Makes perfect sense to me. I am not about to permit another person, group, or gender on this planet to have me chasing my tail or spinning my wheels. Life is too short.
Unfortunately for most people (men and women) the increasingly unrealistic expectations put on us all by the media, has made dating almost impossible. I’m a 55 year old blue collar male worker ordinary in every way and invisible to everyone. I learned the hard way to just do what makes me happy for myself.
Thanks for commenting. You are not invisible in my book. It's trying to be seen by blind people that is the struggle. Your journey has brought you to where you are loving on yourself. Someone told me that's the first step.
I’m a divorced male late 40s. I can’t imagine going through all that again. I look around my kids are grown and good . I’m saving more money than I’ve ever had. No way im about to make my life more difficult settling down again. I hear you
I have close friends and family members who've been in disastrous relationships that screwed up their lives. When I see that I tell myself it's not worth the risk to date anyone. One of my friends is in a long-term relationship but he doesn't seem to get any fulfillment out of it, he and his girlfriend don't do anything except sit around watching TV. I think he's just scared to be single.
Yes, relationships can destroy everything you've worked for. Don't do the same mistake I did, please stay single (in the west at least). Protect yourself, modern women are dangerous.
You spoke the truth friend. Datings a real sh*t show anyway… I stopped n done gave up on finding the one too (not completely sure on it yet) but it’s getting to that point. A lot of ppl imo should just consider finding themselves more than finding a romantic partner cause let’s be honest, when was there ever a successful relationship in THIS day n age? Social media ruined it all..you got ppl breaking up over dumb sh*t, divorces are more frequent now more than ever, and marriage has become completely meaningless 😂😂😂😂. It’s a circus with dating and we’re just the spectators watching it burn. So I think what you’re doing is very noble n wise, dating ain’t for everybody and it for damn sure won’t be for anybody for the years to come.
Same... Lol 43, gave up dating a few years ago. My health, and money have gone way up. I'd never date ever again in America. I'd consider it if I travel overseas, but never again here in the west... Lol
Im 43 an I've completely gave up to much stress ive put myself through even put my heart in it but after so many failure's ive come to terms with this its probably my destiny to live a single life so as it is just spend time an energy on myself an focus on my financial situation an stay on top of things an move on just to not have extra time so it wont be for a person not serious.
i hope you find & maintain the balance & peace you deserve by reserving yourself for yourself. may all good things find you & attach themselves to you always. 💚 - juan.
I'm 24 yrs old, only dated 1 person my whole life, didn't workout, i won't seek it, like the quote says 'take care of your garden and the butterflies will come'.
Really love this video! Dating is not for everyone. After my divorce, about a year, I tried dating, and I decided it wasn’t for me. I found happiness in just being. When asked if I want relationship, I say I don’t know what God has planned for me but for now I am enjoying my life and the gifts that are all around. Happiness doesn’t have to include a partner. Be alone, doesn’t mean being lonely, it just means you don’t have to share the remote. ❤❤❤
Erin, thank you for sharing your experience with me. Life after divorce makes for an interesting discussion. I know this, you are better and stronger for your experiences and a beautiful spirit. The way you stand by your friends he was a darn fool to let you get away ❤
Hey Justin! It is good to see you. I thought a few times I found my person but it turned out I was wrong. I don’t like dating either. Thank you for sharing with us. I would definitely say you are very attractive, handsome, well spoken gentleman. It is a relief for me to be out of the dating race as well.
I’m 51, never married no kids. At age 50 I officially quit. I reached half a century years old and figured being married with kids is not going to happen. There are other things on the menu. Like travel, new goals, hobbies etc. The last time I had sex with a lady was 2017.
I hear you. I’ve never had a long-term relationship in my entire life. The longest has been eight months and I wasn’t with them every single day. It was just like dating for eight months. I don’t know what’s wrong with people because I’m a catch. You’ve seen me I’m smart and beautiful and intelligent. I was super skinny back in the day and I’m very easy-going and very easy to get along with. Everyone loves me, but nobody wants to love me. I don’t get it either. Don’t understand what’s going on with the world and I’m just over it as well.
Dating it’s dead in America especially and in the western world but it’s worse in America I hear yuo it’s dead at any age I’m sorry that women nowadays aren’t into a loving relationship it’s sad that good men are been overlooked yuo are not alone in this crazy dating culture love yuor life yuo seem a good honest man but don’t yuo rather be alone and happy but I understand yuo must feel lonely try to find yuor purpose in life
There is nothing wrong with being single. People put too much pressure on themselves trying to meet societal expectations. Work on yourself. Build for your future and work on improving yourself. Every man should be under construction at all times, building himself into the best man he can become. I’m over 60 and I’m still working on myself. Just do your thing. Do what gives you joy.
Hey Justin! Absolutely use that energy on productive things! You are doing what you need to do! You only have one life, definitely live it the way you want and let life happen how it will! 🌹
Thanks for sharing, Justin. I like how you described “dating career” 😉 I certainly will think again before starting another new career in dating 😅. My plate is full handling all changes in this new world 🌎
Good video and good words of wisdom. I recently turned forty and single. A part of me has moved on from dating aswell. Just never found the right women I've been looking for. After the years of dating and bad experiences and letdowns. It can take a toll on you. You realize its time to focus on other aspects of your life.
