ Domestic Violence.. We have learned so much!!!
Will no longer be a victim I’m a survivor silence is golden after the abuse I’ve had a friend just come back and apologise which was beautiful we cried together we made a promise to keep in touch . Glad your warming up over there our big heat is coming February hottest month
Hi Andrew you are so right about the silent treatment it works! And the narcissist hate when you give them the silent treatment back...but what is crazy they don't like when you give him the silent treatment back! But they always stonewalling you and giving you the silent treatment they don't like when it's Abel's turn!! I appreciate you more than you know for helping me on my Journey!! you have been the light at the end of my tunnel 🥰🥰thank you so much for being you!! And you was put here for a purpose!! You are helping so many people with your videos and your knowledge and sharing to us what you went through dealing with a narcissist!!
Thank you - left a church and leadership over a ministry due to two narcissists who absolutely destroyed me. My silence and departure caused them to implode and become too confident in their bad behaviours - people started to discern them - empowerment of their own confidence that destroyed them even toward one another. The church is the worst place for narcissists simply because of the love and forgiveness expected and displayed by Christian’s 😢
Unfortunately these type of demons try to weasel their way into church groups ,seduce their way through the ranks of the church to create chaos, dysfunction ,theft ,and a host of other evil things.
@Rebecca Dean it's sad,the one place where you think you'd be safe, these entities are everywhere. The good thing for me is , I now have the discernment to spot these demons.
I went silent to my ex weeks before my discarded, no reason to talk to a crazed person that was only speaking nonsense anyway. I only think it enraged him more, but at that point I no longer cared. Evil is evil no matter how you look at it, and I'm glad my tormenting ex is gone. I could never get into a fight with someone that believed there own lies, no point of that. Thank ya Andrew for everything you help us with and God bless ya and the tribe here. 😁👃✝️ Remember... A year from now, everything you're stressing about, won't even matter.
You state this very well. The way they believe their own lies is horrifying. I have seen my own ex-spouse' brain whirling away until he sets upon a rationalization that serves him. Like reality is made of clay or air. So long as it serves them.
The “ Silent Treatment” is like an extremely, long suffering disease, that eats away at your very core and is invisible to the eye. I suffered years of this from my family, and then sadly from my narcissistic marriage of almost 23 years. However the power that your “ silence “ possesses, is immeasurable. As “ your silence “ means that, no one knows what you are thinking, ever again, so you can no longer be controlled. Such an amazing video Andrew, presented in your own, unique way, of encapsulating the truth. 🙏🏽🤍🦋
The message is beautiful. Thank you. Definitely spot on and I’ll take a much sweeter and more peaceful life now without all the raging moments of silent treatment - because there may have been no words, but the tension, control and anger was so unnerving. Never again. 🙏❤️
If you've been there, then you know how true your words are... Even though I escaped, I guess I am still damaged bc of these people. But through the damage I grew wisdom. Tuff lessons
3 years with no contact and lo and behold my ex friend shows up at my door; thought she was mail lady! All she did was ask a bunch of questions about me
Sorry.... she commented on my new porches, etc said she thinks of me daily, asked how I was doing. Here’s the clincher... she said I didn’t call you before I came over coz I figured you wouldn’t answer the phone! I told her she was probably right and waited for her next question saying yes or ok to compliments of my porches with a smile on my face the entire time and not saying anything to her in between the silence. She finally said well I guess I’ll go and I said ok and she said call me sometime and I said ok and she said ya right and gave a snarky grunt. I could not believe the gall! If she didn’t think I’d answer phone, why come over?? Crazy
@@katieking8830 Oh my gosh, the same thing happened to me on Christmas Eve. The AUDACITY of it all. I haven't talked to you, because of your behaviour, and you just show up at my home and start it all over again... and then burst into tears, and throw yourself at me... I can't. And then, through the grapevine, hear how "worried" she is about me, and how much weight I've gained, my hair is frizzy, etc. It's all superficial, and crazy-making. Good for your for remaining stoic, they don't know what to do with that energy!
It’s interesting how when you’re meant to see something, it finds you. I found this channel randomly as I have been dealing with my own situation with a narc family member. I had tolerated our relationship my whole life but the last straw was when I was at a very low point in my life and when I asked him for help, he responded in the most cruel, humiliating & mocking way that it gave me the creeps. I cut off contact.
Yes it speaks to the narcissist in their minds that we are "mentally unstable"......(Even though I know it's not true, that's what they think and that's what they tell everyone that knows them and us).
When I checked out of the relationship I knew I had did what I never wanted to do to him. We don’t like to give up on the ones we love but it is imperative in life to leave those who have mislead, abused, or manipulated you!
It’s coz it happens by inches and some people haven’t known much different. I’ve been through smear campaigns since a child, v.damaging. It’s great when you realise you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Ever.
Yes, I also experienced the smear campagne (spelling?), committed by my very own father, and I'm still feeling it fifteen years after my father died, because there are still a lot of people, relatives, neighbors, etc. who think I was a horrible daughter, based on what my father told them, none of which was true. Even before he got sick, he told people that I never visited him, and that he didn't know where I lived, when I was actually at his house doing something for him every other day. It was pure hell being his round-the-clock caregiver for several months before he died, but I did an excellent job and was very caring, even scared that I was going to lose him. His doctors told me that I was at the top of my game. He never wanted me at his house when people visited, because he didn't want them to find out that the horrible things he said about me weren't true. He loved to play the victim, because that is how he got attention and sympathy from people, so he badmouthed me to the hilt. I guess we all have to remember that WE know what the truth is, despite what these toxic people say to others about us.
Ugh, the suggesting a restaurant only to be shøt down EVERY time. BOTH of my parents do this to me. It’s been MONTHS since we’ve eaten at one of MY favorite restaurants 😞 Great video today, thanks Andrew! 🤗💋❤️🔥🤗💋❤️🔥🤗💋❤️🔥🤗💋❤️🔥 Hope you all had a wonderful day, my friends!!! Thank you all for being so caring, comforting, and supportive!!! I love you all DEARLY!!! ❤❤❤❤❤Niece and nephew just got here… gotta run! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
They always do. Next to them, you must not show that you are satisfied or happy with something external. You have to hide from them everything that makes you happy and what you love because they will deny you exactly that. Tell your parents that you no longer like your favorite restaurant and that you are no longer comfortable there. Maybe this little lie will serve its purpose and get you right there. ❤️🦋
@@hollylorn131 Thank you 🙏 for drawing my attention to the fact that it is reverse psychology. I didn't know it was called that. Just thought it might help. I will explore the term and its meaning.
Thank you so much. I'm 62, been emotionally abused by both parents, gaslighted all my life by my toxic mother, and tortured by her flying monkeys, my younger sisters. I finally stopped talking to them in 2014 and have been feeling all this time that I owe them a letter explaining my absence. THANK YOU for letting me off the hook. I've been feeling sick; wanting to explain all the reasons I can't keep in touch . . . then I realize that they would just justify their selfish actions like they always have and call me crazy for being the way I am: "overly emotional."
