I’m only 15 years old and I obviously don’t want to have a baby anytime soon but this video really made me appreciate my mother even more, and just wow women are so incredible
You do not have to be pressured by anyone to have a child. Being a parent is expensive and exhuasting beyond what most people can imagine. #Childfreebychoice
@@mariasoto1837 Lia only stated how much she appreciates her mum, and as a mum of teenagers, i think that's nice that she can recognize that! She's only 15, hopefully plenty of time to think about whether or not she chooses to have children! Yes, they may be expensive but there's no greater love you'll feel
This is why guys need to appreciate the one who gave birth to their children. Instead of leave them after giving birth because the change of body shape...Every man in the world. LOVE UR WOMAN AS THEY ARE.
Sick of this female nonsense of I Gave him a child so he owes me. It is your child too!!!!. Trust me most men would rather have them themselves if they could rather than being stuck with a woman they no longer can stand for the sake of the kids. A child is not your ticket to a lifelong relationship. As a woman I find it wrong to use a child to keep a man.
As shallow as it might seem, one of my hesitations with getting pregnant is how my body will look afterwards. I know it’s terrible. I’m just so afraid of how my whole world will change. I really appreciate your honesty and your openness. Listening to you really put things in perspective for me and I am really looking forward to hearing more about your journey.
I don't think its terrible or shallow at all. It is your body after all, the home for your essence or your soul (however your call it). It is very important to feel safe, beautiful, powerful "inside" your body.
@t r u t h Congratulations on finding the one! I could not agree more. It has been such a struggle to get to a point where i merely feel ok with how i look and the thought of that just being wrecked forever, freaks me out. No amount of diet or exercise will mitigate the damage that kind of ...expansion... will do to your internal organs and your skin. I'm just not mentally ready for it. Unlike you though. I'm 35 and I don't have much more time to figure this out before the decision will be made for me. I really want a baby, so badly.
I'm more shallow in the sense I'm afraid of ruining my nether regions lol. Like I know after your first it's pretty much the same but I am afraid of it changing in anyway period.
I feel like pregnancy mental health is really important. I don’t have kids and I don’t plan to have them but I was almost the 38 weeks in my cousin’s pregnancy and my aunt and my other cousin always call her whale, elephant or things like that. When she gave birth to her daughter, she developed a heavy post-partum depression for a good year or more. Pregnancy is a tough process of acceptance, it’s not just having your baby and that’s it. To the women or people who gave birth, you’re the most strong and beautiful person ever ❤️
I do not have any children or plan on having them either. Thank you for saying this! I hate how people think its ok to make comments like that just because the woman is pregnant. Your body goes through SO many changes so fast. Just because you are pregnant does not mean you no longer care/are affected by body image. Kudos to her for posting this and being so strong. Its really important that we address mental health and body image for expecting/new mothers.
Same girls I can’t imagine my self having children besides I rather adopt if I ever get the privilege to do so. I have nieces/nephews so I am happy as can be. My friends struggle to understand about me not wanting to have kids but they respect my choices that I make 😊 and so much props to women who do have children they’re true warriors!
Thank you for this comment. I am one of those mothers who had postpartum depression for the first year after having a baby. I have PCOS so I had a hard time dealing with severe acne all over my body and face with scars most of which have turned permanent, a c section scar which turned into a keloid and was painful for 5 months and got diagnosed with two autoimmune diseases. This was all amongst some other major life changes which destroyed me almost. Even though 2020 has been shit overall, this year has been so good for me. I quit my fulltime job and listened to myself to slow the heck down and focus on working on my health etc. just made myself a priority. Also, finally seeking therapy. I tell you the difference has been night and day. I of course still have my days, but let me tell you it has been a journey, so I really really appreciate this comment ❤️
I’m only 19 but I want children eventually, have had diagnosed depression in the past and still working on it... The postpartum depression from pregnancy would probably end me especially if people called me such horrible things like they did to your cousin. Just thinking about it made me cry. I’m really sorry they did that to her and if they still do it.
I really wish people would stop saying shit like, "I'd ruin that body with a pregnancy!" As a compliment. Like...ruin?? A woman bringing new life into the world is so beautiful to me. The way she internally glows, the way she holds her round belly and the love she feels as she becomes a mother. Pregnancy and post partum bodies are gorgeous. Period
while I think other women look completely beautiful no matter what and bringing a life into the world is one of the most magical things go me.. I could never go through pregnancy (at least not how I feel now). If you already struggle with confidence issues and body dysmorphia having a completely different body could make your mental health even worse. And the expectation men set on us are awful as well
Yea its such a negative way of thinking like that especially if it’s not your body so what gives them the right to comment on it. Personally I wouldn’t have a child because I love my body how it is currently but I would never say that someone else ruined their body by having a baby
Hey Sage, Im keep you and your mother in my prayers indefinitely until she’s healthy, happy, and back with you and your family. I know it’s not much but I hope you are reunited very soon. Stay positive and even if it’s difficult, try and stay strong for your mom. Xoxo daisy humphreys
You look BEAUTIFUL and she is an angel. So happy you are sharing your journey because even though I don’t have kids, it will help so many women who are going through the same thing ❤️
I think I suffer from body dysmorphia so even though I wanna have kids I’m also dreading how it will affect me mentally when I already struggle with my body image. It’s enough to make me fear pregnancy.
I have body dysmorphia and I had kids. It has been a struggle. I truly think they have helped me realize that my happiness comes from loving them and them seeing loving myself.
@@SP-kk5nj because a New life is created in your body, and soon you will take your baby in your arms. But please after giving birth 40 Day (it is very important) take care your body. Lay in bed as much as possible, enjoy motherhood and ask for help.
Dude I so feel you. I was 21 when I gave birth to my son in 1997. Prior to pregnancy I was a legit ballerina. My body image was fucked Took me at least a year and a half to accept my new “softness”. My son adored me I kept that as an affirmation. I then recognized males still were interested. It was weird... not being physically perfect... yet being desired.
As a darker skinned person I always wondered what that line on my belly was. I've never had kids but its pretty common for women who have darker skin. Mine will never go way. I never think about it. I love that you are showing women what the body goes through because so much of this is hidden from us. You are beautiful and strong. Love and Peace.
“it’s not about me, it’s about her and ME” i love this. not a mum but i do love to see the process you’re going through, how you are loving and respecting yourself after this big and beautiful change. you’re such an inspiration to me. thank you for talking to us. love you so much 💕
Why was this recommended to me? Lol I'm 27yrs old with no plans of having children, ever. But, I'm happy for you that you are loving yourself and your man is supportive.
