social media has made me stupid | I am so tired
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 มี.ค. 2024
- I'm tired of feeling the way that I do. I can't keep living this way.
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Social media has made everybody weird
The way standards and interactions have changed is absolutely insane.
tell me about it. I dont want to go out xD
Yeah people be mean now
reminder to myself and others: youtube is social media
But when you're a creator on youtube then it is a productive platform.
TH-cam is such a time waster, but I can’t stop watching it
TH-cam isn't anywhere near as vapid. It has big brain long form content that's genuinely useful to the viewer.
@@Fillup82 thats very true. But the TH-cam shorts get me!!! I purposely never created a tiktok because i cannot handle that kind of short form content that is so addictive and easy to consume. The issue with TH-cam is that it’s basically a necessary tool so i can’t just delete it out of my life like the rest of the apps. There is always something interesting to watch though. And right when i think maybe i can get myself to put it away, then i see another video that i feel like i must click onz
@@plantsb4pants978yeah i wish i could disable youtube shorts on my ipad. I love watching videos about literature, philosophy, science, psychology and stuff. I always learn something new. But i always end up scrolling the shorts and those are just pure brainrot (except some).
I read on one of the david goggings book that u can only overcome a problem if u truthfully accept ur mistake instead of excuses. So u have already taken the first step. Proud of u, just rember that our mood should not be the king of our actions. Work must be done even of we don't feel like it
What’s the name of the book?
@@poshqui0721i think it’s “you can’t hurt me”
this is literally ME! my brain feels mushy and stupid and I'm tired of it. i refuse to live my life doomscrolling 16+ hours a day everyday. i wanna be able to THINK.
I deleted tiktok last week and twitter today. Instagram next!
I believe in you!!! You got this
Download some ebooks and read them when you feel the need for scrolling! Just make sure to download some easy and fun ones for when you dont feel very awake or ‘intelligent’ so to say. I’ve been doing this for a few months now (with some relapses ofc) and i can think again without intense brainfog, i can focus again, i am so much more happier aswell. Having books on my phone had made the progress so easy
my phone made me stupid too, it made everything easy to access to the point i can't even write a correct sentence since the phone correct everything without even seeing the mistakes, every info is there for you so you don't learn, you just access the info then forget about it, i've lost my passion for photography since the phone has a camera so i don't have to get my camera to go and do photography like a hobby, i can't draw anymore since my head is empty, i can't think about anything, it's like i hate the idea of thinking or i'm afraid of thoughts so i have to use my phone to distract my self so that i don't have to think about anything, it's like i'm an npc, so i'm planning to get a flip phone and start learning basic human tasks again to become a human being
I have heavily considered a flip phone before. I can still see that as a very good alternative. I wish you luck
@@dango.creations thank you
Or... You appreciate that you have practically a magic device in your hand that can do all that stuff. In terms of photography I never was one to have a camera not taken photos and with a basic phone I've taken thousands of shots. Technology can be used for good
@@keithparker1346 you clearly didn't understand what they've wrote.
@@keithparker1346appreciate a phone that was created by child slavery? No thanks
i miss when the internet sort of used to be like a third space , now it's as if we just live on the internet n it's lame . back when we weren't dependent on the internet n it wasn't such a big part of our lives . in the 2000s/early 2010s there were barely any ads and i'm sure you've heard of the whole "frutiger aero aesthetic" thing or wtv but i truly js resonate with that sm and it sucks. the internet rn isn't even fun anymore but it's just so addicting n it's lame. the internet used to be a safe space but now it's js filled w hate n brain rotting content and i literally feel like i got trolled like this wasn't what the internet was supposed to be.
The internet used to be where you went to find people like you, now it’s where you go to be told who to be. I’ve had more thoughts on this subject over the last two months and one of them is realizing I didn’t know who I even was. It’s getting better. I’m finding my own style and being okay with who I am and what I look like more and more as I cut out doom scrolling. Ill be sure to speak more on this in my next video
right, it should be a tool and something we use to connect and learn, not something we drown ourselves in and ignore real life connections and responsibiilities for.
I don't remember internet ever being a safe space but it has changed a lot for sure. I think I'm living in an internet bubble where I might not really fully realize where we are right now. What I miss the most about TH-cam specifically is the ability to private message, people writing to each others channels, and the wide scale of customization you could do in your own channel, which made it more personal and fun. I remember having a feeling of being part of an editing community here. Now there's no way to connect and I really wish to be able to do so again. Maybe younger people connect with each other somewhere else that I'm not really experienced with like discord for example? Please enlighten me.
@@Evoral i think i get what u mean, the internet has always been unknown and sort of "dangerous" or "toxic", i called it a safe space because it used to be more enjoyable and like you said, there were easier ways to connect and personalize things and now we sort of just "follow the crowd" with this disconnected mindset. i think the shift begun somewhere around 2017-2018 (i believe this was when net neutrality was taken away) and has declined ever since . in the past, whenever i was upset or wanted a break from the real world, i could go on the internet and genuinely be invested in the media i was watching, any games i was playing, or messaging others, there was no "mindless scrolling" things were interesting and felt "human" if that makes sense. now the real world and the internet are intertwined and it's a horrible feeling, everything is corporate n js so lifeless. and no i think everyone's disconnected regardless of age , discord is honestly super toxic and i'm happy i got rid of that godforsaken app years ago 😭. we have to learn how to rebuild community however everyone has trust issues and are stuck inside their phones
@@nya2bockyy Ok so it's probably not just me then that feels more lonely than ever 😅. I did have a social media addiction even back in the days like 2010 or so. It's because I have always felt lonely to an extent, and it drives to these behaviors. It's like I want to be seen and heard as my authentic self, and internet gives me a false sense of connection and self expression. While in reality it alienates me more of myself and others.
