I stopped dating due to: - Unrealistic expectations (on the girls part). - Women never holding themselves accountable and rarely apologize. - Women showing to much disrespect and selfishness. - Women rarely showing gratitude or thanks for the things men do for them. - Women's deep delusion and dishonesty.
Beggars can't be choosers. It is as if "now has she, more than generously let you receive the great honor of her time, and then do you dare to not just being eternally grateful". She has settled down to your rather puny level, so how dare you not just understand that she is in fact doing you an almost super human favor?!
I'm gonna put my two cents here. I don't date because it's like going to an exam. No more friendly chat or anything similar. It's an exam and you feel like you're in front of an examining board. No thanks. I love the peace and quietness I have in my life. No shouting, no dramas, no accusations, no hissy fits. Just me, my little garden and my simple life.
Where is your self respect when you are sexually abusing another person? Having sex with another person without loving them!? Same goes to women this list is unisex ! Nothing new here, accept you missed one sex, lust, and free time having sex with anyone and everyone that is the entire list.
My issue is never getting a date to begin with. When you're Bob Average rather than Chad, you're just ignored. They won't return text messages, won't ask you about yourself, won't engage in conversation beyond one word answers or disinterested phrases. They look bored. Your self esteem can take a dive unless you've developed a thick skin. They have a list of criteria longer than Chile for ordinary looking men. The minute Chad rocks up, it's drop that list and make it easy for him. But here's the kicker:- if Chad ignores them, they appear on fucking Tik Tok and cry like a baby, expecting sympathy! Welcome to our world, darlings.
Yeah the dating world is a mess no wonder these women are single when they made this situation themselves feel like the dating world and women in general are stuck in the teenager phase
Developing a thick skin is almost a necessity for dating but then you have trouble shedding it when you need to. Everything in life is a trade off. A good woman who cares about you will understand that and make allowance for it instead of dumping you as quickly as possible. Believe it or not, women used to be good at relationships. No, really, I'm not making that up even if it does sound impossible.
There are Jill Average girls but modern feminism tells them that they are all tens and beautiful inside. As guys we know exactly where we stand or how we look but who can fight delusion?
These girls here just isn't worth it. For the best value woman that would be interested in you and love your average self. 1. Work on yourself, get to the gym, workout with a real program (full body 2x - 3x a week, upper lower 4 days a week, push pull legs 6 days a week). Get your diet in check and get yourself into good shape (12% - 15% body fat). Focus in on your hobbies that bring you joy. 2. Work on your wealth, for you. Get 2+ jobs if you need to, invest in real estate, dividends, something that has a real payout. Getting a YT channel going can also lead to a good income (if that is something you are interested in). 3. Get your passport, there are a lot of amazing women out there once you leave the west.
I had a women who after the 4th date told me her expectations for gifts. She handed me a list of items she expected and wanted which included trips to Paris, Prada Purses, and weekly delivery of flowers. A couple of days later I told her we are not a match, that night my social media blew up with her friends posting comments about me being a narcissist.
Her friends were just echoing her words about you that they heard when she gossiped after the breakup, and she was probably just saying that so she didn't look like loser in front of her friends. She had to deflect the blame onto you.
Im 54 and im done with dating and with relationships. I'm sick of the dating game, sick of the games, sick of the rejection and sick of being played. Nice average guy I have a nice home, I have a good job and i have a common sense approach to life. I don't want to introduce control and confusion into my life. You have hit it spot on in your breakdown.
@@navaarunbhattacherjee4511 It doesn't matter. Both act like children, but older ones are more dangerous because they are WAY better at manipulating and lying and can put an act better than younger ones. Older men don't want to deal with them either because we can recognize them for what they are better than younger men do.
Your right on..... I quit too and so much happier. You can't please them. I get more attention and love from my cat! My Cat is in my will. He gets everything!!!
I was married to a wonderful woman and got 14 years with her before she passed. I recognize that comparisons are unfair, but I have never dated another woman that was worth comparing her to. Every woman I dated after her passing was: A) angry at everything, B) wanted a man to raise her kid, or C) so frigging crazy that it was no surprise they were single. The things that were said to me, in all seriousness, were completely laughable, like "you're being serious?" laughable. I feel sorry for men trying to find a wife nowadays, but I feel even more sorry for women because what you think you deserve largely doesn't exist, but no one can tell you that. You are victims of your own insane expectations and behaviors.
I lost my husband recently and after 5 years of living with cancer he lost the fight. I wouldn’t change a thing about him, He was such an amazing husband and I couldn’t have been more lucky to have him…..I don’t think I could ever find another man to be such a wonderful person. I’m grateful for the 18 years I had with him.
Lol, ive never dated a woman like you say your late wife was. Im 40 now, single obviously, but ive been in a few "serious" relationships and every single one was a mistake. My fault for being naive, but still my fault. I tried dating for a while after i got clean 7 years ago, and when you add being a recovering addict, good women absolutely will not ever entertain the thought of you being the right one. Been clean twice as long as i used, but i gave up trying like 4 or 5 years ago. Still not happy, but i have less bs to deal with
My truth is no nice ladies ever existed, just the arrogant, ignorant, selfish, egotistical ones. That's why I've been single since day 1, unlike most of my family.
1. No loyalty anymore 2. Always playing games with me and my friends 3. Liars 4. Cost too much money 5. You’re always in competition with someone when trying to pursue a woman of interests
Your 5th reason is so insightful. For many of us, dating isn’t worth the chaos that women today are addicted to. The purpose of dating is to find a wife. I have yet to meet a woman who is worth the chaos she immerses herself in.
women watch too much crap on tv, netflix, etc. They already believe that their mere existence entitles them to everything, so binging on garbage like housewives shows just feeds their ignorant perception of themselves. You have to love it when a land whale who looks like a potato says she's entitled to a millionaire who looks like Brad Pitt...smh
Just want to take a moment to point out how very few women have commented on this video... I think that speaks volumes because everything Emily has said is true and they know it. Also shoutout to my single guys!! We all share a similar story when it comes to dating and it's good to know that I'm not alone on this one!
Ur right thank man I just lotsed a friend cuz he tried to act like there no Truth to this n we all just don't try hard enough at least i can take solace n knowing I'm right n we all have bros tht have the same ssituio9n
In general, women aren't watching these videos. It would require introspection and self-reflection. Why do that when there's another guy just one swipe away on their phones?
women that are even halfway good looking, have an endless supply of men chasing them. They take full advantage. I refuse to be a sucker anymore. so, trust me you're not alone.
As a 59 year old man. I quit dating at 37. And it's absolutely the best thing I could of done for myself. No regrets here! Love my peace and serenity and privacy and money!!!!
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I humbly submit that the best thing you could _have_ done for yourself is take an English class. Yes, I'm an asshole... I know that already. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My last LTR started at ~40 and it lasted for a little more than a decade. It just fizzled out and thankfully we never got hitched or had any children. It just all seems like a waste of time, unless your goal is children. I do miss having a dinner/pub/travel buddy, but the thought of dealing with all the ancillary things that come with female companionship. . . it's just not worth my effort right now. Maybe it'll change, but I doubt it. I'm 53 now and life seems good.
I checked out of dating in my late 20's when a bunch of ex's and old flings contacted me randomly. It was 5 of them within a month or two time frame. I figured out what was going on. They were hitting the wall and wanted a husband to bail them out of debt and so they didn't have to work a job anymore. It disgusted me. If a woman didn't want me in her prime then she doesn't deserve me in her decline. I've also got too comfortable being single. Inviting a Western woman into my life will be a net negative. Too risky.
@@HauntedCadaver not necessary since you dont know if she would have wanted him in her prime the rule only works for women who he knows in their prime who rejected him and then come back to get that husband who would provide for them so i do think its a good rule, just dont be to strict with strangers as like you said they might be the one that actually cares and is the right fit for you
My reason is simple: I think a lot of women are crazy, straight up, and I don't want to risk getting into a relationship with someone who could ruin my life, when everything is going good for me, because I'm a guy in his 20s who got an IT degree, and can already buy a car he likes, but enjoys spending time with his family, friends, or being in peace, usually playing a videogame. Girls, instead of being people who could provide more peace, tend to be the opposite, and they see problems where there's non. It's not that I want to avoid all type of problems. Some problems lead to good things, but when you start seeing problems that are not there, I feel like you're making me waste my time. I don't want a girlfriend with a degree or even a job. I don't care. I just want someone who's good looking and has a good chill personality, and who wouldn't ruin my life just because we're breaking up and she's pissed. Every girl is good at pretending they have good personalities for long periods of time, so you may not know where you're getting into until it's to late. The thing is: getting casual sex by going to clubs and parties, and getting girls numbers to always have someone you can spend a night or day with, with no commitments, is far to easy. What can a girlfriend give me that it's worth all the drama? Take company and sex with a hot person out of the equation and they are fawked (not literally. That's not happening). They want to own you, not be with you, so they don't even understand what they should bring to the table.
The last date I went on we talked for a month and went out twice. I payed for everything both times. We had a great time and we we're planning on going out a 3rd time but I straight up asked her are you attracted to me and 30 minutes of avoiding the question later she says no. But she really like talking to me and hanging out. I haven't talked to her since. Lately it's been a lot of girls who don't know how to make friends or hate their current friends and use dating apps to get someone to be their friend with a relationship as bait.
Good list. Women don't seem to realize that treating men like this can actually be mentally and emotionally traumatic. We don't talk about it, we just go our own way and stop being available. Better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel alone.
Amen brother! I honestly have no friends, my family im not close too since they kind of sided with my ex for a while. Still don't feel as bad as I did when I was married! I did have friends but she got jealous and nagged all the time and we lost touch
@@BlazeBuds I hate that you're dealing with that, but I totally understand. What I can say is that what is taken wrongfully will be given back. You just have to keep pushing. God bless you, and I wish you the best!
yes. I was in a relationship 7 year ago for 3 years and then suddenly I was out of work for 6 months. and i normally would nail interviews and get job offers, but because of the constant arguing and fighting (for NO valid reason whatsoever with my ex now) i would just fail these interviews. So I has to sit her down and say. "STOP fighting with me, what is the matter with you???" I need to get work, but because of your toxic energy I cant focus. She stopped it, and in that week I have the job I have now, and then I realise.....I need to let her go. So I did.....I've been happily employed and single for 7 years now. Very happy, living on the beach have a great life. Women like to blame men for their insecurities when we are busy nursing our OWN negative delusions of our own. Single is better. Be!! your OWN special someone. 🥰
This is what I get out of not dating or anything past it :- 1 peace and quiet 2 no hassles 3 go where and when I choose 4 watch what I want 5 get up or go to bed when I want 6 see whom ever I want 7 not having to live up to someone else''s standards 8 not needing any ones permission for anything 9 not having to put up with women's hypocrisy 10 not having to put up with untrue accusations, lying, cheating and back stabbing
I want to share my success story in case it helps any of you guys out there feeling this way. At 31 I chose to step back and be single. (After a string of disastrous relationships and a divorce) It was a peaceful and content 5 year period. Eventually the right woman found me and drug me kicking and screaming into a relationship. I was very hesitant to give up my peace and quiet, and control over my life to someone else again. But she made the effort. That was the only way it was going to happen. We’ve been married since 2015 and I wouldn’t go back to being single for anything. Moral of the story: you won’t have to sacrifice anything once the right woman finds you. She will only add to your happiness. 2 things to think about: If she says she needs “someone” then it’s not you. She’ll always be looking for wherever the grass is greener. Run! Don’t miss out on the right woman by letting others tell you what you should want. She may not be what you though you would want. There are a whole lot of kind and thoughtful women out there who want to be a partner rather than a dependent. And it’s so worth the wait to find them.
Either you're lucky or attractive (or both) and she's definitely "ONE" in a million. No good thing on Mother-Earth falls into place automatically. Someone has to work for it, put lot of efforts into it to make things happen. Don't give average guys false hopes.
@@navaarunbhattacherjee4511 it definitely takes effort to keep it once you find it. I’m pretty average in most every way. 5’ 8” and not especially fit. Other than the musician thing. I’m a 7 on stage and a 5 in the streets. Lol But she would consider herself to be average as well. We are equals in most every way. The secret is to be happy with that. To not let your natural programing to make you stray. Or make you want something else. After being together for over a decade, we still love being around each other. All the time. It does exist. Just don’t fail to see it if your eyes don’t pop out of your head immediately. Those things fade. What’s left is what’s important. What will it be like to sit in your rocking chair next to this person at 75? That’s what should really matter.
@@polpol1005true.....🤔but NO ONE needs a partner that is toxic to them, whether male or Female......your partner needs to be a benefit to you....and vice versa
I've found its nearly impossible to compete with 1) what she gets from society by default, 2) what she gets from random "guy friends" in her life, and 3) her past.
Please for your sake don’t date a girl who has guy friends. If someone is attractive to you, and you talk for long enough, those feelings will disrupt your relationship. It’s such an obvious fact, and so find a woman with high morals who respects this fact.
@KallutoZoldyck I don't like it any more than the next guy, but expecting someone to give up/actively refuse friendship from 50% of humanity is just not realistic. What's important is how she manages those friendships and prevents them from being sources of suspicion and mistrust.
@@KallutoZoldyck high morals? girls like this dont exist & doesnt matter if she has male or female friends either way get someone who isnt easily led by lies & deciet
I'm definitely done with dating for these reasons mostly. The clincher was finally realizing women do not love men for who they are, but for what they can provide.
Yeah. That is what I have learned too. Men want a friend and loyal companion, and that’s what they fall in love with. Women want a multitool to help accomplish all their needs, goals, and future ideals, and when the tool is no longer useful to those things, the appeal goes away. Of course this isn’t true in all cases, but as a generalization it seems to apply often enough to notice the trend.
Thankfully I learned this very valuable lesson when I was young, in my late teens, so I haven't been drained of money or sanity by a woman. I decided to just stay single because women are just not worth the risk or effort.
