As a guy, learning how to accept rejection and having an abundance mindset is so powerful. Once you get over that hoop of caring about being rejected, you'll eventually find someone who f***s with you. Also, the greatest lesson i ever learned is you should never need to do to much to get a woman who is truly interested in you to like you. Being yourself, and being a decent person should be enough to actually spark something with some women. If you find yourself doing too much or trying to "win" her over, it'll never work.
I'm done with American women and black women period just thru been through some shit it's time pick up the big stick and keep moving it's best to bite the bullet of acceptance than to be delusional in the land of make believe
@@dominus360 Like, when you talk, show interest, ask questions, express yourself... don't do too much but whatever you do, make it quality and interesting and make sure it shows what you want from her.. did I get it right?
@@zuhairreza Yeah but it's more deeper than that. The fundamental concept of love is not based on 2 people loving each other like most people think. But it's more a case of one person loving and the other allowing him or herself to be loved. -- FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO BE THE ONE ALLOWING A WOMAN TO LOVE YOU -- If you want your relationship (long term / short term) be pleasant, you have to be in passive state 70% of the time. Means she act, you respond. When a woman loves you, she initiates almost everything, conversations, s3x, jokes, phone calls etc.. EVERYTHING is easy She even invest money in you, buying you some random cheap gifts "babe, I saw that mug in a shop, I thought it would please you... 🥰" She will naturely worry if you have eat something, means she will cook for you without you having to ask for it. Men who never experience real love from a woman think they have to prove themselves, jumping through hoops to please her, going on dates, buying her gifts, investing money and stuff... But it's not how you get a woman to appreciate or love you. Woman just love who they want, and you can do nothing about that. It's just, either she chooses you or she doesn't. ( BONUS : Women knows within the first 3 min from your 1st meeting, if you're that guy or not ) In short, if a woman really loves you. All you have to do is respond to her gestures of love. And that boils down to 3 things that are common to every woman in every country in the world: - Her financial investment in you - She initiates s3x at least 30% of the time - She cares if you've eaten If you don't have these three things in a woman, I'm sorry but she's just playing you.
I'm 60 and met my wife of 33 years now in person at a nightclub on the last dance of the night. I have learned over the years that women by nature are passive towards men. If I had not made the move on my wife in that club, who knows what would have happened. Social media, dating apps, and cell phones are the worst things to happen to relationships between man and woman.
Love your honesty and realness man. But I hate to tell you, approaching in real life can go just as badly, if not worse than using dating apps. On apps, the worst that can happen is she doesn't reply. But IRL, there are MANY potential consequences to approaching a girl other than her not being interested. You can have memberships terminated, be ostracized, get a reputation as "that guy" and more. Not to mention the toll it takes on you when you put in the work to get into shape, build your confidence and charisma, only to still get constant disinterest and rejection from women.
Unless there is one key reason you are always getting rejected (too fat but otherwise hot etc) then working on yourself really isn’t going to suddenly make you successful with the opposite sex. It will increase your chance of making something work with someone, and one is all you need. But the main reason to work on yourself really needs to be for you. In a weird way it has the opposite effect when it’s seen that you only make effort for her, you need to actually be into bettering yourself for you for it to show as a positive to others.
I honestly think you are on the right track in general. Especially with working out and wanting to have a social life. It is needed in the world, especially when it comes to jobs and meeting women like you stated. There are some great women left, but they are too overshadowed by the amount of goldiggers and scamming females out here leading the blind like sheep.
Yea you’re right bro especially with social media you’ll never see the good ones approaching is the only way gonna do my first cold approach in months today
Did that for 7 years. I’ve been making good money for 3 of those years. I still have no beaches. Now I’m just older and my options are slimmer than when I was young. Don’t wait too long
I just approached an chick yesterday she was in her 50's I tried to get her number and I was rejected. The biggiest fear for me was doing the actual approaching. I've gotten over my fear of rejection years ago It was alwayss making the first move and saying the words out of my hard the hardest part for me. Dating apps made people cowardly, male or female.
Yea I think that is most guys I know it is for me, the rejection is never scary you’ll never see them again it’s just getting the words out, I’ve noticed that if I make my feet move then I will do it cuz I can’t just turn around
I dont think about doing dating apps. The world has turned towards that and i just dont care. It gave me room and space to love my own company. I can focus on my goals without distractions. When im approached i dont eagerly give out my phone number because i just want anybody. If im not interested im just not im not goin to waste anyones time. I dont use people to fill up empty space. Im already full so i smile and nicely decline; like other day when i was at the mall. Good luck and you will succeed and just be yourself 😊❤
To be fair, I don't take anyone serious on those apps. It's just a bunch of people that fake their lifes & appearances. I have also been on dates from those apps. They are all just uploading their own imagination of their own physical appearance. That's not even that bad, but once they start talking I get very quit. I usually do that when they get annoying and talk like a MG. Another thing I've experienced is that the less attractive they are, the bigger their attitudes are. Just safe your energy.
Same here I started to cold approach women and for some odd reason I got lots of numbers and now I really have abundance mindset with women you are going to get rejected it’s normal because you don’t know lots of things has you start to do it often your going to eventually get used to get rejected and it’s perfectly normal for a man to go through this and get your feet in the dirt and get hat experience with them I actually enjoy cold approach women now it’s really exciting
Never used dating apps, but I think it's what the majority of young people use these days. My female friends go on 3-4 dates a week with guys from Tinder, and they get laid frequently through these apps. As a guy who will only approach women in real life, if I meet them through friends or at a bar, which is not often, I have a lot less experience. But that's just how it is for us guys. Women have it easy in dating.
Yes def for women yes but as a guy it’s pointless unless you are super attractive I think if I ever were to do it again I would get professional photos taken and i think I’d have more success but I still wouldn’t rely on just the app
@@CavionWilliams1guys def need professional photos to have success on the apps.. I went from 0 to 180 matches with pro photos from using regular phone pics. I have a new photoshoot tomorrow for updated pics
@@oscarperez5539Apps are really just about looks and who has the best photos. It is competing to see who is the most shallow if we are being honest about it.
Forget dating apps. I see a women I like and I go over and chat to her then ask her out! What's the problem? Yes, you'll get rejections however some women will say yes!!