I took the silent treatment option. It got so ridiculous. The narcissist friend resorted to calling my 80 year old parents to cry and blubber about how she'd never been treated this way before. Then it got to "tell her I don't even want her to come to my funeral". My mother delivered the message to me...and we both laughed at my reaction. 😂 As far as I know she is still alive. No concern of mine one way or the other.
"I was an extension of that person"... a very profound statement, Andrew. This is basically co-dependence, which is how most of us empath people are. We do anything we can to make the other person happy, even to the detriment of ourselves. Listening to your inner voice and instincts, intuition, is IMPARITAVE in order to protect oneself. Please, listen to Andrew. He has walked this path, obviously, and his wisdom and lessons will help! He has helped me immensely, get through one of the roughest things I've ever dealt with, and I've suffered abuse since childhood, but being with a malignant narcissist is the worst! But please know that it isn't your fault, it is your programming and the fact that you were manipulated and controlled. Just watch EVERY video Andrew has out here! It will help...promise! ❣❣❣❣
I am currently living in more peace and joy than I ever expected to have. Some of the people I walked away from are circling back. I feel anxious about it, but this is a great reminder to stay the course and keep moving forward. I will take care of myself and not allow myself to be harmed.
I have been in a situation like this. Many people talk about "relationship", for me it is my family. When the covert narcissist is your mom, you never have the chance to create relationships for your own. you belong to your parent. I have gone "no contact" and it is powerful and life changing. But many of my close friends don't understand at all and they even say things that work against the work i have done. "why don't you just maintain friendly relations with your mom, I do with mine". "I've chosen not to talk to her."I say. "you're traumatized! You're traumatized!" that's such a misuse of the word trauma. No contact is an important choice.
Hi Andrew still watching your videos, sometimes you don’t need to cut them off, no contact, cause sometimes they will cut you off, which is great blessings from Australia ❤
I am a survivor of a 1 st marriage he was also physically and emotionally abusive. There are many times I should have died. But God got me through it and eventually got me safely out. You talk about the smear campaign, WOW I have family older kids and anyone else that knows him that are convinced I am the bad person. I got married after to a wonderful man and was able to get a few very Blessed years with him before he passed away. Thank you for your video It is a reminder to me of how blessed I am to have survived
Thank you, Andrew, for this video! Our silence does mean we've closed this chapter on narcissism in our lives and we're winners and it's definitely game over! 🙏 ❤️ ☀️ 💪 ✌️
True hurts but makes you stronger Became stronger finally and moved completely on end of last year. Now face to face if ever would feel awkward. And I'm comfortable with my job more now and almost at the two year mark. Very happy more now than I was the last time I commented on your channel.
Thankyou for the booster shot on NARCS. I AM STILL HEALING . It's harder to heal when you are doing under the same roof. But now I am no longer fooled. Silence has become my best friend. Bless you. Hope is not lost.
Thank you Andrew from Dublin Ireland, my daughter is the narcissist I have endured years of abuse from her now she has entered into smear campaign about me. I have now blocked her and do not contact her she has instigated untruths about me and has stopped me seeing my grand kids which is heartbreaking for me. People are beginning to see through her,I am having counselling past 6 months to help me deal with the fallout from her lies about me. Your piece today is very relevant to me Andrew and I thank you most sincerely. Regards to everyone who has a narcissist in their lives.
I still suffer taurma from the smear campaign I experienced. Your videos help me get through some of the trigger moments I suffer from. Sadly I still am being smeared by certain individuals in my home town. Let's hope what you say is true and eventually the truth will come out.
The truth will come out. It ALWAYS does! It could be hours, days, weeks, months or years, but the truth always comes out! What I have learned is to just sit back and wait, go on with your life and when it happens, acknowledge it, be grateful that you have been vindicated and then move on. The universe/God however you look at life will sort it all out. Stay strong! You will get through this. Your mind has to "process" what has happened. I've been surrounded by many a narcissist in my life. It just takes time. Sending you healing vibes! ❤
Narcs are strategic in starting a smear campaign, and they get others to support them to destroy the target. You would think the narc's supporters would have a mind of their own and not be easily influenced by them. It's no excuse for narc supporters to gang up on narc victims
Ignore the smear campaign don't take the bait rise above the evil agenda. I've had two horrible smear campaigns the stupid Narc made outrageous claims that showed how vindictive it was people questioned the rumours. I laughed them off and said I have no comment to make. I stayed silent, allowed myself to heal mentally and physically. Find love in your heart and love and respect yourself, forgive yourself you were the victim. I prayed for justice and the Narc is getting karma in the form of rejection by everyone and the silent treatment - it took 2 years for the Narc to self implode and face their fake self - it looks destroyed from within, it got what it gave out in return and more. Evil never wins love is the answer. The idiotic Narc I encountered thought it would be fun to take down a psychic lol 💖😇💖
When you go silent it means your in contempt of them. It’s a big sign to them that your not happy at all. And hey let’s face it we’ve all had the silent treatment from them but when it’s the other way round boy! But usually by the time you’ve gone silent it means your giving up and they are loosing you 😔
Thank you for this. It's going to be a challenge being silent. Please pray I can do this. I'm at the end of my rope. I don't know who I am anymore. Silence will be golden 🙏
Yes, once you've learned how to identify these toxic behaviors and red flags, it is like a psychic power allowing you to avoid people who will only damage and hurt you...and making your life better.
You heal in time, anyone out there. You do heal, it takes time.
You are made of GOLD, Pauric your love is all.
Pauric 👍👍👍💞💞😀
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And sometimes you think, hey I got this! Then there's a "hiccup". And that's okay too, its all how you deal with it and move on. Thats something I learned 16+ years in therapy. Even no contact things can still hurt, it's all about how you react to the hurt.💙
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I went silent the day I discarded the narc. It's a challenge remaining silent, especially when I cry over how I was treated and those times when I remember the smirk on his face, when he tried to triangulate me. There have been times where I wanted to call him and scream and say mean things, because the pain was sometimes unbearable, but than I realized how much strength, power and healing is in the silence. Remaining silent through a painful journey is a beautiful thing. Peace and blessings.
Be strong stay on the healing path love peace sent🙏🙏🙏🙏💞💞💞
Me too. You are not alone.
I left him and went no contact but before I did I text him, he wouldn’t meet me to talk, he knew what was coming I think, I let rip all I wanted to say, he never replied I knew he wouldn’t but I felt so much better for doing it and calling him a deranged narcissist, he used to say I was deranged so it was only fair I reciprocated it back to him 😂
if it helps you why don’t you write down all you want to say then burn it.
