Guys, don`t resort to mental tricks just to sleep with someone. Learn to be alone. Accept the harsh reality of female attraction. Enrich your life by pursuing your life goals, fullfiling hobbies, mental and physical strenght. This is the winning path of us.
Great! I’d add to solid summation, be alert to the vibe of the woman. When she’s naturally attracted to you being yourself, that’s the best person to put your energy into. But understand that she may come in a package that is different from your ’visual’ type, despite the fact that she checks off every peaceful toxic-free box.
In my experience, women who like you, when they really like you, they will make it easy for you. You don't have to act like a bad boy to try and get her. The door's open, just be confident and walk on through.
Yes and no. The main point here is “in your experience.” Perhaps you’re not a ‘bad boy’ and so you’ll attract the women who aren’t as much into ‘bad boys.’ So your experience could be selection bias. As opposed to a bad boy who will naturally attract women who are into bad boys and not men who aren’t bad boys. So yes, be yourself, and you’ll attract women accordingly. But of course that’s nuanced too because ‘being yourself’ is also somewhat conditional. If you’re a slob who doesn’t shower and lets yourself go, or you act too clingy, then you’re being yourself but that will virtually attract no women. Of course I am sure you know this but just to point it out as an example. On average though, I’d say most women want at least some of the ‘bad boy’ qualities. Epically when they’re in their 20’s. Usually when they hit 30+ they’re more serious and have had bad experiences with the bad boys. But issue is at that age they could have accumulated a lot of emotional baggage from bad choices in toxic men. This is also compounded by the fact that, according to the science, women tend to be more neurotic than men are.
@@Ronin_87 I failed many times in my life with women. But the few times I was successful with them easily, at least later in my life, they made it so easy for me. I didn't have to go out of my way or be a relentless dickhead. When girls like you, they will often times put themselves in your orbit. It's up to you to act. I did. 💪🤙
@@benjaminnielsen4288 indeed, I resonate because I struggled in a similar fashion. Wasn't till later I realized their was a better way. Never went back afterwards
Maybe in YOUR experience, but some of us get treated like unwashed lepers by that species, ugly OR handsome. Women LOVE to humiliate a man they see as ‘not good enough’. Sorry, ‘ALL women….’
*Women love men who are unapologetically themselves and don’t let anyone’s opinion dictate their worth. Focus on building self-assurance, owning your decisions, and embracing a no-fear attitude.*
Another huge thing that people need to understand is sometimes women are just messed up from childhood. If her dad was bad, or didn't show her much affection, she often times will be paradoxically attracted to men who are emotionally distant. So you can be a great guy who is strong, and affectionate, but she's turned off because her idea of love is all messed up.
I understand that some people have trauma in their lives. That's not an excuse to bring that on someone else. Whoever a woman ends up with, that guy did not cause her that past trauma.
Oh, that's why she keeps trying to reach out! She ditched me when I showed a bit of emotion and interest. It blew up into a massive argument. Couple of months into no contact, bits started to fall into place in my head and I figured out some things and told her to not even think about believing that she has wiggle room to get back. Then she tried to hoover me after 10 months since we had that argument, but I rejected her. Then couple of months later she called me again, but I didn't pick up. I didn't even assume it was her until I called back, 'cause I was expecting a courier. She took her sim card out and I haven't been notified of her activating the number back on. I guess she finally understood that the tables have turned and that I'm done after 14 years of knowing each other.
@@PkrDealer86 Perhaps you're attracted to women who act like this which is why you feel this way. Saying what you said is like saying all men are a certain way.
You’re nailing it-women aren’t drawn to bad boys because they’re jerks; it’s about the confidence, decisiveness, and leadership they project. Being a leader doesn’t mean controlling her; it means stepping up, making plans, and being clear about what you want, while leaving room for her input. The key is balance. Don’t overthink and become passive, but don’t swing to being overbearing either. Confidence comes from being steady and purposeful, not from trying too hard. Lead like a good dance partner-set the rhythm, guide the steps, but let her shine too. It’s all about showing up with intention and presence, and that’s what really draws people in.
No, they are drawn to them because their role models reflected who the women are attracted to. Attraction is always there for each of us. However, it's a matter of how the women were exposed to when they were young. Who were their role models growing up will shape who they date. That's a fact of life. As my days as a tour guide and hospitality industry, I have spoken to thousands of women. I have noticed the women who were more secure that grew up with decent dads tend to like good guys. And the girls who tend to like bad boys are more anxious. Something to think about.
Being careless about her needs and never please them in any way, they love that. If she even senses that you try to please her in any way, you're out even though she gave you the impression that she liked your good intentions. Forget the "just be yourself" nonsense. After living 40 years on this planet I realised that women (especially the young and attractive ones) are the happiest when their man is cruel and selfish (if she gained weight, tell her she has to lose it) and be 100% honest about it. Oh yeah, and never lend them money (unless she's your wife).
I don't have to be ruthless lol. I just have to be me and I noticed I tend to attract secure, beautful, sexy, feminine women who have a healthy relationship with her family. Ironically, I tell them I'm a shy guy and they always love it lol. Then we proceed with our dates successfully. It's always exciting. I guess I don't have to change myself just to attract amazing women. No need being "ruthless". I'm just an island boy par
@@luckymoon7276😂there’s so much pain and cope in your putrid comment.
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It's not about women at all. It's about men, only men. The more confident and self assured you are, the more women you get to choose. Those are the facts. I don't need to look for women because I can go riding, hiking, skiing or traveling alone and meet women everywhere. I also can tell when women are playing. You wanna play? I'm already out and about meeting others. So ladies, play your games and miss out on good guys because you're not giving good guys enough time to adjust to your needs. Next in line.
The concept is quite simple. Research Cluster-B and understand that there is a big percentage of women out there with a personality disorder. Quite common nowadays is Borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. It is extremely common in women. Now you need to understand that such a woman grew up in a toxic family environment, usually without a father who could have given her a stable personality, but with a single mommy who usually is a narcissistic person who kicked her husband to the curb and prevented the dad access to the child while not being able to raise a kid herself. This will be essentially the trauma chain at play because she will do the same to you if you are a nice guy, as her mother did it to her father. Without a stable identity that could have been given by a father, she of course can not know what love is and what a stable man looks like... how could she know? What she is attracted to is the behaviour she is used to. Remember, she got raised by a narcissistic and abusive mother... that is what she grew up with and what is normal to her. Thus, she seeks the same attributes in a man, which is why she likes a bad boy... she thinks abuse is love. That is what she learned all her life. Forget all other bs.... you now got a scientific explanation and if you want to go down this rabbit hole... I suggest Professor Dr Sam Vaknin but there are more. Forget dating couches, they have no clue what kind of family dynamics are at play and where this trauma with bad partner choices stems from in reality.
