LOL I was watching this so in a couple of years, when I'm ready, I will be "ready". Not gonna lie, no amount of description will ever make me feel calm or less anxious TBH. 🤣 I'm probably gonna pass out and they'll just have to cut me. 👋
I think there are many things about human body and school cannot teach us ‘everything’ so I guess it’s okay to educate ourselves. Moreover, it’s selective and I think I would forget what they teach before I face it lol
Uhm it depends on your education wether you learn about this or not. If you dont learn this at your school, then you should self educate yourself about this through various sources.
Me: knowing that I dont have a stable house hold yet, and I'm not ready for a baby Also me: BABY FEVER I'm 18 and no where near ready to have a baby nor do I really want one but also I want one lol.
Repent , jesus christ is coming back , pray and read your bible ask him for guidance, there is nothing out there in the world , if you have any questions please ask me.
I just appreciated my mom after watching this. She has 7 of us and she gave birth to all of us naturally in the poorest stage in Africa. I hate myself for ever disrespecting her. But I’m so grateful for her and I promise when I’m finished with my college and start working in my dream career. I’m going to spoil her for sure
I don’t plan on having a baby soon but I’m so glad there are videos like this out there to help me and other woman prepare and be ready for when the time comes! ❤️❤️❤️
And discrimination for breastfeeding openly in public. That has to stop because when a woman needs to feed her baby, she just have to do it even if she’s not covering up. Her breasts are for her babies to get milk, not for people to look at it with a dirty mind. If want to look, should at least give some encouraging words to the ladies and not discriminate her for not behaving decently. And for married man, pls don’t look at other women’s breast. You have your wife’s breast for enjoyment and it’s more than enough.
This just reinforced that I need to really vet the father of my future children. I will only give birth for a man whose worthy enough. Thanks for this information.... no one really talks about this aspect. All I see are glamorous pregnancy photo ops on Instagram, gender reveal parties, and baby showers. Thanks for really diving in.❤️
Yes, be wise and make sure you give your vagina and womb to the right man. One that loves you and is willing to provide for the family. Only such man deserves to enjoy your body. Every women loses her dignity when she spreads open her legs to offer her vagina to a man so it’s important that only the best man can penetrate the most intimate part of your body.
YES! I was with the father of my children for almost 6 years(lived with for 5) before we had our first child. We've been together for 17yrs now & I think if more people took the time to get to know their partners BEFORE having children, we'd have a lot more happy families. Don't get me wrong it hasn't been a walk in the park, but I KNOW he has my children's back(&mine), & he knows I will always have his! I feel like I really didn't even fully know him until year 5! We have the same values, he provides for us, & most important... We BOTH LOVE TO EAT(that's what most of our vacations are centered around) 🤣. No really though people need to spend more time getting to know eachother!
I personally appreciate the TMI. This what women need, a straight-forward explanation on what to expect after giving birth. With that said, I'll prolly just adopt
Same🙏 I always loved the idea of adopting literally since I was a child myself. (Matilda the film might have influenced it 😂) I just wish that if I ever meet a guy that I love, he can understand it and want it too.
As a final year medical student, I’ve delivered quite a few babies via normal vaginal delivery, but sometimes you sort of feel it ends there after the delivery. But I’m so so glad you spoke about the postpartum period. It’s something I feel doesn’t get enough attention, not even from health professionals and has such an impact on the mothers, which at the end of the day are our main concern. You’ve just highlighted how important it is to speak about women’s health and reproductive health. Thank you! ❤️
Can I ask you something Limay? You might know since you are medical student. I’m 37 weeks pregnant. I lost my sense of smell and taste at 28 weeks. I tested positive for COVID on July 7th. Negative on July 21st. Negative on august 7th. Negative august 24. Still no taste and smell. 😥😥😥😥 i been congested since 28 weeks as well , the day when I woke up with. I smell and taste. Is this the aftermath of COVID. Or is it a pregnancy symptom like the hormones ??? I’m so depressed. :( PLEASE RESPOND.
@@moonlightq5728 Hey there! The evidence at this point on symptoms that are ongoing after one has recovered from COVID aren't fully established, but the loss of smell and taste (known as anosmia and ageusia) seems to be very common. It ranges from person to person, but some people have reported up to 6 months post covid with residual symptoms. I'm sorry to hear you're still suffering from it, I can imagine it's a horrible thing to be experiencing. Congestion on the other hand may cause temporary loss of smell, but it seems that your's has been of a much longer nature, pointing more towards having had COVID being the issue. It's still definitely being looked at and the exact mechanism of how and why COVID effects taste and smell aren't fully understood yet. I hope this was somewhat helpful. All the best with the last stretch of your pregnancy, I hope all the best for you and your baby!
Limay Ding thank you so much for replying to me. I read your comment and I kind of understand COVID and it’s symptoms are still under research. Thanks for your nice and kind words. From Texas.
@@moonlightq5728 My aunt had something similar lost smell and taste for over a month after testing positive. It came back for her so maybe for you because you are pregnant its taking longer since your body is under so much pressure carrying a baby. The healing might take a bit longer. Hope you feel better soon ..... everyones body heals differently. I know being unhealthy takes a huge toll on your mental health as well. I hope you feel better asap.
As a prior out of hospital midwifey student, i can say it does NOT get acknowledged at all in western medicine. The medical system is a complete failure to women when it comes to postpartum, its not discussed at all. In the education I get in midwifery we learn all about this and educate the mom during her pregnancy about postpartum and what to expect. THats why women make these videos. We shouldnt feel shy or think " TMI" casue its not this is normal. WHen women arent educated it causes more stress postpartum when they are not sure what is happening with their bodies. I thank you for acknowledging it, hopefully you can be the change in how women are cared for as far as after the baby comes/
Always good to be educated! I’ve found a lot of women don’t know about all of this until it happens to them :) Like afterbirth.. no one knows about afterbirth hahaha
@Malvika Tiwari the whole karen thing basically refers to a middle-upper class white woman (typically white, but sometimes other races) who pretty much thinks they are better than everyone/ above the law. they usually have a short dark straight bob cut, and are soccer moms. (some of them are, not all of them though) their said to drive a mini van, and usually go to yoga or soemthing like that before they drop their kids off at school. if you look up karen videos, you can get a better understanding of what their like. hope this helps ahha
As a Grandma, Im glad to see a young man watching, learning and commenting. Truly, sex and baby making really is serious business. For women, support is EVERYTHING. Knowledge is power! Good on you for educating yourself!
WOW! You sat through this whole thing! LOL! I'm amazed! >_< You rock and your wife is lucky...some dudes only care about when they can have sex again lol! ( Now you know after watching this video why some woman are always so angry lol!) Good luck to you and your wife brother! She'll be fine because she has a good guy like you! And you're a rare type, believe me! She's a lucky girl for sure!
Just a reminder that people in USA and UK are Hella poor too. A lot of women can't afford their proper needs, even pads/tampons. Some lose their jobs cause they can't afford pads and have to stay home.
I'm from Tunisia 🇹🇳 and we have great health care. Women don't have any problems with giving birth to a baby, in fact we have many birth alternatives that don't make you feel any pain. Also we have better hygiene thanks to our culture, we use water every time we go to the toilet, not just paper towels. And doctors keep up with you all the time.
Coming from a person that’s from a developing country, we have good health care and good sanitation. It’s not everywhere but we have lots and lots of them. The media doesn’t really show the reality of developing country.
@@mizzlemay8388 I mean it's a developing country not an underdeveloped one, so it's supposed to be continously evolving and improving. It's not only the media, i think individuals also have the responsibility of educating themselves a little.
I’m tearing up right know. I had a miscarriage and had to go through that all by myself because no one realizes how traumatizing it is. This video felt like a talk with a sister. It was comforting and takes the fear of when it’s actually going to happen... THANK U! ♥️
This video should be shown in schools to girls at 16. It's so important to know. Yet at 31 I had no idea all this happens !! Thank you Love From London
What do you mean you had no idea? It’s kind of common sense if you think about it. Some women can tear down there if the hole is smaller than the baby and doesn’t stretch enough. And obviously if it’s small it will tear.