Hey Justin! I agree with you 💯 on being done with dating. Also, that feeling of inadequacy due to singleness has left me some time ago. I'm also a millennial and have been done with dating for quite some time now. Lately, I've been focusing on my writing and re-directing my energy into doing things that I love like, writing movies reviews, reading, and making extra money. 💰 Thank you for your view on this topic of dating. Its exhausting being made to feel less than as a single. Lol.
Yes, keep us posted! I'm thankful that I met a good partner, and don't have to be in the dating scene! I think it would be hard as hell to find someone nowadays...so for that, I am grateful! ❤
Men go crazy from the society’s lie that you need a woman to feel any self worth I myself did in my younger years. It’s hard not to fall into that trap. My hobbies are the only thing that finally saved me from it.
52 M, never married and not dating. Your true life goals should be as follows: a) be the healthiest you can be; b) be the happiest you can be. Moreover, follow your interests and passions; be an avid learner; cultured; strive to be the best version of you. Focusing on negative energy is not a good thing; focus on the positives, ie. what brings you joy? Finding the true meaning of yourself is something we all should strive for. Lastly, the way life is set up is that people continually come in and out of our lives via births, deaths and chance encounters. We should keep this in mind as we journey through life...
As a man in my Early 40s after many Woman trying to settle with one woman for life i find the sex urges or drive useless in all honesty i don't want the biological functions of the body to desires anyone that shit is a curse an it serves no purpose in this modern age.
Thanks for sharing Justin I feel same way I was committing on a ladies podcast about how men have stopped dating and approaching women and told her that signals I get from some of these women is that they don't want to be or look at me like I own them money. So I'm looking else where right now for different species if you know what mean. Again thanks for sharing your feelings.
Hey Justin! Welcome back!! I think you’re on the right path. You’ll find your person while you’re busy living & creating a wonderful life for yourself. I haven’t dated in a while. After my last relationship ended, I decided to just focus on myself & healing from a VERY toxic/abusive man. I’ve decided to pursue my happiness & do the things that I enjoy. I’m very particular about the type of guy I’d like to meet & date. I refuse to settle ever again.
Settling feels too much like dying to me! I'm still shedding the guilt of being 'by myself' but exploring where that feeling comes from. I do not desire to go through any of the steps to get into a relationship, so why the heck hold on to the guilt?
@@MovieJustin I’ve experienced that same guilt, particularly after I ended my relationship. I felt bad about leaving, I felt bad about being alone. I almost got into another relationship three months after that, but I decided to start therapy to get to the root of my issues.
Focus on yourself, your career or whatever it is you want to do. When you're not looking for love it will find you. Please don’t say you're unattractive. You are smart, articulate, clearly astute and sensitive. You will attract someone good very soon and I hope you have by now. 🎉
I respect your transparency 💯 👍🏾 However, you're still very young. She's out there for you. Don't ever give up. Start new hobbies...just get out the house and enjoy your life. 🙏🏾
Date outside the States. It’š 2024 fellas. You literally can build connections with women abroad laying on your couch. Take a trip and go spend time with her. Bumble has a feature where you can set your location to anywhere in the world and find women that would be very receptive.
Good commentary bro. I totally understand your concern; you are operating on a level of preserving your internal sense of happiness and fulfillment, in a dating scene shot to hell. Women, in this age of social media, are acting with the wildest set of delusional expectations, and from what studies suggest, are all largely attracted to the top 20% of highly successful men. Men such as yourself are able to read the environment, and are acting accordingly. Salute to you!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it takes much more than the physical appearance which will fade overtime to build a meaningful lasting relationship. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Take care!
I whole heartly understand where you are coming from. I have also decided after I wasted nearly 2 years in a situationship that I am done with dating and sex for awhile if not forever lmao. But seriously as an intersex Trans man I am not conventional and I have long accepted that. I am tired of being in one sided set ups with takers and users. I am over the emotional gymnastics and games with emotionally unavailable and manipulative people. I am tired of my effort, energy , etc not being appreciated or reciprocated. I am tired of giving and never receiving. I am tired of giving my all just to played and let down later. Also being neurodivergent (Autism and ADHD) I do not read social cues aka I prefer people to be upfront and straightforward. I do not have the energy to decipher morse code because people want to beat around the bush and play mind games aka manipulate and coerce you into doing things you never consented to doing in the first place. If a person only wants sex, why not be upfront and say that? No instead people want to act like they like you, act like want something deeper and committed with you whole time they are leading you on and using for your sex and money, and/or energy and resources. I am nearly 6 weeks free from the past situationship and celibate and honestly I have been able to achieve so much by breaking away that I could not do when I was engaged in the constant cycle of drama and stress.