As a dietitian, I'd like to remind everyone out there that weight loss and hypocaloric diets in the first year of breastfeeding post partum is not the safest thing to do because you need more calories, proteins, micronutrients and water to sustain the production of milk and the feeding process. I think the most important thing to do is following your own instincts around food and portions, and trying keep your diet nutritious and balanced! also, i looove your baby
I'm 23 & I dream of the day I have kids, but I 100% have fears about my postpartum body. I love how open you are about your struggles, It's really hard seeing so many perfect TH-camrs showing basically a perfect version of pregnancy & postpartum. Having a healthy body image is so hard these days. You look amazing & you made a freakin human!!
Dont worry! you will be fine like Natalia Vodyanova with 5 kids (just joking):)))) Actually i could not breastfeed my baby because of my nipple shape (it was so soft and always have been unfortunately) that my son could not drink milk out of it but i wanted to feed him with my milk, so i pumped with Avent pumper (thanks God) and feed him through bottle. what I really want to say that our body burns looots of callories to produce milk, that is why during pregnancy body collects fat. I know from myself, I lost all gained weight (12 kg) within 3-4 months without diet and starving, because i pumped my milk (every 2-3 hours 90-120 ml of milk) i did it for 6.5 month then i stopped pumping and guess what, my metabolism became slowly after i stopped... so If you are not breastfeeding you can do intermittern fasting with keto to lose weight)
Biggest issue...98% of comments are is females when men should be educating themselves more on being supportive with their partners after a baby and understanding it goes beyond having responsibilities with the child.
I don't relate in anything with her. I'm a gay man with no intentions to have kids but somehow it was so interesting and surprising. I didn't know that the body issue after delivery could be so important.
But it is so cute you are here. I dont think I ever want to have kids. But either way , you and I, we were both delivered by a woman, just like every other human being. So it kind of is an issue that pertains with us as well. The fashion industry, and the movie industry have transformed the idea of how women should be. Especially the first one is, I feel like its kind of "pedophile affiliated". Praising 14 year old girls as the "perfect hanger" for some arrogant faahion designer seems wrong to me. I didnt hear any of the things she said in biology. And I feel that the fact that for example you and I are here even if we never get close to that process, makes us better humans, because she us raising awareness and we are here to get it. Peaceee
I gave birth in September and people really don’t talk about mental health after pregnancy. Postpartum is really rough and I definitely was not prepared for how hard it would be!
Postpartum is hard I used to be really small and I could eat without gaining but even 11 years later with a 11 year old and 8 year old the stretch marks are still there, saggy belly ext. I wasn’t able to breastfeed due to not expressing any out.
My mommy still has postpartum fat 22 years later. She’s tried everything to get rid of it but gave up. Having twins stretched her but she says she wouldn’t trade it for anything. I just poke at it now to get her attention
i'm only a teenager who has not experienced pregnancy nor do i plan to anytime soon, but i really appreciate this video because you answered all of the questions i've ever had about this process. i also really love the emphasis on not comparing everyone to each other as well as the complete honesty of your experiences and also your feelings with everything
I never thought of my extra partum weight as being a comfort to my baby. It makes so much sense that it does. Who wants to nap on a bag of bones?! Lol. Thanks for the perspective. You look great mama!
I’m 19 with my first baby and I felt exactly the same about my body and my mental health was also heavily damaged, I’m so grateful for you Karen for speaking out about what it’s like and not hiding away thank you so much I needed that💗
Girl I just had a c section... the devastation looking at your new body is real. I was always a small woman. I gained a ton of weight and I have a lot more stretch marks than you. But we are beautiful for what we do. Women are amazing and we can do what men will never be able to. Keep up the positivity ❤️
It took me nine months for my body to go back without a diet. My hip bones are still wider than before but my waist actually got smaller and my boobs got smaller but they stopped at a B/C so I got to keep some. Your body is cute even now; you will definitely go back to a least close to your prepregnancy weight by the 1st year after.
I'm crying watching this video. I gave birth a week ago and went thru drastic changes that it took an unexpected toll on me. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Things will get better. 💗
Time changes everything. Please don't go into depression. First two months are really difficult. After that you are gonna enjoy life with your baby. Try to be with someone always. Loneliness kills.
Imagine being pospartun through a full pregnancy with your baby, and your child passes away in birth. I lost my daughter 4 months ago, after o months of pregnancy. This is very hard.
My nana's pregnancy was like that She said it was so hard she cried alot and everyone was asking where the baby was including some of the nurses at the hospital. She said it was so hard telling everyone the baby was dead.
I'm not even pregnant or close to being pregnant anytime soon but I love watching you and your journey and I appreciate that you've been addressing a lot of things that I don't see/hear moms talk about often including your mental health. Thank you so much for having an open convo and helping to normalize this bc I'm pretty sure a lot of us find/will find it super helpful! Love you Karen! ❤️❤️
It’s been so amazing watching you grow over the years, get married, and have a child of your own. You are a beautiful woman love you very much Karen ❤️
I’m so appreciative that you acknowledged mental health and published a no filter after birth experience. You’re equipping women with information that they might not have had access to before, which is so awesome!!! Thank you and keep doing what you’re doing, lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
I'm not even pregnant, but hearing you say that you're thiccer and you actually like how it looks and feels made me feel so much better about my muffin tops and tummy ❤
The thumbnail is so beautiful Also I find it pleasing/ satisfying that you're not actively trying to lose weight so quickly and that you've come to terms that your "new" body is gorgeous. You carried a small human for almost a year
I really appreciate this video, I’m 3 months postpartum and going through the same things BUT without being reassured by anyone so it’s definitely a transition and process that i feel everyone just expects you to be the same as you were before and that is not the case at all! Thanks for being transparent!
i want kids more than anything. but at 29 years old i still struggle with body image so so so much. i'm in a committed relationship but i'm terrified of the body changes.
Exactly how i feel. I struggled all my life with my image and I finally feel happy with it. A change like that would probably make me depressed. I just want to be hot forever
I’m 8 month postpartum and still struggle with body image. I too was 97lbs pre baby and gained 50lbs during pregnancy! Postpartum depression hits really hard around 4-5 months after so be easy on yourself! Thank you for being honest and open with your experience! I wish I had watched this video before I had my baby!
I'm 100lb too with 32A boobs. Did your boobs grew? Did it shrink after pregnancy and breast feeding? Did it sag? I so scare of getting pregnant cause of saggy boobs or boobs becoming smaller than what it was before
@@Cecilia- I think you can still maintain your boob size after pregnancy as long as you do some workouts like push up and have enough proteins in your diet! :) Just for reference, I was 100lbs with 32DD before having my son. I weighed about 138/140lbs after pregnancy and I was 34H at one point. I have been working out consecutively and trying all kinds of diets for two years (so far only intermittent fasting works for me for losing weight), right now I am at 113lbs with 34DDD.
