Drop The FAKE Front 👉 She's Afraid To Be Vulnerable!
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- It's OK to put your true self out there... This live demonstration will show you how to be more vulnerable with yourself and others!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Drop The FAKE Front 👉 She's Afraid To Be Vulnerable!
In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the importance of being vulnerable with yourself... Which is important when it comes to letting go.
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Massive respect to both of them for having the COURAGE and WILLINGNESS to do the work! 🙏
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Nice video. I can relate to them pretty well. I guess it´s bad when the parents try to reason every thing out. Instead of helping to process emotions or actually helping them in some part of their life.
@@faulerhund2725 Yes! 🙏
You always seem to be very intuitive in what another person is feeling, especially what specific questions to ask them to break thru the BS and fakery. It's like using Superman's x-ray vision to see inside the human soul. Awesome job Julian. I gotta say thou, she's such a beautiful girl, I hope she gets to break free from that pain that's torturing her.
By the way, I'm going thru your Transformation Mastery course, I'm blown away man... your explanation about scarcity not being real, the way you explained it, something in my mind shifted... it was like waking up from a Matrix incubator pod. To be honest, I'm scared sh*tless... because I no longer feel that fighting and desperate need to constantly be in survival mode, I'm now in that plentiful abundance mindset that I didn't know existed. It's a weirddd feeling man... VERY weird... because I'm NOT used to it. A few days ago I puked in the man's bathroom at my job while doing the releasing exercises. Glad no one noticed.
Julien bro you're the real deal! I'm on my self mastery journey and ive been working on being my authentic self although i still mask my true emotions, i am now aware and i understand that feeling of wanting to fight it but choosing to let go and it actually does feel fucking good when you just let go. its like a muscle you have to train. you have to keep practicing so it can become natural. but im so glad i found you bro you're an inspiration 💯🖤 love you man
My bro when you get there then what do you do with it?
Their body language, in the way they are sitting, is so telling of their feelings in the moment and level of comfort especially by the end of the video when listening to Julien.
Yes! These coaching demonstrations really showcase all of those subtleties!
@@JulienHimself How do you stay calm, like i can't in front all these people, but im trying to fix it
@@mostafa4047how about stop convincing yourself you can't right now
@@mostafa4047no trying, no comparing and no i cannot for you ever again ^^
the challenge is to spot it while saying
She tries to be perfect for approval from other people. I think the best way to breake this mask is to make her uncomfortable in the way she compensating
2 days ago I ran into your "fake front" video, and it really personally hit me. Made me cry a lot, but I realized that being fake, not just to others, but myself, was killing me inside and kept me from being happier. I started to be honest and authentic with myself and the people I love, talked to my friends and my mom about it, and for the first time in so long, I felt truly relieved. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Woah just read some comments, didn't realise people were angry at this kind of stuff lol! "You're pushing boundaries" Yeah that's the point
Your making really good and relatable content Julien. Im from Germany and fucking sick of my inner trauma, old beliefs and constant recreation of past situations. I can feel it running all of my emotions, i feel like a empty shell trying to hide from the eyes of other people, i often feel like a little vulnerable kid, its a constant battle to hold myself together, at that point i dont even want to hold myself together anymore, letting it flow would be surely more healthy. The realisation not being really connected to anybody because of that really hits home. Im looking right now for a good trauma therapist and am educating myself through videos from a german psychologist named "Gopal Norbert Klein". In the essence hes teaching the same as you are, just in a different way.
The Sun just shined into my room through the clouds while writing this, that was beautiful. Anyways, keep teaching people about these topics. Its very important.
Hello from Germany :)
I also live in Germany , beeing educating myself for some time now about past trauma, felt always not good enough. Will start my therapy next week to heal past wounds
@@jay.jay. sounds great, i wish you the best
@@Nakira92 hey hey :)
Glad to hear you're in the process of working through this! Let me know if you'd like my help as well: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
the universe is literally playing a joke on us.Theres so much paradoxes in that life that blows my mind sometimes.The fact that to be the stronger you gotta be vulnerable is one of them for me.