I am what I am...I am kind... I care about people... I am loving... I am loyal... I will not change who I am... If these "Personality traits" offend you... That is too bad.... I will still be here when your looks have faded and you no longer get a second look from the "Bad boy" 😁
It tends to be childish emotionally immature younger women or women who are "Damaged goods" with "Daddy issues" who go for the "Bad boy" ...Guys with the tacky gold neckless and tacky gold watch to match...The tacky neck tattoos and the guy who goes to tanning saloons and the guys who use illegal drugs... With age comes wisdom and luckily most women actually grow up and they realise that "Captain Caveman" is actually not the best choice for a lifetime partner. The ones who don't end up crazy old "Cat ladies" with lots of pet cats and a d/i/l/d/0 for company... Hope the above information helps.
Dating was so much easier before cell phones. You would eat, watch a movie, listen to music, smoke and go to bed. Communication wasn’t a problem because its all you had to do and there were no interruptions. This bad boy bs wasnt even a thought.
Very good video. Really like your suggestion when setting up dates, to make it on different days of the week - or weekend - each time, to be a little unpredictable and creating a bit of mystery like you said - leaving your date wondering "why was on Saturday night last week and now Thursday night this week. Who's he got something going on with this Saturday?" I never thought about that, until hearing you mention it.
2:35 lead her 5:05 offer suggestion 7:40 be mysterious 8:40 be direct 9:45 mysterious 11:45 assume she wants to see u 13:18 be confident 14:40 be authentic 16:00 Give value, Make it an Option, Walk away
Women love two archtypes of men. The bad boy and the pretty boy. The bad boy puts himself first. He trusts his dicisions and is confident in himself. His confidence comes from sucess hes had.
@Jungle_boy123 success with women and success in life in general. Success begets confidence. You cannot fake real confidence. It means the man has some type of success in life that is of value. Women are hardwired to be attracted to confidence. They are hardwired to be attracted to a lot of things and the bad boy naturally displays many of these. They always are attracted to the two archetypes I stated. It never changes in their lives. They just learn to stay away because they usually get hurt by them or cannot lock them down long term.
I was dating a woman who loved how proactive I was abut making plans and keeping planning discussions to "OK I'll pick you up at 7:00 thursday! Bye!" After a few dates, I planned another activity and by then she was comfortable enough saying she didn't like my plan. I then proposed a couple other things, asking if she liked those. She liked plan C, so I said "ok let's go do that!" I kept my leadership role while remaining decicive and showing her I value her tastes and feedback by cancelling the thing she didn't like and, without hesistation, planning the replacement activity instead of letting the conversation devolve into "i dunno what do *you* wanna do?"
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Actually it's not bad boys women are attracted to, it's confident guys that don't need any particular chic.
Yeah, right, I was on a date... Leading, planning, ordening for the both of us, being confident... Everything went well. Laughing. Kissing... I kid you not. Next morning, a message of her. "I liked it so much, and you are a great kisser, I want to kiss you again," I reply. "I am sure we can." To that, she replies:"In that case, I will not. ". So I didn't send her anything anymore. A few weeks later, she again:"Why haven't I heard from you anymore?" So I reply."Never mind, I am already seeing someone else." Some of these women are just nuts. What do they expect "playing games and then being surprised that they don't hear from you anymore and that you have moved on"??? I am not the pursuing guy, and if I wanna play catch, I can do that with my 4 years old nephew or dog!!! Once it's NO, maybe, or playing games, I ompletely check out!!!
In the past these traits were standard 'male' ideology. The 'good guys' were brought up this way too. But over the years, these ways have been diluted and eliminated as being 'uncivilized' leaving only the 'bad boys' with them, because they don't care.
I think they call it the integrated man. I was a "nice guy" then when I realized the psychology behind it I became pissed off (at myself and the world) and turned nasty. Now I'm working towards integration and having a secure attachment style
"Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me." Al Capone
If u don’t want to be a badboy then just get to the gym and be a pretty boy. You’ll get lots of women that way too. But have boundaries and don’t commit to any one woman. Committing removed options which inherently removes confidence which stems from abundance
From my experience you don't even have to be a bad boy. When i show interest once and they don't want to date, i just ignore them. For some reason this makes them beg for my attention again. Never fails. Women like this fantasy that they are the only one you want. When you signal them they're not and that you have options, they want you back. Also guys; stop putting women on a pedestal and quitt the whole queen/goddess routine. Women are just human, so just treat them as such.
Chad bad boy alert! Newsflash if they're chasing you for your attention after that then you're an above average attractive man/chad who women lust after. of course it works for you
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I'd rather date 100 women once, than one woman 100 times. It doesn't give her a chance to play these idiotic games.
Nice to see some straightforward advice for once. It’s not as complicated as many others make it. A man is a captain of a ship. But you can’t stop the ship or neglect the course. There’s going to to be a woman interested in going where you’re going.
That’s when you say: “oh, I didn’t even think about it, what would you like to do?” Life really is that simple. That quality of life you’ll have is based on the quality of questions you ask.
Ask her if she has a better idea? If she doesn't then say "see?" If she has another idea, tell her "we will do that next time, but I have the plans already set up for tonight." Now you have a second date partially setup. You set up the rest later. But I'm gonna tell you this. It's less of you doing what you want and more of her not wanting the responsibility of picking a bad date.
@@jwill9877 That last sentence is completely true ! This was something that i saw with my mother. She might disagree with my father about something, yet knew full well that making decisions and bearing the responsibility for them was something that she couldn't deal with. Sometimes, certain behaviours by women are just a case of 'going through the motions'.
You don’t have to do this bs when a woman really likes you. She will let you know. If you like her and have to wonder; it’s a game, just stop communication.