I enjoyed this video so much! I truly can relate. I got married when I was 28 yrs old & been married for 22 years now. Somewhere along the way I found myself & realized I’m an introvert, socially awkward & the thought of meeting up with someone new makes me cringe. I travel often to get a view of what normal people look like, etc but I stick up under my husband like glue. There’s noway I could go on a date. I would truly have an anxiety attack on the date😩
Thanks for sharing with me. I've always related to your content and views on things. When I watch you talk about family and finances I usually say "I know that's right!" 😂 xoxo
if a woman is attractive, single (at least some of them say like that) they just want a fun. They see a fun with a guy which comes with money. Thats it.
It took a lot of courage to say these things. Forget what other people think about you. Believe in yourself and chase the things that bring you satisfaction, brother.
I'm done with relationships and I'm more happy and at peace than I've ever been in my life. I had some nice women try to shoot their shot, but eventually I can't risk my peace, solitude, and money on a relationship, Its just not worth it. My house is my and It's quiet when I come home. I'll tell other women if their want to hook up, okay, if not no problem.
You aren’t the only one my a$$ is done too my last hope was with good woman last year that fell through due to family issues. And no chick has been the same vibe I just don’t have the energy for this dating bs anymore lol.
Thought you was going to talk about the dates and what went wrong. Sounds like you been on a bit of them. Always best to work on your self, nice mindset :)
It's not a defeatist attitude....it's that your personal drive to seek companionship isn't there anymore. I'm engaged to a woman and she's a good one, but the ONLY REASON why we ended up together is because she advanced onto me. I was (and still am) so checked out of dating - I mean, being in a relationship can be great but the process of trying out for the position of boyfriend is so exhausting that it really feels like the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Im done with dating to i been single since 2014 and wat i noticed idk if is for everybody but anytime i ever been with anybody women treated me different way different. I get it im only a 5'4 blk dude so just i expected to be taller i get it... they claim to want that glamorous dude but most end up with the douchebags 🚮 idk wats worse them or cops really
Linda Evangelista made a quote recently that she had "no desire to hear someone breathing." That made me laugh and also rang true. I don't feel compatible with the folks available out here. I hope you are fulfilled whether in solitude or community.
Im 68 and man back in the day this wasn't even an issue you could ask a girl simply can i have a chance and if she said yes she'd be your girlfriend but not now its really crazy and unrealistic especially the wemen.
Ignorance is bliss.. this extends to dating too. Never seen your videos before, but you strike me as the opposite of an ignorant person. It seems to me the men around our age who date successfully either enjoy a level of ignorance that allows them freedom in that superficial social level, or they fabricate it to create the illusion of being carefree/blissful. People of substance are complex and battle-hardened by how they've had to answer life's questions of them - makes it challenging to engage in meaningless small talk.
I can relate to this i'm 33 and never had succes with women in my teens and twenties i was frustrerend of it but now i'm happy i have my own appartement i have a nice job got harley davidson motorcycle what need a guy more then that? Sometimes if tell people i'm single by choice they look at me weird like i'm some kind of alien but i'm not bothered by it sometimes i even finding it funny i always say better being alone then be with someone and feel alone
Justin probably just needs a break. Women have really high standards by nature and even the most average woman expects an above average man. I'm a software developer in the best shape of my life and I have very overweight women 'like' me all the time without the self-awareness that maybe our lifestyles are incompatible.... I digress. It takes a lot of effort to date so I think it's okay to approach it in sprints because doing it half-assed doesn't work.
Hey man, the pay as you go plan is far better. With dating, you have to put in a lot of effort, and 😺 might still not be guaranteed. With the pay to play plan, it is guaranteed and you are reasonably charged for the hour.
Well brother, you have had an epiphany. That revelation is a good one. Unless you are ready to go find a Cambodian, Philippine or Vietnamese woman who knows how to play her role, dating in America is DEAD.
Sounds like you have a good job and make a lot of money and probably dont need a woman. I know there's good women out there that will benefit your life in a positive way, but most seem to ruin or life or make it worse. I m 40 and I never dated any chick. I get the vibe that they will ruin my life if I meet the wrong one, and dating has always given me anxiety. It sucks. I m sure there's someone good out there for you.
With first dates you just have to be prepared for them to not go well because most of them won't but it's worth it for the few that do work out. You could go to the gym and gain some muscles which would make you more attractive. About settling I know the heart wants bla bla bla but you also have to be realistic if you have been single a long time and don't want to be single any more then just get a gf you could get hard for and you like as a person tbh. Btw I'm saying this all as someone that commiserates with you as someone that's taking a break from dating (and I have neurodivergent tendencies). But no offence instead of starting a business, gain some muscles in the gym and it'll help a lot. I'm taking a break from dating because I went from great shape to overweight and obviously dating is much easier when you're in great shape.