I think Jordan Peterson (or perhaps someone else) talked about being vulnerable, not as a weakness, but more akin to a strong man walking around in public with a target painted on his chest. It's like "go ahead and try to hit my weak point". If you show people your biggest weakness and you are mentally prepared to deal with it, you become invincible. However, most of us will conceal it and we end up defining ourselves by our weaknesses.
Oh, yeah... You'll also notice that the advice you need CHANGES as you grow. What got you here, won't get you there... 😉
Yeah, I think the key is that you have to be prepared to deal with the consequences of being vulnerable. Many guys (myself included) will put up a front or puff up their chests and it's quite easy to see that they're fragile as fuck. I think being vulnerable is not being afraid to show your true self and knowing that some people are not going to like you and being okay with that. This is something that I'm personally trying to work on.
@@openSUSE5 your comment is the best. Thankyou
@@openSUSE5 I agree with you, the way that you phrase it makes sense to me.
I have no idea why this popped into my head, so bear with me, but is this similar to the fictional example from the Game of Thrones episode where Tyrion Lannister advises Jon Snow about not allowing his defect (being seen as a bastard by others) to affect him negatively?
I think that the line was something like: "Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you." Sounds like a similar world-view to me anyway.
I cannot express to you enough how much you have helped me Julien and crew. You are a beacon of light in this dark world. I literally dont know where I'd be without your help
I feel like you can cold read anyone by saying inside you seem really hurt and it will register with them in some way. But it's a great way to begin to get them to shed whatever fronts they've set up for themselves to try to shield that from people.
The reason this could work as a cold read, is because most people are hiding and stuffing down a TREMENDOUS amount of hurt... So this is a great question that allows people to bring some authenticity up to the surface yes! 🙏
I pretty much said the same thing... Basically asking why in various ways?
It’s like the bs of psychics say general/vague shit that everyone or most people can relate to and they’ll spill
@@iialceusii9841 well the difference is it’s not shit, it’s true. everyone is going through something. Even for extremely lucky people, life is hard. Because we are all prisoners of our thoughts
If you don’t want to watch the whole video, it’s definitely worth watching the last part in particular. I can’t express the importance of bringing those childhood traumas to the surface. As painful as it may feel and as many tears you may shed, it’s no match for the relief and lightness you’ll feel once you’ve processed it
Yes! The only way out is through... 🙏
You have to reconnect with the traumatic experience in the way you originally experienced it. Not by experiencing it through the re-frame you’ve given it, which is there so that you could rationalize it in your own mind. That’s a subtle point, but it’s really huge. Thanks!
YES! Great takeaway! Glad this was helpful 🙏
The acuity it takes to spot out that trauma is something that can't be unseen once you see it.
Like you often say, most people are scared and hurt inside, barely slugging through their day to day life, just waiting to die.
Letting go gives you a whole new lease on leveraging your instincts to improve your inner AND outer worlds, for yourself and the people around you. Lifting the collective burden one limiting belief at a time.
YES! 🙏🙏🙏
@@JulienHimself the video didn’t include the release. How do you release all the stuff that comes up when you ask the hard questions and bring up this vulnerable shadow self?
They remind me of me and my younger brother who I just love dearly. He's laid-back, knows himself, loves himself cool guy and I'm struggling with this constant battle of resistance where my brain has been in "survival mode" up until about a year ago. Now I've finally embodied my true and authentic self through self-help but, idk who "I" am. Because I've been on survival brain instead of being brain I've been completely out of touch with who I am my entire life and idk how to be this person in this skin costume. Your videos have helped me soooo much, I just think I need a little more help.
Sounds like you are doing the work :) Keep it up, I am rooting for you 🍀❤️
This was exceptionally good. It made me realize things I do in my self-judgement and suppressing certain emotions in a way to "protect myself" I guess. But we should allow ourselves to feel all the emotions. I feel like if you avoid or suppress an emotion, you become more reactive to anything that causes it. Like "whoa don't touch the pressure cooker or it might explode." You can meditate and be in the presence of those "bad" emotions by a simple breathing meditation. In time that practice will make you less avoidant, less reactionary, less judging.