I’m 37 weeks pregnant and I feel like I’ve learned more on postpartum needs, compared to the actual class I took. She’s so lively and very blunt, it’s nice to hear from an actual mother.
Every single pee I have after watching this video will not go in vain, Lord please forgive my ingratitude and let me be grateful for my privileges 😩 😔 ✊🏽
@@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 Hi! you might not have meant that comment seriously, but I'm commenting in case. A ton of women have died from giving birth, babies too. There has always been a huge risk in giving birth. The risk is way smaller today, thx to modern medicine, but it is still there and giving birth is still extremely painful for most and in some cases traumatic. A good support system and professional help before, during and after is important. And also.. writing "lol" in that context is rude.
And she was lucky, saddly a lot of mothers have It way worst, plus the no sleeping, urinary incontinence, keloid scars, depression, HTA, gestational diabetes, just to name some negative aspects. Some people think motherhood or giving birth is like nothing cause everyone does It and romantized and we never heard about the shitty side of it, but is not like that, It changes your life drastically, you are no longer the star on your own freaking life, but we don't heard about this a lot because for mothers it's not socially allowed to talk about It, so I really love this type of videos cause it's not just pink, shit can get dark but as a mother having a baby is the one thing you "can't" regret.
I love how she looks like a Disney princess and then says that the birth “felt like I need to take a big sh*t” 😂 I love your videos and your personality ❤️
If your eduacted prior, rest, eat healty like soups and easy digestable foods, magnesium, stool softeners its easier, also sitz nbaths. THere are many remedies but were just not educated
I cannot BELIEVE the lack of pregnancy information we're given in sex ed class in high school. Unreal! Not having kids any time soon but thank you for this video, haha. Super informative!!!
jeesh i love the way this lady talks about her body. like no joke i’ve had two and tried to keep a positive self image but looking into the mirror was HARD. hearing her talk about the pooch part and say something like “i still have one and that’s completely normal” was amazing.
OMG this is something ive always wondered but too scared to ask? also too ashamed? I know I shouldnt feel like this, but I still sometimes feel ashamed for asking things that should honestly probably be more normalized!!! I think it has to do with how I was brought up!!
I'm 32 years old and NEVER in my life heard about this information before... I guess because I had no plans to make babies before. But this definetly is information ALL woman should know. Thank you for making this very informative video. You are such a brave, strong and beautiful mommy! ❤️
As of this time, I no longer have the desire to have children, so imagining myself go through this with that mindset is so scary it’s making me cry. I know it’s bad to have children when you didn’t want them because it’ll be devastating for the child to ever learn that their mother never wanted them in the first place. Definitely avoiding ever getting pregnant unless I actually feel ready, and hope that my future partner will be understanding of that, too.
I think exactly the same, I don’t think I’ll ever want to give birth (I would much rather adopt a child and give a homeless baby a second chance). And watching this just makes me shiver, it made my vagina hurt hahahaha Still very informative and interesting
Trust me.. I'm crying right now seeing this video.. y we women need to go through all this.. it scares the shit out f me.. I will never be ready to have a baby .. noo😭😭😭😭
Just wanna share my birth experience Karen. In my country, the govt hospital would not offer any painkillers or epidural as they encourage birth as natural as possible. So I was in pain the whole time before my contraction really kicked in and they had to induce me because my water already broke for 24 hours but my cervical opening was still quite small. Within 3 hours after induction I delivered my baby Elijah. The moment I heard him cry and out of my tummy was the happiest day of my life. I didnt cry because I was too tired and I really slept right after birth but 5 hours later the nurse woke me up and put my baby beside me. Oh my God my tears were flowing like waterfall. Tiny miracle and I instantly fell in love! But postpartum journey like you said..it was not talked much even by our mothers or sisters! I was really not expecting many thing during postpartum stage. So my postpartum journey was a heck of painful and sore one because my perineal tear was quite long. Once again, I was not given any pain medication and I dreaddd every single toilet visit especially going for poopoo. My tear was only totally healed on the 6th week postpartum. Breastfeeding was also exhausting for the first time mom like me. I didnt have alot of milk coming in the first 2 weeks but I encouraged active direct latching so now my milk supply is pretty good. Hunger kicks in all the time and I think I munch onto things like every hour. But now I get the hang of it and I truly and really appreciate all these moment and now I feel like I want another baby again lol! But minus the pain please >.
Oh my goodness. I Didn’t want the epidural at all, but I had to have a epidural as I was stuck with him in the “ring of fire” stage. They had given me Remi fentanyl but it wasn’t working it was sending me to sleep so they basically shoved gas and air in my face told me I was having an epidural or I would have had to have an emergency Caesarean. The adrenaline thing that they gave me to keep me awake worked fine but the epidural didn’t actually work at all so I was now just very awake and in a hell of a lot of pain. They really don’t tell you how wrong it can go, I did have a 2nd° tear but I tore it both front and back and I lost over a litre of blood. My poor partner! They gave me no pain meds after the birth, and even during my stitches ( which was hell). But my Elijah was born on the 30th of dec 2021, and once I held him….. I totally forgot the pain and was saying to his dad that we need to make sure he has siblings. He looked very pale and said “really?! Are you sure?” I think it was more trauma for him than me lol But postpartum, I’m finding it harder than birth ngl. 💜💜💜
Same here, I uploaded a video and talked about it.. it's my first video, lol 😆 I am in awe how pampered these ladies on TH-cam are... so blessed, if I had that option, I too would've taken it.
I can't imagine how my mom did it.. She had a natural birth for me at home with absolutely no pain medication/epidural. btw great video, most people don't talk about what exactly happens afterwards.
I had mine natural and tore up horribly. Had to have 2 reconstruction surgeries after 2 years. The labor was painful I can't imagine how I survived 12 hours in pain started with 3 minutes contractions apart of each one for 5 hours every 1 minute.
Mad respect for my mother. She successfully delivered 4 of us, naturally. God bless her! 🙏 😱 I kept asking her about the post-partum, and she says don't worry about it. 😶 I've been hunting for a video like this to be honest with me. Gotta mentally prepare myself. 😂
@@tweewin i was induced had contractions from 10 am until midnight which we're all in my back but manageable i could watch tv during ..but then they broke my waters it was severe awful pain then pushing part i didnt mind so much that hour was bad though and i screamed a fair bit lol..after just sore when had a wee not terrible all im saying
This is the most straightforward video on child birth I've ever seen. I've never seen the little cleaning spritz bottle before or even heard of it lol. Thanks for sharing all this information, and congratulations 👏 You look lovely!
I got one from the hospital but it's just a clear bottle with a shower head type white cap. You fill it with warm water and just rinse and squeeze. Those, the witch hazel wipes and the dermaplast were the best things ever. And I had stitches.
Girl, I love how sincere you are about everything,this is such a taboo and having someone saying the true thing without trying to make the situation romantic like you see in magazines and movies, I don't even intend to have a baby but I feel that this was a really valuable advice , thank you for this video , I hope that you get 100% healed as fast as possible
Lara P Between normal people it is a taboo, but between healthcare professionals its quite normal! We talk about it all the time, it’s quite interesting.
@@kimkookie6289 I know, this should be more open for normal people, I see so many girls getting pregnant and finding their selves in the dark wen it comes to after birth, is a extreme, our they find something romanticise our a horror story
@@meowtime6141 That's so true, and they need so much support. Believe it or not, mainly nurses are supposed to educate women in these things...but then I remember not everyone is like me in that area. Let's hope they have a good experience and a nice healthcare team that'll educate and support them.💖
I feel like the more I learn about pregnancy, birth, and everything that comes after... the less I want to have kids in the future... this is so much to deal with. It’s honestly kind of scary
Yup one reason why I prefer to stay childfree. They don’t tell you how stressful and hard it is after birth. Years of sleepless nights, stress to the max and risk of your man leaving you. Not worth it
I didn’t know there is varying degrees of tearing. That’s sounds painful and mind boggling. I knew birthing is painful, but now I feel it’s more painful that I originally thought.