If it's not safe to be vulnerable with someone, then it is by definition a toxic relationship. And it seems the large majority of women expect this kind of toxic relationship
For some reason, Emily never mentions divorce, loosing half of the assets, and having to pay the spousal support for years if she earned less than her husband. Marriage (and even common law partnership in some jurisdictions) can literally ruin a man financially. His ex-wife can become his most vicious enemy in the divorce court. We do not want any more enemies than we already have, especially enemies who can legally send us to live under the bridge.
The really scary part is how that's someone who you're supposed to trust with your life, someone who you're supposed to give your all to, someone who you're supposed to have faith in, and they can completely trash all of that for their ends.
Yeah, but thats marriage, the topic here is just dating. We already know marriage is a scam for men. Thing is, we reached the point where even dating is not worth anymore.
I'm divorced and I did try to date, but it was complicated and no one ever panned out, so I quit trying and started focusing on my career. I'm 45yrs old though, women want younger dudes. No one will notice that I'm off the market. Let the youngsters figure it out. I tried and failed. I'm done. Its not worth the effort. Effort is worth it at work. At least good performance at work pays off and gets rewarded. I worked my way up to management. So forget the girls and keep grinding until I can retire.
I bought a couple of six packs and went to visit my friend John, who lives on a farm. Eventually, he invited me to see something out in his pig pen. He opened a bottle of beer, and held it down to the sow. She tipped the bottle down, and chugged it, then squealed happily, ran in circles, and came back to us. I opened another bottle and gave it to her. Again the kicking her heels, running and squealing. I told John, "That pig shows more appreciation, enthusiasm, and joy, than any woman I ever bought a beer in a bar. There is a hint in this story as to why some men no longer date. Can you find it?
Men's expectations of women when dating for longer than a night: Make effort with appearance Be nice Have some dignity and show theres a chance of true exclusivity Else: Be hot cause we dont really care we know you're just worth a night Women's expectations of men when dating: Be an 8, 9 or 10 but not a fk boi no matter what attractiveness score she is herself Make effort with appearance But make sure not to overdo it or she'll think you're desperate Know current fashion trend and pick the correct ones that she likes in particular Be nice But not too nice But also be an exciting bad boy Be trustworthy But also be mysterious Be exciting and don't act too seriously But also be mature Make her laugh But show her you can be serious when you need to be Show her your sentimental side But be stong and emotionally stable Pay for everything But ensure she doesn't feel like you're implying she wont pay Be chivalrous But be careful you don't do too much chivalry such that you're chauvanistic Be polite to other people you meet But show her you're the boss Show her you're alpha male But don't show off Compliment her But don't be a creep Be bigger than average downstairs and be toned But have zero preferences for an ideal woman's body Agree with everything she says But be your own person Be ambitious and work focussed But spend time with her at the drop of a hat Earn a ludicrous salary But see you will have plenty of time to help with housework, take the dog for a walk, take her to posh restaurants, spend time with the kids etc Work miracles But expect nothing back from her for being a literal god
The #1 reason I stopped dating is because if you both end up having consensual sex, the woman can just wake up the next day and say you raped her and now your life is ruined. Its also legal for women to have sex with an inebriated man but its not legal for a man to have sex with an inebriated woman. The Amazon show called "Upload" had a great scene where both man and woman had to put these recording devices on their chest and say to each others cameras that they consent to having sex with each other. I'm starting to think that that's the only way for men to protect themselves these days because society will ruin a man based off of nothing but a statement from a woman, but when men are sexually assaulted we are laughed at and told to 'man up' from the very same women who demonize men for the actions those women do on a daily basis in the dating scene. TLDR: It's not safe to date anymore.
Emily you are so spot on about dating that I am just going to focus on med school. The “peace” you spoke about I have just recently discovered is so precious and sweet. 😊
Like many men I grew up with this grand plan to find a soul mate and wife and maybe have a family. Disney movies and society constantly pitched this amazing idea to me and I really looked forward to it. Got married at 23 and after a year she cheated and became a different person. That was over 10 years ago and while we get along for the kid I've just never been the same. Two serious relationships since that were disappointing and watching friends and family go through similar nightmares... just no. Not doing it again. The magic is gone. Women are not what I was led to believe and it's not worth the hurt.
@John_Wood_ No, he ghosted her the same day she told him that I found out. Turns out he was also in a relationship. My ex wife told me years later that she made sure his partner found out about her. Two families torn apart over nothing.
I feel ya, it’s crazy how many broken people there are out there! You’ve delt w/it and no longer believe the BS society spreads on us from an early age, it’s 90% Santa Clause out there, don’t get trapped fellas!!!
Facts bro. I used to be in that same mentality. But like you said….. the hurt is not worth it. Especially with how modern day women are now a days. Just have more than 1 and keep them all in the sex only category
After 10 years of not dating, I got a girls number, after a chat I asked her out for coffee. She went incommunicado for 36 hours. When she resurfaced, she actually says sorry. She tells me she is bipolar and had a depressive episode. After a few back and forth a she says she is still not over her ex. And later she tells me she can’t control her substance use (alcohol). She’s interested but I’m not anymore…
I am in my 70’s and was very happily married until my husband passed away! Semi-retired Social Worker and Clinical Therapist - work in Aboriginal/Criminal Justice for 40+ years! To find a loving loyal spouse here are a few tip for single people! 1. First dates should be coffee dates - spend an hour or two learning about each other 2. Second and third date- coffee, a walk, talk about films, music, art, politics, religion, 3. Coffee & talk about pressing concerns - health matters 4. Talk about getting in shape or staying healthy - goals etc… 5. Engage in a walk, bowling, archery, paint ball - a physical activity you both enjoy 6. Learning plans - books etc 7. Do not hook up with anyone you have NOT known for at least 6 months 8. Wear minimal makeup, keep your car clean, be freshly groomed, modestly dressed and do not gossip nor complain about your exes 9. Put as much effort in as you did on the first date! Do not go on a dinner date without knowing the other person for at least 3 months 10. Put as much work into meeting your significant other as you would into any other activity you expect high returns from! Hook ups are here today and gone tomorrow! Good luck! 🦅☀️🦅👵🏽✌🏾🦅☀️🦅💚
Excellent advice, and the first part especially applies to the men, too. Also, stay off the screens : you’re not actually dating unless nearly 100% of your communication is done face to face. If the young woman insists on going to a fancy and expensive restaurant early on, then be strong and let her go (explaining your reasons would be even better). If she doesn’t understand then run, you just dodged a bullet. I find that too many young women (like 28-40) just try to seduce men with their looks but they have little substance. It’s tempting for a man but you’ll have to decide what is more important for you. That’s some of the advice that I’m telling my son.
As a man who has stopped dating in the traditional sense, you are spot on. For me its a combo of your top 3 reasons. Currently, my biggest reason is your #1. My life is way too comfortable to introduce a woman into it who could very realistically ruin that comfort.
My problem with dating is how much I have to invest just to get nothing back. Im out here taking the woman on date's, telling her jokes, funny stories, I buy her gifts every now and then and in return I get women who can barely hold a conversation and I'm always the one who has to initiate everything. Like why am I out here always on, always putting my best foot forward if a woman can't be bothered to give a quarter of yhat effort back? If its just that she's not interested she could save me the time by telling me instead of stringing me along. Glad I went my own way im 2019, women waste so much of men's time, affection and money its unreal.
Most people are only interested in their own life. Start with that assumption from now on. If you find somebody who isn't like that, you'll know. Don't let them go.
It sounds like you are mostly picking the wrong women then in most cases.. I mean, if you are meeting these women and then have to initiate everything and carry 100% of the conversations and you are buying them gifts then I’m curious as to what drew you to her in The first place..? I mean, if there isn’t a little effort on the woman’s part then I’m not about to buy them anything or take them Anywhere
I think you’re approaching it the wrong way. Why does it take effort? What are you compensating for? Having a conversation should be effortless it implies you’re performing to get something which might be why they don’t stick around. Look at the insecurities of being yourself around a woman without pretending, there’s gold to be uncovered there.
@@callum7081 I think you missed the point, the complaint was not that the girls won't stick around, its was that they won't give HIM a reason to stick around, and to keep doing all of those things that they like him doing for THEM. He's already uncovered the gold, which is to not waste time, attention, and resources on parasites.
Totally agree, especially with number one. I’ve been in 2 relationship/marriages since I was 17. I’m enjoying my peace and solitude. I am financially stable, own a nice house and have absolutely no debt. I dated for awhile the first year of my separation but it was very unappealing for lack of a better or lengthy description. I haven’t actively dated for almost 3 years now. I bought an RV and plan to travel for a year to start and see how it goes. I no longer see a woman as adding to or improving my life, I see the opposite. Still open to finding someone that is a plus but it’s not looking so likely. Thanks for the video and for keeping optimism alive by showing some women do see what society (related to women) has become.
I knew a woman who was 33 recently divorced, had me in the friendzone while simultaneously in a situation ship w a guy for going on a year… thank god I figured out my self worth and walked away from that. Yikes.
@@Kurio71 she had originally told me she had broken up w someone when we first started the talking phase. That phase went on for like 3 months and someone let slip ‘she had a boyfriend or something’ and she said to me ‘I thought you would hate me, and my simp ass said nah. It’s fine, I’m not the jealous type.’ So basically I friend zoned my self. It went on for another two months before the friendzone became unbearable and I left. It’s been about a year now since I stopped all communication.
I've never, in my entire life, had a woman make my life easier. not once. The peace I've found being single is amazing. Edit: Just so we're on the same page. I'm not anti-women. I've known some great female friends and coworkers and I'm certain there are more out there like Emily whom are very pleasant to be around. I was only stating a fact about my personal history. I'm not trying to stereotype every human with XX chromosomes, and I certainly don't have any hate towards them. My only distaste is for the society that we've collectively become today.
While women may not have made your life easier you have to admit that you’ve still had good times with women right? I mean, reading This comment section you’d think all dating and relationship(and women period) are just bad bad bad. I think some guys are falling into a negative echo chamber
@@brianmeen2158 It's not an echo chamber. It's like attracting like. i.e. If you are angry and negative all the time then that's the kind of people you'll attract. If you're only interested in shallow shit you're going to attract shallow people. Sadly most men won't work on themselves outside of the usual refrain of being a moneymaking gym-rat. Then they wonder why they get lust-driven gold-diggers?!?!
You expecting a woman to make your life easier is the equivalent of a girl wanting a guy who earns 200k and spend all of it on her. A good relationship requires both to sacrifice a lot of their freedoms. Suddenly there is a person that cares so much about you, that she feels worried if you don't text her your location at least once a day. You need to think about the feelings and needs of 2 persons (at first, family inc). Your behavior and reputation does not effect only you anymore. Your plans always involve two instead of one person. And much more. What you get for it is affection, love and perspective in life. If you meet the right women you don't care about a simple easy life anymore, you start to think about the future.
I once was told by my then girfriend "I want you to make me happy". Which goes completely against how I look at life and relationships. I think everyone is responsible for their own happiness and its wonderful to be able to share that happiness with a partner in a relationship. Obviously when needed, you help eachother, support eachother in times of need and motivate eachother to achieve personal goals, but you can not hold the other responsible for your happiness. Its not my job to make you happy, but I'll share my happiness with you and share in your happiness with you
I was just broken up with because I found out she was texting and sending pictures to another guy while we were in a relationship for over a year. .. I confronted her about it, I was just an option. One silver lining I can take from it is that I didn't move in with her or get engaged ( we were talking about it ) . the struggle is real these days fellas.. Stay strong out there.
I was just a "hyperfixation". I'm much more reserved now. I want commitment and love. Not dealing with another problem. But i will no longer compromise for mediocre behaviour from women. I understand why women feel the same because there are some men out there that are very much snake oil salesmen.
@@user-tg7pi6lu6vYeah the bed boy is typically pretty open about who he is, it’s pretty obvious most of the time, not hidden, woman are just inevitably disappointed he stays exactly who he is and acts accordingly.
yes i know the type the compulsive liars that lie their way into the very girls life your interested in then to knock her up knowing you dont have a chance with her after that or get her hooked on illegal substances knowing that she'll get with you aswell as other lads at the same time to fund the habbit
You missed a gigantic one, since you've never been a man - being turned down when asking for a date. Eventually you get to the point where you no longer have the guts to ask unless she almost asks you first. But, fear not, many of us didn't walk away from dating - we just walked away from dating western women. 18 years ago, I met a woman from a very poor country in Eastern Europe and, after talking to her on the phone for a while and meeting her about midway between America and Eastern Europe, asked her to marry me. She's superior to 99.9% of western women in every way. She's polite. She's feminine. She doesn't play weird head games with me. She walked in the door of my (now our) home in America having been taught all the wifely skills long since by her mother. She didn't want to be equal. She didn't want to be a man. She didn't want a career. She just wanted to be a good wife and mother. By comparison with the way western wives treat their husbands, she treats me like a king. Parenthetically, when we visit her country, or have her family over to our home in America, they're always absolutely lovely to me. Bypassing western women after years of fruitless, painful, insulting dating is easily the best decision I ever made in my life.
@@anonmg1 What I did was 18 years ago, but there are agencies that match men with women from poor countries in Eastern Europe, Asia, and in the Philippines. I'm certainly not the authority. If you try it, be very careful and keep your eyes open, because I have no doubt there are some dishonest people out there.
After getting physically abused by my former wife just before the divorce I decided I'm not going to date a western woman that is close to my age. She either has to be foreign or very young with no baggage.
So true ! Nailed it Emily. I’ve been dating for 3 years now mostly on dating apps, it’s frustrating and draining to say the least. I’ve come to the conclusion that I will not meet the person I am looking for in my current life situation. I need to make big changes.
Im a 58 year old man who hasn't been on a date or shared my bed with a woman for 17 years, and the best advice i can give other men is get a good dog - they are the only creatures who will ever love you unconditionally.
I stopped dating back in 2015 and haven't touched a woman in about 8 years. I'm much happier now that I don't have to deal with the nonsense and frustration anymore. Social Media is a big reason why things have gotten very difficult for men, especially young men. If you don't make 6 figures, you're just average looking and don't have a high "social status" you're out of luck with women, unless you want to lower your standards quite a bit. But who wants to do that? Women certainly don't, and now men are just getting out completely. It will be interesting to see how all this affects our world in about 10-20 years. Way more single people, less families and less children. This sounds fine to me now, but it certainly could tilt the society and the economy in a rather negative direction.