In complete honesty though, I just started all this and haven't really dived in yet. I realized my comment was "self-help reframed right answer". A half-truth. The real answer being I really haven't done that work of diving into the darkness, just dabbling with it and saying nice words related to it, to support my spiritual ego narrative. I will start to dive into it now, I need to put on reminders because I will try to deflect constantly, sub-consciously, even consciously, meaning I know I'm deflecting again and yet I'm just following through, habitually. I need to be honest, I need to dive in, starting right now. I wish you do to. See you on the other side.
Julien's genuinely altered the course of my life. That'll most likely get lost in the sea of comments saying the same thing. Would've said "bah, couldn't really" or "can't of had much of a life" before.
I notice more and more over the weeks the shift. When I first saw these videos it was new info, and now it's like I've always known.
My life quality as improved drastically through this 'paradigm shift' which is observable through the change in perspective combined with my acceptance of myself for who I am and my healthier "relationship" with reality. I can watch the same video back and the metaphor I'll use to describe it is like being outside the matrix peering in at people who haven't awoken. And I'm just getting started.
I've definitely felt that my parents didn't love me as a kid. my dad wasn't around much and my mother who I lived with kicked me out at a young age. I'm 42 and have a family of my own and I find myself not feeling comfortable with myself to get fully involved with the ins and outs of their lives. I pass a lot of decisions to my wife. I also have social anxiety and it's sometimes difficult for me to want to carry a conversation with people. I watch a few self help videos here and there and they do help. lately I feel as though I'm starting to be myself in more social situations... it's been a tough road though. a few of your videos have helped.
Do meditation along with that mere videos doesnt affect deep into the root
Look up elliot hulse bioenergetics,this will help everything because your body is so tense your holding on to everything and it needs to be released,just watch how kids act there is a purpose for everything they do because they are in tune with their bodies
@@dr.tapasyadiwakar1246 🙏🏾
Try reading Mark Manson’s book EVERYTHING IS F*CKED. It’s a gem.
@@razorboii864 🙏🏾
Fantastic video, and she's great up there adding to the video -Owen
Thank you! And yes, MASSIVE respect to both of them... Takes a lot of courage and willingness to do this! 🙏
You and Julien are so badass, I've watched your stuff for a while I came across your content from an interview with David DeAngelo! I'm kinda bummed I just found Juliens stuff a week ago, the guy is a month younger than me and he is putting powerful videos out and helping people change their lives in a MASSIVE way, thanks again and please don't stop doing these, I would love to attend one of these some day, P..S. tell Julien it's okay to change his shirt 👕 once in a while, I'll pay the dry cleaning tab lol
When you realize that confidence comes from within, you will out your best foot forward and go out and do whatever you want to achieve. Sure, it is difficult sometimes but we all need to just be humble and accept our defeats and triumphs. When the breakthrough happens, you won't need to brag to others because you know your self worth. You won't care what others think and you'll be able to express yourself the way you are. No need to prove your worth to others. Just believe and you can achieve what others think is impossible. We got this. No matter what we've been through. Keep at it always. 💪💪
Julien, you could say what you said to her to anyone on earth. You knew you were going to say that to her yet you fronted as if some on the spot deep insight.
Love you and Owen I’m 14 and you guys are changing my outlook on myself and life
When I was 14 I got into watching the outer approach and the fundamentals of game. Glad you can get in at this stage, with much more inner acceptance as the focus.
Good job lil bro. Hopefully you ingraine some philosophy into your way of life. You have to live it.
@@lebronjames2864 Damn! Me too. Little did i know that the inner game was the core. 😔
@@lebronjames2864 I’m sorry if this seems like a silly question because I’m pretty new to this but, what is outer approach and fundamentals of the game? Where can I find these videos?
This is INSANE…
Let’s just keep pushing her until she agrees?
Let’s just assume a shit ton about someone you know NOTHING about.
This ain’t “helpful” isn’t spiritual bypassing and it’s sickening.