I've lost my mother many years ago and I agree with you a lot. We have to learn this info from somewhere, even if it's TH-cam. Hope your birth experience will be the best ever ❤
Hi Karen! Please don’t think this video is TMI. There are sooo many women and young girls such as myself who do not have mothers or female role models in their life to help us understand or even acknowledge what happens with our bodies, so we do look up to female influencers for this sort of information and trust me we’re so grateful for informative videos such as this one. So thanks sooo much! You’re doing a great job! We are ALL learning because of you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Honestly, being scared makes things hurt a lot more. It's so interesting. There are all kinds of birth affirmations out that to relax and calm you if you ever decide to give birth. The truth is our bodies were made for all this, and it knows what it's doing. It's about not over thinking it, and trying to control everything. It's like, the mind can make things much worse than they need to be. I've heard it explained like this, You know when you gotta poop in the public restroom, and someone walks in and you suddenly freeze and can't really poop easily. Same kind of thing with child birth!
@@buffandbrindle oh thats a really good comparison.. Now that im thinking about it its going to be really hard for me to do it one day if it feels like pooping and everyone is staring at my hooha 😵
I'm 21, no plans on having babies, going to Uni , travelling etc, but I saved this video thinking: "I need all that stuff when I give birth" Now searching videos on how to prevent tears during birth.
Have a C section, or just don't have kids. Don't give up your freedom to do what you want when you want. I never had kids , and have no regrets. (Jan Griffiths).
I love that you’re very organic and natural (wooden toys, your color sets, etc) but not to the extreme of not accepting things that aren’t 100% natural or modern medicines (like the epidural and the ibuprofen). You just like being comfy 😂 and that’s how I want to be as a mom eventually!!💖💖
I'm 6 days postpartum! Oh my lord urghhh I was so scared of my first poop but I was prepping, drank lots of water, had bran and took stool softeners and whew! I survived😭 no pain at all... Postpartum recovery is an anxiety trip but having someone there with you takes half of it away
@@sakshim2616 Hey 🤗❤️ Baby is very healthy and I'm also doing well... The stitches are still a bit of a thing but these things take time. Thank you so much for asking
I’m 30 weeks. Thank you for being clear and honest. I’m sure it’s awkward sitting in a room alone talking about pooping but it reaffirms lots of information about PP!
Loved your video!!! Usually it doesn’t hurt to go pee after baby, but the area can be swollen and make it hard to pee after baby comes out. Also you need to pee so your uterus can contract! If your bladder is full of pee it pushes your uterus at a weird angle and makes it hard for it to contract which can be dangerous as contracting helps with the bleeding so you don’t bleed out ❤️
IAMKARENO right! 😂 it’s so hard to soak up all this important info when you’re half asleep, drugged up, baby crying, everything hurting lol! Your video has actually kinda inspired me to make an experience/ what to expect down there from labor and delivery 🥰
@@blimtaeterna7006 these women are generally in denial. Being pregnant myself, there’s no way you couldn’t know for months especially in the third trimester.
Everything unknown is scary. And labor is intense, there's no denying that. But women don't break. Our bodies were designed by God to relax & stretch during labor. If you ever decide to have children, try reading up on The Bradly Method. Rather than focusing on breathing like Lamaze, it focuses on working with your body during contraction, not against it... resulting in less pain! -Blessings!
Well it is. You need to feel some sort of love for this unborn baby where you think it's all worth it and you suffer through it because you really want this. I can't relate at all personally but I guess some women truly feel that way.
I'm 12 weeks postpartum for my first. I had an episiotomy. I remember the first poo...oh my gosh.. I was so scared and I cried cos the poo was so hard, I was scared of ruining my stitches. It took 6 weeks for me to completely heal from my stitches. Now, when I think of it, all I do is smile. My baby is the best gift 🤗 . Wishing all pregnant women a safe and easy delivery.
I understand and I told my best friends the Light Version of my post-partum... And what was left was 1 friend without kid, and the rest was "ew, you made myself not wanting kids anymore"... I felt so devastated because I really tried my best not telling all Details (they asked!!! and expected some positive perfect birth answers?) and I found some Info very important... But I also learned that I did basically nothing wrong, I just had the wrong friends. I think us women just do not know enough, Sex education should be better... Because when you are pregnant you can get scared about what stories your own mom or aunt brings out. They all told me "I did not want to tell you, because I feared you do not want to have kids anymore" ... We women are so strong and we become even stronger afterwards. So I want to share the message, we are mentally able to overcome these things! :)
I remember when you used to make fashion videos, you made me buy cherry earrings, and now you are married with a baby talking about child birth time has passed by so fast😭😭😭
Just make sure not to flush the “flushable” wipes! Even though brands call them flushable, they do not break down like tp does and can cause blockages in sewer systems!
I will give birth in january,thank you for reminding me of everything.I forgot everything i did with my first born,that was 7 yrs ago!Very usefull tips.Thanks again!
I’m not a mother yet, but I’ve always been curious about the postpartum healing process. Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience. Not a lot of people talk about this topic so I appreciate this.
Omg such a great video. When I had my daughter NO ONE told me that I would bleed for a whole month! No one!!!! There's a lot of things that I had to figure out on my own which sucked! Thanks for sharing with us and hopefully it can help other women expect or be aware of body changes postpartum.
Aww, I'm 20 and I don't even have a bf, but I'm so curious about these experience lol Thanks, Karen for sharing your experience. This definitely makes me appreciate and love my Mom even more ahhhh!!!!
This video is everything! My youngest is 11 so it’s been a long time since I have been here. BUT everything you are saying is so true. It’s crazy because as time goes on you forget all of the things. Ladies, you and lady parts will be fine.
I don´t plan on becoming a mom anytime soon, but I just love how talking about this is being normalized! Thank you Karen, wish you luck to you and your beautiful family!
Aside from the scary storytelling, you are really glowing 🥺you look absolutely gorgeous, so glad to hear you are enjoying your motherhood despite the whole experience 🙏
As a mom of two about to be three, grab depends! Also you can put aloe gel and which hazel on some and freeze them. It feels good down there after birth! Also look into belly binding!
It's incredibly valuable for people to have access to real, raw, educational videos like this. Thank you for that community service!! I hope that you and your family are safe, healthy, and happy.
Im due any day now, and was under the impression id be getting a c section until a few days ago when the dr said i have to try natural, so now im LITERALLY TOTALLY UNPREPARED and freaking tf out! But this was so helpful, so many of these videos include mass amounts of items n stuff that really seems unnecessary, im glad u showed the basics n kept it real!🙏💖
this is awesome. after you give birth, you still retain a lot of fluid (like swelling) and there's a lot of swelling down there, which is why we like you to use ice packs. and an epidural lessens your sensation to pee...you probably still had epidural medication in your system so it was hard to pee. your uterus and your bladder compete for the same position in your body, so if your bladder is full, the uterus stops contracting and you have a heavier flow. that's why you need to pee to keep your uterus contracting and control your bleeding
Just bumped into this video and it's actually so nice to finally hear someone talking about postpartum so freely. I gave birth over 2 weeks ago and am still struggling with the pain - but it does get easier 🙏 I was in total shock the day following the delivery tho, as I wasn't expecting so much pain and had never really heard about it, and I didn't know what was happening to my body. It's a good thing to talk about it so the mums-to-be can get ready for it (like we'd get ready for all the other steps of the pregnancy).
Thanks for being real. I'm not expecting but being pregnant really scares me honestly but I know hubby and I want a child in a year or 2. Your info helps us who know nothing well, be more prepared
I wish I was more educated with what happens to our bodies after giving birth. I had a third degree tear and I couldn’t sit for 2 months. I was not expecting to be in so much pain and discomfort!