Lowering your standards doesn't even help, at least if you are less than average on looks. No woman looks below a seven on looks - we that doesn't pass that doesn't even exist
One of the things that drives me up a wall is how guys are given a bad rep for communication issues, yet tons of women that I've met in my adult life are just as bad, if not worse. It's like women are being trained to justify their inability to have healthy, adult conversations because men, "might" react badly. Pro tip: most guys are actually reasonable people. Treat us with respect like an adult and we'll probably do the same for you. If you assume we are guilty until proven innocent, you are probably going to create the issues that you are trying to avoid. Edit: The man usually gets blamed for the problems that are created by communication failures too, creating a lot of the frustration that manifests in behavior that perpetuates the cycle. Good relationships start and end with trust, compromise and a willingness to understand each other. Anything less is likely to cause problems.
100% I'm over 3 years single since my last actual, bonafide relationship and all the reasons you listed are exactly why I remain single. I've attempted to date several times and its either the unrealistic expectations, the lack of effort, the inability to give any sort of real commitment has really turned me off from it and forced me to take a few steps back from it.
You bring up many valid points and reinforces what I've been experiencing. Yes, peace in my life is paramount. Life is too short dealing with the unneeded chaos and I'd rather be totally on my own than being subjected to it. By the way, your demeanor and honesty are most appreciated and find your laugh endearing. I hope one day I can find someone like you!
I stopped trying 10 years ago. It’s a GAME you will never win. I’m single,happy and I’m living a good life. I just want to thank the women who expose the pure EVIL that resides in women and helping men such as myself avoid this insanity.
The big one that was missed is that a lot of men have seen other men get absolutely wrecked ( emotionally and/or financially ) by relationships or marriage. this may be there friends or family. Maybe even their fathers. Some take the attitude of "I'm not going to let that happen to me!".
4 divorced friends. 4 initiated by the wife. 4 this pattern: Wife needs more stuff, Husband works harder, Wife "feels neglected." 4 planned their divorce months or years ahead. 3 wives cheated. 4 men lost their homes and savings. 7 kids lost their fathers. 4 women single and lonely. 3 men single and "happy" for life. 1 man remarried. We'll see about him.
@@bazookacat8421Yep, basically all my male friends and family have been screwed over by their wives. Everyone wants to point out that it happens to women too but I think it's different, such as the case with my aunt who married a known player who straight up told her he never really wanted to be married or have kids yet she manipulated him into doing it anyway and he obviously cheated on her but yet she's still the victim despite passing up countless good men for the bad boy. Combined with my bad experiences dating, I basically can't trust women anymore - they almost scare me now as I practically equate them with all the horrible things I've seen done to my fellow men! They're like Black Widows!
Yes, absolutely. When I was eighteen an uncle of mine went through an ugly divorce. This included a child custody war. Years later when I asked why his marriage failed I was told that the former wife was unfaithful. Some of the worst female infidelity I heard about was when I was in the Navy. I heard about so many cases of divorce, abandonment, and adultery. Much of this happened well after the ship got underway. Over the years I have kept both my ears and my eyes open regarding this matter. As a result I have avoided the heartaches and headaches that's so many other guys have been through.
1) I'm done hearing constantly how it's all my fault for EVERYTHING 2) I'm done hearing the words 'bare minimum' coming towards me when I can't even get that 3) I'm done hearing 'nothing. I'm fine.' When clearly nothing is fine 4) I'm tired of being looked at like I'm literally made of money..what happened to sense of humor? Self respect? Being a gentleman? Intelligence? Being good looking? 5) Me being alone brings me less stress than being in a relationship
I'm single and have been off of dating apps for about 18 months. And, I have honestly never been happier. There's way too much dishonesty out there. I just don't want to deal with it.
The last time I went out on a date, she wasn't concerned about who I was or what I did for a living or where I saw myself in 5 years. She was concerned with the following: 1) How much $$$$ do I have in the bank? 2) What can I provide for her? 3) Where is my car and what kind of car is it? Keep in mind, this is the 1st time I even met this woman in person and that is how she started off. After #3, I just walked off and didn't look back.
@@desperateneedofscotch HA! We didn't even get that far. As I recall, she and I were at the entrance of a good food spot and that's when she asked me those questions.
I'm middle-aged, divorced, highly educated, sapiosexual, and into creative pursuits (Venus in Aquarius). I'm done dating for the following reasons: - Finding a mind mate has been a very difficult challenge - Women trying to control me, constantly nagging and limiting my freedom to pursue hobbies/interests - Disagreements about money management and spending money - Women who are flaky and poor communicators - Those who want a traditional, routine life - Ignoring self-care and not living a healthy lifestyle (diet and exercise) I'm happier just doing my own thing without all of these unnecessary stressors in a relationship.
Keep up the great videos this stuff is very true I was dating an ex for 1 year I stuck it out with her with her trauma and difficult issues mental issues I was her rock as soon as I faced tough times she gave up on me started fighting and nit picking everything I did lost respect for me I new the time was coming it was a tough pill to swallow and I even wondered did she even like me as much as I did and showed her sad world we live in now adays more woman should listen to what other woman have to say about these issues cause although tough times are good and make you better some people deal with things differently and it could break them and in turn all these things make it almost impossible to trust again 💯
I stopped due to lack of reciprocation, and stupid games. Granted, getting to the dating stage is tough because of the unrealistic expectations. I have found since I paused that I have found so much peace and saved so much money, that it makes it tough to wade back into the thick of it. I hope there are women like you describe. I think they are probably like the good guys though; either with someone already, or stopped dating. Thank you, Emily. I appreciate your content and the work you put in. Positive thoughts for your world.
They really don't want "good guys". They date and sex up the real jerks first. Then when it turns into a disaster for her. She lets the experience sour her feelings for men in general. I have seen this SO - MANY - FREAKIN - TIMES I stopped counting a long time ago.
I agree that no one should lead anyone on. Be up front. If you aren't feeling it. Just be real say I don't see you as my type but be nice and maybe if your mature be friends not with benefits but you can be friends too .
I've worked with primarily women for almost thirty years so I've seen and heard all the B.S. and it truly ticks them off when a man knows their truth. But one of the things you hear a lot is the old trope: "Where have all the good men gone?" When I hear this my response is simple. I ask them when they thought good men roamed the earth in the limitless herds they seem to think existed and they always answer with something like, "well, like back in my grandparents or great grand parents time." To which I then reply, "Okay, now ask yourself this, what were the women like then?" It either shuts them up immediately or the really dumb ones say, well, why does that matter? Children want things without consideration for their role in why they should or shouldn't have them. We expect this but then we expect people to grow up and understand they play a part in how they are treated and what they receive from life. But an unfortunately large percentage of women are no longer growing up. They are lifetime children and victim mentality hypocrites. Younger men are going this path as well just not quite in the same percentages.
I don’t date because I constantly feel like I’m being tested/evaluated. I have everything I need and don’t need the extra drama. I do what I want Guys, NEVER make a first date expensive. Coffee and talk is fine.
Guarantees of marriage: 1. The sex will stop 2. Man just signed off 1/2 of his fortune to her 3. She's guaranteed alimony from him until the day she dies 4. Any children the couple may have, she will get custody. 5. If fighting turns physical and the police get involved, the man is at fault by default 6. She will take your kids, tell them that you are evil/abusive, and keep them from you for years while you are stuck paying for everything. 7. She can also them a new dad and the courts won't do anything about that either! 8. Never enter into a contract where one party is rewarded for breaking it Men aren't afraid of marriage. They're terrified of divorce
Did this twice... No more wives, or house payments... She's either on board or she's gotta go... Expectations, I'm upfront with those, too. Passport is coming next if there's a non compliant pattern emerging...
I get zero interest on dating sites, and I don't meet women in my day to day life. I see no point in bothering, when I already know there's zero interest.
Even when there's lots of interest, it doesn't make much difference unless you're as superficial as they are. Yeah, swipe right; swipe left; that takes a depth of soul. As a counselor told me, there are a lot of shallow people in the world. I liked that - she wasn't sugar coating the situation. People who aren't shallow are married or know that who they want in life is going to be hard to find.
You need to try s as bf approach women in public then. Do many guys solely rely on dating apps and I don’t get it.. just try to approach for a few weeks and see what happens
Well done , 100% spot on!! It's getting hard to find someone to even have a conversation with! I'm done with trying to mesure up to the social media mob think!! I'm going to get a cat. MUCH MORE PEACEFUL!!!!
I’m 25 and dating at my age is exhausting. It’s depressed, overweight, lack of personality or liberal women. A majority of women seem to have no charm, no charisma, no substance to them anymore, they live off looks and don’t have to work very hard for a man’s attention. I’d rather work on myself and not have to deal with the heartbreak or rejection. I feel like I can never attract women I actually find attractive. In conclusion, talking/dating with women just brings more sadness than happiness. That’s why I’m going my own way.
My reason for not dating is the lack of 1) care and concern for their partner 2) they end the relationship,situationship, friendship so quickly for no reason 3) alot of women do hate men for no reason especially if they compare us to someone from their past 4) they cheat too easily and lack of loyalty 5) mental issues are expected to be accepted 6) his ambition factor doesn't equal my actual income factor 7) single women make other women single and sadly I've met and dated many plus they listen to social media even account for my sign..... 8) many want a chad but don't even deserve the average guy
many of those points are nonsense. And it's easy to blame others for your problems... reading this is seems like u r kind of perfect guy but they end relationships for no reason, they have mental problems, they lack care... yeah not buying it.
@@polpol1005 bullshit, all of that happens everyday. Ask many ex husbands out there, they could sit there and name many times their ex wives did all that shit
@@polpol1005 you mean their methed up wives who got that way the minute their husbands turned their backs? STFU dude, quit simping. It wasn't so good and it was their fault. Most of the time its the dude's fault, he was beating or cheating on her. I know so many women who will destroy their lives over a little lonliness guys endure everyday.
This is 100% accurate!!!! 36 yr old, successful guy, I exceed ALL the 6’s and believe me, it doesn’t make it any easier. I get asked by women all the time “why are you single?” and this is exactly why!! If I’m doing everything i can to better myself, think of myself as a 10, and think of you as a 6-7 but I’m still not good enough, nahhh… throwing my hands up on that one. It’s gotten to the point where I make a conscious, concerted effort to avert my gaze from all beautiful women in public. I won’t give them the satisfaction and they’re going to have to beg for it or I’ll stay enjoying my singularity.
100%...it is incredible how much they seek attn.....am older than you but all the same.....even with their bf ir hubby and they can't help from trying to get attn from other men.....pay no mind to em
It's not you? Some women are just evil, greedy, their leave their husbands and children to marry some old guy with money? They always think having money, material posessions buy you happiness? Just talk to some famous and, successful people? They still get cheated on.
Honestly that’s why I married a woman older than me from Mexico it’s just much more reasonable expectations I think of myself as a 7 or 8 but she thinks I’m a 10 in fact she thinks she’s not good enough for me and I do my best to show her that she is the woman I want to be with
I think social media the internet ruined dating for ever. There is no more spontaneity where people just meet randomly and form a bond. Everything is calculated now. It sucks but it’s the truth. People have these unrealistic expectations because they are using social media that’s setting the bar.
I stopped after being cheated on yet again 8 years ago. Been living my life doing what I want, when I want, my money is mine, and I live in peace and quiet. You couldn't pay me to date ever again 😂
They could pay me enough to date again! And it wouldn't have to be a lot either. Heck, if it got right down to it, I'd be satisfied with dating someone that would just pay for her own way!
I am done with women. Yes, that includes sex and I am 42. I've been burned way too much. Hell I would be better off if I regendered myself as a Gay Arborsexual Toaster Oven. At least I WOOD be happier and there are so many single Douglas Furs out there. I sneeze with giddy lust.
Being tossed away after 3 months like literal trash after hearing her say the "i love you" and then seeing her with a new boyfriend a few days later, is the reason i will never waste my time falling in love again, and to be honest im so dead inside after all these years, im probably incapable of love, she took that part from me all those years ago and stamped it out dead
Words are cheap, even when they profess love, their actions always show the actual them to you. Whether its leaving, cheating, entitlement or just pure laziness. Just watch the reality, ignore the words, it will keep you saner, the actions are more honest.
Women are making a point of treating men like crap at the outset of the relationship and then expecting men to stick around so they can be treated even worse as the relationship progresses. Men are starting to figure this out.
I suggest just dating very casually and letting the women know up front what your goal is . I don’t think most men can truly live a “100% single which means no dating or hookups ever” life.. it’s just not realistic for men or women - we are hard wired to seek out a partner
@@brianmeen2158well we can, I'm a 24 yr man and I've been single my entire life No matter how I improve I am constantly told I'm to ugly or my face is creepy and I'll never get a date, fuck my personality and values It's pretty easy when you dont have a choice
@@notrelatedtobacon1282exactly mate that's what these J Waller and Tate brothers wannabes don't get if it was as simple as just going to the gym and getting money you wouldn't have Incels or lonely guys we don't look like those guys and never will no matter how many weights we lift or benchpresses we do
From my prospective, most women are NOT in a relationship for the lifelong commitment. Its about what they can get from a man, and when that isn't enough, they break their promises to their man and God, walk away and "rinse and repeat" over and over until they are no longer attractive and then spend the second half of their lives bitter, complaining and alone. They have no one to blame for their choices but themselves. There is a good side to all of this. LOTS of cats are going to find homes....
You are 100% correct on the date, drop, date - rinse and repeat method the majority of women use. They will lie about a long term commitment. They are only trying to maximize their 'profit' and benefits from a union and have already an exit plan well ahead of what you are thinking. The ones that are relatively ugly will try to accomplish their goals before 30, and the ones that were beautiful will delude themselves to try and stay in the 'freeloading grifter zone' into their 50s.
I'll be honest, I'm scared of getting back into dating. After a really bad experience living with a toxic ex/co-parent, I don't think I have the heart to go through it again.