The problem with trying to meet people in person is that you do not know anything about the person before spending time and money on them. One of the last ladies I met in a night club in NY city, was a disaster two weeks in the relationship, she started to tell me how she was planning to get back on Welfare and first she told me she had one child, after two weeks I found out she had three kids. I had to abandon that. I have given up, I only meet ladies through introductions now
That's the dumbest thing I've ever read. So because one girl lied to you, you will never try to meet another woman again, only through introductions. Just because someone else introduces you doesn't mean that the relationship will be smooth sailing. You should cut the crap and continue shooting your shot. The more experience you get you will be able to see patterns in bs women and you will be able to chose better
@@deanmartin5532 I met several women after the lady I mentioned and I almost went to the alter, but that experience I posted was just an example how iffy it is to meet ladies randomly on the street or in a night clubs
Here I have are a few thoughts. Firstly, dating apps create the illusion that we all have a seemingly endless supply of potential mates. We don't because there are always limits. Secondly, any individual man or woman is only compatible with a handful of people out there in the available pool regardless of how attractive they appear. Most of the dates you go on won't lead to a meaningful relationship for a variety of different reasons. Thirdly, men have the challenge of getting and keeping a woman's attention, while women have the challenge of sorting through numerous men who express their interest. Neither has an easy task.
I'll give you a tactic i used one time in my 20's. Feel free to steal it. When I went out with my boys, I would bring a pineapple and set it on the table or bar where I was seated. Women would come up and ask what's up with the pineapple. I had dozens of lines, but most of the time quickly transitioned to something interesting about them, or a really funny random question. "Oh, this pineapple? I brought it because i heard you wanted a Pina Colada." "I lost a bet with the boys." It doesn't really matter what you say. Get comfortable being funny, goofy, interesting, and charasmatic.
ayyee haha i like that was cool i’ll for sure use that, me and my friends will actually being going to the mall tmrw where we can do some approaches which i’m pretty excited for
@@CavionWilliams1 it beats sending 100's of pointless messages on a dating app, lowering yourself by chasing them with all of the Chad's in their inbox. Best of luck man. 👍
I studied software engineering. There were 40 guys in my class, and like 5 girls only. I dated one of them, after rejecting another. I'm slightly short, and not fat, but also not in good shape. But when we were in-between classes, when having a coffee or lunch as a group, I would bring out my game. I could make people laugh, and I could also be reflective when it was time to be. I was confident, took shit from no one, and had good grades. A few months in, I had several options. _Meanwhile,_ we would go out to dance and for drinks. I never, _EVER,_ had a one-night stand. I stopped trying. I remember liking this girl who hung out around a bar we went often. I tried to talk her in, and I was rejected in quite a dry way. I sat with a friend and he told me some very wise words: "Dude, you and I are not the type of people who get one night stands." - He was right. We're both married today, with a kid each. We both had several relationships before that, with (mostly) good-looking women. It ain't that hard, but you have to work with what you have. I'd rather be a raven than a peacock, but I can never compete if I just sort of **show myself** and call it a day.
I did cold approach’s for years. I took a year in 2015 to go out and beat approach anxiety and it worked. Honestly getting rejected in person is easier then the tinder cess pool is not. At least you can initiate in person and instantly know if it’s a go or a no.
As an older woman I can confirm that a man that approach a woman in person nicely and with manners is a winner. The older you get the more looks are not very important
@gregorylatta8159 Sure, doesn’t that make sense though? You have to remember you are the first generation of men that rely on women to pay bills. Generally speaking it was always a man’s job to provide a life for his wife and family. This idea that a man can be bad looking and not provide for a woman but still expect an attractive desirable girlfriend to choose him just seems really bizarre to me, you have to bring something.
@@jaybee4288 If you rely on another person to sustain your lifestyle you have an issue man/woman. The truth is many younger women of family starting age want it all and are much pickier than prior generations. Many men would be fine making 50k on their own but that isn't enough for the lavish desires of many young women. The ease in which a man can be deemed unattractive physically is very easy since the goal posts are much higher compared to men's looks expectations in women. Thats why the response more men are choosing is to not bother trying; after all there are many modern/future amenities to make up for lack of relationship prospects.
Interesting. Would love to hear an update! I’ve been fighting off the urge to get back on dating apps. It’s a horrendous experience and I’d rather wait for a guy to introduce himself and start a conversation with me out in real life. I think you’d do great & I hope you haven’t given up! Take care
@@CB12345 the amount of dead profiles and ghosters when you ask for the # or meetup is wild. The entire system is geared to extract as much app time and resources from the males using it as possible.
I met a few girls offline. Don't talk to any of them anymore. They be bizarre. Even if they are half decent with the looks. One of them thought I was gone be in a relationship with her after she fucked me with 23 hours of meeting me 😅
@@daquanmcdonald7104yeah I had that happen with 1 I met online years ago and another tried to do that later but I didn't smash because she was putting it out there too easily. Seemed contrived to me.
@@ctb1977 thats ur defense mechanism talking, preventing you from facing your own traumas. Blaming parents or seeing true causes arent the same thing, dont be scared to admit parents make mistakes that have consequences.
Fear of social rejection is ingrained deeply into our DNA, it's like fear of snakes, it's very rational to fear these things because real risk is attached to them.
@theonlyexpert Children aren't fearless, they can be shy. But yes being very socially anxious and a loner probably is learned behaviour. Would you say most your social skills come from parents or peers? The traumas probably come from being bullied or rejected by other kids. Social skills with friends of the same age can't be taught by parents, it has to be learned from experience. The role of the parent is to teach the kid bravery, how to overcome the fear of rejection. Of course if the parents are very bad the trauma may come from the parents side. But I'm saying in many cases the trauma isn't from the parents, it's from peers
Hey bro it went pretty well I did to approaches at my local mall it took me about 45 mins to get one approach it because i was too scared, once I get to my goal weight of 180 I will switch to more of dating time content when I will do approaches on camera
I used all the apps years ago and did get some dates but the women were average. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates. Recently tried again this year and it's gotten so bad. Hardly get matches and they hardly say anything. If you're very good looking a guy might get something but for average guys it's dead.