Amen.
Valarie,
Your not alone on your feelings I still feel the same feeling like yours and I'm 17 months out of there and Away from my Ex Toxic Narcissist Girlfriend But I will not break my No Contact and my Silence that was in order to save my own Life. Staying Focused on myself and its a very very good place to be and having your Strength and POWER back brings good things back into your Life. They can go be Someone Elses PROBLEM Now. There LOSS Our GAIN.
Lol they think we going silent just for a little while meanwhile it's actually permanent
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Go. RUN. I grew up with a narc brother. They have no love, no empathy, they have nothing to give. You will NEVER get a happy relationship with the narc. Never, ever. RUN. LEAVE. DO NOT REACT TO ANY OF THE NARC PITY PLAY. JUST STAY SILENT.
And then heal. Never let the narc near you again, not by person, phone, online. Shut them off completely.
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I did my brother a ghost now ❤
I need to watch these types of videos so that I never get caught in this situation again. Please love yourself enough to walk away
I write everything down so I don’t forget.
I always experienced that with my sister , ex , daughter & son. Then I started doing the same but that was not me so I stopped. Ridiculous. So true . I experienced it all . Thank you Andrew ❤
That’s what and why we are all here ❤ healing heathy 1,2,3 💐
Wow you said it. Yes. They did weed themselves out. Thank God. ❤Thank God. ❤
I have. Have to love yourself. Most importantly
Silence also means self-respect. Finally 😉!!! We don't want to be near that low energy anymore. We no longer want to stoop low ⬇️ to please them. Now we know what we are worth 🔝.
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Yes! 🙏🤍
He's gutter low
Very good Ruby!!
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Ignoring... blocking and giving the silent Treatment is a major offense against the Narcissist..It is the most lethal thing we can do
and is considered a direct attack on their Ego...
When we act like we DON'T care anymore, it drives them crazy....
It is our best weapon against them....
Nicely written
True but we shouldn't ACT like we don't care because they can see through a ACT. Once you see them for who they really are you no longer will care about them at all.
STILL NO CONTACT......5 YEARS 👍👍👍. DO IT Guys.............. You'll Feel GREAT, and Look GREAT TOO 👍👍👍❤️
My thought’s was just about to comment the same thing in around about way .. but you put it nicer than i would of @@christophercox1717
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having lived for 55 years with a narc , having 3 children together, I can relate to everything that you say. He died one year ago. I never left because of the family. His treatment caused me to seek love in another place , meditation and God I found my heart's desire. I am moving forward with peace, love and joy, and better than I ever thought I could be.
Thank you for sharing 🙌😊🙏
The Narcissist is my daughter. I tolerated Years of emotional and verbal abuse because she's my daughter. She told me to leave her house November 9th, said she didn't like my energy, said she was done. I realized almost immediately that she was giving me a free pass. She told me to leave. We haven't spoken since. Today is her birthday. I skipped Thanksgiving, Christmas, & New Year holidays. I guess this is the final challenge. I simply can't muster up an apology when I did nothing wrong. The silence is actually quite pleasant. I'm finding a great deal of strength inside myself. 💜💚
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯
My adult daughter is the Narcissist too, she's giving me the Silent Treatment currently. And after struggling with it for a while, I'm actually beginning to enjoy the peace now, as Sad as it is. It's So much less Stressful. She lives in a different city.
Yes, some of us have had to cut off offspring - I think this situation is the very hardest to try to heal from...
Strength out towards all of us!
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And DO NOT APOLOGIZE to them - That's on them!!! They're the ones who only thought of themselves by lying to us and about us - continually asking for our help, money, and support, while we got absolutely nothing in return, and, while also believing the lies of the main predator(s) who they supported over supporting us...
Narcissists just don’t appear out of thin air. As mothers you had a hand in raising your children. Also do a check on your behavior habits and make sure you are not also a narcissist or your husband. This personality flaw is passed down…..in many cases.
Andrew there’s nothing sweeter than knowing that our silence pisses the narc off big time . They can’t read you when your silent . It can make them rage more, but just put your shoes on and go for a walk because that pisses them off too 😂…. Once silence kicks in there is very little you can offer the narc because it it’s a very big indicator that you’ve reached the end , your tolerance has run out and you start closing up. Communications and cuddles no longer exist … we are done we are closed books 😔
Thank you for sharing 💯🙏🙌
Yeah for being a closed book! They (the narc) can't read you anymore.
@@marlenevideos8666 great comment!
Narcs give the silent treatment too when they’re pouting because they didn’t get their way.
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Your silence means power. You take their control, your indifference devalues them, and that causes them extreme pain. It's death for the narc. You win.
Hang in there, you can do this. ❤️
I guarantee you it causes no pain for my narc mother and her golden child son / husband. They think they WON. That all their plotting and scheming over the years to get my inheritance worked, because of my no contact.
Whenever I suggested anything to my narc husband, he would reject it and it would always end up in an argument. So over time I stopped making suggestions and then he would say to me, “you don’t discuss things, you don’t talk”, I wonder why? Because I would be cancelled again and feel like I wasn’t being heard and understood.
I can relate. You just get to the point where you figure why bother
Silence is a POWERFUL thing. I had to unlearn my need to explain and to “be known”. I am still working on perfecting it but I have a pretty firm grasp on it now. As empaths, we sometimes have a very deep need to know and BE known. It causes us to over share and over explain EVERYTHING to EVERYBODY. I am not trying to trigger folks, I am admitting a very deep truth that I have discovered within myself.
Going through narcissistic abuse has done WONDERS in helping me to let go of my need to explain myself. I came to a very deep revelation that sharing the trauma story to those who “want to know” does nothing but re~traumatize ME. I now tell those brave enough to ask (and I can count them on half a hand) that they have come to the wrong place if the are looking for a replay on events. “I LIVED THROUGH IT. . . .I will be damned if I am gonna live it again by telling a repeat story.” Those who love you will understand and not ask again. For those who try to twist it into some “ Yeah but I heard some things so I want to hear YOUR SIDE.”
Don’t get it twisted,they do not NEED to know, THEY WANT TO KNOW. DO NOT FEED THAT BEAST.
WHAT I had to settle in my spirit REAL Quick was that IF YOU REALLY CLAIM TO KNOW ME, THEN YOU KNOW WHAT IS TRUE concerning me and my character. If you have any doubts or believe the smear, then you don’t truly know me at all.
Here is your hat and there is the door.
Stand in your truth. In silence and in strength.