Best advice I can give to men (and I follow it myself) - just be yourself and don't try to impress women. If woman don't like you for who you trully are - she just isn't for you. If 0 women like you - that's their problem, not your. Just live your best life and do whatever you want.
Thank you Emily for your valuable, constructive and purposeful comments regarding dating/relationship topics about men & women. In this video you have unfortunately & accuratley described these results. I have stopped dating or being in a relationship now 13yrs ago; rather focusing my time, energy, funds, attention and efforts in my career & business. Your comments clearly describe what has been my entire life wishing for a positive, loving & awesome relationship with a likeminded patner ending in being used & abused everytime leaving me broke & broken. I would however, like to shange this condition (someday) but the optics of current trends, behaviors and simply lack of depth clearly justifies my solitary choice. I'd greatly welcome further discussion/observation & options on this social pandemic. Thank you Emily.
I got into credit card debt when i attempted dating with good intentions in my 20s . It got me no where, women just took advantage and just on went onto the next guy and dried up their resources as well. Its totally my fault too. I overspent because I thought I had to. I thought i wasn't man or good enough if i didn't. Society echos this very loud to men.
Yep we all fall into this trap bro. Truth is, if a girl is rely interested she won't require a cent spent on her and in actual fact won't have any issues paying for you or traveling hours to see you
I don't normally watch this kind of content on TH-cam but I found your video by accident and I 100% agree with you. I'm 37 and quit dating 2 years ago. I put a lot of time and effort into my past relationships and all of them just brought more stress and difficulty. I have a great life, good career that I love, strong (albeit small) family and amazing friends. I cook, clean, sew up my own clothes (if I can suture surgical wounds I can sew buttons back on my clothes!) work on the cars, weld broken fences, you name it. No reason to complicate life with people who aren't in it to "build" a solid life together. Cheers! (Great channel btw)
*Youi nailed it! I do everything also and I'm quite happy going/living solo! I have a great friggin' life actually and I'm at a great point in my life. Cheers man!*
@@flushtheglobalists7962. I would recommend young guys to try and approach and date and see what happens. There are people that still have success in the dating market .. even if it doesn’t work out then they can still claim they at least tried
Not dating anymore because I'm tired of being "Good Luck Chuck". After so many relationships lasting a year or even more (longest was 6 and I was ready to marry her, even spent 4k on an engagement ring) and every one of them cheating on me then marrying the guy that they cheated with.. I'm just done. So my issues are as listed: lack of communication, not being treated like I'm appreciated, and the dishonesty and lack of loyalty. I'm still traight but fornthe most part the thought of women just makes me sick.
My biggest reason for no longer dating is not on this list. It is simply loyalty. Many modern women do not have any idea what it means to be loyal to a partner. They cheat and are way to self entitled. For example they are convinced that they rate much higher than they really do. Treat men very poorly. Another one that is really important that is not on this list is respect. There are levels of respect and some should be from the start and some to be earned. For example a mutual respect from the start is need in things such as expectations. You get what you give if you want things to work out kind of idea. Treat the person you are dating as you expect them to treat you. In the dating rule for modern women there is no longer the golden rule(do unto others as you would like done to you). Pretty simple and unless you are a simp, you will not accept anything less than loyalty and respect(both given and received by both parties). So if you can't respect the other person or they can't or won't respect you then the relationship is a non-starter.
I don't know how old you are, but I'm in ny 50s. Back in the 80s and 90s the women weren't like this....pre social media of course. It is actually quite disturbing to see how completely self absorbed and toxic most have become, which is really what you are describing. My experience has been the same. MGTOW. If an actual good one comes along, I'm not opposed to the idea, but I don't put any effort into it anymore. Not worth it. Frankly, most women today are just awful company....boring, shallow, vain, self centered, etc.
Holy crap both of you are spot on. I am not sure women were that different in the 80s and 90s, my first girlfriend in the mid 90s wanted to have sex, i was not ready to yet, so she went and slept with my buddy that night, and every since then, almost every girlfriend has cheated on me. They see us as temporary and there is no commitment like you said. No loyalty. But men are expected to sit in the corner and not even look in another woman's general direction.
Tbh both genders tend to treat the other badly quite often. We live in a very selfish society and it’s all about the other person fulfilling their needs. I just don’t like the generalizing of one group or gender as broken or bad. We don’t like when radical feminists do it so we shouldn’t be doing it either. Plus I notice more and really bitter men in these comment sections and that’s not good. I totally understand guys that want to go their own way but to constantly slander the opposite sex is just wrong
I don't treat women poorly, but I sure have been treated badly. The number of women I know that treat men with any respect and loyalty I can count on one hand. The number of loyal, loving, and respectful men I know by far outnumber the women. So yeah I can say what I do from personal experience. We are going to have to agree to disagree.@@brianmeen2158
I think the main reason I pretty much quit dating (or at the very least stopped looking) is because the world seems to have this type of mentality: If you like a girl, but don't ask her out, you're a coward, and shall be treated as such. If you like a girl and ask her out, but she says no, you're a creep, and shall be labeled as such. If you like a girl and ask her out, and she says yes, you are a hostage. She can, at any time, for any reason, create a false accusation and destroy your existence as you know it. I'd rather be called a coward than a creep.
I'll never accept a women off the bat as a wife, fiancee or girlfriend. We could only be friends, my zodiac is cancer so I never go outside & don't like being outside, so if they don't come over to hang out, we can't even be friends. My uncle also lives at my house, he keeps the fake away.
Seeing all these fellow guys in the comments helps reassure that I'm not alone and it's not just me being unreasonable or something. I've been single for the last 12 years and I've had a lot of growth. I think it's important to note that many guys don't really recover from a blindside breakup; they move on. I still feel anxiety in the pit of my stomach when I occasionally think of what I felt when it happened. It's such a soul-shattering feeling and there really is no other pain like it. It was hard to breathe and I literally fell to the ground at the age of 18. I'm simply not willing to sign up for that level of internal anguish again. (Scorpio, if you believe that kinda stuff)
My wife and I are separated (living under one roof) she says she "lost herself" in the marriage because of my unreasonable demands. My demands were a date night once a week. She asked me to hang the clothes this morning - normally I'd be happy to do so - today I said, "I've lost myself in this house. I'm happy to live in this house and enjoy the benefits of it but I don't want to do any of the maintenance - it's oppressive and just not me ... me, me, me-me, me, me, me ... me,"
I stopped dating because I just couldn't get a match on dating sites or in real life by face to face interactions. There's having a thick skin and you develop that over time. You won't win at everything whether it's dating, jobs, sports, whatever. That's life, I get that part. Gotta roll with some things. But when you're constantly ignored...there's only so thick your skin can be. You start to internalize it. Yes, there's certain things men can do to be more attractive. I started at the gym 3 nights a week in May because I saw that I was overweight. I didn't like how I looked. Yes, there's the thought that "If I look better, I will get a potential match." But when you put in all this effort to get nothing back from the women you're interested in - yes, I have my standards in looks and personality - I'm not gonna date any woman who smiles at me - and get nothing back - it's not worth the effort anymore.
You are doing such good service and if there us some sense in your audience who are having relationship issues, can take cues and resurrect their relationship if they are willing. Respect!
Wife left me in 2005, took about a year to get over it. After that year of self reflection, I'm happy to say, I haven't dated one woman since she left me. And the thought of dating in today's world after watching all these unhinged women and the way they act, makes me sick to my stomach. Why would a man put themselves in a situation like this?
I was married twice and she asked me for marriage both times. I also was divorced twice, also her asking for it. Enough is enough. When a man goes through the divorce court ringer you realize its a rigged game. Done with females. I don't even stop and help a female with car trouble anymore and retired at 60. Peace and quite are underrated by most men. It's wonderful!
Females have an inflated view of who they are when most of them have very little to offer in a relationship - especially those that think they are hot looking! Their expectations are too high and their willingness to contribute is way too low. I agree with all 5 reasons Emily speaks about in this video. I see this in real life and on video interviews. It's disgusting. As a whole, our society is crashing in terms of morals, compassion, integrity, and giving back. Selfishness rules.
i saw your video and laughed so i watched it, the last one IS spot on! , what i found is that MOST people don't stay alone long enough to find themselves , since birth most have been in a relationship of one sort or another, but it takes quite a while ( three years in my case) to truly find themselves , who they are , what they like, etc. when you stop looking and enjoy your own peace there's nothing better, it's TRUE FREEDOM, and when someone does come along the first thing that comes to mind is " do i want to trade ALL THIS for another shot at a let down or hassle? and more often the answer is No! hell no! y'all have fun with it ! i'm out
When my wife of 31 years filed secretly for divorce,, I asked what was her reasone. She stated and I quote,"Fuck, I dont remember. I would have to read what I wrote." WTF!?
I stopped dating due to:
- Unrealistic expectations (on the girls part).
- Women never holding themselves accountable and rarely apologize.
- Women showing to much disrespect and selfishness.
- Women rarely showing gratitude or thanks for the things men do for them.
- Women's deep delusion and dishonesty.
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Beggars can't be choosers. It is as if "now has she, more than generously let you receive the great honor of her time, and then do you dare to not just being eternally grateful". She has settled down to your rather puny level, so how dare you not just understand that she is in fact doing you an almost super human favor?!
"rarely apologize"? You got one to apologize? Did you get it on video/audio so we may all bask in the magic?
Let's not forget the "Sh*t testing " too , to see how jealous or mad you can get.
@@friedmule5403 nope shes gold digging plain & simple
I'm gonna put my two cents here. I don't date because it's like going to an exam. No more friendly chat or anything similar. It's an exam and you feel like you're in front of an examining board. No thanks. I love the peace and quietness I have in my life. No shouting, no dramas, no accusations, no hissy fits. Just me, my little garden and my simple life.
Cons is you can't have a woman touch
@@fgor7312 You can buy that. Its even cheaper and way less time consuming than trying to get that by dating.
Job interview for a job you'll never get hey.
Hell yeah bro my garden is pure heaven on earth. What more could I possibly need??
@@fgor7312 You’ll really feel that gynocentric touch when she hits you with those divorce papers.
Dishonesty is a huge one. It's truly disgusting how many women will lie right to your face, or do it via omission.
And when they cheat they blame it on you. You weren't emotionally available. I had to find somebody else that was. Just say it you are horny.😂
They have to? If people know their true nature? They've had it?
@@paulrodriguez8852 if a woman told her man how many penis she's played with she'd no longer have her man
5 reasons why men like being single:
1) self respect
2) freedom
3) money
4) time for friends
5) time for self
True Story
Soooooo true👍
Where is your self respect when you are sexually abusing another person? Having sex with another person without loving them!? Same goes to women this list is unisex ! Nothing new here, accept you missed one sex, lust, and free time having sex with anyone and everyone that is the entire list.
Yup
My issue is never getting a date to begin with. When you're Bob Average rather than Chad, you're just ignored.
They won't return text messages, won't ask you about yourself, won't engage in conversation beyond one word answers or disinterested phrases. They look bored. Your self esteem can take a dive unless you've developed a thick skin.
They have a list of criteria longer than Chile for ordinary looking men. The minute Chad rocks up, it's drop that list and make it easy for him.
But here's the kicker:- if Chad ignores them, they appear on fucking Tik Tok and cry like a baby, expecting sympathy! Welcome to our world, darlings.
Yeah the dating world is a mess no wonder these women are single when they made this situation themselves feel like the dating world and women in general are stuck in the teenager phase
Developing a thick skin is almost a necessity for dating but then you have trouble shedding it when you need to. Everything in life is a trade off. A good woman who cares about you will understand that and make allowance for it instead of dumping you as quickly as possible. Believe it or not, women used to be good at relationships. No, really, I'm not making that up even if it does sound impossible.
There are Jill Average girls but modern feminism tells them that they are all tens and beautiful inside. As guys we know exactly where we stand or how we look but who can fight delusion?
These girls here just isn't worth it. For the best value woman that would be interested in you and love your average self.
1. Work on yourself, get to the gym, workout with a real program (full body 2x - 3x a week, upper lower 4 days a week, push pull legs 6 days a week). Get your diet in check and get yourself into good shape (12% - 15% body fat). Focus in on your hobbies that bring you joy.
2. Work on your wealth, for you. Get 2+ jobs if you need to, invest in real estate, dividends, something that has a real payout. Getting a YT channel going can also lead to a good income (if that is something you are interested in).
3. Get your passport, there are a lot of amazing women out there once you leave the west.
@@ThatDamnedGamer1I actually agree wholeheartedly with everything you said except the last note. Women these days are scuzzy everywhere.
I had a women who after the 4th date told me her expectations for gifts. She handed me a list of items she expected and wanted which included trips to Paris, Prada Purses, and weekly delivery of flowers.
A couple of days later I told her we are not a match, that night my social media blew up with her friends posting comments about me being a narcissist.
Lol, sounds like you dodged a massive bullet.
@@Dansyoungtriple bomb
U made the right choice
Her friends were just echoing her words about you that they heard when she gossiped after the breakup, and she was probably just saying that so she didn't look like loser in front of her friends. She had to deflect the blame onto you.
Typical of modern society, everyone wants to blame men for everything that goes wrong because women are basically children with zero accountability.
Im 54 and im done with dating and with relationships. I'm sick of the dating game, sick of the games, sick of the rejection and sick of being played. Nice average guy I have a nice home, I have a good job and i have a common sense approach to life. I don't want to introduce control and confusion into my life. You have hit it spot on in your breakdown.
"Control and confusion"- that sums it up perfectly.
Do you ask out women of your age or girls in their 20s or 30s...? Sorry if i ask too much of personal questions.
@@navaarunbhattacherjee4511
It doesn't matter.
Both act like children, but older ones are more dangerous because they are WAY better at manipulating and lying and can put an act better than younger ones.
Older men don't want to deal with them either because we can recognize them for what they are better than younger men do.
Your right on.....
I quit too and so much happier. You can't please them. I get more attention and love from my cat! My Cat is in my will. He gets everything!!!
@@justsayingforafriend7010 Your cat will be a better companion and not mess with your head, finances, emotions etc. Enjoy your freedom!