@@CB12345 man i always get unattractive matches bro. It be women i will never look twice at or even notice in person. I rather be single than settle for what I don’t want
Precisely. The harsh truth is man, that It will be hard to find someone that can follow your lead and fit what you are looking for. I'm currently still having that problem, but the older I get and take it slow I will get better. Unfortunately it is way too much trash out here and or lazy women, but we'll figure it out somehow. @@Tykaizen
I recently uploaded a video on my channel about this topic. I totally agree with you man the dating apps have become polluted with bad people. Also you don't know if the "girl" your talking to online is actually who they say they are.
You have to remember that woman are very different to men. Remember that apps work differently for them. Most men are just happy to get a couple of likes, we can navigate through our likes a lot easier. Now woman get constant likes and attention. They basically max out their likes in a day or so. Their brains can’t cope with the influx of attention they get, they really can’t deal with it. Dating apps are a failed business. Cool concept that just doesn’t work. They will find anything little thing to pick that and disqualify every guy no matter what. You just can’t win. Their brains can’t cope with this amount of attention.
My thoughts: a) quite frankly, dating apps are for people who are really not serious about meeting someone and just use them as a crutch to kill time. If you are serious and solely rely on dating apps, you could be closing in on retirement age and *still* on them; b) if you are serious about meeting someone, be willing, able and *prepared* to invest the time, money and energy into developing *and* sustaining a relationship. In other words, do the work. Otherwise, don't waste your and someone else's time. On a personal note, I am 52, never married, single and happy! Remember, happiness begins and ends with you!
I've been on all the major dating apps for over 20 years. Zero dates. Landed one date off ig, two on Facebook and a few on Reddit. Dating apps for men are 99% useless.
I wonder what this "not going anywhere" means. Is it like almost 0 interest? Or you get enough but none of them interest you? Or you get some like one match per month? I am in the last category and that's only because I try dating out of my own ethnic group, which is typically more difficult IMO. Also I am one of those 98% guys that are afraid to approach, but not at all because of the rejection fear but because I just don't do anything much for fun TBH. I think women do a lot of socializing - camping, hiking, going to concerts, local fairs, blah blah and it just seems like we would have issues right there already so.
I think most of them have been hiking once and post a photo like it's a regular hobby, been rafting once and post a photo and they do that with everything. Most evenings probably Netflix.
It’s hard for guys do be on these things women are very picky on what they want I’ve had 2 dates and both don’t work out I can honestly say I’m never really on them much anymore I’ve been bored and over it slowly I’m still have it because I have faith but I rather meet people in person flaky ass women on there
Men are pretty bad at dating especially online. Most guys seem to feel they’re unique and special but over three quarters of the profiles are the exact same. It’s the same with texting and first dates. I do think we should give guys more feedback if they’re willing to accept it, we’re all guilty of letting guys think it’s going well when it’s not.
Rejection in the states are epic, soul killing. The best option is to avoid american women altogether, only date women from overseas. Social Media has ended online dating or meeting women in person at nightclubs, why spend $300 to get rejected
I dont waste my time on dating apps anymore its a scam first soon as u start conversatining they try to make u pay to keep talking lmao nah im not that fool person to person is my thing
Yep I never got matches on apps so f-ck that algorithm got me to the bottom and made me sad. So I just meet girl in the real world 💯 p.s… Bro is that the smoke detector low on batteries 💀
er... you do realize there is a middle ground. You don't have to rush up to strange girls and ask for their number. That's kind of creepy for most women. You can also sign up for various social groups. Groups that meet for dinner, plays, movies, archery, or what ever interest you have. And in those groups just talk to women and men alike and have fun without the intention of getting a date. Then, if you meet a girl you like, then you can contact them afterward and simply say "hey, I really enjoyed talking to you at the function, how about we catch up for coffee". By that stage you're not the creepy guy that ran up to them in public, you're the normal guy that they've already met, and probably like already.
yea of course that would be the most ideal way to do it, go about your normal day and allow it to happen organically. Going out in general is something I need to work on but I say it isn't creepy at all to speak to a random women as long as your polite about it the worse she can say is no
@@CavionWilliams1 There's a big difference between casually chatting with someone, and chatting them up. I've seen players run across a mall to try to seduce some pretty young thing they saw walking by. Its creepy because you know that guy is trying it on with every girl he meets. That's how players are born. After their first success they just can't stop themselves from doing it over and over again. Some women have taken to screaming at guys who approach them in this way. Over reacting, sure, but imagine if every guy started interrupting girls in their daily duties and asked for their number. Sure, they can say no, but it s pretty rough on them having to say NO to every horny young guy looking to score. I imagine some of them would be fearful of a negative reaction. Its not a decent way to get to know people. Go to social functions and meet them that way.
As a female I’ve noticed more guys approaching me in person when doing my normal daily tasks...usually at the supermarket... It catches you off guard, but it’s flattering... It’s nice that a guy has the confidence to approach too... Keep it up... However there are bad approaches and good approaches. The better ones, are just those that come up to you, compliment you, saying they would like to chat to you and whether you would like to or have time, and if not exchange numbers... Then perhaps, ask if you would like to meet up for a coffee the next day. Bad approaches are the ones where guys try too hard and overly confident as if he is talking and it’s an order that I listen to him
I don't completely disagree with you. I feel like approaching girls in bars and other social events is still fine. But as I've aged and grown up I feel like approaching women out in public is creepy AF. Like if some woman is just minding her own business, trying to do some shopping or whatever mundane task she has, she shouldn't expect to be getting harassed by multiple guys all asking for her phone number every time she leaves the house. I know it's getting hard out there, but when you really think about it and put yourself in her shoes I think you would understand it's not really that cool, especially if she isn't interested in the guys or is taken already. Stay strong though soldier, relationships aren't everything, just stay single and focus on working on yourself and become the kind of man that women want to date in the meantime.