Justin, I don't know why you feel guilty about being single because I enjoy it. When a man is single and have his career together he is very powerful and a threat to the system. I am a 64 year old African American heterosexual male. I am a Ph.D. college professor and I have been single all my life. Now I have had many girlfriends, but I just never have been married nor do I have any children. I have lived in different place across the United States and spent about six years in Europe. I was an Air Force brat. The Lord Jesus Christ blessed me with the gift of singleness. Justin, from watching your video, you appear to have a good heart. Justin, have you ever thought about God is saving you from a disastrous relationship, because these women nowadays are off the chain? I would say about 80% of them are only out for what they can get. They just see men as ATM machines. Also, it is not just you Justin who is having a problem with dating, it is society at large. I constantly hear people complaining about relationships and not being able to find someone from both males and females, but mostly females. Nevertheless, I do hope you find someone who will bring joy to your heart and really cares for you as a person and not just what you can do for her. Take care! The Bowtie Professor/Professor Yecats!
This guy is a GENIUS and joining the WINNING 🏆 TEAM🤜🤛🏾but I have a feeling he might end up with a really cool submissive cooking SMART modest asian women👌.
Justin, who said you weren’t conventionally attractive? Well, other than toxic gay male culture. Not that it really matters in the grand scheme of things, but you’re a handsome guy. ♥️ Watched a few of your videos and you seem like a well balanced normal guy. Any man should be happy to date and partner with you. Don’t sell yourself short, my friend. There are still normal men out here who’d be happy to date you. ♥️
That's very kind of you to say. I can't choose what culture we live in just because its right or wrong, you know? I have to deal with the dating pool that exists. You are very encouraging though, thank you!
I disagree with you, I think you are an attractive person.😊 But I can relate. I don’t think I’m attractive and rarely get told so, but My thought on it is that everyone has different features or traits they find Attractive at any given time and for me, I might find someone physically attractive Instantly but after talking to them will end up not liking them if they’re a horrible Person. Whereas a waitress one time ended up becoming more and more captivating Because she was a fascinating person with a genuine and kind personality and had a Beautiful laugh and voice - thus, her imperfections in the eyes of most people turned Into signs of a far better beauty, in my eyes.
You need to have a vacation overseas, you will be renewed with the friendlier and kinder women overseas And you are not unattractive, hit a gym a little, so you get better posture, but the rest you're good
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Makes perfect sense to me. I am not about to permit another person, group, or gender on this planet to have me chasing my tail or spinning my wheels. Life is too short.
Life is way too short! Thanks for your comment.
“Your person” needs to be you. When you stop seeking is the only time you can truly find.
Great point!
Unfortunately for most people (men and women) the increasingly unrealistic expectations put on us all by the media, has made dating almost impossible.
I’m a 55 year old blue collar male worker ordinary in every way and invisible to everyone.
I learned the hard way to just do what makes me happy for myself.
Thanks for commenting. You are not invisible in my book. It's trying to be seen by blind people that is the struggle. Your journey has brought you to where you are loving on yourself. Someone told me that's the first step.
Im 40 and I threw in the towel long ago. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
39 here, gave up, I mean I don't mind getting escorts from time to time but rather fucus on myself, investing, early retirement
I’m a divorced male late 40s. I can’t imagine going through all that again. I look around my kids are grown and good . I’m saving more money than I’ve ever had. No way im about to make my life more difficult settling down again. I hear you
I have close friends and family members who've been in disastrous relationships that screwed up their lives. When I see that I tell myself it's not worth the risk to date anyone. One of my friends is in a long-term relationship but he doesn't seem to get any fulfillment out of it, he and his girlfriend don't do anything except sit around watching TV. I think he's just scared to be single.
Yes, relationships can destroy everything you've worked for. Don't do the same mistake I did, please stay single (in the west at least). Protect yourself, modern women are dangerous.
You spoke the truth friend. Datings a real sh*t show anyway… I stopped n done gave up on finding the one too (not completely sure on it yet) but it’s getting to that point. A lot of ppl imo should just consider finding themselves more than finding a romantic partner cause let’s be honest, when was there ever a successful relationship in THIS day n age? Social media ruined it all..you got ppl breaking up over dumb sh*t, divorces are more frequent now more than ever, and marriage has become completely meaningless 😂😂😂😂. It’s a circus with dating and we’re just the spectators watching it burn. So I think what you’re doing is very noble n wise, dating ain’t for everybody and it for damn sure won’t be for anybody for the years to come.
Preach!
Same here nothing but BS and games I’ve only dealt with.. I’m done I get laughed at for not having someone but oh well
Well said, at 30 I checked out.. I believe social media backfired on everyone, everything is so toxic nowadays you have to protect yourself.
44 and Done, Been done for 14 years
Same... Lol
43, gave up dating a few years ago. My health, and money have gone way up. I'd never date ever again in America. I'd consider it if I travel overseas, but never again here in the west... Lol
I'm 67 I'm done to/ several hundred dates/ never married/ I have not had children...GOD BLESS YOU!
This guy gets it 🎉
I'm glad you feel me!
Im 43 an I've completely gave up to much stress ive put myself through even put my heart in it but after so many failure's ive come to terms with this its probably my destiny to live a single life so as it is just spend time an energy on myself an focus on my financial situation an stay on top of things an move on just to not have extra time so it wont be for a person not serious.
i hope you find & maintain the balance & peace you deserve by reserving yourself for yourself.
may all good things find you & attach themselves to you always.