I was married to a wonderful woman and got 14 years with her before she passed. I recognize that comparisons are unfair, but I have never dated another woman that was worth comparing her to. Every woman I dated after her passing was: A) angry at everything, B) wanted a man to raise her kid, or C) so frigging crazy that it was no surprise they were single. The things that were said to me, in all seriousness, were completely laughable, like "you're being serious?" laughable. I feel sorry for men trying to find a wife nowadays, but I feel even more sorry for women because what you think you deserve largely doesn't exist, but no one can tell you that. You are victims of your own insane expectations and behaviors.
Sorry for your loss... 😢
@@scorchedearth1451 At first I was like "Oh, married!" and my heart sunk real quick...
I lost my husband recently and after 5 years of living with cancer he lost the fight. I wouldn’t change a thing about him, He was such an amazing husband and I couldn’t have been more lucky to have him…..I don’t think I could ever find another man to be such a wonderful person. I’m grateful for the 18 years I had with him.
@@countycalling - I'm terribly sorry you had to experience that; he sounds like a man who was dearly loved and is deeply missed.
Lol, ive never dated a woman like you say your late wife was. Im 40 now, single obviously, but ive been in a few "serious" relationships and every single one was a mistake. My fault for being naive, but still my fault.
I tried dating for a while after i got clean 7 years ago, and when you add being a recovering addict, good women absolutely will not ever entertain the thought of you being the right one.
Been clean twice as long as i used, but i gave up trying like 4 or 5 years ago. Still not happy, but i have less bs to deal with
Men want a Nice Lady not an arrogant, Ignorant, Angry Activist.
Don't forget: SELF-ENTITLED.
We also don't want miserable plant-eating, misandrist losers.
My truth is no nice ladies ever existed, just the arrogant, ignorant, selfish, egotistical ones. That's why I've been single since day 1, unlike most of my family.
If they're fat and blue-haired watch out
They want an employee, not a partner.
1. No loyalty anymore
2. Always playing games with me and my friends
3. Liars
4. Cost too much money
5. You’re always in competition with someone when trying to pursue a woman of interests
Where in the Yoop are you???
6. You're always in competition with men around a world to keep her. Inernet made dating scene global.
@@wiktorwektor123that was a huge mistake, too many options for women…
@@j.davila4523so be the best option lol
and 30 years later you could be Me Tooed and in jail
Your 5th reason is so insightful. For many of us, dating isn’t worth the chaos that women today are addicted to. The purpose of dating is to find a wife. I have yet to meet a woman who is worth the chaos she immerses herself in.
women watch too much crap on tv, netflix, etc. They already believe that their mere existence entitles them to everything, so binging on garbage like housewives shows just feeds their ignorant perception of themselves.
You have to love it when a land whale who looks like a potato says she's entitled to a millionaire who looks like Brad Pitt...smh
But don't you men date to just sleep around. What an irony
@@sapphire_blue3657 no.
No, men are the romantic ones, women the hyperthermic and conditional gender.
@@sapphire_blue3657most can't even if they wanted to
Just want to take a moment to point out how very few women have commented on this video... I think that speaks volumes because everything Emily has said is true and they know it.
Also shoutout to my single guys!! We all share a similar story when it comes to dating and it's good to know that I'm not alone on this one!
Yes that's what I noticed on many channels. Women are either dumbstruck or some are arguing. 😊
Ur right thank man I just lotsed a friend cuz he tried to act like there no Truth to this n we all just don't try hard enough at least i can take solace n knowing I'm right n we all have bros tht have the same ssituio9n
In general, women aren't watching these videos. It would require introspection and self-reflection. Why do that when there's another guy just one swipe away on their phones?
We aren't commenting because we know it's impossible to argue with stupid. Have fun strutting all over the chessboard though.
women that are even halfway good looking, have an endless supply of men chasing them. They take full advantage. I refuse to be a sucker anymore. so, trust me you're not alone.
As a 59 year old man. I quit dating at 37. And it's absolutely the best thing I could of done for myself. No regrets here!
Love my peace and serenity and privacy and money!!!!
I humbly submit that the best thing you could _have_ done for yourself is take an English class.
Yes, I'm an asshole... I know that already. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I stopped because afterwards I felt ripped off
Truth!
My last LTR started at ~40 and it lasted for a little more than a decade. It just fizzled out and thankfully we never got hitched or had any children. It just all seems like a waste of time, unless your goal is children. I do miss having a dinner/pub/travel buddy, but the thought of dealing with all the ancillary things that come with female companionship. . . it's just not worth my effort right now. Maybe it'll change, but I doubt it. I'm 53 now and life seems good.
💯
I checked out of dating in my late 20's when a bunch of ex's and old flings contacted me randomly. It was 5 of them within a month or two time frame. I figured out what was going on. They were hitting the wall and wanted a husband to bail them out of debt and so they didn't have to work a job anymore. It disgusted me.
If a woman didn't want me in her prime then she doesn't deserve me in her decline.
I've also got too comfortable being single. Inviting a Western woman into my life will be a net negative. Too risky.
Ah, you did well!!!
@@georgeelder8415 Men and women are better off together. But Western women are insufferable. No society like the West lasts for long.
I am glad I checked out of dating in the mid 2000's.. Females sound more like bosses then partners.. LOL NO THANKS!
@@fenris6051it doesn't make sense, what if you meet a total stranger late in life, do they not deserve you then?
@@HauntedCadaver not necessary since you dont know if she would have wanted him in her prime the rule only works for women who he knows in their prime who rejected him and then come back to get that husband who would provide for them so i do think its a good rule, just dont be to strict with strangers as like you said they might be the one that actually cares and is the right fit for you
My reason is simple: I think a lot of women are crazy, straight up, and I don't want to risk getting into a relationship with someone who could ruin my life, when everything is going good for me, because I'm a guy in his 20s who got an IT degree, and can already buy a car he likes, but enjoys spending time with his family, friends, or being in peace, usually playing a videogame. Girls, instead of being people who could provide more peace, tend to be the opposite, and they see problems where there's non. It's not that I want to avoid all type of problems. Some problems lead to good things, but when you start seeing problems that are not there, I feel like you're making me waste my time. I don't want a girlfriend with a degree or even a job. I don't care. I just want someone who's good looking and has a good chill personality, and who wouldn't ruin my life just because we're breaking up and she's pissed. Every girl is good at pretending they have good personalities for long periods of time, so you may not know where you're getting into until it's to late.
The thing is: getting casual sex by going to clubs and parties, and getting girls numbers to always have someone you can spend a night or day with, with no commitments, is far to easy. What can a girlfriend give me that it's worth all the drama? Take company and sex with a hot person out of the equation and they are fawked (not literally. That's not happening). They want to own you, not be with you, so they don't even understand what they should bring to the table.
"Is the juice worth the squeeze?!"
The last date I went on we talked for a month and went out twice. I payed for everything both times. We had a great time and we we're planning on going out a 3rd time but I straight up asked her are you attracted to me and 30 minutes of avoiding the question later she says no. But she really like talking to me and hanging out. I haven't talked to her since. Lately it's been a lot of girls who don't know how to make friends or hate their current friends and use dating apps to get someone to be their friend with a relationship as bait.
Interesting. I feel like I’m in this particular situation right now.
fcm you might be on to something here
Yep, a lot of dates for women are time-fillers. Why stay in watching shit on TV, when she can go out for a few beers and dinner, for zero $€£
Good list. Women don't seem to realize that treating men like this can actually be mentally and emotionally traumatic. We don't talk about it, we just go our own way and stop being available. Better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel alone.
that last sentence is the really big kicker.
Amen brother! I honestly have no friends, my family im not close too since they kind of sided with my ex for a while. Still don't feel as bad as I did when I was married! I did have friends but she got jealous and nagged all the time and we lost touch
@@BlazeBuds I hate that you're dealing with that, but I totally understand. What I can say is that what is taken wrongfully will be given back. You just have to keep pushing. God bless you, and I wish you the best!
@zoomerslick11 Absolutely! Amen! 🙏✝️
yes. I was in a relationship 7 year ago for 3 years and then suddenly I was out of work for 6 months. and i normally would nail interviews and get job offers, but because of the constant arguing and fighting (for NO valid reason whatsoever with my ex now) i would just fail these interviews. So I has to sit her down and say. "STOP fighting with me, what is the matter with you???" I need to get work, but because of your toxic energy I cant focus. She stopped it, and in that week I have the job I have now, and then I realise.....I need to let her go. So I did.....I've been happily employed and single for 7 years now. Very happy, living on the beach have a great life. Women like to blame men for their insecurities when we are busy nursing our OWN negative delusions of our own. Single is better. Be!! your OWN special someone. 🥰
This is what I get out of not dating or anything past it :-
1 peace and quiet
2 no hassles
3 go where and when I choose
4 watch what I want
5 get up or go to bed when I want
6 see whom ever I want
7 not having to live up to someone else''s standards
8 not needing any ones permission for anything
9 not having to put up with women's hypocrisy
10 not having to put up with untrue accusations, lying, cheating and back stabbing
keep rockin' out the freedom and peace, brah
Nobody messing with the Ac and or heater in the house... They get cold so easily. ...
Let me add one more to the list: Don’t have to hear anybody complain about the smell in the bathroom.
Do you get casual action?
No, not interested, far too set in my own ways now to let anyone intrude, like my freedom too much, Cheers.
I want to share my success story in case it helps any of you guys out there feeling this way. At 31 I chose to step back and be single. (After a string of disastrous relationships and a divorce) It was a peaceful and content 5 year period. Eventually the right woman found me and drug me kicking and screaming into a relationship.
I was very hesitant to give up my peace and quiet, and control over my life to someone else again. But she made the effort. That was the only way it was going to happen.
We’ve been married since 2015 and I wouldn’t go back to being single for anything. Moral of the story: you won’t have to sacrifice anything once the right woman finds you. She will only add to your happiness.
2 things to think about:
If she says she needs “someone” then it’s not you. She’ll always be looking for wherever the grass is greener. Run!
Don’t miss out on the right woman by letting others tell you what you should want. She may not be what you though you would want. There are a whole lot of kind and thoughtful women out there who want to be a partner rather than a dependent. And it’s so worth the wait to find them.
Either you're lucky or attractive (or both) and she's definitely "ONE" in a million. No good thing on Mother-Earth falls into place automatically. Someone has to work for it, put lot of efforts into it to make things happen. Don't give average guys false hopes.
@@navaarunbhattacherjee4511 it definitely takes effort to keep it once you find it. I’m pretty average in most every way. 5’ 8” and not especially fit. Other than the musician thing. I’m a 7 on stage and a 5 in the streets. Lol But she would consider herself to be average as well. We are equals in most every way. The secret is to be happy with that. To not let your natural programing to make you stray. Or make you want something else.
After being together for over a decade, we still love being around each other. All the time. It does exist. Just don’t fail to see it if your eyes don’t pop out of your head immediately. Those things fade. What’s left is what’s important.
What will it be like to sit in your rocking chair next to this person at 75? That’s what should really matter.
the peace and quiet of singledom is so underrated
everyboooody needs somebodyyyyyyy
@@polpol1005true.....🤔but NO ONE needs a partner that is toxic to them, whether male or Female......your partner needs to be a benefit to you....and vice versa
@@SchrodingersMath agreed
I've found its nearly impossible to compete with 1) what she gets from society by default, 2) what she gets from random "guy friends" in her life, and 3) her past.
Please for your sake don’t date a girl who has guy friends. If someone is attractive to you, and you talk for long enough, those feelings will disrupt your relationship. It’s such an obvious fact, and so find a woman with high morals who respects this fact.
true words
@@KallutoZoldyck LOL find a woman with high morals, In what universe ?
@KallutoZoldyck I don't like it any more than the next guy, but expecting someone to give up/actively refuse friendship from 50% of humanity is just not realistic. What's important is how she manages those friendships and prevents them from being sources of suspicion and mistrust.
@@KallutoZoldyck high morals? girls like this dont exist & doesnt matter if she has male or female friends either way get someone who isnt easily led by lies & deciet
I'm definitely done with dating for these reasons mostly. The clincher was finally realizing women do not love men for who they are, but for what they can provide.
Yeah. That is what I have learned too. Men want a friend and loyal companion, and that’s what they fall in love with. Women want a multitool to help accomplish all their needs, goals, and future ideals, and when the tool is no longer useful to those things, the appeal goes away.
Of course this isn’t true in all cases, but as a generalization it seems to apply often enough to notice the trend.
Thankfully I learned this very valuable lesson when I was young, in my late teens, so I haven't been drained of money or sanity by a woman. I decided to just stay single because women are just not worth the risk or effort.
I was about to type this.
Briffault's law
If it's not safe to be vulnerable with someone, then it is by definition a toxic relationship. And it seems the large majority of women expect this kind of toxic relationship
Gave up dating 5 years ago. Best decision I ever made. I'm done giving everything in a relationship and ending up used and broken.
For some reason, Emily never mentions divorce, loosing half of the assets, and having to pay the spousal support for years if she earned less than her husband.
Marriage (and even common law partnership in some jurisdictions) can literally ruin a man financially.
His ex-wife can become his most vicious enemy in the divorce court.
We do not want any more enemies than we already have, especially enemies who can legally send us to live under the bridge.
THIS!
The really scary part is how that's someone who you're supposed to trust with your life, someone who you're supposed to give your all to, someone who you're supposed to have faith in, and they can completely trash all of that for their ends.
Yeah and the ID Channel has story after story of women who kill their husbands because they don't want to share custody
Yeah, but thats marriage, the topic here is just dating. We already know marriage is a scam for men. Thing is, we reached the point where even dating is not worth anymore.
3 divorces... thank fuck I didn't have any children, but literally destitute after each. Never again. Feel used. Don't trust anyone anymore.
I'm divorced and I did try to date, but it was complicated and no one ever panned out, so I quit trying and started focusing on my career. I'm 45yrs old though, women want younger dudes. No one will notice that I'm off the market. Let the youngsters figure it out. I tried and failed. I'm done. Its not worth the effort. Effort is worth it at work. At least good performance at work pays off and gets rewarded. I worked my way up to management. So forget the girls and keep grinding until I can retire.