I, had tinder for 4 years..over 100 likes… finally got a, match…talked, for a while first date on there… her, excuse, was we live far lol.. I, was done after that 😂
I've been watching these types of videos for a month and your the one who found the key in my brain why you need to speak to women in person. "Who would a woman rather meet, a polite, gentleman, who is confident and starts a friendly conversation in person, or some random guy on a stupid dating app thing." Wow
I just deleted tagged i damn near had 4,000 something woman block on that app its not worth it nothing but a bunch of attention whores ghostes and gold diggers 🤦🏿
Guys, what's the point going into relationship with no one else but one you are really attracted to? ZERO! Don't calculate second options because the minute you settle for a second choice, you lied to yourself, and her, your standard ans self image is dropping. It will make you feel miserable end even weaker. You can't negotiate love as ons said. Be honest with yourself.
I wish more people would understand that because I met so many people who aren't really into the person they are married to and even talk bad about them.
@@CavionWilliams1 that is the only standard to consider. It's time for being true with oneself. Too many people have rejected part of the personalities to feed the dogma and standard of modern society and now they need to fill the gaps with other people's lives. Before you can share yourself with somebody first need to be whole.
Listen to me. This is the BEST time to directly talk to women when you see them out in the stores, etc. Right now, so many guys have stopped asking ladies out that the ladies are getting REALLY desperate and are now approaching men. There are multiple video's of ladies going to different venues like a hardware store just to find a man to talk to. So this is the BEST time to approach the ladies. Even a man thats nervous in speaking to a woman will come up now just by saying "hello" and telling her she "very beautiful" and can he take her out sometime. The best way I can visually describe what I'm saying to you is back in 2020 once covid hit NO one was flying. BUT it was the best time to fly. I was flying coast to coast in the U.S. for $120 round trip each ticket for months with my own full row to myself and the plane being EXTRA clean cus everyone was scared to catch a flight. So do NOT be scared. Just start swinging and approach any fine female you come across, ask for their number, and watch the magic happen. Peace
I can't say what is going on in the US, but here in Brazil guys have stopped asking out because women are so influenced by feminist ideology that they will call the police and expose you on social media for approaching them on the street. Ask them for their number? Not happening here, good to know this still works in the US though.
I hope meeting someone in person goes well for you. I hope guys know not to take it personally when a girl says no. It means nothing about who you are because we don’t even know you yet. Just treat us in as non sexual, basic human beings with thoughts and feelings and you’ll have success!
In reality all this to many women is just some made up bs. Not you personally, but there are way too many examples of where all this doesn't work out well in the end. This is one of those situations where that is easier said than done.
Problem is women see all us men as predators and approaching randomly to talk like human beings is often met with hostility and rejection unless she finds you attractive. And according to multiple studies women find 90% of men unattractive.
That is easier said than done, I have heard this a million times and in reality for the most part treating someone as a human, especially women doesn't give a man rewards. Plenty of men experienced this and we know what each other is talking about. In my opinion, this is one of the biggest lies from women told to guys.
@@arcosiancosine1065Precisely, especially the young generation (age 21-40). I have seen and experienced women where they will be rude or ignore a guy in his face trying to even have a simple conversation with her. It is more common than what people think and many women can be easy to approach, but they don't keep their word on what they say.
@@Real_deal954 not 100%. Women don’t mind shyness when you’re genetically elite (you’re less likely to be not confident when have above average looks). Confidence isn’t independent of life experiences. All males, you could argue start with some baseline of confidence and it either increases or diminishes based on experience. Getting confidence from constant rejections is illogical. And this guy is by no means “ugly”. But it just shows how high the bar is.
As a guy, learning how to accept rejection and having an abundance mindset is so powerful. Once you get over that hoop of caring about being rejected, you'll eventually find someone who f***s with you. Also, the greatest lesson i ever learned is you should never need to do to much to get a woman who is truly interested in you to like you. Being yourself, and being a decent person should be enough to actually spark something with some women. If you find yourself doing too much or trying to "win" her over, it'll never work.
I agree, I've definitely learned recently about my over pursuing and doing too much. It was hard, but at least I am out of that mindset currently.
I'm done with American women and black women period just thru been through some shit it's time pick up the big stick and keep moving it's best to bite the bullet of acceptance than to be delusional in the land of make believe
with women less is more
@@dominus360 Like, when you talk, show interest, ask questions, express yourself... don't do too much but whatever you do, make it quality and interesting and make sure it shows what you want from her.. did I get it right?
@@zuhairreza Yeah but it's more deeper than that.
The fundamental concept of love is not based on 2 people loving each other like most people think.
But it's more a case of one person loving and the other allowing him or herself to be loved.
-- FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO BE THE ONE ALLOWING A WOMAN TO LOVE YOU --
If you want your relationship (long term / short term) be pleasant, you have to be in passive state 70% of the time. Means she act, you respond.
When a woman loves you, she initiates almost everything, conversations, s3x, jokes, phone calls etc.. EVERYTHING is easy
She even invest money in you, buying you some random cheap gifts "babe, I saw that mug in a shop, I thought it would please you... 🥰"
She will naturely worry if you have eat something, means she will cook for you without you having to ask for it.
Men who never experience real love from a woman think they have to prove themselves, jumping through hoops to please her,
going on dates, buying her gifts, investing money and stuff... But it's not how you get a woman to appreciate or love you.
Woman just love who they want, and you can do nothing about that.
It's just, either she chooses you or she doesn't.
( BONUS : Women knows within the first 3 min from your 1st meeting, if you're that guy or not )
In short, if a woman really loves you. All you have to do is respond to her gestures of love.
And that boils down to 3 things that are common to every woman in every country in the world:
- Her financial investment in you
- She initiates s3x at least 30% of the time
- She cares if you've eaten
If you don't have these three things in a woman, I'm sorry but she's just playing you.
I'm 60 and met my wife of 33 years now in person at a nightclub on the last dance of the night. I have learned over the years that women by nature are passive towards men. If I had not made the move on my wife in that club, who knows what would have happened.
Social media, dating apps, and cell phones are the worst things to happen to relationships between man and woman.
Yes, the internet ruins dating so much. I'm 26
If you try today you might get arrested!
😂the smoke alarm ofcorse
Looking for this comment 😂
Checked comments the second I heard it.
lol
They really don't hear it, do they?
Agreed. In person is best for sure.