@@Cecilia-My mum has about the same body as you. According to her, her boobs returned to pre pregnancy size after she stopped breastfeeding and 32A was too small to even sag. Everyone has different bodies tho
I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with my body. Skinny was never skinny enough when it came to my own body and no matter how many times people told me I was “too skinny” I ignored them as I didn’t feel skinny enough and continued to starve myself because as I lost the pounds, I gained confidence. But then I fell pregnant and now I’m eating a whole lot better and not worrying about my current size in the slightest because I wanna make sure my baby gets everything he needs! 🤞🏻 I’m just so scared I’ll become really depressed once my little boys here because of the changes to my body. I’m currently 7 months pregnant❤️😣
I love that you are really trying to refocus your mindset using Dove. Like reassuring yourself of your beauty because at the end of the day, your baby is happy with you and loves you. That is so wholesome and healthy, in my opinion. It must be really tough but I am grateful that you are being open about your feelings and willing to share this with the world for support.
Just a reminder that we all appreciate you making these videos and being vulnerable, but this is YOUR journey. You don’t owe us anything! You are glowing and that’s what makes me happy for you 🥰
I know your brother from high school in Hong Kong, I had no idea you were even related but I had been watching already! I recently came out to my parents and seeing an asian lady be so candid about her marriage, faith and parenthood has been immensely helpful. thank you for being a source of calm!
Please make a video how to take care of new mom and small baby without elders or parents help after c section..my sister delivered a baby recently and no one is with her because of covid situation.How to take care of new born along with new mom ...
Tell your sister to eat something that has blackpepper in it. And I mean A LOT. Because it helps on making the body shrinks from the swell and heats up. Also suggesting her not to move so much, like actually just put the food and everything where she can reach as quick. Cus c section sucks and that hurts way more than normal birth. So tell her to prevent from too much walking cus it can cause the stitching would reopen and can be infected and left a huge, ugly scar. For the baby, just get a basin or a small tub for the baby to bath in close to her, the closer the better (ex: the bedroom). Idk if that actually helps with yout quesrion or not.. but I hope it helps
food would be a great help. see if you can maybe bring some prepared meals to her home so she’s not so worried about cooking / paying to buy food with the baby💖
I love your honesty about you are somewhat unhappy with parts of your postpartum body, I feel like so many people talk about how they don’t care and they’re not focused on it which just makes so many new mothers feel shitty for caring about their body
I’m a mom of two and loved everything about this video ❤️ so real and honest. My favorite thing you said was about your baby loving the belly pooch! It’s so true. Thank you for making it okay for other moms to talk about depression and not rush to lose the baby weight! Your baby looks so content and healthy!
I liked how you kept it real, when you said your old clothes sitting in the closet triggered you. Thank you for the honesty. You look beautiful and I am happy your hubby is saying positive words to lift you up
All women need to see this. Coming from a skinny TH-cam influence you are not setting anyone up for false standards because you are so real and honest. Thank you for showing us how beautiful you are prebaby and now. I’m 3 months pp and I’m finally now feeling like myself. Buying the new clothes will make you feel better when you mourn over your old self. It will be okay. I’m so glad to be experiencing this with you.
It’s possible you might fit into your old clothes a few months down the road. I didn’t focus on working out postpartum and eventually around 6mo pp I realized I was back to my original size and my hips had gone back down to their normal size. Everyone is different, but just wanted to say you are still in the very early days so give it some more time and you could be pleasantly surprised 💜
I’m pregnant and SO glad I stumbled across your video. This is helping me a lot with trying to mentally prepare myself for the changes that all pregnant women experience. The amount of beautiful energy you radiate . . . wow! You are amazing for bringing attention to this! Thank you!
Many reasons why I don’t want kids ...But I’m so glad that you’re talking about this subject as it is so important. Pregnancy, labor, delivery, and recovery is such an intense, stressful, yet beautiful time but it is very easy to feel alone and isolated and that your struggles are for you alone. So I am so glad that you are discussing these things and helping women understand that these changes are normal And to not feel as self conscious or to be so hard on themselves to look their former selves immediately after labor bc that’s not how it works !!
Definitely this is not really talked about much, so thank you! Like you I wished I knew about it before I gave birth but I feel like you don't really "know" until you go through motherhood. Sleep deprivation is a massive factor. Everything gets better with time, once you get to sleep a little more and feel comfortable and confident as a mum x
I’m pregnant with my 3rd child. With each of my other children I eventually lost the extra weight with no effort. It does take 9 months to grow the baby it only makes sense it would take a while to lose that. I ended up donating my blue jeans from pre pregnancy because I wore juniors sizes and they just aren’t meant for the wider hips that I will always have now. Even tho my weight was exactly the same as before. It wasn’t the weight necessarily it was the bone structure really.
This is what everyone's belly looks like after birth! You're actually quite blessed, it doesn't look like it's from weight gain in your case, just normal after baby adjustments. It's not permanent, mine went away both times after about 3 - 6 months, babies just kill your abs and spread your hips so it can appear different for a little while. Hang in there!
I finally found someone to relate to! I was also super small and now everything is big. It really feels good to know you ain’t the only one that didn’t snap right back like some of these other small girls do You got my follow. Thank you for sharing!
When you said your body did 180 on you, I felt that.. I mean I don’t have any kids yet but I think about my family and friends who did. Having a kid is a huge commitment and sacrifice, it really takes a village to raise one child. So sometimes I just take a moment to be grateful for all the ppl who got me where I am today
I’m 27 and going to be giving birth to my 2nd baby Spring 2021. Nervous and excited for all the changes. Thank you for this video Karen, you always keep it real ❤️
Love this. These are the things no one talks about. It’s such a beautiful thing to be a mom but it’s crazy what happens to you after you have a baby. Still, I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Soooo I’ve never been pregnant but I just wanna say that personally I feel like women’s postpartum stomachs are like trophies. We bring life into this world and that’s amazing.
such a valid feeling experience and statement but so is someone struggling with huge changes to their bodies whether its with self love intimacy or just sharing how they feel authentically.
Omg girl, all you have mentioned are all true! I have 21 month old now and I am still 10lbs away from my pre pregnancy! It sucks to see that some of my clothes especially the pants won’t fit but you know what, it’s ok because when you see your little one running and calling you mama is the best feeling ever!
Yes, please! I have a very real fear of how my relationship with my bf (assuming future husband) would change for the worse if we had a kid. I'd like to see an honest conversation about it... the good and the bad... happy and sad, if Karen and Leo feel comfortable sharing.
@@numinuminixstix the brutal truth is, if he fell inlove with you solely for your body, chances are, he will fall out of love with you when your body starts changing after pregnancy. So find you a man who is in love with your soul.
@@madonnauchehara7755 I agree with you. But I don't think anyone falls in love with someone because of their body. Infatuation, yes, but not love. I think most husbands just want their wives to be healthy and aren't too concerned about stretch marks, sagging skin, etc. :) My concern is more with the stress of raising a child. The sleepless nights and constant responsibility with little to no breaks.