@@abstract-thoughts the pretense part. All of you here getting advice on how to be a bad boy but, that is not your UTHENTIC SELF. It attracts someone who is not right for you. But, let people learn the hard way.
only one reason why it's like this: she doesn't like you. If she truly has feelings for you she won't let you jump across so many hoops . That's not how you treat someone you really like. Yes, mature people would try to vet people but they likely won't make it so difficult. If it's that difficult, then she's not into you, because she doesn't care about how much effort you have to put in to keep satisify those demands and games, and males often already have invested much energy and feelings that they even start to think any kind-of positive signs from her side is her kind of liking you. Perhaps she doesn't dislike you, like you are not that annoying and appaling to her, so she can make this kind of "vague", because her true feeling is that you are not that dislikeable to her, and objectively you are not. If she makes it obvious, it will also reflect poorly on her, affecting how others see her. So she does these small things, within a reasonable range, to make it not full on dislike. But she's not into you. And you are a fool, getting strung along repeatedly just like videos like this that give, me, a false hope.
The problem with some nice guys they don't know when to walk away from women that are disrespectful to and not setting boundaries. Being nice is ok the only way to punish women that are shallow and disrespectful is to just leave them alone. The only way to get out the friend zone is to just move on relationship's are reflective you are what you attract this goes for both men and women.
In sort be confident and bold and have a plan .. dont be at whim n wishes of the lady but do incorporate any changes or suggestions she wants.. dont force her 😊
I agree with what you say Christine. You have to make a woman feel feminine that's the key. It's hard these days due to women listening to men hating feminists filling their heads with BS. That's why women are attracted to chads. Chads display masculine traits. Women are drawn to masculinity, just the same as men are drawn to femininity. Femininity to a man is like a woman magnet, and vice versa. Opposites attract, like repels. Masculine men attract women, effeminate men repel women. Masculine women repel men, feminine women attract men. It's that simple! Thanks for the video! 😀
In my city is extremely opposite. A lot of disengineers guys act like a friend and it's so. Underhanded, making me ask. How could you have the goal to jump into physical intimacy with a friend? That's a line. You never crossed if she was a real friend. You would never think about her that way.Unless you were plotting and scheming with false pretense with the illusion of being a Distant genuinefriend I'm direct and honest civilized but that never works over here which might explain why i'm popular anywhere I am today
I have two brothers that married 'dominant' women. The wives are very similar, heavy, loud mouthed and domineering. They make the decisions and my brothers follow; but hey, they wanted that ! Myself and my brothers are all similar, submissive and not leaders. We were brought up to feel bad if we upset someone and to avoid conflict at all costs etc. So that's what my brothers have opted for, avoid any argument or upsetting someone by doing what they say !
In the past, both 'good' and 'bad' guys were brought up that physical violence and aggression were legitimate behaviours of a man and were tools that you need to survive.. Now things remind me of the society in the sci-fi movie 'Demolition Man' where the people are so peaceful they can't do anything to keep themselves and their beliefs alive !
*sigh* I’m so not the bad boy type, I just want peace and mutual respect, and become a dad. I like who I am regardless how it comes off as, I’m comfortable. But keep hearing that’s not enough, so I guess I’ll have to accept my role as undesired.
"Bad boy" is just a name for the qualities she's talking about. Why can't you start adopting them? I am not naturally a bad boy but I learned these and started applying them. You can too.
@@larrylama1471 most guys are "being themselves" already - and how's that working out? 50% divorce rate, while most of the divorce or breaking up is being made by the woman.. so you tell me how being yourself is working right now? Time for men to learn some skills that actually makes the relationship last.
@@AttractiveIntrovert Being a bad boy will totally make your marriage work and last for a long time. Go figure. If things are bad now, they are just about to get worse. Being yourself attracts the authentic people, not the ones that get the "BAD BOY PRETENDERS".
I found this to work for me, but it wasn't a first choice.....or even a choice at all ! If how you already do things works for you, then all well and good, there's no need to change. I reached my early thirties without any success, so i decided to experiment, and try out different things. This worked for me; someone else might have success with something else.
@@vasyavasili2172 The word 'confidence' is often used, but it can be a bit difficult defining what that actually means ! ( i'd say a better word is to be 'fearless'. ) My first thing to change about myself was just getting talking to girls in any situation, and, like starting any new skill, things can be a bit crude to begin with. With this, i also changed my thinking. I kept saying to myself 'i have every much right to meet girls and form a relationship the same as everyone else !' ( up till then i felt as if i was being 'intrusive', i was 'bothering' people and it was my fault if they were upset etc.) Once i started, i began to see the knowledge that i needed every where. You start to pick up on how others communicate, and how effective they are, or not. Even watching movies and TV, you 'tune in' to the things that are now of interest ! It was funny how i found myself 'noticing' behaviour that i hadn't before. I will write some more soon !
Wow, she has a book! Hardcopy. One sorted out young woman, I'm impressed. She's not leaning on showing skin and body parts. She has a kinky librarian vibe going on but that's just me :) I might even buy her book
Once you get older you just say F it ill be me no acting no bs and you'll find someone that way or stay single and build wealth. Few quid or few hundred quid a week put away changes everything money gives you options.
I’m tired of feeling some need to alter who I am for a woman. I’m a kind guy, a little neurotic but artistic. Sorry, but not sorry if that isn’t attractive to woman. I’ve realized lately that I’m not really emotionally attracted to woman anymore, just physically. Woman seem kind of cold to me.
I love how you used the term asshat and the implication that you have at one stage had a crush on Dean from Supernatural. Then again maybe not you just mentioned your wife so maybe he was just a role model.
I agree with some of what is being said also men need to be encouraged women want men that are self assured assertive dominant and direct with boundaries involving honesty and mystery. When women are in their early teens and 20's they made their choices to be involved with jerks and bad boys that are irresponsible self centered and foolish. The educated lame good men and nice guys aren't responsible for the bad decisions women made in the dating market with their time and smv value. After getting older average with no options with the jerks and bad boys women will give the good men and nice guys a apology excuse and foolish reasons for being to shallow nieve and foolish for not dating them sooner.
I understand what you mean ! The funny thing is ( especially in today's world ) there are all sorts of behaviours and attitudes that are considered by some to be 'bad'. Take 'leading' for example. Some people might equate that with traits like 'dominance' and 'controlling behaviour' and 'aggression'. I saw a poster in the street recently putting forward the notion that to compliment a girl was a crime. There are various attitudes and ways that were once part of a man's upbringing and considered normal and universal, being used by both 'good' and 'bad' guys which are now condemned and erased; now it is only 'bad boys' that are left with these traits.