Love your honesty and realness man. But I hate to tell you, approaching in real life can go just as badly, if not worse than using dating apps. On apps, the worst that can happen is she doesn't reply. But IRL, there are MANY potential consequences to approaching a girl other than her not being interested.
You can have memberships terminated, be ostracized, get a reputation as "that guy" and more. Not to mention the toll it takes on you when you put in the work to get into shape, build your confidence and charisma, only to still get constant disinterest and rejection from women.
Unless there is one key reason you are always getting rejected (too fat but otherwise hot etc) then working on yourself really isn’t going to suddenly make you successful with the opposite sex. It will increase your chance of making something work with someone, and one is all you need. But the main reason to work on yourself really needs to be for you. In a weird way it has the opposite effect when it’s seen that you only make effort for her, you need to actually be into bettering yourself for you for it to show as a positive to others.
@@jaybee4288BULLSH-T.💯
I honestly think you are on the right track in general. Especially with working out and wanting to have a social life. It is needed in the world, especially when it comes to jobs and meeting women like you stated. There are some great women left, but they are too overshadowed by the amount of goldiggers and scamming females out here leading the blind like sheep.
Yea you’re right bro especially with social media you’ll never see the good ones approaching is the only way gonna do my first cold approach in months today
I hate this world
😆 why do I care about this subject at 58 years old 😆
Asap Ferg was on Tinder?
Good luck young man. I have sons around your age with the same issue. Would love to see an update. Dating apps ain't it.
Spot on video, Thank you for this sir. It’s really hard to talk with women for many of us.
Trust me bro been there
Become the man that women want to date. I felt so pathetic and sad on dating apps. Fully focusing on myself and my career.
Did that for 7 years. I’ve been making good money for 3 of those years. I still have no beaches. Now I’m just older and my options are slimmer than when I was young. Don’t wait too long
How old are you @ragequitter
just wake up & be chad bro lol smh
That'll require surgery and probably some steroids. Realistically.
I just approached an chick yesterday she was in her 50's I tried to get her number and I was rejected. The biggiest fear for me was doing the actual approaching. I've gotten over my fear of rejection years ago It was alwayss making the first move and saying the words out of my hard the hardest part for me. Dating apps made people cowardly, male or female.
Yea I think that is most guys I know it is for me, the rejection is never scary you’ll never see them again it’s just getting the words out, I’ve noticed that if I make my feet move then I will do it cuz I can’t just turn around
I dont think about doing dating apps. The world has turned towards that and i just dont care. It gave me room and space to love my own company. I can focus on my goals without distractions. When im approached i dont eagerly give out my phone number because i just want anybody. If im not interested im just not im not goin to waste anyones time. I dont use people to fill up empty space. Im already full so i smile and nicely decline; like other day when i was at the mall.
Good luck and you will succeed and just be yourself 😊❤
To be fair, I don't take anyone serious on those apps.
It's just a bunch of people that fake their lifes & appearances.
I have also been on dates from those apps. They are all just uploading their own imagination of their own physical appearance.
That's not even that bad, but once they start talking I get very quit. I usually do that when they get annoying and talk like a MG.
Another thing I've experienced is that the less attractive they are, the bigger their attitudes are.
Just safe your energy.
We all need to go back to daying the old fashioned way
Same here I started to cold approach women and for some odd reason I got lots of numbers and now I really have abundance mindset with women you are going to get rejected it’s normal because you don’t know lots of things has you start to do it often your going to eventually get used to get rejected and it’s perfectly normal for a man to go through this and get your feet in the dirt and get hat experience with them I actually enjoy cold approach women now it’s really exciting
Never used dating apps, but I think it's what the majority of young people use these days. My female friends go on 3-4 dates a week with guys from Tinder, and they get laid frequently through these apps. As a guy who will only approach women in real life, if I meet them through friends or at a bar, which is not often, I have a lot less experience. But that's just how it is for us guys. Women have it easy in dating.
Yes def for women yes but as a guy it’s pointless unless you are super attractive I think if I ever were to do it again I would get professional photos taken and i think I’d have more success but I still wouldn’t rely on just the app
@@CavionWilliams1guys def need professional photos to have success on the apps.. I went from 0 to 180 matches with pro photos from using regular phone pics. I have a new photoshoot tomorrow for updated pics
@@oscarperez5539Apps are really just about looks and who has the best photos. It is competing to see who is the most shallow if we are being honest about it.
@@oscarperez5539 you are right I also do professional photoshoots at least once a year
@@oscarperez5539do you also pay for the apps as well?
Forget dating apps. I see a women I like and I go over and chat to her then ask her out! What's the problem? Yes, you'll get rejections however some women will say yes!!
That’s the spirit 👏👏
The problem with trying to meet people in person is that you do not know anything about the person before spending time and money on them. One of the last ladies I met in a night club in NY city, was a disaster two weeks in the relationship, she started to tell me how she was planning to get back on Welfare and first she told me she had one child, after two weeks I found out she had three kids. I had to abandon that. I have given up, I only meet ladies through introductions now
That's the dumbest thing I've ever read. So because one girl lied to you, you will never try to meet another woman again, only through introductions. Just because someone else introduces you doesn't mean that the relationship will be smooth sailing. You should cut the crap and continue shooting your shot. The more experience you get you will be able to see patterns in bs women and you will be able to chose better
@@deanmartin5532 I met several women after the lady I mentioned and I almost went to the alter, but that experience I posted was just an example how iffy it is to meet ladies randomly on the street or in a night clubs
This is encouraging because you're a good looking dude
Here I have are a few thoughts. Firstly, dating apps create the illusion that we all have a seemingly endless supply of potential mates. We don't because there are always limits. Secondly, any individual man or woman is only compatible with a handful of people out there in the available pool regardless of how attractive they appear. Most of the dates you go on won't lead to a meaningful relationship for a variety of different reasons. Thirdly, men have the challenge of getting and keeping a woman's attention, while women have the challenge of sorting through numerous men who express their interest. Neither has an easy task.
As a man, I agree with this. Once I stopped using dating apps my life not only became more peaceful but I got more luck when it came to women
I think you got the right idea!
How many matches would you get a week? Did you get any hookups
Well done for practicing that!
