My wife and I have been talking about how crazy it is that what could be the absolute end of the world one day, seems insignificant mere days or sometimes even hours later. It's not that what we were upset about doesn't matter, it's like we forget and then belittle ourselves for feeling like that. We are trying now to recognise when something is really making us unhappy and trying better to deal with it then. It's tough though.
9:30 ‘when you’re not getting what you need from the circumstances of your life…’ was really validating to hear right now actually, i’ve been feeling horrendous and detached because of that dissatisfaction and feeling inadequate. but sometimes with adhd you feel like things are so bad you’re just gonna collapse, then u play a video game with ur friend and u love life, and back again, in a few hours 😅
The swing from the worse feeling in the world to the best feeling in the world is confusing isn't it 😅 I think trying to hold on to the fact that there will be a sudden and joyous upswing again can go a long way to hanging on in the rough times, but it takes some constant self reminding!
Thank you for taking the time to talk to me a few months ago. I got messed about by NHS so I went private. They confirmed combined adhd. After taking elvanse 30mg for 7 days, they increased it to 50mg. My head then went funny and I had really bad anxiety and panic attacks. I'm now back on the stable dose of 30mg and feeling a lot better in myself.
I've never sobbed so much watching a TH-cam video before. Where past Rachel was is where I am at right now and I am struggling. Your words of reassurance to your past self are much appreciated because I feel them real big. Can't wait for the rest. ❤🥲
The “getting out of a situation that’s unhealthy” and the relief that comes with it is soooooo relatable! I have had a 2 week period where I have been at ease and happy, like actually happy! And so much of that depression was due to my job, I knew that, but feeling happy felt just so out of reach and more like a dream, since it has been years I felt it for longer that a day. I mostly felt like “I’m sure people are faking it and going through the motions like I am. You cannot be that content and happy!” Once I had that window of very tangible other job opportunities, it was like a veil lifted and I was just able to breathe and enjoy life in general. The thing is, that period only lasted 2 weeks due to a shift in that area. I cannot explain the panic, anger and sadness I felt. Feeling that happyness get away and not knowing how to hold on to it. But I am so hopefull that it’s possible to feel like that again. Looking forward to it :) Thanks again for sharing ❤ You’re the big sis with ADHD all of us wish we had 🤗 fyi: the next video came up and I lost focus of that so I just found myself commenting this message on a video of Zendaya 😅 oh how fun we are hahah
and describing trying to figure out what’s ‘wrong’ with you or fix things as a ‘forward’ emotion is spot on. now that i kind of know and understand much more about myself i feel more lost than ever on where to go with it
Oh crap, I got officially diagnosed in February... I thought i was on the up, but now i am feeling burnout at work, now it feels like my whole life is falling apart the last few days and I am maybe becoming depressed... I wasnt expecting this video to hit home as much as it has.
When I saw depression in the thumbnail, I automatically assumed the clinical diagnosis, glad that you clarified. I was diagnosed with depression in the past when I was burned out, and only recentlly years after with ADD when I tried to finally understand why I also struggle to function when I feel optimstic (your videos were an inspiration in this process). I think it's very valuable what you do here, discussing that a person can be struggling with both ADHD and depression at times, and that the fact you also feel depressed doesn't invalidate the ADHD diagnosis. It's difficult to accurately judge how we feel in the moment, since the self-doubt is so strong with us anyway.
Thanks for sharing your experience 💛 Yes the depression topic is an interesting one. When I burned out my sick note was for 'stress and early stages of possible depressive disorder after adhd diagnosis' and seeing that written down kinda shocked me. But I'm honestly not sure if it would have helped if they'd formally diagnosed me later with depression or not. I guess the most important thing about getting a diagnosis for anything, is about the support it helps you access.
Did you do some years of therapy before getting the ADHD diagnosis? I'm asking this question because my self esteem improved a great deal years before my ADHD diagnosis thx to my therapist
Hey Mark, yes I did - only for about 2 months to help with a specific situation but it was DEFINITELY the starting point of understanding the extent of my perfectionism. I'd say my self esteem dipped a lot after diagnosis but the foundations I've had from therapy and coaching will have contributed to being able to pick up again
My wife and I have been talking about how crazy it is that what could be the absolute end of the world one day, seems insignificant mere days or sometimes even hours later.
It's not that what we were upset about doesn't matter, it's like we forget and then belittle ourselves for feeling like that.
We are trying now to recognise when something is really making us unhappy and trying better to deal with it then. It's tough though.