I don't date anymore because most women I've been with just lie.
I bought a couple of six packs and went to visit my friend John, who lives on a farm. Eventually, he invited me to see something out in his pig pen. He opened a bottle of beer, and held it down to the sow. She tipped the bottle down, and chugged it, then squealed happily, ran in circles, and came back to us. I opened another bottle and gave it to her. Again the kicking her heels, running and squealing. I told John, "That pig shows more appreciation, enthusiasm, and joy, than any woman I ever bought a beer in a bar.
There is a hint in this story as to why some men no longer date. Can you find it?
Ungrateful women take everything for granted.
Another 6 pack for you and some lipstick for the pig and you might be able to leave the dating world behind
I say no fat chick and have a job that's what I want 😅
Perfect story - BRILLIANT
Damn, I am mysogynist but this joke just takes it too far.
Men's expectations of women when dating for longer than a night:
Make effort with appearance
Be nice
Have some dignity and show theres a chance of true exclusivity
Else: Be hot cause we dont really care we know you're just worth a night
Women's expectations of men when dating:
Be an 8, 9 or 10 but not a fk boi no matter what attractiveness score she is herself
Make effort with appearance
But make sure not to overdo it or she'll think you're desperate
Know current fashion trend and pick the correct ones that she likes in particular
Be nice
But not too nice
But also be an exciting bad boy
Be trustworthy
But also be mysterious
Be exciting and don't act too seriously
But also be mature
Make her laugh
But show her you can be serious when you need to be
Show her your sentimental side
But be stong and emotionally stable
Pay for everything
But ensure she doesn't feel like you're implying she wont pay
Be chivalrous
But be careful you don't do too much chivalry such that you're chauvanistic
Be polite to other people you meet
But show her you're the boss
Show her you're alpha male
But don't show off
Compliment her
But don't be a creep
Be bigger than average downstairs and be toned
But have zero preferences for an ideal woman's body
Agree with everything she says
But be your own person
Be ambitious and work focussed
But spend time with her at the drop of a hat
Earn a ludicrous salary
But see you will have plenty of time to help with housework, take the dog for a walk, take her to posh restaurants, spend time with the kids etc
Work miracles
But expect nothing back from her for being a literal god
God I laughed so much 😂
Nailed it, brother
Man, there was so much going on in this list I did not have the patience to read it all
They're married to government and employers. We have no say since they don't need us. The only reason women stay with men is because of need. 😊
HARD PASS.
The #1 reason I stopped dating is because if you both end up having consensual sex, the woman can just wake up the next day and say you raped her and now your life is ruined.
Its also legal for women to have sex with an inebriated man but its not legal for a man to have sex with an inebriated woman.
The Amazon show called "Upload" had a great scene where both man and woman had to put these recording devices on their chest and say to each others cameras that they consent to having sex with each other.
I'm starting to think that that's the only way for men to protect themselves these days because society will ruin a man based off of nothing but a statement from a woman, but when men are sexually assaulted we are laughed at and told to 'man up' from the very same women who demonize men for the actions those women do on a daily basis in the dating scene.
TLDR: It's not safe to date anymore.
Emily you are so spot on about dating that I am just going to focus on med school. The “peace” you spoke about I have just recently discovered is so precious and sweet. 😊
Like many men I grew up with this grand plan to find a soul mate and wife and maybe have a family. Disney movies and society constantly pitched this amazing idea to me and I really looked forward to it.
Got married at 23 and after a year she cheated and became a different person. That was over 10 years ago and while we get along for the kid I've just never been the same. Two serious relationships since that were disappointing and watching friends and family go through similar nightmares... just no. Not doing it again. The magic is gone. Women are not what I was led to believe and it's not worth the hurt.
That's terrible. Did she stay with the person she cheated with?
@John_Wood_ No, he ghosted her the same day she told him that I found out. Turns out he was also in a relationship. My ex wife told me years later that she made sure his partner found out about her. Two families torn apart over nothing.
@@mrbugman67 madness.
I feel ya, it’s crazy how many broken people there are out there! You’ve delt w/it and no longer believe the BS society spreads on us from an early age, it’s 90% Santa Clause out there, don’t get trapped fellas!!!
Facts bro. I used to be in that same mentality. But like you said….. the hurt is not worth it. Especially with how modern day women are now a days. Just have more than 1 and keep them all in the sex only category
After 10 years of not dating, I got a girls number, after a chat I asked her out for coffee. She went incommunicado for 36 hours. When she resurfaced, she actually says sorry. She tells me she is bipolar and had a depressive episode. After a few back and forth a she says she is still not over her ex. And later she tells me she can’t control her substance use (alcohol).
She’s interested but I’m not anymore…
you dodged a bullet man
Substance abuse and depressive episodes are big excuses. Most women just don't answer back in general unless you're a 10 on all fronts
Good move. I know its hard, but she is only going to be bad news
That's great she was honest. Most people aren't.
But yeah, she shouldn't be dating.
HARD PASS.
I am in my 70’s and was very happily married until my husband passed away! Semi-retired Social Worker and Clinical Therapist - work in Aboriginal/Criminal Justice for 40+ years! To find a loving loyal spouse here are a few tip for single people!
1. First dates should be coffee dates - spend an hour or two learning about each other
2. Second and third date- coffee, a walk, talk about films, music, art, politics, religion,
3. Coffee & talk about pressing concerns - health matters 4. Talk about getting in shape or staying healthy - goals etc… 5. Engage in a walk, bowling, archery, paint ball - a physical activity you both enjoy 6. Learning plans - books etc 7. Do not hook up with anyone you have NOT known for at least 6 months 8. Wear minimal makeup, keep your car clean, be freshly groomed, modestly dressed and do not gossip nor complain about your exes 9. Put as much effort in as you did on the first date! Do not go on a dinner date without knowing the other person for at least 3 months 10. Put as much work into meeting your significant other as you would into any other activity you expect high returns from! Hook ups are here today and gone tomorrow! Good luck!
🦅☀️🦅👵🏽✌🏾🦅☀️🦅💚
Excellent advice, and the first part especially applies to the men, too.
Also, stay off the screens : you’re not actually dating unless nearly 100% of your communication is done face to face.
If the young woman insists on going to a fancy and expensive restaurant early on, then be strong and let her go (explaining your reasons would be even better). If she doesn’t understand then run, you just dodged a bullet. I find that too many young women (like 28-40) just try to seduce men with their looks but they have little substance. It’s tempting for a man but you’ll have to decide what is more important for you. That’s some of the advice that I’m telling my son.
Very solid, common-sense advice. Thank you.
@@40mmSummarit very welcome ✨💚✨🕯️
Out dated boomer advice. The women are to rotten now.
As a man who has stopped dating in the traditional sense, you are spot on. For me its a combo of your top 3 reasons. Currently, my biggest reason is your #1. My life is way too comfortable to introduce a woman into it who could very realistically ruin that comfort.
My problem with dating is how much I have to invest just to get nothing back. Im out here taking the woman on date's, telling her jokes, funny stories, I buy her gifts every now and then and in return I get women who can barely hold a conversation and I'm always the one who has to initiate everything.
Like why am I out here always on, always putting my best foot forward if a woman can't be bothered to give a quarter of yhat effort back? If its just that she's not interested she could save me the time by telling me instead of stringing me along. Glad I went my own way im 2019, women waste so much of men's time, affection and money its unreal.
Most people are only interested in their own life. Start with that assumption from now on. If you find somebody who isn't like that, you'll know. Don't let them go.
It sounds like you are mostly picking the wrong women then in most cases.. I mean, if you are meeting these women and then have to initiate everything and carry 100% of the conversations and you are buying them gifts then I’m curious as to what drew you to her in
The first place..? I mean, if there isn’t a little effort on the woman’s part then I’m not about to buy them anything or take them
Anywhere
I think you’re approaching it the wrong way. Why does it take effort? What are you compensating for? Having a conversation should be effortless it implies you’re performing to get something which might be why they don’t stick around. Look at the insecurities of being yourself around a woman without pretending, there’s gold to be uncovered there.
@@callum7081 I think you missed the point, the complaint was not that the girls won't stick around, its was that they won't give HIM a reason to stick around, and to keep doing all of those things that they like him doing for THEM. He's already uncovered the gold, which is to not waste time, attention, and resources on parasites.
MGTOW
When a woman puts in zero effort it feels like a job trying to keep the relationship going. I already work two jobs, I don’t need a third. 😴
This. Zero effort. Lazy. Boring.
jes , you need a third job !! 😄
This was an absolute excellent video thank you for bringing awareness to this. Blessings to you! 🙏
Totally agree, especially with number one. I’ve been in 2 relationship/marriages since I was 17. I’m enjoying my peace and solitude. I am financially stable, own a nice house and have absolutely no debt. I dated for awhile the first year of my separation but it was very unappealing for lack of a better or lengthy description. I haven’t actively dated for almost 3 years now. I bought an RV and plan to travel for a year to start and see how it goes. I no longer see a woman as adding to or improving my life, I see the opposite. Still open to finding someone that is a plus but it’s not looking so likely. Thanks for the video and for keeping optimism alive by showing some women do see what society (related to women) has become.
I knew a woman who was 33 recently divorced, had me in the friendzone while simultaneously in a situation ship w a guy for going on a year… thank god I figured out my self worth and walked away from that. Yikes.
Good call avoided that bullet Neo
When did you know about the situationship?
It's called monkey-branching. Women want to be in a new relationship before they breakup with their current man.
@@Andrew--S Probably because they have way more options than men
@@Kurio71 she had originally told me she had broken up w someone when we first started the talking phase. That phase went on for like 3 months and someone let slip ‘she had a boyfriend or something’ and she said to me ‘I thought you would hate me, and my simp ass said nah. It’s fine, I’m not the jealous type.’ So basically I friend zoned my self. It went on for another two months before the friendzone became unbearable and I left. It’s been about a year now since I stopped all communication.
I've never, in my entire life, had a woman make my life easier. not once. The peace I've found being single is amazing.
Edit:
Just so we're on the same page. I'm not anti-women. I've known some great female friends and coworkers and I'm certain there are more out there like Emily whom are very pleasant to be around. I was only stating a fact about my personal history. I'm not trying to stereotype every human with XX chromosomes, and I certainly don't have any hate towards them. My only distaste is for the society that we've collectively become today.
Men wouldn't bother with women were it not for sex.
Yep!
While women may not have made your life easier you have to admit that you’ve still had good times with women right? I mean, reading
This comment section you’d think all dating and relationship(and women period) are just bad bad bad. I think some guys are falling into a negative echo chamber
@@brianmeen2158 It's not an echo chamber. It's like attracting like.
i.e. If you are angry and negative all the time then that's the kind of people you'll attract.
If you're only interested in shallow shit you're going to attract shallow people.
Sadly most men won't work on themselves outside of the usual refrain of being a moneymaking gym-rat.
Then they wonder why they get lust-driven gold-diggers?!?!
You expecting a woman to make your life easier is the equivalent of a girl wanting a guy who earns 200k and spend all of it on her. A good relationship requires both to sacrifice a lot of their freedoms. Suddenly there is a person that cares so much about you, that she feels worried if you don't text her your location at least once a day. You need to think about the feelings and needs of 2 persons (at first, family inc). Your behavior and reputation does not effect only you anymore. Your plans always involve two instead of one person. And much more. What you get for it is affection, love and perspective in life. If you meet the right women you don't care about a simple easy life anymore, you start to think about the future.
I once was told by my then girfriend "I want you to make me happy". Which goes completely against how I look at life and relationships. I think everyone is responsible for their own happiness and its wonderful to be able to share that happiness with a partner in a relationship. Obviously when needed, you help eachother, support eachother in times of need and motivate eachother to achieve personal goals, but you can not hold the other responsible for your happiness. Its not my job to make you happy, but I'll share my happiness with you and share in your happiness with you
THIS! Most relationships I've been in were with chicks who "needed" me for something. I always felt used, never appreciated.
Love your advice!
I was just broken up with because I found out she was texting and sending pictures to another guy while we were in a relationship for over a year. .. I confronted her about it, I was just an option. One silver lining I can take from it is that I didn't move in with her or get engaged ( we were talking about it ) . the struggle is real these days fellas.. Stay strong out there.
I was just a "hyperfixation". I'm much more reserved now. I want commitment and love. Not dealing with another problem. But i will no longer compromise for mediocre behaviour from women. I understand why women feel the same because there are some men out there that are very much snake oil salesmen.
Bang on
snake oil implies the product you get is not what you were expecting. theyre not being tricked into anything, theyre attracted to those behaviors.
@@user-tg7pi6lu6vYeah the bed boy is typically pretty open about who he is, it’s pretty obvious most of the time, not hidden, woman are just inevitably disappointed he stays exactly who he is and acts accordingly.
yes i know the type the compulsive liars that lie their way into the very girls life your interested in then to knock her up knowing you dont have a chance with her after that or get her hooked on illegal substances knowing that she'll get with you aswell as other lads at the same time to fund the habbit
Liars!!!!
You missed a gigantic one, since you've never been a man - being turned down when asking for a date. Eventually you get to the point where you no longer have the guts to ask unless she almost asks you first.
But, fear not, many of us didn't walk away from dating - we just walked away from dating western women. 18 years ago, I met a woman from a very poor country in Eastern Europe and, after talking to her on the phone for a while and meeting her about midway between America and Eastern Europe, asked her to marry me.
She's superior to 99.9% of western women in every way. She's polite. She's feminine. She doesn't play weird head games with me. She walked in the door of my (now our) home in America having been taught all the wifely skills long since by her mother. She didn't want to be equal. She didn't want to be a man. She didn't want a career. She just wanted to be a good wife and mother. By comparison with the way western wives treat their husbands, she treats me like a king. Parenthetically, when we visit her country, or have her family over to our home in America, they're always absolutely lovely to me. Bypassing western women after years of fruitless, painful, insulting dating is easily the best decision I ever made in my life.
So that’s the secret? I’m almost tempted to try this, if I can summon up the emotional strength to un-quit.