I got a bit of a laugh from this because it autoplayed from the woman’s attraction fluctuates clip she did. Does it fluctuate with the bad boys or just the rest of us peons cuz that’s how it appears.
1m.34s Blooper alert ! She says = "and he sees women he likes getting treated badly by women " she means of course = "getting treated badly by MEN " Corey Wayne often does this, usually without realizing (he'll say the complete opposite word to what he actually means), it's often subtle but I always catch it. ASS HAT! Haha never heard that one. Most of us Brits say Hole ! Thats amusing, plus sounds a little less vulgar. But i've never seen anyone wear a hat down there... Great content and tips, thanks so much, will deffo consider getting your book. Read 3% Man 22 Times, so will be nice to hear a slightly diff view point/perspective.
I really can't quite get why you would want to change within the person.soul You're!! To attract another from the opposite sex!! In this instance ( men.to.women) Why oh why would you want to try adapt traits to win some one over!! If they don't like the soul you're. Let them lead on..&..find within whichever they want! Always stay true to who you're. Never attempt be a person you're not. To impress anyone else! As you will be putting on a facade! .&. Where do you draw the line! When you become a person who doesn't know themselves anymore!! All in trying to gain validation from another! I think not!!(My opinion mind) Each to their own!!
You don't have to be the bad guy she is referring to. Because if you wish to be this guy for the sake of attracting women, you are so needy inside, portrying an ill behaviour. Rather 1. Priorotise your work, don't waste time here and there. 2. Choose a woman of your choice, don't be a guy who attracts women. Because these attracted women will be ass, unreliable. And if someone portrays the same behaviour, she will belong to them. 4. Feel the strength, don't be week. 5. Reject women who don't check your points. Reject women who seek short term relationship. Look for women only for marriage, wifey. Reject all. 6. Believe in God. Be faithful. 7. Don't fear anyone other than God.
3rd comment but please know “just be confident” with women doesn’t work for men who’ve never experienced it. It’s like telling a fish to breathe water.
Being a bad boy doesn't change how few women are actual marriage material. In the end it's a shallow endeavor. A man's time is much too valuable to be wasted on cheap and easy women.
@@Jungle_boy123 This is what i discovered ! ( things may have been different in the past ) Right through my twenties i had the notion that when i came across a girl that was similar to me, a relationship would just form 'naturally', but that never happened. I eventually realized that even the girls that i was most compatible with still behaved this way and disliked me as i was.
Success with women is 90% about your looks (you must look like this and be this tall to ride) and probably 10% the way you actually act. It's chad only, my bros and it's GENETICS, not behaviour... that determines success in this realm of life. This lady is selling you a dream like 99% of the other con artists on YT.
Guys, don`t resort to mental tricks just to sleep with someone. Learn to be alone. Accept the harsh reality of female attraction. Enrich your life by pursuing your life goals, fullfiling hobbies, mental and physical strenght. This is the winning path of us.
very good mature comment. Let us just be ourselves, let them mess with the toxic assholes and cry later.
exactly.
This is precisely why when women get unalived by bad boys, I don't shed a tear. I just keep it movin.
Great! I’d add to solid summation, be alert to the vibe of the woman. When she’s naturally attracted to you being yourself, that’s the best person to put your energy into. But understand that she may come in a package that is different from your ’visual’ type, despite the fact that she checks off every peaceful toxic-free box.
Truth!
In my experience, women who like you, when they really like you, they will make it easy for you. You don't have to act like a bad boy to try and get her. The door's open, just be confident and walk on through.
Yes and no.
The main point here is “in your experience.”
Perhaps you’re not a ‘bad boy’ and so you’ll attract the women who aren’t as much into ‘bad boys.’ So your experience could be selection bias. As opposed to a bad boy who will naturally attract women who are into bad boys and not men who aren’t bad boys.
So yes, be yourself, and you’ll attract women accordingly. But of course that’s nuanced too because ‘being yourself’ is also somewhat conditional.
If you’re a slob who doesn’t shower and lets yourself go, or you act too clingy, then you’re being yourself but that will virtually attract no women. Of course I am sure you know this but just to point it out as an example.
On average though, I’d say most women want at least some of the ‘bad boy’ qualities. Epically when they’re in their 20’s. Usually when they hit 30+ they’re more serious and have had bad experiences with the bad boys. But issue is at that age they could have accumulated a lot of emotional baggage from bad choices in toxic men. This is also compounded by the fact that, according to the science, women tend to be more neurotic than men are.
U sir, have experienced the best experience 💪🤙
@@Ronin_87 I failed many times in my life with women. But the few times I was successful with them easily, at least later in my life, they made it so easy for me. I didn't have to go out of my way or be a relentless dickhead. When girls like you, they will often times put themselves in your orbit. It's up to you to act. I did. 💪🤙
@@benjaminnielsen4288 indeed, I resonate because I struggled in a similar fashion. Wasn't till later I realized their was a better way. Never went back afterwards
Maybe in YOUR experience, but some of us get treated like unwashed lepers by that species, ugly OR handsome. Women LOVE to humiliate a man they see as ‘not good enough’. Sorry, ‘ALL women….’
*Women love men who are unapologetically themselves and don’t let anyone’s opinion dictate their worth. Focus on building self-assurance, owning your decisions, and embracing a no-fear attitude.*
Another huge thing that people need to understand is sometimes women are just messed up from childhood. If her dad was bad, or didn't show her much affection, she often times will be paradoxically attracted to men who are emotionally distant. So you can be a great guy who is strong, and affectionate, but she's turned off because her idea of love is all messed up.
This is why vetting is so important.
I understand that some people have trauma in their lives. That's not an excuse to bring that on someone else. Whoever a woman ends up with, that guy did not cause her that past trauma.
Oh, that's why she keeps trying to reach out! She ditched me when I showed a bit of emotion and interest. It blew up into a massive argument. Couple of months into no contact, bits started to fall into place in my head and I figured out some things and told her to not even think about believing that she has wiggle room to get back. Then she tried to hoover me after 10 months since we had that argument, but I rejected her. Then couple of months later she called me again, but I didn't pick up. I didn't even assume it was her until I called back, 'cause I was expecting a courier. She took her sim card out and I haven't been notified of her activating the number back on. I guess she finally understood that the tables have turned and that I'm done after 14 years of knowing each other.