Heyyy I had a C section, and for second delivery I had a VBAC; I had a 3rd degree tear too (and a high vagina-tear too) 👌 Doctors told me to do a cesaren again next time - cause it will tear worse than now... But what I actually wanted to say: It wasn't as painful as the C section, BUT it was way worse in another way .... I don't get it - why is everybody saying "YOU'LL FORGET ALL THE PAIN IF YOU SEE YOUR BABY"? - HAHAHA SHIT! They are all lying at us! The problems actually starting then ^^
Thank you for all the mommy related videos 😭 I’m currently 36 weeks and terrified cause I’m young and it’s my first baby 😿 these videos are so informative and encouraging, thank you Karen 🥺💗💗💗
That feeling will get easier the further along you get in your pregnancy, if or whenever you become pregnant. The reason; you unknowingly and naturally begin to put your babies needs and safety ahead of your own. It's quite amazing to experience. Although, you may not even come to realize you're doing this til it's all over and done with. Same applies if your partner or loved one has a medical emergency; your fears and anxieties get pushed aside as you tend to focus on the injured. It's a healthy- sorta- way to heal your fear, or at the very least, ignore it for a few moments. I hope this gives you some tidbit of comfort, bless....
Birth definitely involves all of those. After my delivery there was quite a lot of blood everywhere and they cleaned the floor before standing me up so I didn’t have to see everything. Needles everywhere too. I had an IV, epidural line in my back, catheter. Plus an oxygen monitor on my finger and a blood pressure band on my arm. Tubes all over the place.
Never knew this! Why don't we learn this at school? (I live in Europa, so we do get a pretty good sex education, but still only the biological and not the real life stuff.)
So happy you made this video! Everything I’ve learnt about pregnancy has been from my sister who has had three children, before that I truly knew absolutely nothing, videos like this help normalise and educate! ☺️
It IS terrifying!!! You have the pregnancy to deal with, the weight gain, possible gestational diabetes (which may stay with you after), your body will never be the same, widening hips, swollen ankles and feet, etc. I have never been pregnant just for these reasons. Also, I feel I would not have been a good parent, because I would have had to sell my horse before the baby came. My ex in laws would have seen to that, and I would have been resentful. Not only that, I understand that you bleed for SIX WEEKS after the birth. I would not have been able to deal with that crap. My ex didn't want kids either, and at age 31 I was sterilized, and my horse was safe. (Jan Griffiths).
@@jenniepeach6764 Yes, some women can get gestational diabetes, which should disappear after the birth, but sometimes it dosen't, and the woman has diabetes for the rest of her life. Happened to a friend of mine. (Jan Griffiths).
I have a seven year old. The pregnancy sucked. It was hard and then the delivery was a long painful 18 hours but he is so worth it. I'm currently 15 weeks withbmy second child first daughter and I am so excited. The pregnancy sucks too. Lol. But I know more and will be better prepared this time and don't have to worry about school. I was 16 when my son was born.
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She's so calm but this video is giving me so much anxiety 😓
Dear lord I didn’t know there are more people like me-
Same. 😪😥
Higher Self Note: You’re causing yourselves anxiety.
Nothing external of yourself can cause you to feel anything unless you allow yourself to feel it.
Me too 😭
Yeah i start panic now
LOL I was watching this so in a couple of years, when I'm ready, I will be "ready". Not gonna lie, no amount of description will ever make me feel calm or less anxious TBH. 🤣 I'm probably gonna pass out and they'll just have to cut me. 👋
I feel ssoooo betrayed that they don’t tell us these things in school. Sigh
Ikr !!!!
I think there are many things about human body and school cannot teach us ‘everything’ so I guess it’s okay to educate ourselves. Moreover, it’s selective and I think I would forget what they teach before I face it lol
Uhm it depends on your education wether you learn about this or not. If you dont learn this at your school, then you should self educate yourself about this through various sources.
Exactly! Everyone wants a baby but they don't know the pain
Plenty don't want kids
She said “tore” and I started feeling all types of tingling 😭
Same sis.
I love how the two people here are kpop fans
@@zzarrzzz make them 3
@@bouzaienebalkiss1945 yuppididoo
Same 😭
I feel this should be taught in schools to avoid teen pregnancy
Me: knowing that I dont have a stable house hold yet, and I'm not ready for a baby
Also me: BABY FEVER
I'm 18 and no where near ready to have a baby nor do I really want one but also I want one lol.
That won't stop teen pregnancy
@@whywouldyoudoit2322 But do you know what would? Absences!!!
my biology teacher always said education is the most effective form of birth control🤣
Repent , jesus christ is coming back , pray and read your bible ask him for guidance, there is nothing out there in the world , if you have any questions please ask me.
I just appreciated my mom after watching this. She has 7 of us and she gave birth to all of us naturally in the poorest stage in Africa. I hate myself for ever disrespecting her. But I’m so grateful for her and I promise when I’m finished with my college and start working in my dream career. I’m going to spoil her for sure
Aww i love this, truly inspired me.🤎
I hope you achieve what you wish for and more 💜💜💜
Awwww u r such a good child
I don’t plan on having a baby soon but I’m so glad there are videos like this out there to help me and other woman prepare and be ready for when the time comes! ❤️❤️❤️
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Same!
Same same!!! I’m so happy Karen made this video! Giving life is beautiful but the after math sounds painful 😭❤️
Amen
And also to scare us a bit 😅😅
How can someone look this good so soon after having a baby? Ily Karen!
Ily too!! Thank you!
Makeup, stress free mind maybe
Makeup
Good genes and money
How about self care you haters
It makes me so mad the disrespect women go through despite BIRTHING THE WHOLE WORLD. We are amazing 💕
I was just thinking that i so agree
Yes we are 💪
And we still have issues with getting proper health care and time off work in the U.S.
And discrimination for breastfeeding openly in public. That has to stop because when a woman needs to feed her baby, she just have to do it even if she’s not covering up. Her breasts are for her babies to get milk, not for people to look at it with a dirty mind. If want to look, should at least give some encouraging words to the ladies and not discriminate her for not behaving decently. And for married man, pls don’t look at other women’s breast. You have your wife’s breast for enjoyment and it’s more than enough.
YAASSSS QUEEN
This just reinforced that I need to really vet the father of my future children. I will only give birth for a man whose worthy enough. Thanks for this information.... no one really talks about this aspect. All I see are glamorous pregnancy photo ops on Instagram, gender reveal parties, and baby showers. Thanks for really diving in.❤️
@Tuatha De Sidhe wow
Yes, be wise and make sure you give your vagina and womb to the right man. One that loves you and is willing to provide for the family. Only such man deserves to enjoy your body. Every women loses her dignity when she spreads open her legs to offer her vagina to a man so it’s important that only the best man can penetrate the most intimate part of your body.
@@kennethfok exactly
YES! I was with the father of my children for almost 6 years(lived with for 5) before we had our first child. We've been together for 17yrs now & I think if more people took the time to get to know their partners BEFORE having children, we'd have a lot more happy families. Don't get me wrong it hasn't been a walk in the park, but I KNOW he has my children's back(&mine), & he knows I will always have his! I feel like I really didn't even fully know him until year 5! We have the same values, he provides for us, & most important... We BOTH LOVE TO EAT(that's what most of our vacations are centered around) 🤣. No really though people need to spend more time getting to know eachother!
Please do.
I personally appreciate the TMI. This what women need, a straight-forward explanation on what to expect after giving birth.
With that said, I'll prolly just adopt
I don't want children so I'm fine🤣
Adoption is better anyway. Give an unwanted child a home. (Jan Griffiths).
Same🙏
I always loved the idea of adopting literally since I was a child myself. (Matilda the film might have influenced it 😂)
I just wish that if I ever meet a guy that I love, he can understand it and want it too.
As a final year medical student, I’ve delivered quite a few babies via normal vaginal delivery, but sometimes you sort of feel it ends there after the delivery. But I’m so so glad you spoke about the postpartum period. It’s something I feel doesn’t get enough attention, not even from health professionals and has such an impact on the mothers, which at the end of the day are our main concern. You’ve just highlighted how important it is to speak about women’s health and reproductive health. Thank you! ❤️
Can I ask you something Limay? You might know since you are medical student. I’m 37 weeks pregnant. I lost my sense of smell and taste at 28 weeks. I tested positive for COVID on July 7th. Negative on July 21st. Negative on august 7th. Negative august 24. Still no taste and smell. 😥😥😥😥 i been congested since 28 weeks as well , the day when I woke up with. I smell and taste. Is this the aftermath of COVID. Or is it a pregnancy symptom like the hormones ??? I’m so depressed. :( PLEASE RESPOND.