Talking about these things have made me finally realize/remember this. So while internet might have been better back then, these issues still existed. I want to start to dismantle the matrix we're living in by learning how to connect with others and by spending more time with myself instead of social media. It's awful to be at the mercy of what corporations decide to do, but we should at least try to fight back. Like someone said earlier, internet should be used as a tool for good. In an ideal world, it should be designed to support peoples health.
Your comments really made me feel so much nostalgia thought, it's nice to talk with someone who has experienced it too.
I'm more & more convinced that in a couple of years barely anyone will be social media because everyone will be overwhelmed by the insane amount of ads/short form content and it's so so difficult to use it in a healthy way. For anyone wondering if they will ever get out of the cycle, it helped me to think of my attention span/self control like a muscle you have to train: if at first it seems hopeless that makes sense, but it'll get so much easier as you 'practise'.
And what do you "practice" and how?
I’m surprised there are still some people that do use it in a healthy way.
@@shreyasi1150Thats is such a valid question lol. I'm not an expert but I'll like this one video I watched whcih for me was REALLY eye opening! th-cam.com/video/_GohNBxyMPk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=ilF1ZHmDsMYVLU3r Though I never actually followed through on the meditation in the morning thing, I think there was something so comforting and helpful knowing that if I'm currently struggling to focus on my studying or whatever it doesn't mean there's something fundamentally wrong with me because every new day I shoulld just be able to wake up and be productive, no, it's not like that. That is your starting point, and you can get better at it, as if it's its own skill. Enough rambling haha, I don't know what I'm talking about, good luck out there :')
I honestly agree. I am 20, and 2 years ago I had to put down tik tok because of my debilitating anxiety. I still feel the effects of social media when I watch memes on those stupid snapchat pages and it surprises me how strong it can be in that way. I am seeing MEMES yet comparing myself to how the people in them look etc SUBCONSCIOUSLY. I am going into the field of secondary education and I am honestly curious to see where the kids are at when I start and how things change over time with regards to phones and social media.
@shreyasi1150 you practice focusing on longer media like books, preferably without a screen.
Start with short periods of reading books that are easy, like romance or action thrillers with cliffhangers on each page (romance got me back into reading ngl) and old favourites. Set mini goals eg 1 chapter, ten pages at a time, then after a month or two go for longer goals, then longer. Take it slow because it is surprisingly hard!
If you start with graphic novels or manga try to transition away from them early because while they can tell stories as great as literature, they don't engage and activate your brain in the same way reading just text does.
If you only have ebooks, thats fine. Do try to read physical books where you can, just to get you away from the screen (I'm still bad at this!).
Make notes on the books, engage with them. Shitty paperbacks from the op shop are great because you can make notes in them like "wtf why would you do that" and full on yell at the character, or "I can tell this guy is gonna be trouble" or "this reminds me of [character] in [other book]". Or more academic notes if you feel like it. The point is to engage.
Read longer fanfiction if that helps.
After a year of reading easy romance (some smutty some not) I started to want more mental stimulation out of my reading. I went and read old favourites like Diana Wynne Jones (kids fantasy), David Weber (action scifi) and Jane Austen again.
It is work to read, in a sense. It always will be. It's not as easy and brainless as having content spoon-fed to us via tiktok. But it's far more rewarding and once you're used to it you get the dopamine hit pretty soon after opening the book.
You can also check out the Smart Reading tag on TH-cam.
I think the majority of the youth have 12+ hour screen times and only a handful of us recognize this as a problem and even less than that are making strides to stop it
Exactly.
I hope it's not only a handful
I'm not too bad then. It's 10pm (gonna go to sleep in an hour) and my screentime is 8 hours and 26 minutes. And almost 2 hours of that was writing in Google Docs. I definitely could have spent less time on tumblr tho.
the majority of the youth have 12+ hours screen times?? i don’t think so. most of us have high screen times (like 6+) but not 12. that’s on the higher end, i’m pretty sure. (i am chronically online and on screens for a *maximum* of 10 hours a day - and i use my laptop a lot for university)
It's really hard to develop third spaces and go to them. I'm disabled so it's sometimes all I have :/ I want to go do things but it's all so expensive and making content God people are so mean it's daunting all of it really. Like I'm 29 so is that young? I think so idk anymore lol
I feel this so hard, I’ve deleted every social media app except for TH-cam, like I feel so stupid whenever I watch these pointless videos, so fucking stupid and useless. My brain has a much potential, I have so much potential and ability to think and do things, I’m not a stupid person but these apps just make me unable to think. Our brain needs to be used always, that’s how we grow, we need exposure to new things so that we can form connections and memories. Never going back, I can’t control myself. It just makes me sad that I could of spent so much time learning and reading instead of scrolling. Also turning everything to grayscale. Good bye social media you will not be wasting my time anymore, I’m off to better my health and life, I want to learn not be a useless pile of crap. Sorry this is such a long rant but this just kills be everyday.
I so so so agree. Thank you for sharing. I hope you can get off of social media more and more and find yourself. I am trying to do the same
@@ameliaamels3563 thank you so much, you as well. I know this will not be easy but it is something we have to do
Or you can choose the content you watch.
That’s simple. Only watch the stuff you search for.
@@amdiary7 you’re right about that, which is why I only watch TH-cam these days, I stopped watching reels and TikTok’s.
@@iclandiccubicle2798I wish youtube would have a remove youtube shorts function because those have been sucking me in too, and now whenever I open the app it's the first thing recommended to me just a bunch of TH-cam shorts
I deleted social media, but am addicted to youtube and webtoon now 💀
I feel that webtoon addiction hard lol but at least it's reading SOMETHING 🤣
TH-cam is social media dude, I’m addicted to TH-cam now too LOL I deleted everything else
@@dango.creations that’s what I keep telling myself too. I do read paper books as well but my screentime on webtoon is much higher
@@Guavacab i knowww
Doomscrolling to try to find a recommended video you actually want to watch 🙄
This is so therapeutic to see so many people feeling the same way. it's comforting that I'm not the only one that is deleting social media because it's bad for me because sometimes it feels like ur all alone in this and the odd one out since social media consumes everyone around us
I can relate to this sm, I'm dying knowing that I'm unable to control myself. I'm fed up of wanting to start to draw but not picking up the damn pen.