💚
- juan.
I'm 24 yrs old, only dated 1 person my whole life, didn't workout, i won't seek it, like the quote says 'take care of your garden and the butterflies will come'.
@@-ana-9737 Amen
Really love this video!
Dating is not for everyone.
After my divorce, about a year, I tried dating, and I decided it wasn’t for me. I found happiness in just being.
When asked if I want relationship, I say I don’t know what God has planned for me but for now I am enjoying my life and the gifts that are all around.
Happiness doesn’t have to include a partner. Be alone, doesn’t mean being lonely, it just means you don’t have to share the remote.
❤❤❤
Erin, thank you for sharing your experience with me. Life after divorce makes for an interesting discussion. I know this, you are better and stronger for your experiences and a beautiful spirit. The way you stand by your friends he was a darn fool to let you get away ❤
ish, fuc ah remote... time, money, energy, attention, care.. etc 🙄
Hey Justin! It is good to see you. I thought a few times I found my person but it turned out I was wrong. I don’t like dating either. Thank you for sharing with us. I would definitely say you are very attractive, handsome, well spoken gentleman. It is a relief for me to be out of the dating race as well.
Thank you my friend 🧡
I’m 51, never married no kids. At age 50 I officially quit. I reached half a century years old and figured being married with kids is not going to happen. There are other things on the menu. Like travel, new goals, hobbies etc. The last time I had sex with a lady was 2017.
@@jimb3093 I totally hear you
I hear you. I’ve never had a long-term relationship in my entire life. The longest has been eight months and I wasn’t with them every single day. It was just like dating for eight months. I don’t know what’s wrong with people because I’m a catch. You’ve seen me I’m smart and beautiful and intelligent. I was super skinny back in the day and I’m very easy-going and very easy to get along with. Everyone loves me, but nobody wants to love me. I don’t get it either. Don’t understand what’s going on with the world and I’m just over it as well.
It's so nice to see you!! I feel the same way. I'm done wasting my time! We have too much to offer to be wanting/lacking 😍
Dating it’s dead in America especially and in the western world but it’s worse in America I hear yuo it’s dead at any age I’m sorry that women nowadays aren’t into a loving relationship it’s sad that good men are been overlooked yuo are not alone in this crazy dating culture love yuor life yuo seem a good honest man but don’t yuo rather be alone and happy but I understand yuo must feel lonely try to find yuor purpose in life
I'm 51 and have been done! I prefer to be single and concentrate more on spirituality and further my career goals, life, etc.
Amen!
Finding inner peace and joy is where it’s at and everything else is life that’s meant for you shall follow through 🎉🎉🎉Thanks for sharing!
There is nothing wrong with being single. People put too much pressure on themselves trying to meet societal expectations.
Work on yourself. Build for your future and work on improving yourself. Every man should be under construction at all times, building himself into the best man he can become. I’m over 60 and I’m still working on myself.
Just do your thing. Do what gives you joy.
We're works in progress. That's what makes us human. It's interesting that growth is forgetting everything you thought you knew growing up!
Hey Justin! Absolutely use that energy on productive things! You are doing what you need to do! You only have one life, definitely live it the way you want and let life happen how it will! 🌹
Right there with you brother. 38yo newly single
Thanks for sharing, Justin. I like how you described “dating career” 😉
I certainly will think again before starting another new career in dating 😅.
My plate is full handling all changes in this new world 🌎
Jessie! Well said, we're full. I don't know how anyone has the time 🤷🏽♂️ Thank you for commenting!
Good video and good words of wisdom. I recently turned forty and single. A part of me has moved on from dating aswell. Just never found the right women I've been looking for. After the years of dating and bad experiences and letdowns. It can take a toll on you. You realize its time to focus on other aspects of your life.
Thanks for sharing we got to stick together!
Hey Justin! I agree with you 💯 on being done with dating. Also, that feeling of inadequacy due to singleness has left me some time ago. I'm also a millennial and have been done with dating for quite some time now. Lately, I've been focusing on my writing and re-directing my energy into doing things that I love like, writing movies reviews, reading, and making extra money. 💰 Thank you for your view on this topic of dating. Its exhausting being made to feel less than as a single. Lol.
Thiss!
Hey Welcome back stranger 😀. Good to hear you this day. Take care, stay Blessed, luv yall.
Hey Patti! How have you been? It's so nice to talk with you again ❤
Yes, keep us posted! I'm thankful that I met a good partner, and don't have to be in the dating scene! I think it would be hard as hell to find someone nowadays...so for that, I am grateful! ❤
Amen!! I know it's a relief for you not to have to deal with this dating stuff 😆🧡
Being home in a Pyjama sounds great! 😂❤ But cuddling with you person in a pyjama too is even better.
@@mima5205 Make sure you watch the video!
Men go crazy from the society’s lie that you need a woman to feel any self worth I myself did in my younger years. It’s hard not to fall into that trap. My hobbies are the only thing that finally saved me from it.