@@moonlightq5728 Hey there! The evidence at this point on symptoms that are ongoing after one has recovered from COVID aren't fully established, but the loss of smell and taste (known as anosmia and ageusia) seems to be very common. It ranges from person to person, but some people have reported up to 6 months post covid with residual symptoms. I'm sorry to hear you're still suffering from it, I can imagine it's a horrible thing to be experiencing. Congestion on the other hand may cause temporary loss of smell, but it seems that your's has been of a much longer nature, pointing more towards having had COVID being the issue. It's still definitely being looked at and the exact mechanism of how and why COVID effects taste and smell aren't fully understood yet. I hope this was somewhat helpful. All the best with the last stretch of your pregnancy, I hope all the best for you and your baby!
Limay Ding thank you so much for replying to me. I read your comment and I kind of understand COVID and it’s symptoms are still under research. Thanks for your nice and kind words. From Texas.
@@moonlightq5728 My aunt had something similar lost smell and taste for over a month after testing positive. It came back for her so maybe for you because you are pregnant its taking longer since your body is under so much pressure carrying a baby. The healing might take a bit longer. Hope you feel better soon ..... everyones body heals differently. I know being unhealthy takes a huge toll on your mental health as well. I hope you feel better asap.
As a prior out of hospital midwifey student, i can say it does NOT get acknowledged at all in western medicine. The medical system is a complete failure to women when it comes to postpartum, its not discussed at all. In the education I get in midwifery we learn all about this and educate the mom during her pregnancy about postpartum and what to expect. THats why women make these videos. We shouldnt feel shy or think " TMI" casue its not this is normal. WHen women arent educated it causes more stress postpartum when they are not sure what is happening with their bodies.
I thank you for acknowledging it, hopefully you can be the change in how women are cared for as far as after the baby comes/
I’m 17, and I definitely don’t have plans related to babies haha But this was so interesting to see.
Frrr
Ff fr I’m 15 ahaha
Always good to be educated! I’ve found a lot of women don’t know about all of this until it happens to them :) Like afterbirth.. no one knows about afterbirth hahaha
Same dude 😅
😂 same
shes the only karen that is not a karen
Karens are supposed to be white. Thats probably why🤷🏾♀️🤣
Aurora Peterson there’s still asian Karen’s tho, it might just be a bit rare
Can anyone explain me this karen thing
Idk why people decided to call them Karen’s cause all the people actually named Karen are sweet (ones I know of)
@Malvika Tiwari the whole karen thing basically refers to a middle-upper class white woman (typically white, but sometimes other races) who pretty much thinks they are better than everyone/ above the law. they usually have a short dark straight bob cut, and are soccer moms. (some of them are, not all of them though) their said to drive a mini van, and usually go to yoga or soemthing like that before they drop their kids off at school. if you look up karen videos, you can get a better understanding of what their like. hope this helps ahha
I'm not even married yet, and I don't know if I want to put my wife through this. God bless moms!
As a Grandma, Im glad to see a young man watching, learning and commenting. Truly, sex and baby making really is serious business. For women, support is EVERYTHING. Knowledge is power! Good on you for educating yourself!
WOW! You sat through this whole thing! LOL! I'm amazed! >_< You rock and your wife is lucky...some dudes only care about when they can have sex again lol! ( Now you know after watching this video why some woman are always so angry lol!) Good luck to you and your wife brother! She'll be fine because she has a good guy like you! And you're a rare type, believe me! She's a lucky girl for sure!
We’ll keep u
God bless you for being a dude who educated himself in this. Your wife will appreciate you greatly.
You are going to be a great husband!
I’m 28 weeks pregnant. Somehow it’s so soothing watching you explaining all this. Not so scared anymore.
U can do it girl, i did it
Who are you women I'm in my first trimester and absolutely terrified!
@@The0unwanted0apple dude…. I’m a week post, I was so scared! Its no fun. But the pain… you just kind of forget straight away. It’s odd 😅
To think, so many women do this in developing countries without adequate medical care, without proper sanitation.. :(
Just a reminder that people in USA and UK are Hella poor too. A lot of women can't afford their proper needs, even pads/tampons. Some lose their jobs cause they can't afford pads and have to stay home.
and they still go through this many more times than people in the global north :(
I'm from Tunisia 🇹🇳 and we have great health care. Women don't have any problems with giving birth to a baby, in fact we have many birth alternatives that don't make you feel any pain. Also we have better hygiene thanks to our culture, we use water every time we go to the toilet, not just paper towels. And doctors keep up with you all the time.
Coming from a person that’s from a developing country, we have good health care and good sanitation. It’s not everywhere but we have lots and lots of them. The media doesn’t really show the reality of developing country.
@@mizzlemay8388 I mean it's a developing country not an underdeveloped one, so it's supposed to be continously evolving and improving. It's not only the media, i think individuals also have the responsibility of educating themselves a little.
I heard "tear" and immediately did not wish to have a baby EVER
Same I started tingling hearing her say tear
With u
Same 😭😭
💀 I was like bye
Me too😂
Me watching this knowing I’m going to give birth in 5 weeks 👁 👄👁
You got this desi!
I have gone through the the third degree one, and it takes 6 weeks to heal, i wish u dont go through that. God bless u
Good luck girl, I would probably shit myself with fear :(
im 23 weeks atm ❤
Same, in 7 WEEK first baby on the way......
She: Explaining
Me: *Feeling the pain*
Umm 📌
Sameee 😐
Damn true
Everytime she said tore, i get shivers through my body.
I’m tearing up right know. I had a miscarriage and had to go through that all by myself because no one realizes how traumatizing it is. This video felt like a talk with a sister. It was comforting and takes the fear of when it’s actually going to happen... THANK U! ♥️
❤️❤️
I’m praying for you ❤️
Yes it is I had a miscarriage on 2 and a half months. It was terrible. I have 3 children tho. I never new I was gonna go threw that tho.
More power to you ❤
im praying for you
I am not pregnant, don't want to be pregnant.... and yet I still watched the whole video 😅
Same, I don’t even want kids 😂
Watching this a week before my due date 👀 oh gosh!!
Good luck 🤗
Kaya Lan thank you 😊 💛
Same 😅
Good luck ❤️and hey I watch your videos 🌼
Courage courage! Everything will be okay
This video should be shown in schools to girls at 16. It's so important to know. Yet at 31 I had no idea all this happens !! Thank you
Love From London
I think it should be shown to everyone in middle school. Not just girls.
What do you mean you had no idea? It’s kind of common sense if you think about it. Some women can tear down there if the hole is smaller than the baby and doesn’t stretch enough. And obviously if it’s small it will tear.
I’m 37 weeks pregnant and I feel like I’ve learned more on postpartum needs, compared to the actual class I took. She’s so lively and very blunt, it’s nice to hear from an actual mother.
Every single pee I have after watching this video will not go in vain, Lord please forgive my ingratitude and let me be grateful for my privileges 😩 😔 ✊🏽
😂😂😂😂
Amen
Hahahahaha!!!
😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Its hilarious that we know about sex this much but not about process of giving birth
god I can't believe women do this. the more I learn about pregnancy I don't think I can handle birthing the baby myself
luckily there is plenty of support to get
Females have been giving birth since the start of time I think u can do it
@@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 Hi! you might not have meant that comment seriously, but I'm commenting in case. A ton of women have died from giving birth, babies too. There has always been a huge risk in giving birth. The risk is way smaller today, thx to modern medicine, but it is still there and giving birth is still extremely painful for most and in some cases traumatic. A good support system and professional help before, during and after is important. And also.. writing "lol" in that context is rude.
@@Rooskwa okay I apologize
And she was lucky, saddly a lot of mothers have It way worst, plus the no sleeping, urinary incontinence, keloid scars, depression, HTA, gestational diabetes, just to name some negative aspects.