Watching this really reminds me to appreciate my mom and sister even more than I already do now, because of how much they sacrifice after pregnancy for my siblings us and my niece and nephew. Love how you are one of the few people here on TH-cam that speaks about this.
she is so brave! i relate so much its so hard i have such severe body issues its holding me back from having kids cause i honestly dont think i can handle the body changes. i just feel so proud of her tbh gives me courage to grow and learn myself
Is nice you are bringing the postpartum depression out there, actually is more common that we imagine and not necessarily because of the changes of the body, and sometimes mothers didn't even know they have depression because they think is just been tired. And it's fine is a difficult process to take care to really get the responsibility of a new human been. And sometimes they feel guilty about it, I think couples should go to therapy during and after giving birth, because everything changes, sometimes even husband feel abandoned because they don't get any attention and by any is really like zero so for a healthy family environment there should be tons of communication and a little help of a doctor could be amazing. Thank you for all the honesty and bringing awareness about it is not all cute and like fairy tales is just real life.
Seriously could have used you 18 years ago when I had my first. It's a lot to happen all at once and it doesn't help that we are constantly comparing each other. I felt the same as you - my body didn't feel the same right after either. My 34B boobs never recovered (sorry) and I cried when I realized they weren't the same. Thank you for sharing this !!
I say to all new moms to not worry about “bouncing back”. Your body needs time to recover and no amount of diet or exercise will make that happen faster. I didn’t feel like myself for over a year even after losing weight. Be kind to yourself. It will find its way back all on its own. If I had one regret, it would be not being more in the moment during the baby phase. It’s true when people say it goes by fast and one day, you’ll miss it.
I love that you are talking so much about the realities of pregnancy. Alot of people like to gloss over the real stuff and it gives people such a false image of what it really is like. Its tough with alot of ups and downs but so worth it.
I had my little one not long ago and I too was the "same petite me" my whole life and am having some trouble feeling myself in my current body. This really helps, so thank you for sharing!
I love my parents! Yes, parents. Even though my father isn't the one who gave birth, he was there when my mom was pregnant with me and to my brother. My mom isn't the one who is carrying us, but also my father. I love how little my mom is but able to carry me and my brother for 9 months. I love how my dad was there for us. I just love them unconditionally.
How could you be any more beautiful than you are right this moment?! I see you embracing your motherhood with positivity and questing for wellness. This is your time to shine in the light you radiate! You go, girl!
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I’m only 15 years old and I obviously don’t want to have a baby anytime soon but this video really made me appreciate my mother even more, and just wow women are so incredible
That's nice of you to realise!
You do not have to be pressured by anyone to have a child. Being a parent is expensive and exhuasting beyond what most people can imagine. #Childfreebychoice
@@mariasoto1837 Lia only stated how much she appreciates her mum, and as a mum of teenagers, i think that's nice that she can recognize that! She's only 15, hopefully plenty of time to think about whether or not she chooses to have children! Yes, they may be expensive but there's no greater love you'll feel
@@ritajit4730 Love is an attitude which comes with feelings and its unecesaary to say there is not greater love.
@@mariasoto1837 That is what i believe - with you putting a "child free by choice" hashtag, you obviously have a different opinion!
This is why guys need to appreciate the one who gave birth to their children. Instead of leave them after giving birth because the change of body shape...Every man in the world. LOVE UR WOMAN AS THEY ARE.
PREACHHHH IT!!!!! Men really dont appreciate anything that woman give them
what a lovely comment!
So true we have to go through a lot of changes physically and emotionally!!
You do realize that a man gives the child to the woman too don't you? Cause I tried having one without a man it didn't work.
Sick of this female nonsense of I Gave him a child so he owes me. It is your child too!!!!. Trust me most men would rather have them themselves if they could rather than being stuck with a woman they no longer can stand for the sake of the kids. A child is not your ticket to a lifelong relationship. As a woman I find it wrong to use a child to keep a man.
"she just woke up from her nap"
not even a second later she's back asleep aww 🥺
Lol , newborns 🥰🤗❤️🙏🏻
I'm so glad to hear you talk about the realistic changes that can happen. I felt very related to hearing this.
I watched your videos 😊 and obviously i love love love your all video's 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
As shallow as it might seem, one of my hesitations with getting pregnant is how my body will look afterwards. I know it’s terrible. I’m just so afraid of how my whole world will change. I really appreciate your honesty and your openness. Listening to you really put things in perspective for me and I am really looking forward to hearing more about your journey.
I don't think its terrible or shallow at all. It is your body after all, the home for your essence or your soul (however your call it). It is very important to feel safe, beautiful, powerful "inside" your body.
You don’t have to have a baby. Your body your choice.
@t r u t h Congratulations on finding the one! I could not agree more. It has been such a struggle to get to a point where i merely feel ok with how i look and the thought of that just being wrecked forever, freaks me out. No amount of diet or exercise will mitigate the damage that kind of ...expansion... will do to your internal organs and your skin. I'm just not mentally ready for it. Unlike you though. I'm 35 and I don't have much more time to figure this out before the decision will be made for me. I really want a baby, so badly.
I'm more shallow in the sense I'm afraid of ruining my nether regions lol. Like I know after your first it's pretty much the same but I am afraid of it changing in anyway period.
That’s the only reason I don’t want a kid
I feel like pregnancy mental health is really important. I don’t have kids and I don’t plan to have them but I was almost the 38 weeks in my cousin’s pregnancy and my aunt and my other cousin always call her whale, elephant or things like that. When she gave birth to her daughter, she developed a heavy post-partum depression for a good year or more. Pregnancy is a tough process of acceptance, it’s not just having your baby and that’s it.
To the women or people who gave birth, you’re the most strong and beautiful person ever ❤️
I do not have any children or plan on having them either. Thank you for saying this! I hate how people think its ok to make comments like that just because the woman is pregnant. Your body goes through SO many changes so fast. Just because you are pregnant does not mean you no longer care/are affected by body image.
Kudos to her for posting this and being so strong. Its really important that we address mental health and body image for expecting/new mothers.
Same girls I can’t imagine my self having children besides I rather adopt if I ever get the privilege to do so. I have nieces/nephews so I am happy as can be. My friends struggle to understand about me not wanting to have kids but they respect my choices that I make 😊 and so much props to women who do have children they’re true warriors!