52 M, never married and not dating.
Your true life goals should be as follows: a) be the healthiest you can be; b) be the happiest you can be. Moreover, follow your interests and passions; be an avid learner; cultured; strive to be the best version of you.
Focusing on negative energy is not a good thing; focus on the positives, ie. what brings you joy? Finding the true meaning of yourself is something we all should strive for.
Lastly, the way life is set up is that people continually come in and out of our lives via births, deaths and chance encounters. We should keep this in mind as we journey through life...
Amen 🙏
Very wise words. Protect yourself at all times out here. 👍🏾
As a man in my Early 40s after many Woman trying to settle with one woman for life i find the sex urges or drive useless in all honesty i don't want the biological functions of the body to desires anyone that shit is a curse an it serves no purpose in this modern age.
Great video sir. This will definitely help some folks.
Thanks for sharing Justin I feel same way I was committing on a ladies podcast about how men have stopped dating and approaching women and told her that signals I get from some of these women is that they don't want to be or look at me like I own them money. So I'm looking else where right now for different species if you know what mean. Again thanks for sharing your feelings.
Hey Justin! Welcome back!! I think you’re on the right path. You’ll find your person while you’re busy living & creating a wonderful life for yourself. I haven’t dated in a while. After my last relationship ended, I decided to just focus on myself & healing from a VERY toxic/abusive man. I’ve decided to pursue my happiness & do the things that I enjoy. I’m very particular about the type of guy I’d like to meet & date. I refuse to settle ever again.
Settling feels too much like dying to me! I'm still shedding the guilt of being 'by myself' but exploring where that feeling comes from. I do not desire to go through any of the steps to get into a relationship, so why the heck hold on to the guilt?
@@MovieJustin I’ve experienced that same guilt, particularly after I ended my relationship. I felt bad about leaving, I felt bad about being alone. I almost got into another relationship three months after that, but I decided to start therapy to get to the root of my issues.
Focus on yourself, your career or whatever it is you want to do. When you're not looking for love it will find you.
Please don’t say you're unattractive. You are smart, articulate, clearly astute and sensitive. You will attract someone good very soon and I hope you have by now.
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That's wrong I have been single 4 years not looking that's wrong.
Great way of thinking.Nothing wrong with focusing on #1 and enriching yourself in other areas. Pursue happiness! I don't think it's the wrong answer ❤
Amen!!
I respect your transparency 💯 👍🏾
However, you're still very young. She's out there for you. Don't ever give up. Start new hobbies...just get out the house and enjoy your life. 🙏🏾
Well Spoken and I completely agree!!!
Date outside the States. It’š 2024 fellas. You literally can build connections with women abroad laying on your couch. Take a trip and go spend time with her. Bumble has a feature where you can set your location to anywhere in the world and find women that would be very receptive.
@@Ifeanyiijeh Thanks for the advice. I actually don't want to date.
Good commentary bro. I totally understand your concern; you are operating on a level of preserving your internal sense of happiness and fulfillment, in a dating scene shot to hell. Women, in this age of social media, are acting with the wildest set of delusional expectations, and from what studies suggest, are all largely attracted to the top 20% of highly successful men. Men such as yourself are able to read the environment, and are acting accordingly. Salute to you!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it takes much more than the physical appearance which will fade overtime to build a meaningful lasting relationship. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Take care!
Exactly as I feel and thinks.
We're on the same page!
I'm 36 and single. I agree with everything you said. Dating nowadays is so stressful.
Congratulations Sir! Enjoy your life!
Well done. Just be you and whoever likes you, great! Whoever doesn't like you, great! 🙏❤🙌👏
Right!! Thanks for checking me out David!
I whole heartly understand where you are coming from. I have also decided after I wasted nearly 2 years in a situationship that I am done with dating and sex for awhile if not forever lmao. But seriously as an intersex Trans man I am not conventional and I have long accepted that. I am tired of being in one sided set ups with takers and users. I am over the emotional gymnastics and games with emotionally unavailable and manipulative people. I am tired of my effort, energy , etc not being appreciated or reciprocated. I am tired of giving and never receiving. I am tired of giving my all just to played and let down later. Also being neurodivergent (Autism and ADHD) I do not read social cues aka I prefer people to be upfront and straightforward. I do not have the energy to decipher morse code because people want to beat around the bush and play mind games aka manipulate and coerce you into doing things you never consented to doing in the first place. If a person only wants sex, why not be upfront and say that? No instead people want to act like they like you, act like want something deeper and committed with you whole time they are leading you on and using for your sex and money, and/or energy and resources.
I am nearly 6 weeks free from the past situationship and celibate and honestly I have been able to achieve so much by breaking away that I could not do when I was engaged in the constant cycle of drama and stress.
Thanks for your comment friend! I truly understand what you mean by one sided relationships.