@@anonmg1 What I did was 18 years ago, but there are agencies that match men with women from poor countries in Eastern Europe, Asia, and in the Philippines. I'm certainly not the authority. If you try it, be very careful and keep your eyes open, because I have no doubt there are some dishonest people out there.
Trust me even if she demands your number, she is just having a moment that will pass. They are total flakes and would make a garbage wife.
Sounds great. Godbless you and I pray I find something like that.
After getting physically abused by my former wife just before the divorce I decided I'm not going to date a western woman that is close to my age. She either has to be foreign or very young with no baggage.
So true ! Nailed it Emily. I’ve been dating for 3 years now mostly on dating apps, it’s frustrating and draining to say the least. I’ve come to the conclusion that I will not meet the person I am looking for in my current life situation. I need to make big changes.
Im a 58 year old man who hasn't been on a date or shared my bed with a woman for 17 years, and the best advice i can give other men is get a good dog - they are the only creatures who will ever love you unconditionally.
I stopped dating back in 2015 and haven't touched a woman in about 8 years. I'm much happier now that I don't have to deal with the nonsense and frustration anymore. Social Media is a big reason why things have gotten very difficult for men, especially young men.
If you don't make 6 figures, you're just average looking and don't have a high "social status" you're out of luck with women, unless you want to lower your standards quite a bit. But who wants to do that? Women certainly don't, and now men are just getting out completely. It will be interesting to see how all this affects our world in about 10-20 years. Way more single people, less families and less children. This sounds fine to me now, but it certainly could tilt the society and the economy in a rather negative direction.
The elites wanted to destroy the family and they're succeeding, it would seem.
Lowering your standards doesn't even help, at least if you are less than average on looks. No woman looks below a seven on looks - we that doesn't pass that doesn't even exist
To be fair The economy and over all population of the world is pretty bad at the moment, so it's probably for the best right now.
One of the things that drives me up a wall is how guys are given a bad rep for communication issues, yet tons of women that I've met in my adult life are just as bad, if not worse. It's like women are being trained to justify their inability to have healthy, adult conversations because men, "might" react badly.
Pro tip: most guys are actually reasonable people. Treat us with respect like an adult and we'll probably do the same for you. If you assume we are guilty until proven innocent, you are probably going to create the issues that you are trying to avoid.
Edit: The man usually gets blamed for the problems that are created by communication failures too, creating a lot of the frustration that manifests in behavior that perpetuates the cycle. Good relationships start and end with trust, compromise and a willingness to understand each other. Anything less is likely to cause problems.
Well said...
As a man I can only try and "make" conversation so much. When she is incapable of conversation outside of shopping or reality TV we have a problem.
If I had a dime for every time I was ghosted on, stood up or cancelled on at the very last second, I'd have a damn G 750 on 24x7 standby.
Time for cold approach...
100%
I'm over 3 years single since my last actual, bonafide relationship and all the reasons you listed are exactly why I remain single. I've attempted to date several times and its either the unrealistic expectations, the lack of effort, the inability to give any sort of real commitment has really turned me off from it and forced me to take a few steps back from it.
You bring up many valid points and reinforces what I've been experiencing. Yes, peace in my life is paramount. Life is too short dealing with the unneeded chaos and I'd rather be totally on my own than being subjected to it. By the way, your demeanor and honesty are most appreciated and find your laugh endearing. I hope one day I can find someone like you!
I stopped trying 10 years ago. It’s a GAME you will never win. I’m single,happy and I’m living a good life. I just want to thank the women who expose the pure EVIL that resides in women and helping men such as myself avoid this insanity.
The big one that was missed is that a lot of men have seen other men get absolutely wrecked ( emotionally and/or financially ) by relationships or marriage. this may be there friends or family. Maybe even their fathers. Some take the attitude of "I'm not going to let that happen to me!".
Divorce Pillaged
4 divorced friends. 4 initiated by the wife. 4 this pattern: Wife needs more stuff, Husband works harder, Wife "feels neglected." 4 planned their divorce months or years ahead. 3 wives cheated. 4 men lost their homes and savings. 7 kids lost their fathers. 4 women single and lonely. 3 men single and "happy" for life. 1 man remarried. We'll see about him.
@@bazookacat8421Yep, basically all my male friends and family have been screwed over by their wives. Everyone wants to point out that it happens to women too but I think it's different, such as the case with my aunt who married a known player who straight up told her he never really wanted to be married or have kids yet she manipulated him into doing it anyway and he obviously cheated on her but yet she's still the victim despite passing up countless good men for the bad boy. Combined with my bad experiences dating, I basically can't trust women anymore - they almost scare me now as I practically equate them with all the horrible things I've seen done to my fellow men! They're like Black Widows!
Yes, absolutely. When I was eighteen an uncle of mine went through an ugly divorce. This included a child custody war. Years later when I asked why his marriage failed I was told that the former wife was unfaithful.
Some of the worst female infidelity I heard about was when I was in the Navy. I heard about so many cases of divorce, abandonment, and adultery. Much of this happened well after the ship got underway.
Over the years I have kept both my ears and my eyes open regarding this matter. As a result I have avoided the heartaches and headaches that's so many other guys have been through.
1) I'm done hearing constantly how it's all my fault for EVERYTHING
2) I'm done hearing the words 'bare minimum' coming towards me when I can't even get that
3) I'm done hearing 'nothing. I'm fine.' When clearly nothing is fine
4) I'm tired of being looked at like I'm literally made of money..what happened to sense of humor? Self respect? Being a gentleman? Intelligence? Being good looking?
5) Me being alone brings me less stress than being in a relationship
All absolute facts and something I've been dealing with
💯
Cheaper too.
Yo, number 4 is so real, and no girl seems to understand why this is a problem.
Louder for the ones in the back. Thank you for being so great. You get it!
You nailed it.. my number one is the lack of loyalty and easy break up without even a word.. it bores me .. then disrespect
I'm single and have been off of dating apps for about 18 months. And, I have honestly never been happier. There's way too much dishonesty out there. I just don't want to deal with it.
depends on who u date
The last time I went out on a date, she wasn't concerned about who I was or what I did for a living or where I saw myself in 5 years. She was concerned with the following:
1) How much $$$$ do I have in the bank?
2) What can I provide for her?
3) Where is my car and what kind of car is it?
Keep in mind, this is the 1st time I even met this woman in person and that is how she started off. After #3, I just walked off and didn't look back.
I would have walked off after the first question
@@IaconDawnshire That was my original plan but she asked all 3 questions back-to-back lol.
@@desperateneedofscotch HA! We didn't even get that far. As I recall, she and I were at the entrance of a good food spot and that's when she asked me those questions.
@@desperateneedofscotch 🤣🤣 Noted! I will remember that one!
"You want to see my car? Wait right here!"
I'm middle-aged, divorced, highly educated, sapiosexual, and into creative pursuits (Venus in Aquarius). I'm done dating for the following reasons:
- Finding a mind mate has been a very difficult challenge
- Women trying to control me, constantly nagging and limiting my freedom to pursue hobbies/interests
- Disagreements about money management and spending money
- Women who are flaky and poor communicators
- Those who want a traditional, routine life
- Ignoring self-care and not living a healthy lifestyle (diet and exercise)
I'm happier just doing my own thing without all of these unnecessary stressors in a relationship.
A what?
Chick trying to be a dude lol
Seems as if a lot of them have succeeded in that effort!
Keep up the great videos this stuff is very true I was dating an ex for 1 year I stuck it out with her with her trauma and difficult issues mental issues I was her rock as soon as I faced tough times she gave up on me started fighting and nit picking everything I did lost respect for me I new the time was coming it was a tough pill to swallow and I even wondered did she even like me as much as I did and showed her sad world we live in now adays more woman should listen to what other woman have to say about these issues cause although tough times are good and make you better some people deal with things differently and it could break them and in turn all these things make it almost impossible to trust again 💯
I stopped due to lack of reciprocation, and stupid games. Granted, getting to the dating stage is tough because of the unrealistic expectations.
I have found since I paused that I have found so much peace and saved so much money, that it makes it tough to wade back into the thick of it.
I hope there are women like you describe. I think they are probably like the good guys though; either with someone already, or stopped dating.
Thank you, Emily. I appreciate your content and the work you put in. Positive thoughts for your world.
Yeah that's totally right, the "good women" are taken from a certain age and wanting the leftovers of a another man no thanks. I talk about divorcees.
They really don't want "good guys". They date and sex up the real jerks first. Then when it turns into a disaster for her. She lets the experience sour her feelings for men in general. I have seen this SO - MANY - FREAKIN - TIMES I stopped counting a long time ago.
I agree that no one should lead anyone on. Be up front. If you aren't feeling it. Just be real say I don't see you as my type but be nice and maybe if your mature be friends not with benefits but you can be friends too .
I've worked with primarily women for almost thirty years so I've seen and heard all the B.S. and it truly ticks them off when a man knows their truth. But one of the things you hear a lot is the old trope: "Where have all the good men gone?" When I hear this my response is simple. I ask them when they thought good men roamed the earth in the limitless herds they seem to think existed and they always answer with something like, "well, like back in my grandparents or great grand parents time." To which I then reply, "Okay, now ask yourself this, what were the women like then?" It either shuts them up immediately or the really dumb ones say, well, why does that matter? Children want things without consideration for their role in why they should or shouldn't have them. We expect this but then we expect people to grow up and understand they play a part in how they are treated and what they receive from life. But an unfortunately large percentage of women are no longer growing up. They are lifetime children and victim mentality hypocrites. Younger men are going this path as well just not quite in the same percentages.
That's brilliant.
You’re spot on with this list!
I don’t date because I constantly feel like I’m being tested/evaluated. I have everything I need and don’t need the extra drama. I do what I want
Guys, NEVER make a first date expensive. Coffee and talk is fine.
Guarantees of marriage:
1. The sex will stop
2. Man just signed off 1/2 of his fortune to her
3. She's guaranteed alimony from him until the day she dies
4. Any children the couple may have, she will get custody.
5. If fighting turns physical and the police get involved, the man is at fault by default
6. She will take your kids, tell them that you are evil/abusive, and keep them from you for years while you are stuck paying for everything.
7. She can also them a new dad and the courts won't do anything about that either!
8. Never enter into a contract where one party is rewarded for breaking it
Men aren't afraid of marriage.
They're terrified of divorce
Did this twice... No more wives, or house payments... She's either on board or she's gotta go... Expectations, I'm upfront with those, too. Passport is coming next if there's a non compliant pattern emerging...
Spot on!
I have a terrible experience coz of a divorce. Never ever do I want to date.
I get zero interest on dating sites, and I don't meet women in my day to day life. I see no point in bothering, when I already know there's zero interest.
This is where im at too
Even when there's lots of interest, it doesn't make much difference unless you're as superficial as they are. Yeah, swipe right; swipe left; that takes a depth of soul. As a counselor told me, there are a lot of shallow people in the world. I liked that - she wasn't sugar coating the situation. People who aren't shallow are married or know that who they want in life is going to be hard to find.
You need to try s as bf approach women in public then. Do many guys solely rely on dating apps and I don’t get it.. just try to approach for a few weeks and see what happens
Same
@@brianmeen2158nothing happens. Thats the problem
Well done , 100% spot on!! It's getting hard to find someone to even have a conversation with! I'm done with trying to mesure up to the social media mob think!! I'm going to get a cat. MUCH MORE PEACEFUL!!!!
I’m 25 and dating at my age is exhausting. It’s depressed, overweight, lack of personality or liberal women. A majority of women seem to have no charm, no charisma, no substance to them anymore, they live off looks and don’t have to work very hard for a man’s attention. I’d rather work on myself and not have to deal with the heartbreak or rejection. I feel like I can never attract women I actually find attractive. In conclusion, talking/dating with women just brings more sadness than happiness. That’s why I’m going my own way.
My reason for not dating is the lack of
1) care and concern for their partner
2) they end the relationship,situationship, friendship so quickly for no reason
3) alot of women do hate men for no reason especially if they compare us to someone from their past
4) they cheat too easily and lack of loyalty
5) mental issues are expected to be accepted
6) his ambition factor doesn't equal my actual income factor
7) single women make other women single and sadly I've met and dated many plus they listen to social media even account for my sign.....
8) many want a chad but don't even deserve the average guy
many of those points are nonsense. And it's easy to blame others for your problems... reading this is seems like u r kind of perfect guy but they end relationships for no reason, they have mental problems, they lack care... yeah not buying it.
@@polpol1005 bullshit, all of that happens everyday. Ask many ex husbands out there, they could sit there and name many times their ex wives did all that shit
@@m16dude967 or ask their ex wives if everything was really so good and if they divorced out of pure boredom or for fun.
@@polpol1005 you mean their methed up wives who got that way the minute their husbands turned their backs? STFU dude, quit simping. It wasn't so good and it was their fault. Most of the time its the dude's fault, he was beating or cheating on her. I know so many women who will destroy their lives over a little lonliness guys endure everyday.
This is 100% accurate!!!! 36 yr old, successful guy, I exceed ALL the 6’s and believe me, it doesn’t make it any easier. I get asked by women all the time “why are you single?” and this is exactly why!! If I’m doing everything i can to better myself, think of myself as a 10, and think of you as a 6-7 but I’m still not good enough, nahhh… throwing my hands up on that one. It’s gotten to the point where I make a conscious, concerted effort to avert my gaze from all beautiful women in public. I won’t give them the satisfaction and they’re going to have to beg for it or I’ll stay enjoying my singularity.
100%...it is incredible how much they seek attn.....am older than you but all the same.....even with their bf ir hubby and they can't help from trying to get attn from other men.....pay no mind to em
It's not you? Some women are just evil, greedy, their leave their husbands and children to marry some old guy with money? They always think having money, material posessions buy you happiness? Just talk to some famous and, successful people? They still get cheated on.
Honestly that’s why I married a woman older than me from Mexico it’s just much more reasonable expectations I think of myself as a 7 or 8 but she thinks I’m a 10 in fact she thinks she’s not good enough for me and I do my best to show her that she is the woman I want to be with
@@cheetahluv210 Hopefully she's not playing you.
define successful. And why u rate people ?