I DON'T WANT TO WASTE MY TIME THIS WAY!
I wanna be bored but the thought of being by myself scares me; my thoughts scare me.
But ig i have to try even if it takes time.
Me too, with drawing
Pick up the pen! You’ve got this! It will be more rewarding to see your piece of art on paper rather than waiting to do it on an iPad or computer or something. Sure there are tons of perks with it, but I just think it’s better to look at your work in person.
If you think you’ll get bored, listen to a podcast or music while you do it. Go outside to the park or out on the patio. As cringy as it sounds, vitamin d is good for your physical and mental health!
@@hannamaryann0705 ik how important vit.d is; but that is also a thing I'm lacking in life. But thanks for the encouragement👾💗
@@missbunbeez hey I’m lacking it too mate! 😂 I’m pale as a ghost, this summer my goal is to get out in the sun more.
being left with your own thoughts is scary sometimes
I am 22 years old, I am someone who struggled through highschool and was addicted to scrolling. I was incredibly unknowledgeable about this world, how to do anything, and everything. I was so dumb. Now I am an artist and I work a job as a caregiver for the elderly, I don't spend too much time on my phone anymore and my peers think I'm very smart and grown up adults with kids of their own come to me for imformation. It makes me so proud to see how far I've come and to look in the mirror and know I am not stupid. I can tell you are a little lost and don't know where to start so I will spill the beans on how I got here.
As far as not feeling stupid goes- I recommend trying to learn a little of everything. Histoty. Biology. Human brains. Human bodies. Health, good food, pets, bugs, nature, whatever you can learn about, do it. The real reason people think I'm smart is because I am capable of contributing to many many topics of conversation. Electric cars, artificial intelligence, non renewable energy, the effects of certain supplements on the body, religion, gardening, dog ownership... I mean the list goes on I seriously know a little about everything almost. I am out of the loop on pop culture though, haha. I achieved this by teaching myself a little of everything. I used to watch TH-cam educational content, and that's how I got started but I have actually stopped doing that. I did switch to just watching educational documentaries and docu-series for a while and that boosted me much further than the TH-cam did. TH-cam is too much of a rabbit hole, too distracting. I have actually stopped watching it except for entertainment, keeping up with the world, and learning to paint.
Podcasts. Be careful. There are many of them that just flap their lips and get nowhere. Many of them are just conversations between two people, which can cause misinformation to spread. I highly recommend picking out only a few and listening to them while you're doing chores, driving, and the like. I picked a science podcast, a history podcast, and a biology podcast. Keeping the topics varied keeps me learning and I picked really valuable ones hosted by well researchef people. I chose The Huberman Lab. Lex Friedman. Stuff You Should Know. And Ologies. Keep it simple!! Do your research!!
The next way that I expanded my knowledge was traveling. Now this one isn't an option for everyone, but if you can, DO IT! Sometimes I have four days off and I go up north or down south for a few days. I don't need to overthink it, I just go. I love Michigan, Kentucky, Tennessee, so forth. Hiking not only builds my body which creates a more healthy mind, but it peaks my curiosity and prompts me to learn more about the places I travel to.
I meet new people, and have interesting conversations. Trying to teach yourself everything is really hard! New people know things you don't, and you'll collect information from them as you go. :)
I´m from Spain so my english writting is not very good. But I wated to say that the abuse of social media is a real and serious problem, and I found very important and helpfull speaking of it, like you are doing so sincerely in this video. I wish you the best implementing your new healthy habbits.
I grew up without social media and I spent so much time creating, writing, drawing, using every moment. Yes I’d have a few shows I’d watch once a week or have a tired day with a comfort movie but when I look back it seemed like I had so much time and I did so much, even with full time school. Now after spending, especially the last 3 yrs binge scrolling, trying to be creative feels like work and isn’t relaxing. I can’t even get anything out. Social media and the internet is destroying our minds and it’s so addicting. We need to get outside, interact with people, be in nature, use that 10 minutes to write a poem or color. Scrolling has rewired our brains to need it to relax and get a dopamine hit. Girl, it’s a choice but it’s also how they made social media to keep our attention, it’s not just you. They made it that way.
Here’s the kicker, people who make money/make a living off social media, make a living off of others who can’t put down their phone.
1:23 that's one of the saddest parts, KNOWING you have potential but wasting your energy on social media💔. For me it's not as bad as before but sometimes i f up again. Continue giving yourself grace, the beautiful thing about the brain is that it's adaptive so you will get to the point when you don't feel like you need it even tho it's hard initially.
You’re young. Social media hasn’t ruined YOUR life. It’s only just begun.
You haven’t truly lived until you given it your ALL and have risked everything for a dream and LOSE. And then worked hard to earn it back. Refiners fire. 🔥
There’s so many things I wanna do, I say I can’t do them but it’s 100% my fault but I don’t feel like it is :( I just need to smash my devices because I always find myself going back to doomscrolling for days on end. Not sleeping, doing hobbies, eating, even hygienic stuff :(
You can do it.
I fucking hate this youtube shorts new feature I thought deleting tiktok would get me out of this hell I'm constantly in battle with but it only made me spend time on shorts instead!
Theyre doing everything to get out generation like this and making it lazy and wasting time its realy so draining, try going out and learning new things and not using your phone i know it sounds cliche but its true, im trying hard too
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@@Israa0000 Thank you! yes i really love going outside I've noticed that I don't use my phone at all when I'm with my friends. I think I should keep them more around me.
@@Israa0000 I literally used to draw everyday before and use my creativity into writing. I used to read tons of books and crave for more. Now this is all wasted, the internet made me lazy and unmotivated to pursue my dreams. I honestly wish we could do something about this, but there is no escape.