Some people think motherhood or giving birth is like nothing cause everyone does It and romantized and we never heard about the shitty side of it, but is not like that, It changes your life drastically, you are no longer the star on your own freaking life, but we don't heard about this a lot because for mothers it's not socially allowed to talk about It, so I really love this type of videos cause it's not just pink, shit can get dark but as a mother having a baby is the one thing you "can't" regret.
I felt every word she said , even though im not pregnant nor have had any babies .....this gave me different type of anxiety 😥
Same 😭
@@mackenzierivercasey6752 lmao 30 as middle aged. I'll just go put myself off to pasture then...
I love how she looks like a Disney princess and then says that the birth “felt like I need to take a big sh*t” 😂 I love your videos and your personality ❤️
This all sounds traumatizing.
If your eduacted prior, rest, eat healty like soups and easy digestable foods, magnesium, stool softeners its easier, also sitz nbaths. THere are many remedies but were just not educated
It is. Postpartum is worse than giving birth
I’m so traumatized I cry, 4 days pp
@@jocygaleana2709 I'm still crying - 3 months postpartum 😅
What happened? How do you feel?
its very traumatic 😭
Omg I'm so scared of getting pregnant now :(
Me too 😭😭this is scary
xx_mz same. When she talk about tearing I dont even dare to pee
Let's adopt. This is scary! 😪😪😪😪😓
@@sakshiarora2870 lmao same :-0
i’m actually feeling burn down there right now just by watching it 😂😂
I cannot BELIEVE the lack of pregnancy information we're given in sex ed class in high school. Unreal! Not having kids any time soon but thank you for this video, haha. Super informative!!!
jeesh i love the way this lady talks about her body. like no joke i’ve had two and tried to keep a positive self image but looking into the mirror was HARD. hearing her talk about the pooch part and say something like “i still have one and that’s completely normal” was amazing.
Gives me a totally new appreciation for my mom. Mother’s Day presents need to be 10x!!! I had no idea.
Only if the mother actually acts like a mother should. Popping out babies without actually caring the way a mother should doesn’t deserve praise
OMG this is something ive always wondered but too scared to ask? also too ashamed? I know I shouldnt feel like this, but I still sometimes feel ashamed for asking things that should honestly probably be more normalized!!! I think it has to do with how I was brought up!!
Definitely don’t need to feel ashamed! I’m glad this video helped 🤍
Same 😭my mum disregards all this
@@day6atemywallet78 ahhh we all had the same childhood
I'm 32 years old and NEVER in my life heard about this information before... I guess because I had no plans to make babies before. But this definetly is information ALL woman should know. Thank you for making this very informative video. You are such a brave, strong and beautiful mommy! ❤️
How’s it feel? Do you feel any differently than you did when you were in your mid twenties?
As of this time, I no longer have the desire to have children, so imagining myself go through this with that mindset is so scary it’s making me cry. I know it’s bad to have children when you didn’t want them because it’ll be devastating for the child to ever learn that their mother never wanted them in the first place. Definitely avoiding ever getting pregnant unless I actually feel ready, and hope that my future partner will be understanding of that, too.
I think exactly the same, I don’t think I’ll ever want to give birth (I would much rather adopt a child and give a homeless baby a second chance). And watching this just makes me shiver, it made my vagina hurt hahahaha
Still very informative and interesting
It is scary af...but as far as I know this ONE variant of what giving birth is like, other woman have it easier other much worse. It all depends.
That's why i never had kids.
I found my people. No birth gang!!
Trust me.. I'm crying right now seeing this video.. y we women need to go through all this.. it scares the shit out f me.. I will never be ready to have a baby .. noo😭😭😭😭
Just wanna share my birth experience Karen. In my country, the govt hospital would not offer any painkillers or epidural as they encourage birth as natural as possible. So I was in pain the whole time before my contraction really kicked in and they had to induce me because my water already broke for 24 hours but my cervical opening was still quite small. Within 3 hours after induction I delivered my baby Elijah. The moment I heard him cry and out of my tummy was the happiest day of my life. I didnt cry because I was too tired and I really slept right after birth but 5 hours later the nurse woke me up and put my baby beside me. Oh my God my tears were flowing like waterfall. Tiny miracle and I instantly fell in love!
But postpartum journey like you said..it was not talked much even by our mothers or sisters! I was really not expecting many thing during postpartum stage. So my postpartum journey was a heck of painful and sore one because my perineal tear was quite long. Once again, I was not given any pain medication and I dreaddd every single toilet visit especially going for poopoo. My tear was only totally healed on the 6th week postpartum. Breastfeeding was also exhausting for the first time mom like me. I didnt have alot of milk coming in the first 2 weeks but I encouraged active direct latching so now my milk supply is pretty good. Hunger kicks in all the time and I think I munch onto things like every hour. But now I get the hang of it and I truly and really appreciate all these moment and now I feel like I want another baby again lol! But minus the pain please >.
Same hear. No epidural. No kit to take care of vaginal. You take care of your baby just after birth.
Thank you for sharing !
Oh my goodness. I Didn’t want the epidural at all, but I had to have a epidural as I was stuck with him in the “ring of fire” stage. They had given me Remi fentanyl but it wasn’t working it was sending me to sleep so they basically shoved gas and air in my face told me I was having an epidural or I would have had to have an emergency Caesarean. The adrenaline thing that they gave me to keep me awake worked fine but the epidural didn’t actually work at all so I was now just very awake and in a hell of a lot of pain. They really don’t tell you how wrong it can go, I did have a 2nd° tear but I tore it both front and back and I lost over a litre of blood. My poor partner!
They gave me no pain meds after the birth, and even during my stitches ( which was hell).
But my Elijah was born on the 30th of dec 2021, and once I held him….. I totally forgot the pain and was saying to his dad that we need to make sure he has siblings. He looked very pale and said “really?! Are you sure?”
I think it was more trauma for him than me lol
But postpartum, I’m finding it harder than birth ngl.
💜💜💜
Same here, I uploaded a video and talked about it.. it's my first video, lol 😆 I am in awe how pampered these ladies on TH-cam are... so blessed, if I had that option, I too would've taken it.
I'm almost 37 weeks pregnant & this definitely helped. I'm so nervous and I dont want to tear 😭
I can't imagine how my mom did it.. She had a natural birth for me at home with absolutely no pain medication/epidural. btw great video, most people don't talk about what exactly happens afterwards.
I had mine natural and tore up horribly. Had to have 2 reconstruction surgeries after 2 years. The labor was painful I can't imagine how I survived 12 hours in pain started with 3 minutes contractions apart of each one for 5 hours every 1 minute.
Mad respect for my mother. She successfully delivered 4 of us, naturally. God bless her! 🙏 😱 I kept asking her about the post-partum, and she says don't worry about it. 😶 I've been hunting for a video like this to be honest with me. Gotta mentally prepare myself. 😂
I had a natural birth mo meds and no tears or stitches
@@camilleasillia9074 and how was the pain? Lucky you. Not many can claim no tears. 😶
@@tweewin i was induced had contractions from 10 am until midnight which we're all in my back but manageable i could watch tv during ..but then they broke my waters it was severe awful pain then pushing part i didnt mind so much that hour was bad though and i screamed a fair bit lol..after just sore when had a wee not terrible all im saying
This is the most straightforward video on child birth I've ever seen. I've never seen the little cleaning spritz bottle before or even heard of it lol. Thanks for sharing all this information, and congratulations 👏 You look lovely!
I bet Shan Boody will do one as straight forward as well once she gives birth ( she’s a sex educator here on TH-cam she’s great )
This bottle is sometimes sold/used as a travel cleaning device for after you went to the toilet. Especially in countries which use bidets.
I got one from the hospital but it's just a clear bottle with a shower head type white cap. You fill it with warm water and just rinse and squeeze. Those, the witch hazel wipes and the dermaplast were the best things ever. And I had stitches.