Thank you for this comment. I am one of those mothers who had postpartum depression for the first year after having a baby. I have PCOS so I had a hard time dealing with severe acne all over my body and face with scars most of which have turned permanent, a c section scar which turned into a keloid and was painful for 5 months and got diagnosed with two autoimmune diseases. This was all amongst some other major life changes which destroyed me almost. Even though 2020 has been shit overall, this year has been so good for me. I quit my fulltime job and listened to myself to slow the heck down and focus on working on my health etc. just made myself a priority. Also, finally seeking therapy. I tell you the difference has been night and day. I of course still have my days, but let me tell you it has been a journey, so I really really appreciate this comment ❤️
I’m only 19 but I want children eventually, have had diagnosed depression in the past and still working on it... The postpartum depression from pregnancy would probably end me especially if people called me such horrible things like they did to your cousin. Just thinking about it made me cry. I’m really sorry they did that to her and if they still do it.
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Love how honest you are, it just sets a realistic view of what it's like to have a baby. This is so important for all women🙌🏾
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Agreed! This helps so much too for me to think if I do want kids!
I’ve recommended your channel to a new mom! she loves it
Aww thank you for being so raw and real with us. You are beautiful and I hope you can give us a haul when you are ready for your new clothes haul 💕✨
Agreed.
I really wish people would stop saying shit like, "I'd ruin that body with a pregnancy!" As a compliment. Like...ruin?? A woman bringing new life into the world is so beautiful to me. The way she internally glows, the way she holds her round belly and the love she feels as she becomes a mother. Pregnancy and post partum bodies are gorgeous. Period
It’s really selfish if you think about it.
while I think other women look completely beautiful no matter what and bringing a life into the world is one of the most magical things go me.. I could never go through pregnancy (at least not how I feel now). If you already struggle with confidence issues and body dysmorphia having a completely different body could make your mental health even worse. And the expectation men set on us are awful as well
@@TashaxMack what is?
Yea its such a negative way of thinking like that especially if it’s not your body so what gives them the right to comment on it. Personally I wouldn’t have a child because I love my body how it is currently but I would never say that someone else ruined their body by having a baby
@@TashaxMack could you clarify your comment???
My moms in the hospital right now on life support. Watching this makes me miss her 10x more. Please pray for her😭 she’s my rock and everythjng
Hey Sage,
Im keep you and your mother in my prayers indefinitely until she’s healthy, happy, and back with you and your family. I know it’s not much but I hope you are reunited very soon. Stay positive and even if it’s difficult, try and stay strong for your mom. Xoxo daisy humphreys
Thank you so much Daisy. This means more to me than you know, thank you a million times❤️
@@Sage-pb3gs ❤️❤️❤️ Everything will be okay ❤️❤️❤️❤️.
“It’s not all about me anymore, it’s about her and me.”
Such touching words, I’m so happy for you. Dove is the cutest!
You look BEAUTIFUL and she is an angel. So happy you are sharing your journey because even though I don’t have kids, it will help so many women who are going through the same thing ❤️
she really is pretty 🥺
Karen: She has just woke up from her nap
Also baby dove: 😴😴😴😴😴
same
Biggest mood tbh
That’s was soo cute !!!!
Hahahaha cute tho
Lmao
I think I suffer from body dysmorphia so even though I wanna have kids I’m also dreading how it will affect me mentally when I already struggle with my body image. It’s enough to make me fear pregnancy.
Same I’m saving up now for a surrogate or adoption the money can go either way.
You can adopt:) if you have fear but want children why not help those who need parents?
Same, I would love to have a kid that's biologically mine but I don't think I'd be able to deal with my body being different after
Funny bc I have body dysmorphia too but I see pregnancy body = freedom, bc then I'll have an extra weight with a purpose
I have body dysmorphia and I had kids. It has been a struggle. I truly think they have helped me realize that my happiness comes from loving them and them seeing loving myself.
The woman’s body is literally so powerful
Indeed
Why? People say this all the time but I’m currently in the 9th month of pregnancy and have never felt so weak and tired 😭
@@SP-kk5nj because a New life is created in your body, and soon you will take your baby in your arms. But please after giving birth 40 Day (it is very important) take care your body. Lay in bed as much as possible, enjoy motherhood and ask for help.
@@SP-kk5nj if u have any questions feel free to ask anything)
@@SP-kk5nj because men wouldn’t be able to handle that
Dude I so feel you. I was 21 when I gave birth to my son in 1997. Prior to pregnancy I was a legit ballerina. My body image was fucked Took me at least a year and a half to accept my new “softness”. My son adored me I kept that as an affirmation. I then recognized males still were interested. It was weird... not being physically perfect... yet being desired.
As a darker skinned person I always wondered what that line on my belly was. I've never had kids but its pretty common for women who have darker skin. Mine will never go way. I never think about it. I love that you are showing women what the body goes through because so much of this is hidden from us. You are beautiful and strong. Love and Peace.
I am 15 and have that line what does it mean
@@derica818 I have that too it's just a line where ur body was formed in the womb. It seals up in the middle. Its normal dw about it
I'm italian and quite pale but I also have it. I think it's kinda cute tbh haha
@@DrBitchcraft. I'm Mexican and I'm super pale, but I have it too. I love it!
I'm Mexican kind of white ish lmao but I can kind of see it. Never really noticed it before. I think all women may have that.
Dove just looks like multiple mochis stuck together, in a really good way
That’s so cute hahah
That’s such a cute description!! 😂😂
Thats the cutest description everrrr 😍💕🥺
I came from ms lam lmao
Literally such a beautiful transformation into womanhood.
“it’s not about me, it’s about her and ME” i love this. not a mum but i do love to see the process you’re going through, how you are loving and respecting yourself after this big and beautiful change. you’re such an inspiration to me. thank you for talking to us. love you so much 💕
Why was this recommended to me? Lol
I'm 27yrs old with no plans of having children, ever. But, I'm happy for you that you are loving yourself and your man is supportive.
I agree it showed up for me too lol
@@Qejt idk what happen with the algorithm but its broken for us 3. I see you @Moochi Jimin lol BTS Army in the house
same, but i’m...14 🤭
same here! 27 and do not want kids ever. I'm happy for her though
@@ellie04026 you are too young to think of that lol focus on yourself first. Live life!
She's just a breath of fresh air. Like honestly I appreciate this.
I love how transparent you are! It makes the community feel like a family. Also, you should do a postpartum try on haul
As a dietitian, I'd like to remind everyone out there that weight loss and hypocaloric diets in the first year of breastfeeding post partum is not the safest thing to do because you need more calories, proteins, micronutrients and water to sustain the production of milk and the feeding process. I think the most important thing to do is following your own instincts around food and portions, and trying keep your diet nutritious and balanced! also, i looove your baby
Yes yes yes!!! Any breastfeeding mommas need to hear this!! I always think about this when I hear breastfeeding moms are on a “diet”!
YES
she is not breastfeeding
Can we still exercise though?? And still be eating a lot
@@stephanie1742 i know but she cited a specific mindset during breastfeeding and I wanted to address that
I'm 23 & I dream of the day I have kids, but I 100% have fears about my postpartum body. I love how open you are about your struggles, It's really hard seeing so many perfect TH-camrs showing basically a perfect version of pregnancy & postpartum. Having a healthy body image is so hard these days. You look amazing & you made a freakin human!!