Right?! 🤡🤡🤡
Unless you are a therapist you shouldn’t be dealing with this type of issues man. You are expecting an individual to be vulnerable in front of a group of people. There is a reason why psychotherapist are bound by confidentiality. You are doing this in a setting where it is not safe for some individuals to be emotionally vulnerable. There is a line coaches should not cross when consulting. Coaches should only deal with future based planning and advise. Once you try to pick a person’s mind and digging up past traumas you are already overstepping your boundaries. People go through years of education, training and licensing to be able to credibly practise psychology. It is like a chiropractor fixing broken bone you are not qualified.
This is why I think Coaching needs to be regulated because we get pseudo-scientist. You damn near forced to bring past hurt out for vulnerability. Bringing her brother out. You crossed the line man. Therapy is one to one private session not a talk show.
It is beyond inappropriate- and he is talking nonsense
He helps people with social anxiety. That's why does people paid to see him. He ask other questions but he is only trying help.
What are you jelous or something?
@@JR-ch8rt Look, if he wants to practice therapy he needs to go through years of training and education. Digging up past traumas is way beyond his boundaries as a coach. You would risk making situations worst if not done correctly. Ask yourself was there authenticity when that lady opened up or was she forced to do so because he brought her brother out? She did not open up her brother opened up for her. Therapy is a private session not a talk show.
@@xirikkarrot3332 Jealous of what? Im pointing out a fact. The lady did not opened up she was set up.
My takeaway is it's okay to be hurt! I just broke up with my ex 4 months ago and I soooo want to forget him but I cannot.
I always try to stay positive and not think about him but it's okay to think about him.
We were together for 5 years and I will take what ever time it takes for me to move on.
Definitely something to FEEL but also, most likely the breakup has TRIGGERED a lot in you... Which you definitely need to process. I'd suggest watching this video about breakups as well: th-cam.com/video/M0ctRMR8qXM/w-d-xo.html 🙏
@@JulienHimself Yeah it definitely has! Thanks for the video. I will watch it
Maybe if you both can fix the relationship maybe?
@@johnyprince7718 nothing can be fixed there
I'm old af, 32 now and I'm little by little finding comfort with my own skin and social Situations and your videos have helped even after going thru countless other self help. Like tools of therapy, I try to become aware of every situation I'm now in. I incorporate these tools and prevent myself from immediately crashing into a social mess and exposing myself as feeling low value. Self esteem and inadequacy is something I struggled with since I could remember and I'm tired of feeling like that because it is a disservice to my being and I'm not getting any younger.
Glad to hear you're doing better and that my videos are helpful! You got this!!
32 old af???
@@JulienHimself thank you Julien, much love. It would be dope to check out a live event sometime🤘🏼feels like Pandemic times have altered our generation.
@@MrPagnito according to society x/ but tell you the truth I feel young only with a bit more control and reflection..
32? You're still young lol
Whenever I want to tell someone how I'm feeling, or when someone asks what is wrong, a lot of the time, I go to answer. I want to free myself of the emotions. But, I feel like others will think I'm attention seeking if I talk about my issues and feelings.
Definitely something to work on and let go of!
This is some next level thinking regarding self help! Thank you
5:35 Julien with his reticular activation system
The reason noone notices that, cuz we also all were looking at something red.
Followed by "there is some authenticity".😀
Holy shit someone noticed. The whole time I’m thinking she is feeling vulnerable, and being submissive and looking to be reaffirmed with her “I don’t know.” Next thing you know ☝🏻. Was kind of expecting something.
She is the girl in the red dress literally 😁🔥
Wow you can also completely see deep inside anyone, just like me it’s incredible to watch!
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This is wtf we need in society, seriously. Families NEED to do this. People NEED to do this to themselves. Solid. Solid content
Edit: 12:20 EXACTLY 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
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Bro to see where Julien started to where he is now is just incredible.
I haveso much appreciation for the work Julien does in this world.
This was really good. Instead of just letting julien talk they gave him a mouth full and I can tell it made Julian think cause at some points it seemed alright and then sure enough you would find something that wasn’t quite right.