That's every woman
@@PkrDealer86 Perhaps you're attracted to women who act like this which is why you feel this way. Saying what you said is like saying all men are a certain way.
You’re nailing it-women aren’t drawn to bad boys because they’re jerks; it’s about the confidence, decisiveness, and leadership they project. Being a leader doesn’t mean controlling her; it means stepping up, making plans, and being clear about what you want, while leaving room for her input.
The key is balance. Don’t overthink and become passive, but don’t swing to being overbearing either. Confidence comes from being steady and purposeful, not from trying too hard. Lead like a good dance partner-set the rhythm, guide the steps, but let her shine too. It’s all about showing up with intention and presence, and that’s what really draws people in.
No, they are drawn to them because their role models reflected who the women are attracted to. Attraction is always there for each of us. However, it's a matter of how the women were exposed to when they were young. Who were their role models growing up will shape who they date. That's a fact of life. As my days as a tour guide and hospitality industry, I have spoken to thousands of women. I have noticed the women who were more secure that grew up with decent dads tend to like good guys. And the girls who tend to like bad boys are more anxious. Something to think about.
I'm 47 years old .. only some women like bad boys.. just be yourself and you will get what you deserve.. I know because I lived it.
1. Lead her.
2. Be mysterious and more aloof in the beginning.
3. Be confident like a mountain.
4. Be authentic, be upfront with your desires.
Also being ruthless helped me attract beautiful, young and feminine women.
Can you elaborate what being ruthless means in relationship?
“Ruthless?” WTH lmao…. Define to us what that looks like.
Being careless about her needs and never please them in any way, they love that. If she even senses that you try to please her in any way, you're out even though she gave you the impression that she liked your good intentions. Forget the "just be yourself" nonsense.
After living 40 years on this planet I realised that women (especially the young and attractive ones) are the happiest when their man is cruel and selfish (if she gained weight, tell her she has to lose it) and be 100% honest about it.
Oh yeah, and never lend them money (unless she's your wife).
I don't have to be ruthless lol. I just have to be me and I noticed I tend to attract secure, beautful, sexy, feminine women who have a healthy relationship with her family. Ironically, I tell them I'm a shy guy and they always love it lol. Then we proceed with our dates successfully. It's always exciting. I guess I don't have to change myself just to attract amazing women. No need being "ruthless". I'm just an island boy par
@@luckymoon7276😂there’s so much pain and cope in your putrid comment.
It's not about women at all. It's about men, only men. The more confident and self assured you are, the more women you get to choose. Those are the facts. I don't need to look for women because I can go riding, hiking, skiing or traveling alone and meet women everywhere. I also can tell when women are playing. You wanna play? I'm already out and about meeting others. So ladies, play your games and miss out on good guys because you're not giving good guys enough time to adjust to your needs. Next in line.
The concept is quite simple. Research Cluster-B and understand that there is a big percentage of women out there with a personality disorder. Quite common nowadays is Borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. It is extremely common in women. Now you need to understand that such a woman grew up in a toxic family environment, usually without a father who could have given her a stable personality, but with a single mommy who usually is a narcissistic person who kicked her husband to the curb and prevented the dad access to the child while not being able to raise a kid herself. This will be essentially the trauma chain at play because she will do the same to you if you are a nice guy, as her mother did it to her father.
Without a stable identity that could have been given by a father, she of course can not know what love is and what a stable man looks like... how could she know? What she is attracted to is the behaviour she is used to. Remember, she got raised by a narcissistic and abusive mother... that is what she grew up with and what is normal to her. Thus, she seeks the same attributes in a man, which is why she likes a bad boy... she thinks abuse is love. That is what she learned all her life. Forget all other bs.... you now got a scientific explanation and if you want to go down this rabbit hole... I suggest Professor Dr Sam Vaknin but there are more. Forget dating couches, they have no clue what kind of family dynamics are at play and where this trauma with bad partner choices stems from in reality.
I am what I am...I am kind... I care about people... I am loving... I am loyal... I will not change who I am... If these "Personality traits" offend you... That is too bad....
I will still be here when your looks have faded and you no longer get a second look from the "Bad boy" 😁
Did you watch the video? Did she say you have to give up all those traits? You can be all that and still be a "bad boy".
It tends to be childish emotionally immature younger women or women who are "Damaged goods" with "Daddy issues" who go for the "Bad boy" ...Guys with the tacky gold neckless and tacky gold watch to match...The tacky neck tattoos and the guy who goes to tanning saloons and the guys who use illegal drugs... With age comes wisdom and luckily most women actually grow up and they realise that "Captain Caveman" is actually not the best choice for a lifetime partner.
The ones who don't end up crazy old "Cat ladies" with lots of pet cats and a d/i/l/d/0 for company... Hope the above information helps.
very good comment. Let us raise our sons to be better than this bad boy nonsense.
Dating was so much easier before cell phones. You would eat, watch a movie, listen to music, smoke and go to bed. Communication wasn’t a problem because its all you had to do and there were no interruptions. This bad boy bs wasnt even a thought.
Yep. Social media has screwed everyone's minds too. I miss the 90's. 😂
cell phones are here for now, use them well mate
Wow, didn't know deciding what to eat for dinner makes me a bad boy 😎
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and mixing up what days of the week your dates are "the mystery"...
Sarcasm aside, continuing to let her decide and not being a leader, and always being a pleaser will get you single pretty quick.
@@ElevateMyRelationships okay daddy!!!!! 😂
Many Thanks Christine ❤
Thanks for your videos
Greetings from Italy. Dave
Very good video. Really like your suggestion when setting up dates, to make it on different days of the week - or weekend - each time, to be a little unpredictable and creating a bit of mystery like you said - leaving your date wondering "why was on Saturday night last week and now Thursday night this week. Who's he got something going on with this Saturday?" I never thought about that, until hearing you mention it.