When the containment of abuse was so intense it spilled out in a scream for help to those I thought were my family or friends that I could confide in. Wrong!!! What this did though, was a good lesson in knowing who my family and friends really are! Their self-absorption, denial, lack of empathy and, their disconnect, taught me to go silent with just about everyone I know💔 … it is what it is! I no longer feel the need to pursue so called “friendships” or those who say they “care”. It’s a rude awakening to know that those you’ve shared with would rather misuse my hurt against me than to help me. Their facades and disregards proved to me that my choices of looking for love, were indeed in all the wrong places! With that said, I’m thankful for the lessons that have opened my awareness of the need for self-love and self-care, and how grateful I am for my furbabies unconditional love 💞🐶😻🙏 let your love shine ✨💖
Very well said! It takes time to realize how dysfunctional a relationship is when you find yourself always defending your worth and your actions, and trying to convince someone you are worthy of their love and affection. If you have to basically beg them to engage, then it's time to walk away!
Excellent post. ThankYOU for sharing.
AAXS - wow! So we'll said, especially about "re-traumatizing" yourself when people want your story. I never thought about it that way but it makes perfect sense.
It's VERY hard to go silent on your own mother. I am in the process now. Stay strong friends. Love you all 💜💜💜💜
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Went silent on my dad my brother no way too negative for me ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You can leave these people as any others. There are just people. I‘ve told my mother very calmly please not to show up on my birthday and also the rest of my life. This had been the best decision ever. No more drama and chaos. That’s 20 years ago and I congratulate myself, cause to that time I didn’t have an idea that narcissists exist. I had just enough. Let them go.
I understand , I'm going through that , wrote to mum and sis 11 months ago and said 'leave me alone, i have nothing to say to you , you are both control freaks and because you cant control me you get angry and im not dealing with it anymore'.
wish i had done it 30 years ago because these people get worse and worse with age.
@@goldmarie171 how did she react ? i snapped about 10 months ago and just thought im not being treated like this , to carry on would have just made me an enabler. theres no sitting down and talking like an adult , tried that and they just started crying because they thought i was attacking them , its like dealing with kids.
Being called smart all your life can actually be a hindrance. I thought I had it all figured out until I realized how clueless I was about narcissistic abuse. No matter how smart people say you are, if a narcissist(s) had their hooks in you from a young age, chances are you’ve taken more bs than anyone could ever imagine. After decades of toxic friendships, jobs and relationships, I finally understand. I’m grateful to have survived it all but it’s funny how much it took for a “smart guy” to learn how to speak less, listen more and watch people’s behavior.
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That's exactly what an x- landlord that befriended me would constantly say for years. That I was so smart. Now, I realize that, this is a female narcissist gaslighting word to get a person to trust them, the phrase "you're so smart."
There is being smart, and there is emotional intelligence, they are not the same thing. Some people think they can read a book and change their life, not true, you will never read yourself or think yourself out of an emotional problem, you have to feel it to release it.
I relate!!! My abuse started before I remember as a child....almost every relationship I had had narcissistic overtones...I'm a 60 something grandma who wants to live the best life possible and am trying to forgive myself for being " stupid" for so long...I'm not stupid I just had no tools for so many years!!! Thank you Jesus for people like Andrew and a community like this to help me have the abundant life God meant me to have!!!
@@charmee4045 I agree that they are not the same thing and that you have to feel it to heal it. However, I believe that you can be both smart and emotionally intelligent and still be naive to the manipulation tactics of narcissists. Its possible to understand the effect and not be totally aware of the cause. Especially if you were programmed to put other people’s feelings and needs before your own. This bad programming can override your emotional intelligence. To understand what baiting, stonewalling, gaslighting, invalidation etc is it takes life experience, research and resources like this channel.
Being in the narcissistic relationship was the worst job ever!!!!! It Sucked, big time. Disruptions, gaslighting, stonewalling, rage fits, financial draining, emotionally draining, physically draining...my silence kept me semi-safe for a few days at a time, but even that caused him to become enraged and abusive. Thank God I don't have to deal with it anymore...I am making progress, I just blocked 2 internet hoovers today!!!! Yeah!!!! Weeds be gone! It's cold here...my baseboard heater died, can't be fixed until tomorrow, but it has stopped snowing for now. My door locks have been changed, and for the first time in months, I feel safe. I'm kinda envious, Andrew. You are in the woods and in warm weather. However, I am happy for you, and with everything I have been through this week, not to mention, throughout my lifetime, I am having a pretty decent day today 😊. Loved the video Andrew. Another good one as always. Thanks for sharing. 🙏✌❤🤓😎🥶🥶🥶 good to see you smiling.
I never experienced the silent treatment in my entire life 'til after I married him. It is the rudest and cruel behavior. I was too ashamed to tell anyone about his wacky behavior.
Fortunately, neither of my adult children mirror that
crapola. I'm not a zombie anymore. It took awhile. No Contact, and quite close to my Best Life. I also periodically re-evaluate ALL relationships, and some don't make the cut! Freedom rocks, and better late than never.
February 1st-2nd will b 2 years of silence, from me!! 2 years ago, all hell broke loose with the narc, and my kids was forever changed!!!!
It can be quite an emotional roller coaster living with a Narc. They seem obsessed with portraying a certain image to the public.
Zombie like trance for sure Andrew, glad I'm coming out of it✌🏼
And in dealing with Narcissist, “ silence is golden”
When ever my daughter was in a bad mood, she always tried to put me in one too even if I had a great day at work, but when I wasn't doing so well , she just didn't want to hear it and usually just walked out of the room, she just didn't care
Silence is golden. It's so neutral, easy yet annoying, so hush, hush & enjoy life. Communication with narcissists is futile.
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Mine are glad I'm silent. Means they will get my inheritance.....
My son’s narcissistic dad will to this day try to draw me into an argument or get me to talk. I have been practicing grey rock and silence on him for 15 years and guys it works! He can’t argue with me and disrupt my peace if I simply do not engage in conversation with him. I only communicate when absolutely necessary. When my son is 18, my plan will be to fully block him. Anyway, I save myself so much peace and serenity this way. Namaste Andrew and tribe!
Namaste 🙏
It's amazing, them trying to draw you into an argument to get narcissistic supply. An old tired relationship, (a narcissist) used cussing about something to express himself. It wasn't about me. It was about a company. Now I realize, that when I expressed my distaste, about his use of sware words, he was looking for an argument from me, which he got, to get narcissistic supply. So now that it's a New Year, I will not be talking to him ever again.
@@marlenevideos8666 Perfect strategy!
My Mom’s late husband was an over zealous, narcissistic, hypocritical liar, and once I learned to not say a word to him, it totally blindsided him. It went against everything that I am, but it was necessary to protect myself from further abuse.
@@TheSpaLife69 I know, it’s hard not to say something to defend yourself or let them know they are wrong or acting inappropriately. Unfortunately, anything you say will be weaponized against you. Best to go grey rock or no contact. It really is the only way to deal with a narc
It is true - silence is gold. I'm convinced that silence is the key both after and sometimes within the relationship with a narcissist. If you discuss or argue with a narcissist, you will most likely experience blame shifting, gaslighting, or the silent treatment. This may trigger your anger and frustration, which will make you suffer more, whereas the narcissist will happily use it against you later. Silence or at least staying calm may protect you from harmful situations.