This guy is doing good work. I think Brian Begins teachings are fantastic as well if you guys like Juliens approach
This guy is such a good brother
Yes, he’s great!
she's trying to hold back her tears the whole time 😅
Notifications gang checking in, man it’s crazy how many excuses are actually vulnerabilities
My favourite part is once you face yourself you are your strength 💯
Yes! Great takeaway, man!
I’ve been cracking open my own inner darkness and it feels like there is no end to the pain… how does one not get stuck in the pain body and start identifying with it? I think that is the fear of the inner child.. it’s like a monster in the closet that can haunt for a lifetime… sigh
When in "hell", keep going... 👉 If you'd like help with this, you can also apply for a free coaching session here: application.julienhimself.com
Thanks for the offer but I don’t think your course would understand the level of pain caused by mkultra..
This hit me deep, if I was in the crowd I would’ve given Julian a standing ovation
Glad this resonated! 🙏🙏
Just found out about your channel, Julien, you are a great source of inspiration! Thank you for all your work!
You're very welcome! And welcome to the channel!! 🙏
Speaking of vulnerability there is something I like to share because it's fitting with the video:
I'm actually scared about being vulnerable because I struggle with vulnerability. Because from what I've experienced it did got weaponized and used against me. Besides that I also am not that expressive. Not that I'm never expressive but more in a cat-like manner. It's only not that subtle when I'm genuinely passionate about something or it's emotionally so moving I can't hold it back anymore. My face is also a resting bitch face. It's by default. Besides that I also struggle with not feeling good enough. It has to do with my need for competency. When I don't feel competent because I'm not able to figure something out or solve it I feel stupid and not good enough but also because of my struggle with vulnerability.
I needed a place to share that because I felt like. Anybody else here who feels the same or has something similar? It would feel good not being alone.
It would definitely take more than myself to let go of my past. Growing up in foster care alone comes with its vast amount of pains not to mention being diagnosed with bipolar and a slew of other crap that now as a adult literally doesn't exist. I've done ALOT of building myself but that doesn't fix bipolar lol so basically was miss diagnosed. I'm a normal ass dude out here. Telling people about my upbringing is not a good thing either as I am almost always viewed differently after, even though I had been hanging out with these people for a very long time prior and nobody wants to be an outcast from thier social groups. Just what I've said here is an extremely small percentage of my dark side that follows me. I don't have an issue on identifying the hurt and pain as most of my younger years was only pain the hard part for me is letting go of some of it or rather the process of that, the individual steps I need to take after identifying the pain. there have been some things that a believe I have let go of subconsciously as a grow and live and others I worked very hard on letting go of but was only able to do so with immense focus and even where you are in life now effects whether it's is possible. When you are in your darkest moments is when the fixing happens for me at least. sometimes somthing just clicks and other times the pain is fixed slowly through a series of small clicks. I could go on for hours about my experience in this on the mental side as I've done all of this by myself I never paid much attention to self help stuff so I'll stop here lol anyway I have recently been more invested in learning about other people and how they deal with trauma which bumped me into these videos a couple weeks ago. I love what you are doing Julien keep up the great work.
I feel this times a million. I’m a high functioning autistic. Masking is the only way I can be around others. I couldn’t even tell you who I really am. Definitely not acceptable by anyone else though. It’s not worm tongue either. It’s having a disability.
This video gave me a really good feeling, havent felt that in a long time
Glad this was so impactful for you! 🙏
Your channel is one of my biggest inspirations man, great video!
Thank you so much! 🙏
This is so uncomfortable... who is this girl? Why is he forcing her to go through this in front of all of these guys.
You say that just because your parents don't do this, this, and this, it doesn't mean they don't love you. But what does Love actually mean in the first place?
I'm sorry 😔 I wasn't paying attention she is so gorgeous
Bro is a person Is hurt, solution is to accept and move on and put smile in your face but the smile of experienced wisdom
6:37 Second time I'm watching. I am one of those people saying "Yeah I know they loved but..." And from what he is saying, it clicked for me. Yeah "they were there 'for' us", but "they were not 'with' us". Probably what a child needs is this.