2:35 lead her 5:05 offer suggestion 7:40 be mysterious 8:40 be direct 9:45 mysterious 11:45 assume she wants to see u 13:18 be confident 14:40 be authentic 16:00
Give value, Make it an Option, Walk away
i love how i can clearly tell that ur a Corey Wayne disciple 😂still, u guys speak straight facts 🔥
It’s so true!!!! Legit using wordage from Corey, and Corey is 10000% right!
if you're a Corey dizciple ; put on ya obi-one-kenobi religion outfit. Hee Hee.💞
Women love two archtypes of men. The bad boy and the pretty boy. The bad boy puts himself first. He trusts his dicisions and is confident in himself. His confidence comes from sucess hes had.
What sucess he he had that gives him confidence all the time??
@Jungle_boy123 success with women and success in life in general. Success begets confidence. You cannot fake real confidence. It means the man has some type of success in life that is of value. Women are hardwired to be attracted to confidence. They are hardwired to be attracted to a lot of things and the bad boy naturally displays many of these. They always are attracted to the two archetypes I stated. It never changes in their lives. They just learn to stay away because they usually get hurt by them or cannot lock them down long term.
Ok Kevin Samuel, were not you dead?
@@BF-non nope
I was dating a woman who loved how proactive I was abut making plans and keeping planning discussions to "OK I'll pick you up at 7:00 thursday! Bye!"
After a few dates, I planned another activity and by then she was comfortable enough saying she didn't like my plan. I then proposed a couple other things, asking if she liked those. She liked plan C, so I said "ok let's go do that!"
I kept my leadership role while remaining decicive and showing her I value her tastes and feedback by cancelling the thing she didn't like and, without hesistation, planning the replacement activity instead of letting the conversation devolve into "i dunno what do *you* wanna do?"
Actually it's not bad boys women are attracted to, it's confident guys that don't need any particular chic.
Men put a lot of effort into something that they eventually figure out isn't worth it.
Yeah, right, I was on a date... Leading, planning, ordening for the both of us, being confident... Everything went well. Laughing. Kissing... I kid you not. Next morning, a message of her. "I liked it so much, and you are a great kisser, I want to kiss you again," I reply. "I am sure we can." To that, she replies:"In that case, I will not. ". So I didn't send her anything anymore. A few weeks later, she again:"Why haven't I heard from you anymore?" So I reply."Never mind, I am already seeing someone else." Some of these women are just nuts. What do they expect "playing games and then being surprised that they don't hear from you anymore and that you have moved on"??? I am not the pursuing guy, and if I wanna play catch, I can do that with my 4 years old nephew or dog!!! Once it's NO, maybe, or playing games, I ompletely check out!!!
".... without having to be horrible to her" LOL! Enjoying this video already
In the past these traits were standard 'male' ideology. The 'good guys' were brought up this way too. But over the years, these ways have been diluted and eliminated as being 'uncivilized' leaving only the 'bad boys' with them, because they don't care.
You re talking facts..
Actual world.
Like it... Keep it.
Just listening to her makes me glad I'm alone. I go fishing, flying, go anywhere, do anything Why do i want all you insane drama.
exactly
You're a well Quality Lady! Damn well make zure ya keep bein' you!.
I think they call it the integrated man. I was a "nice guy" then when I realized the psychology behind it I became pissed off (at myself and the world) and turned nasty.
Now I'm working towards integration and having a secure attachment style
"Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me." Al Capone
I'm ya bad boy baby! ; even tho we're on oppozite teamz!! hee hee
If u don’t want to be a badboy then just get to the gym and be a pretty boy. You’ll get lots of women that way too. But have boundaries and don’t commit to any one woman. Committing removed options which inherently removes confidence which stems from abundance
From my experience you don't even have to be a bad boy.
When i show interest once and they don't want to date, i just ignore them.
For some reason this makes them beg for my attention again.
Never fails.
Women like this fantasy that they are the only one you want.
When you signal them they're not and that you have options, they want you back.
Also guys; stop putting women on a pedestal and quitt the whole queen/goddess routine.
Women are just human, so just treat them as such.
How long did that attraction last? The "you have other options" way of attraction?
I'd say what you described are also bad boy traits.
Chad bad boy alert! Newsflash if they're chasing you for your attention after that then you're an above average attractive man/chad who women lust after. of course it works for you
I'd rather date 100 women once, than one woman 100 times. It doesn't give her a chance to play these idiotic games.
Nice to see some straightforward advice for once. It’s not as complicated as many others make it. A man is a captain of a ship. But you can’t stop the ship or neglect the course. There’s going to to be a woman interested in going where you’re going.
Bedankt
This is precisely why when women get unalived by bad boys, I don't shed a tear. I just keep it movin
Leadership key you need to lead her to where you want her to be...
As a guy , I can honestly say, majority of what you've said is spot on. Be normal , be yourself.
If I decide what to do, she complains "we always have to do what YOU want to do"
If she's still with you, she must still like you ?
That’s when you say: “oh, I didn’t even think about it, what would you like to do?” Life really is that simple. That quality of life you’ll have is based on the quality of questions you ask.
@@ghostccc8089sounds good in theory, but if you let your girl change your mind so easily it's going to put into question your ability to lead.
Ask her if she has a better idea? If she doesn't then say "see?" If she has another idea, tell her "we will do that next time, but I have the plans already set up for tonight."
Now you have a second date partially setup. You set up the rest later. But I'm gonna tell you this. It's less of you doing what you want and more of her not wanting the responsibility of picking a bad date.
@@jwill9877 That last sentence is completely true ! This was something that i saw with my mother. She might disagree with my father about something, yet knew full well that making decisions and bearing the responsibility for them was something that she couldn't deal with. Sometimes, certain behaviours by women are just a case of 'going through the motions'.
You don’t have to do this bs when a woman really likes you. She will let you know. If you like her and have to wonder; it’s a game, just stop communication.
She likes a guy because the guy is acting like she explains. Not just because.
@@abstract-thoughts she likes a toxic guy, it is that simple. I do not want toxic.
@@larrylama1471 what about all this is toxic?
@@abstract-thoughts the pretense part. All of you here getting advice on how to be a bad boy but, that is not your UTHENTIC SELF. It attracts someone who is not right for you. But, let people learn the hard way.