The compassion you show your past self is so healing to watch
Thank youuuu
9:30 ‘when you’re not getting what you need from the circumstances of your life…’ was really validating to hear right now actually, i’ve been feeling horrendous and detached because of that dissatisfaction and feeling inadequate. but sometimes with adhd you feel like things are so bad you’re just gonna collapse, then u play a video game with ur friend and u love life, and back again, in a few hours 😅
The swing from the worse feeling in the world to the best feeling in the world is confusing isn't it 😅 I think trying to hold on to the fact that there will be a sudden and joyous upswing again can go a long way to hanging on in the rough times, but it takes some constant self reminding!
@@rachdoesyoutubeagreed! its my primary source of hope lol, dreaming of the dopamine
Thank you for taking the time to talk to me a few months ago. I got messed about by NHS so I went private. They confirmed combined adhd. After taking elvanse 30mg for 7 days, they increased it to 50mg. My head then went funny and I had really bad anxiety and panic attacks. I'm now back on the stable dose of 30mg and feeling a lot better in myself.
So glad to hear you're feeling better in yourself 💛
I've never sobbed so much watching a TH-cam video before. Where past Rachel was is where I am at right now and I am struggling. Your words of reassurance to your past self are much appreciated because I feel them real big. Can't wait for the rest. ❤🥲
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The “getting out of a situation that’s unhealthy” and the relief that comes with it is soooooo relatable! I have had a 2 week period where I have been at ease and happy, like actually happy! And so much of that depression was due to my job, I knew that, but feeling happy felt just so out of reach and more like a dream, since it has been years I felt it for longer that a day. I mostly felt like “I’m sure people are faking it and going through the motions like I am. You cannot be that content and happy!” Once I had that window of very tangible other job opportunities, it was like a veil lifted and I was just able to breathe and enjoy life in general. The thing is, that period only lasted 2 weeks due to a shift in that area. I cannot explain the panic, anger and sadness I felt. Feeling that happyness get away and not knowing how to hold on to it. But I am so hopefull that it’s possible to feel like that again. Looking forward to it :) Thanks again for sharing ❤ You’re the big sis with ADHD all of us wish we had 🤗 fyi: the next video came up and I lost focus of that so I just found myself commenting this message on a video of Zendaya 😅 oh how fun we are hahah
haha Zendaya be confused why she's being called the big sis with ADHD 😋 Thank you for sharing!! And the veil being lifted is such a good description!
and describing trying to figure out what’s ‘wrong’ with you or fix things as a ‘forward’ emotion is spot on. now that i kind of know and understand much more about myself i feel more lost than ever on where to go with it
Oh crap, I got officially diagnosed in February... I thought i was on the up, but now i am feeling burnout at work, now it feels like my whole life is falling apart the last few days and I am maybe becoming depressed... I wasnt expecting this video to hit home as much as it has.
Couldn’t agree more. The tension between realising my qualities then simultaneously disbelieving them. Wtf?
I really admire how eloquently you explain everything. My brain loves to listen to you and follow your „train“ of thoughts.
Yipppeee, my brain likes to hear that 🌞
When I saw depression in the thumbnail, I automatically assumed the clinical diagnosis, glad that you clarified. I was diagnosed with depression in the past when I was burned out, and only recentlly years after with ADD when I tried to finally understand why I also struggle to function when I feel optimstic (your videos were an inspiration in this process). I think it's very valuable what you do here, discussing that a person can be struggling with both ADHD and depression at times, and that the fact you also feel depressed doesn't invalidate the ADHD diagnosis. It's difficult to accurately judge how we feel in the moment, since the self-doubt is so strong with us anyway.
Thanks for sharing your experience 💛 Yes the depression topic is an interesting one. When I burned out my sick note was for 'stress and early stages of possible depressive disorder after adhd diagnosis' and seeing that written down kinda shocked me. But I'm honestly not sure if it would have helped if they'd formally diagnosed me later with depression or not. I guess the most important thing about getting a diagnosis for anything, is about the support it helps you access.
your Hair is so pretty down 🥰 I'm gonna let mine down too i think!
Did you do some years of therapy before getting the ADHD diagnosis?
I'm asking this question because my self esteem improved a great deal years before my ADHD diagnosis thx to my therapist
Hey Mark, yes I did - only for about 2 months to help with a specific situation but it was DEFINITELY the starting point of understanding the extent of my perfectionism. I'd say my self esteem dipped a lot after diagnosis but the foundations I've had from therapy and coaching will have contributed to being able to pick up again
Hi , how time does it take to be diagnosed to you, particularly