I'll give you a tactic i used one time in my 20's. Feel free to steal it. When I went out with my boys, I would bring a pineapple and set it on the table or bar where I was seated. Women would come up and ask what's up with the pineapple. I had dozens of lines, but most of the time quickly transitioned to something interesting about them, or a really funny random question.
"Oh, this pineapple? I brought it because i heard you wanted a Pina Colada."
"I lost a bet with the boys."
It doesn't really matter what you say. Get comfortable being funny, goofy, interesting, and charasmatic.
ayyee haha i like that was cool i’ll for sure use that, me and my friends will actually being going to the mall tmrw where we can do some approaches which i’m pretty excited for
@@CavionWilliams1 it beats sending 100's of pointless messages on a dating app, lowering yourself by chasing them with all of the Chad's in their inbox. Best of luck man. 👍
Great bro! Best thing to do cos It'll seriously affect your emotional well being staying on there
Your a decent looking guy to see you also get crushed on dating apps is pretty amazing. The world is so upside down right now
I studied software engineering. There were 40 guys in my class, and like 5 girls only. I dated one of them, after rejecting another.
I'm slightly short, and not fat, but also not in good shape. But when we were in-between classes, when having a coffee or lunch as a group, I would bring out my game. I could make people laugh, and I could also be reflective when it was time to be. I was confident, took shit from no one, and had good grades. A few months in, I had several options.
_Meanwhile,_ we would go out to dance and for drinks. I never, _EVER,_ had a one-night stand. I stopped trying. I remember liking this girl who hung out around a bar we went often. I tried to talk her in, and I was rejected in quite a dry way. I sat with a friend and he told me some very wise words: "Dude, you and I are not the type of people who get one night stands." - He was right.
We're both married today, with a kid each. We both had several relationships before that, with (mostly) good-looking women. It ain't that hard, but you have to work with what you have. I'd rather be a raven than a peacock, but I can never compete if I just sort of **show myself** and call it a day.
like the Nike slogan: Just Do It!! good luck my friend.
You got this bro !!!
thanks bro coming real soon will be an approach in public
I did cold approach’s for years. I took a year in 2015 to go out and beat approach anxiety and it worked. Honestly getting rejected in person is easier then the tinder cess pool is not. At least you can initiate in person and instantly know if it’s a go or a no.
As an older woman I can confirm that a man that approach a woman in person nicely and with manners is a winner. The older you get the more looks are not very important
Because money is the emphasis 😆
@gregorylatta8159 Sure, doesn’t that make sense though? You have to remember you are the first generation of men that rely on women to pay bills. Generally speaking it was always a man’s job to provide a life for his wife and family. This idea that a man can be bad looking and not provide for a woman but still expect an attractive desirable girlfriend to choose him just seems really bizarre to me, you have to bring something.
@@jaybee4288Not at all. Read Proverbs 31.
@@gregorylatta8159 I’ll choose the bear
@@jaybee4288 If you rely on another person to sustain your lifestyle you have an issue man/woman. The truth is many younger women of family starting age want it all and are much pickier than prior generations. Many men would be fine making 50k on their own but that isn't enough for the lavish desires of many young women. The ease in which a man can be deemed unattractive physically is very easy since the goal posts are much higher compared to men's looks expectations in women. Thats why the response more men are choosing is to not bother trying; after all there are many modern/future amenities to make up for lack of relationship prospects.
I do well with talking with Women in Public. Dating apps are useless because they don't reflect the real person.
Interesting. Would love to hear an update! I’ve been fighting off the urge to get back on dating apps. It’s a horrendous experience and I’d rather wait for a guy to introduce himself and start a conversation with me out in real life. I think you’d do great & I hope you haven’t given up! Take care
I met a crazy stalker thro there and will never use a dating app ever again
Crazy, it happens, but dating apps have way too many scammers and frauds.
@@CB12345 the amount of dead profiles and ghosters when you ask for the # or meetup is wild.
The entire system is geared to extract as much app time and resources from the males using it as possible.
I met a few girls offline. Don't talk to any of them anymore. They be bizarre. Even if they are half decent with the looks. One of them thought I was gone be in a relationship with her after she fucked me with 23 hours of meeting me 😅
@@daquanmcdonald7104yeah I had that happen with 1 I met online years ago and another tried to do that later but I didn't smash because she was putting it out there too easily. Seemed contrived to me.
Crimes waiting to happen 😮
Approach anxiety is really fear of rejection which ties into childhood trauma of not having your needs met by parent/s.
Nah don't blame your parents. Fear of rejection is healthy and normal
@@ctb1977 thats ur defense mechanism talking, preventing you from facing your own traumas. Blaming parents or seeing true causes arent the same thing, dont be scared to admit parents make mistakes that have consequences.
Fear of social rejection is ingrained deeply into our DNA, it's like fear of snakes, it's very rational to fear these things because real risk is attached to them.
@@ctb1977 if its ingrained in dna, why a little child is fearless and needs to be taught by the parents?
@theonlyexpert Children aren't fearless, they can be shy. But yes being very socially anxious and a loner probably is learned behaviour.
Would you say most your social skills come from parents or peers? The traumas probably come from being bullied or rejected by other kids.
Social skills with friends of the same age can't be taught by parents, it has to be learned from experience. The role of the parent is to teach the kid bravery, how to overcome the fear of rejection.
Of course if the parents are very bad the trauma may come from the parents side. But I'm saying in many cases the trauma isn't from the parents, it's from peers
hey bro.. how did it go? i got that approach anxiety as well
Hey bro it went pretty well I did to approaches at my local mall it took me about 45 mins to get one approach it because i was too scared, once I get to my goal weight of 180 I will switch to more of dating time content when I will do approaches on camera
@@CavionWilliams1 Nice to hear that man. Thanks for the reply
I used all the apps years ago and did get some dates but the women were average. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates.
Recently tried again this year and it's gotten so bad. Hardly get matches and they hardly say anything.
If you're very good looking a guy might get something but for average guys it's dead.
I have gotten way better looking women in person imo
Same here, dating apps have way too many filters and women that aren't that attractive.