I enjoyed this video so much! I truly can relate. I got married when I was 28 yrs old & been married for 22 years now. Somewhere along the way I found myself & realized I’m an introvert, socially awkward & the thought of meeting up with someone new makes me cringe. I travel often to get a view of what normal people look like, etc but I stick up under my husband like glue. There’s noway I could go on a date. I would truly have an anxiety attack on the date😩
Thanks for sharing with me. I've always related to your content and views on things. When I watch you talk about family and finances I usually say "I know that's right!" 😂 xoxo
@@MovieJustin You’re welcome! Lol oooh yes my family is a piece of work. I have to really stay on top of my A-game to handle them🤦🏽♀️
if a woman is attractive, single (at least some of them say like that) they just want a fun. They see a fun with a guy which comes with money. Thats it.
It took a lot of courage to say these things. Forget what other people think about you. Believe in yourself and chase the things that bring you satisfaction, brother.
Thanks for your words!
Same. I just wanna live life nice and slow.
Amen 🙏
Great convo ❤
Regina!! Thank you for stopping by my friend 🧡
I'm done with relationships and I'm more happy and at peace than I've ever been in my life. I had some nice women try to shoot their shot, but eventually I can't risk my peace, solitude, and money on a relationship, Its just not worth it. My house is my and It's quiet when I come home. I'll tell other women if their want to hook up, okay, if not no problem.
Welcome the the "volcel" community bro.
I feel you I been single for a long time also I'm done with women also
Am 34 and am done too. Focus on growing myself and intimacy with God
You aren’t the only one my a$$ is done too my last hope was with good woman last year that fell through due to family issues. And no chick has been the same vibe I just don’t have the energy for this dating bs anymore lol.
God Bless You 🙌🏾 🙏🏾
Thank you so much
Thought you was going to talk about the dates and what went wrong. Sounds like you been on a bit of them. Always best to work on your self, nice mindset :)
Thanks! The next video will be a dating story time, pls stay tuned!
@@MovieJustin Will do, thx for the reply.
It's not a defeatist attitude....it's that your personal drive to seek companionship isn't there anymore. I'm engaged to a woman and she's a good one, but the ONLY REASON why we ended up together is because she advanced onto me. I was (and still am) so checked out of dating - I mean, being in a relationship can be great but the process of trying out for the position of boyfriend is so exhausting that it really feels like the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Im done with dating to i been single since 2014 and wat i noticed idk if is for everybody but anytime i ever been with anybody women treated me different way different. I get it im only a 5'4 blk dude so just i expected to be taller i get it... they claim to want that glamorous dude but most end up with the douchebags 🚮 idk wats worse them or cops really
I've been single by choice 12 years and no longer interested in dating
Linda Evangelista made a quote recently that she had "no desire to hear someone breathing." That made me laugh and also rang true. I don't feel compatible with the folks available out here. I hope you are fulfilled whether in solitude or community.
@justintalksfilm yes I am in my career and I don't feel compatible with anyone either - what I'm after will be hard to find and near impossible
Im 68 and man back in the day this wasn't even an issue you could ask a girl simply can i have a chance and if she said yes she'd be your girlfriend but not now its really crazy and unrealistic especially the wemen.
Im 50 and stopped around your age. But i realized i never wanted anything long term anyway. Now I'm mostly tired of people.
Same, tired of people in general 😴
Ignorance is bliss.. this extends to dating too. Never seen your videos before, but you strike me as the opposite of an ignorant person. It seems to me the men around our age who date successfully either enjoy a level of ignorance that allows them freedom in that superficial social level, or they fabricate it to create the illusion of being carefree/blissful. People of substance are complex and battle-hardened by how they've had to answer life's questions of them - makes it challenging to engage in meaningless small talk.
Passport bro!
The options are exhausting
Completely understandable
Amen
I can relate to this i'm 33 and never had succes with women in my teens and twenties i was frustrerend of it but now i'm happy i have my own appartement i have a nice job got harley davidson motorcycle what need a guy more then that? Sometimes if tell people i'm single by choice they look at me weird like i'm some kind of alien but i'm not bothered by it sometimes i even finding it funny i always say better being alone then be with someone and feel alone
Be the right person
Thanks for your comment!
Justin probably just needs a break. Women have really high standards by nature and even the most average woman expects an above average man. I'm a software developer in the best shape of my life and I have very overweight women 'like' me all the time without the self-awareness that maybe our lifestyles are incompatible.... I digress. It takes a lot of effort to date so I think it's okay to approach it in sprints because doing it half-assed doesn't work.
A balanced approach, I like that. Congratulations on your fitness goals 💪
Hey man, the pay as you go plan is far better. With dating, you have to put in a lot of effort, and 😺 might still not be guaranteed. With the pay to play plan, it is guaranteed and you are reasonably charged for the hour.
you're never gonna find your "person" they dont exist
Well brother, you have had an epiphany. That revelation is a good one. Unless you are ready to go find a Cambodian, Philippine or Vietnamese woman who knows how to play her role, dating in America is DEAD.
Good luck to you.
Thanks my friend
In this world today...
"Happiness Is Being Single"
This phrase used to be on license plate frames in the 70s, 80s and 90s.