Edit: And what I've realized after writing this is that I am that way to myself too. We internalize our parents. And to be honest my inner voice is like, if you are hungry, yeah I am here for you, I am gonna make a sandwich for you. But when I want to do what I wanted, instead of basic physical needs, it is like no baby I am not with you, you are all alone in this. IDK I wrote it down maybe it helps.
For me I would give advice to that woman is that she can accomplish anything, she needs to know that she can something even her past told her that she should not do it, our past dictates what we will do in the future, and the past was not created by you but created by your environment, how others told you what to do or what to do when you are still a child, and the reaction also big factor, how you see your parents react to things, that's the only thing she should know about her dark side that she's was chained to be her full self but now she will know that she can move mountains, she have the power to accomplish what ever she wants in life, Julien that's how you give value to your prospects not downing spiral the energy 🤣
She severely cares what other people think and you can tell definitely in her body language
So much of myself in her reaction, though I would have just crumbled after a few of those questions
Glad this resonated! Let me know if you'd like help with going deeper and processing this: application.julienhimself.com
If anyone is ever trying to push you to have an emotional breakthrough, most of the time it’s for them and not you- be aware. This is not healthy and a highly uncomfortable video.
What do you mean it’s for them and not you? And why is this video not healthy?
To voluntarily (with her brother's motivation) do a self-deep dive, in front of an audience, before cameras, not having "right" answers be accepted, and to not break down, that's awesome. She's a very strong woman! I'm sure both she and her brother greatly benefited--their family and friends will be the better from her (and him). Kudos Julien!
Yes, massive respect to the both of them!! 🙏
There is something that either doesn't apply to me or I'm just not understanding
Dude is so relaxed his yawing on a stage.
What a creepy conversation.
Your content and workshop are amazing! I feel like I’m in the middle of lack of self awareness and being 100% woke. My question, for you Julien, is since you bring up having 15+ yrs exp in social cues, do you catch yourself analyzing each and every person you come into vision with each day? Like new anchors? Crossing guard? Cashier? Someone waiting for the bus? The way someone holds their phone 5 persons away from you?
Also does the work you do during your workshops and daily basis, help you deflect yourself and your self awareness?
Julien, I've been watching your seminars for a while and I have a question I couldn't find an answer.
Sometimes you say that if you believe you have a fear for example, and you're in the "now what state?" everything you do, such as looking up techniques and such, reinforces that you are in that state, instead of "what's the reason I am afraid?".
However, if someone is following your advice, how is it that not reinforcing that they're in a state of fear [or other negative state].
IF you consider yourself that you are not confident or scared, and IF you are looking for ways to get out of this, that's reinforcing that you are not starting in a place where you're confident or not scared. How is following your advice not reinforcing that the person is not confident to begin with, for example.
Also smth else I haven't seen this covered in any seminar so far: how does physiology play into all of this? I've been following your advice and worked on myself a LOT, and I am way more happier now and I've got core confidence, but whenever I am in a low state, in terms of physiology [like if I'm really tired, if I have a fever, if I am really hungry], I still return to my previous negative state, maybe not to the full intensity as before, but still feeling things that are NOT in accord with reality.
Is it even possible in those hungry/tired/sick cases to still be congruent and let go of the cause of me being triggered?
These videos show an interesting blend of Freudian and Adlerian psychology. Both looking at past trauma as the reason for present maladies but also using past trauma as a tool in order to cop out of things even though the trauma itself isn’t actually there anymore and can be let go of.
Glad this resonates! Planning on writing a book next year, actually... 😉
She has a good pairs of personality
He is right on the money. She is hurt. But let’s be honest, we are all hurt. Actually, the people whom really hurt us are our parents, not partners. Not really. We are all hurt by our partners. I have my sh#t together, don’t get me wrong. I am not into drugs, nor alcohol, nor cigarettes, not obese. I am a MD and businessman. Anyway, I have problems with partners, but I known in the end, it’s my insecurities, fears… as a consequence of my parents’ influence.