@@Israa0000 I was thinking of getting a flip phone but I use my phone for everyday tasks. Even at school in my country the teachers makes us use them for lessons. So I can't escape it. I don't have a laptop or anything else that I could use instead but my phone for this. I really am thinking of sooo many things that I need my smart phone nowadays for. It's messed up. This society has become so tech savy
there's just so much i can say about this topic.
how social media makes people less social in real life, how it makes people meaner, how it makes people "stupid" (for lack of better and shorter words, a true explanation would be longer), how it makes people more insecure, how we're killing our time and our creativity. we're out of touch with our emotions because we scroll instead, we're out of touch with people, we're out of touch with our mind and hobbies. it's truly an addiction. sometimes i wish we were still in the era of people not having phones and every computer being big and old.
as humankind, i don't think we've evolved as quickly as technology has. i don't think we're meant for so much information to be at our fingertips, for everyone to be able to contact you 24/7, yes of course it's good for emergencies, but solitude is also necessary.
on social media making people less social...
i truly think gen z is one of the most anti-social generations there is, there are so many interactions that are immediately regarded as awkward, and honestly, not even just the gen z generation. because with the usage of our phone, something we always -- for some reason -- have to have on us, we can evade the starting unfamiliarity and uncomfortableness of stepping out of your bubble and interacting with stranger and making friends. people are often ignored or shut down with just the click of turning on your phone, and when you are able to make friends, those friends ignore you to scroll on tiktok, or to message other friends. it's all just generally not a good feeling. it's like it's not acceptable to actually socialize anymore.
on the incline of meanness...
anonymity just makes people think it's acceptable to do and say things they never would in real life. it should be that if you insult someone to their face (without good reason) that you're a bad person. regardless of the age-old anonymity debate, people somehow think it's reasonable to record and make fun of people and post it? you're HUMILIATING others through social media. i don't care if that person is your worst enemy, its neva that serious.. unless it is that serious, in which case, i dont mind. along with bullying others through social media, there's cancel culture, a double-edged sword. on one hand, it can be necessary to shut down/boycott people who are truly and genuinely bad people, but cancelling someone over something minor they said 18 years ago is just silly. what happened to forgiving people?
parasocial relationships...
celebrity discourse is wild, in my opinion. gossiping about who unfollowed who, why this celebrity doesn't like this celebrity, this celebrity is the meanest celebrity out of all of them. we DON'T know those people. we DON'T know them. if you haven't met and befriended that celebrity, i don't think you can actually judge them. and then there's the side of parasocial relationships that is pretending you're someone's s/o, which is also weird.
on "stupidity" and misinfo...
when your guard is down, and you're trying to relax, by scrolling on social media, there's so much information that's spoonfed to you that you don't check to confirm, or sift through to find what's true and what's false, and because it's so easy to just make a video being mindblown about this or that, it's really easy to spread misinformation by the tap of a screen. for an example, the spread of "women need more sleep than men," sure, it's true, but it's only actually 14 minutes instead of the two hours that people spread on tiktok. (don't quote me on that, i haven't actually researched it, so i'm a hypocrite :( ) you spend that time on tiktok instead of studying, instead of doing productive things. the attention span is decreased, and you find yourself wanting more stimulation. tiktok promotes instant gratification, and so it makes everything actually truly rewarding so much harder to do, it's debilitating. i WANT to make jewellry, i WANT to draw, but then i find myself unable to. the reward just isn't quick enough.
insecurity...
i think everyone understands this one. social media is a lie, perpertrating that everyone must confine to one singular standard, but we aren't fixed human beings. we're diverse, we're different. it's impossible, and everyone holds a different perspective of beauty, so following after becoming beautiful would never really work. there are some people i think are conventionally attractive, sure, but i'm not actually attracted to them if that makes any sense.
would it be crazy to say that maybe people want us to not be creative? that they want us to be money-making machines? confined to 9-5 office job? anyway, if you made it this far, thank you for reading :)
i deleted tiktok 12 days ago after getting fed up with being on it constantly. like even when i was watching tv shows on my laptop, i’d open tiktok and watch tiktoks while the show was playing?? so i wasn’t even able to fully focus on either of those things and tiktok already messes with focus on its own! rn i’m restricted to my room because of a health condition and i still can’t even do much in here, so being on my phone/computer is really the only thing i can do. i’ve been trying to replace tiktok with youtube videos at least (although i know it’s hard when there’s youtube shorts too). i’m trying to get my brain re-used to longer forms of content and actually watching stuff i *want* to watch vs. pointless, short videos that send you into a mindless scroll. maybe that can be a transition for you too if you’re having a hard time? i’m liking it so far and don’t feel the need to redownload tiktok. i always tried to justify keeping tiktok as having access to creativity and beauty, people’s stories, news, funny videos, finding people like me, etc., but in reality, life would be better without it.
Learn how to use ReVanced. You can block shorts from showing up on your home page
bro i'm also so fed up with social media it ruined my life it caused countless of mental problems for me and sometimes the problems that you have are caused by social media and you don't even know it bc it's not related at all but unfortunately it is related to it. rn i'm in such a rut i mean i was better few weeks ago but i just keep falling into this trap and scroll for the whole day it's so addicting that i actually have to force myself to do some things and it's never easy and the more i grow up the more i understand strict parents and i wish mine were a little strict but they don't know the dangers of social media so i don't blame them but my kids will definitely not have a phone until 13 or something and it's gonna be highly restricted. i have so many dreams and aspirations but i wasted my teenage years i'll be 20 this year and i refuse to waste my 20s to some fucking videos bc of the fear of missing out. i'm tired ! life is not supposed to be this way.