Girl, I love how sincere you are about everything,this is such a taboo and having someone saying the true thing without trying to make the situation romantic like you see in magazines and movies, I don't even intend to have a baby but I feel that this was a really valuable advice , thank you for this video , I hope that you get 100% healed as fast as possible
Lara P Between normal people it is a taboo, but between healthcare professionals its quite normal! We talk about it all the time, it’s quite interesting.
@@kimkookie6289 I know, this should be more open for normal people, I see so many girls getting pregnant and finding their selves in the dark wen it comes to after birth, is a extreme, our they find something romanticise our a horror story
@@meowtime6141 That's so true, and they need so much support. Believe it or not, mainly nurses are supposed to educate women in these things...but then I remember not everyone is like me in that area. Let's hope they have a good experience and a nice healthcare team that'll educate and support them.💖
I just hug my mom tightly after watching this, thank you!!
I feel like the more I learn about pregnancy, birth, and everything that comes after... the less I want to have kids in the future... this is so much to deal with. It’s honestly kind of scary
Yup one reason why I prefer to stay childfree. They don’t tell you how stressful and hard it is after birth. Years of sleepless nights, stress to the max and risk of your man leaving you. Not worth it
I didn’t know there is varying degrees of tearing. That’s sounds painful and mind boggling. I knew birthing is painful, but now I feel it’s more painful that I originally thought.
Maybe TMI but I lost my mom recently in June & I’m about to have my first baby in October & this video helped so much thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Not TMI at all! Soooo sorry for your loss though 🥺
I've lost my mother many years ago and I agree with you a lot. We have to learn this info from somewhere, even if it's TH-cam.
Hope your birth experience will be the best ever ❤
Ευγενία Κτ ❤️❤️
Keeping you in my prayers, good luck love (*3*) remember you are strong and you are loved!
Best wishes on the delivery!
Hi Karen! Please don’t think this video is TMI. There are sooo many women and young girls such as myself who do not have mothers or female role models in their life to help us understand or even acknowledge what happens with our bodies, so we do look up to female influencers for this sort of information and trust me we’re so grateful for informative videos such as this one. So thanks sooo much! You’re doing a great job! We are ALL learning because of you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
So well said, thank you!!
Just the thought of giving birth, scares me the most..thankyou for sharing this karen...i have so much respect for all mothers
As a mom who went through c-section not v birth, I’m still so nervous whenever I heard about tear. Moms are so damn hero!!!!
ok im scared to get preggy, give birth, and post partum...
samee
Honestly, being scared makes things hurt a lot more. It's so interesting. There are all kinds of birth affirmations out that to relax and calm you if you ever decide to give birth. The truth is our bodies were made for all this, and it knows what it's doing. It's about not over thinking it, and trying to control everything. It's like, the mind can make things much worse than they need to be. I've heard it explained like this, You know when you gotta poop in the public restroom, and someone walks in and you suddenly freeze and can't really poop easily. Same kind of thing with child birth!
@@buffandbrindle oh thats a really good comparison.. Now that im thinking about it its going to be really hard for me to do it one day if it feels like pooping and everyone is staring at my hooha 😵
@@Febzpassion I think that's why a lot more people opt for a home birth. Less people and more privacy.
Same
i still don't understand how youtube recommends this to me. i'm 22 and not even married
Holy, i've never had this many likes. Thank you so much 🙏
Me too! But it was definitely interesting to watch.
Same here 🤣
Girl same🤣
Same....i am not even 20...😭
Same
I'm 21, no plans on having babies, going to Uni , travelling etc, but I saved this video thinking: "I need all that stuff when I give birth"
Now searching videos on how to prevent tears during birth.
Hahaha
Have a C section, or just don't have kids. Don't give up your freedom to do what you want when you want. I never had kids , and have no regrets. (Jan Griffiths).
😂
Perineal massages help a lot to prevent tearing.
Same. I still want kids. I think its important to be educated on the entire process so I like watching these videos.
1.5 weeks postpartum and taking comfort in this knowing I’m not alone 🥲 Thank you Karen!
Nursing student who’s never had kids learning from you! Thank you for your honesty & openness
btw. "Flushable" wipes aren't really flushable. so just throw those in the trash instead. othervise they can start clogging up the pipes.
I love that you’re very organic and natural (wooden toys, your color sets, etc) but not to the extreme of not accepting things that aren’t 100% natural or modern medicines (like the epidural and the ibuprofen). You just like being comfy 😂 and that’s how I want to be as a mom eventually!!💖💖
I'm 6 days postpartum! Oh my lord urghhh I was so scared of my first poop but I was prepping, drank lots of water, had bran and took stool softeners and whew! I survived😭 no pain at all...
Postpartum recovery is an anxiety trip but having someone there with you takes half of it away
38 weeks! Hope I'll have no pain like you!!!
@@dawnforlife good luck ❤️❤️❤️ you got this
@@PINKIDENTITY Thank you and enjoy your little one! :)
Its been a week since you comment i hope you and baby both are healthy
@@sakshim2616 Hey 🤗❤️ Baby is very healthy and I'm also doing well... The stitches are still a bit of a thing but these things take time. Thank you so much for asking
more women should speak up about this as naturally as you. much love ❤️❤️
I’m 30 weeks. Thank you for being clear and honest. I’m sure it’s awkward sitting in a room alone talking about pooping but it reaffirms lots of information about PP!
Appreciate all the TMI 😂❤️ Might be personal but no one talks about it and you were so helpful ❤️
Loved your video!!! Usually it doesn’t hurt to go pee after baby, but the area can be swollen and make it hard to pee after baby comes out. Also you need to pee so your uterus can contract! If your bladder is full of pee it pushes your uterus at a weird angle and makes it hard for it to contract which can be dangerous as contracting helps with the bleeding so you don’t bleed out ❤️
This is what the nurse told me when I was still half drugged up from my epidural! Thanks for sharing with everyone 😍
IAMKARENO right! 😂 it’s so hard to soak up all this important info when you’re half asleep, drugged up, baby crying, everything hurting lol! Your video has actually kinda inspired me to make an experience/ what to expect down there from labor and delivery 🥰
everytime I hear pregnancy/birthing stories, my legs tense and tighten - why does it seem so scary D:
The scary possiblities (although not so common) are just a deal breaker >< all that pain >
And then there are women who just don't know they are pregnant and give birth on random places or on their own houses apparently effortlessly.
@@blimtaeterna7006 these women are generally in denial. Being pregnant myself, there’s no way you couldn’t know for months especially in the third trimester.
Everything unknown is scary. And labor is intense, there's no denying that. But women don't break. Our bodies were designed by God to relax & stretch during labor. If you ever decide to have children, try reading up on The Bradly Method. Rather than focusing on breathing like Lamaze, it focuses on working with your body during contraction, not against it... resulting in less pain! -Blessings!
Well it is. You need to feel some sort of love for this unborn baby where you think it's all worth it and you suffer through it because you really want this. I can't relate at all personally but I guess some women truly feel that way.
I'm 12 weeks postpartum for my first. I had an episiotomy. I remember the first poo...oh my gosh.. I was so scared and I cried cos the poo was so hard, I was scared of ruining my stitches. It took 6 weeks for me to completely heal from my stitches. Now, when I think of it, all I do is smile. My baby is the best gift 🤗 . Wishing all pregnant women a safe and easy delivery.
Omg I had one too but it took me 5 and a half months to heal completely 😳
I love how you are so raw and honest about your experience!
This sounds horrifying omg. Idk how I’ll have kids. It actually makes me a little sad.
I understand and I told my best friends the Light Version of my post-partum... And what was left was 1 friend without kid, and the rest was "ew, you made myself not wanting kids anymore"...
I felt so devastated because I really tried my best not telling all Details (they asked!!! and expected some positive perfect birth answers?) and I found some Info very important... But I also learned that I did basically nothing wrong, I just had the wrong friends.