@@CB12345 man i always get unattractive matches bro. It be women i will never look twice at or even notice in person. I rather be single than settle for what I don’t want
Precisely. The harsh truth is man, that It will be hard to find someone that can follow your lead and fit what you are looking for. I'm currently still having that problem, but the older I get and take it slow I will get better. Unfortunately it is way too much trash out here and or lazy women, but we'll figure it out somehow. @@Tykaizen
I recently uploaded a video on my channel about this topic. I totally agree with you man the dating apps have become polluted with bad people. Also you don't know if the "girl" your talking to online is actually who they say they are.
You have to remember that woman are very different to men.
Remember that apps work differently for them. Most men are just happy to get a couple of likes, we can navigate through our likes a lot easier. Now woman get constant likes and attention. They basically max out their likes in a day or so. Their brains can’t cope with the influx of attention they get, they really can’t deal with it.
Dating apps are a failed business. Cool concept that just doesn’t work.
They will find anything little thing to pick that and disqualify every guy no matter what. You just can’t win. Their brains can’t cope with this amount of attention.
Dude, change your fire alarm battery. Don’t you hear that high pitch beeping. Lol
Odd guys find really good women that can maybe stay with real long term or get married. Deff the odd
My thoughts:
a) quite frankly, dating apps are for people who are really not serious about meeting someone and just use them as a crutch to kill time. If you are serious and solely rely on dating apps, you could be closing in on retirement age and *still* on them;
b) if you are serious about meeting someone, be willing, able and *prepared* to invest the time, money and energy into developing *and* sustaining a relationship. In other words, do the work. Otherwise, don't waste your and someone else's time.
On a personal note, I am 52, never married, single and happy! Remember, happiness begins and ends with you!
I've been on all the major dating apps for over 20 years. Zero dates. Landed one date off ig, two on Facebook and a few on Reddit. Dating apps for men are 99% useless.
I wonder what this "not going anywhere" means. Is it like almost 0 interest? Or you get enough but none of them interest you? Or you get some like one match per month? I am in the last category and that's only because I try dating out of my own ethnic group, which is typically more difficult IMO.
Also I am one of those 98% guys that are afraid to approach, but not at all because of the rejection fear but because I just don't do anything much for fun TBH. I think women do a lot of socializing - camping, hiking, going to concerts, local fairs, blah blah and it just seems like we would have issues right there already so.
I think most of them have been hiking once and post a photo like it's a regular hobby, been rafting once and post a photo and they do that with everything. Most evenings probably Netflix.
How tall are you?
Used them too. There are, without a doubt, a JOKE. Enough said. 🕷
Real one.
Everthing bro said is true... except for pineapple pizza ever being the best option that shi aint possible homie.
It’s hard for guys do be on these things women are very picky on what they want I’ve had 2 dates and both don’t work out I can honestly say I’m never really on them much anymore I’ve been bored and over it slowly I’m still have it because I have faith but I rather meet people in person flaky ass women on there
This is what will work best. Approach girls you like in real life.
Men are pretty bad at dating especially online. Most guys seem to feel they’re unique and special but over three quarters of the profiles are the exact same. It’s the same with texting and first dates. I do think we should give guys more feedback if they’re willing to accept it, we’re all guilty of letting guys think it’s going well when it’s not.
Pineapple pizza is crazy work
if I was you I'd tag keywords in your vidoes and get a more interesting background it will help your channel grow alot!
as a trans woman dating apps are about 99% AI chat bots no one is real. I will save you the trouble hit me up LOL. Avita
Wow we women are complaining that there's no good men on there 😂 meanwhile the men think the same, so why are we not meeting eachother😢
Naming them is givin free advertising
Rejection in the states are epic, soul killing. The best option is to avoid american women altogether, only date women from overseas. Social Media has ended online dating or meeting women in person at nightclubs, why spend $300 to get rejected
I dont waste my time on dating apps anymore its a scam first soon as u start conversatining they try to make u pay to keep talking lmao nah im not that fool person to person is my thing
Dating apps
Crimes waiting to happen 👍
Yep I never got matches on apps so f-ck that algorithm got me to the bottom and made me sad. So I just meet girl in the real world 💯 p.s… Bro is that the smoke detector low on batteries 💀
Fax bro that’s how it should be! And honestly I don’t hear it I have to be so quiet and maybe I’ll hear 😂
er... you do realize there is a middle ground. You don't have to rush up to strange girls and ask for their number. That's kind of creepy for most women. You can also sign up for various social groups. Groups that meet for dinner, plays, movies, archery, or what ever interest you have. And in those groups just talk to women and men alike and have fun without the intention of getting a date. Then, if you meet a girl you like, then you can contact them afterward and simply say "hey, I really enjoyed talking to you at the function, how about we catch up for coffee". By that stage you're not the creepy guy that ran up to them in public, you're the normal guy that they've already met, and probably like already.
yea of course that would be the most ideal way to do it, go about your normal day and allow it to happen organically. Going out in general is something I need to work on but I say it isn't creepy at all to speak to a random women as long as your polite about it the worse she can say is no
@@CavionWilliams1 There's a big difference between casually chatting with someone, and chatting them up. I've seen players run across a mall to try to seduce some pretty young thing they saw walking by. Its creepy because you know that guy is trying it on with every girl he meets. That's how players are born. After their first success they just can't stop themselves from doing it over and over again. Some women have taken to screaming at guys who approach them in this way. Over reacting, sure, but imagine if every guy started interrupting girls in their daily duties and asked for their number. Sure, they can say no, but it s pretty rough on them having to say NO to every horny young guy looking to score. I imagine some of them would be fearful of a negative reaction. Its not a decent way to get to know people. Go to social functions and meet them that way.
Social media is real life. In real life isn’t different from online. Women are on their phones 24/7
Those apps be clutch sometimes. 😂😂😂 shit I even made videos with a few of em
As a female I’ve noticed more guys approaching me in person when doing my normal daily tasks...usually at the supermarket... It catches you off guard, but it’s flattering... It’s nice that a guy has the confidence to approach too... Keep it up...
However there are bad approaches and good approaches. The better ones, are just those that come up to you, compliment you, saying they would like to chat to you and whether you would like to or have time, and if not exchange numbers... Then perhaps, ask if you would like to meet up for a coffee the next day.