Dont worry! you will be fine like Natalia Vodyanova with 5 kids (just joking):))))
Actually i could not breastfeed my baby because of my nipple shape (it was so soft and always have been unfortunately) that my son could not drink milk out of it but i wanted to feed him with my milk, so i pumped with Avent pumper (thanks God) and feed him through bottle. what I really want to say that our body burns looots of callories to produce milk, that is why during pregnancy body collects fat. I know from myself, I lost all gained weight (12 kg) within 3-4 months without diet and starving, because i pumped my milk (every 2-3 hours 90-120 ml of milk) i did it for 6.5 month then i stopped pumping and guess what, my metabolism became slowly after i stopped... so If you are not breastfeeding you can do intermittern fasting with keto to lose weight)
Biggest issue...98% of comments are is females when men should be educating themselves more on being supportive with their partners after a baby and understanding it goes beyond having responsibilities with the child.
I don't relate in anything with her. I'm a gay man with no intentions to have kids but somehow it was so interesting and surprising. I didn't know that the body issue after delivery could be so important.
But it is so cute you are here. I dont think I ever want to have kids. But either way , you and I, we were both delivered by a woman, just like every other human being. So it kind of is an issue that pertains with us as well. The fashion industry, and the movie industry have transformed the idea of how women should be. Especially the first one is, I feel like its kind of "pedophile affiliated". Praising 14 year old girls as the "perfect hanger" for some arrogant faahion designer seems wrong to me. I didnt hear any of the things she said in biology. And I feel that the fact that for example you and I are here even if we never get close to that process, makes us better humans, because she us raising awareness and we are here to get it. Peaceee
I gave birth in September and people really don’t talk about mental health after pregnancy. Postpartum is really rough and I definitely was not prepared for how hard it would be!
Exact same here!!
... Postpartum is harder than giving birth !! I wish someone would of warned me .
Postpartum is hard I used to be really small and I could eat without gaining but even 11 years later with a 11 year old and 8 year old the stretch marks are still there, saggy belly ext. I wasn’t able to breastfeed due to not expressing any out.
@@Yogirliej4dee what does that have to to with postpartum
Postpartum is hell on earth!! It’s almost not worth it tbh. If you don’t have support and help you could really plummet
My mommy still has postpartum fat 22 years later. She’s tried everything to get rid of it but gave up. Having twins stretched her but she says she wouldn’t trade it for anything. I just poke at it now to get her attention
You poke at it my mom would straight up slap me lol 😂
Lol 😂 yeah and she’s like “hey, you messing with my baby fat? 😂
its most likely desti recti which is separation of ab muscle piled on top of fat.
You poke at it? That is so fucking cute broo my heart is doing squishies
This is the reason I don’t have kids!
i'm only a teenager who has not experienced pregnancy nor do i plan to anytime soon, but i really appreciate this video because you answered all of the questions i've ever had about this process. i also really love the emphasis on not comparing everyone to each other as well as the complete honesty of your experiences and also your feelings with everything
I never thought of my extra partum weight as being a comfort to my baby. It makes so much sense that it does. Who wants to nap on a bag of bones?! Lol. Thanks for the perspective. You look great mama!
I’ve literally never seen a more adorable baby than Dove. She is truly an angel.
when the baby randomly started smiling my heart melted 🥺
I’m 19 with my first baby and I felt exactly the same about my body and my mental health was also heavily damaged, I’m so grateful for you Karen for speaking out about what it’s like and not hiding away thank you so much I needed that💗
She is the most serene baby!! Perfect name for such a peaceful baby.
Girl I just had a c section... the devastation looking at your new body is real. I was always a small woman. I gained a ton of weight and I have a lot more stretch marks than you. But we are beautiful for what we do. Women are amazing and we can do what men will never be able to. Keep up the positivity ❤️
It took me nine months for my body to go back without a diet. My hip bones are still wider than before but my waist actually got smaller and my boobs got smaller but they stopped at a B/C so I got to keep some. Your body is cute even now; you will definitely go back to a least close to your prepregnancy weight by the 1st year after.
I'm crying watching this video. I gave birth a week ago and went thru drastic changes that it took an unexpected toll on me. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Things will get better. 💗
Time changes everything. Please don't go into depression. First two months are really difficult. After that you are gonna enjoy life with your baby. Try to be with someone always. Loneliness kills.
Congratulations!
Wooow congratulations!!!
@@lovemalakha6904 thank you for the support!💗
Girl, know that I really like you and your channel but... seeing this cuty baby sleeping is the most precious thing ever🥺❤
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I love how you’re okay with not loosing weight and being squishy. It’s so refreshing
Thats my belly without ever having had a pregnancy
Am with you
Same! At least she can confidently wear a bikini 😊
Same, if I get pregnant it will get even worse😭
Imagine being pospartun through a full pregnancy with your baby, and your child passes away in birth. I lost my daughter 4 months ago, after o months of pregnancy. This is very hard.
oh :( im so sorry for u.. i hope you are better now, everything is going to be ok! you are amazing ❤️
The gap is going to be filled with love again, i promise❤️
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So sorry ❤️
My nana's pregnancy was like that
She said it was so hard she cried alot and everyone was asking where the baby was including some of the nurses at the hospital. She said it was so hard telling everyone the baby was dead.
My sister is pregnant and I'm gonna sent this to her
Good luck and congrats to your sister!
It's a boi🎉🔥❤️
I'm not even pregnant or close to being pregnant anytime soon but I love watching you and your journey and I appreciate that you've been addressing a lot of things that I don't see/hear moms talk about often including your mental health. Thank you so much for having an open convo and helping to normalize this bc I'm pretty sure a lot of us find/will find it super helpful! Love you Karen! ❤️❤️
It’s been so amazing watching you grow over the years, get married, and have a child of your own. You are a beautiful woman love you very much Karen ❤️
I’m so appreciative that you acknowledged mental health and published a no filter after birth experience. You’re equipping women with information that they might not have had access to before, which is so awesome!!! Thank you and keep doing what you’re doing, lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
Love the transparency. 3.5 years after birth and I still have body image issues. So I'm glad you're honest enough to share.
I'm not even pregnant, but hearing you say that you're thiccer and you actually like how it looks and feels made me feel so much better about my muffin tops and tummy ❤
The thumbnail is so beautiful
Also I find it pleasing/ satisfying that you're not actively trying to lose weight so quickly and that you've come to terms that your "new" body is gorgeous. You carried a small human for almost a year
I really appreciate this video, I’m 3 months postpartum and going through the same things BUT without being reassured by anyone so it’s definitely a transition and process that i feel everyone just expects you to be the same as you were before and that is not the case at all! Thanks for being transparent!