Have a great day over there, and thank you for your wisdom! 🌄
Namaste 🙏
@mz. white I was just thinking the same thing. Talking consumes so much of our precious energy and yet it never accomplishes a thing. Bless you, mz. white.
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Namaste 🙏🙌
Hi Anita.I would love to refer to your comment in my next video if you don't mind. I want to expound on the silence that I speak of as well as to reiterate andrew said. I will Share my story of how my silence spoke volumes with the Nark.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE
@@Mocheesemoeugene Sure, noe problem, if it can help you. Good luck! 🙌
Experienced this for years.
You can't reason, discuss, argue, compromise or be reasonable, silence is the answer. When he's starting to go off I try and walk away, leave the room, leave the house. Sometimes I succumb and bite back and then not only does it escalate a situation, the following silent treatment ramps up, afterwards he acts like nothing happened while I am again devastated. Thank you Andrew 💪🤐
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This is my dad to a T. I'm miserable for days and stuck breathing toxic air while he is, smiling, happy to have unloaded his emotional baggage onto me. Then after a day or so he pretends like it never happened....
@@orbis17 it's horrible isn't it...big hugs to you.
Silence for me was a result of wasted words . It did no good to share my thoughts or feelings .. I got accused of being a narcissist because of that .. silence sometimes means ..I give up
@@waterbaby6786 yes it does...I feel that too.
This is me. Being in 18 years of a loveless marriage. I’m heading out the dark into the Sun. He always given me the silent treatment. Know it’s my time, my strength, it my peace. Thank you I needed this message on a day such as this. I say let the rose pedals fall as they May! 😮😢
Welcome 🙏💯🙌
🙏🤍🕊️the only silence I will embrace is the breathing of the trees, the laughter of happy birds the dreaming of the earth. The breeze speaks to me
And gently sweeps my skin.
I am home, I am loved, I am grateful to hear this silent singing healing with my tribe
Of empathic superhero's. 🙏🦊🔥🕷️🐕🐕❤️💚🌷🌟🧡😊🌠
Such beautiful descriptive language
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Silence is so powerful, by keeping quiet you don't give the narcissist the negative energy that they feed off called "loosh". This can be hard to do at times because you may want to get back at them, or explain yourself regarding something important to you, or maybe you think they will finally apologize to you but they never will. By running in silent mode you regain your peace of mind, you can meditate & do some self reflection, celebrate your new found freedom, treat yourself to a nice meal or a walk in nature. The bottom line is it's so much easier to regain your sanity by being silent, rather than argue & play the narcissist's games which you will never really win. Please end all sincere communication with the terminally insincere!
Even if we have "win," by our silence...its sad that the narc thinks he or she has won...
What they think doesn't matter. The only thing worth a damn is our own peace. The only way to win is to not play 😃
I went no contact and silent. Found myself again....saw the narc by chance and realised I'm done with it. Living my life. Thanks for the video. Peace.
I blocked the narcissist off a year ago. I thank God everyday that I ended it with her. My life is no longer being drained.
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Hello Andrew. In some extreme cases, silence does not work. In fact it increases the violence. My husband was not only a narcissist, but he was also schizophrenic, bipolar, a combat vet with PTSD among other mental health issues. Family and friends refused to help or get involved as they were all afraid of him. I reported him to several mandatory reporters who provided his medical care. It was dismissed. In this situation, silence did not work. Please know that there are other women like me who suffer in very complicated abuse that is swept under the rug as it is so intense even the authorities do nothing. This level of violence invoked by narcissists who have mental health issues can be deadly. Silence is powerful, yes, but please acknowledge that for some of us, even that does not work as in my case it perpetuated the violence. You have a wonderful and powerful support mission in your channel. Your community is very loving and kind. Thank you for sharing love and kindness.
Thanks,my silence is speaking volumes to him. X
I am going thru a divorce. I had been banging my head against a wall trying to communicate with him, trying to get him to see his part in the demise of the marriage. It continued to fall on deaf ears. And when I would show vulnerability, there was no compassion. Finally, I went no contact about 2 months ago and I am finding peace and serenity. Truly, it is empowering and the best way to heal from narcissistic abuse.
I can spot the narc a mile away!! Thank you Andrew 💕
I love the peace , silence and non engagement is bliss . Picking up the pieces of my life ! The smear campaign was horrendous , their problem not mine !
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Toxic people reap what they sow in the end...and it isn't pretty...👀
Your self- esteem is beaten down from the narc, when you have the courage to climb out / up from relationship, you have to deal with the smear / false accusations, lies which even makes it harder to have to experience at the same time. I remember the mean / ugly looks at church or at my childrens school. God knows your Heart, the truth.. Truly a test to build your strength of character. Blessings, love, peace to Andrew & our community. 🙏 ❤️ 🌞. Once again, Thank you Andrew!! 🐾 🐾. More air time for the doggies , Please! ❤️ ❤️
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It's amazing how narcs can sway others to feel the same about their victims as they do.
Pathologic Liars are very good at persuasion, in fact they will be relentless at constant indoctrination....that's how they choose to spend their time on 🌎, feed off it.
The smear campaign I endured involved my two grown sons among others and the devaluing and discarding - 'almost' devastated me. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Many days I'm numb ... I cried last week for the first time.... Knowledge and time have been comforting .... and one realizes silence brings some sense of control and order back into your life ... Yes ptsd .... - deep breaths..... more good days than bad .... working on moving forward with my integrity and truth...... God is good.
Thank you for your channel.
* thru this experience I learned about the silent treatment - both ways.
Thank you. I've gone No Contact = Silence. One year and 5 months. The level of peace and calm is worth it. xo
Welcome 🙏
My brother in law is married to a sociopath. Truly a art form how she controls everything around her, and my brother in law is powerless.
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Silence is freedom💪💪💪💪💪🙏🙏
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I’ve conquered. I’m Very grateful and empowered. The most challenging part of this is that I have an 8yr old in the midst of it. Going no contact and silent has always been second nature to me when I’ve encountered negative and chaotic people.. it’s just difficult when the silence on both ends effects our child. I love this peace after all that I endured in the toxic co dependent-ship with the ex.. however, our child has no idea and just wants his father. In the past years I left the door cracked expecting him to peek in regarding our child expecting a phone call or show up because at one point this is what he was doing when our son was younger on and off until I understood what this all was and put my foot down.. and now No call, No show unless I am doing all of the reaching… so now the ex narcissist’s motto is get on his accord or he disappears for good even away from our child…that’s exactly what happened.. I’m stressed about it from time to time.. it seems like a Win-Lose Situation
Sometimes Silence Is Golden. Fantastic Video.💯💙😋✋
Thank you. I never thought I would be here, but I am. I endured 15 yrs of narcissistic abuse. I have lost so much, but I can’t go back, I can only go forward. I am grateful I finally got out.