While making lunch I was listening to this video and heard myself agreeing with all five of your reasons. Keep up the good work.
I think social media the internet ruined dating for ever. There is no more spontaneity where people just meet randomly and form a bond. Everything is calculated now. It sucks but it’s the truth. People have these unrealistic expectations because they are using social media that’s setting the bar.
I stopped after being cheated on yet again 8 years ago. Been living my life doing what I want, when I want, my money is mine, and I live in peace and quiet. You couldn't pay me to date ever again 😂
They could pay me enough to date again! And it wouldn't have to be a lot either. Heck, if it got right down to it, I'd be satisfied with dating someone that would just pay for her own way!
sounds like what most men eventually learn about woman, life lessons. kudo's to you for preaching the truth my friend. 👍
I am done with women. Yes, that includes sex and I am 42.
I've been burned way too much.
Hell I would be better off if I regendered myself as a Gay Arborsexual Toaster Oven. At least I WOOD be happier and there are so many single Douglas Furs out there. I sneeze with giddy lust.
Being tossed away after 3 months like literal trash after hearing her say the "i love you" and then seeing her with a new boyfriend a few days later, is the reason i will never waste my time falling in love again, and to be honest im so dead inside after all these years, im probably incapable of love, she took that part from me all those years ago and stamped it out dead
This exact thing happened to me twice! it sucks feeling like a piece of trash.
You can do better, man...
The dishonesty of women throwing around the L word with such carelessness is extremely hurtful and beyond disappointing..
Words are cheap, even when they profess love, their actions always show the actual them to you. Whether its leaving, cheating, entitlement or just pure laziness. Just watch the reality, ignore the words, it will keep you saner, the actions are more honest.
The 'I love you' thing is most often just a game. They just want to hear you say it back, it makes them feel validated and in control.
I always enjoy your opinions, thank you
Women are making a point of treating men like crap at the outset of the relationship and then expecting men to stick around so they can be treated even worse as the relationship progresses. Men are starting to figure this out.
Completely stop dating because it's never enough!
I suggest just dating very casually and letting the women know up front what your goal is . I don’t think most men can truly live a “100% single which means no dating or hookups ever” life.. it’s just not realistic for men or women - we are hard wired to seek out a partner
@@brianmeen2158nah, theres far better things to do with life.
@@brianmeen2158well we can, I'm a 24 yr man and I've been single my entire life
No matter how I improve I am constantly told I'm to ugly or my face is creepy and I'll never get a date, fuck my personality and values
It's pretty easy when you dont have a choice
@@brianmeen2158they can because I do
@@notrelatedtobacon1282exactly mate that's what these J Waller and Tate brothers wannabes don't get if it was as simple as just going to the gym and getting money you wouldn't have Incels or lonely guys we don't look like those guys and never will no matter how many weights we lift or benchpresses we do
From my prospective, most women are NOT in a relationship for the lifelong commitment. Its about what they can get from a man, and when that isn't enough, they break their promises to their man and God, walk away and "rinse and repeat" over and over until they are no longer attractive and then spend the second half of their lives bitter, complaining and alone. They have no one to blame for their choices but themselves. There is a good side to all of this. LOTS of cats are going to find homes....
I know my cat appreciates it.
My observation as well
Cat food stocks!!!
Meow
You are 100% correct on the date, drop, date - rinse and repeat method the majority of women use. They will lie about a long term commitment. They are only trying to maximize their 'profit' and benefits from a union and have already an exit plan well ahead of what you are thinking. The ones that are relatively ugly will try to accomplish their goals before 30, and the ones that were beautiful will delude themselves to try and stay in the 'freeloading grifter zone' into their 50s.
Im done done, in my 30s had 3 relationships 3+ yrs each, in my 40s im now alone a happy, no drama, no mental torture that women put you through.
I make it clear to women that I will offer them nothing. Take it or leave it.
Props to all of you in the comments section focusing on your health and peace. I'm proud of you guys!
Im proud of you too brother
I'll be honest, I'm scared of getting back into dating. After a really bad experience living with a toxic ex/co-parent, I don't think I have the heart to go through it again.
Best advice I can give to men (and I follow it myself) - just be yourself and don't try to impress women. If woman don't like you for who you trully are - she just isn't for you.
If 0 women like you - that's their problem, not your. Just live your best life and do whatever you want.
Thank you Emily for your valuable, constructive and purposeful comments regarding dating/relationship topics about men & women. In this video you have unfortunately & accuratley described these results. I have stopped dating or being in a relationship now 13yrs ago; rather focusing my time, energy, funds, attention and efforts in my career & business. Your comments clearly describe what has been my entire life wishing for a positive, loving & awesome relationship with a likeminded patner ending in being used & abused everytime leaving me broke & broken. I would however, like to shange this condition (someday) but the optics of current trends, behaviors and simply lack of depth clearly justifies my solitary choice. I'd greatly welcome further discussion/observation & options on this social pandemic. Thank you Emily.
I got into credit card debt when i attempted dating with good intentions in my 20s . It got me no where, women just took advantage and just on went onto the next guy and dried up their resources as well. Its totally my fault too. I overspent because I thought I had to. I thought i wasn't man or good enough if i didn't. Society echos this very loud to men.
Yep we all fall into this trap bro. Truth is, if a girl is rely interested she won't require a cent spent on her and in actual fact won't have any issues paying for you or traveling hours to see you
I don't normally watch this kind of content on TH-cam but I found your video by accident and I 100% agree with you. I'm 37 and quit dating 2 years ago. I put a lot of time and effort into my past relationships and all of them just brought more stress and difficulty. I have a great life, good career that I love, strong (albeit small) family and amazing friends. I cook, clean, sew up my own clothes (if I can suture surgical wounds I can sew buttons back on my clothes!) work on the cars, weld broken fences, you name it. No reason to complicate life with people who aren't in it to "build" a solid life together. Cheers! (Great channel btw)
If you have young nephews or friends with sons,tell them about these two words- MGTOW and PASSPORT BROS!
*Youi nailed it! I do everything also and I'm quite happy going/living solo! I have a great friggin' life actually and I'm at a great point in my life. Cheers man!*
Oh boy, i fell you! Apparently you are a doc or a surgeon and you are really a price for those money hungry modern women.
@@flushtheglobalists7962. I would recommend young guys to try and approach and date and see what happens. There are people that still have success in the dating market .. even if it doesn’t work out then they can still claim they at least tried
Not dating anymore because I'm tired of being "Good Luck Chuck". After so many relationships lasting a year or even more (longest was 6 and I was ready to marry her, even spent 4k on an engagement ring) and every one of them cheating on me then marrying the guy that they cheated with.. I'm just done. So my issues are as listed: lack of communication, not being treated like I'm appreciated, and the dishonesty and lack of loyalty. I'm still traight but fornthe most part the thought of women just makes me sick.
love your videos without the phone. Much better. great job
My biggest reason for no longer dating is not on this list. It is simply loyalty. Many modern women do not have any idea what it means to be loyal to a partner. They cheat and are way to self entitled. For example they are convinced that they rate much higher than they really do. Treat men very poorly. Another one that is really important that is not on this list is respect. There are levels of respect and some should be from the start and some to be earned. For example a mutual respect from the start is need in things such as expectations. You get what you give if you want things to work out kind of idea. Treat the person you are dating as you expect them to treat you. In the dating rule for modern women there is no longer the golden rule(do unto others as you would like done to you). Pretty simple and unless you are a simp, you will not accept anything less than loyalty and respect(both given and received by both parties). So if you can't respect the other person or they can't or won't respect you then the relationship is a non-starter.
I don't know how old you are, but I'm in ny 50s. Back in the 80s and 90s the women weren't like this....pre social media of course. It is actually quite disturbing to see how completely self absorbed and toxic most have become, which is really what you are describing. My experience has been the same. MGTOW. If an actual good one comes along, I'm not opposed to the idea, but I don't put any effort into it anymore. Not worth it. Frankly, most women today are just awful company....boring, shallow, vain, self centered, etc.
Holy crap both of you are spot on. I am not sure women were that different in the 80s and 90s, my first girlfriend in the mid 90s wanted to have sex, i was not ready to yet, so she went and slept with my buddy that night, and every since then, almost every girlfriend has cheated on me. They see us as temporary and there is no commitment like you said. No loyalty. But men are expected to sit in the corner and not even look in another woman's general direction.
Tbh both genders tend to treat the other badly quite often. We live in a very selfish society and it’s all about the other person fulfilling their needs.
I just don’t like the generalizing of one group or gender as broken or bad. We don’t like when radical feminists do it so we shouldn’t be doing it either. Plus I notice more and really bitter men in these comment sections and that’s not good. I totally understand guys that want to go their own way but to constantly slander the opposite sex is just wrong
I don't treat women poorly, but I sure have been treated badly. The number of women I know that treat men with any respect and loyalty I can count on one hand. The number of loyal, loving, and respectful men I know by far outnumber the women. So yeah I can say what I do from personal experience. We are going to have to agree to disagree.@@brianmeen2158
Dude it's not slander when it is the truth.@@brianmeen2158
I think the main reason I pretty much quit dating (or at the very least stopped looking) is because the world seems to have this type of mentality:
If you like a girl, but don't ask her out, you're a coward, and shall be treated as such.
If you like a girl and ask her out, but she says no, you're a creep, and shall be labeled as such.
If you like a girl and ask her out, and she says yes, you are a hostage. She can, at any time, for any reason, create a false accusation and destroy your existence as you know it.
I'd rather be called a coward than a creep.
This, to be honest.
Don’t forget the gaslighting when you bring this up and they act like it never happens, no innocent man ever has a problem, etc
I'll never accept a women off the bat as a wife, fiancee or girlfriend. We could only be friends, my zodiac is cancer so I never go outside & don't like being outside, so if they don't come over to hang out, we can't even be friends. My uncle also lives at my house, he keeps the fake away.
Yeah its a lose lose situation. Basically you have to be a púa or a chad or a super simp.
Seeing all these fellow guys in the comments helps reassure that I'm not alone and it's not just me being unreasonable or something.
I've been single for the last 12 years and I've had a lot of growth.
I think it's important to note that many guys don't really recover from a blindside breakup; they move on.
I still feel anxiety in the pit of my stomach when I occasionally think of what I felt when it happened. It's such a soul-shattering feeling and there really is no other pain like it. It was hard to breathe and I literally fell to the ground at the age of 18.
I'm simply not willing to sign up for that level of internal anguish again.
(Scorpio, if you believe that kinda stuff)
My wife and I are separated (living under one roof) she says she "lost herself" in the marriage because of my unreasonable demands. My demands were a date night once a week. She asked me to hang the clothes this morning - normally I'd be happy to do so - today I said, "I've lost myself in this house. I'm happy to live in this house and enjoy the benefits of it but I don't want to do any of the maintenance - it's oppressive and just not me ... me, me, me-me, me, me, me ... me,"
LMAO! She will be calling the gestapo and reporting you for the high treason of : Miss O' Ganee!
I stopped dating because I just couldn't get a match on dating sites or in real life by face to face interactions.
There's having a thick skin and you develop that over time. You won't win at everything whether it's dating, jobs, sports, whatever. That's life, I get that part. Gotta roll with some things.
But when you're constantly ignored...there's only so thick your skin can be. You start to internalize it.
Yes, there's certain things men can do to be more attractive. I started at the gym 3 nights a week in May because I saw that I was overweight. I didn't like how I looked. Yes, there's the thought that "If I look better, I will get a potential match."
But when you put in all this effort to get nothing back from the women you're interested in - yes, I have my standards in looks and personality - I'm not gonna date any woman who smiles at me - and get nothing back - it's not worth the effort anymore.
I think the dating apps are rigged, never going back to them
@@Clonez-sr7to Dating apps are rigged in that the top 20% of men by looks will get dates from them, the other 80% will struggle.
You are doing such good service and if there us some sense in your audience who are having relationship issues, can take cues and resurrect their relationship if they are willing. Respect!
Wife left me in 2005, took about a year to get over it. After that year of self reflection, I'm happy to say, I haven't dated one woman since she left me. And the thought of dating in today's world after watching all these unhinged women and the way they act, makes me sick to my stomach. Why would a man put themselves in a situation like this?
I was married twice and she asked me for marriage both times. I also was divorced twice, also her asking for it. Enough is enough. When a man goes through the divorce court ringer you realize its a rigged game. Done with females. I don't even stop and help a female with car trouble anymore and retired at 60. Peace and quite are underrated by most men. It's wonderful!
Amen to that.!! Learning lesson learned. Peace with no chaotic drama is truly priceless...
50 here, just once. Never again.
Females have an inflated view of who they are when most of them have very little to offer in a relationship - especially those that think they are hot looking! Their expectations are too high and their willingness to contribute is way too low. I agree with all 5 reasons Emily speaks about in this video. I see this in real life and on video interviews. It's disgusting. As a whole, our society is crashing in terms of morals, compassion, integrity, and giving back. Selfishness rules.
case by case really
It's because the women's value is all in their looks.
They think they're are 10s when really 4-6
i saw your video and laughed so i watched it, the last one IS spot on! , what i found is that MOST people don't stay alone long enough to find themselves , since birth most have been in a relationship of one sort or another, but it takes quite a while ( three years in my case) to truly find themselves , who they are , what they like, etc. when you stop looking and enjoy your own peace there's nothing better, it's TRUE FREEDOM, and when someone does come along the first thing that comes to mind is " do i want to trade ALL THIS for another shot at a let down or hassle? and more often the answer is No! hell no! y'all have fun with it ! i'm out
This is a very thoughtful video. All valid points. Experiencing this first hand now.
No. 1 !! You nailed it. Modern divorced women who sued for divorce for the vaguest of reasons are in a word..... NUTZ! And sociopathic.
No, they are just collecting cash and prizes before moving on to the next simp.
and 30 years later you could be Me Tooed.
When my wife of 31 years filed secretly for divorce,, I asked what was her reasone. She stated and I quote,"Fuck, I dont remember. I would have to read what I wrote." WTF!?