This is why I wouldn’t be able to have kids. I already hate my body as is. A body change from pregnancy would destroy me.
i want kids more than anything. but at 29 years old i still struggle with body image so so so much. i'm in a committed relationship but i'm terrified of the body changes.
Exactly how i feel. I struggled all my life with my image and I finally feel happy with it. A change like that would probably make me depressed. I just want to be hot forever
Just adopt
@@s.d4001 "just adopt" like you don't have to be rich AF to be able to do that. if i had the money i would!!
@@ihatehandles111 um idk maybe ur country has capitalised the adoption ‘industry’ but mine hasn’t. It’s cheap in U.K.
Wow, thank you for this! 😩
oh wow hi I love your channel
DOVE is the cutest baby ive ever seen, she was even smiling in her sleep ! I wonder what shes dreaming about
I’m 8 month postpartum and still struggle with body image. I too was 97lbs pre baby and gained 50lbs during pregnancy! Postpartum depression hits really hard around 4-5 months after so be easy on yourself! Thank you for being honest and open with your experience! I wish I had watched this video before I had my baby!
I'm 100lb too with 32A boobs. Did your boobs grew? Did it shrink after pregnancy and breast feeding? Did it sag? I so scare of getting pregnant cause of saggy boobs or boobs becoming smaller than what it was before
@@Cecilia- I think you can still maintain your boob size after pregnancy as long as you do some workouts like push up and have enough proteins in your diet! :) Just for reference, I was 100lbs with 32DD before having my son. I weighed about 138/140lbs after pregnancy and I was 34H at one point. I have been working out consecutively and trying all kinds of diets for two years (so far only intermittent fasting works for me for losing weight), right now I am at 113lbs with 34DDD.
@@irisssss21 Wow I'm so jelly. Your body sounds amazing, proportion wise
@@Cecilia- thank you but its actually very easy for me gain weight and all my weight is stored in my stomach 😅
@@Cecilia-My mum has about the same body as you. According to her, her boobs returned to pre pregnancy size after she stopped breastfeeding and 32A was too small to even sag. Everyone has different bodies tho
"she just woke up from her nap"
Dove : *falls back asleep*
I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with my body. Skinny was never skinny enough when it came to my own body and no matter how many times people told me I was “too skinny” I ignored them as I didn’t feel skinny enough and continued to starve myself because as I lost the pounds, I gained confidence. But then I fell pregnant and now I’m eating a whole lot better and not worrying about my current size in the slightest because I wanna make sure my baby gets everything he needs! 🤞🏻 I’m just so scared I’ll become really depressed once my little boys here because of the changes to my body.
I’m currently 7 months pregnant❤️😣
I love that you are really trying to refocus your mindset using Dove. Like reassuring yourself of your beauty because at the end of the day, your baby is happy with you and loves you. That is so wholesome and healthy, in my opinion. It must be really tough but I am grateful that you are being open about your feelings and willing to share this with the world for support.
Having #2 soon and it's making me worried about my body again, this helped ease some of my worries! Thanks for being so open and honest
Just a reminder that we all appreciate you making these videos and being vulnerable, but this is YOUR journey. You don’t owe us anything! You are glowing and that’s what makes me happy for you 🥰
I know your brother from high school in Hong Kong, I had no idea you were even related but I had been watching already! I recently came out to my parents and seeing an asian lady be so candid about her marriage, faith and parenthood has been immensely helpful. thank you for being a source of calm!
Please make a video how to take care of new mom and small baby without elders or parents help after c section..my sister delivered a baby recently and no one is with her because of covid situation.How to take care of new born along with new mom ...
congrats 2 your sister..i hope she gets by well
congrats 2 your sister..i hope she gets by well
Tell your sister to eat something that has blackpepper in it. And I mean A LOT. Because it helps on making the body shrinks from the swell and heats up. Also suggesting her not to move so much, like actually just put the food and everything where she can reach as quick. Cus c section sucks and that hurts way more than normal birth. So tell her to prevent from too much walking cus it can cause the stitching would reopen and can be infected and left a huge, ugly scar. For the baby, just get a basin or a small tub for the baby to bath in close to her, the closer the better (ex: the bedroom). Idk if that actually helps with yout quesrion or not.. but I hope it helps
food would be a great help. see if you can maybe bring some prepared meals to her home so she’s not so worried about cooking / paying to buy food with the baby💖
@@alyssamunoz504 yes that'd be great too.. one of the best meal that she should have was blackpepper fried beef
I love love you talked about mental health.. and the idea that the squishy mom body is what the baby loves is AMAZING
My aunt gave birth almost two months ago, and she has been having a terrible post partum depression. Specially with this quarantine.
I love your honesty about you are somewhat unhappy with parts of your postpartum body, I feel like so many people talk about how they don’t care and they’re not focused on it which just makes so many new mothers feel shitty for caring about their body
Love how transparent and healthy your mindset is about your post partum body but at the same time it's freaking me out about ever getting pregnant
I’m a mom of two and loved everything about this video ❤️ so real and honest. My favorite thing you said was about your baby loving the belly pooch! It’s so true. Thank you for making it okay for other moms to talk about depression and not rush to lose the baby weight! Your baby looks so content and healthy!
No one makes videos about this as transparent as you, these feel so good and helps me feel hope and strong. Thank you !!
I liked how you kept it real, when you said your old clothes sitting in the closet triggered you. Thank you for the honesty. You look beautiful and I am happy your hubby is saying positive words to lift you up
All women need to see this. Coming from a skinny TH-cam influence you are not setting anyone up for false standards because you are so real and honest. Thank you for showing us how beautiful you are prebaby and now.
I’m 3 months pp and I’m finally now feeling like myself. Buying the new clothes will make you feel better when you mourn over your old self. It will be okay. I’m so glad to be experiencing this with you.
It’s possible you might fit into your old clothes a few months down the road. I didn’t focus on working out postpartum and eventually around 6mo pp I realized I was back to my original size and my hips had gone back down to their normal size. Everyone is different, but just wanted to say you are still in the very early days so give it some more time and you could be pleasantly surprised 💜
Hey.....hope you dont mind me asking..do the stretch Mark's go away...and does the muffin top too
I’m pregnant and SO glad I stumbled across your video. This is helping me a lot with trying to mentally prepare myself for the changes that all pregnant women experience. The amount of beautiful energy you radiate . . . wow! You are amazing for bringing attention to this! Thank you!
Many reasons why I don’t want kids ...But I’m so glad that you’re talking about this subject as it is so important. Pregnancy, labor, delivery, and recovery is such an intense, stressful, yet beautiful time but it is very easy to feel alone and isolated and that your struggles are for you alone. So I am so glad that you are discussing these things and helping women understand that these changes are normal And to not feel as self conscious or to be so hard on themselves to look their former selves immediately after labor bc that’s not how it works !!