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Thank you so much for your videos, they are really helping. I’m 41 and found out recently my mother is a narcissist, it’s destroyed my life but I’m so grateful to know so I can finally attempt to heal
Same 😞🙏❤️
Same her I'm no contact with mum and sister , 💞💞😀
I was 50 when I realized my mother was a narc. About 10 years after she passed.
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You are so welcome💯🙏😊
The smear campaign was truly the most brutal part
Not only were relationships with some really cool people ruined, but he was a first responder, and Had convinced his coworkers I was a crazy stalker, so I felt unsafe to even call in an emergency…i ended up moving out of state… it was just too much
I’m over the narcissist, but the smear campaign still stings…
“So much easier to submit” haven’t we all been there. Andrew you put the words together to exactly tell it like it was (is). Therapists are great, but unless you’ve lived it, you just can understand. Thank you for the candor. It’s healing !
I got away from my Narcissist 20 years ago and my now husband still doesn't completely understand what it was like for me. I am hoping with videos like Andrew's it will become more common knowledge and more people won't have to go through what we did. 🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
@@KAT-dg6el I am so glad you found someone that understood 😊😊💜💜
exactly what I am thinking! I just got to the point where I gave up and went to sleep. No fighting, no more responding.
I so agree. Andrew you are always spot on!
It took me over ten years to finally understand that arguing with a narcissist is rarely ever productive. I had a child with him … so I had to continue to communicate. I learned to pick my battles carefully, calmly and rarely. Leaving a narc feels kind of like leaving a cult. I had to figure out who I was all over again. He told me I was selfish when I put myself first. If you have a child with a narc, Lee communication as brief as possible and as calm as possible. Be respectful and don’t bite the bait when you’re verbally attacked, gaslit and manipulated. It’s imperative to remove your emotions with them.
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Andrew. you just get better and better.🙏😍❤️
I noticed too 😉😊. You're so right 👍
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Silence says so much they will wonder about thats totally out of your concern. Clarity in no contact can be a shocking awakening. They do everything they can to burden you to carry their pain. A wicked transferance no normie can or would want to do. Silence says it all.
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My boyfriend, I did not realize his adult children from his ex were narcissist. They didn't come around for years. And for years we had peace and happiness. But when they did utter chaos happened. I didn't know at the time what was going on, for it was one thing after another. Narcissist are demons! Nothing less can explain it, other than Satan is their role model. The only way out is to run normal people. Move states away. Where they can't come to and just start over. Narcissist are like a cult, that's what the flying monkeys are about. So disconnect, drive, fly or train travel away. Starting over can be tough, but necessary, because you have to get far from their poisonous reach. Out distance them (their influence) and their flying monkeys.
@@marlenevideos8666 You have definitely seen the reptilians. Sounds like a plan. Those who cannot leave their town can still make sure the door is shut tight. It may be you have to become a person, as it relates to them only, that wants nothing to do with you. Whether is fear of repercussions or "other". Whatever opinion they have or develop is out of our care or concern. Its already made anyway regardless as soon as turn your back. A narc is in delusion land in their cult of self. Yes, they sure like the kindred in the club. It is the plague of our time. The numbers estimated are way, way off. The last several years have proven so. Most don't even understand the sacrifices of ww1 or ww2. The cemeteries in France or Belguim with tens of thousands means nothing to them. The affliction has deep roots of unprecedented entitlement without empathy or compassion for anyone. The false bravado is propping up a hollow shell.
@@marlenevideos8666 this was my life until he died. They’re still going at it smh . They are no doubt a cult .
Yea I mentioned to him (we need to talk) but he got his own Script ready by the time I went to see him. He scripted it with a silver tongue,he deserved a medal for the Performance,.it was crazy so delusional ,so much in denial of the real truth , of what his behavior.was, so glad I Left,🙏🙏
The silent treatment, in my humble opinion, is the absolute worst to be put through. It’s so dehumanizing and will break you.
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I went silent since Nov 21 and the peace I feel is priceless 🙏🏻 it was always my fault always. There was no trying to explain how he made me feel, how he made my emotions go up's and down's cause I was the crazy unstable person that didn't know how to control myself 😮 it was exhausting so much happier now 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Good day! God bless you! I cannot tolerate and will not tolerate toxic behavior! Legal action will be taken!
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Choose yourself 🤗. Make a change. Step into the unknown because this is where magic happens.
You are absolutely right in everything you said.
I'm glad you're enjoying the warm weather 😊❤️
Yea Ruby very true ❤️🤗🤗💞💞
Silence is the way to go. I would rather a hundred times when he is silent, than have a person who is always in rage fits and all other inhumane characters of a Narcissist .
Being sad, lonely etc Is better than dealing with a narc. Silence is quite peaceful :)
Good topic Andrew. Well in the narcissistic relationship it varied with me sometimes he would give me the silent treatment towards the end I preferred it. My silence began from not knowing the right thing to do or say . But I did love him so I thought it was my responsibility to try and make him happy. It didn't even cross my mind that he was evil and abusive. And now I've gone no contact, completely I am healing and learning. So I do see that I have closed that door. Now I have to lock it . Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew
Carlos that's great, keep well ,lots love sent,👍👍😀💞💞🙏
Good job, Carlos! You are strong!
Stay strong for You .. XoXo
Good for you ! It took me way to long to realize that no contact is the only way and the only way i realized this was watching Andrew's videos ! Stay strong and be well 💪💪🙏🙏❤❤
"You taught you loved him but like myself You loved the false self. Times a healer trust me.
I totally agree with you Andrew. We do not owe a single word of explanation to a person who abused us, not a word, we walk away and cut all contacts and keep silent. Narcisists in their insane arrogance and entitlement demand servants and slaves who look up to them and carry out their orders. We need to think bigger and better than that! Thank you and God bless you ❤
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Nothing less than predators - Andrew's use of that word is so apparent, appreciated, and Appropriate!!
Thank you, to All of us as survivors of Abuse/ Domestic Violence.. We have learned so much!!!
Will no longer be a victim I’m a survivor silence is golden after the abuse I’ve had a friend just come back and apologise which was beautiful we cried together we made a promise to keep in touch . Glad your warming up over there our big heat is coming February hottest month
Hi Andrew you are so right about the silent treatment it works! And the narcissist hate when you give them the silent treatment back...but what is crazy they don't like when you give him the silent treatment back! But they always stonewalling you and giving you the silent treatment they don't like when it's Abel's turn!! I appreciate you more than you know for helping me on my Journey!! you have been the light at the end of my tunnel 🥰🥰thank you so much for being you!! And you was put here for a purpose!! You are helping so many people with your videos and your knowledge and sharing to us what you went through dealing with a narcissist!!