I think us women just do not know enough, Sex education should be better... Because when you are pregnant you can get scared about what stories your own mom or aunt brings out. They all told me "I did not want to tell you, because I feared you do not want to have kids anymore"
... We women are so strong and we become even stronger afterwards. So I want to share the message, we are mentally able to overcome these things! :)
I’ll adopt
same :( and i don’t want to adopt because i actually want my own haha
I remember when you used to make fashion videos, you made me buy cherry earrings, and now you are married with a baby talking about child birth time has passed by so fast😭😭😭
Omg same and when she died her hair green! Now shes a mom 😭
Just make sure not to flush the “flushable” wipes! Even though brands call them flushable, they do not break down like tp does and can cause blockages in sewer systems!
I will give birth in january,thank you for reminding me of everything.I forgot everything i did with my first born,that was 7 yrs ago!Very usefull tips.Thanks again!
How was it ? Just curious I’m scared
im 16 and pregnant. thank you for the video. i was so scared but knowing what will happen makes me feel so much better. thank you thank you
I’m not a mother yet, but I’ve always been curious about the postpartum healing process. Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience. Not a lot of people talk about this topic so I appreciate this.
I loved your honesty in this video! I am nowhere near having a baby but I’ve always been so curious about the actual details of it
Omg such a great video. When I had my daughter NO ONE told me that I would bleed for a whole month! No one!!!! There's a lot of things that I had to figure out on my own which sucked! Thanks for sharing with us and hopefully it can help other women expect or be aware of body changes postpartum.
Aww, I'm 20 and I don't even have a bf, but I'm so curious about these experience lol
Thanks, Karen for sharing your experience. This definitely makes me appreciate and love my Mom even more ahhhh!!!!
This video is everything! My youngest is 11 so it’s been a long time since I have been here. BUT everything you are saying is so true. It’s crazy because as time goes on you forget all of the things. Ladies, you and lady parts will be fine.
34yr old me clenching my legs. Contemplating if I really want kids.
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Same, also 34😅
Ditto. I don’t think it’s for me!
You only have a year left to decide
@@wendihyd6799 why
I don´t plan on becoming a mom anytime soon, but I just love how talking about this is being normalized! Thank you Karen, wish you luck to you and your beautiful family!
Love that you gave all the grimy details because people never talk about those and they are so important! 👏🏻
Aside from the scary storytelling, you are really glowing 🥺you look absolutely gorgeous, so glad to hear you are enjoying your motherhood despite the whole experience 🙏
Watching this at 33 weeks pregnant......really appreciate the honesty and candidness. Thank you so much 🙏
This makes me want to be childless even more 😂 Much love and appreciation to all mothers out there! Be proud of yourselves 🧡
I’m due in 6 weeks and this video has helped ease some of my anxiety regarding recovery-you were so honest and real so thank you!
i just love her confidence...like no mom i knoe has talked about these stuff with me...i really appreciate it
As a mom of two about to be three, grab depends! Also you can put aloe gel and which hazel on some and freeze them. It feels good down there after birth!
Also look into belly binding!
It's incredibly valuable for people to have access to real, raw, educational videos like this. Thank you for that community service!! I hope that you and your family are safe, healthy, and happy.
Watching this on day one of my period and feeling all this invisible pain.
Im due any day now, and was under the impression id be getting a c section until a few days ago when the dr said i have to try natural, so now im LITERALLY TOTALLY UNPREPARED and freaking tf out! But this was so helpful, so many of these videos include mass amounts of items n stuff that really seems unnecessary, im glad u showed the basics n kept it real!🙏💖
For c-section also similar problems are there, check out those as well.. if you end up c-section those helps. Bless you
this is awesome. after you give birth, you still retain a lot of fluid (like swelling) and there's a lot of swelling down there, which is why we like you to use ice packs. and an epidural lessens your sensation to pee...you probably still had epidural medication in your system so it was hard to pee. your uterus and your bladder compete for the same position in your body, so if your bladder is full, the uterus stops contracting and you have a heavier flow. that's why you need to pee to keep your uterus contracting and control your bleeding
Just bumped into this video and it's actually so nice to finally hear someone talking about postpartum so freely. I gave birth over 2 weeks ago and am still struggling with the pain - but it does get easier 🙏 I was in total shock the day following the delivery tho, as I wasn't expecting so much pain and had never really heard about it, and I didn't know what was happening to my body. It's a good thing to talk about it so the mums-to-be can get ready for it (like we'd get ready for all the other steps of the pregnancy).
Thanks for being real. I'm not expecting but being pregnant really scares me honestly but I know hubby and I want a child in a year or 2. Your info helps us who know nothing well, be more prepared
I wish I was more educated with what happens to our bodies after giving birth. I had a third degree tear and I couldn’t sit for 2 months. I was not expecting to be in so much pain and discomfort!
@Jun Park could you explain more about third degree tear
Heyyy I had a C section, and for second delivery I had a VBAC; I had a 3rd degree tear too (and a high vagina-tear too) 👌 Doctors told me to do a cesaren again next time - cause it will tear worse than now... But what I actually wanted to say: It wasn't as painful as the C section, BUT it was way worse in another way .... I don't get it - why is everybody saying "YOU'LL FORGET ALL THE PAIN IF YOU SEE YOUR BABY"? - HAHAHA SHIT! They are all lying at us! The problems actually starting then ^^
Thank you for all the mommy related videos 😭 I’m currently 36 weeks and terrified cause I’m young and it’s my first baby 😿 these videos are so informative and encouraging, thank you Karen 🥺💗💗💗
As a person who's afraid of going in the hospitals, needles, blood or anything medicine related, this freaks me out .
That feeling will get easier the further along you get in your pregnancy, if or whenever you become pregnant. The reason; you unknowingly and naturally begin to put your babies needs and safety ahead of your own. It's quite amazing to experience. Although, you may not even come to realize you're doing this til it's all over and done with. Same applies if your partner or loved one has a medical emergency; your fears and anxieties get pushed aside as you tend to focus on the injured. It's a healthy- sorta- way to heal your fear, or at the very least, ignore it for a few moments. I hope this gives you some tidbit of comfort, bless....
Birth definitely involves all of those. After my delivery there was quite a lot of blood everywhere and they cleaned the floor before standing me up so I didn’t have to see everything. Needles everywhere too. I had an IV, epidural line in my back, catheter. Plus an oxygen monitor on my finger and a blood pressure band on my arm. Tubes all over the place.
I appreciate your realness in this video. Due in 6wks so I’m getting ready now.
My mom told me all of this as soon as I was old enough to understand. As a result, I have always been very diligent with birth control!
Never knew this! Why don't we learn this at school? (I live in Europa, so we do get a pretty good sex education, but still only the biological and not the real life stuff.)
So happy you made this video! Everything I’ve learnt about pregnancy has been from my sister who has had three children, before that I truly knew absolutely nothing, videos like this help normalise and educate! ☺️
who actually wants to give birth then, this is terrifying.
Tbh I’d be more worried about the labour. At least at this point she’s got her baby to remind her it’s worth it. I’m more scared of labour
It IS terrifying!!! You have the pregnancy to deal with, the weight gain, possible gestational diabetes (which may stay with you after), your body will never be the same, widening hips, swollen ankles and feet, etc. I have never been pregnant just for these reasons. Also, I feel I would not have been a good parent, because I would have had to sell my horse before the baby came. My ex in laws would have seen to that, and I would have been resentful. Not only that, I understand that you bleed for SIX WEEKS after the birth. I would not have been able to deal with that crap. My ex didn't want kids either, and at age 31 I was sterilized, and my horse was safe. (Jan Griffiths).
@@douglasgriffiths3534 DIABETES?????
@@jenniepeach6764 Yes, some women can get gestational diabetes, which should disappear after the birth, but sometimes it dosen't, and the woman has diabetes for the rest of her life. Happened to a friend of mine. (Jan Griffiths).
I have a seven year old. The pregnancy sucked. It was hard and then the delivery was a long painful 18 hours but he is so worth it. I'm currently 15 weeks withbmy second child first daughter and I am so excited. The pregnancy sucks too. Lol. But I know more and will be better prepared this time and don't have to worry about school. I was 16 when my son was born.
Thank you for the education lesson. I really don't get it why everybody is not informing like this the young women. So thank you again.
thank you ! it's sooo comforting to know what can happen next and to have someone who talk about it so freely !