Keep in mind that you are still really young and have your whole life to rehabilitate yourself and your mind!! You got this man
I don’t even have social media outside of TH-cam and i still have this issue. Its so frustrating! And i do consider TH-cam to be social media because it has become just as much of a time suck as all the other apps. Its the worst one for me to control though. I will literally spend hours on TH-cam shorts whilst not even enjoying it!!!! I will have a clear feeling of knowing i don’t even want to be doing this.. and yet I cannot stop myself. I really wish TH-cam did not have TH-cam shorts. I purposely never made a tiktok account because I remember the grip that Vine used to have on me and i know i couldn’t handle tiktok. Ugh
I agree so much with you. YT shorts are terrible and often lead to ugly content like sexist and anti lgbtq stuff for some reason. But somehow they're still addictive. You can't remove them which sucks, you can only hit "not interested" which is a workaround that doesn't really solve the problem. There are some creators I follow for their long form content who also do some shorts which I like. But the the algorith becomes conviced I want to watch shorts and starts feeding them again. So I just disabled the YT app from my phone. If I want to watch YT I do so on my laptop which is more intentional and shorts aren't half as appealing and addictive on a computer screen
I feel this so much. I dont even remember when i went back to scrolling. I know for a fact, i feel so much better when I am off social media, and i do it for a day+, then feel so happy, but at some point scrolling comes back and time disappears.
You may be experiencing freeze response too. I get caught in freeze responses where I can't stop scrolling. Moving helps me get out of it, even though it's the last thing I want to do.
Seeing someone being so truthful about their feelings warms my heart, it reminds me that we all make mistakes. Makes me feel a little better about myself too. Thank you, you did inspire me a lot.
Something that has been helping me a lot is being way more specific with the goals. For example, if i want to spend less time on social media i would set a weekly goal in which every day i would only be on a social media app for 50 minutes, and if i am able to complete at least 6 days of that the following week the daily goal would be 45 min.
When setting the goal to nourish my body I would set things like: drink water first thing in the morning at least 5 days that week, eat a fruit at least 4-5 days, and on and on.
You have to be specific (even in the dumbest things) and start little by little, otherwise you'll fail in a grandiose task and would give up. That used to happen to me, i was setting unrealistic goals for my brain. I was writing things like "workout everyday" when i wasn't used to working out, so it was obvious i would fail. Later on, my goals was to workout at least 10 minutes three times a week.
Hope this helps 🙌🏼
Oh thank you so much that’s the thing I’ve been looking for because my whole room is full of vision boards goals list daily habits and everything so that makes sense cause like 2 years passed and I was still waiting for that moment were I be like that’s it I’m gonna change my life and nothing happens so yeah
Thank youuu 💗
i felt the same way, discovering yourself is a blessing
I’m proud of you! The first step is awareness, and the fact you’ve taken action and acknowledging the excuses is a wonderful stride.
I quit all of my social media last year (except for YT) and it was one of the best decisions I made. It feels good to be disconnected.
You’re inspiring many people here, you’re doing great 💛
I’ve lost the ability to feel boredom and just sit in it, especially on trains etc. when I sit on the bus every single person is just doom scrolling tik tok and it doesn’t even seem like they’re aware of the damage they are doing to themselves
This was all incredibly well said 🫶✨️ Thank you so much 💖 I have ADHD & a tip that has been helping me Journal is having a separate piece of paper beside me to just go full Spaz & Scribble ANYTHING on, this way I can get my thoughts flowing without cluttering up my "proper pages" & if a piece can go in the journal then it helps me be more thoughtful when I copy it to the "proper pages". And even the "proper pages" can be a bit messy because I have started to consider books to be like cozy beds for the mind to snuggle inside!
As someone who struggles to express their emotions, I’ve learned that unless I feel prompted, journaling is not for me. I have found that sketching and playing music is much more beneficial for releasing any emotions or even discovering how I feel, what my subconscious wants to get out. So while journaling is valuable, if you are like me, I would recommend exploring other outlets. For me, sitting down to journal is work (and not the good kind), but sitting down with an instrument or drawing whatever comes to mind just comes naturally and the time flies.
Good luck on your journey, I am rooting for you.
The first part of recovery is acknowledging that you have a problem. Not 'you' in patucular - anyone. Most people dont even recognise that they have an addiction.
Legit girl! this is is an add!ction to social media. I went through the exact same thing and unfortunately the only thing that snapped me out of it was a car accident. That made me look at my life more critically and although I've made great strides in bettering myself, there are some days that I slip into old "habits". But not to the degree of what it was.
The situation is never going to change by itself but by recognizing that you want to better yourself is the first step. And always remember you are not alone in taking that first step. Journaling, silencing notifications, and delving into hobbies is the best way to slowly become detached and I wish you all the best of luck on your journeys! ❤
i just wanted to say i’m proud and inspired by your honesty. you’re changing your life for the better and helping others change theirs too! you’re doing amazing.
I wanted to start making a TH-cam series on me doing something I love: making my first major cosplay.... And I'm right in the same boat you are. Thank you for making this video. You legitimately inspired me to cut myself off from social media 💙
Hey, I really relate to everything you're going through. I'm trying to get away from social media as a whole myself. I completely messed up one whole year of high school because I just couldn't sit and study. It has completely ruined my chances of getting into a good college. I wish you all the best in your journey of quitting social media and getting your life back on track!
The misery is extremly lucrative for some companies
It's sad to say but I was once a social media addict. I left Twitter a two years ago and after that Instagram became my addiction. I finally abandoned Instagram a few months ago. I never used other social networks, but these two ruined my life for a few years. After abandoning social media, my life improved, I was able to study, exercise, and even my mental health improved. If you are addicted to it, it's not your fault, we are pushed into it, but have strength and abandon social media, the beginning is difficult but the end is rewarding! Good luck to everyone!
I’m happy for you social media hurts our quality of life.