These two are very relatable for me, minus the support. We grew up that hard physical labor was the way and creative fun was shut down most times.
Somebody shattered her heart. Fellas stop abusing woman. And woman stop giving yourself to men if you feel you can't be without them!
Julien you mention in the video you have 15 years training in social skills and you can read people very well. What would you say are the most tell tale signs people are lying to you?
There are MANY tells... I break down everything that I learned here btw: becomehighvibe.com 😉
I am so introverted and shy and social anxiety I hide away from family and Christmas and Thanksgiving. I spent the last 2 Christmas and Thanksgiving alone by my self, away from my wife's family and my family. I stay alone. Only person in my life is my wife
Definitely work to be done then... Let me know if you'd like my help with this: application.julienhimself.com
Follow the grief 💪
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This is sick.
Just one thing. When the man came up and said „cuz im working on myself“. I guess we all saw that hurt her a bit. But whats more important to see is that this man has good intentions but he didnt see his mistake till she showed him it hurt. I guess her problem in general is that she didnt feel enough empathy from her family because the are probably more tough than her, struggling to relate to those little things that may hurt her feelings.
Great observation!
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Is it irrational to be afraid of being vulnerable though? Ppl can hurt us if we are vulnerable
Watch this video on authenticity + relatability: th-cam.com/video/Pn00Fdy7k3Q/w-d-xo.html
When you go into a state of vulnerability, you realise they /can't/ actually hurt you
Yes but being inauthentic is hurting you more.
thx
Godspeed m8
jerks shouldnt have all the keys
You is doing something beyond Ultra maybe
Julien you are simply the best. greetings from Argentina.
Thank you! Glad this was helpful!!
It tired of investing energy into being who I'm not.
Glad you're tired of it... Now, time to let go! 🙏
interesting way you handled this situation, both those siblings seemed confident.
They definitely are! They're there to dive into those last couple things holding them back from reaching an EVEN HIGHER level! 👊
@@JulienHimself 👍hell ye, your an inspiration dud!
Lmao months ago I was told by my parents they would help me find a therapist never happened gotta love it :) and yea sucks too that all of them are over zoom I hate the way the world works
This video is fucking incredible
You can see how when the other guy comes into the video and began to say certain things she would respond to what he said with justifications like "I do that, I work on myself super hard, what are you talking about?" As if she was, to a certain extent, being combative with him. At no point did she even attempt to be combative, or disagreeable, towards Julien. She accepted everything he said as true. Even when Julien started directly asking the guy questions she also felt the need to influence his answers by interjecting her own bits and even answering for him to a certain extent as if her perspective was above his perspective almost. It's as if she lacks in respect for him. I think that needs to be delved into as well because her interaction with Julien, her entire energy, her respect for everything he said, vs her interaction with the other guy, her lack of respect to a certain extent, her need to constantly cut him off and influence or outright answer for him, we're polar opposites. Just something I picked up on. Other than that, good interaction, a good start to a solution.
I can see that with my siblings and myself. We really gotta work things out.
@@Vatsuggggg Hey atleast you're in the headspace to notice that the problem even exists. The first step to solving a problem to realize and admit that there even is one.
Julien what books or sources would you recommend on ‘analysing’ people like you have been doing (to help them)?
Appreciate it :)
She is really pretty
If you are hurt/sad at your core, is carrying yourself day to day in that space the only way to heal? That's scary
No, there's a lot more to it than that... But this is the first step.
She does stuff it down fast!
Grüezi. Great and helpfull content you re providing. Keep going.
Thank you! More to come! 🙏
Lol she handled it so very elegantly, she should have been the instructor, she even let Julien stop what he is doing and wake up, when she says , I feel the energy drop 🤣
She tried to rationalize and talk over/ about literally everything that was being said instead of allowing the feelings, she was being fake as fuck out there.