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You nailed it! Theres nothing worse than feeling alone in a relationship, dissed in every way💔
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Never make anyone your priority who sees you only as an option.
Thank you - left a church and leadership over a ministry due to two narcissists who absolutely destroyed me. My silence and departure caused them to implode and become too confident in their bad behaviours - people started to discern them - empowerment of their own confidence that destroyed them even toward one another. The church is the worst place for narcissists simply because of the love and forgiveness expected and displayed by Christian’s 😢
Absolutely and nobody talks about it especially among the clegy. Touch not the annointed one......
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Unfortunately these type of demons try to weasel their way into church groups ,seduce their way through the ranks of the church to create chaos, dysfunction ,theft ,and a host of other evil things.
@Rebecca Dean it's sad,the one place where you think you'd be safe, these entities are everywhere. The good thing for me is , I now have the discernment to spot these demons.
@@MaryFlavor_kanini nothing more threatening to a narcissist is a awakened empath.
I went silent to my ex weeks before my discarded, no reason to talk to a crazed person that was only speaking nonsense anyway. I only think it enraged him more, but at that point I no longer cared. Evil is evil no matter how you look at it, and I'm glad my tormenting ex is gone. I could never get into a fight with someone that believed there own lies, no point of that.
Thank ya Andrew for everything you help us with and God bless ya and the tribe here. 😁👃✝️
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A year from now, everything you're stressing about, won't even matter.
You state this very well. The way they believe their own lies is horrifying. I have seen my own ex-spouse' brain whirling away until he sets upon a rationalization that serves him. Like reality is made of clay or air. So long as it serves them.
@@tarawalsh-arpaia3928 That's very true, someone's evil actions will come back on them one day
The “ Silent Treatment” is like an extremely, long suffering disease, that eats away at your very core and is invisible to the eye.
I suffered years of this from my family, and then sadly from my narcissistic marriage of almost 23 years.
However the power that your “ silence “ possesses, is immeasurable. As “ your silence “ means that, no one knows what you are thinking, ever again, so you can no longer be controlled.
Such an amazing video Andrew,
presented in your own, unique way, of encapsulating the truth.
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Twenty six years, lost everything. But I’m stronger than they ever realized. And I’m content with my silence.
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The message is beautiful. Thank you. Definitely spot on and I’ll take a much sweeter and more peaceful life now without all the raging moments of silent treatment - because there may have been no words, but the tension, control and anger was so unnerving. Never again.
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If you've been there, then you know how true your words are... Even though I escaped, I guess I am still damaged bc of these people. But through the damage I grew wisdom. Tuff lessons
Thank you so much Andrew. Two years of No Contact, and the hoover attempts just started. Silence, is closure.
Wonderful!🙌💯🙏
(And it drives them mad!)
3 years with no contact and lo and behold my ex friend shows up at my door; thought she was mail lady! All she did was ask a bunch of questions about me
Sorry.... she commented on my new porches, etc said she thinks of me daily, asked how I was doing. Here’s the clincher... she said I didn’t call you before I came over coz I figured you wouldn’t answer the phone! I told her she was probably right and waited for her next question saying yes or ok to compliments of my porches with a smile on my face the entire time and not saying anything to her in between the silence. She finally said well I guess I’ll go and I said ok and she said call me sometime and I said ok and she said ya right and gave a snarky grunt. I could not believe the gall! If she didn’t think I’d answer phone, why come over?? Crazy
@@katieking8830 Oh my gosh, the same thing happened to me on Christmas Eve. The AUDACITY of it all. I haven't talked to you, because of your behaviour, and you just show up at my home and start it all over again... and then burst into tears, and throw yourself at me... I can't. And then, through the grapevine, hear how "worried" she is about me, and how much weight I've gained, my hair is frizzy, etc. It's all superficial, and crazy-making.
Good for your for remaining stoic, they don't know what to do with that energy!
It’s interesting how when you’re meant to see something, it finds you. I found this channel randomly as I have been dealing with my own situation with a narc family member. I had tolerated our relationship my whole life but the last straw was when I was at a very low point in my life and when I asked him for help, he responded in the most cruel, humiliating & mocking way that it gave me the creeps. I cut off contact.
silence is golden! Not saying anything speaks volumes.
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Yes it speaks to the narcissist in their minds that we are "mentally unstable"......(Even though I know it's not true, that's what they think and that's what they tell everyone that knows them and us).
When I checked out of the relationship I knew I had did what I never wanted to do to him. We don’t like to give up on the ones we love but it is imperative in life to leave those who have mislead, abused, or manipulated you!
It’s coz it happens by inches and some people haven’t known much different. I’ve been through smear campaigns since a child, v.damaging. It’s great when you realise you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Ever.
Yes, I also experienced the smear campagne (spelling?), committed by my very own father, and I'm still feeling it fifteen years after my father died, because there are still a lot of people, relatives, neighbors, etc. who think I was a horrible daughter, based on what my father told them, none of which was true. Even before he got sick, he told people that I never visited him, and that he didn't know where I lived, when I was actually at his house doing something for him every other day. It was pure hell being his round-the-clock caregiver for several months before he died, but I did an excellent job and was very caring, even scared that I was going to lose him. His doctors told me that I was at the top of my game. He never wanted me at his house when people visited, because he didn't want them to find out that the horrible things he said about me weren't true. He loved to play the victim, because that is how he got attention and sympathy from people, so he badmouthed me to the hilt.
I guess we all have to remember that WE know what the truth is, despite what these toxic people say to others about us.
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Ugh, the suggesting a restaurant only to be shøt down EVERY time. BOTH of my parents do this to me. It’s been MONTHS since we’ve eaten at one of MY favorite restaurants 😞 Great video today, thanks Andrew! 🤗💋❤️🔥🤗💋❤️🔥🤗💋❤️🔥🤗💋❤️🔥
Hope you all had a wonderful day, my friends!!! Thank you all for being so caring, comforting, and supportive!!! I love you all DEARLY!!! ❤❤❤❤❤Niece and nephew just got here… gotta run! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
They always do. Next to them, you must not show that you are satisfied or happy with something external. You have to hide from them everything that makes you happy and what you love because they will deny you exactly that.
Tell your parents that you no longer like your favorite restaurant and that you are no longer comfortable there. Maybe this little lie will serve its purpose and get you right there.
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@@rubyjet9513 I’ve found they cannot stand my joy or freedom especially independence.
Your message made me laugh!
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@@rubyjet9513 That's very good advice for Jennifer! Reverse psychology sometimes works on narcissists. I tried it and it worked at times. 🙏 ❤️
@@hollylorn131 Thank you 🙏 for drawing my attention to the fact that it is reverse psychology. I didn't know it was called that. Just thought it might help.
I will explore the term and its meaning.