I’ve been feeling this exact same way. Short form content also killed my attention span worse than it already was. I have trouble remembering things cause my brain is so used to only paying attention to something for 10 seconds then refreshing to pay attention to something completely different. I feel so stupid now. I’ve been trying to remedy this by reading more and watching movies to lengthen my attention span as well as doing hobbies like knitting. I try to watch TH-cam if i want to watch videos because they’re longer and i usually gravitate towards educational videos about subjects I’m interested in like historical fashion and chemistry. I also make sure that if I decide to use TikTok that i must spend some time in the STEM column so I’m learning something. I’ve been intentionally doing things to exercise my brain like sudoku puzzles and i think that’s been helpful as well. I can say my attention span and memory is getting better and better as time goes on. Thank you for posting this I’m glad I’m not alone ❤
This comment has given me an idea. I have also noticed how hard it is for me to pay attention for long periods of time. I can’t even watch a movie anymore without getting distracted. I remember how the T.V. Used to suck me into a world of imagination and I could hardly pull myself away. Now it’s no better than smoking a cigarette. In the beginning it feels amazing and you really enjoy it. Then after a while you get used to it. It loses its appeal but for some reason you keep coming back to it. Addicted to the dopamine hit you get. The cruel joke is you can’t even tell it’s making you happy anymore. There’s many other things in my day to day that have been ruined. Wish I could go back to the day I downloaded TikTok. But the lesson needed to be learned I guess!
I tried tiktok in 2019 and deleted after a month because it was so addicting to me. My current struggle is TH-cam and this video was randomly recommended to me. I’m following along and cheering you on! Edit: consider reading the book Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. You’re doing great ❤
I've started to try and make youtube a tool. When I watch something, I try to learn something from it and write it down. A really awesome quote I learned that I've started saying to myself throughout the day is, "Will it make the boat go faster?" There is a story behind it and I recommend you looking into it but essentially, when you are faced with a difficult decision, should I scroll the internet for 2 hours or should I make a nice meal and read a book, which one will make the boat (your happiness and mental well-being) go faster? Should I eat this sugary snack even though I've already indulged today, or should I make a more conscious decision? Will it make the boat go faster?
Thank you for your support, I hope this all made sense. I am proud of you for trying to better yourself. We don't hear it enough when we are working in silence 🩷
Thanks for replying. The boat analogy does make sense! It’s cool that you’re switching to educational content at least when you’re consuming content. Maybe audio books could be something to try also. I also want to consume more content related to my profession that I want to grow in instead of mindless content that I’ve gotten attached to. I realized that I haven’t been in a growth mindset in a long time and that’s caused me to have been stagnant in a lot of my goals since Covid pretty much. I also got diagnosed with adhd and have been finding ways to fuel my motivation outside of traditional productivity advice and that’s been great. Anyway nice to see someone else out there working hard at getting unstuck.
this video resonated with me so much, I’m more addicted to my phone than I like to think I am. It’s so sad thinking how I crave for events to end or time in my bed to just scroll and simply not remember anything I had watched just thirty minutes later. You hit so many good points and I’m proud you’re accepting what you need to do! definitely will be on my mind today, thank you 💗
if you think about it, social media is all someone's ideas or the product of someone's ideas. whenever you go online, you're consuming ideas, and as humans, our thoughts aren't always useful or enriching. they're quite the opposite most of the time. so no wonder going online is getting overwhelming and mind-numbing - you're just looking into the thoughts of someone - someone that doesn't affect you in any way, most of the time
Thank you so much for your honesty. I am the same way, only difference is that I am a mother so my addictive habits dont affect only myself. I am riddled with guilt every night and swear to change. I guess this is my sign.
I have the exact same thoughts. I think of this daily. I create content so it's so challenging to balance it all. But really, social media is killing my brain.
I quit using tiktok for a year, and I suggest to people to do that. It's hard at first, but I never come back using tiktok.
You're right that we suppose use social media or our devices just as a tool. Until now, I'm still on the process to use my devices as a tool, it is hard but I want to be better.
i got banned from tiktok like less than a month after it rly started taking off (was impersonating a british right wing politician lol) and honestly i’m so grateful that happened haha. i’d say the only social media type thing i’m addicted to is youtube, and although i don’t watch any short form content at all i still get that mushy stupid feeling in my brain sometimes and it rly scares me. like i can’t do anything without some kind of distraction. but turning that fear into action makes me actually get up and do stuff and it’s so much better. i wanna feel like a whole person. makes me so angry at these companies who make their apps purposefully addictive to rot young people’s minds and turn them into scrolling zombies without any sense of their own personalities or ideas. journaling is 100% the way. wishing you so so so much luck breaking free of it all
i have so much potential and there is so much out their to experience and learn about but yet i’m stuck on this tiny device scrolling through mindless apps. i just hate it but i can’t escape it 😭
You can do it! Try for one hour a day to just spend that time alone in your thoughts. Try a walk, go to a coffee shop with a journal and write down how you’re feeling. You got this
this is so real deleting insta and deleting tiktok feels so good I go on insta less but feels great
Social media is amazing for sharing creative work. Which is what it was created for. We don't have to create 'separation' with modern things bc it's not realistic, however creating actual awareness patterns around it and spreading visions of healthy habits for the people to see (as you showed in this video) Can in fact create the change we so desire. Social media became a place for marketing and social manipulation. Balance is required in everything we encounter so this is the start, keep pushing even if it's discouraging. Thank you for bringing it to attention and spreading the actual proof! I believe in you, keep up the great work, being yourself and seeking your truth (which is more similar than you expect to those around you). You're already on your way there. You rock! ☀️
Thank you for this, I have been depressed for a while and I acknowledge the fact that I simply don't acknowledge that part of my life. The amount of times I wanted to click off of the video and rot in my bed was too much for me to just ignore. I used to think getting rid of TikTok and lowering my reels/TH-cam shorts screentime would make it all go away when in reality I haven't been NOURISHING that empty space that I used to fill with nonsense and negativity. Thank you for opening my eyes, and to whomever is struggling as well, know that you aren't alone. Know that you are loved, you are kind, you are truly something that cannot be replicated, there is not another you. Please take care of yourselves.