@@respeezy lol allowing Julien to make her feel down and accept that feeling bad is the truth and the realness? How idiotic 😂
Basically just like what the normal people say, that when you show you bad side like bad personality that the real you 😂
@@respeezyTrust me, ppl like her are trying but they don’t know how to process through the overwhelming feelings. She’ll eventually break through the fakeness the more she navigates through her thoughts and feelings.
Where is the full video with the other guys?
I don't think it's easy to open up when your family member is right next to you.
Loved it ❤️ Cannot wait for Amsterdam 💪💪
Glad this was helpful! See you next month, yes! 👊
That's a very uncool conversation in my opinion. The guy doesn't have social skills at all, he's purposely making this beautiful young lady feel uncomfortable.
The whole idea is to open up and be vulnerable and he was pushing her to be more vulnerable than been fake which u can clearly see she was putting a big front up. That is the whole Idea of the seminar
11:12 Owen appears as NPC for first time I always thought he was the main protagonist
Julien, do you think Jordan Peterson would find anything wrong about how you're conducting psychotherapy here? If yes, what and why?
dud your awesome i learned a lot from you a big respect to you from morrocco
Happy to hear that! Glad this is so helpful!
Myself too I am afraid to be vulnérable to appear weak and attract evil people.
I dont know how to stop that behavior but I want to learn.
Moreover, id love to increase my fucking self esteem.
Let me know if you'd like my help with this: application.julienhimself.com/
Wow! what big personality
So fucking slick. I used to use this one a lot.
Wait until you start to lose their interest and watch for that half smile and say something like "woah its taking alot out of you to be present and happy right now. Isnt it?" Then act like you blurted that out accidentally "im so sorry i shouldnt have blurted that out the way i did. I just got this overwhelming sense of pain and exhaustion. What are you trying to bury?" [END LINE]
.••°°°drop The respectful non intrusive shit. Women want a penis shaped wrecking ball to invade their self agrandized drama that she thinks makes her the main amtagonist in her movie
It's so GREAT & WONDERFUL to see Men in the audience!!! Hallelujah!!! Normally it's women trying to learn this emotional painful stuff! But why is she the only woman in the room??? Looks odd. Why isn't it grilling a man??? This seems strange, sorry. Ohhh ok, he addressed that. Not even halfway through it yet...
The way you’re speaking to her is like wrapping vines around the good things she is trying to keep hold of. I had a friend that used to talk to me like this in the name of self improvement and I let her go because she always told me she had visions of me being a flower with vines suffocating me. I was growing and becoming happier and more resilient to the crazy ass people in this world. Once I let her go I realized that she was the vine sucking the life out of me. Don’t be that person dude. Especially with all these men around, you’re talking to her like she’s fragile because she’s a woman. If you actually cared about her growth, maybe ASK her what is going on vs just TELLING her she’s sad. This whole video is so hard to watch. Its fucked up.
Exactly! She seems fine and he's trying to belittle her and make her feel down by making her say and feel things she doesn't feel...
Honestly this is the vibe I got. He’s looking for a problem when there is no problem and it seems like he’s coming from a perspective of ego rather than love and willingness to help. Especially when he said “I have 15 years of social experience” or sum like that, it made it seem like he’s talking down to her. I also noticed how he switched from trying to pin point and search for an issue to talking his way around what he was doing by explaining how to work through stuff to the audience after her man popped in.
Agreed. This is so condescending and gross.
@@MinecraftInfo2000 hahahaha what a clown
Letting go of trauma is not a fun and light process. There is discomfort and thats okay. This is death of ego, death of self identity to heal.
On the surface it can seem that way but the deeper you dive and the more you allow yourself to be vulnerable, the more you realize how you let past trauma RUN your life.
Love this conversation.
Glad this resonates!! 🙏
he tries so hard to cover her anxiety with humor and laughter and if its jot a session like this they will blow up in your face if you confront them about it and double down on the bs as if you are stupid the gaslight and guilt trip you until they dont feel the stress anymore. i dont fuck with anyone. everyone is mentally displaced.
I see a little of JP's rule number 2 in some questions. Can't think of a better influence honestly..
"Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping" - Yes! 🙏
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