Definitely this is not really talked about much, so thank you! Like you I wished I knew about it before I gave birth but I feel like you don't really "know" until you go through motherhood. Sleep deprivation is a massive factor. Everything gets better with time, once you get to sleep a little more and feel comfortable and confident as a mum x
“I wanna keep the weight” I LOVE THAT. Thank you for sharing this with us.❤️
I’m pregnant with my 3rd child. With each of my other children I eventually lost the extra weight with no effort. It does take 9 months to grow the baby it only makes sense it would take a while to lose that. I ended up donating my blue jeans from pre pregnancy because I wore juniors sizes and they just aren’t meant for the wider hips that I will always have now. Even tho my weight was exactly the same as before. It wasn’t the weight necessarily it was the bone structure really.
This is what everyone's belly looks like after birth! You're actually quite blessed, it doesn't look like it's from weight gain in your case, just normal after baby adjustments. It's not permanent, mine went away both times after about 3 - 6 months, babies just kill your abs and spread your hips so it can appear different for a little while. Hang in there!
I finally found someone to relate to! I was also super small and now everything is big. It really feels good to know you ain’t the only one that didn’t snap right back like some of these other small girls do You got my follow. Thank you for sharing!
When you said your body did 180 on you, I felt that.. I mean I don’t have any kids yet but I think about my family and friends who did. Having a kid is a huge commitment and sacrifice, it really takes a village to raise one child. So sometimes I just take a moment to be grateful for all the ppl who got me where I am today
I’m 27 and going to be giving birth to my 2nd baby Spring 2021. Nervous and excited for all the changes. Thank you for this video Karen, you always keep it real ❤️
the line will eventually goes away depending on your metabolism and hormone! don’t stress too much about it karen 🙌🏻🙌🏻
I really appreciate how you think about your baby's comfort feeling with the "squishy body" first, as you said. I love you,. 👏💝
Love this. These are the things no one talks about. It’s such a beautiful thing to be a mom but it’s crazy what happens to you after you have a baby. Still, I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Thank you for your honesty, I just want to say you're such a beautiful mom & an inspiartion💗💗
Aww thank you 💕
I can’t believe just how incredible mothers are 🙌
Soooo I’ve never been pregnant but I just wanna say that personally I feel like women’s postpartum stomachs are like trophies. We bring life into this world and that’s amazing.
Right! And it’s cute
such a valid feeling experience and statement but so is someone struggling with huge changes to their bodies whether its with self love intimacy or just sharing how they feel authentically.
Thank you ❤
Omg girl, all you have mentioned are all true! I have 21 month old now and I am still 10lbs away from my pre pregnancy! It sucks to see that some of my clothes especially the pants won’t fit but you know what, it’s ok because when you see your little one running and calling you mama is the best feeling ever!
THE BEST PART IS: "SCREW THAT, LET'S BE A SEXY MOM" AND YES I'M SCREAMING BECAUSE POWER WOMAAAAN
My postpartum mantra after my two babies: “It’s not me, it’s the pants!” Just buying stuff that fits makes a huge difference.
Same i found out that high wasted jeans makes my figure look better
Its so true
Could you and Leo do a Q&A, like how pregnancy journey and even postpartum has affected your marriage?
Yes!!
Yes, please! I have a very real fear of how my relationship with my bf (assuming future husband) would change for the worse if we had a kid. I'd like to see an honest conversation about it... the good and the bad... happy and sad, if Karen and Leo feel comfortable sharing.
@@numinuminixstix I wonder that too
@@numinuminixstix the brutal truth is, if he fell inlove with you solely for your body, chances are, he will fall out of love with you when your body starts changing after pregnancy. So find you a man who is in love with your soul.
@@madonnauchehara7755 I agree with you. But I don't think anyone falls in love with someone because of their body. Infatuation, yes, but not love. I think most husbands just want their wives to be healthy and aren't too concerned about stretch marks, sagging skin, etc. :) My concern is more with the stress of raising a child. The sleepless nights and constant responsibility with little to no breaks.
Watching this really reminds me to appreciate my mom and sister even more than I already do now, because of how much they sacrifice after pregnancy for my siblings us and my niece and nephew. Love how you are one of the few people here on TH-cam that speaks about this.
she is so brave! i relate so much its so hard i have such severe body issues its holding me back from having kids cause i honestly dont think i can handle the body changes. i just feel so proud of her tbh gives me courage to grow and learn myself
Is nice you are bringing the postpartum depression out there, actually is more common that we imagine and not necessarily because of the changes of the body, and sometimes mothers didn't even know they have depression because they think is just been tired. And it's fine is a difficult process to take care to really get the responsibility of a new human been. And sometimes they feel guilty about it, I think couples should go to therapy during and after giving birth, because everything changes, sometimes even husband feel abandoned because they don't get any attention and by any is really like zero so for a healthy family environment there should be tons of communication and a little help of a doctor could be amazing.
Thank you for all the honesty and bringing awareness about it is not all cute and like fairy tales is just real life.
I am 17 and don’t plan on having a baby anytime soon (or ever) but I love learning about this cuz it’s not much talked about and it’s so interesting
Seriously could have used you 18 years ago when I had my first. It's a lot to happen all at once and it doesn't help that we are constantly comparing each other. I felt the same as you - my body didn't feel the same right after either. My 34B boobs never recovered (sorry) and I cried when I realized they weren't the same. Thank you for sharing this !!
Did they remain full and big afterwards?
@@annaz7428 no. They deflated. ☹️
I say to all new moms to not worry about “bouncing back”. Your body needs time to recover and no amount of diet or exercise will make that happen faster. I didn’t feel like myself for over a year even after losing weight. Be kind to yourself. It will find its way back all on its own. If I had one regret, it would be not being more in the moment during the baby phase. It’s true when people say it goes by fast and one day, you’ll miss it.
I like how you set the tone of this talk. That was very encouraging. Thank you for being so considerate!!
I love that you are talking so much about the realities of pregnancy. Alot of people like to gloss over the real stuff and it gives people such a false image of what it really is like. Its tough with alot of ups and downs but so worth it.
She is smiling while sleeping, so sweet 💜
I had my little one not long ago and I too was the "same petite me" my whole life and am having some trouble feeling myself in my current body. This really helps, so thank you for sharing!
this content is so important & educational for women❤️ insane how no one talks about the experience of pregnancy & post partum details!
I love my parents! Yes, parents. Even though my father isn't the one who gave birth, he was there when my mom was pregnant with me and to my brother. My mom isn't the one who is carrying us, but also my father. I love how little my mom is but able to carry me and my brother for 9 months. I love how my dad was there for us. I just love them unconditionally.
How could you be any more beautiful than you are right this moment?! I see you embracing your motherhood with positivity and questing for wellness. This is your time to shine in the light you radiate! You go, girl!