I feel lucky. I only use social media to search PRECISELY for the things I genuinely love and these things are so niche that only a few people really catch my interest.
If I see something I’m not interested in I don’t even bother clicking on it and I’m very picky so it’s okay for me.
this is how i used to be! but my fandoms have subsided so i’ve been watching more generic content recently. plus short form content has made it more difficult for me to
You hit the nail on the head. I relate to this and feel this in my bones. I feel like a lot of people talk about how social media has negative effects but you talked about it in more specific ways. Even reading some of the comments here I’m relating to those as well, it’s kind of insane. It won’t be easy but we have the power to take back our lives, even if it may take a while
I relate so strongly. Although I have spent a lot of time learning and I feel that I sit on a pile of knowledge that I can apply to change my life but I’m never consistent with it. I know I’ve got so much potential yet I have a hard time believing in myself especially falling into this pattern.
You got this!!! This really inspired me to do the same. I feel like no one in my life understands the impacts of being addicted to social media and how really it actually is. I appreciate your transparency !
I relate so hard. i was struggling so much with social media (namely instagram i dont really use any other social media app) and finally deleted it in the beginning of this year, and it has made such a difference for me. I'm able to get more things done and accomplish things that i care about instead of mindlessly scrolling for 5+ hours during the day and taking in information that offers me nothing.
This video is so genuinely relatable. I remember being this way as well. That determination “I refuse to be that person anymore.” Will get you places. I’m grateful to see you starting your healing journey. I’m still currently on mine and figuring it out. It takes a lot of vulnerability and trust with yourself, you got this!
Thank God i realised this when I was 17 ...hail the lord ...Im at soo much better place mentally
Thank you for expressing this super personal and vulnerable situation you are in. Your words have helped me gain some self-awareness.
I never usually comment on videos, but I appreciate your vulnerability and putting yourself out on the internet like this. I am currently struggling with the same problem and this makes me feel less alone. You contribute motivation to others and make people feel seen and heard of such a common struggle that is never talked about. Social media is truly poison for the brain.
thanks for sharing. def inspired me to take a social media break. i spend so much on social media that i barely get any work done.. I am going to delete the app. challenging myself to not be on it this weekend. then building up from there. social media is absolutley making everyone dumb because of the short dopamine hits. Just like any drug, you are going to have to detox from it and eventually stop
I’m feeling the same, we can develop self control and get out of this cicle, I don’t know anymore how to process my feelings alone, I’m on social media all the fckng time… I’m tired of numbing myself! I’m DONE
I haven't even finishes the video yet but it already made such a difference in the rest of my day and probably the rest of the week, month or even more. I was so sad that I was heading from school to home and I already knew what I would do, which is sitting there and scrolling and binge eating. I want to be productive but I knew I wouldnt be able to with this thing in my hand. Idk why, but ur video gave me energy? Like it gave me a sense that "oh i actually feel like doing something other than scrolling rn?? I actually feel like working towards my goal??" And it's SO nice. I fell to the trap but I'm getting up again and thanks to you!!
thank you for sharing this, so many of us feel this too. you aren’t alone
Man ever since shorts and reels have come up it has just taken our souls. We used to watch youtubes, movies, tv shows, we used to read books and articles. We used to live our mornings but ever since social media has arised it just has taken our life away from us. It hurts and as you said we ARE AWARE OF IT but we cant pull ourselves away, we cant write about ourselves, cant remember the hobbies we enjoyed as children or before social media. I cant watch movies or youtube videos and its sad, so sad. Thank you so much for this video.
Bravo for putting yourself out there and being genuine
I usually don't comment, but I had to when I heard how similar you are to me. I am struggling to take back my life from social media. I have been trying for almost a year. What I have learn so far is that meditating immediately in the morning helps and creating a routine is crucial.
Best video i saw on ytb for years, just like old ytb, just a camera and someone sharing their thoughts, no cinematic, just really honest and sincere. I do wanna say that social media sucks bc it's made to get us all really addicted, so there's no balance, you cannot balance somethin that's make to addict you, it's literally like a drug, or you're totally in, or you're totally out. Which is really sad bc there's some good content, our friends, people that we resonate with, art inspo etc; but, the problem is, you can have access to all theses things but u can't put em into practice bc you're too addic to do anything. Or you are out n u miss all these things, or you're in and you miss life. Anyways, love ur video for your honesty❤ hope you evolve
This is THE realest take i have ever seen on this topic in a video. Ive seen people anonymously admitting in a comment section that their daily screen time is in double digits, but usually in videos, people have always talked about their email checking habits, texting, or doomscrolling news / current events / drama. and its not relatable. It is the SCROLLING and mindless watching. I have been saying this for 8 years. I had this issue so long ago. This horrible relationship with social media. I used it to numb my brain from trauma and now im just addicted to it. Morning to night, scrolling even id i want to stop. I cant stop. Even if i have brain fog and my head swims when i look away. My unstimulated mind is hard to accept. But i have been on this for years and only recently have i ever seen anyone else admit how horrible it truly is. Thank you for this video, and with that said i am deleting youtube when i finish the rest of it.
I love how this is so real.
I relate to this so much.. I'm trying to be wiser in using it, and I hope everyone who is dealing with the same problem could get better too ❤
hey! i'm currently off social media and what has helped me is praying and reading the Bible. God has helped me so much and I don't even have the desire to go back to social media. God bless you and all the best!
Augh girl me too and I was on fire, but now I’ve gotten so lazy I haven’t even been able to read my word 🙃 I will power through this phase tho, and get back on my grind.