Bad approaches are the ones where guys try too hard and overly confident as if he is talking and it’s an order that I listen to him
😂😂😂😂😂
I don't completely disagree with you. I feel like approaching girls in bars and other social events is still fine. But as I've aged and grown up I feel like approaching women out in public is creepy AF. Like if some woman is just minding her own business, trying to do some shopping or whatever mundane task she has, she shouldn't expect to be getting harassed by multiple guys all asking for her phone number every time she leaves the house. I know it's getting hard out there, but when you really think about it and put yourself in her shoes I think you would understand it's not really that cool, especially if she isn't interested in the guys or is taken already. Stay strong though soldier, relationships aren't everything, just stay single and focus on working on yourself and become the kind of man that women want to date in the meantime.
If you had a ten incher you would never be alone 😍
He killed himself shortly after filming this video
😂😂
I, had tinder for 4 years..over 100 likes… finally got a, match…talked, for a while first date on there… her, excuse, was we live far lol.. I, was done after that 😂
I feel it I well never use grinder ever again
Never use what????? 😅
Ayo
That’s a lie I just saw your profile on there!! Wait whaaaat
I've been watching these types of videos for a month and your the one who found the key in my brain why you need to speak to women in person.
"Who would a woman rather meet, a polite, gentleman, who is confident and starts a friendly conversation in person, or some random guy on a stupid dating app thing." Wow
Hey man thanks I happy you found some value in the video! Get out there and start approaching
Im sorry bro go change your damn smoke alarm battery its distracting as hell
I want pizza
I just deleted tagged i damn near had 4,000 something woman block on that app its not worth it nothing but a bunch of attention whores ghostes and gold diggers 🤦🏿
i agree with all of this but don't women today think its creepy to be approached in person ...
Yes, they do . And chances are they will call the police and expose you on social media
I think we'd change your mind with Dating Square!
Just preordered!!! Can't wait
I think if people had more success there won't be complaints
Yeah get that confidence up bro
Guys, what's the point going into relationship with no one else but one you are really attracted to? ZERO!
Don't calculate second options because the minute you settle for a second choice, you lied to yourself, and her, your standard ans self image is dropping. It will make you feel miserable end even weaker.
You can't negotiate love as ons said. Be honest with yourself.
Yea you’re right I think I lot of us lie to ourselves even I’ve done it countless times gotta keep that standard high
I wish more people would understand that because I met so many people who aren't really into the person they are married to and even talk bad about them.
It's not my problem mind is no one is attracted to me Bro
@@CavionWilliams1 that is the only standard to consider. It's time for being true with oneself. Too many people have rejected part of the personalities to feed the dogma and standard of modern society and now they need to fill the gaps with other people's lives. Before you can share yourself with somebody first need to be whole.
Listen to me. This is the BEST time to directly talk to women when you see them out in the stores, etc. Right now, so many guys have stopped asking ladies out that the ladies are getting REALLY desperate and are now approaching men. There are multiple video's of ladies going to different venues like a hardware store just to find a man to talk to. So this is the BEST time to approach the ladies. Even a man thats nervous in speaking to a woman will come up now just by saying "hello" and telling her she "very beautiful" and can he take her out sometime.
The best way I can visually describe what I'm saying to you is back in 2020 once covid hit NO one was flying. BUT it was the best time to fly. I was flying coast to coast in the U.S. for $120 round trip each ticket for months with my own full row to myself and the plane being EXTRA clean cus everyone was scared to catch a flight. So do NOT be scared. Just start swinging and approach any fine female you come across, ask for their number, and watch the magic happen. Peace
I can't say what is going on in the US, but here in Brazil guys have stopped asking out because women are so influenced by feminist ideology that they will call the police and expose you on social media for approaching them on the street. Ask them for their number? Not happening here, good to know this still works in the US though.
I used bumble I’ve dated 3 girls
Indoor Olympics with 2 of the 3
That’s great bro if it works go for it!
How many dates did you have go through before you smashed with them, if not on the first date?
@@rayrwyr the first girl 2 dates
And the second girl the first date
Baby I think u r pineapple pizza 😉
They’re trash
I hope meeting someone in person goes well for you.
I hope guys know not to take it personally when a girl says no. It means nothing about who you are because we don’t even know you yet. Just treat us in as non sexual, basic human beings with thoughts and feelings and you’ll have success!
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! yeah. sure.
In reality all this to many women is just some made up bs. Not you personally, but there are way too many examples of where all this doesn't work out well in the end. This is one of those situations where that is easier said than done.
Advice: Women are people too, we are not aliens. Just treat us as human beings and you'll see the difference
Problem is women see all us men as predators and approaching randomly to talk like human beings is often met with hostility and rejection unless she finds you attractive. And according to multiple studies women find 90% of men unattractive.
It's sad to see this antagonistic trend, we are all humans. It really takes more effort than ever to see that.
That is easier said than done, I have heard this a million times and in reality for the most part treating someone as a human, especially women doesn't give a man rewards. Plenty of men experienced this and we know what each other is talking about. In my opinion, this is one of the biggest lies from women told to guys.
All the men here have the same story. Soooo
@@arcosiancosine1065Precisely, especially the young generation (age 21-40). I have seen and experienced women where they will be rude or ignore a guy in his face trying to even have a simple conversation with her. It is more common than what people think and many women can be easy to approach, but they don't keep their word on what they say.
*CHIRP*
Bad analogy. If you aren't swiped on she thinks ur ugly
If you’re scared to approach women you seriously have some things to work on my G. Leave women alone for a minute and work on yourself.
He doesn’t need to work on himself. I mean he does confidence wise, but there’s nothing severely wrong with him.
@@TreSwayy Yeah so you agree? Great
@@Real_deal954 not 100%. Women don’t mind shyness when you’re genetically elite (you’re less likely to be not confident when have above average looks). Confidence isn’t independent of life experiences. All males, you could argue start with some baseline of confidence and it either increases or diminishes based on experience. Getting confidence from constant rejections is illogical.
And this guy is by no means “ugly”. But it just shows how high the bar is.
Successful dating apps are pronouns based ones 👍
right in person always better
Believe in yourself my boy 🫡 get around some guys who you feel sharpen you. Iron sharpens iron