Sounds like you have a good job and make a lot of money and probably dont need a woman. I know there's good women out there that will benefit your life in a positive way, but most seem to ruin or life or make it worse. I m 40 and I never dated any chick. I get the vibe that they will ruin my life if I meet the wrong one, and dating has always given me anxiety. It sucks. I m sure there's someone good out there for you.
With first dates you just have to be prepared for them to not go well because most of them won't but it's worth it for the few that do work out. You could go to the gym and gain some muscles which would make you more attractive. About settling I know the heart wants bla bla bla but you also have to be realistic if you have been single a long time and don't want to be single any more then just get a gf you could get hard for and you like as a person tbh.
Btw I'm saying this all as someone that commiserates with you as someone that's taking a break from dating (and I have neurodivergent tendencies). But no offence instead of starting a business, gain some muscles in the gym and it'll help a lot. I'm taking a break from dating because I went from great shape to overweight and obviously dating is much easier when you're in great shape.
Another thing about being in great shape is even if girls don't flock to you, you'll be healthier and happier
Just enjoy the single life🎉🎉🎉😂
Hey Sherry!! You are so right. Thanks for swinging by! 🧡
Respect.
Yeah not many people really like dating...... And yeah the work required to make you "suitable" for the woman you want just doesn't seem worth it.
Hard agree!
You may not think so, but I think you’re clearly attractive and incredibly articulate.
Thank you so much for the kindness and for watching!! ❤
Justin, I don't know why you feel guilty about being single because I enjoy it. When a man is single and have his career together he is very powerful and a threat to the system. I am a 64 year old African American heterosexual male. I am a Ph.D. college professor and I have been single all my life. Now I have had many girlfriends, but I just never have been married nor do I have any children. I have lived in different place across the United States and spent about six years in Europe. I was an Air Force brat. The Lord Jesus Christ blessed me with the gift of singleness. Justin, from watching your video, you appear to have a good heart. Justin, have you ever thought about God is saving you from a disastrous relationship, because these women nowadays are off the chain? I would say about 80% of them are only out for what they can get. They just see men as ATM machines. Also, it is not just you Justin who is having a problem with dating, it is society at large. I constantly hear people complaining about relationships and not being able to find someone from both males and females, but mostly females. Nevertheless, I do hope you find someone who will bring joy to your heart and really cares for you as a person and not just what you can do for her. Take care!
The Bowtie Professor/Professor Yecats!
The gift of singleness!
me2; no more time wasted; or, money; both
It makes you feel too under valued as a person way to often..it's draining
Even concventional attraction isn’t cutting it a anymore lol
This guy is a GENIUS and joining the WINNING 🏆 TEAM🤜🤛🏾but I have a feeling he might end up with a really cool submissive cooking SMART modest asian women👌.
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Justin, who said you weren’t conventionally attractive? Well, other than toxic gay male culture. Not that it really matters in the grand scheme of things, but you’re a handsome guy. ♥️ Watched a few of your videos and you seem like a well balanced normal guy. Any man should be happy to date and partner with you. Don’t sell yourself short, my friend. There are still normal men out here who’d be happy to date you. ♥️
That's very kind of you to say. I can't choose what culture we live in just because its right or wrong, you know? I have to deal with the dating pool that exists. You are very encouraging though, thank you!
26 and still haven't had a girlfriend ever.
Is that something you want to change?
Same here! But I’m 28.
I disagree with you, I think you are an attractive person.😊
But I can relate. I don’t think I’m attractive and rarely get told so, but
My thought on it is that everyone has different features or traits they find
Attractive at any given time and for me, I might find someone physically attractive
Instantly but after talking to them will end up not liking them if they’re a horrible
Person. Whereas a waitress one time ended up becoming more and more captivating
Because she was a fascinating person with a genuine and kind personality and had a
Beautiful laugh and voice - thus, her imperfections in the eyes of most people turned
Into signs of a far better beauty, in my eyes.
Thanks my friend
You need to have a vacation overseas, you will be renewed with the friendlier and kinder women overseas
And you are not unattractive, hit a gym a little, so you get better posture, but the rest you're good
Thanks man I appreciate your words!
Goddamn you look great for almost 40!
That made my day, thank you so much!
40 is not that old. Ppl act like 40 yr olds are supposed to look like shriveled up raisins. 😂
Dating is easier today if a friend introduces you to a female. Ask your friends to introduce you to their female friends.
Thanks for the advice, I'm actually done with that kind of effort for now but may in the future!
@@MovieJustin I get it bro. Sometimes it’s just not worth it, and when they start the mind games and the now on now off treatment it gets even worse.
You have everything it takes Justin. You may not be picking women who would be attracted to you.
Cruel world
Don't I know it..Thanks for stopping by 🫡 we will make it.
Facts. Just go asexual at this point. Is the only normal way to live in this unfair society.
@@Wario1382 weak mindset, you can win at this life. Yourself over relationships and then you'll have the abundance to pick from who you want.
@@alexward8596cope🤣
@@NBack-10 enjoy being a loser forever
women likedates because they got free dinners ,,,yaaaay
I don't think you're unattractive, as a guy speaking. It's just women want the best of the best and there's always someone better