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Same but i read the tao te ching and got back inti practicing meditation and prayers
Setting my screen time to stop at 7pm has helped exponentially. The apps are locked and im forced to sit with myself, i will habitually pick up my phone, but being reminded that the apps are locked, and that I shouldn’t be on my phone, helps a lot. It’s a very hard feat but you can do this. Slow motion is still motion! I’m so happy to see others feeling the same ways as me. We don’t know the lasting affects of constant screen time, it could be exponentially worse than cigarettes or asbestos etc. you’ve got this!!!!!! ❤
i feel this so hard ugh. it’s so hard especially since i and a lot of us in this generation grew up with unrestricted access to social media/the internet. i’m tired of my brain being fried too. doom scrolling/short form content is so hard to get away from. i’m gonna actively try as well this year to get off my phone.
Social media is a big challenge and you can find it everywhere , it made huge difference in our lifes , bur at the end we can make social media serve us and not the opposite . Good luck to everybody 💪🏻
You and your generation are not alone. It also affects us millenials who become like 40 years old soon. And we spent half of our childhood without any internet whatsoever.
Glad to see that more people come to that realization and start fighting against it. I wish you all luck and strength you need.
Did we really spend half our lives off the internet ? I’m 31. My dad always had a computer.
So proud of you! You can do this. I want to do this too. I’ve found myself just unable to think and I’m also a deeply creative person. Sometimes instead of sitting down to create something I just scroll and scroll and think that I’m getting inspiration to make something, but I end up doing nothing. And then I can’t even form thoughts sometimes or even remember basic words or info. It’s scary and I don’t want to feel like this anymore. It’s feeling like I’m a zombie. I never used to be like this. I talk to others that feel the same way recently, even older people feel like this.
This is really needed for me right now. Glad the algorithm helped me with it.
Thank you! You cant imagine how much i needed it ❤
This popped up right when I needed to take a break. Thank you so much! Your storytelling is very engaging
I’m doing this with you because I need it too. I’m looking forward to getting back to myself.
Thank you for your insight. What got me to understand that I have a problem with scrolling and TH-cam specifically is that I can't even read without some background noise ffs.
i feel this so hard. i've been off of most social medias since november and it's been so incredibly liberating. every time i download tiktok or twitter it'll last on my phone for two days max and i delete it cause it just drains me so much. so proud of you for holding yourself accountable. tough love while still being kind to yourself is both necessary and it seems as if you have a good balance of that :)
It’s so easy to get sucked right back into the loop. I struggle a lot with the fear of missing out more than anything recently. Over the last few months I have had access to social media because it is what I hope to do for a living, but remembering the rules I set in place is hard. The main goal is to create content with meaning. If I’m going to be on the internet, the least I can do is encourage others to engage with useful content.
For me social media has brought a sense of connectedness. And of company. Even if I’m not really talking to anyone; the issue is that now I can’t just be by myself anymore
watching this video was like looking in a damn mirror. i have an important paper due in a few days but i've been procrastinating really badly. this avoidance is partially just due to how i work, but a large part of it is that day in and day out, i exhaust myself without even doing anything consequential because of my extensive social media use. it's so draining and it has to stop. i can't help but think that my life could be so much more than what it is now, but i need to be the one to make that change. thank you for the wake-up call. like you said, next week will be better
This video made a lot of sense to me. The validation I feel when hearing someone describe so much of what I am also going through, it is shocking. Wonderful video, take care.
I just found out your video and I feel like it's a really good start. I myself started to spend less time scrolling (when i was unemployed and some days it was like 9h, even i reached 12h of time spent on my phone). Now I'm trying to pick up new hobbies like drawing, and reading more. Keep up with the good work, you can do it ✨
My top 3 is stan twt, yt, tumblr, i dont use any other social media. I sometimes disable yt on my phone if I get sucked in into shorts for hours, like you said. I only have one old laptop other than my phone (I just don't need technology like that on the daily), and I think using different device for entertainment other than my very convenient, always with me phone, would help a lot with mindless scrolling. Cause then going on laptop (or any other device) would feel more like a task rather than mindless opening of apps. I did try grey scale, app timers, it's no use. Making it harder to access is best I think. Out of sight out of mind kind of thing. I'm just a bit scared to log out, you know? I'm still getting ready for that transition and that itself also tells me how much I actually need it. Take care x
been there, done that. I deleted tiktok, and the difference I was able to notice was huge
seconded everything you said in this video 😔😔anyway, i can't help but notice that your both your cats are soo cute!
Supporting you on this. I feel the same way. Good luck on your journey.
You’ve explained it so well! I wasn’t sure if it was my depression or just an overconsumption of social media… I think its a bit of both but social media has definitely made my depression worse and I feel lack of real connection which is a byproduct of everything you said. I too am a creative person but social media has sucked me DRY.
It's an unfortunate perpetual cycle. We crave doom scrolling to distract ourselves, only to consume content about how much better others lives are OR fall into the trap of arguments in the comment section of OTHERS videos! It's so strange 🤔
I started journalling this month and its been amazing. I totally agree with you. It was one of the first things I did to help me get off social media (IG mostly) and I was surprised how impactful it is to just stop and use my mushy brain to form words and sentences and thoughts and opinions again...
OMG I IDENTIFY SOOOOO MUCH with your channel. I'm going through the exact same challenges you describe in this and in other videos. We'll be fine! Love from Brazil!!
love your videos & I whole heartedly agree
I relate to this so strongly. I don't have friends. It's hard for me to get a job because of my disability. So my life is basically 50% food 50% social media which sounds extremely sad
Literally drawing my oc rn instead of making a picrew of them:)) thank you for this,, it really isnt easy to quit social media but you being aware of it helps sm
The last month, I felt like I started hating social media. Everything is silly.. but I love TH-cam channels🤣.
You encourge me to do something about it.. thank you💘
yk seeing your channel you have my upmost respect for you, you feel like you waste the power of you, when you can be doing something far more productive and beneficial for ourselves. its my biggest cope aswell. it leaves in a loop and u dont wanna do anything
i think overrall you recording this and getting the feelings and thoughts out its prolly one of the best things you could've done holding yourself accountable is something that not alot seems to be able to do. props to you
This means more to be than you could imagine. Thank you for listening, I appreciate you.