@larrylama1471 these are skills... just like learning an instrument. Are you being inauthentic by learning something new?
only one reason why it's like this: she doesn't like you. If she truly has feelings for you she won't let you jump across so many hoops . That's not how you treat someone you really like. Yes, mature people would try to vet people but they likely won't make it so difficult. If it's that difficult, then she's not into you, because she doesn't care about how much effort you have to put in to keep satisify those demands and games, and males often already have invested much energy and feelings that they even start to think any kind-of positive signs from her side is her kind of liking you. Perhaps she doesn't dislike you, like you are not that annoying and appaling to her, so she can make this kind of "vague", because her true feeling is that you are not that dislikeable to her, and objectively you are not. If she makes it obvious, it will also reflect poorly on her, affecting how others see her. So she does these small things, within a reasonable range, to make it not full on dislike. But she's not into you. And you are a fool, getting strung along repeatedly just like videos like this that give, me, a false hope.
I don’t want to be a bad boy I want to be a good man & just fall in love…
You just missed the entire point.
No thank you, I'll stay the nice guy that everyone hates.
Me too.
Firmly deciding to do so and feeling comfortably with that is actually a bad boy move. Think about that.
@PeterJohanzen Yeah, but not a bad boy in a good way. I'd rather be the hero that everyone hates, than the villian that everyone loves.
The problem with some nice guys they don't know when to walk away from women that are disrespectful to and not setting boundaries. Being nice is ok the only way to punish women that are shallow and disrespectful is to just leave them alone. The only way to get out the friend zone is to just move on relationship's are reflective you are what you attract this goes for both men and women.
Be always mysterious
In sort be confident and bold and have a plan .. dont be at whim n wishes of the lady but do incorporate any changes or suggestions she wants.. dont force her 😊
I agree with what you say Christine.
You have to make a woman feel feminine that's the key.
It's hard these days due to women listening to men hating feminists filling their heads with BS.
That's why women are attracted to chads. Chads display masculine traits.
Women are drawn to masculinity, just the same as men are drawn to femininity.
Femininity to a man is like a woman magnet, and vice versa.
Opposites attract, like repels.
Masculine men attract women, effeminate men repel women.
Masculine women repel men, feminine women attract men.
It's that simple!
Thanks for the video! 😀
She has a wife.
That means that she is the bad boy in the relationship, that's why she's giving advice.😂😂😂
15:30 hilarious delivery with the gigglesnort lmao
In my city is extremely opposite. A lot of disengineers guys act like a friend and it's so.
Underhanded, making me ask. How could you have the goal to jump into physical intimacy with a friend? That's a line. You never crossed if she was a real friend. You would never think about her that way.Unless you were plotting and scheming with false pretense with the illusion of being a Distant genuinefriend
I'm direct and honest civilized but that never works over here which might explain why i'm popular anywhere I am today
Ironically, in time, many men fall into the role where the woman "wears more of the trousers"... I've seen so much of this 😏
I have two brothers that married 'dominant' women. The wives are very similar, heavy, loud mouthed and domineering. They make the decisions and my brothers follow; but hey, they wanted that ! Myself and my brothers are all similar, submissive and not leaders. We were brought up to feel bad if we upset someone and to avoid conflict at all costs etc. So that's what my brothers have opted for, avoid any argument or upsetting someone by doing what they say !
men capable of violence is seen as someone who can protect the women and child. from a women's point of view they think they can tame a bad boy.
Yep. The taming potential is key.
In the past, both 'good' and 'bad' guys were brought up that physical violence and aggression were legitimate behaviours of a man and were tools that you need to survive.. Now things remind me of the society in the sci-fi movie 'Demolition Man' where the people are so peaceful they can't do anything to keep themselves and their beliefs alive !
MAKE GOOD GUYS GREAT AGAIN 2024!
I wish they make videos on how to be in a healthy relationship again.
No Risk, No Reward.
Gotta love the bad boy science mystic
Correst tittle should be ‘ how to be a nice guy that plays games’
Bad boys don’t go on dates…they come over 😂
Facts 💯
*sigh* I’m so not the bad boy type, I just want peace and mutual respect, and become a dad. I like who I am regardless how it comes off as, I’m comfortable. But keep hearing that’s not enough, so I guess I’ll have to accept my role as undesired.
"Bad boy" is just a name for the qualities she's talking about. Why can't you start adopting them? I am not naturally a bad boy but I learned these and started applying them. You can too.
very good comment. Me too.
@@abstract-thoughts these games, stereotypes and so-called bad boy qualities will not get you the wife that you truly desire. Just be yourself.
@@larrylama1471 most guys are "being themselves" already - and how's that working out? 50% divorce rate, while most of the divorce or breaking up is being made by the woman.. so you tell me how being yourself is working right now? Time for men to learn some skills that actually makes the relationship last.
@@AttractiveIntrovert Being a bad boy will totally make your marriage work and last for a long time. Go figure. If things are bad now, they are just about to get worse. Being yourself attracts the authentic people, not the ones that get the "BAD BOY PRETENDERS".
This is the person about to teach me how to be James Bond?
I found this to work for me, but it wasn't a first choice.....or even a choice at all ! If how you already do things works for you, then all well and good, there's no need to change. I reached my early thirties without any success, so i decided to experiment, and try out different things. This worked for me; someone else might have success with something else.
What exactly worked for you?
@@vasyavasili2172 The word 'confidence' is often used, but it can be a bit difficult defining what that actually means ! ( i'd say a better word is to be 'fearless'. ) My first thing to change about myself was just getting talking to girls in any situation, and, like starting any new skill, things can be a bit crude to begin with. With this, i also changed my thinking. I kept saying to myself 'i have every much right to meet girls and form a relationship the same as everyone else !' ( up till then i felt as if i was being 'intrusive', i was 'bothering' people and it was my fault if they were upset etc.) Once i started, i began to see the knowledge that i needed every where. You start to pick up on how others communicate, and how effective they are, or not. Even watching movies and TV, you 'tune in' to the things that are now of interest ! It was funny how i found myself 'noticing' behaviour that i hadn't before. I will write some more soon !
Love is all about luck and chemistry. Some men have it and other men don't. Those who don't have it will live a dry life in terms of love.
Literally none of these things sound like a bad boy to me.
