I'm sorry your brother treated you like that Christine. I'm glad though for every experience you triumphed over to give you the wisdom you're sharing with us now. I swear you're turning my life around here at age 46.
This mainly (but accurately) applies to online dating. However when you're interacting with women whom you share social circles with, like through friends, or the workplace, or college or hobbies, then this requires way more nuance as the stakes are higher for her in these situations.
That is AMAAAZING that u Christine had the same sibling bullying experience as I did. The very same result was that I, like u, sought validation through dating and wasn't interested in the ones who liked me. My older brother beat the sh## out of me each day till I was 16; at 16 I lifted weights, became strong & he never messed with me again, but the lasting mental/self-confidence damage had already been done by him. And like u, I don't have dealings with him today. Take care.
I thought I finally had, one that seriously was into me. ending 20 years of consecutive failures. Long video calls every other day. Then hit me with the stealth " yeah I'm here with my man now" Nuke during mid conversation. Yesterday. I think I'll have to be done after this one. I haven't slept in 48 hours. Game over man 🤣🤣🤣🤣😵
did it happen in your lives that girls got cold on you when they have a bf, but when they break up, they appear in your lives again? is it better to just never reach out first and wait until that happens given she is currently taken?
Yes. Coldness in that situation isn't from disinterest but from avoidance. She necessarily has to avoid you otherwise you disrupt her personal life too much without any guarantee that it works out. Her boyfriend itself isn't even relevant here, you impress her the most by respecting her autonomy and trusting her that she'll be able to work towards what she wants herself without you 'helping' her along. Don't contact her, and when she does contact you, be warm and nonchalant.
Yeah he's great, but some material on avoidant attachment styles of relationships will help you as well. Any woman in a relationship is neccesarily an avoidant, regardless of how she feels about you, or even regardless of how she feels about her own boyfriend.
@@Trazynn that’s so interesting, cuz i myself have an a avoidant type. been cold to girls i like not intentionally and it seemed to make them wonder a lot. however this girl i’m talking about doesn’t seem like avoidant at all. she s from a good family and with traditional values now at the stage where she s looking for someone stable who she can trust and won’t have to chase, so i’m actually not sure with her at all. she literally had a bad boy before but broke up with him cuz quite “was too traditional”. she wants to be at home and raise kids it seems. my hope is that the dude is gonna mess up and/or she s gonna grow up and something changes in her choice cuz she is just 21 and it’s statistically possible that she ll be free again at some point. i’m building my business in the meantime anyways, so not rushing, gonna play my position and see
I was in a long distance relationship with this girl for 4 months we met for the 1 st time and it went perfectly she organised the date and went back to here place she asked me when we could meet again I tried organising it with her but then she said she doesn’t want to be in a relationship It just doesn’t make sense
I'm sorry your brother treated you like that Christine. I'm glad though for every experience you triumphed over to give you the wisdom you're sharing with us now. I swear you're turning my life around here at age 46.
block the bots in the comments. so annoying
This mainly (but accurately) applies to online dating. However when you're interacting with women whom you share social circles with, like through friends, or the workplace, or college or hobbies, then this requires way more nuance as the stakes are higher for her in these situations.
That is AMAAAZING that u Christine had the same sibling bullying experience as I did. The very same result was that I, like u, sought validation through dating and wasn't interested in the ones who liked me. My older brother beat the sh## out of me each day till I was 16; at 16 I lifted weights, became strong & he never messed with me again, but the lasting mental/self-confidence damage had already been done by him. And like u, I don't have dealings with him today. Take care.
I thought I finally had, one that seriously was into me. ending 20 years of consecutive failures. Long video calls every other day. Then hit me with the stealth " yeah I'm here with my man now" Nuke during mid conversation. Yesterday.
I think I'll have to be done after this one. I haven't slept in 48 hours. Game over man 🤣🤣🤣🤣😵
I am watching all of these videos every day
9 years gap yeah he should have been like a second dad. That's how I was
did it happen in your lives that girls got cold on you when they have a bf, but when they break up, they appear in your lives again?
is it better to just never reach out first and wait until that happens given she is currently taken?
Yes. Coldness in that situation isn't from disinterest but from avoidance. She necessarily has to avoid you otherwise you disrupt her personal life too much without any guarantee that it works out. Her boyfriend itself isn't even relevant here, you impress her the most by respecting her autonomy and trusting her that she'll be able to work towards what she wants herself without you 'helping' her along.
Don't contact her, and when she does contact you, be warm and nonchalant.
@ great advice, thanks man! as it’s a page from robert green book👌🏻
Yeah he's great, but some material on avoidant attachment styles of relationships will help you as well. Any woman in a relationship is neccesarily an avoidant, regardless of how she feels about you, or even regardless of how she feels about her own boyfriend.
@@Trazynn that’s so interesting, cuz i myself have an a avoidant type. been cold to girls i like not intentionally and it seemed to make them wonder a lot.
however this girl i’m talking about doesn’t seem like avoidant at all.
she s from a good family and with traditional values now at the stage where she s looking for someone stable who she can trust and won’t have to chase, so i’m actually not sure with her at all. she literally had a bad boy before but broke up with him cuz quite “was too traditional”. she wants to be at home and raise kids it seems.
my hope is that the dude is gonna mess up and/or she s gonna grow up and something changes in her choice cuz she is just 21 and it’s statistically possible that she ll be free again at some point.
i’m building my business in the meantime anyways, so not rushing, gonna play my position and see
I was in a long distance relationship with this girl for 4 months we met for the 1 st time and it went perfectly she organised the date and went back to here place she asked me when we could meet again I tried organising it with her but then she said she doesn’t want to be in a relationship It just doesn’t make sense
Ex probably came back into her life
nobody talks about the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki because it’s too honest and cuts way too deep
Bot
Bot
What role does actually loving her play in this situation ? Even if she does not know.
Thanks for sharing
Magnetic aura posters are bots
I can relate to that @5:03
Is that picture showing you and your wife in white dresses?
She is wrong
reading the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki might completely change how you think about attraction, and that scares people
Where to buy the book?
these are bots that comment to all dating advice videos @@obabobai
the truth in the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki is so real, it makes people uncomfortable, and that’s why it gets ignored
they don’t want you to read the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki because it says the stuff no one else is brave enough to say about attraction
if everyone read the book 'Magnetic Aura' by Takeshi Mizuki, the way we see the world would never be the same