Thank you so much. I'm 62, been emotionally abused by both parents, gaslighted all my life by my toxic mother, and tortured by her flying monkeys, my younger sisters. I finally stopped talking to them in 2014 and have been feeling all this time that I owe them a letter explaining my absence. THANK YOU for letting me off the hook. I've been feeling sick; wanting to explain all the reasons I can't keep in touch . . . then I realize that they would just justify their selfish actions like they always have and call me crazy for being the way I am: "overly emotional."
Thank you so much I don't think I would have gotten out safely without ur help.
You have described my journey. I am silent unless someone challenges me in my stance. I speak only the truth. Then I am silent again.
Thank you.
Silence then broke that karmic chain that had enslaved me for eons. Silence now is everything.
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Predator exactly and as l call them snakes. Creeping around looking to find everything you own and all about you Bless you from Canada
It's a loosing battle they will ruin you in every way.
I took the silent treatment option. It got so ridiculous. The narcissist friend resorted to calling my 80 year old parents to cry and blubber about how she'd never been treated this way before. Then it got to "tell her I don't even want her to come to my funeral". My mother delivered the message to me...and we both laughed at my reaction. 😂 As far as I know she is still alive. No concern of mine one way or the other.
"I was an extension of that person"... a very profound statement, Andrew. This is basically co-dependence, which is how most of us empath people are. We do anything we can to make the other person happy, even to the detriment of ourselves. Listening to your inner voice and instincts, intuition, is IMPARITAVE in order to protect oneself. Please, listen to Andrew. He has walked this path, obviously, and his wisdom and lessons will help! He has helped me immensely, get through one of the roughest things I've ever dealt with, and I've suffered abuse since childhood, but being with a malignant narcissist is the worst! But please know that it isn't your fault, it is your programming and the fact that you were manipulated and controlled. Just watch EVERY video Andrew has out here! It will help...promise! ❣❣❣❣
Beautiful empowerment 🙌🙏💯💪
Keep logical thinking strong !! Not emotional thinking !
I am currently living in more peace and joy than I ever expected to have. Some of the people I walked away from are circling back. I feel anxious about it, but this is a great reminder to stay the course and keep moving forward. I will take care of myself and not allow myself to be harmed.
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I have been in a situation like this. Many people talk about "relationship", for me it is my family. When the covert narcissist is your mom, you never have the chance to create relationships for your own. you belong to your parent. I have gone "no contact" and it is powerful and life changing. But many of my close friends don't understand at all and they even say things that work against the work i have done. "why don't you just maintain friendly relations with your mom, I do with mine". "I've chosen not to talk to her."I say. "you're traumatized! You're traumatized!" that's such a misuse of the word trauma. No contact is an important choice.
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This is so true.. You silence yourself. Fog has lifted.
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Hi Andrew still watching your videos, sometimes you don’t need to cut them off, no contact, cause sometimes they will cut you off, which is great blessings from Australia ❤
Yep, that’s what happened to me. 5 times over! Why did I keep going back??
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I am a survivor of a 1 st marriage he was also physically and emotionally abusive.
There are many times I should have died.
But God got me through it and eventually got me safely out.
You talk about the smear campaign, WOW
I have family older kids and anyone else that knows him that are convinced I am the bad person.
I got married after to a wonderful man and was able to get a few very Blessed years with him before he passed away.
Thank you for your video
It is a reminder to me of how blessed I am to have survived
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Thank you, Andrew, for this video! Our silence does mean we've closed this chapter on narcissism in our lives and we're winners and it's definitely game over! 🙏 ❤️ ☀️ 💪 ✌️
You're very welcome🙌💯😊
True hurts but makes you stronger
Became stronger finally and moved completely on end of last year. Now face to face if ever would feel awkward. And I'm comfortable with my job more now and almost at the two year mark.
Very happy more now than I was the last time I commented on your channel.
Our silence is for mental health and self respect
Thankyou for the booster shot on NARCS. I AM STILL HEALING . It's harder to heal when you are doing under the same roof. But now I am no longer fooled. Silence has become my best friend. Bless you. Hope is not lost.
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🙏 The world is indeed a different place now. I am awake! Finally 🎉
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Thank you Andrew from Dublin Ireland, my daughter is the narcissist I have endured years of abuse from her now she has entered into smear campaign about me.
I have now blocked her and do not contact her she has instigated untruths about me and has stopped me seeing my grand kids which is heartbreaking for me.
People are beginning to see through her,I am having counselling past 6 months to help me deal with the fallout from her lies about me.
Your piece today is very relevant to me Andrew and I thank you most sincerely.
Regards to everyone who has a narcissist in their lives.
I still suffer taurma from the smear campaign I experienced. Your videos help me get through some of the trigger moments I suffer from. Sadly I still am being smeared by certain individuals in my home town. Let's hope what you say is true and eventually the truth will come out.
The truth will come out. It ALWAYS does! It could be hours, days, weeks, months or years, but the truth always comes out! What I have learned is to just sit back and wait, go on with your life and when it happens, acknowledge it, be grateful that you have been vindicated and then move on. The universe/God however you look at life will sort it all out. Stay strong! You will get through this. Your mind has to "process" what has happened. I've been surrounded by many a narcissist in my life. It just takes time. Sending you healing vibes! ❤
Narcs are strategic in starting a smear campaign, and they get others to support them to destroy the target. You would think the narc's supporters would have a mind of their own and not be easily influenced by them. It's no excuse for narc supporters to gang up on narc victims
Ignore the smear campaign don't take the bait rise above the evil agenda. I've had two horrible smear campaigns the stupid Narc made outrageous claims that showed how vindictive it was people questioned the rumours. I laughed them off and said I have no comment to make. I stayed silent, allowed myself to heal mentally and physically. Find love in your heart and love and respect yourself, forgive yourself you were the victim. I prayed for justice and the Narc is getting karma in the form of rejection by everyone and the silent treatment - it took 2 years for the Narc to self implode and face their fake self - it looks destroyed from within, it got what it gave out in return and more. Evil never wins love is the answer. The idiotic Narc I encountered thought it would be fun to take down a psychic lol 💖😇💖
Going silent lets the narc know you are done with THEM - they know
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When you go silent it means your in contempt of them. It’s a big sign to them that your not happy at all. And hey let’s face it we’ve all had the silent treatment from them but when it’s the other way round boy! But usually by the time you’ve gone silent it means your giving up and they are loosing you 😔
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Thank you for this. It's going to be a challenge being silent. Please pray I can do this. I'm at the end of my rope. I don't know who I am anymore. Silence will be golden 🙏
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Yes, once you've learned how to identify these toxic behaviors and red flags, it is like a psychic power allowing you to avoid people who will only damage and hurt you...and making your life better.
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So glad I found this channel. 60yrs dealing with a narccist parent. Sacrificed so much to NEVER please him.