How to get in trouble 101 lol 😂
Ass hat is amazing 😂❤
Wow, she has a book! Hardcopy. One sorted out young woman, I'm impressed. She's not leaning on showing skin and body parts. She has a kinky librarian vibe going on but that's just me :) I might even buy her book
Do not comply with these evil Jezebels. Do not submit to her. Jesus is King
😂 exactly 💯 don't comply with these banchees. I'm a Muslim and we are waiting for prophet Jesus Christ to come back and rule over this corrupt world.
She hates the time ting but when u say at 6 ofc shes there at 6:30 😂😂😂😂
Once you get older you just say F it ill be me no acting no bs and you'll find someone that way or stay single and build wealth. Few quid or few hundred quid a week put away changes everything money gives you options.
I run around banging slots that's the new normal😊😊😊
Top quality content 💯
I'll take ya down ta 5th Avenue Honey-Bunz! (4:35)😜😁
I like the content her, I can use it for maybe a future relationship.
If you land a woman who always wants the bad boy, you can keep her 😅
I’m tired of feeling some need to alter who I am for a woman. I’m a kind guy, a little neurotic but artistic. Sorry, but not sorry if that isn’t attractive to woman.
I’ve realized lately that I’m not really emotionally attracted to woman anymore, just physically. Woman seem kind of cold to me.
Same here. The emotional attraction is gone.
I'd rather be single and a nice guy than a bad boy with a woman. I am good on my own. Thanks anyhow
come on bad booy boy boy you should begin up take it take it love me love me says Rihanna
I love how you used the term asshat and the implication that you have at one stage had a crush on Dean from Supernatural. Then again maybe not you just mentioned your wife so maybe he was just a role model.
I agree with some of what is being said also men need to be encouraged women want men that are self assured assertive dominant and direct with boundaries involving honesty and mystery. When women are in their early teens and 20's they made their choices to be involved with jerks and bad boys that are irresponsible self centered and foolish. The educated lame good men and nice guys aren't responsible for the bad decisions women made in the dating market with their time and smv value. After getting older average with no options with the jerks and bad boys women will give the good men and nice guys a apology excuse and foolish reasons for being to shallow nieve and foolish for not dating them sooner.
Wait until she finds out you're not mysterious at all.
I don't understand how being a leader is a bad boy quality
Its not
I understand what you mean ! The funny thing is ( especially in today's world ) there are all sorts of behaviours and attitudes that are considered by some to be 'bad'. Take 'leading' for example. Some people might equate that with traits like 'dominance' and 'controlling behaviour' and 'aggression'. I saw a poster in the street recently putting forward the notion that to compliment a girl was a crime. There are various attitudes and ways that were once part of a man's upbringing and considered normal and universal, being used by both 'good' and 'bad' guys which are now condemned and erased; now it is only 'bad boys' that are left with these traits.
I got a bit of a laugh from this because it autoplayed from the woman’s attraction fluctuates clip she did. Does it fluctuate with the bad boys or just the rest of us peons cuz that’s how it appears.
We don't wanna change
What if interest grows later as I get to know her?
that's called a healthy relationship...
1m.34s Blooper alert ! She says = "and he sees women he likes getting treated badly by women "
she means of course = "getting treated badly by MEN "
Corey Wayne often does this, usually without realizing (he'll say the complete opposite word to what he actually means), it's often subtle but I always catch it.
ASS HAT! Haha never heard that one. Most of us Brits say Hole !
Thats amusing, plus sounds a little less vulgar. But i've never seen anyone wear a hat down there...
Great content and tips, thanks so much, will deffo consider getting your book. Read 3% Man 22 Times, so will be nice
to hear a slightly diff view point/perspective.
Haven’t watched video and won’t. Women like a man who is him and doesn’t care. Just throw her a bone here n there and love her 💯
Going along with her suggestion is not being a bad boy
Im hear cause christine is fit that's it . If i can help a bro out in comments i will. Yes im aware shes married lol but facts are facts
theres another bus in 15minutes right? - Corey W
Now...just look at her face for a second..."she is a personal coach" 😂😅😢...so sad....
I really can't quite get why you would want to change within the person.soul
You're!!
To attract another from the opposite sex!!
In this instance ( men.to.women)
Why oh why would you want to try adapt traits
to win some one over!!
If they don't like the soul you're.
Let them lead on..&..find within whichever they want!
Always stay true to who you're.
Never attempt be a person you're not.
To impress anyone else!
As you will be putting on a facade!
.&.
Where do you draw the line!
When you become a person
who doesn't know themselves anymore!!
All in trying to gain validation from another!
I think not!!(My opinion mind)
Each to their own!!
Are you in a happy relationship?
You don't have to be the bad guy she is referring to. Because if you wish to be this guy for the sake of attracting women, you are so needy inside, portrying an ill behaviour. Rather
1. Priorotise your work, don't waste time here and there.
2. Choose a woman of your choice, don't be a guy who attracts women. Because these attracted women will be ass, unreliable. And if someone portrays the same behaviour, she will belong to them.
4. Feel the strength, don't be week.
5. Reject women who don't check your points. Reject women who seek short term relationship. Look for women only for marriage, wifey. Reject all.
6. Believe in God. Be faithful.
7. Don't fear anyone other than God.
What about long distance getting to know a girl
3rd comment but please know “just be confident” with women doesn’t work for men who’ve never experienced it. It’s like telling a fish to breathe water.
Being a bad boy doesn't change how few women are actual marriage material. In the end it's a shallow endeavor. A man's time is much too valuable to be wasted on cheap and easy women.
Ztar-warz epizode 6 baby ; if you will not turn people into pozitive zychology? ; then perhapz i will? NO!!! ha ha.!
Women who grow up with to much drama are attractive to drama boys.
But all the women like bad boys that means all of them grown up drama
@@Jungle_boy123 This is what i discovered ! ( things may have been different in the past ) Right through my twenties i had the notion that when i came across a girl that was similar to me, a relationship would just form 'naturally', but that never happened. I eventually realized that even the girls that i was most compatible with still behaved this way and disliked me as i was.
You said, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
Ladies if you don't make $150 K a year sorry no date
Success with women is 90% about your looks (you must look like this and be this tall to ride) and probably 10% the way you actually act. It's chad only, my bros and it's GENETICS, not behaviour... that determines success in this realm of life. This lady is selling you a dream like 99% of the other con artists on YT.
Sub 5 giving dating advice to dudes, crazy times
what?
@MaNuLaToROfficial ?
You are corrupting me 🎭